Order of Man - TIM TEBOW ｜ Overcoming Shame and Finding Your Significance

00:00:00.060 Joining me back on the podcast today for this bonus episode and one of my favorite guests of all time is Tim Tebow.

00:00:07.420 We talk a lot about what plagues so many men and keeps them from progressing guilt, shame, and remorse for past actions.

00:00:14.400 We also cover how healthy competition drives productive performance, not losing focus of the mission in pursuit of the mission,

00:00:22.020 what responsibility really means, and how to exercise it in finding your own sense of worth, value, and significance.

00:00:28.700 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart your own path.

00:00:34.780 When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time, every time.

00:00:39.220 You are not easily deterred or defeated, rugged, resilient, strong.

00:00:44.240 This is your life. This is who you are. This is who you will become.

00:00:48.460 At the end of the day, and after all is said and done, you can call yourself a man.

00:00:53.360 Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Michler.

00:00:56.580 I'm the host and the founder of the Order of Man podcast and movement.

00:00:59.720 Welcome here today and welcome back if you're joining us.

00:01:03.220 Really glad that you're here.

00:01:05.120 It's always been my mission over the past seven years to give you great information,

00:01:09.900 to talk with incredible men, to extract some of their knowledge and wisdom,

00:01:14.240 and even learn from their failures and deliver that to you in an actionable way so that you can implement it in your own life

00:01:22.020 and improve your life as a father, a husband, a business owner, a community leader, however you're showing up as a man.

00:01:28.300 So we've got a very, very powerful show for you today with a good friend of mine and repeat guest, Tim Tebow.

00:01:35.760 Before we get into that, I just want to mention that we just made my book, The Masculinity Manifesto.

00:01:41.800 We made signed copies available in our store.

00:01:45.880 There's also an exclusive edition, which gets you a leather bound cover, a hand turned wooden pen here from Maine,

00:01:56.100 a signed copy, of course, a custom leather bookmark and a note card from me signed as well.

00:02:04.380 So if you're interested in either just the signed copy or the exclusive edition,

00:02:10.580 make sure you do this very, very quickly.

00:02:12.480 Head to store.orderofman.com, store.orderofman.com and pick that up because we probably won't have any more before Christmas.

00:02:20.900 So again, store.orderofman.com, signed copies and the exclusive edition.

00:02:25.820 All right, guys, let me introduce you to my guest.

00:02:28.200 He is the one and only Tim Tebow.

00:02:30.100 So I already know that the overwhelming majority of you know exactly who this man is and how he shows up for others.

00:02:36.040 But for those of you who don't, Tim is a former NFL and Major League Baseball professional athlete.

00:02:41.680 He's a Heisman Trophy winner.

00:02:43.220 He's a New York Times bestselling author.

00:02:45.460 He's the founder of the Tim Tebow Foundation.

00:02:47.860 But none of that information really does justice to who this man really is and all the good that he's done in the world.

00:02:53.760 You're going to hear about some of those incredible things in our conversation today.

00:02:57.160 He's also got a new book out as of yesterday or maybe two days ago.

00:03:02.560 It's called Mission Possible One-Year Devotional, 365 Days of Inspiration for Pursuing Your God-Given Purpose.

00:03:09.860 I hope you enjoy this one, guys.

00:03:12.560 Tim, what's up, man?

00:03:13.460 So great to see you.

00:03:14.160 It's been a little while, but it's good to see you again.

00:03:16.260 I know, brother.

00:03:17.000 So glad that you were willing to have me back and I didn't screw it up too much the first time.

00:03:22.040 Just a little bit.

00:03:23.180 You snugged right up to that line, but you didn't go over.

00:03:25.800 So we're all good.

00:03:27.160 So just on the edge.

00:03:28.900 That's right.

00:03:29.840 No, I got to tell you, man, the conversation we had first is if it's not the highest downloaded podcast that we've done, it's a very, very close second.

00:03:38.480 I'm going to have to take a look, but the guys really resonated with what you had to share.

00:03:42.420 That's so humbling.

00:03:43.440 I just, I appreciate you giving me the chance to talk about it and to share with you and, you know, learn from you.

00:03:50.080 And I think that's one of the things that's just so important.

00:03:52.560 I think it's what you do is, you know, that guys can learn from each other.

00:03:56.440 It's the ironing iron that sharpens iron, right?

00:03:58.820 Like none of us got to figure it out, but we are in this journey and we want to get better.

00:04:02.800 We need to do it with each other and be for each other, not against each other.

00:04:06.660 Right.

00:04:06.900 I think sometimes when you get a lot of competitive guys around each other, there is this pride that you want to up one when it's really, hey, man, we all need to pursue, you know, and challenge each other that you can get better and you can get better.

00:04:20.900 Instead of me being better than someone else, it's, man, my goal should be to make you better.

00:04:25.120 And so we're all doing that for each other.

00:04:27.400 And I truly believe that's one of the most important things that we can do is how can we lift each other up?

00:04:33.040 Not just, you know, lift ourselves up because we're competitive and we get full of pride, but no, you know, we can lift each other up.

00:04:39.080 And you know what?

00:04:40.120 That's the best form of iron that can sharpen iron right there. 0.97

00:04:42.540 Yeah, I mean, I think when you look at it and, and you begin to believe that the pie is finite, that if you get, I can't have, then you turn into that competitive environment and competition, you know, is not inherently negative.

00:04:55.900 It's how we utilize it because it does lift us up when we decide we're going to be competitive in a healthy way with other people.

00:05:02.140 That's exactly right.

00:05:03.280 And I don't think it's that you want to squash that competition or that drive.

00:05:08.240 I think it's, you want to channel it into the right areas.

00:05:10.720 One of the things I'm so grateful for that my parents didn't do is they didn't squash my drive and my competitiveness because Ryan, I got to tell you, I, from the, like the moments I could breathe, I was insanely competitive, like over the top.

00:05:23.660 Like, you know, my first games playing T-ball, I was telling the coach, like, you know, he would tell us, no, it's all about, you know, enjoying it and having fun.

00:05:32.360 And everyone gets a snow cone.

00:05:33.980 And in my opinion, I was like, this is just all bullcrap, you know? 0.79

00:05:37.080 And I was like, no, you're wrong. 0.65

00:05:38.700 It's only about winning.

00:05:39.640 That's when you have fun.

00:05:40.780 Right.

00:05:41.380 And they were like mortified at me because I was just really overly competitive, arrogant T-ball player, you know, four or five years of age.

00:05:48.820 But my parents didn't squash that.

00:05:50.740 What they tried to do was channel it into being competitive for things that matter.

00:05:54.840 Be competitive to be as nice as you can.

00:05:57.200 Be competitive to give as many things away as you can.

00:05:59.980 Be competitive to get to as many people, to love as many people, to care for as many people.

00:06:05.480 And man, that just was something, you know, they even instilled this rule in our family is that every time another adult would give my parents a compliment on our character, that they would give us a dollar.

00:06:16.980 And so, you know what?

00:06:18.020 We'd show up to events or we'd show up to church and I would be competitive.

00:06:21.160 I was like, okay, I'm going to get as many compliments as I can, right?

00:06:23.960 And so, even though we didn't necessarily do that for the right reason, it was still teaching us that we could still use our drive and our competition, but we could use it for good.

00:06:36.140 We could use it for impact.

00:06:37.420 And I'm so grateful because now I feel like I still try to use my drive and my competition, although it's not for sports anymore, it is to get to one more hurting kid and one more girl that is being trafficked and one more kid that has been thrown away and one more orphan that doesn't have a family.

00:06:54.260 And that's my drive is to get to that one more because we all need to have that one more that we are driven to get to.

00:07:00.200 Do you ever get any, well, I know the answer to this, but I'm very curious about your take on those individuals who believe that you have this powerful message of one more, one more orphan, one more person that you can serve.

00:07:13.880 And yet they'll look at it and they'll think, okay, well, he's got book sales and he's got this and he's got that.

00:07:18.860 And what's the balance between making money, right?

00:07:23.800 And actually trying to do good and serve and add value into the world.

00:07:27.840 I know the answer to that question, but I think there's a lot of guys who have a hard time reconciling the two.

00:07:35.860 Well, I feel like there's an opportunity for every single one of us to make an impact.

00:07:40.100 And every one of us has been put and being given a platform, an environment and an opportunity to use it.

00:07:47.240 And some of us have been given what we feel like is a bigger platform.

00:07:51.780 And sometimes we feel like it's a smaller platform or we feel like we don't have a good skill set or I'm unequipped.

00:07:57.360 But every one of us is in a unique position in a unique environment and background to make a difference.

00:08:04.100 And maybe just one example from this morning, but we were in the St. John's Town Center and we were giving away books and we gave some and we were dropping them different places because we're excited about the drop and to create some fun and excitement.

00:08:18.400 And we dropped some off at Clean Juice and some other places.

00:08:20.740 And we're pulling out of the town center and we're right there at a red light.

00:08:24.760 And there's a young girl that is sitting there with the sign.

00:08:27.320 And we roll down the window and, you know, Kevin on our team hands her some cash.

00:08:33.100 We had a book and I just said, hey, this is a book that's just coming out.

00:08:37.240 And I just wanted to give you one.

00:08:38.640 And if you don't mind, would you just tell me your name?

00:08:40.340 And she told me her name.

00:08:41.760 And it's a sweet girl, Leslie.

00:08:43.240 And she told me that she's from out of town.

00:08:46.360 She's not from around here.

00:08:47.580 And we asked her if we could help, you know, just be able to connect some people that could help her and care for her.

00:08:53.720 And you know what?

00:08:54.400 The traffic's buzzing by.

00:08:56.020 But in that moment, it would have been easy for us to just drive to the next location and drop off next books and try to worry about one more book.

00:09:01.780 But you know what?

00:09:02.460 The whole purpose of the book is so that we remember that she is worth everything just for her at that red light.

00:09:08.360 This young girl that needed help, that needed care, that needed to be connected to a group of people that could love her and support her and care for her.

00:09:16.220 And, you know, it was just such a reminder, even in the midst of, hey, this is exciting.

00:09:19.920 We got a book coming out.

00:09:22.580 But this is the reason we wrote it.

00:09:24.800 She's the reason we wrote it.

00:09:26.520 Because at that moment, that mission, that is possible, right?

00:09:30.640 It is possible for us to stop, to meet her needs, to care for her, to hear her story,

00:09:35.360 and maybe try to get her connected to someone that really can help her in a moment, in a time in her life where she desperately needs it.

00:09:43.020 Now, we don't know what the end goal is going to be, or we don't know what the end result is going to be.

00:09:47.120 We don't know what's going to happen.

00:09:49.240 But we do know in that moment that it was our job and it was our responsibility to stop and care for her.

00:09:55.720 And you know what responsibility really means?

00:09:58.640 Response Able.

00:09:59.820 We were able to respond.

00:10:01.700 But the question is, are we willing to do it?

00:10:04.700 Are we willing to stop in the middle of the day and all the things we could do and meet those needs of the ones that we believe God has put in our path?

00:10:12.700 For us to stop and share with her and encourage her and connect her with people that really can help her in the middle of a time where she desperately needs it.

00:10:21.120 I don't know if that answers your question, but that was just a moment today.

00:10:23.600 I don't know either, but it was awesome.

00:10:25.320 I don't even remember what the question was.

00:10:26.700 Look, here's the cool thing about that is it's so easy for us and myself included to get caught up in the grind and the minutiae and I got to sell this many books and I got to have this many downloads.

00:10:39.820 It's so easy to get wrapped up in that, that we forget that it's not really about the numbers and the downloads and the bank account.

00:10:47.540 It's about, did I reach somebody today?

00:10:50.600 Did I reach a man who's struggling with his relationship or struggling with alcohol or struggling with pornography or struggling because he lost his job?

00:11:00.180 Like that one person is more important than a million downloads, for example.

00:11:05.040 But we get so wrapped up in that future that we forget about the present.

00:11:09.020 Yeah, and I think that is one of the biggest tricks and lies of the enemy is that it is about accomplishing all of this rather than actually focusing on the individual because you are exactly right.

00:11:21.920 It is more important to reach one young man today that maybe there's something that you or I say that could impact him or encourage him or actually let him know his worth and his value.

00:11:32.880 Because you know what a lot of the illustrations you just named are going to give, they're going to give shame and they're going to give guilt and they're going to give the feeling of unequipped or not enough.

00:11:41.620 And that's just not true because, you know, one of the areas that I loved about Mission Possible is we also created this mission mindset.

00:11:50.240 And, you know, we had an acronym for mindset and number one is in mindset.

00:11:55.740 It is to know your maker, know your maker.

00:11:58.040 And one of the reasons why I always want to start with that is because I want people to be confident in who they were created to be.

00:12:04.900 And Ephesians 2.10, it tells us, for we are his masterpiece created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand for us to walk in.

00:12:13.020 Right?

00:12:13.240 When you understand that verse, then you know that in Christ Jesus, we're a masterpiece.

00:12:17.880 We've gone from old to new.

00:12:19.300 We've been adopted into the family.

00:12:20.920 We've been changed from the inside out.

00:12:22.780 And God has good works for us to do.

00:12:24.380 Well, what's fascinating is when you understand context and culture about Paul writing to the church of Ephesus, then you know that in the city, there's one of the seven ancient wonders of the world that everyone would have known about.

00:12:36.320 And it was the temple of Artemis, or some would say the temple of Diana.

00:12:39.400 And they would have been able to see this and they would have, everyone would have known.

00:12:42.920 They would have called it a masterpiece.

00:12:44.440 Right?

00:12:44.620 So when Paul is using these words, he's also relating to the context and the culture where everybody would have said, oh my gosh.

00:12:51.400 And you can still look up the temple of Artemis right now on Google and you can see, oh my gosh, wow, this temple is incredible.

00:12:57.660 It's fascinating.

00:12:59.120 It's a masterpiece.

00:13:00.460 Oh my gosh.

00:13:01.580 Well, what Paul is saying and encouraging us is, hey, in Christ Jesus, we're more than that temple will ever be.

00:13:07.520 That's built out of stone and all sorts of fancy stuff.

00:13:11.180 But you know what?

00:13:12.560 You've been changed from the inside out and you are more valuable.

00:13:14.980 You are more important.

00:13:15.820 You are more special.

00:13:16.820 You are more unique and you are more of a masterpiece than that temple will ever, ever, ever be in Christ Jesus.

00:13:23.460 And by the way, you also have good works to do.

00:13:26.260 And so I want all the young men that are listening, I want them to know, man, like, man, it's so easy to say, you know what?

00:13:31.920 I've looked at this.

00:13:33.120 So, you know what?

00:13:33.860 I'm unequipped or I've gotten caught up in this or I got fired or I didn't make this team or I'm all these things.

00:13:38.580 And, you know, some people want to say that you're not enough.

00:13:41.040 And I want them to know that once you've said yes to Jesus, you are a masterpiece in Christ and there is good works for you to do.

00:13:48.280 And I want them to know that because when you know that, it also gives you confidence that, wait a second, I'm not here by happenstance.

00:13:54.360 I'm not here by accident, but I am fearfully and wonderfully made.

00:13:57.580 I'm here for a purpose because I was created on purpose.

00:14:00.440 And I know that, you know what, I'm not perfect and I've messed up, but there's one person who was perfect and he loved me enough to change me from the inside out and he has good things in store for me.

00:14:10.060 And so it starts by knowing your maker.

00:14:11.580 And that's the start of a mission mindset.

00:14:13.280 When we actually have that mindset, it starts by knowing your maker.

00:14:16.040 How do you tactically do this?

00:14:19.900 Because there's so many men, and again, myself included, who have been beat up, banged up, gone through challenges, gone through adversity, sinned.

00:14:28.940 And we hear that message and are inspired by it.

00:14:34.760 And then the next question is, how do I bridge the gap?

00:14:37.680 Like, how do I go from feeling this sense of worthlessness to a sense of inherent worth just because I am?

00:14:48.760 Well, I think it starts by believing that you truly are fearfully and wonderfully made.

00:14:56.600 You were created on purpose for a purpose.

00:14:58.760 And that the son of God really does love you enough to give his life as an exchange for yours.

00:15:05.860 That's, wow, as the propitiation, the payment that satisfies.

00:15:09.780 You see, what it also does, Ryan, is it when we believe that Jesus really paid our debt on the cross, that means that he also loved us enough.

00:15:20.140 That means he values us enough, not because we did anything to deserve it, but he loved us so much that he demonstrated his love for us that while we're yet sinners, he died for us.

00:15:30.960 He loves us so enough to do that.

00:15:32.480 That means that we are also valuable enough for someone who has infinite value and worth to give his life in exchange for ours.

00:15:40.800 So what that does is for every man that is watching, when he believes that, he also believes that he is valuable, that he is worthy.

00:15:49.000 You know how much, how we judge how much something is worth?

00:15:53.560 In our society, how we judge how much something is worth is by what someone is willing to pay for it.

00:15:59.560 That's how we judge worth, right?

00:16:00.900 Sure, yeah.

00:16:02.640 So if it's true about what Jesus did on the cross, that someone who has infinite value and worth was willing to give his life in exchange for yours, then how much life does every single young man that is watching right now, how much worth do they have?

00:16:17.520 How much value do they have?

00:16:20.200 Wow, I would say it's infinite value and worth because someone with infinite value and worth gave his life as a ransom for theirs.

00:16:27.680 So, you know what, when they're thinking, oh my gosh, I'm not enough, or you know what, how can I take those next steps?

00:16:34.360 First of all, they need to know their value and worth, not so that they leave arrogant, but they leave confident in who they are and whose they are and who they were created to be.

00:16:43.000 Because there's going to be so many times in our life we're going to sit there and we're going to say, man, I'm a failure and I'm messed up and I'm not enough.

00:16:49.740 And you know what?

00:16:50.960 That would be true, except Jesus was enough for us, right?

00:16:56.420 And now when we have accepted what he's done for us, he's living inside of us.

00:17:01.940 And we have gone from old to new, from lost to found, from orphan to son or daughter.

00:17:07.680 And you know what?

00:17:08.200 We've been made alive in Christ and we get to say yes to that.

00:17:11.600 And so, you know what?

00:17:12.620 Have we failed?

00:17:13.340 Yes.

00:17:13.700 Have I failed?

00:17:14.540 Man, all the time.

00:17:15.540 Have I fallen short?

00:17:17.080 Countless number of times.

00:17:19.220 But you know what Jesus did on the cross?

00:17:21.040 It still counted for me.

00:17:22.860 And you know what?

00:17:23.540 I get to say yes to that.

00:17:24.660 And you know what?

00:17:25.220 Some of my favorite things to do is to go to death row and suicide watch and maximum security prisons and share with inmates.

00:17:33.920 And Ryan, you know how many times that they would say, man, Timmy, it sounds good.

00:17:37.640 I hear you.

00:17:38.880 Yeah.

00:17:39.140 But do you really believe?

00:17:41.600 Do you honestly really believe that Jesus died for me?

00:17:46.820 And I'll say, yeah.

00:17:48.220 And then they'll say, but no, but you don't understand.

00:17:50.640 You don't know all of the things I've done.

00:17:55.500 And I'll say, you're right.

00:17:57.900 I don't know.

00:17:59.580 And you know, you honestly, you don't need to tell me.

00:18:01.840 I don't even really want to know.

00:18:04.540 But God knows.

00:18:06.340 And he still loves you.

00:18:08.160 And when he died, it was enough for all of that.

00:18:12.420 He paid for every single one of them.

00:18:14.620 It was the propitiation, the payment that satisfies.

00:18:17.300 It was the payment that satisfies for every single one of those things.

00:18:22.820 That's how much he loves you.

00:18:23.980 That's how valuable his life is that he gave in exchange for yours was enough for all of it.

00:18:30.400 That's how much he loves you.

00:18:32.380 That's powerful.

00:18:34.100 Look, one of the things that you mentioned as you were saying that, as you talked about purpose, that you've been here and you're here for a purpose.

00:18:41.540 And you talk about that in your book when you're devotional as well.

00:18:46.320 How does a man begin to find his purpose?

00:18:49.160 Because I think you talked about it.

00:18:50.720 Believing is important for sure because that gives you a compass or a North Star.

00:18:55.140 Yeah.

00:18:55.480 But there's still a course that each of us needs to travel.

00:18:58.140 I feel like, because we've had a couple of conversations now, clearly you're somebody who's found your purpose.

00:19:05.000 I personally have found my purpose, but I know what it's like to be in a place where you don't feel like you have purpose or you're just wandering around aimlessly.

00:19:15.220 And it's a horrible position to be in.

00:19:17.620 It is.

00:19:18.140 It is.

00:19:18.800 And, you know, there's been so many studies and we could go through so many of them that that will share and show how purpose literally adds so much to your life.

00:19:29.400 Some studies will even say it adds days and times and years to your life, having purpose or not having purpose.

00:19:35.420 You know, it's the opposite.

00:19:36.620 And so purpose is so important.

00:19:38.200 And you know what?

00:19:38.720 There's a lot of experts that would hop on here and would tell you all the different ways to try to find it.

00:19:44.220 But for me, there's been two practical things that I have in all the years of trying to think about it that I've really thought about that have impacted my life is, number one, when have my eyes been opened?

00:19:58.660 When have my eyes been opened to a need, to a person, to an issue, to a people group, to a country?

00:20:06.160 When has my eyes been opened and has my heart been pricked for it?

00:20:09.880 See, when I was 15 and I had the chance to meet Sherwin in the Philippines, who was a boy that was born with his feet on backwards and his village viewed him as cursed.

00:20:19.020 You see, that day, my eyes were opened to something that I really hadn't seen before.

00:20:23.680 And my heart was pricked.

00:20:24.940 And I didn't know what that meant.

00:20:26.200 I didn't know what I was supposed to do, really, except for boys and girls who have been viewed as throwaways.

00:20:32.260 Gosh, I just don't feel like they're a throwaway.

00:20:34.280 And, God, I don't feel like they're a throwaway to you.

00:20:36.180 And I feel like I'm supposed to do something about it.

00:20:38.380 I didn't know how that was going to manifest itself.

00:20:41.220 I didn't know, you know, one day the things that we were going to have a chance to do.

00:20:45.300 I had no idea.

00:20:46.100 I just knew my eyes have been opened to something that I hadn't seen before.

00:20:51.100 And, gosh, I just got this stirring in my heart to do something about it.

00:20:55.580 And I feel like when those moments happen, that even though we don't know the end result, we got to step into that moment.

00:21:02.440 We got to step in and do something about it.

00:21:04.460 We got to step in and, you know, it might not even be our final destination, but it might be another learning point in our life where God can continue to open our eyes and continue to prick our heart and lead us down the path that we're supposed to go.

00:21:18.760 And I would just encourage the guys that are listening to this that, man, what are those moments when you really feel like, hey, my eyes were open to this and my heart was pricked.

00:21:28.860 And did I step into that moment?

00:21:31.260 Because I would encourage them to step into that moment.

00:21:34.400 You know, and one of the things that we use in mission mindset is the I is to be interruptible, right?

00:21:40.800 And so many times I feel like, well, I'm in the middle of class and I'm in the middle of work.

00:21:43.760 And I don't care when that happens, be interruptible, step into the moment, right?

00:21:48.420 Step into the moment and say yes to it because you have no idea.

00:21:52.340 One example of that in my life was we were in Austin a couple of years ago and we were leaving at dinner and there was a homeless man to the right side of me.

00:22:03.220 And I just knew I was supposed to stop and get out and talk to him.

00:22:05.940 And I didn't.

00:22:06.340 And the light turned green and we start driving and we get to the house we were staying at and it just wouldn't leave.

00:22:12.920 It wouldn't stop.

00:22:13.780 It wouldn't stop festering in my heart.

00:22:16.640 And I said to the group and the family and friends I was with, I said, hey, guys, I'm sorry.

00:22:23.000 I knew I was called in this moment.

00:22:25.500 And I saw someone and my heart was stirred and I was supposed to talk and I didn't.

00:22:29.620 And I don't know if we can go find him or if I can go find him, but I know I'm supposed to go try.

00:22:33.780 And so I said, I'm just going to grab a few tracks and a few bottles of water and go see if I can maybe find this man.

00:22:41.640 Because I know God asked me to do something and I said no.

00:22:45.320 And so I want to go see if, you know, even though I missed that chance, maybe I can maybe I can see him if I go back.

00:22:54.360 So all of them were like, no, you're not going by yourself.

00:22:57.180 So they all grabbed some waters and they got back in the SUV with us.

00:23:00.920 And we drove him back to downtown and we made the loop and we went right by the same area and he wasn't there.

00:23:07.180 And I was just like, man, God, I'm sorry.

00:23:10.260 I knew I was supposed to do it and I missed it.

00:23:12.360 And I apologize.

00:23:13.480 But maybe there's someone else that you could give me the chance to encourage or share with.

00:23:19.800 And so there was all this traffic leaving downtown.

00:23:22.460 And so I was like, just pull down this little avenue.

00:23:25.640 And while we figure it out, I pulled down this avenue and there was a couple of men sitting right there.

00:23:30.320 And so I was like, OK, hey, y'all go jump out and share with him because I was driving and I couldn't get out.

00:23:36.620 So they jumped out and then the one way traffic was pushing us.

00:23:39.800 But that part of our group left their phones in the car.

00:23:42.520 So I couldn't call them and traffic was pushing us.

00:23:45.240 So it just happens to be how God does just cool stuff.

00:23:48.240 The one way traffic that was forcing us down these back alleys.

00:23:50.920 And literally, I was like, well, I'll just take this one more alley and see if I can get back around.

00:23:55.100 I pulled into this alley and right where I pulled up to was over 100 homeless people that I pulled right into.

00:24:04.360 And I couldn't find that young man, but I was able to get out and share with a bunch of these people and love on them for a little bit.

00:24:13.900 And then, you know, reuniting with the rest of our group.

00:24:17.260 And we spent most of the evening hanging out with them.

00:24:20.040 And it was just one of those moments where, you know what, I missed the first shot, but I still wanted to be interruptible.

00:24:26.700 And I wanted, you know, even though it's not what a lot of people are planning on doing on their Saturday evening is, you know what, I knew I was supposed to go back.

00:24:33.160 And maybe there's some, you know, something that's applicable for some of the people that are watching.

00:24:38.180 Maybe they feel like, man, my eyes were open.

00:24:40.460 My heart was pricked.

00:24:41.200 I didn't.

00:24:41.820 Yeah, but go.

00:24:42.320 You know what?

00:24:42.660 Go take the loop again and go back because maybe, you know, God will still use it the next time through.

00:24:47.220 And, you know, sometimes I'll think, well, man, I missed it.

00:24:50.440 But you know what?

00:24:52.080 Our God's a big God and he can somehow use all things together for good.

00:24:56.920 All right, man.

00:24:57.520 Let me step away from the conversation very briefly and then we'll get right back to it.

00:25:01.140 I know how many of you are struggling right now.

00:25:03.520 And I know that because I get messages every day from you guys telling me about your biggest challenges and fears.

00:25:10.440 And I understand.

00:25:11.900 I've been there.

00:25:12.520 I go through my own personal struggles daily too.

00:25:15.180 And I'll tell you that the factor that has contributed more to me overcoming these hardships is having men in my corner that I can talk with, that I can get counsel from, have some accountability to, and just be there fighting their own fights alongside me.

00:25:32.460 So if you're looking for that, I can tell you that the brotherhood that we've created inside the iron council is second to none.

00:25:39.880 I don't need to get into all the details about it today.

00:25:42.580 I just want you to head to order of man.com slash iron council, order of man.com slash iron council.

00:25:48.820 Have a look at the short video and see if it's something you think will help.

00:25:51.800 Now it's not currently open, but you can drop your email on the form and then we'll let you know as soon as we open up, right as we open up in December, middle of December.

00:26:01.000 So a little less than a month away.

00:26:02.620 Again, head to order of man.com slash iron council.

00:26:06.440 For now, we'll get back to it, Tim.

00:26:09.100 That's really powerful.

00:26:10.180 You know, as you were talking about that, my wife actually had an experience about a week and a half ago.

00:26:15.380 She was driving down the highway and she was going to pick up our kids from a Halloween party.

00:26:21.500 And she noticed a motorcycle in the middle of the road in flames.

00:26:26.140 So she pulls over.

00:26:27.940 Nobody else was there.

00:26:28.680 There's one other car there.

00:26:29.700 She pulls over and she sees that a man on the road and he was about a hundred yards away from the motorcycle.

00:26:38.100 Well, he had ran into the back of this other car that was there and flew a hundred yards.

00:26:44.580 She ran over to him.

00:26:45.820 He was very bloody.

00:26:46.720 He was banged up.

00:26:47.460 She thinks he was probably dead at that point.

00:26:49.340 She calls the paramedics and she's been really tore up about this because she saw that she's with this man.

00:26:57.200 And the only thing she knew how to do was say, helps coming.

00:27:00.720 She didn't even know if he was alive or dead, unconscious, but helps on its way.

00:27:04.720 And I was talking to her the other night about this experience.

00:27:08.800 And we were just talking a little bit about her dreams and some of the things that she wants to do.

00:27:13.660 And she brought up nursing.

00:27:14.740 And I said, that's interesting.

00:27:16.740 That's fairly new.

00:27:17.640 And I said, why?

00:27:18.580 And she said, because of this experience, this was a couple of days ago.

00:27:21.840 Well, yesterday I'm in my office and I'm having an interview or a conversation like we are right now.

00:27:26.880 And I get this thing about nursing.

00:27:29.720 It just, for whatever reason, it hit me again.

00:27:31.780 And I, and I, I finished up whatever I was doing and I went downstairs and I could tell she was a little bit upset. 0.96

00:27:37.420 And I said, Hey, I don't, I don't want to interrupt you.

00:27:39.940 I don't know what you're, what's going on right now, but I, I've, I had this thought about nursing and I just wanted to tell you that I wanted to encourage you that for whatever reason, I'm feeling like there's something there.

00:27:53.540 And she looked at me.

00:27:54.620 She's like, why do you, why do you say that?

00:27:56.280 I'm like, I don't know.

00:27:56.960 I just feel like I needed to tell you that that's, that's been on my mind.

00:28:01.820 And she's like, it's funny that you would come to me right now because I'm sitting here replaying that experience and I'm thinking about that myself.

00:28:10.460 And it's these, these moments that if we just interruptible, I like that.

00:28:15.780 And if we just stop and listen and then act, I think all too often we're waiting for these big grand moments to slap us across the face or lay it in our laps.

00:28:24.940 When it's moments that are seemingly coincidental or insignificant, that if we just take a small little step could lead into something so much greater.

00:28:35.500 Gosh, I totally agree wholeheartedly.

00:28:37.720 And I think it's so important that we do take the steps and that we dive into it a little bit more.

00:28:44.520 And that doesn't mean it's the end result, but it does.

00:28:46.500 I do believe that you will learn more about, you know, the next steps and what you're called to and what you can find purpose in and what, how God can use it than just going back to the, whatever you were just doing.

00:28:58.320 And I feel like sometimes what happens and, and, and I, I've even been guilty of this so many times myself is, you know what?

00:29:05.760 I just don't think that we necessarily learn that much from is when we go home and we just turn on Netflix or we just scroll.

00:29:14.360 And we're like, well, I thought you were going to, you know, God showed me the next steps and what is my purpose?

00:29:18.660 Well, I don't know how much we're going to learn.

00:29:21.920 I mean, God can do anything, but I just don't, don't see it a lot where we're like, Hey man, I just really found my purpose.

00:29:27.120 Cause I hit the next, you know, Amazon prime show or I just watched the next game.

00:29:31.700 Right.

00:29:32.220 But man, if we do what you're talking about, we, we step into that.

00:29:35.640 We, we, our eyes are open.

00:29:37.440 We feel that nudge.

00:29:38.280 We step into it.

00:29:39.120 We might not know it all, but we can continue to take those steps and learn more.

00:29:42.820 And what I also feel like that is it's either solidified in us or we also are encouraged in different directions.

00:29:50.740 And so we continue to grow and grow and grow.

00:29:53.180 And I feel like one thing that's, that doesn't help us grow is when we just go to the easy mind numbing things that aren't necessarily wrong.

00:30:00.800 I'm not saying that it's just, I just don't think if you're really trying to step out and grow and find your purpose, you're going to do that.

00:30:07.760 Just scrolling or watching the next Netflix show.

00:30:10.720 And I'll tell you, I've done that so many, so many times in my own life.

00:30:14.200 And, you know, and I'm not saying that can't be okay to, you know, take a break for a little bit, but man, if we're looking for your purpose, it's probably not going to just be on the next show.

00:30:23.360 But you know what, when, when you have those opportunities, like you're describing and like I was sharing about in Austin, if we just step into those, I do feel like we're going to learn more about, you know, what fulfills us and what drives us and maybe what could be our calling or purpose or that next step that we can take that could ultimately lead us to that calling.

00:30:42.020 Yeah, for sure. Look, one of the, well, we, we just got right into it. I wanted to mention that you've got the new book, one year devotionals coming out and I'm, or actually it's out as of today, when we record today, it releases. Yeah, that's right. That's right.

00:30:57.560 This one's coming out a couple of days after that, but tell me about the purpose and the reason and the mission behind writing that and putting that information out to people.

00:31:06.360 And to encourage people, man, every day when we wake up, there's a lot of competition for our time, for our energy, for our thought process, for our happiness, for our joy.

00:31:23.640 There's so many things that want to steal it, that want to take it, that want to capture us. And, and I just really wanted to write this one year, 365 day devotional to walk with people for a year of every day when we wake up, man, this is probably between honestly, two and five minutes every day.

00:31:41.020 That's all it'll take. And it's a little bit of scriptural scripture and a little bit of practical. And there's also about a month's work of amongst the devos that are amazing young people that I share some of their stories and how they have overcome so much.

00:31:55.640 So, you know, there's a, there's some scripture and there's some practical, and then there's also some amazing testimonies and some impactful prayers.

00:32:03.140 But every day, if you just, you know, start it, it'll take two to five minutes max, but maybe that could be enough to, you know, to move the mindset from a mindset of, hey, today it's all about me to a mindset of, it's actually about other people.

00:32:16.740 From a mindset of, you know, from a mindset of, you know, hey, what more can I take versus what more could I give a mindset of, hey, today is going to be all about, you know, just getting through today versus thriving in the day.

00:32:30.680 This is going to be a mindset versus, you know, you know, how much can I take versus actually being grateful for all I've been given and, you know, and trying to adjust that mindset because when we, when we can start the day with the right mindset,

00:32:46.740 that everything else that we see is through a different lens, you know, and encourage people, let's try to see life through a different lens, not a, not a lens of, hey, what more, you know, praise, promotion, platform, status, but a mindset of worth, value, significance, humanity, love, care, blessings, being grateful.

00:33:11.140 You know, when, when we actually see it through a different lens, not only is our life going to be full of way more joy, way more gratefulness, it actually has a, it has a chemical, our body actually has a chemical change in response for the better.

00:33:28.900 That's what's crazy about it.

00:33:30.200 It's actually something that is good for our bodies to wake up every day and be grateful and to be able to start in prayer and start in truth and start in the right way that it's not only the right thing to do, but it's also the right thing for our bodies, which I think is, is pretty cool.

00:33:46.740 And there's even been studies that have come out recently about people that have been, the more devices and the more tech and all this stuff that we're, we're, we're feeding ourselves, which I'm not saying it's all bad because it can be used for great things.

00:34:00.540 But so much of the more that we consume actually in a lot of studies has led to more loneliness and unhappiness.

00:34:10.120 And it's like, what, what, wait a second, what we're feeding ourselves is actually giving life or it's taking life, right?

00:34:18.520 And so just like it's important when we're training to be as strong and as fit and as we can, we got to give, we got to give myself the fuel that I need to go live out the goals that I have.

00:34:30.360 Well, in the same way with our mindset for life, we got to feed ourselves in truth.

00:34:35.460 We got to feed ourselves in inspiration.

00:34:37.240 We got to feed ourselves in the right nourishment to go out, live that out.

00:34:41.460 Because if all we're putting in is stuff that's going to make us look through a lens, that's going to say, it's all about you and you should be unhappy and you should be ungrateful and you need to change and you need to be like somebody else.

00:34:54.300 You know, every day, 12% of our daily thoughts are spent in some form of comparison.

00:34:58.980 That's crazy.

00:34:59.820 Like we can never, we can never be all that God has for us and all we want to be and go after everything we have when 12% of our daily thoughts are spent wishing we were like somebody else.

00:35:13.040 Ryan, if we were supposed to be like somebody else, God would have made us like somebody else, but he didn't.

00:35:17.800 And God hasn't made a mistake and it didn't start with any single person listening.

00:35:21.220 He's never had an oops moment and none of us are oops.

00:35:23.660 So when we understand that, then I also know, man, although I can respect and look up to other people and have a lot of people that are role models of mine, doesn't mean that I need to try to be like anybody else.

00:35:34.800 I need to be exactly who God made me to be and try to do that in the best way possible and say yes to him by trying to dive into his word and start every day on mission because I know I'm here for a mission and I was created on purpose.

00:35:48.680 And I know that I have a purpose and I'm going to say yes to that purpose.

00:35:51.860 Yeah, man.

00:35:53.360 I love it.

00:35:53.860 Amen on that.

00:35:54.640 Look, your team sent me a copy of the book today, so I'm really excited to dig into it.

00:35:59.900 This is really short notice, so I'm excited to dig into it.

00:36:02.780 I know. I love it though, man.

00:36:03.820 Well, one thing I will tell you is I've got a good friend and I want to acknowledge him.

00:36:08.600 His name is Steve Weatherford.

00:36:10.600 And Steve, every couple of days, sends me a message.

00:36:14.840 Maybe it's a video message.

00:36:16.600 It's a little card with a scripture reference and a motivational quote or thought or mindset.

00:36:23.720 And he does this every three to four days.

00:36:25.440 He just sends it to me, no explanation.

00:36:27.720 And I'm telling you what, that little message makes such a huge difference, not only because of what it is, but because I know somebody cares enough to take time out of their day to do that.

00:36:36.180 And I think we ought to be very careful of overlooking the importance of these small little messages on a daily basis.

00:36:47.180 Sometimes we hear, you know, motivation is bullcrap and it's like, no, it isn't.

00:36:53.400 There's power in it if we can harness it and use it correctly and drive us to action.

00:36:57.160 No, there's absolutely power in it and it can drive us to action and we need encouragement and we need inspiration and we need fulfillment and we need purpose.

00:37:08.940 We need all of those things.

00:37:10.600 There's study after study after study that back that up.

00:37:13.900 All of those things that I believe are also biblical things that we need to say yes to that can help us on our journey.

00:37:20.600 And you know what?

00:37:21.660 It doesn't mean that we're going to, you know, all figure it out or we have all the answers.

00:37:25.720 We're all on this journey together and that's why I love what you're doing so much is because you're encouraging, you know, guys and you're encouraging young men.

00:37:33.700 And honestly, a time where there's not a lot of encouragement for them and there's not a lot of support systems and there's not a lot of areas where they can go to say, you know what?

00:37:42.860 I'm supposed to be a guy that has it all together and you know what?

00:37:45.660 Sometimes I just don't feel like I have it all together.

00:37:48.080 And you know what I want to say to them is, you know what?

00:37:50.920 That's okay.

00:37:51.460 And you're still loved and you're still valued and you're still awesome and you still have a great purpose and all of those things.

00:37:58.820 Like we need to also build up all these young men because there's not a lot of areas that they can go to right now and be built up because they're supposed to have it all together.

00:38:08.360 And you know what?

00:38:10.080 I just want them to know also how valuable and loved they are, even though they don't always hear it.

00:38:15.220 Probably they don't always get to see it, but man, I truly believe it from the bottom of my heart.

00:38:19.960 And I hope they all hear me say that to them.

00:38:23.040 I know you feel it.

00:38:23.760 I can see it, man.

00:38:24.620 I can feel that as well.

00:38:26.200 I know you've got another meeting you got to get to.

00:38:28.120 So I want to be respectful of that.

00:38:30.000 Where do we need to send the guys to figure out more about what you're doing and pick up a copy of the book?

00:38:34.320 They can get this devotional anywhere that books are sold.

00:38:39.620 So they can get a Barnes & Noble, Books A Million, Target, Walmart, Sam's, Amazon, all the other different places.

00:38:45.300 And, you know, I just, my hope is that, man, if it's something that you're interested in picking up, that we could just go through life together, man.

00:38:52.780 Two to five minutes every day that it could just be an encouragement.

00:38:56.000 Maybe just be able to tweak the way you see life and you go about it.

00:39:00.180 And maybe because of that, some of the decisions could be different.

00:39:03.100 And maybe because of that, maybe some of the things we're all running through and agonizing with, maybe we could alleviate some of those and just get more fulfillment and more purpose and more mission-driven living every day.

00:39:17.480 Because, man, when we are able to live that out, even though it doesn't all go perfect and we still mess up and fall short, man, the joy in that is so much different.

00:39:28.080 Then when we just say yes to the here and now, and we just say yes to the things that ultimately don't bring a lot of fulfillment.

00:39:37.560 Yeah, man.

00:39:38.120 Yeah, man.

00:39:38.500 Well, you're doing it.

00:39:39.320 And I appreciate you.

00:39:40.500 And I appreciate you carving some time out, sneaking this in here.

00:39:44.000 Man, I'm so grateful.

00:39:45.480 It's important for me.

00:39:46.420 I know it's important for the guys you're going to listen in.

00:39:48.200 So I'm really grateful for it.

00:39:50.280 Absolutely, brother, man.

00:39:51.280 We appreciate you.

00:39:52.160 And hey, if I didn't overstep, hopefully I can do it again.

00:39:55.620 Again, you're right up to that line, but you're safe.

00:39:57.900 You're on the safe side of that line, brother.

00:39:59.880 All right, man.

00:40:00.560 I appreciate you, man.

00:40:00.820 I love you.

00:40:01.220 I love everything you do.

00:40:02.440 Appreciate it.

00:40:03.340 God bless you, brother.

00:40:04.220 Appreciate you.

00:40:06.420 All right, gentlemen, there you go.

00:40:07.500 My conversation with the one and only Tim Tebow.

00:40:10.600 I hope you enjoyed that one.

00:40:11.800 It was such a special conversation and an important conversation based on what I know a lot of you guys are dealing with that we wanted to release it as a bonus episode for you and make that happen.

00:40:21.740 And so I hope you appreciate that.

00:40:23.420 And I hope, again, that you found some value from it.

00:40:25.480 Go pick up a copy of his book, The One Year Devotional, 365 Days of Inspiration for Pursuing Your God-Given Purpose.

00:40:32.240 And while you're there on Amazon or Barnes & Noble or wherever it is you get your books, make sure you consider picking up one of those signed copies of The Masculinity Manifesto at store.orderofman.com.

00:40:44.240 And last, make sure you check out The Iron Council at orderofman.com slash ironcouncil.

00:40:51.740 I actually do have one more ask.

00:40:53.500 If you guys would just take a screenshot right now of you listening to this podcast and then post it up on Instagram, tag Tim, tag myself.

00:41:02.100 We're going to have videos of this conversation up on Instagram and YouTube and everywhere else.

00:41:05.540 But just go ahead and tag each one of us, share it on Instagram.

00:41:08.460 That way guys know what you're listening to and they know where you're getting information from.

00:41:12.560 And hopefully this information, these conversations will serve them as well.

00:41:15.840 So a big thanks to Tim for coming back on the podcast.

00:41:18.020 And of course, thanks to you guys for listening and being inspired by and motivated and putting this stuff into action.

00:41:24.540 That's what it's all about.

00:41:25.800 Guys, we'll be back tomorrow for our Friday field notes.

00:41:28.680 But until then, go out there, take action and become the man you are meant to be.

00:41:33.280 Thank you for listening to the Order of Man podcast.

00:41:36.000 You're ready to take charge of your life and be more of the man you were meant to be.

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Order of Man - November 10, 2022

TIM TEBOW ｜ Overcoming Shame and Finding Your Significance

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