Order of Man - Why the Lone Wolf Dies ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

00:00:00.000 The lone wolf does not thrive, guys.

00:00:02.700 He doesn't.

00:00:03.480 And if you've fallen into the trap of believing that he does,

00:00:06.380 you're being deceived.

00:00:07.880 The lone wolf dies.

00:00:09.080 And I'm going to explain that to you.

00:00:10.060 I'm going to prove that to you today.

00:00:11.540 Because if you study wolves in the wild,

00:00:14.120 even if you just know the bare minimum,

00:00:15.560 you'll notice something very interesting.

00:00:17.520 The lone wolf is rarely some dominant beast

00:00:21.680 who left the pack because he was just way too strong for the pack.

00:00:26.880 That isn't what happens.

00:00:28.020 Man, we have been sold a lie.

00:00:32.020 And I don't know how else to say this,

00:00:34.000 but it's very frustrating when I look around

00:00:36.820 and I see modern culture and society

00:00:39.560 trying to perpetuate this idea

00:00:41.400 that the lone wolf is what you should be working towards.

00:00:48.160 Guys, it's a blatant, flat-out lie.

00:00:50.540 It's that perception of the rugged individual,

00:00:54.720 the man who answers to no one,

00:00:56.900 the guy who needs nobody in his life.

00:00:59.320 He handles all his problems alone.

00:01:01.100 He suffers in silence.

00:01:02.420 And I know from experience personally

00:01:04.980 and in working with thousands and thousands of men

00:01:07.640 all over the country and world

00:01:09.180 that there are so many men who are suffering in silence.

00:01:13.100 They're hurting.

00:01:14.820 They're struggling.

00:01:16.320 They're dealing with depression and anxiety and addiction.

00:01:20.880 And they're suffering, but not talking with anybody.

00:01:23.840 It's that guy who doesn't lean on anybody.

00:01:26.720 And frankly, modern culture loves this image

00:01:31.760 and it incentivizes this behavior.

00:01:36.020 And that's why so many men fall into the trap of thinking that

00:01:39.300 if I'm the lone wolf, then I'm the alpha.

00:01:41.760 If I'm the lone wolf, then I don't need to rely on anyone else.

00:01:45.120 And it sounds good until it isn't.

00:01:49.320 Think about it.

00:01:50.940 Movies that you watch, they glorify it, right?

00:01:53.580 James Bond and Jason Bourne and the Marlboro Man

00:01:56.720 and everybody that we look up to

00:01:59.140 is bucking against the system

00:02:01.620 and not working with anybody else.

00:02:04.640 The stories that we hear, the books that we read,

00:02:07.100 they all celebrate it.

00:02:08.240 Social media rewards it, right?

00:02:10.540 These are the Andrew Tates of the world.

00:02:12.240 And even Andrew Tate, you can look at a guy like that and think,

00:02:14.760 well, at least he has his brother.

00:02:16.320 You can see the brotherly love in that.

00:02:19.260 You see Jordan Peterson.

00:02:20.900 I mean, he looks like a guy who's lonely, quite honestly.

00:02:23.940 And I know he's done a lot of good for the world,

00:02:25.800 but I think that's a lonely, lonely individual.

00:02:29.840 There's other people who do have tribes

00:02:31.680 and maybe they do it in their private life,

00:02:33.840 but they don't perpetuate it.

00:02:35.040 They don't celebrate it.

00:02:36.240 They don't honor it.

00:02:37.400 They don't talk about it.

00:02:38.500 And here's the truth that most men never probably hear

00:02:44.000 is that the lone wolf does not thrive, guys.

00:02:47.620 He doesn't.

00:02:49.160 And if you've fallen into the trap of believing that he does,

00:02:52.140 you're being deceived.

00:02:53.920 The lone wolf dies.

00:02:55.340 And I'm gonna explain that to you.

00:02:56.360 I'm gonna prove that to you today.

00:02:58.520 Because if you study wolves in the wild,

00:03:01.180 even if you just know the bare minimum,

00:03:02.600 you'll notice something very interesting.

00:03:03.960 The lone wolf is rarely some dominant beast

00:03:08.740 who left the pack

00:03:10.960 because he was just way too strong for the pack.

00:03:14.180 That isn't what happens.

00:03:16.380 More often than not, that lone wolf, 1.00

00:03:19.540 he's either young, dumb, and inexperienced, 0.99

00:03:23.740 so he's not adding value to the pack, 1.00

00:03:26.080 or he's old and he's injured

00:03:29.760 or he's exiled for his behavior.

00:03:32.140 But either way, he's vulnerable

00:03:35.240 in the truest sense of the word,

00:03:36.980 not the modern use,

00:03:38.480 the flowery use of the word vulnerable,

00:03:40.860 but the real use of the word vulnerable.

00:03:43.600 He's exposed.

00:03:45.460 He's in danger.

00:03:47.300 He's jeopardized.

00:03:48.700 That's what vulnerable means, by the way.

00:03:51.560 Because wolves were designed to operate in packs.

00:03:55.260 They hunt together.

00:03:56.600 They track down prey together.

00:03:58.520 They protect each other.

00:04:00.160 They survive together.

00:04:03.420 And men are no different.

00:04:05.160 But again, the only men who are isolated 1.00

00:04:07.820 are young, dumb, and inexperienced, 1.00

00:04:09.580 or old, injured, and a threat to the pack. 1.00

00:04:12.760 That's it.

00:04:14.880 And I'll be really frank with you.

00:04:17.140 If you're falling into one of these categories,

00:04:19.440 or if you're isolated, I should say,

00:04:22.280 and you're the lone wolf,

00:04:23.340 you probably fall into one of these categories. 1.00

00:04:25.800 Young, dumb, and inexperienced, 1.00

00:04:28.440 or old, injured, and a threat to the pack. 1.00

00:04:33.200 And guys, isolation is the quiet killer of men.

00:04:36.780 You've seen the statistics.

00:04:38.240 I mean, look around today,

00:04:39.660 and something is clearly happening with men.

00:04:42.280 We're more isolated than we've ever been.

00:04:45.360 We have fewer friendships than we've ever had.

00:04:47.880 We have less brotherhood.

00:04:49.080 We have less community.

00:04:50.100 We have less and fewer organizations

00:04:52.380 to bring men together.

00:04:53.560 And the consequences are brutal.

00:04:55.940 And I've experienced this personally.

00:04:58.100 I mean, I've had calls over the last several days

00:04:59.840 with guys who are in my band of brothers,

00:05:02.580 my tribe, my mastermind,

00:05:05.340 whatever term you want to use.

00:05:07.500 And I've had some real conversations

00:05:10.100 with these guys that I don't really share anywhere else.

00:05:14.460 I don't.

00:05:15.260 I don't share it anywhere else.

00:05:17.120 I'm left to just sit in it unless I have those outlets.

00:05:22.100 Men are dying by suicide

00:05:23.960 at dramatically higher rates than women.

00:05:28.720 Men report more loneliness. 0.66

00:05:32.040 Men struggle more with addiction and depression

00:05:35.760 and a sense of unfulfillment in their lives,

00:05:39.940 purposelessness.

00:05:41.420 But here's the question that we ought to be asking ourselves.

00:05:44.860 How did we get here?

00:05:45.760 How did we get to this point

00:05:47.380 in thousands and thousands of years

00:05:49.860 of human evolution and history

00:05:51.380 that go completely against what evolution has taught us?

00:05:56.600 And the answer to that

00:05:58.280 is not just something that's accidental.

00:06:00.880 It's not just coincidence.

00:06:02.820 A lot of the systems and incentives, frankly,

00:06:05.380 in modern life,

00:06:06.380 they actually push men towards isolation.

00:06:10.080 That's one of the things that we need to understand

00:06:12.200 is it's not benign.

00:06:13.880 It's actively attacking us.

00:06:17.860 You know, if you had some benign growth on your arm,

00:06:21.040 okay, like you can deal with that.

00:06:22.460 You can have it surgically removed.

00:06:23.660 You can have it frozen off

00:06:24.880 and you can get rid of it.

00:06:25.880 But if you have some sort of cancer

00:06:27.580 that's just permeated every cell of your body,

00:06:30.320 it metastasizes and it creates real problems,

00:06:33.340 even death.

00:06:34.660 And that's what's happening with isolation.

00:06:36.700 It's not some benign happening taking place.

00:06:39.100 It's actually very orchestrated.

00:06:41.740 It's deliberate.

00:06:43.620 It's intentional.

00:06:46.560 And if you're not willing to acknowledge

00:06:48.220 and recognize this,

00:06:49.200 then you're lost

00:06:49.860 and there's nothing you can do about it.

00:06:51.000 So let's talk about these reasons,

00:06:52.280 not conspiracies.

00:06:54.320 Let's just talk about the incentives

00:06:56.320 that modern culture and society has

00:06:58.920 to keep us isolated and separated.

00:07:01.220 Number one,

00:07:02.660 isolated men are significantly easier to control.

00:07:06.060 So, flat out,

00:07:09.200 strong groups of men

00:07:10.760 have historically changed the world, right?

00:07:15.060 Every incredible thing

00:07:17.220 that has happened throughout human history

00:07:18.840 is because a group of men

00:07:21.460 decided to get together

00:07:23.520 and actively fight against nature

00:07:27.040 or actively fight against other warring,

00:07:32.280 vicious tribes.

00:07:33.260 It's always a group of men 1.00

00:07:34.820 who have changed the world.

00:07:36.840 They've challenged corrupt systems.

00:07:40.040 I mean, how many times have we seen that

00:07:41.340 throughout human history?

00:07:42.260 Even the founding of this great nation,

00:07:44.300 the United States of America.

00:07:45.900 A group of men,

00:07:47.280 a small group of men

00:07:48.580 got together to challenge corrupt systems.

00:07:53.340 They've resisted and fought against bad leadership,

00:07:57.100 corrupt leadership,

00:07:58.020 violent leadership.

00:07:59.280 They built revolutions,

00:08:00.700 as I mentioned earlier.

00:08:02.260 But isolated men,

00:08:03.280 what has one man done by himself

00:08:05.140 without having other men together?

00:08:06.980 Now, look,

00:08:07.560 one man can actually turn the tide,

00:08:10.920 but at some point,

00:08:12.780 he's got to enlist others.

00:08:15.560 Isolated men are easier to manage 1.00

00:08:17.720 because they don't have the resources

00:08:19.080 and connections

00:08:19.680 that these groups

00:08:21.080 who are fighting actively against them do,

00:08:23.180 like governments,

00:08:24.520 like academia,

00:08:26.220 like pharmaceutical,

00:08:27.020 and the health industry,

00:08:29.360 like the entertainment industry.

00:08:30.800 How are you going to fight

00:08:32.060 against tens of millions of dollars

00:08:34.300 and unlimited resources

00:08:36.680 to keep you subjugated?

00:08:38.580 How are you going to fight against that?

00:08:40.020 You can't,

00:08:41.440 unless you have other men in your life.

00:08:42.940 They're easier to manage,

00:08:43.880 but when men band together,

00:08:46.260 when they're connected,

00:08:49.660 it becomes infinitely harder

00:08:51.780 because you have other men working together,

00:08:54.060 sharing resources,

00:08:56.120 leveraging resources,

00:08:57.420 multiplying resources.

00:09:00.440 But what they're looking for is

00:09:02.120 they don't want men to have brotherhood.

00:09:05.020 They don't want men to organize. 0.92

00:09:07.240 The government doesn't want you to organize.

00:09:09.140 Okay?

00:09:09.460 Know that.

00:09:10.000 The federal government

00:09:11.140 does not want you to organize.

00:09:13.000 They will do everything they can.

00:09:15.380 They will come after you.

00:09:16.800 They will lie about you.

00:09:18.620 They will imprison you.

00:09:20.280 They will falsely accuse you.

00:09:22.500 They will do everything they possibly can

00:09:25.660 to keep you from organizing

00:09:27.400 because once you organize,

00:09:28.840 you become powerful.

00:09:32.560 Isolated men,

00:09:33.440 they don't challenge authority.

00:09:35.140 They don't build movements.

00:09:37.020 They just cope.

00:09:37.600 Well, I guess this is my life.

00:09:40.200 I guess this is what I'm destined to do.

00:09:41.980 They don't cope.

00:09:43.920 Excuse me.

00:09:44.540 They do cope by themselves.

00:09:49.060 But a tribe of strong men,

00:09:51.100 they're powerful.

00:09:52.660 I mean, think about a million isolated men,

00:09:56.120 individual.

00:09:57.120 That's manageable.

00:09:58.020 The government can manage that.

00:10:00.220 Not only a million,

00:10:01.280 tens, hundreds of millions.

00:10:02.360 The government can manage that.

00:10:03.280 But you get a million men together

00:10:05.500 marching shoulder to shoulder

00:10:07.700 and lockstep,

00:10:08.540 that's infinitely harder to manage.

00:10:10.100 So that's number one.

00:10:12.300 Number two,

00:10:13.540 isolated men are better consumers.

00:10:16.240 And if you've been listening to me

00:10:18.120 in this movement for any amount of time,

00:10:19.720 you know that we are as men

00:10:21.560 to produce more than we consume.

00:10:25.480 I think that's when a boy becomes a man.

00:10:27.160 I can strip everything else away.

00:10:31.080 You can strip away rites of passages.

00:10:33.180 You can strip away biology, anatomy.

00:10:36.240 You can strip away responsibility.

00:10:39.900 I mean, you can strip everything away.

00:10:41.420 And at the end of the day,

00:10:42.980 a boy becomes a man

00:10:45.420 when he produces more than he consumes.

00:10:48.760 And that's why we have 40, 45, 50,

00:10:51.580 55-year-old men

00:10:52.680 who are less manly

00:10:54.660 than my 17-year-old son

00:10:57.100 who goes out and gets a job

00:11:00.280 and works

00:11:01.440 and buys some of his own stuff

00:11:03.580 and serves his teams that he's on

00:11:05.720 and goes out there

00:11:06.980 and provides value to the world.

00:11:09.300 That's why you can see a 14-year-old man,

00:11:11.840 young man, I should say,

00:11:13.520 who has lost his father,

00:11:15.580 who steps up and he gets a job

00:11:17.360 and he supports his mom

00:11:19.080 and he raises his siblings

00:11:20.920 and he goes out into the workforce

00:11:23.900 and he sacrifices education.

00:11:26.100 That, to me, is more of a man

00:11:28.400 than the 40-year-old

00:11:29.700 who never got a job,

00:11:31.700 who didn't pay for college,

00:11:33.700 who sat in mommy and daddy's basement

00:11:35.960 jacking off

00:11:36.900 or watching video games

00:11:38.440 or movies or whatever

00:11:39.620 and just hoping that mommy and daddy

00:11:42.020 would support him through the eons.

00:11:44.900 That's not a man.

00:11:46.200 One, biologically, we could argue he is,

00:11:50.340 but in reality, he's not.

00:11:53.100 Nobody would call him a man.

00:11:56.340 And when a man lacks brotherhood,

00:11:59.500 mission, purpose,

00:12:00.900 what they do is they look for substitutes, right?

00:12:03.440 We buy distractions.

00:12:07.280 We chase around dopamine.

00:12:09.100 It's entertainment.

00:12:10.260 It's cheap entertainment, right?

00:12:11.480 I live two hours from Vegas.

00:12:12.820 It's cheap entertainment.

00:12:13.680 I see these guys go down there

00:12:14.900 and they're just cheaply entertained.

00:12:17.360 Like, show me a woman in a bikini 1.00

00:12:20.280 and, you know, give me something to drink

00:12:22.220 and I'm entertained.

00:12:25.860 It's bread and circuses.

00:12:27.320 That's all it is.

00:12:28.620 And isolated men look for it.

00:12:30.160 It's alcohol.

00:12:30.880 It's pornography.

00:12:32.520 Gaming. 0.87

00:12:33.760 In Vegas or video games.

00:12:35.700 It's endless scrolling 1.00

00:12:36.760 on these damn little devices 1.00

00:12:38.880 that are so amazing but so toxic. 1.00

00:12:40.760 Consumer culture thrives on you

00:12:44.840 if you're bored and you're lonely

00:12:46.440 and you're directionless.

00:12:48.200 Because if you're not,

00:12:49.160 then you're not clinging onto this thing.

00:12:51.080 You're actually living your life.

00:12:52.140 You're raising your kids.

00:12:53.080 You're going to the gym.

00:12:54.700 You're going on hunts.

00:12:55.700 You're going on vacations.

00:12:57.020 You're leaning into your bride.

00:12:58.780 You're doing all the things

00:12:59.600 that you as a man ought to be doing,

00:13:01.360 but it's this device and others

00:13:03.060 that keep us from doing those things.

00:13:04.820 Instead of building something meaningful,

00:13:08.840 isolated men just consume, 0.66

00:13:10.680 thinking that that's going to solve

00:13:11.900 all their problems.

00:13:13.100 All right, number three.

00:13:14.560 Modern life removed all of the male spaces. 0.96

00:13:18.340 I'll give you an example.

00:13:19.320 Boy Scouts.

00:13:21.140 It's a great example.

00:13:22.640 When I grew up as a young man,

00:13:24.220 I was in Cub Scouts.

00:13:25.300 I did a year or two of Boy Scouts.

00:13:27.080 It was the best thing for me

00:13:29.060 because I didn't have a permanent father figure

00:13:32.020 in my life.

00:13:32.500 And so I had other men who decided

00:13:34.920 they were going to step up

00:13:35.940 for their sons and for me.

00:13:37.860 And I learned about hiking and camping

00:13:40.620 and starting fires and managing my money

00:13:43.200 and learning about civics

00:13:45.320 and all the things that come with Scouts.

00:13:48.540 But then several years ago

00:13:50.700 and a bunch of people,

00:13:53.360 probably not you,

00:13:54.620 but a bunch of people mocked me

00:13:56.580 probably 10 years ago

00:13:58.120 when I said the Boy Scouts of America is dead.

00:14:01.040 And then just a few years later,

00:14:03.820 Boy Scouts came out and said,

00:14:05.420 we're not called Boy Scouts anymore.

00:14:06.540 We're just called the Scouts.

00:14:07.520 All those people who mocked me,

00:14:09.300 vindication, right?

00:14:10.520 Like this is not hard to see

00:14:12.940 if you're awake and you're alive

00:14:14.600 and you're actually experiencing life

00:14:16.580 for what it is.

00:14:17.820 Modern life removes male spaces. 0.95

00:14:20.680 The likelihood of you being surrounded by men

00:14:23.460 outside of military service

00:14:25.500 and or post-high school education sports

00:14:31.120 is nil.

00:14:33.100 It's non-existent.

00:14:34.820 It's just not available

00:14:36.040 unless you're intentional about it.

00:14:38.940 For most of human history,

00:14:40.940 men have naturally gathered together.

00:14:42.980 We work together, right?

00:14:45.120 We tilled the fields.

00:14:46.140 And if my neighbor needed to be tilled

00:14:47.840 or my neighbor needed seed planted

00:14:50.200 and I could trade and bargain with him,

00:14:53.360 then we would do that together.

00:14:54.280 We went out and we built barns.

00:14:56.020 You know, you see the Amish 0.89

00:14:56.940 and they're out there on an afternoon

00:14:58.640 and they're building barns together.

00:15:00.440 They're putting barns together in a day.

00:15:03.080 And then we fought together.

00:15:04.720 You know, people from Texas

00:15:06.320 and from California and Utah

00:15:08.520 and New York and Montana

00:15:11.280 coming together to fight against some villain.

00:15:16.720 I mean, we had things like guilds.

00:15:19.280 That's a word I haven't used for a while.

00:15:21.060 A guild.

00:15:22.380 Fraternal orders.

00:15:23.220 That's a word I haven't used for a while.

00:15:26.460 Hunting teams, hunting parties, tradesmen.

00:15:30.600 These are words that we just don't hear as often,

00:15:33.480 sometimes in some spaces.

00:15:35.620 Guilds, fraternal orders, hunting parties, tradesmen.

00:15:38.880 These were male spaces exclusively. 0.88

00:15:42.360 It's where we sharpened each other.

00:15:44.860 But too many of these spaces are now gone.

00:15:47.000 And that isn't coincidence.

00:15:49.760 The work we do is isolated.

00:15:51.560 I sit in this room every day by myself.

00:15:54.940 So I'm not immune to this, but by myself.

00:15:57.220 Yeah, sure.

00:15:57.700 I'm on calls and talking with other men

00:15:59.760 and having good guys on my podcast.

00:16:01.160 But for the most part, I'm isolated.

00:16:04.860 The community you have is weaker.

00:16:06.560 I mean, how many of you guys even know

00:16:08.160 all of your neighbors within a four to five house radius

00:16:12.740 in any direction?

00:16:16.540 And then men are subtly told

00:16:18.100 that gathering with other men is unnecessary 0.89

00:16:19.840 or even suspicious, right?

00:16:21.860 Like we're going to villainize these people.

00:16:23.720 Oh, oh, oh, they're gathering together.

00:16:26.140 It must be some sort of, you know,

00:16:29.160 Christian nationalist type organization.

00:16:32.580 That even happened to me, guys.

00:16:34.800 Some of you may not know this,

00:16:35.960 but years ago, this was probably five years ago,

00:16:38.720 the FBI visited me.

00:16:41.960 They came, I was out of town.

00:16:43.580 The FBI came to my house.

00:16:46.800 They knocked on my door.

00:16:48.800 My ex-wife was there. 0.97

00:16:50.460 Excuse me, she wasn't there, but she was,

00:16:53.180 I was gone.

00:16:54.060 So she was there that weekend by herself.

00:16:56.840 She wasn't there at the time.

00:16:58.060 She was at the gym.

00:16:59.840 And I got a ring notification

00:17:02.000 and I see this man and woman in a suit

00:17:04.760 knocking on my door.

00:17:05.540 I didn't know who it was.

00:17:06.360 So I reached out to my ex and I said,

00:17:07.720 hey, do you know who that was

00:17:09.000 knocking at the door?

00:17:09.900 And she said, yeah, they left a business card.

00:17:11.920 It was the FBI.

00:17:14.940 This was the year that Joe Biden got elected

00:17:16.920 and the FBI left a little note.

00:17:19.360 They left their business card

00:17:20.580 and on the back of the card,

00:17:21.880 it said, I'm sure I could find,

00:17:26.060 I have it somewhere,

00:17:26.840 but I'm sure I could find it.

00:17:27.720 And it said, you know,

00:17:28.480 please give us a call, Mr. Mickler

00:17:30.040 or whatever it said.

00:17:31.740 I mean, I was terrified

00:17:32.660 trying to figure out

00:17:33.740 what in the world's going on.

00:17:36.400 So I call the FBI back

00:17:39.320 and I get on the phone

00:17:40.860 with one of their regional agents

00:17:43.380 and he grills me

00:17:45.220 about what we're doing

00:17:46.060 with this organization.

00:17:47.520 What?

00:17:48.500 Helping men become better men,

00:17:50.140 helping men be better fathers

00:17:52.080 and husbands

00:17:52.640 and business owners

00:17:53.520 and community leaders.

00:17:54.360 And you're going to grill me

00:17:55.680 about what I'm doing?

00:17:56.820 It's an intimidation tactic.

00:18:00.060 It's devious.

00:18:02.160 It's villainous.

00:18:03.920 It's vile.

00:18:05.280 It's illegal.

00:18:08.240 Like, don't you come to my house

00:18:10.060 and threaten me

00:18:13.000 because I'm trying to mobilize

00:18:15.940 and organize men.

00:18:17.180 So, when I tell you

00:18:20.480 about the government's

00:18:22.760 desire to keep us isolated,

00:18:27.560 it's real.

00:18:28.800 I've experienced it.

00:18:31.400 And as I got on the phone

00:18:32.640 with this FBI agent,

00:18:33.780 he told me things

00:18:34.640 about my organization

00:18:35.700 that

00:18:36.380 he wouldn't have known

00:18:39.560 unless he was

00:18:40.460 deep inside my organization.

00:18:42.920 Nothing bad,

00:18:44.560 nothing wrong.

00:18:45.140 But he knew things.

00:18:47.380 He knew things about me

00:18:48.840 that I had completely forgot.

00:18:51.400 So, don't think

00:18:53.020 that this isn't malicious.

00:18:55.540 It is.

00:18:56.940 The government

00:18:57.520 does not want you

00:18:58.480 to organize.

00:18:59.600 And then,

00:18:59.900 here's another point too, guys.

00:19:01.100 And I'll get off

00:19:01.720 that soapbox for a minute.

00:19:02.600 We can talk about that

00:19:03.280 another day.

00:19:04.640 That technology

00:19:05.660 simulates brotherhood

00:19:07.720 without actually giving it. 0.99

00:19:10.040 It's like masturbation. 0.99

00:19:11.580 It feels really good, 0.99

00:19:12.720 but ultimately

00:19:13.380 doesn't get the job done.

00:19:15.140 That's what technology does.

00:19:17.160 Social media tricks you

00:19:18.380 and other men.

00:19:19.580 It makes you actually feel

00:19:21.140 like you might be connected.

00:19:22.860 You know,

00:19:23.020 you see people

00:19:23.960 and you comment

00:19:24.820 and you message back

00:19:25.980 and sometimes it's good

00:19:28.060 and sometimes it's not so good,

00:19:29.420 but it's not the same thing

00:19:30.520 as sitting across

00:19:31.260 from another man

00:19:32.280 and having an actual conversation,

00:19:33.840 a difficult conversation

00:19:35.160 where he can look you in the eye

00:19:36.480 and see your mannerisms

00:19:38.220 and your demeanor.

00:19:39.120 It's not the same thing

00:19:42.220 as training together

00:19:43.260 and sweating together

00:19:44.320 and working together

00:19:45.400 and struggling together.

00:19:47.560 When I was in sports

00:19:48.800 in high school,

00:19:49.380 I never played college sports.

00:19:51.580 I was undersized

00:19:52.640 and maybe underskilled too

00:19:55.160 if I'm being honest.

00:19:56.720 But when I was in high school,

00:19:59.800 you know,

00:20:00.080 if I missed a block

00:20:01.020 in football

00:20:01.500 or an assignment

00:20:03.000 or I missed a ground ball

00:20:05.280 in baseball,

00:20:05.940 I was going to hear about it.

00:20:09.280 I was not immune

00:20:10.740 to criticism

00:20:12.180 and it was harsh.

00:20:14.200 It was really harsh at times.

00:20:16.400 But that's the point.

00:20:18.920 It wasn't harshness 1.00

00:20:20.160 for the sake of being a jerk. 0.99

00:20:21.500 It was harshness 1.00

00:20:22.080 for the sake

00:20:22.520 of being better as a team.

00:20:24.400 But technology,

00:20:25.280 these little devices,

00:20:26.180 the thing you're listening

00:20:26.760 to this podcast on right now

00:20:28.580 is the illusion of connection.

00:20:31.080 It's not real.

00:20:33.160 It's not real substance.

00:20:34.580 And there's a cost of isolation.

00:20:36.700 There is.

00:20:38.500 There's a cost of you being

00:20:40.080 isolated from everybody else.

00:20:44.040 Because what happens to men

00:20:45.540 when they stay isolated

00:20:46.700 is that they lose perspective.

00:20:50.320 They lose accountability.

00:20:52.540 Their standards,

00:20:53.380 they start to slip a little bit

00:20:55.080 because we can deceive ourselves, right?

00:20:56.900 Because when you're alone long enough,

00:20:59.240 our minds,

00:21:00.020 it becomes an echo chamber.

00:21:02.180 And I do this.

00:21:02.840 I'm guilty of this.

00:21:03.580 You know this.

00:21:04.080 If you've been following,

00:21:04.700 I'm stubborn.

00:21:05.720 I can be black and white

00:21:06.840 in my thinking.

00:21:07.760 And I just find ideas

00:21:11.040 and articles

00:21:12.180 and concepts

00:21:14.240 to support

00:21:14.960 what I already believe.

00:21:15.800 And so it just becomes

00:21:16.520 this echo chamber.

00:21:18.440 I can justify my bad habits.

00:21:20.860 That's easy to do.

00:21:22.940 You know,

00:21:23.180 I remember I used to be able to say,

00:21:25.060 well, I deserve a drink.

00:21:27.040 Really?

00:21:27.820 Do I?

00:21:29.040 Is that true?

00:21:30.660 Because if I said that

00:21:31.660 to another man

00:21:32.360 who was actually in my corner,

00:21:33.840 he'd say, 0.87

00:21:34.220 what the hell are you talking about? 0.89

00:21:36.080 But if I say that to myself, 0.98

00:21:37.880 I can make that case

00:21:39.720 pretty convincingly, actually.

00:21:43.460 And so we start

00:21:44.420 to tolerate mediocrity.

00:21:46.840 We convince ourselves

00:21:48.060 that everything's fine.

00:21:49.400 We're good.

00:21:50.860 I mean, go ask 10

00:21:51.600 of your closest buddies today.

00:21:53.400 Hey, how's everything going?

00:21:54.320 And all of them will say,

00:21:55.320 fine, it's going good.

00:21:56.160 Yeah, everything's good.

00:21:58.280 And then if you just stop

00:21:59.660 and you just stare

00:22:00.460 at their soul for a second,

00:22:02.120 like into their soul,

00:22:04.600 the facade starts

00:22:07.600 to crack a little bit.

00:22:08.880 It's like an old stucco house

00:22:10.040 that's got cracks

00:22:10.800 all over the place.

00:22:11.660 Those cracks,

00:22:12.780 those fractures

00:22:13.440 start to reveal themselves.

00:22:15.780 You just stare at them.

00:22:18.640 And then he says,

00:22:19.460 actually, it's not good.

00:22:20.460 My wife and I

00:22:21.080 are not doing well.

00:22:21.800 Or my kid is struggling.

00:22:25.300 Or I just lost a loved one.

00:22:28.080 Or I'm up to debt.

00:22:30.160 I'm in debt,

00:22:31.240 up to my eyeballs,

00:22:32.140 and I don't know

00:22:32.600 how to manage it.

00:22:33.560 And that facade

00:22:34.380 starts to break down.

00:22:35.580 But that's actually

00:22:36.200 what you need.

00:22:37.840 You need it to break down

00:22:39.040 because what's revealed

00:22:40.240 under it,

00:22:40.820 although it's ugly,

00:22:42.260 it's the truth.

00:22:43.420 And you need other men 0.88

00:22:46.220 to hold the mirror up

00:22:47.100 and say,

00:22:47.600 hey, I want you to stare

00:22:48.440 at this for a second

00:22:49.260 and tell me if you're as good

00:22:50.720 as you think you are

00:22:52.400 or as good as you're lying

00:22:54.040 about being.

00:22:58.140 When you don't have guys

00:22:59.200 in your corner,

00:22:59.800 there's no one there

00:23:00.320 to challenge you.

00:23:01.060 There's no one there

00:23:01.540 to say, brother,

00:23:02.160 what the hell is going on 0.97

00:23:03.400 with you? 0.99

00:23:03.800 You are so different.

00:23:06.340 You are doing so much less

00:23:07.840 than you're capable of.

00:23:08.800 You have changed.

00:23:10.060 I can see it.

00:23:10.860 What is going on with you?

00:23:12.180 And that's why

00:23:13.480 brotherhood matters.

00:23:15.740 And every strong man

00:23:17.520 throughout human history

00:23:18.680 has had other strong men.

00:23:20.420 Again, history is clear

00:23:21.560 about this.

00:23:22.560 Warriors had units, right?

00:23:24.660 Explorers had crews.

00:23:27.000 Entrepreneurs have masterminds.

00:23:29.540 Athletes have teams

00:23:30.700 and coaches.

00:23:31.800 The strongest leaders

00:23:32.760 in the world

00:23:33.320 have surrounded themselves

00:23:34.740 with trusted men

00:23:36.160 because strength

00:23:37.660 multiplies

00:23:39.320 in being close,

00:23:40.840 in being proxed.

00:23:42.180 proximity to each other.

00:23:44.480 You can't do this

00:23:45.320 from a distance.

00:23:46.500 When men gather around, 0.95

00:23:48.860 the shared standards,

00:23:50.560 the shared mission,

00:23:51.440 the shared fulfillment,

00:23:52.320 what they do

00:23:52.680 is they start

00:23:53.120 to sharpen each other.

00:23:55.220 Have you ever sharpened a knife?

00:23:57.620 I've got a knife right here.

00:24:01.800 This knife is actually,

00:24:03.680 believe it or not,

00:24:04.160 this is Zach Brown's knife.

00:24:05.560 He gave this to me,

00:24:06.520 which is kind of a cool knife

00:24:07.540 and it's kind of a timeless piece

00:24:09.720 at this point.

00:24:10.220 But I sharpen this knife

00:24:11.960 every couple of weeks.

00:24:14.500 And when I sharpen it,

00:24:15.920 the way that I sharpen it

00:24:17.400 is I get a sharpening tool

00:24:18.580 and I literally grind this knife

00:24:21.960 against that sharpening tool,

00:24:24.680 against that stone

00:24:25.500 and then that ceramic.

00:24:27.100 And I get that edge

00:24:28.020 really, really sharp.

00:24:29.100 It's not sharp right now,

00:24:29.880 which is why I can run my thumb around it

00:24:31.360 because I use it every day.

00:24:35.460 This is you right here. 0.52

00:24:38.060 You're the knife.

00:24:40.960 If you're not following along on YouTube,

00:24:43.140 you can.

00:24:43.560 You can see what I'm carrying right here.

00:24:45.520 But this is you.

00:24:46.680 This is me.

00:24:47.480 This is a representation

00:24:48.540 of who we are.

00:24:50.600 And if I can run my thumb,

00:24:52.160 again, if you're not on YouTube

00:24:52.980 and I can run my thumb

00:24:54.020 along the blade like this

00:24:55.300 and it's not sharp,

00:24:56.220 then that's you.

00:24:58.420 But if I were to run that thumb

00:25:00.280 across that

00:25:00.920 and it sliced my finger,

00:25:02.180 then that means

00:25:02.680 that blade is sharp,

00:25:03.980 which is what a blade

00:25:05.540 is supposed to be.

00:25:09.620 You as a man

00:25:10.420 are supposed to be sharp.

00:25:13.080 You're not supposed

00:25:13.840 to be able to do this

00:25:15.020 to a knife

00:25:16.460 the same way

00:25:18.700 that society

00:25:19.660 is not supposed

00:25:20.420 to be able to push on you

00:25:21.960 without getting hurt.

00:25:25.220 You're not sharp

00:25:26.160 because you're not grinding

00:25:27.380 the blade

00:25:29.060 against something

00:25:30.880 that grinds back.

00:25:34.320 What if we did?

00:25:36.540 Men sharpen each other. 0.87

00:25:38.400 We challenge each other.

00:25:40.780 We elevate each other.

00:25:42.240 So what do you do?

00:25:43.240 All right,

00:25:43.440 what do you do?

00:25:44.900 If modern life

00:25:45.860 is pushing men

00:25:46.560 towards isolation,

00:25:47.400 then we have to actively

00:25:48.700 fight against it.

00:25:49.760 Brotherhood doesn't happen 0.99

00:25:50.760 automatically anymore.

00:25:51.840 It's just not built

00:25:52.800 into the framework.

00:25:54.060 It's not built

00:25:54.540 into the system.

00:25:55.160 You have to do it

00:25:55.940 intentionally.

00:25:56.720 So here's a few ways

00:25:58.420 to start.

00:25:58.820 Number one,

00:25:59.620 seek out spaces

00:26:00.440 where men improve.

00:26:02.220 Where do men improve? 0.71

00:26:03.560 Talked about this

00:26:04.520 ad nauseum.

00:26:05.900 The gym,

00:26:07.280 business meetings,

00:26:08.420 and church.

00:26:09.420 Period.

00:26:12.400 There's no other place

00:26:13.960 that men improve

00:26:15.100 outside of those

00:26:15.920 three places.

00:26:16.700 The gym,

00:26:18.840 the business environment,

00:26:20.280 and church.

00:26:23.020 I challenge you

00:26:24.020 to come up

00:26:24.460 with something

00:26:25.500 outside of that.

00:26:27.320 Now,

00:26:27.480 when I say the gym,

00:26:28.200 I'm talking about

00:26:29.020 martial arts

00:26:29.860 or strength training,

00:26:30.700 even running clubs

00:26:31.620 and organizations,

00:26:33.020 cycling,

00:26:33.540 whatever your thing is.

00:26:34.640 That's what I mean by gym.

00:26:35.580 The church,

00:26:36.700 whatever your denomination is.

00:26:37.880 I'm a Christian,

00:26:39.480 a Baptist

00:26:40.480 for the most part.

00:26:42.120 That's what I gravitate towards,

00:26:43.700 but whatever,

00:26:44.300 whatever your thing is.

00:26:45.880 Business,

00:26:46.600 it could be

00:26:47.040 Business Network International,

00:26:48.320 Chamber of Commerce,

00:26:49.240 Rotary Clubs,

00:26:50.540 other business groups,

00:26:52.160 masterminds

00:26:52.960 that you're involved in.

00:26:54.700 That's it.

00:26:55.200 That's it.

00:26:55.580 That's all they are.

00:26:58.380 Maybe some outdoor,

00:26:59.360 maybe I'll give you

00:27:00.280 one exception,

00:27:00.940 some outdoor clubs,

00:27:03.040 you know,

00:27:03.340 that might be

00:27:04.000 like hunting

00:27:04.560 or camping

00:27:06.380 or,

00:27:08.140 and I would say

00:27:08.820 hiking and rock climbing,

00:27:10.480 that would fall

00:27:10.840 into the gym category,

00:27:11.720 but I think you understand

00:27:12.780 what I'm saying.

00:27:14.120 It's also communities

00:27:15.180 like the Iron Council.

00:27:16.060 Now,

00:27:16.180 you might think

00:27:16.620 that's a little 0.50

00:27:17.320 hypocritical

00:27:19.520 when I said 0.68

00:27:20.060 digital technology

00:27:21.000 keeps us isolated,

00:27:22.000 but it's different

00:27:22.960 if you're actually

00:27:23.680 focused on something

00:27:24.780 purposeful with direction,

00:27:26.080 but regardless,

00:27:27.300 anywhere men

00:27:28.040 are pushing themselves

00:27:28.980 and each other,

00:27:29.820 that's where brotherhood

00:27:30.760 forms.

00:27:34.400 Very simple.

00:27:35.600 We don't need

00:27:36.280 to make it harder.

00:27:36.920 It's the gym,

00:27:37.960 it's business functions,

00:27:39.200 and it's the church.

00:27:40.780 Number two,

00:27:41.340 do hard things together.

00:27:42.420 We bond

00:27:43.820 through shared struggle.

00:27:45.320 Not small talk.

00:27:46.240 I don't care about

00:27:46.780 the weather.

00:27:47.240 I don't care about

00:27:47.800 your favorite sports team.

00:27:48.820 I really don't.

00:27:49.780 I actually

00:27:50.460 don't care about

00:27:52.080 all the things

00:27:52.700 that we're supposed

00:27:53.200 to care about like,

00:27:54.060 oh, how's your wife?

00:27:54.740 How's your kids?

00:27:55.340 Like, sure,

00:27:56.460 I want them to be good,

00:27:57.440 but I actually want

00:27:58.160 to get deep.

00:27:58.700 Not surface level conversation,

00:28:00.420 but doing something

00:28:01.280 difficult together.

00:28:02.500 Training,

00:28:03.120 building,

00:28:03.640 adventuring,

00:28:04.940 suffering together

00:28:06.240 because hard things

00:28:08.500 create deep bonds.

00:28:09.440 So if you're not doing

00:28:10.180 difficult things with men,

00:28:11.860 even in your church,

00:28:13.060 I can't tell you

00:28:13.840 how many guys

00:28:14.360 I hear from

00:28:15.020 who are part of

00:28:16.240 Bible study 0.99

00:28:17.500 and they'll message me

00:28:18.760 and they're like,

00:28:19.060 hey, I'm doing this

00:28:19.540 Bible study 0.99

00:28:20.040 and we can't seem

00:28:20.640 to get it off the ground.

00:28:21.540 Yeah, because you're

00:28:22.220 sitting around

00:28:22.920 pontificating

00:28:24.360 about, you know,

00:28:26.360 eternal life.

00:28:28.060 Not even Jesus Christ

00:28:29.280 did that.

00:28:32.100 Right?

00:28:32.680 Like, aren't you

00:28:33.840 supposed to be like him?

00:28:35.960 He didn't sit around

00:28:37.200 and he wasn't singing

00:28:37.940 kumbaya

00:28:38.500 with his disciples

00:28:39.600 about life.

00:28:41.780 He was out

00:28:42.500 proselyting.

00:28:43.540 He was out

00:28:44.020 serving people.

00:28:45.420 He's out healing.

00:28:46.220 He was out walking

00:28:47.460 and exploring

00:28:48.420 and wandering

00:28:49.400 and suffering.

00:28:52.660 And then we sit

00:28:53.740 in these climate

00:28:54.320 controlled

00:28:54.880 Starbucks

00:28:57.220 shops

00:28:58.640 and think that,

00:29:00.200 oh, there's five

00:29:00.580 of us together

00:29:01.060 talking about the cosmos

00:29:02.400 that that's going

00:29:02.960 to be better.

00:29:03.540 No, it isn't.

00:29:04.480 Jesus Christ

00:29:05.020 didn't even do that.

00:29:08.220 Be like him.

00:29:10.840 All right, number three,

00:29:12.200 be the man

00:29:12.840 who initiates.

00:29:13.580 Guys, nobody

00:29:14.160 is going to do this

00:29:15.020 for you.

00:29:15.660 There's not a man 0.85

00:29:16.680 in your neighborhood.

00:29:17.520 There probably is.

00:29:18.540 I'm being a little bit

00:29:20.060 hyperbolic here,

00:29:21.400 but there's not a man

00:29:23.080 in your neighborhood

00:29:23.880 who's just like

00:29:24.880 going to create

00:29:25.700 this for you.

00:29:26.400 This is you.

00:29:27.120 This is on you.

00:29:28.960 So don't wait.

00:29:30.820 Call up the local

00:29:31.820 golf,

00:29:32.480 the golf course

00:29:33.720 and say,

00:29:34.140 hey, you know,

00:29:34.980 this is Friday.

00:29:35.600 Call them and say,

00:29:36.160 hey, you know,

00:29:36.740 Saturday or Sunday,

00:29:38.380 9 a.m.

00:29:39.120 Can I get a foursome

00:29:40.000 on 9 a.m.

00:29:41.300 Sunday morning?

00:29:42.560 And I don't even care

00:29:43.440 if you have three other guys

00:29:44.640 who can join.

00:29:45.180 Just reserve it

00:29:46.180 and then make the call

00:29:47.320 to the guys and say,

00:29:48.060 hey, I've got a group,

00:29:48.920 four of us going out.

00:29:50.280 Wanted to invite you out.

00:29:53.940 Maybe it's a hike

00:29:54.800 tomorrow morning,

00:29:55.620 Saturday morning.

00:29:57.280 We've got a couple

00:29:57.980 of hikes here

00:29:58.420 that I really like.

00:29:58.980 They're simple.

00:29:59.700 One's the H Hill

00:30:00.500 because I live

00:30:00.940 in Hurricane, Utah.

00:30:02.520 Another one's called

00:30:03.320 Molly's Nipple. 0.72

00:30:04.600 It's rigorous.

00:30:06.740 It's short,

00:30:07.200 but it's rigorous.

00:30:08.580 Just make a commitment.

00:30:10.380 Hey, I'm going to go hike

00:30:11.040 at 7 a.m.

00:30:11.820 and I'm going to try

00:30:12.560 to get five or six guys

00:30:13.520 to go hike with me.

00:30:15.100 That's easy.

00:30:16.100 You can do that

00:30:16.860 if you're committed.

00:30:19.380 Maybe you need to change

00:30:20.440 the oil in your truck

00:30:21.240 and you don't know

00:30:21.660 how to do it.

00:30:22.440 Call your friend

00:30:23.280 who's a mechanic

00:30:23.880 and say, hey, bro,

00:30:24.700 I'm trying to change

00:30:25.300 the oil in my truck.

00:30:25.960 I don't know how to do it.

00:30:26.540 Can you come over tomorrow,

00:30:27.380 Saturday morning at 7 a.m.?

00:30:29.360 I've got a weight rack

00:30:32.000 from Sornex

00:30:33.060 Exercise Equipment

00:30:34.200 who I highly recommend

00:30:35.080 by the way

00:30:35.560 and it's out in my garage.

00:30:39.100 I could call

00:30:39.560 half a dozen guys right now

00:30:40.560 and say, hey,

00:30:40.960 I'm going to do a workout

00:30:41.860 Saturday morning,

00:30:43.900 Sunday morning,

00:30:44.620 7 a.m., 8 a.m.

00:30:46.380 You want to come over

00:30:46.940 and hang out?

00:30:47.480 I could get five guys together

00:30:48.820 for sure.

00:30:50.360 Be that guy

00:30:50.840 who organizes the workout.

00:30:53.760 Be the guy

00:30:54.420 who invites men 0.98

00:30:55.180 over for conversation.

00:30:56.460 Maybe there's fight nights.

00:30:57.300 I don't think there's fight nights

00:30:58.120 this weekend,

00:30:58.580 but actually there might be.

00:31:00.100 It's the first weekend

00:31:00.700 of the month.

00:31:01.760 Saturday,

00:31:02.200 there might be fight nights,

00:31:03.120 UFC fight nights.

00:31:04.280 Get a group of guys.

00:31:05.940 Go buy a bunch of snacks.

00:31:07.420 Grill some meat.

00:31:09.340 Invite the guys over.

00:31:10.800 Hang out.

00:31:11.320 Enjoy.

00:31:12.060 Let the ladies go 1.00

00:31:12.640 do their thing

00:31:13.220 and you get together

00:31:14.360 with the men

00:31:14.800 Saturday night.

00:31:15.780 Easy.

00:31:17.360 But it's leadership, guys.

00:31:18.320 It creates brotherhood.

00:31:20.380 And the last point

00:31:21.200 that I want to share with you

00:31:22.060 on what you should do

00:31:23.260 is make sure you choose men 0.82

00:31:24.680 who tell the truth

00:31:25.560 because real brotherhood

00:31:27.700 isn't found

00:31:29.160 in platitudes

00:31:31.140 and comfort.

00:31:34.140 It's not just encouragement.

00:31:35.920 Like,

00:31:36.200 I'm your biggest cheerleader.

00:31:37.840 I don't want a cheerleader. 1.00

00:31:39.660 I don't.

00:31:40.420 I want my significant other,

00:31:42.380 my wife,

00:31:42.900 my future wife

00:31:43.540 to be my cheerleader.

00:31:44.380 I don't want my guys

00:31:45.160 to be my cheerleaders.

00:31:46.380 I want them to be

00:31:47.160 my accountability.

00:31:49.200 The guys who are like,

00:31:49.920 hey, dude,

00:31:50.980 whatever you're doing right now

00:31:52.300 is not working for you.

00:31:53.240 Hey, you know,

00:31:56.580 you said you're going

00:31:57.480 to go to the gym.

00:31:58.020 You've been slacking this week. 0.99

00:31:58.940 What the hell? 0.97

00:32:00.340 We all showed up, 0.98

00:32:01.100 but you weren't there.

00:32:02.120 I don't need a cheerleader 0.99

00:32:03.180 out of a man.

00:32:05.280 I need accountability.

00:32:07.040 A guy who refuses 0.99

00:32:08.100 to let me drift

00:32:08.820 and somebody who,

00:32:10.000 and this is the hard part

00:32:10.880 is we have to get over

00:32:11.740 our own ego

00:32:12.520 and arrogance

00:32:12.980 is when a guy says,

00:32:14.840 hey, bro,

00:32:15.180 I love you, 0.99

00:32:15.740 but damn, 1.00

00:32:16.480 you're not, 0.99

00:32:16.860 you're not doing

00:32:18.560 what you're capable of doing.

00:32:19.620 What most guys will do

00:32:21.320 is give them

00:32:24.220 the either proverbial

00:32:25.840 or literal middle finger.

00:32:28.180 Don't,

00:32:28.620 don't do that.

00:32:33.240 I said years ago

00:32:34.660 and I believe this to be true

00:32:35.680 is not everybody

00:32:36.500 who criticizes you

00:32:37.780 is your enemy

00:32:38.360 and not everyone

00:32:39.980 who praises you

00:32:41.060 is your ally.

00:32:44.160 Some people criticize you

00:32:45.920 because they're actually

00:32:46.800 your ally

00:32:47.380 and some people praise you

00:32:49.560 because they're actually

00:32:50.240 your enemy.

00:32:51.600 You have to discern

00:32:52.720 which one is which.

00:32:54.320 And here's the last thing

00:32:54.960 I'm going to share

00:32:55.300 with you guys.

00:32:58.620 The lone wolf

00:32:59.560 doesn't,

00:33:00.140 doesn't die

00:33:01.460 because he's weak.

00:33:02.420 I don't,

00:33:02.820 I don't think men are weak.

00:33:05.740 I think

00:33:06.460 that the lone wolf

00:33:07.660 dies because

00:33:08.640 no man

00:33:10.320 was willing

00:33:11.200 or,

00:33:12.320 or meant to

00:33:13.180 fight life alone.

00:33:15.960 We're built for tribes.

00:33:17.340 We're built for brotherhood.

00:33:20.180 We're built

00:33:20.860 to move forward

00:33:21.620 in life

00:33:22.080 and progress

00:33:22.660 in life

00:33:23.100 with other capable men.

00:33:24.380 And if modern society

00:33:25.320 pushes you

00:33:25.980 towards isolation,

00:33:26.860 then maybe you ought

00:33:27.640 to stop and think,

00:33:28.980 maybe I should go

00:33:30.880 the opposite route.

00:33:32.920 It's your responsibility

00:33:34.120 to push back.

00:33:34.960 It's your responsibility

00:33:36.020 to find your brothers.

00:33:37.400 Your responsibility

00:33:38.320 to build your tribe,

00:33:40.800 to sharpen each other

00:33:41.800 like this knife.

00:33:43.300 It's your responsibility.

00:33:44.520 The strongest men

00:33:48.040 in the world

00:33:48.520 are not lone wolves,

00:33:49.880 guys.

00:33:50.100 They're leaders

00:33:50.780 of packs.

00:33:52.440 They're engaged.

00:33:53.680 They're serving.

00:33:54.560 They're giving back.

00:33:55.400 They're not

00:33:55.760 subjugating themselves

00:33:57.620 to

00:33:58.220 consumerism.

00:34:01.320 Packs move

00:34:02.180 further and faster.

00:34:03.440 They fight harder.

00:34:04.880 And frankly,

00:34:05.800 they just survive

00:34:06.720 longer

00:34:07.280 and they do more.

00:34:09.380 They're more effective.

00:34:10.360 So a couple of resources

00:34:12.920 for you.

00:34:13.580 Again,

00:34:13.900 I told you,

00:34:14.360 if you want to do this locally,

00:34:15.420 it's easy.

00:34:16.000 I'll teach you how to do it.

00:34:18.180 It's really easy.

00:34:20.740 Three things.

00:34:22.460 The gym,

00:34:24.980 church,

00:34:26.180 business functions.

00:34:27.420 You can do it on your own.

00:34:28.400 And that's cool.

00:34:29.020 If you do,

00:34:29.380 I hope you do.

00:34:30.840 If you want

00:34:31.500 a little bit more direction,

00:34:32.660 you want a little bit more

00:34:33.820 clarity and focus,

00:34:35.700 something you can

00:34:36.300 actually do yourself,

00:34:37.280 then what I would suggest

00:34:38.300 to join the Iron Council.

00:34:39.480 That's our exclusive

00:34:40.200 brotherhood.

00:34:41.060 Now,

00:34:41.180 it is digital,

00:34:42.160 but a lot of these guys,

00:34:43.680 the majority of these guys

00:34:44.560 are actually getting together

00:34:45.520 for local meetups

00:34:47.620 and they're holding

00:34:48.200 each other accountable

00:34:49.000 and they're talking

00:34:49.580 every week

00:34:50.180 and they're texting

00:34:50.900 and they're doing

00:34:51.620 Marco Polo,

00:34:52.720 which is not a thing

00:34:53.460 I do,

00:34:54.440 but they're doing it

00:34:55.520 and it's working.

00:34:56.780 They're feeling better.

00:34:57.740 They're growing.

00:34:58.360 They're holding

00:34:58.720 each other accountable.

00:34:59.920 They're pushing

00:35:00.620 and leaning on each other

00:35:01.620 and making each other better.

00:35:02.840 Guys are losing weight

00:35:03.740 and starting businesses

00:35:04.780 and rekindling

00:35:06.740 relationships with children

00:35:08.200 and making

00:35:10.020 amends where

00:35:10.740 they've messed up

00:35:11.660 and getting promotions.

00:35:13.000 It's incredible.

00:35:14.400 Go to

00:35:15.140 orderofman.com

00:35:16.180 slash iron council.

00:35:17.340 The other thing

00:35:17.900 that you can do,

00:35:18.720 the third thing,

00:35:19.580 is come to our

00:35:20.220 Men's Forge event,

00:35:21.160 April 23rd

00:35:22.040 through the 26th.

00:35:23.560 It's just outside

00:35:24.560 of St. Louis,

00:35:25.180 so if you're in that area,

00:35:26.940 man,

00:35:27.340 take a quick flight,

00:35:28.420 come out,

00:35:28.960 or take a quick drive,

00:35:30.060 come out,

00:35:30.960 and spend

00:35:32.220 three and a half days

00:35:33.520 with dozens

00:35:35.280 of other men

00:35:36.060 who are all

00:35:36.660 working together

00:35:37.440 to grow and build,

00:35:38.840 and we're going 0.97

00:35:39.580 to shoot guns together, 0.98

00:35:40.620 and we're going 0.53

00:35:41.100 to climb ropes

00:35:42.600 courses together,

00:35:43.400 and we're going

00:35:43.740 to train jiu-jitsu

00:35:44.540 together,

00:35:44.900 but we're also

00:35:45.560 going to be learning

00:35:46.140 from Dwayne Noel

00:35:47.160 and G.S. Youngblood

00:35:48.640 and Frank Schwartz

00:35:50.020 with F3

00:35:50.880 and Sathya Sam

00:35:52.360 on overcoming

00:35:53.060 pornography addiction

00:35:54.120 and all the things

00:35:55.200 that we deal

00:35:55.680 with as men,

00:35:56.780 and then we're going

00:35:57.260 to break bread together,

00:35:58.280 and we're going

00:35:58.660 to pray,

00:35:59.460 and we're going

00:35:59.780 to work together,

00:36:00.980 and we're going

00:36:01.220 to talk about

00:36:01.800 our struggles.

00:36:02.420 We're going

00:36:02.560 to sit around

00:36:03.040 the campfire.

00:36:04.060 We're going

00:36:04.500 to fight each other,

00:36:05.420 and we're going

00:36:05.840 to come back

00:36:06.500 bloody and bruised

00:36:08.600 physically,

00:36:09.440 mentally,

00:36:09.920 emotionally,

00:36:10.340 but stronger,

00:36:11.580 and I would love

00:36:12.760 for you to come

00:36:13.180 out to that.

00:36:14.000 Go to

00:36:14.420 themensforge.com

00:36:17.100 for that.

00:36:18.360 All right, guys.

00:36:18.980 There you go.

00:36:19.680 I went a little longer

00:36:20.500 than I thought I would.

00:36:21.600 It's about 40 minutes,

00:36:22.480 I think,

00:36:22.720 at this point.

00:36:23.700 That was going

00:36:24.100 to be a 20-minute

00:36:24.800 conversation,

00:36:25.620 but I get passionate

00:36:26.340 about this because

00:36:27.140 it's worked in my life.

00:36:28.980 When I surround

00:36:29.660 myself with other men,

00:36:31.160 I'm better for it,

00:36:32.160 and when I isolate,

00:36:33.460 I'm worse.

00:36:34.660 Flat out,

00:36:35.240 I'm worse.

00:36:36.620 So I hope

00:36:37.260 that serves you,

00:36:38.180 and I hope

00:36:38.660 it motivates you

00:36:39.800 and inspires you

00:36:40.660 to either join

00:36:41.260 the Iron Council,

00:36:42.080 come to the Forge,

00:36:42.960 and or start

00:36:44.500 something locally

00:36:45.280 in your gym,

00:36:46.320 in your church,

00:36:47.660 in your business

00:36:48.320 functions,

00:36:48.800 and just be

00:36:50.280 with other men.

00:36:51.340 Fight the system,

00:36:52.200 resist the system,

00:36:53.780 band together,

00:36:54.860 and you will

00:36:56.640 be better off.

00:36:58.220 All right, guys.

00:36:58.980 We'll be back

00:36:59.320 next week.

00:36:59.760 Make sure you subscribe,

00:37:00.640 check out the Iron Council,

00:37:02.200 orderman.com

00:37:02.840 slash Iron Council.

00:37:04.140 Check out the Men's Forge

00:37:05.480 at themensforge.com.

00:37:08.440 There's my knife.

00:37:09.380 Speaking of knives,

00:37:10.260 check out my good friends

00:37:11.120 over at Montana Knife.

00:37:12.120 Now, this one's not,

00:37:13.180 I hate to say,

00:37:14.260 but they don't have,

00:37:15.640 they only have fixed blades

00:37:16.540 so far,

00:37:17.140 so I'm going to talk

00:37:17.820 with Josh over there,

00:37:18.680 but if you're looking

00:37:19.180 for a good knife,

00:37:20.560 I would highly,

00:37:21.540 highly suggest

00:37:22.460 montananifecompany.com.

00:37:24.920 Use the code

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00:37:25.980 You'll save some money,

00:37:26.780 but there's a good

00:37:27.680 knife company

00:37:28.180 if you want to 0.98

00:37:28.880 cut yourself with a knife. 1.00

00:37:30.960 I can't cut myself 1.00

00:37:31.760 with this one

00:37:32.240 because it's too dull,

00:37:33.440 so I've got to sharpen.

00:37:35.240 All right, guys.

00:37:36.020 We'll catch you next week.

00:37:37.080 Until then,

00:37:37.500 go out there,

00:37:37.860 take action,

00:37:38.740 and become a man.

00:37:39.540 You are meant to be.

00:37:40.920 Thank you for listening

00:37:41.780 to the Order of Man podcast.

00:37:43.860 If you're ready

00:37:44.240 to take charge of your life

00:37:45.480 and be more of the man

00:37:46.640 you were meant to be,

00:37:47.840 we invite you

00:37:48.500 to join the order

00:37:49.220 at orderofman.com.

00:37:56.660 Thank you.

Order of Man - March 06, 2026

Why the Lone Wolf Dies ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

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