Pearl - January 06, 202635 Mins of Women Complaining About Having to Approach Men!!!
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Summary
In this episode, we re talking about how to approach men and the risks involved in doing so. Are you ready for it? Do you have the courage to approach a man? Have you ever approached a man before? Let s take a look at some of the women that have approached men and see if they re up to the job.
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What up guys? Welcome to my reaction series. Today we're talking about modern women having to
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approach men. So back in the day there was a social contract between men and women. A man
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would see an attractive woman, approach her, and try to shoot a shot in a respectful manner.
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Or a young man would approach a young woman's father and ask him if he could take his daughter
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out on a date. It was nice, it was simple, but like most things that tend to make sense,
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modern women messed that whole thing up. They called it patriarchy and misogyny. Now men aren't
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approaching women and women for sure aren't approaching men in mass. Now it's just one big
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staring contest. There are some women that have worked up the courage to approach men and let's
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take a look at some of them. And fellas, I want you to rate their riz in the comments. So this is
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lit girl one okay the script so okay let me make it full screen let's rate her risk would you if
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she approached you would you respond okay the script so i basically i went up to the counter
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of the coffee shop and was like oh do you guys have a pen and then they gave me a pen and paper
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and then i wrote my number on it and i was initially going to give it to a waiter to then
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like drop it off because i was wearing a white hat and i was kind of opposite him so i was just
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gonna get them to be like oh the girl in the white hat like wanted you to have a number basically
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but then i just got this like overwhelming boost of confidence and i just walked straight up to him
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tapped him on the back he was i had his headphones in and he was working so i definitely caught him
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by surprise i was like hey excuse me so sorry to bother you um are you single at all and he goes
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yeah i am and then i was like oh can i give you my number and he's like yeah and then we had it
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really like quick small talk and then i was like oh i've got to go but it was lovely to meet you
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and then he's like loving me and that was it and then i walked away and honestly even the feeling
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um it was exhilarating so honestly highly recommend um but i feel like i'm invincible
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now which i'm absolutely not something happened today and i am traumatized all right raider riz
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guys i think that's you know men they don't take much so if he's single and he found her attractive
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it's probably good enough we're so it's so much easier for us than it is for a guy let's look at
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this so i approached a guy at the gym and asked him for help and it was like a good news bad
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news type of situation mostly bad news but i'm gonna give you the tea i was like moving something
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across the gym and i was like huffing and puffing when i was done and we ended up making eye contact
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and then we just started like a conversation and he was like oh if you ever need any help with
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anything like let me know and i'm like okay bad like i'm taking that as you're like offering me
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help i'm gonna i'm gonna ask you for help so fast forward a couple minutes later i finished my hip
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thrust i'm literally dying and i was like i'm gonna go ask him for help just to bring the barbell up
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from like the the ground up into the rack so i don't have to do it and then i can unrack my weight
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hi can i get uh two shots of espresso um over ice in a venti cup and then do you guys have the
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vanilla approach all right rate that riz would it work on you would it work on you fellas team
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shake the the cow one i could never say it 8 57 for starbucks is such a rip-off but anyways so he
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helps him with that and then he like you know it's like okay have a good workout whatever so we end
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up walking downstairs at the same time we have like a 10 minute conversation at the bottom of
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the stairs we end up exchanging numbers i'm like bet that's so cool i had a feeling like i was like
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i don't think that this is gonna go anywhere but like at least i put myself out there so we were
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texting for a little bit and then finally he goes like what's your situation and to me that's like
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like a red flag i don't know it just gave me like a weird vibe so i'm like okay i'm no kids i'm like
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not married what i'm like single looking for a relationship essentially this man tells me that
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he is married but it's complicated okay so you're married to which i said thank you for your
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transparency like i'm super glad i didn't go out with him and then he told me that i said thank you
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for your transparency and i wish you the best of luck so this story is to say that like just because
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you like open up the door to have a conversation with somebody doesn't mean that it's always going
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to go the way that you want it to or the way that you think it's going to go but at the end of the
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day you're still opening the door and you're putting yourself out there and you're trying
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and there's no harm in trying just pray that god gives you guidance and discernment along the way
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and if you need a good quick high protein hack two shots of espresso over ice venti cup from
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starbucks and then this vanilla bean shake it up together it's so good well take that l but
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But Raider Riz guys, would that work on you? Would that work on you? If you were approached by this
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woman in public, would you be excited or offended? Let me know in the comments. So I was at the
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grocery store the other day and I'm in the produce section and, um, I, I'm kind of, I'm like shopping
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for sweet potatoes and I'm kind of like, you know, my baskets in front of like the sweet potato area.
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And I see this guy walk up and he's sort of like kind of hovering around me, um, with like one of
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little plastic bags and i thought like is he trying to get to the sweet potatoes too
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and and he was a good looking a good looking man and i thought okay here's my chance like i'm going
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to use this as an opportunity and so um and by the way if you're new here i'm jenny i'm a dating
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coach and i'm on my own dating journey and i'm taking you along and i'm teaching you and giving
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you great ideas for women are never experts in something when they teach it it's always they're
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on a journey always to meet men and turn irl meet cute's into potential relationships and get off
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the dating apps so um i said to him oh am i in your way and and he was like oh no uh i'm just
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trying to get this bag open and it's you know how those those produce bags are like impossible to
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get apart and i was like oh i know what you mean i was like if we were in our grandparents
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generation they would have licked their finger and like you know you touch it like that and he
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He goes, I know, but he was like, post-COVID, like, I can't do that.
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And we had a perfect, a great little exchange, like a great little moment.
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I ultimately decided I wasn't feeling it, but it would have been easy for me to have
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converted that into like kind of flirting with him a little bit and then converting
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And so I thought this is a great one to remember, okay?
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Because you could really use this anytime you wanted to, right?
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if when you approach a man, like if he's interested at all, he's going to help keep the conversation
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going. Like all you need to do is just start it up and like say something and be friendly. And I was
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being funny and friendly. Like I'm a very expressive person. Like I'm, I don't have a
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problem talking to people. I love talking to people that I don't know. Um, so as long as you
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get it started, then if he's interested at all, he's going, or if he's just a nice person, he's
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going to keep it going, which he did, right? Like we had a funny little exchange. There was more in
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that i can't remember but that was the basic gist um so so the thing that i was realizing is you can
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really use this anytime because you don't actually have to think that the man wants to get to whatever
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you're standing by right like you could actually create this scenario where all you do is like you
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say you see a cute guy in the store you just kind of saunter on over to whatever he's in front of
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act like you're looking forward to and then kind of maybe get in his way a little bit you'd have
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have to be very subtle with this okay and then and then be like oh was i in your way right done
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you don't actually have to think that he wanted to get to what you wanted you just have to kind
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of create this i don't know if the guy's like yeah can you move scenario right like like rip
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replicate the scenario um i've heard men say that like a lot of times like very attractive men
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especially have so many women approaching them that a lot of times like it's the ones that
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actually um or they have so many women that are interested in them that it's the ones that
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actually approach them and make themselves known that tend to get their attention um and a lot of
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times too like men noticing it was really just a proximity thing we think sometimes that it means
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something about us we're not attractive enough or whatever if men aren't approaching us but a lot of
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times it really just comes down to like you have to make yourself obvious right men are very in
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the moment creatures i don't even want to say i hate all the man bashing that's gone around for
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years like men are just oblivious they're not oblivious they're just in the moment right
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so you kind of have to just be in the moment too like you have to be in their moment right
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so like you just need to be in proximity and create an excuse to say something and that's a
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great one because you don't have to feel like my favorite riz was still the first one but it could
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be because she was the best looking one you're like really putting yourself out there okay who's
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next who's next let's see we're gonna rate the riz oh my god yes for sure i've approached guys
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that obviously is a lot easier when you're you know a girl you can pretty much get away with a
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lot more even more than that i used to do door-to-door sales 100 commission and what is
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approaching if not knocking on someone's door to sell solar panels so if you live in the southern
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california area probably knock on your door but what usually helps me and how i do it my kind of
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style is I'm usually talking to everybody, right? I'm a really big extrovert. So I'm talking to a
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lot of people in the bars and the clubs or wherever I'm at. And I usually always find a
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reason to include the guy that I want to talk to in the conversation. Even if it's like, Hey,
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what do you think? You're being too quiet over there. Something along those lines to invite him
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into my fun. I kind of go turn my attention back to the group and then back to him back to the
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group. I like him. Then I will then isolate him and talk to him more one-on-one and see where it
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from there but i will tell you why girls including myself actually don't like approaching that much
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is when a girl approaches a guy just automatically assumes most of the time most men automatically
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assume they're in and then they'll just like boy barnacle to me the rest of the night and then it's
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like oh god i just kind of wanted to feel you out a little bit realize that even though you might be
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good looking not my style if you will and then i gotta find a way to like back out or excuse myself
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to the bathroom leaving him probably very confused my guy has a courage to approach me
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it automatically weeds out all the other ones because i know that that guy
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has courage even if i'm not into it he still walks away with my respect
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okay rate that riz guys i'm gonna give her for a woman this is on a female scale
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because we're not very good at this obviously i'm gonna give like a six
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let's see the last one I'm at Jack's wife Frida for lunch and there's a really cute guy at the
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bar so I kind of want to go up to him and say hi and he's by himself my friend just confirmed so
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I'm gonna go up to him I did not like that wave this is my least favorite so far and I'm gonna go
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say hi because I think he's cute whatever who cares
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yeah she's got a good body that's gonna help she's thin at least the voice I
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that's the difference between women that want to be in relationships and women
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that don't because the women that actually want to be in relationships
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they'll put their ego aside and do stuff that could potentially get them
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rejected the women that don't want to be they just get off on rejecting them um
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I think I liked that one that one was fine I thought the wave was kind of
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weird in the beginning, but I'm gonna give that a 6.5. I put that a second. What up guys? Welcome
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to my reaction series. Today we're talking about men not approaching women anymore. For over 40
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years, women have told men to leave them alone. Don't approach me, you creep, they would all say.
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And it turns out if you keep telling men to stay away from you, they will. Modern women are going
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on tiktok to whine about men not approaching them back in the day it was simple a guy saw a pretty
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woman walked up to her and said hi of course women called that predatory and patriarchy and
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now everything's messed up let's take a look at some of the women that are complaining about men
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not approaching them so anytime all right so what are we gonna rate her i would say six five six
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five six i'm talking to like a new guy i would say for the past maybe like five six years
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majority of the time they always ask me why i'm single they can't believe i'm single they think
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men are out here approaching left right and center let me tell you like i told them men do not
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approach me okay it's very rare that a man out in public out in the world will see me i don't care
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how good i look that day i don't care how good i smell i don't care about none of that they're not
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walking up to me and that's because my demeanor says i'm good i don't come off as friendly i don't
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come off as approachable i don't come off inviting and that's very intentional because you're not
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gonna come over here and waste my time you're not gonna come over here and play with me that
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be like i'm not the one what the so she complains about men not approaching her and then says i'm
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not the one and i make i do this intentionally i scare off men women be known before you even
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open your mouth before you even fix your legs to come walk over into my space and start exchanging
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public i'm somebody who doesn't get approached in public by men right yeah you got short hair
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men like the long the long hair and for the longest time i wondered why is that
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and think their schizophrenia is acting like they're hallucinating ah and before you comment
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and say anything like no it's because you're so big and tall and you don't have any hair and
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you're kind of masculine looking no i'm not hearing any of that i'm dead set on being perfect
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and unapproachable and unattainable that's all it is yeah i mean approaching not approach at like
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bars and that sort of setting but in my lifetime it's never really been normal for men to approach
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you in public hey guys i'm bahar because you're single right now right yeah how should guys
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approach you in the gym or if at all they don't approach me they just stare at me because i think
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i look intimidating so they do where they find you on yeah i mean men aren't super into neck
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tattoos social media follow you slide in the dms but never actually say anything talking about i
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saw you in the gym but i was kind of a little scared to approach you know it's like no wonder
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do you understand how you're kind of intimidating them yeah but i think like even at this point
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without no context i think it's the vibe that i'm giving off maybe maybe a little like tomboy
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style and they i think i do look a little intimidating i'm not gonna lie or you could
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approach them no but i'm not looking for a boyfriend looking for a man let's see if there's
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another okay there's one more guys do not approach you at the bar not because you're not pretty
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but it's because of this because your tits aren't out get them out ladies
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if you want to increase your approach rate just put out the boobs it'll go up by a thousand
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going to the bars every weekend with my friends maybe for the past couple months and i love it i
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love socializing and i'm single and my friend and i were talking at the bar the other weekend
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and we were talking about how we've never been approached by a single guy before
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like maybe ever which is just insane to think about like i can't even i can name a couple
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of currencies where they have but it was like people from europe and they're like a different
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breed of people okay so i feel like the culture in america is way different guys do not want to
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approach you not because of how pretty you are or how you look but it's really because they're scared
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of you and then us women over here who are single are thinking like we look amazing we did our
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makeup we chose the perfect outfit why aren't all these guys coming up to us even if we're not into
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them why don't they just come up just like make us feel good about us yeah because that's what
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guys are thinking how do i make women feel good about themselves because we don't they don't have
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big enough egos they're wondering how how do i smash that's what they're thinking how how can i
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turn this into sex and if you know women aren't putting out at the bars they're just gonna stop
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going they're like am i gonna get sex out of this no meh i'll stay home and play video games
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that's what the guys are doing ourselves okay now i want you to think of the perspective of a guy
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i will never know what's in a man's head but i have a good pretty good idea from like my guy
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friends and going out a lot guys are intimidated by you okay they don't all have that courage or
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charisma or just bravery to go up to you like you have to somebody else and on top of just being
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intimidated by going up to a stranger in general you're probably surrounded by a big group of
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friends and even worse if you're surrounded by your guy friends because they're going to assume
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that you're dating one of them and no one wants to go up to a girl who's surrounded by a bunch
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of guys okay it's just a block so now you're probably thinking okay we have this information
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but what do we do with it first off i don't really think bars are the best place to really
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find a relationship it's great to meet people have fun really get to know other people but
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if you're putting all your eggs in one basket and really putting so much pressure on finding a guy
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that will take you seriously that's going to be very hard the other thing is that we always make
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fun of dating apps a lot but i think the percentage is something like 60 of people now meet their
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significant other on the internet because people don't go up to other people anymore because they
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know they can meet you on a dating app it's so much easier this past saturday i literally went
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up to a group of guys and was like you want to play cards i wasn't attracted to any of them but
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i'm so happy i did it because i made a new group of friends and it was so much fun and initially
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i thought that they weren't that fun like they just seemed like they were like moping around
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they odd rbfs like whatever and i went up to them and they ended up being the funniest group of guys
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ever and i'm sure a lot of guys think of you that way too you might yeah and they're like dang these
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girls hang hung out with us all night and we didn't even smash have like an rbf or just you
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don't seem approachable but little do they know how you really are so the takeaway from this video
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is that guys not coming up to you out in public says nothing about you you can literally be like
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gg hadid and a guy's still not going to come up to you guys are intimidated and it takes so much
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courage to go up to a girl and a lot of guys are cheap and just don't want to buy you a drink and
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And they're scared of getting used for a drink, which kind of sucks, but I understand.
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So do not weigh your worth in whether or not people come up to you.
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There are women that are super hot that do get approached all the time.
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I was friends with the nine when I was younger.
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And it was actually crazy going out with her because she just got so much male attention
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like she would get a like yeah it was crazy anyways real vicious cycle that just concludes
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and begins with low self-esteem so then i cut myself off from relationship opportunities i
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give it a couple weeks and then i'm like what was that what was that freaked out yeah it's
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time it's time to go to therapy and a male therapist what up guys welcome to the just
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pearly things youtube channel today i'm going to be reacting to woman is thirsty for a man
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to approach her in public. Females are thirsting over men. Women cannot be alone. Men can be alone
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and be relatively happy. I mean, there's a guy that like ran to the woods to get away from women.
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He ran. It's like women, men can't live without us men. They're like in a forest living by
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themselves. Women, we're not the same. We need community. We just do. I just, I miss having
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somebody to talk to. I miss having somebody that actually wants to, like, see me.
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Some guys have said to me they wouldn't date a girl with an only flambé's page, and that's fair
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obviously but i make pretty decent money from mine they don't care you're telling me you wouldn't
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want a sugar mama in a cost of living crisis because i could be a sugar mama yeah i would
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treat you real nice i mean you know it's funny there are a couple guys that'll take her up on
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it i i predict this you are gonna see an influx of personal trainer type guys where they realize
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if i just get in really good shape i can get a semi-hot maybe only fans chick or 30 year old
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woman to take care of me you're gonna see it i have to do some really filthy things for it but
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i take care of you sweet cheek so what do you say hell no someone's gonna do it though there's
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always a simp i'm being dramatic here right but see if my boyfriend likes a fucking girl's like
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why is your boobs out on the internet if you have a boyfriend instagram i would literally like break
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up with him like right there and then even well well putting your boobs out on instagram their
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stories and shit like i think like the overall consensus in this video is don't date me because
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i'm a fucking psychopath but i feel like i'm just saying what all other girls think honestly
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i'm so sick of being told that i should be happy single i don't want to be i want to be in love
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i want to be sickening to everyone around us i want to adore them and i want them to adore me
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i want to find my person i want to love them and i want them to love me i have so much of myself
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to pour into someone and right now i feel empty a man is not gonna make you not feel empty if you
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feel empty it's time to get some therapy because men don't want to deal with this it shouldn't be
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this hard to find love but all i find myself doing is scrolling through stupid dating apps
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finding stupid men who just want sex and i'm so sick of it why is it so hard to find love
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i don't know where do people meet people nowadays being a single gal in a single world where do i
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go if i don't want to go on dating apps like i don't like dating apps i've had them i've tried
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them i get disappointed i get discouraged it let's be you have to approach men in public men
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are not gonna approach anymore we've we've let that sail how many men that you find attractive
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do you go up to kevin samuels talked about this this is the world that feminists created it's time
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to be proactive if you don't like the dating apps it's time to approach baby let's be real dating
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apps if you're gonna think this person is attractive you're probably gonna swipe yes and
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if you don't find them attractive you're gonna swipe no but sometimes people just aren't
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photogenic they just don't present themselves well through photos that's why i just feel like
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it's so much better to meet people in person also just like with having dating apps like
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i just feel forced and i don't want it to feel forced i want to like go out in public meet
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someone like in the wild both just having to bump into each other and you're like and then you know
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sparks fly that i just want to know where like where do the single men go where are you going
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where are you hanging out like if you're in the garage like come out like are you at the lake are
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you snowmobile go to a sports game lots of single men go to sports games athletic events are you
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fishing it's winter time what are you doing right now it's funny and how am i this amazing like
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and single like are you kidding me and the humility is amazing she's got lots of men
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love humble women so there's a lot of humility like for the longest time i just like wasn't
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worried about it at this point i'm like i'm 31 what is happening like is there just no one left
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put me on a dating show the bachelor the bachelorette do you really have you seen the caliber
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of women that are the bachelorette do you really think really all right i just i don't understand
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the delusion like women will come at me and they'll they'll say pearl you're this this this
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of this and i just say look at i'm an average chick i'm a normal chick that's it i don't need
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to be crazy good whatever whatever but it's like the audacity of some of these chicks will insult
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me and i'm like who do you think you are like do you think you're that okay all right love island
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i don't even care just put me somewhere so i can actually like interact with the male race
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i'm not interacting with males anyways that's it thanks for that i have a theory you want to hear
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my theory this is a dating theory that i just came up with so if you're an interesting woman
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i don't care how attractive you are but let's say you're an interesting woman when i say interesting
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i mean like ambitious smart funny maybe okay you probably have pretty high standards as to like
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the kind of person successful women become victims of their own success it is very difficult for
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successful women to find a man on their level so it leaves us a couple choices you either accept
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that you will not date someone that makes as much money as you and women do it oprah has been with
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her guy for a while you know they're they're the bumble founder you know or die alone or compete
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and it's so funny i was talking to a successful chick the other day and all she does is work
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she's not a hoe she's in shape and it was just so crazy because i kept giving her options of like
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places to meet someone you know maybe try the apps try going here try going there and i thought
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if you approach dating with the same tenacity that you approach every you know everything else
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you're successful at you'd probably figure something out you know but what do i know what
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does pearl know would get along with not necessarily even in dating in terms of friends just in general
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it is hard to find a person that will keep you entertained because there's a lot going on in
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your mind i mean guys can't we entertain ourselves please i never understood i just was always a
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chick with hobbies i was always a chick with i was either trying to learn sports i was trying i was
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trying to learn i love learning and i'm like there's so many things to do i mean i've been
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taking a little time off of working you know how many things i've learned to cook in the last two
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months i learned fried chicken i learned pad thai or stir fry sorry not not pad thai i learned um
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banana bread i learned how to make power balls i learned how to make orange juice i learned how to
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like i could there's more enough to think i took pictures i've improved my steak game that's come
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up a lot um i'm learning sauces right now you can you can just go and learn anything the internet's
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so cool because you can become such a talented person just by google and stuff you're not a
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simple person you're sophisticated in that way now when i think of dating i think of it as almost
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like entertainment okay and now we wonder why guys aren't dating you know come on you want to find
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someone that'll keep you entertained you want someone that'll keep the plot going you want
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someone that like whenever you spend time with them you don't know what's going to happen next
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and so if you are that category of woman you're going to try to find a guy who always keeps you
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guessing so whether that means he's super smart and interesting or that means he's a total douche
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and doesn't actually like you and adds a lot of mystery and entertainment to your life you will
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choose one of those two guys now the thing is that there aren't that many guys in the first
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category that are interesting funny smart ambitious most of the nice guys at least
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can be a little predictable and a little bit boring and so you end up going for category two
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guys alpha fucks beta bucks women we admit this ourselves because at least they keep you
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entertained in other yeah we look we look for the comfort from the beta guys and you know the fun
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from the other guys the alpha guys am i right with this theory i totally think i've just
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uncovered something the red pill figured this out 20 years ago super crazy what do you guys think
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you are an idiot recently realized like just now that dating somebody isn't just two pretty people
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frolicking in a field and looking at each other funny like i actually have to go near them i have
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to pay for dates and i'm broke guys my bank account is negative 44 50 before anybody says you know
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it's really normal for the younger generation to split dates it's really normal i don't really
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mind honestly i mean i could go i could go either way i just don't care but you're a romantic maybe
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you're asexual i have heard it all before i am not a romantic i am not asexual i am just atrocious
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i just found out that i get the ick so easily and i think the biggest way that i get the ick is if
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you're into me because then i'm like how low are you willing to go if you choose me it's huh real
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vicious cycle that just concludes and begins with low self-esteem so then i cut myself off from
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relationship opportunities i give it a couple weeks and then i'm like what was that what was
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that freak out yeah it's time it's time to go to therapy and a male therapist let's get back or
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improve you know why do you feel bad about yourself maybe you're a dumb bimbo that doesn't do anything
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productive ever i mean then you might feel kind of bad because i think i can do it this time and i
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never can i don't even think that i can afford to be romantic and if i ask my parents for money and
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tell them it's to support my bumble lifestyle they will lock me in my room with nothing but
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a dog bowl of holy water and bhs tapes of nuns might help you know also like love comes to you
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when you least expect it shut up no that's not true you have to earn it love is earned men
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understand they have to earn love women have to earn love from men that they actually like the
00:32:34.800
men we don't like typically you can just walk in and they'll like you anyway the men we actually
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like you have to be in shape you have to get on his program you have to listen you can't argue
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there's things that you have to do to earn those type of guys but other way around doesn't work so
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much i have been trying to not expect it for like six years and also i was speaking to my friend
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the other day and she was like well like are you like trying to like go out of your way to meet
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people i'm like no because people are fucking telling me that it comes when you least expect
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it so here i am like trying to convince myself i don't want it and i'm just not expecting it
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so i can get it and it's not happening but then even when i go out of my way to like go on dating
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apps it just never works because these people that i'm meeting on my cup of tea are not wanting
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what i want they just want a casual thing and like as as someone who's never why do they want
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a casual thing that's what we have to ask ourselves if all the guys just want a casual thing
00:33:28.780
men lock when they find a wife when they find a unicorn men lock it down or they try to they
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attempt to so the question is what about you do men not like and i don't know i don't know
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personally but we have to start asking these questions in order to get what we want so we
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can improve on our weaknesses men understand they have to improve women i mean we're women
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any kind of romantic entanglement i'm my first my first relationship is not going to be a
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casual relationship and yeah yeah but what have you been doing since because these are the questions
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men will ask what have you been doing the last six years you've been having casual relationships
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unless you've been a virgin unless you're a virgin you haven't done anything the last six
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years so why does the men that do the men that actually like you have to pay a higher price than
00:34:14.240
the men you gave it away to for free what one is it should i put myself out there or should i just
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pretend that i'm not like oh i don't want a boyfriend i don't care these memes and she have
00:34:27.800
so much to pour into someone if she feels empty she doesn't want love she's desperate for love
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and there's a major difference between those two she's trying to fill a void inside of herself
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and the next man who commits to her will never be able to escape from her this is a potential
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stalker in the making straight up stalker i don't know why women think meeting chads and tyrones
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on dating apps is going to make any difference if they meet chads and tyrones in person
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it's still going to be exactly the same result a pump and a dump it's inevitable if she's
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ambitious smart funny and has high standards but can't tell the difference between a guy
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who is intellectually stimulating and a guy who is simply treating her like
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i would say she's not smart or has high standards yeah there's and that's the thing women we get
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all these useless jobs and we think we're smarter than we actually are and instead of being grateful
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like I am really grateful to be here guys I definitely had an advantage because I'm a woman
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and I think I could say that easily happily and I'm grateful to be there instead women shit on
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the men that aren't in their position when they don't have that head start but let me know what
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