Order of Man - The Origin of Order of Man ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart

00:00:05.000 your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.

00:00:10.480 You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong. This is your life. This is who

00:00:17.240 you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,

00:00:22.800 you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Michler,

00:00:27.820 and I am the host and the founder of the Order of Man podcast and movement. Now,

00:00:32.060 I'm going to give you a little bit of heads up here. It's late. It's 11.15, my time,

00:00:38.040 Thursday night as I record this. That's because for the past three weeks or so, I've been on vacation

00:00:44.840 with my family in Hawaii. And in all of my planning, I overlooked recording this Friday's podcast. So,

00:00:53.160 we just got back about a half an hour ago, and I have never missed a podcast episode. I think that's

00:00:59.720 325 plus consecutive weeks without missing a single episode. Not an interview, not the ask me anything,

00:01:07.440 not the Friday field notes, nothing. So, I was going to let a trip to Hawaii ruin the 325 plus week

00:01:15.380 streak that we have. So, I'm a little tired, a little haggard. You can see I've been traveling

00:01:19.720 literally for 24 hours. My hat has the classic sweat ring on it. If you're watching this on

00:01:25.520 YouTube, you can see that there because this is the hat that I hunted in while I was over there and

00:01:29.640 played around and did the thing. But I wanted to talk with you about a post I made a couple of days

00:01:34.440 ago because it sparked a lot of interest. And I wanted to give you the condensed version,

00:01:41.120 if you will, of the origin of Order of Man. Because as I made this post, there was a lot of,

00:01:46.900 like I said, there was a lot of interest. There was a lot of comments. There was a lot of questions.

00:01:51.560 And so, as I start this, I want you to know that this is not going to be all about

00:01:55.980 me and starting Order of Man. This is going to be about you and how you might take an idea or a

00:02:02.340 feeling or a thought or something even you're remotely interested in and turning it into something

00:02:07.460 similar to what we've been able to do here with this movement over the past six years.

00:02:11.800 So, as I think about what I wanted to share with you, what I'd like to do is just read

00:02:17.040 verbatim this post because it obviously resonated with you. And if you're not following me on

00:02:22.520 Instagram, make sure you are at Ryan Mickler. That's very important because I just got a couple

00:02:27.880 of messages from some friends that have shared with me that they can no longer tag me on Instagram.

00:02:33.740 So, Instagram is playing games with my account, which is to be expected. But I need you guys to go over

00:02:38.800 there, follow, share, do the thing so we can overcome the bit of shadow betting that maybe

00:02:45.340 had taken place. Anyways, here it is. So, let me give you a bit of context. A friend of mine from

00:02:50.560 about six, seven years ago sent me a business card. One of my original business cards when I started in

00:02:57.760 the financial planning business about 2008, 2009, I think is when this business card was from.

00:03:04.500 And so, here's what I put. I said, today, a friend of mine sent me a picture of my old business card

00:03:08.120 as I was starting my financial planning practice circa 2008, 2009. I can't help but feel the misery

00:03:14.660 of cold calling, weeks without sales, asking for referrals, struggling to make the mortgage payment.

00:03:21.520 Ironic. I know. I'll get to that maybe here in a minute. And explaining to my wife that everything 0.93

00:03:27.060 was going to be okay. I eventually started consulting with some high producers in our office to help me.

00:03:32.900 Next, I hired a coach to help me build a successful financial advisory firm. And over time, with a lot

00:03:39.120 of sweat, consistency, and sleepless nights, it all started to come together. But as it did, I always

00:03:45.420 felt that I was meant to do something more. Something in the depth of myself told me I wasn't doing the

00:03:51.880 work that I was meant to do. Eventually, I started a podcast dedicated to helping medical professionals

00:03:57.980 with their financial services, which ended up leading me to start the Order of Man podcast.

00:04:05.460 And here we are today, 13 years later, on the path that that voice was explaining to me more than a

00:04:10.160 decade ago. I suppose the moral of the story is to keep your head down, gentlemen. I know what it's

00:04:15.960 like to do work that doesn't speak to you. I know what it's like to feel called to something more,

00:04:22.700 but not knowing what or how to do it. I know the despair when deep down inside you, you feel like

00:04:28.880 you're better than the results that you're currently producing. Keep going, man. Keep going. Evolve.

00:04:36.520 Adjust. Adapt. Learn. Grow. Build. Small, seemingly insignificant steps turn into lengthy

00:04:45.480 strides you didn't even realize you were capable of. You are capable, but you have to keep going.

00:04:52.940 It's the only way. And to the best of your abilities, be grateful for the sleepless nights

00:04:58.200 and the despair in your soul. After all, that's what's forcing you to change.

00:05:04.660 That's what's forcing you to evolve. That's what's forcing you to become more than who you currently are.

00:05:11.420 So, maybe that spoke to you the same way it did with thousands and thousands of guys here

00:05:20.060 on Instagram and the countless messages I've received about how do you start a business and

00:05:25.260 where did order a man go and how did you come to this and so many different questions. I wish I

00:05:29.540 could answer them all today. We've probably answered a lot of them and are asked me anything in previous

00:05:34.480 podcasts. And of course, I'm not planning on slowing down anytime soon. So, I'm sure we'll address

00:05:39.600 these as we continue on. But there's a quick synopsis of the Instagram post that I made that

00:05:46.800 I just read to you. And so, I want to give you a bit more context. Again, this is about service to

00:05:52.220 you. It's not about beating on my chest or tooting my own horn or anything like that. But I want you

00:05:56.860 to know I know what it feels like. As I said in that post, I know what it feels like to be engaged in

00:06:01.580 work that you found some meaning in, you found some value in, you found purpose and even satisfaction

00:06:05.940 in. I was helping people with their finances and getting them on the path to retirement and helping

00:06:10.580 them pay off debt and get their money under control. That's valuable. There's meaning to that.

00:06:16.820 But I remember having countless conversations with a good friend of mine, Greg Black,

00:06:22.420 who was also in the financial planning practice or business. And we were actually partners at one

00:06:27.700 point. And I remember talking to him over and over and over again about knowing that I'm not going to

00:06:33.400 do this forever and being compelled and almost called to do something greater than what I was

00:06:38.080 currently doing. Not more significant, but for me individually. And what's interesting is I think

00:06:46.180 about Greg and I think about what he's doing in his financial planning firm because he's continued in

00:06:50.400 the business. He feels the same way about what he's doing as I do about what we're doing here with

00:06:56.040 Order of Man. So guys, there isn't one path, okay? It isn't that you have to be a financial advisor or

00:07:02.020 you have to start your own podcast or you have to start a merchandise company or you have to go

00:07:06.540 launch your own business. I'm not saying that. But what I am saying is that you need to constantly

00:07:11.880 strive and work towards something that calls to you, that speaks to you, that fills your heart and

00:07:18.820 your soul and your mind like it does me. Because if it didn't look, it's now 1120 my time. Thursday

00:07:25.740 evening, before Friday, which is when the Friday Field Notes launches, if I wasn't deeply convicted

00:07:33.220 about what we're doing here, do you think I'd be doing this right now? Of course I wouldn't.

00:07:38.660 I'd be unpacking or I'd be laying in bed because I had a long travel and a long commute home and

00:07:43.760 I wouldn't be doing this. But here I am getting back from vacation. As soon as I walk in the door,

00:07:51.400 doing this podcast, checking emails, corresponding with people, checking my social media accounts.

00:07:58.540 It's not necessarily because I just enjoy doing that. It's because this work is meaningful and

00:08:04.980 significant to me. And so as I was thinking about my financial planning practice years and years ago,

00:08:11.120 when I was in the business for about nine years, I worked with another firm. Eventually, I realized the

00:08:16.420 path to autonomy, which is my definition of success, doing what you want, when you want,

00:08:22.920 how you want, that my path was going to have to be me starting my own financial planning firm,

00:08:28.920 which I did. And there were a lot of sleepless nights. There were a lot of questions about how I

00:08:36.980 was going to pay the mortgage. There was, as I said in the Instagram post, a lot of conversations with

00:08:42.980 my wife explaining to her, even though income wasn't coming in at the rate we needed it to,

00:08:47.740 that everything was going to be okay. Those were hard times. Those were difficult times.

00:08:53.920 My wife, fortunately, had been doing some food preservation and food storage. And she always 0.73

00:09:00.480 has. She continues to do that to this date. And good thing she did because we lived off of that food 1.00

00:09:06.680 storage. When I, I remember her asking, Hey hon, can you know, can I spend an extra 25, 50 bucks on

00:09:12.760 groceries? And I was like, you could, you could spend 20, 50, you can spend $20 extra on groceries

00:09:18.500 this month or this week. Those were tough times. I've told you before, I literally wore a dirt path

00:09:26.780 in the grass, the sod of my backyard, wandering around. How am I going to pay the bills? How am I

00:09:33.900 going to pay the car payment? How am I going to pay the mortgage? How am I going to make sure I take

00:09:36.820 care of my wife and my, my son, my one son at the time? It was rough, but fortunately I, I had,

00:09:46.700 I was going to quit is what I was going to do in the financial planning business. I was going to

00:09:50.380 throw in the towel. It just wasn't working. I was just going to go work at nine to five somewhere and

00:09:54.880 get paid 10, 15, 20 bucks an hour or whatever it was. Cause I didn't have a college degree. I still

00:09:59.800 don't. And I was going to throw in the towel, but I'm, I'm a stubborn son of a gun. So I said,

00:10:05.440 you know, I'm not going to throw in the towel yet. I'm going to, I'm going to humble myself.

00:10:11.380 And that's lesson number one, humble yourself. And so I did, I humbled myself. And I went to a

00:10:17.260 couple of high producing agents, advisors in our office. And I said, Hey, teach me.

00:10:23.780 I obviously don't know what I'm doing. You guys obviously do know what you're doing. Can,

00:10:27.400 can you help me? And so what I would do is I would bring these guys in on my cases

00:10:32.440 and we would split any commission or any sales or revenue that was generated from working with

00:10:38.700 those clients. And I thought immediately it was my ego. Like, Hey, you know, I'm bringing the

00:10:42.920 clients in. I don't want to split revenue with these guys. But I realized a hundred percent of

00:10:47.380 zero was still zero. And that 50 or 60 or 70 or 80% of some was some, but I was to that point.

00:10:56.640 And it didn't have to get to that point. That's the thing we need to realize guys. It doesn't have to

00:11:00.300 get to the point where we're at rock bottom. And yet we do that because we get hardheaded and we

00:11:06.220 get stubborn and we get arrogant and our ego gets in the way. And it's like, man, if I would have

00:11:09.900 only asked for help three years earlier, how much further down the path would I would have been?

00:11:15.060 But I was scared. I didn't want people to think that I was inferior or inadequate or that Ryan

00:11:22.620 doesn't know what he had, doesn't have things figured out, but I wasn't fooling anybody.

00:11:30.100 Most of all, myself, I wasn't fooling myself. I would go home and I would look in the mirror and

00:11:34.360 I think, man, you're better than this, dude. You're better than this.

00:11:42.320 And then when I would leave in the morning, I'd put the shield, the armor on and I would say,

00:11:45.880 okay, I got this. I'm not going to let anything penetrate this armor. And what it ended up doing

00:11:52.540 rather than making me strong is it exposed all the chinks in the armor. And all I had to do was 1.00

00:12:00.760 ask for help. So I hired a couple, or not hired, excuse me. I brought on a couple of guys to work

00:12:05.440 with me and I had some success doing that. And then I hired a mentor, an individual mentor. And I said,

00:12:12.860 hey, I need, you know, I need help doing this. And this individual had success building other

00:12:17.060 financial planning practices. So I hired him. I spent $1,500 to go visit him. I didn't have $1,500.

00:12:23.960 I put it on credit. Non-refundable, $1,500 just to go out and visit and see if it's even something

00:12:30.320 you wanted to do. Long story short, I ended up signing him a check for another $6,500 if I remember

00:12:35.440 correctly. So we're into this thing, eight grand now. I remember writing, calling my wife. Hey hon,

00:12:41.180 I spent this $1,500. We don't have. It's $6,500 to continue to work with this guy. We don't have.

00:12:47.440 What do you think? And she said, I trust your decision. And that's the last thing I wanted to

00:12:52.020 hear. I wanted her to make a decision, but how pathetic is that? I lacked the balls, frankly, 0.98

00:13:06.760 to make a decision. I wanted her to say, no, that's actually what I wanted. I wanted her to say, 0.99

00:13:12.940 no, we don't have the money. And then that would have given me the excuse.

00:13:18.100 See, then if the financial planning practice didn't work out, I could say, well, hon, it's

00:13:21.280 because we didn't hire that mentor. And subconsciously, I was willing to put that on

00:13:27.880 her shoulders. It doesn't belong on her shoulders. Guys, it belongs on mine. It belongs

00:13:32.380 on your shoulders. But that's where I was. And she said, I trust you to make a decision,

00:13:37.820 a good decision. I'm like, shit. Now I have to make the decision. And so I decided, yes, 1.00

00:13:42.400 I'm going to do this because this is last attempt right here. Otherwise, I'm throwing in the towel.

00:13:48.300 So we're doing this. And I hired this guy. And over time, my business gradually and then

00:13:53.600 exponentially grew and expanded and took off and residual income was coming in. I was picking up

00:13:59.700 new clients and I was getting referrals and life was pretty good. But deep down inside,

00:14:04.860 I knew there was something more. Yeah, I was helping people with their money. Yeah,

00:14:09.740 they were paying off debt. They were saving for retirement. They were getting their insurances

00:14:12.660 in check. Yeah, all that stuff. And it's all good. It's all wonderful. You should get that stuff taken

00:14:16.820 care of. By the way, if you haven't, go do it. Don't message me about it. I get messages every day

00:14:21.580 about this, especially when I do podcasts like this. Hey, Ryan, what's your financial advice? I don't do

00:14:26.120 that anymore. I mean, I can give you some generic financial advice, but go work with somebody who

00:14:31.400 can help you be successful. Somebody, you know, somebody in your circle or hire somebody.

00:14:37.700 So I knew I was doing good work, but in my heart, I knew there was something more.

00:14:43.700 And I really had this thought of new digital media. I was really fascinated and interested with

00:14:53.440 the sales process. And this is lesson number two. So lesson number one is be humble. Lesson number two

00:14:57.560 is go where your interests are. Don't shut them down because that's what we have a tendency to do

00:15:04.320 is we think, well, you know, this would be really cool, but, well, I'd like to go down this avenue,

00:15:08.600 but you know this, and we come up with all these excuses and reasons why we shouldn't do that.

00:15:14.180 So lesson number one is be humble. Lesson number two is go where your interests are. Pursue

00:15:19.560 your interests. The things that sound even remotely interesting to you. Pursue those things.

00:15:27.460 And so I had this, this like new digital podcasting, grow a website, a blog. I'm like,

00:15:34.060 man, all these old timers in the financial planning practice aren't doing this.

00:15:38.620 Maybe this is something I could do. And I reached out to this guy. His name's Jeff Rose.

00:15:42.940 Good financial sense. Look him up. If you need a financial advisor, I think he's still doing the

00:15:46.400 work. Go check him out. Tell him Ryan sent you. So I reached out to this guy and I said,

00:15:52.580 Hey man, I really like what you're doing. Nobody's doing what you're doing in the financial planning

00:15:56.420 space. And I want you to coach me. And he said, yeah, yeah, I coach you. I can coach you.

00:16:01.160 Here's how much you need to pay me to do it. And I said, great, done. Let's do it.

00:16:04.300 Send him a PayPal or a Venmo or whatever it was at the time.

00:16:09.920 Later, do I, do I realize, cause Jeff told me, he's like, Hey, actually you were my very first client

00:16:13.680 in this capacity, which I was happy to be his guinea pig because he had launched what we're

00:16:18.700 doing here. He helped me launch this. So I started this podcast because I got number two,

00:16:23.280 lesson number two, you go where the interests are. So I launched this podcast and it's called

00:16:28.780 Wealth Anatomy and it's geared towards helping medical professionals, doctors, dentists,

00:16:34.200 chiropractors, physicians, veterinarians, mostly small practice owners with their finances.

00:16:41.160 And, and so I launched this podcast and I do about 20 episodes and I realized, man,

00:16:45.800 I love this medium. I love this medium of podcasting. I love just talking and sharing

00:16:52.520 concepts and sharing ideas, but I'm, I don't want to continue to have this other, this conversation

00:16:58.060 about money. So I'm going to do my financial planning practice. This is going well. I've got

00:17:02.800 the residual income coming in. I've got clients. I'm getting referrals. Things are, things are

00:17:07.940 working. Things are firing over here. I feel good about it. And then I decide, you know,

00:17:14.540 instead of doing Wealth Anatomy, what I really want to do is I really want to help men with this

00:17:20.940 kind of stuff, with their finances, leading their families. Well, my wife and I had gone through a

00:17:27.800 separation years earlier. I talked with a lot of guys who've been through similar experiences,

00:17:32.780 men who grew up without fathers in their lives, like I did as a young boy. And I realized, man,

00:17:39.380 there's a, there's a gap. There's a gap between what we as men know and the information that we

00:17:46.600 glean from resources, like men's health magazine, which is the last place you should be going for

00:17:53.060 resources regarding how to be a man, maybe get abs, maybe, but not being a man.

00:17:59.100 But there's a gap between what we know we should be doing and what we're actually doing. And if I

00:18:06.860 can help bridge the gap for the men who would listen, but also for myself, and in the meantime,

00:18:12.820 get some one-on-one coaching from guys who would join my podcast, this would be a pretty cool gig.

00:18:18.060 So that's what I did. And I launched in 2015, the Order of Man podcast. And from day one,

00:18:26.740 the thing just exploded, took off from day one. I think I had more downloads on day one with my

00:18:34.040 podcast, Order of Man, than I probably did collectively with the Wealth Anatomy podcast.

00:18:38.760 And I realized very quickly I was onto something. And so I was doing my financial planning practice and

00:18:43.760 doing the nine to five and doing my work and doing a good job and making income and all this stuff.

00:18:48.060 But gradually and gradually, the financial planning, or excuse me, the Order of Man stuff

00:18:53.020 was taking more time. And that's the next lesson, is that I didn't burn the bridges. I didn't burn

00:18:59.240 the boats. A lot of people would burn the boats, burn the boats. And they ask, well, what did you

00:19:02.100 do? And they're like, well, I didn't do that because blah, blah, blah, blah. I'm not going to tell you to

00:19:05.200 burn the boats. Because I think there's an opportunity for you guys to do your work, your career,

00:19:10.780 your path, whatever you're on right now, and then also dabble in some other things and gradually

00:19:14.780 build this up over time. Because you have responsibilities. You have obligations.

00:19:20.700 Right? Just like I do. I had my son, maybe even at that point, I think I probably had three kids at

00:19:25.920 that point. I'd have to think about their dates of birth, but sometimes that's hard for you to

00:19:29.780 remember. If you're a guy, you understand that. I had three or four kids at the time.

00:19:33.760 I had my wife to take care of. I had mortgages to pay. I had bills to take care of. I had this

00:19:39.560 financial planning practice over here I needed to take care of. So I had responsibilities. I had

00:19:42.940 clients that I needed to work with. And so I'm doing the order of man thing and gradually is

00:19:49.320 taking more and more time. And my wife comes to me one day and she says, hey, you know, I really

00:19:52.700 appreciate that you're doing this order of man thing. It seems to be that it's going well and that

00:19:57.960 you really like it and it's fulfilling and uplifting to you. And I like to see you do this,

00:20:02.980 but you're also taking income away from the family household, which was true because I

00:20:07.440 was doing less and less financial planning at the time. And that's the next lesson that

00:20:12.540 I just shared with you, right? Grow it gradually, build it gradually. And she said to me, you

00:20:16.820 know, I really think you ought to scale back and focus on the financial planning stuff or

00:20:22.180 you ought to find a way to make money. And I wasn't scaling back. If anything, I was going

00:20:26.740 to double down on this order of man stuff because this is what had my attention. This is what

00:20:31.640 had my mind. This is what had my soul, not the financial planning stuff, not to say that's

00:20:36.360 not important. It is, but this is what had me over here, order of man. And long story short,

00:20:42.920 and for the sake of time, I'll say that I started a group called the Iron Council.

00:20:48.340 Awesome. And it was for 12 guys. It was for 12 weeks. And we were going to focus on five

00:20:56.760 or six topics, one every two weeks with a recap. I think it's why we did five. So we did

00:21:02.860 five topics in the recap of the last two weeks. And I sold this thing out overnight. And I

00:21:10.480 remember the first guy who signed up, Mark Gabloski. And when he signed up, I didn't think,

00:21:16.980 man, this is awesome. I thought, what the hell is this guy thinking? He doesn't know me. He doesn't

00:21:24.020 know what I'm doing. I didn't have the perfect curriculum laid out. I'd never done this before.

00:21:28.540 I just put together a simple outline of things we're going to talk about. And I said, here it is.

00:21:32.660 And he signed up along with 11 other men and sold it out immediately. Now I made about $1,200,

00:21:40.620 maybe a little less if you factor in the software I needed to buy to run the programs and all that kind

00:21:46.200 of stuff. But it wasn't about the money, guys. I mean, in a way it was. It was a little bit about

00:21:52.060 the money. And let me explain what I mean by that. It wasn't about making a bunch of money doing it.

00:21:55.920 It was the fact that I proved that I could make income doing it. And that was very important.

00:22:00.500 It made the thing viable. And that's the next lesson. Minimum viable product.

00:22:10.680 Minimum viable product. So we have be humble, right? We have gradually build this thing. We have

00:22:19.360 minimum viable product. And that's where I was. So I'm going to start this minimum viable product.

00:22:26.040 I'm going to launch this thing, see if it works, see if there's interest. Oh, and also, sorry,

00:22:30.180 I skipped lesson number two, which is go where your interests are. So number four is minimum viable

00:22:35.560 product. And at least experiment and see in a low risk setting. I just did a podcast with James

00:22:43.180 Altucher. He talks about 10,000 experiments versus the 10,000 hour rule. You can go back and listen to

00:22:47.900 it. If you're subscribed, you know exactly what I'm talking about. This was one of my experiments.

00:22:53.620 Was this going to work? Yes. And then I did another experiment. I launched some t-shirts

00:22:59.080 and it worked. And then I did another experiment. I launched a hat and it worked. And then I did

00:23:04.040 another experiment. I launched an event, a live event, and it didn't work.

00:23:13.140 And so I went back to the drawing board and realized that I wasn't really doing a great job

00:23:17.820 articulating what the point of getting together would be. And so I revamped it and redesigned it

00:23:23.000 and reintroduced it and it worked. Another experiment.

00:23:28.460 But you got to create the minimum viable product.

00:23:32.780 That's the origin story of Order of Man. It isn't some miraculous, spectacular,

00:23:38.460 groundbreaking, life-altering, earth-shattering story of how we reached the stratosphere with

00:23:47.460 this business in this movement. It isn't that. It's very modest. It's not glamorous. It's not

00:23:57.860 sexy. It's just kind of bland, maybe even boring. Maybe you're listening to this thing and it's not

00:24:02.640 all that special. That's the point, guys. It isn't special. It isn't something that you couldn't do.

00:24:09.840 It isn't something that any man listening to this podcast is not capable of doing. Guys,

00:24:16.920 if I can do it, I mean, look at me right now. I'm tired. I just got back from a trip. The shirt,

00:24:23.020 you don't even want to know what the shirt smells like because I've been on a plane and everything

00:24:25.680 else, three or four planes for the last 24 hours. I got sweat rings on my hat. I got to shave,

00:24:30.820 probably got to brush my teeth. Guys, we're the same. So many of you say to me, hey, I just want

00:24:40.840 to hear from regular guys. I want to hear from regular guys. Well, you're saying that because

00:24:43.720 you don't relate with these guys who you perceive as high achievers. I'll tell you what, those guys

00:24:48.840 you perceive as high achievers out of your league, out of your class, they're not. They're not. I've

00:24:54.000 talked with 350 plus of these guys. They're not out of your league. They do some things differently.

00:24:59.240 They're very consistent. They apply the lessons I just shared with you. And through consistency and

00:25:04.640 work and time and effort and just grit, maybe a bit of a chip on their shoulder like I do,

00:25:10.760 like I have, they make it work. Guys, I want you to be fulfilled. Here's the beautiful thing.

00:25:19.760 Gone are the days when you have to just grind it out for 60 years of your life just to make ends meet.

00:25:29.240 That's not the reality we live in, guys. It may be in the future, but it's not right now.

00:25:35.640 You know what it is right now? Opportunity, abundance, creativity,

00:25:41.960 resourcefulness. Man, you can make money doing anything. There's some crazy shit out there that

00:25:50.100 people are making boatloads of money doing. And also, by the way, living a pretty good and happy 0.99

00:25:55.660 and fulfilled life. Why do I get to go to Hawaii and spend time hunting and spend time with my family?

00:26:01.820 Because I pursued something. I didn't burn the bridges. I didn't burn the boats. I just

00:26:06.100 gradually worked myself into something. And I've been very consistent about it.

00:26:09.820 That's the origin story. It's not exciting. Maybe I wish it were. And then maybe more of you would

00:26:20.820 listen to it or something. I don't know. But maybe this is not share worthy. Maybe this podcast won't

00:26:26.560 go viral. I'm sure it won't. But that's the reality. I mean, yeah, maybe you're going to hit

00:26:36.220 some home runs here and there. You know, I have. I've landed some great podcast guests,

00:26:41.980 still landing great podcast guests. Every once in a while, I'll have a post or a video or a podcast

00:26:47.480 or something that goes viral. But one of my mentors, Sean Whalen says, success swinging singles.

00:26:55.980 I get on base every damn time I'm up to bat. Because I'm good at it. Because I've developed a 0.89

00:27:04.000 skill set to be good at it. So guys, I want you to start thinking about what I'm sharing with you

00:27:09.360 today. Stop beating your damn heads against the wall. Stop doing things that you're miserable about. 1.00

00:27:16.400 It doesn't have to be that way. It shouldn't be that way.

00:27:21.800 You know, we only get so many laps around the sun. My wife and I just celebrated our 17 year

00:27:26.620 anniversary. 17 years. And it feels like just yesterday, we exchanged vows. But it's been 17

00:27:35.060 years? My kid, my oldest is 13. I got five more laps around the sun with that kid. That's it.

00:27:46.640 Life's too short to play some bullshit game that somebody else tells you you have to live. 0.99

00:27:50.860 And I'm not telling you that you have to start a business. But I am telling you that you should 0.98

00:27:56.260 find something meaningful. I mean, we spend probably two thirds or more of our lives engaged in work,

00:28:02.880 our career pursuit. And it better damn well be something worthwhile. If it's not, what the hell

00:28:08.940 are you doing? What are you doing? Guys, be humble. If you need help, look for help.

00:28:18.960 Reach out to people who know. Hire somebody. Look for the help. It's there. It's available.

00:28:25.200 Number two, pursue interests. Pursue the interests and activities that are interesting to you,

00:28:31.220 that are meaningful to you. You don't have to go all in. I'm not telling you to go all in.

00:28:37.820 Gradually, right? You're not burning the boats. You gradually build into this.

00:28:43.460 But pursue things that are interesting and meaningful and significant and take the first step.

00:28:47.800 And gradually and over time and through consistency, I think you'll see that maybe you're going to

00:28:52.480 create your own path that you don't have to follow anybody else. The path may not even been cleared

00:28:57.160 before, but that you can go blaze your own trail. We live in an abundant society where that is

00:29:01.800 available. I talk a lot about the things that are wrong in society and there are. There are plenty.

00:29:07.300 I'm going to keep talking about them. There's a lot of things that are right too. And you got to ask

00:29:11.340 yourself if you're capitalizing on it because most of you aren't. Most of you live in like your 0.87

00:29:16.880 granddads and your dads did. And I can't blame you for that. That's what you know. But I'm telling

00:29:24.580 you there's a different way to do it. And I just laid it out for you. And I'm sorry that maybe I didn't

00:29:33.880 articulate it as well as some, you know, motivational, inspirational social media guru

00:29:40.540 might be able to tell you and how, you know, if you just pay them 10 grand to do the thing, then y'all

00:29:44.220 your wildest dreams will come true. That's all bullshit. I just gave you the path and you don't 1.00

00:29:48.800 have to pay me anything. All I'd ask in return is maybe to share the podcast. I don't know, join the

00:29:53.760 iron council, buy a hat. I need to get a new hat since this one's thrashed now, or maybe it's just right

00:29:59.240 depending on how you look at it. It's all right there, guys. Right at your fingertips. You just

00:30:07.680 need to reach out just a little bit more, then a little more, then a little more, then a little

00:30:11.340 more. And it's like I said in this post, let me pull this up. Here's the paragraph. Small, seemingly

00:30:17.720 insignificant steps turn into lengthy strides you didn't even realize you were capable of.

00:30:23.860 And that's where I am today. And I don't say that to brag.

00:30:26.080 I don't say it to impress you. I just tell you that because I didn't realize that six 1.00

00:30:32.700 years ago in 2015, when we started the Order of Man podcast, they would grow what it grew

00:30:36.920 into today. And I didn't do anything sexy or magical or mystical or something that even

00:30:41.380 you wouldn't be able to do. If I can do it, certainly you can. And that's the path. So

00:30:47.420 guys, connect with me. Connect with me here on the podcast, Instagram at Ryan Mickler, Twitter,

00:30:52.640 Facebook. You got to do that because look, I'm telling you, social media is playing

00:30:55.980 games with us. YouTube, Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, they're playing games. Even on the

00:30:59.720 podcast, they're playing games with us. So I need you to share because you need to hear

00:31:03.700 this and more men need to hear this. If you need to hear it, guys in your circle need to

00:31:06.860 hear it. Let them know what you're listening to. If it's serving you, it's going to serve

00:31:10.080 them. And then you get to be the person who actually brought them the resource. And there's

00:31:14.700 value in that. You want to add value to somebody's life, do it yourself and or present information

00:31:20.160 to them that they may not have in any other context in any other way. Share, share with

00:31:26.060 them. All right. And one last note before I wrap things up and go to bed. My son's starting

00:31:32.460 a podcast. He's been wanting to start a podcast and him and I are going to have conversations

00:31:36.900 on this podcast called Man in the Making. Him and I are going to have conversations about

00:31:42.740 real subjects like growing up and politics and faith and religion and sex and pornography

00:31:53.780 and drugs and alcohol and all the other conversations that fathers should be having with their sons.

00:31:58.540 I'm going to have those conversations with my boy to give you some fodder to be able to

00:32:02.620 have those conversations with your sons. He's also going to be interviewing successful men

00:32:07.400 and asking them questions about how a young man can make himself into a man.

00:32:14.300 So if you're a father and you have boys, this will be a great resource. If you want to learn more,

00:32:18.440 we're going to launch this thing in the next two to three weeks. You can go to orderaman.com. You

00:32:21.640 can sign up for our emails and I'll be sure to let you know when we go live with that. Again,

00:32:25.940 it's called Man in the Making. The subtitle or the tagline is Men Are Forged. He's very excited

00:32:31.900 about it. I'm very excited about it. And we have a lot of early excitement from potential guests

00:32:36.380 and also people, potential listeners as well. So make sure you do that. Outside of that, guys,

00:32:41.800 just share, keep sharing, take a screenshot. You're listening to this right now. Take a screenshot,

00:32:44.880 share it on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, wherever you're doing the thing. Let us know

00:32:48.260 what you like, who you want to hear from. Give us some feedback. Constructive, of course.

00:32:55.480 We'll try to implement as much as we can and make this better because this is a resource for you.

00:32:59.340 So I hope this helped. That is the origin story of order, man. Not sexy, not glamorous,

00:33:03.720 but damn, it's working well. And that's in large part due to you. So I appreciate you listening. 0.99

00:33:08.800 Appreciate you tuning in each and every week. We'll be back next week. Until then, guys,

00:33:12.440 go out there, take action and become a man you are meant to be.

00:33:16.180 Thank you for listening to the Order of Man podcast. If you're ready to take charge of your life

00:33:20.540 and be more of the man you were meant to be, we invite you to join the order at orderofman.com.

00:33:26.060 You're welcome.

00:33:26.940 We'll be back.

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