Order of Man - SETEMA GALI ｜ Set the Standard

00:00:00.000 Every single day, we're faced with choices that will either help or hinder us and move us closer to our goals and desires or further away from them.

00:00:07.660 What we decide in those moments will determine our ultimate results.

00:00:11.660 And if we're not satisfied with our current reality, it's safe to assume that we made choices that did not serve us well.

00:00:18.840 Today, I'm joined by former NFL Super Bowl champion and results coach, Setemunali, to talk about these choices.

00:00:25.220 We also cover the power of decisiveness, making certain that our priorities don't merely get the leftovers, the level of commitment required to thrive and win, the positive benefits of guilt and shame, the dangers of false humility, and the trap of self-martyrdom and victimization.

00:00:42.720 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart your own path.

00:00:48.240 When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time. You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong.

00:00:57.720 This is your life. This is who you are. This is who you will become.

00:01:01.880 At the end of the day, and after all is said and done, you can call yourself a man.

00:01:07.080 Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Michler. I'm the host and the founder of the Order of Man podcast and movement.

00:01:13.140 Welcome here today. Welcome back. Glad that you're with us. We've got big plans for 2023. I hope you do as well.

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00:02:52.340 All right, guys. Let me introduce you to my guest today.

00:02:55.380 His name is Satema Nali.

00:02:57.000 He is, as I said earlier, a former NFL Super Bowl champion with the New England Patriots

00:03:02.200 and elite results coach for some of the highest achievers on the planet.

00:03:07.680 He and I have been following each other.

00:03:09.620 I've been inspired by this man for years,

00:03:11.600 and I'm honored that we could finally make this conversation with Satema happen.

00:03:17.040 For the last 15 years, he's dedicated his life to creating every tool and system

00:03:21.540 and protocol framework required for people to overcome their limiting beliefs

00:03:26.960 and transform into the greatest versions of themselves.

00:03:30.320 You're going to hear why Satema is so successful

00:03:32.680 and how he's able to assist others in being the same.

00:03:38.000 Satema, what's up, brother? Glad to have you on the podcast.

00:03:40.920 Ryan, it's an honor. Thank you so much. I appreciate it.

00:03:43.580 I caught you on vacation in actually my home state of Utah.

00:03:48.180 Are you in Northern Utah or Southern Utah?

00:03:49.580 Utah. Or Utah County, right around BYU.

00:03:53.360 Right on. Yeah. Yeah.

00:03:54.760 I moved out here to Maine three and a half years ago,

00:03:59.340 but we were in Southern Utah in the St. George area.

00:04:02.120 Nice, man.

00:04:03.200 Did you grow up in Utah?

00:04:04.980 I did. Utah's home for me.

00:04:07.080 Went to high school here. Went to BYU.

00:04:09.420 Been here most of my life.

00:04:11.060 So this is still home.

00:04:12.360 Even though we were in California for six years,

00:04:14.200 we've been in Florida for just over a year and a half.

00:04:16.900 It seems like there is a growing Samoan population in Utah.

00:04:22.120 Is that accurate?

00:04:23.100 There are so many Samoans, Tongans, Hawaiians.

00:04:26.620 What is it about Utah?

00:04:29.000 I'll tell you, it's, you know, like one in,

00:04:32.080 I think one in four, one in five Polynesians

00:04:34.880 are like members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

00:04:37.640 So they just, they, they gather where there are other members of the church,

00:04:43.000 of that church.

00:04:43.980 And they just, once they populate an area,

00:04:46.740 they all move there and here we are.

00:04:48.440 I mean, I used to want to be Polynesian out here and I go to places.

00:04:51.860 Now I don't know any of the Polynesians anymore.

00:04:54.160 There's so many.

00:04:55.140 So here we are.

00:04:56.920 Hey, it is what it is, right?

00:04:58.940 Yeah.

00:04:59.200 Well, man, it's good to have you on the podcast.

00:05:01.940 I know that we've, we've been connected for years at this point,

00:05:06.220 and I'm a huge follower of what you do.

00:05:07.980 I think above and beyond what I see you do in the professional space

00:05:11.680 and how you're motivating and inspiring others,

00:05:13.400 I'm always motivated, inspired mostly by your, your family posts.

00:05:18.280 I got to say, it's pretty cool to be able to see that

00:05:20.240 and how you talk a lot about that.

00:05:22.540 Cause we see, what I see is a lot of influencers

00:05:25.080 talking a lot about the business aspect of life, which is good,

00:05:28.380 but, but you were talking about the family side,

00:05:32.040 which I think is crucial.

00:05:33.920 Well, I appreciate that.

00:05:35.300 I, I feel the same way about you.

00:05:36.780 Like I love seeing your boys,

00:05:39.380 your young men who are turning into men,

00:05:41.800 their weightlifting needs, hunting, um, out in the snow.

00:05:45.640 It's fun.

00:05:46.060 And I'm like you, man, like we're cut from the same cloth.

00:05:49.420 There's no success outside of the home

00:05:52.520 that will ever compensate for failure in our marriage

00:05:56.220 or with our children.

00:05:57.160 And so that's a natural part of living.

00:05:59.380 And it's, it's one of the best, you know,

00:06:00.720 I'm here on vacation.

00:06:01.500 I got to take my boys to the gym every day.

00:06:03.980 We train every day on vacation.

00:06:06.820 We, they got to read 10 to 15 pages every day.

00:06:09.860 And I just, I love being a family man.

00:06:12.420 And I appreciate your example as well.

00:06:14.140 You've been, brother, you have been a light,

00:06:16.400 a beacon of light in this space,

00:06:18.600 not just, um, personal development,

00:06:21.060 but for men, for women, for, for young men and young women.

00:06:25.160 So thank you so much, man.

00:06:26.360 I really appreciate your example.

00:06:29.140 Thank you.

00:06:29.420 Thank you.

00:06:29.720 That means a lot.

00:06:30.400 I it's, it's interesting, you know,

00:06:33.120 when you, you pay those compliments and,

00:06:34.680 and I, and I accept them to the degree that I can,

00:06:36.700 but I know where I fall short all the time.

00:06:38.820 And I'm like, man, I don't, I don't deserve any of that.

00:06:41.040 Like I have so much work to do on myself.

00:06:43.800 Uh, it's hard because we put ourselves in these positions

00:06:47.260 where we want to serve and we want to help.

00:06:49.800 And I think sometimes people might interpret it as we're,

00:06:54.960 we're, we're better than we really are,

00:06:57.340 or that we belong on some pedestal that we don't.

00:07:00.260 And I never want to place myself on that pedestal

00:07:02.700 because I know where I fall short.

00:07:05.120 I'm with you, man.

00:07:06.100 I think I apologize to my boys a handful of times a week.

00:07:10.280 I'm like, man, I'm sorry.

00:07:11.500 I'm like, it's okay, dad.

00:07:12.380 I'm like, no, I'm sorry.

00:07:15.920 I just, I need to be more soft, more patient.

00:07:18.100 That's one of my biggest focuses this new year is

00:07:20.440 just really being patient and having just greater love,

00:07:25.520 you know, because yeah, I'm, I'm in my forties

00:07:28.360 and my boys are still, they're young teenagers

00:07:30.580 and not even a teenager, my youngest.

00:07:32.500 And I'm like you, man, like every night and every morning,

00:07:36.200 I feel like God whispers to me, like,

00:07:37.980 you can be better as a dad.

00:07:40.640 You're you, that was too much.

00:07:42.660 And as much as I strive for greatness and business,

00:07:46.300 I really feel like the voice whispering to me,

00:07:51.520 like you need to stop doing this

00:07:54.420 or you need to start doing this.

00:07:55.880 And it always is with my family.

00:07:57.420 So I just listened to that voice

00:07:59.000 and always win if we do.

00:08:02.180 How, you have, how many boys do you,

00:08:04.380 you have two boys?

00:08:05.780 Three boys, a 16 year old, a 13 year old

00:08:08.760 and a 10 year old.

00:08:09.580 And they are very, very different.

00:08:11.460 Like they're so different.

00:08:13.520 Yeah.

00:08:14.000 Yeah.

00:08:14.240 I know all about it.

00:08:14.900 I've got three boys as well.

00:08:15.960 I also have a little girl.

00:08:17.080 A lot of people don't know.

00:08:17.880 I also have a daughter

00:08:18.640 cause I don't post a lot about anything with her by design.

00:08:22.880 Obviously as a dad,

00:08:23.880 I think we are generally more protective of our daughters

00:08:26.760 than we would be our sons.

00:08:29.200 But yeah, I know about the personality differences.

00:08:31.720 I'm curious when you, when you're talking about being on vacation in Florida

00:08:35.380 and having them read, you know, pages of a book each day

00:08:40.320 and having them train each day on vacation.

00:08:43.380 Is, are they like normal kids where they push up back against that?

00:08:46.720 Are they all on board with that?

00:08:48.100 I mean, it's, it's hard to get my kids on board

00:08:51.160 with some of these things at times,

00:08:52.260 even though we talk about it and do it all the time.

00:08:55.060 They're on board most of the time.

00:08:56.720 And, and, you know, once you set the standard as a parent for us,

00:09:00.240 I just said, look, this is the law.

00:09:01.900 I'm like, it's like gravity.

00:09:03.320 We don't touch any electronics until we hit a workout,

00:09:06.320 till the chores are done,

00:09:07.240 until you read at least 10 pages and read your scriptures.

00:09:10.260 Like I, in the beginning, it was just like,

00:09:12.340 they fought against it.

00:09:14.040 But the more, as you know, you,

00:09:15.700 the more you teach your children,

00:09:17.280 the consequences of, you know,

00:09:19.640 the positive consequences of being smart,

00:09:22.140 of working hard, of having vision,

00:09:23.900 of being well-versed, my boys, most,

00:09:27.120 mostly right now they're, they're good with it.

00:09:28.900 There are days when they're tired.

00:09:30.120 Like yesterday, my son didn't want to go to the gym

00:09:32.000 and it took me about 10 minutes.

00:09:34.080 He's just like, I don't want to go.

00:09:35.220 I'm tired.

00:09:35.820 Excuse, excuse.

00:09:36.640 I said, son, you're going to feel better.

00:09:38.360 You know it.

00:09:39.480 And I know you're tired laying here.

00:09:40.860 So I had to use influence and persuasion

00:09:42.900 and consequences.

00:09:44.040 And just, I just talked to him and he got up.

00:09:47.100 And once we got to the gym, he was like, dad,

00:09:48.940 thanks so much.

00:09:49.880 Thank you.

00:09:50.360 I needed this.

00:09:51.220 So I came home from the gym this morning

00:09:52.620 and they were both literally reading.

00:09:54.780 They're like, almost done, dad.

00:09:55.780 I'm like, good.

00:09:56.740 So yeah, they're like, there's no normal kids.

00:09:58.820 There's days where they don't want to do it.

00:10:00.240 But overall, you keep pushing, teaching, teaching,

00:10:03.320 teaching, and you hope and pray

00:10:04.840 that it lands in their heart and they accept it.

00:10:08.100 Do you ever feel like you,

00:10:10.180 you push too hard on them to excel,

00:10:13.420 to, you know, to read,

00:10:15.900 to learn all this stuff,

00:10:16.900 to apply all this?

00:10:17.980 And it maybe hinders some of their innocence

00:10:23.060 or their childhood, something like that?

00:10:25.520 Man, Ryan, all the time.

00:10:28.560 Every day, I mean this.

00:10:30.120 When I go to bed at night,

00:10:31.260 I'm praying to God.

00:10:33.220 I'm like, man, Lord, I need some help.

00:10:36.360 Like, I just, I'm like,

00:10:37.720 standards just so high for myself

00:10:40.160 that I feel like I'm,

00:10:41.800 there's days where I do,

00:10:42.840 I feel like I'm too much.

00:10:45.020 And then I talk with my wife

00:10:46.500 and then there's days where she's like,

00:10:47.620 you're fine, like, it's okay.

00:10:49.940 And it's one of those things, parenting.

00:10:52.460 It's like, start a business and grow a business

00:10:54.580 and raise children inside and have a family.

00:10:58.400 And I can't even say that I'm perfect at it.

00:11:02.080 There are days when I feel like I'm too much

00:11:04.040 and then I back off.

00:11:06.040 And then there's days where I'm like,

00:11:07.480 I think I need to push,

00:11:08.660 I can't accept this and tolerate this behavior.

00:11:11.800 So a work in progress, Ryan,

00:11:13.440 total work in progress.

00:11:15.020 Yeah.

00:11:15.640 So it sounds like your wife is a big part

00:11:17.820 of helping you to see things differently

00:11:19.900 than maybe you would without her.

00:11:22.340 Are there other facets of your life

00:11:24.700 that allow you to see things

00:11:25.860 in a different perspective

00:11:27.220 that isn't that hard charging,

00:11:29.540 you know, life coach type personality?

00:11:32.900 Yeah.

00:11:33.460 You know, the Polynesian culture,

00:11:35.780 like Samoan culture, Polynesian culture,

00:11:38.320 very happy.

00:11:39.920 Like, what are that?

00:11:40.460 Samoans are known as the happy people of Polynesia.

00:11:43.320 So being at peace and just being okay,

00:11:48.280 just slowing down,

00:11:50.640 it helps balance me.

00:11:51.840 Because I am a,

00:11:53.360 the majority of the time it is,

00:11:54.920 I'm like, hey, let's go.

00:11:56.540 Hey, boys, time.

00:11:57.900 Let's go.

00:11:58.320 We got to be,

00:11:58.840 I think I'm just like, let's go.

00:12:00.840 And then there's times where I'm like,

00:12:02.020 dude, Samoan,

00:12:03.260 and my wife helps me to see it.

00:12:05.880 And I have some of my mentors

00:12:08.140 and my team at work.

00:12:09.980 They're like,

00:12:10.780 you'll never get these days back, man.

00:12:12.660 Like,

00:12:13.720 and

00:12:14.040 you'll never get them back.

00:12:16.000 So just,

00:12:17.340 it's okay if your boys sleep in.

00:12:19.040 It's okay if the house is a mess.

00:12:20.640 And I'm like,

00:12:21.140 you're right.

00:12:21.980 You're right.

00:12:22.540 Like it's okay.

00:12:24.760 And my boys are not perfect 24 seven.

00:12:27.140 So I got great people on my team

00:12:28.940 to help balance me out.

00:12:30.240 So I'm just not always

00:12:31.500 treating it like we're going

00:12:32.920 after a state championship

00:12:33.960 or a national championship

00:12:35.800 or a Superbowl.

00:12:36.780 So I appreciate it, man.

00:12:38.860 Yeah.

00:12:39.000 It's a,

00:12:39.520 it's a lot different than that,

00:12:40.940 that Island time, right?

00:12:43.060 Yeah.

00:12:43.440 Oh yeah.

00:12:44.840 There's like Island culture

00:12:46.220 in our family

00:12:46.740 where we just super chill.

00:12:48.320 And I remember teaching my boys,

00:12:50.420 hey, look,

00:12:51.760 we're early.

00:12:52.900 If we're on time,

00:12:54.000 we are.

00:12:54.560 And they're like,

00:12:54.840 we're late.

00:12:55.320 So we're early.

00:12:56.540 We're early.

00:12:57.320 We show up.

00:12:58.120 We dress up.

00:12:58.900 Like we do what we're supposed to do.

00:13:00.180 We want to be leaders

00:13:00.960 in the community

00:13:01.600 and instruments in God's hands.

00:13:03.840 And I just love being a dad.

00:13:06.300 I mean,

00:13:06.560 I,

00:13:06.920 like you said,

00:13:07.580 I fall short

00:13:08.600 and I course correct

00:13:10.960 and I audible

00:13:11.680 and I adapt

00:13:12.620 and I adjust.

00:13:13.380 And that's one of the best things

00:13:14.980 about my life

00:13:16.140 is my boys

00:13:17.320 and my wife

00:13:17.960 and our family.

00:13:19.780 When,

00:13:19.800 so you have this hard,

00:13:21.280 you know,

00:13:21.500 hard charging attitude.

00:13:22.320 I think,

00:13:22.780 you know,

00:13:22.980 if someone were to go visit your website

00:13:24.200 or just listen to you

00:13:25.160 on your podcast

00:13:25.840 or even here,

00:13:26.680 they're going to get that.

00:13:27.460 They're going to gather that.

00:13:28.660 Is that,

00:13:29.200 is that something

00:13:30.640 that you've developed over time?

00:13:33.120 Is that,

00:13:33.640 is that ingrained into you

00:13:35.100 by your folks

00:13:35.920 like or through sports,

00:13:37.560 which obviously

00:13:38.100 was a huge component

00:13:38.960 of your life?

00:13:40.140 Where does this come from?

00:13:41.860 I'd say,

00:13:42.360 really like three places.

00:13:45.180 Number one,

00:13:46.340 my parents never pushed me hard.

00:13:48.480 There was nine kids.

00:13:49.560 They worked graveyards,

00:13:51.280 swing shit.

00:13:51.760 They worked everything,

00:13:52.680 right?

00:13:52.800 They came from the islands.

00:13:54.040 I'm a first generation here.

00:13:55.480 So just seeing them

00:13:56.800 work and grind

00:13:57.940 and provide

00:13:59.460 like they,

00:14:00.160 and I would say off,

00:14:01.140 I'm like,

00:14:01.320 I don't know how my parents did it.

00:14:02.380 Like,

00:14:02.560 how did they do it?

00:14:03.780 Like,

00:14:04.020 they just did it.

00:14:05.120 Number two,

00:14:06.140 sports,

00:14:06.800 like football,

00:14:07.620 basketball.

00:14:08.080 I played football

00:14:09.080 and you get into systems,

00:14:12.040 right?

00:14:12.160 You get around someone

00:14:12.980 like Lavelle Edwards

00:14:14.140 who passed away,

00:14:15.040 BYU's coach,

00:14:15.980 Bill Belichick

00:14:16.820 into the Patriot system

00:14:17.900 and you just,

00:14:19.060 to become great,

00:14:20.760 the top,

00:14:22.000 it requires a special

00:14:23.360 kind of hunger,

00:14:24.200 a special,

00:14:24.740 this commitment.

00:14:27.760 And then,

00:14:28.460 you know,

00:14:28.680 from my parents

00:14:29.340 to sports

00:14:29.860 and the other one

00:14:30.380 is this God.

00:14:32.960 I really,

00:14:33.600 the more that I,

00:14:34.380 for me,

00:14:35.200 you know,

00:14:35.560 I use the word God

00:14:36.840 and I worship God

00:14:38.220 and I tell people,

00:14:38.780 like,

00:14:38.880 you don't have to worship

00:14:39.560 who I worship,

00:14:41.980 but the more you study

00:14:43.280 about the character of God,

00:14:44.760 you just realize like,

00:14:45.780 he's like,

00:14:46.680 whatever you want,

00:14:48.620 you can go get it

00:14:49.800 if you'll pay the price,

00:14:51.180 you know,

00:14:51.500 plant the garden,

00:14:52.400 plant the seeds,

00:14:54.080 water,

00:14:54.720 nourish,

00:14:55.180 and take care of them,

00:14:56.100 you know,

00:14:56.320 whatever you sow,

00:14:57.260 you're going to reap.

00:14:58.020 So Rob,

00:14:59.980 in Polynesian culture

00:15:01.060 and then football

00:15:01.820 has helped me to develop

00:15:03.100 into a very hungry,

00:15:05.200 very committed man

00:15:06.760 with high standards

00:15:07.540 who really strives

00:15:08.320 to live a awesome,

00:15:10.080 awesome full-out life.

00:15:11.980 Yeah, man,

00:15:12.260 I feel the same way

00:15:13.640 with a lot of those factors

00:15:15.360 that you're talking about.

00:15:16.180 Obviously,

00:15:16.940 God,

00:15:17.620 sports was a big part

00:15:19.340 of my life

00:15:19.680 when I was younger,

00:15:20.660 you know,

00:15:20.820 never played in college

00:15:22.380 or professionally,

00:15:23.220 but that was a huge,

00:15:24.240 huge component

00:15:25.180 component of my life

00:15:26.900 in getting my butt in gear,

00:15:28.880 realizing that

00:15:29.740 there's other people

00:15:30.960 who are going to be impacted

00:15:32.280 by the decisions,

00:15:34.180 positive and negative

00:15:35.060 that you're making.

00:15:36.100 So man,

00:15:36.780 that was a huge part

00:15:37.720 of my life as well.

00:15:39.820 I love being around athletes

00:15:42.040 because athletes understand

00:15:45.000 this component of winning,

00:15:47.260 of losing,

00:15:48.500 of paying the price,

00:15:49.700 of facing adversity.

00:15:50.700 and I do,

00:15:54.540 I see life through the lens

00:15:55.640 of I want to go win

00:15:57.740 and win not like

00:15:59.400 I'm going to step

00:16:01.380 on people together.

00:16:02.520 Win for us

00:16:03.460 is an acronym

00:16:04.140 that stands for

00:16:05.140 what's important now.

00:16:07.420 Like what's important right now?

00:16:08.760 And I'm on vacation,

00:16:09.760 so I've had to learn,

00:16:10.520 I have to learn

00:16:11.120 how to unplug,

00:16:13.000 decompress,

00:16:13.840 reset,

00:16:14.720 you know,

00:16:15.020 just chill

00:16:15.640 because like I'm itching

00:16:16.740 to get back

00:16:17.440 to go to work

00:16:18.140 and my team is like Satema,

00:16:20.520 like be with your family,

00:16:22.920 relax,

00:16:23.660 right?

00:16:23.800 It's okay.

00:16:24.400 So I love sports.

00:16:26.000 I love,

00:16:26.580 you know,

00:16:26.780 again,

00:16:27.020 I'm an early rise

00:16:27.820 kind of guy.

00:16:28.520 Naturally,

00:16:28.980 I'm a 430,

00:16:29.840 get up early,

00:16:30.460 hit the gym,

00:16:31.340 meditate,

00:16:32.260 the things that I do

00:16:33.740 in the morning routine

00:16:34.740 and there's days

00:16:36.020 where I want my sons

00:16:37.440 to do that

00:16:38.100 and there's days

00:16:38.740 that they do

00:16:39.380 and there's days

00:16:40.300 where they just

00:16:40.760 I got to be kids

00:16:41.520 and they sleep in

00:16:42.420 and relax and hang out.

00:16:43.820 So this is,

00:16:44.440 it's a good balance

00:16:45.220 for me in my life.

00:16:46.660 How do you,

00:16:47.380 how do you square

00:16:48.300 an activity like this

00:16:49.620 where you're on this podcast

00:16:50.660 with me,

00:16:51.380 you're on vacation

00:16:52.200 but also you're kind of

00:16:53.400 working right now

00:16:54.240 so how do you square that up

00:16:56.640 and then what,

00:16:57.620 what do you do to

00:16:58.520 explain that

00:16:59.880 to your family?

00:17:00.660 Like how,

00:17:01.020 how does that work

00:17:01.720 and what does that conversation

00:17:02.640 look like with your wife

00:17:03.460 and kids

00:17:03.980 when you're on vacation?

00:17:05.960 I love it.

00:17:06.440 So,

00:17:07.480 my family knows

00:17:08.540 like I'm the boss,

00:17:10.120 right?

00:17:10.240 I'm the owner of the business,

00:17:11.340 I'm the creator of the business

00:17:12.420 so I make sure

00:17:13.980 when I am with them,

00:17:15.260 I'm with them.

00:17:17.280 Going away

00:17:18.040 as present as I can be.

00:17:20.160 This is,

00:17:20.780 I have two hours

00:17:21.660 of work today

00:17:22.440 and that's it.

00:17:23.320 I got a call with you

00:17:24.620 then I have another call

00:17:25.600 with a client

00:17:26.600 and then the rest of the day

00:17:28.300 it's like we've been working,

00:17:29.320 we've already been to the gym,

00:17:30.420 already had breakfast

00:17:31.120 as a family,

00:17:32.320 we're going to go watch

00:17:32.980 a couple basketball games tonight

00:17:34.300 so for me it's just

00:17:35.480 a lot of people talk about

00:17:37.020 managing expectations

00:17:38.240 and in our language

00:17:39.380 we don't live in expectations,

00:17:41.380 we live inside of agreements.

00:17:42.480 So we just have agreements.

00:17:45.300 Agreements.

00:17:45.820 Agreements.

00:17:46.400 Agreements.

00:17:47.000 Got it.

00:17:47.260 Now,

00:17:47.760 you know,

00:17:47.960 it's one of our principles

00:17:48.800 like agreements

00:17:49.600 not expectations

00:17:50.940 and we just have agreements

00:17:52.880 like look,

00:17:53.400 if we're at the dinner table

00:17:54.420 we put our phones away

00:17:55.480 and dad's not going to be working

00:17:57.720 unless there's something urgent

00:17:59.180 and you know,

00:18:00.380 mornings are my time.

00:18:03.260 My wife goes and does her thing

00:18:04.380 in the mornings,

00:18:05.040 I take my boys to go work

00:18:06.080 out in the afternoon

00:18:06.880 but what I've learned

00:18:08.840 on vacation is

00:18:09.820 be on vacation

00:18:11.640 unless there's some urgent

00:18:12.780 and man,

00:18:13.460 when I get an opportunity

00:18:14.320 to speak with you

00:18:15.020 I'm like man,

00:18:15.620 I'll take it.

00:18:16.280 My wife's like,

00:18:16.940 cool,

00:18:17.640 I know you listen

00:18:18.560 to that guy's podcast

00:18:19.400 and I'm like,

00:18:19.880 I do.

00:18:20.940 I read his books,

00:18:21.740 I listen to his podcasts,

00:18:22.660 I follow his stuff

00:18:23.400 so just having powerful conversations

00:18:25.740 and very clear agreements

00:18:27.320 makes things a lot smoother

00:18:28.920 for people.

00:18:30.100 I like that,

00:18:30.720 that reframe of agreements

00:18:32.040 because I think

00:18:32.720 what a lot of people do

00:18:34.000 is they have agreements

00:18:35.240 in their head

00:18:35.900 about the way

00:18:37.060 somebody else

00:18:37.680 is supposed to perform

00:18:38.680 like the way

00:18:39.640 that your wife

00:18:41.020 is supposed to act around you

00:18:42.480 or how she's supposed

00:18:44.120 to respond

00:18:44.760 to what you're going through

00:18:45.820 or an agreement

00:18:47.660 in your own head

00:18:48.640 about how your children

00:18:49.940 are to behave.

00:18:51.080 It seems like

00:18:52.140 too often

00:18:52.940 we fail to communicate

00:18:55.120 the agreement

00:18:55.980 that we have

00:18:56.760 with them

00:18:57.620 so then it becomes

00:18:59.120 what I've heard of

00:19:00.260 as a covert contract.

00:19:02.380 So we expect

00:19:03.400 this person

00:19:04.460 to behave this way

00:19:05.740 and they don't

00:19:06.360 because they don't know

00:19:07.080 what you're thinking

00:19:07.720 and then we get upset

00:19:09.040 because they're not doing

00:19:09.860 what we in our own mind

00:19:11.340 and fail to communicate

00:19:12.300 what we think

00:19:13.640 they should be doing.

00:19:14.720 It's a wild thing

00:19:15.940 that we do.

00:19:17.220 It doesn't work, man.

00:19:18.920 That's like an expectation.

00:19:20.360 It's where,

00:19:20.700 you know,

00:19:21.000 I remember getting married

00:19:21.800 and I was like,

00:19:22.620 okay,

00:19:23.200 my wife's going to wake up,

00:19:24.220 she's going to make me breakfast

00:19:25.200 and she's going to do

00:19:25.880 all these things for me.

00:19:26.840 I remember waking up

00:19:27.780 and she was like

00:19:28.260 sound asleep.

00:19:28.960 I'm like,

00:19:29.500 what's going on?

00:19:30.720 And I didn't have

00:19:31.600 the skills

00:19:32.340 and the courage

00:19:33.240 to just have a conversation.

00:19:34.800 So I began

00:19:35.560 because of the expectations

00:19:36.720 making up all kinds

00:19:38.000 of stories like

00:19:38.700 my wife doesn't love me.

00:19:40.240 What in the world

00:19:40.720 is going on here?

00:19:41.540 And all of a sudden

00:19:42.140 you have a conversation

00:19:43.800 or you collide,

00:19:45.000 you confront

00:19:45.560 and we just create

00:19:47.740 very clear agreements.

00:19:49.060 Right?

00:19:49.200 Agreements for us

00:19:50.020 between two people

00:19:51.280 or two or more parties.

00:19:52.520 You have these

00:19:52.820 just clear conversations.

00:19:55.360 And my boys had,

00:19:56.520 my boys know

00:19:57.160 that the agreements

00:19:57.860 are kind of our values

00:19:59.240 and our core values

00:20:00.880 inside of our family.

00:20:01.740 So what I've learned

00:20:03.180 is that people actually,

00:20:04.660 like you talked about,

00:20:06.380 not these covert

00:20:07.380 agreements

00:20:08.900 or covert things.

00:20:10.020 It's just like,

00:20:10.360 look,

00:20:10.540 have a clear conversation.

00:20:12.620 Make sure everyone knows

00:20:14.080 who's doing what,

00:20:15.060 by when,

00:20:15.700 by how,

00:20:16.340 who's going to finish it.

00:20:17.840 It makes family life

00:20:19.560 and business life

00:20:20.540 so much more smooth.

00:20:21.660 There's less suffering.

00:20:22.640 There's less misery.

00:20:24.360 There's less anger

00:20:25.640 because everyone knows,

00:20:26.800 dude,

00:20:26.980 here's the clear agreement

00:20:28.080 and you got to do this

00:20:29.920 by this time.

00:20:30.580 And if you do it,

00:20:31.260 we're great.

00:20:32.500 Right.

00:20:33.100 You talked about

00:20:34.020 your core family values.

00:20:35.520 What are,

00:20:35.820 what are some of those values

00:20:36.800 that you guys adhere to?

00:20:37.780 And then how do you practice

00:20:38.720 those values in real life?

00:20:41.300 Yeah.

00:20:41.540 Look,

00:20:41.780 for us,

00:20:42.520 like love is huge,

00:20:43.440 right?

00:20:43.640 Just love.

00:20:45.440 Love,

00:20:46.000 respect,

00:20:47.280 having like soft.

00:20:49.220 And when I say soft,

00:20:50.200 I don't mean weak conversations,

00:20:51.740 but I grew up in a home

00:20:52.840 where we just would yell

00:20:55.000 and I didn't like that

00:20:56.640 and I don't like that.

00:20:57.420 And it comes out

00:20:58.160 when you start to see it,

00:20:59.000 when I start to see

00:20:59.500 one of my boys

00:21:00.220 sound like me

00:21:01.300 when I'm yelling,

00:21:01.860 I'm like,

00:21:03.060 oh my gosh,

00:21:03.880 they're learning this for me.

00:21:05.840 So love,

00:21:07.060 respect,

00:21:07.680 listening,

00:21:08.840 support,

00:21:09.720 right?

00:21:09.960 Some basic things

00:21:11.580 and then we talk about it.

00:21:13.400 If you,

00:21:13.840 whatever you talk about

00:21:14.880 the most in your home,

00:21:16.160 in your marriage,

00:21:17.540 like just constantly teaching,

00:21:19.960 repetition,

00:21:20.900 repetition,

00:21:22.060 you'd be amazed

00:21:22.800 that like

00:21:23.200 that becomes a language

00:21:24.540 and I have a number

00:21:25.940 of things,

00:21:26.360 right?

00:21:26.540 That you can have

00:21:27.160 anything in life

00:21:27.760 if you pay the price.

00:21:29.800 Winners never quit,

00:21:30.600 quitters never win.

00:21:32.360 Cleanliness is next

00:21:33.200 to godliness.

00:21:34.040 Like my boys

00:21:34.500 can recite these things

00:21:35.540 like because we've

00:21:36.360 been saying them

00:21:36.920 since they were

00:21:37.500 as far back

00:21:39.240 as I can remember.

00:21:40.580 So talking about

00:21:42.000 what matters most,

00:21:43.460 talking about

00:21:44.280 future vision,

00:21:45.380 talking about

00:21:46.020 what really works

00:21:47.100 in life.

00:21:48.280 And again,

00:21:48.920 I,

00:21:49.220 for my boys,

00:21:49.720 we talk about

00:21:51.280 money a lot.

00:21:52.220 I show them

00:21:52.760 my bank accounts.

00:21:53.680 I show them

00:21:54.060 my investments

00:21:54.760 and like in the beginning

00:21:56.020 they were like,

00:21:56.540 whoa,

00:21:56.980 now they're like,

00:21:57.560 I'm like,

00:21:57.840 that's normal.

00:21:58.920 Like these numbers

00:21:59.720 are normal.

00:22:01.120 In fact,

00:22:01.520 we're not even wealthy.

00:22:02.660 They're like,

00:22:02.940 we're not?

00:22:03.400 I'm like,

00:22:03.700 no.

00:22:04.640 So I'm starting

00:22:05.340 to create real

00:22:06.480 like reality

00:22:07.320 of like there's

00:22:08.200 a standard

00:22:08.820 of how we live.

00:22:10.380 There's a standard

00:22:11.200 of what it means

00:22:11.840 to be a nolly

00:22:12.620 and one of the words

00:22:13.620 we use in our family

00:22:14.520 is champs

00:22:15.560 versus chumps.

00:22:17.340 I'm like,

00:22:17.960 look,

00:22:18.140 that's chump right there.

00:22:19.100 Don't do that thing.

00:22:20.740 That's a chump behavior.

00:22:21.840 He's going to lose in life.

00:22:23.120 He's going to,

00:22:23.540 he's not going to win.

00:22:24.480 He's going to be miserable.

00:22:26.080 He's not going to be healthy.

00:22:27.500 So a lot of conversation

00:22:28.860 around winning

00:22:30.480 and losing

00:22:31.100 the Lord's way

00:22:32.420 versus the world's way

00:22:33.720 champs versus chumps.

00:22:35.540 And it's just cost

00:22:36.860 like you brother.

00:22:37.820 It's constant teaching,

00:22:39.400 constant reminders,

00:22:41.780 cleaning things up

00:22:42.620 when we don't get

00:22:43.240 when I make a mistake

00:22:44.540 or if they make a mistake.

00:22:45.600 And then I think

00:22:46.900 the biggest thing

00:22:47.400 is just learning

00:22:48.440 how to speak

00:22:49.220 in normal tones

00:22:51.420 because I've,

00:22:52.140 I just,

00:22:53.680 I've yelled a lot.

00:22:54.980 You know,

00:22:55.140 it's like,

00:22:55.500 I'm just like force it.

00:22:56.920 I'm like,

00:22:57.180 dude,

00:22:57.360 just,

00:22:57.680 it's not what I want.

00:22:59.440 I don't want to be

00:23:00.340 that man

00:23:00.740 who just has to yell.

00:23:01.960 So home conversations,

00:23:04.280 clear conversations,

00:23:06.280 love,

00:23:06.820 respect,

00:23:07.300 listening.

00:23:07.840 And I'm like a lot of,

00:23:09.620 you know,

00:23:09.860 I believe that we're like

00:23:10.940 a lot of great families

00:23:12.020 out there.

00:23:12.360 We're striving.

00:23:13.080 We have faith

00:23:14.560 that it's going to work

00:23:15.360 if we just keep

00:23:16.020 teaching them

00:23:16.500 the right things.

00:23:18.540 Yeah.

00:23:18.880 Man,

00:23:19.560 there's so much

00:23:20.320 to break down

00:23:20.960 right there.

00:23:21.640 It was interesting

00:23:22.520 when you were talking

00:23:23.200 about showing them money.

00:23:25.280 My mom

00:23:26.040 would be open

00:23:27.520 about money

00:23:28.120 but not so open

00:23:29.600 that we knew

00:23:30.060 everything that was going on.

00:23:31.100 And I think

00:23:31.380 probably because

00:23:32.440 money was pretty tight

00:23:33.680 for us

00:23:33.980 when we were growing up.

00:23:35.760 But I had an interesting

00:23:36.840 experience the other day.

00:23:37.960 We were in the convenience store

00:23:38.960 and I needed to get some cash

00:23:40.080 for a basketball game

00:23:41.160 or something.

00:23:41.620 We're going to go to

00:23:42.220 me and my two oldest boys

00:23:44.660 went to the ATM machine

00:23:46.060 and there was a receipt

00:23:47.600 and one of my boys

00:23:48.540 pulled out the receipt

00:23:49.580 from the previous person

00:23:50.700 and it had the bank account,

00:23:52.560 the number on there.

00:23:54.540 And he looked at it.

00:23:55.380 He didn't think anything of it.

00:23:56.320 So then I withdrew our 40 bucks

00:23:58.300 or whatever it was

00:23:58.980 and the receipt came out.

00:24:00.380 He's like,

00:24:00.580 can I see your receipt?

00:24:01.300 I'm like,

00:24:01.460 yeah,

00:24:01.600 take a look.

00:24:02.100 And he took a look

00:24:02.820 and he saw the discrepancy

00:24:04.060 between the two.

00:24:05.780 He's like,

00:24:06.420 whoa,

00:24:07.360 you know,

00:24:07.580 like we're rich.

00:24:08.520 I said,

00:24:08.860 no,

00:24:09.100 we're not.

00:24:09.420 We're not rich.

00:24:10.600 I mean,

00:24:11.600 compared to this individual

00:24:13.300 who was before,

00:24:14.080 maybe you can make that argument,

00:24:15.320 but it's all about

00:24:17.460 the actions that I've taken.

00:24:19.020 That's the only difference

00:24:20.260 between that number

00:24:21.720 that you see on my slip

00:24:22.880 versus what you see

00:24:23.860 on that person's slip

00:24:24.960 is the actions

00:24:26.120 that I've taken.

00:24:27.500 And so it's pretty cool

00:24:28.600 to be able to coach them

00:24:29.820 and share with them

00:24:31.240 in real time.

00:24:33.860 And I love what you said

00:24:34.940 about what it means

00:24:36.840 to be a nolly.

00:24:37.440 That right there

00:24:39.400 is so cool.

00:24:40.900 My kids,

00:24:41.660 we have little mantras

00:24:42.540 that we use too.

00:24:43.780 My daughter and I,

00:24:44.700 we were cooking dinner

00:24:45.860 the other night.

00:24:46.440 We made this bruschetta

00:24:47.440 and I knew my boys

00:24:50.680 weren't going to want to try it

00:24:51.660 and she knew her brothers

00:24:52.760 weren't going to want to try it.

00:24:54.160 And so we all sat down

00:24:54.960 at the table

00:24:55.380 and she's so proud

00:24:56.120 that she made this

00:24:56.840 and they were like,

00:24:57.880 no,

00:24:57.980 I don't want that.

00:24:58.500 And she says,

00:24:59.220 Mickler's try new things.

00:25:01.820 And that's the mantra.

00:25:03.000 That's a mantra.

00:25:03.740 That's something

00:25:04.120 that we talk about

00:25:04.900 all the time.

00:25:05.760 And she's quoted it verbatim

00:25:07.340 without my prompting.

00:25:08.380 It's pretty cool

00:25:08.820 to be able to see them

00:25:09.580 pick up on that stuff.

00:25:11.140 I love that, man.

00:25:12.360 It's what it means

00:25:13.560 to be a Mickler,

00:25:14.160 what it means to be a nolly.

00:25:15.720 And you know,

00:25:16.120 nollies are not afraid

00:25:17.300 to do hard things.

00:25:18.580 And we're champs

00:25:20.020 and we serve

00:25:20.680 and we hold doors open.

00:25:22.100 And I really believe, man,

00:25:24.160 if you take a great father

00:25:27.040 and mother out of the home,

00:25:28.960 like you destroy nations,

00:25:31.480 but you allow moms and dads

00:25:34.100 to be in a great marriage

00:25:35.480 and then be in a great home.

00:25:38.000 That's how you save nations.

00:25:39.300 It's in the family.

00:25:40.120 It's in the home

00:25:40.760 because then you got,

00:25:41.860 instead of relying on someone else

00:25:43.140 out there to raise your kids,

00:25:44.260 like I'm raising my kids.

00:25:45.980 I know it takes a village.

00:25:47.140 So between the good podcast

00:25:49.060 and our church community,

00:25:50.620 our sports community,

00:25:51.800 my business partners

00:25:52.660 and their families,

00:25:54.040 I love the village

00:25:55.260 that's helping raise my kids.

00:25:56.920 And I am like,

00:25:58.660 as much as I coach clients

00:25:59.940 and people,

00:26:01.720 that much time,

00:26:02.700 you know,

00:26:03.240 I just feel like that's my duty.

00:26:06.980 It's my obligation,

00:26:08.000 but it's also my desire

00:26:09.460 to raise strong,

00:26:12.040 powerful men

00:26:13.040 who know how to treat their wife,

00:26:15.180 who know how to provide

00:26:16.460 and like earn,

00:26:18.220 and then who know how to like

00:26:19.120 take care of other people

00:26:20.340 and build like real,

00:26:21.600 real wealth,

00:26:22.280 real legacy.

00:26:22.920 So I love,

00:26:23.700 I love that as a dad,

00:26:24.840 man.

00:26:25.020 I love it.

00:26:25.560 How do you,

00:26:27.480 so when you say champs

00:26:29.160 versus chumps,

00:26:29.860 I know what you're saying,

00:26:30.840 but I think when people hear that,

00:26:32.360 that could be a little off-putting,

00:26:33.800 right?

00:26:34.540 Especially with a faith-based background,

00:26:37.700 you might think that's judgmental.

00:26:39.660 So how do you square that up

00:26:41.620 with your children?

00:26:43.260 Not to be necessarily judgmental,

00:26:45.640 not to pass that burden

00:26:47.340 on to other people,

00:26:48.200 but to look at it objectively

00:26:50.020 because it is an objective analysis.

00:26:52.800 And like,

00:26:53.380 how do you balance that?

00:26:54.260 So again,

00:26:55.420 we always go back to love

00:26:56.540 and I'm like,

00:26:58.420 look,

00:26:58.620 you know,

00:26:58.860 Jesus loves us

00:27:00.020 and we're supposed to love people.

00:27:01.180 And I'm like,

00:27:01.540 but you don't have to love

00:27:02.980 someone's lifestyle

00:27:04.920 and someone's consequences.

00:27:06.520 They have their choices.

00:27:08.560 And I'm like,

00:27:09.220 if you,

00:27:09.760 if you have a choice,

00:27:11.160 would you choose

00:27:11.900 this lifestyle

00:27:12.880 or this lifestyle?

00:27:13.860 No,

00:27:14.060 it's God.

00:27:15.080 So I'm like,

00:27:15.620 that's what I'm talking about.

00:27:17.340 I go,

00:27:17.860 we love people.

00:27:19.000 We never want to,

00:27:20.000 like,

00:27:20.260 and I,

00:27:20.640 and the way I do it

00:27:21.400 is I just ask if someone

00:27:22.680 has this kind of lifestyle

00:27:24.800 or they have this piercings

00:27:26.540 or they drink

00:27:27.780 or do drugs

00:27:28.480 or whatever things like,

00:27:29.520 that's not our,

00:27:30.420 like what we do.

00:27:31.340 Are they bad?

00:27:32.360 And they're like,

00:27:32.780 no,

00:27:33.240 I'm like,

00:27:33.540 they're,

00:27:33.820 they're good people.

00:27:35.360 They just have choices

00:27:36.700 and a different set of beliefs.

00:27:38.620 So we don't have to judge them

00:27:39.840 and put them down.

00:27:40.640 Our job is to look at ourselves

00:27:42.240 in the mirror.

00:27:43.300 You're like,

00:27:43.580 am I better today?

00:27:44.680 Am I getting better

00:27:45.880 as a human being?

00:27:46.600 And one of our,

00:27:47.080 again,

00:27:47.460 mantras is

00:27:48.000 every day in every way

00:27:49.920 we're getting better

00:27:50.640 and better.

00:27:51.140 I can say every day

00:27:52.240 in every way

00:27:52.680 my boys are like

00:27:53.320 getting better and better.

00:27:55.300 And,

00:27:55.780 you know,

00:27:56.420 that's the biggest thing

00:27:57.100 is just like,

00:27:58.200 love people,

00:27:59.940 but we,

00:28:00.860 we got work to do.

00:28:02.020 Like,

00:28:02.240 and I constantly,

00:28:03.540 my boys years,

00:28:05.020 God didn't put you

00:28:05.960 on this planet

00:28:06.500 to be average boys.

00:28:08.400 He didn't put you here

00:28:09.420 to just get by.

00:28:10.880 Like we,

00:28:11.480 we have special calling.

00:28:12.540 We have a special mission

00:28:13.380 and like whether or not

00:28:14.380 when people can say,

00:28:15.720 well,

00:28:15.820 how do you know?

00:28:16.320 I'm like,

00:28:16.600 well,

00:28:16.700 because I'm making,

00:28:17.480 I'm making it up for them.

00:28:18.500 I'm creating this vision

00:28:20.040 so my boys know

00:28:21.580 this is how a man does it.

00:28:23.600 This is how a Gali does it.

00:28:24.980 And we are champs.

00:28:25.960 We are leaders.

00:28:26.780 We are disciples of Christ.

00:28:28.720 Like we'll fight against evil

00:28:30.700 all day long.

00:28:31.520 And I'm telling my boys,

00:28:32.340 ain't nothing wrong

00:28:32.900 with fighting.

00:28:34.340 You got to learn

00:28:34.980 how to fight

00:28:35.400 for the right things

00:28:36.380 and put your foot down.

00:28:37.820 And again,

00:28:39.020 I,

00:28:39.740 you know,

00:28:39.880 some people might call me crazy,

00:28:41.340 especially with them,

00:28:42.100 like a Christian background.

00:28:44.180 But I'm like,

00:28:44.480 look,

00:28:45.360 we can,

00:28:45.540 we can obey all the rules

00:28:47.040 of the land.

00:28:48.060 We'll obey most of the rules.

00:28:49.720 I ain't going to obey all the rules.

00:28:50.980 You guys got that?

00:28:51.660 I'm like,

00:28:51.840 yeah,

00:28:51.960 I'm like,

00:28:52.220 there are some rules out there

00:28:53.120 that are just,

00:28:54.160 I need you to learn

00:28:55.180 how to listen to God.

00:28:56.260 I need you to learn

00:28:56.720 how to listen to your heart and soul.

00:28:58.480 Then I need you to make great choices.

00:29:00.160 And if you make a choice

00:29:01.040 that doesn't work,

00:29:02.260 then back up,

00:29:02.920 clean it up.

00:29:03.400 Don't guilt yourself.

00:29:04.200 Don't shame yourself.

00:29:04.920 And keep moving forward,

00:29:06.180 boys.

00:29:06.460 Just keep moving forward

00:29:07.400 because the world

00:29:07.980 is going to guilt you

00:29:08.880 and beat you up enough.

00:29:10.520 Yeah,

00:29:11.600 that's,

00:29:12.240 that is true.

00:29:13.080 You know,

00:29:13.400 even if I,

00:29:14.020 cause I,

00:29:14.360 I don't know if you know

00:29:15.840 or not,

00:29:16.700 but I have recently

00:29:18.720 disclosed and shared

00:29:20.420 some of,

00:29:21.060 shared some of my struggles

00:29:22.020 with alcoholism.

00:29:24.040 And,

00:29:24.640 you know,

00:29:25.160 it's like,

00:29:26.080 I appreciate that.

00:29:27.120 I appreciate your,

00:29:28.160 how real you are

00:29:29.300 about everything you post.

00:29:31.300 Like you,

00:29:31.800 you're,

00:29:32.220 that's why you're one of the guys

00:29:33.280 I follow.

00:29:34.180 You're real,

00:29:35.020 Ryan.

00:29:35.420 You're real about

00:29:36.140 the struggles you've had.

00:29:37.540 You're real about

00:29:38.100 the weaknesses you have.

00:29:39.300 You're real about

00:29:39.860 what you feel

00:29:40.860 and the work you put in.

00:29:42.580 It's not always just perfect,

00:29:43.780 perfect,

00:29:44.120 perfect.

00:29:44.480 So I,

00:29:44.860 I very appreciate that,

00:29:46.040 man.

00:29:46.960 Yeah.

00:29:47.080 I mean,

00:29:47.280 I,

00:29:47.560 it's,

00:29:48.480 it's a challenge,

00:29:49.240 you know,

00:29:49.520 because that goes back to

00:29:50.920 people putting you on a pedestal.

00:29:52.900 And I thought,

00:29:53.340 as I explained this to people,

00:29:54.760 you know,

00:29:55.020 I was going to reflect poorly on me.

00:29:57.200 And certainly it does.

00:29:58.060 It does reflect poorly on me,

00:29:59.360 but I thought there would be,

00:30:01.220 you know,

00:30:01.520 backlash and pushback.

00:30:02.860 And you know what?

00:30:03.360 There wasn't any of that

00:30:04.500 because everybody knows

00:30:07.420 they have their own struggles.

00:30:08.540 And I think we're tired

00:30:09.840 of seeing people

00:30:10.780 who present themselves

00:30:12.380 as perfect,

00:30:13.080 like no issues whatsoever.

00:30:14.700 Cause I'll tell you what,

00:30:15.660 the guys that follow us,

00:30:16.840 that they tend to,

00:30:18.180 and I imagine this is the case

00:30:19.140 with you too,

00:30:20.160 tend to fall into this

00:30:21.140 comparison trap.

00:30:22.000 And if they see these

00:30:22.940 perfect people on Instagram

00:30:24.360 and Facebook and YouTube

00:30:25.700 and all these other places,

00:30:26.660 where does that leave them

00:30:28.580 when they're intimately familiar

00:30:30.320 with all of the things

00:30:32.640 they fall short on?

00:30:34.620 You know,

00:30:35.140 Ryan,

00:30:35.360 I'm the most real

00:30:38.360 with my clients.

00:30:40.200 Like when I'm struggling,

00:30:41.440 like we,

00:30:41.820 I just did a podcast

00:30:42.780 that was like,

00:30:43.180 how to overcome the holiday funk.

00:30:44.540 We had a Monday call

00:30:45.900 every week

00:30:46.440 and I get on,

00:30:47.200 I'm like,

00:30:48.060 I've been in the darkness.

00:30:49.240 I've been feeling the funk.

00:30:50.320 I've been feeling lazy.

00:30:51.420 I've been eating

00:30:52.020 crumble cookies

00:30:53.180 a dozen at a time

00:30:54.300 and blue bill ice cream.

00:30:55.560 And I've been staying up late

00:30:56.760 till four in the morning

00:30:57.520 watching things on Netflix.

00:30:58.980 I'm so out of my routine

00:31:00.960 because I'm on vacation

00:31:02.240 and everyone's like,

00:31:04.260 really?

00:31:04.520 I'm like,

00:31:04.760 yeah,

00:31:04.860 I don't want to do any work.

00:31:06.020 You think I want to get

00:31:06.780 and do anything?

00:31:07.500 I want to stay home

00:31:08.360 and feel sorry for myself.

00:31:09.840 So being real,

00:31:11.700 right?

00:31:11.860 Just telling the truth

00:31:13.040 and knowing how to be real

00:31:14.540 and knowing how to make it relevant

00:31:16.760 and being okay,

00:31:17.660 being raw,

00:31:18.300 right?

00:31:18.520 Real and raw,

00:31:19.580 relevant.

00:31:20.600 It allows people to connect

00:31:22.140 because I am far from perfect

00:31:24.560 and I have a lot of weaknesses

00:31:26.400 and I have a lot of desires.

00:31:28.380 So I just,

00:31:28.860 one foot in front of the other

00:31:30.040 and I'm okay with people knowing

00:31:31.780 I struggle too.

00:31:33.460 I'm human too.

00:31:35.100 Yeah.

00:31:35.580 I like,

00:31:35.920 I like that you talked about

00:31:37.260 moving forward.

00:31:38.640 Don't guilt yourself.

00:31:39.460 Don't shame yourself.

00:31:40.640 You know,

00:31:41.300 I disagree a little bit.

00:31:42.760 I think,

00:31:43.200 I think we experience those emotions

00:31:45.340 like guilt and shame

00:31:46.620 and remorse and sorrow

00:31:47.760 for a reason.

00:31:49.000 I think those things are good.

00:31:50.100 Those are telling us,

00:31:51.140 hey,

00:31:51.400 you're not doing

00:31:52.400 what you should be doing.

00:31:53.520 You need to correct your behavior.

00:31:55.640 But I think too often

00:31:56.920 we tend to attach

00:31:58.640 our identity to it.

00:32:00.220 Like,

00:32:00.580 hey,

00:32:00.800 I lost

00:32:01.480 or I failed

00:32:02.100 or I messed this up.

00:32:03.040 I messed my marriage up.

00:32:03.980 I do this.

00:32:04.380 I do that.

00:32:05.660 And,

00:32:06.180 and then we attach

00:32:07.460 our identity to it.

00:32:08.640 Like,

00:32:09.000 I'll give you an example.

00:32:10.020 It,

00:32:10.300 so I've been going to

00:32:11.720 meetings to help

00:32:13.400 with my sobriety

00:32:14.260 and,

00:32:15.220 you know,

00:32:15.320 they introduce themselves

00:32:16.340 as alcoholics.

00:32:18.360 And I'm like,

00:32:19.080 well,

00:32:19.200 wait a second.

00:32:20.100 Like,

00:32:20.500 if that's the first thing

00:32:21.560 you're saying,

00:32:22.380 you know,

00:32:23.200 like I'm so-and-so,

00:32:24.040 I'm an alcoholic.

00:32:24.640 I'm like,

00:32:25.100 I don't want to,

00:32:25.940 I don't want to attach

00:32:26.880 my identity to that.

00:32:28.280 Like,

00:32:28.680 yeah,

00:32:28.940 I,

00:32:29.360 I recognize that I'm

00:32:30.540 susceptible to alcohol.

00:32:31.700 I recognize that I can make

00:32:32.780 poor choices around alcohol,

00:32:34.240 but I don't want to

00:32:35.820 attach my identity to it.

00:32:38.200 I don't want that

00:32:39.000 to become me.

00:32:39.920 Like,

00:32:40.120 I'm more and bigger

00:32:41.080 and more important

00:32:41.800 and better than that.

00:32:43.060 That's just

00:32:43.540 an issue

00:32:44.660 that I need to address.

00:32:46.940 Now,

00:32:47.280 you know,

00:32:47.420 I've never,

00:32:48.040 never struggled

00:32:49.240 with alcohol,

00:32:50.160 but I have struggled

00:32:50.820 with things

00:32:51.400 that have

00:32:52.520 plagued me,

00:32:53.380 been like a thorn

00:32:54.280 in my flesh

00:32:55.060 and language

00:32:56.900 for me

00:32:57.360 is a big deal.

00:32:58.300 And again,

00:32:59.280 I've got close,

00:33:00.560 close friends

00:33:01.060 that are a part of that.

00:33:03.120 It's helped them.

00:33:04.740 For me,

00:33:05.420 man,

00:33:05.640 I am

00:33:06.260 are some of the

00:33:07.500 most powerful words

00:33:08.700 because whatever

00:33:09.560 follows

00:33:10.360 becomes the identity

00:33:12.240 and whatever

00:33:12.800 our identity is,

00:33:14.540 our identity is,

00:33:15.840 that's how we perform.

00:33:17.720 And so,

00:33:18.440 again,

00:33:18.640 my boys said,

00:33:19.300 we have these mantras,

00:33:20.240 we call them

00:33:20.620 conscious self-creation.

00:33:21.700 I am a divine king

00:33:23.800 full of love and light.

00:33:25.420 I create my life.

00:33:27.560 I'm 100,

00:33:27.920 100% responsible.

00:33:29.660 I'm 100% committed.

00:33:32.060 And,

00:33:32.340 you know,

00:33:33.320 I'm with you,

00:33:34.380 man.

00:33:34.700 Like,

00:33:35.060 guilt and shame,

00:33:36.080 there's a purpose,

00:33:37.880 but most people,

00:33:39.140 they sit in guilt

00:33:40.400 and shame

00:33:41.040 while that shit

00:33:42.420 just goes down

00:33:43.540 and down

00:33:44.120 and it's so hard

00:33:45.360 for people

00:33:45.920 to recover from.

00:33:48.140 I'm one of them.

00:33:49.120 I used to guilt

00:33:49.880 and shame myself

00:33:50.580 like just like a hammer.

00:33:51.700 I'd just beat myself up

00:33:52.980 and one day

00:33:54.080 one of my mentors

00:33:54.720 is like,

00:33:55.520 you believe in Jesus,

00:33:56.400 right?

00:33:56.540 I'm like,

00:33:56.700 yeah.

00:33:57.060 He's like,

00:33:57.340 so why don't you

00:33:58.700 just believe Jesus?

00:33:59.700 I'm like,

00:33:59.900 what do you mean?

00:34:00.920 He's like,

00:34:01.280 you beat yourself up

00:34:02.520 so much guilt,

00:34:03.700 shame,

00:34:03.940 guilt,

00:34:04.160 shame,

00:34:04.400 guilt,

00:34:04.620 shame.

00:34:04.800 He's like,

00:34:05.080 to the point

00:34:05.380 where you bloody yourself

00:34:06.200 while there's another path

00:34:08.640 that allows you

00:34:09.160 to be like,

00:34:09.740 okay,

00:34:09.900 I made a mistake.

00:34:11.760 Let me get up

00:34:12.700 and dust it off.

00:34:14.660 Let me learn

00:34:15.100 and let me move forward.

00:34:16.880 And too many people

00:34:19.020 and too many people

00:34:19.040 they just,

00:34:19.620 I see,

00:34:20.580 at least in the people

00:34:21.620 that I work with,

00:34:22.560 they guilt

00:34:23.300 and shame themselves

00:34:24.160 like it's this noble,

00:34:25.860 worthy thing.

00:34:27.740 And I just believe

00:34:29.140 like there's a time

00:34:30.140 and a place

00:34:30.540 to have that.

00:34:32.120 But if you're living in it,

00:34:33.720 you're living in the past.

00:34:35.080 You're not even living

00:34:35.700 in the present.

00:34:36.520 You're not even

00:34:36.980 like looking forward.

00:34:38.520 You're still looking back.

00:34:39.480 So,

00:34:40.440 and then

00:34:40.720 regarding the I am statements,

00:34:42.600 if people really knew

00:34:43.760 the power

00:34:44.280 of how they see themselves,

00:34:46.760 if they really knew

00:34:48.100 the power of words

00:34:49.760 and language,

00:34:50.700 they would avoid

00:34:53.680 any type of negative

00:34:55.600 self-deprecating.

00:34:57.560 They would like,

00:34:58.740 like in our home,

00:34:59.940 can't is one of those words

00:35:01.300 we like rarely use.

00:35:03.400 And I was like,

00:35:04.120 that's not a word

00:35:04.960 where you can say I won't

00:35:06.360 or that's difficult,

00:35:07.900 but I'm not going to say things

00:35:09.220 like I can't

00:35:09.820 or I'm no good.

00:35:10.700 Like the powerful

00:35:12.140 positive self-talk

00:35:13.220 is a big part

00:35:14.300 in our home,

00:35:15.200 but also with our clients

00:35:16.380 because whatever

00:35:17.260 we talk about the most,

00:35:18.480 think about the most,

00:35:19.700 focus on the most,

00:35:20.500 that's who we become.

00:35:22.660 Man, let me take a pause

00:35:24.240 or a step away

00:35:24.820 from the conversation

00:35:25.580 very quickly.

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00:35:49.220 maybe when I screw up

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00:35:50.740 as I often do,

00:35:52.460 it's typically due

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00:35:53.960 in me not following

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00:36:28.300 For now,

00:36:29.000 we'll get back to it

00:36:29.520 with Satema.

00:36:29.920 I think there's a very

00:36:32.820 interesting phenomenon

00:36:34.560 in culture

00:36:35.360 and I think this exists

00:36:37.600 because we get

00:36:38.380 some sort of benefit

00:36:39.160 from it.

00:36:39.700 Maybe it's psychological.

00:36:40.680 I don't exactly know

00:36:41.540 what it is,

00:36:42.000 but we tend to

00:36:43.660 make ourselves

00:36:44.660 into martyrs

00:36:46.040 and paint ourselves

00:36:47.200 as victims.

00:36:48.240 So I've even caught

00:36:49.060 myself just over

00:36:49.960 the past five months

00:36:50.900 dealing with

00:36:51.940 the fallout

00:36:52.480 and the negative

00:36:52.900 ramifications

00:36:53.520 of my poor decisions

00:36:54.460 around drinking

00:36:55.220 to myself.

00:36:56.980 I'm like,

00:36:57.540 well,

00:36:57.700 I deserve

00:36:58.420 this bad thing

00:36:59.900 that's happening

00:37:00.400 or I don't deserve

00:37:01.920 some good thing

00:37:02.880 that I would like

00:37:03.480 to have

00:37:03.940 and then

00:37:04.840 I manifest that,

00:37:06.660 right?

00:37:06.860 Like,

00:37:07.300 I actually engage

00:37:08.500 in the behaviors

00:37:09.100 that keep me

00:37:09.820 from having

00:37:10.280 the things I want

00:37:11.060 or keep me attached

00:37:11.980 to the things

00:37:12.460 that I don't want

00:37:13.320 and it's very weird

00:37:15.520 that I try

00:37:17.740 to paint myself,

00:37:19.040 I even know

00:37:19.880 what's going on.

00:37:20.720 I try to paint myself

00:37:21.840 as a martyr

00:37:22.460 or a victim

00:37:23.060 of my past circumstances.

00:37:25.000 It's very strange

00:37:25.780 that we do this.

00:37:26.980 You know,

00:37:27.760 I grew up

00:37:28.380 in a kind

00:37:29.720 of a similar way.

00:37:30.660 At least I saw it

00:37:31.260 in the culture

00:37:31.820 where I grew up here

00:37:32.640 and it's almost

00:37:34.500 like this false humility

00:37:35.880 like you get points

00:37:37.140 for putting yourself down

00:37:39.860 and as if there's

00:37:40.840 this virtue

00:37:41.600 in, you know,

00:37:43.140 saying like,

00:37:43.820 oh, I'm not that good

00:37:44.860 or it wasn't me,

00:37:46.540 it was all God.

00:37:47.460 I'm like,

00:37:47.740 dude,

00:37:48.000 how about you just accept

00:37:49.600 the good that you're doing,

00:37:52.080 give credit to God

00:37:53.620 when there's credit

00:37:54.520 to be given to God

00:37:55.380 but you're the one

00:37:56.680 who's doing the work

00:37:57.440 and for me,

00:37:58.820 I hate false humility,

00:38:00.980 man.

00:38:01.240 I'm just like,

00:38:02.260 people who can't

00:38:02.920 take compliments,

00:38:03.700 people who are unwilling

00:38:04.600 to accept the good

00:38:06.260 they're doing in the world,

00:38:07.160 people who don't even

00:38:08.240 see themselves

00:38:09.160 as good enough,

00:38:10.580 they're constantly deflecting.

00:38:12.160 Again,

00:38:12.420 one of my weaknesses

00:38:13.300 growing up,

00:38:13.860 one of the ways

00:38:14.300 that I grew up,

00:38:15.420 not from my parents,

00:38:16.380 it's just the way

00:38:16.960 that I had interpreted things

00:38:18.280 and taken things on.

00:38:19.040 So,

00:38:19.940 now I'm just like

00:38:20.820 really trying to help my boys,

00:38:22.900 I'm committed to helping my sons

00:38:24.180 and our clients,

00:38:25.480 like,

00:38:26.480 dude,

00:38:26.640 it's our life.

00:38:27.900 Do you want something?

00:38:29.360 Go get it.

00:38:30.340 Go do the required work.

00:38:31.940 Go do what's necessary

00:38:33.100 and necessary required actions

00:38:34.980 and do it consistently

00:38:35.840 every single day

00:38:36.680 and,

00:38:37.900 you know,

00:38:38.160 again,

00:38:38.460 one of the,

00:38:39.900 this conversation,

00:38:40.700 I used to think that,

00:38:41.380 oh,

00:38:41.520 maybe God doesn't want me

00:38:42.480 to be wealthy.

00:38:43.580 I don't know if God

00:38:44.540 wants me to be wealthy.

00:38:45.340 I have this weird thing

00:38:46.760 about money,

00:38:48.020 being humble,

00:38:48.820 being a disciple.

00:38:49.920 I,

00:38:49.980 you know,

00:38:50.100 I don't know if you,

00:38:50.720 you have that,

00:38:51.380 but I had it.

00:38:52.560 And I struggled with it

00:38:53.560 because I'm like,

00:38:54.060 I wanted to be wealthy

00:38:55.060 and have influence

00:38:56.100 and make a difference,

00:38:57.560 but I struggled as if,

00:38:59.040 like,

00:38:59.160 money was this thing

00:39:00.840 that was going to get in the way

00:39:01.880 when I finally,

00:39:02.940 like,

00:39:03.260 got through all the meanings

00:39:04.480 that I had made up,

00:39:06.040 you know,

00:39:06.220 from scripture

00:39:06.780 and from church.

00:39:07.480 I finally kind of

00:39:08.700 broke through those.

00:39:10.200 It was so clear,

00:39:11.260 like,

00:39:12.060 whatever we want,

00:39:13.360 we can go get it.

00:39:14.820 And if,

00:39:15.380 you know,

00:39:15.680 I tell my boys,

00:39:17.300 God doesn't care

00:39:18.380 what kind of job you have,

00:39:20.800 but just know this,

00:39:22.160 depending on the job you choose

00:39:23.480 or the business you choose

00:39:24.460 and the skills that you develop,

00:39:26.440 God can use you

00:39:27.480 very differently,

00:39:29.260 you know,

00:39:29.760 and that's up to you.

00:39:31.020 If you're okay

00:39:31.580 not being used a certain way,

00:39:32.840 you're kind of a comfortable,

00:39:34.720 face-to-face,

00:39:35.520 cool.

00:39:36.860 But you know who your dad is,

00:39:38.300 like,

00:39:38.620 we're going to go climb mountains,

00:39:39.960 we're going to go charge,

00:39:41.160 we're going to go build

00:39:42.020 and develop and grow,

00:39:43.120 and I want to be used

00:39:45.440 as an instrument.

00:39:47.040 I want to be

00:39:48.120 a person

00:39:49.000 who can impact,

00:39:49.960 you know,

00:39:50.180 one of my favorite songs.

00:39:51.360 I want to be the Lord's feet

00:39:52.620 and the Lord's mouth

00:39:53.460 and the Lord's hands

00:39:54.420 and do the Lord's work.

00:39:56.780 How did you begin

00:39:58.440 to overcome

00:39:59.140 this conflicting thought

00:40:00.680 about money?

00:40:01.420 I'm glad you brought that up

00:40:02.340 because that's a real issue.

00:40:03.820 That's something I've dealt with.

00:40:05.380 That's something

00:40:05.860 a lot of people deal with.

00:40:07.300 And then we hear things like,

00:40:08.740 you know,

00:40:09.020 the misinterpreted scripture,

00:40:10.460 which is money

00:40:10.960 is the root of all evil,

00:40:12.620 or it's harder

00:40:14.040 for a rich man

00:40:14.780 to enter heaven

00:40:15.480 than it is a camel

00:40:16.220 to pass through

00:40:16.720 the eye of a needle.

00:40:17.480 These kind of things

00:40:18.200 that we adopt

00:40:19.560 into our psyche,

00:40:20.900 our way of living.

00:40:21.860 And then, yeah,

00:40:22.320 of course,

00:40:22.700 we're going to subconsciously

00:40:23.960 sabotage ourselves

00:40:24.920 because we want to be

00:40:25.840 righteous people.

00:40:26.620 I think most people do.

00:40:28.600 Yeah, I had a mentor.

00:40:30.160 So, you know,

00:40:32.360 come out of the NFL,

00:40:34.900 start to kill it

00:40:35.700 in the mortgage industry,

00:40:36.620 04, 05, 06, 07.

00:40:39.240 Just a great time,

00:40:41.460 you know,

00:40:41.680 if you were back

00:40:42.160 in those days.

00:40:43.000 Yeah.

00:40:43.620 And then 08 hits.

00:40:45.840 So 08, 09, 10, and 11,

00:40:48.400 like three and a half years,

00:40:49.460 almost four years of just,

00:40:50.640 I was broke.

00:40:52.040 I was bankrupt.

00:40:53.600 I stole my Super Bowl ring.

00:40:54.920 I was ashamed.

00:40:55.880 I was embarrassed.

00:40:56.620 I was like,

00:40:57.840 my mind really got twisted.

00:40:59.260 Like, maybe God

00:40:59.940 doesn't want me to.

00:41:01.600 So it's 2012.

00:41:02.760 I go knock doors in 2011,

00:41:04.260 door-to-door sales.

00:41:05.280 Do have a great year.

00:41:06.580 Go do it again in 2012.

00:41:08.140 And, you know,

00:41:09.300 in 2012,

00:41:09.900 I'm sitting at my mentor's house.

00:41:11.680 It's a big home,

00:41:13.160 brand new car,

00:41:13.960 just doing so well financially.

00:41:15.600 And I'm struggling

00:41:16.460 with this dilemma.

00:41:18.480 I've got all this money

00:41:19.760 in my bank account

00:41:20.540 and I'm struggling.

00:41:22.640 I got this turmoil

00:41:23.440 because in my heart,

00:41:24.960 my desire,

00:41:26.700 my desire is I want to succeed

00:41:28.600 and not to go have storehouses

00:41:31.160 of stuff that I'm in.

00:41:32.040 You know,

00:41:32.300 I love to help people.

00:41:33.580 I love to give back.

00:41:34.880 I love to support family,

00:41:36.680 my parents,

00:41:37.240 nieces and nephews,

00:41:38.040 give to charities.

00:41:38.880 I just,

00:41:39.340 it is,

00:41:40.500 that's a great thing.

00:41:41.380 So I'm sitting with my mentor

00:41:42.340 and I'm like,

00:41:43.860 man,

00:41:43.980 I'm struggling.

00:41:44.580 I've read all these books

00:41:45.580 and I asked him,

00:41:46.380 like,

00:41:46.460 how do you deal with it?

00:41:47.180 And he goes,

00:41:47.580 tell me,

00:41:47.940 here it is.

00:41:48.460 Here's my beliefs.

00:41:49.140 I'm like,

00:41:49.360 okay,

00:41:49.580 I pulled my phone.

00:41:50.240 I want to take notes.

00:41:50.900 He goes,

00:41:51.260 I believe that God

00:41:53.820 doesn't have a thing

00:41:54.480 about us having money.

00:41:56.340 I'm like,

00:41:56.820 okay.

00:41:57.120 He's like,

00:41:57.580 if you want it,

00:41:58.800 go get it.

00:42:00.340 I'm like,

00:42:00.760 that's it.

00:42:01.220 He's like,

00:42:01.540 that's it.

00:42:02.620 Do good with it,

00:42:03.460 right?

00:42:04.140 The purpose of living

00:42:05.100 is giving

00:42:05.540 and the more money

00:42:06.300 you make,

00:42:06.840 give it away.

00:42:08.060 You keep making more money,

00:42:09.260 you keep giving it away

00:42:09.960 and it's just this

00:42:10.560 incredible cycle.

00:42:11.500 And that conversation,

00:42:12.940 Ryan,

00:42:13.900 I took that,

00:42:14.960 it was like,

00:42:15.840 boom,

00:42:16.180 it shattered everything

00:42:17.560 because I was like,

00:42:18.020 okay,

00:42:18.220 cool.

00:42:18.880 I'm going to take

00:42:19.540 that one for me.

00:42:21.100 If I want something,

00:42:23.000 I'm going to go get it.

00:42:23.680 And if God directs

00:42:24.600 me somewhere else,

00:42:25.460 it's almost always,

00:42:27.240 no,

00:42:27.420 not almost,

00:42:27.880 it's always towards

00:42:28.740 something greater.

00:42:31.140 And so now as a man,

00:42:32.200 as you know,

00:42:32.600 provide,

00:42:33.800 I love it

00:42:35.300 because there's no more limits.

00:42:36.480 There's no government,

00:42:37.580 right?

00:42:37.720 There's no,

00:42:38.060 there's no ceiling.

00:42:39.700 If I want something,

00:42:41.660 just go,

00:42:43.400 sow the seeds,

00:42:44.700 reap the results,

00:42:46.560 make,

00:42:46.860 you know,

00:42:46.980 be free to choose,

00:42:48.180 and be okay with it.

00:42:49.820 And so many people struggle

00:42:51.740 with these financial paradigms.

00:42:53.500 I'm like,

00:42:53.860 oh man,

00:42:54.860 I like the adversaries got you.

00:42:56.860 Because if you don't have resources

00:42:58.700 or you haven't developed yourself

00:43:00.400 and you don't have influence

00:43:01.800 and you can't be a critical thinker

00:43:03.800 and you can't create,

00:43:05.340 man,

00:43:05.520 you're like a slave.

00:43:06.920 Like,

00:43:07.120 you're just a pawn in the game.

00:43:08.640 And so I'm always,

00:43:09.980 that's why I show my boys

00:43:10.880 my bank account

00:43:11.840 and I show them

00:43:12.460 what we're doing

00:43:13.080 and I show them

00:43:13.680 and I think a lot of it

00:43:15.180 just kind of goes over them.

00:43:16.700 Like,

00:43:16.820 oh,

00:43:16.940 that's cool.

00:43:17.460 But I want them to know,

00:43:18.480 like,

00:43:19.240 whatever you want,

00:43:20.980 whatever you want,

00:43:22.180 whether it's in arts

00:43:23.820 or sports,

00:43:25.240 money,

00:43:26.200 your body,

00:43:26.920 your marriage,

00:43:28.040 your purpose to God,

00:43:29.320 you can have it

00:43:30.880 if you'll just go pay

00:43:31.940 the price for it.

00:43:32.660 And that's the most simple way

00:43:34.320 around money

00:43:34.860 and it has served me,

00:43:36.680 it's been 10 years,

00:43:37.980 over 10 years

00:43:38.540 since I had that conversation.

00:43:39.700 We have been so blessed.

00:43:40.600 We've worked hard

00:43:41.260 and I love what we're doing, man.

00:43:43.700 I'm really interested

00:43:44.580 in your perspective

00:43:45.460 on commitment

00:43:46.260 because you talk a lot,

00:43:47.700 you use that word a lot

00:43:48.720 and you talk a lot about commitment.

00:43:50.600 And I think

00:43:51.260 a lot of people

00:43:52.480 who are listening to this

00:43:53.520 will say they're committed,

00:43:56.960 will quote unquote

00:43:58.160 be committed

00:43:58.860 until it gets hard.

00:44:01.240 That's not really commitment.

00:44:02.380 Was it?

00:44:03.760 And I'd love to hear you

00:44:05.460 talk about

00:44:06.400 what it actually means

00:44:07.720 to be committed

00:44:08.500 and how a person

00:44:09.780 can be fully vested

00:44:11.320 into something,

00:44:12.400 whether it's their business

00:44:13.680 or their marriage

00:44:14.260 or the relationship

00:44:14.820 with their kids

00:44:15.400 and actually be completely

00:44:16.540 committed to it.

00:44:18.380 So commitment for us,

00:44:19.520 it is,

00:44:20.120 man, I get emotional, man.

00:44:21.360 Like commitment is,

00:44:22.480 is the fuel

00:44:23.620 and we have a definition

00:44:25.140 in our curriculum

00:44:26.660 that we have specialized terms

00:44:28.520 and there's specialized meaning.

00:44:30.040 So commitment is

00:44:30.880 one of our principles.

00:44:33.000 Commitment alters everything.

00:44:34.660 And there's a three-tier definition.

00:44:36.480 To be committed means

00:44:37.560 you'll do what is required.

00:44:41.120 You don't do your best.

00:44:42.540 You don't do all that you know.

00:44:44.420 You know,

00:44:44.660 like I'd say,

00:44:45.320 doing your best is for kids,

00:44:47.160 but doing what's required

00:44:48.340 is for adults.

00:44:49.100 Number two,

00:44:50.220 being committed means

00:44:51.000 you do what you say

00:44:52.420 you're going to do.

00:44:54.460 So if you say

00:44:55.100 you're going to do something,

00:44:56.220 it's like done.

00:44:57.300 Like your work

00:44:58.060 has to become bond.

00:45:00.220 And there's

00:45:01.120 this beautiful phenomenon.

00:45:02.800 You know,

00:45:02.920 I always bring up,

00:45:03.500 I love the Old Testament.

00:45:04.680 God said,

00:45:05.260 let there be light.

00:45:06.820 And there was light.

00:45:08.600 And in the beginning,

00:45:09.540 the word was God good.

00:45:11.000 It was by his word.

00:45:12.700 Like light didn't like hang out.

00:45:14.300 It was like,

00:45:15.300 let there be light.

00:45:16.760 Boom.

00:45:18.120 By the power of his word.

00:45:19.300 So when a man

00:45:20.420 or a woman is committed,

00:45:21.960 he or she will do

00:45:22.560 what's required.

00:45:23.860 They'll do what they say

00:45:24.680 they're going to do.

00:45:25.880 And the third definition

00:45:26.880 is they act decisively

00:45:29.540 in spite of thoughts,

00:45:32.300 feelings,

00:45:33.060 emotions,

00:45:33.780 and moods.

00:45:35.420 You're going to take

00:45:36.160 decisive action.

00:45:37.040 It doesn't matter

00:45:37.660 if you're not in the mood,

00:45:38.880 if you don't feel like it,

00:45:40.520 if my emotions

00:45:41.600 are if I'm depressed

00:45:42.540 or tired.

00:45:43.340 I'm like,

00:45:43.640 you just take

00:45:44.440 decisive action

00:45:45.320 because once you start moving,

00:45:47.100 you get momentum

00:45:47.820 and in the land

00:45:49.800 of commitments,

00:45:51.260 tell people,

00:45:51.840 if you want to know

00:45:52.300 what you're really committed to,

00:45:54.060 just go open up

00:45:54.700 your bank account.

00:45:55.460 Go take your clothes off,

00:45:56.520 stand butt naked

00:45:57.180 in front of the mirror.

00:45:58.460 Go assess your marriage.

00:45:59.560 Go look at your body.

00:46:01.260 Look at your marriage.

00:46:02.740 The results

00:46:03.940 always reveal

00:46:06.160 the prior past commitment.

00:46:08.860 If you want a new result,

00:46:11.740 get really clear

00:46:12.840 about what that is,

00:46:13.860 why it matters,

00:46:14.560 and then commit wholeheartedly

00:46:16.680 to every necessary

00:46:18.460 required action.

00:46:20.220 And again,

00:46:20.800 for us,

00:46:21.460 being committed

00:46:22.060 is like,

00:46:23.100 people don't get it.

00:46:23.760 You know,

00:46:23.860 we talk about the NFL.

00:46:24.820 I'm like,

00:46:25.080 it's hard to get to the NFL.

00:46:27.420 It is freaking hard,

00:46:29.240 man,

00:46:29.500 to get to the league.

00:46:30.740 It's hard to win

00:46:31.600 to get into the playoffs.

00:46:33.020 It's hard to win

00:46:33.660 a Super Bowl.

00:46:34.700 And fortunately,

00:46:35.540 I was committed

00:46:37.160 and we all was part

00:46:38.500 of the Patriots

00:46:39.120 and we won,

00:46:39.700 you know,

00:46:39.800 we got the first Super Bowl

00:46:41.240 that ticked off

00:46:41.880 the dynasty

00:46:42.440 back in 2001,

00:46:43.720 2002.

00:46:44.960 I'm committed

00:46:45.500 to my body.

00:46:46.300 I'm committed

00:46:46.580 to having muscle

00:46:47.480 on my body.

00:46:48.460 I'm committed

00:46:48.840 to having a bank

00:46:49.540 account that's full.

00:46:50.440 I'm committed

00:46:50.820 to my beautiful goddess,

00:46:52.900 to my sons.

00:46:53.840 I'm committed

00:46:54.120 to my team.

00:46:55.140 I'm committed

00:46:55.300 to my parents.

00:46:56.240 So, you know,

00:46:57.260 it's like being committed

00:46:58.800 is really a way

00:46:59.780 of living

00:47:00.180 and there's things

00:47:00.980 that I'm not committed

00:47:01.660 to.

00:47:01.920 I'm not committed

00:47:02.480 to doing an Iron Man.

00:47:03.840 I'm not going to do it.

00:47:04.900 I don't want to do it.

00:47:05.720 I don't want to go to it.

00:47:06.740 I'm not committed

00:47:07.300 to having six-pack

00:47:08.380 right now.

00:47:09.160 I'm not committed.

00:47:10.980 I'm okay.

00:47:11.580 I'm not committed

00:47:12.940 to having certain things

00:47:15.060 because I want them.

00:47:17.300 And if you'll actually

00:47:18.340 get clear and commit,

00:47:20.540 like really commit,

00:47:21.860 it's an every single day phenomenon.

00:47:25.900 Like every single day,

00:47:26.660 every day I wake up,

00:47:28.120 my wedding ring goes on

00:47:29.060 and I'm like,

00:47:29.520 I'm committed to my wife.

00:47:31.120 I go to the gym

00:47:32.020 because I'm committed

00:47:32.560 to having a weaponized,

00:47:34.020 powerful,

00:47:34.640 vessel,

00:47:35.040 temple body.

00:47:36.180 I'm committed

00:47:36.760 to being sharp.

00:47:37.740 So I commit,

00:47:39.220 which means I'm going

00:47:39.880 to do what's required.

00:47:41.400 I'm going to do

00:47:41.980 the things I say

00:47:42.560 I'm going to do

00:47:43.040 and I'm going to take

00:47:43.680 decisive action

00:47:44.400 regardless of how I,

00:47:45.820 my thoughts,

00:47:46.420 feelings,

00:47:46.720 emotions,

00:47:47.160 and moves.

00:47:47.900 Now I'm committed people.

00:47:49.620 Like you're committed,

00:47:50.380 bro.

00:47:50.720 You know why?

00:47:51.400 You can look at your results.

00:47:52.500 Look at the fruits.

00:47:53.580 You are committed

00:47:54.920 and it's a beautiful thing.

00:47:56.720 Committed people,

00:47:58.100 like game recognized game,

00:48:00.020 commitment recognizes commitment.

00:48:02.540 And I think where a lot

00:48:03.500 of people get stuck too

00:48:04.340 is if you're like really

00:48:06.680 what I call highly committed

00:48:08.060 or sincerely committed,

00:48:10.460 people who aren't committed,

00:48:12.520 they will look at us

00:48:13.600 and be like,

00:48:14.580 those guys are crazy.

00:48:15.800 They're obsessed.

00:48:17.300 They're like too much.

00:48:18.640 I'm like,

00:48:18.920 no,

00:48:19.300 we just know what we want

00:48:21.200 and we're not going

00:48:22.320 to let life pass us by.

00:48:25.020 Yeah,

00:48:25.140 that,

00:48:25.500 that,

00:48:25.880 that's really powerful.

00:48:28.300 I love that you're talking

00:48:29.440 about the weight

00:48:30.300 that we give

00:48:30.780 to our feelings

00:48:31.600 or the way we feel

00:48:32.700 about something

00:48:33.260 in the moment.

00:48:34.340 Cause we tend to do that.

00:48:35.540 You know,

00:48:35.940 when I was talking

00:48:37.420 about that alcoholism earlier,

00:48:38.720 I had made,

00:48:39.520 I had made this post

00:48:41.040 on Instagram

00:48:41.580 and I was like,

00:48:42.640 I'm going to post this.

00:48:43.780 I'm going to tell people

00:48:44.760 I'm going to try

00:48:45.280 to get back in integrity.

00:48:46.160 I'm going to post this.

00:48:47.060 And I was sitting

00:48:47.560 on the submit button

00:48:48.620 for like five minutes,

00:48:49.620 literally five minutes shaking.

00:48:50.680 My hands were shaking

00:48:51.320 and I didn't want to do that,

00:48:55.360 but I did

00:48:56.620 because I was committed

00:48:57.460 to getting back in integrity.

00:48:59.080 And I felt like,

00:49:00.020 Hey,

00:49:00.120 I don't feel like doing this.

00:49:01.200 I don't want to do this.

00:49:01.880 There's going to be fallout.

00:49:02.500 There's going to be a backlash.

00:49:03.220 And then I realized,

00:49:04.320 you know what?

00:49:05.340 None of that matters.

00:49:06.460 Like that,

00:49:07.160 that's not the reason

00:49:08.800 you would or would not

00:49:09.760 do something.

00:49:10.360 If I'm committed

00:49:11.020 to being an integrity,

00:49:11.860 then I have to do this.

00:49:13.760 And so I hit submit.

00:49:15.520 Um,

00:49:16.280 and yeah,

00:49:16.600 that was,

00:49:16.960 that was a hard decision

00:49:17.740 to make.

00:49:18.200 But the other thing

00:49:19.000 that comes to mind

00:49:19.940 when you're saying this

00:49:20.680 is that sometimes

00:49:21.880 we fall out

00:49:22.460 of those commitments

00:49:23.060 and we recommit.

00:49:25.480 But I think a lot of guys

00:49:26.380 and myself included

00:49:27.120 tend to believe

00:49:27.700 that that gets to absolve us

00:49:29.280 of the consequences

00:49:30.040 of our lack of commitment

00:49:31.340 before,

00:49:31.940 right?

00:49:33.300 So we have to deal

00:49:34.780 with the fallout

00:49:35.800 and the ramifications

00:49:36.660 of our lack of commitment

00:49:37.960 to the things that we said

00:49:38.840 were important before.

00:49:39.660 And that is very,

00:49:41.200 very difficult.

00:49:42.140 You know,

00:49:42.640 if you are a man

00:49:43.780 of integrity

00:49:44.280 or a woman of integrity,

00:49:45.180 and like you have results

00:49:48.240 or outcomes

00:49:48.940 or targets

00:49:49.520 or goals

00:49:50.120 and things

00:49:50.920 you're really striving

00:49:51.680 or a way of being

00:49:53.000 that you're trying

00:49:53.340 to become

00:49:53.660 and you don't hit it.

00:49:55.940 Like I tell guys,

00:49:56.600 look, man,

00:49:57.020 like clean it up,

00:49:59.760 you know,

00:49:59.960 clean it.

00:50:00.360 And like,

00:50:00.520 what do you mean?

00:50:00.860 Like when you,

00:50:01.340 when you don't keep commitments

00:50:02.940 and make some mess,

00:50:04.860 like those ramifications

00:50:05.920 and consequences,

00:50:06.840 there's,

00:50:07.060 there's consequences

00:50:08.020 that if,

00:50:08.680 you know,

00:50:08.980 if daddy doesn't go to work

00:50:10.440 and daddy doesn't create value

00:50:11.660 for people,

00:50:12.300 there's a consequence.

00:50:13.260 And I got to clean things up

00:50:15.500 with my wife

00:50:16.240 or with my kids

00:50:16.960 or with my clients

00:50:17.620 if I'm late on my word

00:50:19.280 or I don't come through

00:50:20.200 when I say I'm going to come through

00:50:21.420 because I'm,

00:50:21.880 I'm big on that

00:50:23.300 and keeping my word.

00:50:24.600 I want,

00:50:25.020 and my dad

00:50:25.600 and my mom,

00:50:26.660 they're like,

00:50:26.920 son,

00:50:27.140 you,

00:50:27.280 you get one name.

00:50:30.060 So make sure you represent,

00:50:32.040 and I,

00:50:32.380 this is X to me,

00:50:33.540 like just represent

00:50:34.400 our family well,

00:50:35.560 like make us proud.

00:50:36.640 And I know there's some people

00:50:37.780 who are like,

00:50:38.220 yeah,

00:50:38.360 forget about making

00:50:39.160 your parents proud.

00:50:39.980 It,

00:50:40.160 it drives me.

00:50:41.520 It really drives me.

00:50:43.260 To make my wife,

00:50:44.460 being proud,

00:50:45.500 to make my sons,

00:50:46.260 like that's our dad,

00:50:47.260 that's our husband.

00:50:48.660 It also makes me happy

00:50:49.800 to make my mom and dad.

00:50:51.300 I'm almost 50 years old

00:50:52.940 and I still want to make

00:50:54.620 my parents proud

00:50:55.380 because I'm named after my dad,

00:50:56.760 right,

00:50:56.940 September Jr.

00:50:57.640 and so living this life

00:51:00.300 of like being really committed,

00:51:01.700 just,

00:51:02.840 and I'm like,

00:51:03.240 if you're committed

00:51:03.820 to everything,

00:51:04.700 you're committed

00:51:05.280 to nothing.

00:51:06.400 Like you can't,

00:51:07.680 you don't just commit

00:51:08.620 to everything.

00:51:09.880 I'm committed

00:51:10.680 to a number

00:51:12.020 of things

00:51:12.640 that I know

00:51:13.440 it's going to require

00:51:14.460 everything I have.

00:51:16.100 So when people ask me

00:51:17.300 to do with you,

00:51:17.800 I'm like,

00:51:18.000 look,

00:51:18.160 I'm unable

00:51:19.040 to commit to that.

00:51:20.180 I've already got

00:51:20.740 prior commitments

00:51:21.780 and I'm,

00:51:23.240 you know,

00:51:23.440 it's like the more you,

00:51:24.480 the more things

00:51:25.020 you say no to

00:51:25.860 makes it easier

00:51:27.180 to say yes

00:51:27.900 and everything

00:51:28.760 you say yes to,

00:51:29.640 you're saying no

00:51:30.140 to something else.

00:51:30.780 So I'm very committed.

00:51:32.180 I know what I'm committed

00:51:33.120 to and who I'm committed

00:51:34.220 to becoming

00:51:34.740 and I'm just really proud

00:51:36.320 about my team,

00:51:37.180 our clients,

00:51:37.760 and my family

00:51:38.660 for helping me

00:51:40.240 with my commitments.

00:51:42.200 I think this is where

00:51:43.320 the language comes into play

00:51:44.580 when you're talking about

00:51:45.520 not doing things,

00:51:46.760 not committing to things.

00:51:47.700 A lot of people will say,

00:51:48.440 well, I can't do that.

00:51:49.240 No, actually you can.

00:51:50.580 You can do that.

00:51:51.780 You're choosing not to.

00:51:53.860 Correct.

00:51:54.780 So I try to deliberate,

00:51:56.020 like when I tell somebody no,

00:51:57.980 I'm not great at this

00:51:59.300 all the time,

00:51:59.720 but I do try to say,

00:52:01.240 no, I'm not going

00:52:02.360 to commit to that

00:52:03.040 or no, I won't do that.

00:52:04.700 But I don't ever say,

00:52:05.760 at least I try,

00:52:06.480 not to say I can't do that.

00:52:08.120 I can't.

00:52:08.960 Correct.

00:52:09.380 Because I can.

00:52:10.040 Same way.

00:52:10.640 Yeah.

00:52:11.160 I can if I say no to this,

00:52:13.540 then I can.

00:52:14.380 So again,

00:52:15.440 the language thing,

00:52:16.220 I'm right with you.

00:52:17.040 I'm like,

00:52:17.680 I almost even said

00:52:18.500 I can't do that,

00:52:19.220 but I still have to catch myself.

00:52:20.500 No, I'm unable to commit.

00:52:21.900 I won't commit to that.

00:52:23.360 I have previous commitments

00:52:24.580 that matter so much,

00:52:25.720 but thank you.

00:52:26.520 Thank you for asking me.

00:52:27.780 And it is a powerful way

00:52:29.360 to live, man.

00:52:30.060 You know,

00:52:30.500 when people know

00:52:31.260 they can count on you,

00:52:32.380 so that's something

00:52:32.680 I teach my boys too.

00:52:33.620 I'm like,

00:52:34.380 be the person people

00:52:35.060 can count on.

00:52:36.000 When someone knows

00:52:37.940 they can count on you,

00:52:39.300 man,

00:52:39.500 you have currency

00:52:40.480 that is way greater

00:52:42.280 than money.

00:52:43.280 Because when people

00:52:43.940 trust you,

00:52:44.800 they'll give you,

00:52:45.580 they'll open things up

00:52:46.440 for you,

00:52:46.780 they'll help you,

00:52:47.380 they'll bend over backwards.

00:52:48.480 And so,

00:52:49.500 I'm not perfect

00:52:50.640 in this, Ryan,

00:52:51.220 but I strive to be

00:52:52.420 a man who people

00:52:53.460 can count on.

00:52:54.800 Like,

00:52:55.300 Satema said he's

00:52:55.960 going to do it.

00:52:56.720 It's done.

00:52:57.680 Like,

00:52:57.880 consider it done.

00:52:58.840 Like,

00:52:59.160 Satema's going to come through

00:53:00.120 because he said it.

00:53:00.720 And we just know

00:53:01.260 that's what Satema is.

00:53:02.280 So,

00:53:02.720 that's one of the things

00:53:03.260 I strive for in my life.

00:53:05.600 One of the things

00:53:06.400 I'm fairly good at

00:53:07.860 is following through

00:53:09.860 on the big things.

00:53:11.480 You know,

00:53:11.720 when I say I'm going

00:53:12.260 to do something,

00:53:12.720 it's a big thing,

00:53:13.480 something I interpret

00:53:14.140 as being a big thing,

00:53:15.300 got it,

00:53:15.920 all day long.

00:53:17.040 One of the things

00:53:17.740 I struggle with

00:53:18.460 is when I say

00:53:20.000 I'm going to take out

00:53:20.700 the trash,

00:53:21.680 you know,

00:53:22.460 tomorrow morning

00:53:23.040 or tonight or whatever,

00:53:24.500 the little things.

00:53:25.720 The little things

00:53:26.640 are what get me.

00:53:27.560 The big things

00:53:28.240 are easy for me

00:53:28.980 to commit to.

00:53:29.460 I'm like,

00:53:29.660 cool,

00:53:29.840 I got this big event.

00:53:30.780 I got to plan this,

00:53:31.460 do this,

00:53:31.800 do that,

00:53:32.160 XXX.

00:53:33.100 But it's the little things

00:53:35.160 on a daily basis

00:53:36.100 like taking out the trash

00:53:37.340 or make the bed

00:53:38.720 or make this phone call

00:53:39.960 or drop this thing

00:53:41.320 off to somebody.

00:53:42.440 Those are the things

00:53:43.300 I get tripped up over.

00:53:45.180 I'm with you.

00:53:46.020 I think that's pretty natural

00:53:47.000 for most of my beings.

00:53:48.300 When it comes to like

00:53:49.320 the gym

00:53:49.920 or to the event

00:53:50.940 we have immersion

00:53:51.720 or I got to meet a client,

00:53:53.220 I'm like,

00:53:53.780 yes!

00:53:55.060 I've learned over the years

00:53:56.840 that I want to be perfect

00:53:59.460 with my wife

00:54:00.200 and my sons.

00:54:01.560 I'm very,

00:54:02.520 very careful,

00:54:04.000 cautious,

00:54:05.740 very wise

00:54:07.020 when it comes to

00:54:07.680 making commitments

00:54:08.420 to them.

00:54:08.900 If I tell my wife

00:54:09.960 or especially my sons,

00:54:11.360 because, you know,

00:54:11.640 kids don't forget.

00:54:12.400 You tell them something,

00:54:13.200 they're like,

00:54:13.420 dad,

00:54:13.600 you said we're going

00:54:14.140 to do this.

00:54:14.540 I'm like,

00:54:15.200 instances in California

00:54:16.820 where it'd be like

00:54:18.020 10 at night,

00:54:18.760 it's pitch black

00:54:19.280 and they'd come to them

00:54:20.300 and they're like,

00:54:20.720 dad,

00:54:20.940 you said we're going

00:54:21.840 to go get ice cream.

00:54:22.640 I'm like,

00:54:23.000 oh my gosh,

00:54:24.240 I did.

00:54:25.280 So we're like,

00:54:26.220 I had to go ride bikes

00:54:27.280 at 10 at night,

00:54:28.600 go get ice cream,

00:54:29.400 10 at night

00:54:29.900 because I'm like,

00:54:30.440 I said it.

00:54:31.920 Those little things,

00:54:33.040 man,

00:54:33.200 just like being smart

00:54:35.500 about like,

00:54:36.340 am I really going

00:54:37.220 to do this?

00:54:37.900 And very similar

00:54:39.540 to you,

00:54:39.880 Ryan,

00:54:40.200 I strive hard

00:54:41.800 to be a man

00:54:42.720 of my word

00:54:43.260 and it's such

00:54:44.240 a powerful way

00:54:44.920 to live

00:54:45.280 when we can be

00:54:47.000 a man

00:54:47.580 or a woman

00:54:48.140 of our word

00:54:49.140 and power,

00:54:50.460 man,

00:54:50.640 that's real power.

00:54:51.900 Yeah.

00:54:52.280 The one that gets me

00:54:53.400 is I'll do that later.

00:54:55.580 So my,

00:54:56.500 my,

00:54:57.000 my youngest son

00:54:57.820 will be like,

00:54:58.260 hey,

00:54:58.560 hey dad,

00:55:00.020 can we do Legos?

00:55:01.400 And I say,

00:55:01.720 well,

00:55:01.840 I have a meeting

00:55:02.320 right now,

00:55:02.640 I'll do it later.

00:55:04.760 That's,

00:55:05.220 that's a mistake.

00:55:06.760 I should never say

00:55:07.780 that unless I,

00:55:08.920 the only exception

00:55:09.940 to that would be,

00:55:10.960 hey,

00:55:11.100 I'm not going

00:55:11.760 to do that right now

00:55:12.220 because I have a meeting,

00:55:12.960 but at three o'clock,

00:55:14.820 my meeting's over

00:55:15.780 and at three,

00:55:17.800 we're doing it.

00:55:18.760 But if I just say

00:55:19.280 we're doing it later,

00:55:19.820 I know I'm just

00:55:20.680 kicking the can

00:55:21.240 down the road

00:55:21.700 and I've had to purge

00:55:22.860 that from my vocabulary.

00:55:24.960 Yeah.

00:55:25.400 Same thing here.

00:55:26.880 They're like,

00:55:27.480 what's on your calendar,

00:55:28.800 dad?

00:55:29.120 Like my boys know

00:55:30.800 if it's on the calendar,

00:55:31.900 it's like the law.

00:55:33.280 So we scheduled lunches,

00:55:35.520 we scheduled movies,

00:55:36.800 we schedule so much

00:55:38.560 and it makes a big difference

00:55:40.580 like being able

00:55:41.080 to calendar.

00:55:42.020 I'm like you,

00:55:42.760 like in our home

00:55:44.640 later doesn't work

00:55:45.780 and maybe we don't,

00:55:47.540 that's erased.

00:55:48.320 Like we don't do maybes

00:55:49.160 and we do yeses and nos

00:55:50.420 and then we do calendar,

00:55:52.740 like time,

00:55:53.540 specific time

00:55:54.640 and being a parent

00:55:57.200 true to your word

00:55:58.900 with your kids.

00:55:59.800 Again,

00:56:00.080 I know I keep talking

00:56:01.080 about my kids

00:56:01.560 but that's like,

00:56:02.640 that's the training ground

00:56:03.560 for me.

00:56:04.940 Training clients,

00:56:05.840 I love my clients.

00:56:06.900 It's easy.

00:56:07.340 We're all adults

00:56:07.860 but my kids see

00:56:09.940 the real me

00:56:10.920 24-7.

00:56:12.060 Like the most

00:56:12.900 tired,

00:56:14.480 exhausted,

00:56:15.460 spent,

00:56:16.540 excited.

00:56:17.920 So being able

00:56:18.420 to be like

00:56:19.020 my word to them,

00:56:20.440 big difference,

00:56:21.820 man.

00:56:22.040 It makes me so happy.

00:56:23.900 Yeah.

00:56:24.780 That is a good way

00:56:25.720 to say your kids

00:56:26.620 see the real you,

00:56:27.780 they know the real you

00:56:28.760 and isn't it weird

00:56:29.700 that the people

00:56:30.480 that we care about most

00:56:31.600 and I'd be willing

00:56:32.740 to bet,

00:56:33.100 I can speak for you

00:56:34.020 I think on this

00:56:34.780 is that you care

00:56:36.400 more about your kids.

00:56:37.640 Their priority

00:56:38.200 is a little higher

00:56:38.880 on the list

00:56:39.280 than even clients

00:56:40.160 would be,

00:56:40.600 right?

00:56:40.920 Like we can agree

00:56:41.600 on that

00:56:41.960 and yet those

00:56:43.280 are the people

00:56:43.860 that we let down

00:56:44.680 the most.

00:56:45.140 Like we'll let them

00:56:45.960 down before we'll

00:56:46.660 let a client down.

00:56:47.440 I don't understand

00:56:47.900 that.

00:56:48.500 I do it.

00:56:49.080 I don't understand

00:56:49.620 why we do it.

00:56:50.760 It's crazy

00:56:51.220 because it's all

00:56:51.780 like subconsciously

00:56:52.780 we know

00:56:53.360 my family's

00:56:54.580 going to be here.

00:56:55.980 We know

00:56:56.880 subconsciously

00:56:57.740 our family's

00:56:58.320 not going anywhere.

00:56:59.840 So for September

00:57:00.660 like I just was

00:57:01.600 trained,

00:57:02.040 time educated

00:57:02.660 not by anyone

00:57:03.400 but that's how

00:57:04.180 I trained,

00:57:04.640 taught,

00:57:04.760 and educated myself.

00:57:06.100 I could keep

00:57:06.720 my word to clients,

00:57:07.600 keep my word to people

00:57:08.340 in communities,

00:57:08.960 sports,

00:57:09.300 church,

00:57:09.600 but then my family

00:57:10.480 would get the worst

00:57:11.460 of me

00:57:11.720 and something

00:57:12.480 shifted in me

00:57:13.660 where I was like

00:57:15.080 assessing the way

00:57:15.980 I do my goals

00:57:16.620 as I look back

00:57:17.420 at the previous year

00:57:18.240 I'm like okay

00:57:18.700 what didn't work

00:57:19.360 this year?

00:57:20.520 What did I not like?

00:57:22.960 What was something

00:57:24.040 that gave me pain

00:57:25.220 that I don't want

00:57:25.960 to repeat?

00:57:27.140 One of those is

00:57:27.900 my family gets

00:57:29.880 the best

00:57:30.260 this September now

00:57:31.100 because I'd get home

00:57:32.000 I'd be like

00:57:32.520 on point

00:57:33.140 for an event

00:57:33.680 I'd be on point

00:57:34.380 for calls

00:57:34.820 I'd get home

00:57:35.700 and I'd just be

00:57:36.260 so tired

00:57:37.300 and my boys

00:57:38.060 like let's go

00:57:38.400 play couch

00:57:38.960 and I'm like

00:57:39.580 I'm sorry

00:57:41.060 and they're like

00:57:41.720 okay

00:57:42.040 that's cool

00:57:42.700 dad

00:57:42.900 all right

00:57:43.300 wait

00:57:44.280 wait a minute

00:57:45.100 this doesn't work

00:57:46.140 giving my family

00:57:47.280 the leftovers

00:57:48.060 no

00:57:49.120 so now

00:57:50.320 so now

00:57:50.340 it's like

00:57:50.640 my family

00:57:51.080 one of my

00:57:51.540 tons of self-creations

00:57:52.600 is

00:57:52.840 my family

00:57:54.420 gets the best

00:57:55.040 of September

00:57:55.500 they get the best

00:57:56.380 of daddy

00:57:56.820 they get the best

00:57:57.540 of husband

00:57:59.040 they get the best

00:58:00.680 of me

00:58:01.520 not the leftovers

00:58:02.860 and it's been

00:58:04.480 a great change

00:58:05.060 for me

00:58:05.380 and it's

00:58:06.780 it's no

00:58:07.380 it's like normal

00:58:08.180 for most of us

00:58:09.320 because we want

00:58:09.820 to impress people

00:58:10.800 but we just know

00:58:11.840 our family's

00:58:12.340 going to be there

00:58:12.860 once you shift

00:58:14.480 that like

00:58:14.940 nah my family

00:58:15.600 gets the best

00:58:16.120 of me

00:58:16.440 they don't get

00:58:17.140 they don't get

00:58:17.800 leftovers

00:58:18.140 they get the best

00:58:19.500 of me

00:58:19.800 it makes such

00:58:20.800 a big difference

00:58:21.420 in the home

00:58:21.880 I love it man

00:58:23.100 I've also noticed

00:58:24.880 it makes us

00:58:25.560 way more efficient

00:58:26.520 in other aspects

00:58:27.480 of our lives

00:58:28.220 right

00:58:28.900 if we dedicate

00:58:29.720 that time

00:58:30.380 like whatever

00:58:30.860 we carve out

00:58:31.680 of our resources

00:58:32.700 time

00:58:33.220 energy

00:58:33.680 attention

00:58:34.160 money

00:58:34.740 and we dedicate

00:58:36.300 it to something

00:58:37.020 and then the rest

00:58:37.900 gets the leftovers

00:58:38.700 whatever's left over

00:58:39.720 has to be hyper efficient

00:58:40.960 you have to maximize

00:58:43.040 that time

00:58:43.760 or that resource

00:58:44.440 because it's scarce

00:58:45.360 like you don't have

00:58:46.160 as much of it left

00:58:47.000 so you got to get

00:58:47.700 the lion's share

00:58:48.200 to what's important

00:58:48.780 your priority

00:58:49.380 yeah and you know

00:58:52.060 I break my day up

00:58:53.360 into four quarters

00:58:54.440 like 5 a.m.

00:58:55.940 till 9 is first quarter

00:58:57.240 and 9 to 1 is second quarter

00:58:58.960 1 to 5 is third quarter

00:59:00.940 and 5 till sleep time

00:59:02.600 is fourth

00:59:02.980 and I'm like okay

00:59:03.620 I got to go win my quarters

00:59:05.200 first quarter is me

00:59:06.240 that's my quarter

00:59:07.140 that prepares me

00:59:08.140 second third quarter

00:59:09.040 work

00:59:09.500 I'm telling the third

00:59:11.020 and the fourth quarter

00:59:11.660 is family

00:59:12.140 and again

00:59:13.260 through meditation

00:59:14.060 you know just my

00:59:15.220 the things that I do

00:59:16.400 I'm able to reset

00:59:17.860 through the day

00:59:19.020 and I'm able to reset

00:59:20.280 before I get home

00:59:21.120 and there's days

00:59:22.880 where I'm

00:59:23.180 if I finish up

00:59:23.900 with my stuff

00:59:24.720 by 3 o'clock

00:59:25.440 or 2 o'clock

00:59:26.360 and my list is done

00:59:27.600 I'm like

00:59:28.200 I'm out

00:59:29.060 I'm going

00:59:29.940 like I could find

00:59:31.820 endless things to do

00:59:33.060 but

00:59:34.380 once I'm done

00:59:35.720 I'm done

00:59:36.100 and I'm gonna go

00:59:36.820 get my wife

00:59:37.400 and my kids

00:59:37.820 the best of me

00:59:38.520 and we

00:59:39.480 you know

00:59:40.240 you said something

00:59:41.060 that's so true

00:59:43.040 whatever's left over

00:59:44.180 has to be so

00:59:45.360 effective

00:59:46.060 and so efficient

00:59:46.820 because

00:59:47.200 whatever we have left

00:59:48.440 is left

00:59:48.840 is the leftover

00:59:49.700 I'm just learning

00:59:51.500 like

00:59:51.740 I will never

00:59:53.280 leave my family

00:59:55.460 the leftovers

00:59:56.800 because I've done that

00:59:57.800 for too long man

00:59:58.920 and then

01:00:00.160 all of a sudden

01:00:00.680 you blink

01:00:01.140 and they're teenagers

01:00:02.300 I'm like what

01:00:02.980 so the best of me

01:00:05.000 goes to my family

01:00:05.860 the best of me

01:00:07.040 goes to my clients

01:00:07.860 and I'm able to

01:00:09.000 really compartmentalize

01:00:10.980 and

01:00:11.960 I just

01:00:12.880 I believe in like

01:00:13.920 this harmony of life

01:00:15.380 right

01:00:15.640 where it's like

01:00:16.120 dude

01:00:16.320 we are the authors

01:00:18.220 we're creating

01:00:19.040 right

01:00:19.280 we're creating the life

01:00:20.400 so

01:00:20.700 if something's not going

01:00:22.580 the way that I want it to go

01:00:23.940 I get to make changes

01:00:25.520 I get to adapt

01:00:26.720 and adjust

01:00:27.300 or I get to

01:00:28.100 delete it

01:00:29.100 get rid of it

01:00:29.820 but I don't ever

01:00:31.080 want to settle

01:00:31.860 and tolerate

01:00:32.880 mediocrity

01:00:34.260 or tolerate things

01:00:35.480 that just don't work

01:00:36.440 because we're not victims

01:00:37.620 like we get to choose

01:00:39.140 yeah that's it

01:00:40.800 that's a great

01:00:41.360 I think that's where

01:00:42.340 a lot of guys are

01:00:43.080 and that's where I am

01:00:44.020 partly in my own life

01:00:44.920 right now

01:00:45.380 you know

01:00:45.760 dealing with the consequences

01:00:47.020 of poor choices

01:00:47.820 to some degree

01:00:48.540 and

01:00:49.500 what's tempting

01:00:51.660 it's tempting

01:00:52.680 at times

01:00:53.360 to be victim

01:00:54.840 I do this

01:00:55.540 because of that

01:00:56.020 I do this

01:00:56.420 because of my dad

01:00:57.020 I do this

01:00:57.380 because of this person

01:00:58.080 I do this

01:00:58.460 because of this

01:00:59.040 behavior

01:00:59.560 whatever

01:00:59.860 and

01:01:01.520 when

01:01:02.040 I realized

01:01:02.980 that when I do that

01:01:04.140 yeah

01:01:06.140 it feels pretty good

01:01:07.200 because it's not my fault

01:01:08.320 right

01:01:08.880 so I'm like

01:01:09.600 well something else

01:01:10.380 that's why

01:01:11.260 it wasn't me

01:01:11.840 so it's

01:01:12.360 something else's fault

01:01:13.660 but then I realize

01:01:15.600 that actually limits

01:01:17.640 my power

01:01:18.240 and ability

01:01:18.640 to do something

01:01:19.260 about it

01:01:19.780 because if it's

01:01:20.840 something else's fault

01:01:21.700 or somebody else's fault

01:01:22.800 then I need to wait

01:01:23.920 for that circumstance

01:01:24.960 to change

01:01:25.600 and that circumstance

01:01:26.200 is completely

01:01:27.080 outside of my control

01:01:28.220 so I need to wait

01:01:29.580 and sit idly by

01:01:30.820 while some other

01:01:32.440 factor of my life

01:01:33.540 decides to rain

01:01:34.460 good fortune upon me

01:01:35.580 it's a little too

01:01:36.500 passive

01:01:38.280 for me

01:01:39.160 yeah

01:01:40.080 like I

01:01:40.500 I tell my sons

01:01:42.600 this

01:01:42.880 like

01:01:43.320 I don't like to use

01:01:45.600 the word like

01:01:46.020 it's our fault

01:01:46.980 because I'm like

01:01:47.420 look it's

01:01:47.880 it's our choice

01:01:48.920 like

01:01:49.940 you have a choice son

01:01:51.440 and just accept

01:01:52.700 100% responsibility

01:01:53.840 like just be

01:01:54.680 responsible for

01:01:55.680 everything

01:01:56.560 and even if there's

01:01:58.200 you know

01:01:58.420 something happened

01:01:59.280 that was outside

01:02:01.080 of your control

01:02:01.620 just find a way

01:02:03.000 to be responsible

01:02:04.500 for as much

01:02:05.700 as you can

01:02:06.420 and you'll always

01:02:07.600 be fine

01:02:07.940 because the moment

01:02:08.500 you shift

01:02:09.020 any responsibility

01:02:09.980 like what's not

01:02:10.560 my fault

01:02:10.900 like that

01:02:11.340 that we don't even

01:02:12.360 that's like

01:02:12.920 forbidden

01:02:13.620 that's like

01:02:14.240 I'd rather have

01:02:14.700 my boys

01:02:15.180 cuss than say

01:02:16.420 that kind of stuff

01:02:17.140 like what's not

01:02:17.660 my fault

01:02:18.060 and again

01:02:18.860 we're having

01:02:19.200 to correct that

01:02:19.920 and I'm like

01:02:20.240 let's don't say

01:02:21.080 that

01:02:21.400 learn how to be

01:02:22.980 the person

01:02:23.380 who takes

01:02:23.780 responsibility

01:02:24.440 like

01:02:25.260 that's on me

01:02:26.420 I could have

01:02:27.120 done this different

01:02:27.960 dad

01:02:28.160 I could have

01:02:28.520 done this

01:02:28.820 different in my life

01:02:29.500 I could have

01:02:30.200 woken up earlier

01:02:30.960 and left earlier

01:02:31.660 then I wouldn't

01:02:32.180 blame traffic

01:02:32.880 I could have

01:02:33.960 done my laundry

01:02:34.580 earlier

01:02:35.200 so I wouldn't

01:02:35.760 be searching

01:02:36.240 for clothes

01:02:36.920 and it's like

01:02:38.260 getting out of

01:02:38.880 that victim

01:02:39.340 language

01:02:39.760 it's a powerful

01:02:41.860 way for men

01:02:42.980 like us

01:02:43.800 to live

01:02:44.200 it's like

01:02:44.520 I'm responsible

01:02:45.420 I'm responsible

01:02:46.400 for my life

01:02:47.060 I'm responsible

01:02:48.160 for my results

01:02:48.960 I'm responsible

01:02:50.100 for my connection

01:02:50.800 to God

01:02:51.260 I'm responsible

01:02:52.280 for my marriage

01:02:52.940 I'm responsible

01:02:53.640 for my family

01:02:54.280 my bank account

01:02:55.000 my body

01:02:55.500 I am

01:02:56.380 100% responsible

01:02:58.240 that works

01:03:00.080 miracles for me

01:03:01.540 man

01:03:01.820 yeah I think

01:03:03.160 it's the difference

01:03:03.780 between the short game

01:03:04.840 and the long game

01:03:05.540 right

01:03:06.500 if you're playing

01:03:07.260 the short game

01:03:07.980 you want to

01:03:08.960 you want to pawn off

01:03:09.880 as much as you can

01:03:10.920 just pawn it off

01:03:11.900 pawn it off

01:03:12.240 not my fault

01:03:12.720 not my responsibility

01:03:13.500 somebody else

01:03:14.200 something else

01:03:14.760 but if you're

01:03:15.560 playing the long game

01:03:16.420 or at least you want

01:03:17.960 to play a longer game

01:03:19.040 then I think we need

01:03:20.220 to be able to accept

01:03:21.160 more of that responsibility

01:03:22.160 because it'll pan out

01:03:23.400 long term

01:03:23.840 it won't short

01:03:24.620 it's going to hurt

01:03:25.460 actually probably

01:03:26.200 more short term

01:03:27.140 amen

01:03:28.500 it's spot on brother

01:03:30.420 long game

01:03:31.380 knowing how to play

01:03:32.160 that long game

01:03:32.940 short game

01:03:34.180 it's easy to blame

01:03:34.880 other people

01:03:35.460 but it never

01:03:36.240 you never win

01:03:37.020 you never win

01:03:38.760 you're never happy

01:03:39.640 if you play that game

01:03:40.960 yeah

01:03:41.780 well brother

01:03:42.560 I appreciate you

01:03:43.320 like I said

01:03:43.980 to begin with

01:03:44.580 you inspire me

01:03:45.340 to be a better man

01:03:46.020 there's so much

01:03:46.620 that I can do

01:03:47.500 so much room

01:03:48.200 for improvement

01:03:48.780 and I really appreciate

01:03:50.240 your motivation

01:03:50.820 and inspiration

01:03:51.320 to help me

01:03:51.760 in my own personal life

01:03:52.720 Ryan

01:03:53.780 thank you man

01:03:54.360 it's an honor

01:03:54.980 I'm grateful

01:03:56.520 for the work that you do

01:03:57.640 and I love your books

01:03:58.960 I love your podcast

01:03:59.740 thank you man

01:04:00.860 keep leading brother

01:04:01.560 you're impacting

01:04:02.580 a lot of people

01:04:03.240 myself included

01:04:03.940 so thank you again man

01:04:04.960 hey tell the guys

01:04:06.360 where to go

01:04:06.780 to connect with you

01:04:07.400 I know you also have

01:04:08.580 an event I think

01:04:09.360 coming up fairly soon

01:04:10.640 maybe in the springtime

01:04:11.580 so tell the guys

01:04:12.200 where to go

01:04:12.600 and how to connect with you

01:04:13.400 yep

01:04:13.660 so if you go to my

01:04:14.740 you might just

01:04:15.200 you go to

01:04:15.560 setemangali.com

01:04:16.780 s-e-t-e-m-a-g-a-l-i.com

01:04:19.760 that's just right

01:04:20.300 my first and last name

01:04:21.300 everything's there

01:04:22.460 and we have an event

01:04:23.360 called ProRevLive

01:04:25.040 P-R-O-R-E-V-L-I-V-E

01:04:27.400 dot com

01:04:27.860 it's

01:04:28.540 very similar

01:04:29.860 to our boot camps

01:04:30.720 but it's the content

01:04:31.840 without the boot camp

01:04:32.880 and the butt kicking

01:04:34.300 and the

01:04:34.800 just the

01:04:35.420 you know the sand

01:04:36.140 and the ocean

01:04:37.000 and the water

01:04:37.660 but I love what I do

01:04:39.200 man

01:04:39.400 like I just

01:04:40.180 again I am a

01:04:41.580 a liberator

01:04:42.500 of leaders

01:04:43.600 and I am a

01:04:45.180 catalyst

01:04:45.660 for the committed

01:04:46.740 and I love

01:04:48.700 helping people

01:04:49.120 so go to

01:04:49.760 setemangali.com

01:04:50.600 and connect with me

01:04:51.420 there

01:04:51.640 we have a podcast

01:04:52.720 we have programs

01:04:53.520 but

01:04:53.780 Ryan I'm

01:04:55.940 thankful man

01:04:56.840 like thank you

01:04:57.560 it's such an honor

01:04:58.720 to be on your podcast

01:04:59.540 and to be a part

01:05:00.740 of your community

01:05:01.320 and to see the good

01:05:02.040 you're doing

01:05:02.340 and you

01:05:02.700 you have inspired me

01:05:03.900 like I watch

01:05:04.780 in my house

01:05:05.140 good

01:05:05.760 I love what

01:05:06.920 Ryan's doing that

01:05:07.560 you've said things

01:05:08.520 that have just

01:05:08.940 have stuck with me

01:05:10.900 and I appreciate it man

01:05:12.700 so keep up the great work man

01:05:14.080 you know I will

01:05:14.980 we're not stopping

01:05:15.460 anytime soon

01:05:16.140 and I

01:05:16.700 and I

01:05:17.040 I love the idea

01:05:17.980 and the unapologetic

01:05:19.340 liberator of leaders

01:05:21.040 I like that

01:05:22.300 because that shows confidence

01:05:23.300 what you've earned my friend

01:05:24.260 anyways

01:05:24.740 appreciate you

01:05:25.460 thanks again

01:05:26.080 thank you brother

01:05:27.340 all right guys

01:05:29.740 there you go

01:05:30.380 my conversation

01:05:31.160 with the one and only

01:05:32.020 Setemangali

01:05:32.660 I hope you enjoyed

01:05:33.940 that conversation

01:05:35.060 he was gracious enough

01:05:37.120 to take a break

01:05:37.780 on his vacation

01:05:38.540 and have a conversation

01:05:40.400 with me

01:05:40.880 so we can get that

01:05:41.560 information out to you

01:05:42.480 I hope it served you

01:05:43.480 that is the ultimate goal

01:05:45.020 of what we're doing here

01:05:45.900 do me a favor

01:05:46.780 take a screenshot

01:05:47.640 as I ask every week

01:05:48.820 let

01:05:49.880 and post it up

01:05:51.040 on Instagram

01:05:51.540 tag Setemang

01:05:52.580 tag myself

01:05:53.320 let people know

01:05:54.660 what you're listening to

01:05:55.480 I believe that

01:05:56.280 if we as men

01:05:57.280 have something

01:05:57.960 that will help

01:05:58.560 other people

01:05:59.220 then we have

01:06:00.320 a responsibility

01:06:01.020 and an obligation

01:06:01.700 to share it

01:06:02.520 so if this resource

01:06:03.840 of the Order Man podcast

01:06:04.940 and movement

01:06:05.480 is helping you

01:06:06.200 then please

01:06:07.200 share it with other people

01:06:08.660 who will be impacted

01:06:09.600 positively

01:06:10.140 by the work

01:06:11.220 that all of us

01:06:11.920 are attempting

01:06:12.940 to do here

01:06:14.320 also check out

01:06:16.320 Origin USA

01:06:17.260 check out the

01:06:18.260 Battle Ready program

01:06:19.220 at orderofman.com

01:06:20.420 slash battle ready

01:06:21.240 give a shout out

01:06:22.360 to Setemangali

01:06:23.000 on Instagram

01:06:23.980 or Facebook

01:06:24.640 wherever you're doing

01:06:25.300 your social media stuff

01:06:26.360 let him know

01:06:27.180 that you heard him

01:06:28.000 here on the Order Man podcast

01:06:29.620 and what you thought

01:06:30.440 about this episode

01:06:31.360 guys I appreciate you

01:06:33.160 we're into January

01:06:34.440 hopefully you've hit

01:06:35.440 the ground running

01:06:36.040 if not

01:06:36.680 let's go

01:06:37.320 we can do it right now

01:06:38.560 we can start

01:06:39.040 wherever we are

01:06:40.000 let's get going

01:06:40.800 you've got all the tools

01:06:42.380 you've got your

01:06:43.060 marching orders

01:06:43.660 hopefully

01:06:44.320 I'm going to provide you

01:06:45.660 with some resources

01:06:46.420 that are going to help you

01:06:47.760 move the needle

01:06:48.240 in the right direction

01:06:49.240 alright guys

01:06:50.140 we'll be back tomorrow

01:06:51.240 until then

01:06:51.820 go out there

01:06:52.300 take action

01:06:52.940 become the man

01:06:54.040 you are meant to be

01:06:55.280 thank you for listening

01:06:56.340 to the Order of Man podcast

01:06:57.820 if you're ready

01:06:58.720 to take charge of your life

01:06:59.960 and be more of the man

01:07:01.080 you were meant to be

01:07:01.960 we invite you to join the order

01:07:03.600 at orderofman.com

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Order of Man - January 10, 2023

SETEMA GALI ｜ Set the Standard

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