Unshackle Yourself, 5 Keys to Personal Freedom ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
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If you want to have a life of significance and meaning and fulfillment in your life, there has to be some level of responsibility. If all you're trying to do consciously or subconsciously is absolve yourself of the responsibility of being a man, then you're not going to be fulfilled. You're going to run away from responsibility and have no meaning and no purpose in life.
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You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart
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your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.
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You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong. This is your life. This is who
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you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,
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you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is
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Ryan Michler. I'm your host. I'm also the founder of the Order of Man podcasting movement.
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Before I get to anything else, I want to make sure that I tell you thank you today.
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We, as of last month, so March, have hit our highest monthly downloads to date. We had an
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over 27% increase in monthly downloads for the podcast than the previous month. And this month
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marks the fourth consecutive month with double-digit percentage growth since we started
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podcasting over seven years ago now, because middle of March is when we started in 2015.
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So I want to, first and foremost, thank you for being here. If you're just tuning in,
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and I know there's a lot of you, my goal is to give you exactly what you need to thrive as a husband,
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a father, a business owner, a community leader, a man in general.
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And what I'm going to talk with you about today is unshackling yourself from the burdens of society,
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five keys to freedom in your life. And isn't this what we all want? In 2017, I believe,
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I wrote a book called Sovereignty, The Battle for the Hearts and Minds of Men. And in that book,
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I talk about how you can control the internals, which will influence the externals that are working
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against you in culture and society today. And I'm going to expand on that a little bit more. I've
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got five very clear points that are going to help you gain more sovereignty, gain more independence,
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unshackle yourself from the burden of financial distress and what culture tells you to do and
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the expectations that aren't going to serve you or your people well and move into a life that you
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could be satisfied with, that you could be fulfilled in, that you can have some joy and meaning and
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significance in. Before I get to that, I just want to let you know that the Iron Council is going to
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be closing in the next 24 hours. So if you have been on the fence about joining our exclusive
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brotherhood, the Iron Council, I would highly, highly encourage you to get that done in the next
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several hours. Because if you don't, we're not going to be opening it up until sometime probably
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the camaraderie, everything that comes with banding with other like-minded, motivated,
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ambitious men. You can check that out at orderofman.com slash Iron Council. And when you do,
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there's a very quick video that you can watch that goes in and explains everything that we're doing
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there. Again, orderofman.com slash Iron Council. All right, guys, with that said, let's get into the
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discussion today. Again, we're talking about unshackling yourself from the burden,
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of life. I'm not talking about the burden of responsibility, by the way.
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Because if you want to have a life of significance and meaning and purpose and fulfillment in your
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life, there has to be some level of responsibility. If all you're trying to do consciously or subconsciously
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is absolve yourself of the responsibility of being a man, I mean, sure, you can do that. And much of
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society will let you do that. There's no consequences for not. You're not going to be satisfied.
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You're not going to be fulfilled. You're not going to be edified. You're not going to be uplifted.
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I know this because you're here. I have thousands and thousands of conversations with men every
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single year. You're here for a reason. You're here to grow, to expand, to make yourself better,
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to improve. And if you're trying to run away from responsibility, you're going to have no meaning
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in your life. What I'm talking about is burdening yourself with unnecessary stress,
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burdening yourself with the expectations of what I call the doctrine of popular culture,
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of degeneracy, of loser mentality, because that's going to lead you nowhere. No, that's not true.
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It is going to lead you somewhere. It's not going to lead you nowhere. It's going to lead you somewhere.
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It's going to lead you to perhaps the place you're at right now. Drunk, miserable, broke, lonely,
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frustrated, contentious. I want you to unshackle yourself from that. And that means not running away
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from responsibility, but embracing it. So what we're going to do today is we're going to talk
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about five key steps, five key factors, if you will, to your freedom. They are, and I'll just do a quick
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overview. And then we'll break down each one. Number one, faith. Number two, finances. Number
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three, fitness. Number four, family and friends. And number five, your future. Faith, finances,
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fitness, family, and friends, future. Those are the five. All right, let's break down each one.
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Number one, faith. Guys, I've come to realize in talking with these thousands and thousands of men
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that I do, that if you have no faith for what the future might hold or what, or even faith in a reason
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for being here. And I'm not saying that you need to believe in God. I'm not saying that you need to
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believe exactly like I do about spirituality and religion. Obviously, I believe what I do for a
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reason, and I think it's going to serve you. But let's say you believe something else. There has to
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be some faith in you being here. Right? If you believe that we're just here because, and that we're just,
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you know, specks of stardust that have evolved over millions and billions of years, and there's no
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meaning or significance and above and beyond that, man, that's a hard sell. That's a hard life.
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And I'm also not saying that if you're an atheist, that you can't be free. But there has to be some
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sort of higher calling for you. There has to be some sort of belief and compelling draw for you
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attempting to be a better person. Because if all you are is a speck of stardust,
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does anything you do matter? I would submit to you that it does matter.
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But the way that you show up, the way that you engage, the way you communicate with your family,
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the way you help your clients, the way you serve your neighbors, the way you take care of yourself
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matters. All of it matters in the grand scheme of things. And even if you believe that we are
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just a clump of cells and there's no other significance or meaning above and beyond that,
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I can tell you that we're going to talk about this in point number five future, that even if
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you believe that you have to have faith that your existence means something, maybe it's to your wife,
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maybe it's to your children, maybe it is to your clients or the people that you've interacted with
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on a daily basis for 40, 50, 60, 70, 100 years. Have faith, guys, that doing the right thing will
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yield positive results for yourself and also for the people that you care about. And have faith that
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there is a reason that you're here. I don't know what it is. You may not know what it is. I know what
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it is for me because I've spent a lot of time exploring this. And what it's allowed me to do is
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to unshackle myself from the expectations of this degenerate society that we live in. It's allowed me
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to stand on my own two feet. It's allowed me to express my opinion, even when there's tremendous
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disdain and maybe even hate for the things that I share. I don't care. I don't care what you think
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about me. I don't care about the nasty names that you call me. What I care about is the faith that I
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have, that the work that we're doing here is powerful and it will change the men's lives who
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listen in and more importantly, who apply that information. That's how faith sets you free.
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If you don't believe you're here for a reason, that's a miserable existence. I know I've been there,
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but I know my reason. Maybe not entirely, but I do know that there is a reason for me being here.
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And it's my faith that compels me to do everything else. It's like, I think it was Maximus said in
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Gladiator, what we do echoes in eternity. What I do here matters. You matter. You count. You can make
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a difference positively or negatively. And don't for a minute think that you get to absolve yourself
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of, as I said earlier, the responsibility of being engaged in this thing that we call life
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and having positive and or negative influence over other people that you care about.
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Number two, let's talk about finances. Guys, you got to get your money situation in order. I know it
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feels like I've been beating a dead horse on this, but oh my goodness, if you can't handle your finances
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and you can't get out of debt and you can't develop marketable skills and you can't find a way to ask
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for the sale and you can't find a way to invest your money and you can't find a way to sit down on a
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weekly basis and evaluate where all your money is coming from and where it's going, you are a slave.
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You're a slave to the little green piece of paper that we call money. You're a slave to your creditors.
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How many of you are getting calls from banks and from creditors and from credit card companies
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threatening you, telling you that you have to make your payment? How are you going to be free
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if you're shackled and you're burdened and you're strapped down with constantly worrying about your
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finances? I've been there. I've told you guys this before. There was a time in my life where I was
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so concerned with how I was going to pay the mortgage that I would literally wear a dirt track
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in my backyard on the grass because I would, for hours, I would pace around trying to figure this
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out. And it wasn't until I learned how to stop spending more money, how I learned how to invest
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in myself. When I started hiring coaches who could teach me things that I needed to do in order to make
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money, I also needed to learn that money wasn't the root of all evil as many people would have you
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believe, but that it's a lust for money. People say love. I think it's a lust for money. Money is
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not intrinsically valuable. It's only as valuable as the value that we assign to it. So if I go out
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and I buy a bunch of hookers and blow, okay, well, that money wasn't valuable. In fact, if anything,
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it was destructive to me. If on the other hand, I go out and I invest in businesses,
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I go out and invest in myself. I go hire a coach. I buy a gym membership and I put those financial
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assets to work. They're going to yield better results for me. And I'm going to set myself free
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from worrying about who's going to call me about not making my mortgage payment or when are they
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going to come repo my car or how am I ever going to buy a house when I can't even make the simple
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credit card payment. Guys, unshackle yourselves, get out of that. And it might be easy for you to
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say things like, well, Ryan, you know, if I was in your position, of course, or that's easy for you to
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say. It's easier for me to say now because I've done the work over the past 20 years to get me to
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where I am. And so we're all on different paths. Some of you guys are significantly far out ahead of me
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when it comes to the financial department. And I learned from you and I'm inspired by you and I
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grow and I see what you're doing. And I try to emulate that in my life. And some of you aren't
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as far as me or other people, and that's okay. But this goes back to point number one, you have to
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have faith that if you're doing the right things and you're doing what other people are doing to
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produce results, then you will have the freedom that you desire. But that means that you're going to
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need to put yourself in voluntary hardship. Okay. You're not going to be able to go out to all the
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restaurants. You're not going to be able to go to all the events. You're not going to buy all the
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plane tickets. You're not going to go on all the vacations. Dave Ramsey talks about this. Now,
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sometimes admittedly, he takes it to the extreme. I'm not interested in living on beans and rice for
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the rest of my life. And you don't need to be either, but damn, if you can't be somewhat disciplined,
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even just to a small degree than you are right now, and consider how that might serve you well
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over the next five, 10, 20, 30, 40, a hundred years, maybe even indefinitely because you teach those
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financial principles to your kids. Getting your financial house in order will set you free.
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It's not always liberating. It's not always comfortable. It's not always fun. It requires
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sacrifice, but it will set you free. It's like the adage that Jocko says, discipline equals freedom.
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Aristotle said it 2000 years ago, through discipline comes freedom. You have to be financially disciplined.
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And if you are, and you do this correctly, then you'll be able to have everything that you want
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financially. You'll never have to worry about putting food on your table. You'll never have
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to worry about putting a roof over your head because you've been disciplined enough to create
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the freedom from those types of worries. Number three, fitness. Guys, I think you can be a decent man
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if you're not fit. I really do. I think you can be somebody who cares about other people.
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You can have great intentions. You can work to serve people, but I'm telling you flat out, straight out
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is you are not nearly as capable, effective, or even manly as you could be if you got your fitness
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in check. Some of you guys are 30, 40% body fat. What would life look like if you were 20 or 15 or 10%
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body fat? Some of you guys can't even lift your own body weight off the ground. Come on now.
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You should be able to lift two times minimum body weight off the ground. Some of you guys can't fight
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your way out of a wet paper sack. Come on. If you're in a physical altercation and you can't
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fight your way out of that situation, man, you're vulnerable. You're exposed. You're weak. And I don't
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want you to be like that because that what happens is that you make yourself beholden or slave to
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somebody else who can best you, who can out you. And maybe even it's as simple as something as you get
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in a car wreck and you need to pry open the door so you can get your wife out of the vehicle because
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it's on fire. And that isn't a stretch of the imagination either. Just last year, we had on
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our intersection right out here outside of my front house or front lawn here, a car crash, car popped
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up, jumped up, drove onto our grass and started burning. You know, started smoking at first. I ran out
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there with my son. We opened the door along with some other onlookers, opened the door, pulled out
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the woman and the man who was able to get out on his own. And that car caught fire and burned down to
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the ground before the fire department was even able to make it. Okay. Now, fortunately, I didn't have to
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pry open the doors like the jaws of life, but what if I did? That person may be dead. You might be dead.
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Somebody you care about might be dead because you can't lay off the chips and salsa
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because you can't get your ass off the couch and go to the gym once a day.
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It's all it takes, guys. Eat a little bit less, move a little more, stop being so lazy,
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stop being so pathetic. And look, I'm trying not for this to be an indictment on you because what I
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share applies to me as much as it does any other man. And some of these I have locked in and others,
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I need my own level of improvement on, but let's go. Faith, finances, fitness. Let's go, guys.
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These are basics, basic requirements of manliness. All right. Number four, family and friends. Now,
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you might be thinking to me, if we're talking about unshackling yourself and the five keys to freedom
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in life, how do family and friends fit into this world? Well, there's a common misconception about
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men, and that is that we can be the lone wolf, that we can just go at it alone, that we don't need other
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people in our corner or other people in our life, and that other people are always going to let you
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down. And if you want it done right, you have to do it yourself. And that's debilitating. That's a
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limiting mindset. That's a scarcity mindset. See, the way that I look at it is it's my job to empower
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and edify and uplift my family, my friends, my colleagues, my coworkers, my neighbors. And as I
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do, I create an environment around me of liberated, strong, capable human beings. And the more I'm
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surrounded by those types of individuals compared to weak, cowardly, pathetic individuals, the better
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off I am. Now, I don't only do it for myself. It's not purely selfish, but to say it isn't exclusively
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benevolent would be a lie too. I care about my family. I care about my friends. I care about my
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neighbors. I care about the people around me because I know if they're in a better position,
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I too will be in a better position. And they don't have to come at the expense of one another.
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I can care about my own personal progress and growth and safety and liberation. And I can also
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simultaneously help other people do the same thing for themselves. So I pour into my family.
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I pour into my friends. I have a friend that's going through a difficult time right now. I'm not
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going to get into the details. In fact, I have two friends that I know are going through difficult
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times right now. I reached out to them earlier this week and I offered to spend a little time
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with them. One in person, one over the phone, just because of geographical restrictions and location
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because I care about them and I want them to win and I want them to succeed. And I'm willing to invest
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in them and I'm willing to pour into them. And because I'm willing to do that, I have to realize
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that I have to also make myself capable of doing so. Because if I'm dealing with my finances,
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I have no faith in the future. I'm fat. I'm lazy. I'm broke. I'm out of shape. I'm drunk. I'm high.
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I'm whatever. How am I going to serve other people? I'm not. And if you can't serve other
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people, flat out, you're not as much of a man as those individuals who can. Now you might be masculine.
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You have intrinsic worth as a human being. Well, I'm talking about being manly and that's different.
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Being a male is a birthright. Being a man is something you have to earn. And you earn that
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by making yourself capable and then adding value to the people around you. And guys,
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the last point that I want to talk about today is your future. And not just your future, but the
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future of the people that you care about, your family and friends, like we just talked about a
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minute ago. When you think about things in the short term, like, hey, you know, I'm horny,
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so I'm going to get off with my secretary because that's easy, but I'm going to step
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out on my wife in order to do so. Or, hey, I don't feel good today, so I'm going to get
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stoned or I'm going to get drunk or I'm going to get high because I don't want to deal with
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the reality of the situation. That's short-term thinking. And that doesn't create freedom in
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your life because now you're a slave to that addiction. Now you're a slave to the consequences
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of making a poor decision with your dick instead of your mind. And so it feels good for a few
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seconds or a few minutes or maybe even a few hours. And then the remorse pours in. And then
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the guilt comes into play. And then the sorrow. And then you start to think of yourself as a loser.
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And because you think you're a loser, you start to do what losers do. And then you feel guilty for
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that. And the cycle is never ending. It's horrible. It's destructive. And it is not freeing.
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It's going to shackle you. It's going to bind you mentally, physically, emotionally. So what I want
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you to do is I want you to stretch out your time horizon. When you're thinking about big decisions
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of your life, stretch that decision out over 10 years. Because it might feel really good right now.
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And you might think, oh, no, that's the right thing to do in the moment. Here I am. My son asked me to
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play Legos with him. And I'm going to go do a podcast because that's what I think I should be
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doing right now. Well, you know what? Your son's going to be out of the house or your daughter
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in the next 10 years. And so if you stretch that decision out to over 10 years and one day,
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10 years from now, you look back, are you going to think, man, I'm really glad I did that podcast
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right now? Or are you going to say, you know, damn, I wish I would have had more time with my
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daughter or my son to play Legos or to go to her dance recital or to have a tea party or to tuck her
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in or to sing her songs. That's what you're going to be thinking about. So I want you to think about
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your future because the longer you can spread these decisions out over, the better decisions,
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the more liberating and freeing decisions that you're going to make. Ryan, you don't understand.
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I just got to pay my mortgage right now. I get it. I understand. I've been there.
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And so sometimes, yes, we have to do what we have to do. But if you're always in this rat race,
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you know what I'm talking about, that rat or that mouse in your little cage spinning around on the
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wheel, thinking it's doing something but not getting anywhere, that's us. We look at the mouse
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doing that and we laugh and say, what a stupid mouse. And that's you. And that's me.
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Step off the wheel, guys, and think about it. Hey, you know what? Yeah, I got to pay the mortgage
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right now. And so I have to work this job that I'm not happy with. Maybe I have to put in an extra
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shift, get some overtime, do whatever I need to do. That's also manly, by the way, in order to
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provide for the people that I care about myself. And in the meantime, I'm going to start working
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other angles so that I can have a greater, longer future. I did this with my, well, with my financial
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planning practice. And I'll explain that here in a minute. But I also did it with Order of Man.
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With my financial planning practice, the beauty of the financial world is that although it's hard up
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front, over time, you build up residual income and build up a client base so that I don't need to keep
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selling in order to make money, like I have a base in place. And then anything I do above and beyond
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that is gravy. It's extra. Okay. So that's a futuristic mindset. With Order of Man, when I
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started Order of Man, look, I didn't have any grand ambitions of what this was going to turn into.
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Please don't think that because I really didn't. But I knew that if I put forth enough work over a long
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enough period of time that something could come of this. I didn't know what it was. I didn't know what
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it would look like, but I knew something would come up from it. So that was my future thinking.
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And I would work two hours in the morning before I would go to my quote unquote real job,
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which is the financial planning stuff. And then I do financial planning. I'd come home at night.
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I'd spend some time with my wife and my kids and we would eat dinner together and play and do our
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thing. Again, that's future thinking. That's important too. And then the kids would go to bed and I would
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tell my wife, Hey, hon, I'm going to put another hour or two into this Order of Man thing. And I did
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that for eight months, eight months before I started to make, I think it was actually seven months before
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I made my first dollar with Order of Man. Future thinking. It's crucial, guys. Don't get trapped in
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the now. Yes. Bills need to be paid. Yes. Problems need to be addressed. Think about the future. Think
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about what it holds. And the more you can think about that long-term vision, the better off you're
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going to be. That's what I've got for you guys today. I really want you to think about these
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things. And more importantly than just sit and pontificate and ponder on how these things are
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going to serve you. Think about what you are going to do in your life to improve in each of these areas.
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So let me give you some examples here. We've got five key factors. Number one, faith,
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two, finances, fitness, family and friends, and your future. So let me give you some practical advice
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and then we'll wrap it up today. Number one, with regards to your faith, just go read the Bible
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or the Koran or whatever. Read some spiritual text. Maybe it's a book from a spiritual leader even.
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And that's fine too. I would suggest that the Bible is the greatest place to start, but whatever.
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Okay. Every morning, wake up and do two things. Read the Bible or another spiritual text and pray.
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Pray to God, pray to Jesus, pray to the muse, pray to the universe, whatever. Okay. I pray to God
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and I would like you to pray to God too. But if it's something else, fine. So be it. Have some faith,
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develop a connection with the higher power around us. That's going to drive us to make better decisions
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moving forward and help us to realize that what we do in life echoes in eternity. That's with faith.
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Number two, with your finances, I want you to create a weekly money meeting with your spouse.
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So you guys are going to sit down and you're going to do a few things. This could be a Sunday night,
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Monday morning, Wednesday afternoon. I don't know what your schedule is, but it's got to be once per week.
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And you sit down and you talk about what expenses are coming up, what income is coming in
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and what future expenses you have throughout the week. That's it. I don't need this to be an hour
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meeting. You don't need this to be three hours. You guys don't need to be crawling up each other's
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throats. No. Very simple. Hon, what expenses? Well, you know, here's an expense that I didn't
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anticipate. My second son, he's been getting some headaches. So my wife thought, you know,
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maybe we ought to take him into the eye doctor. Okay. Well, that's an unexpected expense. So we
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took him into the eye doctor. The eye doctor said, yeah, he's pretty good. He could probably use some
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readers, but his eyes will evolve and grow or whatever he said and get better. And so he probably
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will outgrow them, but some readers would be nice. And so she ran over to Walgreens or wherever
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and she picked up some, some standard readers. Okay. That's an expense. I didn't anticipate that.
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You know, I've got my daughter. She went into the dentist a couple of weeks ago. She had a little
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cavity. Okay. A couple hundred bucks, whatever it is like we got to deal with that. Transmission on
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the car goes out or signups for football are taking place, you know? So there's another 45 or a hundred
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bucks or whatever it is, right? Things come up. And if you aren't on the same page about it,
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it's good. You're going to struggle. And then you're going to be pissed and she's going to be
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pissed and nobody's going to be on the same page and you're not going to be free. You're going to
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be shackled with the burden of thinking about that and debt also. So think about your expenses and then
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what income? All right. So, Hey, maybe I'm on a salary. Here's my income. It's set. Still talk about
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it because maybe you see, Hey, that's not enough. And so I have to do some side gigs. I got to go
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build some websites. I got to go do some pictures. I've got a sister-in-law. She'll take pictures.
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She's a phenomenal photographer. She takes some pictures. And I think the way they have it set up
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is that she does that for her own and she can use that money. I don't care what it's set up for,
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but like know where your income is coming from. Maybe, like I said earlier, you need to pick up an
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extra shift. You're not going to know unless you talk about it. So think about your expenses,
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think about your income, uh, and then just consider your budget and your financial goals.
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Hey, on income expenses are locked in. What should we do with this extra $500 a month?
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What should we do with this extra thousand dollars? Hey, uh, we just, um, you know,
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unfortunately grandma passed away and she left $10,000 to us. What should we do with that money?
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Should we pay off debt? Should we put 70% of it towards debt and 30% towards savings? Should we go on a
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a little staycation with our family? Like what? Like figure it out, but get on the same page. All
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right. That's a weekly meeting. So first we have read the scriptures or spiritual text and pray every
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morning. Number two, weekly financial meeting. Number three, fitness, easy workout once per day
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without exception. Ryan, what about active rest? No, I didn't say active rest. I said,
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workout once per day. So for me, it's CrossFit and jujitsu. That's about six days a week.
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The seventh day a week, I might do something at the house. Uh, I might go ride bikes with the kids.
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We might go a walk around, around the field. We might flip some tires, but fitness every day.
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Easy. Okay. Check that. Number four, with your family and friends, engage with them weekly
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daily for the people who are closer to you. So if my kid wants to build Legos,
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we build Legos. My daughter wants to show me, I don't know her, the, the, the dress she just
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sewed for her Barbie. Like then that's what I do. Okay. Every day. And outside of that weekly
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with family or friends, it doesn't have to be with them all the time, but this week you might say,
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Hey hon, Saturday night, got a babysitter for the kids. We're going to, uh, XYZ restaurant,
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the steakhouse and, uh, everything's taken care of and we're good. And so we're going to do that.
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But then the next week, maybe you invite your two closest family friends over for a family
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barbecue, but it's weekly, right? So the people closest to you is daily. And the people who are
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on the fringe within the circle, but not outside of it are weekly. Okay. And then number five,
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with your future, very simple here, guys, every single morning, I've got a planner right here.
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You can see that if you're following along on YouTube at youtube.com slash order of man.
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And so every single day I pull this out, I write out what I need to do. And then I spent some time
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visualizing, okay, what's the perfect life look like? What's the perfect day? What's the perfect
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week? If everything went miraculously this week, what would it look like? What do I want to accomplish?
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What big things do I have coming up? What guests do I want to have on the podcast? What's that event
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going to look like? What's the next product or offering or service that I'm going to make available
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to the market? And I think about these things and I visualize and I ponder and I stew and I think,
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but I have carved out time for this. And then I can measure all of my current actions against those
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objectives. And it's not just career-based either. What do I want the relationship with my kids to look
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like? Who are the people in my life? Like I said, I had a couple of friends who were struggling.
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Who are the people in my life who need me to serve them right now? Because they're going
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through a hard time or their family is or, or, or, or they're dealing with something, whatever that
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something is. And how can I serve them? How can I be a better advocate and champion for them? How can
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I just be a better friend, a better man? These are the things I think about. And it's not a lot
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reading every morning, 10, 15 minutes prayer, two minutes of a weekly financial meeting, 20 minutes a
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week, fitness, an hour every day, family and friends. Maybe it's a 30 to 45 minutes with your
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family. And maybe it's two hours on the weekend or weeknight with some families and or friends.
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And the future is what? 15 minutes per day. You know, so we're looking at a max of an hour and a
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half per day. I guarantee you're wasting that much time with other stuff. It's not serving you.
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It's actually binding you. It's keeping you from evolving and growing. So replace it. And then
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what? Two hours every, every week for family and friends and things like that. We're not talking
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about a lot of time here, but those small consistent wins compounded over time are going to produce the
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types of results that you want in your life. It's fulfillment. It's meaning. It's satisfaction.
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It's purpose. It's just feeling good about yourself. It's confidence because you know,
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you're moving the needle in the right direction. So guys, this is how we unshackle ourselves.
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These are the five keys to freedom, faith, finances, fitness, friends and family, and last
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future. I hope that serves you. I hope that helps you as a reminder, we're shutting down the iron
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Orderofman.com slash iron council. All right, guys, we'll be back next week. Until then,
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