Order of Man - Your Ideas Become Reality ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest, embrace your fears, and boldly chart

00:00:05.000 your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time, every time.

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00:00:22.760 you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Michler.

00:00:27.640 I'm your host and the founder of the Order of Man podcast and movement, if I could say

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00:01:19.760 Welcome here. Today, guys, I have an interesting one on the concept of ideas becoming reality.

00:01:25.120 I've had too many coincidences. I'll use parentheses on that. Too many coincidences

00:01:33.320 that have led me to believe that what we think about becomes our reality. I used to think that

00:01:40.360 was a crock of shit, honestly. This idea of visualization or manifestation. If you just think 1.00

00:01:46.940 it, then you can will it into existence. I don't think it's just thinking about it. Obviously,

00:01:51.960 there's action and there's work that goes into it, but I've become more open to that idea as I've

00:01:58.220 evaluated my life and considered not only the positive aspects of my life, but also the negative

00:02:03.360 aspects of my life and how all of those things start first with a seed, an idea in our mind on what life

00:02:12.500 can look like, how we show up, how we interact with the world, and what happens around us. I think

00:02:17.340 we're more powerful than we give ourselves credit for. I'll get to some ideas on that in just a

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00:02:50.360 All right, guys, let's get into this. I was thinking about this because I just got a picture

00:02:54.020 from the gentleman who I use for my taxidermy in Maine. My son and I were fortunate enough to

00:03:01.520 go on a very cool moose hunt last year. This is something that we drew out for after three years of

00:03:09.340 putting in for a moose tag. It takes some guys 20, 25, 30 years to draw for this tag. We did it after

00:03:14.580 three. We were very fortunate and blessed that way. It was a hard week. We saw a few moose early

00:03:23.000 on. One of them was a shooter, but we couldn't really get quite close enough. Actually, two of

00:03:27.700 them were shooters, but we couldn't quite get close enough, so we couldn't put it together. We did have

00:03:32.100 one pop out on the road 40, 50 yards in front of us, and we decided to pass because he was a little

00:03:37.840 younger than we would have liked. Then for two or three days, we didn't see a single moose.

00:03:42.980 It was very frustrating. We both got back to the cabin those evenings and thought, man,

00:03:48.140 should we have shot that one? Then the last day of the hunt, which was a Saturday,

00:03:52.160 it all came together. We were able to harvest a moose 48 inches across. I think he ended up weighing

00:04:00.040 850 pounds or so dressed, so really sizable moose. We got 420 or 430 pounds of moose meat from that

00:04:10.140 thing. The reason I bring that up is I got a picture back from our taxidermy guy, and it looks

00:04:16.280 amazing. I'm so ready to get that thing home and get it up on the wall. It's a proud accomplishment,

00:04:20.660 and it's a reminder of a great moment between my oldest son and I. The reason I even talk about

00:04:27.640 this, and it might seem insignificant to a lot of people listening, especially if you're not hunting,

00:04:31.880 but when I moved to Maine, I had envisioned having this moose on my wall, this moose mount in the barn

00:04:39.680 for our events. I imagined going on this hunt, and I imagined what it would look like, what it would

00:04:46.020 feel like. It was very visceral. It was very real for me, what it would feel like when we successfully

00:04:51.180 killed our moose and the celebration between my son and I and coming home with the moose in my truck

00:04:57.160 and showing our family and our friends and them being excited and proud of what we accomplished.

00:05:01.040 Then I imagined what this mount would look like in my barn. I even considered going and buying another

00:05:07.100 moose mount, but I didn't feel like it was the right thing to do to buy somebody else's mount and put it

00:05:11.200 in my barn. The reason I bring this up, and again, I know it sounds trivial, but it got me thinking

00:05:16.860 about today. I envisioned all of that before it happened. I thought about it. When I see that mount,

00:05:22.180 it's exactly what I had envisioned in my mind. If we're talking about Maine, I think about the

00:05:27.140 home that we had. That was a dream years and years and years ago before we ever even knew that a

00:05:33.260 property existed. We talked about doing an event and having a barn and having property and having

00:05:38.440 this big, beautiful white house and having the land to be able to spread out and run these events,

00:05:42.780 and that's what we created. Now, we worked hard to establish that, but there's also been other

00:05:47.880 aspects of my life, negative aspects of my life, whether it's divorce or alcohol addiction,

00:05:53.660 business ventures that failed, relationships that went south, health scares that we've all been part

00:05:58.700 of that all started with planting a seed of negativity or a seed of doubt. Then that seed,

00:06:06.620 if watered enough, will grow just like a seed in the garden, will grow and it will start to permeate

00:06:12.880 every facet of your life. If you think about where you are in life right now, both positive

00:06:19.480 and negative, none of that happened without first thought. Now, I know that there's things that

00:06:24.200 happen that are outside of our control, but even those things, we put ourselves in compromising

00:06:28.980 situations. We put ourselves in scenarios. We overlook red flags. We forget about the green flags that we

00:06:35.920 should be looking for in business ventures or partners. A lot of that has to do with the way that we

00:06:41.380 think about things. I want to share a little bit more about this and give you a five-step framework

00:06:45.900 for ensuring that what you're doing is going to foster and bolster success in your life and not

00:06:51.780 hinder it and not undermine and sabotage it. Number one is I really do want you to take a good, long,

00:06:58.580 hard inventory of where you currently are in life. I want you to take a look at your relationships.

00:07:04.460 Get out a journal. I've got journals everywhere. I've got one right here, in fact,

00:07:07.560 that I write in just about every morning. I don't write in every morning, but just about.

00:07:12.200 But I want you to get that journal out or a notepad or something on your computer,

00:07:15.720 and I want you to write down inventory of your life. You can give yourself a grade. You can give

00:07:20.260 yourself a score. You can just talk about where you are, but ask yourself, where are you in regards

00:07:25.500 to your health? Are you strong and lean and fit and conditioned and rested? Can you recover well?

00:07:32.000 What does your physique look like? What's your stamina like? What's your cardio like? What's your

00:07:36.220 strength like? Give yourself an honest assessment. Look at your physical health. Number two,

00:07:41.180 look at the relationships you have. Primarily and first, look at the relationship that you have

00:07:44.660 with yourself. How do you feel about yourself? Do you know why you're here? Do you have a purpose

00:07:49.500 for being here? Are you actively doing the things that are going to drive you towards the purpose that

00:07:54.120 you have for yourself? In addition to that, you want to look at the relationships that you have

00:07:57.780 next with your family, those people who are closest to you. You made commitments to those people.

00:08:02.400 What's it like between you and your wife? How's the relationship between you and your

00:08:06.000 you and your children? Are you guys communicating well? Are there rifts in the relationship? Are

00:08:11.400 there things that have gone unsaid that need to be talked about? Are there issues that you need to

00:08:14.940 work through? Are you guys realizing your potential in the dreams that you had when you were young and

00:08:19.000 decided to get married and together? With your kids, are you connected with them? Do they turn to

00:08:24.280 you for advice? Are you open and honest with them about your victories and also your setbacks and

00:08:29.420 failures? Can you have these deep and hard conversations without it being uncomfortable and awkward?

00:08:34.160 When they're struggling, do they turn to you or somebody else? These are pretty good indicators

00:08:38.600 of how that relationship is. The next component of the relationship issue is your friends. You have

00:08:45.200 yourself, you have your family, you have your friends. Then I would also say your colleagues,

00:08:48.360 coworkers, other people that are acquaintances that you interact with. What's that like? Do they trust

00:08:52.300 you? Do they believe in you? Do they ask you for advice? Do they turn to you when they have a

00:08:56.080 problem? If not, maybe there's some things you can evaluate there. Again, we have health and then we have

00:09:01.800 the relationship that you have with yourself, with your family, with your friends, and then

00:09:07.960 acquaintances from there. You also want to take a look at what you're producing in the world. Are you

00:09:13.960 being a man of value? Are you contributing? Are you producing more than you consume? Or are you

00:09:18.460 consuming more than you produce? Guys, we're not trying to beat you up here. I would be very cautious

00:09:23.540 in spending a lot of time in the negative area because even negative seeds grow. Be careful of that,

00:09:30.980 but I do want to make you aware of the fact that you need to operate from a position of reality.

00:09:35.320 The first step in having your ideas become your reality is actually inventorying your life and

00:09:41.820 seeing where you are, seeing where your shortfalls are, seeing where you're succeeding,

00:09:46.100 seeing where you're thriving, seeing what you can do to improve. Number two is we want to empower

00:09:51.580 positive, constructive thoughts, and we want to eradicate negative or dangerous, destructive thoughts.

00:10:00.980 So again, we're going to foster and empower positive and constructive thoughts, and we're

00:10:05.300 going to eradicate negative, dangerous, or destructive thoughts. Now that's easier said than

00:10:10.580 done, but this takes some level of intentionality. And so what I'd like you to get good at doing,

00:10:16.760 I'm not great at this, but this is something I'm evaluating, is we need to check in with

00:10:20.520 ourselves throughout the day. Most guys don't do this. We're so busy. We're so consumed. We're so

00:10:25.520 inundated. We have so much going on. It's a meeting, and then it's this, and then this person

00:10:29.620 needs my attention. Then I got to go to this game, and I'm coaching this team, and I'm dropping my

00:10:32.720 wife off here and my kids here. There's so much going on, and it leaves absolutely zero margin

00:10:37.980 for you to check in with yourself about how you're feeling. Are you upbeat? Are you positive? Are you

00:10:43.060 encouraged? Are you hopeful? Are you optimistic? Or alternatively, are you pessimistic? Are you

00:10:50.120 hopeless? Are you anxious? Are you depressed? Are you frustrated? Are you impatient? I'm using these

00:10:56.960 because these are the ones that I tend to deal in. And if that is the case, then we need to go back

00:11:01.320 to number one, an inventory. Why are you frustrated? Why are you depressed? Why are you anxious? What is

00:11:07.040 happening that's causing this for you? Because that's not normal. It's normal that we'll experience

00:11:13.180 that from time to time. I'm not saying that because life is not just a blissful experience where

00:11:19.200 everything's supposed to be perfect, and if it isn't, then something's wrong with you. No,

00:11:22.600 there's nothing wrong with you if you're having a bad time. There's nothing wrong with you if

00:11:26.420 you're thinking negatively about something. There's nothing wrong with you about if you happen

00:11:29.740 to be angry about a few things. There's nothing wrong with that. But if it's a problem, if it's

00:11:34.920 perpetual, if it's ongoing, if it's a trend, not an isolated experience, there's something wrong with

00:11:39.860 that. And we need to get to the root of why that is. Now, I'd contend that typically it's an integrity

00:11:45.040 issue, meaning that we have this idea and this vision for who we are and how we want to show up,

00:11:49.040 and yet the way that we're actually showing up, the things that we're doing, the activities we're

00:11:53.020 engaged in, the people we're surrounded by are not mirroring the way that we view ourselves.

00:11:59.900 And that integrity gap creates real problems for a lot of guys, myself included. So we're going to

00:12:04.920 go ahead and we're going to inventory our life. We're going to look at the positive. We're going to

00:12:08.940 check in with ourself throughout the day because now we're creating margin. If you have hour-long

00:12:13.460 meetings and you have a meeting from 10 to 11, 11, 12, 12 to 1, 1 to 2, that isn't going to work.

00:12:19.040 And I want you to consider that you need to change that. Your hour-long meetings should

00:12:23.120 be 15-minute meetings. Your hour-and-a-half meetings should be an hour and 15-minute

00:12:27.400 meetings. And that 15 minutes is then going to be spent reflecting, doing other things that

00:12:32.500 might come up between a meeting and just thinking about how did that meeting go after action reviews,

00:12:38.320 what you could do in the next meeting to make it better than the first one was.

00:12:41.300 You got to create the margin and you have to check in with yourself about how you're feeling.

00:12:44.700 If you're positive, good. Let's identify why you're positive. Why are you hopeful?

00:12:47.560 Why are you optimistic? What are you doing right? Even if you're hopeful and optimistic and you're

00:12:52.940 not doing something right now, what could you be doing and what are you thinking about that's

00:12:57.360 leading you to be hopeful and optimistic? Let's double down on that. And then let's eradicate

00:13:02.480 the negative. How do we do that? The next three are going to illustrate that. Number one,

00:13:06.720 and this is number three in my system, but number one to eradicate the negative and foster the positive

00:13:11.420 is to go where producers are. Producers, let me back up. When I say producers, I'm talking about

00:13:18.060 people that they don't not consume. They do consume, but they always produce more than they

00:13:24.100 consume. And you have to be around those types of people because they're creative, they're intelligent,

00:13:29.800 they're emotionally mature. They add value to people's lives. They're hopeful. They're optimistic.

00:13:37.540 They come up with new ideas. They see problems, not as problems, but opportunities to create

00:13:42.780 solutions. These are the kind of people that you want to be around. And I talk about this a lot.

00:13:47.840 When I do, inevitably, guys will say, well, you know, I don't have anybody in my area. That isn't true.

00:13:53.340 That is absolutely not true. That's a negative thought. Okay. If we're going to talk about

00:14:00.600 manifestation, if you're telling yourself that there's no positive, encouraging, successful

00:14:05.220 people in your area, if that's what you believe to your core, tell me, what are you going to do

00:14:11.640 on a daily basis to go interact with other people? What are you going to do to put yourself out there?

00:14:16.940 What are you going to do to go get to know your neighbors or get to know the person who works in

00:14:21.400 the office of the cubicle next to you? If you don't think they're positive, encouraging, uplifting,

00:14:26.440 successful people, you're already shooting yourself in the foot. This is what I'm talking about.

00:14:31.000 And that thought is a limiting belief that's keeping you from reaching out to people who

00:14:35.920 could actually be really successful, positive, encouraging people in your life. That neighbor

00:14:40.540 downstairs that you've never met, that guy could change your world, could change your life. Imagine

00:14:47.640 that. Maybe he has a connection. Maybe he knows something. Maybe that turns into a business

00:14:52.420 partnership. How many times have you heard that? Business partners, romantic relationships come from

00:14:58.280 seemingly insignificant encounters with people. But if you're pessimistic and you think, well,

00:15:03.840 nobody around here is successful, of course, you're not going to find anybody who's successful.

00:15:08.660 You're sabotaging yourself. But you have to go where the producers are. And it's easier than ever

00:15:13.620 because you know who they are. You just jump online. You can see. And yes, I know it's easy to fool

00:15:18.640 people online and you certainly can. But take a look at the programs, the events, the courses,

00:15:23.440 the podcasts, the newsletters, the emails, everything, the breadth of their work and engage

00:15:29.100 in it. Go to the community center and figure out a workout class or a jujitsu class or a certain class

00:15:38.540 on whatever your thing is and join it. Go around and be around those other people. Those are positive

00:15:45.420 producing people that will help spur and generate ideas and formulate connections that you'd never have

00:15:51.380 before. And who knows, one day you might wake up in a relationship, a romantic relationship and

00:15:56.020 wonder how in the world you got here. You got here because you put yourself in the environment.

00:16:00.740 That's on you. If your ass is not in the game, you're riding the bench or you're not even in the 0.99

00:16:05.020 stadium, what right do you have to be frustrated that you can't get on base? You're not even in the 1.00

00:16:09.580 arena. You're not even up to bat. Now, if you strike out, that's one thing. We can talk about that.

00:16:14.680 But man, at least you're giving yourself a shot. I get so frustrated when I hear from guys who are

00:16:18.940 like, oh, you know, I don't know where to meet people or I'm not having any success in business.

00:16:23.060 Tell me what you're doing. They're not even playing the game. They're not even in the same

00:16:26.760 zip code. Okay. Well, that's part of the reason. Let's get you in the stadium first. 0.99

00:16:32.260 Once we get you to the stadium, let's get you in the dugout. Once we get you to the dugout,

00:16:35.180 let's get you on base. Let's get you up to plate. And then we can see what we can do from

00:16:38.600 get yourself in the fight. Number four, be very vigilant in the input. It's going into your mind.

00:16:46.820 And my two oldest boys have horrible, horrible, they have horrible taste in music and they have

00:16:52.760 great taste in music. Their mom introduces, she loves music and she's introduced them to some

00:16:58.380 amazing music. You know, you got things, a lot of classic rock, 90s alternative rock,

00:17:03.980 amazing music. And yet they'll jump in and like, dad, can I turn a song on? And they'll turn on like

00:17:09.660 pop smoke or little Uzi, I think his name is. I'm like, what is this? What is this bull crap? Like,

00:17:15.780 no, you're not listening to this. I don't want my kids listening to that kind of music.

00:17:21.760 Then people say, well, that's prudish. Fine. Call it whatever it is. I'm not interested in my kids

00:17:27.660 getting these messages of murder and crime and treating women like objects and treating themselves 1.00

00:17:35.300 like complete garbage. I'm not interested in that. And you aren't either as a father. Of course, 0.99

00:17:40.640 you aren't either. You won't let your kids watch TV over an extended period of time. You won't let

00:17:46.660 them listen to that nonsense and that garbage. You wouldn't let some nasty person in their lives 1.00

00:17:51.760 who you just give free range to talk however you want. You wouldn't do that with your kids,

00:17:56.400 but you do it with yourself. What do you listen to? What kind of filth and degeneracy

00:18:01.240 do you hear on the podcast that you're consumed with? Watching pornography? What is that doing to

00:18:07.340 your psyche? Who are you learning from? Who's teaching you about finances? Broke people? 1.00

00:18:12.280 Who's teaching you about health? Fat people? Overweight people? Again, what right do we have

00:18:17.660 to believe that we can produce a result if all the input that we have into our brains and our hearts

00:18:21.780 and our minds is filth and nonsense? It doesn't work. But again, it's such a great time to live because

00:18:29.260 access to positive, encouraging, constructive information is so readily available and it's all

00:18:36.740 free. And you can do it while you're doing other things. This podcast is a great example of that.

00:18:42.620 It's free. You don't have to pay. Nobody paid to listen to this podcast. And you're probably mowing

00:18:48.360 your lawn or you're at the gym or you're driving to work right now. You're doing something else and

00:18:52.180 you're listening to this. I remember early in my financial planning practice, I used to listen to CDs.

00:18:57.620 Yes. CDs of a man named Ed Milet. And many of you know Ed Milet because he's blown up since.

00:19:06.080 But I would listen to CDs from Ed Milet on sales presentations because I worked for an organization

00:19:11.200 that he was part of and that he was a founder and an executive in. And so these were motivational

00:19:17.500 CDs. And I remember my ex-wife came to me one day and I was talking with her and she said,

00:19:21.620 you sound like Ed Milet. Right. Because I'm listening to his CDs to and from work. And this is

00:19:27.580 what I'm consuming myself with. That's not a bad thing to sound like Ed Milet, by the way. Very

00:19:32.240 motivational, very inspirational, obviously very successful. That is one of the beauties of this

00:19:36.900 podcast. I've talked with over 430 different people now and I get to learn from them. They get

00:19:45.820 to teach me. And yes, you are the beneficiary of that as well because you're listening in. But man,

00:19:49.980 what a beautiful thing. I'm intentional. I'm deliberate. I'm clear about what I put into my

00:19:56.140 brain and what I won't. And I don't want to tolerate things in my body and in my mind that

00:20:00.480 are not going to serve me well because I know what it turns into. And we have power that we don't

00:20:04.860 realize. And when you take those types of things into your body and into your mind, it's not going

00:20:12.300 to serve you well. It's going to serve you poorly. The last one, this I think is, and I saved this

00:20:17.300 for last. It's probably the most important thing when it comes to your ideas becoming your reality

00:20:24.040 and making, manifesting, visualizing positive, successful results in your life. And here it is.

00:20:32.000 Gratitude and service. Gratitude and service. Guys, I know as a high achiever, I know as somebody

00:20:38.680 who's listening to this podcast and you want to be successful and you want to do big things in the

00:20:43.260 world, I understand that for many of us, myself included, enough is never enough. We're always on

00:20:50.920 to the next and biggest and greatest and newest thing that can help us be more successful and

00:20:55.860 serve more people. At least that's how I feel. But I'm really trying to incorporate gratitude in my

00:21:00.420 life. Even though I want new things and I want to do bigger and better and I want to serve more

00:21:05.440 people, I want to have all of these desires. I'm pretty grateful for the things that I have in my

00:21:10.540 life. I mean, here I am with this incredible technology to be able to connect with you.

00:21:15.140 I couldn't have done this 20 years ago. No way. Here I am with a health to be able to deliver a

00:21:20.040 message. Here I am with a network that, yes, we've created over time, but I've been blessed with skills

00:21:24.760 and talents and abilities that have helped me create a network of powerful men that I can connect with

00:21:29.120 and bring on the podcast and share with you. I'm in a home. It's climate controlled. It's probably

00:21:33.460 95 degrees outside today and I'm comfortable 68 degrees right now. Again, technology. My kids are happy.

00:21:39.880 Me and my oldest son are about to go on a hunt. We're about to fly in this machine, this contraption

00:21:46.580 across the ocean onto an island that other people died to discover to go hunt deer with friends that

00:21:56.980 we love and we care about. That's incredible. That's incredible. And I don't want to discount the

00:22:03.240 negativity and the hardships other people are experiencing. We all experience hardship,

00:22:06.560 but just because I might not be experiencing that the same way you do doesn't diminish what

00:22:10.760 you're going through. And I know people are at different stages, but even that,

00:22:14.900 even that, you have access to healthcare and you have access to people who love you and you have

00:22:20.740 access to information that we didn't have a hundred years ago that might make you or might help you work

00:22:26.260 through your depression or suicidal thoughts or your anxiety. I mean, life's pretty good,

00:22:36.400 all things considered. So, I think we could use a healthy dose of reality on that.

00:22:41.860 And the second thing I talked about was service. Guys, when you're in service of other people,

00:22:45.620 are you thinking about yourself? Are you wallowing in your own self-pity? Are you complaining about

00:22:49.540 all the bullshit you're having to go through? No, you're not. You're thinking about other people. 1.00

00:22:54.580 You're serving other people. You care about other people. You want them to win. You're giving them

00:22:58.860 value. You're sharing, you're teaching, you're educating, you're guiding, you're instructing,

00:23:02.640 you're leading. Isn't that what we're supposed to do? It's what we're supposed to do, what we should

00:23:07.720 do. That's what we ought to do. So, I like the double combo of gratitude and service. And I'll tell

00:23:13.240 you why, because it's an abundance mindset. It's not scarce. You can't be grateful and scarce at the

00:23:17.740 same time. You can't serve other people and adopt this scarcity mindset simultaneously.

00:23:23.260 No. The very nature of serving other people means you have an abundance in your life. Because if

00:23:29.000 you didn't have an abundance, you would not be able to have the time, the money, the desire to

00:23:33.080 serve other people. You're operating from abundance. If you're grateful, it doesn't necessarily change

00:23:38.220 your immediate circumstance, but it makes you think about it differently. There's a meme or a little

00:23:45.400 anecdote that's good that I've seen several times about two men. And somebody asked one of the boys

00:23:52.820 who is depressed and suicidal and down on his luck and unsuccessful. He says, why is it that you're

00:24:02.220 this way? And he said, well, my dad was an alcoholic and he was abusive and he was not successful. And he

00:24:08.000 took a lot of his frustrations out on us. And that's why I am. And that person asked his brother,

00:24:13.180 who happens to be wildly successful, abundance mentality, very, very, very happy and satisfied

00:24:19.480 at abundance mentality in his life, why he is the way he is. And that man says, well, you know,

00:24:25.240 my dad was an alcoholic and he was abusive to us and he wasn't a kind person. He didn't share with us

00:24:29.440 and he wasn't an abundance mindset. It was the scarcity mindset. And I didn't want to be like that

00:24:33.880 guy. Same scenario, two brothers lived through the same experience and yet they saw it completely

00:24:40.420 different and it created a different outcome for them. So we can choose to be grateful.

00:24:46.080 We can choose to serve other people. We can choose to have this abundance mindset in the

00:24:50.780 midst of even some of the hardest times that maybe you've ever dealt with. That's been pretty rough

00:24:54.520 for me over the past year or so. And yet I've always felt like I'm going to come out of this on top.

00:24:59.920 And I felt like that because of my track record of success, but more importantly than that,

00:25:04.860 because I'm around other people who care about me, who want me to win, want to see me win,

00:25:10.900 who are abundant, who will serve me. I mean, I could call a dozen guys right now. I could pull

00:25:15.260 up my phone and call a dozen guys right now and call them. And every one of them would answer or

00:25:20.080 call me back very quickly to serve me. I'm not saying that to brag or to shoot my horn. I'm saying

00:25:24.800 that because I've cultivated this. I've fostered this. I'm blessed to have those kinds of men in my

00:25:30.840 life. And you do too. You do too. You have those men and women in your life and having a gratitude

00:25:36.020 and a service oriented mindset are going to help with that. So guys, be very careful. I just,

00:25:41.040 again, I want to reiterate, be vigilant about what goes into your mind. It's positive, encouraging,

00:25:46.280 uplifting, good. If it's negative, discouraging, destructive, purge it, get rid of it. Let's go

00:25:51.660 through these steps and we'll call it a day. Number one, inventory your life. Look at your health,

00:25:55.620 look at your relationships, look at your finances, look at how you're contributing to the world.

00:25:58.620 Number two, you're going to empower and foster positive, encouraging behavior. And you're going

00:26:04.160 to eradicate and eliminate negative or destructive, dangerous behavior or thoughts. Number three,

00:26:09.700 you're going to start to go where the producers are. Don't come at me with an excuse about why you

00:26:13.600 can't. Go out there, take initiative and go where the producers are. Number four, be vigilant in your

00:26:18.940 input. No pop smoke, my boys, no little Urzy or little Uzi or whatever it is, none of that.

00:26:25.240 But we're going to consume positive, encouraging, uplifting information because that's what we're

00:26:30.460 going to manifest. And then number five is adopting that gratitude and that service-oriented mindset.

00:26:36.340 You're operating now from a position of abundance, which is the only place that you can thrive.

00:26:40.680 You cannot thrive in a position of scarcity. It has to come from abundance.

00:26:44.760 All right, guys. I hope that helps. Let me know. If you have questions, concerns, concepts,

00:26:50.140 ideas, things that you want to share with me, feedback, whatever, let me know. I'm pretty

00:26:54.680 available on Instagram at Ryan Mickler. Outside of that, make sure you check out the Iron Council

00:26:59.100 at orderofman.com slash Iron Council, which is open right now for the next week. And hopefully,

00:27:04.120 we'll see you inside where we're having these conversations and more. All right, guys. We'll

00:27:08.680 be back next week. Until then, go out there, take action and become the man you are meant to be.

00:27:13.140 Thank you for listening to the Order of Man podcast. You're ready to take charge of your life

00:27:17.720 and be more of the man you were meant to be. We invite you to join the Order at orderofman.com.

Order of Man - June 16, 2023

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