Order of Man - Reject Mediocrity, Embrace Excellence ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest, embrace your fears, and boldly chart

00:00:05.000 your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time, every time.

00:00:10.440 You are not easily deterred or defeated, rugged, resilient, strong. This is your life. This is who

00:00:17.240 you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,

00:00:22.800 you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Michler,

00:00:27.800 and I am the host and the founder of this podcast and the movement that is Order of Men.

00:00:32.540 If you're new to the show today, this is a movement about reclaiming and restoring

00:00:37.300 traditional masculinity. And to that end, we have this podcast. We've got a blog. We've got

00:00:42.620 YouTube channels. We've got social media channels. We've got it all. And of course, we've got our

00:00:46.460 exclusive brotherhood, The Iron Council, where 500 men have decided to band together and go more in

00:00:52.580 depth into the conversations and the subjects and the topics that we're discussing. And then more

00:00:57.120 importantly than that, take action towards those conversations, towards improving as fathers,

00:01:03.180 husbands, business owners, community leaders, and every other facet that we're showing up as.

00:01:08.460 So if you're interested in something deeper, a little bit more connected and the push and the

00:01:13.580 accountability that you might need to take your life to the next level, then I would encourage you

00:01:17.840 to join us inside The Iron Council. You can do that at orderofman.com slash Iron Council.

00:01:24.020 Now for today, in case you're not aware of what we're doing here, this is your Friday field notes.

00:01:30.400 So it's thoughts about some things that I've been thinking about from throughout the week. And

00:01:34.380 specifically today, I want to talk about this idea and this thought that just seems to permeate

00:01:40.000 every fabric of society. And that is the notion of mediocrity. And we'll get into that here in just

00:01:45.180 a minute because I've got five steps that I think if we all, as men, incorporated more into our

00:01:50.720 lives, we would reject this notion of mediocrity. And instead we would excel and thrive and really

00:01:57.240 step up in ways that maybe we haven't in the past and the ways that we need to, the ways that are

00:02:01.740 going to fulfill our mission and our objectives and the things that we want to accomplish and

00:02:05.960 more effectively help others accomplish what it is thereafter as well. Before I get into that,

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00:02:49.340 go ahead and take care of that, uh, after this show, because for now, again, I want to talk with

00:02:54.260 you about the notion of mediocrity and look guys, as I was going through this, I, I, I'm always

00:03:00.560 interested and fascinated with where words come from. And what I found here is that the word reject,

00:03:07.440 I was really interested in that. And it says here to throw away, to cast away, to vomit.

00:03:13.760 And I think that's pretty indicative of what we should be doing when it comes to mediocrity.

00:03:18.740 And as I said before, it's permeated every fabric of society from the dad bod to the notion that we

00:03:26.900 can be just good enough to the idea of participation trophies to as long as I'm better than the next guy. 0.90

00:03:33.800 I mean, it's everywhere and it's absolutely ridiculous. And it undermines and undercuts

00:03:38.560 our ability to step up as fully as we're capable of. It's just not living to the standard that we

00:03:45.740 should, and we should create our own standards and be our own best standard and not compare

00:03:50.560 ourselves to other people and what they're doing and how they're performing and really go out of our

00:03:54.580 way to excel, to thrive, to live the type of life that we're capable of living. So I want you to look

00:04:00.660 at, for example, your marriage. Is it mediocre? Is it average? Is it boring? Is it complacent? Is

00:04:08.440 in a rut? That might mean that you've accepted the idea of mediocrity, that you've just succumbed to

00:04:15.600 the idea that this is just the way marriage is. Because when you're married for five or seven or

00:04:19.840 10 or 15 years, that this is just how it happens. Take a look at your marriage honestly and objectively

00:04:25.140 and ask yourself if it is in a rut. And then we'll talk about how to get out of that rut.

00:04:30.320 Ask yourself when it comes to your level of fitness, you know, do you have a little bit of a spare tire

00:04:35.560 around the, uh, around the midsection? Are you a little weaker, not getting as much sleep as maybe

00:04:41.100 you should eating kind of a little bit more junk than maybe necessary. These are all little things

00:04:47.280 that creep into our day-to-day activities that keep us from doing what we want to do.

00:04:53.380 That's what we need to understand that when we don't reject this idea of mediocrity and

00:04:58.720 we instead embrace the mediocrity that has become so many of our lives, that we're selling

00:05:04.440 ourselves short, that we're acting in it from a position of delusion in that we think that

00:05:10.640 we're doing our best and we're not. Very rarely are we doing our best. Look at your bank account.

00:05:17.060 Look at your debts. Look at other relationships you have. Look at your career. Look at the way that

00:05:21.340 you show up. Look at the way that you do the little things and ask yourself objectively,

00:05:25.920 am I coasting? Am I just getting by? Am I just barely doing enough just to hang on to whatever

00:05:32.540 it is I think I should have or the standard that maybe society has set? And I'll tell you,

00:05:37.060 it's an inferior standard. It is an absolute inferior standard. What society has set for us,

00:05:43.080 what they're setting for our children and what ultimately they want us to accomplish.

00:05:46.960 But I will also tell you this, that those who reject the inferior 0.98

00:05:51.240 standard that society has put in place will ultimately be the ones who dictate how society

00:05:58.940 is run, who will ultimately be able to dictate how they live their lives, will ultimately be able to

00:06:05.380 influence how long they live and how healthy they are in life and the type of fulfillment they have and

00:06:12.120 what type of relationship they have with their wife and their kids and the people in their community.

00:06:16.480 It's the ones who thrive, the ones who excel, the ones who go above and beyond what is it expected

00:06:21.160 that always reap the benefits of doing the work. So if you're driving to work right now,

00:06:28.160 or maybe you're on a run or you're in bed or you're doing whatever it is you're doing,

00:06:32.900 ask yourself, do I have what I want out of life? Do I have what I want out of life?

00:06:39.520 Now, in some areas, you may say, yes, I do. In other areas, if you're like most people,

00:06:47.320 the answer is certainly no, that you don't have everything you want. And I'm here to tell you

00:06:53.380 that the single greatest solution to that, although it's broad, is to reject and dismiss and just be

00:07:00.740 repulsed by and disgusted by the idea that you are living a mediocre life and instead attempt to

00:07:09.320 thrive and excel and go above and beyond what is required of you. Now, the challenge with this

00:07:15.600 is that nobody's going to expect it of you. Nobody's going to expect it of you. Your wife has

00:07:20.600 just bought into the idea that you're just kind of an average, ordinary dude. Your employer has just

00:07:27.240 bought into the idea that you're going to do the bare minimum. You're going to get in there when you

00:07:30.960 need to. You're going to leave as soon as you can. You're going to do the bare minimum to get by.

00:07:34.080 And that's just kind of the way employees are. Nobody's going to hold you accountable or hold

00:07:39.080 your hand or tell you that you need to go into the gym and lose that extra 15 to 20 pounds.

00:07:43.760 Nobody's going to be standing over your shoulder, documenting the garbage that you're putting into 0.99

00:07:47.960 your body. Nobody's going to hold you accountable. You have to decide for yourself. And not only are 1.00

00:07:53.700 they not going to hold you accountable, they're actually probably in a lot of instances going to

00:07:58.800 encourage you to be mediocre. I know this because I've experienced it in my own life. These are

00:08:05.100 people that I love. These are people even that love me. They have respect for me. They say they

00:08:10.160 want me to win. But ultimately, when we interact, they're intimidated by the fact that I am driving on,

00:08:17.340 that I am trying to excel, that I am trying to go above and beyond what is expected of me and do

00:08:22.740 something even greater than I maybe even think I'm capable of now. They don't want me to do that.

00:08:29.620 Why? Because it represents a very real threat to their own mediocrity. And so it's not that they

00:08:37.220 don't care about you or they do care about you. It's that the way that you show up impacts them.

00:08:42.340 If everybody else around me starts to thrive and excel and push and exceed their expectation

00:08:48.660 and create some wild, crazy aspirations that they've always had, then what does that say

00:08:54.740 about me who doesn't push, who doesn't thrive, who doesn't excel? These are the types of people

00:09:01.460 who love you, but they don't have your best interest at heart. They're interested more in

00:09:07.200 maintaining their status quo than they are worried about you doing something that you have the potential

00:09:12.780 to do. And it is potential unrealized potential. It's there. It's there for you. It's there for me.

00:09:19.040 All we have to do is step into it, have a different mindset and a couple of steps I'm going to give you

00:09:25.020 here in a minute. And, uh, you will begin to see that when you ask yourself that question in the future,

00:09:30.280 do I have what I want? You will be able to confidently say, yes, I do. And as you have greater

00:09:38.480 and greater aspirations, you'll be able to say, I know that I'm capable of accomplishing that because

00:09:45.760 I have a track record of accomplishing the things that I desire. So guys, with that introduction,

00:09:51.820 let's get into the five steps. This one is going to be fairly short today because I don't think we

00:09:56.780 need 10 steps. I don't think we need 20 steps. I don't think that we need to drone on and on and on

00:10:01.660 about how to make yourself exceptional. And that is the antithesis, right? That is the opposite of

00:10:08.180 mediocre is that you are going to be exceptional. That's what I want to be in all ways. That's what

00:10:15.020 you should want to be in all ways. And if you're not interested in that, in whatever you're doing,

00:10:19.900 a don't do it or be just resign right now. Stop listening to this podcast. Stop reading books.

00:10:26.240 Stop, stop following those influential people and those inspirational people, because you're just

00:10:31.340 not interested in doing the work. And I'm not going to say that's okay, but I know that there's

00:10:35.740 some people out there who are like that. But if you're listening to this and you're reading books

00:10:39.680 and you're following other inspirational people, then it's safe to assume that you are to some

00:10:44.040 degree interested in it. So let's stop talking about it and let's go out and do it. So if you can

00:10:49.560 take some notes, write these five things down and figure out how you're going to incorporate

00:10:53.700 them very specifically and very tactically in your life. Number one, stop comparing yourself

00:11:01.840 to other people. Stop comparing yourself to other people. Now, a lot of the times we compare

00:11:07.900 ourselves to those who maybe are a little further down the path than us. And I think that actually

00:11:14.080 could be very advantageous. I think it can also be destructive to take into the extreme. But look,

00:11:19.620 if you're following me as a podcaster, because you want to create a podcast or movement like I've

00:11:24.120 created, and that inspires you to do something great. I think there's a time for that. If you're

00:11:28.460 following a fitness guy and he's ripped and he can run for miles and miles and miles, and he's got

00:11:34.360 everything that he wants with regards to health and nutrition and fitness locked in, then I say,

00:11:38.700 you know, follow that guy. Don't compare yourself necessarily, but be inspired by that individual.

00:11:44.120 What I'm saying when I tell you to stop comparing yourself to other people is to stop saying that

00:11:50.460 you're doing just enough to get by. At least I'm doing better than so-and-so fill in the blank. We have a

00:11:57.620 tendency to do that because we want to prop ourselves up. We want to make ourselves feel

00:12:02.260 better than maybe we should. And even saying that's a little bit taboo in modern society

00:12:07.360 because the modern thought is that you're good just the way that you are. And just the way that

00:12:13.640 you are is blending in with what everybody else is doing and who everybody else is. Guys, you're not

00:12:18.880 meant for that. All right. You're not meant for the entry-level job. You're not meant for the basics.

00:12:25.100 When you go into the gym, you're not meant for an ordinary average marriage. You are not meant for

00:12:31.120 that. You are meant for and designed for bigger and greater and grander things. And you can let

00:12:38.120 the masses play in the mediocrity pool. You're going to get out of that pool and you're going to go play

00:12:43.820 in somewhere else, somewhere where you can thrive, somewhere where you can excel, somewhere you can

00:12:48.320 exceed expectations. So when somebody comes to you and says, Hey, John, you're doing a really good job.

00:12:54.080 You can say thank you, but deep down inside, don't accept that compliment because you're capable of

00:12:59.080 so much more. It's like, I'm doing a good job by whose standards. And this isn't an opportunity to

00:13:05.860 beat yourself up. This isn't an opportunity to turn this into a negative situation, but it is an

00:13:11.100 opportunity to say, you know what? I appreciate that you say I'm doing good or that I'm on the right

00:13:16.240 path, but I want something bigger. I want something better. I want something grander. And then making

00:13:21.600 those plans to make it happen. So again, stop, step number one is to not compare yourself to

00:13:27.080 ordinary, average, complacent, mediocre people. I see this all the time. I saw it in my financial

00:13:33.580 planning practice. I would meet with clients and give them a financial strategy and coach them through

00:13:38.600 the process. And they'd say, you know, I want to talk with my, my uncle or my friend or my brother

00:13:43.340 or my parents. And I'd ask them how these people were in their financial situation. And more often

00:13:49.600 than not, what my clients would say is, uh, well, they're not really doing well financially.

00:13:54.080 It's like, well, why the hell would you listen to that individual? All right. If you want to be

00:13:58.320 wealthy, don't take advice from, or compare yourself to broke people. If you want to be healthy,

00:14:05.400 don't take advice from, or, or listen to people who are fat and out of shape and overweight and not

00:14:13.800 healthy. If you want to have a thriving relationship, don't compare yourself to the

00:14:19.180 schmuck who's been through, you know, five or six divorces. Instead, maybe compare yourself to somebody 0.98

00:14:25.480 who has a 20 or a 30 year marriage and has this stuff locked down. And more importantly than comparing

00:14:30.840 yourself to that individual, find out what that individual did to excel and to thrive and to succeed.

00:14:37.020 And it's a little bit harder because those people who are rejecting mediocrity and instead stepping

00:14:43.660 into excellence are few and far between. I want you to be one of those individuals in order to do

00:14:49.120 that. You've got to find those individuals, which leads me into point number two, elevate your

00:14:53.980 surroundings, elevate your surroundings in all ways. If you're, if your office, for example, is a mess,

00:15:01.620 you are not living exceptional. You need to elevate that by cleaning it up, organizing your files,

00:15:08.280 throwing stuff away, get rid of the old junk, cleaning up, doing an office makeover, whatever

00:15:14.240 you need to do to elevate your surroundings. It could be your physical surroundings. It could be

00:15:19.140 the information that you're putting into your head. What kind of books are you reading? Are you

00:15:23.660 reading the classics? Are you reading New York times bestselling books? Are you reading books that

00:15:28.140 are edifying and uplifting you? Are you reading books from the most successful, most intelligent

00:15:33.680 people in the history of mankind? Or are you putting filth and trash and nonsense and garbage 0.99

00:15:40.700 into your brain? I'm telling you, if you're putting that kind of stuff into your brain, you are going to 1.00

00:15:45.160 produce the exact same results. I mean, this, our brains are just processing centers. All right. They're

00:15:52.480 just processing information and then they're computing an output based on the information

00:15:58.920 that you put into the processor. So if you're putting junk and garbage into the processor,

00:16:03.140 then the natural outcome or the natural output is junk and garbage. If you're putting in the highest

00:16:10.220 quality fuel and information and ideas into your brain, then the natural outcome, the product of that

00:16:16.780 is an outcome and an output that is exceptional. So what podcast are you listening to? What books

00:16:25.720 are you reading? What YouTube channels are you subscribed to? What TV shows are you watching?

00:16:30.040 What is your office situation and surroundings look like? You know, I've been in people's cars. I said,

00:16:34.960 Hey, hop in. Like, I'll give you a ride wherever these are friends. And I get in their car and their

00:16:38.620 car is filthy. It's absolutely trashed. And I think to myself, how can this individual thrive and excel at

00:16:47.760 anything in life? If their car, if their car looks like this and some people say, well, Ryan, that's

00:16:53.720 being really judgmental maybe, but it also happens to be a pretty good indicator for the rest of their

00:16:59.720 life. Organized people tend to be organized people. People who have chaos in one facet of their life

00:17:06.920 tend to have chaos in other facets of their life. People who are overweight, grossly overweight are

00:17:14.360 probably lacking the discipline skills to excel in their business and their marriage and every other

00:17:19.580 facet of life. So while it may come across as judgmental, we can take it and we can learn from

00:17:27.420 it. How can I be exceptional at everything? Clean up my car, clean up my office, clean up my house,

00:17:34.320 clean up my files, clean up my computer, clean up my friends, who is in my friend list and what are they

00:17:40.200 doing to me? Clean up my library, clean out the YouTube channel, clean out your podcast, clean out

00:17:46.600 what you're, what you're watching on TV and really do an inventory and ask yourself, is this encouraging

00:17:52.460 mediocrity or do the things that I put into my mind and my brain encourage exceptionalism? That's number

00:18:00.440 two, elevate your surroundings. Uh, number three, and I'm going to change the order here that I wrote

00:18:05.940 down. Uh, let's see. Number three, we'll do this way. Focus on the little things guys, focus on the

00:18:13.340 little things. This is such a great factor in thriving and being exceptional. It's focusing on

00:18:22.920 the little things. Everybody can do it right. When people are watching, everybody can do it right.

00:18:27.820 When it's the big things, but it's the little things. If you can do the little things, the things

00:18:32.640 that seem insignificant, the things that nobody's going to look at and nobody's going to review.

00:18:37.740 If you can get those things right, then the big things inevitably take care of themselves.

00:18:41.960 A perfect analogy of this is the gym. You know, if you're working on, I don't know,

00:18:46.420 cleans or deadlifts, for example, you might just muscle through the weight and that's fine,

00:18:52.400 I guess. But are you selling yourself short if you do that? Now you might look at it to

00:18:57.600 point number one and compare yourself to other people and say, well, I'm stronger than that guy.

00:19:01.920 Well, okay. But are you as strong as you could be? And how can you clean up a clean or how can you

00:19:08.320 clean up a deadlift or a bench press or a back squat by doing the little things, by getting your

00:19:13.360 feet in the right position, by having the right shoes on, by having the right equipment, by having the

00:19:17.800 right mechanics, by having the right coach and putting the right information into your brain.

00:19:21.580 And when you do those little things correctly in the gym, it translates to being able to push and

00:19:27.600 pull more weight, which makes you stronger. It's the same thing in the office. If you're walking over

00:19:33.340 trash and like my friend, Andy Frisilla, what the MFCEO says, you're leaving your little pee droplets 0.96

00:19:38.120 on the toilet seat. Where else are you doing that? Where else are you falling short? Where else are you 0.99

00:19:43.880 trying to get by and make sure and hope that nobody's finding out what it is you're doing?

00:19:47.800 In all ways, you're doing that. If you're doing it in one area, you're naturally and inevitably doing

00:19:53.080 it in other areas. In your relationship, you know, when's the last time you took your wife out on a 0.85

00:19:57.780 date? When's the last time you left a little note that said, I love you? When's the last time you

00:20:02.120 swept up the living room or vacuumed the house when, you know, you didn't have to? When's the last

00:20:08.640 time that you cooked dinner for her or that you went outside with little Billy and little Timmy and you

00:20:15.160 played catch or you sat down with little Susan and had a tea party, even though maybe you were busy.

00:20:19.860 These are little things that nobody sees. And you know what? You do that over and over and over and

00:20:24.720 over again. And you can't help but be exceptional. You can't help but thrive. While everybody's looking

00:20:32.700 for the low hanging fruit, I want you to climb that tree. And I want you to find those little tedious,

00:20:38.740 monotonous, seemingly insignificant tasks and duties and responsibilities and obligations. 0.98

00:20:45.940 When you see a piece of trash, pick it up. When you see something that needs to be cleaned,

00:20:51.680 clean it. When you see somebody who needs to be recognized for their hard work, or maybe they're

00:20:56.940 just having a bad day, recognize that individual. When there's an opportunity at work that doesn't

00:21:02.000 necessarily fall within your responsibility, but you feel like you can do it and take that on,

00:21:05.680 take that task on. When you're at the gym and you're wondering how you can push more weight,

00:21:10.220 look at your mechanics, ask the coach, ask a coach how to do this more effectively and how to do this

00:21:16.120 right. You do that. You may not experience results right away. That's the trap. It may take some time,

00:21:21.960 but if you do that consistently day in and day out and reject mediocrity, reject what everybody else does,

00:21:29.100 and instead go deep on the little things, you will always, always over the long term be exceptional.

00:21:35.680 And excel and thrive. That was number three. Uh, number four, I changed these around a little

00:21:42.780 bit. Number four is own the task, own the task. What I mean by this is that if you're going to

00:21:50.900 take on a responsibility and I don't care what that responsibility is, maybe your job is to clean

00:21:55.800 the bathroom. All right. Not something that I think most people would find joy or fulfillment

00:22:01.340 or satisfaction in, but you know what, if you're going to do it, you better be the best damn 0.98

00:22:06.340 janitor that ever walked the face of the earth. If you're going to go out and you're going to play 0.98

00:22:11.200 catch, even though maybe you don't want to, cause you're tired or you want to watch a show,

00:22:14.960 but you committed to playing catch with your son, you better have the best session of catch that he

00:22:22.560 and you have ever had in your entire life. If you're having sex, if you're going on a date,

00:22:30.020 if you've picked up a new project at work, if you're cleaning out your car or cleaning your office

00:22:36.140 or mowing the lawn or whatever it is that you're doing, own the task, make it yours, take full

00:22:44.140 responsibility for the completion of, and the standard of that task. Don't just walk through

00:22:50.120 the motions. Don't just say, Oh, you know, this isn't a big deal. Or don't say nobody will notice

00:22:56.040 own the task, gentlemen, like your life depends on it. I try to do that in my life. And I'll tell

00:23:01.980 you, I don't always, I don't always do it correctly, but I try to be the best at whatever I'm doing in

00:23:08.380 the moment. For example, as I'm doing this podcast right now, it'd be easy for me to be sidetracked.

00:23:14.000 It'd be easy for me to be distracted. It'd be easy for me to not have this thing planned out

00:23:18.320 with regards to what I want to talk with you about. It'd be easy for me to do a million other

00:23:22.340 things, but I want to be in this 15 or 20 minutes, the best podcaster that I've ever been. I want to

00:23:29.840 be better than I was yesterday and the day before and the day before. And I want this to be the best

00:23:34.400 podcast that you have ever listened to from the audio quality to the intro and the outro and the

00:23:41.760 way that I'm communicating a message and the way that you're receiving it. Every little minute detail of

00:23:47.220 this, I want to be exceptional. Now you might listen to it and say, it's not, but my goal is to

00:23:53.400 continue to thrive and be better and better and better and really step into what I'm capable of.

00:23:58.920 So number four, again, is own the task. And the fifth point that I want to make today,

00:24:05.320 very general. All right. It's, it's 30,000 foot view, but I think if you approach and use this idea

00:24:12.120 in every facet of your life, you will thrive, you'll excel. And that is to have the mindset

00:24:19.320 of excellence. And the beauty of the human mind is that we can program it. We can script it. We can

00:24:26.920 change it simply because we want to, we're not destined to, uh, just intuition, for example, or,

00:24:36.980 or the way that our ancestors did it. We have this ability of consciousness, which says that we can

00:24:42.920 change and we can evolve and we can grow. And we have this elasticity that we're capable of to expand

00:24:50.260 our capabilities, which means this is the point that I'm trying to make that you can decide today,

00:24:57.720 the minute you're listening to this podcast, that instead of having a mindset of mediocrity,

00:25:03.380 that you will now have a mindset of excellence. That as you're driving down the road, you're going

00:25:08.960 to, you're, you're going to drive the best you can. That is, you're having a conversation with a

00:25:13.800 client. You're going to put all of your effort into that and really thrive and excel and consider how

00:25:18.560 you can make this the best. When you get home, you're going to drop your, your briefcase off at

00:25:23.220 the door and you're going to make this the best homecoming that ever existed. How could you make it

00:25:28.580 better bringing your daughter flowers or just giving your son a hug and going out and playing

00:25:33.320 baseball or, uh, getting home and making dinner for your wife? Like in what ways can you excel?

00:25:40.220 In what ways can you exceed the standard or even the expectation? Like I said earlier,

00:25:46.440 we all have expectations of each other. If I know you, I have an expectation of you.

00:25:51.020 What would happen if instead of meeting my expectation, you exceeded my expectation? What if I

00:25:57.960 was your boss and I said, here's your job, A, B, and C. And instead you did A, B, C, D,

00:26:02.780 A, E, F, and G. What would that say to me as your employer about you? Don't you think you'd be the

00:26:10.820 first in line for the promotion if you did that enough? How would that play out in your relationship

00:26:15.000 with your wife and kids? How would that play out when you go to the gym? How would that play out

00:26:19.180 when you're working with a client? You will always be picked first when you have a mindset of excellence

00:26:25.400 that in all ways you're going to show up fully, that in all ways you're going to exceed the

00:26:29.900 expectation, that in all ways you're looking for opportunities to shine above and beyond what you

00:26:35.480 previously did, that in all ways you are going to excel. Guys, this is the mindset of excellence.

00:26:43.540 This is the antithesis to rejecting, or excuse me, I should say the antithesis to embracing

00:26:49.640 mediocrity, which is what most people do. I don't want you to be most people. I don't want to be most

00:26:55.460 people. I want to be somebody who is exceptional. I want to be somebody who thrives. I want to be

00:27:00.840 somebody who creates opportunities. I want to be somebody who has presented opportunities. I want

00:27:06.320 to be somebody who, when I'm lying on my deathbed or long dead and buried, that people will look to me

00:27:12.240 and say, you know what? Ryan was somebody who always took it to the next level, who always did

00:27:18.760 above and beyond what he was asked, who always looked for opportunities, who created opportunities,

00:27:24.840 who served well, who performed flawlessly at times, and who always strived to be the best.

00:27:32.040 That's who I want to be. That's who I want you to be. And I think, I think that's who you want to be,

00:27:38.840 but it's not enough to want to be excellent. It's not enough to want to reject mediocrity.

00:27:46.540 You have to act. You have to put forth effort. And as simple as I can make it sound in five easy

00:27:52.760 steps, the reality is, is that it's sometimes very difficult to do because we get inundated with

00:28:00.900 tasks and chores and we're tired. And, and we, we, we just let this human experience, if you will,

00:28:07.960 get in the way. And I know it's challenging, but put the processes in place, have the mindset of

00:28:13.440 excellence, because that will lay the foundation for everything else. Don't compare yourself to

00:28:18.200 mediocre people. Don't be okay with who you are. Learn to love yourself. That's fine.

00:28:24.660 But don't be satisfied with who you are. Learn to elevate your surroundings. What information are

00:28:30.960 you putting into your brain? What is your physical space look like? Who are the people that you're

00:28:35.360 talking with? Learn to focus on the little things, not the big things. Yes, those are important too,

00:28:40.940 but learn to focus on the little things because that's what most people overlook. And also on the task,

00:28:46.240 make it yours, take responsibility and be about it. That's it guys. That's all I've got for you.

00:28:51.320 Let's reject this idea of mediocrity. Let's step up in ways that maybe we haven't stepped up before

00:28:55.700 and really embrace the mindset of excellence. I hope that for you. I want to see you work towards

00:29:02.560 that. I am going to continue to work towards that. And I got to tell you, as we're on this journey

00:29:06.480 together and we are, we are shoulder to shoulder in this journey to reclaim masculinity. I got to tell you,

00:29:13.020 I'm inspired by you. I'm edified and uplifted by you every day. I see what you guys are doing in your marriages

00:29:18.680 and at the gym and in your careers and in your life in general. And I am inspired by that. It wants,

00:29:24.500 it makes me want to be a better man. And I've got to thank you for that. I hope that we can reciprocate

00:29:30.740 that a little bit for each other. Anyways, guys, I'll let you get out of here. You go be excellent.

00:29:35.420 I'll go be excellent. We'll catch you on Tuesday for our interview show with the one and only Ben

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00:30:01.420 your boss, whoever it may need to be. We're all in this fight together and we need more men in the

00:30:08.240 fight to reclaim and restore masculinity. So guys, I'll let you get out of here. Make it a great

00:30:12.580 weekend. We'll catch you early next week. Go out there, be excellent, take action, become the man

00:30:17.420 you are meant to be. Thank you for listening to the Order of Man podcast. If you're ready to take

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Order of Man - March 22, 2019

Reject Mediocrity, Embrace Excellence ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

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