The Most Underrated and Underused Tool in Your Arsenal ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
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On this episode of the podcast, we discuss the importance of being a man of action, and how to become a better one. In looking back over the past 5 and a half years, as best as my memory can recall, I don t think we ve talked much about this topic. I think this is a subject that is often overlooked, and I wanted to bring some attention to it today.
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You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest, embrace your fears, and boldly chart
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your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time, every time.
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You are not easily deterred or defeated, rugged, resilient, strong. This is your life. This is who
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you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,
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you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Brian Mickler,
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and I am the host and the founder of this podcast and the Order of Man movement. I want to welcome
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you here. I've got a very, very important conversation for you today. And in looking back
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over the past five and a half years, as best as my memory can recall, I don't think we've talked
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about this. I think this is a subject that is often overlooked and I wanted to bring some attention to
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it today. So we're going to get to that in here in just a minute. Before we do, I just want to let
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you know a couple of things. Number one, I want to thank you. This month is shaping up. In fact,
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it is the highest downloaded month that we have had in podcasting since I started recording five
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and a half years ago. So the movement is growing. The mission is growing. Our reach is growing. The
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visibility is growing. The word is getting out guys. And that is all you. All right. We, yes,
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we bring great guests on. Yes. I try to improve my skills and my capacity as a podcaster and the leader of
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this movement, but it's you that is sharing the episodes, talking about what we're addressing,
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having these types of conversations, joining with us, banding with us on our social media platforms
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and generally just getting the word out. And I want to thank you for doing that. And I want to
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encourage you to continue to do that because now more than ever with the election coming up and with
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COVID-19 and just everything, everything, I mean, writing and race issues and all that we're
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dealing with in 2020, murder hornets and other things that alien spacecraft that has been confirmed
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by, by the Pentagon. I mean, this, this stuff's crazy. 2020 is crazy. And the crazier that it gets,
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because it will, I mean, we're just over halfway into this year, which seems like it's been a decade
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this year. Uh, it's apparent to me that men are more needed now. I think more than any other time
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in history, possibly I'm thinking about world war two. I'm thinking about, uh, the American revolution.
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You know, those are, those are dire times as well. Uh, but I think this is stacking up to be
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a very interesting to put a mildly next several years. So guys, we need to make ourselves more capable.
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That's what this podcast is all about. It's about giving us the tools and the conversations
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and resources and guidance and input and direction perspective that we need to thrive as husbands,
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fathers, business owners, leaders in our community, just men in general. And that's my goal today.
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Obviously as your Friday field notes, you get to hear from me for better or worse for the next 20
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or 30 minutes or so. And again, I think I've got a good one lined up for you today. All right.
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And I hadn't surprisingly. Uh, so I went into the iTunes podcast player on my phone
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and I clicked five stars and it literally took me two seconds, legitimately two seconds. Okay. So guys,
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in promoting what we're doing here. All right. Outside of that, uh, check out the battle ready program.
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It's a free course, a 30 day email course. Uh, you're going to get a series of 17 emails over
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to become prepared for what you want to accomplish, uh, in, in the last quarter of this year. So you
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can check that out at order of man.com slash battle ready. All right, guys, let's talk about it today.
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I want to talk with you about, uh, a resource, a tool that is probably in my experience and in
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talking with thousands and thousands of men across the planet, one of the most underrated
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and underutilized tools available to you and every other man. And that is your intuition.
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Now, as I talk about this, you're probably going to hear some spiritual undertones because I am
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a believer. If you are great. I think you'll understand it from that context. If you're not,
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you know what? It doesn't matter because this tool is still available to you.
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So whether you decide to call it your intuition or your conscience or a sixth sense or the Holy
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Ghost or God or Jiminy Cricket for all I care, there is power in tapping into this, this, I'm just
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going to call it intuition today for the sake of argument, but you guys understand now what I'm
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talking about. It could be again, the Holy Spirit, the Holy Ghost, God, uh, your conscience,
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whatever, again, however you want to look at it. I'm just going to call it intuition for the sake of
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this conversation and you guys can interpret it how you feel necessary. Okay. There is power in your
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intuition and it's difficult because it's very, it's, it's hard to quantify, right? Like if we think
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about rationale, if we think about reasoning, if we think about logic, usually what we're talking
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about is looking at, at information, readily available information, and then interpreting it,
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running through a series of, of thoughts or a system or a program in order to, uh, translate what
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that information or that data is telling us and then using it to create the best possible outcome
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for ourselves, whether it's in our business or our personal lives. But when it comes to intuition,
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it's very difficult because a lot of the times it's very intangible. Like it's just a feeling,
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like it's a gut feeling. It's another term for it. It's your gut feeling, right? It's your gut telling
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you. And how do you quantify that? Like how do you articulate that? When somebody asks you,
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why do you think that? And, and you have to say, Oh, I don't know. It's just, it's just a gut feeling
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I have. It sounds a little silly, right? Because as grown men, we ought to have a reason for it.
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We ought to be able to articulate it, to be able to explain it in a rational way. That's what we hear,
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right? Rational. You need to be able to rationally explain everything that you're doing in every
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situation. Well, I really don't believe that's the case. I don't believe that, that, that,
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that's the only metric or that's the only tool or input that we can use to create effective
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outcomes for ourselves and the people that we care about. So I want to share with you a quick
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experience. And for every one of these experiences I can share with you, I've got a thousand more that
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I won't share with you for the sake of time and attention and energy. But the other day,
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I had made a post about, about this, this experience, very, very brief, seemingly insignificant
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experience I had with my wife. And I, I didn't expect, expect much attention from it. I was just
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explaining what had happened. And I like to share these stories because I think it helps men. That's
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obviously what I've been doing over the past almost six years now. And to my surprise, actually, it, it,
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it really got a lot of attention. There was a lot of feedback. There was a lot of comments,
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a lot of positive comments, a lot of questions, like genuine questions about what it is I was
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talking about when I'm talking about this thing called quote unquote intuition guys were asking,
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is that a feeling? Is that an emotion? Is it, what is it? I'm going to explain that here in a minute.
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So let me tell you the story. The other day, my wife came to me and she said, Hey, I'm going to take
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my brother-in-law to the airport because we had family out here visiting. So I'm going to take my
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brother-in-law to the airport, her, her brother, my brother-in-law back to the airport with his family.
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And then on the way back, I'm going to run some errands. I got to go to the hardware store. I got
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to go pick up a picture that I had framed for, for me. So she was going to pick that up. And then
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she said, and then I'm going to go to the, the carwash and I'm going to have the car washed. And
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then I'm going to vacuum out the car because we'd been at the beach and the lake and things like that.
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And so she wanted to clean all the dirt and sand and everything out of there. And so initially I was
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like, okay, yeah, that sounds good. And then the more I thought about it, and I know this sounds silly
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guys, but stick with me on this. All right. The more I thought about it, I was like, you know,
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I don't feel good about her going to the carwash. I can't explain it. I can't tell you exactly what
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it was. I just had this like gut feeling that she shouldn't go to the carwash. Like I had no
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problem with her going to the hardware store, no problem with her picking up the frame, like none of
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that stuff. But for whatever reason, the carwash, it just stuck out with me. And I'm like, you know,
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I don't, I don't feel good about that. I just had this, this thought that, you know, she'd be
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alone and she'd be vacuuming out, vacuuming out her car. And you know, she'd, she'd be knee deep in
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that, like vacuuming out the back of the suburban. And I don't know. I just didn't feel right about
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it. That's it. That's all I can't explain it. And that's the point guys. Like I can't articulate it
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to you. Somebody said, well, what explain more about your feelings, what you felt and what was the
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experience? I don't know. That's, that's kind of the problem. That's why a lot of us men tune out
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this thing that I'm, I'm calling for, again, for the sake of this conversation, intuition is because
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we can't fully articulate. And so we feel stupid. I even put that in my Instagram post. I said, you
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know, I, I, I hesitated sharing this because I sound like a, I think I, I use the term, uh, misogynistic
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paranoid weirdo. And I might sound like that to you right now. Like I just didn't
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have a good feeling about it. And I think most of you guys can relate to that, right? Like you've
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all had experiences where you're like, Hmm, that just doesn't feel right to me.
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So I initially I said, yeah, no problem. I'll just see you when you get back. I'll have the kids
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and we'll just, we'll have dinner tonight and we'll do our thing. Well, I was like, I was thinking
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about it. And, and I had this gut feeling and it wasn't good. So a couple of minutes later, I said,
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Hey, can I talk to you about something? She said, yeah. And so I, I just pulled her aside,
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pulled her into the bedroom or whatever. And I said, Hey, you know, I'm, I'm just feeling,
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I'm just feeling really off about you going to get the car wash today. I don't know why. I just feel
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like you shouldn't do that today. And without hesitation, and frankly, somewhat surprisingly,
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not a single ounce of hesitation from her, not a single ounce. When I said,
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I'm feeling weird about, I don't think you should do that today.
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She simply looked at me and said, okay, I'll, I'll do it another day.
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Now there's a whole other conversation in there that we can have. We can talk about,
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and we will, we'll, we'll talk about that later. If you guys are interested in some of my,
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my thoughts on that, cause there's another message embedded in there, which is about trust and
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authority, not thought, not authority, maybe, maybe influence influences the better word.
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There's a whole other story. You guys can check it out on Instagram. It's at Ryan Mickler. So
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make sure you're connected with me over there. It's like 68,000 of you are. So the other 40,
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50, 60,000 of you need to make sure you connect with me over there. So we can continue these
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conversations again, separate conversation. So, uh, yeah, she says, all right, well, yeah,
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I'll just, I'll just go a different day. I'm like, okay, that sounds good. And I think she'll
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probably go today or tomorrow and she'll get it done. And I don't think I'll have as much of a worry,
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but for whatever reason, for that day, I had a concern about it. And, uh, I shared this and I was
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amazed at how many people resonated with that. I'm sure as you're listening to this, you resonate
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with that as well. The problem is guys, is that our intuition, I believe is one of the most,
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if not the single most underrated and underutilized tool that we have available.
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Your job as a man, one of your jobs, we talk about the three P's protect, provide,
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preside. I'm going to talk about preside, which is synonymous with leadership. Your job as a man
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is to lead, lead yourself first. Like if you can't lead yourself, you can't lead anybody else.
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All right. So start there, be committed, be a man, a man of your word, honor, honor what you say,
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honor your commitments, lead yourself first, do what you know you need to be doing that sort of
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thing. All right. Got it. Then from there, we start moving out in a, in a circular fashion.
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So we move from being a man of your word to, to leading yourself, to now leading your kids,
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leading your wife, leading your neighbors, your community members, your employees, your colleagues,
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your coworkers, and then you just continue to branch out. And for example, I have within this
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podcast, cause we're reaching hundreds of thousands of men, if not millions of men,
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uh, through, through the work we're doing here, but I can only reach you to the degree that I lead
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myself. And the more I lead myself, the more equipped I am to lead other individuals. So preside is
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synonymous with, with leadership. Why do I bring this up? Well, guys, as a leader,
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your job is to take all of the available, I'm going to call it Intel,
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all of the available Intel that you have at your disposal and then aggregate it
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and then make decisions based off of it. So what a lot of people will do is they'll simply take,
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again, I'm calling it Intel. They'll simply take the Intel of emotion, right? How do I feel about a
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situation? And they'll make their decisions based off that Intel alone, right? We see this with, well,
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frankly, we see this with the looting and the writing and the vandalism and the chaos that's
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happening in the streets. I mean, specifically my attention is drawn to Portland and Seattle and some
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of these areas. These are not rational human beings, guys. These are emotional human beings.
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And I'm not saying, by the way, we should discount our emotion. It's Intel. It's not inaccurate.
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It's incomplete. That's what we need to understand about emotions. See, a lot of people will think,
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well, I should never look at my emotions. No, that's ridiculous. Whether you're a creationist
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or you believe in evolution or you fall somewhere in between, which is where I happen to fall.
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I think both can exist. I think that we have been man, woman have been created
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by a creator. And also we have evolved. I believe in both. And regardless of what side of the spectrum
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or somewhere that you sit on that, that spectrum, it's clear to me that we have emotion because it
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served us. Now, sometimes it might betray us, but how could it betray us? Think about that.
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If, if we've developed or been gifted with this ability to have emotion and,
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and it's good and it's helpful, how can it betray us? Well, it can betray you
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if you're not looking at other factors, other intelligence. So for example, I saw this meme
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probably years ago now, you guys have probably seen it or that's a cartoon. It's not a meme,
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it's a cartoon, but there's, there's two individuals sitting, you know, face to face
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face and they're looking at each other and they're looking at this image on the ground
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and the image to one individual on the left. Let's say it looks like the number six because
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it's facing him. And it looks like the number six to the individual on the right, looking at the same
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image, nothing changed except for the perspective, but it's the same image. It looks like the number
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nine who's right. Who's wrong. Neither are right and neither are wrong from the limited perspective
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of the man on the left. It looks like a six from the limited perspective to the man on the right.
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It looks like a nine. Neither one of them are wrong from their perspective based off the limited
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Intel that they have. So your emotions guys, whether you're angry or upset or mad or glad or happy or
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jealous or greed or whatever you're experiencing right now is not bad. It's not the enemy.
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We, we hear that. I think we translate that when we hear these individuals that, that talk about
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emotions and check your emotions and, and, and don't be emotional. We interpret that as like,
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turn those emotions off. No guys, that's not what I'm saying at all.
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I'm saying it's part of the Intel package. It's part of what should be considered.
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The other part is, or ain't another part is logic. It's reasoning. It's rationale. It's,
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it's just understanding. And it's trying to look at other people's perspective and, and looking at it
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logically, I mean, this is something that we need to take into consideration too. And I've,
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I actually feel like if you, if we want to go back to these, these riots and this, this vandalism
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and the violence that we're seeing in the streets, if more of these individuals would like not stop
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being so emotional, but just embrace some other Intel, like logic, reasoning, rationale into the
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equation, I think we'd turn a lot of this stuff off. The problem is these, these, I say kids,
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I say it like I'm some old man. These kids never learned how to use it, right? Because they threw
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temper tantrums when they were six, they threw temper tantrums when they were 10 and when they
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were 16. And because they threw, threw themselves on the ground and they bitched and they moaned and
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they cried literally at times cried and banged their fist on the ground, mom and dad or whoever gave
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them what the hell they wanted. And they thought to themselves, what they started to formulate the
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connection is like, if I just throw a temper tantrum based on the way I feel, then I'll get
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what I want. This is what we see. This is the problem. And they never learned to use the Intel
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of, of, of reasoning and logic and rationale. And you can see it on Facebook. I mean, how many people,
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and I've tried to make a conscious effort of this, not getting emotional, not getting overly emotional,
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not reacting and responding based on emotional loan. I can be mad. That's fine.
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But my response to people or to situations should not be reactionary based on the input of emotion
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alone. So we've got these two sides of the spectrum, right? We've got emotion and then we've got
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logic and reasoning. Well, there's a third component here, guys. There's a third set of, of, of data.
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There's a third set of, of Intel. And it's, it's, it's intuition. I don't look at intuition as a feeling
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like I would another remote. It is a feeling, but not like another emotion. Like I, I don't look at
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intuition as like angry or happy or guilty or greed or lust. I don't look at it as an emotion.
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It's something else entirely. And I wish I could tell you, maybe you guys can articulate it better
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than I can, but I wish I could tell you exactly what it was. I can't. And that's part of the problem.
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That's why it's one of the most underused and, and, uh, underrated mediums of Intel that we have
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available because we can't articulate it. So what do we think is men with these fragile egos?
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I, and I think generally this is more true of men than women is like our ego, right? Like, Oh,
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I want to be able to explain myself and prove what I'm thinking and, and show the world what it is I'm
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after. There's nothing wrong with that unless it's producing negative outcomes for yourself because
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you're taking it too far. But when people say, well, why, why would you do that? And you can't
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explain it. It sounds stupid. You sound ridiculous. And so it threatens our fragile ego. And so what do
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we do? We tune it out or we dismiss it, right? Like, ah, I don't have, man. So what could I have
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done in this situation with my, with my wife, for example? Well, I had that intuition. I had that
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feeling, right? Not an emotional feeling, but an intuitive feeling, a gut feeling different than
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an emotional feeling separate, right? I could have said, no, that's stupid. What are you worried
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about? Don't worry about that's stupid. Don't, don't worry about that. Just blow that off. And
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I could have said nothing about it. And she would have went and, you know, look in, in, in 10 scenarios,
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nine or more of them would have turned out okay. But the one may not have turned out okay. Maybe she
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would have gotten a car accident on the way to, to, to get the car washed. Maybe she would have been
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assaulted or, or, or robbed. I don't know. I don't know. And that's the problem. I can't prove it.
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Here's the other problem. Because I decided to listen to my intuition, I will never know
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whether it was accurate or not. Like I can't put it to the test. That's a problem, right? For a
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rational man. And I tend to be pretty rational. I think most of the time, not always, but most of the
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time it's difficult for me because I don't get any feedback, right? Like I, I can't test whether
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or not I was right or wrong. That's part, part of the problem for a lot of you guys and why you tune
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out this underrated and undervalued and underused Intel at your disposal is because you can't prove
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whether you're right or wrong. And so it's easy to dismiss. It's easy to overlook. It's easy to say,
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nah, that's stupid. I don't need to worry about that. Well, guys, I'm here to tell you that it takes
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some faith in yourself. It takes some faith in who you are and look here. What, what is the risk?
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Right? If I tell my wife, for example, in this scenario, Hey hon, you know, I don't feel good
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about that. Will you do that another day? And she says, yeah, I'll do that another day. There's no
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risk to that involved at all. There's none at all. There's no downside to that other than it kind of
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messes with her day a little bit and she's got to readjust it or I've got to readjust and it's fine.
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We get back, get on about our day. So it's not intuition. And the feelings that I have are not
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something that I'm willing to negotiate with. It's not something I'm willing to gamble with,
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even though I can't prove whether or right, whether or not it's right or wrong. I'm not
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willing to gamble with it. I'm not. And I don't think you should be there. So guys will ask me,
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well, Ryan, like, how do you, how do you develop this, this gift? And I believe it is a gift.
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I believe it's a divine gift. Whether you believe that or not, fine, whatever. But I believe that
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it's divine. And how do you develop that? Well, guys, it's like any other muscle,
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right? Like if you stop running or you stop lifting or you stop sports, when you were younger,
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your muscles are going to atrophy naturally because you're not using them. Now, the more you use them,
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of course, they're going to get stronger. I think the same thing can be true about your intuition.
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And how does that intuition manifest itself? It manifests itself as, as, as, you know,
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guys, this is the problem. I can't even explain it. It's different. I think for everybody,
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because I've heard people talk about it differently to me, it might manifest itself as a voice or just
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a presence or just an uneasiness. I think that's the way I would say it just an uneasiness. And I
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listen and I apply. And because I exercise it and I utilize it, it gets stronger. It gets more
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prevalent and I'm more attuned to it. And I'm more aware of it because I use it. But if every time I
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felt uneasy about a situation, if I dismissed it and, and brushed it off and mocked it as something
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that isn't, isn't important, well, why would it continue to, to develop and get stronger? It
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wouldn't write. It would atrophy like any other muscle, like I said, a second ago. So how do you
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get better at developing the gift of intuition? You exercise it. If you have this feeling, this gut
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feeling something's wrong, something's off, something's right. Something's to be, to be
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avoided or something to be worked towards, then probably you ought to exercise it. And then that
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voice, if you want to look at it that way, I choose to look at it that way. That voice gets stronger
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and more prevalent and louder. And you become more aware of it. You listen to it. You become more
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attuned to it and it serves you well. Guys, this is a little bit different podcast that I've had in
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the past as I'm thinking about this, because, you know, I usually give you a framework, like do these
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10 things. The problem with this is I don't have 10 things to tell you. In this Instagram post that I
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made guys had said, well, like, how do you know if it's, if it's just being paranoid? I don't know.
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Again, that's one of the problems. I don't know. Maybe it is just paranoia.
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Yeah. But I don't think it is. I don't think it is. Here's why. Because I'm a rational human being.
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Just like I told you that we shouldn't operate, for example, on emotion alone,
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we shouldn't operate solely on intuition. There's other factors. Like I'm a rational human being.
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I'm pretty level-headed. I feel like I'm somewhat intelligent. Not, not always, but you know,
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I feel like I'm, I'm a smart guy. Uh, I don't think I'm, I'm overly emotional. I don't make rash
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decisions. I'm pretty even keel. I'm pretty level-headed. So because I'm willing to utilize
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those other sets of Intel, like we had talked about earlier that I have, when I do have something
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that's very strong, that feels very strong. I'm like, I better listen to this because normally I'm
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pretty level-headed. I'm pretty rational. I can pretty well explain my position.
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And in this case, I can't explain it, but I'm feeling it. Uh, and this is actually different
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than what I've been experiencing in the past. So I probably ought to listen to this.
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Now, if you consider yourself a very emotional person, somebody who gets wrapped up in the way
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you feel and like, and you go off your instinct and you're feeling, and that's all you do. Well, okay.
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Maybe you want to question that a little bit more because maybe it is just your emotions.
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Maybe it is just your intuition. But when you look at this as a total package,
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that's how you can begin to determine whether or not it's worth listening to.
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It's like the trifecta of Intel. It's emotion. It's reasoning logic. And it's your intuition.
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All three have to be working. Now, sometimes my emotion will take more control. Sometimes my rationale,
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my logical thinking will take more control. Sometimes my intuition will take more control,
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but because I know, and I'm accustomed to all three sets of data or input.
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And one happens to be more prevalent in a certain circumstance. Well, I'm willing to listen to that
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because in any other circumstance, I'm pretty level-headed. That's how we know.
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And then guys, you got to exercise on faith. All right. Faith is taking action when you can't prove
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that it's there. It's not even a spiritual term necessarily. That's used mostly in a spiritual
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context or religious context, but faith is just operating without the data, without the input.
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You guys have to have faith that, that you're intelligent, that you're emotional. And I don't
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say that negatively. Uh, and that we have access to this underused and underrated tool called
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intuition. And you have to have faith that if you exercise and, and make decisions based on this
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intel, that you're going to be okay. And not only are you going to be okay, you're going to thrive.
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You're going to keep yourself out of dangerous and difficult circumstances. And you're going to put
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yourself into circumstances where you have abundance and opportunity and potential for growth.
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Guys, your job as a leader is to use all of the tools at your disposal, all of them. It doesn't
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matter what tool it is, as long as it's producing an effective outcome for yourself and for the people
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that you have an obligation or responsibility for. In this case, well, the story I shared with you,
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my wife, I have an obligation, a responsibility to protect, to provide, to preside for and over
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my wife and my children and the people that I love. And I got to look at this intuition as a,
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as a tool in my tool bag, a tool in my arsenal, to be able to produce the type of outcomes that I
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want, which is, I want her to be safe. Of course, right? You guys want your wives and your kids to
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be safe. I can't prove whether or not I was right or wrong. Frankly, it doesn't matter. She's going to
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get a car wash today or tomorrow and everything will be fine, but I'm willing to listen. That's
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it. I'm willing to listen. I'm willing to make a little bit of sacrifice. This is not a lot,
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but I'm willing to make a little bit of sacrifice to incorporate this powerful
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and often overlooked tool that we have called intuition.
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Guys, I wish I had a framework for you. I do. I wish I had a framework and said, do these 10 things
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and everything will be fine. And all your wildest dreams will come true. And I've done that in the past.
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And sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't, but in this case, a little different podcast,
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a little different information for you, but guys use that tool called intuition, use it. All right,
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exercise it. Don't let it atrophy. Listen to it. I also got stories from people who didn't,
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by the way, listen to their intuition and unfortunate and tragic situations and circumstances
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unfolded before their eyes, partly because they didn't listen to something they felt. So listen to it.
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Don't put yourself in a bad situation, but it's the trifecta of Intel. It's emotion.
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It's rationale and it's intuition. Use all three effectively and appropriately.
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And I think you will come out ahead and the people you are serving come out ahead as well.
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All right, guys, let's stay in touch on Instagram or Facebook or Twitter or
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parlor or wherever YouTube, wherever you're doing the social media thing. Let me know what you think
00:31:17.880
about this conversation we're having. Maybe you have some experiences. Maybe you have some
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additional insight as I failed to completely be able to articulate what it is that I'm talking
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about because it is so difficult to talk about, but I'd love to hear from you guys. So Instagram
00:31:31.900
is probably the best place at Ryan Mickler. YouTube continues to grow. Make sure you check out the
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battle ready program, order a man.com slash battle ready. And then if you're on iTunes, iTunes is best,
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but wherever you are, just two seconds, guys. Like I said, I went and I gave a rating for Andy
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for Silas podcast and it legitimately took me two seconds. I pulled up his thing, had the little
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stars, clicked on five stars. And it said, thank you for your feedback. That takes two seconds.
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So leave a rating, leave a review, do your part in sharing this work of reclaiming and restoring
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masculinity. Tap into your intuition. Guys, we'll be back next week for another interview.
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Until then, go out there, take action, tap into your intuition, become the man you are meant to be.
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