00:00:00.000All right, what's up guys? Welcome to my reaction series. So today I'm reacting to women talking
00:00:04.880about dating in their 30s. Now here's the thing. I want you to realize that you can't believe women
00:00:11.620when we say things because even grandmas on Tinder get so many, like more likes than the average man0.93
00:00:20.760and that's grandmothers on Tinder. Women have so much choice. Now women never like any of the1.00
00:00:26.280choices we have now i always there's always a cope that says women um lose attention from the1.00
00:00:30.700men that they like and that's true obviously you get the hottest sorry you get the hottest men in
00:00:35.200your 20s um and your attention dwindles over time but how many times have women gotten the attention
00:00:40.500of the man that we want that has everything we want or is the man that we want and then we don't
00:00:44.820want it after um we're just consistently insufferable always do you know what i'm saying
00:00:50.500like we're we consistently are insufferable so we we're just never happy ever so i want you to know0.98
00:00:57.220that even when they're complaining don't believe any of it so because all these women can still0.61
00:01:01.860get a bunch of matches on dating apps they're just complaining to complain discuss an ick like
00:01:06.740a major ick that i recently discovered and for men too like you should watch this like don't do this
00:01:11.700okay i was on a date with a guy that i met in the wild he asked me out you know just out and about
00:01:18.260we were sitting next to each other and how often does it happen for men right and she still finds
00:01:23.060something to complain about well how often do men really get approached never and then women get
00:01:27.380approached and still whine it's going great we were having a good time we were dearly departed
00:01:31.860having like a little drink and a little oysters and the conversation was flowing and i don't
00:01:36.820remember what i was talking about but i said something like oh you know like when you're in
00:01:40.100your 30s like we are and he goes you're in your 30s like this man's was shook he literally
00:01:45.540scooched back like you're in your 30s and I'm like yeah like I'm 32 keep in mind this man was like
00:01:52.98036 about to be 37 and I don't know if guys like think that this is a compliment to be like oh
00:01:59.340you look younger I'm 32 I'm I'm every day of 32 like I don't I don't want to look younger I'm not
00:02:05.880trying to look younger so I don't know if that's what he was going for but if he was genuinely
00:02:10.720shook like oh you're you're in your 30s and he's low-key about to be 37 how old did you think i was
00:02:16.820like did you think you were asking out somebody that's like 10 years younger than you and then
00:02:20.900my question is like you see this nagging it just never ends now because he thought you looked
00:02:25.640younger this is what he gets in return this is what god said it's better to live alone in the
00:02:29.900woods and with a quarrelsome wife stop wanting love this bad fellas why because to me my first1.00
00:02:36.520thought is like younger women put up with a whole lot more and that's true because younger women1.00
00:02:42.840they're more moldable they have less standards they you know they have less skills to you know1.00
00:02:48.560set their boundaries and blah blah blah so yeah they're better to deal with than i would like i0.95
00:02:53.680know in the past i put up with a whole lot of bullshit for men that i i'm not looking back i0.99
00:02:58.120shouldn't have done but i was younger and i was like you know stupid i don't know men don't do0.99
00:03:02.420that if you think you're complimenting us all right uh crying all right let's see went on a0.95
00:03:07.520first date tonight date started at seven o'clock it is just turned 8 32 and i am now sitting in
00:03:16.160albertson's parking lot like i want you to understand she still got taken out on a date
00:03:20.980do you know how many men get no matches on apps ever and we still find something to whine and
00:03:26.220bitch and moan about okay got distracted but bag secured went on up yeah still all right let's see
00:03:34.300what she says it is very difficult to date as a person it's not and this is what this is what i0.99
00:03:40.600mean when i say women we're just so lazy i just can't stand how lazy we are all right what do0.97
00:03:45.920you guys rate her five say let's say five still gonna get thousands of matches on the apps maybe1.00
00:03:50.520if she's chubby let's say she's even a four still you can date black men latino men they'll do it
00:03:54.740so get you on the app and um set up six dates a week and like it's not hard it's not difficult0.68
00:04:01.940you might want not feel like it and that's fine i'm not saying you have to but just stop saying
00:04:07.260it's hard it's not it's not hard and you're matt you're one of the biggest cities in the world
00:04:11.500there's so much choice there i feel like most of what i see is really young people who are still
00:04:19.740in the process of figuring out their life which no problem about that i remember when i was that age
00:04:26.380and i was doing the same thing um but obviously i do not want to be mommy i want to find an equal
00:04:33.900or you have much older people who are out of marriages with baggage and oh never change
00:04:43.100you girl potentially don't want to have a family because they already had a family with somebody
00:04:47.660or people who maybe didn't do that but never grew up like why are you in your 40s and you still
00:04:54.780don't have the emotional togetherness that you would expect from someone that age so i've just
00:05:00.620been having such a hard time i'm like smacked up in the middle of it all and you might think camilla
00:05:06.220well why aren't you dating someone your age uh because my roster at the moment is negative but
00:05:11.820But it's because I think most people my age who have it together are already in relationships, long term relationships or dating with intention or in their first marriage and haven't yet gotten to their second marriage.
00:05:29.840So I'm just anyway, I'm having a hard time.
00:05:32.720But if you all know any eligible contenders.
00:05:37.060OK, so you said that you had a roster and you want people to set you up with people.
00:05:41.480he said i'm 40 and don't worry it gets worse before it gets worse live in new york city
00:05:45.720and you think that they would be yeah okay let's keep going wow so one thing me and my friends
00:05:51.700obviously as girls always talk about is dating and honestly dating in my 30s has taught me some
00:05:59.220very valuable lessons that i wish let's see if they're good lessons in my 20s okay you shouldn't
00:06:04.700have to constantly question whether someone likes you okay that's true i do i think by the time in
00:06:08.980your 30s yeah that's true I don't necessarily mean if they wanted to they would in every scenario
00:06:15.020if you're constantly analyzing text questioning whether they actually like you or just trying to
00:06:20.700figure out where you stand with them that's information in itself to caveat with that
00:06:25.200should not be needing to send a group chat every single screenshot of the messages you're having
00:06:30.360or chat gbt for that matter do not mistake anxiety for butterflies I wish I'd known this one years
00:06:37.940ago that feeling when you're waiting for them to text whether they've changed their mind and they
00:06:42.420eventually text you get that massive high sometimes that's not actually butterflies
00:06:47.540that's just making you feel anxious no i mean we're just we're hornballs so when we get those0.99
00:06:51.620feelings it just means we're horny af and we're we're just big fat slut whores it's just kind of1.00
00:06:55.780how we are all right oh all right ladies what did you do gluck gluck or fuck fuck you know what i1.00
00:07:00.420mean one huge one that i learned yeah she says your physical type isn't your right type i disagree1.00
00:07:06.580with that you got to be sexually attracted otherwise you're going to torture him later
00:07:10.100but someone that's your physical type means very little if you have zero compatibility
00:07:15.860hotness is not everything obviously attraction matters like you want to fancy the person you're
00:07:21.540dating but someone can be your exact physical type and still be they ask me get to know me
00:07:28.820do our values align do our lifestyles work together do we actually want the same things
00:07:33.300in life because unfortunately being hot can only get you so far consistency is so much more
00:07:39.860attractive than intensity i don't need someone to tell me how amazing i am 100 times a day come in
00:07:46.260a million miles an hour and act completely obsessed with me after like one day i'd much rather someone
00:07:51.620that consistently communicates consistently shows up makes plans follows through in their actions
00:07:57.300and actually shows me they're interested me steady over confusing any day another huge huge one i
00:08:04.180wish i knew in my 20s stop focusing on how much they might like you and start focusing on how
00:08:09.460much you like them instead of constantly thinking are they attracted to me do they like me do they
00:08:16.100want to see me again see that's what i mean in your 30s women we tend to focus less on men and
00:08:21.300more on ourselves which makes us more insufferable ask yourself i actually like them do i want to
00:08:25.940do i feel comfortable right then a couple of months ago i was on the brink of getting into
00:08:30.980my very first relationship at the age of 31 and it didn't happen i wasn't going to say anything
00:08:36.700and i wasn't going to talk about it because to be honest like i really have gotten over it for
00:08:41.420the most part but over the past few days i've caught myself feeling a little bit sad and grieving
00:08:48.420this experience and so i do want to talk about it and the type of grief that i'm experiencing
00:08:53.180with this specific situation is much different than the grief that I've experienced in the past
00:08:58.840with other people that I've been with mainly in the fact that this specific relationship was the
00:09:04.720beginning of the relationship that I had been waiting for for basically my entire adult life
00:09:10.580and the relationship didn't end because the other person nor I didn't want it it was simply a matter
00:09:16.760of the circumstances did not allow for our relationship to develop any further and this
00:09:21.780sort of what if is actually driving me crazy because this is actually a what if that I will
00:09:27.940never be able to come to a clear answer with no matter how hard I try to think about it and you're
00:09:33.620probably thinking okay well what are the circumstances that made this relationship
00:09:37.560not work out while the circumstances are that it would have had to be a long distance relationship
00:09:42.780yeah we gotta stop doing that now you're probably like relax people do long distance relationships
00:09:47.720all the time which those are my thoughts too when this whole thing was going down and at first i was
00:09:53.680of the mentality of like well okay you clearly don't like me enough if you don't want to try
00:09:57.660to make this work long distance he doesn't and that's the thing because you're not you're coming
00:10:01.940him at 31 not 21 at 21 he might be like all right move into my house but you probably have too much0.96
00:10:06.960shit by the time you're 31 so it's just cooked you wanted this badly enough if i meant enough0.99
00:10:11.320to you then you would at least be willing to make this that's just an insufferable mindset this is1.00
00:10:16.160we naturally think ladies so you got to kind of clock it but you hear her she's saying oh if he
00:10:21.280just really loved me and i mean that's an insufferable way to think some people just
00:10:24.800feel how they feel which don't get me wrong there is a part of me that that's you know that's so
00:10:29.040much work you're in another state does feel that way but now that i've been home again for a few
00:10:34.320weeks and now that i've gotten back into my normal work routine and just like my daily habits i have
00:10:39.920to say that i don't really think that i want to do long distance which is interesting because for a
00:10:45.600really long time i thought that that was something that i'd be able to tolerate but given the current
00:10:52.240state of my life and just like other things going on right now i really don't have the capacity to
00:10:57.760like add the extra chore of having to facetime someone every day or like texting someone all
00:11:02.080day every day like that really is just you know that's way less work than when they're in person
00:11:07.360like that's it's way more time in person or that i don't want to put up with and there is a part
00:11:11.840of me that feels guilty for like not understanding this other person's point of view when it came to
00:11:18.400that because that's essentially what he was trying to say and he said that like with long distance
00:11:23.600there's really no certainty which is so ironic coming from somebody whose ocd stems from
00:11:29.600uncertainty and i can't even really be mad about that either because even though i'm sitting here
00:11:34.480telling him like oh i'm going to be living in texas by next summer like we don't know what
00:11:39.360can happen over the course of a year and honestly what makes this situation hurt so badly is the
00:11:45.520fact that like i do wonder quite often had i been able to stay in texas would this person and i be
00:11:52.800together right now and like i said probably not he probably you know it was probably a different
00:11:56.960personality trait that he found you to be insufferable so then um you know he at that
00:12:02.480point he probably just thought nah let me just blame it on the distance you never know why a
00:12:06.160man dumps you honestly it doesn't matter how many times i try to go through all the scenarios
00:12:11.520i will never know the answer to that because maybe i did stay in texas and he still didn't
00:12:16.400ask me to be his girlfriend even though he said he would have this is really just one of those
00:12:20.240situations where i will never get the answer that i'm looking for and it is eating me alive because
00:12:27.120and there's also that part of me that's like okay well when i do live there next summer are things
00:12:32.640gonna pick back up again like my mind is really just going through all the what-ifs even though
00:12:37.320like i'm fully over this person but i think what really she's not over him at all with me in the
00:12:43.060back of my mind is the fact that this person told me multiple times and told several of my friends
00:12:49.200multiple times like if i knew that you were signing a lease here in austin that i would make
00:12:55.660you my girlfriend and just based on how this person and i interacted together and based on0.70
00:13:02.840how things were going when we were seeing each other it definitely was headed down that path1.00
00:13:09.300and it just really sucks that okay she's gonna find something to complain about girl get on the
00:13:14.260apps move on man on a first date sleep i don't even kiss on a first date i started seeing this
00:13:19.880guy he's in between drops right now oh so he's unemployed is he homeless too we're getting
00:13:24.180that's what i mean women when they're young are like i'll be with you forever i'll i'll be your0.53
00:13:28.140ride or die and then when we're old we're like you need to have all this stuff and then we still
00:13:32.740bang the guys with nothing 9 p.m tonight 9 p.m i'm already in bed with my retainer and my cat
00:13:37.660laying on for that hour make sure and then we're more insufferable you ask him has he healed from
00:13:42.280his past traumas does he believe in therapy red flag if he doesn't the last guy i was seeing said
00:13:47.500he prefers someone who doesn't post on tiktok i told him i prefer someone who's not balding
00:13:51.580do you ever sleep with a man on a first date yeah she's like i don't sleep on a first date but i did
00:13:57.500in cancun in that rave you know apparently i'm supposed to look at the comments on this one0.90
00:14:01.320hi i'm 30 years old and i'm trying to date currently and it's fucking horrible so and i0.94
00:14:06.580keep hearing mind you she's cute i bet you she gets a bunch of matches you know it's horrible0.87
00:14:11.020for everybody else too so i'm so curious what everyone's hard nose are i was in therapy yesterday
00:14:16.480me and my therapist were talking about this and the more i thought about it i was like hmm i wonder
00:14:20.900what other people's are do you see how we always complain it's never our hard yeses and it's always
00:14:24.760our hard nose so men or women comment below tell me your hard nose i want to know hi i'm 30 years
00:14:31.340old and i'm trying all right so they say the hard nose trump supporter no if political videos can
00:14:37.220if she's in therapy thinking that snapchat is how we should communicate all right guys i love you
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