Order of Man - Unshackle Yourself, 5 Keys to Personal Freedom ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart

00:00:04.980 your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.

00:00:10.460 You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong. This is your life. This is who

00:00:17.180 you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,

00:00:22.740 you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is

00:00:27.260 Ryan Michler. I'm your host. I'm also the founder of the Order of Man podcasting movement.

00:00:32.520 Before I get to anything else, I want to make sure that I tell you thank you today.

00:00:37.300 We, as of last month, so March, have hit our highest monthly downloads to date. We had an

00:00:48.000 over 27% increase in monthly downloads for the podcast than the previous month. And this month

00:00:54.600 marks the fourth consecutive month with double-digit percentage growth since we started

00:01:01.180 podcasting over seven years ago now, because middle of March is when we started in 2015.

00:01:08.860 So I want to, first and foremost, thank you for being here. If you're just tuning in,

00:01:12.980 and I know there's a lot of you, my goal is to give you exactly what you need to thrive as a husband,

00:01:18.360 a father, a business owner, a community leader, a man in general.

00:01:22.100 And what I'm going to talk with you about today is unshackling yourself from the burdens of society,

00:01:29.180 five keys to freedom in your life. And isn't this what we all want? In 2017, I believe,

00:01:37.040 I wrote a book called Sovereignty, The Battle for the Hearts and Minds of Men. And in that book,

00:01:41.940 I talk about how you can control the internals, which will influence the externals that are working

00:01:50.520 against you in culture and society today. And I'm going to expand on that a little bit more. I've

00:01:54.800 got five very clear points that are going to help you gain more sovereignty, gain more independence,

00:02:01.060 unshackle yourself from the burden of financial distress and what culture tells you to do and

00:02:06.040 the expectations that aren't going to serve you or your people well and move into a life that you

00:02:11.820 could be satisfied with, that you could be fulfilled in, that you can have some joy and meaning and

00:02:17.040 significance in. Before I get to that, I just want to let you know that the Iron Council is going to

00:02:21.940 be closing in the next 24 hours. So if you have been on the fence about joining our exclusive

00:02:28.080 brotherhood, the Iron Council, I would highly, highly encourage you to get that done in the next

00:02:34.060 several hours. Because if you don't, we're not going to be opening it up until sometime probably

00:02:39.460 in the summer. So when you band with us, you're going to have access to the men,

00:02:44.040 the networks, the frameworks, the accountability, the systems, the tools, the brotherhood,

00:02:49.020 the camaraderie, everything that comes with banding with other like-minded, motivated,

00:02:54.820 ambitious men. You can check that out at orderofman.com slash Iron Council. And when you do,

00:03:00.200 there's a very quick video that you can watch that goes in and explains everything that we're doing

00:03:05.200 there. Again, orderofman.com slash Iron Council. All right, guys, with that said, let's get into the

00:03:10.240 discussion today. Again, we're talking about unshackling yourself from the burden,

00:03:13.660 of life. I'm not talking about the burden of responsibility, by the way.

00:03:17.960 Because if you want to have a life of significance and meaning and purpose and fulfillment in your

00:03:22.480 life, there has to be some level of responsibility. If all you're trying to do consciously or subconsciously

00:03:29.640 is absolve yourself of the responsibility of being a man, I mean, sure, you can do that. And much of

00:03:36.960 society will let you do that. There's no consequences for not. You're not going to be satisfied.

00:03:42.340 You're not going to be fulfilled. You're not going to be edified. You're not going to be uplifted.

00:03:45.460 I know this because you're here. I have thousands and thousands of conversations with men every

00:03:50.560 single year. You're here for a reason. You're here to grow, to expand, to make yourself better,

00:03:54.820 to improve. And if you're trying to run away from responsibility, you're going to have no meaning

00:03:59.660 in your life. What I'm talking about is burdening yourself with unnecessary stress,

00:04:05.420 burdening yourself with the expectations of what I call the doctrine of popular culture,

00:04:12.020 of degeneracy, of loser mentality, because that's going to lead you nowhere. No, that's not true.

00:04:20.680 It is going to lead you somewhere. It's not going to lead you nowhere. It's going to lead you somewhere.

00:04:24.940 It's going to lead you to perhaps the place you're at right now. Drunk, miserable, broke, lonely, 0.96

00:04:34.760 frustrated, contentious. I want you to unshackle yourself from that. And that means not running away 0.97

00:04:42.300 from responsibility, but embracing it. So what we're going to do today is we're going to talk

00:04:46.660 about five key steps, five key factors, if you will, to your freedom. They are, and I'll just do a quick

00:04:53.320 overview. And then we'll break down each one. Number one, faith. Number two, finances. Number

00:04:59.240 three, fitness. Number four, family and friends. And number five, your future. Faith, finances,

00:05:07.320 fitness, family, and friends, future. Those are the five. All right, let's break down each one.

00:05:11.500 Number one, faith. Guys, I've come to realize in talking with these thousands and thousands of men

00:05:17.240 that I do, that if you have no faith for what the future might hold or what, or even faith in a reason

00:05:22.980 for being here. And I'm not saying that you need to believe in God. I'm not saying that you need to

00:05:27.800 believe exactly like I do about spirituality and religion. Obviously, I believe what I do for a

00:05:34.340 reason, and I think it's going to serve you. But let's say you believe something else. There has to

00:05:38.280 be some faith in you being here. Right? If you believe that we're just here because, and that we're just,

00:05:46.980 you know, specks of stardust that have evolved over millions and billions of years, and there's no

00:05:52.580 meaning or significance and above and beyond that, man, that's a hard sell. That's a hard life.

00:06:00.400 And I'm also not saying that if you're an atheist, that you can't be free. But there has to be some 0.62

00:06:07.900 sort of higher calling for you. There has to be some sort of belief and compelling draw for you

00:06:17.560 attempting to be a better person. Because if all you are is a speck of stardust,

00:06:21.880 does anything you do matter? I would submit to you that it does matter.

00:06:28.200 But the way that you show up, the way that you engage, the way you communicate with your family,

00:06:32.460 the way you help your clients, the way you serve your neighbors, the way you take care of yourself

00:06:38.360 matters. All of it matters in the grand scheme of things. And even if you believe that we are

00:06:45.380 just a clump of cells and there's no other significance or meaning above and beyond that,

00:06:51.860 I can tell you that we're going to talk about this in point number five future, that even if

00:06:56.320 you believe that you have to have faith that your existence means something, maybe it's to your wife,

00:07:03.580 maybe it's to your children, maybe it is to your clients or the people that you've interacted with

00:07:08.660 on a daily basis for 40, 50, 60, 70, 100 years. Have faith, guys, that doing the right thing will

00:07:17.300 yield positive results for yourself and also for the people that you care about. And have faith that

00:07:23.280 there is a reason that you're here. I don't know what it is. You may not know what it is. I know what

00:07:28.980 it is for me because I've spent a lot of time exploring this. And what it's allowed me to do is

00:07:34.020 to unshackle myself from the expectations of this degenerate society that we live in. It's allowed me

00:07:42.060 to stand on my own two feet. It's allowed me to express my opinion, even when there's tremendous

00:07:48.040 disdain and maybe even hate for the things that I share. I don't care. I don't care what you think

00:07:54.180 about me. I don't care about the nasty names that you call me. What I care about is the faith that I

00:08:00.660 have, that the work that we're doing here is powerful and it will change the men's lives who

00:08:07.560 listen in and more importantly, who apply that information. That's how faith sets you free.

00:08:13.940 If you don't believe you're here for a reason, that's a miserable existence. I know I've been there,

00:08:20.080 but I know my reason. Maybe not entirely, but I do know that there is a reason for me being here.

00:08:26.580 And it's my faith that compels me to do everything else. It's like, I think it was Maximus said in

00:08:34.540 Gladiator, what we do echoes in eternity. What I do here matters. You matter. You count. You can make

00:08:44.800 a difference positively or negatively. And don't for a minute think that you get to absolve yourself

00:08:51.280 of, as I said earlier, the responsibility of being engaged in this thing that we call life

00:08:56.460 and having positive and or negative influence over other people that you care about.

00:09:01.800 Number two, let's talk about finances. Guys, you got to get your money situation in order. I know it

00:09:07.220 feels like I've been beating a dead horse on this, but oh my goodness, if you can't handle your finances

00:09:14.880 and you can't get out of debt and you can't develop marketable skills and you can't find a way to ask

00:09:21.180 for the sale and you can't find a way to invest your money and you can't find a way to sit down on a

00:09:28.160 weekly basis and evaluate where all your money is coming from and where it's going, you are a slave. 0.59

00:09:35.340 You're a slave to the little green piece of paper that we call money. You're a slave to your creditors.

00:09:42.600 How many of you are getting calls from banks and from creditors and from credit card companies

00:09:50.360 threatening you, telling you that you have to make your payment? How are you going to be free

00:09:55.300 if you're shackled and you're burdened and you're strapped down with constantly worrying about your

00:10:00.380 finances? I've been there. I've told you guys this before. There was a time in my life where I was

00:10:05.560 so concerned with how I was going to pay the mortgage that I would literally wear a dirt track

00:10:10.980 in my backyard on the grass because I would, for hours, I would pace around trying to figure this

00:10:18.000 out. And it wasn't until I learned how to stop spending more money, how I learned how to invest

00:10:25.600 in myself. When I started hiring coaches who could teach me things that I needed to do in order to make

00:10:31.580 money, I also needed to learn that money wasn't the root of all evil as many people would have you

00:10:36.840 believe, but that it's a lust for money. People say love. I think it's a lust for money. Money is

00:10:43.800 not intrinsically valuable. It's only as valuable as the value that we assign to it. So if I go out

00:10:50.400 and I buy a bunch of hookers and blow, okay, well, that money wasn't valuable. In fact, if anything, 0.98

00:10:55.500 it was destructive to me. If on the other hand, I go out and I invest in businesses,

00:11:01.860 I go out and invest in myself. I go hire a coach. I buy a gym membership and I put those financial

00:11:08.980 assets to work. They're going to yield better results for me. And I'm going to set myself free

00:11:14.920 from worrying about who's going to call me about not making my mortgage payment or when are they

00:11:21.520 going to come repo my car or how am I ever going to buy a house when I can't even make the simple

00:11:28.600 credit card payment. Guys, unshackle yourselves, get out of that. And it might be easy for you to

00:11:36.240 say things like, well, Ryan, you know, if I was in your position, of course, or that's easy for you to

00:11:41.240 say. It's easier for me to say now because I've done the work over the past 20 years to get me to

00:11:48.380 where I am. And so we're all on different paths. Some of you guys are significantly far out ahead of me

00:11:56.040 when it comes to the financial department. And I learned from you and I'm inspired by you and I

00:12:00.580 grow and I see what you're doing. And I try to emulate that in my life. And some of you aren't

00:12:05.060 as far as me or other people, and that's okay. But this goes back to point number one, you have to

00:12:10.940 have faith that if you're doing the right things and you're doing what other people are doing to

00:12:14.620 produce results, then you will have the freedom that you desire. But that means that you're going to

00:12:20.500 need to put yourself in voluntary hardship. Okay. You're not going to be able to go out to all the

00:12:25.140 restaurants. You're not going to be able to go to all the events. You're not going to buy all the

00:12:29.100 plane tickets. You're not going to go on all the vacations. Dave Ramsey talks about this. Now,

00:12:33.200 sometimes admittedly, he takes it to the extreme. I'm not interested in living on beans and rice for

00:12:38.460 the rest of my life. And you don't need to be either, but damn, if you can't be somewhat disciplined, 0.98

00:12:43.000 even just to a small degree than you are right now, and consider how that might serve you well 0.95

00:12:48.920 over the next five, 10, 20, 30, 40, a hundred years, maybe even indefinitely because you teach those

00:12:55.000 financial principles to your kids. Getting your financial house in order will set you free.

00:13:02.220 It's not always liberating. It's not always comfortable. It's not always fun. It requires

00:13:06.800 sacrifice, but it will set you free. It's like the adage that Jocko says, discipline equals freedom.

00:13:13.760 Aristotle said it 2000 years ago, through discipline comes freedom. You have to be financially disciplined.

00:13:19.340 And if you are, and you do this correctly, then you'll be able to have everything that you want

00:13:25.580 financially. You'll never have to worry about putting food on your table. You'll never have

00:13:30.860 to worry about putting a roof over your head because you've been disciplined enough to create

00:13:35.500 the freedom from those types of worries. Number three, fitness. Guys, I think you can be a decent man

00:13:43.400 if you're not fit. I really do. I think you can be somebody who cares about other people.

00:13:49.320 You can have great intentions. You can work to serve people, but I'm telling you flat out, straight out

00:13:54.760 is you are not nearly as capable, effective, or even manly as you could be if you got your fitness

00:14:04.640 in check. Some of you guys are 30, 40% body fat. What would life look like if you were 20 or 15 or 10%

00:14:15.360 body fat? Some of you guys can't even lift your own body weight off the ground. Come on now.

00:14:21.640 You should be able to lift two times minimum body weight off the ground. Some of you guys can't fight

00:14:28.920 your way out of a wet paper sack. Come on. If you're in a physical altercation and you can't

00:14:37.260 fight your way out of that situation, man, you're vulnerable. You're exposed. You're weak. And I don't

00:14:44.580 want you to be like that because that what happens is that you make yourself beholden or slave to

00:14:49.640 somebody else who can best you, who can out you. And maybe even it's as simple as something as you get

00:14:55.240 in a car wreck and you need to pry open the door so you can get your wife out of the vehicle because

00:15:00.640 it's on fire. And that isn't a stretch of the imagination either. Just last year, we had on

00:15:07.340 our intersection right out here outside of my front house or front lawn here, a car crash, car popped

00:15:14.540 up, jumped up, drove onto our grass and started burning. You know, started smoking at first. I ran out

00:15:22.080 there with my son. We opened the door along with some other onlookers, opened the door, pulled out

00:15:29.840 the woman and the man who was able to get out on his own. And that car caught fire and burned down to

00:15:37.120 the ground before the fire department was even able to make it. Okay. Now, fortunately, I didn't have to

00:15:41.960 pry open the doors like the jaws of life, but what if I did? That person may be dead. You might be dead.

00:15:51.380 Somebody you care about might be dead because you can't lay off the chips and salsa 1.00

00:15:57.200 because you can't get your ass off the couch and go to the gym once a day. 0.98

00:16:03.760 It's all it takes, guys. Eat a little bit less, move a little more, stop being so lazy, 0.99

00:16:09.700 stop being so pathetic. And look, I'm trying not for this to be an indictment on you because what I 1.00

00:16:17.000 share applies to me as much as it does any other man. And some of these I have locked in and others,

00:16:22.140 I need my own level of improvement on, but let's go. Faith, finances, fitness. Let's go, guys.

00:16:29.360 These are basics, basic requirements of manliness. All right. Number four, family and friends. Now,

00:16:36.700 you might be thinking to me, if we're talking about unshackling yourself and the five keys to freedom

00:16:44.860 in life, how do family and friends fit into this world? Well, there's a common misconception about

00:16:51.080 men, and that is that we can be the lone wolf, that we can just go at it alone, that we don't need other

00:16:57.220 people in our corner or other people in our life, and that other people are always going to let you

00:17:01.180 down. And if you want it done right, you have to do it yourself. And that's debilitating. That's a

00:17:08.620 limiting mindset. That's a scarcity mindset. See, the way that I look at it is it's my job to empower

00:17:15.720 and edify and uplift my family, my friends, my colleagues, my coworkers, my neighbors. And as I

00:17:23.920 do, I create an environment around me of liberated, strong, capable human beings. And the more I'm

00:17:33.140 surrounded by those types of individuals compared to weak, cowardly, pathetic individuals, the better 1.00

00:17:40.820 off I am. Now, I don't only do it for myself. It's not purely selfish, but to say it isn't exclusively 0.99

00:17:48.980 benevolent would be a lie too. I care about my family. I care about my friends. I care about my

00:17:56.380 neighbors. I care about the people around me because I know if they're in a better position,

00:17:59.820 I too will be in a better position. And they don't have to come at the expense of one another.

00:18:04.900 I can care about my own personal progress and growth and safety and liberation. And I can also

00:18:11.120 simultaneously help other people do the same thing for themselves. So I pour into my family.

00:18:18.800 I pour into my friends. I have a friend that's going through a difficult time right now. I'm not

00:18:24.260 going to get into the details. In fact, I have two friends that I know are going through difficult

00:18:28.500 times right now. I reached out to them earlier this week and I offered to spend a little time

00:18:33.940 with them. One in person, one over the phone, just because of geographical restrictions and location

00:18:40.660 because I care about them and I want them to win and I want them to succeed. And I'm willing to invest

00:18:48.740 in them and I'm willing to pour into them. And because I'm willing to do that, I have to realize

00:18:55.400 that I have to also make myself capable of doing so. Because if I'm dealing with my finances,

00:19:01.200 I have no faith in the future. I'm fat. I'm lazy. I'm broke. I'm out of shape. I'm drunk. I'm high. 0.68

00:19:06.260 I'm whatever. How am I going to serve other people? I'm not. And if you can't serve other

00:19:14.980 people, flat out, you're not as much of a man as those individuals who can. Now you might be masculine.

00:19:23.920 You have intrinsic worth as a human being. Well, I'm talking about being manly and that's different.

00:19:30.100 Being a male is a birthright. Being a man is something you have to earn. And you earn that

00:19:36.780 by making yourself capable and then adding value to the people around you. And guys,

00:19:44.200 the last point that I want to talk about today is your future. And not just your future, but the

00:19:49.880 future of the people that you care about, your family and friends, like we just talked about a

00:19:53.000 minute ago. When you think about things in the short term, like, hey, you know, I'm horny,

00:19:59.840 so I'm going to get off with my secretary because that's easy, but I'm going to step 0.95

00:20:03.200 out on my wife in order to do so. Or, hey, I don't feel good today, so I'm going to get

00:20:08.280 stoned or I'm going to get drunk or I'm going to get high because I don't want to deal with

00:20:11.960 the reality of the situation. That's short-term thinking. And that doesn't create freedom in

00:20:20.220 your life because now you're a slave to that addiction. Now you're a slave to the consequences

00:20:27.060 of making a poor decision with your dick instead of your mind. And so it feels good for a few 1.00

00:20:34.420 seconds or a few minutes or maybe even a few hours. And then the remorse pours in. And then

00:20:41.160 the guilt comes into play. And then the sorrow. And then you start to think of yourself as a loser.

00:20:46.380 And because you think you're a loser, you start to do what losers do. And then you feel guilty for 0.99

00:20:53.480 that. And the cycle is never ending. It's horrible. It's destructive. And it is not freeing.

00:21:03.140 It's going to shackle you. It's going to bind you mentally, physically, emotionally. So what I want

00:21:11.880 you to do is I want you to stretch out your time horizon. When you're thinking about big decisions

00:21:17.720 of your life, stretch that decision out over 10 years. Because it might feel really good right now.

00:21:24.860 And you might think, oh, no, that's the right thing to do in the moment. Here I am. My son asked me to

00:21:28.800 play Legos with him. And I'm going to go do a podcast because that's what I think I should be

00:21:32.560 doing right now. Well, you know what? Your son's going to be out of the house or your daughter

00:21:36.280 in the next 10 years. And so if you stretch that decision out to over 10 years and one day,

00:21:43.440 10 years from now, you look back, are you going to think, man, I'm really glad I did that podcast

00:21:47.380 right now? Or are you going to say, you know, damn, I wish I would have had more time with my 0.91

00:21:51.680 daughter or my son to play Legos or to go to her dance recital or to have a tea party or to tuck her 0.98

00:21:57.800 in or to sing her songs. That's what you're going to be thinking about. So I want you to think about

00:22:04.160 your future because the longer you can spread these decisions out over, the better decisions,

00:22:10.020 the more liberating and freeing decisions that you're going to make. Ryan, you don't understand.

00:22:14.760 I just got to pay my mortgage right now. I get it. I understand. I've been there.

00:22:24.180 And so sometimes, yes, we have to do what we have to do. But if you're always in this rat race,

00:22:31.060 you know what I'm talking about, that rat or that mouse in your little cage spinning around on the 0.97

00:22:36.540 wheel, thinking it's doing something but not getting anywhere, that's us. We look at the mouse

00:22:44.900 doing that and we laugh and say, what a stupid mouse. And that's you. And that's me. 1.00

00:22:51.380 Step off the wheel, guys, and think about it. Hey, you know what? Yeah, I got to pay the mortgage

00:22:58.960 right now. And so I have to work this job that I'm not happy with. Maybe I have to put in an extra

00:23:03.180 shift, get some overtime, do whatever I need to do. That's also manly, by the way, in order to

00:23:10.060 provide for the people that I care about myself. And in the meantime, I'm going to start working

00:23:15.620 other angles so that I can have a greater, longer future. I did this with my, well, with my financial

00:23:24.120 planning practice. And I'll explain that here in a minute. But I also did it with Order of Man.

00:23:27.560 With my financial planning practice, the beauty of the financial world is that although it's hard up

00:23:33.780 front, over time, you build up residual income and build up a client base so that I don't need to keep

00:23:40.560 selling in order to make money, like I have a base in place. And then anything I do above and beyond

00:23:47.560 that is gravy. It's extra. Okay. So that's a futuristic mindset. With Order of Man, when I

00:23:53.560 started Order of Man, look, I didn't have any grand ambitions of what this was going to turn into.

00:23:59.060 Please don't think that because I really didn't. But I knew that if I put forth enough work over a long

00:24:05.400 enough period of time that something could come of this. I didn't know what it was. I didn't know what

00:24:09.720 it would look like, but I knew something would come up from it. So that was my future thinking.

00:24:17.520 And I would work two hours in the morning before I would go to my quote unquote real job,

00:24:22.660 which is the financial planning stuff. And then I do financial planning. I'd come home at night.

00:24:28.040 I'd spend some time with my wife and my kids and we would eat dinner together and play and do our

00:24:33.720 thing. Again, that's future thinking. That's important too. And then the kids would go to bed and I would

00:24:38.800 tell my wife, Hey, hon, I'm going to put another hour or two into this Order of Man thing. And I did

00:24:42.760 that for eight months, eight months before I started to make, I think it was actually seven months before

00:24:49.120 I made my first dollar with Order of Man. Future thinking. It's crucial, guys. Don't get trapped in

00:24:59.820 the now. Yes. Bills need to be paid. Yes. Problems need to be addressed. Think about the future. Think

00:25:06.800 about what it holds. And the more you can think about that long-term vision, the better off you're

00:25:12.440 going to be. That's what I've got for you guys today. I really want you to think about these

00:25:19.240 things. And more importantly than just sit and pontificate and ponder on how these things are

00:25:24.680 going to serve you. Think about what you are going to do in your life to improve in each of these areas.

00:25:30.680 So let me give you some examples here. We've got five key factors. Number one, faith,

00:25:38.300 two, finances, fitness, family and friends, and your future. So let me give you some practical advice

00:25:44.860 and then we'll wrap it up today. Number one, with regards to your faith, just go read the Bible

00:25:49.960 or the Koran or whatever. Read some spiritual text. Maybe it's a book from a spiritual leader even.

00:26:01.520 And that's fine too. I would suggest that the Bible is the greatest place to start, but whatever.

00:26:07.620 Okay. Every morning, wake up and do two things. Read the Bible or another spiritual text and pray.

00:26:15.180 Pray to God, pray to Jesus, pray to the muse, pray to the universe, whatever. Okay. I pray to God

00:26:22.840 and I would like you to pray to God too. But if it's something else, fine. So be it. Have some faith,

00:26:30.160 develop a connection with the higher power around us. That's going to drive us to make better decisions

00:26:37.180 moving forward and help us to realize that what we do in life echoes in eternity. That's with faith.

00:26:45.880 Number two, with your finances, I want you to create a weekly money meeting with your spouse. 0.87

00:26:53.480 So you guys are going to sit down and you're going to do a few things. This could be a Sunday night,

00:26:59.160 Monday morning, Wednesday afternoon. I don't know what your schedule is, but it's got to be once per week.

00:27:04.080 And you sit down and you talk about what expenses are coming up, what income is coming in

00:27:14.120 and what future expenses you have throughout the week. That's it. I don't need this to be an hour

00:27:21.760 meeting. You don't need this to be three hours. You guys don't need to be crawling up each other's

00:27:25.960 throats. No. Very simple. Hon, what expenses? Well, you know, here's an expense that I didn't

00:27:32.360 anticipate. My second son, he's been getting some headaches. So my wife thought, you know,

00:27:38.140 maybe we ought to take him into the eye doctor. Okay. Well, that's an unexpected expense. So we

00:27:42.640 took him into the eye doctor. The eye doctor said, yeah, he's pretty good. He could probably use some

00:27:46.680 readers, but his eyes will evolve and grow or whatever he said and get better. And so he probably

00:27:52.360 will outgrow them, but some readers would be nice. And so she ran over to Walgreens or wherever

00:27:56.680 and she picked up some, some standard readers. Okay. That's an expense. I didn't anticipate that.

00:28:03.960 You know, I've got my daughter. She went into the dentist a couple of weeks ago. She had a little

00:28:08.120 cavity. Okay. A couple hundred bucks, whatever it is like we got to deal with that. Transmission on

00:28:14.460 the car goes out or signups for football are taking place, you know? So there's another 45 or a hundred

00:28:21.400 bucks or whatever it is, right? Things come up. And if you aren't on the same page about it,

00:28:26.680 it's good. You're going to struggle. And then you're going to be pissed and she's going to be 0.98

00:28:29.920 pissed and nobody's going to be on the same page and you're not going to be free. You're going to

00:28:33.960 be shackled with the burden of thinking about that and debt also. So think about your expenses and then

00:28:40.680 what income? All right. So, Hey, maybe I'm on a salary. Here's my income. It's set. Still talk about

00:28:47.480 it because maybe you see, Hey, that's not enough. And so I have to do some side gigs. I got to go

00:28:53.960 build some websites. I got to go do some pictures. I've got a sister-in-law. She'll take pictures.

00:28:59.740 She's a phenomenal photographer. She takes some pictures. And I think the way they have it set up

00:29:05.020 is that she does that for her own and she can use that money. I don't care what it's set up for, 0.70

00:29:09.560 but like know where your income is coming from. Maybe, like I said earlier, you need to pick up an

00:29:15.760 extra shift. You're not going to know unless you talk about it. So think about your expenses,

00:29:20.280 think about your income, uh, and then just consider your budget and your financial goals.

00:29:27.500 Hey, on income expenses are locked in. What should we do with this extra $500 a month?

00:29:31.980 What should we do with this extra thousand dollars? Hey, uh, we just, um, you know,

00:29:37.220 unfortunately grandma passed away and she left $10,000 to us. What should we do with that money?

00:29:42.620 Should we pay off debt? Should we put 70% of it towards debt and 30% towards savings? Should we go on a

00:29:48.340 a little staycation with our family? Like what? Like figure it out, but get on the same page. All

00:29:52.800 right. That's a weekly meeting. So first we have read the scriptures or spiritual text and pray every

00:29:58.360 morning. Number two, weekly financial meeting. Number three, fitness, easy workout once per day

00:30:05.240 without exception. Ryan, what about active rest? No, I didn't say active rest. I said,

00:30:11.340 workout once per day. So for me, it's CrossFit and jujitsu. That's about six days a week.

00:30:19.420 The seventh day a week, I might do something at the house. Uh, I might go ride bikes with the kids.

00:30:24.420 We might go a walk around, around the field. We might flip some tires, but fitness every day.

00:30:28.980 Easy. Okay. Check that. Number four, with your family and friends, engage with them weekly

00:30:35.940 daily for the people who are closer to you. So if my kid wants to build Legos,

00:30:41.340 we build Legos. My daughter wants to show me, I don't know her, the, the, the dress she just

00:30:47.520 sewed for her Barbie. Like then that's what I do. Okay. Every day. And outside of that weekly

00:30:54.100 with family or friends, it doesn't have to be with them all the time, but this week you might say,

00:30:58.040 Hey hon, Saturday night, got a babysitter for the kids. We're going to, uh, XYZ restaurant,

00:31:04.620 the steakhouse and, uh, everything's taken care of and we're good. And so we're going to do that.

00:31:09.380 But then the next week, maybe you invite your two closest family friends over for a family

00:31:14.340 barbecue, but it's weekly, right? So the people closest to you is daily. And the people who are

00:31:20.180 on the fringe within the circle, but not outside of it are weekly. Okay. And then number five,

00:31:26.280 with your future, very simple here, guys, every single morning, I've got a planner right here.

00:31:31.040 You can see that if you're following along on YouTube at youtube.com slash order of man.

00:31:38.120 And so every single day I pull this out, I write out what I need to do. And then I spent some time

00:31:42.540 visualizing, okay, what's the perfect life look like? What's the perfect day? What's the perfect

00:31:46.600 week? If everything went miraculously this week, what would it look like? What do I want to accomplish?

00:31:51.800 What big things do I have coming up? What guests do I want to have on the podcast? What's that event

00:31:56.080 going to look like? What's the next product or offering or service that I'm going to make available

00:32:00.520 to the market? And I think about these things and I visualize and I ponder and I stew and I think,

00:32:05.860 but I have carved out time for this. And then I can measure all of my current actions against those

00:32:11.380 objectives. And it's not just career-based either. What do I want the relationship with my kids to look

00:32:16.760 like? Who are the people in my life? Like I said, I had a couple of friends who were struggling.

00:32:21.000 Who are the people in my life who need me to serve them right now? Because they're going

00:32:25.740 through a hard time or their family is or, or, or, or they're dealing with something, whatever that

00:32:30.520 something is. And how can I serve them? How can I be a better advocate and champion for them? How can

00:32:35.760 I just be a better friend, a better man? These are the things I think about. And it's not a lot

00:32:42.740 reading every morning, 10, 15 minutes prayer, two minutes of a weekly financial meeting, 20 minutes a

00:32:51.440 week, fitness, an hour every day, family and friends. Maybe it's a 30 to 45 minutes with your

00:32:58.360 family. And maybe it's two hours on the weekend or weeknight with some families and or friends.

00:33:04.600 And the future is what? 15 minutes per day. You know, so we're looking at a max of an hour and a

00:33:10.000 half per day. I guarantee you're wasting that much time with other stuff. It's not serving you.

00:33:16.600 It's actually binding you. It's keeping you from evolving and growing. So replace it. And then

00:33:23.520 what? Two hours every, every week for family and friends and things like that. We're not talking

00:33:30.300 about a lot of time here, but those small consistent wins compounded over time are going to produce the

00:33:38.240 types of results that you want in your life. It's fulfillment. It's meaning. It's satisfaction.

00:33:43.880 It's purpose. It's just feeling good about yourself. It's confidence because you know,

00:33:51.900 you're moving the needle in the right direction. So guys, this is how we unshackle ourselves.

00:33:56.920 These are the five keys to freedom, faith, finances, fitness, friends and family, and last

00:34:02.980 future. I hope that serves you. I hope that helps you as a reminder, we're shutting down the iron

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Order of Man - April 01, 2022

Unshackle Yourself, 5 Keys to Personal Freedom ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

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