Order of Man - April 24, 2020


Tips, Strategies, and Protocols for Surviving These Trying Times ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES


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34 minutes

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Summary

In this episode, Ryan Michler shares 10 tips and protocols that he has implemented in his life to help him and others survive trying times in life. These tips are based on his own experience and experience in life, and what he has seen others implement in their lives.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest, embrace your fears, and boldly chart
00:00:04.980 your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time, every time.
00:00:10.420 You are not easily deterred or defeated, rugged, resilient, strong. This is your life. This is who
00:00:17.220 you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,
00:00:22.780 you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Michler,
00:00:28.040 and I am the host and the founder of the order of man podcast and a movement that continues to grow
00:00:32.980 and is literally spanning the entire planet. Uh, glad that you're tuning in, whether you've been
00:00:37.960 with us for years now, or this is the very first time you're listening to this podcast. Uh, it is
00:00:43.240 evident that we need more men to step up into what it means to be a man. And that's what we're doing
00:00:49.880 here, equipping you with all the tools and conversations and resources and everything
00:00:54.420 that you might need to become a better, more capable father, husband, business owner, community
00:01:01.440 leader, whatever facet of life that you're showing up. Uh, I've got one that I think is obviously very
00:01:07.100 relevant and timely for you today. And that is tips, strategies, and protocols to surviving these
00:01:14.280 trying times. Now, maybe they're not trying to you. Uh, and if that's the case, I'm glad we don't
00:01:18.840 want to be a trying time. Uh, but if you are dealing with some difficulty, whether it's financially
00:01:24.380 or emotionally, mentally, physically, uh, then I hope that the 10 tips that I'm going to share with
00:01:29.460 you today will help, uh, foster some growth and development and looking at these times a little
00:01:35.620 bit differently than maybe some of you have in the past. And I think this is a great and powerful
00:01:40.440 opportunity to focus on improvement and developing ourselves. And even if we're facing and experiencing
00:01:47.520 hardship to use, uh, the hardship as fuel and feedback for how we can improve in our lives and
00:01:54.140 ultimately serve those that we want to serve, and we have an obligation to serve.
00:01:58.300 Now, before I get into these tips, I just want to make a very quick mention of my friends over at
00:02:03.680 Sorenex. I know I talk about origin a lot and we'll continue to talk about them as well.
00:02:08.460 Uh, but I did want to introduce you to, uh, Sorenex. If you're not familiar with what these guys do,
00:02:13.000 it's world-class top-notch exercise equipment. They work with some of the best professional
00:02:19.340 sporting teams on the planet, uh, with colleges as well and universities. Uh, but one thing that
00:02:26.560 they just came out with is their off-grid rack. This is a very simple, effective, and affordable
00:02:33.120 solution to getting yourself a Sorenex rack, uh, takes up minimum space, easy to set up and it won't
00:02:39.620 break the bank. So if you're interested in the off-grid rack, go check it out at Sorenex, S-O-R-I-N-E-X.
00:02:45.840 That's S-O-R-I-N-E-X.com. Uh, I've been using mine for some squats, which I'm noticing that, uh,
00:02:53.760 I need to do more squats because I've lost, uh, lost a little bit of ground on my, on my squat
00:02:58.840 game. So I'll be using that rack for that, uh, push presses, curls, and pull-ups, and just about
00:03:04.860 any other way you want to get creative with that piece of equipment. Again, Sorenex.com.
00:03:10.080 All right, guys, with that said, um, let's get into these protocols, these tips, these strategies
00:03:14.360 that I wanted to share with you. Uh, this is a culmination of thoughts that I've had from
00:03:18.700 over the past five years and things that I've implemented in my life and tips and strategies
00:03:23.360 that I've seen other men implement, uh, that have been successful. Uh, obviously we live in a time
00:03:28.040 where there's a lot of doubt and confusion and uncertainty. And anytime there's that sort of,
00:03:35.280 of uncertainty and variables in the equation, obviously we're going to have challenges with
00:03:42.260 being at ease and being comfortable and having the routines and the systems and strategies that
00:03:46.740 we use on a daily basis to produce the desired results that we're after. Uh, so I look at it as
00:03:53.920 our job as men to bring order and structure. Jordan Peterson talks about it in the context of bringing
00:04:01.020 order to chaos. Well, that's exactly what we do. And that's what we have been doing as men for
00:04:06.720 tens, if not hundreds of thousands of years, taking raw resources, chaos, right? And then organizing it,
00:04:15.200 organizing those resources in a way that serves ourselves and serves other people. If you think
00:04:20.400 about this at the most fundamental and foundational level of our ancestors, uh, they would take
00:04:27.000 fuel and heat and oxygen and make fire and that fire could cook meat. It could help, uh, with the
00:04:35.220 construction of tools. Again, we're taking raw natural ingredients, organizing them into a way that's
00:04:42.860 actually going to serve and be useful to us. I also think about this in the context of hunting.
00:04:47.100 You know, you've got a deer out in the field and a man can go out and he can shoot that deer. He can
00:04:53.700 break that deer down. He can use the, the hide for warmth. Uh, he can take the meat from the bones of
00:05:01.560 that deer and then provide food for his family. This is exactly what we've been doing again for
00:05:06.620 hundreds of thousands of years is bringing order to chaos, uh, finding structure, finding routine,
00:05:14.440 and then taking the raw ingredients of life and then whittling them, refining them, crafting them,
00:05:20.640 honing them into a way that's going to be useful for other people. So it's very important that we
00:05:26.540 wrap our heads around the idea of what it is that we're supposed to be doing. You're supposed to be
00:05:30.460 taking time. You're supposed to be taking talent and skillsets and books like the books I have on my
00:05:36.420 bookshelf. And even this podcast, raw information, put it through your processes and systems,
00:05:41.980 and then it's going to help you produce a more effective outcome. That is what your responsibility
00:05:46.800 is as a foundational element of what it means to be a man. So I wanted to give you that context
00:05:52.460 in that framework, because I want to talk about the rest of the tips with that in mind, because I
00:05:58.120 think if we understand that, then we'll have a better time knowing what it is we should be doing
00:06:02.400 and we can feel fulfilled and satisfied in the work that we're doing as well. So let's break this
00:06:07.900 down. Uh, the, the first thing that I identified is that we just need to be intentional. All right.
00:06:13.440 If you're, if you're going about your day and you don't really have a plan or any sort of strategy
00:06:18.580 and you're getting up when you feel like it, because nobody's telling you, you got to go,
00:06:22.860 go to work and your responsibilities maybe are fewer than they've been in the past.
00:06:26.980 And then you watch a bunch of TV and you kind of dink around and you don't know what you're going to
00:06:31.340 do for your workout because there's nobody programming that for you, or you're not going into the gym
00:06:36.280 and you're not going into the office. So you don't have your tasks stacked up and exactly what
00:06:40.220 you need to be doing. Uh, it's natural that you're going to not only experience inferior results,
00:06:45.880 uh, but that you're going to be less satisfied and you're going to probably to some degree,
00:06:52.080 develop some confidence issues because you're not doing what you know you should be doing.
00:06:56.220 So my suggestion in this department of being intentional is to wake up at a scheduled time
00:07:03.480 every single day, no snooze, nothing like that. Set your alarm, get up at the right time,
00:07:07.840 whatever that time is for you. And then plan out your day, plan out your day, take 10, 15,
00:07:13.820 20 minutes. It doesn't need to take any longer than that to plan out exactly what you're going to be
00:07:18.320 doing, why you're going to be doing it. What would define you having a successful day? What types of
00:07:25.300 activities and conversations and actions and tasks do you want to do? And do you need to get done?
00:07:31.640 You need to have that intentionality behind the way that you approach your day.
00:07:36.340 Cause if you're just going at it willy nilly and like, I'll just kind of do whatever I feel like
00:07:40.740 doing when I feel like doing it. Obviously we know that that's not going to produce the results
00:07:44.800 that we're after. And not only is it not going to produce the results, you're going to feel like
00:07:48.700 crap. You know, you're going to feel down. You're going to feel depressed. You're going to feel
00:07:52.620 anxious. You're going to get inside your head. Uh, a lot of the times, uh, which is not a great
00:07:57.600 place to be, especially in times of doubt and uncertainty. So get it out of your head,
00:08:02.020 get it onto paper and write out exactly what you're going to be doing. Use Google calendar,
00:08:07.520 use whatever systems and processes you can, whether you hear them here on our podcast,
00:08:11.660 the battle plan is a great way to do that. Or other programs like Andy for so is powerless or
00:08:16.060 whatever. I don't care whatever system you're using, but be intentional, be intentional about the
00:08:21.720 way you're going to go about your day. All right. Number two, have a routine. Now we've talked about
00:08:26.160 intentionality. We've talked about what you want to do, what you want to accomplish,
00:08:30.100 why it's important, all that stuff. Now have that routine in place. Every day you wake up at this
00:08:35.380 time. When you wake up, you have a family breakfast or you have a family meeting or you work out or you
00:08:41.640 drink a bunch of water. When you get into the office, whether that's your, your couch or a spare
00:08:46.560 bedroom in your house, or you actually are still going into the office or wherever your work is
00:08:50.300 performed. Uh, the first thing you do is, okay, we plan it out. And then I do this. And here's
00:08:55.860 when I take lunch and here's when I work out and here's how I spend time with my kids. And here's
00:08:59.920 where I spend time with my wife. The beauty of having a routine is you can look for effectiveness
00:09:05.560 and you can look for efficiency. If you produce some level of results in your life, let's, let's
00:09:12.620 say you're trying to get stronger, for example, and you go into the gym and you just do what you think
00:09:18.720 might work. You actually might produce some results. And there's a problem with that in that
00:09:24.780 you begin to deceive yourself into thinking that, well, because it's producing results,
00:09:29.860 I guess it's working and you can't pinpoint and articulate why exactly it is working.
00:09:35.940 The power of a routine is that you can go then after and you can evaluate, is this working? Where's
00:09:42.540 there's inefficiencies? Where am I taking too long? Where is it really working? Well, what can I tweak or
00:09:47.320 adjust to make it even that much more effective and efficient? This is the power of routines.
00:09:52.600 You get into these routines. There's not a lot of variable. There's not a lot of doubt or
00:09:56.640 uncertainty. There's not a lot of guesswork about what you need to be doing, why you need to be
00:10:00.940 doing it, the clothes you need to be wearing, the exercises that you're going to do. And so it makes
00:10:04.560 that time crunch that much faster because if you don't have the routine, again, you might produce
00:10:09.860 the results, but it'll take significantly longer to produce those results because there's a lot
00:10:14.420 of ineffectiveness going on in the way that you're producing and the way you're showing up.
00:10:18.700 So have that routine and experiment, you know, with, with as much doubt and uncertainty is going,
00:10:24.740 that's going on right now. Now is the perfect time to experiment. And I look at my life as a process
00:10:30.760 of many experiments. I'm going to try new things. I'm going to implement new systems. If I hear something
00:10:36.520 on a podcast or read something in a book, I'm going to implement it in, into my routine and my life.
00:10:41.900 And if it works, I'll make it stick or I'll pull something else out, or I may tweak it to
00:10:46.100 adjust to my lifestyle and what I'm trying to create. And if it doesn't work, I take it out
00:10:51.100 and I put something else in. It actually makes it fun and interesting and almost gamifies the process
00:10:57.020 of success, whether that's on the physical front, within your relationship, financially, career-wise,
00:11:03.540 making this a process of experimentation is a good thing. And by the way, if you mess up,
00:11:08.300 because in experiments, you might actually mess up. There's not so much, there's not too much that is
00:11:15.460 beyond fixing. You can go in and fix it. One of the things I tell my kids all the time is because
00:11:22.020 we like Legos here. We play a lot of Legos and we'll build something. The other day, in fact,
00:11:27.840 uh, my, my youngest son, he's four, he built this like jungle scene and he was walking down the hall
00:11:36.040 and he tripped on a bed frame that we had just pulled out. Cause I built a new bed frame. So he
00:11:40.920 tripped on it and did a face plant on the hardwood floor. He wasn't hurt, but he was really, really
00:11:47.960 upset because the Legos shattered. He spent a lot of time building this, the Legos shattered.
00:11:53.460 And I picked him up, tried to console him a little bit to stop crying. And he was so mad
00:12:00.120 about his Lego. I said, it's okay, bud, we can rebuild it. We can fix it. In fact, we can make
00:12:04.820 it better. And it took a little bit, but we got him going and we were able to fix the Legos and make
00:12:09.040 it better and add some new things. This is life, right? If things get messed up, which is bound
00:12:13.520 to happen, things break, you break it. Okay. Well, you messed it up. You screwed it up. So what do we
00:12:20.360 need to do to fix it? And then you go back to your life and you rebuild and you restructure and you
00:12:24.560 reorganize and you build something better than what it was before. But you can only do that if you have
00:12:29.120 the routines in process in place and you know what those routines are. All right. Number three
00:12:34.080 purpose. If you have no purpose, no goal, no direction, no objectives, like obviously it's going
00:12:42.260 to, it's going to be taxing on you. It's going to be draining emotionally. You don't have any
00:12:48.020 purpose. There's, there's nowhere you're going. So find something, find meaning, find purpose,
00:12:55.560 make yourself the project. This is what we're going to get into. And point number four is like,
00:12:59.740 where are you going? If you don't know where you're going on that map, then it really doesn't
00:13:05.420 matter what you do or how you do it or how fast you do it, or whether or not you do it at all.
00:13:10.080 So even though things might have changed, priorities might've changed, maybe you're furloughed and you're
00:13:15.880 not working right now. And that was your purpose. You were deeply connected to the work you were
00:13:20.260 doing. Okay. Well, that's not there right now. So pivot, change, adjust, adapt, find something
00:13:27.520 different. And that could be anything. It could be picking up a new hobby. It could be finding a new
00:13:32.600 career. It could be connecting with somebody. It could be making your relationship more meaningful.
00:13:36.740 It could be connecting deeply with your kids. I just picked up the guitar. I put it down for a while
00:13:41.480 and I picked it back up and I've been playing because that's engaging to me and there's purpose
00:13:46.000 behind it. And I've saying twinkle, twinkle, little star on my guitar to my daughter the last
00:13:51.100 couple of nights. And there's purpose in that there's meaning there's satisfaction. And by the
00:13:56.040 way, everything can have meaning. It's just whether or not you want to give it meaning and what meaning
00:14:00.740 you're giving it. Is it meaning that is purposeful that is driven by something positive and you
00:14:06.940 improving? Or is it meaning that this is lame? This is a waste of time because that's meaning
00:14:11.640 you're just assigning to something. Every activity is, is basically amoral. It doesn't really have a
00:14:17.440 direction. It's what you decide to give to it. If I engage in an activity that I don't enjoy or don't
00:14:22.820 like, or don't see the value in, then I'm not going to be as effective with that activity. But if on the
00:14:29.140 other hand, I assign it something positive, that this is making me a better human being, that this is
00:14:34.900 making me more effective, that this is going to help me advance in my career, that this is going to
00:14:39.100 help me connect deeper with, with my children and my wife and my friends, then I've made something
00:14:45.060 that could maybe generally looked at as being negative into a positive. I mean, take working out, for
00:14:52.520 example, there are very few people who like working out. And I mean, like, like deeply love just the
00:15:01.660 process of it. Usually what I've seen is that people don't necessarily like the process of it,
00:15:07.680 or they grow to love the process of it because they've attached some significant meaning and
00:15:13.060 purpose to it. Just going through the motions is not enough. You're going to burn out. You're going
00:15:18.560 to wear out. You're going to be tired and bored of the mundane monotonous behavior. But if you assign
00:15:24.820 meaning to it, then it becomes important to you. And you're more likely to stay in that game.
00:15:29.880 All right. Number four. And I alluded to this a second ago, make yourself the project.
00:15:34.520 One of the things that I hear a lot from, from men is they're dealing with, with anxiety,
00:15:42.860 depression, even suicidal thoughts. And they're just feeling down. A lot of times men, especially
00:15:50.280 in times like this feel down because they don't feel as productive as they once were, which ties into
00:15:55.500 what we've been talking about here up to this point. And I've noticed that when men are feeling
00:16:02.140 down, barring mental illness, barring some sort of chemical imbalance or, or health condition that
00:16:09.300 they may be dealing with, that the reason so many men feel down is because they view themselves one way,
00:16:16.820 or they think about life one way, or the way they should be showing up as a man.
00:16:20.840 So they think about it this way on one hand. And on the other hand, they're not doing and engaging
00:16:28.900 in the behaviors and activities that would be in alignment with this sort of man. So for example,
00:16:34.460 if, if you believe that a good and capable man is deeply connected with his wife and he's able to
00:16:43.440 provide adequate, let's say this, he's able to provide adequately for his family. That's what you
00:16:49.960 believe it means to be a man or at least a component of it. And you're laid off right now.
00:16:55.260 Well, there's a disconnect, right? You believe that being a man is about being able to provide
00:17:00.640 for your family and you are not currently providing for your family. So that disconnect
00:17:06.480 represents a gap that a lot of men fall into and they fall into it in the form of, again, anxiety,
00:17:15.040 depression, potentially even suicidal thoughts. So in order to overcome that, you need to start to
00:17:22.820 bridge that gap, right? You need to take action and move closer towards your view of yourself and
00:17:30.420 what it means to be a good man. And when you do that, I mean, you don't have to be close.
00:17:33.880 Even if you're just moving in the right direction, it's very hard to be down and uncomfortable and
00:17:39.660 dissatisfied with, with your life and what you're doing. You feel good because your hand, you're,
00:17:45.160 you're using your hands, you're using your back. Your mind is engaged. You're doing something
00:17:48.500 meaningful. You're moving in the right direction. And frankly, you might even be too distracted or
00:17:53.160 too tired to throw yourself your own little pity party. So if you're feeling down in the dumps,
00:17:59.560 I think that's natural, but what are you going to do about it? The answer is to make yourself the
00:18:04.400 project. How can I improve myself? How can I turn my body into a, into a machine?
00:18:12.580 How can I get a new hobby? That's going to give me a new perspective that I've never considered
00:18:17.220 before. Who am I going to connect with? Why do I want to connect with that person? What challenges
00:18:21.420 do I see that I need to make myself a more capable man in order to address? And this is a great question
00:18:26.880 too. What type of man do you have to become? So if you have this ideal version of who you want to be
00:18:33.540 and how you want to show up as a father, a husband, a leader within your community, a neighbor, a
00:18:38.340 friend, a coach, a colleague, then what type of man do you need to become? And even more specifically,
00:18:43.820 what actions do you need to engage in on a daily basis? Like if you're looking at yourself and
00:18:49.540 saying, okay, a man is a provider, a financial provider for his family, and you're not providing
00:18:55.260 financially, then you need to ask yourself working backwards into this. What steps do I need to take
00:19:01.040 to be able to provide for my family right now? And if you start doing that, I can guarantee,
00:19:07.480 guarantee that you will start feeling better about who you are. You will start feeling better about
00:19:12.940 your prospects. You will produce better results. You'll be more confident, more fulfilled, more
00:19:18.120 satisfied, and you can take joy and knowing that you're doing the work of a man. That's why making
00:19:24.740 yourself the project is so important. And I'm going to break these down even more so and get more
00:19:28.660 specific into, into what that actually means. So let's, let's look at point number one in making
00:19:34.840 yourself the project, which is 0.5 in this list. Okay. Exercise guys, you need to exercise,
00:19:41.220 right? Things have changed. There's a lot of disorder around us. And of course that's going to
00:19:46.800 produce some sort of, uh, trepidation and uncertainty and fear, maybe even in doubt. And you need to
00:19:55.000 exercise, you need to physically work that out of you. Okay. Whether that's strength training,
00:20:00.220 running, just going on walks, doing some pushups in your house. I have some center mass bells from
00:20:06.340 Sorenex. I mentioned them earlier that I just keep in the living room. So if we're sitting around or
00:20:11.440 my wife's reading my children, a book, like I might just be doing curls or push presses or pushups or sit
00:20:17.480 ups. And I'm just creative with those center mass bells. And these are very simple things that you can
00:20:22.140 do, but move your body, lift heavy things, push against the iron, lift it up, put it down, pull,
00:20:28.200 walk, jump, run, whatever you can do to get this machine, this body moving. The mind, body, soul
00:20:36.900 connection is there. Like it's so intertwined. And yet I think a lot of us fail to realize that when we
00:20:43.700 improve our physical wellbeing, we're also improving our mental and emotional wellbeing. Get out, move your
00:20:50.200 body, push against some weight, pull it around, throw it, do whatever. We have a trampoline. I go
00:20:55.220 out there and I'll jump with my kids for 45 minutes to an hour, just jumping, spinning. We've got balls
00:21:00.520 in there. So we're playing dodgeball and we're just having a good time. And that physical motion and
00:21:05.420 activity for me and for you likely is a very positive, uplifting thing physically, mentally,
00:21:11.540 and emotionally. So get exercising every single day without question. Oh, Ryan, what about my rest day?
00:21:17.000 No rest days, no rest days. You don't need a rest day from exercise. Oh, but the body needs time to
00:21:22.760 recover. Yeah. I'm not saying run a marathon every day. And even if you did, uh, the body gets used to
00:21:28.440 what you demand of it. So you don't need a rest day. You need, you need to work out. You need to
00:21:33.140 work out more. You need to train. You need to exercise. That's what we need to do as men. Number six,
00:21:38.860 read good books, plenty. And I would also add, listen to podcasts on that as well. You're listening to one
00:21:44.860 now, but read great books. You know, we've access to the greatest minds, the planet, the world has
00:21:50.420 ever known. And it's literally at your fingertips. I mean, you could jump on, I could give you a book
00:21:55.060 recommendation right now, and you could jump on and you could be reading that book within 60 seconds.
00:21:59.500 How incredible is that? So a couple of books I would recommend, you know, I have a bit of a bias,
00:22:04.900 of course, in this, but I'd recommend sovereignty, the battle for the hearts and minds of men.
00:22:08.760 Cause I go into each one of these points that I'm making with you today in depth. And I give you
00:22:13.680 examples and you're going to walk away with a battle plan, a plan that you can actually use
00:22:19.480 and implement and adapt in your life, whether it's now in these current and trying times, or if it's
00:22:24.920 in six months when we're back to work and things get back to some semblance of normalcy. All right.
00:22:30.660 So read good books, a wild at heart, uh, as a man thinketh extreme ownership. Uh, if you're looking
00:22:37.640 for fiction, I recommend Jack Carr's work. Savage son just came out, uh, atomic habits by James clear
00:22:45.460 is good. Everything is F by Mark Manson is very good. That one's about hope and a new take and spin
00:22:50.880 on hope. I just had him on the podcast or I just recorded a podcast with him. That episode will be
00:22:55.440 out soon. Um, I mean, you know what they are guys, you know what they are. There's, there's a bunch behind
00:22:59.980 me. I've got a bunch over there. I've got books everywhere because it's important that I read
00:23:04.000 and access this information. So read good books. I just gave you five or six that you can start
00:23:08.300 with. All right. Number seven, pick up a new hobby. It's going to give you a new perspective.
00:23:14.600 It's going to give you a new interest. It's going to let you look at things a little bit differently.
00:23:18.020 Um, like I said, I have the guitar. I don't, oh, you can see it right there. I've got my guitar right
00:23:21.860 there. And, uh, yeah, it's nice to just strum and I'm, I'm learning some chords. I look, I know about
00:23:27.860 five chords right now. Uh, so I'm just practicing on those chords and I'm just having fun with that.
00:23:32.820 And there's no real expectation. And I just come up here and I strung for 30, 45 minutes or so,
00:23:37.300 uh, in the evening after the kids are in bed or, you know, in a break between podcasts during my day,
00:23:42.460 um, even if it's just five or 10 minutes and it's just something different, you know, you mix it up,
00:23:47.420 you change things up and you put new variables into the equation. And naturally, inevitably you're
00:23:52.440 going to produce different results. So, uh, pick up a hobby, archery, uh, guitar, painting,
00:23:58.980 drawing. Uh, maybe there's a podcast that you want to start. Maybe it's graphic design or
00:24:04.640 photography. Uh, there's all sorts of things. You know, my wife's growing a garden. She's also
00:24:09.040 into beekeeping. She's also into canning. I mean, there's, there's in preserving food. There's so
00:24:13.600 much you can do. Uh, I talked to a guy who's getting into, to reloading his own ammunition,
00:24:18.360 right? Or firearms training. There's so much you can do. If something sounds even remotely
00:24:22.980 interested, give it a try, give it a shot. You might be surprised at how much you enjoy it and
00:24:28.500 what you learn from it, but don't, don't hesitate and try new things. Cause I don't have any time or
00:24:33.100 I don't know how to get started. God, just jump online, figure it out, get started, get going.
00:24:38.080 Obviously the idea here, if there's an underlying thread between all of this, it's like, get out of
00:24:43.040 your head and get into action, get into work. Okay. Uh, number eight, serve or give back,
00:24:49.560 right? Some of us are very fortunate. We we've created a lifestyle for ourselves that affords
00:24:56.260 us some luxury, uh, that affords us the ability to, uh, not only provide for ourselves and our
00:25:02.080 families, but also look outwards and turn outwards. Maybe we have time and maybe we have financial
00:25:07.100 resources or other provisions that we could share and we can serve other people. We can give back,
00:25:12.700 uh, and we can step up in our communities and we can help companies that we believe in,
00:25:17.080 and we can organize and take those raw resources that we have and deploy them to charitable
00:25:22.560 organizations and our first responders and military members and, uh, the healthcare community.
00:25:29.400 And there are opportunities. If you just look around for you to serve, for you to give back.
00:25:33.760 And if it's just a financial contribution, great, you're going to feel good about that.
00:25:38.800 You know, you're going to feel like you're actually adding value and you're going to take
00:25:41.960 pride in that. You're going to feel good about who you are. And you're even going to feel
00:25:45.240 better when you see the results that come from that donation, whether it's to your church,
00:25:49.800 whether it's to, uh, LEOs in, in your community, whatever, whatever your thing is, whatever you
00:25:55.840 have an affinity for, whatever you're connected with, whatever you believe in, reach out to these
00:26:00.420 organizations. What can I do? Can I give blood? Can I come serve? Can I volunteer? Uh, can I provide
00:26:05.760 financial resources? What is it that I can do? And then go out and do it. Uh, there's a couple of
00:26:10.140 companies here, uh, locally that we've gone in and we've paid for the staff's food as a family.
00:26:17.700 That's we, we went to subway, we got a bunch of platters and we paid for their food. And we brought
00:26:21.860 that food over to them because I believe in them. I believe in what they're doing. And we have the
00:26:25.440 financial means to be able to do that. And I felt good about that. And not only did I serve the
00:26:29.980 company, but I also serve the local subway. Who's taking a big hit, uh, because people aren't coming
00:26:34.920 in and ordering food. So I was able to do that. Right. So there's opportunities here. If you look
00:26:39.640 for those opportunities and you take advantage of those opportunities. And by the way, when you do
00:26:43.640 this, you're going to feel less sorry for yourself. It's hard to feel sorry for yourself when you're
00:26:47.800 serving other people who might be even less fortunate than you are. Cause you're going to,
00:26:53.960 that's going to put it in perspective. You're going to see that maybe I don't have it as bad as
00:26:56.940 I'm making out. So give back, serve, uh, number nine, what a powerful opportunity to start a business
00:27:03.220 or even pivot within your current organization. I mean, maybe you were selling goods and services and
00:27:08.620 there was physical products and you had a brick and mortar store. And now you've got to pivot
00:27:12.080 and make things digital and create products and courses and ideas and brotherhoods and, you know,
00:27:18.760 hats, shirts, whatever, whatever your thing is. Um, or, or you're doing some art, right? You're doing
00:27:23.900 some art and maybe you can sell that artwork, even if they're five bucks. Right. So now, so now you're,
00:27:29.840 you're starting a business. You're turning that hobby into a money generating activity. And surprisingly
00:27:33.920 enough, you know, you might get to a position through this, you know, side business or through
00:27:39.540 pivoting that you may never go back. Think about this. You may never go back to your previous
00:27:44.020 engagement, your pre previous employment, because you've created something that is deeply meaningful,
00:27:48.880 which was number three purpose has a lot of purpose and meaning and significance to it.
00:27:54.120 And you would have never known about this. Had we not faced these challenging and, uh, times full of
00:28:00.440 variables and unknowns and uncertainties. Like what a great time to start a business,
00:28:05.960 probably a digital business. But if you have a service or a product or information that you can
00:28:11.720 package and make available to other people, they will pay you for that. They will pay you for that.
00:28:16.120 I never, when I started order a man podcast, I never thought in a million years that it would turn
00:28:20.780 into financially what it has. The movement is, is one thing, but even financially and what it's
00:28:26.320 afforded me and my family and the people that I love and care about and the things that I've
00:28:30.040 wanted to do, have the experiences and give back and serve and everything through what was just a
00:28:35.940 hobby five years ago, never would have imagined what it turned into today. You can do the same
00:28:40.800 thing. You can create a side business. We're going to get into some specifics on that in the next
00:28:44.640 couple of weeks. Cause I've got some ideas on that that I want to make available to you, but
00:28:48.320 what a great time to look for opportunities to make money, to add value, to exchange value. You know,
00:28:56.580 you give somebody a product or a service and they exchange that for money. It's a beautiful thing.
00:29:01.020 So take advantage of it. And then the last thing guys, I would say is don't be the lone wolf. All
00:29:06.400 right. Number 10, build a tribe, build a tribe, like lead a tribe. And I'm specifically referring
00:29:12.420 to a tribe of a man. So that may not be physically that you're getting together, but maybe there's some
00:29:18.320 challenges that you can do. Maybe you can jump on a, on a zoom call, which is where we do most of our,
00:29:22.740 our engagement in our brotherhood, the iron council. You can do a zoom call. You can put
00:29:27.800 together a challenge. You can, there's all sorts of things, but if you can build a tribe, build a
00:29:32.680 band of brothers, hold each other accountable, ask them to hold you accountable, challenge, push,
00:29:37.260 motivate, inspire, lead, direct other men, you're going to feel good about who you are. It's times like
00:29:43.240 these where too many men retreat and they withdraw. This is not the time to withdraw. This is not the time
00:29:50.100 to sit around in your, your underwear and watch a bunch of shows on, on Netflix and eat ice cream
00:29:57.380 and popcorn and whatever else you eat while you're sitting there, stuff in your face, doing nothing
00:30:01.900 with your life by yourself. It's not a time to withdraw to drugs or alcohol or pornography or
00:30:10.200 whatever else is your sedation method of choice. Now's the time to go out, to serve, to lead, to inspire,
00:30:15.980 to band with other people who are going to help you, who you can help. You can do these things.
00:30:20.460 We've got other podcasts where we talked about, uh, banding with other men and leading those tribes.
00:30:25.120 We've got guys in our exclusive brotherhood, the iron council, one Alan Pacer, for example,
00:30:29.680 who, uh, he has taken this opportunity to give additional value. Bart false is another one.
00:30:35.600 He's, he's an entrepreneur. He speaks in public and he says, Hey, in the iron council, I just want to
00:30:39.620 make some of my services available to you guys. Like I'm not charging you. I just want to make
00:30:43.960 this available. And he's coached, I think 15 to 20 guys individually about entrepreneurship and
00:30:49.380 speaking and sharing their message. This is leadership at its finest. They're looking for
00:30:53.640 opportunities to lead, to grow, to inspire, to serve other people, to band men together and to add
00:30:59.640 value in their lives. And it's no wonder that guys like Alan and Bart feel good about who they
00:31:04.200 are and how they're showing up. They're doing good work and they're leading men and they're helping
00:31:08.400 and they're serving and they're giving back. And they're hitting all of the things that I talked
00:31:11.100 about with you today. So yeah, that's it. That's what I've got for you today, guys. I mean,
00:31:17.440 these are the tips, the strategies, the protocols, 10 of them. I'll recap them. Then we'll call it a
00:31:21.660 day, but take one, two, five, 10 of these and start implementing them in your life. Write them down
00:31:27.580 and then ask yourself this morning or tonight, what can I do in each one of these things to ensure
00:31:32.760 that I'm hitting on each one of these points and then evaluate, is this improving my life? I know it
00:31:37.320 will, but I would like you to evaluate and really see and quantify how this has helped you in your
00:31:42.540 life. Number one, be intentional. Number two, create a routine, create the systems. Number three,
00:31:49.140 find purpose, meaning, and significance in the work you're doing. Number four, make yourself the
00:31:54.220 project. Don't focus so much on everybody else. Make yourself the project. And the way we do that
00:31:58.680 is by number five, exercise. Number six, read great books. I would throw in a little pitch of mine
00:32:04.460 for sovereignty, the battle for the hearts and minds of men. You can pick that up on Amazon.
00:32:08.740 Number seven, pick up a new hobby. You know, maybe it's the guitar. Maybe it's hunting. Maybe
00:32:14.480 it's reloading. Maybe it's hatchet throwing. Maybe it's running a marathon. I don't know, whatever.
00:32:21.280 Number eight, give back, serve other people and organizations you believe in. Number nine,
00:32:26.660 start a business or a movement. And number 10, build a tribe. And by the way, if you want to build a
00:32:32.220 tribe, do that. I'm suggesting you do that. If you want to tap into a tribe, consider looking into
00:32:35.960 the iron council. This is our digital band of brothers. I believe we've got 530 ish somewhere
00:32:41.820 right in there. Changes every day. It continues to grow, but 530 men all working together to hit on
00:32:48.520 these points and build the kind of life that we can all be proud of. You can check that out at
00:32:52.840 order of man.com slash iron council. All right, guys, we're going to call it a day Friday. I hope you
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