Order of Man - The 4 Ways a Man Provides for His People ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

00:00:00.000 I'm frustrated, quite frankly, that there's so many fathers out there who aren't teaching

00:00:05.600 their children that there is some sort of divinity within them, that there's some objective

00:00:10.480 standard that we are to live to.

00:00:13.120 Don't follow me.

00:00:14.400 Hopefully, I can give you guys some insights and ideas that will serve you in your life,

00:00:18.480 but follow the objective truth.

00:00:21.040 Follow the light.

00:00:22.280 Have some purpose bigger than yourself.

00:00:24.220 I think any man worth his weight is going to be asking himself questions about what

00:00:31.040 he needs to be doing to lead his people into abundance, wealth, prosperity, and fulfillment,

00:00:37.220 whether it's your wife or your children, your family, friends, colleagues, coworkers, neighbors,

00:00:42.160 community members, constituents, teammates, et cetera.

00:00:46.760 It's likely if you're listening to this podcast, you as a man are asking yourself, what in the

00:00:50.540 world am I supposed to be doing, and how am I supposed to be serving the people that

00:00:54.380 I care about?

00:00:55.040 Today, I'm going to talk with you about four ways a man provides for his people.

00:01:00.620 Obviously, I hope it's obvious if you've been listening to the podcast for any amount of

00:01:04.380 time, you know the mantra, protect, provide, and preside.

00:01:09.060 Let's just talk about the provide component of that first.

00:01:13.200 Whenever I say provide, that it's a man's job to provide for his family, what most people

00:01:18.020 think of initially is financial provision, and although that is important, obviously

00:01:23.500 it's crucial, there are other things that we as men ought to be providing for the people

00:01:28.900 we love, the people we care about, and the people that we're serving.

00:01:33.080 So, what I'm going to share with you is four ways, again, that a man provides for the people

00:01:37.520 that he loves and has a responsibility for, and I'm going to draw a lot of correlation

00:01:42.520 to the Maslow's hierarchy of needs.

00:01:47.200 A lot of you guys are familiar with that, what that table actually looks like, and we're

00:01:51.300 going to break that down a little bit, and we're going to frame it in the context of a

00:01:55.180 man providing for his people.

00:01:56.980 So, without further ado, let's just jump right into it.

00:01:59.140 At the base of Maslow's hierarchy of needs is the physiological needs, and this is the first

00:02:05.420 thing.

00:02:06.300 If there's one thing that's most important as the foundation for what a man provides, it's

00:02:11.580 his, it's the physical provision, it's the physiological needs, it's food, it's shelter,

00:02:18.720 it's provision, it's paying for the football camp, and the football program, and making

00:02:25.940 sure that you have enough financial resources to take a trip, and pay for the mortgage, and

00:02:32.780 pay the car payment, and make sure that there's no guesswork about where the next meal is going

00:02:39.260 to come from, no guesswork about is there going to be a shelter over our head, and there are

00:02:44.540 things that are just as important as the financial and the physical provision, but guys, if you

00:02:49.400 can't get this right, then you're not creating an environment or fostering an environment where

00:02:54.360 your people can thrive, and they can be safe to move on to more deeper, more meaningful needs

00:03:01.680 that they have, so your job as a man is to provide physically for your family and your

00:03:09.020 loved ones, and if you're not making ends meet, you're living paycheck to paycheck, you're up

00:03:14.920 to your debt, and you're up to your eyeballs, excuse me, in debt, creditors are banging down

00:03:19.320 your door, they're making calls, you're worried about how you're going to make the next payment

00:03:23.460 or where the food is going to come from.

00:03:24.960 I have to tell you that you are not fully being the man that you're capable of becoming,

00:03:30.800 and you're not being fully the man that your people need you to be, so develop skills, learn 0.97

00:03:37.220 how to play the game, get promotions, work hard, bust your ass to ensure that you can pay 0.51

00:03:43.280 the mortgage, you can put food on the table, you can put clothes on their back, and you can

00:03:47.780 pay for the extracurricular activities that your family members have, your kids and sports

00:03:53.080 and camps and everything else, because that is a requirement, it really is, and there's

00:03:59.720 all sorts of things that you can do, get credentials, get degrees, get education, learn how to play

00:04:05.640 the office politic game, ask for a promotion, secure new skills that are going to make you

00:04:11.720 more marketable, learn how to network, so you're never at a loss for job and income that comes

00:04:16.040 with it, also learn how to budget, don't overspend, live within your means, save money, learn

00:04:21.080 how to invest, guys, you have to get this stuff right, and I know we're talking about

00:04:25.720 it at a 30,000 foot view today, and that's what I'm going to do, but if you want to dive

00:04:30.280 deeper into each one of these subjects, if you're not already, make sure you subscribe

00:04:34.080 to the Order of Man podcast, because we talk about how to build wealth, we talk about how

00:04:39.480 to build prosperity, we talk about how to start a business, we talk about how to budget,

00:04:44.280 these are all things that we've talked about, so you can go in, do a search on our website,

00:04:48.060 orderofman.com, or you can do a search, Order of Man, and keyword wherever you listen to

00:04:53.380 podcasts, and you'll find deeper resources on each one of these, so it's 30,000 foot

00:04:59.380 view, I know, but the first thing a man needs to do is provide physically for his wife, his 0.80

00:05:04.060 kids, his loved ones, etc., all right, number two, on Maslow's hierarchy of needs, if you

00:05:10.000 actually were to dig into that chart, and I've got it pulled up right here, so it goes like

00:05:15.240 this, at the base of the pyramid is physiological needs, that's what I just talked about, the

00:05:19.200 physical needs, next, safety, above that love and belonging, above that esteem, and then

00:05:24.320 above that self-actualization, I'm going to break this down into different frameworks so

00:05:27.880 you understand, but the next thing a man needs to do to provide for his loved ones is the mental

00:05:33.980 provision, the mental provision is the safety needs, that's personal security, that's, and

00:05:39.800 here it says employment, resources, health, property, etc., as a man who's raising children,

00:05:46.980 you're not necessarily going to give them employment, but personal security, your people

00:05:51.620 need to know that they're safe, they need to know that they're protected, they need access

00:05:56.460 to the resources that are available, they need to ensure that you are doing what you are supposed

00:06:03.460 to be doing, they need to be looking up to you as a man who's going to provide the mental

00:06:09.500 provision, and in addition to that, you're going to help them get the training they need

00:06:13.580 so that at some point, whether it's your son or daughter, can go out and do the same thing

00:06:17.980 for their family and their people. One of the things that I constantly remember is I'm not

00:06:22.980 raising children, I'm raising future adults, and if I think I'm just raising children, then

00:06:28.500 I'm scratching the surface on what can be done, I just need to not have them throw a temper

00:06:32.980 tantrum. No, that's not what I'm doing, what I'm actually doing is teaching them to go out

00:06:37.440 on their own, and the mental provision is the hardships of life, the skill sets that they

00:06:43.280 need. Do they know how to cook? Do they know how to do laundry? Do they know how to have

00:06:47.360 conversations? Do they know basic stuff like shaking a person's hand, looking them in the

00:06:52.240 eye, and introducing themselves? Do they know how to network? Do they know how to communicate

00:06:57.540 effectively with other people? Do they know how to use their words? Do they know

00:07:02.200 how to do things? I'm constantly blown away when I see other children, and it's

00:07:07.900 usually a mix. Sometimes I see kids who are so proficient, so mature, so developed

00:07:13.960 for their age that I'm just blown away and inspired by whatever in the world their

00:07:17.920 parents are doing to help them be that. And on the opposite end of the spectrum, I see

00:07:22.820 so many kids who are just useless. They don't communicate. They can't even look you 0.99

00:07:29.720 in the eye. They're wearing some of the weirdest things you'd ever see. They're not

00:07:33.980 respectable. They don't have any skills. They're not learning things. They're not

00:07:38.680 educated. They're not trained. They don't know how to take care of things around the

00:07:42.560 house. They don't know how to drive. That's a weird thing to me. We've got 16-year-olds

00:07:46.820 who are not even getting their licenses anymore. Even at 16, I think 16-year-olds,

00:07:53.180 they probably, if it were up to me, should have been driving for the last two or three

00:07:56.420 years with their parents. You know, maybe on back roads and farm and property and in

00:08:01.780 the mountains. And that's not going to be as easy for everybody as it might be for me

00:08:06.260 being in a small town in southern Utah. But are you training your kids? That's the

00:08:12.800 mental provision. Are you training them? Or are you just doing everything and hoping

00:08:18.080 that, I don't know, they're picking up through osmosis what they might need to know? When

00:08:22.500 you go out and you change your tire on your truck, are the kids coming with you to learn

00:08:25.640 it? Or if you're changing the oil, do they know how to do it? Or if you have to replace

00:08:29.540 the handle on the toilet, are they helping you? Are they replacing the light bulbs? Are

00:08:33.380 they cleaning the house? Are they doing the yard work? Are they starting the lawnmower?

00:08:37.060 They need to be doing those things. And if they're not, again, it's age appropriate. But

00:08:43.180 if they're not, then you're not giving them the mental provision that they're going to

00:08:47.720 need when they become older and when they become adults. And not to mention, it's a big

00:08:52.900 help to be able to divide and divvy up some of the chores around the house. But they're

00:08:56.840 also learning while they're doing that. Are they coming to you on things that they can

00:09:01.280 come with you on? Whether it's a hunt and learn how to secure food, or maybe it's to

00:09:07.580 come to work and see you present to the board, if appropriate. Or maybe do a presentation.

00:09:12.960 I try to bring my kids everywhere I go because I want them to see me working. I talk with them

00:09:20.080 about finances. I talk with them about budgeting. I've created opportunities for them to make

00:09:25.300 money. My youngest son and I did 10 or 15 orders this morning. He made $15 because I give

00:09:30.720 them a dollar per order they fulfill. He's learning things. Those are the mental provisions

00:09:36.120 he needs and my daughter, she needs to thrive as they get older. All right. Number three

00:09:41.460 is the emotional provision. So if we go back over to Maslow's hierarchy of needs, we have

00:09:47.880 the physiological needs at the base. We have the safety needs, personal security, employment,

00:09:51.880 resources, health, prosperity, et cetera. Next, we start moving into love and belonging and

00:09:57.660 esteem. So those are two categories that I'm going to lump into one. But guys, this is the

00:10:02.620 emotional provision. So we have physiological or physical provision. We have mental provision.

00:10:08.020 Now we have emotional provision. And if we look at Maslow's hierarchy of needs, when it

00:10:12.380 comes to love and belonging, they need friendships, intimacy, which by the way, doesn't always need

00:10:18.120 to be romantic. I hope you know that. Family, a sense of connection. And then if we move

00:10:22.820 up the tier, we move into esteem, respect, self-esteem, status, recognition, strength,

00:10:31.600 freedom. These are the things that come with giving your children emotional provision. And

00:10:37.560 the most important thing I think that we can do in this ring, in this arena of emotional

00:10:42.880 provision is to help our children regulate their emotions. They're going to be angry. They're

00:10:50.020 going to be sad. They're going to be happy. They're going to be joyful. They're going to

00:10:53.300 have guilt and shame and remorse and sorrow and fear and doubt. But they're also going to

00:10:58.760 have love and enthusiasm and joy and hope and optimism. Our job is to help those young little

00:11:07.220 children turn those emotions into productive avenues. So if your child is afraid of the monster

00:11:19.560 under the bed, it's your job to help them work through that in a constructive way so they're

00:11:25.000 not afraid of things that don't actually exist. So if you just get frustrated and you just tell

00:11:32.240 them to shut up and go to bed, that's not regulating their fear. But if you say, all right, you're

00:11:36.840 afraid of the monster under the bed? Let's flip the lights on. Let's look under the bed. Do

00:11:40.800 you see anything under there? Nope? Great. You're good. Maybe you can check the bed every night

00:11:46.040 before you get into bed to see if there's anything in there. These are, I know it sounds silly, but

00:11:50.860 these are little things that you can do. When one of your children comes home from school

00:11:56.960 and they're getting bullied at school by some punk and they don't know how to address it and

00:12:04.860 they're afraid and they don't want to go to school. Why would they if they're getting bullied and picked

00:12:10.160 on at school? It's not just your job to call the principal and say, this shouldn't happen anymore.

00:12:16.600 Although maybe you need to make those decisions. But the other thing that you ought to be doing

00:12:21.980 is making sure that your child knows how to address their fear and their uncertainty and what they can do

00:12:29.760 to avoid this potential bully. And if the situation calls for it, confront the bully, stand up for

00:12:36.680 themselves and pop that little punk in the face if called for. You need to help your children

00:12:44.860 understand that the emotions they're experiencing are not negative. Even the so-called quote-unquote

00:12:50.840 negative emotions. Our emotions are designed either divinely or evolved over time, and I think it's

00:12:59.980 probably a combination of both, to be the little warning sign. The alarm that tells us either

00:13:06.360 something is working or something is not. And emotional regulation, the way that I look at that,

00:13:13.300 is not allowing your emotions to get the better of you, but to use your emotions wisely for productive

00:13:21.060 outcomes. So, do your kids feel loved? Do they feel like they're important? Do they feel like they're

00:13:29.440 contributing? Do they feel seen and heard and loved and supported and acknowledged? Do they have a sense of

00:13:36.640 belonging into the family? One thing I often say, and my kids roll their eyes every time I say it, is

00:13:41.800 Micklers do hard things. Or Micklers do blank. Because I want them to know there's an identity that we have

00:13:49.020 as Micklers that we ought to wrap ourselves up in. That we're strong. That we're bold. That we're courageous.

00:13:55.840 That we confront hardship. That we can regulate our emotions. That we can lead and serve other people.

00:14:02.560 And that creates a sense of belonging and a sense of pride in not only who they are, but in the name

00:14:07.060 that we have. And the respect that we owe the name that we carry. These are all things you can do to

00:14:12.900 build up their emotional resilience and provide for them emotionally. All right, the last tier that I want

00:14:19.960 to talk with you about today is spiritual provision. If we go back over to Maslow's hierarchy of needs

00:14:25.460 on the top of that tip of the pyramid, it says self-actualization and more specifically, the desire

00:14:31.540 to become the most that one can be. Now I'm looking at this through a divine perspective. We have

00:14:38.300 unlimited potential as divine sons and daughters of God. And it's my job to help my children understand

00:14:47.120 that there is something so much bigger and greater beyond ourselves. There's something so much more

00:14:53.680 important than the details and the minutiae and the monotony of life that we often get caught up in

00:14:59.840 and maybe even the distractions of life that we succumb to. There is more to this game. There is an

00:15:05.480 eternal perspective. There is a absolute truth with a capital T and moral relativism does not exist.

00:15:14.120 Morality is not relative. It is absolute. And it's my job to teach my children that there is

00:15:22.880 something greater than themselves, that we have the ability and power to tap into it, and that we have

00:15:29.260 potential, God-given potential that we are supposed to fulfill, we are supposed to step into, and we are

00:15:36.040 supposed to act in accordance with. I'm frustrated, quite frankly, that there's so many fathers out 0.99

00:15:45.520 there who aren't teaching their children that there is some sort of divinity within them, that there's

00:15:51.420 some objective standard that we are to live to. And we don't need to all believe the exact same thing.

00:15:57.720 I'm a Christian. Many of you who are listening are Christians. I believe that is the path back to God

00:16:03.860 through Jesus Christ. But I also acknowledge that there's people who don't believe that. And if you

00:16:09.560 don't believe that, you better find something to believe in. Because who else are you going to

00:16:14.280 believe in? Me? I'm flawed. I mess up all the time. I fall short. I make mistakes. I don't always have

00:16:25.640 the answer, even though in my mind I feel like I do. Don't follow me. Now, hopefully, I can give you guys

00:16:33.820 some insights and ideas that will serve you in your life, but it's up to you to discern whether or not they're

00:16:38.660 going to work for you and your family and your loved ones. Don't follow me. Follow the objective truth.

00:16:46.520 Follow the light. Have some purpose bigger than yourself. And I even believe an atheist can have this,

00:16:52.740 that they're adhering to some objective standard of morality, and that's how they base their decisions.

00:16:59.480 It would be confusing not to know what that is. It would be confusing to not really understand how

00:17:06.680 you ought to show up. I believe we all have the light of Christ and God in ourselves and within us.

00:17:12.960 And I believe we have these things that are called our conscience, which allows us to make good

00:17:18.640 decisions. Some of you might say it's the Holy Spirit. I don't really care what you call

00:17:22.740 it. I know what I call it. I don't care what you call it, as long as you're adhering to it.

00:17:27.700 Because it's easy to waffle. It's easy to falter. It's easy to drift to the doctrine of popular

00:17:33.080 culture, which today would say one thing and tomorrow would say something completely different.

00:17:37.780 Or are you living towards objective truth? Have you identified what it is? And are you teaching it to

00:17:43.420 your people so that they can make decisions in light of you not always being around?

00:17:47.360 Right? Your kids are going to grow up. They're going to move to college. They're going to start

00:17:52.000 building their own families. You're going to die at some point. Do your kids have something bigger

00:17:56.960 than you that will continue in your absence, that they can continue to measure their performance by?

00:18:02.700 And I promise you, if they do, they will be more fulfilled. They will be more mentally and emotionally

00:18:10.340 and physically secure in themselves because now they have an eternal perspective, not just a temporal

00:18:17.720 and temporary perspective. Guys, in the protect, provide, preside motto, the provide element is so

00:18:27.740 much deeper than bringing home the bacon. That's the bare minimum. I already told you, that's where I

00:18:33.860 started today because that's the bare minimum. If you're not bringing home the bacon, you're not even

00:18:39.700 doing the bare minimum. And look, I get it. Maybe you're just getting done with college. Maybe you're

00:18:43.720 just securing a job. Maybe you and your wife, maybe you, maybe you got your, your, your wife pregnant 0.98

00:18:48.600 in high school. And so you're trying, you're playing catch up now. I get it. I understand.

00:18:53.320 There's situations that come up in life that you may not be fully there, but if you're not moving

00:18:57.300 towards that, then you're doing your people a disservice and you're not stepping into fully the role

00:19:02.320 that you have as a man, protect, provide, preside. And to break down that protect, or excuse me,

00:19:07.500 that provide component even more. Again, it's four tiers to this. It's the physical provision.

00:19:16.300 Maslow would say that's the physiological needs. It's the mental provision. Maslow would say that's

00:19:20.780 the safety needs. It's the emotional provision. Maslow would say that's love and belonging and

00:19:25.640 the esteem needs. And then there's spiritual provision, which Maslow would say is self

00:19:30.360 actualization. Sorry, my phone's ringing at me. I thought I turned that off. Guys, I hope that gives

00:19:36.000 you a framework. I love frameworks. When I have a framework for the way I'm supposed to show up,

00:19:41.240 it's easier for me to see how I'm supposed to be doing things. And sometimes I hear from people that

00:19:46.900 we're just putting people in categories or boxes. Yes, in a way that's what we're doing because the

00:19:52.940 categories and boxes and the systems, they work. And if you find a system or a strategy that works

00:19:59.520 or a framework for living your best life, then I say, put yourself in that category and succeed and

00:20:05.840 thrive and help your people do the same. If you want more information on this, guys, and you want to

00:20:10.400 be the best man that you can be in each of these realms, not only the provide component of our three

00:20:15.840 tier motto, but be a better protector, be a better provider, and be a better presider, which is synonymous

00:20:22.220 leadership, then head to order of man.com slash battle ready. I've got a 30 day free course that's

00:20:29.420 going to walk you through our battle plan. I'm holding this up here in a second. For those of you

00:20:35.920 who are watching this on YouTube battle plan, that's going to walk you through a series of 17 emails over

00:20:43.480 30 days with very actionable advice and ideas that you can implement to become the best version of

00:20:52.020 yourself and lead your people the most effectively. Again, go to order of man.com slash battle ready.

00:20:59.360 All right, guys, we'll be back next week. Until then, go out there, take action, provide for your

00:21:04.420 people and become the man you are meant to be. Thank you for listening to the order of man podcast.

00:21:14.580 You're ready to take charge of your life and be more of the man you were meant to be.

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The 4 Ways a Man Provides for His People ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

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