The Origin of Order of Man ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
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In this episode, Ryan talks about the origin of the podcast and movement, and shares the story behind the creation of The Order of Man. He also gives a brief history of the movement and how it came to life.
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You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart
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your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.
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You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong. This is your life. This is who
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you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,
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you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Michler,
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and I am the host and the founder of the Order of Man podcast and movement. Now,
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I'm going to give you a little bit of heads up here. It's late. It's 11.15, my time,
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Thursday night as I record this. That's because for the past three weeks or so, I've been on vacation
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with my family in Hawaii. And in all of my planning, I overlooked recording this Friday's podcast. So,
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we just got back about a half an hour ago, and I have never missed a podcast episode. I think that's
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325 plus consecutive weeks without missing a single episode. Not an interview, not the ask me anything,
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not the Friday field notes, nothing. So, I was going to let a trip to Hawaii ruin the 325 plus week
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streak that we have. So, I'm a little tired, a little haggard. You can see I've been traveling
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literally for 24 hours. My hat has the classic sweat ring on it. If you're watching this on
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YouTube, you can see that there because this is the hat that I hunted in while I was over there and
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played around and did the thing. But I wanted to talk with you about a post I made a couple of days
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ago because it sparked a lot of interest. And I wanted to give you the condensed version,
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if you will, of the origin of Order of Man. Because as I made this post, there was a lot of,
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like I said, there was a lot of interest. There was a lot of comments. There was a lot of questions.
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And so, as I start this, I want you to know that this is not going to be all about
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me and starting Order of Man. This is going to be about you and how you might take an idea or a
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feeling or a thought or something even you're remotely interested in and turning it into something
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similar to what we've been able to do here with this movement over the past six years.
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So, as I think about what I wanted to share with you, what I'd like to do is just read
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verbatim this post because it obviously resonated with you. And if you're not following me on
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Instagram, make sure you are at Ryan Mickler. That's very important because I just got a couple
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of messages from some friends that have shared with me that they can no longer tag me on Instagram.
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So, Instagram is playing games with my account, which is to be expected. But I need you guys to go over
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there, follow, share, do the thing so we can overcome the bit of shadow betting that maybe
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had taken place. Anyways, here it is. So, let me give you a bit of context. A friend of mine from
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about six, seven years ago sent me a business card. One of my original business cards when I started in
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the financial planning business about 2008, 2009, I think is when this business card was from.
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And so, here's what I put. I said, today, a friend of mine sent me a picture of my old business card
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as I was starting my financial planning practice circa 2008, 2009. I can't help but feel the misery
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of cold calling, weeks without sales, asking for referrals, struggling to make the mortgage payment.
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Ironic. I know. I'll get to that maybe here in a minute. And explaining to my wife that everything
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was going to be okay. I eventually started consulting with some high producers in our office to help me.
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Next, I hired a coach to help me build a successful financial advisory firm. And over time, with a lot
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of sweat, consistency, and sleepless nights, it all started to come together. But as it did, I always
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felt that I was meant to do something more. Something in the depth of myself told me I wasn't doing the
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work that I was meant to do. Eventually, I started a podcast dedicated to helping medical professionals
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with their financial services, which ended up leading me to start the Order of Man podcast.
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And here we are today, 13 years later, on the path that that voice was explaining to me more than a
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decade ago. I suppose the moral of the story is to keep your head down, gentlemen. I know what it's
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like to do work that doesn't speak to you. I know what it's like to feel called to something more,
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but not knowing what or how to do it. I know the despair when deep down inside you, you feel like
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you're better than the results that you're currently producing. Keep going, man. Keep going. Evolve.
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Adjust. Adapt. Learn. Grow. Build. Small, seemingly insignificant steps turn into lengthy
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strides you didn't even realize you were capable of. You are capable, but you have to keep going.
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It's the only way. And to the best of your abilities, be grateful for the sleepless nights
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and the despair in your soul. After all, that's what's forcing you to change.
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That's what's forcing you to evolve. That's what's forcing you to become more than who you currently are.
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So, maybe that spoke to you the same way it did with thousands and thousands of guys here
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on Instagram and the countless messages I've received about how do you start a business and
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where did order a man go and how did you come to this and so many different questions. I wish I
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could answer them all today. We've probably answered a lot of them and are asked me anything in previous
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podcasts. And of course, I'm not planning on slowing down anytime soon. So, I'm sure we'll address
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these as we continue on. But there's a quick synopsis of the Instagram post that I made that
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I just read to you. And so, I want to give you a bit more context. Again, this is about service to
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you. It's not about beating on my chest or tooting my own horn or anything like that. But I want you
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to know I know what it feels like. As I said in that post, I know what it feels like to be engaged in
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work that you found some meaning in, you found some value in, you found purpose and even satisfaction
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in. I was helping people with their finances and getting them on the path to retirement and helping
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them pay off debt and get their money under control. That's valuable. There's meaning to that.
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But I remember having countless conversations with a good friend of mine, Greg Black,
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who was also in the financial planning practice or business. And we were actually partners at one
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point. And I remember talking to him over and over and over again about knowing that I'm not going to
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do this forever and being compelled and almost called to do something greater than what I was
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currently doing. Not more significant, but for me individually. And what's interesting is I think
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about Greg and I think about what he's doing in his financial planning firm because he's continued in
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the business. He feels the same way about what he's doing as I do about what we're doing here with
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Order of Man. So guys, there isn't one path, okay? It isn't that you have to be a financial advisor or
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you have to start your own podcast or you have to start a merchandise company or you have to go
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launch your own business. I'm not saying that. But what I am saying is that you need to constantly
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strive and work towards something that calls to you, that speaks to you, that fills your heart and
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your soul and your mind like it does me. Because if it didn't look, it's now 1120 my time. Thursday
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evening, before Friday, which is when the Friday Field Notes launches, if I wasn't deeply convicted
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about what we're doing here, do you think I'd be doing this right now? Of course I wouldn't.
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I'd be unpacking or I'd be laying in bed because I had a long travel and a long commute home and
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I wouldn't be doing this. But here I am getting back from vacation. As soon as I walk in the door,
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doing this podcast, checking emails, corresponding with people, checking my social media accounts.
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It's not necessarily because I just enjoy doing that. It's because this work is meaningful and
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significant to me. And so as I was thinking about my financial planning practice years and years ago,
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when I was in the business for about nine years, I worked with another firm. Eventually, I realized the
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path to autonomy, which is my definition of success, doing what you want, when you want,
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how you want, that my path was going to have to be me starting my own financial planning firm,
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which I did. And there were a lot of sleepless nights. There were a lot of questions about how I
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was going to pay the mortgage. There was, as I said in the Instagram post, a lot of conversations with
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my wife explaining to her, even though income wasn't coming in at the rate we needed it to,
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that everything was going to be okay. Those were hard times. Those were difficult times.
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My wife, fortunately, had been doing some food preservation and food storage. And she always
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has. She continues to do that to this date. And good thing she did because we lived off of that food
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storage. When I, I remember her asking, Hey hon, can you know, can I spend an extra 25, 50 bucks on
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groceries? And I was like, you could, you could spend 20, 50, you can spend $20 extra on groceries
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this month or this week. Those were tough times. I've told you before, I literally wore a dirt path
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in the grass, the sod of my backyard, wandering around. How am I going to pay the bills? How am I
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going to pay the car payment? How am I going to pay the mortgage? How am I going to make sure I take
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care of my wife and my, my son, my one son at the time? It was rough, but fortunately I, I had,
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I was going to quit is what I was going to do in the financial planning business. I was going to
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throw in the towel. It just wasn't working. I was just going to go work at nine to five somewhere and
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get paid 10, 15, 20 bucks an hour or whatever it was. Cause I didn't have a college degree. I still
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don't. And I was going to throw in the towel, but I'm, I'm a stubborn son of a gun. So I said,
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you know, I'm not going to throw in the towel yet. I'm going to, I'm going to humble myself.
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And that's lesson number one, humble yourself. And so I did, I humbled myself. And I went to a
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couple of high producing agents, advisors in our office. And I said, Hey, teach me.
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I obviously don't know what I'm doing. You guys obviously do know what you're doing. Can,
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can you help me? And so what I would do is I would bring these guys in on my cases
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and we would split any commission or any sales or revenue that was generated from working with
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those clients. And I thought immediately it was my ego. Like, Hey, you know, I'm bringing the
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clients in. I don't want to split revenue with these guys. But I realized a hundred percent of
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zero was still zero. And that 50 or 60 or 70 or 80% of some was some, but I was to that point.
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And it didn't have to get to that point. That's the thing we need to realize guys. It doesn't have to
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get to the point where we're at rock bottom. And yet we do that because we get hardheaded and we
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get stubborn and we get arrogant and our ego gets in the way. And it's like, man, if I would have
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only asked for help three years earlier, how much further down the path would I would have been?
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But I was scared. I didn't want people to think that I was inferior or inadequate or that Ryan
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doesn't know what he had, doesn't have things figured out, but I wasn't fooling anybody.
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Most of all, myself, I wasn't fooling myself. I would go home and I would look in the mirror and
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I think, man, you're better than this, dude. You're better than this.
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And then when I would leave in the morning, I'd put the shield, the armor on and I would say,
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okay, I got this. I'm not going to let anything penetrate this armor. And what it ended up doing
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rather than making me strong is it exposed all the chinks in the armor. And all I had to do was
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ask for help. So I hired a couple, or not hired, excuse me. I brought on a couple of guys to work
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with me and I had some success doing that. And then I hired a mentor, an individual mentor. And I said,
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hey, I need, you know, I need help doing this. And this individual had success building other
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financial planning practices. So I hired him. I spent $1,500 to go visit him. I didn't have $1,500.
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I put it on credit. Non-refundable, $1,500 just to go out and visit and see if it's even something
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you wanted to do. Long story short, I ended up signing him a check for another $6,500 if I remember
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correctly. So we're into this thing, eight grand now. I remember writing, calling my wife. Hey hon,
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I spent this $1,500. We don't have. It's $6,500 to continue to work with this guy. We don't have.
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What do you think? And she said, I trust your decision. And that's the last thing I wanted to
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hear. I wanted her to make a decision, but how pathetic is that? I lacked the balls, frankly,
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to make a decision. I wanted her to say, no, that's actually what I wanted. I wanted her to say,
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no, we don't have the money. And then that would have given me the excuse.
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See, then if the financial planning practice didn't work out, I could say, well, hon, it's
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because we didn't hire that mentor. And subconsciously, I was willing to put that on
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her shoulders. It doesn't belong on her shoulders. Guys, it belongs on mine. It belongs
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on your shoulders. But that's where I was. And she said, I trust you to make a decision,
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a good decision. I'm like, shit. Now I have to make the decision. And so I decided, yes,
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I'm going to do this because this is last attempt right here. Otherwise, I'm throwing in the towel.
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So we're doing this. And I hired this guy. And over time, my business gradually and then
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exponentially grew and expanded and took off and residual income was coming in. I was picking up
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new clients and I was getting referrals and life was pretty good. But deep down inside,
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I knew there was something more. Yeah, I was helping people with their money. Yeah,
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they were paying off debt. They were saving for retirement. They were getting their insurances
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in check. Yeah, all that stuff. And it's all good. It's all wonderful. You should get that stuff taken
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care of. By the way, if you haven't, go do it. Don't message me about it. I get messages every day
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about this, especially when I do podcasts like this. Hey, Ryan, what's your financial advice? I don't do
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that anymore. I mean, I can give you some generic financial advice, but go work with somebody who
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can help you be successful. Somebody, you know, somebody in your circle or hire somebody.
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So I knew I was doing good work, but in my heart, I knew there was something more.
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And I really had this thought of new digital media. I was really fascinated and interested with
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the sales process. And this is lesson number two. So lesson number one is be humble. Lesson number two
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is go where your interests are. Don't shut them down because that's what we have a tendency to do
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is we think, well, you know, this would be really cool, but, well, I'd like to go down this avenue,
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but you know this, and we come up with all these excuses and reasons why we shouldn't do that.
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So lesson number one is be humble. Lesson number two is go where your interests are. Pursue
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your interests. The things that sound even remotely interesting to you. Pursue those things.
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And so I had this, this like new digital podcasting, grow a website, a blog. I'm like,
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man, all these old timers in the financial planning practice aren't doing this.
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Maybe this is something I could do. And I reached out to this guy. His name's Jeff Rose.
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Good financial sense. Look him up. If you need a financial advisor, I think he's still doing the
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work. Go check him out. Tell him Ryan sent you. So I reached out to this guy and I said,
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Hey man, I really like what you're doing. Nobody's doing what you're doing in the financial planning
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space. And I want you to coach me. And he said, yeah, yeah, I coach you. I can coach you.
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Here's how much you need to pay me to do it. And I said, great, done. Let's do it.
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Send him a PayPal or a Venmo or whatever it was at the time.
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Later, do I, do I realize, cause Jeff told me, he's like, Hey, actually you were my very first client
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in this capacity, which I was happy to be his guinea pig because he had launched what we're
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doing here. He helped me launch this. So I started this podcast because I got number two,
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lesson number two, you go where the interests are. So I launched this podcast and it's called
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Wealth Anatomy and it's geared towards helping medical professionals, doctors, dentists,
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chiropractors, physicians, veterinarians, mostly small practice owners with their finances.
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And, and so I launched this podcast and I do about 20 episodes and I realized, man,
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I love this medium. I love this medium of podcasting. I love just talking and sharing
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concepts and sharing ideas, but I'm, I don't want to continue to have this other, this conversation
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about money. So I'm going to do my financial planning practice. This is going well. I've got
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the residual income coming in. I've got clients. I'm getting referrals. Things are, things are
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working. Things are firing over here. I feel good about it. And then I decide, you know,
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instead of doing Wealth Anatomy, what I really want to do is I really want to help men with this
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kind of stuff, with their finances, leading their families. Well, my wife and I had gone through a
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separation years earlier. I talked with a lot of guys who've been through similar experiences,
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men who grew up without fathers in their lives, like I did as a young boy. And I realized, man,
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there's a, there's a gap. There's a gap between what we as men know and the information that we
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glean from resources, like men's health magazine, which is the last place you should be going for
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resources regarding how to be a man, maybe get abs, maybe, but not being a man.
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But there's a gap between what we know we should be doing and what we're actually doing. And if I
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can help bridge the gap for the men who would listen, but also for myself, and in the meantime,
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get some one-on-one coaching from guys who would join my podcast, this would be a pretty cool gig.
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So that's what I did. And I launched in 2015, the Order of Man podcast. And from day one,
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the thing just exploded, took off from day one. I think I had more downloads on day one with my
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podcast, Order of Man, than I probably did collectively with the Wealth Anatomy podcast.
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And I realized very quickly I was onto something. And so I was doing my financial planning practice and
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doing the nine to five and doing my work and doing a good job and making income and all this stuff.
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But gradually and gradually, the financial planning, or excuse me, the Order of Man stuff
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was taking more time. And that's the next lesson, is that I didn't burn the bridges. I didn't burn
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the boats. A lot of people would burn the boats, burn the boats. And they ask, well, what did you
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do? And they're like, well, I didn't do that because blah, blah, blah, blah. I'm not going to tell you to
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burn the boats. Because I think there's an opportunity for you guys to do your work, your career,
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your path, whatever you're on right now, and then also dabble in some other things and gradually
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build this up over time. Because you have responsibilities. You have obligations.
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Right? Just like I do. I had my son, maybe even at that point, I think I probably had three kids at
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that point. I'd have to think about their dates of birth, but sometimes that's hard for you to
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remember. If you're a guy, you understand that. I had three or four kids at the time.
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I had my wife to take care of. I had mortgages to pay. I had bills to take care of. I had this
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financial planning practice over here I needed to take care of. So I had responsibilities. I had
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clients that I needed to work with. And so I'm doing the order of man thing and gradually is
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taking more and more time. And my wife comes to me one day and she says, hey, you know, I really
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appreciate that you're doing this order of man thing. It seems to be that it's going well and that
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you really like it and it's fulfilling and uplifting to you. And I like to see you do this,
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but you're also taking income away from the family household, which was true because I
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was doing less and less financial planning at the time. And that's the next lesson that
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I just shared with you, right? Grow it gradually, build it gradually. And she said to me, you
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know, I really think you ought to scale back and focus on the financial planning stuff or
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you ought to find a way to make money. And I wasn't scaling back. If anything, I was going
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to double down on this order of man stuff because this is what had my attention. This is what
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had my mind. This is what had my soul, not the financial planning stuff, not to say that's
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not important. It is, but this is what had me over here, order of man. And long story short,
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and for the sake of time, I'll say that I started a group called the Iron Council.
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Awesome. And it was for 12 guys. It was for 12 weeks. And we were going to focus on five
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or six topics, one every two weeks with a recap. I think it's why we did five. So we did
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five topics in the recap of the last two weeks. And I sold this thing out overnight. And I
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remember the first guy who signed up, Mark Gabloski. And when he signed up, I didn't think,
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man, this is awesome. I thought, what the hell is this guy thinking? He doesn't know me. He doesn't
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know what I'm doing. I didn't have the perfect curriculum laid out. I'd never done this before.
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I just put together a simple outline of things we're going to talk about. And I said, here it is.
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And he signed up along with 11 other men and sold it out immediately. Now I made about $1,200,
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maybe a little less if you factor in the software I needed to buy to run the programs and all that kind
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of stuff. But it wasn't about the money, guys. I mean, in a way it was. It was a little bit about
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the money. And let me explain what I mean by that. It wasn't about making a bunch of money doing it.
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It was the fact that I proved that I could make income doing it. And that was very important.
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It made the thing viable. And that's the next lesson. Minimum viable product.
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Minimum viable product. So we have be humble, right? We have gradually build this thing. We have
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minimum viable product. And that's where I was. So I'm going to start this minimum viable product.
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I'm going to launch this thing, see if it works, see if there's interest. Oh, and also, sorry,
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I skipped lesson number two, which is go where your interests are. So number four is minimum viable
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product. And at least experiment and see in a low risk setting. I just did a podcast with James
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Altucher. He talks about 10,000 experiments versus the 10,000 hour rule. You can go back and listen to
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it. If you're subscribed, you know exactly what I'm talking about. This was one of my experiments.
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Was this going to work? Yes. And then I did another experiment. I launched some t-shirts
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and it worked. And then I did another experiment. I launched a hat and it worked. And then I did
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another experiment. I launched an event, a live event, and it didn't work.
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And so I went back to the drawing board and realized that I wasn't really doing a great job
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articulating what the point of getting together would be. And so I revamped it and redesigned it
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and reintroduced it and it worked. Another experiment.
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But you got to create the minimum viable product.
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That's the origin story of Order of Man. It isn't some miraculous, spectacular,
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groundbreaking, life-altering, earth-shattering story of how we reached the stratosphere with
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this business in this movement. It isn't that. It's very modest. It's not glamorous. It's not
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sexy. It's just kind of bland, maybe even boring. Maybe you're listening to this thing and it's not
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all that special. That's the point, guys. It isn't special. It isn't something that you couldn't do.
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It isn't something that any man listening to this podcast is not capable of doing. Guys,
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if I can do it, I mean, look at me right now. I'm tired. I just got back from a trip. The shirt,
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you don't even want to know what the shirt smells like because I've been on a plane and everything
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else, three or four planes for the last 24 hours. I got sweat rings on my hat. I got to shave,
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probably got to brush my teeth. Guys, we're the same. So many of you say to me, hey, I just want
00:24:40.840
to hear from regular guys. I want to hear from regular guys. Well, you're saying that because
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you don't relate with these guys who you perceive as high achievers. I'll tell you what, those guys
00:24:48.840
you perceive as high achievers out of your league, out of your class, they're not. They're not. I've
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talked with 350 plus of these guys. They're not out of your league. They do some things differently.
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They're very consistent. They apply the lessons I just shared with you. And through consistency and
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work and time and effort and just grit, maybe a bit of a chip on their shoulder like I do,
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like I have, they make it work. Guys, I want you to be fulfilled. Here's the beautiful thing.
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Gone are the days when you have to just grind it out for 60 years of your life just to make ends meet.
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That's not the reality we live in, guys. It may be in the future, but it's not right now.
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You know what it is right now? Opportunity, abundance, creativity,
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resourcefulness. Man, you can make money doing anything. There's some crazy shit out there that
00:25:50.100
people are making boatloads of money doing. And also, by the way, living a pretty good and happy
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and fulfilled life. Why do I get to go to Hawaii and spend time hunting and spend time with my family?
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Because I pursued something. I didn't burn the bridges. I didn't burn the boats. I just
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gradually worked myself into something. And I've been very consistent about it.
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That's the origin story. It's not exciting. Maybe I wish it were. And then maybe more of you would
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listen to it or something. I don't know. But maybe this is not share worthy. Maybe this podcast won't
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go viral. I'm sure it won't. But that's the reality. I mean, yeah, maybe you're going to hit
00:26:36.220
some home runs here and there. You know, I have. I've landed some great podcast guests,
00:26:41.980
still landing great podcast guests. Every once in a while, I'll have a post or a video or a podcast
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or something that goes viral. But one of my mentors, Sean Whalen says, success swinging singles.
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I get on base every damn time I'm up to bat. Because I'm good at it. Because I've developed a
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skill set to be good at it. So guys, I want you to start thinking about what I'm sharing with you
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today. Stop beating your damn heads against the wall. Stop doing things that you're miserable about.
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It doesn't have to be that way. It shouldn't be that way.
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You know, we only get so many laps around the sun. My wife and I just celebrated our 17 year
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anniversary. 17 years. And it feels like just yesterday, we exchanged vows. But it's been 17
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years? My kid, my oldest is 13. I got five more laps around the sun with that kid. That's it.
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Life's too short to play some bullshit game that somebody else tells you you have to live.
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And I'm not telling you that you have to start a business. But I am telling you that you should
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find something meaningful. I mean, we spend probably two thirds or more of our lives engaged in work,
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our career pursuit. And it better damn well be something worthwhile. If it's not, what the hell
00:28:08.940
are you doing? What are you doing? Guys, be humble. If you need help, look for help.
00:28:18.960
Reach out to people who know. Hire somebody. Look for the help. It's there. It's available.
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Number two, pursue interests. Pursue the interests and activities that are interesting to you,
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that are meaningful to you. You don't have to go all in. I'm not telling you to go all in.
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Gradually, right? You're not burning the boats. You gradually build into this.
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But pursue things that are interesting and meaningful and significant and take the first step.
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And gradually and over time and through consistency, I think you'll see that maybe you're going to
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create your own path that you don't have to follow anybody else. The path may not even been cleared
00:28:57.160
before, but that you can go blaze your own trail. We live in an abundant society where that is
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available. I talk a lot about the things that are wrong in society and there are. There are plenty.
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I'm going to keep talking about them. There's a lot of things that are right too. And you got to ask
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yourself if you're capitalizing on it because most of you aren't. Most of you live in like your
00:29:16.880
granddads and your dads did. And I can't blame you for that. That's what you know. But I'm telling
00:29:24.580
you there's a different way to do it. And I just laid it out for you. And I'm sorry that maybe I didn't
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articulate it as well as some, you know, motivational, inspirational social media guru
00:29:40.540
might be able to tell you and how, you know, if you just pay them 10 grand to do the thing, then y'all
00:29:44.220
your wildest dreams will come true. That's all bullshit. I just gave you the path and you don't
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have to pay me anything. All I'd ask in return is maybe to share the podcast. I don't know, join the
00:29:53.760
iron council, buy a hat. I need to get a new hat since this one's thrashed now, or maybe it's just right
00:29:59.240
depending on how you look at it. It's all right there, guys. Right at your fingertips. You just
00:30:07.680
need to reach out just a little bit more, then a little more, then a little more, then a little
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more. And it's like I said in this post, let me pull this up. Here's the paragraph. Small, seemingly
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insignificant steps turn into lengthy strides you didn't even realize you were capable of.
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And that's where I am today. And I don't say that to brag.
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I don't say it to impress you. I just tell you that because I didn't realize that six
00:30:32.700
years ago in 2015, when we started the Order of Man podcast, they would grow what it grew
00:30:36.920
into today. And I didn't do anything sexy or magical or mystical or something that even
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you wouldn't be able to do. If I can do it, certainly you can. And that's the path. So
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guys, connect with me. Connect with me here on the podcast, Instagram at Ryan Mickler, Twitter,
00:30:52.640
Facebook. You got to do that because look, I'm telling you, social media is playing
00:30:55.980
games with us. YouTube, Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, they're playing games. Even on the
00:30:59.720
podcast, they're playing games with us. So I need you to share because you need to hear
00:31:03.700
this and more men need to hear this. If you need to hear it, guys in your circle need to
00:31:06.860
hear it. Let them know what you're listening to. If it's serving you, it's going to serve
00:31:10.080
them. And then you get to be the person who actually brought them the resource. And there's
00:31:14.700
value in that. You want to add value to somebody's life, do it yourself and or present information
00:31:20.160
to them that they may not have in any other context in any other way. Share, share with
00:31:26.060
them. All right. And one last note before I wrap things up and go to bed. My son's starting
00:31:32.460
a podcast. He's been wanting to start a podcast and him and I are going to have conversations
00:31:36.900
on this podcast called Man in the Making. Him and I are going to have conversations about
00:31:42.740
real subjects like growing up and politics and faith and religion and sex and pornography
00:31:53.780
and drugs and alcohol and all the other conversations that fathers should be having with their sons.
00:31:58.540
I'm going to have those conversations with my boy to give you some fodder to be able to
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have those conversations with your sons. He's also going to be interviewing successful men
00:32:07.400
and asking them questions about how a young man can make himself into a man.
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So if you're a father and you have boys, this will be a great resource. If you want to learn more,
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we're going to launch this thing in the next two to three weeks. You can go to orderaman.com. You
00:32:21.640
can sign up for our emails and I'll be sure to let you know when we go live with that. Again,
00:32:25.940
it's called Man in the Making. The subtitle or the tagline is Men Are Forged. He's very excited
00:32:31.900
about it. I'm very excited about it. And we have a lot of early excitement from potential guests
00:32:36.380
and also people, potential listeners as well. So make sure you do that. Outside of that, guys,
00:32:41.800
just share, keep sharing, take a screenshot. You're listening to this right now. Take a screenshot,
00:32:44.880
share it on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, wherever you're doing the thing. Let us know
00:32:48.260
what you like, who you want to hear from. Give us some feedback. Constructive, of course.
00:32:55.480
We'll try to implement as much as we can and make this better because this is a resource for you.
00:32:59.340
So I hope this helped. That is the origin story of order, man. Not sexy, not glamorous,
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but damn, it's working well. And that's in large part due to you. So I appreciate you listening.
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Appreciate you tuning in each and every week. We'll be back next week. Until then, guys,
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go out there, take action and become a man you are meant to be.
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Thank you for listening to the Order of Man podcast. If you're ready to take charge of your life
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and be more of the man you were meant to be, we invite you to join the order at orderofman.com.