Order of Man - April 26, 2019


The Castration of the Modern Male ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES


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33 minutes

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185.3961

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6,229

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376

Misogynist Sentences

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Transcript

00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart your own path.
00:00:06.020 When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.
00:00:10.480 You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong.
00:00:15.520 This is your life. This is who you are. This is who you will become.
00:00:19.760 At the end of the day, and after all is said and done, you can call yourself a man.
00:00:24.720 Gentlemen, what is going on? My name is Ryan Mickler, and I am the host and the founder of this podcast, The Order of Man.
00:00:31.700 I want to welcome you to the podcast. I want to welcome you to the greater movement that is Order of Man,
00:00:37.200 with the idea of recapturing and reclaiming and restoring masculinity in a society that seems to be increasingly dismissive of it,
00:00:45.900 which is the exact subject that we're going to be talking about today, with the title being The Castration of the Modern Male.
00:00:52.960 We're going to get into that in a minute. If you are new, I want to tell you really briefly what we're all about here.
00:00:57.660 We've got this show, of course, your Friday Field Notes, where you get to hear from me and some of my thoughts that I've been thinking of from throughout the week.
00:01:04.620 We've also got our interview show, where we are interviewing the most successful men on the planet.
00:01:09.040 These are guys like David Goggins, Jocko Willink, Andy Frisilla, Tim Kennedy, Dakota Meyer.
00:01:15.680 The list, the lineup of men that have joined us in this battle is absolutely phenomenal.
00:01:20.100 So if you haven't listened to past interviews that we've done, make sure you go back and listen, make sure you subscribe.
00:01:26.300 So you never miss a podcast moving forward. And also, if you would, please leave us a rating and review.
00:01:30.760 It goes such a long way in promoting the visibility of this, of this podcast and this movement.
00:01:36.500 And the third show that we have every week is our Ask Me Anything, which comes out on Wednesday,
00:01:41.100 where Kip Sorensen, my co-host and I answer questions from our exclusive brotherhood, the Iron Council,
00:01:46.060 and also from our Facebook group. So if you want to learn more about what we're doing,
00:01:51.140 those are two great resources, facebook.com slash groups slash order of man and the Iron Council,
00:01:57.200 our exclusive brotherhood is order of man.com slash Iron Council. So with that said, let's just jump
00:02:03.280 right into this today. No announcements. I want to talk about this. It's critical, critical that we
00:02:08.700 address this, that we recognize it, that we understand what's happening. Specifically,
00:02:13.300 I'm going to talk about, again, the castration of the modern male. I'm going to talk about why this
00:02:17.960 is happening. I'm going to talk about what is actually happening. And then I'm going to go
00:02:21.840 through 10 very specific strategies that each of us can employ in our lives and the lives of the men
00:02:28.280 that we have a responsibility for, or the boys that we are raising so that we don't continue to
00:02:33.140 perpetuate the problem of these castrated men. And it's critical, critical that we recognize it,
00:02:40.520 that we acknowledge it, that we do something about it. Because if we don't, then what will happen is
00:02:47.320 the cycle or the process will continue. And it will be too late by the time that we wake up and
00:02:55.160 realize what's happening. And I've seen a lot of people out there, men included, even men who listen
00:03:00.740 to this podcast, who refuse to see the problem, who don't see the problem, who are ignorant to what's
00:03:06.460 going on in society that continues to dismiss and systematically dismantle and reject the idea
00:03:15.380 of masculinity. And it's not even idea, just reject masculinity. It's not an idea. It's biological.
00:03:21.980 So let's just get right into it. When I talk about the castration of the modern male castration,
00:03:28.000 I think we all understand is removing the testicles. And obviously I'm being figurative here. I'm not being
00:03:33.120 literal. This is exactly what's happening. Men are losing their balls and we are becoming softer,
00:03:42.280 more effeminate. We are becoming weaker. And I believe that there is a larger agenda at play.
00:03:49.760 I believe a lot of this is somewhat organic. And I believe also that a lot of it is orchestrated
00:03:55.760 and it's orchestrated and it's moving organically by three main proponents of this idea of castrating
00:04:03.140 men. Number one, it's perpetuated in the school system. Number two, it's perpetuated in the
00:04:11.080 government. And number three, and more recently, we continue to see that this problem is being
00:04:16.800 exacerbated by the medical community. So I'm going to break each one of those down. When it comes to the
00:04:21.760 school system, I think it's no surprise that most of our young men and young girls, frankly,
00:04:25.960 are being taught by women. Now I want to be very clear here. There's nothing wrong with women's
00:04:34.340 school teachers. In fact, I honor any woman or man who steps into that role and has a desire to teach
00:04:40.520 our young children. That is not an easy task. It's often very thankless. It's very difficult to do.
00:04:48.120 It doesn't really pay all that well. And a lot of the times it's very, very frustrating and
00:04:53.260 challenging because our school teachers are pigeonholed into the way that they're performing
00:04:58.440 and the way that they're teaching and the way that they're raising our youth. But if you look at
00:05:04.520 specifically, there's three resources that I want to introduce you to that some of you may be familiar
00:05:11.080 with that go deeper into the problem with the school system, especially in that it's stacked
00:05:16.560 against our young boys. So number one is Dr. Leonard Sachs. We've had Dr. Sachs on the podcast
00:05:22.920 in the past. He's got some great books, one titled Boys Adrift, the other one titled Why Gender Matters,
00:05:29.940 and then also introduce you to Dr. Warren Farrell, who has been on the podcast as well, wrote a book
00:05:37.400 called The Boy Crisis, and then Christina Hoff Summers, and she talks about the war on boys. All three of
00:05:44.980 these resources go more into depth than I'm going to go into today. But what happens is that we have
00:05:51.580 these boys who are growing up in a system that is not conducive to the way boys learn. They're told
00:05:58.080 to sit down. They're told to shut up. They're told to figuratively and literally color within the lines.
00:06:04.440 They're told to do it this certain way. And then if they fall outside of the way that they're supposed
00:06:08.520 to operate, that somehow there's something wrong with them. And because there's something wrong with
00:06:13.000 them, what do we do? We over medicate and we get into ADD and ADHD and all these types of behavioral
00:06:19.440 quote unquote disorders when it might just be that they don't want to sit in the classroom,
00:06:24.040 that they don't want to learn that way, that there's a more effective way of teaching our boys.
00:06:28.540 And I'm not saying that these boys shouldn't at some point learn to focus, but there's other
00:06:33.400 opportunities that will allow boys to learn in a meaningful and significant way that taps into
00:06:38.960 that masculine energy that we see so many young men possess. And I think the school system has done
00:06:44.820 a huge, huge disservice by attempting to turn off that side of our young men and silence it when we
00:06:52.440 could actually be harnessing it. And I think this is a large part of the reason that we see in the
00:06:58.300 school system and specifically with our young men, uh, more dropout rates, uh, more suicide,
00:07:03.900 more depression. We see college entry going down for men. Women continue and will continue to get
00:07:10.600 the jobs and get into college and higher education. That's because the school system is quite literally
00:07:17.040 stacked against our youth. So that's the, that's one problem. Again, we're going to talk about how to
00:07:23.160 address these things. Number two is the government. The government is stacked against men. If you look
00:07:31.840 at entitlement programs, if you look at the family court system and how often men aren't able to see
00:07:39.840 their children, uh, if you look at criminal activity, uh, men are more likely to be sentenced for
00:07:48.260 longer periods of time than women for the same activities. Uh, a lot of this is really
00:07:52.980 going to create a real and has created a real problem for men showing up in society, men showing
00:08:00.100 up for work and their jobs and men specifically showing up for their families. And I believe in
00:08:05.020 addition to the attack on masculinity, there is also a huge, huge attack on the family unit.
00:08:11.480 And if they can strip away men from the family unit, I think they're going to have a whole lot easier
00:08:17.860 time being manipulative, controlling, and then subjugating, uh, our citizens, which is ultimately,
00:08:24.160 I believe the objective. And then we have the third component, the third tier of this attack,
00:08:29.160 which is the medical community. Now I think this is somewhat new, uh, but I think the problems are
00:08:34.920 going to continue to get worse. And one of the biggest things that I see when it comes to the
00:08:38.760 castration of the modern male regarding the community, the medical community, that is,
00:08:42.100 is this American psychological associations, blatant attack and dismissal, not on what they
00:08:51.560 would dub toxic masculinity, but on masculinity of itself. If you go in and you actually read that
00:08:56.780 study, what it suggests is that the attributes that we would typically and traditionally associate
00:09:02.820 with masculinity, things like aggression, uh, dominance, competitiveness, stoicism, what they've
00:09:10.160 said is that these things are actually harmful in society. And that's the furthest thing from the
00:09:16.520 truth. The reason that men display more often than women, these characteristics is for good purposes.
00:09:23.460 We just need to be able to harness these things. It's not wrong or bad to be competitive. It's not
00:09:29.860 wrong or bad to be aggressive when the situation calls for it. It's not wrong or bad to be stoic,
00:09:35.540 which I think they've misunderstood what stoicism is. It's not suppression of emotions. Please
00:09:41.140 understand that stoicism is not about suppressing emotions. It's about understanding emotions and
00:09:46.800 then using them simply as a tool or a metric for improvement and growth in somebody's life.
00:09:53.100 So with the school system, with the government and with the medical community stacked against men,
00:09:59.640 I think we've got an uphill battle here. I think we've got a real challenging road ahead.
00:10:05.540 And I think it's going to create some real problems in society. And in fact, I think that's part of
00:10:09.700 the reason I believe that men and families also throw that in there as well, represent the last
00:10:16.400 line of defense against the powers that would be against the powers that would try to control and
00:10:21.440 subjugate us strong, capable, moral, independent, sovereign men who are leading their families
00:10:29.820 and leading their businesses and leading their communities represent a threat to a higher power
00:10:36.400 that wants to control and coerce and manipulate and have absolute reign over its citizens.
00:10:44.780 That is why this is becoming an issue. And if we want to continue to maintain our sovereignty and our
00:10:51.000 control and our ability to live our lives the way that we are intended to live our lives,
00:10:55.640 and that we have the ability to raise our families the way that we see fit without being infringed
00:11:01.360 upon, then it's on us as men to tap into the characteristics and the virtues and the qualities
00:11:08.400 that make us men harness those things so that we can continue to live life the way that we are meant
00:11:15.180 to live and ward off any danger against ourselves, against our families, against our communities,
00:11:20.960 and frankly, against our way of life. And I want to spend the bulk of the discussion on
00:11:26.160 how we do this, because the last thing I ever want to do is create an environment or a conversation
00:11:31.140 in which all we do is complain about how the odds are stacked against us and why this is so bad and
00:11:36.200 what's going wrong. And you'll find plenty of that out there. Trust me. I don't want to add to that
00:11:40.540 conversation. I want to highlight what's going on. I want to highlight why the school system is
00:11:45.140 stacked against us and why government programs and the family court system and the medical community
00:11:49.620 are working against men. And then I want to use that information to equip ourselves with the options
00:11:56.840 to fix the situation, more time focused on the, how we fix this rather than why and what is actually
00:12:03.860 happening. So let's get into this guys. These are not in any specific order. And if you have more,
00:12:09.120 if you have more ideas about how we may enlist ourselves and other men and the tools that we have
00:12:14.160 at our disposal to ward off the powers that would be and keep ourselves as men and keep our balls,
00:12:21.640 if you will, then please let me know, share that stuff on Instagram, Twitter, both at Ryan Michler.
00:12:27.440 My last name is spelled M I C H L E R. I'm very, very active on both. And I would love to hear what,
00:12:32.600 what solutions you propose as well. That's the whole point of order of man is that we band together
00:12:37.860 as men to become better men and to keep ourselves relevant, uh, in a society that I think wants to
00:12:45.700 make us less relevant. All right, let's get into this. Number one, we've got to recognize and reject
00:12:51.760 the idea that, that it's not okay to be a man that somehow masculinity in and of itself is toxic.
00:13:00.600 If we bury our heads in the sand and we play stupid and we play ignorant and we pretend like nothing's
00:13:06.760 really happening and we don't actually look at what is going on, then it's going to be a whole
00:13:10.740 lot easier for these powers to be to control, manipulate, coerce. And again, we won't recognize
00:13:16.960 it before, uh, it's too late. That's why this work is so important. That's why what we're doing here
00:13:23.160 with order of man is so critical. I want to get out ahead of the problem, not be playing catch up.
00:13:29.180 So we've got to recognize what's going on. We've got to see these attacks, whether they're deliberate
00:13:35.340 and intentional, or whether they're a lot more covert, we've got to recognize them for what
00:13:40.440 they are and reject the idea that masculinity is inherently wrong, evil, destructive, et cetera,
00:13:48.820 et cetera. So number one, recognize and reject it. We do that by tuning into this information.
00:13:54.560 We do that by listening to the good books. We do that by educating ourselves and listening to the
00:13:59.540 podcast and having conversations with other men. This is how we begin to recognize what's happening.
00:14:04.320 And by the way, if you have somebody in your life, a man in your life who could benefit from
00:14:08.340 what we're doing here, make sure you share this, share this podcast, invite them to the
00:14:12.740 Facebook group, have them join the iron council with you, get them involved in the movement.
00:14:18.200 Number two, we have got to be strong. And when I say strong, I'm talking about physically strong,
00:14:24.700 mentally, emotionally strong, because the stronger that we are and the more that we work,
00:14:31.520 our muscles, our minds, our hearts, our souls, our physical muscles, the harder it is for anybody
00:14:38.200 to have any sort of weight and relevance in our lives, because we're able to ward that stuff off.
00:14:45.060 We live in a time where being strong, quite frankly, is optional. And so it's up to us as men to
00:14:52.300 voluntarily step into hardship and struggle and challenge so that we can make ourselves strong
00:14:59.880 in a society that doesn't require it. That's the hard part is nobody's going to tell you to go to
00:15:04.560 the gym. Nobody's going to tell you to do something difficult. In fact, you're going to be rewarded just
00:15:09.300 for showing up. We have these cute little phrases like showing up is half the battle. No, it's not
00:15:14.060 half the battle. You're not even in the battle. You got to the battlefield. We've got to expect more
00:15:20.060 from ourselves. So we've got to go into the gym. We've got to exercise. We've got to make ourselves
00:15:24.520 strong and capable. We've got to do the things that scare us, whether that's asking for a raise or asking
00:15:30.340 for the woman out on a date, whether that's speaking in public, the things that frighten you, that scare
00:15:37.240 you are the things that are going to make you stronger. And they're going to be able to help you ward off
00:15:42.180 any threat when that threat presents itself. So number two is be strong. Number three, live sovereign.
00:15:50.680 I wrote a book called sovereignty, the battle for the hearts and minds of men. And what I see so many
00:15:55.660 men do is they're giving away their responsibility in their lives. They give it away to the government.
00:16:00.860 When they start accepting government handouts, they give it away to their boss. When they know
00:16:05.720 they could potentially go start another business. And yet they've got these golden handcuffs in the form
00:16:10.660 of a 401k or some health benefits. And so they give away any responsibility for their own life.
00:16:16.540 We give it away to the school system when it comes to raising our kids. And then we wonder why they're
00:16:21.180 not doing a good job. That's our responsibility. These are the things that we should be doing.
00:16:25.600 We have to live sovereign. We also give it away to financial companies when we go into debt in order
00:16:31.880 to have things that we don't necessarily need. Well, now that company has weight over us. They have a
00:16:38.080 bearing in our life and they're charging us interest and they've enslaved us with their debt.
00:16:42.780 You've got to live sovereign. Essentially what I'm saying here is that you've got to be independent
00:16:48.480 of these things. If you can be bought off or manipulated because of your actions or somebody
00:16:53.540 has their thumb over you, then you are not living as a sovereign man and your actions are going to be
00:16:59.520 dictated by other individuals. So you've got to live sovereign. You've got to live independent.
00:17:04.240 You've got to get out from the thumb of your boss. You've got to get out from the benefits you're
00:17:08.220 receiving from the government. You've got to get away from these things. And as challenging,
00:17:12.060 as difficult as it is in times, especially if you've been living this way for a long period of
00:17:16.780 time, it's critical, critical that you do not enslave yourself to any other person, entity,
00:17:23.980 organization, or government. Keep yourselves free, fight for independence and freedom, and know that
00:17:32.440 anything that you receive from another individual or from an organization or the government typically
00:17:39.260 has strings attached. And those are strings that you don't want to be tied to live sovereign.
00:17:45.540 Number four, gain confidence, gain confidence. I talked with a lot of men who seem to believe that
00:17:51.760 some men are just inherently confident. And I would argue that if you believe that, or see another man
00:17:57.320 who you think is inherently confident, that may not be inherent confidence. It's either something
00:18:02.020 that's been earned or it's an inflated sense of pride and ego. Those are the only two things it can be.
00:18:07.440 It can't be some sort of confidence that some individual hasn't earned. The fact of the matter
00:18:12.720 is that if you want confidence in your life, you have to earn it. You're not entitled to it. It's
00:18:18.060 not a right. It's not something that just some men have. Those who have genuine confidence are those
00:18:23.400 who have gone out and done the things to my previous point that have pushed them, that have
00:18:28.180 scared them, that have gotten them outside of their comfort zone. And because they're willing to do
00:18:32.100 those things, they gain confidence in who they are. They gain confidence in themselves and they're
00:18:36.840 able to stand up for themselves because they're capable of doing so. So if you're walking around
00:18:41.580 as a scared little boy, it's safe to assume that you probably haven't done anything worth being
00:18:47.520 confident about. And I have guys that'll ask me, how do I gain confidence with women? How do I gain
00:18:52.700 confidence with, with asking for, for a raise or starting a new business? You gain confidence by taking
00:18:58.500 action by exhibiting some level of courage in your life that will allow you to feel good about what
00:19:04.940 you've done, that you're actually able to accomplish something that you didn't previously think you could
00:19:09.520 accomplish. This is how we gain confidence. So take some notes and, and think about what it is that
00:19:16.200 scares you. When you run across something today, that's freaking you out a little bit, write it down
00:19:20.220 and recognize that if you can learn to plow through that thing or do it in the face of fear,
00:19:24.500 that you'll come out the other side, more capable and more confident. Confidence is critical because
00:19:30.880 it equips us with the mindset we need to stand up to other individuals and organizations that would
00:19:36.660 otherwise control us. So number four, gain confidence. Now, again, these aren't in any order,
00:19:42.500 but if you think about what we've done, we've, we're, we're living sovereign. We're independent of
00:19:46.420 any other person or organization. We're gaining confidence through action. We're now strengthening
00:19:51.680 ourselves physically, mentally, emotionally. We actually recognize we've opened our eyes to what
00:19:56.660 is actually happening. That gives us the ability now to speak boldly, which is point number five.
00:20:03.260 When we see these things and we see what's happening and we recognize what's going on and how the deck is
00:20:10.880 stacked against men. If we do these other things, it gives us the ability to now speak boldly. Well, a lot
00:20:17.860 of men who reach out to me and say, I'd really appreciate what you're doing. You're putting into
00:20:21.480 words what I've always thought. And while I appreciate the compliment, and I certainly will
00:20:25.720 continue to do that. My thought is inevitably, why aren't you doing this? Why aren't you being out
00:20:32.480 there? Why aren't you being vocal? Why aren't you talking with other people about what's going on?
00:20:36.840 Why aren't you inviting people to this movement? Why aren't you starting your own movement? Guys,
00:20:41.120 we've got to do better about being bold when it comes to our rhetoric and the things that we're
00:20:46.440 saying not only to ourselves, but other people, our family, our friends, our neighbors, our
00:20:50.940 colleagues, our coworkers, random people, strangers, which is obviously what we're doing
00:20:54.940 here. When people find the podcast for the first time, it's critical that we speak boldly. We can't
00:21:00.040 just sit back and assume that everything will work itself out because the vocal minority tends to be
00:21:05.200 the ones who get the progress. It's like the squeaky wheel. So we've got to be a squeaky wheel in a way
00:21:11.180 we've got to reject this, but we've also got to talk about why we reject it and what we should be
00:21:15.900 doing instead. But you can only do that when you're confident. You can only do that when you're
00:21:20.040 independent. You can only do that when you're strong. You can only do that when your eyes are
00:21:24.340 open to what is actually happening. But once you have those things in place, you need to speak boldly
00:21:29.300 and speak out about what's happening. And if you're not willing to do that at a minimum, you should be
00:21:33.280 sharing what we're doing here because I'm willing to do it. And if that's what it takes in order for
00:21:39.020 more people to need to hear this message, then so be it. The next one, despise mediocrity. I think
00:21:46.460 this is point number six. Yes. Despise mediocrity. Again, we live in a time where it's so easy to be
00:21:53.280 mediocre. It's so easy to be complacent. It's so easy to just take the default path and the path of
00:21:59.380 least resistance. And nobody's going to tell you you need to do otherwise. And that's the rub. That's
00:22:03.200 the challenge is that nobody's going to tell you to excel. Nobody's going to tell you to exceed. In fact,
00:22:08.620 in a lot of ways, you're actually rewarded for blending in, for being average, for being
00:22:13.820 mediocre, for doing the bare minimum, for just showing up. We can't be that way. We've got to
00:22:19.860 be assertive. We've got to be bold. We've got to despise the status quo. We've got to continue to
00:22:26.060 elevate our positions and improve in every single way possible by educating ourselves, by getting
00:22:31.840 strong, by going the extra mile, by taking on responsibility that isn't quote unquote, our
00:22:38.440 responsibility. These are the things that we need to do in order to excel in our own lives,
00:22:43.320 make ourselves more relevant, more credible. And then the authority, of course, that comes with
00:22:48.520 somebody who is despising mediocrity and somebody who is excellent in a lot of different ways.
00:22:53.640 If you're excelling at work, your voice is more credible. Your actions are more credible. The things
00:22:58.560 that you say and the things that you do carry more weight than those who are just going with the flow
00:23:04.320 and wherever the tides in the, the, the current may take them. So despise mediocrity, reject it
00:23:11.380 completely, step into something bigger and better and grander and bolder and make yourself better than
00:23:18.320 you were yesterday and tomorrow better than you were today. Number seven. Yes. Number seven is that
00:23:27.980 we've got to edify and sustain men in leadership positions, whether this is within our community,
00:23:35.760 our neighbors, whether it's in a work environment, even in politics. And I don't need to get into
00:23:42.260 politics too much here, but it's critical that we find honorable men and capable men. Those are two
00:23:49.420 different things, by the way, and they're not mutually exclusive. They need to be both honorable and
00:23:53.980 capable. And when we find these honorable and capable men, we need to edify them. We need to
00:24:00.260 sustain them. We need to uplift them. We need to vote for them. We need to support them and rally
00:24:05.440 around these individuals. The more that we do this, the better off we're going to be. I think about,
00:24:10.520 for example, in politics, it's very easy to see that there are males in politics, but I think it's
00:24:16.360 infinitely harder to find men, genuine men who believe in all of the other things that I've been
00:24:22.400 talking about today, who believe that there is a dismissal at a minimum or an attack at the worst
00:24:26.940 end of masculinity. But men who believe in the steps and the things that I'm sharing with you
00:24:32.320 right now need to be uplifted, sustained, voted for, and elevated to the position of leadership
00:24:38.980 and authority. And when those men, when, and if those men fall from that, if they start to deviate
00:24:45.020 from the steps that I'm sharing with you right now, then it's on us to remove those people from
00:24:50.120 leadership and instill other leaders who are going to be more effective as men. So that's seven.
00:24:59.360 Number eight, live morally, live morally. There's a lot of discussion and question about where
00:25:08.580 morality comes from. And I've thought a lot about this. I'd love to hear your opinion on this. Is
00:25:12.720 morality subjective or is it objective? I believe personally that it's objective. I believe our morality
00:25:18.500 comes from God. Now you may not believe in God. You may not believe that's the case. I believe
00:25:23.080 that's the case. So I believe it's objective. But at the end of the day, I believe that most of us,
00:25:27.860 if not all of us know what is moral behavior, because we all have a conscience or in my opinion,
00:25:34.760 we have the Holy spirit guiding us and directing us and telling what is us, what is right. And what is
00:25:39.420 wrong. All of us know right from wrong. We have to live it. We have to live it. And the only phrase
00:25:46.960 that comes to mind when I think about this is through discipline comes freedom. That's Aristotle.
00:25:51.480 He said that 2000 years ago, Jocko says through a discipline equals freedom. It's the same concept
00:25:56.860 when we can learn to be disciplined and live morally the way that we know we should be living,
00:26:02.400 then we will be more free. But if we get into the things that we know we shouldn't be doing,
00:26:07.500 whether that's lying, cheating, stealing, shortcutting, being lazy, really what I would refer to as the
00:26:13.020 natural man, immediate gratification wants the result without the effort. When we step into who
00:26:18.640 that man is, we do ourselves and other people a disservice and we make ourselves vulnerable
00:26:24.580 targets. Guys, we've got to live morally. I'm not going to get into what that means entirely,
00:26:30.020 but we've got to do what's right. We've got to have honor. We've got to have integrity. We've got to
00:26:34.940 have character. We've got to be disciplined. We've got to make sure that our actions are in line with
00:26:40.220 our words and all of us fall short. I fall short every day, but I'm attempting and I'm trying and
00:26:45.100 I'm doing what I can to live morally so that I can live a better life for myself. And I'm less likely
00:26:51.000 to be subjugated by those who would exert their authority or control over me. So number eight is to
00:26:59.220 live morally. Number nine, you've got to be enhancing your capabilities in all ways. You've got to become
00:27:06.460 more proficient, more capable. You've got to become equipped with the tools and the conversations and the
00:27:13.680 skill set and the mindset and the resources to be able to fend off any threats, to be able to have these
00:27:21.200 types of conversations that we're talking about here, to be able to put yourself and those you have an
00:27:26.460 obligation or responsibility for in a better situation to defend, to protect, to provide, to preside. You've got to
00:27:33.240 develop the hard skills and the soft skills so that you aren't reliant upon other people, that you aren't
00:27:38.820 giving away your sovereignty, that you are confident, that you can speak boldly, that you are edifying
00:27:44.580 other individuals, men who are men, that you put yourself in that position through your capability,
00:27:52.160 through your ability to perform. And ultimately, I believe that is the measure of a man, not what he
00:27:57.380 thinks about, not what he wants to be, but who he is and the results that he produces for himself.
00:28:04.080 I've talked a lot about the differences between a boy and a man. A boy is primarily a consumer. He
00:28:10.320 consumes more than he produces, but a man is a producer. He produces more than he consumes. And we
00:28:18.720 are able to produce more when we're capable in all ways. So what information do you need to study?
00:28:24.580 What skillset do you need to develop? What area of life could you improve? Write those things down
00:28:31.000 and start working towards those. Use our 12-week battle plan system. Do whatever you can to make
00:28:36.940 yourself more capable in all ways. And the last step, point number 10 that I want to share with
00:28:42.460 you today is that we need to raise these types of men. First, we need to be it. I think the underlying
00:28:48.520 thread between the previous nine points that I've shared with you today is that we need to be the type
00:28:52.480 of men that are capable of reclaiming and restoring masculinity. We need to be the kind of men who
00:28:58.860 aren't castrated, who don't allow themselves to be castrated by the powers that be. We need to be
00:29:04.000 these strong, rugged, individual, sovereign men. And when we can learn to step into that role, like
00:29:09.840 we're supposed to, then we have the ability to raise those men behind us. There is a huge, huge problem.
00:29:15.420 I've talked about it. And that war is being waged, I believe primarily on our boys, because if those
00:29:21.760 boys can be indoctrinated to believe that masculinity is somehow inherently wrong or toxic, then this
00:29:28.680 problem is going to continue to get worse. So it's us men who have an obligation and responsibility to
00:29:35.200 turn around and assist the boys who are coming behind us in growing up and becoming the type of men
00:29:41.500 that we're talking about here. That means that you need to be a father in your home. If you have
00:29:46.460 children, boys and girls, then it is now your obligation and your moral responsibility to raise
00:29:53.940 those boys the way they need to be raised. If you don't have boys, I believe just as a man and a leader
00:30:00.360 in the community, that you have a moral obligation and responsibility to step up within leadership in
00:30:06.640 your community. This could be within a mentoring program. Uh, this could be a big brothers type
00:30:13.300 program. This could be coaching a youth sports team, whatever you can do to be a leader of men
00:30:19.420 and boys in your community, the better off we're going to be guys. This problem isn't going to go
00:30:24.040 away. It's not anybody else's responsibility to solve it. It's not my responsibility to be the only
00:30:30.820 one who's engaged in this fight. And I'm not, there are millions and millions of men who believe
00:30:37.040 like we do, who see what's happening, who dismiss and reject this disgusting idea that masculinity is
00:30:44.020 inherently wrong and who are actually doing something about it. I encourage you to be one of
00:30:49.220 those types of individuals. I am trying to enlist more men in this battle. It's an external battle
00:30:54.940 against the school system, against the government, against the medical community. And it's an internal
00:31:00.500 battle in that we are to battle and wage war against what I dubbed as the natural man,
00:31:05.480 the guy who's lazy and immediate gratification. And once again, the result without the effort,
00:31:11.380 these are the battles that we are called to fight. These are the battles that we need to equip
00:31:15.540 ourselves with the tools and the resources and the information and the conversations and the
00:31:20.320 capabilities to be able to wage this battle and win. So let me break these down again, and we'll call
00:31:26.480 it a day. Number one, recognize and reject what's actually happening regarding masculinity.
00:31:31.460 Number two, be strong. Number three, live sovereign, independent. Number four, gain confidence. Number
00:31:37.180 five, speak boldly against this stuff. Number six, despise mediocrity. Number seven, edify and sustain
00:31:44.780 men in leadership positions. Number eight, live morally. Number nine, enhance your capabilities in all
00:31:51.140 ways. And number 10, raise men. So guys, that's what I've got for you today. I recognize this as
00:31:57.560 being a problem. It's not enough to recognize it. It's not enough to know that we are being
00:32:01.440 systematically and figuratively, I should say, castrated in society today. It's up to us to
00:32:07.660 maintain our position, maintain our authority, maintain our relevance and our credibility in a
00:32:14.040 society that seems to be undermining us at every turn. And we can do this and we should do this.
00:32:19.000 We do this collectively. We do this together within the order. And I believe that as we adhere to
00:32:23.600 these 10 systems and these 10 steps or strategies and more, the strategies you're going to share with
00:32:28.680 me on Instagram or Twitter, that we will begin to turn the tide of the battle that is being waged
00:32:34.260 against men. So if you would guys make sure again, that you're following along with us in our Facebook
00:32:39.020 group or connecting with me again on Instagram and Twitter, both at Ryan Mickler. I'm very active in
00:32:44.740 both of those places and that you do your part in this battle to castrate the modern male guys.
00:32:51.180 I appreciate you being on this path with me. I appreciate how you're stepping up in your life.
00:32:55.220 I'm anxious to hear from you guys and what more we could be doing to win this war.
00:32:58.960 And I just want to let you know that I could not do this alone and that I'm inspired and uplifted and
00:33:03.900 edified by you guys every single day. As I see what you're doing within the walls of your
00:33:08.020 families and your homes and your businesses and your communities. So that's all I've got for you today,
00:33:12.960 guys. Have a great weekend. Take this stuff to heart, apply it in your life, and we will all be
00:33:17.700 better off. Until next week for our interview show, go out there, take action, and become the man you
00:33:24.320 are meant to be. Thank you for listening to the Order of Man podcast. If you're ready to take charge
00:33:29.780 of your life and be more of the man you were meant to be, we invite you to join the order at
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