Order of Man - Tips, Strategies, and Protocols for Surviving These Trying Times ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest, embrace your fears, and boldly chart

00:00:04.980 your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time, every time.

00:00:10.420 You are not easily deterred or defeated, rugged, resilient, strong. This is your life. This is who

00:00:17.220 you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,

00:00:22.780 you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Michler,

00:00:28.040 and I am the host and the founder of the order of man podcast and a movement that continues to grow

00:00:32.980 and is literally spanning the entire planet. Uh, glad that you're tuning in, whether you've been

00:00:37.960 with us for years now, or this is the very first time you're listening to this podcast. Uh, it is

00:00:43.240 evident that we need more men to step up into what it means to be a man. And that's what we're doing

00:00:49.880 here, equipping you with all the tools and conversations and resources and everything

00:00:54.420 that you might need to become a better, more capable father, husband, business owner, community

00:01:01.440 leader, whatever facet of life that you're showing up. Uh, I've got one that I think is obviously very

00:01:07.100 relevant and timely for you today. And that is tips, strategies, and protocols to surviving these

00:01:14.280 trying times. Now, maybe they're not trying to you. Uh, and if that's the case, I'm glad we don't

00:01:18.840 want to be a trying time. Uh, but if you are dealing with some difficulty, whether it's financially

00:01:24.380 or emotionally, mentally, physically, uh, then I hope that the 10 tips that I'm going to share with

00:01:29.460 you today will help, uh, foster some growth and development and looking at these times a little

00:01:35.620 bit differently than maybe some of you have in the past. And I think this is a great and powerful

00:01:40.440 opportunity to focus on improvement and developing ourselves. And even if we're facing and experiencing

00:01:47.520 hardship to use, uh, the hardship as fuel and feedback for how we can improve in our lives and

00:01:54.140 ultimately serve those that we want to serve, and we have an obligation to serve.

00:01:58.300 Now, before I get into these tips, I just want to make a very quick mention of my friends over at

00:02:03.680 Sorenex. I know I talk about origin a lot and we'll continue to talk about them as well.

00:02:08.460 Uh, but I did want to introduce you to, uh, Sorenex. If you're not familiar with what these guys do,

00:02:13.000 it's world-class top-notch exercise equipment. They work with some of the best professional

00:02:19.340 sporting teams on the planet, uh, with colleges as well and universities. Uh, but one thing that

00:02:26.560 they just came out with is their off-grid rack. This is a very simple, effective, and affordable

00:02:33.120 solution to getting yourself a Sorenex rack, uh, takes up minimum space, easy to set up and it won't

00:02:39.620 break the bank. So if you're interested in the off-grid rack, go check it out at Sorenex, S-O-R-I-N-E-X.

00:02:45.840 That's S-O-R-I-N-E-X.com. Uh, I've been using mine for some squats, which I'm noticing that, uh,

00:02:53.760 I need to do more squats because I've lost, uh, lost a little bit of ground on my, on my squat

00:02:58.840 game. So I'll be using that rack for that, uh, push presses, curls, and pull-ups, and just about

00:03:04.860 any other way you want to get creative with that piece of equipment. Again, Sorenex.com.

00:03:10.080 All right, guys, with that said, um, let's get into these protocols, these tips, these strategies

00:03:14.360 that I wanted to share with you. Uh, this is a culmination of thoughts that I've had from

00:03:18.700 over the past five years and things that I've implemented in my life and tips and strategies

00:03:23.360 that I've seen other men implement, uh, that have been successful. Uh, obviously we live in a time

00:03:28.040 where there's a lot of doubt and confusion and uncertainty. And anytime there's that sort of,

00:03:35.280 of uncertainty and variables in the equation, obviously we're going to have challenges with

00:03:42.260 being at ease and being comfortable and having the routines and the systems and strategies that

00:03:46.740 we use on a daily basis to produce the desired results that we're after. Uh, so I look at it as

00:03:53.920 our job as men to bring order and structure. Jordan Peterson talks about it in the context of bringing

00:04:01.020 order to chaos. Well, that's exactly what we do. And that's what we have been doing as men for

00:04:06.720 tens, if not hundreds of thousands of years, taking raw resources, chaos, right? And then organizing it,

00:04:15.200 organizing those resources in a way that serves ourselves and serves other people. If you think

00:04:20.400 about this at the most fundamental and foundational level of our ancestors, uh, they would take

00:04:27.000 fuel and heat and oxygen and make fire and that fire could cook meat. It could help, uh, with the

00:04:35.220 construction of tools. Again, we're taking raw natural ingredients, organizing them into a way that's

00:04:42.860 actually going to serve and be useful to us. I also think about this in the context of hunting.

00:04:47.100 You know, you've got a deer out in the field and a man can go out and he can shoot that deer. He can

00:04:53.700 break that deer down. He can use the, the hide for warmth. Uh, he can take the meat from the bones of

00:05:01.560 that deer and then provide food for his family. This is exactly what we've been doing again for

00:05:06.620 hundreds of thousands of years is bringing order to chaos, uh, finding structure, finding routine,

00:05:14.440 and then taking the raw ingredients of life and then whittling them, refining them, crafting them,

00:05:20.640 honing them into a way that's going to be useful for other people. So it's very important that we

00:05:26.540 wrap our heads around the idea of what it is that we're supposed to be doing. You're supposed to be

00:05:30.460 taking time. You're supposed to be taking talent and skillsets and books like the books I have on my

00:05:36.420 bookshelf. And even this podcast, raw information, put it through your processes and systems,

00:05:41.980 and then it's going to help you produce a more effective outcome. That is what your responsibility

00:05:46.800 is as a foundational element of what it means to be a man. So I wanted to give you that context

00:05:52.460 in that framework, because I want to talk about the rest of the tips with that in mind, because I

00:05:58.120 think if we understand that, then we'll have a better time knowing what it is we should be doing

00:06:02.400 and we can feel fulfilled and satisfied in the work that we're doing as well. So let's break this

00:06:07.900 down. Uh, the, the first thing that I identified is that we just need to be intentional. All right.

00:06:13.440 If you're, if you're going about your day and you don't really have a plan or any sort of strategy

00:06:18.580 and you're getting up when you feel like it, because nobody's telling you, you got to go,

00:06:22.860 go to work and your responsibilities maybe are fewer than they've been in the past.

00:06:26.980 And then you watch a bunch of TV and you kind of dink around and you don't know what you're going to

00:06:31.340 do for your workout because there's nobody programming that for you, or you're not going into the gym

00:06:36.280 and you're not going into the office. So you don't have your tasks stacked up and exactly what

00:06:40.220 you need to be doing. Uh, it's natural that you're going to not only experience inferior results,

00:06:45.880 uh, but that you're going to be less satisfied and you're going to probably to some degree,

00:06:52.080 develop some confidence issues because you're not doing what you know you should be doing.

00:06:56.220 So my suggestion in this department of being intentional is to wake up at a scheduled time

00:07:03.480 every single day, no snooze, nothing like that. Set your alarm, get up at the right time,

00:07:07.840 whatever that time is for you. And then plan out your day, plan out your day, take 10, 15,

00:07:13.820 20 minutes. It doesn't need to take any longer than that to plan out exactly what you're going to be

00:07:18.320 doing, why you're going to be doing it. What would define you having a successful day? What types of

00:07:25.300 activities and conversations and actions and tasks do you want to do? And do you need to get done?

00:07:31.640 You need to have that intentionality behind the way that you approach your day.

00:07:36.340 Cause if you're just going at it willy nilly and like, I'll just kind of do whatever I feel like

00:07:40.740 doing when I feel like doing it. Obviously we know that that's not going to produce the results

00:07:44.800 that we're after. And not only is it not going to produce the results, you're going to feel like

00:07:48.700 crap. You know, you're going to feel down. You're going to feel depressed. You're going to feel 0.94

00:07:52.620 anxious. You're going to get inside your head. Uh, a lot of the times, uh, which is not a great

00:07:57.600 place to be, especially in times of doubt and uncertainty. So get it out of your head,

00:08:02.020 get it onto paper and write out exactly what you're going to be doing. Use Google calendar,

00:08:07.520 use whatever systems and processes you can, whether you hear them here on our podcast,

00:08:11.660 the battle plan is a great way to do that. Or other programs like Andy for so is powerless or

00:08:16.060 whatever. I don't care whatever system you're using, but be intentional, be intentional about the

00:08:21.720 way you're going to go about your day. All right. Number two, have a routine. Now we've talked about

00:08:26.160 intentionality. We've talked about what you want to do, what you want to accomplish,

00:08:30.100 why it's important, all that stuff. Now have that routine in place. Every day you wake up at this

00:08:35.380 time. When you wake up, you have a family breakfast or you have a family meeting or you work out or you

00:08:41.640 drink a bunch of water. When you get into the office, whether that's your, your couch or a spare

00:08:46.560 bedroom in your house, or you actually are still going into the office or wherever your work is

00:08:50.300 performed. Uh, the first thing you do is, okay, we plan it out. And then I do this. And here's

00:08:55.860 when I take lunch and here's when I work out and here's how I spend time with my kids. And here's

00:08:59.920 where I spend time with my wife. The beauty of having a routine is you can look for effectiveness

00:09:05.560 and you can look for efficiency. If you produce some level of results in your life, let's, let's

00:09:12.620 say you're trying to get stronger, for example, and you go into the gym and you just do what you think

00:09:18.720 might work. You actually might produce some results. And there's a problem with that in that

00:09:24.780 you begin to deceive yourself into thinking that, well, because it's producing results,

00:09:29.860 I guess it's working and you can't pinpoint and articulate why exactly it is working.

00:09:35.940 The power of a routine is that you can go then after and you can evaluate, is this working? Where's

00:09:42.540 there's inefficiencies? Where am I taking too long? Where is it really working? Well, what can I tweak or

00:09:47.320 adjust to make it even that much more effective and efficient? This is the power of routines.

00:09:52.600 You get into these routines. There's not a lot of variable. There's not a lot of doubt or

00:09:56.640 uncertainty. There's not a lot of guesswork about what you need to be doing, why you need to be

00:10:00.940 doing it, the clothes you need to be wearing, the exercises that you're going to do. And so it makes

00:10:04.560 that time crunch that much faster because if you don't have the routine, again, you might produce

00:10:09.860 the results, but it'll take significantly longer to produce those results because there's a lot

00:10:14.420 of ineffectiveness going on in the way that you're producing and the way you're showing up.

00:10:18.700 So have that routine and experiment, you know, with, with as much doubt and uncertainty is going,

00:10:24.740 that's going on right now. Now is the perfect time to experiment. And I look at my life as a process

00:10:30.760 of many experiments. I'm going to try new things. I'm going to implement new systems. If I hear something

00:10:36.520 on a podcast or read something in a book, I'm going to implement it in, into my routine and my life.

00:10:41.900 And if it works, I'll make it stick or I'll pull something else out, or I may tweak it to

00:10:46.100 adjust to my lifestyle and what I'm trying to create. And if it doesn't work, I take it out

00:10:51.100 and I put something else in. It actually makes it fun and interesting and almost gamifies the process

00:10:57.020 of success, whether that's on the physical front, within your relationship, financially, career-wise,

00:11:03.540 making this a process of experimentation is a good thing. And by the way, if you mess up,

00:11:08.300 because in experiments, you might actually mess up. There's not so much, there's not too much that is

00:11:15.460 beyond fixing. You can go in and fix it. One of the things I tell my kids all the time is because

00:11:22.020 we like Legos here. We play a lot of Legos and we'll build something. The other day, in fact,

00:11:27.840 uh, my, my youngest son, he's four, he built this like jungle scene and he was walking down the hall

00:11:36.040 and he tripped on a bed frame that we had just pulled out. Cause I built a new bed frame. So he

00:11:40.920 tripped on it and did a face plant on the hardwood floor. He wasn't hurt, but he was really, really

00:11:47.960 upset because the Legos shattered. He spent a lot of time building this, the Legos shattered.

00:11:53.460 And I picked him up, tried to console him a little bit to stop crying. And he was so mad

00:12:00.120 about his Lego. I said, it's okay, bud, we can rebuild it. We can fix it. In fact, we can make

00:12:04.820 it better. And it took a little bit, but we got him going and we were able to fix the Legos and make

00:12:09.040 it better and add some new things. This is life, right? If things get messed up, which is bound

00:12:13.520 to happen, things break, you break it. Okay. Well, you messed it up. You screwed it up. So what do we

00:12:20.360 need to do to fix it? And then you go back to your life and you rebuild and you restructure and you

00:12:24.560 reorganize and you build something better than what it was before. But you can only do that if you have

00:12:29.120 the routines in process in place and you know what those routines are. All right. Number three

00:12:34.080 purpose. If you have no purpose, no goal, no direction, no objectives, like obviously it's going

00:12:42.260 to, it's going to be taxing on you. It's going to be draining emotionally. You don't have any

00:12:48.020 purpose. There's, there's nowhere you're going. So find something, find meaning, find purpose,

00:12:55.560 make yourself the project. This is what we're going to get into. And point number four is like,

00:12:59.740 where are you going? If you don't know where you're going on that map, then it really doesn't

00:13:05.420 matter what you do or how you do it or how fast you do it, or whether or not you do it at all.

00:13:10.080 So even though things might have changed, priorities might've changed, maybe you're furloughed and you're

00:13:15.880 not working right now. And that was your purpose. You were deeply connected to the work you were

00:13:20.260 doing. Okay. Well, that's not there right now. So pivot, change, adjust, adapt, find something

00:13:27.520 different. And that could be anything. It could be picking up a new hobby. It could be finding a new

00:13:32.600 career. It could be connecting with somebody. It could be making your relationship more meaningful.

00:13:36.740 It could be connecting deeply with your kids. I just picked up the guitar. I put it down for a while

00:13:41.480 and I picked it back up and I've been playing because that's engaging to me and there's purpose

00:13:46.000 behind it. And I've saying twinkle, twinkle, little star on my guitar to my daughter the last

00:13:51.100 couple of nights. And there's purpose in that there's meaning there's satisfaction. And by the

00:13:56.040 way, everything can have meaning. It's just whether or not you want to give it meaning and what meaning

00:14:00.740 you're giving it. Is it meaning that is purposeful that is driven by something positive and you

00:14:06.940 improving? Or is it meaning that this is lame? This is a waste of time because that's meaning

00:14:11.640 you're just assigning to something. Every activity is, is basically amoral. It doesn't really have a

00:14:17.440 direction. It's what you decide to give to it. If I engage in an activity that I don't enjoy or don't

00:14:22.820 like, or don't see the value in, then I'm not going to be as effective with that activity. But if on the

00:14:29.140 other hand, I assign it something positive, that this is making me a better human being, that this is

00:14:34.900 making me more effective, that this is going to help me advance in my career, that this is going to

00:14:39.100 help me connect deeper with, with my children and my wife and my friends, then I've made something

00:14:45.060 that could maybe generally looked at as being negative into a positive. I mean, take working out, for

00:14:52.520 example, there are very few people who like working out. And I mean, like, like deeply love just the

00:15:01.660 process of it. Usually what I've seen is that people don't necessarily like the process of it,

00:15:07.680 or they grow to love the process of it because they've attached some significant meaning and

00:15:13.060 purpose to it. Just going through the motions is not enough. You're going to burn out. You're going

00:15:18.560 to wear out. You're going to be tired and bored of the mundane monotonous behavior. But if you assign

00:15:24.820 meaning to it, then it becomes important to you. And you're more likely to stay in that game.

00:15:29.880 All right. Number four. And I alluded to this a second ago, make yourself the project.

00:15:34.520 One of the things that I hear a lot from, from men is they're dealing with, with anxiety,

00:15:42.860 depression, even suicidal thoughts. And they're just feeling down. A lot of times men, especially

00:15:50.280 in times like this feel down because they don't feel as productive as they once were, which ties into

00:15:55.500 what we've been talking about here up to this point. And I've noticed that when men are feeling

00:16:02.140 down, barring mental illness, barring some sort of chemical imbalance or, or health condition that

00:16:09.300 they may be dealing with, that the reason so many men feel down is because they view themselves one way,

00:16:16.820 or they think about life one way, or the way they should be showing up as a man.

00:16:20.840 So they think about it this way on one hand. And on the other hand, they're not doing and engaging

00:16:28.900 in the behaviors and activities that would be in alignment with this sort of man. So for example,

00:16:34.460 if, if you believe that a good and capable man is deeply connected with his wife and he's able to

00:16:43.440 provide adequate, let's say this, he's able to provide adequately for his family. That's what you

00:16:49.960 believe it means to be a man or at least a component of it. And you're laid off right now.

00:16:55.260 Well, there's a disconnect, right? You believe that being a man is about being able to provide

00:17:00.640 for your family and you are not currently providing for your family. So that disconnect

00:17:06.480 represents a gap that a lot of men fall into and they fall into it in the form of, again, anxiety,

00:17:15.040 depression, potentially even suicidal thoughts. So in order to overcome that, you need to start to

00:17:22.820 bridge that gap, right? You need to take action and move closer towards your view of yourself and

00:17:30.420 what it means to be a good man. And when you do that, I mean, you don't have to be close.

00:17:33.880 Even if you're just moving in the right direction, it's very hard to be down and uncomfortable and

00:17:39.660 dissatisfied with, with your life and what you're doing. You feel good because your hand, you're,

00:17:45.160 you're using your hands, you're using your back. Your mind is engaged. You're doing something

00:17:48.500 meaningful. You're moving in the right direction. And frankly, you might even be too distracted or

00:17:53.160 too tired to throw yourself your own little pity party. So if you're feeling down in the dumps,

00:17:59.560 I think that's natural, but what are you going to do about it? The answer is to make yourself the

00:18:04.400 project. How can I improve myself? How can I turn my body into a, into a machine?

00:18:12.580 How can I get a new hobby? That's going to give me a new perspective that I've never considered

00:18:17.220 before. Who am I going to connect with? Why do I want to connect with that person? What challenges

00:18:21.420 do I see that I need to make myself a more capable man in order to address? And this is a great question

00:18:26.880 too. What type of man do you have to become? So if you have this ideal version of who you want to be

00:18:33.540 and how you want to show up as a father, a husband, a leader within your community, a neighbor, a

00:18:38.340 friend, a coach, a colleague, then what type of man do you need to become? And even more specifically,

00:18:43.820 what actions do you need to engage in on a daily basis? Like if you're looking at yourself and

00:18:49.540 saying, okay, a man is a provider, a financial provider for his family, and you're not providing

00:18:55.260 financially, then you need to ask yourself working backwards into this. What steps do I need to take

00:19:01.040 to be able to provide for my family right now? And if you start doing that, I can guarantee,

00:19:07.480 guarantee that you will start feeling better about who you are. You will start feeling better about

00:19:12.940 your prospects. You will produce better results. You'll be more confident, more fulfilled, more

00:19:18.120 satisfied, and you can take joy and knowing that you're doing the work of a man. That's why making

00:19:24.740 yourself the project is so important. And I'm going to break these down even more so and get more

00:19:28.660 specific into, into what that actually means. So let's, let's look at point number one in making

00:19:34.840 yourself the project, which is 0.5 in this list. Okay. Exercise guys, you need to exercise,

00:19:41.220 right? Things have changed. There's a lot of disorder around us. And of course that's going to

00:19:46.800 produce some sort of, uh, trepidation and uncertainty and fear, maybe even in doubt. And you need to

00:19:55.000 exercise, you need to physically work that out of you. Okay. Whether that's strength training,

00:20:00.220 running, just going on walks, doing some pushups in your house. I have some center mass bells from

00:20:06.340 Sorenex. I mentioned them earlier that I just keep in the living room. So if we're sitting around or

00:20:11.440 my wife's reading my children, a book, like I might just be doing curls or push presses or pushups or sit

00:20:17.480 ups. And I'm just creative with those center mass bells. And these are very simple things that you can

00:20:22.140 do, but move your body, lift heavy things, push against the iron, lift it up, put it down, pull,

00:20:28.200 walk, jump, run, whatever you can do to get this machine, this body moving. The mind, body, soul

00:20:36.900 connection is there. Like it's so intertwined. And yet I think a lot of us fail to realize that when we

00:20:43.700 improve our physical wellbeing, we're also improving our mental and emotional wellbeing. Get out, move your

00:20:50.200 body, push against some weight, pull it around, throw it, do whatever. We have a trampoline. I go

00:20:55.220 out there and I'll jump with my kids for 45 minutes to an hour, just jumping, spinning. We've got balls

00:21:00.520 in there. So we're playing dodgeball and we're just having a good time. And that physical motion and

00:21:05.420 activity for me and for you likely is a very positive, uplifting thing physically, mentally,

00:21:11.540 and emotionally. So get exercising every single day without question. Oh, Ryan, what about my rest day?

00:21:17.000 No rest days, no rest days. You don't need a rest day from exercise. Oh, but the body needs time to

00:21:22.760 recover. Yeah. I'm not saying run a marathon every day. And even if you did, uh, the body gets used to

00:21:28.440 what you demand of it. So you don't need a rest day. You need, you need to work out. You need to

00:21:33.140 work out more. You need to train. You need to exercise. That's what we need to do as men. Number six,

00:21:38.860 read good books, plenty. And I would also add, listen to podcasts on that as well. You're listening to one

00:21:44.860 now, but read great books. You know, we've access to the greatest minds, the planet, the world has

00:21:50.420 ever known. And it's literally at your fingertips. I mean, you could jump on, I could give you a book

00:21:55.060 recommendation right now, and you could jump on and you could be reading that book within 60 seconds.

00:21:59.500 How incredible is that? So a couple of books I would recommend, you know, I have a bit of a bias,

00:22:04.900 of course, in this, but I'd recommend sovereignty, the battle for the hearts and minds of men.

00:22:08.760 Cause I go into each one of these points that I'm making with you today in depth. And I give you

00:22:13.680 examples and you're going to walk away with a battle plan, a plan that you can actually use

00:22:19.480 and implement and adapt in your life, whether it's now in these current and trying times, or if it's

00:22:24.920 in six months when we're back to work and things get back to some semblance of normalcy. All right.

00:22:30.660 So read good books, a wild at heart, uh, as a man thinketh extreme ownership. Uh, if you're looking

00:22:37.640 for fiction, I recommend Jack Carr's work. Savage son just came out, uh, atomic habits by James clear

00:22:45.460 is good. Everything is F by Mark Manson is very good. That one's about hope and a new take and spin

00:22:50.880 on hope. I just had him on the podcast or I just recorded a podcast with him. That episode will be

00:22:55.440 out soon. Um, I mean, you know what they are guys, you know what they are. There's, there's a bunch behind

00:22:59.980 me. I've got a bunch over there. I've got books everywhere because it's important that I read

00:23:04.000 and access this information. So read good books. I just gave you five or six that you can start

00:23:08.300 with. All right. Number seven, pick up a new hobby. It's going to give you a new perspective.

00:23:14.600 It's going to give you a new interest. It's going to let you look at things a little bit differently.

00:23:18.020 Um, like I said, I have the guitar. I don't, oh, you can see it right there. I've got my guitar right

00:23:21.860 there. And, uh, yeah, it's nice to just strum and I'm, I'm learning some chords. I look, I know about

00:23:27.860 five chords right now. Uh, so I'm just practicing on those chords and I'm just having fun with that.

00:23:32.820 And there's no real expectation. And I just come up here and I strung for 30, 45 minutes or so,

00:23:37.300 uh, in the evening after the kids are in bed or, you know, in a break between podcasts during my day,

00:23:42.460 um, even if it's just five or 10 minutes and it's just something different, you know, you mix it up,

00:23:47.420 you change things up and you put new variables into the equation. And naturally, inevitably you're

00:23:52.440 going to produce different results. So, uh, pick up a hobby, archery, uh, guitar, painting,

00:23:58.980 drawing. Uh, maybe there's a podcast that you want to start. Maybe it's graphic design or

00:24:04.640 photography. Uh, there's all sorts of things. You know, my wife's growing a garden. She's also

00:24:09.040 into beekeeping. She's also into canning. I mean, there's, there's in preserving food. There's so

00:24:13.600 much you can do. Uh, I talked to a guy who's getting into, to reloading his own ammunition,

00:24:18.360 right? Or firearms training. There's so much you can do. If something sounds even remotely

00:24:22.980 interested, give it a try, give it a shot. You might be surprised at how much you enjoy it and

00:24:28.500 what you learn from it, but don't, don't hesitate and try new things. Cause I don't have any time or

00:24:33.100 I don't know how to get started. God, just jump online, figure it out, get started, get going.

00:24:38.080 Obviously the idea here, if there's an underlying thread between all of this, it's like, get out of

00:24:43.040 your head and get into action, get into work. Okay. Uh, number eight, serve or give back,

00:24:49.560 right? Some of us are very fortunate. We we've created a lifestyle for ourselves that affords

00:24:56.260 us some luxury, uh, that affords us the ability to, uh, not only provide for ourselves and our

00:25:02.080 families, but also look outwards and turn outwards. Maybe we have time and maybe we have financial

00:25:07.100 resources or other provisions that we could share and we can serve other people. We can give back,

00:25:12.700 uh, and we can step up in our communities and we can help companies that we believe in,

00:25:17.080 and we can organize and take those raw resources that we have and deploy them to charitable

00:25:22.560 organizations and our first responders and military members and, uh, the healthcare community.

00:25:29.400 And there are opportunities. If you just look around for you to serve, for you to give back.

00:25:33.760 And if it's just a financial contribution, great, you're going to feel good about that.

00:25:38.800 You know, you're going to feel like you're actually adding value and you're going to take

00:25:41.960 pride in that. You're going to feel good about who you are. And you're even going to feel

00:25:45.240 better when you see the results that come from that donation, whether it's to your church,

00:25:49.800 whether it's to, uh, LEOs in, in your community, whatever, whatever your thing is, whatever you

00:25:55.840 have an affinity for, whatever you're connected with, whatever you believe in, reach out to these

00:26:00.420 organizations. What can I do? Can I give blood? Can I come serve? Can I volunteer? Uh, can I provide

00:26:05.760 financial resources? What is it that I can do? And then go out and do it. Uh, there's a couple of

00:26:10.140 companies here, uh, locally that we've gone in and we've paid for the staff's food as a family.

00:26:17.700 That's we, we went to subway, we got a bunch of platters and we paid for their food. And we brought

00:26:21.860 that food over to them because I believe in them. I believe in what they're doing. And we have the

00:26:25.440 financial means to be able to do that. And I felt good about that. And not only did I serve the

00:26:29.980 company, but I also serve the local subway. Who's taking a big hit, uh, because people aren't coming

00:26:34.920 in and ordering food. So I was able to do that. Right. So there's opportunities here. If you look

00:26:39.640 for those opportunities and you take advantage of those opportunities. And by the way, when you do

00:26:43.640 this, you're going to feel less sorry for yourself. It's hard to feel sorry for yourself when you're

00:26:47.800 serving other people who might be even less fortunate than you are. Cause you're going to,

00:26:53.960 that's going to put it in perspective. You're going to see that maybe I don't have it as bad as

00:26:56.940 I'm making out. So give back, serve, uh, number nine, what a powerful opportunity to start a business

00:27:03.220 or even pivot within your current organization. I mean, maybe you were selling goods and services and

00:27:08.620 there was physical products and you had a brick and mortar store. And now you've got to pivot

00:27:12.080 and make things digital and create products and courses and ideas and brotherhoods and, you know,

00:27:18.760 hats, shirts, whatever, whatever your thing is. Um, or, or you're doing some art, right? You're doing

00:27:23.900 some art and maybe you can sell that artwork, even if they're five bucks. Right. So now, so now you're,

00:27:29.840 you're starting a business. You're turning that hobby into a money generating activity. And surprisingly

00:27:33.920 enough, you know, you might get to a position through this, you know, side business or through

00:27:39.540 pivoting that you may never go back. Think about this. You may never go back to your previous

00:27:44.020 engagement, your pre previous employment, because you've created something that is deeply meaningful,

00:27:48.880 which was number three purpose has a lot of purpose and meaning and significance to it.

00:27:54.120 And you would have never known about this. Had we not faced these challenging and, uh, times full of

00:28:00.440 variables and unknowns and uncertainties. Like what a great time to start a business,

00:28:05.960 probably a digital business. But if you have a service or a product or information that you can

00:28:11.720 package and make available to other people, they will pay you for that. They will pay you for that.

00:28:16.120 I never, when I started order a man podcast, I never thought in a million years that it would turn

00:28:20.780 into financially what it has. The movement is, is one thing, but even financially and what it's

00:28:26.320 afforded me and my family and the people that I love and care about and the things that I've

00:28:30.040 wanted to do, have the experiences and give back and serve and everything through what was just a

00:28:35.940 hobby five years ago, never would have imagined what it turned into today. You can do the same

00:28:40.800 thing. You can create a side business. We're going to get into some specifics on that in the next

00:28:44.640 couple of weeks. Cause I've got some ideas on that that I want to make available to you, but

00:28:48.320 what a great time to look for opportunities to make money, to add value, to exchange value. You know,

00:28:56.580 you give somebody a product or a service and they exchange that for money. It's a beautiful thing.

00:29:01.020 So take advantage of it. And then the last thing guys, I would say is don't be the lone wolf. All

00:29:06.400 right. Number 10, build a tribe, build a tribe, like lead a tribe. And I'm specifically referring

00:29:12.420 to a tribe of a man. So that may not be physically that you're getting together, but maybe there's some

00:29:18.320 challenges that you can do. Maybe you can jump on a, on a zoom call, which is where we do most of our,

00:29:22.740 our engagement in our brotherhood, the iron council. You can do a zoom call. You can put

00:29:27.800 together a challenge. You can, there's all sorts of things, but if you can build a tribe, build a

00:29:32.680 band of brothers, hold each other accountable, ask them to hold you accountable, challenge, push,

00:29:37.260 motivate, inspire, lead, direct other men, you're going to feel good about who you are. It's times like

00:29:43.240 these where too many men retreat and they withdraw. This is not the time to withdraw. This is not the time

00:29:50.100 to sit around in your, your underwear and watch a bunch of shows on, on Netflix and eat ice cream

00:29:57.380 and popcorn and whatever else you eat while you're sitting there, stuff in your face, doing nothing

00:30:01.900 with your life by yourself. It's not a time to withdraw to drugs or alcohol or pornography or

00:30:10.200 whatever else is your sedation method of choice. Now's the time to go out, to serve, to lead, to inspire,

00:30:15.980 to band with other people who are going to help you, who you can help. You can do these things.

00:30:20.460 We've got other podcasts where we talked about, uh, banding with other men and leading those tribes.

00:30:25.120 We've got guys in our exclusive brotherhood, the iron council, one Alan Pacer, for example,

00:30:29.680 who, uh, he has taken this opportunity to give additional value. Bart false is another one.

00:30:35.600 He's, he's an entrepreneur. He speaks in public and he says, Hey, in the iron council, I just want to

00:30:39.620 make some of my services available to you guys. Like I'm not charging you. I just want to make

00:30:43.960 this available. And he's coached, I think 15 to 20 guys individually about entrepreneurship and

00:30:49.380 speaking and sharing their message. This is leadership at its finest. They're looking for

00:30:53.640 opportunities to lead, to grow, to inspire, to serve other people, to band men together and to add

00:30:59.640 value in their lives. And it's no wonder that guys like Alan and Bart feel good about who they

00:31:04.200 are and how they're showing up. They're doing good work and they're leading men and they're helping

00:31:08.400 and they're serving and they're giving back. And they're hitting all of the things that I talked

00:31:11.100 about with you today. So yeah, that's it. That's what I've got for you today, guys. I mean,

00:31:17.440 these are the tips, the strategies, the protocols, 10 of them. I'll recap them. Then we'll call it a

00:31:21.660 day, but take one, two, five, 10 of these and start implementing them in your life. Write them down

00:31:27.580 and then ask yourself this morning or tonight, what can I do in each one of these things to ensure

00:31:32.760 that I'm hitting on each one of these points and then evaluate, is this improving my life? I know it

00:31:37.320 will, but I would like you to evaluate and really see and quantify how this has helped you in your

00:31:42.540 life. Number one, be intentional. Number two, create a routine, create the systems. Number three,

00:31:49.140 find purpose, meaning, and significance in the work you're doing. Number four, make yourself the

00:31:54.220 project. Don't focus so much on everybody else. Make yourself the project. And the way we do that

00:31:58.680 is by number five, exercise. Number six, read great books. I would throw in a little pitch of mine

00:32:04.460 for sovereignty, the battle for the hearts and minds of men. You can pick that up on Amazon.

00:32:08.740 Number seven, pick up a new hobby. You know, maybe it's the guitar. Maybe it's hunting. Maybe

00:32:14.480 it's reloading. Maybe it's hatchet throwing. Maybe it's running a marathon. I don't know, whatever.

00:32:21.280 Number eight, give back, serve other people and organizations you believe in. Number nine,

00:32:26.660 start a business or a movement. And number 10, build a tribe. And by the way, if you want to build a

00:32:32.220 tribe, do that. I'm suggesting you do that. If you want to tap into a tribe, consider looking into

00:32:35.960 the iron council. This is our digital band of brothers. I believe we've got 530 ish somewhere

00:32:41.820 right in there. Changes every day. It continues to grow, but 530 men all working together to hit on

00:32:48.520 these points and build the kind of life that we can all be proud of. You can check that out at

00:32:52.840 order of man.com slash iron council. All right, guys, we're going to call it a day Friday. I hope you

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Order of Man - April 24, 2020

Tips, Strategies, and Protocols for Surviving These Trying Times ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

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