Order of Man - You Cannot Drift Your Way to Success ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

00:00:00.000 When you drift, you do it for years before you even realize that you're lost.

00:00:04.220 And other people around you can see it, but you don't see it.

00:00:06.900 And then what you say, and I've done this is,

00:00:08.780 man, I was blindsided in my relationship.

00:00:10.640 You're just ignoring everything.

00:00:12.640 But what I've found is that most men don't wake up one day just ruined and devastated.

00:00:17.820 They wake up one day and they're regretful about what they missed

00:00:21.240 if they actually wake up to the reality of their situation.

00:00:24.680 They look around and they'll ask themselves,

00:00:26.240 and how many times have you asked yourself is,

00:00:28.180 how did I get here?

00:00:30.000 Man, about this time of year,

00:00:33.020 a lot of us start thinking about how our year went

00:00:35.700 and what we want to accomplish in the next year.

00:00:39.280 And as I've been thinking about what I wanted to share with you,

00:00:42.520 I've come to a realization, and I've known this for a while,

00:00:45.020 and I'm sure many of you do as well.

00:00:46.320 So maybe this is a refresher, or maybe you're hearing it for the first time.

00:00:50.360 But guys, we cannot drift our way into success.

00:00:54.420 I think there's some common misconceptions,

00:00:56.420 some common beliefs that life just sort of works out,

00:01:02.160 that things just sort of happen,

00:01:04.500 that if you're a good and decent human being,

00:01:07.620 or if you stay out of trouble,

00:01:09.700 or if you just keep your head down,

00:01:12.520 then somehow, in some way,

00:01:14.840 you'll wake up one day with the body that you want,

00:01:18.460 or being respected, or fulfilled, or just proud of the man that you've become.

00:01:24.280 And it sounds silly when I say it like that,

00:01:26.340 and I think it's a little bit covert in the way that it happens.

00:01:30.920 But when we start to discount what other people are doing,

00:01:33.760 or we say they're lucky,

00:01:35.400 or things just don't happen to me,

00:01:38.200 if I was there,

00:01:39.320 he was at the right place at the right time,

00:01:41.400 that's the kind of thing that we say.

00:01:44.880 And what that means is that we're just waiting or standing by,

00:01:47.800 hoping that something good will happen to us.

00:01:50.620 And drifting, or just hoping things work out,

00:01:54.140 and expecting them to, is not how it works.

00:01:56.620 We don't drift ourselves into strong lives.

00:02:00.080 We drift into weakness.

00:02:03.820 We drift into a state of comfort.

00:02:06.240 We drift into potential distraction, or sedation, or addiction.

00:02:12.520 It's potentially even resentment.

00:02:14.980 But strength in your life, real strength,

00:02:17.520 real bravery, real courage, real success,

00:02:20.140 it's never been what you've heard me call the default setting.

00:02:23.720 Living a life by design, not by default.

00:02:26.260 And I have to ask, as we roll into 2026,

00:02:30.060 are you coasting?

00:02:31.280 Are you drifting?

00:02:32.140 Are you hoping that life will just be good for you?

00:02:34.820 Because the drift that happens in our lives,

00:02:37.840 and we'll talk a little bit about how that might manifest,

00:02:40.040 that's natural.

00:02:41.840 That's the natural state of man. 0.97

00:02:43.780 To be lazy, to be kind of weak, to be kind of cowardly, 0.61

00:02:46.500 to self-preserve, and just get by with the bare minimum. 0.95

00:02:50.900 If it isn't you, how many men do you know

00:02:53.160 who are just punching in at the right time,

00:02:55.640 and punching out at just the right time,

00:02:57.360 just so they don't get fired?

00:02:58.680 Or doing just enough in their marriage,

00:03:00.680 in their relationship, so that their wife doesn't have, 0.99

00:03:03.280 you know, any problems with the way that they're showing up.

00:03:06.520 Strength, on the other hand, I don't think is natural.

00:03:09.060 It's something that you have to develop,

00:03:10.780 and earn, and build over time,

00:03:12.540 and discipline, and consistency.

00:03:14.560 So we need to get clear about something on this.

00:03:18.100 It's going to be uncomfortable to hear.

00:03:21.080 It's certainly going to be uncomfortable to move into,

00:03:23.120 into 2026.

00:03:24.220 But if you do nothing,

00:03:26.020 your life doesn't just stay neutral,

00:03:28.160 because we are drifting, right?

00:03:30.040 Your life will take you where the current takes you.

00:03:32.560 It'll take you in the direction

00:03:34.300 that other men who are designing their lives 0.67

00:03:37.420 want you to go.

00:03:39.600 Imagine being in the middle of the ocean

00:03:41.800 on a life preserver, a lifeboat, or a life raft.

00:03:45.480 You're not going to stay in that one spot.

00:03:47.460 You're going to drift as the currents take you

00:03:49.440 wherever they're going to take you.

00:03:51.600 Your life will decline.

00:03:53.420 Your health doesn't just maintain itself.

00:03:56.740 In your marriage, it doesn't just coast.

00:03:58.360 Your finances, they don't, like I said earlier,

00:04:02.160 figure themselves out.

00:04:04.360 Now, your leadership doesn't just emerge naturally

00:04:07.280 in one day, or you're just a natural-born leader.

00:04:10.300 Entropy applies to men, 1.00

00:04:13.300 just like it applies to muscle,

00:04:15.540 and everything else in the universe.

00:04:17.860 If you're not building, if you're not growing,

00:04:19.600 if you're not developing, you're dying,

00:04:21.400 it's withering away, and it's eroding,

00:04:23.760 probably right before your eyes.

00:04:25.580 So what does this drift actually look like?

00:04:27.220 Because it's important that you identify

00:04:28.660 what it looks like so that you can

00:04:30.640 begin to shore up the problems.

00:04:33.760 So it might manifest like this for you.

00:04:35.640 Skipping workouts.

00:04:37.060 Oh, I'm tired.

00:04:38.840 You know, just this week, or just this day,

00:04:40.700 it's Christmas, you know,

00:04:41.740 and I'm not going to go work out,

00:04:42.820 and so I'm just going to skip that workout.

00:04:46.200 It's avoiding difficult conversations.

00:04:48.380 Oh, just for now.

00:04:49.160 I don't want to bring it up now.

00:04:50.280 I don't want to talk about it now.

00:04:51.300 I'll talk about it later when it's more convenient, 0.96

00:04:54.000 or eating like garbage.

00:04:55.720 We do that during the holidays.

00:04:57.000 I can't, I'm not, I'll start my diet in January,

00:04:59.340 because I'm not going to do it now.

00:05:01.200 Or you're just busy, or you don't have the money,

00:05:03.240 or fill in the blank with your excuse of choice.

00:05:06.840 It might be numbing out.

00:05:08.380 Instead of building something, doing something,

00:05:10.740 being productive, saying someday,

00:05:13.160 someday I'll go to the gym.

00:05:15.160 Someday I'll learn that skill.

00:05:17.200 Someday I'll have that conversation.

00:05:18.680 Someday I'll work on my marriage.

00:05:20.280 Someday I'll try to eliminate the addiction in my life.

00:05:23.960 Instead of picking a date, as in today,

00:05:27.020 and just getting after it with what you can right now.

00:05:32.180 The deceitful nature of drift is a challenge, though,

00:05:36.260 because it feels harmless.

00:05:39.500 It's often pretty quiet.

00:05:41.400 It's often subtle.

00:05:43.180 It doesn't feel like a big deal.

00:05:44.880 And look, you missing one workout this week

00:05:47.180 because of Christmas is not a big deal.

00:05:49.160 It's when you do it tomorrow, and the next day,

00:05:51.020 and the next day, and the next day.

00:05:52.220 And one day turns into one week,

00:05:54.060 which turns into one month, which turns into one year.

00:05:57.020 That's where it becomes a problem,

00:05:58.300 because it compounds.

00:06:00.760 The drift isn't just linear, it's compounding.

00:06:04.080 And I don't think most men are failing

00:06:07.080 to the degree that they acknowledge

00:06:08.560 because they aren't motivated,

00:06:11.960 or they don't want something good in their life.

00:06:14.360 I very rarely, if ever, have met a man

00:06:17.240 who didn't have some sort of aspirational vision

00:06:20.300 for the future, not once.

00:06:23.380 But most men struggle quite a bit

00:06:25.940 because they're unintentional

00:06:27.640 about the things they ought to be doing,

00:06:29.900 the things they even know they should be doing.

00:06:32.000 And here's the thing.

00:06:33.860 I don't really think that most of the men I talk to,

00:06:36.700 I don't think they're lazy.

00:06:37.640 They are working hard, they're spinning their wheels,

00:06:41.440 but they're going nowhere. 1.00

00:06:42.240 I don't think they're dumb or stupid. 1.00

00:06:44.220 And I talk to very intelligent people every single day. 0.97

00:06:47.140 Now, look, there are people that sometimes you question,

00:06:50.220 but when it comes to you and your life, 0.99

00:06:52.140 I don't think you're stupid. 0.99

00:06:53.200 I don't think you're incapable of doing something 0.99

00:06:55.220 just like I'm not.

00:06:57.400 And I don't think you're just automatically weak.

00:07:00.940 Sure, the natural state, like I said earlier,

00:07:02.860 might be softness and weakness,

00:07:04.400 but it doesn't mean that you're destined

00:07:06.180 or designed to live that way.

00:07:07.860 It's that people are unintentional.

00:07:10.780 We just wake up and react at whatever comes at us.

00:07:15.720 Your wife's upset, you deal with that.

00:07:17.000 You get in the office, you didn't even know,

00:07:18.220 and you lose a client.

00:07:19.100 Your boss yells at you.

00:07:20.440 Somebody cuts you off on the side of the road.

00:07:22.140 You deal with a bankruptcy or a medical condition

00:07:25.680 or heaven forbid somebody in your life passes away

00:07:28.020 or is dealing with their own struggles.

00:07:29.480 And so you're just going from fire to fire to fire to fire

00:07:31.660 all the time, putting out fires,

00:07:33.460 hoping that your life has some sort of direction and purpose

00:07:36.560 when you're reacting to everything and anyone around you.

00:07:39.720 You know, you're responding to messages on your phone

00:07:42.360 and these demanding fires that you have to put out

00:07:45.400 and the obligations that inevitably come up.

00:07:48.020 But do you lead and direct your life

00:07:51.620 or are you just the gopher?

00:07:54.300 You go for this, you go for that, you go for this,

00:07:57.160 you go for that all the time

00:07:58.460 and you never do anything great.

00:08:01.940 The one of the problems that I found for myself anyways

00:08:05.120 is that when you react to little fires

00:08:11.300 or other people's problems,

00:08:12.420 it feels like you're being productive.

00:08:15.100 When I was in my financial planning practice

00:08:17.580 more than a decade ago,

00:08:19.220 I often said this phrase to clients,

00:08:22.880 I said, never mistake action for prudence.

00:08:26.520 But people want to get in there

00:08:27.780 and they want to meddle

00:08:28.460 and they want to trade stocks

00:08:29.640 and they want to buy and do all the things

00:08:31.440 and make their trades.

00:08:32.740 And meddling that way,

00:08:34.160 it does not ever produce favorable results

00:08:37.480 when it comes to the stock market.

00:08:38.940 In fact, more often than not,

00:08:40.620 overwhelmingly, it produces inferior results.

00:08:43.420 We know that by the data.

00:08:45.160 And your life is the same way.

00:08:46.620 So if you're just reacting to everything,

00:08:48.440 but not thinking about it,

00:08:49.840 not only are you not being productive,

00:08:52.900 you actually might be compounding the problem

00:08:55.280 because you're not really thinking

00:08:56.600 about prudent decisions.

00:08:58.880 That feels really responsible.

00:09:00.640 It feels like you're an adult.

00:09:01.680 You know, ask a hundred guys this week,

00:09:03.500 hey, how you been?

00:09:04.300 And they're going to say,

00:09:04.800 oh, good, man.

00:09:05.280 Good, busy, busy, busy.

00:09:06.980 Oh man, life's just busy.

00:09:08.180 I got my head down.

00:09:08.860 I'm busy.

00:09:10.140 As if busyness is the ambition,

00:09:13.960 the goal in and of itself.

00:09:15.140 I don't want to be busy.

00:09:16.620 I want to be productive.

00:09:17.920 I want to be efficient.

00:09:18.960 I want to be calculated.

00:09:20.260 I want to have things to do,

00:09:21.680 but I want them to have meaning

00:09:22.720 and purpose behind them.

00:09:24.340 Because reaction isn't leadership, guys.

00:09:28.900 It's following.

00:09:29.940 It's not leading at all.

00:09:30.800 You're just following

00:09:31.500 what everybody else wants

00:09:32.980 or what external circumstances dictate.

00:09:37.060 So if you don't decide for yourself

00:09:40.860 what your body is for

00:09:43.740 and what it's destined to do,

00:09:44.840 if you don't decide

00:09:45.960 what bedrock your marriage stands on

00:09:49.100 or the purpose of your money

00:09:51.980 and your finances

00:09:52.680 or what your mission in life actually is,

00:09:54.700 then like I said,

00:09:55.840 someone or someone else

00:09:57.620 or something else

00:09:58.620 is going to decide it for you.

00:10:00.260 And I don't think it's deceitful.

00:10:03.000 I don't think most people

00:10:04.160 are out to get us.

00:10:04.900 Sure, some.

00:10:06.340 But they are going to use you

00:10:07.660 as a pawn

00:10:08.360 even if it's harmless

00:10:11.040 or seemingly harmless

00:10:13.680 or insignificant.

00:10:14.420 They're going to use you

00:10:15.300 as a pawn in their design.

00:10:18.120 And maybe it aligns

00:10:19.480 with what you want,

00:10:20.260 but more often than not,

00:10:21.500 I don't think it does.

00:10:23.240 It won't be aligned

00:10:24.280 towards your values.

00:10:25.920 It'll be misaligned.

00:10:28.020 And so the strength

00:10:29.240 and the courage

00:10:30.000 and the discipline

00:10:30.680 and the direction that you want,

00:10:32.280 you have to build that

00:10:33.440 through dedicated structure.

00:10:36.420 Now, I happen to be

00:10:37.360 a pretty structured person.

00:10:38.800 I think part by nature,

00:10:40.600 part by nurture.

00:10:41.300 And the more structure

00:10:42.440 that I build into my life,

00:10:43.540 the more consistency I develop,

00:10:44.980 the better the results

00:10:45.900 that I produce.

00:10:46.680 It's not always sexy.

00:10:48.020 It's not always fun.

00:10:49.920 Gets mundane at times

00:10:51.180 and monotonous.

00:10:51.860 You go in and do the same workout

00:10:53.020 every day like you've done before,

00:10:54.460 but it's powerful.

00:10:56.620 Strong men, capable men,

00:10:58.560 successful men,

00:10:59.400 they live structured lives.

00:11:01.380 They're not rigid.

00:11:02.700 It's not always so robotic,

00:11:04.360 but it is intentional.

00:11:05.800 And there is room for margin.

00:11:08.080 There is room to adjust and adapt,

00:11:10.420 but structure is not discipline.

00:11:13.880 Excuse me.

00:11:14.260 It's not restriction.

00:11:15.340 It's discipline.

00:11:17.140 You know, you've heard Jocko say

00:11:18.520 discipline equals freedom.

00:11:19.920 Aristotle said it 2,000 years ago.

00:11:21.360 Through discipline comes freedom.

00:11:22.480 The structure that you create

00:11:24.900 in your life,

00:11:25.500 it's not restriction.

00:11:26.680 It's allowing you to be free.

00:11:29.900 Think about it this way.

00:11:31.140 If you train your body every day,

00:11:33.420 that's going to create

00:11:34.660 physical freedom from mental,

00:11:36.920 or excuse me,

00:11:37.280 physical ailment,

00:11:38.460 from being reliant on

00:11:40.560 pharmaceutical companies

00:11:41.700 for expensive drugs,

00:11:43.320 on, you know,

00:11:45.880 your back or your knee

00:11:46.880 or your arm or whatever,

00:11:48.680 always hurting.

00:11:50.360 It's the fact that you're not structured

00:11:52.380 that's creating more problems.

00:11:55.560 Think about it in the context

00:11:56.760 of budgeting.

00:11:57.880 It creates financial freedom.

00:12:01.160 Right?

00:12:01.640 If you decide,

00:12:02.440 I don't want to do a budget

00:12:03.100 because that's too restricting.

00:12:04.340 Well, good.

00:12:04.800 Spend your money on anything

00:12:05.800 and everything that comes your way.

00:12:08.080 Never have an opportunity to invest.

00:12:09.960 Never have an opportunity

00:12:10.980 to pour into assets.

00:12:12.360 Never have an opportunity

00:12:13.340 to build something big

00:12:14.360 because you were so worried about,

00:12:16.100 oh, well,

00:12:16.320 I don't want structure.

00:12:17.080 Boundaries also create

00:12:20.420 more relational freedom.

00:12:23.200 Right?

00:12:23.600 Because if you have boundaries in place,

00:12:25.240 then you can choose

00:12:26.020 the right partner.

00:12:26.820 And if you choose

00:12:27.380 the right partner,

00:12:28.100 your life and her life

00:12:29.280 is going to be a whole lot better.

00:12:31.660 But if you just say,

00:12:32.720 hey, you know,

00:12:33.060 she's pretty and that's good 1.00

00:12:34.080 and I don't care, whatever.

00:12:36.320 That's going to come

00:12:37.160 with a whole host of problems

00:12:38.720 that are going to create

00:12:40.100 relational problems,

00:12:41.960 potential divorce down the road,

00:12:43.500 financial issues,

00:12:44.520 mental anguish.

00:12:45.400 That's not freedom.

00:12:47.320 That sounds miserable.

00:12:50.320 But having effective,

00:12:51.680 healthy boundaries

00:12:52.280 in the realm of your relationships

00:12:53.640 creates structure for you

00:12:54.960 and for her

00:12:55.520 so you can have

00:12:56.080 a thriving relationship.

00:12:59.420 Discipline, guys,

00:13:00.280 creates time freedom

00:13:01.620 because now you're not

00:13:03.720 focused so heavily

00:13:04.580 on what everybody else wants

00:13:05.820 and what this is going on,

00:13:06.780 what that's going on

00:13:07.520 and should I spend my time here?

00:13:08.640 Should I spend my time there?

00:13:09.680 Nope, you already know.

00:13:11.260 And so you don't get bogged down

00:13:12.360 by trivial pursuits,

00:13:14.400 things that are unimportant

00:13:15.360 and don't move the needle

00:13:16.340 in the direction you want to go.

00:13:18.680 Guys, the chaos that I see

00:13:20.140 in so many men's lives,

00:13:21.240 it doesn't make you

00:13:22.160 more masculine.

00:13:23.680 It doesn't mean

00:13:24.260 that you own your life more.

00:13:25.820 It makes you tired

00:13:26.880 and exhausted.

00:13:28.920 It makes you

00:13:29.820 reactionary.

00:13:32.200 It makes you

00:13:33.340 angry,

00:13:35.200 resentful

00:13:35.920 and that starts trickling out

00:13:37.840 in the way that you show up

00:13:39.020 and towards others.

00:13:39.900 If your calendar,

00:13:42.060 if it owns you,

00:13:43.700 if your phone

00:13:44.820 controls your attention,

00:13:46.660 if the emotions

00:13:47.860 that you have

00:13:48.360 dictate all the time

00:13:49.720 what actions

00:13:50.360 you're going to be taking,

00:13:51.140 you're not free.

00:13:51.820 You're being managed

00:13:52.600 by unknown forces

00:13:54.740 or at least

00:13:56.320 uncontrollable forces.

00:14:00.020 Successful lives

00:14:00.920 are built

00:14:01.680 by men

00:14:03.520 who decide

00:14:04.860 in advance,

00:14:05.800 ahead of time,

00:14:06.540 how they're going to show up.

00:14:07.600 And I'm talking to you

00:14:08.380 about this today

00:14:08.980 because it's

00:14:10.580 December 26th

00:14:11.700 as of the release

00:14:12.340 of this podcast.

00:14:13.200 It means you have

00:14:13.700 about four or five days

00:14:15.140 before we're moving

00:14:16.380 into 2026.

00:14:17.380 And I don't want to hear you

00:14:18.200 say 2026

00:14:19.080 is going to be my year.

00:14:20.580 How many,

00:14:21.380 how many years

00:14:22.520 are going to be your year

00:14:23.440 without actually

00:14:24.260 ever coming to fruition?

00:14:26.560 Because no one

00:14:27.440 accidentally becomes

00:14:28.720 dangerous

00:14:29.960 or potent.

00:14:30.960 Maybe that's even

00:14:31.480 a better word.

00:14:32.720 The man that you respect,

00:14:34.520 the guys who are

00:14:35.480 calm under pressure,

00:14:37.020 they're decisive,

00:14:39.180 they're capable,

00:14:40.980 they're grounded

00:14:41.740 in who they are.

00:14:43.040 They didn't stumble

00:14:43.820 into that.

00:14:44.580 They trained for it.

00:14:46.060 They trained their body,

00:14:47.880 especially in the days

00:14:48.780 it was inconvenient.

00:14:50.240 They trained their mind

00:14:51.580 to do things,

00:14:53.100 especially when it was

00:14:54.480 really uncomfortable

00:14:55.060 or hard to do.

00:14:56.960 They trained their character

00:14:58.280 when no one was watching.

00:15:01.800 The potent men

00:15:03.320 that we're talking about,

00:15:04.460 they're not chaotic men.

00:15:05.960 they're controlled

00:15:07.500 by themselves,

00:15:09.140 by who they want to be,

00:15:10.320 by their values,

00:15:11.060 their principles,

00:15:12.140 their standards.

00:15:13.360 They're men who can

00:15:14.020 handle stress.

00:15:14.800 They're men who

00:15:15.460 can say no respectfully.

00:15:18.020 They're men who can

00:15:19.020 lead other people

00:15:20.460 without yelling

00:15:21.400 all the time.

00:15:22.980 They're men who

00:15:23.560 actually can at times

00:15:24.720 be gentle

00:15:25.400 because they're capable

00:15:26.380 of being direct

00:15:29.040 and clear

00:15:29.580 at times.

00:15:32.440 Again,

00:15:33.060 that doesn't happen

00:15:33.780 by accident.

00:15:34.420 The drift

00:15:35.780 that you're experiencing,

00:15:37.280 potentially experiencing,

00:15:38.940 it creates

00:15:39.720 really weak

00:15:40.920 default modes

00:15:42.400 of operation.

00:15:45.040 If you're drifting,

00:15:46.800 you will choose

00:15:47.740 comfort

00:15:48.420 over challenge

00:15:49.600 every single time.

00:15:51.340 If you're drifting

00:15:52.920 in life,

00:15:53.780 you will choose

00:15:54.740 to avoid

00:15:55.760 things

00:15:57.240 over choosing

00:15:58.200 responsibility.

00:15:58.840 If you're drifting,

00:16:01.540 you're going to choose

00:16:02.620 weak entertainment

00:16:05.720 over pursuing

00:16:07.240 fulfilling,

00:16:08.360 meaningful

00:16:08.740 endeavors.

00:16:11.000 It's going to create

00:16:11.940 excuses

00:16:12.540 in your life

00:16:13.660 over the ownership

00:16:14.700 that you could have

00:16:15.500 otherwise.

00:16:17.300 It'll

00:16:17.780 keep you

00:16:19.620 isolated

00:16:20.180 when you could be

00:16:21.340 banded with other

00:16:22.200 brothers and other men

00:16:23.260 who are in your corner

00:16:24.140 who want to work with you.

00:16:25.000 And the worst part

00:16:26.180 about it

00:16:26.620 is that

00:16:27.700 you can drift

00:16:28.380 for years

00:16:29.520 before you even

00:16:30.880 realize you're lost.

00:16:31.800 It's like

00:16:32.140 running towards

00:16:33.920 the edge of the cliff

00:16:34.680 but there's so many

00:16:35.320 bushes and shrubbery

00:16:36.480 and vegetation

00:16:37.140 around that you can't see

00:16:38.200 and you're just running,

00:16:38.840 running,

00:16:39.060 running,

00:16:39.280 running,

00:16:39.540 running,

00:16:39.760 and all of a sudden

00:16:40.880 you hit that cliff

00:16:41.800 and you fall over.

00:16:43.000 And you were running

00:16:43.600 towards that cliff

00:16:44.280 for miles

00:16:45.040 but you didn't realize it

00:16:46.740 because you couldn't see

00:16:47.720 what was happening

00:16:48.320 around you.

00:16:48.920 When you drift

00:16:53.140 you do it for years

00:16:55.480 before you even

00:16:56.180 realize that you're lost

00:16:57.260 and other people

00:16:58.280 around you can see it

00:16:59.140 but you don't see it

00:17:00.320 and then what you say

00:17:01.080 and I've done this is

00:17:01.860 man I was blindsided

00:17:03.140 in my relationship.

00:17:04.680 Oh man,

00:17:05.100 I'm bankrupt.

00:17:05.520 Oh,

00:17:06.020 I have debt.

00:17:06.760 Like you're just

00:17:07.580 ignoring everything.

00:17:10.660 But what I've found

00:17:11.640 is that most men

00:17:12.520 don't wake up

00:17:13.420 one day

00:17:14.060 just ruined

00:17:15.000 and devastated.

00:17:16.400 They wake up

00:17:17.240 one day

00:17:17.660 and they're regretful

00:17:18.600 about what they missed

00:17:20.080 if they actually

00:17:21.440 wake up

00:17:22.000 to the reality

00:17:22.840 of their situation.

00:17:24.260 They look around

00:17:25.140 and they'll ask themselves

00:17:25.940 and how many times

00:17:26.620 have you asked yourself

00:17:27.380 this?

00:17:28.220 How did I get here?

00:17:31.080 When did this become

00:17:32.300 my life?

00:17:34.760 Why do I feel

00:17:35.740 so

00:17:36.460 disconnected?

00:17:39.640 I've asked myself

00:17:40.580 these questions

00:17:41.140 when I was going

00:17:42.020 through my divorce

00:17:42.700 and in the throes

00:17:43.340 of my alcohol abuse.

00:17:44.480 I asked myself that.

00:17:45.360 I remember the first

00:17:46.020 AA meeting I went to.

00:17:47.380 I remember those

00:17:48.060 top two questions.

00:17:49.440 How did I get here?

00:17:51.700 When did this

00:17:52.480 become my life?

00:17:53.960 I was running

00:17:54.840 towards the cliff

00:17:55.540 and I ran off the cliff

00:17:56.920 and I didn't even

00:17:57.640 realize it.

00:17:58.720 And the answer

00:17:59.180 to those questions,

00:17:59.960 guys,

00:18:00.160 it's always the same.

00:18:02.960 You stopped

00:18:03.760 choosing

00:18:04.620 what you wanted

00:18:06.560 to do in life.

00:18:07.600 So the drift

00:18:08.440 of life

00:18:08.880 chose for you.

00:18:11.980 Successful men,

00:18:12.680 they choose

00:18:13.220 the hand

00:18:13.640 they're going

00:18:13.980 to play with.

00:18:14.460 Because every man

00:18:15.360 has hardship.

00:18:17.220 Right?

00:18:17.700 We've all,

00:18:18.160 we've gone

00:18:18.400 through bankruptcies.

00:18:19.840 We've,

00:18:20.280 we've had,

00:18:20.920 we've lost our jobs.

00:18:22.060 We've had broken

00:18:22.640 down relationships.

00:18:23.780 We've,

00:18:24.260 we've dealt

00:18:24.640 with medical issues

00:18:26.320 and bankruptcies

00:18:27.120 and lawsuits

00:18:27.760 and car accidents

00:18:28.660 and death

00:18:29.180 of loved ones.

00:18:29.900 We've done,

00:18:30.320 we've done all

00:18:30.880 of that.

00:18:32.600 Some subjectively

00:18:34.560 more difficult

00:18:35.180 than others,

00:18:35.600 but it's not

00:18:36.100 a matter of

00:18:36.840 comparing our

00:18:38.040 hardship.

00:18:38.380 The question

00:18:38.940 is not

00:18:39.320 if you're

00:18:39.760 going to struggle,

00:18:40.280 it's which struggle

00:18:41.300 you're going

00:18:41.740 to accept.

00:18:44.600 Like,

00:18:45.100 are you going

00:18:45.420 to accept

00:18:45.820 the struggle

00:18:46.320 under the barbell

00:18:47.240 or the struggle

00:18:47.980 of having

00:18:49.300 to take

00:18:50.440 medication

00:18:50.880 for the rest

00:18:51.340 of your life?

00:18:54.400 Are you going

00:18:55.060 to struggle

00:18:55.480 through awkward,

00:18:57.780 difficult,

00:18:58.300 uncomfortable

00:18:58.700 conversations

00:18:59.420 or through

00:19:00.520 quiet resentment

00:19:01.560 that builds

00:19:02.200 up in you

00:19:02.780 and your spouse

00:19:03.440 or you

00:19:03.840 and your friends

00:19:04.560 or you

00:19:04.900 and your colleagues,

00:19:05.600 clients,

00:19:05.980 co-workers,

00:19:06.440 bosses,

00:19:06.840 et cetera?

00:19:07.540 Which one

00:19:08.120 are you going

00:19:08.300 to struggle

00:19:08.560 with?

00:19:08.820 Are you

00:19:11.060 going

00:19:11.160 to struggle

00:19:11.700 with dealing

00:19:12.700 with discipline

00:19:14.100 or dealing

00:19:15.360 with the chaos

00:19:16.160 of life?

00:19:18.920 Are you

00:19:19.460 going to struggle

00:19:19.920 with being

00:19:20.860 accountable

00:19:21.360 to yourself

00:19:22.180 or are you

00:19:24.300 going to struggle

00:19:24.700 with being

00:19:25.100 an average

00:19:25.580 man?

00:19:26.360 I think I'd

00:19:26.900 rather be

00:19:27.220 accountable.

00:19:28.260 Guys,

00:19:28.760 we cannot

00:19:29.160 avoid hardship.

00:19:30.420 We have to

00:19:30.800 select it.

00:19:31.340 We have to

00:19:31.580 choose it

00:19:31.920 every single

00:19:32.360 day.

00:19:33.700 It's the

00:19:34.300 struggle

00:19:34.560 that builds

00:19:35.060 us instead

00:19:36.220 of that one

00:19:36.760 that just

00:19:37.120 tears us

00:19:37.760 down and

00:19:38.360 breaks us

00:19:38.780 down and

00:19:39.620 erodes us.

00:19:40.920 We have

00:19:41.840 to be

00:19:42.600 directional

00:19:43.820 before

00:19:44.840 motivation.

00:19:46.040 Motivation

00:19:46.480 is good

00:19:46.980 and I'm

00:19:47.380 not here

00:19:47.660 to bash

00:19:48.020 motivation.

00:19:48.720 I like

00:19:49.020 being

00:19:49.220 motivated.

00:19:50.160 I like

00:19:50.780 listening to

00:19:51.180 certain music.

00:19:51.940 I like

00:19:52.380 reading certain

00:19:53.740 books or

00:19:54.140 listening to

00:19:54.560 certain podcasts

00:19:55.260 or going

00:19:55.600 to certain

00:19:56.000 conferences.

00:19:56.780 I like

00:19:57.340 that because

00:19:57.780 it gets

00:19:58.060 me fired

00:19:58.500 up but

00:19:58.820 it's not

00:19:59.240 always the

00:19:59.740 most reliable.

00:20:00.500 It comes

00:20:00.820 and it

00:20:01.020 goes.

00:20:01.840 If I

00:20:02.140 go to

00:20:02.320 a conference

00:20:02.860 next weekend

00:20:03.580 I could

00:20:04.700 be hopped

00:20:05.080 up for

00:20:05.420 two days

00:20:06.000 for two

00:20:06.660 weeks or

00:20:06.980 two months

00:20:07.460 but eventually

00:20:08.160 it'll be

00:20:08.860 fleeting.

00:20:12.200 And most

00:20:13.040 of the time

00:20:13.520 the motivation

00:20:14.060 that we

00:20:14.400 experience it

00:20:15.060 fades as soon

00:20:15.900 as things

00:20:16.280 get hard.

00:20:18.180 But direction

00:20:18.900 it doesn't

00:20:19.280 require

00:20:19.640 motivation.

00:20:20.740 It just

00:20:21.260 simply says

00:20:21.880 hey I have

00:20:22.920 direction,

00:20:23.480 I have

00:20:23.620 clarity,

00:20:24.040 I have

00:20:24.200 purpose,

00:20:24.660 I have

00:20:24.840 goals and

00:20:25.300 objectives and

00:20:25.960 this is who

00:20:26.320 I am.

00:20:26.620 and this

00:20:27.980 is how I

00:20:28.360 train and

00:20:29.200 this is how

00:20:29.780 I lead and

00:20:30.240 this is how

00:20:30.620 I show up and

00:20:31.260 this is what

00:20:31.660 I tolerate and

00:20:32.320 this is what

00:20:32.700 I won't

00:20:33.000 tolerate and

00:20:34.000 we can't

00:20:34.760 ask ourselves

00:20:35.900 how do I

00:20:36.660 feel today?

00:20:37.360 You know

00:20:37.480 you wake up

00:20:38.940 in the morning

00:20:39.180 let me see

00:20:39.980 how I feel

00:20:40.340 before I

00:20:40.680 decide whether

00:20:41.200 or not I

00:20:41.500 want to hit

00:20:41.800 snooze.

00:20:42.260 No, you

00:20:42.520 get up.

00:20:43.620 You don't

00:20:43.860 ask if you

00:20:44.440 should go to

00:20:44.780 the gym,

00:20:45.080 you just

00:20:45.260 do.

00:20:46.520 You don't

00:20:47.020 ask if you

00:20:47.580 confront the

00:20:48.080 realities of

00:20:48.680 certain

00:20:49.000 conversations,

00:20:49.600 you just

00:20:49.960 have them.

00:20:50.360 And I

00:20:53.860 think there's

00:20:54.180 a really

00:20:54.460 great question

00:20:55.440 to ask

00:20:55.920 yourself is

00:20:56.600 what does

00:20:57.780 the standard

00:20:58.380 I set for

00:20:59.120 myself require

00:21:01.020 of me today?

00:21:03.380 What does

00:21:04.080 the standard

00:21:04.740 of myself

00:21:05.780 require of

00:21:06.880 me today?

00:21:08.320 It requires

00:21:09.400 me to get

00:21:09.800 out of bed.

00:21:10.420 It requires

00:21:11.260 me to make

00:21:11.700 some phone

00:21:12.040 calls.

00:21:12.500 It requires

00:21:12.980 me to resist

00:21:14.460 temptation.

00:21:15.340 It requires

00:21:15.900 me to go

00:21:16.400 train.

00:21:17.000 It requires

00:21:17.420 me to have

00:21:18.040 difficult

00:21:19.140 challenging

00:21:19.600 conversations.

00:21:21.120 And then

00:21:21.420 guys,

00:21:21.900 we just

00:21:22.280 act

00:21:22.600 accordingly.

00:21:23.080 Whatever

00:21:23.260 the answer

00:21:23.640 is,

00:21:24.140 we act

00:21:24.420 accordingly.

00:21:25.700 And one

00:21:26.420 other thing

00:21:26.780 too we have

00:21:27.180 to realize

00:21:27.640 is that

00:21:28.160 brotherhood,

00:21:29.440 sometimes this

00:21:30.100 gets a bad

00:21:30.540 rap.

00:21:31.220 There's a lot 0.92

00:21:31.620 of guys,

00:21:32.060 a lot of

00:21:32.440 guys,

00:21:32.680 it seems

00:21:32.940 more so

00:21:33.520 that men

00:21:34.160 are buying

00:21:35.480 into this

00:21:35.820 idea of

00:21:36.280 lone wolf.

00:21:36.900 And I get

00:21:37.400 it because

00:21:37.760 men have

00:21:38.140 been let

00:21:38.440 down and

00:21:39.540 we've

00:21:40.940 struggled

00:21:41.180 with things

00:21:41.960 and other

00:21:44.720 guys,

00:21:45.680 other programs

00:21:46.380 we may have

00:21:46.760 been involved

00:21:47.200 with has

00:21:47.780 let us

00:21:48.120 down.

00:21:48.440 so it

00:21:50.580 gets a

00:21:50.840 bad rapid

00:21:51.260 time.

00:21:51.560 But it

00:21:51.840 is an

00:21:52.260 antidote to

00:21:52.780 the drift

00:21:53.180 because if

00:21:54.420 you stay

00:21:54.780 isolated,

00:21:55.420 you do the

00:21:55.740 lone wolf

00:21:56.140 thing,

00:21:56.420 you're only

00:21:56.800 accelerating

00:21:57.320 the drift.

00:21:58.780 Because when

00:21:59.400 no one knows

00:22:00.000 your goals or

00:22:00.700 no one sees

00:22:01.400 your blind

00:22:01.920 spots or

00:22:02.580 nobody calls

00:22:04.140 you out when

00:22:04.660 you're not

00:22:04.960 behaving the

00:22:05.500 way you

00:22:05.780 should or

00:22:06.280 no one

00:22:06.620 expects

00:22:07.100 more of

00:22:07.760 you,

00:22:09.100 then that

00:22:11.380 drift feels

00:22:12.180 natural.

00:22:12.860 it feels

00:22:15.180 comfortable.

00:22:15.960 It feels

00:22:16.300 like this

00:22:16.660 is just

00:22:17.000 the way

00:22:17.420 life is.

00:22:18.120 And how

00:22:18.340 many of

00:22:18.580 you have

00:22:18.920 said that?

00:22:19.540 This is

00:22:19.980 just my

00:22:20.480 life.

00:22:21.440 It's just

00:22:21.880 the way

00:22:22.060 my life

00:22:22.440 is.

00:22:22.660 Just the

00:22:22.880 way it

00:22:23.080 goes.

00:22:23.320 Just the

00:22:23.540 way it

00:22:23.720 goes.

00:22:23.880 It just

00:22:24.120 is what

00:22:24.420 it is.

00:22:25.500 How many

00:22:25.820 times have

00:22:26.180 you said

00:22:26.400 that?

00:22:26.600 It is

00:22:26.800 what it

00:22:27.020 is.

00:22:27.520 Just the

00:22:27.840 way it

00:22:28.040 goes.

00:22:28.380 If it

00:22:29.240 weren't

00:22:29.340 for bad

00:22:29.700 luck,

00:22:29.920 I

00:22:30.000 wouldn't

00:22:30.140 have

00:22:30.300 any

00:22:30.420 luck

00:22:30.600 at

00:22:30.700 all.

00:22:31.140 No.

00:22:32.020 That's

00:22:32.320 the drift

00:22:32.720 speaking.

00:22:34.260 It feels

00:22:34.960 comfortable.

00:22:35.800 It feels

00:22:36.260 natural.

00:22:36.860 It feels

00:22:37.260 right until

00:22:37.960 it doesn't.

00:22:38.820 And the

00:22:39.220 problem here

00:22:40.080 is that

00:22:40.640 brotherhood

00:22:41.580 creates real

00:22:42.600 friction.

00:22:44.160 It's not

00:22:44.700 comfortable

00:22:45.120 when someone

00:22:45.600 says,

00:22:45.940 hey,

00:22:46.040 man,

00:22:46.540 you're not

00:22:47.000 doing what

00:22:47.300 you could

00:22:47.540 be doing.

00:22:47.940 Hey,

00:22:48.100 I saw you

00:22:48.480 do that

00:22:48.720 thing.

00:22:49.040 And why

00:22:49.340 are you

00:22:49.480 doing that?

00:22:49.840 You said

00:22:50.080 you didn't

00:22:50.320 want to

00:22:50.560 do that.

00:22:51.620 Or,

00:22:52.100 hey,

00:22:52.260 you said

00:22:52.880 you'd be

00:22:53.140 here.

00:22:53.420 Or you

00:22:53.920 said you'd

00:22:54.420 show up

00:22:54.680 on time.

00:22:55.060 And you

00:22:55.220 didn't.

00:22:55.480 What's

00:22:55.640 up?

00:22:57.380 That's

00:22:57.740 friction.

00:22:58.460 But that

00:22:58.800 creates

00:22:59.060 clarity.

00:23:00.340 And good,

00:23:00.980 successful

00:23:01.420 men,

00:23:01.800 and I

00:23:02.160 know this

00:23:02.520 because I've

00:23:02.880 interviewed

00:23:03.200 almost 600

00:23:04.340 successful men

00:23:05.560 in their own

00:23:05.880 right.

00:23:06.220 They surround

00:23:06.620 themselves with

00:23:07.180 other men

00:23:07.480 who tell

00:23:07.780 the truth,

00:23:09.020 who are

00:23:09.720 honest with

00:23:10.280 them.

00:23:10.520 They expect

00:23:11.040 effort.

00:23:12.740 They value

00:23:13.560 their own

00:23:14.720 growth and

00:23:15.280 the growth

00:23:15.640 in other

00:23:15.980 people.

00:23:16.500 They don't

00:23:16.880 take excuses.

00:23:17.940 And I've

00:23:18.200 tried this

00:23:18.620 with people.

00:23:19.000 Hey,

00:23:19.140 I've got

00:23:19.400 this excuse

00:23:19.980 and the

00:23:20.720 real ones

00:23:21.460 in my life

00:23:21.980 are like,

00:23:22.280 I don't

00:23:22.640 care.

00:23:23.760 They may

00:23:24.280 not say it

00:23:24.780 like that,

00:23:25.160 but they're

00:23:25.320 like,

00:23:25.580 well,

00:23:25.740 yeah,

00:23:26.140 we all have

00:23:26.780 that reason.

00:23:27.480 Why didn't

00:23:27.840 you do it

00:23:28.160 though?

00:23:28.900 Because they

00:23:29.420 refuse excuses

00:23:30.380 because you

00:23:32.780 don't,

00:23:33.060 you don't

00:23:33.340 need more

00:23:34.520 followers in

00:23:35.380 your life.

00:23:36.920 That's,

00:23:37.500 that's the

00:23:37.860 drift.

00:23:38.200 That's

00:23:38.420 comfortable.

00:23:38.880 We don't

00:23:39.140 need followers.

00:23:40.420 We need a

00:23:41.140 few men in

00:23:41.720 our lives

00:23:42.140 who will

00:23:42.540 not lie

00:23:43.140 to us,

00:23:44.380 who will

00:23:45.840 tell us

00:23:46.160 the truth,

00:23:46.660 who want

00:23:46.980 to be value

00:23:47.700 and growth

00:23:48.320 oriented.

00:23:49.200 This is the

00:23:49.660 wake up call

00:23:50.240 and I'll,

00:23:50.940 and I'll

00:23:51.220 part with

00:23:51.740 this.

00:23:53.120 If you're

00:23:53.720 listening to

00:23:54.160 this and

00:23:54.980 you're thinking,

00:23:56.080 I've been,

00:23:58.140 I've been

00:23:58.500 coasting in

00:23:58.940 life.

00:23:59.420 And,

00:24:01.260 and maybe

00:24:01.540 you know

00:24:01.840 that because

00:24:02.240 you're not

00:24:02.540 producing the

00:24:03.000 results that

00:24:03.420 you want.

00:24:05.360 I think

00:24:05.900 there's this

00:24:06.280 gut instinct,

00:24:07.220 this feeling

00:24:07.660 that we have

00:24:08.340 when we are

00:24:08.840 coasting.

00:24:10.820 Maybe you've

00:24:11.400 been reactionary.

00:24:12.840 Maybe somebody

00:24:13.540 says something

00:24:14.100 to you and it

00:24:14.480 just triggers,

00:24:15.180 triggers you and

00:24:16.000 you just get

00:24:16.660 overly reactive.

00:24:18.020 I've done that.

00:24:18.600 I've done that in

00:24:19.300 the last several

00:24:20.260 months and it,

00:24:22.140 it's not a good

00:24:22.860 look, but it

00:24:24.260 is an indicator of

00:24:24.940 what's going on.

00:24:26.900 Maybe,

00:24:27.620 maybe you feel

00:24:28.440 comfortable.

00:24:30.420 Maybe,

00:24:31.080 maybe you've

00:24:31.500 been really

00:24:31.860 distracted with

00:24:33.480 your addiction

00:24:34.700 or these little

00:24:36.320 devices or

00:24:37.620 name,

00:24:38.660 name your

00:24:38.980 poison.

00:24:40.120 Well,

00:24:40.520 that's good.

00:24:41.100 That's okay.

00:24:42.080 It's not okay you

00:24:42.780 stay that way,

00:24:43.320 but it's good that

00:24:43.920 you know what it

00:24:44.440 is because that

00:24:45.080 awareness is the

00:24:45.980 first step.

00:24:46.840 It's the,

00:24:47.420 it's the way that

00:24:48.040 you interrupt the

00:24:48.640 drift because if

00:24:49.840 you're not aware

00:24:50.300 of it,

00:24:50.740 then it's any

00:24:54.500 action that you

00:24:55.240 take is just

00:24:56.080 another form of

00:24:58.020 drift or

00:24:58.400 distraction.

00:24:58.860 It's just,

00:24:59.340 it's just bread and

00:25:00.340 circuses if you

00:25:02.200 don't know where

00:25:02.760 you're going.

00:25:03.600 So here's the

00:25:04.360 question that I

00:25:05.000 want you to answer

00:25:05.640 and do this

00:25:06.040 honestly because you

00:25:06.760 don't need to tell

00:25:07.220 me or anybody

00:25:07.720 else.

00:25:09.180 Where in your

00:25:09.760 life are you

00:25:10.180 drifting right now?

00:25:12.420 And write this

00:25:13.160 down.

00:25:13.520 Where in your

00:25:14.080 life are you

00:25:14.760 drifting right now?

00:25:16.240 Is it your

00:25:16.600 body?

00:25:17.920 Maybe in 2025 you

00:25:19.260 put on 10,

00:25:19.900 15,

00:25:20.260 20 pounds.

00:25:21.780 Is it your

00:25:22.420 marriage?

00:25:24.260 Maybe your sex 1.00

00:25:25.200 life isn't as

00:25:25.840 good as it once

00:25:26.380 was.

00:25:26.800 Maybe you feel

00:25:27.560 disconnected.

00:25:28.460 Maybe you're

00:25:29.380 speaking less.

00:25:30.360 Maybe you're

00:25:31.340 arguing more.

00:25:35.220 Is it your,

00:25:35.940 is it your

00:25:36.260 money?

00:25:37.320 Do you even

00:25:37.680 know what your

00:25:38.280 financial situation

00:25:39.180 is?

00:25:40.540 Is your debt

00:25:41.240 growing?

00:25:42.580 Are your assets

00:25:43.400 growing?

00:25:44.780 What's happening?

00:25:45.920 Is it your

00:25:46.260 leadership?

00:25:46.800 Do people

00:25:47.160 follow you?

00:25:48.320 Or are you

00:25:48.660 finding it

00:25:49.040 harder and

00:25:49.420 harder for

00:25:49.780 people to be

00:25:50.960 influenced and

00:25:52.360 led by you?

00:25:53.560 Is it your

00:25:53.940 spiritual life?

00:25:54.560 This is one

00:25:54.980 area that I've

00:25:55.480 really worked

00:25:55.900 on and I'm

00:25:56.960 still working

00:25:57.440 on where I

00:25:58.300 just don't and

00:25:59.220 I haven't felt

00:25:59.940 connected to a

00:26:01.000 source of higher

00:26:01.900 power, a source

00:26:03.140 of purpose.

00:26:05.080 Maybe it is your

00:26:05.880 brotherhood.

00:26:06.660 Maybe you are

00:26:07.340 isolated and alone

00:26:08.320 and you feel

00:26:09.180 lonely.

00:26:10.200 But guys, you

00:26:10.880 don't fix that

00:26:11.560 drift by

00:26:12.560 overhauling

00:26:13.320 everything that you

00:26:14.140 possibly can.

00:26:14.960 You just have to

00:26:15.380 choose one

00:26:15.920 direction and

00:26:16.460 start moving

00:26:16.860 today.

00:26:17.700 Just one

00:26:18.220 direction and

00:26:19.020 start moving

00:26:19.600 today.

00:26:20.740 And maybe it's

00:26:21.320 brotherhood or

00:26:22.120 maybe it's your

00:26:22.560 marriage or maybe

00:26:23.320 it's your body.

00:26:24.080 Pick one.

00:26:25.420 So my call to

00:26:27.680 action for you

00:26:28.240 guys this week

00:26:28.860 is identify one

00:26:31.160 area of drift.

00:26:32.980 Just one area.

00:26:34.320 And then set one

00:26:35.380 clear standard.

00:26:36.500 I'm going to go to

00:26:37.200 the gym every

00:26:38.200 single day for the

00:26:39.720 next 30 days.

00:26:40.880 And then take that

00:26:41.780 one uncomfortable

00:26:42.840 action.

00:26:44.640 And I would say

00:26:45.520 this too.

00:26:45.940 Tell another man 0.86

00:26:46.580 what you're

00:26:46.820 committed to.

00:26:47.300 Not just any

00:26:47.860 man.

00:26:48.220 Like don't just

00:26:48.980 go blast it on

00:26:49.720 social media.

00:26:51.280 There's no value

00:26:52.040 to that.

00:26:53.300 There's a lot of

00:26:54.200 reasons for that.

00:26:55.680 Some actual

00:26:56.460 psychological reasons

00:26:57.580 why you might begin

00:26:58.480 to feel like you've

00:26:59.160 already produced the

00:26:59.840 result without the

00:27:01.040 effort and people

00:27:01.660 start cheering you

00:27:02.440 on and clapping for

00:27:03.440 you even though you

00:27:03.960 didn't really do

00:27:04.460 anything.

00:27:05.300 And you'll start

00:27:05.940 feeling good even

00:27:06.740 though you didn't

00:27:07.360 really do anything.

00:27:08.800 So be careful of

00:27:09.640 that.

00:27:10.020 But find somebody

00:27:10.860 who is growth

00:27:11.620 oriented.

00:27:12.260 Who loves you.

00:27:12.900 Who cares about

00:27:13.480 you.

00:27:13.660 Who's a truth

00:27:14.240 teller.

00:27:14.660 Who's successful.

00:27:16.580 Because again we

00:27:17.420 don't drift into

00:27:18.700 successful lives.

00:27:19.660 We build them.

00:27:20.260 We choose them.

00:27:21.220 We fight for them

00:27:22.140 every day.

00:27:23.520 And it starts with

00:27:24.380 deciding right now

00:27:25.140 that you're done

00:27:26.300 letting life happen

00:27:27.680 to you.

00:27:28.300 That whatever

00:27:28.760 happened in 2025

00:27:29.940 is not going to

00:27:30.840 happen again in

00:27:31.420 2026.

00:27:32.560 Lead it.

00:27:33.660 If you want

00:27:34.320 resources I'm

00:27:35.080 going to give

00:27:35.300 you two.

00:27:35.680 Go to

00:27:35.880 orderofman.com

00:27:36.860 You can

00:27:37.880 definitely check

00:27:38.420 out our battle

00:27:38.980 planning system

00:27:39.700 over there.

00:27:40.420 It's a very

00:27:41.080 very powerful

00:27:41.720 tool for how

00:27:42.460 you can lead

00:27:43.040 and grow in

00:27:43.660 your life.

00:27:44.760 And if you

00:27:45.080 want to put

00:27:45.460 that on

00:27:45.760 supercharged

00:27:46.420 put it on

00:27:46.860 testosterone if

00:27:47.780 you will.

00:27:48.660 You should

00:27:49.200 definitely check

00:27:49.860 out the iron

00:27:50.320 council.

00:27:51.240 Because not

00:27:51.600 only do we

00:27:51.980 use the

00:27:52.240 battle planning

00:27:52.700 system.

00:27:53.200 We have all

00:27:54.000 of the

00:27:54.220 accountability

00:27:54.580 and all of

00:27:55.460 the brotherhood

00:27:55.980 and the

00:27:56.200 frameworks and

00:27:56.840 the conversations

00:27:57.560 and the

00:27:57.920 discussions and

00:27:58.660 the mentoring

00:27:59.240 and access to

00:28:01.500 me access to

00:28:02.360 other guys who've

00:28:03.020 been around and

00:28:03.640 doing good

00:28:04.320 things in their

00:28:04.860 lives.

00:28:05.800 And you can

00:28:06.060 check that out

00:28:06.640 at orderofman.com

00:28:07.780 slash iron

00:28:08.620 council.

00:28:09.580 All right guys

00:28:10.160 those are your

00:28:11.420 marching orders for

00:28:12.200 today.

00:28:12.580 Get after it.

00:28:13.300 I want 2026 to

00:28:15.080 be the best year

00:28:15.840 for me for sure

00:28:16.960 and for you

00:28:18.580 just the same.

00:28:20.000 When I get

00:28:20.740 messages of guys

00:28:21.620 who are salvaging

00:28:22.340 marriages and

00:28:23.120 fixing their money

00:28:23.900 situation and

00:28:24.660 investing and

00:28:25.340 building businesses

00:28:26.200 and getting

00:28:26.720 jacked that's

00:28:28.340 fuel for me and

00:28:29.340 I love to see it

00:28:29.920 and I want to see

00:28:30.480 more of that from

00:28:31.220 you in 2026.

00:28:32.860 Check it out

00:28:33.360 orderofman.com

00:28:34.220 orderofman.com

00:28:35.460 slash iron

00:28:36.340 council and

00:28:37.280 then if you

00:28:37.580 would just take

00:28:38.060 a screenshot right

00:28:39.100 now send it to

00:28:40.180 somebody this week

00:28:40.840 who maybe it's a

00:28:42.140 guy in your life

00:28:43.080 your dad or a

00:28:43.780 brother or a

00:28:44.840 friend or a

00:28:45.400 co-worker and

00:28:46.380 just say hey

00:28:46.820 man I listened to

00:28:47.400 this today it

00:28:49.280 motivated me to

00:28:50.140 get going and I

00:28:51.480 thought it'd be

00:28:51.800 helpful for you.

00:28:53.120 Send it to him or

00:28:53.820 post it up on

00:28:54.580 Instagram with a

00:28:55.240 tag on me and

00:28:56.300 I'll share it on

00:28:56.720 my end as well.

00:28:57.760 All right guys I

00:28:58.420 appreciate you.

00:28:59.760 Hope you have a

00:29:00.440 great weekend.

00:29:02.360 Hopefully you had a

00:29:02.880 great Christmas the

00:29:03.740 last couple of

00:29:04.280 days and as we

00:29:05.100 come into the

00:29:05.480 new year let's

00:29:06.520 not just celebrate

00:29:07.280 let's think about

00:29:08.960 how we're going to

00:29:09.480 make it a new

00:29:10.940 year.

00:29:12.340 All right guys

00:29:12.680 we'll be back next

00:29:13.420 week.

00:29:14.000 Until then go out

00:29:14.680 there take action

00:29:15.420 and become the man

00:29:16.420 you are meant to be.

00:29:18.260 Thank you for

00:29:18.900 listening to the

00:29:19.500 Order of Man

00:29:20.140 podcast.

00:29:21.240 You're ready to

00:29:21.780 take charge of

00:29:22.420 your life and be

00:29:23.380 more of the man

00:29:24.000 you were meant to

00:29:24.680 be.

00:29:25.260 We invite you to

00:29:26.020 join the order

00:29:26.600 at orderofman.com.

00:29:32.880 Bye.

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Order of Man - December 26, 2025

You Cannot Drift Your Way to Success ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

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