Strategy Vs. Execution, Dealing with a Bad Boss, and Not Making Yourself the Victim | ASK ME ANYTHING
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Summary
On this episode of the Ask Me Anything podcast, I sit down with my good friend and co-worker, Ryan, to talk about the importance of taking action on your ideas and taking advantage of opportunities. Ryan and I have been friends for a long time, and he is a man of action. He has been with us for almost 4 years now, and we have learned so much from him. In this episode, we talk about how important it is to take advantage of the opportunities that are presented to you, and how you can take full advantage of them.
Transcript
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You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart your own path.
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When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.
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You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong.
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This is your life. This is who you are. This is who you will become.
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At the end of the day, and after all is said and done, you can call yourself a man.
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Kiff, it's glad to be back on the Ask Me Anything. I know, obviously, last week I was gone.
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How are you feeling, man? Have you recovered from your PTSD of having to do it by yourself?
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I'm trying to recover. In fact, I'm just happy that someone else is on this mic with me.
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I'll be honest, it was a little intimidating going solo.
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Yeah, it's intimidating. It's really, really awkward.
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But to your credit, man, you did an excellent job, and we got a ton of positive feedback.
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So I'm actually just thinking about making that a permanent thing.
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I didn't tell you that yet, but we're considering just having you run the AMAs from now on.
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I wouldn't be surprised if you've whittled some type of strategy into your grand scheme of order of man.
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Yeah, a lot of people think what I do is random, and it's not.
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The one thing I will say that I'm really, really good at, it's executing.
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You know, I might not always get it right, but I'm very good at execution.
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The strategy stuff is not necessarily my strength.
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We'll figure it out along the way, and if we mess up, we'll just draw back a little bit, regroup, and then get back into it.
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You know, what's great about that, Ryan, though, is if you focus all your time on strategy, then the strategy has to be right.
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But if you spend less time on strategy, and you just take action, and you do what you do is excellence in all that you do, guess what?
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Well, and the other side I think about, too, is like, what's the greater threat?
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Is the greater threat that you don't plan it well enough, or is the greater threat that you never take action on your ideas?
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And overwhelmingly, the majority of people, the greater threat in their life is that they just don't take action.
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I mean, we're not talking about brain surgery here, right?
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So if we mess up, you know, we may lose a few thousand bucks or something or kill some time that could have been used somewhere else.
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But they're all learning experiences, and nobody's going to die because we mess up.
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Yeah, and there's – I feel like we've said this so many times, but there's so much learning in just in doing that you wouldn't even know – you would be unaware,
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and you would not have the opportunity to even learn from the scenarios without the action, right?
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That action was required to learn those lessons.
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Yeah, that's true, and you can lay this perfect plan and strategy in every situation going absolutely correct, right?
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In this very controlled, isolated environment of your mind.
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And yet, when you start implementing this stuff, you realize, oh, not only did I not plan for that, I didn't even anticipate that that could potentially come up.
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You plan the best you can, do what you can, but if it's keeping you from inaction, then the planning and the strategy is becoming a hindrance rather than actually helping you progress towards whatever path you're wanting to walk.
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And that's why I love your story about how you got started podcasting.
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I think that's a perfect example of just taking action, and then opportunities and ideas and learning presented themselves, and then it evolved into what it is today.
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Yeah, I mean, it's interesting because a lot of people will ask me like, hey, how did you build Order of Man?
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How have you had so much success over the past four years?
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I work my tail off to ensure that what we're doing here is valuable, that we're bringing high-quality guests on, that the programs and the services and everything that we're offering to the events and the products, to all of that stuff is top-notch.
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All right, I'm not discounting that, but when I see articles from the American Psychological Association dismissing, not even dismissing, just flat-out saying that masculinity is somehow inherently wrong or bad or evil, and then just add after add after add, dismissing and downplaying and undermining and mocking and ridiculing masculinity, I can't help but be a little excited about that, knowing that, frankly, we just stepped into something that had been of interest of mine.
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We just stepped into it at the right moment, and the market was completely ready for what it is we're offering.
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And every day, I open up my browser, and I have over a dozen emails or Instagram messages from people who are like, hey, did you see this latest article?
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And I can't help but be a little excited about it because what we're doing here is the antithesis of that mockery of masculinity.
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And so, I'm excited about it because it's opening this window unlike it has been even in the past four years.
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So, you know, I'm getting to a point here, but we hit the market at a very good time, which happened to be very fortunate because I didn't plan that.
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But if I didn't take action, that window could have potentially just passed us by, and I wouldn't even have been able to recognize that it was there.
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It was that action that allowed me to see, oh, there's something here.
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So, it's not just luck because we've heard that term that, how does it go?
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Luck is when opportunity and preparation meet, right?
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And so, there was this huge, huge opportunity in the marketplace for reclaiming and restoring masculinity, which is what we're doing here.
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And so, there was things that were going on a decade before Order of Man that was actually leading up to an opportunity that presented itself and then us being able to capitalize on and walk through that door of opportunity.
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And it seems like that market has just gotten bigger of late.
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Like, when you started Order of Man, it was almost perfect because it gave you a little bit of ramp time.
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We had some leg room, some ramp time to get substantially larger.
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And then now that the floodgates have opened, we're in a position to, like, do good.
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I mean, even just in my own little mind here, I'm thinking, like, oh, keep mocking masculinity.
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Keep coming up with these ridiculous assertions and these pseudoscience type studies that you're doing.
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Because the more you do that, the more you create a desire.
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Just this need for the message that we're sharing of masculinity and why we all need to step up as men in the walls of our home and our businesses and communities.
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And so, as this vocal minority gets louder, it's actually really, really exciting to me because it actually lifts up us – I can't even say that – up as well.
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And I think people are seeing those messages and they're calling bullshit on it.
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And that's actually a really good – that's kind of a good segue into – so, in February – so, what is it right now?
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If you're listening to this today, it's released.
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In two weeks, we are launching our Tribe Builder course, which is basically – there's 20 of us in the Tribe Builder, myself included.
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But it's a four-week course designed to help you take an idea and a thought to – or maybe you already have one – to now, how do we build a tribe and a movement and a growth, an organization, a fraternity, whatever it may look like, around this idea, very similar to what we've done here with Order of Man.
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And so, everything that we're talking about right now is covered in depth and in detail in the Tribe Builder course.
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And I've had people say, they're like, well, this isn't about masculinity.
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But at the same time, it kind of is because we are called, I believe – now, whether we step into the calling or not is different, but we are called to lead.
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And I have – very rarely have I come across an individual man who didn't have an idea, right, or didn't have a vision for the future, didn't have a message or an experience that he feels that can better society.
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Now, some are better at communicating and articulating that vision and idea than others, but we all have ideas.
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And the better that we can get at sharing those ideas, the more that we impact our families, our businesses, our communities, our bank account, our emotional and mental well-being.
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So, even though, yes, it's not directly tied to masculinity, helping men create tribes and movements around issues that are relevant to them quite literally change the world.
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So, that's what the Tribe Builder is all about.
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I think we have like maybe two or three spots left.
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I'd have to look, but I think we only have two or three spots left.
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And if you go to orderofman.com slash Tribe Builder, you can watch a very quick video from me.
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Just know that I'm very involved in the process.
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It isn't something you sign up for and then, I'm done.
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And don't message me and say, hey, when are you doing another one?
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It's like, I kind of feel like doing it right now, so I'm going to do it right now.
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So, if you're even remotely interested, invest in yourself.
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There's 80 other guys from previous courses that have gone through it.
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We're going to help you build whatever it is you're trying to build.
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You're going to hear from Kip Sorensen and myself.
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And if you're interested in that, it's Patreon.
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In fact, one of the little giveaways we're doing right now,
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I'm just trying to pull this up because I've got this on my desk.
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Bear with me here is, I'm trying not to bump my mic because that gets obnoxious.
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So, this is Jocko Willink and Leif Babin's newest book.
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I'm not convinced it's going to be a great idea.
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Order of man t-shirt with a silhouette of Bubba's face on the front with a curb rim hat
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and then a tagline underneath that says, because not every man is perfect.
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I thought you were going to go to his banana hammock comment.
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Guys, if you're interested in that, let us know.
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And if we have enough guys who are interested, then we'll put it out into the world and Bubba
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will be pissed, which actually is the reason it makes it so great.
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500 plus members all working together, working through our battle plans.
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I mean, it's really, really incredible what we've been able to do in the Iron Council.
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And my right-hand man is the, we got to come up with some fancy term, but like team leader,
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leader, leader, team leader, leader, assistant to the leader, team leader.
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Or it's like the assistant to the regional manager.
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So we have a handful of questions from the Patreon members.
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First of all, I want to thank you guys for what you do.
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Order Man has definitely helped me be bolder and more decisive and to own every action in
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I've been having money troubles and I already have a plan and timeline that we'll be working
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towards, but some months are still hard to get by.
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My question is, when it is, when is it okay to ask for help?
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I was raised to be very proud and it's hard for me to admit when I, when I can't make
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ends meet and when I need help from my amazing family.
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So, in fact, I really appreciate that question because I think too many people are so quick
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I would say that in order of priority, you ought to look at more of a hand up than necessarily
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So, what I would suggest is, let's say you're going to ask your family for some money to
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I don't know if that's it, but we'll just use that as an example.
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Rather than asking for money, why not, why not go to your family and say, hey, you know
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I'm kind of struggling to make ends meet, right?
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In the meantime, you know, can I, can I do some yard work around your house this weekend?
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You know, I, I know you've got, you got to do some gravel and you want to put some sod
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I think that speaks significantly higher of you than just saying, hey, can you help me
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And not to say there isn't a point where maybe you'd ask that, but if you can look for a hand
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up rather than a hand out, I think that's the progression of the way that you should
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Maybe there's some things that you can sell around the house.
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Maybe there's some people who are looking for some labor and you can do that.
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Like, there's all kinds of little opportunities to be helped up rather than just giving you
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I try to be charitable and I encourage other men to be charitable, but I'm cautious to accept
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charity, especially if I know I'm fully capable of earning that.
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So, I would say try to find, I don't want to say balance, but find the connection between
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somebody offering some help and then you being able to add some sort of value to that individual
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Ryan, do you think that when we take handouts, it, that we could be a victim of that?
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A little bit, like, get in a place of, you know, oh man, that was easy and oh, I'll just
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Like, there's a little bit of a slippery slope there sometimes when we ask for handouts.
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I think a lot of people feel ashamed and guilty of asking for handouts and frankly,
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And I'm not saying that you shouldn't accept a handout if that's what's needed, but if
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you feel bad about accepting a handout, that to me is the correct emotion.
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Because if you don't feel bad about that, what kind of loser are you?
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Fortunately, we're in the position financially where that's just not necessary right now.
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But I've built a lot of relationships up and I have a lot of relationship capital that
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there are a lot of people who would be willing to help out if need be.
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But if I don't feel bad about that, I'm kind of a scumbag, quite honestly.
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And I know that might sound really harsh because there are people who are incapable of paving
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their own way and providing their own resources.
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What I'm talking about is a man who's potentially down on his luck a little bit.
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He's beat up or the economy or whatever else it is.
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But he knows that he's fully capable mentally, physically, emotionally of providing and carving
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his own path and yet he isn't doing it for whatever reason.
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That feeling of guilt or inadequacy is actually a positive thing because hopefully what it
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does is drives you not to be in that position anymore.
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Like, we live in this society that's so sensitive.
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It's like, oh, I don't want anybody to feel bad.
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I think about my son's sports teams, for example, is when they lose, I want them to feel bad
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No, guys, look, last week we got throttled, man.
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I think the score was like 45 to 12 or 15 or something.
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But right now, you have an opportunity to show me what kind of heart you have.
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Or do you continue to drive and drive and earn some of that respect back that maybe we lost
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And I know that you're feeling down and you're feeling bad about it.
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You should feel bad about it because we are here to win.
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And when we're not doing that, you should feel bad.
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And what that does is that drives us then to come back next week and figure out where
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And I think there's way too many people out there who are like, oh, it's okay, guys.
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When you become an adult, there's no metric in life that says, hey, Kip, how much fun are
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You can go ahead and pay me in fun tickets this month on your mortgage bill.
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In real life, what we look at is we look at performance.
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And so when you feel bad because you're underperforming, good.
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And it's my job as a man and their coach to help bridge the gap between feeling bad about
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a loss and how we use it as fuel to improve moving forward.
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But the point is, feel bad about needing a handout.
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Try to offer some sort of value in exchange for the value you're receiving.
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Actually, as of this recording, I'm going to be interviewing him tomorrow.
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I've heard his name reference as David Effing Goggins, right?
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I don't know where I heard that, but like someone, whenever they talk about him, they
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And Effing, that's my Utah version of the other one.
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Like, in fact, now what I think of him, I think David Effing Goggins.
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I mean, it'll be fine, you know, but I'm intimidated to be able to sit down with a guy
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Did you hear my interview with TJ Dillashaw yet?
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I just sent him a message on Instagram and I said, hey, man, I know you're doing this
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I know what you're, I know you've got a fight coming up.
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Here's, here's how this is going to benefit you.
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He's like, yeah, man, I really appreciate that.
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I'd love to talk with you about it after the fight.
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And then I was on my hunt in Arizona and he sent me a message on Instagram.
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He's like, Hey dude, if you want to do it, like I can make it work.
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And I was on a hunt in Arizona in the middle of nowhere, a little small town.
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And then I got off the, off Instagram and message when he confirmed.
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And I was like, crap, how are we going to make this work?
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Like, so, so I drove to a little, the middle of the day, I drove to a little diner where
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I think the, I think the waitress there was frustrated with me, but we got it done and
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And it was a cool conversation with an incredible, an incredible man.
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I mean, somebody who's at the top of his game is just doing incredible things.
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His, his style with, once he started being coached with, uh, Dwayne Ludwig, his style
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He actually talked about his angles are just, oh man.
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He actually talked about that because he was working with what team alpha, alpha male,
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And so I talked to him about loyalty because that's the grief he got when he left alpha male
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and he had, he had that falling out with Garbrandt and everything.
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He's like, yeah, dude, people always want to talk about loyalty.
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And we traveled, he says we traveled the world together.
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And he was talking about how, how, when he was with alpha male, he's like, dude, we were
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He's like, we were fighters, but we weren't winning any belts.
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And it wasn't until he came on board that we actually started winning and we were, we're
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And we started winning belts and champions and championships.
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And it was pretty cool how he talked about loyalty and how he talked about his coach and
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the, the admiration and level of respect he had for him too.
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So yeah, man, I'm excited for that fight this weekend.
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What's your process for creating, editing, and releasing podcasts?
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I'll be starting one soon on horse human interactions and the impact.
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And the impact that relationship has on healing and trauma.
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Interested in knowing the mechanics of podcasting that you have found useful.
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Not that I want to discount your question because it is a solid question.
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Anybody who's wanting to start a podcast, just Google this.
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I don't need to answer this question because that is the exact guide that I used.
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He's not pulling any punches in the free version either, but it's all right there.
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I think he made it into a course now, like a paid course.
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So I would just say use the free version because that's what I've used to build this incredible
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And then I would also suggest that if you're wondering what equipment Kip and I use, I've got
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a stationary like home recording setup and then I've got a backpack behind me here with
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my travel pack because sometimes I'll travel and like I'm going down to Vegas to meet with
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Goggins, for example, if you go to order of man.com slash podcast gear, it's just a PDF and
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I'll show you with links so you can go right to where you need to with my stationary gear and
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So Pat Flynn's guide to podcasting and then order of man.com slash podcast gear, I think
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Charlie, best practices for transitioning from one battle plan to another, like from
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So for those of you who don't know what we're talking about, we do quarterly battle planning,
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In fact, I've got the battle planner that we use that we've made available.
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This is what I've used and I know a lot of guys are using this and we offer these, but
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So it'll be the same size, um, leather bound journal, but inside will be a 12 week battle
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planners to be, to be able to track your 12 weeks.
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But what I would say is you got to do your after action review to transition.
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You've got to look at it and say, okay, what did I accomplish?
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Now you can talk about, well, where do I double down right now?
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Cause that's one of my goals is I want to lose, not even weight necessarily, but body
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So over the past three weeks, I've lost just under 3% body fat.
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Um, so as I get to where I want to get, uh, come, come the end of this first quarter, then
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I'm going to evaluate that and say, okay, I hit my target and I know I'll hit my target.
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Now it's about getting that marathon under my belt because I've lost 15 pounds of body
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And so the marathon is going to be that much easier.
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Uh, what skillsets or techniques or strategies did I do well with?
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And then you answer that fifth question, which is what am I going to do moving forward?
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Uh, for me, it was deadlifting for a long time.
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Now I have, I have now, but I was like stuck there.
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So I had to evaluate, okay, am I doing the right type of training?
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And then I just tweaked my battle plan moving forward so that I could actually hit that
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That that's how you transition doing the after action review and very few people actually
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Well, and I think there might be a time in a season sometimes as well.
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Like when you started Q4, maybe the top priority was X, Y, Z and come January, things have
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And so you may need to pivot and go, Hey, I was focused on deadlifts, but now this is,
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uh, something came up and this is a more pressing issue, right?
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Well, yeah, I mean, we were going to do, so we've got our legacy event.
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It's a father son event coming up April 11th and the four through the 14th.
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Uh, and I was going to do an uprising event, one for just men, but I actually, at the end
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of last quarter, nixed that completely, that, that men's only event, uh, because we are in
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the process of potentially buying a new property.
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And so I knew with everything else that I had going on and getting the property, which
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is where I plan on running events that I couldn't do both.
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And so I nixed it because now the priority is the property.
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Once we get that squared away and taken care of, then we can come back to looking at that.
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So you've got to be able to evolve and adapt along the way.
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If your plan is so rigid that it doesn't allow for flexibility, you are going to miss
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I mean, you're going to go crazy because you're beating your damn head against the wall
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against something that frankly may not even be a priority or relevant to you anymore.
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And so some guys will say, well, I can't change my battle plan.
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The enemy will, will destroy you because you aren't flexible in taking new input and
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stimulus into consideration to make adjustments along the way.
00:29:09.340
Well, and that's why we have those checkpoints, right?
00:29:11.600
As part of the battle plan where you're, you're evaluating is what I'm doing effective.
00:29:19.240
So then that way you can get the results that you're right.
00:29:21.040
And you, and you don't even have to wait until the 12th week to adjust.
00:29:25.660
If you need to adjust three weeks into it, make the adjustment course correct and get
00:29:30.000
it figured out and get back on track or, or change courses, whatever, whatever it is for
00:29:38.500
You mentioned that you lived in Dubai in the past.
00:29:40.240
Any word of advice for an expat who recently moved there?
00:29:42.700
Um, no, I, I mean, I didn't live there for an extended period of time, so I don't know
00:29:50.880
I mostly just stayed in hotels during the whole time.
00:29:56.720
Uh, you got to keep that on the down low, uh, believe it or not.
00:30:04.300
Um, I considered moving there permanently, uh, for a period of time and really the things
00:30:10.400
that kind of drove me not to is one, I don't, I want to feel comfortable, uh, my wife being
00:30:16.900
by herself most of the time and if she needed to go to the store by herself and whatnot.
00:30:21.380
And I just hated the idea that, uh, you know, if I went to, wanted to go to church, I was
00:30:26.340
going to church in some apartment with no markings on the table because it was illegal to do so.
00:30:34.580
So there's no, like an official chapels, right?
00:30:37.540
You'd have to meet in someone's house and you couldn't like publicly like advertise or
00:30:45.800
There's a, there's a huge, I don't know about you guys.
00:30:48.180
I mean, I'd be interested in someone's opinion on this, but I feel like there's this huge unspoken
00:30:58.720
Um, and we can get into some other things I've learned, uh, later in years about Dubai,
00:31:10.320
So we're jumping right into iron council questions.
00:31:15.520
Uh, every time you bring up the idea of masculinity is under attack.
00:31:19.580
There's a lot of pushback on the Facebook slash Instagram pages pages that this is somehow
00:31:25.900
Can you talk about how to tackle this from a place of sovereignty?
00:31:31.700
Some, somebody mentioned this the other day because I had posted, I don't know, a video
00:31:35.280
of, of, I can't even remember a video, some dismissal of masculine, something, something
00:31:41.120
I get, like I said, I get a lot of them and somebody's like, Oh, well, I guess it's 2019.
00:31:45.740
I'm like, look, if you disagree with something that doesn't make you a victim, what the victim
00:31:58.220
They were unable to help themselves in a situation, whether that's a physical altercation
00:32:03.040
or, you know, we were talking about handouts earlier.
00:32:09.200
So somebody that recognizes some sort of injustice or some sort of wrongdoing in the world is
00:32:16.760
only a victim as if they use it as an excuse to be helpless.
00:32:20.900
But if somebody recognizes something wrong, like I have here with order of man and recognizing
00:32:25.140
that we do need to reclaim and restore masculinity.
00:32:27.560
I recognize that there's a dismissal at a minimum and on the far side and attack on what it means
00:32:35.120
I haven't put myself in the victim category because I'm dealing in, I don't want to say
00:32:44.260
So I don't want to go so bold as to say it's objective.
00:32:50.000
But I, I remove myself from the victim category because I do something about it.
00:32:54.940
And in, and what I see in the world has empowered me to take a new course of action for myself.
00:33:02.520
And in the meantime, inspire other people to do the same.
00:33:08.180
I mean, you talk about your wife, for example, not, not feeling totally secure that she can
00:33:15.340
You know, there's a greater threat potentially there, right?
00:33:17.960
So how does she remove herself from the victim category?
00:33:21.660
I think we talked about this a week or two ago when we said you learn martial arts.
00:33:26.560
Now you take what potentially could be a very real threat and you, and you, and you lessen.
00:33:33.860
I'm not going to say you completely diminish, but you lessen that threat because you remove
00:33:38.420
yourself from the victim category and you put yourself in a new category, which says that
00:33:43.040
I am now a martial artist, or I am now capable of defending myself, or I can now be a little
00:33:51.280
So these situations don't actually come up or happen to me.
00:33:54.920
That's how we move from victim to something else entirely.
00:33:58.640
So there's a lot of things that get tossed around, like, especially in this like masculine,
00:34:10.580
Like, anytime I hear people say things like this, I'm like, this is somebody who's not
00:34:15.660
really intelligently thinking about the, the, the scenario, the circumstance, the actual
00:34:23.000
You know, we're, we're not, we're not acting as victims.
00:34:27.140
We're, we're, we're doing something different here to empower us as men to be the type of
00:34:40.400
I don't think a lot of people who listen to this consider themselves helpless, but anytime
00:34:43.800
somebody either a considers themselves helpless or acts in a way that's helpless, like, well,
00:34:52.900
That is not what we're talking about here when it comes to a disagreement or some sort
00:34:59.320
I mean, the perception that I have whenever I hear victim mentality is, is they're really
00:35:04.760
They just, it's just a perception that they have that they're victims.
00:35:08.680
But in most cases, when I even use that term, when I think of like, I'll stop acting like
00:35:13.280
a victim, I'm not really saying like they are a victim.
00:35:18.740
There's plenty of things that you could do to take control of the circumstance, but you're
00:35:25.160
I mean, it's, it's rare that there's actual victims.
00:35:32.120
I, again, I think it just comes down to the helplessness factor.
00:35:41.060
And most of us just aren't in that category, even though we, we, a lot of times we like
00:35:46.760
to place ourselves in that category because it's easier.
00:35:51.000
Oh, the reason I didn't get ahead is because my boss was an asshole.
00:35:54.080
And the reason that I don't have any money in the bank account is because the economy
00:35:57.100
and the reason that my marriage is in shambles is because my wife is a bitch.
00:35:59.900
And the reason blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
00:36:02.240
All excuses to excuse away your own inadequacies.
00:36:10.700
Like your might, your wife might need to work on some things.
00:36:21.980
So that's, that's the trap is that there's a lot of reality.
00:36:26.700
And because there's truth to it, we, we just rely so heavily on it.
00:36:30.280
But here's what I thought, especially as I was early in my financial planning career,
00:36:33.720
I got into the financial planning business when I was in 2008, 2009.
00:36:37.660
So like the worst time you possibly get into financial planning.
00:36:42.580
And I looked around and I saw a lot of guys who weren't performing.
00:36:53.360
And so I started to pick up some of that language.
00:36:55.880
Oh, the reason I'm struggling in my financial planning practice as a new advisor is because
00:37:00.320
the economy's bad and this is happening and that's happening and I can't do anything about it.
00:37:04.400
But I noticed, and I've talked about this before, that there was two guys in my office
00:37:09.720
who were perpetually performing week in and week out, month in and month out, year after year,
00:37:16.660
always at the top, even in a quote unquote bad economy.
00:37:20.280
And I thought to myself, if the economy is really that bad, then shouldn't everybody
00:37:26.740
Like if it is genuinely the economy that's keeping me from succeeding, then it would be,
00:37:33.860
And yet here I found these two individuals who are thriving in what everybody else was
00:37:44.560
And long story short, I sat down with these guys and I eventually partnered up with them
00:37:48.820
and they taught me what they knew about how to run a financial planning practice and how
00:37:54.660
And they didn't turn themselves into the victim.
00:37:57.060
In fact, they realized that these are opportunities to capitalize because everybody's bitching and
00:38:00.840
moaning and complaining and wandering around like with their heads up their asses because
00:38:06.720
And yet these two guys are running around scooping up clients left and right because everybody
00:38:13.300
These are, these are individuals who could have taken the victim mentality and yet they
00:38:34.640
Anything you realized after the fact that you missed and would have liked to included ideas
00:38:41.600
So yeah, um, I, you know, it's a good question.
00:38:44.700
I need to look and see how many books we've sold.
00:38:53.040
Um, as far as the after action review, I felt like I did a really, really good job in getting
00:39:07.940
I'd been thinking about writing it for years and I'm like, oh, I'm just going to keep putting
00:39:15.600
I'm like, man, I woke up and I just, I realized I'm like, if I'm ever going to write a book,
00:39:19.380
like I need to just, I need to write and I need to do it in the next 90 days.
00:39:23.100
In fact, that was one of my 12 week battle plan objectives.
00:39:30.960
And yeah, I missed some days, but I made up for them.
00:39:33.400
And so I hit that deadline and I felt like I did that really, really well.
00:39:39.600
It'll still be on a schedule, but it'll be spread out so I can give myself some breathing
00:39:43.020
Cause that was a really, really stressful time for me.
00:39:45.300
I'm trying to balance that and the family and the business and everything else that we
00:39:54.120
The, the, the way that it looks in the formatting was awesome.
00:40:01.640
Like we had a lot of good pieces in the puzzle.
00:40:06.280
Um, you know, there were some things with the publisher that, that I think there was
00:40:09.740
some miscommunication between them and I that, that, uh, how do I, I don't want to say bitter,
00:40:16.460
but just like a little bit of like frustration between both of us, I think, but I didn't know.
00:40:21.720
And I wish I would have known that stuff and had a better sense of expectations, but because
00:40:25.720
I didn't know that, uh, and, and part of that was because the timeline I was on, uh, that was
00:40:32.800
I think I would work on that relationship and the expectations of the publishing process
00:40:38.880
Um, yeah, I've got, I've got some ideas for some new books.
00:40:42.460
I've thought about, um, not a kid's book, but talking more about raising boys.
00:40:47.840
That's become really, really relevant and important to me.
00:40:50.520
Um, I've also taught, I thought about breaking down the three components of masculinity, protect,
00:40:55.660
provide, preside a little bit more in depth and like really going into detail, uh, but
00:41:00.700
look, but being a lot more, uh, factual and looking at the research and the history behind
00:41:06.160
what it has traditionally and generally meant to be a man using studies and resources and
00:41:11.260
scientific based, uh, studies and findings to prove that this is generally what the majority
00:41:18.740
of societies have considered quote unquote manly and then why it's so important we step
00:41:23.860
into those roles and what the, what the result of not stepping into those roles is and how
00:41:29.560
we more adequately fulfill our responsibilities.
00:41:33.140
I've got a lot of stuff on my mind about a book and I imagine towards the second half of
00:41:40.380
Anything in the current book that you feel you wish you would have included?
00:41:47.340
Uh, no, no, I feel like I did a really good job on the book.
00:41:54.100
I think the thing I would have included is I would have, I wrote it from a position of
00:42:14.840
Incorporating those research and those, those findings and the more historical accounts.
00:42:21.860
I think I could have merged more of that in to give it a stronger foundation than it
00:42:28.420
had rather than just personal anecdotal evidence.
00:42:34.740
Although that's that, that's the time consuming part, right?
00:42:39.480
And frankly, it's the part that I'm not great at.
00:42:41.500
You know, I've always been somebody who's like, people ask me about my faith a lot.
00:42:45.340
They're like, well, how do you know, like you believe in God, how do you know, or how
00:42:48.500
do you know that the church you belong to is the right church?
00:42:53.700
It's that I just feel like that's the right thing.
00:42:57.420
I wish I could explain it more in depth than that.
00:42:59.840
I wish I had some great in depth dissertation or analysis for you to ponder.
00:43:05.900
I just, I've always, I've always trusted my gut and I know when my gut says do this, that
00:43:13.420
Um, and I know that when it says don't do this, then I shouldn't do that.
00:43:17.120
And every time I've gone against my gut instinct, I've, I've failed.
00:43:22.860
So I think there's, there's real power in, in just listening to what either your gut
00:43:30.900
or my belief is divine inspiration is telling you, right?
00:43:37.240
And so when I listened to that calling, it serves me very, very well.
00:43:40.720
So it's never really put me in a position where I have to, I feel like I have to like
00:43:51.200
I just realized that I believe, I believe so with so much conviction that it's hard
00:43:58.920
for me to understand why anybody else would think differently.
00:44:02.920
Last night I was, um, was the last, it was the night before last and we're, we're reading
00:44:09.120
scriptures and it said something about, man, I can't remember the question, but I had, uh,
00:44:15.060
had a question at the end of the book around, you know, how is, how is, how is
00:44:21.200
the teachings of, of Jesus unique, you know what I mean, compared to other things like
00:44:31.880
My family, man, sometimes they're like, oh, dad.
00:44:37.700
Um, but one of the things I said to my kids is guys, um, spirituality and religion, they
00:44:48.860
There is no, there is no like, oh, let me, let me grab a book that was written hundreds
00:45:01.860
Like it requires what, what you were talking about earlier, action.
00:45:07.140
There's, that's the only way that you are actually learning anything spiritually now.
00:45:13.020
And we can apply this to other aspects of life, but that's how it works is you do, you
00:45:18.260
see the fruit of your labor and you go, yep, that's good for me.
00:45:24.380
There is no logical, like, oh, let me, let me think through this.
00:45:34.380
And I think a lot of people will say, well, that's an easy cop-out.
00:45:40.680
It's just, well, not only that, it's just a different metric.
00:45:44.660
Like we all have tools in our tool belt and we all have ways of measuring whatever
00:45:48.980
from, you know, how much, uh, bandwidth we have on the internet to how long our beard
00:46:04.480
And to say that a feeling isn't a metric, isn't some sort of tool that you can tap into
00:46:18.260
Like not everything has to be proven scientifically for it to exist.
00:46:22.820
There's things that exist that, well, well, what is it?
00:46:30.400
We know there's a force acting upon molecules and the things that we interact with.
00:46:38.640
We, we see scientifically the evidence of it and yet we can't explain it.
00:46:45.420
There's a phenomenon that we just can't fully articulate, but it is present and it doesn't
00:46:58.420
Billy Hattridge, how important is prayer to you and your family?
00:47:02.680
It is incorporated into a set routine or more spur of the moment?
00:47:11.520
So I'm up about five 30, uh, getting stretched out, you know, hydrating, things like that.
00:47:15.960
And then I go into the gym, work out for an hour.
00:47:18.420
And the first thing we do is a family scripture study.
00:47:21.780
So we read the scriptures and people ask me like, Oh, what's your devotional?
00:47:30.860
Uh, and then, so there's, there's six of us in the family.
00:47:35.740
So there's six of us in the family, five of us who are capable of, of giving a prayer.
00:47:40.460
So Monday's me, Tuesday's my wife, uh, Wednesday's my oldest son, Thursday's my second son.
00:47:47.220
And so we just take turns and we do a morning prayer and we talk about what we're thankful
00:47:50.940
And we talk about, um, you know, we, we, we ask for guidance and direction and we ask
00:47:55.620
for an open heart and an open mind to be able to serve and learn and do the things
00:47:58.640
that, that he would have us do, uh, and then throughout the day, you know, anytime, for
00:48:03.160
example, I'm, I'm driving down to Vegas, which is an hour and a half drive from, from here
00:48:06.720
to Vegas, not very far, but we'll, we'll say a family prayer that basically is that dad
00:48:14.280
He'll have, uh, God's inspiration, um, and, and guidance and direction as he's doing his
00:48:20.300
That's meaningful and significant and that the family will stay safe as dad's away.
00:48:25.060
Uh, and then if, you know, I'd get myself into a situation where maybe I feel
00:48:28.620
uncomfortable or I need some guidance or help, like spur of the moment, I'll pray and, and
00:48:33.300
ask for guidance and ask for direction and ask for some clarity and focus.
00:48:36.440
And, and even more so than that, I think this is really important about prayer that I think
00:48:54.720
I think the way that it works is that God's given you all the tools and gifts and the
00:48:59.020
abilities and the talents and the ability to discern and come up with your own solutions.
00:49:09.900
You know, we're, we're considering a move to Maine.
00:49:11.800
And I know a lot of people say, well, should I move or shouldn't I move?
00:49:17.440
And then I, and then in earnest prayer, I ask, am I doing the right thing?
00:49:23.920
Here's why I feel like this is the path that we are meant to go.
00:49:27.920
And here's why I think this is going to be a good thing for us.
00:49:33.160
Are there things that I haven't yet considered that I ought to consider in our planning?
00:49:37.540
And it's, it's those moments of clarity that, that unlock something that maybe I didn't
00:49:44.720
Some, some, some information or some perspective that I hadn't considered because I had done the
00:49:52.500
And a lot of people say, oh, just pray, pray, pray, pray.
00:49:58.720
A lot of, one of the things I talk about quite a bit is, is people say, well, if it's God's
00:50:03.620
Well, you know, if, if, if, if they want to do it, they can make it happen.
00:50:20.560
They're sitting here waiting for me and here God is sitting waiting for us.
00:50:25.560
It's just, I just wish more people would, I'm not saying don't rely so heavily on, on,
00:50:31.080
on God, I'm just saying, understand that you, he's already given you the tools.
00:50:39.340
When we talk about this all the time, you know, where, where's learning located?
00:50:44.200
You know, sometimes it's, it's the learning is in the process of making the mistake and
00:50:49.480
making the bad decision and the stress of, is this the right thing?
00:50:53.600
I mean, those are all great opportunities to learn in advance.
00:50:56.640
I mean, it's folly for us to think that those are, we can, uh, evolve and become better
00:51:04.940
Like so many of us are praying for an easy life.
00:51:10.600
Which you might as well just pray and say, please don't let me progress and become a
00:51:19.840
And in a lot of people, the word I don't like, I don't like this word happy.
00:51:27.340
Well, let me say, by the way, with authentic, cause you mentioned this in the podcast the
00:51:31.460
It's not that I don't appreciate the meaning of the word.
00:51:36.300
It's not that I don't appreciate the meaning of the word.
00:51:38.060
I just don't like the word itself because it's marketers have got ahold of it.
00:51:43.060
And because marketers have got ahold of it by their very definition.
00:51:48.920
By, by the very definition of a marketer, they're not authentic.
00:51:57.720
So anytime a marketer gets a word of a hold of a word, like integrity and authentic and
00:52:07.280
It's like, you just, you're not being real to me right now.
00:52:10.640
You just like completely changed the meaning and the significance of that word.
00:52:14.220
So it's not that I don't believe in the meaning.
00:52:44.780
Happy is just like this state of perpetual bliss.
00:52:49.240
Like that'll be, that'll be fun for like an hour.
00:52:53.140
You're like, okay, well, now I'm going to do something now.
00:52:56.820
So I want to be satisfied because I know I did something that I didn't previously think possible
00:53:11.420
Well, I mean, look at, look at Goggins and say, okay, take Goggins life.
00:53:16.520
And then say, what's, what's assumed that he just pursued happiness instead.
00:53:38.560
I have really started to ramp up my training in preparation of an event, and I'm going to
00:53:45.640
This is something that is really important to me to do.
00:53:48.480
Although I talked, talked it through with my wife and she was on board.
00:53:56.480
I'm starting to get the hint that she may not be on board as much as I thought.
00:54:01.560
My question is, do I follow through with my pursuit, knowing it is not a forever thing,
00:54:06.640
or do I back off before she, before her concerns are solidified?
00:54:15.420
So I do not want to begrudge her for voicing them.
00:54:19.780
This extra training takes me away from the family and this leaves her with no help.
00:54:25.140
I think you need to stop for a second and stop assuming all of these little things that
00:54:32.420
you're coming up with that could potentially be in your mind.
00:54:35.420
Because what you said is, I'm starting to get the feeling.
00:54:43.020
Look, look, dude, if you're going to be leaving for months, let's just assume it's months,
00:54:47.840
If you're leaving for months, isn't it nice that she's concerned about that?
00:54:57.600
But that doesn't mean that she doesn't think you should pursue it.
00:55:00.880
It just means she's like, oh, shit, I've got some things I got to deal with.
00:55:05.940
It doesn't mean that it's like, I don't want to do this.
00:55:13.640
If Jeff's going to do this, then that's going to be scary or that's going to be hard.
00:55:20.800
I'm going to be here to take care of the kids myself.
00:55:22.660
And so, she may not even be thinking like, I don't want to stay or she'll have to go or like whatever.
00:55:39.660
Based on what I heard, that sounds like a bunch of unsubstantiated stories that you've made up in your mind.
00:55:48.020
Just sit down with her and talk with her and say, hon, look, we talked about this.
00:55:54.820
Now, I'm catching this vibe or this feeling that maybe somehow you're not on board.
00:56:01.380
And then, you know, maybe, and maybe, maybe she does say, well, yeah, it's, you know, I'm scared or I'm going to miss you or it's going to change things for me.
00:56:14.400
But like, don't assume, don't assume, you know what she's experiencing unless you have a clear communication.
00:56:20.560
Trapped to fall into and we start assuming that, that we know what other people are experiencing based on their behavior.
00:56:39.760
People are weird, including you and including me.
00:56:44.000
We do some really strange things for some really strange reasons.
00:56:48.620
And not only can we not understand them, it's hard for us to articulate that and for other people to understand our behavior.
00:56:55.700
So, we got to be very, very careful on the assumptions here.
00:56:58.700
And what's at stake is that he may not fall through with something that he is very passionate about.
00:57:03.940
And then, you know damn well what's going to happen if he did.
00:57:08.960
Oh, man, I never even achieved that because you were unsupportive.
00:57:17.700
Just demonize her and make her wrong and blame her that why you didn't do it either.
00:57:31.780
How do you deal with a bad work manager, play the long game, or go on the attack?
00:57:44.920
I mean, it's kind of like, what is the martial art like?
00:57:54.720
I would even say in jiu-jitsu, this is what we do.
00:57:58.340
So, going on the attack and going berserk will fail you.
00:58:05.660
If you try to attempt to undermine or undercut or belittle or go over his head, avoid the
00:58:24.000
I said he's better at the game right now than you are.
00:58:31.180
But I'm saying that sometimes the corporate environment is a game.
00:58:34.700
Jocko Willink and Leif Babin have some great stuff.
00:58:54.440
You don't worry about getting the credit or getting the promotion.
00:58:59.140
Because what's going to happen is he's going to get promoted.
00:59:04.480
And who's he going to promote or suggest or recommend to fill his spot?
00:59:12.700
Who made him look like a fool and tried to get him fired?
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Or the guy that actually helped him get a promotion?
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So, either the boss is going to get a promotion and or the people above him are going to see,
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You don't form little mutinies and things like this.
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If you can't do that because it's an environment that's not safe.
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It's either physically not safe or even you're asked to compromise your moral standards.
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Well, that's a situation where you need to move on.
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Just, hey, this is an environment that I can no longer be part of.
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Don't make your boss a better pimp than he is or a better drug dealer.
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I don't think going on the attack is a prudent strategy.
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It's more of a comment and I left it in here because it just helps justify Ryan and I giving crap to Bubba.
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Oh, I thought you were going to say like it was more just a compliment.
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It just justifies us doing what it is we're doing.
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Having just joined the IC, I have only ever heard of Bubba on the podcast, primarily on the AMA with Kip.
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It is, but in all fairness, I mean, Bubba has been with us for years and years and has been instrumental, not only in the movement of order, man, but instrumental in organizing and bringing some structure.
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And I don't want to say dissenting voice, but always being willing to like show the other side like, hey, here's something I recognize that, Ryan, you may see, you may not see, right?
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And so, he's always been completely open and forthright about, but never from a position of like undermining or attacking like this last question.
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And it's always been a position of, hey, I care about you.
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And so, he's always willing to say what needs to be said so that we can create a better experience for the people we're trying to serve.
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So, yeah, we bust Bubba's balls quite a bit and he deserves it, but he gives it back just as much.
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But the side of it that we don't talk a whole lot about is how instrumental Bubba is in growing this movement and bringing to you guys what it is you have in the Iron Council and just order of man in general.
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And the impact that he's had in guys in the Iron Council.
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Even if he is a little off with his hats and banana hammocks.
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He's got a few curb brim hat issues that we need to work on, but on that, he's solid.
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On that note, Bubba's curious if there's going to be a future curb brim batch since the latest success of the previous batches.
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So, they did do really, really well to my – well, it was bittersweet, right?
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I'm like, man, these hats did really well, but I didn't want them to do as well as they did.
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We've got four – well, we just got a new shipment in, so they're in the store now.
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There's four iterations, four color combinations, but we'll probably do some more.
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His request specifically, it sounds like a variation of the Scout.
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And the sizing doesn't get right, and then they're too tight in your forehead.
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Ryan, if your life was made into a movie, what actor, dead or alive, would you want to play and why?
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Ryan, you'd want to be the elf guys in Lord of the Rings, the minors.
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The big, strong guys that live in the mountains.
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But I know you're talking about that guy with a big beard.
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I can't think of his name, but I know who you're talking about.
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If they were going to make a movie about me, I would play in that role, man.
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Him and Lady Gaga, of all people, absolutely killed that movie.
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He's good in, like, Jurassic Park in those two.
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And I'm on, like, a video with Ryan here in that big, luscious beard.
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So we want to appeal to both the guys who can't or don't want to grow beards and those
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who feel like they have a moral obligation to rock it for those who can't or don't want
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I'm really going to have to think about that movie thing.
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So if you have an idea of who should play me, hit us up on, you know, Twitter, Instagram,
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So who should play you in the story of Ryan's life or do you play them?
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If the ideal version of your 80-year-old self could give you one piece of advice to your
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As I consider this move across Maine, it's actually a really interesting social experiment
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to hear how many people are like, oh, why are you moving?
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I know Pete Roberts with Origin out there and Brian Littlefield and their families.
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Ryan's trying to hook up some free geese from Origin.
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It's hardly enough time to make a reasonable decision to move my family across the country.
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I have no logical reason whatsoever other than to go back to our previous question.
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And I know, I know that every man that's sitting on his deathbed is looking back and
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he's not saying, I wish I would have taken a few less risks.
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No, he's saying, man, I should have done that one thing.
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I should have asked that woman out or I should have started that business or I should have
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Should have, should have, should have, should have, should have, should have, should have.
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Which leads me to believe that most of us regret our lives because we're not willing to take
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You're going to, you're not going to be, you know, happy.
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Like we talked about earlier for a little while.
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Play that stuff out and take some more calculated risks.
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You've seen this when, with you being in Boy Scouts, right?
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Like what happens when you take a risk and you go on a backpacking trip and it goes completely
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Like all the mistakes end up being kind of good things, you know, as long as you grow
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How many more iron council questions do we have?
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And then we'll save the Facebook group questions for next week.
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How can one persuade an individual that podcasts are not just a boring waste of time?
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If you're trying to convince them to come to order of man, cause they really need it.
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And yet you're having to like push and prod and poke and pull.
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Just share what you can and let the chips fall where they may.
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Delivery of services with my personal clients or off work invoices, newsletters, schedules, et
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That's what you, that's what you get rid of first because your interaction with clients
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is significantly more relevant and more profitable than sending invoices and inventory and whatever
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So you outsource the office stuff, keep the personal interaction and delivery to customers.
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I would love to hear more about your experience with your son's principal in the paper about
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Curious for how you approach the principal, conversations with your son after, move forward
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Also, when you did an AR of the whole situation, after action review of the whole situation,
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Well, I don't really think this is a fair representation of what happens in society because I, it is
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So for those of you who don't know, my son yesterday got sent to the principal's office
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because he wrote a report titled, how to correctly shoot an AR-15.
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And then he turned it in and the teacher sent him to the principal's office.
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Well, the interesting thing about this is, is that the principal and I, we shoot together
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and we shoot with some young men in our neighborhood through our church program.
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Um, so, so he got sent to the guy that I shoot with occasionally with other young men in the
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Like I wasn't really concerned about it, but the part that he had to take out.
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So the principal did ask him to take one part of it out.
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And the part that he had to take out was the instructions for how to make Tannerite more
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So the principal said, well, you got to take, you got to take this part out, but everything
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Another kid got sent to the principal's office about how to shoot a 410, a little shotgun.
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And the principal said, it's a really good article or it's a really good report.
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Uh, you just need to make sure to add some safety rules in there.
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So he actually had him add stuff to the report.
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The, the T look, I kind of feel like maybe I threw the teacher under the bus a little bit.
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They have a great relationship as teacher and student.
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He took out the instructions for how to make Tannerite more explosive.
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Where, where did you learn that Tannerite stuff from?
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Uh, we blew up some, we, we shot from these guys.
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And then we, uh, how do you say, doctored up the Tannerite to make it a little bit more
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explosive than it, uh, so if you want to learn how come to legacy, order of man.com
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And if the, if the Michler family lived in California, this would have been on the nightly
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I would have been, oh, I would have been proud.
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And I would have been doing national interviews on CNN and Fox about the, how ridiculous it
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is that a child can't talk about something that is, uh, constitutionally protected and
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So about the AR 15, the assault rifle, that's what it sounds like.
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In your opinion, what does it mean to have, uh, what does it mean for a man of action?
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In your opinion, what does it mean for a man of action for me?
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It's balancing my plans and action steps with a confidence and sense of peace, knowing
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In other words, I'm okay either way, but I'm sure going to fight for what I want.
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I think he's asking for the, your opinion on that word surrender, right?
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Um, I've never been a big, if it's God's will kind of guy.
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You know, I, I, I believe that we all have a plan.
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So I submit myself to that plan, but here's the challenge.
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He knows what it is, but I don't because I don't know.
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And this is where we get into the free will discussion.
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And Sam Harris actually talks a lot about this.
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I think there is because we don't know what's going to happen, which makes us act freely.
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Now, if we knew what was going to happen, if we knew the programming, that would influence
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Just like you're doing a, a, a survey or an experimentation.
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If those that you are just there, there's been surveys and studies about this.
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Those individuals who are studied change their behavior.
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If they know they're studied, which, which takes away some of the free will of it.
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I believe that he has a plan for me and I submit myself to that, but I don't excuse myself
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of the responsibility and obligation to do any work required to achieve what it is.
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And then I asked for guidance and direction along the way.
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And frankly, I don't even know if I do want to know what the plan is.
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So long story short, I surrender to him knowing that he has a plan and that when things don't
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work out, regardless of how hard I tried and everything that I did in order to accomplish
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what I thought was a worthy objective, I can take it in stride knowing that, you know what?
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There's a reason that although I put everything I possibly could into making this work, that it
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didn't work out, that it's all going to be okay.
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That is insulting to our creator who's given us everything that we need to do to create
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So I'm going to do everything in my power to live the type of life I feel compelled
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In fact, I made a post about this on Instagram.
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It's like, where is the balance between being sovereign, right?
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Taking responsibility for yourself and surrendering yourself to a higher power.
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I don't think those terms are at odds with each other.
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Instead of talking about you and God, talk about you and your son.
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You want your son to be independent and your daughters.
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You want your sons and your daughters, biological sons and daughters, to be independent.
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I want them to have the tools and the experience and the knowledge and the know-how to be able to make good decisions.
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But I also have goals and aspirations and things that I want them to accomplish.
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And I'm going to allow them to make the decisions that they feel are in their best interest and be there when they need me to help coax them through a challenging situation.
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Or pat them on the back and say, good job when they make the right decisions.
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I think if we looked at the relationship between us and our Heavenly Father a little closer to the way that we look at our relationship between us and our children, I think we would better be equipped to understand how it all plays out.
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Well, and I think if you use your analogy of father and son, I mean, there's moments where we may go to our children and say, hey, I know this is tough.
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That's when your kid is going, okay, I don't see that.
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I think those are the moments of, quote unquote, surrender.
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Where we have to trust in the Lord that, hey, you know what?
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We didn't get through enough, but we got through a lot.
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You guys were really excited to hear from Ryan again.
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Well, and you got through all of the questions last week, which I've never done in my entire life.
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Well, yeah, but this is like usually just half the amount of questions that you normally get.
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If you're interested in the Tribe Builder course, there's roughly two to three spots left.
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The point is, take advantage of opportunities that are being placed before you.
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So if you want to learn more, what's the URL again, Ryan?
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Although there's another button on your keyboard that may confuse you, but we won't talk about that.
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If you're confused, look, if you're confused about what slash to use, do not sign up for Tribe Builder.
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If you want to support this order, you know, we talked about this today, right?
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There seems to be a heightened awareness around masculinity.
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One is to subscribe to this podcast, leave a rating and review, share the podcast with like-minded individuals that could benefit.
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You can join us also on Facebook in the Facebook online group.
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That's facebook.com slash group slash order of man.
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And then for you guys willing to step up even more so and get on the court in life, you can do that through joining us on patreon.com slash order of man.
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Or join the Brotherhood, the Iron Council, where it is very much about being on the court in life, where we are having discussions in this month, in particular around David Goggin's book.
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And we're taking those challenges for you guys that have not read that book.
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And what's great about it is as I'm reading this book, it's like, hey, here's a challenge and find people to talk to.
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I already have 15 guys for me to balance these conversations with.
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And not only are there just 15 other people, but there are 15 other people that are like-minded, that are on the same page.
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We're on the same path and we're getting after it.
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And it's, man, I just, I love the momentum we've had in the Iron Council lately.
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So learn more about the Iron Council at orderofman.com slash Iron Council.
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I'm doing a lot more on Twitter at Ryan Mickler.
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So it's at Instagram at Ryan Mickler, Twitter at Ryan Mickler.
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And then the Facebook stuff is all order of man.
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Tell us who would play me in a movie about my life.
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And just follow Ryan on Twitter because he's twatting all the time.
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And we'll catch you on Friday for our Friday Field Notes.
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And of course, next week, David Goggins and AMAs and everything else that we've got going on.
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Go out there, take action, and become the man you are.
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Thank you for listening to the Order of Man podcast.
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