Order of Man - Why Are Men So Lonely？｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest, embrace your fears, and boldly chart

00:00:04.940 your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time, every time.

00:00:10.300 You are not easily deterred or defeated, rugged, resilient, strong. This is your life. This is who

00:00:17.000 you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,

00:00:22.500 you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Brian Michler.

00:00:27.220 I'm the host and the founder of the Order of Man podcast and movement. Hopefully,

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00:00:50.500 and our message out there in a more credible, relevant, interesting, positive way.

00:00:56.780 So hopefully that's the case. We'll continue to improve. Guys, if you're new to the podcast and

00:01:01.900 what we're doing here, we've been going for eight years strong. This is a podcast dedicated to helping

00:01:06.260 you become a better man, a better husband, father, business owner, community leader, just man in

00:01:11.480 general. And all of us have had our struggles. I've had my fair share of struggles specifically over the

00:01:16.180 past six to eight months, but we're all on the path. We're all on the journey. And it's my goal to

00:01:20.620 give you information via this podcast with interviews from incredible, incredible men

00:01:25.400 like David Goggins, Dan Crenshaw, Jocko Willing, Terry Cruz, Tim Kennedy, Tim Tebow, and the list goes

00:01:32.020 on and on so that you can improve in your life the way that you see fit and relevant. I've got a really

00:01:38.240 important one for you today. And we're going to talk about male loneliness because this is becoming

00:01:44.260 an epidemic. This is a real problem. On an anecdotal level, I talk with men every single day

00:01:51.520 who are lonely, they're isolated, they're depressed, some are even suicidal, and they're

00:01:59.740 just kind of down in the dumps. And on a more rigorous or at least researched level, the studies

00:02:09.220 and the data suggest that men who are isolated and who are lonely are committing suicide, have higher

00:02:16.220 higher levels of depression, anxiety, and overall performance at work and at home and a level of

00:02:25.160 satisfaction and fulfillment in their lives. So I don't need to sell you on why it's important that

00:02:31.800 we'd be around other men. I don't think I need to do that. There might be some of you who may feel

00:02:37.640 like you can do it alone. We're going to talk about that. But ultimately, at the end of the day,

00:02:42.020 you need other men in your corner. You really do. You may not need it when things are going well,

00:02:47.680 but when things are going poorly and things are going hard and challenging for you, you've got to

00:02:52.900 have guys in your corner. And that means building it out now, even if things are going well in your

00:02:57.560 life. So today I thought I'd talk with you about three things that contribute to the isolation that

00:03:03.960 men have, because if we can figure out what contributes to it, then maybe we can do something

00:03:08.120 about it. And then number two, we can talk about five strategies that will help you overcome the

00:03:14.520 isolation, the loneliness, the, that you may be experiencing. So let's get right into it. Number

00:03:20.080 one is this myth of the lone wolf. Like somewhere along the way, men started to buy into the idea that

00:03:26.680 it's better or more alpha or more omega. It's like these Greek words that people use that men use to

00:03:35.120 describe themselves. Like, I don't buy into that necessarily, but you hear that all the time.

00:03:39.340 Like, I don't, I don't need that. I don't need any of that. I'm an alpha. I don't know why we've

00:03:45.920 bought into this other than Hollywood has told you that the Marlboro men, Jason Bourne, James Bond,

00:03:52.480 all of these guys that we look at as these quintessential icons of masculinity, they didn't work

00:04:00.080 well with others. They didn't need the help of other people. They always did it on their own.

00:04:05.520 And they always got the women, they got the money and they got the success. And I think that's a big

00:04:10.600 part of the problem is that we look on the silver screen and we look at TV and we see the guys who

00:04:16.000 are like, man, I want to be like that guy. I want to bed that many women like James Bond does, 1.00

00:04:19.680 or I want to have that skillset like Jason Bourne does. We're going to be that cool. Like the Marlboro

00:04:23.920 man was. And we think, well, in order to do that, I've got to be alone. I've got to handle this

00:04:29.640 on my own. I've got to man up, so to speak. And I don't take issue necessarily with that term,

00:04:34.940 unless the underlying root of it is that you need to go at it alone, that you need to struggle,

00:04:40.820 that you need to suffer, that you need to be miserable, that you need to be anxious,

00:04:43.380 that you need to be depressed, that you need to be suicidal. You don't need to be those things.

00:04:48.060 You need to be edified. You need to be uplifted. You need to be fulfilled. You need to be spoken

00:04:52.100 into. You need to be called up. And for that to happen, you need to have other noble, righteous,

00:04:57.720 honorable, capable men, successful men in their own rights in your corner, advocating for you. 0.97

00:05:03.320 That doesn't mean rubbing your balls, making you feel good about every decision that you make.

00:05:06.760 And it also doesn't mean that they're going to beat you down to a pulp because you happen to make 0.99

00:05:10.060 a mistake. No, these advocates are going to step up when they need to, when you need it. And these

00:05:16.760 advocates are also going to put their arm around you and say, Hey bro, it's okay. I got you.

00:05:21.020 When you need it. That's what we need. You can't do it alone, guys. You don't need to do it alone.

00:05:28.060 You're not supposed to do it alone. I don't know why we think this is less manly. For thousands and

00:05:32.600 thousands of years, men have been operating in tribes and packs and bands and brotherhoods and

00:05:36.660 gangs. And it's worked. It makes us stronger. It makes us better. I'm coaching two of my son's

00:05:42.440 baseball teams right now. They're better as a team. They work together. They don't want to let each

00:05:47.120 other down. They call each other. They even give each other a hard time or tease each other or even

00:05:51.920 give each other demeaning nicknames. Now I know much of society and even women be like, Oh, I can't 1.00

00:05:56.320 believe they're doing that. That's because they don't understand the way of men. Just because I

00:06:00.680 give you a nickname that is somewhat demeaning doesn't mean I don't like you. It actually means

00:06:04.240 I do like you. And that leads me into point. Number two is that we live in a world that has been

00:06:08.560 overly feminized. That if a man confronts another man, a woman looks at it and is like, Oh, we don't want 0.99

00:06:15.300 that. We can't have that happen. Or society in general thinks that we're just pushing guys around

00:06:20.760 and we're diminishing and dismissing each other. No, we're building camaraderie. We're calling each

00:06:24.420 other up. We're poking at each other's vulnerabilities so that we can improve and get

00:06:28.240 better. Even that word vulnerability has been bastardized. Be vulnerable, be vulnerable, be

00:06:33.320 vulnerable. I don't want to be vulnerable. Okay. Vulnerability represents weakness. It's something

00:06:38.780 that can be exploited. It's something that can be taken advantage of. I want to be honest.

00:06:43.140 I want to be open in my communication about what's really going on in my life, but I don't

00:06:47.300 want to be seen as weak. And so women and even men who have bought into the ideas of women's 0.97

00:06:54.840 connection, which is different than the way men communicate and connect, by the way,

00:06:59.680 we'll take that word vulnerability. Just be vulnerable. Just be vulnerable. Why,

00:07:02.620 why should I just like spew all of my baggage onto you? Some will say that's not what vulnerability

00:07:08.280 is. No, that's exactly what vulnerability is. Humility, honesty, on the other hand,

00:07:14.760 is finding somebody that you can confide in, trust, somebody that you can work closely with,

00:07:21.640 somebody who shares their struggles with you, their pain and their toil and their struggles,

00:07:25.940 somebody you can do the same with, somebody who's successful and will call BS when you need it to be

00:07:30.120 called. We're not going to feminize this. If we do, it's not going to work. And so if we're, 0.88

00:07:34.940 look, ladies, I love you. I love you to death, but don't you dare for a second,

00:07:39.220 tell me how I need to communicate and work with another man with regards to my son's baseball

00:07:43.480 teams. I know that there's ladies, there's moms in there that probably cringe at some of the things 1.00

00:07:47.040 I say and do, but you're not a man and you're not a boy and you'll never understand it. That is not

00:07:51.900 an indictment against you. It just means you'll never understand it because you're not a man.

00:07:57.420 You're not a boy. And so let the men do what men do. Let's stop feminizing every aspect of our 0.97

00:08:04.460 culture. Let's embrace masculinity. Let's celebrate and honor the honorable, capable,

00:08:10.320 bold, righteous men who are doing good on in their own right and then want to turn around and lend a

00:08:16.420 helping hand to somebody in their corner or a son or a young man in their community and let the men

00:08:22.460 do what men do. I have a lot of single women who will reach out to me because they're raising sons 1.00

00:08:27.080 and ladies, I love you. I commend you. My mom raised me and my sister primarily on her own.

00:08:30.920 She did a wonderful job. She's a beautiful, lovely woman, but there was something missing.

00:08:35.920 And again, that's not an indictment on her. It's just, there was something missing. And you know,

00:08:40.440 who filled that for me? Coaches, men, coaches who were never easy on me, who never were light on me,

00:08:47.760 who would yell at me at times, who would have just the total look of disgust or, or even just

00:08:56.220 disappointment. And I could see it. And I didn't want to disappoint those men. And I wanted to perform

00:09:03.580 and I wanted to exceed. And I wanted to excel partly for my own sake and my team, but also for

00:09:10.280 those men, men do it differently. We need to honor that. And the women need to step back from that role 1.00

00:09:17.240 a little bit. And society needs to step back from that role. I saw an interesting video. It looked like

00:09:22.780 a, a young family, a husband and a wife with a young child, maybe two, three years old was at a

00:09:27.660 table and the boy, it was a boy, uh, fell off the chair and the boy was in the middle between the mom

00:09:33.040 and what I assume was the mom and the dad. And he fell off the chair and clearly he was fine. I mean,

00:09:38.520 the boy wasn't injured. He just fell off and lost his balance and he was fine. And the mom rushed over

00:09:43.320 and the dad said, stop. You put his hand up. You could see, he's like, there's no audio on the video,

00:09:48.760 but he's like, stop. Like let him get up. And he taps the chair for the boy to climb back up.

00:09:52.940 And the boy starts climbing back up in the chair and the mom goes over to help him. He's like, no,

00:09:56.500 he pushes it away. He's like, let the boy do it. And that's the difference. Ladies. I'm not telling 1.00

00:10:02.020 you you're wrong at all. You're right. Nurturing, loving empathy, kindness, compassion, emotion,

00:10:08.380 like beautiful. I love it. It's crucial. And also solves the role of men. And so guys,

00:10:14.000 we need to find men in our corner and we need to stop over feminizing every aspect of our culture 0.90

00:10:18.240 and allow us to be men. Third, a lot. And I don't, I don't agree with this one, but I bring it up

00:10:24.620 because it is something that gets brought up quite often. And that is that there tends to be this

00:10:30.140 idea that there's a lack of candidates when it comes to finding other high caliber men who are in

00:10:36.160 your corner. And I put it on here because a lot of guys say that this is not, it's not true.

00:10:41.380 It 100% is not true. I haven't found that to be the case. I have neighbors within 50 yards of my

00:10:50.020 house who are incredible men who I've gone to lunch with and spent time with and broken bread with

00:10:55.200 and had conversations about what goes well and what doesn't go well fit within 50 yards of my house.

00:11:00.880 There's like four of them on this podcast at events. And some might say, well, you know,

00:11:06.500 that's easy for you to say, Ryan, cause you have the podcast and you go to events. You can go to

00:11:09.560 events. You can go to chamber of commerce. You can go to business luncheons. You can go to

00:11:13.920 the gym. You can go to jujitsu. You can go to wherever these guys are. Like there's nothing

00:11:19.800 prohibiting you from doing that. So I can't help, but believe that the guys who say, oh,

00:11:24.460 there's no candidates in my area just aren't really trying either as hard as they should be

00:11:29.180 or as intelligently as they should be. And I'll get into that in a minute, but get over the idea

00:11:35.280 that there's nobody in your area who's thinks like you, uh, or wants to be successful. Like

00:11:41.760 you, you're not an Island and you're not all that special. And I say that with all the love of my

00:11:45.880 heart. Cause I'm directing that at myself too. I'm not all that special. Sometimes I act as if I am

00:11:51.440 like I'm better than other people, or I have something figured out that others don't. I don't,

00:11:55.260 I'm not better than anybody else. I'm not an Island and I'm not isolated.

00:11:59.060 There are people within, like I said, 50 yards of me who are more wealthy, who are more connected,

00:12:06.840 who are better family men, who are better fathers, who are better husbands, who are better people

00:12:10.400 than I ever probably could be. So for us to say, oh, there's no good man. There's no guy I can

00:12:16.760 connect with. That's just not true. There is. We just have to be deliberate and intentional about

00:12:22.000 it. Okay. So we've talked about the issues as to why it's important that men find other men to

00:12:28.820 bandwidth. We've talked about why men don't band with other men. Let's talk about five strategies.

00:12:35.320 If you are interested in figuring out how I can connect with this band of brothers and build this

00:12:39.300 out, what can I do? Number one, you have to be an initiator, right? Nobody's going to come to you.

00:12:44.700 I told you there's guys within 50 yards of me, 50, a hundred yards of me. These guys aren't going to

00:12:49.180 come to me and I don't expect them to. It's not their job. Would it be nice? Sure. Would I appreciate it?

00:12:56.360 Absolutely. But that's not how the world works. And it's not their job. If I'm interested in

00:13:02.420 connecting with these people for them to come to me and create the pathway to connection,

00:13:06.980 guess whose job that is. That's my job. And so I have to look for ways and reasons to connect with.

00:13:14.380 If you're new to an area, the perfect reason is I'm new to the area and it takes balls to do that.

00:13:19.780 But if you want a band of brothers, this is what you'll do. So you knock on all the doors.

00:13:24.300 Hey, my name's Joe. Just moved here a couple of weeks ago. Wanted to introduce myself to the

00:13:30.400 neighbors, see what's going on. How's everything going? And let the conversation go from there.

00:13:36.920 If you see a neighbor that needs some help, maybe they're pulling weeds or they're mowing their lawn

00:13:41.540 or weed whacking or whatever. I remember this when we moved to Maine, our neighbor across the street,

00:13:46.840 just North of us, I was out weed whacking this pretty steep slope of our yard. And I was weed

00:13:53.460 whacking it with a weed whacker. And this guy comes over, his name's John. He was our neighbor.

00:13:57.980 I didn't know him at the time he comes over and he didn't come over and say, Hey, can I help? What

00:14:01.780 can I do to help? No, he came over with his weed whacker, fired up, ready to go. And he just got

00:14:08.360 after it. And I looked at him and he looked at me and he just nodded his head and just kept going.

00:14:15.120 We didn't even talk. We talked when it was done, but that was it. He just nodded. And I knew what

00:14:21.360 that meant. Like I'm here to help you. I'm here to support you. And I nodded back, which means, Hey,

00:14:26.000 I accept the help. I accept the support. And then we had a great conversation. We built a pretty good

00:14:30.820 relationship over three to four years of being out there. That's a man who initiates. He doesn't ask

00:14:36.700 for permission. He doesn't ask how he can help. He doesn't ask like what ways that he can connect.

00:14:41.400 He just finds a way to do it. And then he does it. And that's how we need to be. How can you connect

00:14:48.480 with the men in your neighborhood by knocking on their door? Maybe you're going to have a UFC fight

00:14:53.780 night this weekend. I think there's fights this weekend. So you're going to have a UFC fight night

00:14:57.400 this weekend, ring the dang doorbell and invite those guys over, call a handful of buddies, invite

00:15:03.760 them over, go to the grocery store and spend a hundred bucks, maybe 150. Now with inflation,

00:15:08.760 spend 150 bucks and, and you know, charcuterie board. Like I don't even know if I'm pronouncing that

00:15:14.840 right. And I can't make it as beautiful as I know a lot of women listening to this can,

00:15:17.680 but you can get meat and cheese and crackers and chips and salsa. I wouldn't do vegetables,

00:15:22.780 but you can, if you want, if that's your thing, that's easy. Cost you 150 bucks. Cost you half an

00:15:29.080 hour worth of making phone calls. And then the rest is you enjoy fights with friends. What a powerful

00:15:36.220 way to do that. Jump online right now and say, Hey, you know, I'm into hiking or I'm into jujitsu.

00:15:40.720 I'm into shooting. I'm into painting. I'm into this. I'm into that. I watched a,

00:15:46.540 a Bob Ross documentary about a month or two ago and him and his team would conduct art classes

00:15:54.800 around the country in certain communities. Those things are still exist. Now, Bob Ross is no longer

00:16:00.840 with us to our detriment, but there's other people. If you're into painting, just type in painting in

00:16:06.960 your hometown and you're going to find courses and classes and programs available. You like to cook,

00:16:11.600 do that. You like to sew, do that. You like to hunt, do that. You like to fish, do that. You like

00:16:16.980 to shoot firearms, do that. Like there there's things available is what I'm saying. There are 0.76

00:16:21.540 things available. Go find them and initiate. Number two, you've got to do the right activities.

00:16:28.540 Again, I already talked about this. We live in an overly feminized world. And so men aren't about 0.51

00:16:33.200 to sit together and, you know, crochet a baby blankets for each other. Like that's just not

00:16:39.760 something that's going to happen. I know that's an extreme example, but I think you get the point.

00:16:44.100 We're not just going to sit there and talk. Are you interested in that? I'm not interested in that.

00:16:50.840 Like, we're not going to sit there and, you know, hold hands and sing kumbaya to each other to try to

00:16:56.040 make each other feel good about our poor decisions. Like I'm not into that. I'm repulsed by that.

00:17:01.860 You know what I do like though? Fight nights. You know what I do like? Going shooting,

00:17:06.040 training jujitsu, going to the gym. And it doesn't even have to be those so-called like

00:17:11.660 manly activities. It could be painting, but as long as it's a directed and focused task,

00:17:16.040 the whole issue, the whole goal is not to talk. That's the point I'm making. Like we're not getting

00:17:22.380 together to talk. We're getting together to harness our collective energy and capability towards an

00:17:29.960 outcome. And in the meantime, we're going to learn about each other. This is why men connect so well

00:17:35.660 in war. It's really not about you as an individual or the guy standing next to you. It isn't as an

00:17:41.960 individual. What is it about? It's about the mission and you're banded over the mission and

00:17:47.460 through that mission and through the challenge and hardship and adversity and headache and struggle

00:17:51.160 and death and toil, you learn about each other and you serve each other. This is how men communicate.

00:17:58.320 I'm not going to sit around talking to my neighbors about how many kids do you have and what are their

00:18:04.200 hobbies and activities and interests? And what are your biggest concerns with your kid? Like,

00:18:09.400 this is just not what we do. Like that's so draining to me because that's not how we show up.

00:18:16.960 Now, some of you might, if it works great, I'm just saying generally, I'd rather go shooting with

00:18:21.860 a buddy. And in the meantime, I can dabble those questions in. Hey man, what's going on? Like you

00:18:25.760 seem down. Everything good. Yeah. You know, me and my wife, we're having a struggle right now. It's

00:18:30.720 been hard, but yeah. And then you shoot it for a few more rounds. So like, what are you and your 0.55

00:18:34.840 wife struggling with? Oh, you know, we got into an argument last night because she thinks I buy 0.99

00:18:38.920 too many guns and we're not able to pay off debt, whatever. I'm just making something up. But you

00:18:43.500 see what I'm saying? Like you connect in the activity, in the mission, the exploration process

00:18:49.960 happens as you're working collectively against a common enemy or towards a common pursuit.

00:18:58.200 Uh, so it's gotta be the right activities. Number three is that you, this is a quick little

00:19:05.160 pro tip right here. Always save one spot, always save one spot. And what I mean by that is that

00:19:11.480 if you're going golfing this weekend, for example, you want to go golfing Saturday morning, eight,

00:19:17.420 nine o'clock, you you've scheduled a foursome. You need to invite two friends. So there's you

00:19:23.120 and then two other friends. So that makes three. And then you always have to save one spot and you

00:19:29.100 save one spot for somebody that you've wanted to connect with, but you haven't been able to do that

00:19:34.700 yet. Maybe it's somebody in your neighborhood. Uh, maybe it's somebody you admire for business.

00:19:40.240 Maybe it's somebody you're connected with on social media who happens to be in your area,

00:19:43.660 but you always save one spot. Golfing is a great example. Hunting for me is a great example.

00:19:49.140 I might have a hunt come up. In fact, I do in the fall. I've got four or five hunts this year,

00:19:53.920 but I have one coming up in the fall where we have six spots available. Four of those I can

00:19:58.660 connect with friends. So four and then me, that's five, that six spot that's reserved for somebody

00:20:05.140 hunting as an, uh, excuse me. I just said hunting, but Hawaii, we've got Hawaii coming up next month.

00:20:11.200 I think we had six spots available. It's me and four close friends. One of those is my son. So

00:20:19.980 closer than a friend. Uh, and then two other spots, one for two other guys that some friends

00:20:25.920 and I have wanted to connect with Eric Chester, uh, with, um, hush and also Seth Studley with

00:20:33.180 anatomy of marriage. Two guys we've kind of know dancing around on the fringes a little bit. We know

00:20:38.500 them. We connect with them. If we call, they'd answer, we'd have conversations, but we want to

00:20:42.120 get to know better. So we always save those spots for somebody we want to invite into the circle.

00:20:47.240 And that doesn't mean they're there forever. It just means, Hey, I want to get to know you more.

00:20:50.300 I want to connect more with you. I want to learn more about you. Maybe this develops into a deeper

00:20:53.640 friendship. Maybe not, but here's a good way to do it. So always save one spot. Uh, number four,

00:20:59.560 you should always, always be in the networking mood or mindset. I should say always in that networking

00:21:05.520 mindset. I had a guy asked me cause we're talking about this in our exclusive brotherhood, the iron

00:21:09.680 council, which is closed right now. But if you want to learn more about it, go to order a man.com

00:21:14.860 slash iron council. Regardless, he was asking about the percentage of time that he should spend

00:21:21.280 networking. And the answer to that is 100% of the time there's no, Hey, 20% of your time should be

00:21:27.460 spent networking or two hours per day should be spent networking. No, every day, all day, you should be

00:21:34.000 looking at forming connections. Now that sounds exhausting to somebody who's never done it.

00:21:38.620 And it also sounds exhausting. If you have a motive, if your motive is I need to be finding

00:21:44.480 guys who can serve me and I can get the most out of, and I can learn things from them and I can just

00:21:48.800 extract a value that's going to be exhausting. If on the other hand, you approach networking with the

00:21:54.720 heart of service, I want to add value to these people's lives. I want to be well connected so I can

00:21:59.420 introduce people to each other. I want to help each other out. If you approach it that way,

00:22:04.380 it's not exhausting at all. In fact, if anything, it's energizing because you're the one making the

00:22:08.960 connections, you're the one serving, you're the one adding value. You're the one creating solutions

00:22:12.640 to people's problems by formulating these connections. That's a cool thing. It's a really

00:22:17.740 cool thing. It's a very fulfilling thing. And you may never get anything out of return in return for

00:22:22.460 the work that you do. That's not why you do it. Again, if you're doing it to get something out of it,

00:22:27.880 it's exhausting. But if you're doing it purely because it's the right thing to do and because

00:22:31.500 you want to be of service, it's not exhausting at all. So go out there, network, connect, find ways

00:22:38.220 to meet people, find ways to add value, learn to tell jokes, learn to communicate, learn to lighten up,

00:22:43.700 learn like whatever you need to learn to make connections, do that. And then the last one here,

00:22:48.620 guys, is just being hyper consistent, just being hyper consistent. I promise you that if you implement

00:22:55.780 what I'm telling you and you do that day in and day out for the next month, for the next six months,

00:23:01.520 for the next year, for the three years, for the 10 years, like you're going to be so well connected.

00:23:06.160 I've been doing order of man now for a little over eight years. Is that right? Yeah. About eight and a

00:23:12.720 half years. I'm so well connected. And I'm not saying that to brag. I'm saying that because this is

00:23:18.440 what I've done. I've initiated conversations. I've initiated friendships. I've saved one spot.

00:23:26.240 I've done the right activities. I'm always networking. And then I'm hyper, hyper consistent

00:23:31.460 towards that work, not towards an outcome, but towards the work. The outcome will take care of

00:23:36.940 itself, but I need to do the work in order to produce that inevitable outcome. Guys, I don't want

00:23:42.080 you to be alone. I don't want you to be isolated. Bad things happen. My mom used to say, idle hands are the

00:23:47.860 devil's workshop. I think that's true. I would also say that idle minds are the devil's workshop as

00:23:52.940 well. Reminds me of a water boy, Bobby Boucher. Everything is the devil. Guys, isolation is bad

00:24:03.580 for you. Being a lone wolf is bad for you. It's bad for your mental health. It's bad for your emotional

00:24:11.040 health. It's bad for your own personal development. It's not good. And I'm taking a hard line stance on

00:24:17.700 that. Some people say, I'm better off alone. That's a bit, that's the, those are the words

00:24:21.620 of a bitter person. You've been burned. You've been hurt. That happens when we interact personally 0.74

00:24:26.760 with people. That's an isolated experience. It's an isolated event. I know sometimes people can be

00:24:33.700 hard to trust. I know sometimes people let us down, but ultimately I believe most people are good

00:24:38.520 and most people want to help. And most people want you to win. And most people want to be fulfilled.

00:24:44.700 And most people want to do it with other people. I hope that helps. I hope that serves you. If you're

00:24:50.700 feeling lonely, isolated, depressed, anxious, even suicidal, don't think you're alone. You're not

00:24:57.620 alone. There's people out there who want to serve and help and add value to your lives. And you should

00:25:02.300 want to do that with, for other people as well. So let me know if you have a thoughts, comments,

00:25:06.880 ideas, questions, concerns, critique, whatever, just let me know. Make sure you subscribe, check

00:25:13.140 out the podcast or the podcast. You are listening to the podcast. Check out the iron council. That's

00:25:18.980 our exclusive brotherhood. If you're feeling alone, it's a great way to connect with other

00:25:21.820 like-minded men at order of man.com slash iron council. All right, guys, we'll be back next week.

00:25:27.740 Until then, go out there, take action. Let's all become the men we are meant to be.

00:25:31.360 Thank you for listening to the order of man podcast. You're ready to take charge of your life

00:25:36.100 and be more of the man you were meant to be. We invite you to join the order at order of man.com.

Order of Man - May 12, 2023

Why Are Men So Lonely？｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

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Order of Man - May 12, 2023

Why Are Men So Lonely？ ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

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Why Are Men So Lonely？｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES