Order of Man - The BBQ Test： How to Vet Your Band of Brothers ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

00:00:00.000 Are you addicted to pixelated versions of the female body? 0.69

00:00:04.660 Are you engaged in drug abuse or alcohol abuse or any sort of sedation method?

00:00:12.020 And if you are, then when you're doing that in secret, you're not exhibiting character.

00:00:16.940 But I think acknowledging that we have deficiencies in our character,

00:00:20.640 and I think acknowledging that we want to find good men in our corner who have fewer character flaws,

00:00:26.520 and for the character flaws they do, they're willing to acknowledge them and address them and overcome them.

00:00:34.340 Gentlemen, men are struggling.

00:00:36.540 And specifically, they're struggling in the ability to connect, relate with, and band with other men.

00:00:43.320 There's this pervasive ideology in modern culture that says that men are meant to go at it alone,

00:00:51.900 that you can figure it all out, that you should know what you ought to be doing,

00:00:55.720 that if you need help or need insight or need direction or you need to learn,

00:01:00.460 quote-unquote, what it means to be a man, then you're less of a man.

00:01:03.820 Now look, I'll be the first to tell you that there are inherent virtues or principles or codes of conduct

00:01:11.360 or even behavior biologically innate within us as males.

00:01:18.220 But if you have bought into the idea that you're supposed to know how to harness all of that,

00:01:24.340 how to create productive outcomes for yourself and other people just because you're biologically hardwired to do that,

00:01:34.060 you're buying into a lie.

00:01:36.600 The reality is, is you have all of the tools necessary, but unless you learn how to wield those tools,

00:01:42.740 you really won't be able to wield them effectively and correctly.

00:01:47.280 If somebody has never been introduced to a hammer and I give them a hammer and I tell them,

00:01:53.220 this is a tool, use it correctly, but they've never been exposed to a hammer before,

00:01:58.560 not only are they not going to use it correctly, they're not even going to know what it is.

00:02:03.660 And that's why I really reject and am repulsed by the idea that just because we're born biologically male,

00:02:12.900 that that inherently makes us men.

00:02:16.620 Male is a matter of birthright.

00:02:19.360 Manliness is a matter of your effort, your progress, your growth, and what you want to do as a human being.

00:02:27.640 But one thing, actually I'll say two things that really hinder a man's growth are, it's twofold.

00:02:34.460 Number one, it's his frameworks.

00:02:37.380 Frameworks are systems that we use, and every man throughout history who is worth his weight

00:02:44.640 has been initiated into manhood.

00:02:48.660 Number two is the networks.

00:02:52.340 Every man throughout human history that is worth his weight has been connected with

00:02:57.020 and learned from other noble and righteous men, virtuous men, who have helped him on his path.

00:03:03.580 So look at any historical figure, look at modern examples of men that you admire and respect

00:03:11.740 and want to be like, and all of them have systems and they have networks.

00:03:15.900 And today I'm going to focus on the network.

00:03:19.400 I saw some statistics over the past several weeks, and I've looked into these heavily,

00:03:24.480 that show that men are increasingly isolated, we're lonely, we're separated.

00:03:30.740 We might be more connected to human beings through, my phone's over there, but this technology

00:03:36.800 that we have, you're probably on your phone right now, or maybe you're listening to this

00:03:41.100 via Bluetooth through some earbuds or in your truck as you're driving to work or wherever

00:03:47.280 you might be going.

00:03:48.260 And so we're more connected to information than we've ever been.

00:03:51.040 And yet we're so disconnected from personal communication, from standing shoulder to shoulder,

00:04:03.600 from the physical connection that comes in being face-to-face, not intimately, not romantically.

00:04:10.500 I'm talking about platonically.

00:04:12.460 I'm talking about a brotherhood.

00:04:13.940 I'm talking about a connection between men.

00:04:15.980 And so today I want to share with you a concept that I ran across.

00:04:19.720 It's a little bit of a joke, but I think there's some value and merit to it, this barbecue test

00:04:25.520 of who you should be surrounding yourself with.

00:04:28.280 And the barbecue test is very simple.

00:04:31.320 Who would you want to have a barbecue with? 0.56

00:04:33.540 That's it.

00:04:35.000 You know, we're coming up on the 4th of July.

00:04:37.020 I believe that's next week as of the release of this podcast.

00:04:40.200 Are there men that you would actually want to have a barbecue with, that you would spend

00:04:45.040 time with, that you would have a conversation with, that you'd want to shoot fireworks with,

00:04:48.680 that you'd want to introduce your kids and have their kids introduced to you?

00:04:54.140 That's it.

00:04:55.020 It's pretty easy.

00:04:56.900 Men are simple.

00:04:58.640 Is this a guy you'd want to spend time with?

00:05:01.480 Is this a guy that you break bread with?

00:05:03.320 Is this a guy that you'd share a hunt with?

00:05:05.000 Is this a guy that you'd shoot pyrotechnics with?

00:05:08.380 Is this a guy that you have some familiarity or a guy that has some values that are aligned

00:05:15.060 with yours?

00:05:15.600 Is this the guy that intuitively you think, you know, I really like that guy.

00:05:18.900 I can't quite articulate it, but I like him.

00:05:21.740 And too many men in modern times do not have that guy.

00:05:24.760 I saw some statistics that showed that there are a significant,

00:05:30.700 a dangerously significant amount of men who don't have one single man that they could call

00:05:36.620 if they were in distress, depressed, anxious, frustrated, angry, suicidal.

00:05:44.200 Guys, we're all going to face hardship, divorce, layoffs, bankruptcies, loss of a loved one,

00:05:52.640 lawsuits, and a myriad of other things that happen throughout our lives.

00:05:57.200 And some of you are married.

00:05:59.360 A lot of you are married.

00:06:00.380 And that's great.

00:06:01.080 You have a spouse.

00:06:01.860 You have a woman.

00:06:03.060 Hopefully, she's a wonderful woman who will support, edify, uplift, nurture, and be empathetic 0.57

00:06:09.720 with you.

00:06:10.480 But that isn't the whole story.

00:06:12.140 You need a man in your corner or men in your corner who will give you the other sides that, 0.66

00:06:19.720 and no offense to your significant other, that a woman can't necessarily provide.

00:06:24.700 And that's not an indictment against her.

00:06:26.360 It's just she can't fully provide it because she's feminine. 1.00

00:06:29.520 And that's beautiful in the right context.

00:06:31.340 But you need other men in your corner. 0.85

00:06:33.320 And so there's this barbecue test.

00:06:35.180 Is this a guy you would grill with?

00:06:37.700 Is this a guy you'd sit around the grill cooking burgers or hot dogs or whatever this weekend

00:06:41.800 as 4th of July comes along, and you would actually enjoy your time together?

00:06:45.460 So that's question number one.

00:06:46.920 But I've got five questions, including that one.

00:06:48.940 Five questions that I think you need to ask yourself to determine if you have men in your

00:06:53.820 corner.

00:06:54.380 And then the last thing I'm going to do is give you a resource.

00:06:56.560 Because if you answer no to any of these questions, then I want to share with you a tool that

00:07:01.880 you can use in order to develop these kind of friendships and relationships.

00:07:06.260 So number one, is this man that you want to spend time with?

00:07:10.680 And again, I know that sounds maybe a little off, but I think that's part of the problem.

00:07:17.160 But is this a guy that you'd actually enjoy spending time with?

00:07:19.920 Is this a guy you like?

00:07:22.420 That's it.

00:07:23.040 Do you like this person?

00:07:24.060 Do you get along with this person or does he piss you off or bother you or rub you in

00:07:28.620 the wrong way? 0.60

00:07:29.160 Or maybe he's arrogant or maybe he's a tool or a D-bag or maybe he doesn't treat his wife 0.87

00:07:34.580 or kids well. 0.88

00:07:35.820 Okay, that's it.

00:07:36.620 That's all you need to know.

00:07:38.560 Is this a guy I like?

00:07:40.240 Yes or no. 0.60

00:07:41.800 Okay, number two, is this man going to bitch out when things get hard? 0.99

00:07:47.980 Is this man going to bitch out when things get hard? 0.99

00:07:50.080 That's why I personally, when it comes to developing friendships and building a band

00:07:55.000 of brothers, why I love the physical realm when it comes to introducing new men into my

00:08:01.320 circle.

00:08:02.440 Because the physical realm will tell me very, very quickly whether this guy's going to be 0.98

00:08:07.240 a little bitch or whether he's actually going to step up in the face of physical adversity 1.00

00:08:13.080 and hardship. 0.99

00:08:14.340 If I go to jujitsu with another man and let's say it's the first time he ever trained and 0.99

00:08:19.900 he comes and he gets his ass kicked because that's what's going to happen if you go to 0.99

00:08:24.240 jujitsu for the first time. 1.00

00:08:26.380 If he never comes back, I know that's a person, a man who's going to bitch out when things get 1.00

00:08:30.680 hard.

00:08:31.320 He just is.

00:08:31.900 He's not going to be there for you when you're struggling.

00:08:36.260 He's not going to sacrifice.

00:08:38.560 He's not going to put himself in any sort of confrontation or harm's way because he's

00:08:43.200 living a life of ease and comfort and he's too afraid of challenge and things that might

00:08:50.640 jeopardize his bravado, his ego, his arrogance. 0.99

00:08:58.740 And so if I train with a guy and he gets his ass handed to him, like it's going to happen 0.98

00:09:04.000 when the first time you train jujitsu and he comes back the next day, I'm like, okay, 0.96

00:09:07.120 this is a guy who at least at a minimum is willing to come back.

00:09:12.580 And that's what I had to do.

00:09:13.860 I was forging the fire in origin in Maine.

00:09:17.000 And when I got up there to start training with these guys in origin, they didn't like

00:09:21.980 teach me.

00:09:22.900 They said, just go roll for an hour.

00:09:25.180 And I was doing that at the pinnacle of my training four to five days a week. 0.99

00:09:30.760 And 80% of the time I was getting my ass handed to me. 0.99

00:09:35.280 But you know what? 0.99

00:09:35.880 I showed up every single day.

00:09:37.340 And because I showed up every single day, in fact, I created opportunities to do additional

00:09:42.060 training.

00:09:43.020 These are men who believed in me.

00:09:44.240 They supported me.

00:09:45.000 They rallied behind me.

00:09:45.980 We built relationships and connections because I was the kind of man who they could rely on

00:09:52.640 if things got challenging mentally, emotionally, or physically.

00:09:57.800 So if you're trying to vet a group of men, ask yourself, is this a guy who's going to

00:10:03.980 bitch out when things get hard in the physical realm? 0.99

00:10:06.460 Because if he doesn't in the physical realm, I promise you, he's going to do it in other 0.94

00:10:10.360 aspects of his life.

00:10:11.800 Number three, is this man a deep thinker or a stooge?

00:10:16.100 Now, I was playing with my youngest son the other day, and we were wrestling.

00:10:21.340 We were in the living room.

00:10:22.620 I have these mats that I bought on Amazon.

00:10:24.620 And when they come over, I roll the mats out.

00:10:26.820 We move some furniture, and we just train.

00:10:28.740 We wrestle.

00:10:29.980 We train jiu-jitsu.

00:10:31.340 We play.

00:10:32.200 We're physical.

00:10:33.140 It's a good time.

00:10:34.720 And I was, if you guys remember, if you're my age, you might remember the Three Stooges.

00:10:40.540 My dad, when he was alive, he loved the Three Stooges.

00:10:44.440 And I remember sitting on the couch with him, curled up to him, wanting to be close

00:10:48.780 to him, and we would watch the Three Stooges.

00:10:51.040 And the thing was, is, you know, you'd make the peace sign, and you'd poke him in the eye,

00:10:55.080 and Larry or Curly or Moe, whichever one it was, would put their hand between their eyes

00:10:59.940 and their nose and block the eye poke. 0.94

00:11:04.220 And it's funny.

00:11:05.600 It's laughable.

00:11:07.720 That's it.

00:11:08.320 It's lighthearted.

00:11:09.740 And lightheartedness is important in a relationship.

00:11:12.660 But what I have found in the relationships I'm trying to build with other men is that there

00:11:17.740 are some men who are only the Stooge.

00:11:20.380 They don't know how to have any depth.

00:11:22.740 They're very surface level.

00:11:24.360 They're funny.

00:11:25.460 Maybe it's the class clown.

00:11:27.100 Maybe it's the guy who's sarcastic all the time.

00:11:29.840 He makes light of every situation.

00:11:31.460 If you bring anything serious to the table, he brushes it off.

00:11:35.200 He shrugs it off.

00:11:36.440 He projects.

00:11:37.240 He gaslights.

00:11:37.920 He makes fun of you.

00:11:38.680 He brings the sarcasm into the equation.

00:11:42.440 I don't need another Stooge in my life. 1.00

00:11:44.680 I'm not Larry.

00:11:45.440 I'm not Moe.

00:11:45.980 I'm not Curly.

00:11:46.820 I want somebody who actually has some depth.

00:11:50.320 I want somebody who thinks deeply about life.

00:11:53.040 I want somebody who critically thinks about how they can improve.

00:11:56.880 I want somebody who's growth-oriented versus fixed mindset.

00:11:59.960 I really want men in my corner who are on the same level as me as far as my intuition

00:12:06.280 and my thoughts and my intellect and the growth that they want to achieve in their own life.

00:12:13.220 Now, don't get me wrong.

00:12:14.280 I enjoy laughing and humor just as much as anybody else.

00:12:17.560 And you might not think that if you've listened to this podcast for any amount of time

00:12:21.620 because you know I'm a serious person by nature. 0.98

00:12:23.700 But damn, if you can't find a guy who actually has some depth and brevity to him. 0.98

00:12:30.060 I can appreciate a joke just as much as anybody else. 0.99

00:12:33.220 But if that's all you can do, then you're a one-dimensional person.

00:12:36.300 And I want somebody in my corner who's well-rounded, who if I call and say,

00:12:39.860 hey, I'm struggling in my relationship.

00:12:41.220 What do you got?

00:12:42.520 I know that person is not going to mock or belittle or use sarcasm to diffuse the situation.

00:12:47.460 He's going to say, all right, what do you got?

00:12:49.020 Tell me.

00:12:49.500 All right, let's figure it out.

00:12:51.080 Let's get deep on this.

00:12:53.700 So for the men that are in your corner currently, inventory and ask yourself,

00:12:59.300 is this just a joker? 0.68

00:13:00.400 Is this the class clown?

00:13:01.660 It brings some lightness and humility to the conversation, which is appreciated in moments.

00:13:07.640 Or is this a person who understands the situation, can read the room and say,

00:13:11.580 okay, lightheartedness is required or depth is required in the situation.

00:13:18.560 Number four, is this man a principled man?

00:13:23.700 Is this somebody who has virtue?

00:13:27.100 Is this somebody who does the right thing when no one's looking?

00:13:30.660 Is this somebody who will hold you accountable to doing the right thing when you could easily

00:13:35.760 get away with doing the wrong thing?

00:13:38.080 Is this person somebody who's aligned with your values and your virtues?

00:13:42.140 Is this somebody who, frankly, will look down on you when you don't perform the way you ought

00:13:47.920 to?

00:13:48.100 I know that's, heaven forbid, somebody looked down on you.

00:13:51.600 But the reality is, is if I look up to somebody and I want to be like them, then I require

00:13:56.860 that person to look down in a way on me with some tact and grace when I'm not performing

00:14:03.100 to the level that I can.

00:14:04.240 Again, aren't those the people that we as men value the most?

00:14:07.960 The one that says, hey, I know you're capable of more, but you're not doing it right now.

00:14:12.180 Like the one who can actually call you out and call you up and speak into your soul and

00:14:17.900 say, hey, you can perform better, but you're not doing it.

00:14:21.500 That's what I want.

00:14:24.660 I want somebody who's principled.

00:14:26.800 Growing up, I had a stepdad who talked about character and he said, character is what you

00:14:31.380 do when no one's looking.

00:14:34.000 And although I think he probably, in a lot of ways, lacked some character, that lesson

00:14:39.340 still rings true.

00:14:41.160 He was probably wrestling with that.

00:14:42.740 I wrestle with that at times.

00:14:44.040 Other people, everybody wrestles with it at times.

00:14:46.580 But do you believe it?

00:14:47.860 Do you believe that character is what you do when nobody's looking?

00:14:50.600 And what do you do when no one's looking?

00:14:54.040 Are you addicted to pixelated versions of the female body? 0.69

00:15:00.180 Are you engaged in drug abuse or alcohol abuse or any sort of sedation method?

00:15:07.360 And if you are, then, and you're doing that in secret, then you're not exhibiting character.

00:15:14.500 We all have character flaws.

00:15:16.100 I'm not here to tell you that I'm perfect.

00:15:17.560 But I think acknowledging that we have deficiencies in our character and I think acknowledging

00:15:23.160 that we want to find good men in our corner who have fewer character flaws and for the

00:15:30.520 character flaws they do, they're willing to acknowledge them and address them and overcome

00:15:35.060 them.

00:15:35.640 That's what I'm looking for in my corner.

00:15:37.320 And so the question is, is this man a principled man or is he just going to drift to and fro as

00:15:42.560 the doctrine of popular culture tells them what's good, what's great, what's virtuous,

00:15:47.800 what isn't?

00:15:49.200 I'm not interested in what culture has to say about what it means to be a man.

00:15:52.600 I'm not interested in what culture has to say about masculinity or marriage or how to

00:15:57.180 raise children or what is virtuous or what is righteous or what is moral.

00:16:01.400 I don't believe in moral relativism.

00:16:04.800 I believe in moral truth with a capital T and I don't always abide by it.

00:16:10.660 I'm telling you that.

00:16:11.900 But I strive to.

00:16:13.200 And you should find men in your corner who strive to do the same thing.

00:16:16.760 And then the last thing, I have five simple questions for you.

00:16:20.220 And I really want you to go through and take an inventory of the closest people in your life.

00:16:24.920 Maybe it's a friend that you've had from high school for the past 20 years.

00:16:27.640 Maybe it's somebody you recently met at work and you guys hang out and you've grabbed some

00:16:31.800 drinks and maybe you go to the game on the weekends.

00:16:35.200 Maybe it's a brother-in-law or a family member, your father, your brothers, your cousins, who

00:16:40.040 you're connected with them by default.

00:16:42.640 You didn't choose it, but you're just in proximity with them.

00:16:45.940 Inventory.

00:16:46.840 Are these people meeting these criteria?

00:16:49.920 Is this somebody I enjoy spending time with?

00:16:52.000 Is this person going to bitch out when things get difficult? 1.00

00:16:55.140 Is this a deep thinker or a stooge? 0.96

00:16:57.640 And is this man a principled one?

00:16:59.360 The last question I have for you here is, is this man capable of the things that he needs

00:17:05.240 to be capable of?

00:17:08.060 Is this man capable?

00:17:09.580 Because that's what defines us as men.

00:17:11.380 It isn't what we think.

00:17:12.880 It isn't our core beliefs.

00:17:15.900 It isn't the books that we read.

00:17:17.680 It isn't how we want to show up.

00:17:19.760 What defines us as men is what we actually do and the results that we actually produce.

00:17:25.100 So if you say, hey, I believe in health and you're 80 pounds overweight, great.

00:17:31.900 I believe that you believe in it, but you're not living it.

00:17:38.000 If you say, I really respect and honor women, but clearly you don't because of all of the 1.00

00:17:43.960 broken relationships that you have or the way that you treat women in general, then I don't

00:17:47.860 believe you.

00:17:48.500 If you say, I really value capitalism, I really value being a man of value.

00:17:54.720 I really value bringing home the bacon, so to speak.

00:17:58.720 And yet you're broke and you're up to your eyeballs in debt and you can't seem to get out

00:18:03.800 ahead of anything and you're living paycheck to paycheck.

00:18:06.020 I don't believe you.

00:18:07.040 I don't want you in my corner.

00:18:08.340 That's not to say I won't help and support you where I can because I do want to do that.

00:18:14.700 That's the entire point of the mission with Order of Man and Iron Council to support and

00:18:20.960 help give you the tools and resources you need.

00:18:23.780 But if I'm going to bring somebody into my circle, I got to know this is a guy who knows

00:18:28.280 how to make money because that's just a medium of exchange.

00:18:32.820 It's a metric of perceived value.

00:18:34.540 I need to know that this is a guy who honors and cherishes the woman in his life and his

00:18:39.020 kids.

00:18:40.920 I need to know that this is a guy who goes to the gym and works out and trains hard and

00:18:45.460 pushes himself physically.

00:18:47.080 I want to know if this is a spiritual man, not necessarily religious, but is this a person

00:18:51.360 who believes in a higher power?

00:18:54.680 Is this a person who believes that there's something bigger and beyond just himself or is 0.96

00:19:01.380 he just going to be selfish and conceited and narcissistic?

00:19:04.540 Is this a man who can get things done?

00:19:10.760 Is this a man that when he speaks, I know that I could actually believe what he says because

00:19:16.840 of the track record of success that he has and following through on his commitments?

00:19:21.380 These are all things that I measure when I decide whether or not I'm going to go on a

00:19:26.240 hunt with a guy or invite him to lunch or bring him on one of our excursions or do a meetup

00:19:33.320 with our guys.

00:19:34.480 This is what I'm evaluating.

00:19:36.340 The five questions are, is this man somebody I enjoy spending time with?

00:19:40.800 Number two, is this man going to bitch out when things get hard? 1.00

00:19:43.720 Number three, is this man a deep thinker or a stooge? 0.98

00:19:47.240 Number four, is this man a principled one?

00:19:50.080 Number five, is this man capable of the things that he needs to be capable of?

00:19:53.420 If there's guys in my corner who I can say yes or in the affirmative, answer these questions

00:20:00.560 for the majority of the time, we all fall short and I'm willing to offer grace where it is

00:20:04.900 required.

00:20:06.520 But if this guy is on the road to answering those questions in the affirmative, then

00:20:10.780 that's a guy that I'm pretty comfortable with having in my circle.

00:20:13.740 Now, I already know where this goes because a lot of you are saying to yourself, well,

00:20:18.380 that'd be great.

00:20:19.000 Like, I'd love to find other guys that I can connect with bandwidth that meet all these

00:20:22.560 criteria, but I don't know where to do that.

00:20:24.420 The Iron Council, guys, is where you do that.

00:20:27.960 You know, one of the questions I get all the time is, hey, I'm trying to build up a band

00:20:31.540 of brothers.

00:20:32.000 I'm trying to build a men's network. 0.69

00:20:33.300 I'm trying to build a group of guys in my local area and I'm having a hard time.

00:20:37.960 Right, of course you are.

00:20:38.980 That's why I started the Iron Council, because I was having the same struggles that you were.

00:20:44.720 And the Iron Council, which is open right now until the end of the month, is a place

00:20:49.100 where, and I'm not saying that you're going to resonate with every single man of the thousand

00:20:54.280 plus men we have inside the Iron Council, but you're going to find 10.

00:20:58.220 You definitely are going to find 10 that hit all of these criteria.

00:21:02.280 And then you're going to work with them.

00:21:03.500 You're going to join their team.

00:21:04.620 You're going to connect with them.

00:21:05.580 You're going to do meetups.

00:21:06.400 You're going to do challenges.

00:21:07.180 You're going to be pushed and motivated and inspired by these guys.

00:21:10.540 But I don't want you to say that I'd really like to find men who meet these criteria.

00:21:19.560 And then I give you an opportunity and you're like, yeah, I don't really want to do that.

00:21:22.660 Okay, do you or don't you?

00:21:24.560 And are you willing to invest?

00:21:25.880 Yeah, it costs money.

00:21:27.120 Not only is this a business, but also I want you to have skin in the game.

00:21:32.620 That's part of the vetting process.

00:21:34.360 If I made this free, just like I do on Facebook or Instagram or Twitter or even listening to this podcast.

00:21:41.900 Yeah, there's a handful of guys who are solid, but the majority of people are just here to get something.

00:21:46.920 They're not here to give anything.

00:21:48.120 But when you band with us inside the Iron Council, you know that these guys are willing to give.

00:21:53.760 They're willing to invest.

00:21:54.740 They're willing to put their money quite literally where their mouth is.

00:21:58.020 And that doesn't mean they're going to be great.

00:21:59.700 It just means that there's one less barrier to entry in you knowing, is this a person who has a growth-oriented mindset?

00:22:05.860 Guys, band with us.

00:22:06.840 If you can do it on your own through a church group or through a neighborhood network or through a friend group, I think most of the time you'll find friends at work or your neighbors or your wife's girlfriends will have husbands.

00:22:20.360 That's all default stuff.

00:22:22.740 And some of it might work out.

00:22:24.820 And if it does, great.

00:22:27.040 But that's passive.

00:22:28.940 We need to be more assertive.

00:22:30.500 And that means you need to invest in yourself and be around the right kind of men.

00:22:34.620 So, again, if you can do it on your own, do it on your own.

00:22:38.680 But if you can't or you find struggles or you really want to take this to the next level, then join us inside the Iron Council.

00:22:44.580 Go to orderofman.com slash ironcouncil.

00:22:47.460 And on Monday, we have a preview call.

00:22:49.360 So if you go to theironcouncil.com slash preview, that's theironcouncil.com slash preview on Monday night at 8 p.m. Eastern.

00:22:58.740 I believe that's June 30th, 2025.

00:23:02.560 I'm going to pull back the curtain and let you know what we're doing inside the Iron Council.

00:23:06.040 And then you can decide whether or not you want to join us.

00:23:07.960 But whether you join us there or you want to do this on your own, the five questions are,

00:23:11.980 is this man somebody I enjoy spending time with?

00:23:14.980 Number two, is this man going to bitch out when things get hard? 1.00

00:23:18.560 Number three, is this man a deep thinker or a stooge? 0.98

00:23:22.100 Number four, is this man a principled one?

00:23:24.260 And number five, is this man capable of the things he needs to be capable of?

00:23:30.280 I hope that serves you.

00:23:31.980 Get out a notepad.

00:23:33.580 Get out your phone.

00:23:35.380 Take an inventory of the five closest people you have in your life and ask yourself those questions

00:23:40.040 against those five individuals and ask, should I be spending more or less time with that person?

00:23:45.240 And also, check out the preview call on Monday, June 30th, 2025 at theironcouncil.com slash preview.

00:23:54.300 All right, guys, we'll see you there.

00:23:56.320 Have a great weekend.

00:23:57.360 Get after it.

00:23:58.140 Remember these five questions.

00:23:59.460 And until Monday on the preview call, go out there, take action, and become the man you are meant to be.

00:24:08.700 Thank you for listening to the Order of Man podcast.

00:24:11.700 You're ready to take charge of your life and be more of the man you were meant to be?

00:24:15.380 We invite you to join the order at orderofman.com.

00:24:23.820 We'll see you there.

Order of Man - June 27, 2025

The BBQ Test： How to Vet Your Band of Brothers ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

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