Pearl - November 02, 2025


3's and 4's Cry When Men Don't Want Them


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Length

9 minutes

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194.98778

Word count

1,914

Sentence count

169

Harmful content

Misogyny

5

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Toxicity

2

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Hate speech

11

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In this episode, we are reacting to women approaching men and getting rejected. Women have told men for over 50 years to leave them alone. So now women have to approach men and they can t handle it. Let s look at a woman s reaction when she got rejected after approaching a guy.

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00:00:00.000 I feel like in no circumstance should I go ask a man.
00:00:04.240 Well, I mean, men are, a lot of men are busy and they don't really see the juice is worth
00:00:09.900 the squeeze anymore. What up guys? Welcome to my reaction series. So today we are reacting to women 1.00
00:00:15.600 approaching men and getting rejected. So men used to learn game, work up the courage to approach
00:00:20.920 women and they would approach women at work, in public, in the bars. And it's really natural for
00:00:26.860 men to be the hunters, especially when trying to find a potential partner. But those days are gone
00:00:31.700 and women have told men for over 50 years to leave them alone. So now women have to approach men and
00:00:38.200 they can't handle it. Let's look at a woman's reaction when she got, she got rejected after 1.00
00:00:44.960 approaching a guy. Hey, I was wondering if I can get your number by chance. What about you?
00:00:51.080 Tell her king. Tell her, tell her. Okay. Let's see who's next. You ever date a black guy? 1.00
00:01:06.680 No. That's why are you here with? Never say never. Why don't you date the black guy? Why 0.91
00:01:11.760 am I not? Yo. Hello. What's going on, babes? What are you saying? You all right? Yeah. Where
00:01:19.860 are you? What you doing? Just on this little date with some, a little, um. A little date? Yeah. A little
00:01:26.480 what? A little date. There'll be no dead date, man. Yeah, no, no. Don't watch that, babes. Did you leave 0.97
00:01:31.980 that food in the microwave for me? No. Yeah, I'm going. Shower. So the shower's dead, right? Yeah.
00:01:36.600 Okay, cool. You already know I did. All right, cool. I'm going to see you when I get home, yeah?
00:01:40.640 All right. Well. Till later, bab. All right, bye. Who's that? Hmm? Who's that? Oh, it's a friend.
00:01:49.820 That's your friend? You live together? Like a housemate, friend? I mean, she's staying at mine for a 0.89
00:01:58.180 short while at the moment. I mean, the minute I figured you don't, you're not really into black
00:02:03.260 guys, I just thought I might as well just. I didn't say I was not into black guys. Go home to my girl 1.00
00:02:06.260 again, you know? Oh my god. These streamers have this leverage to just cheat in public. Crazy.
00:02:14.720 I saw y'all about a time that I asked a guy out and got rejected. Okay, I said a time, but there's
00:02:19.500 been numerous times I've been rejected, but they have built some character, okay? So I went to Trader Joe's
00:02:25.260 on a Sunday night. It was pretty empty. That's why I go at that time. And I'm doing my shopping
00:02:30.960 and I finally get to check out. I'm trying to find which cashier is available. And I look up
00:02:38.260 and I notice this really, really, really cute guy. He kind of looks like this influencer that I follow.
00:02:44.620 Very cute as well. And so my heart started like beating a little faster. I'm like, let me avoid this
00:02:49.460 guy because I know that like I just can't handle it, you know? So I try to go with this other lady, 0.99
00:02:53.940 but she's busy. She's like, hey, he's open if you want to go to him. And then he calls me over.
00:02:58.540 I'm like, ugh. So I walk up to him and he greets me with a really big smile and really direct eye
00:03:07.020 contact. I'm like, oh my god, this man is beautiful. He has like long brown hair and like a really good
00:03:12.720 smile, tan skin. He starts asking me, you know, the typical Trader Joe employee questions. How are you?
00:03:18.220 Did you find everything okay? What's for dinner? Blah, blah, blah. And then he started asking me
00:03:23.720 more questions. I think I brought up that, you know, I'm into fitness and he starts asking me,
00:03:29.480 oh, like, are you on a bulk? Are you on a cut? I told him I was bulking. And then he started asking
00:03:34.840 me about my hobbies, my interests, because I was dressed a certain way. This is what I was wearing,
00:03:39.040 by the way, okay? I was dressed a certain way. He was asking me about my interests, like what do I do
00:03:42.940 for fun? I don't know. I felt like it was more, it was a little bit more than your typical Trader
00:03:50.040 Joe's. He's probably just a Chad who likes flirting. The guys that like flirting, they flirt with
00:03:54.160 everybody. They're just flirty. So they'll go left and right. Any semi-attractive woman, 1.00
00:03:59.320 they're flirting. Interaction, okay? And I, towards the end, I wanted to ask him for his Instagram.
00:04:05.480 I didn't, okay? We just like said goodbye, smiled, whatever. But the eye contact was on another
00:04:10.680 level, okay? And the smiling, the smiling was non-stop. I went home that night and I was like,
00:04:17.000 damn, I should have asked him for his Instagram or number or whatever. And I'm like, you know what? 0.98
00:04:21.520 I'm going to go back the next week, okay? Not the same day. So next Sunday comes around
00:04:26.980 and I decide to go at the same time, same day. Actually, no, I think I went earlier, but I,
00:04:33.960 I wore this outfit, okay? I wore this outfit. I wanted to look extra cute. And so,
00:04:40.680 I walked into the store and I didn't see him in the cashier house. I'm like,
00:04:43.780 he's not here. And I like was building up the curtains to go up to him. I'm like, okay,
00:04:48.780 you know what? Don't panic. Just walk around, do your shopping. If he, if it's meant to be,
00:04:53.180 he will be here. So I'm browsing through the aisles, finding all my stuff. And then I see him,
00:04:58.140 I see him crouch down, stalking a shelf. And I'm like, he's there, he's there, but he has coworkers
00:05:04.240 around him. So I can't just approach him. I don't want an audience for this, okay? So I decided to
00:05:09.340 continue on with my shopping. I kind of just skip that aisle and loop around, you know,
00:05:12.720 kill some time, see if his coworkers leave the area and they do. So then I find my opportunity
00:05:20.100 and I go up to him. I was like, Hey, I don't know if you remember me from last week.
00:05:26.280 I have no riz, okay? I'm just, I'm just trying to strike a conversation. I was like, Hey,
00:05:30.540 I don't know if you remember me from last week, but I thought you were really cute. And I wanted
00:05:34.740 to give you my number. So I gave him a little piece of paper with my number. And he's like,
00:05:38.280 very flattered. He was just kind of like impressed that I had the courage to talk to him. But I
00:05:46.860 immediately knew he wasn't interested because one, he didn't reciprocate. He didn't tell me that I was
00:05:50.660 beautiful or cute or whatever, even though I complimented him. Yeah. She's a mid, he's probably 1.00
00:05:54.280 a nine. It's probably like, eh, I'd bang her on a slow Tuesday. And he also didn't tell me that he was
00:05:59.940 going to call me, which is fine. But like, it was more of a confidence boost for me because I have a
00:06:06.160 speech disorder, apraxia. I think women should approach men. Um, yeah, you know, um, at this 1.00
00:06:16.920 rate, everyone's, you know, no one's having kids and stuff. So go approach that nine and maybe you
00:06:22.920 can be a baby mama, you know? So going up to strangers. Okay. All right. So now, all right,
00:06:28.820 let's see how this woman, she said she approached. I felt like I was vibing with this guy that I met
00:06:33.200 tonight. And I was with two of my guy friends and they were like, ask him for his number, like blah,
00:06:38.380 blah, blah. And I was like, well, if he's interested in me, like he'll ask for my number. But they were
00:06:44.180 like, no, no, no, just like ask for his number. It's fine. And then we were walking out. My friend
00:06:48.460 was like, oh, you guys should exchange numbers. So then we did. And I was like, okay, let me know if
00:06:53.680 you're going out after this. And he's like, yeah, yeah, I'll text you. And I was like, well,
00:06:57.540 if I go home, like, I'm not going to come back here. So I'll just wait for you to be done.
00:07:03.420 And he just didn't, he like, I don't know. He just kind of like disappeared.
00:07:11.400 And I was waiting for his text. Um, and he never texted me, but I feel like this is why I don't put
00:07:19.640 myself out there. Like if a guy wants my number, he will ask me for my number. Like,
00:07:24.920 I feel like in no circumstance should I go ask a man.
00:07:29.840 Well, I mean, men are, a lot of men are busy and they don't really see the juice is worth the
00:07:36.940 squeeze anymore. You know, I I'm kind of, I'm kind of someone that says, go for what you want.
00:07:41.640 What do you have to lose for his number? Because if he doesn't ask for mine, then he doesn't like me.
00:07:46.420 And then it puts me in these like uncomfortable rejection situations that make me end up feeling
00:07:52.280 bad. And so like, I'm not doing that again. That was, that was horrid.
00:07:58.320 Women get rejected once and can't handle it. Isn't that crazy? Men will get rejected like for a
00:08:04.820 living. Uh, they can't even survive in this society without getting rejected. Uh, women get like one 1.00
00:08:12.000 rejection and we can't, we can't deal with it. All right. We got the last one.
00:08:17.020 Why does rejection hurts?
00:08:17.960 Oh, she came on my show. 1.00
00:08:19.400 So bad.
00:08:19.740 A long time ago.
00:08:20.700 Well, both emotional and physical.
00:08:22.800 Why does rejection hurt so bad psychologically?
00:08:25.240 Well, both emotional and physical rejection activate the interior cingulate cortex. Say that
00:08:30.460 five times fast.
00:08:31.540 Interior cingulate cortex, interior cingulate cortex.
00:08:34.140 This is the same brain region, which is activated from physical pain.
00:08:37.880 Almost every time I hear the word rejection, I think of the beginning of that SZA song.
00:08:42.700 I think it's called far.
00:08:44.300 She's like, I'm dealing with a lot of rejection right now. It makes me feel very small. And
00:08:49.400 then some, some man's voice is like, why? That's great. If nobody wants you, you're free.
00:08:56.460 It's an interesting way to look at it, but as humans, we want to be wanted, you know?
00:09:00.340 And I also agree that rejection can very much be protection, especially when you're involved
00:09:06.760 with somebody or wanting to be involved with somebody and your values don't align or what
00:09:11.840 you want in life doesn't align, which fricking sucks until it doesn't.
00:09:15.400 But most of the time, our rejection is not a reflection of you. So keep that in mind.
00:09:19.620 And I will too. Regardless, you'll be fine. You always have you, you know?
00:09:23.780 Yeah. Um, in my opinion, I would recommend approaching men because what do you have to
00:09:33.500 lose? What do you have to lose ladies? Anyways, guys, let me know what you think of the comments.
00:09:38.800 Um, do you think that women should approach men? Um, because women have told men not to 0.99
00:09:42.160 approach them. I think the burden of performance is on us. Let me know what you think of the
00:09:45.720 comments. Make sure you like the video, subscribe to the channel, and I'll see you next time.