What 5 Months of Sobriety Has Taught Me ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
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In this episode, Ryan Michler talks about his struggle with alcoholism and how he has managed to stay sober for the past 5 months. He also talks about the lessons he has learned from his experience and what he is doing to overcome his demons.
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You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest, embrace your fears, and boldly chart
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your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time, every time.
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You are not easily deterred or defeated, rugged, resilient, strong. This is your life. This is who
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you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,
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you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Michler.
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I'm the host and the founder of the Order of Man podcast and movement. Welcome here today.
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I'm going to have a sensitive discussion with you guys today, not one that I am particularly
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thrilled about, but I think it's one that needs to be had. I'm going to talk with you about my
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battle with alcoholism and what I've been doing over the past five months now to remain sober and
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attempt as best I can to clean up my life. I want to share this with you because that is the goal
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of the podcast, is to share things that are working, to share even in our struggles, what we're
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doing to overcome our demons and our battles. I have them just as much, if not more, than any other
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man out there. I figured if I can share what has worked for me and what hasn't worked and be real
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and honest with you, then maybe that will help you to some degree as you battle your own demons,
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whether that's alcoholism or drug addiction or any number of things that it could be that's going
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wrong in your life. We're here to support each other. That's why it's called the order,
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the order of man. We're trying to help each other, serve each other, promote each other,
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lift each other up. And I appreciate you being on this journey with me.
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This is lessons learned from my five months of sobriety. First, I want to say that I know
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five months isn't a long time. It doesn't seem like a long time. To me anyways, it seems like
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I actually don't consider it some great achievement because it really isn't for me. And I'm speaking
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for myself. All of you guys have other experiences, other beliefs. Many of you have messaged me and
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told me about your battles with alcoholism. And I'm not going to knock or diminish any of your
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experience. All I'm doing is sharing what it is for me. I don't consider five months to be
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some large grand number of sobriety, but I have learned some things over the past half
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year now. And hopefully it'll serve you. So number one is that rock bottom, you reach rock
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bottom when you stop digging the hole that you're in right now. A lot of people will say,
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I've reached the bottom, I've reached the bottom, but they'll continue the same behavior. And in that
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case, you have not reached the bottom yet. The bottom is when you stop digging. And the bottom
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for me was when I decided that I'm going to stop drinking and I'm going to start doing better
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behavior, start engaging in things that are actually positive and encouraging and uplifting
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for me. Whereas before I noticed that there was a problem. I saw that I was depressed. I saw that
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I was down. I saw that I was impacting my family and my friends and community members. I saw all of
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that. And yet I kept engaging in the same behavior that was producing those results.
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And so even though I felt like I was in this miserable pit, I was exacerbating the problem
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by continuing to dig with the same behavior. So if you're telling yourself that you're at rock
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bottom, but you're still exhibiting the same thoughts, behaviors, patterns, then you're not
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at rock bottom. But the beautiful thing about being at rock bottom is that you can decide when that
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is. Yes. I know there's outside circumstances that take place, but the minute you stop the
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behaviors and you introduce new behaviors is the minute that you start crawling out of that hole.
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And that's where I am right now. I'm still quite a ways down the hole, but I'm crawling out and I
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feel pride and I feel proud and I feel excited about the opportunities in the midst of other things that
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are going on because I can see that I can at least see the light at the top of the hole that I've dug
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myself in. And I'm actively working on getting there. So for me, five months ago, that was rock
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bottom. That was the moment of truth. That was the moment that I could decide, all right, do I
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continue down this path? Do I continue destroying my body and my health and the relationships? Or do I
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decide, okay, you're going to stop, you're going to do a new set of behaviors and a new way of living
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and dig yourself out of that hole. And that was rock bottom for me.
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Number two, and these aren't in any particular order, but I realized that I have a lot of emotions
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that are residing inside of me that I was not aware of. Anger, resentment, frustration, sadness,
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sorrow, loneliness, a lot of emotional buildup over years and years, 40 years of living my life that
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I was able to avoid. I was able to hide. I was able to bury. And then I was sedating myself through
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alcohol. So anytime any one of those emotions or any bad feeling came up, it was alcohol. But what
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was interesting is that the alcohol made my anger and my frustration and these types of things even
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worse. So I may have attempted to free myself from the burden of those emotions, but the people around
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me were not free of that because it magnified the problem. And now that I'm five months sober,
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I can see a lot differently. And I can see that there are a lot of emotions in myself that need
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to be addressed that I haven't dealt with. And part of that is through my journaling. Part of that is
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through working with a therapist. Part of that is through my AA meetings and just being more reflective,
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but also allowing myself to experience those emotions. This morning, for example, I was very
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sad this morning because of what's been going on in my life. And before I think I would have either
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drank the sadness away temporarily or I would have tried to bury it. But this morning, I decided to
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experience and feel those emotions and let those emotions out in a constructive way. And I don't
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need to be blabbering to you guys, blabbering to my family or crying like a fool in front of everybody.
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But you know what? I can experience those emotions so I can release that. If you want more information
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on some of this stuff, Jason Wilson, he has a book called Cry Like a Man. Very, very interesting read.
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I had him on the podcast a while back and he talks a lot about this. He's become a good friend of mine
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and we've had some good discussion. But I need to continue to work through those emotions. And I'm
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sure that you do as well. And using alcohol or drugs or pornography or gambling or womanizing or
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whatever your vice of choice is, is not an effective way to deal with it. It may feel better for a time,
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but it will get worse. And you're not even in the position to acknowledge it if you're drunk or stoned or high.
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Number three, I was really good at hiding. I was good at hiding the behavior from other people.
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I mean, I can't tell you how many messages that I received and guys were like, Hey, I had no idea.
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I had no idea. I would never would have guessed that. Right. That was the point. I didn't want
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anybody else to know because I considered it a weakness. And I actually still do consider it a
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weakness. I know that people will say, well, you know, it's a disease and alcohol,
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has control over you. And you're just doomed to be an alcoholic. I don't buy that. I personally do
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not buy into that. I am not going to identify with being an alcoholic. This is not something I'm going
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to do. Now I know I'm susceptible to alcohol. I know that there's something about my physiology
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or my mindset that allows me or makes me compulsive that I go all in on things that I don't do anything
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in moderation, not just drinking, but doing this podcast or any number of things. It could be
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when I go, I go all in. And I was really good at hiding how bad it had gotten from other people.
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Yes. But also from myself. And that's one of the things that was very valuable for me to learn is
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that I am good. Just like I imagine most of you are very good at hiding the problems,
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very good at tricking ourselves into believing something that really isn't true or even painting
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ourselves better than maybe really ought to be doing. And I now realize that as I lied to myself
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about, Oh, I'm not an alcoholic, or even if I am, I'm a high functioning alcoholic. And now I realize
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because I was pulling the wool over my eyes the whole time that I was really, really struggling,
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really, really struggling. And I need to be vigilant about not hiding from the painful truth of life
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and where I'm short and where I fall short and where I'm not doing well. And it is painful.
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That goes back to the emotional side of things I talked about a minute ago.
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But again, I want to experience that. I want to embrace that because I do want to feel those
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emotions and I want to process those emotions and I don't want to hide anymore.
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I think it's Jordan Peterson who talks about bringing your demons or bringing the problem
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to light. It cannot exist in light. It can exist in darkness, but it can't exist in light.
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So if we start to bring these things to light and have conversations about them, I mean,
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that's the interesting thing about this is as I've shared this battle, this struggle of mine,
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thousands and thousands of men, hundreds and hundreds of messages and emails and DMs from
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guys who have told me that they're experiencing the same thing. And nobody knows guys, we got to
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get this stuff out in the open and we have to have an outlet to be able to share these things in a
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constructive way so that we can bring them to light. And like a vampire, it will burn and destroy
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that deficiency. Number four, I think I'm on is I now realize that I am this, this sounds obviously
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narcissistic, but I am pretty incredible in a lot of ways. I know that, I know that might sound weird
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when I, when I say that, um, again, narcissistic or ego driven, but what I, what I realized is that
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even though I was drunk just about every day and wasting probably three to four to five hours per
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day, either drinking, being drunk or being hung over that I was able to still get a lot done.
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I was still able to lead the family to some degree. I was still able to run this business.
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Obviously there was a lot of things that was still able to do. And now that I've been sober for five
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months, I realized how much time and energy and resources were being wasted, being thrown away on
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being drunk, getting drunk or being hung over. And when I, that, that first, I would say three to four
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weeks of being sober, my, my production skyrocketed. I mean, it went through the roof. And I wondered why
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that was even my daughter. She said to me, she says, dad, how come you're getting all these projects
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done? Or how are you getting all these projects done? And I, you know, I didn't explain this, the entire
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thing to her because she's not at that age where it would make sense. But, uh, to me, the answer was
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clear. I just recaptured three to five hours per day, every day. And now I'm being productive with
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it. And what I've seen over the past, I would say three to four weeks now is hyper involvement with
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the family. I've been putting in less work, but getting more done. Uh, I've been hyper engaged with
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my family. I I'm doing drawing with my kids, doing Legos, you know, even just running errands and doing
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chores around town. It's, it's pretty incredible. And it makes me wonder when I said that I'm pretty
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incredible. It makes me wonder how much farther I would have been had the last two years been dry,
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had been sober. Where would I be if I didn't give away three to five hours of every single day to some
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vice that didn't not just not serve me. It was destroying me. And now that I've recaptured that,
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I feel like I'm back on the path and I'm energetic and I'm optimistic and I'm hopeful about what we can
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accomplish because we have all that time, energy, and resources. Next one, guys. Alcohol does not make
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me a better person. It doesn't make me better at anything. And I used to tell myself that it did.
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I actually believe that drinking helped me to be a better podcaster because I could be more loose.
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I could be more relaxed. I could, you know, have a, have a different kind of conversation.
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Maybe it was social lubricant as we hear a different kind of conversation than normally
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I could have. I tend to be somebody who's pretty high, strong and on edge quite a bit. That's my
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personality. And I felt like alcohol was letting me relax and letting loose and that the podcast
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conversations would be more enjoyable for you and more enjoyable for me and my guest. So that was one
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area that I felt like, Hey, this makes me better. I mean, even, I even told myself in my family life,
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it makes me better because I'm not so high, strong, and I'm not putting so much pressure
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on everybody to perform and to do the things that I want them to do in the way that I want them to do it.
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And what I didn't see is that I was actually creating a lot of animosity and contention
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within the family dynamic because of my behavior, not in spite of it.
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So I've come to realize that alcohol does not make me better. And yet I will say,
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knowing all of this, that there are times that I'm still tempted to drink.
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Knowing all of this that I'm sharing, I've got four or five other things I wanted to share with
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you that I am still tempted to drink. And I realized how vile alcohol is. And I realized how
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damaging and destructive it is. And I realized what it can do to me and other people. And yet I'm still
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tempted at times to drink. It's, it is ridiculously addicting and tempting for me.
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So I've come to the realization that I want to be honest about it and it doesn't make me better.
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It makes me worse. It makes me a worse human being. I lose inhibition. Uh, I, I become emotionally
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compromised. And of course that leads to disastrous results. Uh, the next one guys, number six, I think
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we're on is that people appreciate transparent leadership. So I shared this months ago with the
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iron council. Many of you guys are in the iron council or you're aware of the iron council.
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I shared this, uh, in a video that I did with the iron council, uh, before I shared it to the public
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because I felt like they needed to know as quickly as I could tell them. And I was so nervous sharing
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this with them. I thought people would leave the iron council in droves and I'd get hate mail and
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hostility. And I probably will at times get some of that. Um, you know, there was certainly an
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undermining of my leadership or an undermining of my influence. And I can understand that, but I thought
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this could potentially be done, not just iron council, but order them in. And what I've realized
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is that people appreciate transparent leadership, not just leading other people, but in me leading
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myself is that if I can be honest with myself about my shortcomings and my wrongdoings, people
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appreciate that because it's more relatable. They see themselves in that person who's deciding to be
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transparent. You know, we spent an inordinate amount of time hiding from other people, hiding from
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our own vices, hiding from looking foolish. And I get why we do that, but I don't believe that we as
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leaders need to be afraid of being transparent. And I'll add this caveat that you're actually doing
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something about it. Because if I just came and I just blurted out all of my problems and all of
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my baggage and nothing in my life was changing, that's not leadership. I'm certainly not leading
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myself, certainly not going to have the capacity to lead other people. But what is leadership is
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realizing that you have a problem, admitting that you have a problem, and then dealing with the problem
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head on. So when we go and communicate our shortcomings and deficiencies with people, we also
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communicate our plan. And we don't just communicate it. We let them experience it. We let them feel it.
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We let them see it. It's not just about hearing. It's about seeing and experiencing the changes that
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you're making. I get messages from you guys who say, hey, your message has changed for the better.
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You look lighter. You look more focused. You look more determined.
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That's because they know that it isn't just talk. It's actually physically manifesting itself. The
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changes are physically manifesting themselves because I am doing the work to improve. So it
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isn't just about transparency and just blurting out all your baggage. It's about doing something about
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it. Number seven, I've learned that trust is very, very easy to destroy and infinitely harder to
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rebuild. So it's best not to do things that make you diminish trust from other people because it is
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very, very difficult to rebuild. And again, it can't just be lip service. They can't just hear, oh, I'm
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going to change. I'm going to do better. I'm going to do this and this and this and that. They don't
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believe you. People don't believe you. And quite honestly, they didn't believe me. And they have no
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reason to. Why? Why would somebody believe me? Why would my older two who know about the problem,
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why would they believe me if all I do is say I'm going to change? Why would my wife believe me?
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Why would you guys believe me if I just say I'm going to change? That's what I hoped. I said,
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hey, you know, I thought, hey, if I tell them this stuff and I come clean and I tell them what I'm going
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to do, then, then, you know, we can just wash our hands and start all over again. No, it's not how it
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works. You may never rebuild certain aspects of your life to the degree that they were before,
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which is obviously painful and another emotional outlet that you need to deal with.
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But you have to be patient. I'm trying to be patient. It's been five months. I feel like that's
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a long five months because it's been a long five months for me. It's not long enough. It's not that
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long in the grand scheme of things. And what we do over time to erode and destroy trust, like I said,
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may never be fully repaired. And if it is, it's going to take a very, very long time of not just
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your words, but more importantly, our actions. And so that's why I'm trying to walk a different path
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and not explain necessarily that path to everybody. I don't owe everybody an explanation.
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There's only so many times I can apologize to people that I've hurt. There's, there's,
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there's only so much I can do with my mouth. And now I'm kind of the point where I've attempted to
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make amends where I can. And I'm at the point now where I have to let my deeds do the talking
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slowly, but surely rebuild the trust brick by brick, and we'll get there. And if we don't
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with certain relationships or certain aspects of our lives, we'll be able to move forward in
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confidence, knowing that we did all we could to change and grow and improve and become better.
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It isn't that the purpose of being here on this planet to improve, to grow, to get better.
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Number eight, your course of action or mine anyways, will change when the pain of the current reality
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that you've put yourself in is greater than the struggle of change.
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Because if the struggle is harder than what you're currently dealing with, you'll, you'll never deal
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with it because we don't want to struggle. We don't want to go through hardship. We don't want
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to face the consequences of our choices and our decisions. I don't want to, but I realized I have
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to, and I'm going to try to stand there with my eyes and head up and accept those consequences like a
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man and then learn and grow from those things. Uh, and it's been painful. And as much as I don't want
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to experience that pain, I'm also pretty grateful for it because it's hard for me to imagine
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five months later, knowing the trajectory I was on, it's hard for me to imagine what life would look
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like today, five months later. And the catalyst for this is my wife coming and talking with me and
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having a very difficult, challenging, and serious discussion to finally wake me up to what was going
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on. And it was painful. And that pain was so great that I decided, okay, well, I'm going to struggle
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then because I'd rather struggle than go through the pain we're talking about. So don't run away from
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the pain. Don't, don't hide from it. Embrace it as hard as it is. Embrace it because that means you're
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changing. That means you're growing. It means you're evolving. It means you're getting better. It means
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you're putting yourself on a different path, a different trajectory of life. Because if I stayed
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where I was, I can't imagine, like I told you a minute ago where I'd be now, but I really can't
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imagine if I stay on the path I'm on right now, where I'll be in five more years, in 10 more years,
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what life will look like because of the new trajectory that I've put myself on.
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Pain is not always a bad thing. Can be, but really it's just there to tell you something's wrong.
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Something's off, whether that's physical pain, you put your hand on a hot stove, you move it
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pretty quickly because it burns. And that pain causes you to change your direction, but it also
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could be emotional pain. You are going to experience devastating hardship if you don't change. Don't
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want to deal with that, but it's good. We do because it puts us on a new path. And the last one today,
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guys, I think I'm counting here. One, two, three, four, five, six, seven. Oh, I got it off there.
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So that last one was eight. This one is nine. The last one I wanted to share with you today is that
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I've allowed the spirit of God back into my life. I think, I think God was always present.
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I think it was very difficult for me to hear it, to hear that voice, to hear or feel and experience
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that presence. I don't think I really wanted to actually. And I think I drowned it out with alcohol
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and having the spirit of God back in my life has given me hope and optimism in some dark times and
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some challenging and difficult struggles. And I hear it more clearly. And it gives me
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comfort, but also better direction, better guidance, better counsel to be able to move my path
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in the right direction. And then also the path of the people that I meant to serve, my wife,
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my kids, you guys, people who are listening, people who are in the iron council, neighbors,
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friends, family members. If I have his spirit in my life and I don't sedate it and I don't drown it
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out and I listen to it. And most importantly, I act upon it. I will move everything, the entire needle
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in the right direction. Lots of other lessons to learn here, guys, but I wanted to share this with
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you because, well, it's not really about me. I'm just sharing this with you, my story, because I
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think it will serve you. I think it will help you. I'm not sure if it's alcoholism or drugs or
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some other addiction or some other vice that you have that you are dealing with. I don't know what
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it is for you. I just know that there's a path forward. There's a better path forward. And if you're
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in hardship and despair and emotional sorrow and toil, man, I understand. I really do. I've been
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there. I'm there right now. I told you one of the first ones, the first one, rock bottom. Yeah,
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I hit rock bottom, but I'm not out of the hole yet. I still got to dig. I still got to scrape. I
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still got to fight. And so you and I, we're in the hole that we dug together. Maybe I'm a little
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farther ahead of some of you. Maybe I'm a little further behind than some of you. It doesn't really
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matter. The guy ahead of me should help me out. I should help the guy behind me. You should help
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the guy behind you. This is how it works. This is what men do. We lead ourselves to the capacity
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that we can so that we are in a greater, much more abundant, prosperous position to help and serve
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other people. So this message is not about me. I'm sharing my experience so that you will have some
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hope and optimism and a clear path forward for yourself. All right, guys, I hope that helps.
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If you have any other thoughts or considerations or questions or anything, let me know. I'm very
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active on Instagram at Ryan Mickler. We're going to be building out the YouTube channel. We've got some
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new things coming that are going to help us build out the YouTube channel and Rumble channel a little
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bit better. So stay tuned for that. We've got, I think, 200 and I don't know, 70,000 subscribers or so
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on YouTube. We're going to build that out. And we've got some big things happening in 2023. I will
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say the silver lining of this is, and there are going to be a lot of silver linings that come from
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this, is that I can relate a whole lot better with a whole lot more of you that are going through the
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same thing. And that makes me grateful because God's put me in a position to serve. That's not
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comfortable. I don't like it. I'd rather not be here, but I'm here and he has put me in the position
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to serve. So let's serve each other. Let's help each other. All right, guys, I'll be back next week.
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Until then, go out there, take action, become a man you are meant to be. Thank you for listening to
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