Order of Man - Standing Between Your Family and Destruction

00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart

00:00:04.980 your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.

00:00:10.460 You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong. This is your life. This is who

00:00:17.220 you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,

00:00:22.820 you can call yourself a man. What's up guys? This is Ryan Michler. I am the host and the

00:00:27.900 founder of this podcast and the order of man movement. I want to welcome you here and back

00:00:32.220 and maybe even to the podcast for the first time. If you're just tuning in and if that's

00:00:36.180 the case, I'm glad you're here. This is a podcast dedicated to giving men the tools and the

00:00:41.720 conversations, the resources and everything else they may need to step more fully into

00:00:45.880 who they have a desire to be as a man, whether that's fatherhood, being a more capable husband,

00:00:51.700 community leader, business owner, whatever facet of life you're showing up. It's my job

00:00:56.060 again, to give you those tools and resources to help you do exactly what you want to be

00:00:59.980 doing. And, uh, obviously we're at a critical crossroads for a lot of us with, uh, some

00:01:06.180 uncertainty and doubt and confusion, uh, and a lot of unknowns and variables about what's

00:01:11.700 happening in life right now. Uh, this is a perfect test and an opportunity to put everything

00:01:16.500 that we've been talking about over the past five years, uh, into practice and really set

00:01:20.860 ourselves and our families and loved ones up for, uh, success for opportunities that

00:01:25.940 will arise as this whole Corona virus thing, uh, begins to dwindle and die out, uh, like

00:01:31.800 it will, uh, eventually. And I know a lot of you are in the midst of things right now,

00:01:35.520 but, uh, there, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Uh, and if we can do the right

00:01:40.660 things now, and even leading up to this, if we can do those things now, uh, we're going

00:01:45.440 to be in that better, uh, of a position when things come. So today you get to hear from

00:01:49.660 me. I've got some thoughts on what it means to be a man. I've got some thoughts on what

00:01:53.760 one of our responsibilities is as men. Uh, and that is standing, uh, in front of, or

00:01:59.620 between, uh, our family and destruction. So I'm going to talk about what that is based

00:02:05.140 on a quote from a very good book that I highly suggest that you read. It's called manhood in

00:02:11.440 the making by David Gilmore. I'm going to talk a little bit more about that here in a

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00:03:59.760 guys, let's get into the conversation. I want to start with a quote by David Gilmore. Again,

00:04:05.760 it comes from this book right here, uh, manhood in the making by David Gilmore. And it says,

00:04:10.960 here's the quote, the real man gains renown by standing between his family and destruction,

00:04:16.180 absorbing the blows of fate with equanimity. That's one of my favorite quotes. And it's really

00:04:22.040 stood out to me, uh, as, as a pretty good encapsulation of what it is that we're supposed

00:04:28.360 to be doing as family men, literally standing between our family and the destruction that they

00:04:34.560 may otherwise experience. So what is this destruction? It could be any number of things.

00:04:39.460 It could be financial catastrophe. It could be health related. It could be a crime or others,

00:04:45.420 uh, violent encounters. There's all sorts of things that it could be manifested as and represent

00:04:51.180 itself as it's our job to ensure that that doesn't happen. It's our job to ensure that we

00:04:56.580 have made ourselves skilled and strong and competent and capable in all ways. So that as these external

00:05:03.360 threats, uh, fall upon us and our families, we have the capability of dealing with the threat.

00:05:09.040 And then of course, neutralizing it. So I want to talk with you about, uh, talk with you about that

00:05:14.620 today. Um, we're going to talk about a couple of notes that I had taken down here, but really four

00:05:20.340 main strategies that you need to consider. And then we'll break down each one, uh, and talk about

00:05:25.000 what specifically you can be doing within each one of those categories. Uh, I had made a post, uh,

00:05:30.040 several days ago on Instagram and you know, Instagram, isn't the best place for in-depth

00:05:34.580 dissertations on certain subjects, obviously, because you're limited on the amount of information

00:05:39.700 that you can share on, on a post. That's why I like podcasting so much. Cause you can get

00:05:43.360 deeper into the subject. And every once in a while, I have somebody who says, you know, that's,

00:05:48.240 that's a pretty vague statement or that's real general, or, you know, why didn't you explain what

00:05:52.980 else we should be doing again? It's not the platform for it. So if you're feeling like that on

00:05:57.360 Instagram or Twitter or Facebook, then join us here on YouTube or wherever you listen to podcasts,

00:06:02.560 because we're going to drill down deeper into it. And that's exactly what I'm going to do

00:06:05.980 with you today. So it's not about pointing out problems. It's about coming up with the solutions

00:06:10.660 to the problems. And by the way, if you have additional comments, thoughts, ideas on what it

00:06:14.720 is I'm going to be addressing today, then drop those below. If you're watching on YouTube or hit me up

00:06:21.000 on Instagram or Twitter or Facebook, all at Ryan Michler. And let's continue the conversation

00:06:27.440 there. All right. So let's break this down into, I'm trying to think about how we want to do this

00:06:33.620 the best way. Let's break it down into four main categories. We'll call them four main categories

00:06:41.880 that you need to be concerned with when it comes to being the individual, the man who stands between

00:06:46.680 his family and potential destruction. It's going to be rough, you know, financially, physically,

00:06:53.060 maybe there's some health issues. There's, there's a lot of things that may come up that would keep us

00:06:57.740 from protecting our families and doing what we need to be doing. But in rough times really is where you

00:07:04.100 get to prove your worth as a man. And by the way, I know that ruffles a lot of feathers, prove your

00:07:08.680 worth as a man. Some people think you're just worthy because you showed up. Yeah. I would say you have

00:07:13.740 some human worth because you showed up because you're breathing, but ultimately what you do and

00:07:18.620 how you perform and how you show up is your measurement of being a man. It isn't something

00:07:24.020 that is just gifted to you. It's something that's earned and it's earned every day through your

00:07:28.200 ability to build up skillsets and resolve and training and provisions to be this kind of protector

00:07:35.060 that we've been talking about for the past five years. And frankly speaking, an individual, a man who

00:07:40.120 I should say a male who is not on the path to improving himself in these areas is less manly

00:07:45.920 than one who is. And again, that's not, that's not a, that's not a popular thought in, in, in popular

00:07:53.720 doctrine. But it's the truth. When shit hits the fan and things go wrong and there's a natural disaster

00:08:01.220 or an emergency or a global pandemic, people look to the men and they look to manly men. They don't

00:08:08.840 look to the weaklings, the cowards, the, uh, the men who are incapable. They look to the ones who

00:08:13.920 are capable, strong, resolute. Therefore we know that people are looking to manly men. So how do you

00:08:21.260 become more manly in this? Right? Here's how you do it. Four steps. Number one, some element of

00:08:25.980 prediction, right? You need to be able to anticipate what could potentially arise because if you're not

00:08:31.980 thinking about these things and what could potentially come up, you're just kind of walking around,

00:08:35.940 wandering around through life and whatever happens happens, and you will be less capable

00:08:40.640 of dealing with a situation when it arises. This is why we talk about a situational awareness.

00:08:46.420 For example, when you go into a restaurant, which not many of us are right now, but when you do go

00:08:51.780 into a restaurant, you should be sitting with your back against the wall. You should be looking at

00:08:56.360 escape routes. You should be looking at anything that's out of the ordinary. Uh, there's a great book

00:09:01.260 called left of bang that I would highly suggest that you guys read. Uh, the author's name escapes

00:09:07.080 me right now, but the book is called left of bang. So definitely check that out. But this is about

00:09:11.180 being situational, uh, situationally aware. And it's not about being paranoid. It's just about being

00:09:16.540 prepared. And there's little things that you can do, uh, when you go into public or when you go into

00:09:21.420 a restaurant, like sitting with your back against the wall. So you can see everything. There's little

00:09:25.100 things that you can do that aren't going to rule your life. In fact, they're not going to take

00:09:29.820 any more time to do to implement. It's just going to put you in a potentially better situation.

00:09:35.260 Now, as your backs against the wall and you're in a restaurant, we're just using this as an example.

00:09:39.740 What are you doing? You're scanning. You're looking for potential threats. You're looking

00:09:42.860 for things that are out of the ordinary that, that go against what the baseline of the mood is.

00:09:47.420 They talk about that in the book, left of bang. You're doing that because you don't want to be

00:09:51.980 caught off guard. And I can't tell you how often I hear from men who say things like, oh,

00:09:56.860 I didn't even see it coming or I was caught off guard. Well, that means that you weren't

00:10:01.180 anticipating it. You weren't thinking about it. You weren't scanning your environment

00:10:05.500 to consider what could potentially go wrong. And again, if you're not doing that,

00:10:09.580 if you're not anticipating, okay, what could potentially come up that would be a threat to me,

00:10:14.220 my family and my loved ones, then you will get caught off guard. You will find yourself wanting

00:10:19.340 when there's a violent encounter or a financial catastrophe or a global pandemic or some sort of health

00:10:25.900 situation that you or a family member is dealing with. I don't want you to be caught off guard.

00:10:30.300 And the best way to avoid that happening is to learn, to predict and anticipate what could

00:10:36.060 potentially go wrong. Now we're problem solvers by design. Human beings in general are looking for

00:10:42.460 problems because those problems represent a threat, but you can hone this skill. And that's what you

00:10:48.860 should be doing. It's a skillset. You should be able to develop and articulate and get better and

00:10:55.500 more efficient at predicting what could potentially go wrong. So look for those scenarios. I would also

00:11:01.660 suggest that you surround yourself with individuals who, who know about these things and they can point

00:11:08.060 out what you should be looking for, whether that's law enforcement, military, first responders,

00:11:13.900 in a lot of ways, other first responders. There's courses and programs and things that you can take online

00:11:20.380 and live when that starts opening up once again, where you can actually participate in some of these

00:11:24.700 things. Uh, Tim Kennedy's organization, sheepdog response has some great programs that are centered

00:11:31.260 around situational awareness and how to deal with crisis and how to handle these things. And so you can

00:11:36.540 train your ability to scan for threats and look at what's going wrong. So what I want you to do,

00:11:41.900 and we'll just break this into steps, I guess you'd say is whenever you're in an environment, whether it's

00:11:49.100 your office or a new environment, like a restaurant or a movie theater, or just out in public at the grocery

00:11:54.780 store, or even in your car. I mean, I've seen videos where, uh, people get carjacked because they weren't

00:12:01.180 scanning their surroundings. When they were at a bank teller, for example, you need to anticipate, Hey, if I was a

00:12:06.860 criminal and I wanted to take advantage of individuals, what would I do? Put yourself in their

00:12:11.180 shoes and you'll be able to react accordingly. All right. So, so that's number one. Number two is

00:12:17.980 training. All right. You started to work on the prediction, the anticipation of what could potentially

00:12:22.220 go wrong. Now we get into training and there's a lot of different training that you can get involved

00:12:27.420 in. There's boxing and there's wrestling and there's jujitsu and there's crab and there's Muay Thai.

00:12:31.740 And there's all these other, uh, these other arts that you could get into. Okay. And yeah,

00:12:37.500 there's probably some that are better than others. I would say that wrestling and jujitsu are strong

00:12:42.700 skills to have some sort of striking. If you end up having to get into an altercation, obviously the

00:12:48.380 goal is not to get into that position. That's why we talk about prediction is being step number one,

00:12:53.100 but you, you ought to be training your body as a weapon. Yes. Physicality. Yes. Strength. Yes.

00:12:59.180 Stamina, losing weight, getting strong, building up your cardio. All of that is very, very important.

00:13:03.820 And that's an element of training. So if you aren't doing that every single day, then you probably

00:13:08.780 ought to consider what you can do to start moving your body and gaining some flexibility and building

00:13:14.940 your muscle strength. Those are important things. And then on top of that, you should be training your

00:13:20.060 body as a weapon. How do you throw a punch? How do you, how do you take a punch? Uh, if, if something

00:13:26.060 goes to the ground, how do you engage and then disengage, these things are very, very important.

00:13:31.820 And by the way, they're not wasted efforts. So if you end up never getting in a fight,

00:13:36.060 congratulations, that's, that's a good thing, but you're going to learn so much more about yourself

00:13:41.900 and frankly, life because jujitsu, wrestling, boxing, Muay Thai, kickboxing, all of these things

00:13:48.460 are metaphors for life, strength, grit, fortitude, doing things when you don't want to learning how to

00:13:54.140 win, learning how to lose, uh, learning to be creative. These things apply in other facets of

00:13:58.940 your life. So it isn't wasted effort if you happen to never use it, which I would say, congratulations,

00:14:04.460 but again, it's not wasted. So look at martial arts strength training, uh, is, is very powerful,

00:14:11.100 obviously, uh, cause that's going to help you get strong and be capable and be able to lift a car hood

00:14:15.660 off your wife. If that's the case, you get into an accident or something like that. Uh, I would

00:14:19.100 recommend starting strength as a, as a good resource, uh, for, for building strength.

00:14:24.220 Um, but there's many other programs. I'm using one right now called mountain tough fitness,

00:14:28.620 uh, which is not a strength training program, but it's specifically, uh, designed for, uh,

00:14:35.420 outdoorsmen, specifically hunters. Now it's called mountain tough fitness, uh, which is what I'm going

00:14:40.140 through right now. So you can check that out as well, but there's a lot out there. Uh, the other thing

00:14:44.620 I would say, I'm just checking a couple of things off here. So I stay on, on top of this

00:14:48.780 is resourcefulness. All right. Resourcefulness is such an important skill to have. And it's some,

00:14:53.980 something that you really need to be training. It's amazing to me how often I will see a man who

00:14:58.780 doesn't have a certain provision or something's not perfect. And it's like a roadblock. It's a barrier.

00:15:04.060 It keeps him from doing what he wants to do because he sees this one little obstacle that frankly

00:15:09.260 shouldn't derail him or keep him from driving on. You need to be resourceful. You need to look for

00:15:14.380 opportunities. You need to look for ways to be creative in, in overcoming some of these obstacles

00:15:21.420 that you may deal with. Uh, I, I, for example, like woodworking, that's one of my hobbies and one

00:15:27.580 of my activities. And what I really enjoy doing with woodworking is salvaging and reclaiming old

00:15:35.740 wood, uh, old projects, and then repurposing them for what it is that I need. So for example,

00:15:41.740 uh, right now I've got my computer here, my mic and everything, it's set up and hooked up and sitting

00:15:46.860 on my podcast desk, which happens to be a, uh, barn stall door that I was, that I found in the basement

00:15:55.500 of our barn when we moved into this property. So I grabbed it out, cleaned it up, took all the hardware

00:16:00.620 off, cleaned all that up, shined it up, got it looking good. I've got a great right here, which you can't see,

00:16:06.140 but it's just sitting right here. And that's the, the stall door. It's the, the great, uh,

00:16:11.260 and I'm going to get a piece of glass and I'm going to put it over that. I built a steel pipe

00:16:16.460 frame for it. So again, repurposing this to make it functional for what I need. These shelves behind

00:16:22.460 me, that was an old piece of wood that I was found again in the, uh, the barn basement that I cut,

00:16:28.860 I cleaned, I finished and brought them in here and you can see, I got them hooked up. Uh, there's

00:16:35.340 other things as well. You know, I'm, I'm, I'm constantly looking for, like, I have a couple of

00:16:39.420 desks that I made for my boys there. Uh, they were old shop desks. They were here again. I broke

00:16:44.220 them apart, cut them down, changed them, tweaked them, adapt them. And I made it, made one for, uh,

00:16:50.060 my sons, each of my two oldest sons, Lego tables. So like I'm repurposing that stuff that helps me be

00:16:56.460 resourceful guys. Resourcefulness is a very, very powerful skill that you can develop. And if you

00:17:02.220 feel yourself getting hung up and snagged up on projects and tasks and things that you need to do,

00:17:07.020 then maybe you're not as resourceful as you could be. Another great example is in the fitness world.

00:17:11.340 So many guys talk to me about, I don't have a gym. It's like, well, who said you need a gym? I mean,

00:17:15.900 a gym is nice, but you don't need a gym to get strong. You can have a tire. Uh, and people say,

00:17:21.500 well, you need, you know, you need a box to step on. Well, I have a tire. So like, I mean,

00:17:25.580 a box would be great, but I have a tire, so I can hit that with a sledgehammer. I can lift it up,

00:17:31.580 set it down. I can roll it up Hills. Uh, I can jump on it. Like I would a box. It's about being

00:17:37.420 resourceful. Use what you have to create solutions for you and your family's problems. That's a skill

00:17:44.780 that can be developed. Uh, another thing, firearms, are you training firearms? Look, you don't have to

00:17:50.700 like firearms. You don't have to own a firearm. I would actually suggest that you do.

00:17:55.100 That's a good thing. It's a healthy thing. Hopefully you'll never have to use it, but

00:17:58.940 it would be nice to have it in case you, you, you had to use it. Uh, but are you doing firearms

00:18:04.060 training? Are you shooting your guns? Uh, are you taking instruction? Are you learning what you need

00:18:07.820 to learn about that? And even now there's online courses that you can take, and then you can go out

00:18:11.740 to a shooting range or go out to a field or go out in your yard. If you have space and you can,

00:18:17.980 you can train. It's very, very important. Uh, I think it was Archie Locus who said,

00:18:22.540 we don't rise to the level of our expectations. We fall to the level of our training. So we, as men

00:18:29.180 have these egos at times, and they serve us in some ways, in a lot of ways, they actually serve us.

00:18:35.180 Uh, but at the same time, they keep us, keep us back and keep us from training and doing the

00:18:39.100 things that we should be doing. Uh, we believe that in a crisis will by default step into that

00:18:44.700 crisis because we saw Jason Bourne or James Bond do it on a movie somewhere. Guys, it doesn't work

00:18:49.340 like that unless you're training and getting the repetition and being exposed as closely as you can

00:18:55.260 to real world scenarios. Uh, Tony Blower, a friend of mine with, uh, with no fear, uh,

00:19:01.420 he, he does no fear podcast. Uh, but he, he's talked a lot about this and he's got courses and

00:19:06.460 programs and offerings available for you to deal with these types of threats. When those situations

00:19:11.820 arise, if you aren't training this stuff, you aren't going to step up to the plate.

00:19:15.980 You just aren't. And you're going to put yourself and your loved ones in compromising situations.

00:19:20.700 I don't want that to happen. So make sure you're training firearms. You're training martial arts,

00:19:24.860 your strength training. You're looking at becoming more resourceful. And the last one I wrote here,

00:19:29.180 and of course this isn't an exhaustive list, but the last thing I wrote down on here is wilderness

00:19:34.380 survival. Can you survive in the wilderness? What's your skillset in the wilderness? Can you start a fire?

00:19:39.900 Can you find water? Can you do some land navigation to find out where you are? Can you read a map?

00:19:45.340 Can you use a compass? Uh, can you set up a shelter? Can you start a fire? I think I already said that

00:19:50.780 one. These are all skills that would be very, very important to know, to understand, and to be able

00:19:56.940 to utilize. And by the way, this, this part can be fun, especially if you have kids, because you can go

00:20:01.820 out in the yard and you go camping with the kids and not even bring a tent and see if you can set up a

00:20:06.300 shelter. Uh, you can build a fire or have a fire building competition with them. Uh, you can learn to

00:20:12.860 hunt. That's another skillset that I would say is worthy of developing. Uh, you can teach them how

00:20:17.900 to cook that food, even on an open fire at a camp out. These are all valuable, valuable skills to have,

00:20:23.340 and you can make it fun for you and your wife and your kids. It's a good thing. And it trains you and

00:20:28.380 it trains them. So if you aren't having some sort of wilderness survival, uh, in, in your regiment,

00:20:33.580 uh, of training and being prepared, then you're selling yourself short. I'm trying to give you as

00:20:38.060 many resources as I can. Uh, I would say Creek Stewart, uh, is a great resource on wilderness

00:20:43.260 survival. And of course there's plenty more, but that's where I would start. All right. That's the

00:20:48.060 training component. Again, that wasn't an exhaustive list, but I went through martial arts, firearms,

00:20:52.700 resourcefulness, uh, wilderness, survival, and strength training, physical training of some sort.

00:20:57.980 All right. So now we're predicting, right? We're anticipating and looking for threats and what could

00:21:03.500 potentially go wrong. Uh, we've trained ourselves or we are in the process of training ourselves to

00:21:09.100 deal with those threats that we may have to deal with. The next component of this is provisions,

00:21:15.340 right? We've got prediction, we've got training, and now we've got provisions. You have to have

00:21:20.380 provisions. Okay. These are financial provisions. This is food storage. This is firearms. These are

00:21:26.460 ammunition. This is a bug out bag, a bug in bag. If you don't have these provisions taken care of,

00:21:33.180 man, you're going to find yourself in a bad, bad situation. So when it comes to food storage,

00:21:38.460 if you didn't have any food, all right, the grocery stores are closed, which we're kind

00:21:42.140 of experiencing, they may not be closed, but access to grocery stores is limited and access to food is

00:21:46.780 increasingly limited as well. So how much do you have in your house? Can you survive for a month,

00:21:51.820 six months, a year? That's something to consider, right? We try to get to a year, 12 months of food

00:21:58.780 storage. Now I'm not saying we're going to eat like Kings for 12 months. Of course not.

00:22:02.940 But we would, it would, we'd be able to survive for 12 months. And you should have that level of

00:22:07.580 provisions. And it's not difficult. I'm not telling you that you need to go spend $5,000

00:22:12.220 or $10,000 or whatever you'd need to spend. But each time you go to the grocery store,

00:22:17.100 or you buy food of some sort, just spend an extra 10, 15, $20 and buy three or four cans of tuna or

00:22:24.300 other non-perishable items. Maybe it's fruit in a can, like buy these things and spend an extra $20

00:22:30.700 each time you go to the store. And you'll notice yourself over the course of several months,

00:22:34.620 really building up something that not only can you be proud of, but that you can rely on. And then you

00:22:40.540 can take comfort in knowing that you are doing your job as a man. So when it comes to provisions,

00:22:45.980 I would highly suggest that you go in right now and you start to inventory your, your provisions.

00:22:53.020 What do you currently have? What do you need? And then how do you build that up? Also financially,

00:22:58.060 I mean, how many people have dealt with some real financial hardships right now? I mean, so much so

00:23:03.980 that this $1,200 is, is quite literally saving them the $1,200 we're getting back of our own money

00:23:10.860 or other people's money from, from the government. It's like, look, if it's going to help you, then

00:23:17.260 by all means, I mean, good. I hope it does. I hope you can make your mortgage payment or put some,

00:23:21.420 some groceries on the table and some food in your, your kids and wife's belly. But look,

00:23:25.500 if you aren't getting your financial house in order, like shame on you, shame on you. I know

00:23:30.460 that sounds harsh. I know that's going to rub people the wrong way, but really like if you,

00:23:35.340 if your financial house isn't in order, please use this moment in time as a wake-up call to get your

00:23:42.460 shit together. I spent almost 10 years as a financial advisor, and I can't tell you how many people I met

00:23:48.300 with who were living paycheck to paycheck. They were literally a week or less away from being broke.

00:23:56.540 Come on, we can do better than that. Most of us have, have got into debt that we shouldn't get into.

00:24:03.180 Most people don't track their income and expenses. Most people aren't making as much as they should be

00:24:08.460 making because they aren't developing new skills or, or making themselves more equipped and more

00:24:14.380 capable to earn a higher income. And it's sad. It's sad. I get it. I've been there,

00:24:19.180 but I worked myself out of that position and you need to be working yourself out of that position as

00:24:23.740 well. Learn to provide value, offer a skillset, uh, learn to charge and ask people to pay for your

00:24:30.380 goods and your services and products. Learn how to sell, learn how to market. All of these things are

00:24:34.940 very important when it comes to a career, but also are you setting money aside? Are you spending every

00:24:39.820 dollar that you earn? If you don't have six months of expenses, I'm not talking about income. I'm

00:24:45.820 talking about expenses. If your monthly expenses are three or four or $5,000 a month, then you need

00:24:50.940 six times that set aside some in cash, some in the bank, uh, to be able to handle being out of work for

00:24:58.220 six months. Like the people who have done this aren't as concerned as those who haven't during this

00:25:04.300 situation. And if you're frantic and you're running around like a chicken with his head cut off,

00:25:08.540 uh, and you're nervous and you're scared and you're upset about the financial situation, like how in

00:25:13.020 the world are you going to be able to protect and provide and preside for your family? You're not. So

00:25:19.420 fix it, fix it. Now, granted, now might not be the time because you may not have any income coming

00:25:25.180 in, but you can certainly track your income. You can certainly track your expenses. You can start

00:25:29.820 certainly start listening to podcasts that are specifically financially related. Maybe there's a

00:25:33.900 course that you can look on online programs that are even free in many cases where you can start

00:25:38.300 to get some financial literacy. So you can get yourself out of the hole that you dug yourself

00:25:42.380 into is critical that we do this very, very important. Uh, I talked about resourcefulness,

00:25:48.540 also firearms and ammunition. Like if you don't have a firearm in your house, maybe you ought to

00:25:52.940 consider having a firearm in your house. I would have it secured and locked up and have training for

00:25:57.100 you and your wife and your children, if they're old enough. Uh, and then of course the accompanying

00:26:01.420 accompanying ammunition. I mean, if you've got, you've got your Glock, your nine millimeters sitting on the

00:26:05.900 shelf and you have, you know, 20 rounds of nine millimeter and that's it. Well, okay, great.

00:26:11.260 What are you going to do? And that's all gone. Right. Also having a rifle, you got to have a rifle.

00:26:16.300 I think every man should have a rifle so that if he has to go out into the wilderness and hunt,

00:26:20.780 and by the way, I'm not saying anybody should break any sort of hunting laws or, or wilderness

00:26:25.900 laws, anything like that. But look, if, if we're in a bad situation, like if things get really,

00:26:31.180 really bad and you can't kill an animal to, to, uh, to feed your family, like shame, what a shame.

00:26:40.060 That's a bad deal. Now, some people say, oh, it's never going to get that bad. Well,

00:26:43.980 how do you know? You don't know, right? All these people that talk about anti-hunting are like, well,

00:26:49.260 why don't you just go to the grocery store like a normal human being? Well, now we're learning that

00:26:53.340 some grocery stores are closed. Provisions aren't available as they once were. And all of a sudden,

00:26:58.060 these people who know how to hunt and have hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of pounds

00:27:02.620 of meat in the freezer from animals they harvested are actually not looking so insane to these people

00:27:09.420 who otherwise wouldn't, uh, you're, you're putting yourself in compromising situation situations.

00:27:15.420 Excuse me. You need to make sure that you have these provisions taken care of. And part of that is

00:27:19.500 firearms, ammunition, learning how to hunt that would fall under the training component, food storage,

00:27:24.540 financial resources. And if you're prepared, you don't need to fear, right? You don't need to be

00:27:30.620 so concerned. You don't need to make rash decisions. You're prepared. You're ready. This is what men need

00:27:35.340 to be so they can stand again between themselves and destruction of their family. This is your job.

00:27:40.140 And this is the outline and the framework and the roadmap to be able to do it. All right. And the last

00:27:45.420 component, this is the fourth component. So we've got prediction, anticipation, step number two,

00:27:49.980 training, and these aren't in order. All right. These all go together simultaneously. The third

00:27:54.060 one is building up your provisions. And the fourth one is your strategies, right? Do you have strategies

00:27:59.740 in place? If there's a natural disaster, how are you going to handle that? If the road, if this road

00:28:04.940 that you're used to traveling on, your family's used to traveling on is closed or shut down or

00:28:09.900 unaccessible, then how do you get home or wherever you need to go? If somebody, an intruder breaks into your

00:28:14.860 house, what is your protocol? What is your system for being able to deal with that? If there's

00:28:19.900 a fire in the home, do you have rallying points for your family, both inside and outside? And by

00:28:24.380 the way, do they know these things? If they don't, if you know them and they don't know them, it's

00:28:28.140 useless. Like you have to clue them in on what's going on. You're running drilling scenarios. You have

00:28:34.060 rallying points. If you guys become separated, let's say you're at work or somewhere out in public

00:28:39.500 and your family's at home, and there's, there's some sort of catastrophic event. How do you get home

00:28:45.180 and where are you going to meet? If cell phone towers are down and you can't call them on the phone,

00:28:49.500 what are you going to do? How do you contact them? How do you get ahold of them? And where do you go?

00:28:53.740 Where do they go? These are the kinds of conversations and strategies that you need to

00:28:57.500 be planning for. These are the scenarios that you need to think out when it comes to prediction

00:29:01.180 and anticipation, because if you start predicting what could potentially go wrong, then you build in

00:29:06.220 the strategy that needs to be built in according so that you can accomplish what it is that you're

00:29:12.700 meant to accomplish. So look at these things, emergency escapes, rallying points. If there's natural

00:29:17.980 disasters, do you have a bug in bag? Do you have a bug out bag? If you have to go somewhere,

00:29:22.380 where are you going? Where have you stored stuff? Is there, is there certain places that you can go

00:29:27.020 where you can get provisions? Should you need them down the road? A lot of people tend to look at this

00:29:32.140 and think, well, this is like alarmist thinking. Maybe, maybe I'm thinking of, of catastrophe. Maybe

00:29:38.540 I'm thinking of worst case scenario. Maybe nothing like this ever happens, but isn't it good to be

00:29:44.140 prepared just in case it does? I mean, I think this is a real wake up call to realize for many

00:29:50.380 Americans and frankly, people across the planet that they aren't adequately prepared for these

00:29:56.300 things. They don't have the financial resources. They don't have the skill sets. They don't have

00:30:00.140 the training. Uh, and there are a lot of people who are very, very concerned about their ability to

00:30:06.380 stay alive. And frankly, there's a lot of people who should be concerned about it because we're finding

00:30:10.700 out that these people are not as capable as they could be. And it could be you by the way. And it

00:30:15.020 could be me. There's things that I need to shore up on my end too, because I wanted to share this

00:30:19.340 with you because I don't want to just show problems. I don't want to talk about all the things that are

00:30:24.860 wrong. I want you to actively work towards solving the problems, addressing the problems and doing

00:30:30.620 something in a meaningful and significant way so that you can be that type of protector who stands

00:30:35.260 between his family and destruction. Again, the quote, I'll pull it up here. The real man gains

00:30:40.300 renown by standing between his family and destruction, absorbing the blows of fate with

00:30:46.300 equanimity guys. That is your role. That is your responsibility. If you're looking for a great book,

00:30:52.380 this is a good one right here. Manhood in the making. I will suggest that it's not, uh,

00:30:56.940 it's not an easy read. Uh, but basically, uh, this, this gentleman, uh, studied and researched,

00:31:05.420 different cultures throughout much of time in history to, uh, get an idea of what they believed

00:31:11.660 masculinity was. And there's striking similarities between most coach cultures throughout all of

00:31:16.460 history. Some cultures not even being introduced to each other, which suggests that maybe masculinity

00:31:21.500 isn't a social construct like popular doctrine would have you believe, but that it's a biological

00:31:27.980 construct and it's supported societally supported by the people because it works. So as you can see,

00:31:35.740 I don't, well, maybe you can't see, but I've got this thing tabbed up highlighted. Um, it's, uh,

00:31:41.660 there's just, there's just so much great information in here. So again, the books, manhood turned out a

00:31:45.980 little bit because the lighting manhood in the making by David Gilmore. Uh, again, your job is

00:31:51.100 to stand between your family and destruction with equanimity, which by the way, means mental calmness.

00:31:57.500 How do you maintain mental calmness? You get better at predicting and anticipating what,

00:32:02.780 what could potentially arise. You train for these scenarios that you've identified.

00:32:07.340 You have the provisions on hand necessary to deal with them. And then you develop the strategies that you

00:32:12.540 and your family will utilize to keep yourself safe, protected and thriving. All right, guys,

00:32:17.580 that's all I've got for you today. I'm going to be back with, uh, Jack Carr, I believe is our

00:32:22.460 interview next week on Tuesday. Uh, he just finished up and released or will be releasing on April 14th,

00:32:28.140 his newest book, which is called Savage son, the third installment of the James Reese series.

00:32:32.460 So that's Mr. Jack Carr, former Navy seal and, uh, incredible author. And I believe that the

00:32:38.060 James Reese series is now being made into either a TV show or a TV series. So be on the lookout for

00:32:43.500 that as well, but that'll be with Jack Carr. And then of course we've got our other podcasts

00:32:47.100 throughout the week, gentlemen, I'm glad that you're here. Um, I would also suggest that you

00:32:51.340 look into our exclusive brotherhood, the iron council, which is a digital band of brothers,

00:32:56.140 500 plus men, all working towards objectives. And, uh, these types of things, even that we talked about

00:33:02.460 today and we're holding each other accountable to ensure that we're doing what we said is important.

00:33:08.060 So guys, I'll let you get going. Uh, and we'll be back on Tuesday, but until then go out there,

00:33:12.140 take action and become the man you are meant to be. Thank you for listening to the order of man

00:33:16.860 podcast. You're ready to take charge of your life and be more of the man you were meant to be.

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