Order of Man - May 31, 2019


Your Redemption Story ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES


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Length

33 minutes

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181.28467

Word Count

6,003

Sentence Count

261

Misogynist Sentences

4

Hate Speech Sentences

4


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart your own path.
00:00:06.020 When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.
00:00:10.480 You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong.
00:00:15.500 This is your life. This is who you are. This is who you will become.
00:00:19.760 At the end of the day, and after all is said and done, you can call yourself a man.
00:00:24.720 Hey, gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Mickler, and I am the host and founder of this movement, The Order of Man.
00:00:30.720 I want to welcome you. Regardless of how long you've been listening to this podcast, it's amazing how far we've come in a very short period of time.
00:00:38.980 It's a testament to you tuning in. It's a testament to you sharing.
00:00:42.220 And, of course, it's a testament to you stepping up as a husband, a father, a business owner, a community leader, a coach, a mentor, a friend, and whatever capacity of life you're showing up as.
00:00:51.700 It's my goal to give you the tools and the resources, and specifically with this podcast, the conversations that you need to level up your life to become a more capable man in a society that most of us realize and see that is in need of us more than ever.
00:01:08.260 Now, I've got a pretty quick one for you today. I'm actually right now, as we speak, sitting in my brother-in-law's spare room.
00:01:16.340 It's almost 10 o'clock here local time, and a lot of you know I'm on the road. Me and my family are moving to Maine, so we're halfway into this thing.
00:01:27.540 I've got about two and a half days left before we get to our home in Maine, and I figured we'd take a quick break here for a couple of days.
00:01:35.060 But I wanted to make sure I got this podcast out to you because it's a very important conversation.
00:01:41.180 It's a very important topic that we're going to address today, which is your redemption story.
00:01:47.160 And when I say that, what I'm talking about is your ability to redeem yourself.
00:01:52.760 I know a lot of guys who have had very difficult situations because I talk with these guys on a daily basis.
00:01:58.700 I get messages and emails and texts from guys who are going through divorces, and they're going through separations, and maybe they lost their job.
00:02:06.260 They're dealing with something with a health issue or medical condition.
00:02:11.120 And what I see a lot of these men doing is they're living in this perpetual state of discomfort and misery.
00:02:19.140 And what I want to let you know is that when these bad things happen, when these negative situations come up or we have these obstacles and hurdles that we need to address, they're only meant to be temporary.
00:02:30.800 And yet so many men operate from a position of that this is just their destiny and this is their way of life, and they can't ever seem to redeem themselves.
00:02:41.200 The reason this thought came to me is because as I was wrapping up my oldest son's baseball season a couple of weeks ago, there was a pot fly hit to our left fielder.
00:02:52.320 Just a regular pot fly, nothing out of the ordinary.
00:02:55.820 Should have been caught, no problem.
00:02:57.260 The inning should have been over, and we should have went on to win the game.
00:03:00.120 So this batter hits a pot fly.
00:03:01.920 My son happened to be pitching.
00:03:02.980 Hips a pot fly to left field, and our left fielder doesn't field it well and ends up missing the play.
00:03:12.020 And he was upset.
00:03:13.280 He was in his head about it, and it got to him.
00:03:17.380 And we finished out the inning, and I pulled him aside in between innings, and I said,
00:03:21.140 Listen, bud, that stuff's going to happen.
00:03:23.580 It's the way it goes.
00:03:24.960 But you get to go to bat this inning, and you have an opportunity to redeem yourself.
00:03:31.200 You have an opportunity to make up for a misstep, to correct a situation, or to contribute to the team in a meaningful way after a situation that took away from the team that you should have made.
00:03:44.020 And you know that.
00:03:45.380 But don't sulk about it.
00:03:47.020 Don't stew in it.
00:03:47.960 Don't think about it too long.
00:03:49.360 Don't let it ruin the rest of the game.
00:03:52.140 Chalk it up to a mess up, a mistake, a mishap.
00:03:55.660 And now, let's go up to the plate and swing the bat like you know how to swing.
00:04:01.380 Have a good at bat.
00:04:02.880 Long story short, he ends up hitting a deep, deep triple into right center.
00:04:08.880 And he got to third base, and then eventually he scored.
00:04:11.620 And in between the inning, I told him, I said, Good job, man.
00:04:14.540 You redeemed yourself.
00:04:16.220 And I talked to him about what redemption meant.
00:04:18.280 And he was so proud because he was able to make up for that mistake that he had earlier.
00:04:24.700 And if this doesn't translate perfectly to us as grown adults, us as men, and life, I don't know what does.
00:04:31.840 Look, bad stuff happens.
00:04:33.640 I've gone through situations.
00:04:35.100 And as I'm thinking about our move to Maine, which is basically across the country from Utah to Maine,
00:04:41.780 I've thought about all the blessings that my family and I are enjoying.
00:04:46.420 And a lot of that comes through my own personal redemption.
00:04:51.260 Because as I was thinking about our trip, I was thinking about where I was 10 years ago.
00:04:56.520 And the place that I was 10 years ago is that I was arguing with my wife,
00:05:02.200 and she was leaving, and she was taking my one-year-old son with her at the time.
00:05:10.700 And I'm here to tell you guys, that was the darkest point in my life.
00:05:14.300 My wife left, my son wasn't with me anymore, my business was struggling,
00:05:20.100 I was in horrible, horrible physical shape, and it was the darkest time in my life.
00:05:26.500 And I thought for a long time that this is my destiny, that this is the way that I'm meant to live,
00:05:32.340 that I'm in a way following in my father's footsteps because he was out of the picture when I was young.
00:05:38.280 And I thought that this is just the way it had to be.
00:05:41.080 And for a long time it was, because I wasn't willing to redeem myself.
00:05:46.500 I placed all the burden and all the responsibility and all the blame on my wife
00:05:51.540 and outside circumstances and outside situations.
00:05:54.060 I talked about this a little bit in last week's podcast about being a victim.
00:05:57.420 And as I did that, I stripped away any opportunity that I had to redeem myself,
00:06:05.920 to step more fully into the man that I was capable of becoming.
00:06:12.260 Guys, this is your redemption story.
00:06:15.720 I don't care where you are in life.
00:06:17.940 I don't care if you're not married or have gone through a separation or divorce or even happily married,
00:06:23.540 but maybe your business is struggling or maybe your business is fine and your marriage is fine,
00:06:27.600 but you're 50, 60, 70, 100 pounds overweight and you know you need to get that into check.
00:06:32.940 Guys, things happen.
00:06:34.920 The things that happen in our life aren't meant to completely derail us.
00:06:39.020 They're not there to write out our destiny in concrete and stone.
00:06:44.500 They're there to equip you or give you the environment, I should say,
00:06:48.940 to equip you with the tools and the skill sets and the mindset that you need to excel to a new level in your life,
00:06:56.100 to redeem yourself in a way from all your past transgressions,
00:07:00.340 from all your past mistakes to all your past missteps and all the other shit that happened to you in your life.
00:07:06.960 It's temporary if you allow it to be, but it's permanent also if you allow it to be.
00:07:12.880 You have a decision to make.
00:07:14.260 Is this going to be your redemption story or have you already written the entire script of your life?
00:07:22.380 I was down at SummerStrong, Soren X at SummerStrong a couple of weeks ago,
00:07:26.120 and one of the speakers talked about, his name is Neil, he's a bladesmith, he does amazing, amazing work.
00:07:33.540 Anyways, he talked about how his story and our stories are being written right now,
00:07:40.860 that you're the author of your story and that that story hasn't been fully written.
00:07:46.640 But when you wake up in each day and you go through the actions and the behaviors and the patterns
00:07:50.960 and the things that you do, the decisions that you make on a daily basis,
00:07:54.300 you are literally writing out your story.
00:07:58.820 And again, I don't care where you are right now,
00:08:00.660 but you have an opportunity to redeem yourself just like that baseball player did when he missed that pop fly,
00:08:05.960 to come up to bat and to redeem yourself in a powerful way
00:08:11.500 and step more fully into the man that you're capable of becoming.
00:08:15.920 And as I talk about this, what I want to share with you is some steps,
00:08:19.860 some strategies that you can use.
00:08:21.460 Now, I know you probably, if you've been listening to this podcast for any amount of time,
00:08:25.020 have become accustomed to me listing points out.
00:08:27.800 And I do that by design because this is a two-step process, generally a two-step process.
00:08:33.700 It requires thinking.
00:08:35.580 It requires a thought process.
00:08:37.620 That's important.
00:08:38.720 It also requires action.
00:08:40.980 And when I see too many guys is they get hung up on one of those areas.
00:08:44.340 Like they'll think forever and ever and ever and ever and never apply any of the stuff we're talking about.
00:08:49.440 Some guys will just act recklessly without putting much thought to anything
00:08:53.620 and then produce the same results that they've always produced in their lives.
00:08:56.700 So we've got to be intentional.
00:08:58.980 We've got to be thoughtful.
00:09:00.340 And then we've got to put this stuff into action using a framework
00:09:03.980 that has been guaranteed to produce results.
00:09:07.600 Guys, we don't need to reinvent the wheel here.
00:09:09.700 We just need to look at what other guys are doing and reproduce what they're doing.
00:09:14.640 Just go through the same patterns and behaviors and scripts and everything else that they're doing.
00:09:18.400 And it's likely that that's going to produce similar results.
00:09:22.260 That's why I do a step-by-step process with you guys.
00:09:24.520 So I want to break this down for you.
00:09:26.700 The first thing, and I don't talk about this a lot because I get into these practical steps,
00:09:30.500 but as I was thinking about what I wanted to talk with you about this evening,
00:09:33.560 today, I guess if you're listening to this as it's being released,
00:09:36.740 is that you have to have hope.
00:09:40.700 You have to have hope.
00:09:42.600 If there's no hope for the future,
00:09:46.820 then there's no reason to go through anything else I'm going to share with you today.
00:09:50.480 That is the foundation.
00:09:52.380 You have to, even if it's just a small little glimmer of hope somewhere deep down in your soul
00:09:59.560 that maybe you've buried or it's been buried for far too long,
00:10:03.140 you have to figure a way out to ignite that level of hope,
00:10:08.740 some level of optimism,
00:10:12.160 some faith, if you will.
00:10:14.660 Not necessarily spiritual faith, although that could play a role,
00:10:17.740 but faith that you can crawl out of this situation that you found yourself in.
00:10:23.620 And I know too many men, and I know you probably do as well,
00:10:26.480 who have been suicidal, who have been depressed,
00:10:29.280 who have committed suicide because they saw no hope.
00:10:32.660 Guys, open your eyes, please.
00:10:34.920 Barring mental health, and that should be certainly addressed in the proper way.
00:10:41.680 If you don't look around and see that there's some positive,
00:10:45.960 redeeming value in society, value in your life,
00:10:50.340 who you are now, who you have the potential to become,
00:10:53.720 I'm not sure you've even opened your eyes.
00:10:55.620 And I know it's hard when you're in despair.
00:10:59.040 I know it's hard when you're sitting alone at midnight
00:11:03.140 wondering how you can get your wife and your son back.
00:11:07.500 I know that because I've been there.
00:11:09.340 I know what it's like to be pacing around the yard
00:11:13.740 wondering how you're going to make the mortgage payment
00:11:17.420 or how you're going to pay for groceries that week
00:11:20.540 and provide for your family.
00:11:22.420 I know that because I've been there.
00:11:24.420 I know what it's like to have to look your kids in the eye
00:11:27.560 and say, I'm sorry, I can't go play with you
00:11:30.300 because you're so exhausted because you're fat
00:11:32.660 and you're out of shape and you're lazy
00:11:34.640 and you don't have the energy to do anything else
00:11:36.860 because you've neglected your health.
00:11:39.160 I don't say that to beat you up.
00:11:41.100 I say that with a level of empathy because I've been there.
00:11:44.460 That's my story.
00:11:45.540 I had to do that.
00:11:48.020 But somewhere in the midst of all of that darkness in my life,
00:11:52.960 I saw that there was other people around
00:11:55.700 who were performing, who had what I wanted,
00:11:59.340 who had the marriage and had the relationship with the kids
00:12:02.140 and had the body and the energy that I wanted
00:12:05.140 and had the business and the bank account
00:12:07.840 and the career that I was after.
00:12:10.700 And by looking around, I saw that even though
00:12:12.540 I was where I was, rock bottom,
00:12:14.700 that there was an opportunity for growth.
00:12:17.220 And that's what you need to focus on.
00:12:18.760 We live in a world where it is so easy to be negative.
00:12:23.740 Not only your own internal scripts,
00:12:26.200 but listen, if you're thinking negatively,
00:12:28.160 that's because somewhere along the way,
00:12:30.080 you decided to adopt somebody else's negativity
00:12:33.400 as your own worldview.
00:12:36.820 You can't have that worldview unless you accept it
00:12:40.240 as reality for yourself.
00:12:42.780 And it's so easy to get consumed with resentment
00:12:46.240 and bitterness and animosity and contention and negativity.
00:12:51.260 It's everywhere from social media
00:12:54.260 to even the podcasts that we listen to,
00:12:56.980 to tabloids and books and magazines
00:13:00.320 and the garbage and the nonsense and filth
00:13:02.840 that we see on TV and in music.
00:13:05.080 It's everywhere.
00:13:06.440 It's permeated every fabric of society.
00:13:10.060 So if you focus on that negativity,
00:13:12.180 it's going to be hard to see
00:13:13.480 that there's some level of optimism.
00:13:15.100 You're going to be pessimistic
00:13:16.620 and you're going to think that you are doomed
00:13:18.400 to a life of misery.
00:13:21.160 But if you are intentional about it
00:13:23.560 and you focus on the good
00:13:25.380 and you focus on the positive
00:13:27.120 and you focus on people
00:13:28.840 who are doing good and wonderful things
00:13:30.520 and achieving success,
00:13:31.400 it's not very difficult to see that
00:13:33.680 because that individual is doing it,
00:13:36.320 that you too could be doing it.
00:13:37.880 And that's the first step to redeeming yourself,
00:13:42.580 to your redemption story,
00:13:44.340 is to have hope and to have faith
00:13:47.320 that through your efforts and your progress
00:13:50.640 and your consistency towards your dreams
00:13:53.040 and desires and ambitions,
00:13:54.180 that you can have what you're after.
00:13:57.420 That is the foundation.
00:13:58.620 Once you establish that level of hope,
00:14:02.160 it's time to get to work
00:14:03.240 because as most of us know in the scriptures,
00:14:06.620 it says,
00:14:07.080 faith without works is dead.
00:14:09.920 It's not enough to have faith.
00:14:12.020 It's not enough to be hopeful
00:14:13.720 or cheerful or optimistic.
00:14:16.360 Although that is all wonderful
00:14:17.800 and you should strive to be those things,
00:14:20.020 it requires quite a bit more.
00:14:22.540 It requires work on your part.
00:14:25.280 It requires effort and labor.
00:14:30.360 And that's what I'm going to talk with you about now.
00:14:31.620 Number one, very simply guys,
00:14:33.540 please do not overlook the simplicity of this.
00:14:35.920 Just go exercise.
00:14:37.820 All right, go into the gym,
00:14:39.960 go for a walk,
00:14:41.480 do some pushups by your bed,
00:14:43.700 go for a run,
00:14:45.160 take your dog out,
00:14:47.040 find a friend,
00:14:48.120 go do something,
00:14:49.240 move your body,
00:14:50.880 exercise,
00:14:51.300 get that blood pumping,
00:14:53.480 get the air coursing through your lungs,
00:14:55.700 get the muscles building.
00:14:57.780 I promise you,
00:14:58.840 you're going to feel better.
00:14:59.860 Guys often ask me,
00:15:01.680 hey, Ryan,
00:15:02.100 I'm just,
00:15:02.460 I'm trying to figure out my life.
00:15:03.800 I'm in this rock bottom state
00:15:05.740 or I know there's something more.
00:15:07.860 Where do I start?
00:15:08.760 Go to the gym, guys.
00:15:11.000 And I don't care if it's power lifting
00:15:12.440 or strongman
00:15:13.940 or bodybuilding
00:15:15.200 or CrossFit
00:15:16.760 or running
00:15:18.400 or I don't care.
00:15:19.520 It doesn't matter.
00:15:20.600 You can figure that stuff out down the road.
00:15:22.940 But if you're not exercising
00:15:24.400 every single day,
00:15:26.320 then you're doing yourself a disservice.
00:15:29.120 Now, yes,
00:15:29.980 I know there's,
00:15:30.660 you know,
00:15:31.760 little efficient ways to do it
00:15:33.100 and you can be doing this exercise
00:15:34.780 versus that exercise.
00:15:35.900 We'll get to that
00:15:36.560 and you should get to that.
00:15:37.620 But if you're not doing anything,
00:15:38.880 if you're not lifting
00:15:40.180 and working out
00:15:40.940 and exercising
00:15:41.640 and moving your body
00:15:42.580 seven days a week,
00:15:43.800 you're missing an opportunity
00:15:45.180 not only to
00:15:46.260 fix your physical health,
00:15:47.800 but to redeem your life.
00:15:50.640 Because as I've said before,
00:15:52.040 the skill set required
00:15:53.000 to improve your fitness,
00:15:54.960 discipline,
00:15:55.580 dedication,
00:15:56.260 commitment,
00:15:57.140 consistency,
00:15:57.940 sacrifice
00:15:58.500 are all the same skills
00:16:00.880 that you need
00:16:01.540 to achieve
00:16:02.160 when it comes to your marriage
00:16:03.320 and achieve
00:16:04.340 when it comes to the relationship
00:16:05.340 with your kids
00:16:05.960 and achieve in your business.
00:16:07.740 Achieve
00:16:07.960 any facet of life.
00:16:09.480 It doesn't matter where.
00:16:10.300 You learn the skill set
00:16:13.360 required to succeed in the gym.
00:16:14.920 You are naturally
00:16:15.640 and inevitably going to do it
00:16:16.720 in other areas of your life.
00:16:18.000 So number one,
00:16:18.580 write this down.
00:16:19.260 Exercise daily,
00:16:20.240 every day,
00:16:21.260 at least an hour.
00:16:22.140 Moving your body.
00:16:23.340 We can talk about
00:16:24.060 what kinds later
00:16:24.880 or you can listen to other podcasts
00:16:26.140 that I've done
00:16:26.700 with guys who are
00:16:28.360 infinitely more qualified
00:16:29.600 than me
00:16:29.980 to talk about fitness stuff.
00:16:32.220 That's another conversation.
00:16:33.580 But for now,
00:16:34.240 you need to begin
00:16:34.820 to move your body.
00:16:35.940 Number two,
00:16:36.680 critical here, guys.
00:16:38.600 Flip your environment.
00:16:40.780 Switch your environment.
00:16:42.480 The environment
00:16:43.280 that you're in right now,
00:16:44.760 and I'm talking about
00:16:45.620 the people you're hanging out with,
00:16:47.300 the way that your house
00:16:48.660 or your apartment looks,
00:16:50.080 the way that your car looks,
00:16:51.940 the way that your cubicle
00:16:53.280 or office looks,
00:16:55.260 your environment
00:16:56.180 is going to dictate your life.
00:16:58.720 And I've said it before,
00:16:59.720 the product of your environment thing.
00:17:01.660 I understand what people are saying,
00:17:03.340 but look,
00:17:04.360 that's not a passive role.
00:17:07.260 You don't just get to show up
00:17:08.840 and what happens, happens.
00:17:10.060 No, you made decisions
00:17:11.740 in your life
00:17:12.660 that have created
00:17:13.800 the environment
00:17:14.960 in which you find yourself.
00:17:17.360 So if you've got
00:17:18.320 McDonald's fries
00:17:20.180 and bags
00:17:21.060 and fast food stuff
00:17:22.800 lying around in your car
00:17:23.940 and it's all filled
00:17:24.580 with trash and junk,
00:17:26.060 that's how the rest
00:17:27.660 of your life's going to look.
00:17:29.880 If you can't clean up
00:17:31.120 your office space
00:17:31.900 and file things
00:17:32.680 where they go,
00:17:33.360 when they go,
00:17:34.020 so that you can get them
00:17:35.160 when you need them,
00:17:36.380 and you've got chaos
00:17:37.560 all over your home screen
00:17:38.620 on your computer,
00:17:39.280 that might seem trivial,
00:17:40.780 but it's not.
00:17:41.840 That's going to dictate
00:17:42.880 the rest of your life.
00:17:44.720 If you go home
00:17:45.780 and you've got trash
00:17:46.600 sprawled everywhere
00:17:47.580 and places don't have,
00:17:50.300 your stuff doesn't have
00:17:51.340 a place to go
00:17:52.080 and your plants aren't watered,
00:17:53.740 how is that going to translate
00:17:55.440 over into the relationship
00:17:57.260 that you're trying to redeem?
00:17:58.360 It's going to mirror.
00:18:02.020 You can't make decisions
00:18:03.020 in a vacuum.
00:18:03.940 You make a decision over here
00:18:05.220 to keep your life
00:18:06.700 in chaos
00:18:08.140 and clutter
00:18:09.180 and confusion,
00:18:10.620 guess how every other aspect
00:18:11.920 of your life
00:18:12.480 is going to show up?
00:18:13.340 If all your friends
00:18:14.160 are assholes
00:18:14.780 and they're all pessimistic
00:18:16.160 and they're all bitching
00:18:17.160 and moaning
00:18:17.460 about their life,
00:18:18.760 don't you think
00:18:19.600 they have a vested interest
00:18:20.740 in you being stuck
00:18:22.140 with them
00:18:22.700 because misery loves company?
00:18:25.240 Gentlemen,
00:18:26.340 inventory your life,
00:18:27.500 inventory your friends,
00:18:28.800 inventory your living arrangements,
00:18:30.740 inventory your car.
00:18:31.720 If your car looks like crap,
00:18:33.160 drive into the car wash right now.
00:18:34.660 Go get it washed,
00:18:35.740 vacuum it out,
00:18:36.660 have somebody detail it.
00:18:37.760 I don't care what you do,
00:18:38.900 but clean that space up.
00:18:41.740 You start cleaning up your car,
00:18:43.300 your glove box,
00:18:44.040 your junk drawer,
00:18:44.720 your house,
00:18:45.240 your office,
00:18:46.160 the people that are in your circle
00:18:47.440 and in your space,
00:18:48.420 you're going to naturally
00:18:49.240 improve your life
00:18:50.080 almost magically,
00:18:52.280 although it's not magic.
00:18:54.000 It's just the law
00:18:55.280 of the way you do it.
00:18:56.460 One thing is the way
00:18:57.200 you do everything.
00:18:58.360 So clean it up.
00:18:59.680 Clean up your environment.
00:19:00.880 Number three,
00:19:01.780 I think I'm on,
00:19:02.660 or maybe four,
00:19:03.640 if you count hope,
00:19:04.760 is developing
00:19:06.040 a new skill set.
00:19:09.140 When I say skill set,
00:19:10.260 I'm talking about
00:19:10.920 hard skills.
00:19:12.320 That might be a hobby
00:19:13.360 or self-defense,
00:19:14.240 some of the things
00:19:14.620 I've talked about in the past,
00:19:15.680 but I'm also talking
00:19:16.460 about soft skills.
00:19:17.580 Learning how to communicate,
00:19:18.700 learning how to learn,
00:19:20.240 learning how to cast vision,
00:19:21.800 learning how to be more
00:19:23.160 assertive in your life,
00:19:24.760 learning to have small talk
00:19:26.220 and being able to hold
00:19:27.360 conversations with other people.
00:19:29.140 For me,
00:19:29.580 it's learning how to be
00:19:30.320 a great listener
00:19:31.120 and a great asker of questions
00:19:33.040 because that's what I do
00:19:33.780 with my career here
00:19:34.500 with Order of Man.
00:19:36.160 The more skills you have
00:19:38.220 in your tool belt,
00:19:40.440 the more capable you become,
00:19:42.160 the more confidence you build,
00:19:43.700 and ultimately,
00:19:44.700 the better position
00:19:45.740 you find yourself in.
00:19:47.380 So make yourself the project.
00:19:49.100 When I talk with guys
00:19:50.080 who are going through
00:19:50.880 a rough relationship
00:19:52.340 or they just got laid off,
00:19:54.080 they're going through
00:19:54.620 a health situation,
00:19:57.660 I tell them,
00:19:58.560 make yourself the project.
00:20:00.440 You've got to make yourself
00:20:01.400 the project.
00:20:01.980 You're worried about
00:20:02.540 too many other people.
00:20:03.940 You're worried about
00:20:04.380 your girlfriend and your kids
00:20:05.400 and your boss and your clients
00:20:06.460 and your this and your that
00:20:07.380 and all that stuff's wonderful
00:20:08.620 and has a place in time.
00:20:09.960 But if you're not worrying
00:20:10.800 about yourself,
00:20:12.540 you're focused on
00:20:13.520 the wrong things.
00:20:15.100 And I'm not saying
00:20:15.760 be selfish as in
00:20:17.380 do this at the expense
00:20:18.640 of other people.
00:20:19.640 I'm saying be selfish
00:20:21.040 as in take care of yourself
00:20:22.660 so you're more capable
00:20:23.940 of stepping into
00:20:24.900 the calling of man,
00:20:25.880 which is protector,
00:20:26.980 provider, and presider.
00:20:28.340 You can't do that
00:20:29.360 if you don't have
00:20:30.120 the skill set to do it.
00:20:31.720 And so if you're moping around
00:20:32.800 thinking about how
00:20:33.520 all this bad stuff's
00:20:34.440 happening to you
00:20:35.200 and woe is me
00:20:36.500 and I can't catch a break
00:20:37.880 and why would God
00:20:38.560 do this to me
00:20:39.300 and yet you weren't
00:20:40.160 doing the work
00:20:40.740 to dig yourself
00:20:41.420 out of the hole,
00:20:42.940 you're never going
00:20:43.540 to redeem yourself.
00:20:45.020 And you're going to
00:20:45.420 start believing
00:20:46.180 this own BS
00:20:47.040 that you're just
00:20:48.000 destined to
00:20:48.940 show up
00:20:50.020 as a loser.
00:20:51.320 You're not.
00:20:52.860 You're not.
00:20:54.880 But it's an active role.
00:20:56.700 It requires you
00:20:57.620 again doing
00:20:58.380 work
00:20:59.400 towards
00:21:00.660 redeeming
00:21:01.700 yourself.
00:21:03.260 The next couple
00:21:04.180 and we'll leave it
00:21:04.680 here today
00:21:05.180 is
00:21:06.160 money.
00:21:08.320 Money.
00:21:09.720 You've got to get
00:21:10.640 your financial affairs
00:21:11.540 in order.
00:21:12.560 You have to get
00:21:13.580 your financial affairs
00:21:14.660 in order.
00:21:16.940 You know,
00:21:17.440 we hear all these
00:21:17.860 quotes like
00:21:18.500 money is the root
00:21:19.700 of all evil
00:21:20.360 and money doesn't
00:21:21.960 grow on trees
00:21:22.800 and a penny saved
00:21:23.640 is a penny earned
00:21:24.500 and we buy into
00:21:25.780 these scripts
00:21:26.260 that we've heard
00:21:26.800 from our parents
00:21:27.460 and our friends
00:21:27.880 and our family
00:21:28.440 and then we remain
00:21:29.920 broke.
00:21:30.500 Guess what?
00:21:31.060 Like our friends
00:21:31.680 and our parents
00:21:32.220 and our family did
00:21:32.940 because we adopted
00:21:34.300 all of their beliefs
00:21:35.360 about money
00:21:35.960 as our own
00:21:37.060 and I'll tell you
00:21:37.840 what,
00:21:38.100 I've been broke
00:21:38.800 and I've made
00:21:40.180 good money
00:21:41.360 in my life
00:21:42.260 and I can tell you
00:21:43.220 that making money
00:21:44.860 is always better.
00:21:46.860 Always better.
00:21:48.220 I have less to worry about.
00:21:49.840 I have less stress.
00:21:51.700 I'm able to be
00:21:52.680 present with my family
00:21:54.120 instead of worrying
00:21:54.680 about how the mortgage
00:21:55.380 is going to get paid.
00:21:56.560 I can donate
00:21:57.700 to charity.
00:21:58.740 I can spend my time
00:22:00.040 in meaningful
00:22:00.520 and significant ways.
00:22:01.980 I can contribute
00:22:03.100 more in my community
00:22:04.580 and to the organizations
00:22:06.320 that are important to me
00:22:07.280 because I have money.
00:22:09.380 If you're broke,
00:22:10.680 I'm telling you,
00:22:11.740 you're going to be
00:22:12.240 consumed
00:22:12.920 with being broke
00:22:14.320 and I get it.
00:22:16.340 I understand it.
00:22:17.720 I've been there
00:22:18.480 but learn how to budget.
00:22:21.120 Learn how to invest.
00:22:22.740 Develop a skill set
00:22:23.720 like I just got done saying
00:22:24.920 so that you can go in
00:22:26.120 and ask for a raise
00:22:27.140 or you can get another job
00:22:29.060 where you can start
00:22:29.640 making some more money
00:22:30.560 so when you're trading
00:22:32.060 your time for money,
00:22:33.880 the time you're trading
00:22:34.820 is worth more money.
00:22:37.080 It's a more efficient
00:22:38.220 way to live.
00:22:39.980 Again, learn how to invest.
00:22:41.740 Learn how to handle
00:22:42.280 this stuff.
00:22:42.920 Pick up a second job.
00:22:44.880 Turn a hobby
00:22:45.400 into a money-generating activity.
00:22:48.280 Again, that's not the topic
00:22:49.460 necessarily of this conversation.
00:22:50.960 You can go back
00:22:51.540 and listen to my podcast
00:22:52.380 with guests
00:22:53.680 that talk about
00:22:54.340 how to invest
00:22:54.960 and how to make money
00:22:55.700 and how to turn a side hustle
00:22:57.220 into a full-time business.
00:22:58.420 We've had dozens
00:22:59.480 and dozens of them
00:23:00.320 but guys,
00:23:01.260 get your financial house
00:23:02.120 in order.
00:23:03.500 All right?
00:23:04.220 You just can't
00:23:05.380 be the man
00:23:06.340 you're capable of
00:23:07.200 if you're broke.
00:23:07.980 Can you be a good man?
00:23:08.960 Sure.
00:23:09.660 Absolutely.
00:23:10.700 I know some men
00:23:11.700 who aren't that well
00:23:13.300 to do financially
00:23:14.040 and they're some
00:23:14.780 of the finest men
00:23:15.520 that I know.
00:23:16.100 They're good men
00:23:16.700 but I'm telling you,
00:23:18.040 you are more capable
00:23:20.520 when you have money
00:23:21.700 and I want you to learn
00:23:23.760 how to develop
00:23:24.280 and grow it
00:23:24.900 in your life,
00:23:25.880 build wealth
00:23:26.440 so that you can be
00:23:27.280 more capable
00:23:27.880 and you can fully
00:23:28.880 redeem yourself
00:23:29.620 from where you may be
00:23:30.300 finding yourself right now.
00:23:31.300 And the last one
00:23:33.180 that I want to
00:23:34.460 address with you
00:23:35.600 is
00:23:37.220 your hobbies.
00:23:39.640 You've got to have hobbies.
00:23:41.040 You've got to find a way
00:23:42.280 to recharge
00:23:44.020 and rejuvenate yourself
00:23:45.620 and energize yourself.
00:23:47.100 I talk with a lot of guys
00:23:48.020 for example
00:23:48.540 who
00:23:49.600 will be going through
00:23:51.500 rough situations
00:23:52.280 with their significant others
00:23:53.800 and they'll hear things like
00:23:55.880 I'm not in love with you anymore.
00:23:57.500 The spark
00:23:58.140 isn't there
00:23:59.000 and what I would suggest
00:24:00.820 if you're feeling like
00:24:01.620 you're in that situation
00:24:02.480 is because you may have dimmed
00:24:04.260 your partner's light.
00:24:06.620 You're more powerful
00:24:07.400 than I think
00:24:07.880 a lot of you
00:24:08.500 give yourself credit for.
00:24:10.340 What happens is that
00:24:11.720 she's out there
00:24:12.880 doing her thing
00:24:13.600 providing her energy
00:24:14.560 to the relationship
00:24:15.380 and because you're not
00:24:16.560 finding your own
00:24:17.500 hobbies and activities
00:24:18.780 and interest
00:24:19.420 hanging out with your buddies
00:24:20.400 and recharging your own soul
00:24:22.120 you're asking her
00:24:23.700 indirectly
00:24:24.420 to provide
00:24:25.720 not only her energy
00:24:27.040 to the relationship
00:24:27.800 but your energy
00:24:28.780 as well
00:24:29.280 and she can't
00:24:30.940 sustain that
00:24:31.620 obviously
00:24:32.400 you couldn't
00:24:33.640 sustain that
00:24:34.140 if you were
00:24:34.680 providing her energy
00:24:36.000 and yours
00:24:36.740 and because
00:24:38.520 she can't sustain that
00:24:39.680 she gets burnt out
00:24:40.600 the spark in the marriage
00:24:41.680 or the relationship
00:24:42.300 dies
00:24:42.720 and the thing
00:24:43.500 withers away
00:24:44.140 and crumbles.
00:24:45.600 That's what happened
00:24:46.380 with me
00:24:46.660 in my relationship.
00:24:47.760 I thought I was doing
00:24:48.280 all this wonderful stuff
00:24:49.140 like I was going to work
00:24:50.060 I was working full time
00:24:51.140 trying to grow
00:24:51.580 my financial planning practice
00:24:52.940 trying to be there
00:24:53.780 for my one year old boy
00:24:54.680 at the time
00:24:55.240 trying to be there
00:24:56.060 for her
00:24:56.540 I was busting my ass
00:24:58.460 and I questioned
00:25:00.020 her
00:25:00.580 like why can't you
00:25:01.740 see this
00:25:02.300 why can't you see
00:25:03.940 what I'm doing
00:25:04.540 for us
00:25:05.160 I'm doing this
00:25:06.100 for us
00:25:06.780 and as much
00:25:08.780 as that was true
00:25:09.580 I wasn't as capable
00:25:10.680 because I didn't
00:25:11.700 have any energy
00:25:12.480 I wasn't in the gym
00:25:14.040 I wasn't taking care
00:25:14.880 of myself
00:25:15.360 excuse me
00:25:16.440 my buddies weren't around
00:25:17.600 I didn't have any hobbies
00:25:19.140 nothing to recharge myself
00:25:21.140 and I burned out
00:25:22.480 and then I asked her
00:25:24.100 to do it for me
00:25:24.780 and she burned out
00:25:25.900 and then her relationship
00:25:27.620 burned out
00:25:28.260 so go out
00:25:30.000 and find a hobby
00:25:30.720 find some buddies
00:25:31.760 find an activity
00:25:32.780 find some interest
00:25:33.960 on next week's
00:25:34.880 Friday Field Notes
00:25:35.580 I'm actually going to talk
00:25:36.520 more about that
00:25:37.240 specifically
00:25:37.800 so make sure
00:25:39.520 you subscribe
00:25:40.220 or tune in
00:25:40.880 because you'll definitely
00:25:42.300 want to hit that one up
00:25:43.040 because that's
00:25:43.500 that's going to be
00:25:44.060 really really important
00:25:44.900 for a lot of guys
00:25:45.660 I know
00:25:46.080 because I've been
00:25:46.640 in that situation
00:25:47.380 but guys
00:25:48.920 this is pretty
00:25:49.540 pretty simple stuff
00:25:50.680 I know
00:25:51.180 and I've talked
00:25:52.680 about it before
00:25:53.420 but it's critical
00:25:55.040 I want you to
00:25:56.060 redeem yourself
00:25:56.780 I had a guy
00:25:58.240 message me on Instagram
00:26:00.060 and by the way
00:26:00.760 if you're not following me
00:26:01.680 on Instagram
00:26:02.320 make sure
00:26:02.720 make sure you do
00:26:03.220 connect with me over there
00:26:04.040 because that's the platform
00:26:05.520 I'm most active
00:26:06.160 it's at Ryan Michler
00:26:07.140 but he messaged me
00:26:09.140 and he saw
00:26:10.980 he saw that we were moving
00:26:11.980 across the country
00:26:12.760 and he said something
00:26:14.220 I'm paraphrasing here
00:26:15.120 but he said something
00:26:15.860 to the effect of
00:26:16.560 I'm really excited
00:26:18.040 about you moving
00:26:18.760 I'm a little envious
00:26:20.400 of where you're at
00:26:21.300 in your life
00:26:21.940 because I want to be there
00:26:23.400 I'm fairly young
00:26:24.720 I'm just getting started
00:26:25.740 I know I'm on the path
00:26:26.860 do you have any tips
00:26:28.780 for me to get to that point
00:26:30.000 or get over this feeling
00:26:31.500 of maybe envy
00:26:32.860 or not being exactly
00:26:33.920 where I want
00:26:34.460 and what I told him
00:26:36.120 is I said
00:26:36.620 what you need to realize
00:26:38.740 is that
00:26:39.660 the thoughts
00:26:40.740 that you're having now
00:26:41.640 the people
00:26:42.500 that you're surrounded with
00:26:43.840 the hope that you have
00:26:45.040 the optimism
00:26:45.700 for your life
00:26:46.560 you exercising
00:26:47.400 all the things
00:26:47.880 I'm talking about today
00:26:48.840 you're building
00:26:50.340 the foundation
00:26:51.040 you're building
00:26:52.820 the foundation
00:26:53.460 upon which
00:26:54.180 everything else
00:26:55.200 will be built
00:26:56.240 in your life
00:26:56.880 and if you don't learn
00:26:58.880 to build this foundation
00:27:00.340 and you do it incorrectly
00:27:02.420 and you start building
00:27:03.800 on sand
00:27:04.560 or a faulty foundation
00:27:05.780 it's all going
00:27:07.680 to crumble
00:27:08.400 what you build
00:27:09.800 from here on out
00:27:10.560 will crumble
00:27:11.360 if you don't do it right
00:27:13.060 so when you hear me
00:27:14.900 talk about going
00:27:15.640 into the gym
00:27:16.320 and inventorying
00:27:17.600 your friends
00:27:18.320 and developing skill sets
00:27:19.660 and getting your money
00:27:20.380 in order
00:27:20.780 and finding a hobby
00:27:21.760 and having hope
00:27:22.680 and your positive outlook
00:27:23.560 for life
00:27:24.080 you might think
00:27:25.060 well that's not going
00:27:25.880 to produce the results
00:27:26.820 it may not feel like it now
00:27:28.380 but guys
00:27:28.840 you're building the foundation
00:27:29.960 and I would argue
00:27:31.200 that that's one of the
00:27:32.240 if not the most important part
00:27:33.860 of any structure
00:27:35.020 is what you pour underneath
00:27:36.880 it's what nobody else sees
00:27:38.580 nobody's going to see you
00:27:41.000 getting up at 5 a.m.
00:27:42.320 and busting your ass
00:27:43.260 at the gym
00:27:43.740 every day
00:27:44.720 nobody's going to see you
00:27:47.220 inventorying
00:27:48.000 and cleaning up
00:27:48.600 your apartment
00:27:49.120 or cleaning up
00:27:50.100 your car
00:27:50.580 nobody's going to see you
00:27:51.820 staying up for an extra
00:27:52.600 hour or two
00:27:53.520 every evening
00:27:54.140 because you're working
00:27:54.940 on some skill set
00:27:55.900 or trying to get
00:27:56.760 your career
00:27:57.240 nobody's going to see you
00:27:58.420 hacking away
00:27:59.000 and punching out
00:28:00.180 a budget
00:28:00.660 every week
00:28:01.700 nobody's going to see you
00:28:03.140 one of the hobbies
00:28:03.800 I like is archery
00:28:05.080 nobody's going to see you
00:28:06.300 in the backyard
00:28:06.940 shooting arrow
00:28:07.980 after arrow
00:28:08.620 after arrow
00:28:09.220 after arrow
00:28:09.780 after arrow
00:28:10.360 so that when
00:28:11.260 you're out in the field
00:28:12.240 and you get one
00:28:13.620 arrow
00:28:14.680 it counts
00:28:16.180 that you make
00:28:18.400 an impact
00:28:18.960 with that one
00:28:19.500 arrow
00:28:19.680 nobody's going to
00:28:20.680 see all of that
00:28:21.400 just like nobody
00:28:22.440 sees the foundation
00:28:23.260 of the building
00:28:23.900 but regardless
00:28:25.940 that's what's so
00:28:26.960 important
00:28:27.480 about the structure
00:28:28.800 itself
00:28:29.400 so that's what I
00:28:30.480 told this gentleman
00:28:31.080 what you're doing
00:28:32.460 now is you're
00:28:33.120 building
00:28:33.540 the foundation
00:28:34.860 you have
00:28:36.240 faith
00:28:36.940 and hope
00:28:37.580 that these
00:28:38.940 foundational principles
00:28:40.040 will inevitably
00:28:41.160 produce the results
00:28:42.380 that you're after
00:28:43.100 I guarantee you
00:28:44.860 that they will
00:28:46.220 because I built
00:28:51.440 a life
00:28:52.660 that wasn't
00:28:53.920 on a solid
00:28:54.380 foundation
00:28:54.920 and it wasn't
00:28:56.800 long before it
00:28:57.540 all started to
00:28:58.200 crumble down
00:28:58.780 now I'm building
00:29:01.180 my life on a
00:29:02.100 solid foundation
00:29:02.860 and had I done
00:29:04.020 it right the
00:29:04.540 first time
00:29:05.220 I'm curious
00:29:07.000 how far along
00:29:07.920 I would be
00:29:08.700 I'm not going
00:29:09.440 to play that game
00:29:10.200 to thinking what
00:29:10.920 could have been
00:29:11.560 but it would
00:29:13.600 have been
00:29:13.900 greater
00:29:14.280 my empire
00:29:15.420 would have
00:29:15.820 been bigger
00:29:16.360 at this point
00:29:17.380 but that's okay
00:29:18.240 I'm building it
00:29:18.800 now and I have
00:29:19.460 hope that it
00:29:20.040 will continue
00:29:20.700 to grow
00:29:21.200 because I will
00:29:22.100 continue to do
00:29:22.860 these activities
00:29:23.520 that nobody
00:29:24.320 else is going
00:29:24.820 to see
00:29:25.160 and so to
00:29:27.080 wrap this up
00:29:28.040 and put a little
00:29:28.500 bow on it here
00:29:29.300 as I wrap this
00:29:30.160 up this evening
00:29:30.740 as I said
00:29:32.760 when I started
00:29:33.500 I was a broken
00:29:35.080 man 10 years
00:29:36.300 ago
00:29:36.560 I was
00:29:38.500 alone
00:29:39.380 I was
00:29:41.220 separated
00:29:41.580 with my
00:29:41.900 wife
00:29:42.260 didn't have
00:29:43.740 the opportunity
00:29:44.280 to see my
00:29:44.900 son
00:29:45.260 near divorce
00:29:47.040 near bankruptcy
00:29:48.400 my business
00:29:49.800 was falling
00:29:50.320 apart
00:29:50.700 my health
00:29:52.060 was shit
00:29:52.540 and I was
00:29:53.940 miserable
00:29:54.380 and as my
00:29:56.620 family and I
00:29:57.340 travel to
00:29:58.740 the other side
00:30:00.080 of the country
00:30:00.640 this week
00:30:01.500 to a beautiful
00:30:03.560 home
00:30:03.960 to people
00:30:05.860 who care
00:30:06.320 about us
00:30:06.860 and want
00:30:07.840 to see us
00:30:08.260 win
00:30:08.580 and support
00:30:09.840 us
00:30:10.280 to the
00:30:12.120 times that
00:30:12.580 I've had
00:30:13.020 with my
00:30:13.540 family
00:30:14.020 on this
00:30:14.920 trip
00:30:15.180 to me
00:30:16.320 being able
00:30:16.740 to still
00:30:17.180 occasionally
00:30:17.620 get some
00:30:18.000 exercise in
00:30:18.820 as I'm
00:30:19.740 traveling across
00:30:20.400 the country
00:30:20.920 and to do
00:30:22.100 the things
00:30:22.560 that are
00:30:22.740 important to
00:30:23.320 me
00:30:23.580 I'm
00:30:25.320 redeeming
00:30:25.780 myself
00:30:26.280 not for
00:30:27.840 anybody else
00:30:28.580 not for
00:30:29.560 my wife
00:30:30.040 or my
00:30:30.380 kids
00:30:30.760 or anybody
00:30:31.740 that I
00:30:32.280 may have
00:30:32.600 wronged in
00:30:32.980 the past
00:30:33.360 and I
00:30:33.620 certainly
00:30:34.000 have
00:30:34.280 and I
00:30:34.460 try to
00:30:34.740 make amends
00:30:35.200 where I
00:30:35.680 can
00:30:35.980 I'm
00:30:36.740 doing
00:30:36.880 this
00:30:37.100 for me
00:30:37.600 because
00:30:39.760 I
00:30:41.460 can
00:30:41.940 and I
00:30:43.840 feel like
00:30:44.240 I have a
00:30:44.640 moral obligation
00:30:45.380 to do it
00:30:45.900 I'm here
00:30:47.600 for a
00:30:48.820 reason
00:30:49.060 and I
00:30:50.480 haven't always
00:30:50.940 known what
00:30:51.320 it is
00:30:51.780 I know
00:30:52.320 what it
00:30:52.560 is now
00:30:53.020 is to
00:30:54.740 be
00:30:55.120 the best
00:30:56.200 father
00:30:56.620 and husband
00:30:57.900 and business
00:30:59.380 owner
00:30:59.680 and community
00:31:00.640 leader
00:31:00.980 and mentor
00:31:01.800 and coach
00:31:02.420 and friend
00:31:03.060 and frankly
00:31:04.200 man
00:31:04.780 that I
00:31:05.500 can be
00:31:05.940 and that
00:31:07.880 requires
00:31:08.600 my
00:31:10.260 dedication
00:31:10.840 to
00:31:11.360 redeeming
00:31:12.760 my
00:31:13.760 past
00:31:15.020 mistakes
00:31:16.480 and my
00:31:16.920 past
00:31:17.240 missteps
00:31:17.800 and I'm
00:31:18.360 on that
00:31:18.640 path
00:31:19.040 and I'm
00:31:20.160 honored to
00:31:20.500 be on the
00:31:20.820 same path
00:31:21.260 as you
00:31:21.620 I might
00:31:22.720 be a little
00:31:23.000 further along
00:31:23.660 the track
00:31:24.040 than some
00:31:24.400 of you
00:31:24.640 I might
00:31:25.680 not be as
00:31:26.320 far along
00:31:26.980 the track
00:31:27.400 as some
00:31:28.020 of you
00:31:28.340 but either
00:31:29.160 way I'm
00:31:29.560 honored to
00:31:29.980 be standing
00:31:30.440 shoulder to
00:31:31.000 shoulder
00:31:31.200 with you
00:31:31.660 in this
00:31:31.920 redemption
00:31:32.400 story
00:31:32.900 of becoming
00:31:34.120 the men
00:31:35.060 frankly that
00:31:35.600 we're capable
00:31:36.160 of becoming
00:31:36.760 of the men
00:31:37.940 that we
00:31:38.440 ought to
00:31:38.920 become
00:31:39.300 because we
00:31:40.000 can live a
00:31:40.700 better life
00:31:41.240 and the men
00:31:42.480 that our
00:31:43.120 families
00:31:43.560 and our
00:31:44.020 friends
00:31:44.420 and our
00:31:45.140 communities
00:31:45.560 and neighbors
00:31:46.360 and people
00:31:47.140 we love
00:31:47.540 and care
00:31:47.860 about
00:31:48.160 are requiring
00:31:49.980 us to be
00:31:50.640 expecting
00:31:51.480 us to be
00:31:52.420 and hoping
00:31:53.280 that will be
00:31:54.620 so guys
00:31:55.760 as I part
00:31:56.960 I'll leave you
00:31:58.020 there this
00:31:58.640 weekend
00:31:59.000 I'm going
00:31:59.700 to take
00:31:59.920 another couple
00:32:00.420 of days
00:32:00.800 on the road
00:32:01.260 here
00:32:01.580 we're heading
00:32:02.440 from Nashville
00:32:03.120 straight to Maine
00:32:03.860 at this point
00:32:04.340 I'll be up there
00:32:04.820 in two and a half
00:32:05.380 days
00:32:05.740 and as we do
00:32:07.100 I'll continue
00:32:07.600 to share my
00:32:08.160 story on
00:32:08.660 Instagram
00:32:08.980 so you guys
00:32:09.720 can check that
00:32:10.220 out and follow
00:32:10.760 along with what
00:32:11.320 we're doing
00:32:11.740 of course
00:32:12.400 when we get
00:32:12.760 up there
00:32:13.220 you'll see
00:32:14.240 that as well
00:32:14.780 and then we're
00:32:15.320 going to do
00:32:15.580 an event
00:32:16.000 in August
00:32:17.480 it's looking
00:32:18.040 like August
00:32:18.680 9th
00:32:19.140 through the
00:32:19.360 11th
00:32:19.840 I believe
00:32:20.220 so you might
00:32:20.960 want to pencil
00:32:21.420 that into your
00:32:21.960 calendar
00:32:22.300 and then we'll
00:32:23.680 let you know
00:32:24.900 as dates
00:32:25.840 firm up
00:32:26.400 anyways guys
00:32:27.480 that's all I've
00:32:28.000 got for you
00:32:28.480 it's late here
00:32:29.520 I'm going to go
00:32:30.060 get some sleep
00:32:30.700 before we head
00:32:31.620 out tomorrow
00:32:32.100 appreciate you
00:32:32.740 guys
00:32:33.000 honored to be
00:32:33.500 on this path
00:32:33.980 in this journey
00:32:34.420 with you
00:32:34.760 do me a favor
00:32:35.300 share this
00:32:35.840 if you know
00:32:36.680 somebody in your
00:32:37.640 life
00:32:37.840 some man
00:32:38.260 specifically
00:32:38.760 who's struggling
00:32:39.400 father, brother, colleague
00:32:40.660 co-worker, friend
00:32:41.360 whoever it is
00:32:42.060 they're struggling
00:32:43.220 they're in a
00:32:45.020 downward spiral
00:32:46.500 share this episode
00:32:47.720 with them
00:32:48.080 and help them
00:32:49.460 write their own
00:32:50.340 redemption story
00:32:51.220 alright guys
00:32:52.400 that's all I've got
00:32:53.020 go out there
00:32:53.820 take action
00:32:54.400 become the man
00:32:55.220 you are meant to be
00:32:56.480 thank you for listening
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