Pearl - November 02, 2025


3's and 4's Cry When Men Don't Want Them


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

194.98778

Word Count

1,914

Sentence Count

169

Misogynist Sentences

5

Hate Speech Sentences

11


Summary

Summaries generated with gmurro/bart-large-finetuned-filtered-spotify-podcast-summ .

Transcript

Transcript generated with Whisper (turbo).
Misogyny classifications generated with MilaNLProc/bert-base-uncased-ear-misogyny .
Hate speech classifications generated with facebook/roberta-hate-speech-dynabench-r4-target .
00:00:00.000 I feel like in no circumstance should I go ask a man.
00:00:04.240 Well, I mean, men are, a lot of men are busy and they don't really see the juice is worth
00:00:09.900 the squeeze anymore. What up guys? Welcome to my reaction series. So today we are reacting to women
00:00:15.600 approaching men and getting rejected. So men used to learn game, work up the courage to approach
00:00:20.920 women and they would approach women at work, in public, in the bars. And it's really natural for
00:00:26.860 men to be the hunters, especially when trying to find a potential partner. But those days are gone
00:00:31.700 and women have told men for over 50 years to leave them alone. So now women have to approach men and
00:00:38.200 they can't handle it. Let's look at a woman's reaction when she got, she got rejected after
00:00:44.960 approaching a guy. Hey, I was wondering if I can get your number by chance. What about you?
00:00:51.080 Tell her king. Tell her, tell her. Okay. Let's see who's next. You ever date a black guy?
00:01:06.680 No. That's why are you here with? Never say never. Why don't you date the black guy? Why
00:01:11.760 am I not? Yo. Hello. What's going on, babes? What are you saying? You all right? Yeah. Where
00:01:19.860 are you? What you doing? Just on this little date with some, a little, um. A little date? Yeah. A little
00:01:26.480 what? A little date. There'll be no dead date, man. Yeah, no, no. Don't watch that, babes. Did you leave
00:01:31.980 that food in the microwave for me? No. Yeah, I'm going. Shower. So the shower's dead, right? Yeah.
00:01:36.600 Okay, cool. You already know I did. All right, cool. I'm going to see you when I get home, yeah?
00:01:40.640 All right. Well. Till later, bab. All right, bye. Who's that? Hmm? Who's that? Oh, it's a friend.
00:01:49.820 That's your friend? You live together? Like a housemate, friend? I mean, she's staying at mine for a
00:01:58.180 short while at the moment. I mean, the minute I figured you don't, you're not really into black
00:02:03.260 guys, I just thought I might as well just. I didn't say I was not into black guys. Go home to my girl
00:02:06.260 again, you know? Oh my god. These streamers have this leverage to just cheat in public. Crazy.
00:02:14.720 I saw y'all about a time that I asked a guy out and got rejected. Okay, I said a time, but there's
00:02:19.500 been numerous times I've been rejected, but they have built some character, okay? So I went to Trader Joe's
00:02:25.260 on a Sunday night. It was pretty empty. That's why I go at that time. And I'm doing my shopping
00:02:30.960 and I finally get to check out. I'm trying to find which cashier is available. And I look up
00:02:38.260 and I notice this really, really, really cute guy. He kind of looks like this influencer that I follow.
00:02:44.620 Very cute as well. And so my heart started like beating a little faster. I'm like, let me avoid this
00:02:49.460 guy because I know that like I just can't handle it, you know? So I try to go with this other lady,
00:02:53.940 but she's busy. She's like, hey, he's open if you want to go to him. And then he calls me over.
00:02:58.540 I'm like, ugh. So I walk up to him and he greets me with a really big smile and really direct eye
00:03:07.020 contact. I'm like, oh my god, this man is beautiful. He has like long brown hair and like a really good
00:03:12.720 smile, tan skin. He starts asking me, you know, the typical Trader Joe employee questions. How are you?
00:03:18.220 Did you find everything okay? What's for dinner? Blah, blah, blah. And then he started asking me
00:03:23.720 more questions. I think I brought up that, you know, I'm into fitness and he starts asking me,
00:03:29.480 oh, like, are you on a bulk? Are you on a cut? I told him I was bulking. And then he started asking
00:03:34.840 me about my hobbies, my interests, because I was dressed a certain way. This is what I was wearing,
00:03:39.040 by the way, okay? I was dressed a certain way. He was asking me about my interests, like what do I do
00:03:42.940 for fun? I don't know. I felt like it was more, it was a little bit more than your typical Trader
00:03:50.040 Joe's. He's probably just a Chad who likes flirting. The guys that like flirting, they flirt with
00:03:54.160 everybody. They're just flirty. So they'll go left and right. Any semi-attractive woman,
00:03:59.320 they're flirting. Interaction, okay? And I, towards the end, I wanted to ask him for his Instagram.
00:04:05.480 I didn't, okay? We just like said goodbye, smiled, whatever. But the eye contact was on another
00:04:10.680 level, okay? And the smiling, the smiling was non-stop. I went home that night and I was like,
00:04:17.000 damn, I should have asked him for his Instagram or number or whatever. And I'm like, you know what?
00:04:21.520 I'm going to go back the next week, okay? Not the same day. So next Sunday comes around
00:04:26.980 and I decide to go at the same time, same day. Actually, no, I think I went earlier, but I,
00:04:33.960 I wore this outfit, okay? I wore this outfit. I wanted to look extra cute. And so,
00:04:40.680 I walked into the store and I didn't see him in the cashier house. I'm like,
00:04:43.780 he's not here. And I like was building up the curtains to go up to him. I'm like, okay,
00:04:48.780 you know what? Don't panic. Just walk around, do your shopping. If he, if it's meant to be,
00:04:53.180 he will be here. So I'm browsing through the aisles, finding all my stuff. And then I see him,
00:04:58.140 I see him crouch down, stalking a shelf. And I'm like, he's there, he's there, but he has coworkers
00:05:04.240 around him. So I can't just approach him. I don't want an audience for this, okay? So I decided to
00:05:09.340 continue on with my shopping. I kind of just skip that aisle and loop around, you know,
00:05:12.720 kill some time, see if his coworkers leave the area and they do. So then I find my opportunity
00:05:20.100 and I go up to him. I was like, Hey, I don't know if you remember me from last week.
00:05:26.280 I have no riz, okay? I'm just, I'm just trying to strike a conversation. I was like, Hey,
00:05:30.540 I don't know if you remember me from last week, but I thought you were really cute. And I wanted
00:05:34.740 to give you my number. So I gave him a little piece of paper with my number. And he's like,
00:05:38.280 very flattered. He was just kind of like impressed that I had the courage to talk to him. But I
00:05:46.860 immediately knew he wasn't interested because one, he didn't reciprocate. He didn't tell me that I was
00:05:50.660 beautiful or cute or whatever, even though I complimented him. Yeah. She's a mid, he's probably
00:05:54.280 a nine. It's probably like, eh, I'd bang her on a slow Tuesday. And he also didn't tell me that he was
00:05:59.940 going to call me, which is fine. But like, it was more of a confidence boost for me because I have a
00:06:06.160 speech disorder, apraxia. I think women should approach men. Um, yeah, you know, um, at this
00:06:16.920 rate, everyone's, you know, no one's having kids and stuff. So go approach that nine and maybe you
00:06:22.920 can be a baby mama, you know? So going up to strangers. Okay. All right. So now, all right,
00:06:28.820 let's see how this woman, she said she approached. I felt like I was vibing with this guy that I met
00:06:33.200 tonight. And I was with two of my guy friends and they were like, ask him for his number, like blah,
00:06:38.380 blah, blah. And I was like, well, if he's interested in me, like he'll ask for my number. But they were
00:06:44.180 like, no, no, no, just like ask for his number. It's fine. And then we were walking out. My friend
00:06:48.460 was like, oh, you guys should exchange numbers. So then we did. And I was like, okay, let me know if
00:06:53.680 you're going out after this. And he's like, yeah, yeah, I'll text you. And I was like, well,
00:06:57.540 if I go home, like, I'm not going to come back here. So I'll just wait for you to be done.
00:07:03.420 And he just didn't, he like, I don't know. He just kind of like disappeared.
00:07:11.400 And I was waiting for his text. Um, and he never texted me, but I feel like this is why I don't put
00:07:19.640 myself out there. Like if a guy wants my number, he will ask me for my number. Like,
00:07:24.920 I feel like in no circumstance should I go ask a man.
00:07:29.840 Well, I mean, men are, a lot of men are busy and they don't really see the juice is worth the
00:07:36.940 squeeze anymore. You know, I I'm kind of, I'm kind of someone that says, go for what you want.
00:07:41.640 What do you have to lose for his number? Because if he doesn't ask for mine, then he doesn't like me.
00:07:46.420 And then it puts me in these like uncomfortable rejection situations that make me end up feeling
00:07:52.280 bad. And so like, I'm not doing that again. That was, that was horrid.
00:07:58.320 Women get rejected once and can't handle it. Isn't that crazy? Men will get rejected like for a
00:08:04.820 living. Uh, they can't even survive in this society without getting rejected. Uh, women get like one
00:08:12.000 rejection and we can't, we can't deal with it. All right. We got the last one.
00:08:17.020 Why does rejection hurts?
00:08:17.960 Oh, she came on my show.
00:08:19.400 So bad.
00:08:19.740 A long time ago.
00:08:20.700 Well, both emotional and physical.
00:08:22.800 Why does rejection hurt so bad psychologically?
00:08:25.240 Well, both emotional and physical rejection activate the interior cingulate cortex. Say that
00:08:30.460 five times fast.
00:08:31.540 Interior cingulate cortex, interior cingulate cortex.
00:08:34.140 This is the same brain region, which is activated from physical pain.
00:08:37.880 Almost every time I hear the word rejection, I think of the beginning of that SZA song.
00:08:42.700 I think it's called far.
00:08:44.300 She's like, I'm dealing with a lot of rejection right now. It makes me feel very small. And
00:08:49.400 then some, some man's voice is like, why? That's great. If nobody wants you, you're free.
00:08:56.460 It's an interesting way to look at it, but as humans, we want to be wanted, you know?
00:09:00.340 And I also agree that rejection can very much be protection, especially when you're involved
00:09:06.760 with somebody or wanting to be involved with somebody and your values don't align or what
00:09:11.840 you want in life doesn't align, which fricking sucks until it doesn't.
00:09:15.400 But most of the time, our rejection is not a reflection of you. So keep that in mind.
00:09:19.620 And I will too. Regardless, you'll be fine. You always have you, you know?
00:09:23.780 Yeah. Um, in my opinion, I would recommend approaching men because what do you have to
00:09:33.500 lose? What do you have to lose ladies? Anyways, guys, let me know what you think of the comments.
00:09:38.800 Um, do you think that women should approach men? Um, because women have told men not to
00:09:42.160 approach them. I think the burden of performance is on us. Let me know what you think of the
00:09:45.720 comments. Make sure you like the video, subscribe to the channel, and I'll see you next time.