Order of Man - January 24, 2020


Stop Making Excuses for Missing Opportunities ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTE


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10 minutes

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2,206

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141


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In this episode, Ryan Michler shares a story of how he was able to take advantage of an opportunity that presented itself and why you should never miss an opportunity to step into the potential that comes up in your life.

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00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest, embrace your fears, and boldly chart
00:00:05.000 your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time, every time.
00:00:10.440 You are not easily deterred or defeated, rugged, resilient, strong. This is your life. This is who
00:00:17.240 you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,
00:00:22.800 you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Michler,
00:00:27.860 and I am the host and the founder of the podcast and the movement that is Order of Man.
00:00:32.600 As you can see, if you're watching this on YouTube, I've got a little bit of a different
00:00:35.880 backdrop than I normally do. Not at my home office. I'm actually here in Las Vegas enjoying
00:00:40.780 SHOT Show, which I've been coming to for, I believe this is my fourth year now, and Leupold
00:00:46.980 Optics was kind enough to let me use one of their offices at their booth. I'm overlooking
00:00:52.000 Leupold. I'm overlooking Gerber and these other firearms manufacturers and industry companies
00:00:57.560 and I've got to tell you, this has been a great two or three days. I've done a lot of
00:01:01.520 powerful interviews, have had a lot of great conversations, and if you hear a little noise
00:01:06.580 in the background, it's because there's thousands of people downstairs wandering around checking
00:01:11.840 out firearms and all of these other things that they have to see. But I wanted to make
00:01:16.740 sure I got you a Friday Field Notes. Now, guys, this one's going to be a little bit quicker
00:01:20.160 than it normally is because I have a very succinct and clear thought that I want to share
00:01:23.760 with you as an opportunity arose in my life and I wanted to share that opportunity with
00:01:30.980 you very briefly, not to get into specifics, but to share and illustrate a point that there's
00:01:36.300 so many individuals, and this used to be me as well, who would overlook opportunities and
00:01:40.980 craft and create all sorts of excuses as to why we can't step into these opportunities as
00:01:45.620 they present themselves. So let me share with you the opportunity and then I'll talk with
00:01:49.380 you a little bit about why I think guys overlook them, create excuses, and don't step into potential
00:01:55.740 that comes up. So I had a very close friend who is a very influential person, individual,
00:02:03.380 and very successful. He reached out and he says he had this opportunity to come to an event
00:02:09.460 that he's putting together. Now, I'm busy. I've got a lot of things going on just like you
00:02:13.760 do and this, I had to change my schedule around a little bit, but he's going to have some
00:02:18.060 different media companies there, other influential people there, and I jumped at the chance. So
00:02:22.580 he sent me a message. He said, here's what we're doing. We're going to be gone for three
00:02:26.200 days. I had to move my schedule around, clear that schedule and reach back out to him. I
00:02:31.600 said, man, I'm in, flights are already booked, and I'm ready to go. Now, this doesn't seem
00:02:36.460 on the surface that great of a story, right? It doesn't seem like this is all that newsworthy,
00:02:41.780 but let me tell you why it is because I cannot even begin to describe how often in my life
00:02:46.560 and how often I see in other people's lives where they'll have opportunities that present
00:02:51.720 themselves, but they'll craft and create all sorts of excuses and all sorts of reasons why
00:02:56.960 they can't take advantage of these opportunities. They'll say they're busy or they're spread too
00:03:01.300 thin or they can't do this or they're tired or whatever they come up with. And ultimately,
00:03:07.180 the reason that you may be denying these opportunities and the potentials that come up and arise is because
00:03:13.140 you're afraid. Simple as that. When you take advantage of these things that do come up and
00:03:18.180 you have these types of potential opportunities and experiences that present themselves, it poses
00:03:24.140 a threat, right? It's not the status quo. There might be investment of your time and your money,
00:03:31.580 and there's the risk and the uncertainty that comes with stepping into the unknown. And so rather than
00:03:38.060 putting ourselves out a little bit, trying to tweak our schedule or make things work,
00:03:42.300 we simply say no. Now, granted, there's an opportunity or I should say a time in a place
00:03:47.380 where you should say no, but there's a time and a place where you should say yes. And if you know
00:03:53.240 very clearly what you want, we've talked about that at length here in the podcast, you know what you
00:03:57.840 want and you're presented with something that is going to move you towards what you want. Your knee
00:04:03.200 jerk reaction might be, no, I don't want anything to do with it. I'm not going to take advantage of it.
00:04:09.120 I'm just going to sit back and do my thing or tell myself that I can or justify why I'm not able to
00:04:14.360 make it work. But you're not going to create any sort of magic, if you will, in your life. You're
00:04:19.960 not going to be able to excel and advance and grow. Anytime that I've had something wonderful and
00:04:26.040 positive happen in my life, it's because I took a chance. It's because I took a risk. It's because
00:04:30.680 I shifted things around. It's because I poured resources and energy and time and money into
00:04:37.380 making my dreams a reality. It's very, very easy to say no to things. It's very easy to justify and
00:04:45.360 rationalize why we're going to continue to live in the same rut that we've always lived in and be
00:04:50.320 comfortable with that. But that's not going to get you what you want. So step number one, guys,
00:04:54.960 you have to figure out exactly what it is you want. If you don't have that figured out,
00:04:58.920 you don't know what to say yes to, you don't know what to say no to, and you keep doing the
00:05:03.840 same damn thing in your life over and over and over again, and nothing changes. And if you're not
00:05:10.260 willing to take these bold, calculated risks to move your schedule around, to invest in yourself,
00:05:15.980 then don't complain in 10 or 20 or 30 years when you're telling yourself and other people that you
00:05:20.620 never had the opportunities that other people did. You did have those opportunities. You just didn't
00:05:25.780 take advantage of them. You either didn't realize them or when they came up, you made excuses as
00:05:30.300 to why you couldn't step into those things. Another great example of this is several years ago, I had
00:05:35.020 a friend reach out to me and he said, hey, I've got an opportunity for you and your wife to go on a
00:05:41.660 cruise. And we've got the thing scheduled and all you have to do is get down here. And I said, well,
00:05:47.060 that's great. And it was in the Bahamas. And I said, what's the catch, right? There's always a catch.
00:05:50.800 I said, what's the catch? He said, the only catch is you have to come down here. You have to run a
00:05:54.900 Spartan race and it's this weekend. Now my knee jerk reaction, oh, I can't, I'm busy. There's too much
00:06:01.580 logistics. What are we going to do with the kids? How are we going to make this work? But it was a
00:06:05.260 wonderful opportunity for me to go spend some time with a friend for him to introduce us to other
00:06:10.760 people that we wanted introductions to, to go run a Spartan race, to spend some time with my family
00:06:14.920 and my wife specifically. And so I said, yes, I said, yes. How many times do we say no when we
00:06:21.640 should say yes? And frankly, vice versa, guys, look for the things that are going to serve you
00:06:26.840 and your family and your goals well, and find a way to say yes to those things. Say yes more often
00:06:33.320 than you potentially would or have in the past. One of my favorite quotes by John Eldridge, he says,
00:06:38.860 deep in his heart, every man longs for a battle to fight, an adventure to live and a beauty to
00:06:43.800 rescue. And if you say no to every little thing that comes up and you justify and rationalize
00:06:49.020 in your mind as to why you can't do those things, you are certainly not living an adventure. You are
00:06:53.700 not taking any risk. You are not exposing yourself to not only the risk, but the potential upside that
00:06:59.000 comes with these things as well. And anything good, as I said before, that's come into my life
00:07:03.440 came because I was willing to say yes to a potential opportunity that frankly, I didn't know if it would
00:07:08.960 work out or not. Now some of those don't, but some of those do. And the few opportunities that do work
00:07:14.720 out make up for the opportunities that don't. Guys, you've got to get yourself in the game. You've got
00:07:19.960 to give yourself some at bats. If you're sitting in the dugout or you're sitting on the sidelines and
00:07:24.020 riding the pine your entire life, you don't have the right to complain about other people's success
00:07:30.120 when you don't have it. The reason those individuals, me and other people, and also you at times in your
00:07:35.860 life have had the success that you have and they've had is because they say yes, when most people
00:07:41.300 would say no. So that is my message to you today. A short one. I think it's, I don't know, less than
00:07:47.300 10 minutes, but the point is made guys. When opportunities arise, when doors open, you need to
00:07:55.340 take a step through them. Do not wait for those opportunities to come to you or to fall in your lap.
00:08:02.240 Do not say no when those things present themselves. Find a way to say yes. Know what's
00:08:08.180 important to you. Know what your priorities are. And when those doors open, you step into those doors,
00:08:14.300 into the uncertainty, into the unknown, and create the life that you're after. That's why I'm here at
00:08:19.900 SHOT Show. It's been easy for me to say, well, I can't take three or four days away from my family.
00:08:24.680 I can't invest in the flight out here. I've got other things. I've got a podcast to do. But I'm telling
00:08:29.760 you what, there's been some great opportunities that presented themselves here at the SHOT Show
00:08:32.980 that I didn't know were available because I entered the door. My buddy who called me a couple of days
00:08:37.660 ago and said, hey, here's this thing we're doing. Do you want in? I said yes. The guy who asked me to
00:08:41.860 go on a cruise, when there was an opportunity to start a podcast, when there's opportunities to
00:08:46.340 connect and network with different people, just say yes. Say yes. And see where it takes you. You never
00:08:52.220 know where it will. And for me, I like the adventure. And I like the potential upside that comes with it.
00:08:57.480 The downside is that you invest a little time and energy and it doesn't go anywhere. But you're
00:09:01.040 still not at a loss when you do that. So guys, that's all I've got for you today. Again, here
00:09:05.260 at Leupold. Again, gracious enough to let me use their booth and their office. It's absolutely
00:09:11.820 incredible. They've got this whole setup downstairs. And then they've got four offices on the top level.
00:09:18.500 This is a booth at a trade show, which is really interesting to think about the amount of investment
00:09:24.300 they have that goes into this. And of course, they're doing some wonderful things. So check
00:09:28.700 them out. Of course, subscribe to the podcast if you're not already. Make sure you share this.
00:09:32.660 And ultimately, here's what I want. I want you to say yes to something this week that you normally
00:09:37.260 wouldn't say yes to. It doesn't have to be some grand thing. Maybe somebody invites you for a pickup
00:09:41.300 game of basketball or invites you to jujitsu or wants to go on a lunch meeting or introduce you to
00:09:46.700 somebody. Just say yes to those things. See where they take you. I think you're going to be
00:09:50.700 pleasantly surprised and you're going to create some results in your life that you may not have
00:09:54.000 even been aware of had you not stepped through that door. All right, guys, get after it. And
00:09:58.660 we'll be back next week. Until then, go out there, take action, say yes a few more times. Become the man
00:10:04.540 you are meant to be. Thank you for listening to the Order of Man podcast. You're ready to take charge of
00:10:09.920 your life and be more of the man you were meant to be. We invite you to join the order at orderofman.com.
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