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Who's Your "Battle Brother？" ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES


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In this episode, Ryan talks about the importance of a battle brother and how to find one. He also talks about a new project he is working on with Origin Beardoil, a beard oil company based in Maine.

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00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart
00:00:04.980 your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.
00:00:10.460 You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong. This is your life. This is who
00:00:17.220 you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,
00:00:22.780 you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Michler,
00:00:27.680 and I am the host and the founder of the older man podcast and movement. Welcome here and welcome
00:00:32.560 back. Uh, we're kicking off the new year. I hope you guys are on top of it. I hope nothing changed.
00:00:37.960 Actually. I hope you just rolled over the effectiveness and the hard work and tenacity
00:00:42.800 that you exhibited hopefully towards the end of last year. And you just rolled it right into this
00:00:46.940 year. Uh, if not, now's the perfect time to get started. So get after it. Uh, we got a lot to
00:00:52.220 talk about today. I don't want to do too many announcements because what I'm going to share
00:00:55.680 with you is critical, uh, and very important on your path to development and progress and becoming
00:01:01.440 the type of man you have a desire to be in, in 2021. So let me just share a few quick things and
00:01:07.600 then we'll get right into it. Uh, I wanted to mention as I have over the past several weeks that
00:01:12.660 I'm involved in a special project with origin, Maine. You've heard me talk about origin and these
00:01:17.160 guys for two years now, maybe even a little bit more than that. Uh, and we are working together
00:01:23.600 on a special and unique beard oil. Now this is a hundred percent sourced and made in America,
00:01:29.260 even down to the bottle, the packaging, the packaging, it's this really cool cardboard
00:01:34.600 packaging with some very impressive design. You'll see it soon. Uh, was actually just made
00:01:40.240 right down the road here in, in Maine. So a hundred percent made and sourced in America,
00:01:44.680 just like everything they do. Uh, and I've worked with them on formulating, uh, three new sense
00:01:50.640 that I think, uh, you're going to like that. I think it's going to be effective. And that I think
00:01:55.440 are going to help your glorious beard. Uh, primarily the reason that I use beard oil,
00:02:00.040 not only does it look good, but I need to get rid of the itchiness. My face dries out and it gets
00:02:04.700 flaky. And I know if you guys are trying to grow a beard or have a beard, maybe a little shorter than
00:02:08.880 mine, you get to that itchy stage and, uh, the beard oil will solve all of that. So make sure you check
00:02:14.680 it out. Uh, it's not released yet. It will be soon. If you want to be on the advance notice list
00:02:19.960 with some other perks that are going to be available here in the next several weeks, then go to
00:02:24.680 originbeardoil.com originbeardoil.com drop your email in. That's all you need to do for now. And I'll
00:02:31.300 give you your marching orders as we roll the thing out. So originbeardoil.com. All right, guys,
00:02:36.940 let's talk about the conversation today. Uh, as you can see, or probably did see the title of this
00:02:43.120 podcast is who is your battle brother. Uh, so I'm going to explain what a battle brother is.
00:02:48.580 I'm going to explain why it's important. Uh, we're going to talk about what to look for in a battle
00:02:53.440 brother. Uh, where do you find these guys? And then also how do you approach or develop this battle
00:02:59.180 brother relationship? So, uh, I was introduced to the battle brother concept when I was in the military.
00:03:05.740 Uh, I, I joined the army national guard in 98. I believe it was, uh, went to basic training in 99.
00:03:13.120 And when I was there, we learned this concept of the battle buddy, which I don't like that term
00:03:18.460 battle buddy, still the same concept. We call them battle brothers here in the order of man,
00:03:22.860 and specifically our exclusive brotherhood, the iron council. And the, uh, the concept of a battle
00:03:28.400 brother is somebody to hold you accountable, somebody to go through the battle with somebody
00:03:35.340 who's going to make sure you're doing the right things. And you're staying on task and you're staying
00:03:40.660 on point and you are where you need to be. And, and, and has this relationship with you of wanting
00:03:47.260 you to improve and wanting to be held accountable to improve. And I know, as I question and ask the
00:03:54.140 guys in the iron council, which again is our exclusive brotherhood, uh, why they joined the
00:03:59.980 iron council. The primary answer, the number one answer is accountability in some form or another.
00:04:05.380 So if that's the case for the guys that join, I have to assume that's the case for many of you
00:04:10.600 who are simply listening, uh, that you also want accountability in your life. And that if you are
00:04:16.780 to achieve the level of success that you have a desire to achieve, then you're going to need some
00:04:22.160 systems and structures and support and accountability built into place. That is what a battle brother
00:04:27.380 will do. Now, inevitably, when I use the term battle and battle brother and things like this,
00:04:32.660 a lot of people think that maybe it's just hyperbole. Well, it's not, it's not, is life a
00:04:37.600 battle? It's not a battlefield in a literal sense, not for 99.5% of us anyways, but it certainly is a
00:04:47.320 battle. It's a battle against ourselves. It's a battle against the natural man, which I've talked
00:04:52.240 about at length over the past nearly six years. Now it's the lazy, weak, pathetic, cowardly, soft version
00:04:58.940 of ourselves. That's the natural man. And you better believe there's a battle against that guy.
00:05:04.040 That's an internal battle, but we also have external battles. How do we keep ourselves and
00:05:08.760 our families physically safe and out of harm? Uh, how do we ensure that the government does not
00:05:14.020 encroach upon our rights as citizens of this country and citizens around the world? How do we ensure that
00:05:20.400 we are making the type of money that we're going to make or have a desire to make? How do we ensure
00:05:25.940 that, uh, we keep our health in optimal, uh, position so that we're less likely to deal with
00:05:33.460 COVID potentially, or any other disease or illness that anyone may deal with? These are all battles
00:05:40.520 that you have to face. And yeah, you could look at it as hyperbole, or you could decide you're going
00:05:45.540 to take this seriously. And I don't think there's enough of us as men that are taking it seriously.
00:05:51.080 We go through life. So cavalier and so complacent, and we think everybody's going to solve our
00:05:56.080 problems for us. And I see a lot of victim hood going around. What was me? And all these things
00:06:01.260 happen to me. And that's why I am the way I am. And that's why I'm not experiencing the results that
00:06:05.200 I want. And that's all bullshit. It's all bullshit. You are a grown man. You have the capacity and the
00:06:11.820 capability to thrive and to excel in spite of your difficult circumstances. But if you don't take it
00:06:18.720 seriously, then of course you're going to fall short. So I choose to use the word battle,
00:06:26.040 not as some sort of marketing tactic or ploy, not as hyperbole, not to, to make it sound more
00:06:34.260 important than it is, but because that's truly what it is. And so every day I wake up and I arm
00:06:39.360 myself or battle some days more serious than others. Uh, and I have the systems and I have the
00:06:45.420 structures and I have the support and I have a battle brother and multiple battle brothers in
00:06:49.220 place to ensure that I'm capable of dealing with what life will throw at me on any given day.
00:06:55.240 And I know that's what you want to. And this is where a battle brother comes into play.
00:06:59.740 Who's going to hold you accountable. Who's going to hold your feet to the fire. Who's going to tell
00:07:03.640 you the things that need to be told to you, uh, and help you and him thrive. And by the way,
00:07:08.300 this needs to be reciprocal. So as I'm talking about this, here's what I want you to do. I want you to
00:07:12.660 think about whether you write this down or just think about it in your head and an inventory,
00:07:16.420 the men in your life, that could be your father or a brother, a colleague, a coworker, a friend,
00:07:21.800 a teammate, whatever, and ask yourself, does he meet these five criteria? Because if he doesn't
00:07:28.200 meet these five criteria, either he needs to develop into that for you and you potentially
00:07:32.820 need to develop into that for him. Uh, or you need to find somebody else. Who's not a friend,
00:07:37.840 not a buddy, uh, not a father, not a brother, but a battle brother. And when we're talking about
00:07:43.920 that term specifically, these are the five criteria that they need to meet. Number one,
00:07:48.460 is this individual successful, right? You don't want to, you don't want to band with someone who's
00:07:53.780 not successful. And by the way, they might not be successful in every facet of life and they don't
00:07:57.700 need to be, but is this individual successful in the area that you're trying to improve? So if
00:08:02.980 you're trying to dial in your fitness, your battle brother can't be somebody who's a hundred pounds
00:08:07.060 overweight and hasn't got his fat ass off the couch for the last decade, this needs to be somebody
00:08:11.780 who's got that fitness dialed in. Who's got their nutrition on point, who sleeps, who recovers, who,
00:08:17.600 who has the endurance, who trains, who exercises, who moves his body. That's what you're looking for.
00:08:24.120 So if you don't have that individual in certain facets of your life, and by the way, is we're early
00:08:28.820 2021. A lot of you guys are thinking about health goals, financial goals, family goals, et cetera,
00:08:34.680 et cetera. You need to see where the battle brothers fall on a scale from one to 10 in each
00:08:40.920 of these areas. And if they aren't dialed in where you want to be dialed in, could be a great friend,
00:08:45.880 could be a fraud, a father or brother, but certainly not a battle brother. Number one is,
00:08:50.600 are they successful? Number two, is this individual, a truth teller, or is this simply a yes man?
00:08:58.000 Cause I'll tell you what, it feels really good to have people around you who say, yes,
00:09:01.800 you're the best. Oh, you're great. Oh, you're wonderful. Oh, you're awesome.
00:09:05.640 But that doesn't really serve you. That doesn't really help you. In fact, it hinders you because
00:09:09.800 it creates this inflated ego, which is actually a big enemy for you. Okay. So you need somebody
00:09:15.540 who's going to tell you the truth, who isn't afraid to speak the truth. Who isn't afraid to call
00:09:21.640 you on some BS when you need to be called on some BS. It's not comfortable. It's not easy. In fact,
00:09:28.040 you, the natural man, like I alluded to earlier, uh, will likely even maybe subconsciously reject
00:09:37.400 these individuals. You'll call them assholes and you'll call them insensitive and you won't
00:09:42.300 necessarily think they're in your best interest. And so you'll reject these individuals, even if
00:09:46.640 on a subconscious level, what I want you to do is open your mind to the possibility that maybe they
00:09:52.080 aren't an asshole. Maybe they aren't insensitive, but maybe they actually care more deeply about you
00:09:56.680 than the other people who are just running around, stroking your ego and telling you how wonderful
00:10:01.240 you are. Cause that's way easier. It's way easier for you. And it's also easier for the individual
00:10:07.460 because there's no risk in that, right? If I'm talking to you and I'm telling you, everything's
00:10:13.580 wonderful, there's no risk in that for me. But if I tell you, Hey, you know what? You're looking a
00:10:18.980 little chubby around the midsection. Hey, you know what? You bought that car and you probably
00:10:23.180 can't afford that car. Now there's a risk to me, right? I'm going to lose potentially your respect
00:10:29.740 our friendship. So there's a risk, but me telling you those things doesn't mean I don't care about
00:10:36.260 you. It could, but it doesn't automatically intrinsically mean that I care less about you.
00:10:41.880 In fact, if anything, it could signify and indicate that I care more about you, that I'm not worried
00:10:46.900 about your ego, that I'm not worried about you so much feeling good about yourself, but that I'm
00:10:51.380 worried about your success and your livelihood and you thriving and winning. So as difficult and
00:10:57.540 painful and awkward and uncomfortable as it is to have people say, you're not as good as you think
00:11:02.060 you are. That's exactly what you need out of a battle brother. So number two, are they a truth
00:11:07.260 teller? Number one, are they successful? Number three, do they care? Are they caring? Because if they
00:11:14.020 don't care about your success, if they don't care about you, if they don't care about their own success,
00:11:17.560 why would you want to, why would you want to be accountable to this individual?
00:11:21.900 Why would that individual want to be accountable to you? They wouldn't. All right. They're going to
00:11:26.300 be flippant and they're going to be cavalier about your approach and their approach to life. And it
00:11:32.360 isn't going to be conducive to a successful relationship or conducive to your success in
00:11:37.640 general. So does this person care? And look guys, if, if, if you're finding that you have people in
00:11:45.200 your life that you like, and you want to be around, but they don't meet these criteria, I'm not saying
00:11:50.180 you need to get rid of them from your life. It's not what I'm saying at all. What I'm saying is that
00:11:54.200 this is just not a battle brother. It's something else, which is okay. You know, it's okay to have
00:11:59.300 some buddies who, you know, maybe, maybe aren't necessarily interested in this. It's okay to have your
00:12:04.500 family relationships or your, your coworker and caller colleague relationships that aren't in line
00:12:09.100 with this. That's okay. But you need to fill this other position, your battle brother. Number three,
00:12:14.060 do they care about your success and their own has to be both all or nothing. Number four, are they
00:12:20.580 vested? Okay. Do they, so we have, they care about your success. And the next one is, are they vested
00:12:25.680 in your success? Do they have the time, the capacity, the energy, the resources, the ability,
00:12:30.160 the desire, is this somebody who's vested in this? And sometimes you don't know whether
00:12:36.200 or not they are until you get going, but you need to be constantly coming back to this criteria
00:12:41.340 and asking, is this person still vested in my success? Is this person still vested in what
00:12:46.840 we're doing here? You know, I've been part of relationships and masterminds and programs and
00:12:53.240 courses and coaching where that relationship initially met the vested criteria that I'm
00:13:00.480 talking about here. And then it gradually changed. You know, this individual wasn't interested anymore.
00:13:05.660 They were going their own way or what I needed was no longer what they were offering. And so we need
00:13:11.220 to understand that relationships and this dynamic changes over time. It's not like you, you have this
00:13:16.700 one or this handful of individuals, excuse me, who meet these criteria. And then it's, it's that way
00:13:24.720 for, for eternity. Now it's going to change over time as your priorities change and there's change.
00:13:30.280 And so we need to understand that some relationships are just meant for a time and others will last for
00:13:35.620 years and decades. And some maybe potentially will last your entire life, but we're not going to
00:13:41.500 pledge our, our fealty or our, our unwavering loyalty. If these individuals aren't going to continue
00:13:48.600 to meet these criteria and being vested in you and your success and their own, if they're not doing
00:13:54.120 their own work, they're sure as hell not going to help you with yours. Are they vested? So we've got
00:14:00.200 successful, we've got truth teller, we've got caring, we've got vested. And then the last criteria that I
00:14:07.940 want to share with you, and there's more, but I think these are the biggest five is, are they
00:14:11.980 accountable? Are they accountable themselves to themselves? Do they want you to hold them
00:14:18.480 accountable? I told you earlier, I think this needs to be a reciprocal relationship. This can't
00:14:24.380 be a one-way streak unless it's coaching. If it's coaching, that's a little different. If you're paying
00:14:29.980 for a coach or an advisor or consultant counsel, okay, that's different, but that's not a battle
00:14:35.000 brother. I have coaches. I have advisors and I'm not holding them accountable. They're holding me
00:14:41.760 accountable. And that's the relationship. But then I have battle brothers and we're holding each other
00:14:46.260 accountable. You do this. You said you were going to do this by this date. I said I was going to do
00:14:50.340 this by this date. Let's reconvene at that date and make sure that we're on track. I'll shoot somebody
00:14:54.720 a text or they'll shoot me a text. Hey man, how are you doing? Did you go to training today? Are you
00:14:58.760 losing weight? Are you building your bank account? Are you doing whatever it is you said you were
00:15:02.240 going to do? And I get to do the same thing back. Now, if this individual is not interested
00:15:06.880 in being held accountable, probably not battle brother material, coach material, sure. Advisor
00:15:11.400 material, but not somebody who's going to walk shoulder to shoulder with you through the battle
00:15:15.800 of life. And that's what we're looking for in a battle brother. So we've got successful. We've
00:15:20.380 got truth teller. We've got caring. We've got vested. And then we've got somebody who's also
00:15:24.340 accountable. So now the question is, where do you find these individuals? Right? You guys are on
00:15:28.900 board with this. You realize, okay, life's a battle. I get that. I realized that we're going
00:15:32.780 to be significantly more effective if we do this shoulder to shoulder. I get that. I'm looking for
00:15:37.420 these individuals who have these five criteria and characteristics. I get that. Now, where the hell
00:15:41.680 do I find these guys? And isn't this the million dollar question? Because as I started the iron
00:15:47.540 council, which I've talked about a little bit here today, the reason I started that is because it was
00:15:52.780 very difficult for me to find the kind of men that I'm talking about today in my, in my area.
00:15:58.880 Now, granted, I wasn't as active and proactive as I could have been, but it was a challenge for me to
00:16:05.500 find these guys. So I created it. And that's what the iron council is. You can join us. You're going
00:16:10.600 to find battle brothers there. In fact, we have all of these systems and processes built into place.
00:16:15.340 And if you're interested in learning more about that, you can go to order of man.com slash iron
00:16:20.860 council, order of man.com slash iron council. You can learn more. We've got a lot of value over
00:16:26.020 there, but if you're not interested in that for whatever reason, okay, that's fine. Just make
00:16:30.820 sure that you find a battle brother outside of this. So where do you go? You go where successful
00:16:35.820 people go. That's it. Actually, let me back up before you get to that point. I would inventory
00:16:42.800 people in your life. There's already men in your life who could potentially fill this role and you
00:16:48.400 could fill the role for that individual, but you're not thinking about it on that level, right?
00:16:53.080 You're thinking, oh, that's a buddy. That's a guy I go to the games with or go to the bar with,
00:16:56.200 or that's the guy that, you know, we do that thing together on. Okay. That that's fine. But you need
00:17:01.260 to start thinking about how you can elevate this relationship to that of a battle brother, not just
00:17:06.180 a buddy or a friend or somebody you, you know, drink with on Friday night. Okay. You want a battle
00:17:11.360 brother. So inventory, the people in your life who currently could potentially fill that role and
00:17:18.960 ask yourself, does this individual meet the criteria? If they do good, we'll move to the
00:17:24.080 next step here in a minute. If they don't, then that's okay. Keep the relationship the way it is.
00:17:30.340 If you feel, if you have that desire, but it's time to look somewhere else for the battle brother.
00:17:34.840 So the next step I would say is then you go to where people are successful and where the successful
00:17:40.520 people go, they go to the gym, they train, they lift weights, they move their bodies, they hike,
00:17:47.240 they explore, they adventure, they go outside, they have hobbies, they shoot archery or firearms.
00:17:53.240 They, they have desires and ambitions and they're learning. They go to conferences. They attend these
00:17:59.700 conferences. They go to courses, meetings, business luncheons. This is where successful people go.
00:18:06.620 So I'm not going to spell it all out for you, but, but you know, right, if you're
00:18:10.480 looking for somebody who's successful in business, where would you go? Well, you could try chamber of
00:18:15.440 commerce. You could try BNI. In fact, I had Dr. Ivan Meisner on the podcast several months ago. He's
00:18:22.140 the founder of BNI. I was part of that organization for roughly six years. And I banded with a lot of
00:18:27.860 successful people. In fact, I made business partners from, from those meetings. So you got to go where the
00:18:33.820 successful people are. Ask yourself, what is it that I want next? Where do people who are experiencing
00:18:38.940 those results congregate? Do they go to conferences? Do they go to courses? Do they go hiking or hunting
00:18:46.000 or what, what, what is it? And you can even find these people in Facebook groups. You can find these
00:18:52.600 people in the iron council. You start figuring out where they are and insert yourself into the
00:18:58.220 conversation and the experiences that are already happening. You're going to start identifying men
00:19:03.320 who could potentially walk shoulder to shoulder into this battle, into the fray with you. So go where
00:19:08.880 they are inventory, your current circle, and then go where the successful people are. You're, you're,
00:19:16.300 you're going to find these individuals. They're going to be there, but you have to exert yourself.
00:19:20.220 You can't say, I don't know. I don't know. It's hard. I don't know where they are. I don't have
00:19:24.200 anybody. Come on, exert yourself. You want 2021 to be successful. Exert yourself, put yourself out
00:19:31.220 there, be uncomfortable so you can find these people. All right. And the last thing I wanted
00:19:35.180 to talk with you about today. So we've gone through the concept of a battle brother. We've talked about
00:19:40.200 whether life is a battle or not. We've talked about what to look for in a battle brother. We've talked
00:19:45.960 about where do you go to find these guys now? How do you approach them? All right. This,
00:19:50.020 this is awkward, right? Cause if you just go up to these guys and say, Hey, uh, Hey, Hey John,
00:19:54.960 um, you know, uh, I I've known you for about a month and I was thinking, wanted to ask if you'd
00:19:59.960 be my battle brother, what the hell are you talking about? Right? Like if John doesn't listen to this
00:20:05.460 podcast, he probably has no idea what you're talking about. So this is awkward. This is
00:20:09.700 uncomfortable. So how do you find these guys? And then how do you, how do you approach them
00:20:14.240 to become a battle brother? It's gradual guys. It's gradual. Um, I've, I've got friends. I met,
00:20:20.460 for example, at the CrossFit gym and, uh, you know, I'd say, Hey, or whatever, when I came to the gym
00:20:25.860 and over a period of months, we got to know each other, asked about the family, asked about their
00:20:29.900 goals and their desires and ambitions. We started working out together. Uh, I think it probably had,
00:20:35.380 you know, a UFC fight night or a golf foursome. And we got together and I had a space and I said,
00:20:40.380 Hey man, do you want to come over and, uh, watch the fights with us? Uh, or, you know,
00:20:45.480 do you want to go golfing with us? And so it gradually morphed and evolved into this relationship.
00:20:50.740 And then I, and then he, he had children, a son about my son's, my oldest son's age. I'm like,
00:20:55.500 Hey man, let's go camping. And we went camping. And as we did this, we would start talking more and more
00:21:01.140 about what are your goals? What are your desires? What are your ambitions? What's holding you back?
00:21:06.080 What's keeping you from achieving that? So it isn't this thing where you're like, Hey,
00:21:09.960 will you, will you be my battle brother? That's awkward. That's weird. It doesn't work,
00:21:14.660 but you're having the conversations of a battle brother. What are your goals? What are your
00:21:19.480 desires? What are your fears? What are you, what are you afraid of? What's holding you back?
00:21:24.120 What's keeping you from success? Is there something I can do for you? Do you need some accountability?
00:21:29.520 Hey, let's do this thing together. You said you're interested in learning archery. Well,
00:21:33.340 so am I, let's do it together and hold each other accountable to it. Hey, uh, you know,
00:21:37.420 order of man has these battle planners. We've been talking a lot about goals and order of man has
00:21:41.400 these battle planners. And I was thinking as we're starting 2021, I was going to buy one.
00:21:45.320 And I actually bought two of them. Uh, and I'd like to give you one, maybe we can do this thing
00:21:49.600 together and see if we can achieve some results, walking shoulder to shoulder instead of, you know,
00:21:53.980 individually. It's not that threatening guys. If you do it, if you do it in, in stride, right?
00:22:03.140 It's, it's not this big, awkward, like you're asking somebody for a date or asking a dude to
00:22:07.560 marry you. Okay. It's, it's asking questions. Now you're going to find out pretty shortly
00:22:12.380 whether or not you resonate with this guy and whether he clicks or not, because if you start
00:22:16.820 asking about goals and desires and ambitions and fears and failures, and the guy's clearly not
00:22:22.160 interested in talking about this. Cool. Maybe he's just your golf buddy. And that's the extent of
00:22:26.160 the relationship. And that's fine. And I've had guys like that, you know, we don't, we don't click.
00:22:30.680 He's not interested in what I'm interested in. He's not interested in developing in the same way
00:22:34.040 that I am. And so that's fine. That's fine. But then through a series of these types of questions
00:22:39.140 and more, uh, I've, I've articulated and identified and developed real relationships that, uh, that,
00:22:45.880 that fit this battle brother criteria. So guys, I want you to think about that as we continue to
00:22:51.680 roll into 2021, it's important. You know, I think somewhere along the way we bought into this idea
00:22:57.680 of the lone wolf thing for men, you know, and you look at guys like the Marlboro men and John Wayne
00:23:04.100 and John wick and Jason Bourne. And, you know, you look at these guys and they're, they're portrayed
00:23:14.140 as the epitome of masculinity. And what do all of them have in common? James Bond. They all work alone.
00:23:19.860 They all work individually. And, and that's not the best way to do it. You could get there on your
00:23:26.160 own. I think, I mean, you're going to need to have some help along the way, but you can get there
00:23:29.820 without a battle brother. It's just not an efficient way to do it. And a lot of guys will say, oh, well,
00:23:34.320 you can't rely and trust people. Well, that sounds like somebody who's hurt or wounded or has been
00:23:42.200 deceived in the past. And maybe that's just an isolated incident because I've got plenty of
00:23:46.460 individuals in my life who, who lead me, who coach me, who instruct me, who guide me, who walk
00:23:52.280 shoulder to shoulder as a battle. But I've got plenty of those guys in my life because I actively
00:23:57.200 have gone out and done it. And we, as, as humans and as men have banded together for as long as we've
00:24:03.240 been walking this planet in, in tribes, in groups, in what Jack Donovan would call gangs. And I don't
00:24:12.160 care what term you use, but we've been walking together. And as, as the proverb goes, I believe
00:24:20.180 it's Proverbs 27, 17 or 17, 27. I can't remember right off hand. A lot of you guys would know iron
00:24:25.940 sharpens iron. You want to be strong. You want to be financially successful. You want to win. You want
00:24:31.520 to thrive in life as a man. You need somebody to sharpen yourself against. And by the way, somebody
00:24:37.500 needs to sharpen themselves against you. So ask yourself, are you this kind of individual?
00:24:43.400 That's a good strategy. How do you find a battle brother become battle brother material? Not that a
00:24:50.000 battle brother will find you, but that you'll actually be in the position to, to, to be that
00:24:54.120 kind of individual for somebody else. It's the same thing when it comes to relationships with women. 1.00
00:24:58.280 How do you find a high quality women? You become a high quality man. That's not the only step. 0.97
00:25:04.360 There's other steps that you have to engage in, but that's a pretty good start. So ask yourself,
00:25:09.380 are you this individual? And then you can apply these five steps. Let's go through it real quick.
00:25:14.220 The concept of the battle brother is somebody to walk shoulder to shoulder during the battle with
00:25:17.940 you. The battle is life against the natural man. You, the weaker, lazier, more pathetic version of
00:25:22.980 yourself against the challenges that will inevitably face against internal and external factors.
00:25:29.360 What to look for is somebody who's successful, somebody who's a truth teller,
00:25:33.600 somebody who's caring, somebody who's invested in your and their success. And somebody who's
00:25:38.880 willing to be held accountable themselves. Where do you find them? Look to your immediate circle
00:25:43.880 and then turn outwards and go where the successful people go. By the way, let me know where you find
00:25:47.780 those individuals. Cause that'd be good. Cause then I can direct other men there. And then the last
00:25:51.980 is how do you approach these guys gradually, slowly, organically don't force it. Cause then it's just
00:25:57.280 weird and awkward. You won't do it. That's it guys. Find a battle brother, develop a battle brother,
00:26:02.920 become a battle brother yourself. If you're interested in joining the iron council and
00:26:06.660 tapping into the battle brothers there, I believe we're at almost 800 or so guys now, which is crazy
00:26:12.900 to think of 800 battle brothers, all doing the same thing, walking in the same way, in the same
00:26:18.220 direction, in the same paths, holding each other accountable. It's a very powerful thing. You can
00:26:22.700 check that out at order of man.com slash iron council. All right, guys, that's all I've got.
00:26:27.580 I'll be back tomorrow with Kip for our ask me anything. We'll be fielding questions from Instagram
00:26:33.080 this time, which I don't think we've done in the past. So if you want to ask a question of
00:26:37.420 me and Kip, then head to my Instagram account, uh, Instagram.com slash Ryan Mickler, or more
00:26:45.080 accurately just at Ryan Mickler. I don't know why I gave you the website just at Ryan Mickler.
00:26:49.400 You'll find me ask your question on the post I made, uh, yesterday. And, uh, I'll field those
00:26:55.060 questions along with Kip. All right, guys, get yourself a battle brother, become a battle brother,
00:26:59.160 go out there, take action, become a man. You are meant to be. Thank you for listening to the order
00:27:03.580 of man podcast. You're ready to take charge of your life and be more of the man you were meant to be.
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