Order of Man - March 05, 2021


The 1˚ Difference ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES


Episode Stats

Length

20 minutes

Words per Minute

202.01794

Word Count

4,218

Sentence Count

277

Misogynist Sentences

3


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart your own path.
00:00:06.040 When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.
00:00:10.500 You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong.
00:00:15.540 This is your life. This is who you are. This is who you will become.
00:00:19.780 At the end of the day, and after all is said and done, you can call yourself a man.
00:00:24.820 What's up, you guys? This is Ryan Michler. I am the host and founder of the Order Man podcast and movement.
00:00:30.000 I am glad that you're here. I just want to jump right into this one today.
00:00:32.860 I want to talk with you about something that we addressed on the Ask Me Anything on Wednesday.
00:00:39.240 And by the way, if you aren't subscribed to the podcast, make sure you are so you don't miss this Friday Field Notes or the Ask Me Anything or the interview shows that we do.
00:00:48.660 Anyways, as Kip and I were answering a question, I brought up the analogy of being one degree off.
00:00:53.760 If you were on a flight, for example, from L.A. to New York, and you were just one degree off as you left L.A. and you embarked upon your flight,
00:01:05.400 if you were one degree off north, you'd probably land by the time you got to the east coast somewhere in Maine or maybe Nova Scotia.
00:01:12.980 If you're one degree off to the south, you might end up somewhere in north or South Carolina or maybe even Florida.
00:01:19.480 And the point that I made as I talked about this analogy is that even though the one degree off doesn't seem like a big deal,
00:01:26.260 compounded over time, it becomes an exceptionally large deal.
00:01:30.860 And it will completely take you off course to somewhere you don't want to go.
00:01:35.480 So it isn't the one cheat meal that you have that's going to derail you.
00:01:39.860 It's the cheat meal after cheat meal after cheat meal after cheat meal after cheat meal that's going to derail you.
00:01:45.900 It isn't the time that you sleep in or the one day that you happen to miss your exercise or the one conversation that doesn't go well in your relationship.
00:01:56.420 It's the compounding effort.
00:01:58.120 And by the way, this works both positively and negatively.
00:02:00.940 The one degree difference that you make in your life for the better will compound over time if you can string enough of those wins together.
00:02:09.580 The negative choices that you make will compound over time if you string enough of those negative consequences or negative actions, I should say, or lack thereof together.
00:02:21.560 And so I have a lot of guys who will reach out to me on the social media accounts and email and everywhere else and they'll wonder why they're not experiencing the results that they would like.
00:02:33.960 Why don't they have the strength and the body fat percentage that they're after?
00:02:39.080 Why aren't they thriving in their marriage?
00:02:42.060 Why can they not resonate with their children?
00:02:44.240 Why is their career going nowhere and why are people, their employers passing them over for promotions?
00:02:51.300 They can't seem to connect the dots between the small, incremental, seemingly insignificant decisions that they've made compounded over time has produced and yielded the results that they are experiencing.
00:03:04.100 Again, both for the positive and negative right now.
00:03:07.740 So I would ask you, as you consider that going into the weekend, what is it that you're going to do with your time?
00:03:14.860 How are you going to spend your attention and your energy and your focus?
00:03:18.460 Are you going to be making small decisions that don't seem like a big deal that over time will produce less than desirable results?
00:03:26.880 Or are you going to do the things that you should be doing, the things that you know you should be doing, the things you've identified that are important to you that move the needle in the right direction?
00:03:37.160 But here's the trap.
00:03:38.760 A lot of people don't do those small incremental adjustments, those small little daily tasks they know they need to be doing because it won't move the needle in a big way.
00:03:51.260 See, everybody's out there looking for the home run.
00:03:53.660 They're looking for sexy and exciting and the thing that's going to move the needle the most.
00:03:59.500 And while you're going to get some of that, what you need to do is you need to focus on the one degree efforts that are going to produce those results inevitably.
00:04:07.380 You know, my baseball coach used to talk with us about home runs.
00:04:10.900 You know, you'd have guys that are just swinging from bottom up and they're swinging for the fences.
00:04:15.440 And those are the guys that strike out the most.
00:04:17.580 And yet the guys that try to hit the base hits, the line drives, put them on a rope, those are the guys that end up hitting the most home runs.
00:04:24.900 Why is that?
00:04:25.460 Because they have the mechanics right.
00:04:27.860 And once you get the mechanics of a swing right, you're bound to put more out of the park.
00:04:32.600 And you're also bound to get yourself on base more often than the guys who are just swinging for the fences.
00:04:37.720 So, which one are you?
00:04:39.600 Are you the guy swinging for the fences hoping that all you need to do is make that one bit of contact and hope that everything else will fall into line?
00:04:47.520 Or are you the guy that's going to get on base every time you get up to bat?
00:04:51.360 My friend and mentor, Sean Whalen says, success swinging singles.
00:04:56.360 Success swinging singles.
00:04:58.400 That's exactly what I'm talking about right here.
00:05:01.340 Singles, doubles, line drives, getting on base every time.
00:05:05.520 And so, what do these activities look like?
00:05:07.860 What are the things that you need to be doing on a daily basis?
00:05:10.120 And I would tell you and urge you to take notes on what I'm about to share with you here.
00:05:14.160 Or maybe you've identified your own list of daily tasks that need to be completed that don't seem sexy and don't seem glamorous and don't seem all that exciting and don't really seem like they're going to move the needle.
00:05:26.240 See, again, what most people will do is because they can't move the needle as much as they would like, they don't do anything.
00:05:32.600 Oh, you mean, Ryan, just not hitting the snooze?
00:05:34.820 You mean, that's all I have to do?
00:05:36.260 That couldn't possibly be the solution to my problem.
00:05:39.280 And so, what do they do?
00:05:40.320 They keep hitting the snooze button.
00:05:42.540 Oh, Ryan, you know, family dinner, that's not important when it comes to connecting with my wife and kids.
00:05:46.860 You don't know our situation.
00:05:48.100 Our situation is unique.
00:05:49.600 And we can't do that because of our schedules and our time and everything else.
00:05:53.000 And then they wonder why in four, five, six years, maybe 10 years, they experience a divorce or they're not connected with their children.
00:06:01.480 You know, it's the same thing with eating junk food.
00:06:03.360 It's the same thing with missing your exercise and your workouts.
00:06:07.000 And by the way, we know this neuroscience suggests and shows that once you engage in an activity, you are going to quite literally start rewiring your brain to believe that that's the proper way of doing things.
00:06:22.560 And so, if you miss a workout or you hit the snooze button, guess what?
00:06:26.420 You just told your brain that that's the way it should operate.
00:06:29.320 And the brain is, the human brain is always looking for the path of least resistance.
00:06:33.120 So, what are you bound to do tomorrow?
00:06:34.760 Hit the snooze button.
00:06:35.640 And the next day, hit the snooze button.
00:06:37.340 This is why when I don't want to work out and I don't want to get up and I don't want to do the things that I know I should be doing, the things I've committed to doing, I force myself to do it.
00:06:45.960 And it's as simple as that, right?
00:06:48.180 And how do you develop more discipline?
00:06:49.560 You just make the decision and you do it.
00:06:52.100 You don't always have to be happy.
00:06:53.960 You don't always have to be excited about it, but it does have to get done because I want to wire my brain to do the right things, to move in the right direction and to create the right results for me and the people that I have a responsibility and care for.
00:07:07.560 So, what are these seemingly insignificant one degree type decisions and activities that we can be performing on a daily basis?
00:07:17.580 The first one, get up on time.
00:07:19.680 Simple as that.
00:07:20.400 Just get up on time.
00:07:23.520 I don't know what time that is for you.
00:07:25.020 Maybe it's 4.30 and you're part of the whatever 4.45 club or maybe it's 6 or maybe it's 8.
00:07:29.620 I don't know your schedule, but just get up on time.
00:07:31.680 You know what time that is.
00:07:32.560 And when you get up, don't take this little device into your hand and start punching away on the keyboard thinking that, well, you're not even really thinking.
00:07:43.300 I know when I fall into this trap, I'm not really thinking, but it's just habit, right?
00:07:47.960 So, don't start punching away on the phone, getting dragged into social media and emails and all the things that shouldn't have your time and attention.
00:07:56.140 Get up.
00:07:56.980 Move your body.
00:07:57.720 Stretch.
00:07:59.100 Drink some water.
00:08:00.520 Rehydrate.
00:08:00.960 And then get into moving.
00:08:03.480 All right, guys, you've got to move every single day, whether that's going to do some strength training or going for a run or doing a yoga session or going to jujitsu or whatever.
00:08:13.080 Go move your body.
00:08:14.240 A lot of guys will say, well, you know, I do my training at night.
00:08:16.780 And if that's what you do, great.
00:08:17.900 But you still have to move in the morning.
00:08:20.040 You've been sitting still, lying still for the past six, seven, eight hours.
00:08:24.720 Your body needs to stretch out.
00:08:26.460 It needs to move.
00:08:27.760 You need to activate yourself.
00:08:29.340 And so, get moving.
00:08:31.420 And then when you get back, have some sort of hydration, excuse me, hygiene routine.
00:08:37.700 Shower, shave, brush your teeth.
00:08:39.520 Like, have a routine.
00:08:40.480 Build in a routine.
00:08:41.800 Make the bed.
00:08:42.480 That's another one.
00:08:43.360 I think it was Admiral McRaven who wrote the book.
00:08:46.320 I believe I could be wrong on that.
00:08:47.680 You guys can correct me if I am.
00:08:49.460 Wrote the book, Make Your Bed, I think.
00:08:52.340 I believe it's called.
00:08:53.120 And he talks about the importance of getting that small victory under your belt.
00:08:57.420 And some guys, and I've said it too.
00:08:58.700 Oh, that's not important.
00:08:59.700 Oh, that doesn't have any relevancy in things.
00:09:01.340 You bet your ass it does.
00:09:03.040 Because the way you do that is an indicator regarding how you'll do the rest of your day.
00:09:08.320 So, get up.
00:09:09.540 Get hydrated.
00:09:10.420 Get moving.
00:09:11.440 Have a hygiene routine.
00:09:13.820 Make your bed.
00:09:14.480 Clean your room.
00:09:15.160 Do what you have to do.
00:09:16.000 Organize your office.
00:09:16.780 And then one thing that I do every day that, well, I'll tell you this.
00:09:20.800 I'll say it the other way.
00:09:21.740 If I miss doing this every single day, it's my battle planner planning out each and every day.
00:09:27.340 The day just inevitably goes worse.
00:09:30.620 Inevitably.
00:09:31.480 If I don't sit down and start mapping out how I'm going to perform, how I'm going to show up,
00:09:36.400 how I'm going to do my day, what activities and priorities and tasks need to be accomplished,
00:09:40.940 I'm going to get less done.
00:09:42.540 I'm going to be less effective and less productive.
00:09:45.240 And then when I'm done with my work day, I'm going to be disengaged from my family
00:09:49.080 because I'm going to be so focused on all the things that I didn't get done that I should
00:09:52.580 have throughout the day that I can't be available and present for the people that I love, namely
00:09:58.460 my family.
00:09:59.740 And so, doing something as small as writing out my tasks and just going through it and
00:10:04.620 thinking, okay, well, I got to do this and I got to call this person and I got to reach
00:10:07.740 out to this individual and I got to send this email and I got to work on this task makes
00:10:11.640 a huge, huge difference with how you're going to spend your day.
00:10:15.240 You know, then you get into lunch and you get into your activities and you get into
00:10:18.240 things.
00:10:18.780 Don't be distracted.
00:10:20.500 Carve out time to be on your phone, to be on social media, time block for emails.
00:10:25.940 These are little one degree differentiators.
00:10:28.700 A lot of people will say, Ryan, what's the number one thing you can do to be successful?
00:10:32.240 It isn't just one thing.
00:10:34.260 It never is.
00:10:35.720 If it were just one thing, I think everybody would be independently wealthy.
00:10:40.240 They'd be extremely happy and fulfilled.
00:10:42.060 They'd have the six pack abs.
00:10:43.720 They'd be making the kind of money they want to make, having fulfillment in their career.
00:10:47.520 If it was just one thing, it isn't.
00:10:50.360 It's the one degree things.
00:10:52.000 It's all of them.
00:10:53.080 It's the little things that compound throughout the day.
00:10:55.900 Another thing, how do you show up?
00:10:58.740 How do you present yourself?
00:11:00.780 What clothes are you wearing?
00:11:01.860 What's your grooming like?
00:11:03.160 How do you communicate to other people?
00:11:05.000 What does your space look like?
00:11:06.500 Is it clutter and chaos and confusion everywhere in your office or in your bedroom or in your car?
00:11:12.920 Are there Burger King wrappers all over the floor and trash everywhere and it just looks disgusting?
00:11:18.560 Because if it looks that way, odds are that that's going to spill over into other facets of your life.
00:11:24.140 It's going to, the mess of your car is going to spill over into your relationship.
00:11:27.700 The mess of your office is going to spill over to the relationship that you have with your clients.
00:11:33.280 It's the way it works.
00:11:34.640 So, you want to get better?
00:11:35.960 Keep a clean office.
00:11:37.300 Keep a clean car.
00:11:38.960 Keep a clean, organized, thoughtful environment.
00:11:42.700 One that's conducive to your success.
00:11:45.340 Now, to continue to go throughout the day when you get home, what are you doing between the time that you're working and the time that you're engaged with your family?
00:11:51.540 Are you decompressing?
00:11:53.020 Are you shutting work off?
00:11:54.600 Are you digesting what happened throughout the day?
00:11:57.820 Are you planning what might happen tomorrow?
00:11:59.780 Are you gearing up for how you're going to perform with your family and how you're going to show up?
00:12:04.720 Because if you don't, then you're going to show up less effective.
00:12:08.000 Are you having dinner?
00:12:09.000 Are you sitting down with your family and discussing ideas and thoughts and insights and what's working and what isn't?
00:12:14.440 What your family enjoyed throughout the day and what they struggled with?
00:12:18.180 Little, small conversations and questions.
00:12:20.760 It's one degree conversations and questions that you can have that will improve the relationships that you're after.
00:12:27.300 And what do you do once your kids go to bed and you're winding down for the night?
00:12:32.180 Do you sit your ass on the couch and watch a movie or watch part of the latest series that you're watching?
00:12:36.380 Or do you pick up a book and do you read 10 pages, 15 pages, read for a half an hour?
00:12:41.920 Oh, Ryan, how's that going to improve my life?
00:12:44.920 That's not going to change my life.
00:12:46.000 It's going to change your life if you do it every day for the next 60, 90, 120, 365 days.
00:12:53.100 And that's what I'm talking about.
00:12:54.380 One degree compounded over time consistently without fail is what moves the needle the furthest.
00:13:02.540 And it's predictable, by the way.
00:13:04.840 I don't want varying results.
00:13:06.440 I don't want up and down.
00:13:07.440 I want highs and lows and everything else.
00:13:09.180 I want predictable, steady results.
00:13:11.660 And I do that by showing up consistently.
00:13:14.500 And inevitably, I know that I will produce the results that I'm after.
00:13:18.340 What time are you going to bed?
00:13:19.600 Are you going to bed at midnight or 1 o'clock or 2 o'clock every single night and getting 5 or 6 hours of sleep?
00:13:25.840 Or are you going to bed a half an hour to an hour earlier and getting the full 7 to 8 hours?
00:13:30.900 Because I can assure you, I can guarantee you, you can go back and listen to our guests on sleep.
00:13:36.400 And I can assure you that the studies suggest that getting the proper amount of sleep and the right type of sleep
00:13:44.520 is going to drastically increase your performance.
00:13:48.300 And I get it.
00:13:49.200 You know, I've said things like, I'll sleep when I'm dead and sleep is for the week and I only need 5 hours.
00:13:54.940 And you know what?
00:13:56.700 Maybe somebody can do it like that.
00:13:59.220 I can't personally do it like that.
00:14:01.560 So, I'm not going to rely on my ego or pride in saying that a lack of sleep is the great indicator of strength
00:14:08.740 or some sort of misguided sense of masculinity.
00:14:11.680 No, I'm going to get the proper amount of sleep so I can wake up and be productive
00:14:14.900 and serve the people I have a desire to serve.
00:14:17.640 One degree actions that are going to produce the biggest results over time.
00:14:23.700 So, guys, think about your day.
00:14:26.320 I've got a, let me put a couple of things aside here for a second because I want to show you something.
00:14:31.320 I've got a note.
00:14:33.940 Whoops.
00:14:34.580 Just dropped my watch there.
00:14:35.940 I've got a notepad right here in addition to my battle planner that I just showed you there a second ago.
00:14:42.980 And I'm writing down ideas and insights and thoughts and conversations I want to have
00:14:49.200 and questions that I want to ask of my guests and you guys.
00:14:53.740 And, you know, I'm writing this stuff down.
00:14:55.540 These types of things are important.
00:14:59.220 They help me organize and keep my thoughts together and share things that are coherent and productive for myself
00:15:06.380 and the other people that I'm trying to serve.
00:15:07.900 But one of the things that I do inside of this book is I inventory my day.
00:15:12.680 You know, what went well?
00:15:14.820 What didn't go well?
00:15:16.020 How can I improve tomorrow?
00:15:17.120 How can I get better tomorrow?
00:15:18.520 What does my activity list look like?
00:15:20.580 What's been productive?
00:15:21.520 What hasn't?
00:15:22.540 These are all things that I challenge and urge you to do.
00:15:25.100 At least take some time this weekend and think about how your day goes and ask yourself,
00:15:29.140 in what way can I improve just one degree?
00:15:32.880 Don't swing for the fences.
00:15:35.180 Swing for the singles.
00:15:36.400 Swing for the base hit.
00:15:37.540 And then when you get on base, you can worry about stealing second.
00:15:40.900 You can worry about, you know, another situation happening where you get to round second,
00:15:45.300 to round third and come home and score the way that you want to.
00:15:47.820 But think about the base hits.
00:15:49.700 Think about the line drives.
00:15:50.860 Think about the small, seemingly insignificant actions.
00:15:53.720 And by the way, this is what high achievers do.
00:15:55.800 A lot of people think, oh, well, high achievers, you know, they got lucky.
00:16:00.860 Or they just happened to be in the right place at the right time.
00:16:03.220 Or they had this big investment payoff.
00:16:04.980 And I would say there's some fortunate events.
00:16:07.500 Let's not discount that.
00:16:09.560 You know, a lot of us have events in our lives that are beyond our control that are very fortunate.
00:16:13.960 And yet I've talked with a lot of people who have a series of fortunate events that have happened to squander them because they haven't done the basics well.
00:16:20.800 What are the basics?
00:16:21.480 And as you inventory your day and you think about how you spend your day and your time, ask yourself, in what specific way can I improve just one degree?
00:16:32.400 And make a list.
00:16:33.780 Well, I'm going to wake up today.
00:16:35.880 I'm going to wake up 15 minutes earlier.
00:16:39.360 See, a lot of people will hear that immediately.
00:16:41.040 I already know what you're thinking because I used to think it too.
00:16:43.260 15 minutes early.
00:16:44.180 Oh, that's nothing.
00:16:45.860 That's not even worth doing.
00:16:50.000 Well, 15 minutes earlier is better than 15 minutes later.
00:16:53.860 What can you do in that 15 minutes?
00:16:55.520 Well, you can get a stretch in.
00:16:56.840 You can get a quick exercise in.
00:16:58.840 You can plan out your day.
00:17:00.100 You can map out your day.
00:17:01.020 You can spend some time visualizing what you want to accomplish, how you want to live your life.
00:17:05.980 I mean, there's a lot that you can do in 15 minutes.
00:17:07.980 And if you wake up 15 minutes earlier, you're going to be able to accomplish it.
00:17:11.860 Same thing with going to bed 15 minutes earlier.
00:17:13.800 What's it going to look like if you have that big drink of water as you wake up and hydrate your body?
00:17:18.580 What's it going to look like if you exercise?
00:17:20.360 What's it going to look like if you have family dinner or you decide to read 10 or 20 pages of a book?
00:17:25.200 These are the little things that you can do.
00:17:27.320 It's entirely within your control.
00:17:29.420 And most of us won't do it because we don't think it'll move the needle as much as we would like.
00:17:34.680 And guys, I'm all for going big.
00:17:36.140 I want to go big.
00:17:37.340 I want to produce big results.
00:17:38.740 I want to have all those accolades and accomplishments and success and everything that I hope to accomplish.
00:17:46.100 But this is the way you do it.
00:17:48.420 And every once in a while, you're going to hit the home runs.
00:17:50.960 But it's going to become more frequent because you're getting the singles right.
00:17:54.500 So, guys, think about the one degree difference.
00:17:58.600 One degree is what differentiates.
00:18:00.740 Well, think about that in racing, for example.
00:18:03.120 I mean, it's a fraction of a percent of a time.
00:18:05.160 That's what spells the difference between a winner and a loser.
00:18:11.040 It's the guy that puts in a half an hour more or puts in a little more effort.
00:18:15.980 The guy that gets a promotion is the guy that landed one extra contract, one extra sale.
00:18:22.040 The guy that has an engaged family with his wife and kids is the one that sits down and spends 20, 30, 40 minutes over dinner with his family engaged.
00:18:30.620 And where are you dinking around spending 30, 40 minutes that you could redeploy to another more effective, productive pursuit and use of your time?
00:18:43.140 Think about it, guys.
00:18:44.300 One degree.
00:18:44.940 That's all we need.
00:18:46.300 And tomorrow it's one degree.
00:18:47.620 And the next day it's one degree.
00:18:48.700 And the next day it's one degree.
00:18:49.840 And so on and so forth.
00:18:50.960 And before you know it, we look back and we turn around and we realize, oh, my goodness, look how far I've come.
00:18:56.100 By doing the little things well.
00:19:00.380 And by the way, if you want to do the big things well, you haven't earned that right until you get the little things down.
00:19:06.500 I have a lot of guys who will tell me, oh, you know, Ryan, if I, you know, if I just had that much money, then I would be successful.
00:19:11.380 Or if I had, if I had access to that gym, you know, then, then I would have, you know, the body that I want.
00:19:17.900 Or if my boss was this, or my wife was that, or my kids were acting this way, then, then I would be happy.
00:19:22.860 No, that's not how it works.
00:19:24.840 Because you aren't entitled to the result that you haven't earned.
00:19:29.440 So get so exceptionally good at the little things that when the big things present themselves, you will be completely and adequately prepared and ready.
00:19:40.660 And we've heard that adage about luck.
00:19:43.540 Luck is when preparation and opportunity meet.
00:19:45.760 I would hate for there to be a situation when an opportunity presents itself and either A, you don't even acknowledge it, because you can't see it, because you're not in that mindset.
00:19:56.760 Or B, you acknowledge it, but you can't do anything about it, because you haven't been prepared by doing the little things.
00:20:02.400 The 1% degree type things.
00:20:04.180 Get after it this week, guys.
00:20:06.520 Get those things done.
00:20:07.820 And I guarantee you will start to see leaps and bounds in the progress on whatever facet of life you're wanting to improve.
00:20:15.460 Probably all facets of life, because isn't that how we all want to improve?
00:20:19.960 All right, guys.
00:20:20.600 Get after it this weekend.
00:20:21.600 Don't allow this weekend to be an opportunity to slip through your fingers, to be unintentional about the way that you spend your time, to go one degree backwards, always one degree forward.
00:20:34.660 It will always, always serve you well.
00:20:37.040 We'll be back next week.
00:20:38.360 Until then, go out there, take action, and become the man you are meant to be.
00:20:42.620 Thank you for listening to the Order of Man podcast.
00:20:45.560 If you're ready to take charge of your life and be more of the man you were meant to be,
00:20:49.260 we invite you to join the Order at orderofman.com.