Order of Man - February 07, 2020


The Antidote to Ego is Self-Awareness | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES


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In this episode, Ryan Michler sits down with a very good friend of his, Kip Falks, to talk about the importance of being a man of action and how to live life to the fullest, embrace your fears, and boldly chart your own path.

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00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest, embrace your fears, and boldly chart
00:00:05.000 your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time, every time.
00:00:10.440 You are not easily deterred or defeated, rugged, resilient, strong. This is your life. This is who
00:00:17.240 you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,
00:00:22.800 you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Michler,
00:00:27.740 and I am the host and the founder of this podcast and the movement that is Order of Man,
00:00:33.160 the global movement. Guys, we continue to grow. In fact, in January, we had our highest
00:00:38.560 download month ever. So first and foremost, I want to thank you. I realized this would not be
00:00:44.040 the movement that it is without your support and your inspiration and guidance and motivation and
00:00:49.560 discipline and all the things that you're doing on your end to improve yourself as a man. That's
00:00:53.080 what we're all about. If you're tuning in for the first time, you got to know that this is
00:00:56.720 a mission to improve ourselves as men to become the most capable, proficient, successful husbands,
00:01:05.540 fathers, business owners, community leaders, coaches, mentors, whatever it is you're doing.
00:01:10.740 I want to give you the tools, the conversations, and the resources to do just that, which we are
00:01:14.780 going to be doing today. Cause I've got a good one lined up for you today based on a conversation
00:01:18.260 I had with a very close friend of mine. I'm going to get into in just a minute. I want to make a very,
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00:02:45.960 going to get a discount when you do. All right, guys, with that said, let's get into this discussion
00:02:51.600 today. I was having a conversation with a, with a close friend of mine. His name is Kip Falks.
00:02:57.660 A great guy. We hunt together. He's been a good advocate for what we're doing here. And a great
00:03:02.500 resource for me is I continue to grow order of man. And we're having this conversation based on some
00:03:09.520 success that he's had in business. He's the co-founder of under armor. He's, he's currently
00:03:15.100 working on an incredible project. If you want to follow along, go check it out. It's called big
00:03:20.080 truck farm brewery in Maryland, and you can check it out on Instagram. I think where it is where he's
00:03:25.320 most active, but he's in the process of building his own brewery and brewing every beer in, in that
00:03:33.520 facility. And it's going to be absolutely incredible. Cause I have a little bit of insight into,
00:03:38.440 into what he's doing and phenomenal stuff. Anyways, I really value his opinion, his feedback,
00:03:44.260 his insight. And he's been a great strategic partner because he's willing to share things with
00:03:47.840 me that, you know, not a lot, not a lot of people are. Uh, and we were having this conversation
00:03:52.180 cause I reached out and I wanted to talk with him about, um, about vision and, and the things that
00:03:57.960 I wanted to accomplish with order of man, you know, for the past five years or so, which is
00:04:02.960 we're almost on our five-year anniversary. Uh, I feel like I've never quite grown out of
00:04:08.220 the guy that happens to be doing this in the spare bedroom of his, of his basement in his house.
00:04:13.420 And that's what it's been up to this point. And I have really big ambitions for what we're trying
00:04:17.060 to do and expand and grow and connect with more men and, uh, bring more, more men into the fold,
00:04:22.940 if you will. So I w I called him to talk about this and do some strategic planning. And I don't know
00:04:28.620 how we got talking about it, but we started talking about, uh, ego. And it seems to me that
00:04:33.760 there's this, this common thought or trend regarding ego and society that it's bad. It's to be avoided
00:04:41.620 at all costs that nobody should have ego. Everybody should be humble and nobody should think highly of
00:04:47.380 themselves. And it's, I think it's misguided. I think it's wrong. Granted, I think also that ego
00:04:54.560 can be taken to the extreme and it can become pride, excessive pride or arrogance. But I got to
00:05:00.360 believe that a little bit of ego in your life is actually a valuable thing to have, because think
00:05:07.380 about it this way. If there was no level of ego in your life, in, in, in who you are, you would not
00:05:14.980 be driven to try anything new at all, because what gives you the right to believe based on no track
00:05:22.480 record of success that you can go out and you can start a business or go to the gym or get good at
00:05:27.860 archery or jujitsu or paint a painting or write a book or learn a new song or whatever the thing is
00:05:35.700 that you're doing without any track record of success in doing that thing. It's arrogant. It's,
00:05:41.420 it's egotistical to believe so highly of yourself that you're willing to try something that you've
00:05:47.620 never done before with the hope and even anticipation. And there has to be anticipation
00:05:53.000 there for you to actually have some measure of success. That is an ego driven concept. And also
00:05:59.960 it's a very positive thing. It's a good thing. It's a good thing that we're a little bit,
00:06:05.840 maybe delusional is the right word in our own ability to perform with things that we we've never done
00:06:14.560 before. I mean, the alternative is to be so quote unquote humble. Uh, and, and I wouldn't even
00:06:21.560 necessarily call it humility, but that's the word I'll use is to be so humble that you don't think
00:06:30.120 that you can do anything. Like you don't give yourself the credit that you deserve and you do
00:06:35.620 deserve some credit. You have had some success, maybe not in this specific area that you're trying
00:06:40.340 now, but you've had success in other facets of life. You know how to learn, you know how to grow,
00:06:44.460 you know how to evolve, you know how to expand, you know, your capabilities and you know, your
00:06:47.460 shortcomings and, and it's good. It's okay. The problem that we run into is that at times
00:06:56.120 we allow our ego to get in the way. And that's the line, right? A healthy dose of pride and ego
00:07:05.700 about who you are and what you can actually do is good because it's going to move you towards doing
00:07:10.860 things that you've never done before. And that's a good thing taken to the extreme. However, it's
00:07:18.440 going to limit you. It's going to represent all sorts of blind spots in your life. And it's going to
00:07:28.560 expose weaknesses and vulnerabilities in your life, uh, that could potentially derail you,
00:07:35.660 right? So if you're so egotistical, for example, about a project at work and you believe and think
00:07:42.900 so highly of yourself that you're not going to take the input of others, that you're not going
00:07:47.680 to learn from previous mistakes from yourself and other people, uh, that you're not going to bring
00:07:53.140 in experts to deal with this and address this, that you're going to take all the credit. If the
00:07:58.240 project goes well and undermine your team, therefore there's no level of trust or credibility with you
00:08:03.960 any longer, you're, you're exposing yourself and you're going to fail. You're teeing yourself up
00:08:09.460 for failure. So Kip and I were talking about this and I said, and I told him the same thing. And I
00:08:13.900 said, you know, I think ego and having a healthy dose of ego is a good thing. And he says, yeah,
00:08:17.880 I agree. I think it is good. I think it's important that we have that to some degree.
00:08:22.100 Uh, and we started talking about where it gets taken to the extreme. And he said something very
00:08:25.480 telling that, that this is the thing that I wanted to discuss with you today is to ensure that we
00:08:30.620 don't allow our egos, our healthy ego, uh, to, to run rampant, to get in our way, to create problems
00:08:37.340 for ourselves. And he said, the, uh, the answer, the antidote to, uh, over, over being overly
00:08:43.440 egotistical is self-awareness, self-awareness. It's just being aware of yourself, being aware of how
00:08:50.780 you come across to other people, uh, being aware of your own inadequacies and your own
00:08:57.460 inabilities to be successful in endeavors that you've never tried before. And frankly,
00:09:02.240 just being truthful and objective in your analysis of your performance.
00:09:08.460 So if, if you aren't willing to have this level of self-awareness, you're, you're not capable of it
00:09:15.660 or, or don't want to explore that. Maybe you don't have everything figured out. Then it's very easy to
00:09:20.580 allow a healthy dose of ego to become a very unhealthy dose of ego very, very quickly.
00:09:29.140 And that's what we need to avoid. Now, I'm not saying that ego is bad and it needs to be checked.
00:09:35.400 It just, it depends on how it's being used. And so what I thought I'd do is share with you some,
00:09:40.600 some thoughts that I had about how to maintain a level of self-awareness and keep that ego in check
00:09:49.200 so that it's serving you and other people and not ultimately hindering you and keeping you from
00:09:55.060 what you want to accomplish in your life and the lives of the people that you have a responsibility
00:09:58.740 for that you have an obligation for, uh, and, and that you want to serve. So I would say this first
00:10:05.180 and foremost is just knowing that there has to be a checks and some checks and balances in place.
00:10:13.260 Like if there isn't this self-awareness in your life, then I believe that most of us listening
00:10:19.520 are probably going to run across ego. And if you're saying, well, I don't, that's, that's an
00:10:26.240 overly egotistical thought. Like check yourself, right? Check yourself really understand. Okay.
00:10:32.060 Is this something I'm good at? Is this something I'm bad at? How can I improve? How can I get better?
00:10:36.760 And just be open-minded to the fact that maybe you're not as good as you think you are.
00:10:42.720 There's been studies and research and data that suggests that men typically more so than even women
00:10:48.360 have a tendency of, uh, over, over believing we are, we can produce more than we actually can.
00:10:56.640 Like we overestimate our ability. That's what I was trying to say. We overestimate our ability to
00:11:01.440 perform in anything, whether it's business or athletics or sex or whatever, however you're
00:11:08.280 trying to perform that we overestimate our abilities. Now, I think probably as human beings,
00:11:12.780 we've evolved, uh, we, we've, we've, we've used this ego in a healthy way, which is why it's there
00:11:19.960 in the first place, because in some capacity it has to have served us. Otherwise we, we wouldn't have
00:11:24.320 it. And it's what keeps us driving forward. It's what exposes men to take on more risk, which we know
00:11:30.520 that's true. Like men are more willing generally to take on more levels of risk than women. Why? 0.89
00:11:36.220 Because we're more arrogant. We have more ego, which again, taken to the extreme is bad, but
00:11:41.200 taken in a healthy dose is good because there's a lot of great things that have come from taking
00:11:46.400 risks, whether it's asking for a woman's hand in marriage or starting that business that you have 0.65
00:11:51.980 no business starting, uh, or, or taking on a project that you have no track record of success on
00:11:58.760 or deciding that you want to go run a marathon and, and, and put yourself in a physically and
00:12:05.000 mentally taxing and potentially dangerous situation. Like if the ego wasn't there, you wouldn't do those
00:12:10.300 things. And therefore you wouldn't produce any results in your life. You'd be, you'd be complacent.
00:12:15.980 You'd be stagnant. You'd be mediocre. So you have to be open to the idea that maybe you're not as good
00:12:21.920 as you think you are. And if you're not open to that idea, well, that's a pretty good telling
00:12:26.540 indicator that you are letting ego run rampant. The other thing that I would encourage you to,
00:12:33.160 to look into is the results that you're producing. If you're inventorying your life. And I think most
00:12:40.120 of you are right. You're, you're listening to this podcast. You want to evolve. You want to grow.
00:12:44.200 You want to expand. You want to become more competent and capable and effective in some or all of your
00:12:49.220 life. Then what you need to do is you need to ask yourself and take a specific topic, like a
00:12:55.860 relationship or finances or health, take one specific metric and ask yourself, am I producing
00:13:01.920 the results that I want? Am I achieving the level of growth? The, the, the, the success,
00:13:09.900 the metrics, the benchmarks that I'm after, if the answer is no, and it probably will be,
00:13:15.960 and should be no, because we're all ambitious and want to achieve on high levels, then you probably
00:13:21.940 ought to make the assumption that you, if you aren't again, producing those results,
00:13:27.320 that the ego is getting in the way. Maybe you're not bringing in advisors. Maybe you're not really
00:13:32.480 willing to, to, to blow up your own projects or to red team, which is something that we've talked
00:13:37.180 about to poke holes and flaws into what you're doing. That's, that's, that's being fragile,
00:13:42.200 right? It's funny because we think those guys or the guys who are overly egotistical think that's
00:13:47.940 somehow a measurement of strength. It's actually a measurement of weakness. The strong or humble,
00:13:53.100 right? They're willing to look at where they fall short. And because they're willing to objectively
00:13:59.440 look where they fall short, then they put strategies and actions in motion that will shore up those
00:14:06.760 weaknesses. So that makes them strong. Humility is what makes you strong. It exposes the vulnerabilities
00:14:13.640 vulnerabilities. And then you can fix the vulnerabilities. So ask yourself, am I producing
00:14:18.580 my results? And if you're not producing the results that you're after, then you have to ask,
00:14:22.580 well, what can I do? And the answer is always this, get feedback. It's always that get coaching,
00:14:30.240 get feedback, find people who have done what you're trying to do, which is the reason I reached out to
00:14:35.660 Kip in the first place. Cause he's done some things that I admire, that I respect, that I want to
00:14:40.380 produce in my own life. And he's, he knows what he's doing. Obviously he's done it multiple times.
00:14:46.440 So I could have protected my ego and said, no, I can figure this out. And, and, and frankly,
00:14:51.740 just bang my head against the wall until something clicked. Maybe it would, maybe it wouldn't,
00:14:56.500 but instead I reached out to Kip and you know, what was interesting is during our conversation,
00:15:00.380 he said some things to me that stung a little bit, like they weren't completely comfortable
00:15:05.740 because it wasn't the ideal vision I had about the way I'm showing up. And he said, you know,
00:15:10.320 maybe there's a disconnect between how you think you're showing up and how other people are perceiving
00:15:16.440 you showing up. Like that's not a comfortable thought. Nobody wants to look at their own inadequacies.
00:15:22.260 And yet I'm willing to do that because I want to produce the results. So when I ask myself,
00:15:26.780 am I producing the results that I want within our organization order of man? The answer is no.
00:15:31.280 That doesn't mean I'm not proud of what we've done or excited about the results that we've produced up
00:15:37.460 to this point. I certainly am, but there's more, there's more to it. And I realize there's more
00:15:43.020 available for what we're doing here. And I want to take advantage of those opportunities. So I'm not
00:15:49.080 producing the results I desire. Therefore I need more information that could potentially damage and
00:15:55.180 bruise my own perception of myself. It's a very hard thing to do, but a very powerful
00:16:01.280 powerful exercise to engage in the second point or third. I don't even, I didn't write these down,
00:16:07.060 but the next point we'll say is getting feedback from other people. Now we're talking about self
00:16:13.620 awareness. So it's you being aware of yourself. Yes. I realized that, but it's also important for you
00:16:19.180 to get third party data. That's what this is. So if you're trying to be a better father,
00:16:25.360 I think it'd probably be a pretty good idea to ask your children how you're doing,
00:16:31.360 not just how you're doing, but like specifically, what are you doing? Well, what are you not doing
00:16:36.980 so well? Where can you improve? I've had these conversations. In fact, I had one not too long
00:16:41.200 ago with my son on this podcast. You guys can go back and search and find that episode. But I asked
00:16:46.520 him point blank in what areas can I improve? How can I do better? And he says, well, you need to be
00:16:51.400 more patient. That's, that's a good assessment. He's right. And if I allow my ego to get in the way,
00:16:58.880 then I won't accept that critique. And therefore I won't get any better. So as much as I was like,
00:17:05.260 I don't want to hear that. And I heard it on air and I shared it with hundreds of thousands of men
00:17:09.760 who are listening in. It was good. It was good for me to hear that. It was a new perspective. It was,
00:17:16.480 it was a new perception or perspective that I haven't heard before or, or hadn't not that I
00:17:22.600 haven't heard it, but that, that maybe I wasn't taking into consideration as much as I should.
00:17:28.300 So take a look at what you're trying to do. This is why, by the way, guys, the iron council,
00:17:32.280 which is our exclusive brotherhood is so powerful because you're getting feedback from other people,
00:17:37.120 other men who are motivated and ambitious, and they want to thrive and they want to win.
00:17:42.740 And some of them have figured out how to succeed in business and how to succeed with addiction and
00:17:48.380 how to win in their, their, their marriages and how to start new businesses and how to get into
00:17:53.920 shape and how to hunt. And like all these things that we're talking about inside of the iron council.
00:17:58.800 And these guys have done it. I mean, how powerful is that, that you can tap into this resource of
00:18:04.720 other men who are doing what you want to do. You can get feedback. They're willing to critique you.
00:18:10.660 If you're open to being critiqued and, and, you know, pokes, poke some holes in what you're doing
00:18:16.420 again, not comfortable, but very, very valuable. The next thing I would say is that your,
00:18:23.580 your, the, the, the balance between ego and self-awareness is hard to really find when you're
00:18:32.060 in a position of comfort because comfort is deceiving. It makes you believe that you're better
00:18:39.460 than you really are. So let's take an example and I'll use jujitsu because that's something I tend to
00:18:45.280 be very involved with at this point. And it's in a great analogy for life. If all I ever do is roll
00:18:52.520 with my peers, meaning other white belts that have been in for the same amount of time, or even less
00:18:59.080 than I have on this path of jujitsu, then I will lull myself into believing that I'm better at jujitsu
00:19:09.240 than I really am. Because when I go roll with a blue belt or a brown belt or a black belt,
00:19:14.900 it's, it's painfully obvious, literally painfully obvious that I'm not as good as I believe myself to
00:19:23.780 be. And so most men won't put themselves in these positions because they don't want to be exposed.
00:19:31.900 And isn't that what you're doing? When you put yourself into uncomfortable positions,
00:19:36.260 you're literally exposing yourself to risk, to ridicule, to heartache, to physical and mental
00:19:43.800 and emotional pain and frustration and anxiety. That's what you're doing when you start to push a
00:19:51.260 little harder. So you can either learn to deal with that, or you can settle for the mediocrity
00:19:58.800 that you may have found yourself in by always surrounding yourself with people who are the same
00:20:02.960 or not even nearly as good as you are way more comfortable, but doesn't produce the results that
00:20:10.140 I know that the overwhelming majority of you listening to this, you at least talk about wanting
00:20:14.080 those results. The real question is, are you willing to do anything about it? Because if you are,
00:20:19.460 then you are going to take a risk and you are going to put yourself in uncomfortable conversations
00:20:23.520 and you are going to expose yourself to being told no and expose yourself to the pain and frustration
00:20:31.000 that comes with being ambitious and wanting to grow and expand and evolve and get better.
00:20:39.700 This is, this is one of the strategies for, uh, keeping that ego in check and being self-aware
00:20:47.360 is pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone. Cause now you're giving yourself a, it's
00:20:51.860 all relative, right? So you're giving yourself a new perspective. It's relative. Okay. I'm
00:20:56.220 good at this thing. Well, good compared to what I remember. This must've been 10 years ago.
00:21:01.360 Now. Uh, I was in the financial planning practice very early in my career. And we had a, a gentleman,
00:21:07.360 a very successful financial advisor come in from, I want to say it was from Florida. I'm not sure
00:21:12.360 exactly, but I want to say Florida. Anyways, he came in to our office and he was doing some training.
00:21:17.880 It was a two and a half day, three day training that he was doing on some programs that we were
00:21:21.660 using within our financial planning practice. And I remember our, our general agent who, who
00:21:27.860 owned the firm, he said to this guy, he said, I really love for you to come work with us here in,
00:21:34.940 in this office. You would be, if you came to work with us, and this is what he said,
00:21:38.200 if you came to work with us, you would be the highest producing, uh, financial advisor in our
00:21:44.540 office. And I'll never ever forget what this high producing advisor said. He says, I don't want to
00:21:53.020 be the best in this office. I want to be the best period. And in order to do that, he's got to push
00:22:02.500 himself outside of his comfort zone. He's got to surround himself with other advisors who are
00:22:06.460 potentially better than him. He can't fall into this, this default mode or even progress backwards
00:22:12.320 in order to feel good about himself. He's got to go forward into a position where he may not feel as
00:22:18.200 good about himself, putting yourself out there and doing new things and engaging in new hobbies and
00:22:24.700 saying yes to the things that you've never said yes to before and taking calculated risks, all gives
00:22:30.740 you an opportunity to get a new perspective about where you actually stand and how well you're
00:22:37.240 actually performing. I know it's not easy guys. And I know this is kind of maybe an interesting
00:22:41.300 conversation that we're having is balancing ego and self-awareness and the humility conversation.
00:22:47.200 Like we're told from the time that we're little boys, not to progress, not to excel, not to think too
00:22:52.700 highly of yourself, not to be excited about who you are and what you're good at. I'm, I'm suggesting to you
00:22:58.160 the opposite. Like if you're good at something, acknowledge that you're good at something,
00:23:04.040 acknowledge that you have strengths, acknowledge that this is, this is something that, that you've,
00:23:08.640 you, a skill you've developed and grown and expanded. And also acknowledge that maybe you're
00:23:14.280 not as good as you think you are in some other areas. This is about truth. And I don't think you can
00:23:19.860 actually be humble if you don't have some level of pride in who you are because pride comes from
00:23:28.280 competency. You can't be humble. If you don't have competency, like it might just be a sign of, of,
00:23:35.400 of weakness or passivity in order for you to truly be humble, you need to have some very good and
00:23:43.400 developed capabilities and skillsets. And then being humble to continue to learn and grow and get better
00:23:51.620 in not only those areas, but new areas you've never even considered before. This is why I'm really
00:23:56.480 motivated and inspired by a lot of people who are trying new things. Kip is, is one of them by all
00:24:03.280 accounts. He has no right at all and no business starting an organization, starting a company called
00:24:09.800 big truck farm brewery that, that, that does a American brewery. Like he has no right to do that.
00:24:16.160 No business doing that. And yet I'm inspired and motivated by him because he's self-aware.
00:24:21.360 Like he knows what he's good at and what he's not good at. He brings in advisors and consultants who
00:24:26.040 can help him. He has enough ego or pride in who he is and what he's done in the past that he knows
00:24:33.080 he can make this a success if he does the right things. Then I feel like this is an individual
00:24:37.780 who's found the balance between ego and self-awareness. And this is the thing that I'm
00:24:41.540 trying to do as well. If, if all you are is self-aware and you aren't willing to have a
00:24:46.440 little ego, that's a problem too, because then you're just poking holes all day long and who you
00:24:51.340 are and what you do and how you show up and where you fall short. And obviously if that's all you ever
00:24:55.700 did your entire life, would you really try anything new? Would you really push yourself outside of
00:25:00.900 your comfort zone? There's, there's a balancing act here guys, and we've got to find it.
00:25:04.640 We got to find the balance between ego and self-awareness. If you're too far to the side
00:25:10.020 of, of ego, you expose yourself to blind spots that you wouldn't see any other way. If you fall
00:25:16.360 too heavily towards the side of self-awareness without having some pride and ego and who you are
00:25:23.180 and what you can do, then you're never going to do anything. And therefore you're never going to
00:25:27.420 amount to anything and you're not going to serve anyone. So I hope at a minimum, this conversation
00:25:32.600 gets you thinking differently than what the script of, of popular culture would say, which is don't
00:25:38.660 think highly of yourself. It's bad, right? It's bad to be proud of who you are. It's bad to,
00:25:44.440 to have any strengths. And, and, and also if you have strengths, then that means it came at the
00:25:49.460 expense of other people. Of course it didn't. Of course it didn't. And yet many people would have
00:25:55.020 you believe that. I think that stems from a bleeding heart, but I also think it stems from the fact that
00:26:01.000 these people have no skills and they aren't willing to develop them and articulate them the way that
00:26:06.060 you are. And so rather than getting better, they're going to strive to push you down. And too many of
00:26:12.120 us have bought into the lie that we can't be proud of who we are and what we can do. Be proud of that,
00:26:16.880 but keep it in check by being self-aware. It's what I got for you today, guys. I hope it helps.
00:26:21.560 Please, if you would continue to share, somebody needs to hear this. Somebody who's too far ego,
00:26:26.020 egotistical and somebody who's too far self-aware needs to hear what we're talking about here and
00:26:31.460 the conversations that we're having, not just today, but within the order of man in general,
00:26:35.720 they need to hear the message of reclaiming and restoring masculinity to its proper place,
00:26:40.320 which is that of, of leaders of our homes and our businesses and our communities.
00:26:44.520 We do it with conviction and authority and morality. We're strong. We're bold. We're assertive.
00:26:50.960 We're capable. And we are designed to be men. We're designed to serve. We're designed to protect
00:27:00.660 and provide and preside. We're designed to be active and be physical and be aggressive.
00:27:06.240 We're designed to be logical and rational. The world, much of the world anyways, would have us
00:27:13.020 go the other way. I would consider that that is not the way that we should go. We should in fact
00:27:17.980 be proud of who we are proud of the way that we can show up, take pride in our ability to continue
00:27:24.740 to grow and evolve and make ourselves more capable. That's what the world needs from us as men. And
00:27:29.120 that's my mission. So if you believe in that mission as well, share, share this episode,
00:27:33.620 share the podcast, connect with me on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, all at Ryan Mickler. And let's
00:27:40.080 continue the conversation over there. And let's make this thing a global phenomenon that cannot be
00:27:45.500 ignored that lifts men up, pulls people out of poverty, encourages them to start businesses and
00:27:52.520 to grow and expand and serve in their communities and do all the wonderful things that we've been
00:27:55.640 talking about. All right, guys, we're going to wrap it up. I'll be back on Tuesday for our interview
00:28:00.060 show. Appreciate you guys being on this path with me. It means the world to me. We'll be back until
00:28:05.420 then. Go out there, take action, become a man. You are meant to be.
00:28:08.500 Thank you for listening to the Order of Man podcast. You're ready to take charge of your life
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