Pearl - 30-Year-Old Woman Says She’s TIRED of Being Single

00:00:00.000 what's up guys welcome to my reaction series today we're reacting to women's l's so women are just 0.63

00:00:05.320 we're just very incompetent and even though we have an abundance of events made to entertain us 0.59

00:00:12.460 men meant to you know there's dating apps they can just screw you there's all these systems in 0.66

00:00:18.160 place for us not to be lonely we still find a way to mess it up and women are complaining about a

00:00:23.620 female loneliness epidemic and really the loneliness epidemic is because we're just 0.99

00:00:28.660 insufferable and we're insufferable to everybody. And then we get tired. We are like, it's almost 0.95

00:00:34.240 like we're demons fighting each other. And then we get tired of fighting each other. And then we go

00:00:37.580 to the other places. Then we come back and fight again. So anyways, um, before I start, make sure

00:00:41.700 you like the video. I'm also doing an event, September 11th, New York city. And you guys can

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00:00:56.900 let's get to watch the women complain i'm alone when i say that i mean i'm i feel lonely but i'm

00:01:03.460 also like alone physically when i look around i don't have deep friendships that are physically

00:01:07.860 near me i moved to rochester new york a couple years ago i've really struggled to make deep

00:01:12.980 connections i will say the city is so it's a choice right uh you can have deeper connections

00:01:18.500 in the suburbs or you can go to the city and a lot of the connections are more superficial but

00:01:23.380 there's more opportunity in the city it's choice we're good at hosting events but i'm an introvert

00:01:27.860 and i work from home i feel like i have like this deadly combination that i just can't get out of

00:01:32.420 the rut of i've gone to these events but i really struggle because i just have anxiety and i also

00:01:38.820 am an introvert so i go there and i've got like three you slap a name tag on right when you walk

00:01:43.140 in and then i like latch on to the first person that gives me any attention and then they're

00:01:47.060 friends and then i leave and i feel super deflated because they were a cool person but i just am not

00:01:52.660 like feeling that like depth of friendship and okay so now you're getting greedy right this just

00:01:58.740 means the person was this wasn't as high status as i wanted you know beggars can't be choosers

00:02:03.460 but i did the thing and all to say like last week i guess in therapy my therapist was like well then

00:02:10.100 what would be ideal for you between that question and me answering and then now i just kind of had

00:02:16.260 an epiphany where i'm like i don't know if this is something like the people that work from home and

00:02:20.660 live near me or whatever are in their 20s and 30s or don't live near me i don't know are going

00:02:26.200 through enough for this type of an event to come to fruition but we were discussing and i was like

00:02:32.000 first of all if i could walk into a coffee shop and get a coffee suss out what's going on from a

00:02:38.140 distance i'd feel so much better having like props at their table would be super nice because i get

00:02:44.900 panicky i'm trying to present the best so it would help me just be able to like get through a natural 0.97

00:02:50.100 conversation and present a lot better who i actually am my therapist brought up like a bingo

00:02:54.880 card so i don't get caught in one person i have an excuse if i want to move on i need to go do

00:03:00.320 this bingo card and the last thing we talked about was just staring at a person having like a craft

00:03:06.580 or a coloring book or something that you both can be doing while also chatting so that your brain

00:03:13.300 can relax i just feel like that would be perfect for me i feel like i would continue to go to those

00:03:18.620 events or at least go to it the first time feels so much less stressed and actually a person that

00:03:25.800 I don't know it's just sucked I don't know what else to do I'm sure yeah okay here's the problem

00:03:30.940 look if you want a social life as someone I'm a bit of a loner and I choose this because I have

00:03:36.640 my projects I want to get done or whatever I want to get the channel going I just don't have a ton

00:03:42.260 of time for socializing so if I make friends it's usually it's something I'm already doing

00:03:46.260 there's a lot if you want to be make friends you go out seven days a week and really be intentional

00:03:52.320 ask all the women you meet to hang out and a majority are going to be say no and flake but

00:03:57.080 whatever you know however cool the women that say yes are that's how cool you are 0.97

00:04:02.180 and you're probably going to find out you're a loser that's what i struggle with being 0.96

00:04:06.660 chronically alone i think i've spent my entire life feeling lonely i'm an immigrant 1.00

00:04:15.960 oldest daughter now again you gotta women just do this stuff for attention because look at her 0.99

00:04:20.760 she's pretty think about there's so many people inviting her to events all this stuff built to 1.00

00:04:26.040 cater to her she if she's lonely it's a choice we're not lonely we're lazy lazy you're not

00:04:34.760 lonely you're not mentally ill you're just lazy that's it i'm uh from asia so nobody here really

00:04:42.280 ever got me i kind of got pulled away from anyone that ever could get me but at the same time i'm 0.72

00:04:48.240 also like divergent if anybody saw that movie like i i feel like i think pretty differently

00:04:54.980 from other people i'm pretty extroverted so i've met a lot of people and i think pretty differently

00:05:01.140 from them i don't know i mean i love the way i think i love who i am but i'm chronically lonely

00:05:07.500 and it leaves this space that if you're now again she can get on a dating app and find a boyfriend 1.00

00:05:15.660 in like a month i mean she'd have to you know fuck fucking suck suck but she really could do it 0.99

00:05:21.180 um but she'd rather be by herself so not careful can be fitted it's it's more it's just this is 1.00

00:05:28.820 just all attention seeking i mean who believes what women say by people who are very predatory

00:05:33.920 who slip into your life to just not let you feel so lonely but I don't want to just not feel lonely

00:05:41.140 I want to feel understood I feel I feel like I'm gotten and safe and like I can say anything and

00:05:48.220 be anything and I'm understood that's kind of a vulnerable thing but I don't think I'm alone I 0.63

00:05:54.280 always feel like I find my yeah okay all right here's see all these girls are pretty real 0.96

00:05:59.340 loneliness is old women because old women the invites stop coming so when young women say they 0.68

00:06:05.540 can't find a man or you know they're lonely just know there's a line of people waiting to hang out 0.99

00:06:11.360 with them they're just doing it for attention so tired of being single it's been basically three

00:06:18.620 years and at this point i truly feel like i don't even remember what being in a relationship feels

00:06:23.780 like and i know that sounds so dramatic but i am so used to being by myself that i like can't even

00:06:29.580 imagine having like a person that is just always there and every time i complain about being single

00:06:34.700 are you on the apps yeah i'm on the apps and it's a hellscape i truly am in a relationship with it

00:06:40.160 where i just go on it feel hopeless and just like i give up and then i delete it and then i get so

00:06:46.700 desperate to at least try to find the idea of someone that i redownload it i'm literally 30

00:06:51.660 years old and i'm getting swiped right on by men that are either of my age or older that have

00:06:57.600 intimacy without commitment as their relationship preference i genuinely feel hopeless and i don't

00:07:03.560 really care how pathetic that sounds i just i give up i yeah because sometimes this is a woman that

00:07:08.880 doesn't want to take an l sometimes you're just going to get ghosted ninja's not going to call 0.99

00:07:12.640 you back you're going to give up sex easily and it's just an l it is what it is you're not going

00:07:16.540 to get the commitment but men give up their time attention and resources and sometimes their life 0.61

00:07:20.460 a woman just to get taken advantage of um when you think about the comparison it's really not that bad

00:07:27.340 i don't i i haven't been looking everyone says well you shouldn't look i haven't been looking

00:07:31.020 at all i took a break from dating for a reason and now i'm just stuck in a drought it seems and

00:07:36.860 i am feeling really just okay let's use next gonna get me in trouble but nobody wants to talk about

00:07:43.180 the female loneliness epidemic they only want to talk about the male loneliness epidemic if we were

00:07:47.980 to actually unpack female loneliness we would have to also look at the behaviors that contribute to 0.98

00:07:54.140 it it only takes one excruciating friendship or friend group experience for a woman to kind of 1.00

00:08:00.540 want to wall herself off from friendship with other women yeah that's what i mean so women are 0.99

00:08:05.020 too dumb uh to figure out how to not be lonely and to get along with people if we have one bad 0.99

00:08:10.060 experience we just stop dating like we just have no grit we have no grit as women we have one my 0.99

00:08:16.620 my ex best friend turned on me she made a video about me and it was very embarrassing and sad and

00:08:21.420 hurtful and um i'm still open to a new best friend maybe someday i'll meet one probably not but i'm

00:08:27.900 just saying you got to be hopeful in life i'm hopeful you know i haven't failed relationships 0.83

00:08:33.820 but i'm you gotta you gotta keep hope and just learn to do it better women are often socialized

00:08:38.860 and taught that relational harmony is a primary goal so when there's any disagreement it tends 1.00

00:08:44.220 not to happen through direct conflict it's more of like subtle shifting social dynamics and yeah

00:08:49.660 sometimes the conflict is an inherent jealousy sometimes the conflict is a growing apart or a

00:08:55.340 changing of opinions or beliefs and even if it isn't intended to be malicious yeah do you know 0.82

00:09:00.620 what yeah what she's talking about is women will never confront you they'll just say a bunch of 0.99

00:09:04.300 stuff behind your back when they don't like you and it's every six months the queen bee gets sick 1.00

00:09:08.860 of one and then just keeps going the indirect nature of it can cause a lot of women to act 1.00

00:09:14.540 like some shady ass bitches and all it takes is one bad experience with somebody acting like a 1.00

00:09:20.060 shady ass bitch for you to think isolation is better and again because yeah yeah i understand 1.00

00:09:26.140 that women out there who want a boyfriend and legitimately cannot get one and don't know what 0.99

00:09:30.700 they're doing wrong i want to help those people i care about them i'm not saying we should center

00:09:35.180 men it's fine to want romance in a romantic relationship every single time i make a video

00:09:40.540 for those people who are struggling there are 50 000 women in my comments who are not struggling

00:09:46.040 to find romantic opportunities or relationship talking over the lonely ones no one is saying 1.00

00:09:51.000 because they're usually hotter and more and less insufferable you should be in a relationship just

00:09:55.560 to be in a relationship or you shouldn't first focus on your life and make sure it's enriching

00:09:58.820 and fulfilling and you can survive on your own as a single complete person literally no one is

00:10:02.620 saying that it's fine to want romantic attention it's fine to wonder hey is there something wrong

00:10:07.700 with me that i'm not getting this and i see my peers are that's a natural normal thing to wonder

00:10:12.420 and get this maybe you're not perfect the way you are maybe you smell that doesn't make you a bad

00:10:18.680 person or unworthy of love but finding love will be easier if you don't stink maybe you really

00:10:23.900 struggle socially maybe you're kind of annoying that doesn't make you a bad person either you're

00:10:28.560 still worthy you're not worthy i mean again women we can never fix our problems so instead of um 0.89

00:10:34.560 teaching women how to be less annoying um they just say you're worthy of love and someone should 1.00

00:10:40.860 love you anyway but men have to learn to be less annoying to us so yeah anyways guys i love you

00:10:45.980 thank you for watching like the video on your way out buy a ticket to my event if you can and i'll

00:10:50.900 see you next time

Pearl - September 10, 2026

30-Year-Old Woman Says She’s TIRED of Being Single

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