Order of Man - Reinvent Yourself Now ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart

00:00:05.000 your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.

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00:00:22.820 you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Michler.

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00:01:48.480 Guys, today I want to talk about reinventing yourself. It's so crucial because for a lot of

00:01:55.380 men, they see themselves as one way and yet the way that they're showing up in life is not in

00:02:02.620 alignment with the way that they ideally view themselves. And when I talk with guys in this

00:02:08.720 situation, it seems to me that a lot of them believe they're doomed or at a minimum destined

00:02:15.140 to walk in, for example, their father's footsteps or to live out the consequences of their actions

00:02:24.600 up to this point. And I want to suggest to you that if you are a man who is not satisfied with who you

00:02:30.980 are, with how you show up, with the results that you've produced in your life, then you do have

00:02:37.480 a tremendous opportunity every single minute of every single hour to reinvent yourself, to make

00:02:46.440 yourself into something more. And you're not destined to be your father. You're not destined

00:02:52.360 to be the same loser that you may have always been over the past two, three, four decades that you 0.81

00:02:59.020 actually can do something about it and that you can change the way that you show up. There's a great 0.95

00:03:05.820 little scene in one of my favorite movies, which is a Knight's Tale where a young boy, I can't remember

00:03:15.760 his name right off hand. That might be the medication speaking from my surgery, which I am still taking

00:03:22.300 some of that and trying to get the effects of the anesthesia to wear off. Regardless, there's a scene

00:03:31.080 where a young boy who was born into poverty turns to his father's as he's looking at the Knights that

00:03:37.200 he wants to be. And he says, can a boy change his stars? And he's mocked and he's poked at, and he's

00:03:43.600 ridiculed by a man who's in shackles saying that you can't change who you are. And his father says,

00:03:51.500 absolutely you can. You can change your stars. And guys, I'm here to tell you that you can change

00:03:57.360 the trajectory of your life. It's not the destiny of your life because your destiny is just what you

00:04:02.240 do. It's the manifestation, the realization of the behaviors, the actions, the thoughts that you have

00:04:08.420 and that you perform throughout life. And if you string enough wins together, you're going to win.

00:04:13.000 If you string enough losses together, you're going to lose. That's the deal. There's nothing more to it

00:04:18.260 than that, but you can change your stars and you can become something different, but it's on you to

00:04:23.780 reinvent yourself. Nobody else is going to step up. Nobody else is going to force you to do it.

00:04:28.480 You might have a wife or a boss or a family member or somebody close to you who wants to push you,

00:04:34.100 who wants to motivate you and inspire you to be something different. But ultimately you have to

00:04:38.540 make that choice for yourself. But it comes with the realization that knowing that you aren't

00:04:43.000 destined to be a loser and you're not destined to be a winner either. You're not destined for

00:04:49.320 anything. That's just the actions and the consequences of the choices that we make on a

00:04:55.100 daily basis. So what I'm going to do today is I'm going to break down five key strategies in

00:04:59.780 reinventing yourself and talk a little bit about this hero's journey. Because if you look at anybody

00:05:04.960 who's been successful, whether it's guys that have had on the podcast, like Terry Crews or Ben Shapiro

00:05:10.960 or Tim Tebow or Jocko Willink or Andy Frisilla or Dave Ramsey, Matthew McConaughey, any number of the

00:05:21.960 guys that I've had on this podcast, all of them have reinvented themselves and made themselves into

00:05:27.320 something more. Sometimes we're afraid of doing that. We're afraid of the work that goes into that,

00:05:32.380 but we're also afraid of the judgment of other people. Ryan, who are you to be a podcaster?

00:05:37.440 I knew you when you were a screw up. I knew you when you were drunk, when you were messing up, 0.92

00:05:42.960 when you were partying, when you're doing all these things and making mistakes. Who are you to

00:05:46.520 tell me what it means to be a man? We're so afraid of that, that we don't give ourselves permission to

00:05:51.980 evolve and to grow. I mean, how many times, and we talked about this on the Wednesday podcast,

00:05:56.960 do you hear from people who will say, well, you're saying this now, but a year ago, you said

00:06:01.660 something else, right? I've evolved. I've changed. I think differently about things. I see things from

00:06:08.840 a different perspective. I haven't always seen them from. Isn't that the point of life? You should

00:06:13.900 be constantly reinventing yourself. But if you're worried about the work, that's one thing. We'll

00:06:18.420 talk about that in a minute. But if you're worried about what other people are thinking of you or how

00:06:23.060 they might judge you or how they might respond when you're trying to improve your life, get that out of

00:06:28.300 your mind right now because those people would love nothing more than for you to be trapped where you

00:06:33.560 currently are because your improvement represents a direct threat to the way they live their lives. See,

00:06:41.940 they want you to be the same. Your wife actually wants you to be the same, right? She'll tell you, hey,

00:06:48.340 I'd like you to do better, but she really wants you to be the same because that's not threatening. She knows

00:06:53.660 what it is. There's uncertainty, there's fear, and there's doubt in the unknown, in you changing.

00:07:00.640 Your boss doesn't want you to change. Yeah, he'll say, I want you to improve. But at the end of the

00:07:05.460 day, that might actually change the dynamic. A lot of people have a vested interest in keeping you

00:07:11.160 exactly where you are, and you better be aware of that. And when it comes to your wife and your boss

00:07:15.720 and your kids and the people who are closest to you, yeah, I believe they want what's best for you,

00:07:19.700 but I also believe there's a self-preservation to it. And it's your job to change, but also show

00:07:25.080 to the people who are closest to you that your change is going to positively benefit them.

00:07:31.860 But just remember, you've got to put in work, you've got to put in the effort,

00:07:35.480 and you have to get over the acceptance of others because a lot of people aren't going to accept

00:07:40.580 that you're on the path to reinvent yourself to be better than you currently are.

00:07:44.340 So let's break this down. Guys, number one is we can start to use some projection methods.

00:07:50.760 And the first two points I'm going to share with you are projection methods. Number one

00:07:54.160 is try to become the man that you needed 20 years ago, 30 years ago, as a young boy. Maybe you were

00:08:03.660 10 years old and there was a man, a father figure, an uncle, a grandpa, a brother, a mentor, a coach,

00:08:10.040 somebody that you needed in life that really could have given you some information, some guidance,

00:08:16.900 some direction, some fatherly advice that would have saved you a lot of pain and frustration and

00:08:22.220 heartache. Become that man. A lot of us didn't have that. I grew up without a permanent father

00:08:27.600 figure. I talk with hundreds and thousands of men who have been in the same boat that I was,

00:08:34.620 no father figure in their life for better or worse. A man just wasn't present. And it created all sorts

00:08:41.560 of confidence issues for me. It created confidence issues for other men. It put them on a path,

00:08:46.520 a trajectory that wasn't good. And you have the opportunity to become the man that you needed.

00:08:54.360 I needed somebody. I needed a father to be in my life and to be present and to speak into my heart

00:08:59.700 and my soul and my mind and coach me and mentor me and give me a slap on the wrist when I needed it

00:09:05.800 and kick me in the pants when I needed that. That's what I needed. But I didn't have that up until I was

00:09:11.340 about 13 or 14 years old when I had men like Matt Labrum and other coaches come into my life who began

00:09:17.960 to speak into my life in that way. But leading up to that point, I didn't have that. And so guys,

00:09:24.300 we can look at the pain and the misery and the suffering that we've had in the past and all of us have

00:09:28.640 had it to varying degrees. And we can decide today that because I went through that situation,

00:09:34.740 I don't want other people to go through that situation. I don't want my kids to deal with

00:09:39.560 that. I don't want my friends to deal with that. I don't want my peers and the men I'm trying to

00:09:45.560 serve here with order of man to go through any of that. And so I'm going to project, I'm going to look

00:09:50.600 back and I'm going to decide that this is the ideal man. This is the kind of guy that I needed in my

00:09:57.820 life when I was 10 years old. This is the kind of guy that I needed in my life when I went through

00:10:03.400 my separation and nobody was there to help me work through that. You can be that guy. So use your

00:10:09.960 pain, use your suffering, use your hardship, not to wallow in your own self-pity and throw yourself

00:10:16.080 a pity party, but to become something more, to emerge. It's kind of like the Phoenix rising from

00:10:21.960 the ashes. Everything may have been burned around, around you. And you have the opportunity

00:10:27.680 to rise from those ashes and reinvent yourself into the person that you needed to be and into

00:10:33.480 the person that you needed others to be for you. That's an incredible, incredible strategy that just

00:10:41.380 isn't afforded to other animals of the animal kingdom. This is one of the things that makes us

00:10:45.960 uniquely human. The fact that we're aware, the fact that we're conscious, the fact that we can

00:10:51.460 project ourselves into the future and say, that's what I would have needed. I would have needed somebody

00:10:55.960 who was bold. I would have needed a great example. I would have needed somebody who was strong. I would

00:11:01.360 have needed somebody who was willing and able and courageous enough to say to me what needed to be

00:11:06.840 said. And if I would have needed that, then I'm going to become that man today for myself,

00:11:10.940 from the people who need it from me now. That's number one. Number two, very similarly is be the

00:11:19.040 kind of man that others need you to be. So if you look at the people who are closest to you in your

00:11:26.420 life, your wife, your kids, your colleagues, your coworkers, your friends, your neighbors,

00:11:31.060 your family members, there's something they need from you. Isn't our job to serve? We talk about it.

00:11:37.600 Protect, provide, preside. Preside is synonymous with leadership and leadership is at its foundation

00:11:43.560 service to other people that you care about. So much so that you're willing to sacrifice and commit

00:11:50.800 and serve those people. What do they need from you? And as you're thinking about the kind of man

00:11:59.080 you needed when you were 10, and you're thinking about the kind of man that people in your life need

00:12:03.360 you to be, you need to get out your notepad and you need to start documenting these things.

00:12:08.620 Courageous, bold, assertive, confident, financially successful, physically in shape,

00:12:17.280 ability to communicate. I don't know what that looks like for you, but start writing out these

00:12:22.120 virtues. Start writing out these characteristics, write out the way that this guy shows up, how he

00:12:27.580 deals with challenges, how he deals with problems. Get a journal, get a notepad, write this stuff down.

00:12:32.700 History and also data and research suggests that the more that you're willing to write these types

00:12:41.220 of things down, the more it's likely that it manifests itself. I was reading something on

00:12:47.340 Gronkowski the other day, and he said that he had an assignment that when he was younger in school,

00:12:53.220 he had to write down what he wanted to be. And he said that he wanted to be a football player

00:12:57.740 and he wanted to play for the Buccaneers. He had wrote that and he had forgot about that until

00:13:03.400 this last couple of weeks where he's retired. And he started replaying these things in his mind.

00:13:08.440 And it came to his mind that he had said that when he was a young boy, that he wanted to be a football

00:13:13.900 player. He wrote it down in an essay or an assignment that he wanted to play on the Buccaneers.

00:13:18.700 And lo and behold, that's what happened. There's something very powerful in documenting what you

00:13:24.700 want, putting pen to paper and start making it a realization, getting it out of your brain and

00:13:29.980 start putting it into the real intangible world. So document this. What do you need? Who do you want

00:13:36.380 to be? What did you need when you were younger? What do other people need from you? Bold, assertive,

00:13:41.840 courageous, educated, wise, intelligent, financially successful, physically fit, skilled, talented.

00:13:51.140 What? What is that? Write it all down. And you can start to model the type of ideal man that you

00:13:57.440 want to become. So those are the first two points. Again, to reiterate, you're going to do some

00:14:02.880 projection here. You're going to project back into the past and ask yourself, what kind of man would I

00:14:11.040 have needed when I was a young boy or a young man struggling on the path? And then you're going

00:14:15.300 to project forward and ask yourself, what kind of man do I need to become in order to serve the people

00:14:21.420 who are closest in my life? All right. Number three, now that you've documented and you've written out

00:14:27.660 and you have to write this out. I don't want you just to listen to this podcast and feel good and warm

00:14:33.080 and fuzzy for the next 10, 20, 30 minutes, and then go about your normal life, dicking around and not

00:14:38.020 really trying to be successful and just on the same trajectory and path that you're currently on.

00:14:42.120 I want you to have a different life. So please write this stuff down. Number three is now that you

00:14:48.460 know what this man looks like, this ideal man that you want to reinvent yourself into, that you want

00:14:54.200 to become, that you know you're not destined to be the current man, but this new man, start looking

00:14:59.560 around in your life for the guys who are doing exactly what it is you want to be doing.

00:15:05.440 If it's me, and that sounds really weird, but I've talked with you enough of you who have said,

00:15:10.580 Hey, I want to do what you're doing. And I've got to honor and respect that. It's very strange

00:15:14.740 because I realized my own flaws and inadequacies, but if it's me, then sign up for newsletters,

00:15:19.960 sign up for emails, go to our courses, sign up for the iron council, uh, go to our events,

00:15:26.300 like put yourself in the environment of the people you want to be around and be like, if it's Jocko,

00:15:32.420 if it's Tim Tebow, if it's Tim Kennedy, if it's Terry Cruz, if it's Matthew McConaughey,

00:15:38.400 if it's Ben Shapiro, if it's Andy Frisilla, if it's Sean Whalen, I don't know who it is for you,

00:15:43.200 but every one of those individuals has opportunities where you can put yourself

00:15:47.720 in proximity to those men and you can start to emulate their behaviors. If you look at Jocko and

00:15:54.000 you're like, man, I want to be disciplined like Jocko, then emulate his behaviors. What does the guy do?

00:15:59.260 He gets up early. He works out. He lifts heavy weights. He's disciplined. When he's on the road,

00:16:05.860 he's still working out. He's sharing insights. He's being straightforward and deliberate and

00:16:12.100 intentional. You could look at a guy like Jordan Peterson. You want to be like him? You've got to

00:16:16.380 be well-versed. You've got to be well-researched. You have to learn how to communicate. You have to

00:16:20.400 expand your vocabulary. You have to be willing to get on stage. You also have to be willing to not be

00:16:25.180 liked by millions of people start to emulate these guys. And how do you do that? You buy their

00:16:31.280 courses. You sign up for their emails. You listen to their podcasts. You go to their events. You

00:16:36.000 attend their conferences. These things are in abundance. And I'm not going to say that you're

00:16:41.420 just going to pick all this stuff up by osmosis just by being around them. Although I think you might

00:16:47.300 actually pick up some of it by being around them because we are just a product over our environment.

00:16:53.140 So if you change your environment, your natural results will change, but be more deliberate and

00:17:00.080 intentional about that. And by the way, if you're curious, I will do a little self

00:17:04.340 promotion here. We've got our iron council, which is open right now. And this is the last day it's

00:17:09.980 open. And we've got 1200 men inside the iron council who aren't perfect. We're all struggling and

00:17:17.960 we're all succeeding to varying degrees and in different facets of our life. But you want to be

00:17:22.020 around great and solid men who are trying to get better, who are trying to improve, who are using

00:17:28.140 tools and procedures and systems and processes that have worked for thousands of men over seven

00:17:33.540 years. Then the iron council is a pretty damn good place to do it. Order a man.com slash iron council. 0.83

00:17:39.180 But if it's not the iron council, maybe it's Andy and Ed Milet's Arate. Maybe it's Sean Whalen's

00:17:45.180 lions, not sheep. Maybe it's Jocko's EF online. Maybe it's Jordan Peterson's personality test.

00:17:52.780 The stuff is there. It's all out there. And so if you're not going to use it, that's not on anybody

00:17:59.020 else. That's on you. But begin to look at what you wanted from a man, what other people need from

00:18:06.400 you as a man, who you want to emulate, get yourself in their circles, in their spaces and start to emulate

00:18:12.240 their behaviors. Now, the fourth point, and this is very much on the same line, is now you have to do

00:18:18.080 what blank does. So for example, if you're listening to a guy like Cameron Haynes or Rich Roll,

00:18:26.300 and you're seeing these guys who are incredible, David Goggins, incredible, incredible endurance

00:18:32.880 athletes, what we have a natural tendency of doing as men is saying, well, you know, I'm not a runner.

00:18:37.800 Right. You're not a runner because you don't run. Well, I've heard from so many people, a good friend

00:18:43.220 of mine, I had a conversation. Well, I want to write a book, but I'm not a writer. Well, you're

00:18:48.060 not a writer if you don't write. You're not a runner if you don't run. But what do runners do? They run.

00:18:54.320 What do writers do? They write. What do presenters and public speakers do? They present. They speak in

00:18:59.600 public. Okay. So point number four is you have to do what blank does. So don't come to me and say,

00:19:07.660 I'm not a runner. Just go start running. I had this problem when I started writing my first book

00:19:14.400 called Sovereignty, The Battle for the Hearts and Minds of Men. I told myself and other people,

00:19:18.180 I'd love to write a book. I'd love to get this information out into the world. I think it would

00:19:21.100 be good for people. It's a new medium that will reach people in a way that I haven't done before.

00:19:25.140 And it will be a challenge for me, but I'm not a writer. Okay. Well, what does that do?

00:19:30.920 It shuts down progression. It shuts down growth. That's it. I'm not a writer, period.

00:19:39.040 End of story. End of discussion. No, it's not the end of the discussion.

00:19:43.980 You're a grown ass man. You're a human being. It's like that old adage that I hate, 0.99

00:19:48.520 which is you can't teach an old dog new tricks. That isn't true. You're not a dog. You're not old.

00:19:55.740 And you're capable of learning something new, of evolving and reinventing yourself into something

00:19:59.720 more. What does it take? Doing the thing that you're afraid of. Ryan, I really want to speak

00:20:04.300 in public, but I'm afraid of speaking in public. Well, of course you are. You've never done it.

00:20:09.000 So what can you do? Well, maybe you can speak to your family as a start. Maybe the next thing you can

00:20:14.320 do is you can go speak to Rotary or Lions Club or Chamber of Commerce or Business Network International,

00:20:19.840 and you have 20 to 40 people. The next thing you can do is ask yourself to go speak at a conference.

00:20:25.620 One of the very first things I did when I started Order of Man is I reached out to

00:20:28.820 Antonio Centeno and Aaron Marino who were hosting an event called Menfluential. I think it was called

00:20:34.940 StyleCon at the time. And I said, hey, can I speak? And Aaron Marino said, excuse me, no, it was Antonio

00:20:39.820 who said, no, I don't know who you are, but why don't you come and introduce yourself? Now I had no right

00:20:44.900 to speak at their event. And yet I put myself out there because I knew that that's what was required

00:20:50.340 for me to get this information out into the world. I went that first year, I didn't speak. The second

00:20:55.680 year I spoke because I went and I attended and I put myself out there and I offered my services and I

00:21:03.540 wasn't perfect and I'm still not perfect. I'm improving. I'm getting better at public speaking,

00:21:07.380 but it's important to me. And so speakers speak. Writers write. Runners run. Hunters hunt. You get

00:21:17.980 it. You understand, right? You're not destined to or not to be something. If you want to be something,

00:21:26.140 do the activity. That's number four. And the last point that I want to share with you guys,

00:21:33.500 so I'm having a hard time deciphering my, uh, my scribble here on my notepad is to critique

00:21:40.160 yourself, critique yourself every day. Look at yourself. Look at where you're falling short.

00:21:46.620 Look where you're doing well. Look where you can improve. If you go run and you want to run a mile

00:21:52.860 or two miles, track your time, like track it. Okay. That, that mile took me nine minutes. Okay. Well,

00:21:58.400 that's not going to cut it. I want to get down to eight minutes, seven minutes, six minute miles.

00:22:01.820 Okay. Well, you got to start tracking it and then you have to critique yourself. So you look at it,

00:22:05.860 you think, okay, well, I ran that nine miles, but you know, I didn't go a hundred percent. I think I

00:22:09.940 could go another little 10 or 15 or 20% harder. And so you do that the next day. And you realize that

00:22:15.700 nine minutes wasn't your best. Eight minutes is currently your best because you were willing

00:22:19.840 to critique yourself or you start writing a chapter of a book. Well, Ryan, you know, I just don't

00:22:25.660 have an outline. I don't know what I want to talk about. I didn't say you needed that. I said,

00:22:29.340 writers, right. And I didn't say every word that you write, you're going to use or put out into the

00:22:34.640 world. I said, writers, right. So you're going to write a thousand words today. And you're going

00:22:39.740 to look back at your journal tomorrow. And you're going to look at it with a fresh set of eyes.

00:22:42.640 You're going to say that sucked. Or that first paragraph was really good. Or that story, 0.92

00:22:48.320 that anecdote that I shared, that was powerful, but that end, that was weak. And you have to look at

00:22:54.500 it with an objective eye, not to beat yourself up, but so that you can improve.

00:23:02.000 Critique yourself. This is something that I have incorporated into every single day of my life.

00:23:08.440 When I started, I would do it at the end of the day. Now I do it after every engagement,

00:23:13.500 encounter, project, task, conversation, performance. I critique myself.

00:23:19.180 So when I'm done with this podcast and I hit stop and I publish this and send this to my editor,

00:23:25.840 I'm going to look back and say, okay, well, how did that go? I actually listen to my own podcast.

00:23:30.380 Sometimes my wife makes fun of me and other people do because they think I'm just listening

00:23:33.640 to myself. And I am. I like the way that I talk. I'm proud of it because I put a lot of hours into it,

00:23:39.180 but also I'm listening with a critical ear. Again, not to beat myself up, but to say, oh man,

00:23:44.980 I had this interview with Darren or I had this interview with Ray. I had this interview with Tim

00:23:49.360 and I asked that great question and that was really good, but I didn't follow up with this

00:23:55.000 next question that I should have asked. And so I'm going to write that down and I write it down.

00:23:58.800 And then the next time I'm presented with that opportunity, I ask a better question. Some of

00:24:03.220 you guys ask me, Ryan, how did you get so good at podcasting? Oh man, I'd be a great podcaster too

00:24:08.240 if I was a natural like you. It isn't natural. It's not natural. Okay. I've got four kids. My

00:24:14.680 youngest is six years old. As I watched all of them learn to eat and poo in the toilet and walk

00:24:22.220 and run and communicate. None of that stuff came naturally. None of it. They needed to refine it,

00:24:31.080 to hone it, to learn it. And still in my six-year-old talks, sometimes he says something like,

00:24:35.140 I don't know what you're saying. Cause that's not how you say it. He's not pronouncing it

00:24:38.900 correctly. He's learning. He's getting better. And that's, what's required. You have to critique

00:24:44.640 yourself. So there's a couple of practices I shared with you that you should be doing every day.

00:24:50.240 One of them is to be emulating what other people you admire and respect are doing and then do what

00:24:55.460 they do. Again, you want to be a runner? Go run every day. Go run. You want to write? Write every day.

00:25:00.880 You want a podcast? Podcast. You want to take pictures? Take lots of pictures.

00:25:07.840 You want to speak in public? Learn to speak in public. Actually don't even, yes, learn,

00:25:12.480 but actually go speak in public. So that's one practice you should do every day. Do what you

00:25:17.200 want to do. Okay. Number two is critique. Get your notebook out and have a notebook for your

00:25:24.940 review. I call it an after action review. So every evening I'll sit down. I've got notebooks up here.

00:25:30.820 On my bookshelf. I've got notebook right here. I've got a couple over there and I write it. I

00:25:35.120 write the date. Here's the date. Here's what went well. Here's what didn't go well. Here's what I

00:25:39.760 got done. Here's what I didn't get done. Here's what I want to do tomorrow. Here's how I want to

00:25:42.720 be a better father. Here's how I want to be a better podcaster. Here's how I want to be a better

00:25:46.400 hunter. Here's how I want to be a better, whatever my thing is. And I document it all because again,

00:25:51.740 research shows that if you document it like Gronkowski did, that it's more likely to come true,

00:25:56.780 to come to fruition. You're taking it out of the intangible, this, this mind type space,

00:26:02.560 and you're making it tangible by putting pen to paper. I've got notepads everywhere. Notepads here,

00:26:07.880 here. We've got some scribbles here. I even got some on the floor that blew down. I've got them

00:26:11.620 everywhere. Cause I'm always taking notes. And this is one of my secrets to success guys. You have a

00:26:17.700 tremendous, tremendous opportunity to reinvent yourself every single day. You are not destined to be

00:26:23.840 your dad. You're not destined to be the loser that you've always been. You're not even destined for 1.00

00:26:28.840 success. If you're successful now, guarantee that if you stay on the same path and trajectory that

00:26:34.460 you're currently on, you might be running the risk of not being successful down the road because

00:26:39.980 the climate, the external changes, and you need to evolve and grow with it. Reinvent yourself every

00:26:46.620 single day, make yourself into something more and do not ascribe to this idea of destiny that it will

00:26:52.600 inevitably come to fruition. It is what you make it. It is what you make it. Now I do believe that

00:26:59.480 we all are all here for a reason, but I don't think that every single one of us steps into that

00:27:05.400 reason that we're here. It's only those who are willing to get into the arena as Theodore Roosevelt

00:27:10.580 would say, and get our butts in the game and do what we need to do to win and thrive and succeed

00:27:15.800 and reinvent ourselves on a daily basis. Again, guys, number one, be the kind of man that you wish

00:27:21.840 you would have had when you were younger. Number two, be the type of man that other people need you

00:27:26.560 to be and start writing out those virtues and those characteristics. Number three, emulate what

00:27:33.080 other successful people do. If you want to be like Jocko, be like Jocko. If you want to be like me,

00:27:39.660 be like me. You want to be like Andy or Sean or Steve or Tim or whoever, be like those guys. Buy their

00:27:45.620 courses, buy their programs, be involved, go to their conferences, subscribe to their emails,

00:27:49.900 listen to their podcasts. Number four, do what blank do, do what runners do, do what podcasters

00:27:55.820 do, do what writers do, do what authors do, do what photographers do, do what fathers do. You get it.

00:28:02.400 And number five is critique yourself often and have a system, a process in place where you can

00:28:10.980 actually document every single day how it went, how well, how it didn't go so well, how you can improve

00:28:18.980 and what you're going to do tomorrow. This is the way. And it isn't a one-time activity.

00:28:24.600 You don't get to do this today because you're all hopped up on what I'm sharing with you.

00:28:28.260 And then think that tomorrow you're going to be a different man. It might be slightly different,

00:28:32.020 but not enough to notice. But you do this for a week, a month, a year, a decade. Imagine doing

00:28:40.280 this for 10 years. Some of you guys will say, man, Ryan, you're so great at podcasting. Look at all

00:28:45.280 the success you're having. I just looked, we've been doing this for seven years. And I just saw

00:28:49.940 that we have done 925 episodes of the podcast so far, 925 episodes. If we're not somewhat good at this

00:29:02.880 or at least better than we've been, something has gone horribly, horribly wrong. 900 consecutive

00:29:11.440 episodes without missing a single episode in over seven years. Of course, I'm going to be good at

00:29:19.900 this. Well, Ryan, I just want to be like Cam. He's so, he's so strong and he's a great hunter and he's

00:29:26.760 so successful with hunting and he's a great runner. That guy runs every single day of his life.

00:29:34.580 And it, I, if I had to guess, I don't know for sure. He's been doing it for probably two to three

00:29:41.860 decades. Oh, Jocko. He's so, he's so sure of himself. He's so disciplined. He's so assertive.

00:29:50.440 And, and, and I see him as a leader, right? Cause he shows up every single day. And he has been for

00:29:58.380 decades. Gronkowski, Tim Tebow, Tom Brady, Michael Jordan, Kobe Bryant. These are guys that we think

00:30:11.020 of as the greatest of all time. Every day they're showing up, critiquing themselves and improving

00:30:19.600 and getting better. That's what it takes. I believe in you. I believe you can do it. It isn't easy.

00:30:24.160 It's very simple. It isn't easy. It's going to require some testicular fortitude and some grit

00:30:29.940 and some resolve, but you can do it. I know you can because I'm in the midst of doing it. And if

00:30:34.320 I can do it, you certainly can. All right, guys, that's all I've got. If you are looking for a

00:30:38.700 resource, because I'm telling you about how to be around other men who you are inspired and impressed

00:30:43.580 by and want to emulate, make sure you check out the iron council. We're only open for the rest of the

00:30:48.520 day. We're closing it down at midnight tonight on Friday. So you can check it out. Order

00:30:54.000 of man.com slash iron council order of man.com slash iron council. All right, guys, go out

00:31:01.480 there, take action, reinvent yourself and become a man you are meant to be. Thank you for listening

00:31:08.040 to the order of man podcast. You're ready to take charge of your life and be more of the

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