Order of Man - What is the Iron Council？

00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart

00:00:04.940 your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.

00:00:10.360 You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong. This is your life. This is who

00:00:17.000 you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,

00:00:22.520 you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Michler.

00:00:27.640 I'm your host and the founder of the Order of Man podcast and movement. Welcome here today

00:00:32.440 and welcome back. If you've been with us for any amount of time, you know this is a podcast

00:00:37.200 dedicated to helping men become better men. Better fathers, husbands, business owners,

00:00:41.620 community leaders, coaches, mentors, friends, whatever. Whatever your goal is as a man,

00:00:47.300 I want to give you the tools, the conversations, and resources to help you do just that. Guys,

00:00:53.460 today I want to talk with you about something I haven't talked a whole lot about publicly.

00:00:56.860 I've talked about the Iron Council, which is our exclusive brotherhood through emails and

00:01:01.100 occasionally when we open up, but I don't really get into the nitty gritty. I don't get too deep

00:01:05.600 into what it's all about, but I've had a lot of questions that go around about what this digital

00:01:09.800 brotherhood is all about and how it might serve you. Today, what I'm going to do is share with you

00:01:15.420 why having a band of brothers is so important and also some of the threats that I think we as men face

00:01:21.460 in modern culture. I'm also going to share with you what to look for in a brotherhood.

00:01:27.460 Whether you decide to join the Iron Council or not, I want you to be able to listen to this

00:01:32.860 conversation and walk away with some very specific ideas on what you should look for,

00:01:39.700 whether it's in the Iron Council or if you want to build your own local tribe of brothers,

00:01:44.700 because it's obviously crucial that we have other men. We're going to talk more about that,

00:01:48.140 but I'm going to talk with you about four or five different factors or variables that you

00:01:52.300 should look for when it comes to banding with other men. Then I'll talk with you about the

00:01:56.060 benefits of the Iron Council because we are open for enrollment right now. I would love to see

00:02:01.880 more men in the Iron Council because of the track record of success that we've produced.

00:02:08.600 Let's first talk about what the Iron Council is. On a more broad scale, let's talk about why this is

00:02:14.020 important. Number one, the Iron Council, I do often say it's a digital band of brothers and it is. It's

00:02:20.700 primarily digital, but what's incredible is over the past, I would say maybe 12 to 18 months or so,

00:02:30.200 we've really seen a lot of the men take initiative inside of the council to be able to

00:02:35.780 meet with other men locally. What's beautiful about what we're creating is that this is the

00:02:42.020 the foundation or the framework or the basis by which you can grow relationships with other men

00:02:48.160 in your area. For example, a couple of weeks ago, 10 of us went to Texas and we did a hog hunt down

00:02:53.920 there. We had 20 tags to fill. We filled 18 of those 20 tags, which was a very successful hunt.

00:03:00.500 Then I think last weekend, some of our guys in the Iron Council met somewhere in central Texas

00:03:06.120 and they went on a kayaking and hiking trip. We've seen campouts, we've seen Spartan races that guys

00:03:12.600 are doing together. It's nice to see this brotherhood that's primarily been digital come

00:03:19.460 offline and do things face-to-face. When you join in any band of brothers, the whole objective,

00:03:25.580 the whole goal of banding with other men is that you can be challenged, is that you can be pushed,

00:03:31.680 is that you can be motivated and inspired to go above and beyond what you're currently doing.

00:03:37.820 Because if you could do it all on your own, then you would. And many of you are. And that's okay

00:03:44.420 to a degree, but there comes a point in time where if you want bigger and better and greater and make

00:03:49.540 more money and be in better shape and live a life of more fulfillment, then you're going to have to

00:03:53.760 do that with other people. I've seen so many of these men's type accounts on Instagram and Twitter

00:04:01.160 and the like that talk about men going at it alone, doing it by themselves, not relying on

00:04:07.820 other people. And look, I know it's hard to rely on other people. I know other people can let you

00:04:13.020 down. I know that there's a variable in dealing with our interpersonal communication relationships

00:04:17.360 that just is hard. It's challenging, but you know what it's supposed to be? It's supposed to be

00:04:23.200 challenging. That's the value. That's the benefit. That's not a bug. That's a feature of a

00:04:28.040 relationship is that it is going to challenge you. It's going to stretch you. It's going to push you

00:04:32.900 to new horizons. So if you're one of these guys who thinks you can do it alone, maybe you've been

00:04:36.940 successful up to a point, but if you want something better than what you currently have, you're going

00:04:41.120 to need to bring something else in. And a lot of the times that's new people. That's the value of

00:04:45.740 brotherhood. And not only that, when you're going through challenging and difficult times, it's nice to

00:04:49.440 be able to call on somebody and say, Hey man, this is what I'm dealing with. Not so you can get

00:04:53.220 attaboys and pats on the back and they can, they can comfort your, your mediocrity, but they can

00:04:59.520 help. They can serve you. And isn't that what it means to be a man. If you've been listening to this

00:05:03.940 podcast, you know, that a man is a protector, a provider, a presider. What do all three of those

00:05:09.380 elements have in common service? We as men are to serve. And again, there's a lot of accounts on

00:05:15.080 Instagram and Tik TOK and Twitter and the like that say, you know, men, men go at it alone and you

00:05:20.720 should only pay respect to those people who respect you. And nobody's going to honor, honor

00:05:25.660 you and respect you and don't do anything for other people until they earn it. I don't agree

00:05:30.060 with that at all, at all. I mean, there's a baseline level of respect that people deserve.

00:05:35.940 Sure. But I think you're going to live a more fulfilling life when you step into service,

00:05:42.160 not because you feel obligated to serve other people, or you want to be their whipping boy,

00:05:47.520 for example, but because you know, it's the right thing to do. It's the right thing to do.

00:05:53.360 And banding with other men is going to keep you from isolating. It's going to allow other men to

00:06:01.100 serve you. It's going to allow you to serve other men. I was talking with a friend about some own,

00:06:07.120 my own personal challenges and struggles because I do this. I'm not just telling you to do this.

00:06:11.340 I talked to guys as well that hold me accountable that I can confide in. And I talked about needing

00:06:17.520 to reach out to other men. My natural inclination is to isolate and go at it alone. I think a lot

00:06:22.760 of guys' natural inclination is to do that. And I said, but I know that it's important to reach out

00:06:27.480 to other men that are in my corner that want to support and help me. And he said, yeah, that's,

00:06:32.380 that's good. Those people can serve you. But what was interesting is he also said something,

00:06:36.160 and I'd never considered this way. He said, you need to do people service by allowing them to serve

00:06:42.460 you. Isn't that interesting? By allowing other people to serve me, I am actually serving them.

00:06:49.680 I'm giving them opportunities to give back, to grow, to, to push, to lead, to help, to add value to a

00:06:57.380 relationship. Guys, we don't need to do this alone. I know there's a lot of bad A accounts out there.

00:07:03.080 They're telling you, do it alone and be an alpha male or be a sigma male or an omega or any of these

00:07:07.800 Greek alphabet type males. No, you don't need to do that. We as men have been operating in tribes

00:07:14.280 and packs for thousands and thousands and thousands of years. And it isn't until relatively recently

00:07:19.160 that we've decided, oh no, we should go at it alone. What the heck? Why? Why should you go at it

00:07:25.500 alone? Well, I know it's hard to work with other people, but masculinity doesn't shy away from

00:07:32.120 difficulty. It embraces it. It harnesses it. It learns from it. It grows from it. So guys,

00:07:38.920 whether you decide to join the iron council or do something on your own or join another group

00:07:42.580 that's available, you've got to have a band of brothers and you have to add value and you have

00:07:47.380 to do them the service of allowing them to add value to your life. And isn't that an incredible

00:07:51.420 thing? Isn't that why we're here on the spinning rock? I think one of the greatest threats to men

00:07:55.860 is that we do isolate. We do go at it alone. As it said, a lot of us suffer in silence.

00:08:03.420 We live quiet lives of desperation, so to speak, and we don't need to. I guarantee that whatever

00:08:10.500 you're dealing with, whether it's a bankruptcy or health scare or financial struggles or relationship

00:08:17.280 struggles, or you're having a hard time with one of your children going astray or any number of things

00:08:22.020 that it could be on a daily basis. I guarantee there's other men who have gone through it.

00:08:26.260 They're either going through it right now or they've gone through it before, and they might

00:08:29.660 have some insight to offer you that will help you navigate it more successfully.

00:08:35.000 So here's what I want to share with you. What to look for in a band of brothers. Again,

00:08:38.680 whether this is the iron council, or if this is something that you do on your own or another

00:08:43.460 group or organization, let's, let's figure out what we need. Number one is you need some systems.

00:08:48.960 You have to have systems because if you don't have systems, you're just winging it.

00:08:53.800 And you know what? There's a danger in winging it in that you might actually be successful

00:08:57.820 just winging it. And you might say, well, Ryan, what's, what's the danger in that? I was a success.

00:09:02.520 The danger is you can't replicate it because you don't know what you did in the first place.

00:09:07.860 See, what I'm looking for is I'm looking for tools and systems and processes and procedures,

00:09:11.840 systems that allow me to execute those systems with predictable results. And look, I'm not going

00:09:21.880 to tell you that I am perfect. I know what my workouts need to be. I know how I need to communicate

00:09:27.480 with the people closest to me. I know what I need to do with work. I know what I need to do with my

00:09:32.120 diet, my nutrition, with my finances. I know what I need to do. And yet I fail every single day. I fall

00:09:36.900 short of my ideal. But if I don't know what my ideal is and I don't have a system for ensuring

00:09:42.100 that I'm on the right track, then I don't know what is going to help me produce results and what

00:09:46.720 isn't. And I don't want to take a shot in the dark. I don't want to throw, throw it all on the wall and

00:09:51.500 see what sticks. I want to go at life with precision. If I eat these foods, I will produce these results in

00:09:59.280 my life. If I communicate with my children this way, I will produce that result. If I exercise in this

00:10:05.980 manner and this way, and I do this system, here's how I'm going to build my strength.

00:10:11.320 If I do these things in my work environment, in my career, then I know I'm going to get promoted.

00:10:16.700 And I know I'm going to make more money. If I manage my money this way, I know I'm going to pay

00:10:20.960 off debt and I'm going to build wealth. I need to know. It needs to be crystallized.

00:10:26.020 And if you're meeting with guys haphazardly or there's no systems in place and you kind of get

00:10:30.440 together periodically and hopefully one day you can help each other, that's too passive for me.

00:10:35.980 If you're going to create something or you're going to join the iron council,

00:10:38.280 or you're going to do something different, it better have systems in place. You can create them.

00:10:41.800 You can tap into iron council that has systems. Other programs better have those systems in place.

00:10:46.280 And also secondary, they better have a track record of results. I've had guys leave the iron

00:10:50.940 council and they say, oh, you know, I'm going to go start my own thing. And I, and I commend them.

00:10:54.700 Starting your own thing is great. And I'll help anybody that wants to go start their own thing.

00:10:58.480 But you know what? You better be careful inviting people over there because you don't have a proven

00:11:02.360 track record of results yet. You might. And I have faith that many of you can build something

00:11:08.160 that will be proven to be successful, but it's not yet. And if you're going to spend your hard

00:11:13.220 earned resources, I'm talking about money, time, energy, attention, then you better pour it into

00:11:19.480 something that works because anything else is unacceptable. You're too busy for that. You have

00:11:25.380 family, you have kids, you have your wife, you have your career, you have other interests that are

00:11:30.120 important to you. You're too busy to pour your resources into something that isn't proven.

00:11:35.680 Now, look, if you like the challenge of starting your own thing, all the power to you, and I'll

00:11:39.900 help you do that. That's what this podcast is about. Or you could tap into something that's

00:11:44.460 already available. Next, you need like-minded men. Now, this doesn't mean we always agree on things.

00:11:50.020 It doesn't mean that we see things exactly the same. In fact, if you see things exactly the same,

00:11:54.420 then you probably ought to bring some sort of outside factor or opinion in, but you need to be

00:11:58.280 going in the same direction or at least the same destination. Because if you're not working

00:12:03.980 towards the same destination, these differences of opinion could actually lead you astray.

00:12:11.440 But if I know Bob who's next to me is going to the same place that I'm going, and yet he sees it a

00:12:16.500 little differently and he can give me insight that I can't see myself because he has a different

00:12:19.760 perspective or a different set of life experiences, then that's going to be a powerful ally in my battle

00:12:26.080 to achieve my own personal results. So they have to be like-minded in that they're going

00:12:31.320 towards the same destination, although they might see things differently. And then there has to be,

00:12:37.640 to go back to what we said before, there has to be a system in place to foster that discussion.

00:12:42.580 So if you're doing it on your own, how often are you meeting? When you meet, what is your agenda?

00:12:47.780 When you have your agenda, what are your questions? How does that work? How does that play out? What

00:12:52.300 conversations are you having? Who are you holding accountable? How are you holding each other

00:12:55.560 accountable? So you got like-minded men together. Good. Everybody can do that. You can go to jujitsu

00:12:59.780 and find a bunch of like-minded men, but do they have the systems in place for accountability?

00:13:04.360 Do they have a proven track record or results? All of these things need to work harmoniously

00:13:08.100 together. You can't just have one or two of these factors. And the other thing that I would have you

00:13:12.700 consider is that you need to be around men of courage. And when I say men of courage, I need them

00:13:17.560 to be able to speak openly and honestly to me. Because if they can't speak openly and honestly to me,

00:13:24.620 and part of that, a lot of that actually is my responsibility as the one who wants the honesty

00:13:28.580 and the truthfulness, if they can't do that because they're unable to, they lack the courage,

00:13:33.940 the testicular fortitude to do it, or because I don't allow them to through my reactions or

00:13:39.680 otherwise, then that's not going to be a band of brothers. Might be friends, might be acquaintances,

00:13:46.920 might be people you train jujitsu with or shoot firearms with or any number of things, but it's not a

00:13:52.520 band of brothers. You need men who have courage, men who can speak truth, men who see things in you

00:14:00.020 can recognize it and are willing to tell you from a position of love, sure, but are willing to tell

00:14:05.180 you, hey, Ryan, you're not doing what you said you wanted to do. Not what I wanted you to do,

00:14:10.520 but what you said you wanted to do. You're off track. And I don't know why, but I want to help you

00:14:16.180 figure out why that's the case and then help you get back on the path. I need men like that in my

00:14:21.460 corner. And if you're a yes man, a bobblehead, as I like to call them, and you're just, yes, yes,

00:14:26.120 yes. And trying to please everybody and be nice to everybody and try to make everybody happy.

00:14:30.760 Good on you. You might be a nice person, but that's not really a man that I want in my corner.

00:14:36.720 We can interact. We can have conversations. I'll go to lunch with you, but you're not on my team

00:14:41.200 necessarily. The men I want on my team have courage. They have fortitude. They have strength.

00:14:46.780 They're willing to speak honestly and openly. And granted, I need to be able to be receptive to that,

00:14:52.940 but I need people like that. And if they don't have any one of those factors, then I'm telling

00:14:57.000 you guys, it's just not a band of brothers. It might be friends from high school, it might be

00:15:00.400 buddies you train with, but it's nothing more than that. You've got to have systems in place,

00:15:04.340 a proven track record of success, like-minded men, men moving in the same direction,

00:15:08.460 and they have to be men of courage. Now let's talk about the benefits of the Iron Council.

00:15:12.680 This is where, admittedly, maybe it gets a little salesy. So be it. I have so many questions about

00:15:20.140 what goes on in the Iron Council that I thought I would share those things with you. Number one,

00:15:24.480 when you join us, you're going to be banding with the 1,200 other men. These are men who are

00:15:29.240 like-minded. These are men who want to achieve in similar ways that you do. These are men that

00:15:35.120 were, they're courageous. And also those who maybe are not, we're teaching them ways to be.

00:15:39.200 These are men who are motivated and ambitious. Now, the other thing that we have inside the

00:15:43.780 Iron Council is we have the systems. Okay. We mate together on a weekly basis. And then in addition

00:15:49.160 to that, when you join the Iron Council, you're going to be part of what we call the forge.

00:15:54.080 And the forge is where you're going to spend the first 30 to 60 days of your time in the Iron Council.

00:15:59.480 And we do that because we want to get you all of the information, all of the resources,

00:16:03.420 all of the tools, get you up to speed. We have Jay Giardulo and Alan Placer. Those two men are

00:16:09.780 incredibly successful men in their own right. They're doing wonderful things. They've trained,

00:16:14.280 I don't know if it's thousands, but I'll definitely say hundreds of guys at this point

00:16:18.240 coming through the program, probably getting close to thousands at this point.

00:16:22.640 And they have onboarded thousands, hundreds of men into the Iron Council system.

00:16:29.160 And look, if you're like, no, I want to do it my own way. Then maybe the Iron Council is not for you,

00:16:32.380 but your own way got you to where you are today. And if you're satisfied and happy with where you

00:16:35.960 are, that's fine. But if you're not, you might need to do things differently. So you're going to

00:16:40.400 come into the forge and you're going to train with those guys for 30 to 60 days to get you onboarded

00:16:43.740 and ramped up and up to speed. Once that is done, then you have the opportunity to join a battle

00:16:49.220 team. And a battle team is 12 to 15 like-minded men all working together to accomplish their goals.

00:16:55.540 They're holding each other accountable. They're having conversations. They're meeting,

00:16:59.940 like I mentioned earlier, locally and face-to-face. They're looking at their battle plans,

00:17:04.360 which I'll get to in a minute. And they're giving insight and resources and guidance and direction

00:17:10.100 and clarification on battle plans. So those things are locked up and locked in and ready to go.

00:17:14.440 And then they're holding you, your feet to the fire. Joe, you said you wanted to do X, Y, and Z,

00:17:20.360 but you're doing A, B, and C. What gives? Help me understand that. And what can I do to help you

00:17:26.300 get back on the path? That's what a battle team is. And inside of a battle team, you're going to

00:17:30.900 be able to meet and coordinate and talk and communicate. We do that inside of a closed

00:17:34.740 system. So it's not Facebook. It's not Instagram. It's not social media. It's a closed platform that

00:17:42.240 we use for communication. So you'll be able to communicate not only with your battle team,

00:17:47.020 but you'll be able to communicate with all of the men inside the iron council. And the beauty of

00:17:51.000 the platform that we use is we can break that up into groups. And so you can customize and cater

00:17:56.200 your iron council experience to meet your needs and desires. So if you want to be a better father,

00:18:02.460 then you need to join the fatherhood channel. If you're really trying to lock in your fitness,

00:18:06.040 then you need to join the fitness channel. If you want to learn how to shoot firearms or more,

00:18:09.520 know more about firearms, maybe you're a firearm instructor and you want to communicate with other

00:18:13.260 guys who are interested in firearms, join the firearms channel. If you want to learn more

00:18:17.580 about faith and you want to grow your faith and you want to walk with God and you want to do these

00:18:21.120 things, then you join the faith channel. So we have dozens and dozens and dozens of channels

00:18:26.980 for the podcasting channel. So if you want to be podcaster with a finance channel, we have an

00:18:32.620 entrepreneurship channel with a health channel. I think I may have said that one. We have, I believe,

00:18:37.560 a martial arts channel with a cooking channel. We have all these different channels based on what

00:18:41.920 your interests are. And so you can set it up and say, okay, well, I'm interested in cooking,

00:18:45.780 fatherhood and fighting. Boom. Join those channels. Good to go. You're going to find all these other

00:18:50.200 guys who are interested in that as well. That's the beauty of the platform that we use. Now, in

00:18:55.380 addition to that, you're going to get, I talked about it earlier, the systems and a track record of

00:18:59.840 success. You're going to be able to get access to our battle planning system. And our battle planning

00:19:05.320 system is a tool that I've developed and cultivated and refined and modified over almost

00:19:11.720 eight years now. And the whole concept of the battle plan is to work in 90 day segments to help

00:19:16.560 you accomplish more in 90 days than maybe you have all year. Maybe you have in a decade.

00:19:21.500 We're going to help you come up with a vision, casting a vision for what your ideal future looks

00:19:25.120 like. Come up with very, very specific, measurable goals and objectives in each one of four areas of

00:19:32.160 life. And then we're going to help you reverse engineer this process into daily tactics. So now we start

00:19:38.000 with a macro, we work down on the micro, and then on a daily basis, all you have to do is focus on the

00:19:42.720 micro. It's like paying off debt. You don't have to worry about the $50,000 car payment that you have

00:19:47.380 to pay off. You just have to worry about making the $300 car payment today. So we're going to help you

00:19:52.340 with the micro. You don't have to worry about losing a hundred pounds. We're going to help you win

00:19:56.860 today. And if you win today and tomorrow and the next day and the next day and the next day,

00:20:01.400 and maybe you fall off one day, but we get back on the path as quickly as we can,

00:20:04.380 then that a hundred pounds is going to melt away. So we only use the end result as a metric or a,

00:20:10.220 or I should say a North star, if you will, for what we need to do currently in order to achieve

00:20:16.620 those results. And you're going to tap into that battle planning system. Guys, there's so much

00:20:20.460 available in the iron council access to me. I'm very active in their access to other incredibly

00:20:25.440 successful men in different facets and area of life, your battle plan, your battle team,

00:20:31.420 accountability conversations on a, on a, on Friday, we meet every Friday morning at a seven

00:20:38.040 o'clock mountain time AM. And then your teams meet at various times throughout the week. So you'd be

00:20:43.360 able to join a team that works for you, but this is a little bit about the iron council, but more

00:20:48.760 importantly than the iron council is just having a band of brothers, having men in your corner,

00:20:52.440 having like-minded men, courageous, bold, competent men, systems, tools, accountability,

00:20:59.660 processes, a track record of results. This is what you need in your life. This might be what

00:21:04.140 you're missing. In fact, this is what a lot of men are missing. I talked with so many men via email and

00:21:08.960 direct message on the social media platforms that they don't have guys near them. It's hard to find

00:21:14.700 other guys. It's hard to find the time. Even if they do know other guys, there's no system for

00:21:18.680 accountability and processes in here. It's just, it's difficult. It's challenging. And this is the

00:21:23.600 challenge that I was having almost eight years ago, which is why exactly why I started the iron

00:21:28.400 council. And when I did my results improved exponentially. And guess what? I'm not perfect.

00:21:36.480 Even with a band of brothers, I still fall off the wagon at times, but I think if I didn't have a band

00:21:41.480 of brothers, life would be harder. Life would be more challenging. Life would be a bit scarier.

00:21:45.600 I'd be a little bit less than I currently am because I don't have other high caliber,

00:21:51.000 motivated, ambitious, courageous men. And I can introduce you to those guys.

00:21:55.280 If you can't find them where you are, or you want that system and tools and accountability,

00:21:59.580 then join the iron council. We're open for a couple more days. That's it. And then we're

00:22:02.460 closing this thing down until the spring or later in the spring, I should say. Okay. So

00:22:08.000 maybe even the summer now that I say that. So if you want to learn more, head to order a man.com

00:22:13.620 slash iron council, you can watch a very quick video on what it's all about. You can see some

00:22:19.320 testimonials and some features and benefits of the iron council, and then you can band with us.

00:22:23.620 But again, only a couple more days. Wanted to share that with you. If you know of anything else,

00:22:27.780 if you are in the iron council, please share what you know about the iron council, share your

00:22:31.320 testimony and what you think about the iron council. And we'll get after it. I hope to see you

00:22:38.640 inside. We're only open for a couple more days and one way or the other. I hope you find a band of

00:22:42.440 brothers, whether it's with us or somebody else. I hope you do. I need you to, I don't need you to,

00:22:47.780 you need you to. It doesn't matter if I, what I think my, my life is not impacted by what you

00:22:53.700 decide to do, but I would like you to. And I'll tell you why, because I think your life's going to

00:22:57.940 be better if you have other men in your corner. All right, that's it guys. We'll be back next week.

00:23:04.200 Until then go check out the iron council at order a man.com slash iron council. Become the man you

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Order of Man - March 31, 2023

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