Order of Man - The Triple Threat of Masculinity ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart your own path.

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00:00:25.420 Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Michler, and I am the host and the founder of this podcast.

00:00:30.000 And the movement, Order of Man. I'm glad that you're tuning in. I'm glad that you're here.

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00:00:49.060 So it's pretty cool to see this movement and this message of reclaiming and restoring what it means to be a man spread throughout the globe.

00:00:57.300 Anyways, guys, I'm glad you're here. If you're new for the first time, this is the very first time you're here in the podcast.

00:01:02.300 I want to welcome you and let you know that it's my goal to give you the conversations and the tools and the accountability and the guidance and direction that you need to become a better father, a better husband, business owner, community leader, coach, whatever facet of life you're showing up.

00:01:17.900 I want to give you what you need to be able to level up and improve your life.

00:01:22.040 And to that end, we're doing this podcast. We've got the interviews, which are released every Tuesday.

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00:01:34.940 And we've got, of course, a powerful lineup coming up over the next four to six weeks.

00:01:38.600 Uh, and then we do our, ask me anything, which is where I field questions from you.

00:01:43.600 Any questions that you might have as it pertains to masculinity and manliness, I'm answering those questions.

00:01:48.380 And then, uh, lastly, this show, your Friday field notes, where you get to hear from me and some thoughts that I've had from throughout the week.

00:01:54.020 And I've got a good one lined up for you today. I always do. And I always say that easy for me to say, right?

00:01:58.440 Uh, but I came across this quote that I wanted to read to you and I'm going to pull it up here real quick.

00:02:03.900 It says the superior man is he who develops in harmonious proportions, his moral, intellectual, and physical nature.

00:02:11.960 This should be the end at which men of all classes should aim. And it is this only, which constitutes real greatness. 0.90

00:02:18.820 That was said by Douglas Gerald. So I want to talk with you about that today.

00:02:22.720 I want to talk with you about what I have dubbed the triple threat of masculinity.

00:02:27.500 So I'm going to get to that in a minute, but before I do, I want to make a mention of my, uh, my friends, a couple of them.

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00:03:22.960 And in addition to that, it's my friend, Bert Soren, uh, who I actually happened to be hunting with this week.

00:03:28.540 I pre-recorded this podcast, um, hunting with him in Arizona right now, but Bert is the president and CEO of Soren X.

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00:04:00.140 So if you're interested in some of their, uh, exercise and workout equipment, check them out. Sorenx.com. It's S O R I N E X.com. Again, that's Sorenx.com.

00:04:10.100 So with that said, guys, we'll get into the, uh, into the conversation. I just wanted to riff on this a little bit. I didn't really take notes for this because I just wanted to talk with you about this triple threat of masculinity and what I see, you know, I look around in society and I see a lot of guys who have managed to get one, maybe two of these elements just right.

00:04:28.000 I mean, that's the guys that are absolutely ripped. They're in peak physical condition. And yet when you have a discussion with these individuals, you can tell that this isn't, this isn't somebody who's spent any amount of time thinking and pondering and gaining a new level of intelligence.

00:04:42.960 Uh, I've seen other guys who are extremely smart and, and, and intellectual, and yet they couldn't fight their way out of a wet paper bag. And then I've seen both of these individuals who are anything but moral. I mean, you can't trust a word that comes out of these guys' mouth. You can't trust them to make the right decisions. And, uh, I really think it's critical.

00:05:03.120 It's important that we, as men learn to develop as Douglas Gerald said, in harmonious proportions, the moral, intellectual, and physical nature. So I wanted to break these down because I think when we are more well-rounded, that we are able to be more effective and more productive in our homes and our businesses and our communities. And it's not enough guys. It's not enough just to be good at one of these things. We have to be good in every area, in all three of these areas, if we are to achieve that, which we want to achieve.

00:05:33.120 Again, in our, in our families, our businesses, our communities, and wherever else we may be showing up. So let's break this down and we'll talk about the, uh, the moral first, you know, now this is an interesting one because morality is, is subjective, right? There isn't any one standard that there isn't any one, uh, measurement of what it means to be a moral man. I think inherently all of us are innately gifted or have the ability to discern between right and wrong.

00:06:00.820 I think a lot of us. I think a lot of us can be conditioned in us, but I also think it can be conditioned out of us. I think at the end of the day, the majority of us, if not all of us understand what is right and wrong. And it's most fundamental level. I think we can all agree that it's doing the right thing. It's being in integrity. Uh, it's looking after other people. It's being a man of your word. Um, and it's not lying or cheating or stealing or deceiving. Uh, I think these

00:06:30.820 are going to be moral decisions. And I can't tell you that I've got the absolute standard of what it means to be a moral man. And of course I slip and I fall and I mess up from time to time, but I think it's on each of every one of us to sit down and really spend some time thinking about the way that we're going to show up the types of individuals that we're going to be when we're pressed with a difficult situation or a circumstance or something that we may need to deal with. How are we going to respond to that? Are we going to take the shortcut? Are we going to cheat? Are we going to deceive others? Or are we going to

00:07:00.820 do what we know we should be doing? And, and look, it's very easy, very easy to want to take the easier path. That's why it's called the easier path. But at what expense, you know, you may secure a short-term victory when you do something at the expense of another individual or go against your own moral compass, but there's a cost. There's a cost for everything. There's a cost for every decision. There's a cost for every indecision. And we really need to evaluate this over the long haul. And I think it's significantly easier to be

00:07:30.820 a moral individual. When we understand that we are going to be on this planet for a long time. That could be 20, 30, 40, 50 years. But also as in the, the movie gladiator, he says, what we do in this life echoes in eternity. And my eternal perspective is what gives me the strength to do what is right in the face of something that, you know, maybe is a difficult situation or circumstance.

00:08:00.800 In which I found myself and, and, and I want to cheat or I want to steal, or I want a shortcut. So what type of moral individual are you going to be? And here's what I've noticed. And then we'll move on to the next component here is that when we go against our own moral compass and we go against our own moral standard, whatever that looks like, I believe, and this may sound harsh, but I believe it's true that a little bit of our soul dies. You know, I talk with men every day, just through the work we're doing here, who you can see, there's a lot of guilt and remorse and sorrow.

00:08:30.480 I talk with a lot of guys who ask how they overcome past wrongdoings. And, and really at the end of the day, it's, it's being moral. It's living, right? It's living in accordance with who you believe that you are. And the more that you're able to do that, the more that you're able to live a guiltless life that you can have the level of confidence that I think all men want to have, because they are doing what they know they should be doing.

00:08:55.980 They are living with integrity in their lives. And that is key. It's fundamental. If you can't be somebody who can look yourself in the mirror and feel happy and proud about the man staring back, you're going to have a very, very difficult time showing up in other areas of your life.

00:09:11.460 So as a challenge, what I'd like you guys to do and consider is to sit down and really write out your moral compass. How are you going to behave? How are you going to react when you're faced with two choices?

00:09:23.620 And one might be the easy, less moral path. And one is the more difficult straight path. We would, I would call it, what decision are you going to make? And how are you going to ensure that you're going to make those types of decisions? What is it that's going to drive you to make those types of decisions? So that's a little bit on the morality component of that.

00:09:40.960 I don't want to get too much into spirituality or religion or where morality comes from. Although maybe that's a discussion worthy of conversation down the road, but I want you to think about it for yourself. How are you going to show up? What are you going to do? Are you going to live in integrity? Are you going to act courageously? What virtues do you uphold and find valuable? What, what, what do you value in another human being and start incorporating some of these things into your life?

00:10:08.020 Uh, you can go back and listen to some of our other podcasts or even our Friday field notes where I talk about a code of conduct. And I've done this for myself and me and my two oldest boys have done this because we want to be moral men. All right. The next component of this is intellectual. Uh, I, I have been, I wouldn't call myself an intellect by any means, but I will tell you that I appreciate and value knowledge. And I'm not just talking about formal education, but I will forever be a student.

00:10:38.020 A student of everything that sounds interesting to me from the books that I read to me being a better bow hunter and archer, uh, to the way that I work out to the conversations that I'm having here on the podcast with some incredible, incredible men. Uh, but really for me, it's about learning and it's about gaining new information and new knowledge. They say knowledge is power. And I think that's kind of true. I think that's half true. Knowledge is power when it's applied. So we need to make sure that we're actually applying what we learned, but what books are you reading?

00:11:08.020 What podcasts are you listening to? What information are you consuming? And those things will greatly determine a lot of the way that your life plays out. If you're at work, for example, and I know plenty of guys who think that they'll just do the bare minimum that they'll punch in right when they have to, and they'll punch out as soon as they possibly can and do the bare minimum not to get fired.

00:11:28.240 And I can't help, but think what this individual is missing out on because he's not willing to exert himself intellectually to gain new knowledge, to show a little assertiveness and initiative and learning something new, getting a new designation or a new degree. Uh, so he can secure that promotion.

00:11:44.160 And in turn secure a raise or go out and open a business, but what is it that you're learning? What is it that you're consuming and don't get bogged down and consume with this mindless trivial nonsense that most people want to get consumed with. You know, if you're, if you were to look on Facebook or Instagram or wherever you're on social media, you can see that most people are operating from this very surface level perspective.

00:12:08.160 They're not putting any thought into the conversations that are not, they're having, they're not going deep into these conversations. And because that's the case, they're not really any better off tomorrow than they were today. They don't have any more of this, this information. So in addition to being a moral man, a man of virtue and character, what do you know? What expertise you had, do you have? And you don't need to know it all, but can you go deep into a certain subject and become the expert, the master at that thing. And what's fascinating about this is as you become,

00:12:38.160 more intelligent, more intelligent, you become smarter, you gain new knowledge and wisdom and information. You're more valuable, right? You're more valuable, obviously in your own life, but you're a more valuable husband. You're a more valuable father, business owner, employee, community leader. And isn't that our purpose? Isn't that the reason that we're here? At the end of the day, I believe it's our job as men to produce. We're here to serve. We're here to help others. We're here to lift ourselves up and those we have an obligation responsibility for.

00:13:05.100 And a big part of that is understanding how to add more value and how to be more valuable. So we've really got to focus on our intellect. And the challenge I would give you here, because I gave you a challenge in the other area of this is that I would like you to consider and think about what new information you need to learn over the next 90 days. It doesn't have to be for life or for the next year, even, but in the next 90 days, what is it that you would like to do to improve

00:13:33.800 your knowledge base to have more information, to have more wisdom and to be more intellectual? And then in addition to that, thinking about what resources can help that come into play? What book do you need to listen to? Who do you need to reach out and connect with? What course do you need to take? How do you need to invest in yourself? Who do you need to connect with in order to learn that skillset or that, that bit of information to improve your life?

00:13:57.620 So again, step number two, uh, intellectual. Now the third component of this, the triple threat of masculinity, as I've, I've called it is the physical component. There's another quote, and I'm going to butcher it here, but, uh, something along the lines of no man has the right to be an amateur in the way of physical fitness. And I'll tell you what I was there guys for a long time. I was there. I was unhealthy. I had no energy. I was about 50 pounds overweight. Uh, and I just couldn't fully show up the way that I wanted to show up for my family and my community.

00:14:27.440 And my business and every area of life that I was showing up as, and it really didn't, uh, didn't improve for me until I remember coming home from work one day. And, uh, my kids said, dad, dad, dad, let's jump on the trampoline. And I remember having to look them in the eye and say, I'm sorry, boys. I can't. I literally couldn't. I was so exhausted from that day's work that I couldn't even spend a minute or 10 minutes or 15 minutes jumping on the trampoline with my kids. And I knew at that point I needed to change.

00:14:56.980 And look, I'm not going to tell you I'm the expert with physical fitness. I'm not even going to tell you that I don't have room for improvement because I certainly do, but physical fitness and exercise and dieting and nutrition and this physical component of what it means to be a man has been a crucial, crucial step in my life.

00:15:15.180 It's fascinating. The more that I improve my physical fitness, my physical wellbeing, every other area of my life improves. I have more energy for the relationship with my wife. Of course, my sex life is improved because of my energy and stamina and testosterone that I've managed to increase the relationship. I have with my kids. I've got more energy for the business. I've got more clarity and focus, which means that because I'm better able to serve you, my income goes up. I mean, name it.

00:15:42.880 Pick a metric of life and it will improve through your use of going into the gym or running or doing whatever it is you need to do to lose weight, to get strong, to get in shape.

00:15:54.360 Now, guys, we live these ridiculously sedentary lifestyles. I mean, everything is quite literally handed to you in a lot of ways. And these creature comforts that we enjoy while they're nice. And a lot of times they're practical and allow us to free up some time to do some other things.

00:16:14.080 I think it's critical that we place ourselves in voluntary hardship, that we actually exert ourselves physically voluntarily, because if we don't, it won't be presented. Those options just won't be presented in the way that we live. It's so easy. We are so complacent, so stagnant, and so mediocre.

00:16:33.640 So, guys, sign up for an event. A Spartan race is something that I signed up for when I very first started, and that forced me to get into the gym and work out and exercise and eat right, get a gym membership.

00:16:44.460 This is the perfect time to start doing these things. But I really want you to focus on over the next quarter this triple threat of masculinity. I don't believe that it's enough to be any one of these things.

00:16:53.860 I believe that if you're an intellect, but you lack any physical fitness, you don't know how to defend yourself or be strong, then you are stunting your growth as a man.

00:17:04.000 I believe that if you're moral, but you can't defend yourself because you're weak and you haven't spent any time developing a new skill, it's great and wonderful that you're moral.

00:17:13.860 But really, at the end of the day, are you able to serve anybody? Are you able to step up?

00:17:17.780 If you're strong, but you're dumb or you are out of integrity and people can't trust you, great. 0.96

00:17:25.360 You may be strong and there may be situations that call for that, but is anybody going to rely upon you? 0.97

00:17:30.080 Is anybody actually going to want to band with you for any amount of time?

00:17:33.700 I mean, I see these guys who are strong and really the value they add is to, you know, see them on Instagram or whatever and be momentarily inspired.

00:17:41.500 But it's got to be deeper than this, guys. We really have to strive to be well-rounded men.

00:17:46.420 And we do that by focusing on this triple threat of masculinity, which is morality, your intellect, and your physical prowess.

00:17:54.100 So the challenge there, guys, very simply go out and sign up for an event, work out every single day, move your body, exercise, run, do something that's going to challenge you physically.

00:18:04.960 And I think the more that you do this, the better off you're going to feel.

00:18:08.220 And of course, the more that you're going to be able to produce in your life.

00:18:11.380 So pretty quick one for you guys today.

00:18:13.480 But again, I ran across that quote and I felt like it was worthy of sharing.

00:18:17.060 Let me just say the quote again so you know what it is.

00:18:20.060 Again, the superior man is he who develops in harmonious proportions his moral, intellectual, and physical nature.

00:18:28.160 This should be the end at which men of all classes should aim. 0.64

00:18:32.040 And it is this only which constitutes real greatness.

00:18:36.100 Again, Douglas Gerald.

00:18:37.220 And as I read this again, it says the superior man.

00:18:41.340 That's important.

00:18:42.380 It's really important to understand that because can you be a good man if you're strong and moral but not necessarily intellectual?

00:18:51.740 Sure.

00:18:52.220 I believe you can.

00:18:53.180 Can you be a good man who's moral and intellectual but lacks any physical prowess?

00:18:57.980 Yeah.

00:18:58.280 I believe you can probably be that too.

00:18:59.860 But if you want to be a superior man, and I believe you do, otherwise you wouldn't be listening to this and you wouldn't have the goals and aspirations that I know you do.

00:19:07.540 If that's the type of individual you want to be, then you have to develop these three things in harmonious proportions.

00:19:14.900 You have to focus on these things daily, every single day.

00:19:18.800 How do I become more moral, right?

00:19:22.820 What is my moral compass?

00:19:24.100 How do I become more intellectual?

00:19:25.460 How do I gain new knowledge and ultimately also how do I develop my physical fitness?

00:19:30.640 So I hope that helps, guys.

00:19:32.300 If you are interested in doing this a little bit more and going through some of these challenges and working together on this, then what I would suggest is that you join us inside of our exclusive brotherhood.

00:19:42.160 It's called the Iron Council.

00:19:44.400 This is a band of 450 plus men.

00:19:48.100 We're all working together.

00:19:49.460 We've created our battle plans for the new year, which is what we're into now.

00:19:53.040 But we're talking about these things.

00:19:54.560 How do we be moral men?

00:19:56.400 How do we improve our skill set and our knowledge base?

00:19:59.960 And then ultimately, how do we become more physically fit?

00:20:02.360 So we've got challenges, assignments, accountability, and everything that you might need to take your life to the next level.

00:20:08.140 So join us inside the Iron Council.

00:20:09.880 You can go to orderofman.com slash Iron Council.

00:20:13.540 Again, orderofman.com slash Iron Council.

00:20:15.760 So guys, like I said, fairly short one for you today.

00:20:17.920 Something to consider, something to chew on.

00:20:19.920 But yes, share your thoughts with me.

00:20:21.920 What does it mean to be moral?

00:20:22.760 What does it mean to be intellectual?

00:20:24.260 How are you improving your physical fitness?

00:20:26.020 You can share with me on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram.

00:20:29.580 Very active on Instagram.

00:20:31.100 You can head to orderofman.com.

00:20:33.000 Excuse me.

00:20:33.820 It's Instagram.com.

00:20:35.900 And then I'm at Ryan Michler.

00:20:38.280 Okay.

00:20:38.580 Ryan.

00:20:38.980 And then my last name, M-I-C-H-L-E-R.

00:20:42.100 So that's it, guys.

00:20:43.000 I'll let you get to the weekend.

00:20:44.340 I hope that you enjoy your weekend.

00:20:45.880 I hope that you can chew on some of this stuff and flush some of these ideas out.

00:20:49.060 And one thing I'd also consider or have you consider doing is sharing this podcast and having a conversation with a brother, a father, a colleague, a coworker about this triple threat of masculinity, which is morality, intellect, and physical prowess.

00:21:03.600 All right, guys.

00:21:04.240 Get out there.

00:21:04.940 Get after it.

00:21:05.480 I hope this serves you well.

00:21:06.640 I'd love to see what you guys are up to.

00:21:07.980 Make sure you're tagging me on Instagram with hashtag orderofman or hashtag protect, provide, preside, which is our motto and our way of life.

00:21:16.820 Get out there.

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Order of Man - January 04, 2019

The Triple Threat of Masculinity ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

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