Order of Man - March 06, 2026


Why the Lone Wolf Dies | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES


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The quiet killer of men is the lone wolf. It s the guy who doesn t lean on anyone else. He doesn t need anyone else to survive. He needs to be the alpha. And if you ve fallen into the trap of believing that he does, you re being deceived. The lone wolf dies.

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00:00:00.000 The lone wolf does not thrive, guys.
00:00:02.700 He doesn't.
00:00:03.480 And if you've fallen into the trap of believing that he does,
00:00:06.380 you're being deceived.
00:00:07.880 The lone wolf dies.
00:00:09.080 And I'm going to explain that to you.
00:00:10.060 I'm going to prove that to you today.
00:00:11.540 Because if you study wolves in the wild,
00:00:14.120 even if you just know the bare minimum,
00:00:15.560 you'll notice something very interesting.
00:00:17.520 The lone wolf is rarely some dominant beast
00:00:21.680 who left the pack because he was just way too strong for the pack.
00:00:26.880 That isn't what happens.
00:00:28.020 Man, we have been sold a lie.
00:00:32.020 And I don't know how else to say this,
00:00:34.000 but it's very frustrating when I look around
00:00:36.820 and I see modern culture and society
00:00:39.560 trying to perpetuate this idea
00:00:41.400 that the lone wolf is what you should be working towards.
00:00:48.160 Guys, it's a blatant, flat-out lie.
00:00:50.540 It's that perception of the rugged individual,
00:00:54.720 the man who answers to no one,
00:00:56.900 the guy who needs nobody in his life.
00:00:59.320 He handles all his problems alone.
00:01:01.100 He suffers in silence.
00:01:02.420 And I know from experience personally
00:01:04.980 and in working with thousands and thousands of men
00:01:07.640 all over the country and world
00:01:09.180 that there are so many men who are suffering in silence.
00:01:13.100 They're hurting.
00:01:14.820 They're struggling.
00:01:16.320 They're dealing with depression and anxiety and addiction.
00:01:20.880 And they're suffering, but not talking with anybody.
00:01:23.840 It's that guy who doesn't lean on anybody.
00:01:26.720 And frankly, modern culture loves this image
00:01:31.760 and it incentivizes this behavior.
00:01:36.020 And that's why so many men fall into the trap of thinking that
00:01:39.300 if I'm the lone wolf, then I'm the alpha.
00:01:41.760 If I'm the lone wolf, then I don't need to rely on anyone else.
00:01:45.120 And it sounds good until it isn't.
00:01:49.320 Think about it.
00:01:50.940 Movies that you watch, they glorify it, right?
00:01:53.580 James Bond and Jason Bourne and the Marlboro Man
00:01:56.720 and everybody that we look up to
00:01:59.140 is bucking against the system
00:02:01.620 and not working with anybody else.
00:02:04.640 The stories that we hear, the books that we read,
00:02:07.100 they all celebrate it.
00:02:08.240 Social media rewards it, right?
00:02:10.540 These are the Andrew Tates of the world.
00:02:12.240 And even Andrew Tate, you can look at a guy like that and think,
00:02:14.760 well, at least he has his brother.
00:02:16.320 You can see the brotherly love in that.
00:02:19.260 You see Jordan Peterson.
00:02:20.900 I mean, he looks like a guy who's lonely, quite honestly.
00:02:23.940 And I know he's done a lot of good for the world,
00:02:25.800 but I think that's a lonely, lonely individual.
00:02:29.840 There's other people who do have tribes
00:02:31.680 and maybe they do it in their private life,
00:02:33.840 but they don't perpetuate it.
00:02:35.040 They don't celebrate it.
00:02:36.240 They don't honor it.
00:02:37.400 They don't talk about it.
00:02:38.500 And here's the truth that most men never probably hear
00:02:44.000 is that the lone wolf does not thrive, guys.
00:02:47.620 He doesn't.
00:02:49.160 And if you've fallen into the trap of believing that he does,
00:02:52.140 you're being deceived.
00:02:53.920 The lone wolf dies.
00:02:55.340 And I'm gonna explain that to you.
00:02:56.360 I'm gonna prove that to you today.
00:02:58.520 Because if you study wolves in the wild,
00:03:01.180 even if you just know the bare minimum,
00:03:02.600 you'll notice something very interesting.
00:03:03.960 The lone wolf is rarely some dominant beast
00:03:08.740 who left the pack
00:03:10.960 because he was just way too strong for the pack.
00:03:14.180 That isn't what happens.
00:03:16.380 More often than not, that lone wolf, 1.00
00:03:19.540 he's either young, dumb, and inexperienced, 0.99
00:03:23.740 so he's not adding value to the pack, 1.00
00:03:26.080 or he's old and he's injured
00:03:29.760 or he's exiled for his behavior.
00:03:32.140 But either way, he's vulnerable
00:03:35.240 in the truest sense of the word,
00:03:36.980 not the modern use,
00:03:38.480 the flowery use of the word vulnerable,
00:03:40.860 but the real use of the word vulnerable.
00:03:43.600 He's exposed.
00:03:45.460 He's in danger.
00:03:47.300 He's jeopardized.
00:03:48.700 That's what vulnerable means, by the way.
00:03:51.560 Because wolves were designed to operate in packs.
00:03:55.260 They hunt together.
00:03:56.600 They track down prey together.
00:03:58.520 They protect each other.
00:04:00.160 They survive together.
00:04:03.420 And men are no different.
00:04:05.160 But again, the only men who are isolated 1.00
00:04:07.820 are young, dumb, and inexperienced, 1.00
00:04:09.580 or old, injured, and a threat to the pack. 1.00
00:04:12.760 That's it.
00:04:14.880 And I'll be really frank with you.
00:04:17.140 If you're falling into one of these categories,
00:04:19.440 or if you're isolated, I should say,
00:04:22.280 and you're the lone wolf,
00:04:23.340 you probably fall into one of these categories. 1.00
00:04:25.800 Young, dumb, and inexperienced, 1.00
00:04:28.440 or old, injured, and a threat to the pack. 1.00
00:04:33.200 And guys, isolation is the quiet killer of men.
00:04:36.780 You've seen the statistics.
00:04:38.240 I mean, look around today,
00:04:39.660 and something is clearly happening with men.
00:04:42.280 We're more isolated than we've ever been.
00:04:45.360 We have fewer friendships than we've ever had.
00:04:47.880 We have less brotherhood.
00:04:49.080 We have less community.
00:04:50.100 We have less and fewer organizations
00:04:52.380 to bring men together.
00:04:53.560 And the consequences are brutal.
00:04:55.940 And I've experienced this personally.
00:04:58.100 I mean, I've had calls over the last several days
00:04:59.840 with guys who are in my band of brothers,
00:05:02.580 my tribe, my mastermind,
00:05:05.340 whatever term you want to use.
00:05:07.500 And I've had some real conversations
00:05:10.100 with these guys that I don't really share anywhere else.
00:05:14.460 I don't.
00:05:15.260 I don't share it anywhere else.
00:05:17.120 I'm left to just sit in it unless I have those outlets.
00:05:22.100 Men are dying by suicide
00:05:23.960 at dramatically higher rates than women.
00:05:28.720 Men report more loneliness. 0.66
00:05:32.040 Men struggle more with addiction and depression
00:05:35.760 and a sense of unfulfillment in their lives,
00:05:39.940 purposelessness.
00:05:41.420 But here's the question that we ought to be asking ourselves.
00:05:44.860 How did we get here?
00:05:45.760 How did we get to this point
00:05:47.380 in thousands and thousands of years
00:05:49.860 of human evolution and history
00:05:51.380 that go completely against what evolution has taught us?
00:05:56.600 And the answer to that
00:05:58.280 is not just something that's accidental.
00:06:00.880 It's not just coincidence.
00:06:02.820 A lot of the systems and incentives, frankly,
00:06:05.380 in modern life,
00:06:06.380 they actually push men towards isolation.
00:06:10.080 That's one of the things that we need to understand
00:06:12.200 is it's not benign.
00:06:13.880 It's actively attacking us.
00:06:17.860 You know, if you had some benign growth on your arm,
00:06:21.040 okay, like you can deal with that.
00:06:22.460 You can have it surgically removed.
00:06:23.660 You can have it frozen off
00:06:24.880 and you can get rid of it.
00:06:25.880 But if you have some sort of cancer
00:06:27.580 that's just permeated every cell of your body,
00:06:30.320 it metastasizes and it creates real problems,
00:06:33.340 even death.
00:06:34.660 And that's what's happening with isolation.
00:06:36.700 It's not some benign happening taking place.
00:06:39.100 It's actually very orchestrated.
00:06:41.740 It's deliberate.
00:06:43.620 It's intentional.
00:06:46.560 And if you're not willing to acknowledge
00:06:48.220 and recognize this,
00:06:49.200 then you're lost
00:06:49.860 and there's nothing you can do about it.
00:06:51.000 So let's talk about these reasons,
00:06:52.280 not conspiracies.
00:06:54.320 Let's just talk about the incentives
00:06:56.320 that modern culture and society has
00:06:58.920 to keep us isolated and separated.
00:07:01.220 Number one,
00:07:02.660 isolated men are significantly easier to control.
00:07:06.060 So, flat out,
00:07:09.200 strong groups of men
00:07:10.760 have historically changed the world, right?
00:07:15.060 Every incredible thing
00:07:17.220 that has happened throughout human history
00:07:18.840 is because a group of men
00:07:21.460 decided to get together
00:07:23.520 and actively fight against nature
00:07:27.040 or actively fight against other warring,
00:07:32.280 vicious tribes.
00:07:33.260 It's always a group of men 1.00
00:07:34.820 who have changed the world.
00:07:36.840 They've challenged corrupt systems.
00:07:40.040 I mean, how many times have we seen that
00:07:41.340 throughout human history?
00:07:42.260 Even the founding of this great nation,
00:07:44.300 the United States of America.
00:07:45.900 A group of men,
00:07:47.280 a small group of men
00:07:48.580 got together to challenge corrupt systems.
00:07:53.340 They've resisted and fought against bad leadership,
00:07:57.100 corrupt leadership,
00:07:58.020 violent leadership.
00:07:59.280 They built revolutions,
00:08:00.700 as I mentioned earlier.
00:08:02.260 But isolated men,
00:08:03.280 what has one man done by himself
00:08:05.140 without having other men together?
00:08:06.980 Now, look,
00:08:07.560 one man can actually turn the tide,
00:08:10.920 but at some point,
00:08:12.780 he's got to enlist others.
00:08:15.560 Isolated men are easier to manage 1.00
00:08:17.720 because they don't have the resources
00:08:19.080 and connections
00:08:19.680 that these groups
00:08:21.080 who are fighting actively against them do,
00:08:23.180 like governments,
00:08:24.520 like academia,
00:08:26.220 like pharmaceutical,
00:08:27.020 and the health industry,
00:08:29.360 like the entertainment industry.
00:08:30.800 How are you going to fight
00:08:32.060 against tens of millions of dollars
00:08:34.300 and unlimited resources
00:08:36.680 to keep you subjugated?
00:08:38.580 How are you going to fight against that?
00:08:40.020 You can't,
00:08:41.440 unless you have other men in your life.
00:08:42.940 They're easier to manage,
00:08:43.880 but when men band together,
00:08:46.260 when they're connected,
00:08:49.660 it becomes infinitely harder
00:08:51.780 because you have other men working together,
00:08:54.060 sharing resources,
00:08:56.120 leveraging resources,
00:08:57.420 multiplying resources.
00:09:00.440 But what they're looking for is
00:09:02.120 they don't want men to have brotherhood.
00:09:05.020 They don't want men to organize. 0.92
00:09:07.240 The government doesn't want you to organize.
00:09:09.140 Okay?
00:09:09.460 Know that.
00:09:10.000 The federal government
00:09:11.140 does not want you to organize.
00:09:13.000 They will do everything they can.
00:09:15.380 They will come after you.
00:09:16.800 They will lie about you.
00:09:18.620 They will imprison you.
00:09:20.280 They will falsely accuse you.
00:09:22.500 They will do everything they possibly can
00:09:25.660 to keep you from organizing
00:09:27.400 because once you organize,
00:09:28.840 you become powerful.
00:09:32.560 Isolated men,
00:09:33.440 they don't challenge authority.
00:09:35.140 They don't build movements.
00:09:37.020 They just cope.
00:09:37.600 Well, I guess this is my life.
00:09:40.200 I guess this is what I'm destined to do.
00:09:41.980 They don't cope.
00:09:43.920 Excuse me.
00:09:44.540 They do cope by themselves.
00:09:49.060 But a tribe of strong men,
00:09:51.100 they're powerful.
00:09:52.660 I mean, think about a million isolated men,
00:09:56.120 individual.
00:09:57.120 That's manageable.
00:09:58.020 The government can manage that.
00:10:00.220 Not only a million,
00:10:01.280 tens, hundreds of millions.
00:10:02.360 The government can manage that.
00:10:03.280 But you get a million men together
00:10:05.500 marching shoulder to shoulder
00:10:07.700 and lockstep,
00:10:08.540 that's infinitely harder to manage.
00:10:10.100 So that's number one.
00:10:12.300 Number two,
00:10:13.540 isolated men are better consumers.
00:10:16.240 And if you've been listening to me
00:10:18.120 in this movement for any amount of time,
00:10:19.720 you know that we are as men
00:10:21.560 to produce more than we consume.
00:10:25.480 I think that's when a boy becomes a man.
00:10:27.160 I can strip everything else away.
00:10:31.080 You can strip away rites of passages.
00:10:33.180 You can strip away biology, anatomy.
00:10:36.240 You can strip away responsibility.
00:10:39.900 I mean, you can strip everything away.
00:10:41.420 And at the end of the day,
00:10:42.980 a boy becomes a man
00:10:45.420 when he produces more than he consumes.
00:10:48.760 And that's why we have 40, 45, 50,
00:10:51.580 55-year-old men
00:10:52.680 who are less manly
00:10:54.660 than my 17-year-old son
00:10:57.100 who goes out and gets a job
00:11:00.280 and works
00:11:01.440 and buys some of his own stuff
00:11:03.580 and serves his teams that he's on
00:11:05.720 and goes out there
00:11:06.980 and provides value to the world.
00:11:09.300 That's why you can see a 14-year-old man,
00:11:11.840 young man, I should say,
00:11:13.520 who has lost his father,
00:11:15.580 who steps up and he gets a job
00:11:17.360 and he supports his mom
00:11:19.080 and he raises his siblings
00:11:20.920 and he goes out into the workforce
00:11:23.900 and he sacrifices education.
00:11:26.100 That, to me, is more of a man
00:11:28.400 than the 40-year-old
00:11:29.700 who never got a job,
00:11:31.700 who didn't pay for college,
00:11:33.700 who sat in mommy and daddy's basement
00:11:35.960 jacking off
00:11:36.900 or watching video games
00:11:38.440 or movies or whatever
00:11:39.620 and just hoping that mommy and daddy
00:11:42.020 would support him through the eons.
00:11:44.900 That's not a man.
00:11:46.200 One, biologically, we could argue he is,
00:11:50.340 but in reality, he's not.
00:11:53.100 Nobody would call him a man.
00:11:56.340 And when a man lacks brotherhood,
00:11:59.500 mission, purpose,
00:12:00.900 what they do is they look for substitutes, right?
00:12:03.440 We buy distractions.
00:12:07.280 We chase around dopamine.
00:12:09.100 It's entertainment.
00:12:10.260 It's cheap entertainment, right?
00:12:11.480 I live two hours from Vegas.
00:12:12.820 It's cheap entertainment.
00:12:13.680 I see these guys go down there
00:12:14.900 and they're just cheaply entertained.
00:12:17.360 Like, show me a woman in a bikini 1.00
00:12:20.280 and, you know, give me something to drink
00:12:22.220 and I'm entertained.
00:12:25.860 It's bread and circuses.
00:12:27.320 That's all it is.
00:12:28.620 And isolated men look for it.
00:12:30.160 It's alcohol.
00:12:30.880 It's pornography.
00:12:32.520 Gaming. 0.87
00:12:33.760 In Vegas or video games.
00:12:35.700 It's endless scrolling 1.00
00:12:36.760 on these damn little devices 1.00
00:12:38.880 that are so amazing but so toxic. 1.00
00:12:40.760 Consumer culture thrives on you
00:12:44.840 if you're bored and you're lonely
00:12:46.440 and you're directionless.
00:12:48.200 Because if you're not,
00:12:49.160 then you're not clinging onto this thing.
00:12:51.080 You're actually living your life.
00:12:52.140 You're raising your kids.
00:12:53.080 You're going to the gym.
00:12:54.700 You're going on hunts.
00:12:55.700 You're going on vacations.
00:12:57.020 You're leaning into your bride.
00:12:58.780 You're doing all the things
00:12:59.600 that you as a man ought to be doing,
00:13:01.360 but it's this device and others
00:13:03.060 that keep us from doing those things.
00:13:04.820 Instead of building something meaningful,
00:13:08.840 isolated men just consume, 0.66
00:13:10.680 thinking that that's going to solve
00:13:11.900 all their problems.
00:13:13.100 All right, number three.
00:13:14.560 Modern life removed all of the male spaces. 0.96
00:13:18.340 I'll give you an example.
00:13:19.320 Boy Scouts.
00:13:21.140 It's a great example.
00:13:22.640 When I grew up as a young man,
00:13:24.220 I was in Cub Scouts.
00:13:25.300 I did a year or two of Boy Scouts.
00:13:27.080 It was the best thing for me
00:13:29.060 because I didn't have a permanent father figure
00:13:32.020 in my life.
00:13:32.500 And so I had other men who decided
00:13:34.920 they were going to step up
00:13:35.940 for their sons and for me.
00:13:37.860 And I learned about hiking and camping
00:13:40.620 and starting fires and managing my money
00:13:43.200 and learning about civics
00:13:45.320 and all the things that come with Scouts.
00:13:48.540 But then several years ago
00:13:50.700 and a bunch of people,
00:13:53.360 probably not you,
00:13:54.620 but a bunch of people mocked me
00:13:56.580 probably 10 years ago
00:13:58.120 when I said the Boy Scouts of America is dead.
00:14:01.040 And then just a few years later,
00:14:03.820 Boy Scouts came out and said,
00:14:05.420 we're not called Boy Scouts anymore.
00:14:06.540 We're just called the Scouts.
00:14:07.520 All those people who mocked me,
00:14:09.300 vindication, right?
00:14:10.520 Like this is not hard to see
00:14:12.940 if you're awake and you're alive
00:14:14.600 and you're actually experiencing life
00:14:16.580 for what it is.
00:14:17.820 Modern life removes male spaces. 0.95
00:14:20.680 The likelihood of you being surrounded by men
00:14:23.460 outside of military service
00:14:25.500 and or post-high school education sports
00:14:31.120 is nil.
00:14:33.100 It's non-existent.
00:14:34.820 It's just not available
00:14:36.040 unless you're intentional about it.
00:14:38.940 For most of human history,
00:14:40.940 men have naturally gathered together.
00:14:42.980 We work together, right?
00:14:45.120 We tilled the fields.
00:14:46.140 And if my neighbor needed to be tilled
00:14:47.840 or my neighbor needed seed planted
00:14:50.200 and I could trade and bargain with him,
00:14:53.360 then we would do that together.
00:14:54.280 We went out and we built barns.
00:14:56.020 You know, you see the Amish 0.89
00:14:56.940 and they're out there on an afternoon
00:14:58.640 and they're building barns together.
00:15:00.440 They're putting barns together in a day.
00:15:03.080 And then we fought together.
00:15:04.720 You know, people from Texas
00:15:06.320 and from California and Utah
00:15:08.520 and New York and Montana
00:15:11.280 coming together to fight against some villain.
00:15:16.720 I mean, we had things like guilds.
00:15:19.280 That's a word I haven't used for a while.
00:15:21.060 A guild.
00:15:22.380 Fraternal orders.
00:15:23.220 That's a word I haven't used for a while.
00:15:26.460 Hunting teams, hunting parties, tradesmen.
00:15:30.600 These are words that we just don't hear as often,
00:15:33.480 sometimes in some spaces.
00:15:35.620 Guilds, fraternal orders, hunting parties, tradesmen.
00:15:38.880 These were male spaces exclusively. 0.88
00:15:42.360 It's where we sharpened each other.
00:15:44.860 But too many of these spaces are now gone.
00:15:47.000 And that isn't coincidence.
00:15:49.760 The work we do is isolated.
00:15:51.560 I sit in this room every day by myself.
00:15:54.940 So I'm not immune to this, but by myself.
00:15:57.220 Yeah, sure.
00:15:57.700 I'm on calls and talking with other men
00:15:59.760 and having good guys on my podcast.
00:16:01.160 But for the most part, I'm isolated.
00:16:04.860 The community you have is weaker.
00:16:06.560 I mean, how many of you guys even know
00:16:08.160 all of your neighbors within a four to five house radius
00:16:12.740 in any direction?
00:16:16.540 And then men are subtly told
00:16:18.100 that gathering with other men is unnecessary 0.89
00:16:19.840 or even suspicious, right?
00:16:21.860 Like we're going to villainize these people.
00:16:23.720 Oh, oh, oh, they're gathering together.
00:16:26.140 It must be some sort of, you know,
00:16:29.160 Christian nationalist type organization.
00:16:32.580 That even happened to me, guys.
00:16:34.800 Some of you may not know this,
00:16:35.960 but years ago, this was probably five years ago,
00:16:38.720 the FBI visited me.
00:16:41.960 They came, I was out of town.
00:16:43.580 The FBI came to my house.
00:16:46.800 They knocked on my door.
00:16:48.800 My ex-wife was there. 0.97
00:16:50.460 Excuse me, she wasn't there, but she was,
00:16:53.180 I was gone.
00:16:54.060 So she was there that weekend by herself.
00:16:56.840 She wasn't there at the time.
00:16:58.060 She was at the gym.
00:16:59.840 And I got a ring notification
00:17:02.000 and I see this man and woman in a suit
00:17:04.760 knocking on my door.
00:17:05.540 I didn't know who it was.
00:17:06.360 So I reached out to my ex and I said,
00:17:07.720 hey, do you know who that was
00:17:09.000 knocking at the door?
00:17:09.900 And she said, yeah, they left a business card.
00:17:11.920 It was the FBI.
00:17:14.940 This was the year that Joe Biden got elected
00:17:16.920 and the FBI left a little note.
00:17:19.360 They left their business card
00:17:20.580 and on the back of the card,
00:17:21.880 it said, I'm sure I could find,
00:17:26.060 I have it somewhere,
00:17:26.840 but I'm sure I could find it.
00:17:27.720 And it said, you know,
00:17:28.480 please give us a call, Mr. Mickler
00:17:30.040 or whatever it said.
00:17:31.740 I mean, I was terrified
00:17:32.660 trying to figure out
00:17:33.740 what in the world's going on.
00:17:36.400 So I call the FBI back
00:17:39.320 and I get on the phone
00:17:40.860 with one of their regional agents
00:17:43.380 and he grills me
00:17:45.220 about what we're doing
00:17:46.060 with this organization.
00:17:47.520 What?
00:17:48.500 Helping men become better men,
00:17:50.140 helping men be better fathers
00:17:52.080 and husbands
00:17:52.640 and business owners
00:17:53.520 and community leaders.
00:17:54.360 And you're going to grill me
00:17:55.680 about what I'm doing?
00:17:56.820 It's an intimidation tactic.
00:18:00.060 It's devious.
00:18:02.160 It's villainous.
00:18:03.920 It's vile.
00:18:05.280 It's illegal.
00:18:08.240 Like, don't you come to my house
00:18:10.060 and threaten me
00:18:13.000 because I'm trying to mobilize
00:18:15.940 and organize men.
00:18:17.180 So, when I tell you
00:18:20.480 about the government's
00:18:22.760 desire to keep us isolated,
00:18:27.560 it's real.
00:18:28.800 I've experienced it.
00:18:31.400 And as I got on the phone
00:18:32.640 with this FBI agent,
00:18:33.780 he told me things
00:18:34.640 about my organization
00:18:35.700 that
00:18:36.380 he wouldn't have known
00:18:39.560 unless he was
00:18:40.460 deep inside my organization.
00:18:42.920 Nothing bad,
00:18:44.560 nothing wrong.
00:18:45.140 But he knew things.
00:18:47.380 He knew things about me
00:18:48.840 that I had completely forgot.
00:18:51.400 So, don't think
00:18:53.020 that this isn't malicious.
00:18:55.540 It is.
00:18:56.940 The government
00:18:57.520 does not want you
00:18:58.480 to organize.
00:18:59.600 And then,
00:18:59.900 here's another point too, guys.
00:19:01.100 And I'll get off
00:19:01.720 that soapbox for a minute.
00:19:02.600 We can talk about that
00:19:03.280 another day.
00:19:04.640 That technology
00:19:05.660 simulates brotherhood
00:19:07.720 without actually giving it. 0.99
00:19:10.040 It's like masturbation. 0.99
00:19:11.580 It feels really good, 0.99
00:19:12.720 but ultimately
00:19:13.380 doesn't get the job done.
00:19:15.140 That's what technology does.
00:19:17.160 Social media tricks you
00:19:18.380 and other men.
00:19:19.580 It makes you actually feel
00:19:21.140 like you might be connected.
00:19:22.860 You know,
00:19:23.020 you see people
00:19:23.960 and you comment
00:19:24.820 and you message back
00:19:25.980 and sometimes it's good
00:19:28.060 and sometimes it's not so good,
00:19:29.420 but it's not the same thing
00:19:30.520 as sitting across
00:19:31.260 from another man
00:19:32.280 and having an actual conversation,
00:19:33.840 a difficult conversation
00:19:35.160 where he can look you in the eye
00:19:36.480 and see your mannerisms
00:19:38.220 and your demeanor.
00:19:39.120 It's not the same thing
00:19:42.220 as training together
00:19:43.260 and sweating together
00:19:44.320 and working together
00:19:45.400 and struggling together.
00:19:47.560 When I was in sports
00:19:48.800 in high school,
00:19:49.380 I never played college sports.
00:19:51.580 I was undersized
00:19:52.640 and maybe underskilled too
00:19:55.160 if I'm being honest.
00:19:56.720 But when I was in high school,
00:19:59.800 you know,
00:20:00.080 if I missed a block
00:20:01.020 in football
00:20:01.500 or an assignment
00:20:03.000 or I missed a ground ball
00:20:05.280 in baseball,
00:20:05.940 I was going to hear about it.
00:20:09.280 I was not immune
00:20:10.740 to criticism
00:20:12.180 and it was harsh.
00:20:14.200 It was really harsh at times.
00:20:16.400 But that's the point.
00:20:18.920 It wasn't harshness 1.00
00:20:20.160 for the sake of being a jerk. 0.99
00:20:21.500 It was harshness 1.00
00:20:22.080 for the sake
00:20:22.520 of being better as a team.
00:20:24.400 But technology,
00:20:25.280 these little devices,
00:20:26.180 the thing you're listening
00:20:26.760 to this podcast on right now
00:20:28.580 is the illusion of connection.
00:20:31.080 It's not real.
00:20:33.160 It's not real substance.
00:20:34.580 And there's a cost of isolation.
00:20:36.700 There is.
00:20:38.500 There's a cost of you being
00:20:40.080 isolated from everybody else.
00:20:44.040 Because what happens to men
00:20:45.540 when they stay isolated
00:20:46.700 is that they lose perspective.
00:20:50.320 They lose accountability.
00:20:52.540 Their standards,
00:20:53.380 they start to slip a little bit
00:20:55.080 because we can deceive ourselves, right?
00:20:56.900 Because when you're alone long enough,
00:20:59.240 our minds,
00:21:00.020 it becomes an echo chamber.
00:21:02.180 And I do this.
00:21:02.840 I'm guilty of this.
00:21:03.580 You know this.
00:21:04.080 If you've been following,
00:21:04.700 I'm stubborn.
00:21:05.720 I can be black and white
00:21:06.840 in my thinking.
00:21:07.760 And I just find ideas
00:21:11.040 and articles
00:21:12.180 and concepts
00:21:14.240 to support
00:21:14.960 what I already believe.
00:21:15.800 And so it just becomes
00:21:16.520 this echo chamber.
00:21:18.440 I can justify my bad habits.
00:21:20.860 That's easy to do.
00:21:22.940 You know,
00:21:23.180 I remember I used to be able to say,
00:21:25.060 well, I deserve a drink.
00:21:27.040 Really?
00:21:27.820 Do I?
00:21:29.040 Is that true?
00:21:30.660 Because if I said that
00:21:31.660 to another man
00:21:32.360 who was actually in my corner,
00:21:33.840 he'd say, 0.87
00:21:34.220 what the hell are you talking about? 0.89
00:21:36.080 But if I say that to myself, 0.98
00:21:37.880 I can make that case
00:21:39.720 pretty convincingly, actually.
00:21:43.460 And so we start
00:21:44.420 to tolerate mediocrity.
00:21:46.840 We convince ourselves
00:21:48.060 that everything's fine.
00:21:49.400 We're good.
00:21:50.860 I mean, go ask 10
00:21:51.600 of your closest buddies today.
00:21:53.400 Hey, how's everything going?
00:21:54.320 And all of them will say,
00:21:55.320 fine, it's going good.
00:21:56.160 Yeah, everything's good.
00:21:58.280 And then if you just stop
00:21:59.660 and you just stare
00:22:00.460 at their soul for a second,
00:22:02.120 like into their soul,
00:22:04.600 the facade starts
00:22:07.600 to crack a little bit.
00:22:08.880 It's like an old stucco house
00:22:10.040 that's got cracks
00:22:10.800 all over the place.
00:22:11.660 Those cracks,
00:22:12.780 those fractures
00:22:13.440 start to reveal themselves.
00:22:15.780 You just stare at them.
00:22:18.640 And then he says,
00:22:19.460 actually, it's not good.
00:22:20.460 My wife and I
00:22:21.080 are not doing well.
00:22:21.800 Or my kid is struggling.
00:22:25.300 Or I just lost a loved one.
00:22:28.080 Or I'm up to debt.
00:22:30.160 I'm in debt,
00:22:31.240 up to my eyeballs,
00:22:32.140 and I don't know
00:22:32.600 how to manage it.
00:22:33.560 And that facade
00:22:34.380 starts to break down.
00:22:35.580 But that's actually
00:22:36.200 what you need.
00:22:37.840 You need it to break down
00:22:39.040 because what's revealed
00:22:40.240 under it,
00:22:40.820 although it's ugly,
00:22:42.260 it's the truth.
00:22:43.420 And you need other men 0.88
00:22:46.220 to hold the mirror up
00:22:47.100 and say,
00:22:47.600 hey, I want you to stare
00:22:48.440 at this for a second
00:22:49.260 and tell me if you're as good
00:22:50.720 as you think you are
00:22:52.400 or as good as you're lying
00:22:54.040 about being.
00:22:58.140 When you don't have guys
00:22:59.200 in your corner,
00:22:59.800 there's no one there
00:23:00.320 to challenge you.
00:23:01.060 There's no one there
00:23:01.540 to say, brother,
00:23:02.160 what the hell is going on 0.97
00:23:03.400 with you? 0.99
00:23:03.800 You are so different.
00:23:06.340 You are doing so much less
00:23:07.840 than you're capable of.
00:23:08.800 You have changed.
00:23:10.060 I can see it.
00:23:10.860 What is going on with you?
00:23:12.180 And that's why
00:23:13.480 brotherhood matters.
00:23:15.740 And every strong man
00:23:17.520 throughout human history
00:23:18.680 has had other strong men.
00:23:20.420 Again, history is clear
00:23:21.560 about this.
00:23:22.560 Warriors had units, right?
00:23:24.660 Explorers had crews.
00:23:27.000 Entrepreneurs have masterminds.
00:23:29.540 Athletes have teams
00:23:30.700 and coaches.
00:23:31.800 The strongest leaders
00:23:32.760 in the world
00:23:33.320 have surrounded themselves
00:23:34.740 with trusted men
00:23:36.160 because strength
00:23:37.660 multiplies
00:23:39.320 in being close,
00:23:40.840 in being proxed.
00:23:42.180 proximity to each other.
00:23:44.480 You can't do this
00:23:45.320 from a distance.
00:23:46.500 When men gather around, 0.95
00:23:48.860 the shared standards,
00:23:50.560 the shared mission,
00:23:51.440 the shared fulfillment,
00:23:52.320 what they do
00:23:52.680 is they start
00:23:53.120 to sharpen each other.
00:23:55.220 Have you ever sharpened a knife?
00:23:57.620 I've got a knife right here.
00:24:01.800 This knife is actually,
00:24:03.680 believe it or not,
00:24:04.160 this is Zach Brown's knife.
00:24:05.560 He gave this to me,
00:24:06.520 which is kind of a cool knife
00:24:07.540 and it's kind of a timeless piece
00:24:09.720 at this point.
00:24:10.220 But I sharpen this knife
00:24:11.960 every couple of weeks.
00:24:14.500 And when I sharpen it,
00:24:15.920 the way that I sharpen it
00:24:17.400 is I get a sharpening tool
00:24:18.580 and I literally grind this knife
00:24:21.960 against that sharpening tool,
00:24:24.680 against that stone
00:24:25.500 and then that ceramic.
00:24:27.100 And I get that edge
00:24:28.020 really, really sharp.
00:24:29.100 It's not sharp right now,
00:24:29.880 which is why I can run my thumb around it
00:24:31.360 because I use it every day.
00:24:35.460 This is you right here. 0.52
00:24:38.060 You're the knife.
00:24:40.960 If you're not following along on YouTube,
00:24:43.140 you can.
00:24:43.560 You can see what I'm carrying right here.
00:24:45.520 But this is you.
00:24:46.680 This is me.
00:24:47.480 This is a representation
00:24:48.540 of who we are.
00:24:50.600 And if I can run my thumb,
00:24:52.160 again, if you're not on YouTube
00:24:52.980 and I can run my thumb
00:24:54.020 along the blade like this
00:24:55.300 and it's not sharp,
00:24:56.220 then that's you.
00:24:58.420 But if I were to run that thumb
00:25:00.280 across that
00:25:00.920 and it sliced my finger,
00:25:02.180 then that means
00:25:02.680 that blade is sharp,
00:25:03.980 which is what a blade
00:25:05.540 is supposed to be.
00:25:09.620 You as a man
00:25:10.420 are supposed to be sharp.
00:25:13.080 You're not supposed
00:25:13.840 to be able to do this
00:25:15.020 to a knife
00:25:16.460 the same way
00:25:18.700 that society
00:25:19.660 is not supposed
00:25:20.420 to be able to push on you
00:25:21.960 without getting hurt.
00:25:25.220 You're not sharp
00:25:26.160 because you're not grinding
00:25:27.380 the blade
00:25:29.060 against something
00:25:30.880 that grinds back.
00:25:34.320 What if we did?
00:25:36.540 Men sharpen each other. 0.87
00:25:38.400 We challenge each other.
00:25:40.780 We elevate each other.
00:25:42.240 So what do you do?
00:25:43.240 All right,
00:25:43.440 what do you do?
00:25:44.900 If modern life
00:25:45.860 is pushing men
00:25:46.560 towards isolation,
00:25:47.400 then we have to actively
00:25:48.700 fight against it.
00:25:49.760 Brotherhood doesn't happen 0.99
00:25:50.760 automatically anymore.
00:25:51.840 It's just not built
00:25:52.800 into the framework.
00:25:54.060 It's not built
00:25:54.540 into the system.
00:25:55.160 You have to do it
00:25:55.940 intentionally.
00:25:56.720 So here's a few ways
00:25:58.420 to start.
00:25:58.820 Number one,
00:25:59.620 seek out spaces
00:26:00.440 where men improve.
00:26:02.220 Where do men improve? 0.71
00:26:03.560 Talked about this
00:26:04.520 ad nauseum.
00:26:05.900 The gym,
00:26:07.280 business meetings,
00:26:08.420 and church.
00:26:09.420 Period.
00:26:12.400 There's no other place
00:26:13.960 that men improve
00:26:15.100 outside of those
00:26:15.920 three places.
00:26:16.700 The gym,
00:26:18.840 the business environment,
00:26:20.280 and church.
00:26:23.020 I challenge you
00:26:24.020 to come up
00:26:24.460 with something
00:26:25.500 outside of that.
00:26:27.320 Now,
00:26:27.480 when I say the gym,
00:26:28.200 I'm talking about
00:26:29.020 martial arts
00:26:29.860 or strength training,
00:26:30.700 even running clubs
00:26:31.620 and organizations,
00:26:33.020 cycling,
00:26:33.540 whatever your thing is.
00:26:34.640 That's what I mean by gym.
00:26:35.580 The church,
00:26:36.700 whatever your denomination is.
00:26:37.880 I'm a Christian,
00:26:39.480 a Baptist
00:26:40.480 for the most part.
00:26:42.120 That's what I gravitate towards,
00:26:43.700 but whatever,
00:26:44.300 whatever your thing is.
00:26:45.880 Business,
00:26:46.600 it could be
00:26:47.040 Business Network International,
00:26:48.320 Chamber of Commerce,
00:26:49.240 Rotary Clubs,
00:26:50.540 other business groups,
00:26:52.160 masterminds
00:26:52.960 that you're involved in.
00:26:54.700 That's it.
00:26:55.200 That's it.
00:26:55.580 That's all they are.
00:26:58.380 Maybe some outdoor,
00:26:59.360 maybe I'll give you
00:27:00.280 one exception,
00:27:00.940 some outdoor clubs,
00:27:03.040 you know,
00:27:03.340 that might be
00:27:04.000 like hunting
00:27:04.560 or camping
00:27:06.380 or,
00:27:08.140 and I would say
00:27:08.820 hiking and rock climbing,
00:27:10.480 that would fall
00:27:10.840 into the gym category,
00:27:11.720 but I think you understand
00:27:12.780 what I'm saying.
00:27:14.120 It's also communities
00:27:15.180 like the Iron Council.
00:27:16.060 Now,
00:27:16.180 you might think
00:27:16.620 that's a little 0.50
00:27:17.320 hypocritical
00:27:19.520 when I said 0.68
00:27:20.060 digital technology
00:27:21.000 keeps us isolated,
00:27:22.000 but it's different
00:27:22.960 if you're actually
00:27:23.680 focused on something
00:27:24.780 purposeful with direction,
00:27:26.080 but regardless,
00:27:27.300 anywhere men
00:27:28.040 are pushing themselves
00:27:28.980 and each other,
00:27:29.820 that's where brotherhood
00:27:30.760 forms.
00:27:34.400 Very simple.
00:27:35.600 We don't need
00:27:36.280 to make it harder.
00:27:36.920 It's the gym,
00:27:37.960 it's business functions,
00:27:39.200 and it's the church.
00:27:40.780 Number two,
00:27:41.340 do hard things together.
00:27:42.420 We bond
00:27:43.820 through shared struggle.
00:27:45.320 Not small talk.
00:27:46.240 I don't care about
00:27:46.780 the weather.
00:27:47.240 I don't care about
00:27:47.800 your favorite sports team.
00:27:48.820 I really don't.
00:27:49.780 I actually
00:27:50.460 don't care about
00:27:52.080 all the things
00:27:52.700 that we're supposed
00:27:53.200 to care about like,
00:27:54.060 oh, how's your wife?
00:27:54.740 How's your kids?
00:27:55.340 Like, sure,
00:27:56.460 I want them to be good,
00:27:57.440 but I actually want
00:27:58.160 to get deep.
00:27:58.700 Not surface level conversation,
00:28:00.420 but doing something
00:28:01.280 difficult together.
00:28:02.500 Training,
00:28:03.120 building,
00:28:03.640 adventuring,
00:28:04.940 suffering together
00:28:06.240 because hard things
00:28:08.500 create deep bonds.
00:28:09.440 So if you're not doing
00:28:10.180 difficult things with men,
00:28:11.860 even in your church,
00:28:13.060 I can't tell you
00:28:13.840 how many guys
00:28:14.360 I hear from
00:28:15.020 who are part of
00:28:16.240 Bible study 0.99
00:28:17.500 and they'll message me
00:28:18.760 and they're like,
00:28:19.060 hey, I'm doing this
00:28:19.540 Bible study 0.99
00:28:20.040 and we can't seem
00:28:20.640 to get it off the ground.
00:28:21.540 Yeah, because you're
00:28:22.220 sitting around
00:28:22.920 pontificating
00:28:24.360 about, you know,
00:28:26.360 eternal life.
00:28:28.060 Not even Jesus Christ
00:28:29.280 did that.
00:28:32.100 Right?
00:28:32.680 Like, aren't you
00:28:33.840 supposed to be like him?
00:28:35.960 He didn't sit around
00:28:37.200 and he wasn't singing
00:28:37.940 kumbaya
00:28:38.500 with his disciples
00:28:39.600 about life.
00:28:41.780 He was out
00:28:42.500 proselyting.
00:28:43.540 He was out
00:28:44.020 serving people.
00:28:45.420 He's out healing.
00:28:46.220 He was out walking
00:28:47.460 and exploring
00:28:48.420 and wandering
00:28:49.400 and suffering.
00:28:52.660 And then we sit
00:28:53.740 in these climate
00:28:54.320 controlled
00:28:54.880 Starbucks
00:28:57.220 shops
00:28:58.640 and think that,
00:29:00.200 oh, there's five
00:29:00.580 of us together
00:29:01.060 talking about the cosmos
00:29:02.400 that that's going
00:29:02.960 to be better.
00:29:03.540 No, it isn't.
00:29:04.480 Jesus Christ
00:29:05.020 didn't even do that.
00:29:08.220 Be like him.
00:29:10.840 All right, number three,
00:29:12.200 be the man
00:29:12.840 who initiates.
00:29:13.580 Guys, nobody
00:29:14.160 is going to do this
00:29:15.020 for you.
00:29:15.660 There's not a man 0.85
00:29:16.680 in your neighborhood.
00:29:17.520 There probably is.
00:29:18.540 I'm being a little bit
00:29:20.060 hyperbolic here,
00:29:21.400 but there's not a man
00:29:23.080 in your neighborhood
00:29:23.880 who's just like
00:29:24.880 going to create
00:29:25.700 this for you.
00:29:26.400 This is you.
00:29:27.120 This is on you.
00:29:28.960 So don't wait.
00:29:30.820 Call up the local
00:29:31.820 golf,
00:29:32.480 the golf course
00:29:33.720 and say,
00:29:34.140 hey, you know,
00:29:34.980 this is Friday.
00:29:35.600 Call them and say,
00:29:36.160 hey, you know,
00:29:36.740 Saturday or Sunday,
00:29:38.380 9 a.m.
00:29:39.120 Can I get a foursome
00:29:40.000 on 9 a.m.
00:29:41.300 Sunday morning?
00:29:42.560 And I don't even care
00:29:43.440 if you have three other guys
00:29:44.640 who can join.
00:29:45.180 Just reserve it
00:29:46.180 and then make the call
00:29:47.320 to the guys and say,
00:29:48.060 hey, I've got a group,
00:29:48.920 four of us going out.
00:29:50.280 Wanted to invite you out.
00:29:53.940 Maybe it's a hike
00:29:54.800 tomorrow morning,
00:29:55.620 Saturday morning.
00:29:57.280 We've got a couple
00:29:57.980 of hikes here
00:29:58.420 that I really like.
00:29:58.980 They're simple.
00:29:59.700 One's the H Hill
00:30:00.500 because I live
00:30:00.940 in Hurricane, Utah.
00:30:02.520 Another one's called
00:30:03.320 Molly's Nipple. 0.72
00:30:04.600 It's rigorous.
00:30:06.740 It's short,
00:30:07.200 but it's rigorous.
00:30:08.580 Just make a commitment.
00:30:10.380 Hey, I'm going to go hike
00:30:11.040 at 7 a.m.
00:30:11.820 and I'm going to try
00:30:12.560 to get five or six guys
00:30:13.520 to go hike with me.
00:30:15.100 That's easy.
00:30:16.100 You can do that
00:30:16.860 if you're committed.
00:30:19.380 Maybe you need to change
00:30:20.440 the oil in your truck
00:30:21.240 and you don't know
00:30:21.660 how to do it.
00:30:22.440 Call your friend
00:30:23.280 who's a mechanic
00:30:23.880 and say, hey, bro,
00:30:24.700 I'm trying to change
00:30:25.300 the oil in my truck.
00:30:25.960 I don't know how to do it.
00:30:26.540 Can you come over tomorrow,
00:30:27.380 Saturday morning at 7 a.m.?
00:30:29.360 I've got a weight rack
00:30:32.000 from Sornex
00:30:33.060 Exercise Equipment
00:30:34.200 who I highly recommend
00:30:35.080 by the way
00:30:35.560 and it's out in my garage.
00:30:39.100 I could call
00:30:39.560 half a dozen guys right now
00:30:40.560 and say, hey,
00:30:40.960 I'm going to do a workout
00:30:41.860 Saturday morning,
00:30:43.900 Sunday morning,
00:30:44.620 7 a.m., 8 a.m.
00:30:46.380 You want to come over
00:30:46.940 and hang out?
00:30:47.480 I could get five guys together
00:30:48.820 for sure.
00:30:50.360 Be that guy
00:30:50.840 who organizes the workout.
00:30:53.760 Be the guy
00:30:54.420 who invites men 0.98
00:30:55.180 over for conversation.
00:30:56.460 Maybe there's fight nights.
00:30:57.300 I don't think there's fight nights
00:30:58.120 this weekend,
00:30:58.580 but actually there might be.
00:31:00.100 It's the first weekend
00:31:00.700 of the month.
00:31:01.760 Saturday,
00:31:02.200 there might be fight nights,
00:31:03.120 UFC fight nights.
00:31:04.280 Get a group of guys.
00:31:05.940 Go buy a bunch of snacks.
00:31:07.420 Grill some meat.
00:31:09.340 Invite the guys over.
00:31:10.800 Hang out.
00:31:11.320 Enjoy.
00:31:12.060 Let the ladies go 1.00
00:31:12.640 do their thing
00:31:13.220 and you get together
00:31:14.360 with the men
00:31:14.800 Saturday night.
00:31:15.780 Easy.
00:31:17.360 But it's leadership, guys.
00:31:18.320 It creates brotherhood.
00:31:20.380 And the last point
00:31:21.200 that I want to share with you
00:31:22.060 on what you should do
00:31:23.260 is make sure you choose men 0.82
00:31:24.680 who tell the truth
00:31:25.560 because real brotherhood
00:31:27.700 isn't found
00:31:29.160 in platitudes
00:31:31.140 and comfort.
00:31:34.140 It's not just encouragement.
00:31:35.920 Like,
00:31:36.200 I'm your biggest cheerleader.
00:31:37.840 I don't want a cheerleader. 1.00
00:31:39.660 I don't.
00:31:40.420 I want my significant other,
00:31:42.380 my wife,
00:31:42.900 my future wife
00:31:43.540 to be my cheerleader.
00:31:44.380 I don't want my guys
00:31:45.160 to be my cheerleaders.
00:31:46.380 I want them to be
00:31:47.160 my accountability.
00:31:49.200 The guys who are like,
00:31:49.920 hey, dude,
00:31:50.980 whatever you're doing right now
00:31:52.300 is not working for you.
00:31:53.240 Hey, you know,
00:31:56.580 you said you're going
00:31:57.480 to go to the gym.
00:31:58.020 You've been slacking this week. 0.99
00:31:58.940 What the hell? 0.97
00:32:00.340 We all showed up, 0.98
00:32:01.100 but you weren't there.
00:32:02.120 I don't need a cheerleader 0.99
00:32:03.180 out of a man.
00:32:05.280 I need accountability.
00:32:07.040 A guy who refuses 0.99
00:32:08.100 to let me drift
00:32:08.820 and somebody who,
00:32:10.000 and this is the hard part
00:32:10.880 is we have to get over
00:32:11.740 our own ego
00:32:12.520 and arrogance
00:32:12.980 is when a guy says,
00:32:14.840 hey, bro,
00:32:15.180 I love you, 0.99
00:32:15.740 but damn, 1.00
00:32:16.480 you're not, 0.99
00:32:16.860 you're not doing
00:32:18.560 what you're capable of doing.
00:32:19.620 What most guys will do
00:32:21.320 is give them
00:32:24.220 the either proverbial
00:32:25.840 or literal middle finger.
00:32:28.180 Don't,
00:32:28.620 don't do that.
00:32:33.240 I said years ago
00:32:34.660 and I believe this to be true
00:32:35.680 is not everybody
00:32:36.500 who criticizes you
00:32:37.780 is your enemy
00:32:38.360 and not everyone
00:32:39.980 who praises you
00:32:41.060 is your ally.
00:32:44.160 Some people criticize you
00:32:45.920 because they're actually
00:32:46.800 your ally
00:32:47.380 and some people praise you
00:32:49.560 because they're actually
00:32:50.240 your enemy.
00:32:51.600 You have to discern
00:32:52.720 which one is which.
00:32:54.320 And here's the last thing
00:32:54.960 I'm going to share
00:32:55.300 with you guys.
00:32:58.620 The lone wolf
00:32:59.560 doesn't,
00:33:00.140 doesn't die
00:33:01.460 because he's weak.
00:33:02.420 I don't,
00:33:02.820 I don't think men are weak.
00:33:05.740 I think
00:33:06.460 that the lone wolf
00:33:07.660 dies because
00:33:08.640 no man
00:33:10.320 was willing
00:33:11.200 or,
00:33:12.320 or meant to
00:33:13.180 fight life alone.
00:33:15.960 We're built for tribes.
00:33:17.340 We're built for brotherhood.
00:33:20.180 We're built
00:33:20.860 to move forward
00:33:21.620 in life
00:33:22.080 and progress
00:33:22.660 in life
00:33:23.100 with other capable men.
00:33:24.380 And if modern society
00:33:25.320 pushes you
00:33:25.980 towards isolation,
00:33:26.860 then maybe you ought
00:33:27.640 to stop and think,
00:33:28.980 maybe I should go
00:33:30.880 the opposite route.
00:33:32.920 It's your responsibility
00:33:34.120 to push back.
00:33:34.960 It's your responsibility
00:33:36.020 to find your brothers.
00:33:37.400 Your responsibility
00:33:38.320 to build your tribe,
00:33:40.800 to sharpen each other
00:33:41.800 like this knife.
00:33:43.300 It's your responsibility.
00:33:44.520 The strongest men
00:33:48.040 in the world
00:33:48.520 are not lone wolves,
00:33:49.880 guys.
00:33:50.100 They're leaders
00:33:50.780 of packs.
00:33:52.440 They're engaged.
00:33:53.680 They're serving.
00:33:54.560 They're giving back.
00:33:55.400 They're not
00:33:55.760 subjugating themselves
00:33:57.620 to
00:33:58.220 consumerism.
00:34:01.320 Packs move
00:34:02.180 further and faster.
00:34:03.440 They fight harder.
00:34:04.880 And frankly,
00:34:05.800 they just survive
00:34:06.720 longer
00:34:07.280 and they do more.
00:34:09.380 They're more effective.
00:34:10.360 So a couple of resources
00:34:12.920 for you.
00:34:13.580 Again,
00:34:13.900 I told you,
00:34:14.360 if you want to do this locally,
00:34:15.420 it's easy.
00:34:16.000 I'll teach you how to do it.
00:34:18.180 It's really easy.
00:34:20.740 Three things.
00:34:22.460 The gym,
00:34:24.980 church,
00:34:26.180 business functions.
00:34:27.420 You can do it on your own.
00:34:28.400 And that's cool.
00:34:29.020 If you do,
00:34:29.380 I hope you do.
00:34:30.840 If you want
00:34:31.500 a little bit more direction,
00:34:32.660 you want a little bit more
00:34:33.820 clarity and focus,
00:34:35.700 something you can
00:34:36.300 actually do yourself,
00:34:37.280 then what I would suggest
00:34:38.300 to join the Iron Council.
00:34:39.480 That's our exclusive
00:34:40.200 brotherhood.
00:34:41.060 Now,
00:34:41.180 it is digital,
00:34:42.160 but a lot of these guys,
00:34:43.680 the majority of these guys
00:34:44.560 are actually getting together
00:34:45.520 for local meetups
00:34:47.620 and they're holding
00:34:48.200 each other accountable
00:34:49.000 and they're talking
00:34:49.580 every week
00:34:50.180 and they're texting
00:34:50.900 and they're doing
00:34:51.620 Marco Polo,
00:34:52.720 which is not a thing
00:34:53.460 I do,
00:34:54.440 but they're doing it
00:34:55.520 and it's working.
00:34:56.780 They're feeling better.
00:34:57.740 They're growing.
00:34:58.360 They're holding
00:34:58.720 each other accountable.
00:34:59.920 They're pushing
00:35:00.620 and leaning on each other
00:35:01.620 and making each other better.
00:35:02.840 Guys are losing weight
00:35:03.740 and starting businesses
00:35:04.780 and rekindling
00:35:06.740 relationships with children
00:35:08.200 and making
00:35:10.020 amends where
00:35:10.740 they've messed up
00:35:11.660 and getting promotions.
00:35:13.000 It's incredible.
00:35:14.400 Go to
00:35:15.140 orderofman.com
00:35:16.180 slash iron council.
00:35:17.340 The other thing
00:35:17.900 that you can do,
00:35:18.720 the third thing,
00:35:19.580 is come to our
00:35:20.220 Men's Forge event,
00:35:21.160 April 23rd
00:35:22.040 through the 26th.
00:35:23.560 It's just outside
00:35:24.560 of St. Louis,
00:35:25.180 so if you're in that area,
00:35:26.940 man,
00:35:27.340 take a quick flight,
00:35:28.420 come out,
00:35:28.960 or take a quick drive,
00:35:30.060 come out,
00:35:30.960 and spend
00:35:32.220 three and a half days
00:35:33.520 with dozens
00:35:35.280 of other men
00:35:36.060 who are all
00:35:36.660 working together
00:35:37.440 to grow and build,
00:35:38.840 and we're going 0.97
00:35:39.580 to shoot guns together, 0.98
00:35:40.620 and we're going 0.53
00:35:41.100 to climb ropes
00:35:42.600 courses together,
00:35:43.400 and we're going
00:35:43.740 to train jiu-jitsu
00:35:44.540 together,
00:35:44.900 but we're also
00:35:45.560 going to be learning
00:35:46.140 from Dwayne Noel
00:35:47.160 and G.S. Youngblood
00:35:48.640 and Frank Schwartz
00:35:50.020 with F3
00:35:50.880 and Sathya Sam
00:35:52.360 on overcoming
00:35:53.060 pornography addiction
00:35:54.120 and all the things
00:35:55.200 that we deal
00:35:55.680 with as men,
00:35:56.780 and then we're going
00:35:57.260 to break bread together,
00:35:58.280 and we're going
00:35:58.660 to pray,
00:35:59.460 and we're going
00:35:59.780 to work together,
00:36:00.980 and we're going
00:36:01.220 to talk about
00:36:01.800 our struggles.
00:36:02.420 We're going
00:36:02.560 to sit around
00:36:03.040 the campfire.
00:36:04.060 We're going
00:36:04.500 to fight each other,
00:36:05.420 and we're going
00:36:05.840 to come back
00:36:06.500 bloody and bruised
00:36:08.600 physically,
00:36:09.440 mentally,
00:36:09.920 emotionally,
00:36:10.340 but stronger,
00:36:11.580 and I would love
00:36:12.760 for you to come
00:36:13.180 out to that.
00:36:14.000 Go to
00:36:14.420 themensforge.com
00:36:17.100 for that.
00:36:18.360 All right, guys.
00:36:18.980 There you go.
00:36:19.680 I went a little longer
00:36:20.500 than I thought I would.
00:36:21.600 It's about 40 minutes,
00:36:22.480 I think,
00:36:22.720 at this point.
00:36:23.700 That was going
00:36:24.100 to be a 20-minute
00:36:24.800 conversation,
00:36:25.620 but I get passionate
00:36:26.340 about this because
00:36:27.140 it's worked in my life.
00:36:28.980 When I surround
00:36:29.660 myself with other men,
00:36:31.160 I'm better for it,
00:36:32.160 and when I isolate,
00:36:33.460 I'm worse.
00:36:34.660 Flat out,
00:36:35.240 I'm worse.
00:36:36.620 So I hope
00:36:37.260 that serves you,
00:36:38.180 and I hope
00:36:38.660 it motivates you
00:36:39.800 and inspires you
00:36:40.660 to either join
00:36:41.260 the Iron Council,
00:36:42.080 come to the Forge,
00:36:42.960 and or start
00:36:44.500 something locally
00:36:45.280 in your gym,
00:36:46.320 in your church,
00:36:47.660 in your business
00:36:48.320 functions,
00:36:48.800 and just be
00:36:50.280 with other men.
00:36:51.340 Fight the system,
00:36:52.200 resist the system,
00:36:53.780 band together,
00:36:54.860 and you will
00:36:56.640 be better off.
00:36:58.220 All right, guys.
00:36:58.980 We'll be back
00:36:59.320 next week.
00:36:59.760 Make sure you subscribe,
00:37:00.640 check out the Iron Council,
00:37:02.200 orderman.com
00:37:02.840 slash Iron Council.
00:37:04.140 Check out the Men's Forge
00:37:05.480 at themensforge.com.
00:37:08.440 There's my knife.
00:37:09.380 Speaking of knives,
00:37:10.260 check out my good friends
00:37:11.120 over at Montana Knife.
00:37:12.120 Now, this one's not,
00:37:13.180 I hate to say,
00:37:14.260 but they don't have,
00:37:15.640 they only have fixed blades
00:37:16.540 so far,
00:37:17.140 so I'm going to talk
00:37:17.820 with Josh over there,
00:37:18.680 but if you're looking
00:37:19.180 for a good knife,
00:37:20.560 I would highly,
00:37:21.540 highly suggest
00:37:22.460 montananifecompany.com.
00:37:24.920 Use the code
00:37:25.420 orderman.
00:37:25.980 You'll save some money,
00:37:26.780 but there's a good
00:37:27.680 knife company
00:37:28.180 if you want to 0.98
00:37:28.880 cut yourself with a knife. 1.00
00:37:30.960 I can't cut myself 1.00
00:37:31.760 with this one
00:37:32.240 because it's too dull,
00:37:33.440 so I've got to sharpen.
00:37:35.240 All right, guys.
00:37:36.020 We'll catch you next week.
00:37:37.080 Until then,
00:37:37.500 go out there,
00:37:37.860 take action,
00:37:38.740 and become a man.
00:37:39.540 You are meant to be.
00:37:40.920 Thank you for listening
00:37:41.780 to the Order of Man podcast.
00:37:43.860 If you're ready
00:37:44.240 to take charge of your life
00:37:45.480 and be more of the man
00:37:46.640 you were meant to be,
00:37:47.840 we invite you
00:37:48.500 to join the order
00:37:49.220 at orderofman.com.
00:37:56.660 Thank you.