Why Every Man Should Dress Well ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
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Dressing for success is about more than just what you look like. It's about how you present yourself to the world and how people see you. And there are a lot of misconceptions about how to improve your style.
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Matt, I recorded a quick little video, a 30-minute video for members of our exclusive
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Brotherhood, the Iron Council, this week. And I thought it was important enough that I wanted to
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share with you here on this Friday Field Notes. So you're going to hear a little bit about why
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I think it's important that we dress for success. We're also going to talk about some common
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misconceptions about dressing well and key benefits to improving your style. Now, don't
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get me wrong. This does not mean that you're going to wear a three-piece suit. We're talking
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about something that is entirely appropriate to wear given the situation or circumstances
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you find yourself in. But it is about elevating the way that you look, the way that you present
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yourself, and of course, the way people see you. Guys, don't sleep on this topic. I am
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inevitably met with a lot of hesitancy and pushback from men who think that style isn't something that
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men worry about. That is not historically accurate and it's doing nothing to serve you as you work
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to build influence, credibility, and authority with the people in your life and the people that you
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You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly charge
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your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time. You are not
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easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong. This is your life. This is who you are.
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This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done, you can call
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yourself a man. Hey guys, I hope all is going well this morning. Hope you're off to a good start.
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I'm getting back into the swing of things after being gone for a couple of weeks now with some
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hunts in Texas. We've had a lot of success and had a good time, and obviously now we're back into it.
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I've seen a lot of chatter and comments about the monthly topic, and I wanted to address that with you
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because there is some huge, huge misconceptions, and frankly, a lot of you guys are selling yourself
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short, and you're missing a real opportunity here to level up your life. I know that the concept of
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dressing for success might seem trivial. It might seem surface level. It might seem nonsensical or
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unimportant, but I can assure you if you spend the next, what are we, March 19th, the next 11 days
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and go all in on this thing, you're going to see results. Absolutely, 100%. I will guarantee
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that you see results in your life. What does that look like? Well, your wife's going to be more
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attracted to you. Clients are going to be more attracted to you. You're going to get presented
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with more opportunities. You're going to be taken more seriously. It's just pretty amazing when you
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start to think about how you dress, how you show up, what you look like, and how you present yourself.
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So I'm going to talk about some misconceptions today, and we're going to go through that. We're
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going to hash some of this out because I'm a little dumbfounded by how many men are resistant to this.
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I've used this analogy in the past, but if I told you to build a home and I said, here's a hammer,
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or here's an impact driver, or here's a nail gun, and you said, no, I'm not going to use that because
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because I don't think we need to. You're going to build an inferior home. It's just the reality of
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it. I had a great conversation with one of our battle team leaders just a couple of days ago,
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and he said there was a heated debate about why men should judge people on the content of their
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character as opposed to the way they look. Now, I don't disagree with that necessarily,
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but that's a false dichotomy. It's a false dichotomy to believe that you
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either have to judge people based on their character or based on the way they look.
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And what's interesting about this is anybody, including you, who's ever said,
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well, I don't judge a book by its cover. Bullshit. Bullshit. I'm calling you out right now,
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and I want you to be very, very honest with yourself about it. Let's take an extreme example.
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Let's say you go to the gym and you're looking around and you see a bunch of people, guys working
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out, ladies working out, and you're looking around and you see an attractive woman. Let's be honest.
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Okay, guys, we can be honest here. If we're not going to be honest here, we can't be honest
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anywhere. You see an attractive woman. She's got a great body. She's got a great ass.
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She's wearing clothes that reveal maybe more than it should, but you're going to check her out,
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right? Like any man's going to check her out. And if you're saying, I'm a married man,
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I wouldn't check her out. You're lying. You would check her out. You may not gawk.
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You may not be inappropriate, but you're going to catch a glance. A hundred percent you are.
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Are you judging her on the content of her character? Fuck? No, you're not. You're judging her
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on the way she looks. She looked good in that pair of yoga pants. Now, conversely,
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let's say there's another woman in there and she's a hundred pounds overweight.
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She doesn't look great physically. You're not attracted to her anyway. You say, oh,
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I'm sure she's a sweet spirit. No, you don't say that. In fact, you don't even give her the time
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of day. You're judging people on the way they look. Let's say you're going to hire an attorney
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for some work. You go into the law firm that you've set an appointment with and the guy is sharp.
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He's got a great suit on. He looks the part. His office is impeccable. His office assistants are
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respectful and professional and on top of things, the guy shows up on time. He sits you down in this
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beautiful office, this conference room. He's got the suit. He's got the look. He's got the demeanor.
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And he starts to talk with you about whatever your legal issue is. You feel a lot of confidence in that guy.
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Let's say, conversely, you go into another law firm and it's one of those cheap law firms
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and the guy's kind of a slob. It's a little bit of a hole in the wall place. He can't really find
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the place. His office staff is non-attentive, dismissive, maybe even non-existent. You walk in,
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the guy doesn't look the part, doesn't act the part, doesn't dress the part. Who do you hire?
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Of course, you're going to hire the guy who looks the part, who you think is going to help you produce
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results. I don't understand why guys say, I only judge people on the content of their character.
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No, you don't. You're lying to yourself. You judge people based on how they look. Now,
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you could be wrong. I'm not saying that. I've been wrong. I know plenty of sharp-dressed guys
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and gals who are pieces of trash as human beings. But the first approach is always,
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what do they look like? How do they present themselves? How do they look? Now, some people
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might say, well, you know, Ryan, but if I got a referral or if I got an introduction to that person,
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and that guy, that lawyer was on top of it, even though he looked the way he is, I would hire him.
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Right. But that's not what we're talking about. We're talking about first impressions and what
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somebody like that would say about that is no longer a first impression. Now you're going based
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off credibility, which is borrowed credibility that you have with another person. That's why you got the
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referral. Guys, why do we overlook this? I don't understand. Now, a lot of the times when we approach
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this dress for success topic, guys will say, well, I don't want to wear a three-piece suit. I don't
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want you to wear a three-piece suit. Why would you wear that? Look what I'm wearing. This is entirely
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appropriate for this conversation. I've got our new order of man hat on. I've got an iron council
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shirt or iron sharpens iron shirt on. I've got that behind me. This is entirely appropriate. I don't
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look like a slob. Clearly, I'm intentional about what I'm wearing, but no one would say I'm dressed up.
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Now, if I take my girlfriend out on a date, I don't wear this. Last night, her and I went out
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and I put a nice pair of pants on. I actually cleaned my boots. I didn't wear different boots.
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I just cleaned them and conditioned them. I've got some red wings that I wear. They're my go-to.
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I didn't put on, you know, wingtip shoes that I'd wear to church. Of course not. But I cleaned my shoes.
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I polished them. I made them look nice. I put a nice fitting pair of jeans on. I wore a chambray
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shirt. I did my hair. In fact, I got a haircut yesterday because I knew we were going to go spend
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time together. I trimmed my beard. I put deodorant on. I clipped my nails. Guys, what is the aversion
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here? I think it's that too many of us are lazy. We see life different than reality. Like,
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I would like it to be this way. I'd like people to judge me based on my capability. That's fine
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and great, but that's ridiculous because that's not how you do it. And that's not how anybody else does
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it. Now, sure, you have to have something that backs up the way that you look, right?
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If you're an attorney, to go back to our previous example, and you look the part, but you're dog
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shit when it comes to performance, you're going to be found out. But that's not the conversation
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that we're having. The conversation that we're having is setting yourself up for success,
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more opportunities, better credibility and respect with other people, more influence with other
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people. That's what we want, right? So look the part. Again, for those of you who are jumping on
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late, that doesn't mean wear a three-piece suit. And I really appreciate in your fantasy land that you
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think you judge people by the content of their character. At some point, probably, but what I would
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suggest to you, and I titled this live video this way on purpose, the way you look is your ticket to
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entry. That's it. It's your ticket to entry. It's your ticket to entry with women. It's your ticket
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to entry with clients. It's your ticket to entry with other relationships. And then from there,
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there's more that goes on behind the scenes where you actually have to prove that you are somebody of
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value. But we're just talking about the ticket to entry. And don't you want to get into more
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opportunities, more clients, more romantic relationships, a deeper romantic relationship,
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better relationships with your kids? It starts with the way that you look. It's not the breadth
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of what we do. It's an element of what we do. Let's get into some comments here, guys. Okay?
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All right. If you have questions, drop them. I'm going to address some of these comments. And
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if you have questions, like I said, drop those in the comments and I'll get to it.
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She has good character. Michael Ferguson says she has good character. Yeah, nobody says that
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unless they're joking. She's a sweet spirit, right? We've all heard that. Oh,
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she has good character. She's a sweet spirit. That means she's ugly. Okay? For those of you who
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are afraid to say it, that means she's ugly and you're unwilling to say it. You're not interested,
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clearly. Tony Rapinoe says, I absolutely do judge a book by their cover. If I meet someone staring at
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their toes and looking like a slob, I will immediately assume our values don't align and I
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won't spend much of my valuable time to learn everything about the person. That's right, Tony. And a lot
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of guys will say, well, man, you could miss out on a great opportunity. Yeah, I could,
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but we have so many decisions to make on a daily basis that I just have to make the best one.
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And spending time with a slob is to me an indicator that that person's probably a slob
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in other aspects of their life. And I can't spend my time engaging with relationships like that.
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Now people say, oh, that's shallow, Ryan. That's shallow. I can't believe. You do it too. Everyone
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does it. You have to make decisions. Our time is finite. We have to make decisions. And the way that
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we present ourselves is the first decision that we make. Peter says, first impressions matter.
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Rick says, I guess there are dudes who have, who have neglected it or don't understand it well
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enough that it might need the time to get up to speed. Everything we wear is a costume. You
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I think I understand. So Dustin Mayberry says, everything we wear is a costume. I think I agree
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with the sentiment. I don't like the verbiage because when you say costume, like when do we wear
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costumes? Halloween comes to mind. When we're pretending to be something we're not. That's when
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we wear a costume. I think I agree with the sentiment, but the differentiating factor here is
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that I don't wear costumes because I'm trying to pretend that I'm something I'm not. I'm trying
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to accentuate who I actually am. So there's some disingenuineness in costume versus what I'm telling
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you is to just level up the way that you look, level up your appearance. It's still genuine,
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but you're accentuating and highlighting more of who you are and what you want to present the world.
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Because you guys might think, for example, you're disciplined and you might really want to portray
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that to your wife or your kids or your colleagues, coworkers, clients, et cetera. But what you wear
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doesn't signal that. Your shirt doesn't fit. You've got 50 pounds of extra weight that you're carrying
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around. You know, you're wearing cargo shorts, you're wearing socks with sandals. And so people
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are going to interpret that to mean something. So you want to make sure that what you're wearing
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is in alignment with who you believe yourself to be. Let's go to Ryan Pertain. He says,
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I would think that the guys I see that are balking about this topic are struggling with insecurity in
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their appearance and are afraid that an investment in their appearance won't make a difference and will
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confirm their fear. Yeah, I agree with that, Ryan. I think that's probably true. They think that it
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won't matter. They don't know how to do it. They wish life was different. It's not. And by the way,
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it doesn't take a large investment. You know, get yourself two pairs of pants that fit well.
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I've got these Red Wings. I bought those for probably, I don't know, a couple of hundred
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bucks. I've had them for a decade, literally a decade. And I think I've resold them twice,
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maybe once. Like, I don't need to go buy a new pair of shoes. I'm just going to get those resold.
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And I condition, I take care of them about high quality things so that I can have it for a long
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period of time. Joey Gomez says, investing in yourself, AKA the way you dress is never a bad
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idea. Sure, it's more money, but it's also more impact on those around you. So, Joey, I think
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you're right. I want to talk about price and cost. I'm just making some notes here. Price versus cost.
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We need to understand this. This is an economic lesson. There's a price tag associated with
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everything we buy. If you go buy a brand new pair of jeans and it's $100 on the price tag,
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that's the price. It's $100. It's objective. It's flat. It's $100. That's it. There's no
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interpretation about it. Then we have what we would call the cost. So, there's a difference,
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again, between price and cost. The cost is $100. But let's say you buy that pair of jeans and you feel
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good about the way that you wear them, you think they look good, and you carry yourself just a
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little bit better. And you buy those jeans to go into a brand new interview or out on a date.
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And because you have those jeans and you look good and you look the part and you feel good,
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you carry yourself with more confidence, you land the interview for the job. You land the date
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or the second date because you're wearing those jeans. Now, the price is $100, but you just secured a
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job. Now, look, I know this is not the only factor. So, this is an extreme example. But you
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secure the job partly because you're wearing those new jeans and you look good, you feel good,
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you present yourself well. You secure the job, you were making $100,000, now you're making $120,000 a
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year. What was the cost of those pair of jeans? Zero. Didn't cost you anything. Yes, the price was $100,
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but you used that and leveraged the way that you looked to produce a desired result, which created an
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additional $20,000 a year of revenue for you. I know that's an extreme, maybe even silly example,
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but you get the point. If you invest in your clothing and your appearance and the way that you
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look and you spend a little time maybe looking what other men are wearing on Instagram that you
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think looks sharp or you go to a nicer store, you spend maybe just a little bit more money and you buy
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the things that fit and you invest into yourself, it's going to be returned to you. That's the difference
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between price and cost. Joseph says, I think more than laziness, it's more than shame. Guys who resist
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know they look awful. They don't want to confront it, so they argue against the idea. This topic has
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been great. I think guys need to understand it's not about picking the best shoes. It's about considering
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and communicating your why in all things. Dead on with that, Joseph. I like that last part. It's
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considering and communicating your why. What I would call that is intentionality. You're just being
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intentional. When I go hunting, I wear intentional clothing. I made a post a couple of days ago about
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this. The three Fs of style are fit, fabric, and function. And you need all three. If it's functional,
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it doesn't look good. Yeah, maybe it'll look functional, but you're not going to garner any
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influence and credibility with other people. And every opportunity comes with other people.
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If it fits well, but it doesn't function, I can wear a suit out on a hunt, but it's not
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going to function very well, and that's not going to be real practical.
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The fabric is the way that it looks. So if you use cheap fabric,
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then it's going to look cheap. If you use the right fabric for the right occasion,
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then you're going to have success and you're going to look the part as well. So
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I like the idea of intentionality. Emmanuel Diaz. I work public accounting in the Bay Area.
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The office attire has been changed drastically. Jeans and a button up is accepted, but it's easy
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to slack off and dress sloppy. I'm not trying, let's see, I try not to, but sometimes I catch
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myself getting sloppy. Yeah, it is. There's some drift associated with this. So if your office lacks
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a dress code or starts to lack on it a little bit or slack on it a little bit, then it's easy to drift,
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but you could actually look really, really good in a pair of jeans and a button up.
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And how do you do this? Well, first you get jeans that fit. An example of this, and I love this
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person. So I'm, I'm throwing them under the bus a little bit, but I think very, very highly of this
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person. Well, there's two people that come to mind, Ed Milet and Jocko Willink. Horrible, horrible
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style. Now, granted they're successful in their own right. So you might say, see, style doesn't matter.
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I think it does. I think if they looked better with what they wore, they would even have more
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influence than they already have. Jordan Peterson, a great example. Now I don't like what he wears,
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but clearly he's intentional about what he's wearing. His two-faced shirt or a suit where he's
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got like the white and the black or the purple and the blue, whatever it is. I don't, I don't like
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that, but he's being intentional about it. When you go to one of his lectures, he's always in a beautiful,
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probably custom fitted, custom tailored suit. He's trying to portray intelligence,
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professionalism, right? He's deliberately trying to do that. It makes sense. Ed Milet wears
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baggy jeans. I'm like, bro, you're fit. You're jack. You're successful. Get a pair of jeans that fit.
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Jocko Willink will wear cargo shorts. He'll wear dad shoes with ankle socks. Like it looks,
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it doesn't look good. Look the part, dress well, and you're going to have even more influence.
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I know a lot of guys are going to be like, well, they're successful. Yeah, I know. I know they are.
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That's the exception. And you're not Jocko and you're not Ed Milet. Neither am I. Chad says,
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the best thing I learned from following Tanner is wearing the bright colors and clothes that fit
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right. I noticed a change in my confidence in public right away. I think that's a huge advantage,
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guys. And one that we often overlook is if you look good, you play good,
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right? If you're fit and you're wearing shirts that fit, pants that fit, you're wearing the right
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attire, even though it's not that three piece suit, you're going to carry yourself different.
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And there's something to be said for that alone. The fact that you feel good about yourself.
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Ree says, speak to men dressing their team and crew. A young man on our team call is questioning
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his landscape crew and their performance on his client's lawns, suggesting his crew's appearance,
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maybe standard uniform can pay off. Absolutely. Look, we take blue collar work and we think,
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well, I can just wear whatever I want. I can wear dirty clothes and wear dirty shoes. I can wear a
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t-shirt, you know, a graphic t-shirt with Mickey Mouse on it or whatever. And you think that your
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clients are going to appreciate that as much as somebody who comes not with cargo shorts,
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but a nice fitting pair of tacky shorts, a nice polo shirt that's branded. That's the right color
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that has the logo. You're all wearing the same uniform. I think this about high school sports teams.
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I see this all the time in basketball and football, whatever the sport is. Coaches are wearing
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whatever the hell they want. What are you guys doing? You tell your team to wear this specific
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uniform, the specific colors. You have two or three uniforms per season and you coaches come.
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You're not even wearing the same shoes. You're not wearing the same shorts. You're not wearing the
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same shirt. I don't understand. If you're a coach and you've got five coaches, let's say,
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or three coaches, whatever it may be, you all need to wear the same shoes. You all need to wear
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the same shorts. You all need to wear the same dry fit polo shirt. You all need to wear the same hat.
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It's a uniform. Look good. What are you portraying? Discipline, commitment, pride in the team.
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What are you communicating to your team? That you are part of the team, that you are not an individual,
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that you are part of this group, that you will do exactly what you require of your team members.
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Guys, look the part. Again, if you're doing landscaping, I'm not saying that you should
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wear a bathing suit on one end of the spectrum or a three-piece suit on the other. I'm saying,
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take the cargo shorts off, put on a nice fitting pair of khaki shorts, put on whatever your company
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color is, with a nice logo across the front left chest. All of you wearing the same thing.
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If hats, because you're out in the sun all day, sure, a hat's appropriate. Make sure it's a colored
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hat that matches with your branding. This is very, very simple stuff, and it goes a long way.
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And by the way, if two gardeners came to me, let's say I wanted to have my lawns and maintenance done
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out in the yard, and I had two people come over, and one of them just looked, they drove this nasty
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truck. They looked like slobs. They didn't communicate well. And then the other one came
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with a nice clean truck that's branded. They came, they had the khaki shorts on and the polo shirt and
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the hat, and they were professional about the way they presented themselves. I would hire that. Now,
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you might say, well, the other guys might be better. They might, but I'll never know because
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that's not what we're making decisions on. Neither are you. Again, to reiterate my point.
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So Robert Gillespie says, sounds like, I don't really, maybe I need to go back and see.
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Oh, okay. So Jaden, I missed this one. I do have a question. I like to say I dress nicely,
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and I am in decent shape, but that has led to people saying it makes me seem like a player.
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So I'm wondering, is that something to embrace? I always related it to a negative connotation.
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Well, I don't know. A couple things could be going on here. Maybe you have a misrepresentation of
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how you actually look. So it's good to get objective feedback. And if you start to notice trends,
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then maybe that's something you should consider. Um, maybe it's the people that you're hanging out
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with. They just don't appreciate somebody dressing well and dressing up. And I don't know which one
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that is. So you'll have to, you'll have to consider that, uh, based on your demographic or your target
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audience. So for example, if you're single, I don't know if you are Jaden, but if you're single
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and you're trying to approach women or get dates or build relationships with women,
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then it's probably a good idea to ask women about your appearance. Hey, what does this
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say about me? What, like what I'm wearing, what does this say? Do you, do you appreciate it?
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Do you not appreciate it? Uh, and that might give you a better idea. So it could, could be one of
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those two things. You have to be careful because a lot of the times friends, especially if you chart
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start to improve your style, friends will make fun of you. Oh, well, look at you, Mr. Rich guy over
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here. Oh, who are you trying to impress? Oh man, you're trying to outdo us. Friends will say that.
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So you have to be aware of that. If everyone would just wear a moo hat, we'd all know who
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they were. Exactly. It's easy, Rick. It's easy. Robert. I also feel attacked every time there's
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a mention of cargo shorts since Magellan fishing gear has become a daily staple to my Florida man
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status over my jeans and insulated boots. I'm not saying cargo shorts are bad. I wore cargo pants
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when I was in the military, but if I'm going out on a date with my wife, there's no reason to wear
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cargo shorts. Again, fit, fabric, function. The function's not there. Going out with somebody,
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I don't need to wear cargo shorts. The fit's off. They're sitting too low on the knee. They're not
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high enough. They're not fit enough. Like it's, it's now, if you're going out in war or going out
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fishing, okay. Like nobody's going to bag on your cargo shorts, but if you're doing it in inappropriate
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places, then of course you're going to get made fun of. Of course. Yeah. See, so Robert says,
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I mean, 25 years in Alaska, then moving to Florida has some lifestyle changes, right? So you need to
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adjust to that. This is a good point that John made. You don't have to like what someone else is
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wearing to know they're dressing well. I think that's the point I was making with Jordan Peterson.
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I don't necessarily like what he wears. I wouldn't wear that. I don't, I don't think it looks great,
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but I also know he's being intentional about it and I can appreciate that. All right,
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let's go to Carrick. He says, I think there may be some confusion between dressing with style,
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which is current, which is current society can be perceived as flamboyant. The point of the
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conversation is dressing well, falling back to those three F's that you mentioned. Yeah. I mean,
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we use style, right? We use that term, but you're right. Three F's. And that's why I don't use the term
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fashion, by the way, because fashion, fashion would be even more repulsive to men than style is,
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but we all want to be stylish. My bro and I are handyman and we match almost every day with our
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business shirts and blue jeans. We definitely stand out compared to the competition. Of course,
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you do Spencer. And I commend you for doing that. Go the extra step. Michael says, that's for Jocelyn
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uniform. I saw a presentation where members of team had different colored polos. If help,
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it helped people. I don't know what this is. If help people I'd who was certain shirts were only earned.
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I don't really know what that means. John, sloppy appearance means they will likely do sloppy work.
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I think we got through all the comments here. What if I think I, okay, this is a good question. I like
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this question. Dan says, what if I think I look good wearing cargo shorts? Well, all the power to you,
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but nobody else does. Nobody else does. And so you might say, well, you know, it doesn't matter what
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other people think. That's not true. That's a lie guys. You know, when you hear these tough guys on
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the internet say, I don't give an F what anybody else thinks they're lying to you
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and they're selling you and themselves short. I care what people think. I care what you guys think.
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What would it be like if I didn't care what you thought of me? What would it be like if I didn't
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care what my children thought of me or my girlfriend or my clients or my business partners?
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How would I actually show up guys? The guys who were telling you, I don't care what other people
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think. It's only about how I feel. They're lying to you. And if they believe they're right, they're
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ridiculous. They're not smart people because we care about what other people think that the
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differentiating factor is caring about the right people. So I do care about what you think of me.
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I do care about what my girlfriend and my kids and other people in my life think about me. So part of,
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not the only, but part of the approach to that is the way that I present myself. Yep. Rob says,
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we all care. Of course you care. So stop saying you don't care. And look, if you want to wear cargo
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shorts, then just know that people aren't going to take cargo camo shorts even better. Just know that
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people are going to take you less seriously. If you're okay with that, then fine. All we're talking about
00:27:49.340
is intentionality. But if you want to be taken seriously, you put the cargo camo shorts away and
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you'll wear clothes that actually communicate what you want to communicate. I think you were saying
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that a little bit tongue in cheek, Dan, but also worthy of addressing. Josh says, when will you be
00:28:10.140
issuing an icy white apology for the reference of you wearing lingerie on a hunt? Josh, you know,
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you would have liked to have seen it last week when we were down in Texas. I know it. You don't
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have to say it. I know it. I saw it in your eyes. All right, guys. Do you have any other questions
00:28:22.460
about this? Like, let's get over it. Okay. Enough of the stigma. Enough of like, oh, just,
00:28:26.700
it's just how you are. And like, look at the content. Sure. Look at the content of your character
00:28:31.020
and also give yourself an opportunity by looking good. Okay. Look good. Not the three-piece suit.
00:28:40.700
I'm not wearing a three-piece suit. You guys think less of me for what I'm wearing or does
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this look appropriate? Let me give you one other example, a little anecdote, a little story. A
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couple of years ago, I went down to, that's about two and a half years ago. Yeah. Two and a half years
00:28:54.780
ago, I went down to Mexico with my then wife, my kids, and about eight other guys who were in this
00:29:01.100
similar spaces and their spouses and their kids. And we had a great time because we were thinking
00:29:04.940
about doing a conference together. And I got into the airport, my ex-wife and my kids, we got to the
00:29:10.460
airport and we were looking for other people. And as we were leaving, we started to look around because
00:29:18.060
we knew that there was a couple of other order of man guys and a couple of other guys who we were
00:29:21.820
bringing to this conference. And what was funny is my ex-wife turned to me and she said, hey,
00:29:25.980
there's one of your guys. And I looked over and sure enough, it was one of our guys and said,
00:29:30.380
how'd you know that? She's like, you all look the same. It's like you have a uniform. Right. She gets it.
00:29:36.940
It's a uniform. If I go into the airport or in a public space, I will see people. I'm like,
00:29:42.940
I bet that guy listens to my podcast because I see what he's wearing. It's appropriate. That's the
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point that I'm making. It's appropriate. And you can start to identify who is who
00:29:52.220
based on what you're wearing. You saw this in high school, the jocks and the nerds and the,
00:29:57.020
you know, all the other people in school, you could see what they were wearing and know what
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tribe they belong to. So what you wear is a representation of who you are.
00:30:07.340
Yeah. That's a good point. He says, I wouldn't listen to you if you did wear a three-piece suit.
00:30:11.660
Right. And you know how many people listen to me who wear three-piece suits? Probably not many.
00:30:15.660
Right. Because it doesn't resonate with them. It's a different audience. So I'm intentional
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about it. Okay, guys? Order a man polo. Good idea. Dustin, I'll see what I can do on that.
00:30:26.940
I just got some new hats in, including this one. This one's brand new. This is the
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curb room hat, but it's a new pattern, new camo pattern. So we just got this one and I'll be posting
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this later this afternoon. Anyways, enough of the stigma, enough of like, let's just judge by the content
00:30:39.980
of our character. Dive in for the next two weeks and see if it changes things. Fully immerse yourself,
00:30:45.980
especially if you're hesitant or resistant about this topic. Dive in. You're here to do something
00:30:51.980
different. You're here to push yourself. Stop fighting so hard against things. Ask yourself,
00:30:57.820
can I dive in for two weeks and really go all in on this subject and be honest in my assessment about
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what it presents in my life? I think it'll produce positive results for you. All right, guys.
00:31:09.820
Joey, I honestly wear plain black shirts all day. Just eliminates the fact. That's fine.
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Look, so here's the confusion. I'm not saying don't wear plain black shirts.
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That's not what I'm saying. Okay. And guys will say, well, I don't care what about what I look.
00:31:25.260
I just wear plain black shirts. No, you do care because you're making a decision to wear plain
00:31:30.220
black shirts for a reason. That's intentionality. I'm not saying don't. I'm saying being intentional
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about what you're wearing to communicate what you want to communicate. Rob, when I worked at
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a Christian rehab, we required collar shirts everywhere, no hats, appearances, everything.
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John says, I love wearing three-piece suits. If you get it comfortable, well,
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I mean, sure, that's fine. I'm not going to ever wear a three-piece suit. I won't say ever,
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but very, very, very, very, very rare occasions because I'm just not interested. But again,
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the style isn't about just wearing that three-piece suit. But if it fits you and you feel good and
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it's appropriate for the situation, all the power to you. All right, guys, I got to go. I hope that
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helps and give you some insight. I'll catch you guys soon. Thank you for listening to the Order of
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