Pearl - 35 Mins of Women Complaining About Having to Approach Men!!!

00:00:00.000 What up guys? Welcome to my reaction series. Today we're talking about modern women having to 1.00

00:00:05.880 approach men. So back in the day there was a social contract between men and women. A man 0.68

00:00:12.760 would see an attractive woman, approach her, and try to shoot a shot in a respectful manner.

00:00:17.500 Or a young man would approach a young woman's father and ask him if he could take his daughter

00:00:22.580 out on a date. It was nice, it was simple, but like most things that tend to make sense,

00:00:29.400 modern women messed that whole thing up. They called it patriarchy and misogyny. Now men aren't 1.00

00:00:36.160 approaching women and women for sure aren't approaching men in mass. Now it's just one big

00:00:44.140 staring contest. There are some women that have worked up the courage to approach men and let's

00:00:50.380 take a look at some of them. And fellas, I want you to rate their riz in the comments. So this is

00:00:55.740 lit girl one okay the script so okay let me make it full screen let's rate her risk would you if

00:01:01.620 she approached you would you respond okay the script so i basically i went up to the counter

00:01:07.220 of the coffee shop and was like oh do you guys have a pen and then they gave me a pen and paper

00:01:10.940 and then i wrote my number on it and i was initially going to give it to a waiter to then

00:01:15.460 like drop it off because i was wearing a white hat and i was kind of opposite him so i was just

00:01:18.960 gonna get them to be like oh the girl in the white hat like wanted you to have a number basically

00:01:22.720 but then i just got this like overwhelming boost of confidence and i just walked straight up to him

00:01:29.680 tapped him on the back he was i had his headphones in and he was working so i definitely caught him

00:01:34.240 by surprise i was like hey excuse me so sorry to bother you um are you single at all and he goes

00:01:39.680 yeah i am and then i was like oh can i give you my number and he's like yeah and then we had it

00:01:43.440 really like quick small talk and then i was like oh i've got to go but it was lovely to meet you

00:01:48.640 and then he's like loving me and that was it and then i walked away and honestly even the feeling

00:01:54.800 um it was exhilarating so honestly highly recommend um but i feel like i'm invincible

00:01:59.760 now which i'm absolutely not something happened today and i am traumatized all right raider riz

00:02:06.160 guys i think that's you know men they don't take much so if he's single and he found her attractive 1.00

00:02:13.840 it's probably good enough we're so it's so much easier for us than it is for a guy let's look at

00:02:20.000 this so i approached a guy at the gym and asked him for help and it was like a good news bad

00:02:23.120 news type of situation mostly bad news but i'm gonna give you the tea i was like moving something

00:02:26.960 across the gym and i was like huffing and puffing when i was done and we ended up making eye contact

00:02:31.040 and then we just started like a conversation and he was like oh if you ever need any help with

00:02:35.040 anything like let me know and i'm like okay bad like i'm taking that as you're like offering me

00:02:39.200 help i'm gonna i'm gonna ask you for help so fast forward a couple minutes later i finished my hip

00:02:43.120 thrust i'm literally dying and i was like i'm gonna go ask him for help just to bring the barbell up

00:02:48.000 from like the the ground up into the rack so i don't have to do it and then i can unrack my weight

00:02:52.400 hi can i get uh two shots of espresso um over ice in a venti cup and then do you guys have the

00:02:57.920 vanilla approach all right rate that riz would it work on you would it work on you fellas team

00:03:03.120 shake the the cow one i could never say it 8 57 for starbucks is such a rip-off but anyways so he

00:03:09.440 helps him with that and then he like you know it's like okay have a good workout whatever so we end

00:03:13.360 up walking downstairs at the same time we have like a 10 minute conversation at the bottom of

00:03:16.640 the stairs we end up exchanging numbers i'm like bet that's so cool i had a feeling like i was like

00:03:21.040 i don't think that this is gonna go anywhere but like at least i put myself out there so we were

00:03:25.200 texting for a little bit and then finally he goes like what's your situation and to me that's like

00:03:30.080 like a red flag i don't know it just gave me like a weird vibe so i'm like okay i'm no kids i'm like

00:03:34.760 not married what i'm like single looking for a relationship essentially this man tells me that

00:03:40.240 he is married but it's complicated okay so you're married to which i said thank you for your

00:03:48.840 transparency like i'm super glad i didn't go out with him and then he told me that i said thank you

00:03:52.880 for your transparency and i wish you the best of luck so this story is to say that like just because

00:03:58.520 you like open up the door to have a conversation with somebody doesn't mean that it's always going

00:04:03.080 to go the way that you want it to or the way that you think it's going to go but at the end of the

00:04:07.240 day you're still opening the door and you're putting yourself out there and you're trying

00:04:10.200 and there's no harm in trying just pray that god gives you guidance and discernment along the way

00:04:14.760 and if you need a good quick high protein hack two shots of espresso over ice venti cup from

00:04:18.840 starbucks and then this vanilla bean shake it up together it's so good well take that l but

00:04:23.960 But Raider Riz guys, would that work on you? Would that work on you? If you were approached by this 1.00

00:04:28.980 woman in public, would you be excited or offended? Let me know in the comments. So I was at the

00:04:33.700 grocery store the other day and I'm in the produce section and, um, I, I'm kind of, I'm like shopping

00:04:39.740 for sweet potatoes and I'm kind of like, you know, my baskets in front of like the sweet potato area.

00:04:43.620 And I see this guy walk up and he's sort of like kind of hovering around me, um, with like one of

00:04:51.520 little plastic bags and i thought like is he trying to get to the sweet potatoes too

00:04:56.640 and and he was a good looking a good looking man and i thought okay here's my chance like i'm going

00:05:00.560 to use this as an opportunity and so um and by the way if you're new here i'm jenny i'm a dating

00:05:05.680 coach and i'm on my own dating journey and i'm taking you along and i'm teaching you and giving

00:05:09.920 you great ideas for women are never experts in something when they teach it it's always they're 1.00

00:05:16.080 on a journey always to meet men and turn irl meet cute's into potential relationships and get off

00:05:22.800 the dating apps so um i said to him oh am i in your way and and he was like oh no uh i'm just

00:05:31.680 trying to get this bag open and it's you know how those those produce bags are like impossible to

00:05:35.680 get apart and i was like oh i know what you mean i was like if we were in our grandparents

00:05:40.880 generation they would have licked their finger and like you know you touch it like that and he

00:05:44.400 He goes, I know, but he was like, post-COVID, like, I can't do that.

00:05:47.140 And I was like, tell me about it.

00:05:47.860 We're all dermaphobes now.

00:05:48.980 And we laughed, right?

00:05:51.360 And we had a perfect, a great little exchange, like a great little moment.

00:05:55.240 I ultimately decided I wasn't feeling it, but it would have been easy for me to have

00:05:59.360 converted that into like kind of flirting with him a little bit and then converting 0.70

00:06:03.140 that into something more potentially, right?

00:06:04.840 If he was feeling the same way.

00:06:07.140 And so I thought this is a great one to remember, okay?

00:06:10.000 Because you could really use this anytime you wanted to, right?

00:06:12.800 Because here's the key.

00:06:13.500 if when you approach a man, like if he's interested at all, he's going to help keep the conversation

00:06:18.940 going. Like all you need to do is just start it up and like say something and be friendly. And I was

00:06:24.060 being funny and friendly. Like I'm a very expressive person. Like I'm, I don't have a

00:06:27.700 problem talking to people. I love talking to people that I don't know. Um, so as long as you

00:06:32.500 get it started, then if he's interested at all, he's going, or if he's just a nice person, he's

00:06:37.500 going to keep it going, which he did, right? Like we had a funny little exchange. There was more in

00:06:42.360 that i can't remember but that was the basic gist um so so the thing that i was realizing is you can

00:06:49.080 really use this anytime because you don't actually have to think that the man wants to get to whatever

00:06:54.360 you're standing by right like you could actually create this scenario where all you do is like you

00:07:00.280 say you see a cute guy in the store you just kind of saunter on over to whatever he's in front of

00:07:05.480 act like you're looking forward to and then kind of maybe get in his way a little bit you'd have

00:07:10.440 have to be very subtle with this okay and then and then be like oh was i in your way right done

00:07:16.760 you don't actually have to think that he wanted to get to what you wanted you just have to kind

00:07:22.180 of create this i don't know if the guy's like yeah can you move scenario right like like rip

00:07:28.560 replicate the scenario um i've heard men say that like a lot of times like very attractive men

00:07:36.860 especially have so many women approaching them that a lot of times like it's the ones that 1.00

00:07:40.720 actually um or they have so many women that are interested in them that it's the ones that 1.00

00:07:46.220 actually approach them and make themselves known that tend to get their attention um and a lot of

00:07:50.780 times too like men noticing it was really just a proximity thing we think sometimes that it means

00:07:56.000 something about us we're not attractive enough or whatever if men aren't approaching us but a lot of

00:08:00.220 times it really just comes down to like you have to make yourself obvious right men are very in

00:08:06.380 the moment creatures i don't even want to say i hate all the man bashing that's gone around for

00:08:10.460 years like men are just oblivious they're not oblivious they're just in the moment right

00:08:14.060 so you kind of have to just be in the moment too like you have to be in their moment right

00:08:17.900 so like you just need to be in proximity and create an excuse to say something and that's a

00:08:23.000 great one because you don't have to feel like my favorite riz was still the first one but it could

00:08:28.840 be because she was the best looking one you're like really putting yourself out there okay who's

00:08:33.060 next who's next let's see we're gonna rate the riz oh my god yes for sure i've approached guys

00:08:41.620 that obviously is a lot easier when you're you know a girl you can pretty much get away with a 0.99

00:08:46.220 lot more even more than that i used to do door-to-door sales 100 commission and what is

00:08:50.640 approaching if not knocking on someone's door to sell solar panels so if you live in the southern

00:08:55.140 california area probably knock on your door but what usually helps me and how i do it my kind of

00:09:00.600 style is I'm usually talking to everybody, right? I'm a really big extrovert. So I'm talking to a

00:09:05.380 lot of people in the bars and the clubs or wherever I'm at. And I usually always find a

00:09:10.160 reason to include the guy that I want to talk to in the conversation. Even if it's like, Hey,

00:09:15.380 what do you think? You're being too quiet over there. Something along those lines to invite him

00:09:19.260 into my fun. I kind of go turn my attention back to the group and then back to him back to the

00:09:24.080 group. I like him. Then I will then isolate him and talk to him more one-on-one and see where it

00:09:30.360 from there but i will tell you why girls including myself actually don't like approaching that much

00:09:36.280 is when a girl approaches a guy just automatically assumes most of the time most men automatically

00:09:41.320 assume they're in and then they'll just like boy barnacle to me the rest of the night and then it's

00:09:45.640 like oh god i just kind of wanted to feel you out a little bit realize that even though you might be

00:09:50.040 good looking not my style if you will and then i gotta find a way to like back out or excuse myself

00:09:55.240 to the bathroom leaving him probably very confused my guy has a courage to approach me

00:10:01.000 it automatically weeds out all the other ones because i know that that guy

00:10:04.200 has courage even if i'm not into it he still walks away with my respect

00:10:12.120 okay rate that riz guys i'm gonna give her for a woman this is on a female scale 1.00

00:10:18.840 because we're not very good at this obviously i'm gonna give like a six

00:10:25.240 let's see the last one I'm at Jack's wife Frida for lunch and there's a really cute guy at the

00:10:29.540 bar so I kind of want to go up to him and say hi and he's by himself my friend just confirmed so

00:10:34.140 I'm gonna go up to him I did not like that wave this is my least favorite so far and I'm gonna go

00:10:46.300 say hi because I think he's cute whatever who cares

00:10:49.440 yeah she's got a good body that's gonna help she's thin at least the voice I 1.00

00:10:56.580 thought she might be kind of fat 0.99

00:11:02.900 she's crazy 0.64

00:11:19.440 This used to be normal like 20 10 years 0.94

00:11:49.440 that's the difference between women that want to be in relationships and women 1.00

00:11:54.240 that don't because the women that actually want to be in relationships 1.00

00:11:59.760 they'll put their ego aside and do stuff that could potentially get them

00:12:04.000 rejected the women that don't want to be they just get off on rejecting them um 0.91

00:12:09.800 I think I liked that one that one was fine I thought the wave was kind of

00:12:14.340 weird in the beginning, but I'm gonna give that a 6.5. I put that a second. What up guys? Welcome

00:12:22.360 to my reaction series. Today we're talking about men not approaching women anymore. For over 40

00:12:30.060 years, women have told men to leave them alone. Don't approach me, you creep, they would all say.

00:12:36.700 And it turns out if you keep telling men to stay away from you, they will. Modern women are going 1.00

00:12:41.840 on tiktok to whine about men not approaching them back in the day it was simple a guy saw a pretty 1.00

00:12:47.940 woman walked up to her and said hi of course women called that predatory and patriarchy and 1.00

00:12:53.940 now everything's messed up let's take a look at some of the women that are complaining about men 1.00

00:12:59.040 not approaching them so anytime all right so what are we gonna rate her i would say six five six 0.99

00:13:06.100 five six i'm talking to like a new guy i would say for the past maybe like five six years

00:13:11.220 majority of the time they always ask me why i'm single they can't believe i'm single they think

00:13:16.700 men are out here approaching left right and center let me tell you like i told them men do not 1.00

00:13:21.740 approach me okay it's very rare that a man out in public out in the world will see me i don't care

00:13:29.200 how good i look that day i don't care how good i smell i don't care about none of that they're not

00:13:33.780 walking up to me and that's because my demeanor says i'm good i don't come off as friendly i don't

00:13:38.940 come off as approachable i don't come off inviting and that's very intentional because you're not

00:13:43.760 gonna come over here and waste my time you're not gonna come over here and play with me that 1.00

00:13:46.360 be like i'm not the one what the so she complains about men not approaching her and then says i'm 1.00

00:13:52.580 not the one and i make i do this intentionally i scare off men women be known before you even

00:13:58.880 open your mouth before you even fix your legs to come walk over into my space and start exchanging 0.92

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00:15:31.540 that is nordprotect.com slash pearl all right here's another one why men don't approach me in

00:15:38.460 public i'm somebody who doesn't get approached in public by men right yeah you got short hair

00:15:46.420 men like the long the long hair and for the longest time i wondered why is that

00:15:52.600 but it just dawns on me

00:15:55.920 it's because I'm perfect

00:15:58.800 oh I'm too perfect

00:16:00.840 bruh

00:16:02.960 like

00:16:04.560 just gorgeous and beautiful

00:16:06.620 and all those good things

00:16:09.340 how do you

00:16:11.940 what do you even say to somebody like me

00:16:13.700 when you see me in public

00:16:14.700 somebody so ethereal

00:16:18.260 and otherworldly

00:16:19.340 men probably see me in public

00:16:22.240 and think their schizophrenia is acting like they're hallucinating ah and before you comment

00:16:29.760 and say anything like no it's because you're so big and tall and you don't have any hair and

00:16:34.080 you're kind of masculine looking no i'm not hearing any of that i'm dead set on being perfect

00:16:41.200 and unapproachable and unattainable that's all it is yeah i mean approaching not approach at like

00:16:49.120 bars and that sort of setting but in my lifetime it's never really been normal for men to approach

00:16:54.720 you in public hey guys i'm bahar because you're single right now right yeah how should guys

00:17:01.660 approach you in the gym or if at all they don't approach me they just stare at me because i think

00:17:05.840 i look intimidating so they do where they find you on yeah i mean men aren't super into neck

00:17:10.100 tattoos social media follow you slide in the dms but never actually say anything talking about i

00:17:15.360 saw you in the gym but i was kind of a little scared to approach you know it's like no wonder

00:17:19.260 do you understand how you're kind of intimidating them yeah but i think like even at this point

00:17:24.560 without no context i think it's the vibe that i'm giving off maybe maybe a little like tomboy

00:17:28.740 style and they i think i do look a little intimidating i'm not gonna lie or you could

00:17:33.120 approach them no but i'm not looking for a boyfriend looking for a man let's see if there's

00:17:39.760 another okay there's one more guys do not approach you at the bar not because you're not pretty 0.99

00:17:46.020 but it's because of this because your tits aren't out get them out ladies 1.00

00:17:50.960 if you want to increase your approach rate just put out the boobs it'll go up by a thousand 1.00

00:18:00.240 going to the bars every weekend with my friends maybe for the past couple months and i love it i

00:18:05.120 love socializing and i'm single and my friend and i were talking at the bar the other weekend

00:18:10.800 and we were talking about how we've never been approached by a single guy before

00:18:15.600 like maybe ever which is just insane to think about like i can't even i can name a couple

00:18:21.520 of currencies where they have but it was like people from europe and they're like a different

00:18:26.560 breed of people okay so i feel like the culture in america is way different guys do not want to

00:18:34.160 approach you not because of how pretty you are or how you look but it's really because they're scared

00:18:40.880 of you and then us women over here who are single are thinking like we look amazing we did our

00:18:46.320 makeup we chose the perfect outfit why aren't all these guys coming up to us even if we're not into

00:18:52.160 them why don't they just come up just like make us feel good about us yeah because that's what

00:18:57.520 guys are thinking how do i make women feel good about themselves because we don't they don't have 1.00

00:19:02.800 big enough egos they're wondering how how do i smash that's what they're thinking how how can i

00:19:12.080 turn this into sex and if you know women aren't putting out at the bars they're just gonna stop 1.00

00:19:17.040 going they're like am i gonna get sex out of this no meh i'll stay home and play video games 0.94

00:19:22.800 that's what the guys are doing ourselves okay now i want you to think of the perspective of a guy

00:19:29.360 i will never know what's in a man's head but i have a good pretty good idea from like my guy

00:19:34.640 friends and going out a lot guys are intimidated by you okay they don't all have that courage or

00:19:41.600 charisma or just bravery to go up to you like you have to somebody else and on top of just being

00:19:48.960 intimidated by going up to a stranger in general you're probably surrounded by a big group of

00:19:54.080 friends and even worse if you're surrounded by your guy friends because they're going to assume

00:19:57.920 that you're dating one of them and no one wants to go up to a girl who's surrounded by a bunch 0.79

00:20:02.560 of guys okay it's just a block so now you're probably thinking okay we have this information

00:20:07.040 but what do we do with it first off i don't really think bars are the best place to really

00:20:12.480 find a relationship it's great to meet people have fun really get to know other people but

00:20:19.200 if you're putting all your eggs in one basket and really putting so much pressure on finding a guy

00:20:23.520 that will take you seriously that's going to be very hard the other thing is that we always make

00:20:28.160 fun of dating apps a lot but i think the percentage is something like 60 of people now meet their

00:20:33.680 significant other on the internet because people don't go up to other people anymore because they

00:20:39.200 know they can meet you on a dating app it's so much easier this past saturday i literally went

00:20:44.960 up to a group of guys and was like you want to play cards i wasn't attracted to any of them but

00:20:48.800 i'm so happy i did it because i made a new group of friends and it was so much fun and initially

00:20:54.560 i thought that they weren't that fun like they just seemed like they were like moping around

00:20:58.720 they odd rbfs like whatever and i went up to them and they ended up being the funniest group of guys

00:21:04.000 ever and i'm sure a lot of guys think of you that way too you might yeah and they're like dang these

00:21:10.560 girls hang hung out with us all night and we didn't even smash have like an rbf or just you 1.00

00:21:17.440 don't seem approachable but little do they know how you really are so the takeaway from this video

00:21:23.200 is that guys not coming up to you out in public says nothing about you you can literally be like

00:21:28.960 gg hadid and a guy's still not going to come up to you guys are intimidated and it takes so much

00:21:36.240 courage to go up to a girl and a lot of guys are cheap and just don't want to buy you a drink and

00:21:41.200 And they're scared of getting used for a drink, which kind of sucks, but I understand.

00:21:47.860 So do not weigh your worth in whether or not people come up to you.

00:21:51.660 Okay.

00:21:52.300 There's Cope.

00:21:54.800 There are women that are super hot that do get approached all the time. 1.00

00:21:58.200 I was friends with the nine when I was younger.

00:22:01.780 And it was actually crazy going out with her because she just got so much male attention

00:22:06.780 everywhere.

00:22:07.440 like she would get a like yeah it was crazy anyways real vicious cycle that just concludes 0.99

00:22:14.420 and begins with low self-esteem so then i cut myself off from relationship opportunities i

00:22:18.020 give it a couple weeks and then i'm like what was that what was that freaked out yeah it's

00:22:22.200 time it's time to go to therapy and a male therapist what up guys welcome to the just

00:22:27.300 pearly things youtube channel today i'm going to be reacting to woman is thirsty for a man

00:22:32.520 to approach her in public. Females are thirsting over men. Women cannot be alone. Men can be alone 0.98

00:22:44.220 and be relatively happy. I mean, there's a guy that like ran to the woods to get away from women.

00:22:50.000 He ran. It's like women, men can't live without us men. They're like in a forest living by 1.00

00:22:58.840 themselves. Women, we're not the same. We need community. We just do. I just, I miss having

00:23:05.720 somebody to talk to. I miss having somebody that actually wants to, like, see me.

00:23:18.920 Shut up. 0.95

00:23:23.720 Some guys have said to me they wouldn't date a girl with an only flambé's page, and that's fair 1.00

00:23:28.280 obviously but i make pretty decent money from mine they don't care you're telling me you wouldn't

00:23:34.180 want a sugar mama in a cost of living crisis because i could be a sugar mama yeah i would

00:23:39.200 treat you real nice i mean you know it's funny there are a couple guys that'll take her up on

00:23:44.440 it i i predict this you are gonna see an influx of personal trainer type guys where they realize

00:23:49.780 if i just get in really good shape i can get a semi-hot maybe only fans chick or 30 year old 0.77

00:23:55.540 woman to take care of me you're gonna see it i have to do some really filthy things for it but 1.00

00:24:00.060 i take care of you sweet cheek so what do you say hell no someone's gonna do it though there's 1.00

00:24:07.500 always a simp i'm being dramatic here right but see if my boyfriend likes a fucking girl's like 1.00

00:24:11.840 why is your boobs out on the internet if you have a boyfriend instagram i would literally like break 1.00

00:24:17.920 up with him like right there and then even well well putting your boobs out on instagram their 0.99

00:24:22.460 stories and shit like i think like the overall consensus in this video is don't date me because 0.99

00:24:28.280 i'm a fucking psychopath but i feel like i'm just saying what all other girls think honestly 0.98

00:24:33.100 i'm so sick of being told that i should be happy single i don't want to be i want to be in love 0.99

00:24:41.200 i want to be sickening to everyone around us i want to adore them and i want them to adore me

00:24:45.940 i want to find my person i want to love them and i want them to love me i have so much of myself

00:24:51.200 to pour into someone and right now i feel empty a man is not gonna make you not feel empty if you

00:24:57.280 feel empty it's time to get some therapy because men don't want to deal with this it shouldn't be 0.98

00:25:03.440 this hard to find love but all i find myself doing is scrolling through stupid dating apps 1.00

00:25:08.800 finding stupid men who just want sex and i'm so sick of it why is it so hard to find love 1.00

00:25:16.240 i don't know where do people meet people nowadays being a single gal in a single world where do i 1.00

00:25:24.880 go if i don't want to go on dating apps like i don't like dating apps i've had them i've tried

00:25:29.200 them i get disappointed i get discouraged it let's be you have to approach men in public men

00:25:34.240 are not gonna approach anymore we've we've let that sail how many men that you find attractive

00:25:39.840 do you go up to kevin samuels talked about this this is the world that feminists created it's time 1.00

00:25:45.360 to be proactive if you don't like the dating apps it's time to approach baby let's be real dating

00:25:51.440 apps if you're gonna think this person is attractive you're probably gonna swipe yes and

00:25:56.080 if you don't find them attractive you're gonna swipe no but sometimes people just aren't

00:26:00.000 photogenic they just don't present themselves well through photos that's why i just feel like

00:26:04.880 it's so much better to meet people in person also just like with having dating apps like

00:26:08.640 i just feel forced and i don't want it to feel forced i want to like go out in public meet

00:26:13.120 someone like in the wild both just having to bump into each other and you're like and then you know

00:26:19.040 sparks fly that i just want to know where like where do the single men go where are you going

00:26:23.760 where are you hanging out like if you're in the garage like come out like are you at the lake are

00:26:27.760 you snowmobile go to a sports game lots of single men go to sports games athletic events are you

00:26:34.000 fishing it's winter time what are you doing right now it's funny and how am i this amazing like

00:26:42.240 and single like are you kidding me and the humility is amazing she's got lots of men 1.00

00:26:47.600 love humble women so there's a lot of humility like for the longest time i just like wasn't

00:26:52.080 worried about it at this point i'm like i'm 31 what is happening like is there just no one left

00:26:59.040 put me on a dating show the bachelor the bachelorette do you really have you seen the caliber

00:27:06.000 of women that are the bachelorette do you really think really all right i just i don't understand

00:27:11.520 the delusion like women will come at me and they'll they'll say pearl you're this this this

00:27:15.840 of this and i just say look at i'm an average chick i'm a normal chick that's it i don't need

00:27:19.760 to be crazy good whatever whatever but it's like the audacity of some of these chicks will insult 1.00

00:27:27.360 me and i'm like who do you think you are like do you think you're that okay all right love island

00:27:32.960 i don't even care just put me somewhere so i can actually like interact with the male race

00:27:37.920 i'm not interacting with males anyways that's it thanks for that i have a theory you want to hear

00:27:45.960 my theory this is a dating theory that i just came up with so if you're an interesting woman 0.63

00:27:51.260 i don't care how attractive you are but let's say you're an interesting woman when i say interesting 1.00

00:27:55.420 i mean like ambitious smart funny maybe okay you probably have pretty high standards as to like

00:28:01.680 the kind of person successful women become victims of their own success it is very difficult for 0.99

00:28:08.000 successful women to find a man on their level so it leaves us a couple choices you either accept 1.00

00:28:14.080 that you will not date someone that makes as much money as you and women do it oprah has been with

00:28:19.280 her guy for a while you know they're they're the bumble founder you know or die alone or compete

00:28:26.060 and it's so funny i was talking to a successful chick the other day and all she does is work 1.00

00:28:30.440 she's not a hoe she's in shape and it was just so crazy because i kept giving her options of like 0.99

00:28:35.740 places to meet someone you know maybe try the apps try going here try going there and i thought

00:28:40.980 if you approach dating with the same tenacity that you approach every you know everything else

00:28:46.360 you're successful at you'd probably figure something out you know but what do i know what

00:28:51.620 does pearl know would get along with not necessarily even in dating in terms of friends just in general

00:28:56.780 it is hard to find a person that will keep you entertained because there's a lot going on in

00:29:01.480 your mind i mean guys can't we entertain ourselves please i never understood i just was always a

00:29:06.980 chick with hobbies i was always a chick with i was either trying to learn sports i was trying i was

00:29:12.740 trying to learn i love learning and i'm like there's so many things to do i mean i've been

00:29:18.000 taking a little time off of working you know how many things i've learned to cook in the last two

00:29:22.420 months i learned fried chicken i learned pad thai or stir fry sorry not not pad thai i learned um

00:29:28.860 banana bread i learned how to make power balls i learned how to make orange juice i learned how to

00:29:33.360 like i could there's more enough to think i took pictures i've improved my steak game that's come

00:29:38.500 up a lot um i'm learning sauces right now you can you can just go and learn anything the internet's

00:29:45.240 so cool because you can become such a talented person just by google and stuff you're not a

00:29:49.940 simple person you're sophisticated in that way now when i think of dating i think of it as almost

00:29:54.480 like entertainment okay and now we wonder why guys aren't dating you know come on you want to find

00:29:58.840 someone that'll keep you entertained you want someone that'll keep the plot going you want

00:30:02.200 someone that like whenever you spend time with them you don't know what's going to happen next

00:30:06.800 and so if you are that category of woman you're going to try to find a guy who always keeps you 1.00

00:30:12.880 guessing so whether that means he's super smart and interesting or that means he's a total douche

00:30:18.620 and doesn't actually like you and adds a lot of mystery and entertainment to your life you will

00:30:25.320 choose one of those two guys now the thing is that there aren't that many guys in the first

00:30:30.660 category that are interesting funny smart ambitious most of the nice guys at least

00:30:35.180 can be a little predictable and a little bit boring and so you end up going for category two

00:30:40.300 guys alpha fucks beta bucks women we admit this ourselves because at least they keep you 1.00

00:30:45.440 entertained in other yeah we look we look for the comfort from the beta guys and you know the fun 0.98

00:30:51.160 from the other guys the alpha guys am i right with this theory i totally think i've just

00:30:55.680 uncovered something the red pill figured this out 20 years ago super crazy what do you guys think 0.99

00:31:01.740 you are an idiot recently realized like just now that dating somebody isn't just two pretty people 1.00

00:31:07.240 frolicking in a field and looking at each other funny like i actually have to go near them i have 1.00

00:31:10.740 to pay for dates and i'm broke guys my bank account is negative 44 50 before anybody says you know

00:31:15.940 it's really normal for the younger generation to split dates it's really normal i don't really

00:31:20.340 mind honestly i mean i could go i could go either way i just don't care but you're a romantic maybe

00:31:26.160 you're asexual i have heard it all before i am not a romantic i am not asexual i am just atrocious 0.96

00:31:31.300 i just found out that i get the ick so easily and i think the biggest way that i get the ick is if 0.65

00:31:35.480 you're into me because then i'm like how low are you willing to go if you choose me it's huh real

00:31:42.360 vicious cycle that just concludes and begins with low self-esteem so then i cut myself off from

00:31:46.720 relationship opportunities i give it a couple weeks and then i'm like what was that what was

00:31:50.660 that freak out yeah it's time it's time to go to therapy and a male therapist let's get back or 0.99

00:31:56.300 improve you know why do you feel bad about yourself maybe you're a dumb bimbo that doesn't do anything 0.99

00:32:01.180 productive ever i mean then you might feel kind of bad because i think i can do it this time and i 0.97

00:32:05.840 never can i don't even think that i can afford to be romantic and if i ask my parents for money and

00:32:10.120 tell them it's to support my bumble lifestyle they will lock me in my room with nothing but 0.99

00:32:13.760 a dog bowl of holy water and bhs tapes of nuns might help you know also like love comes to you

00:32:23.400 when you least expect it shut up no that's not true you have to earn it love is earned men

00:32:29.760 understand they have to earn love women have to earn love from men that they actually like the 0.75

00:32:34.800 men we don't like typically you can just walk in and they'll like you anyway the men we actually

00:32:39.580 like you have to be in shape you have to get on his program you have to listen you can't argue

00:32:43.620 there's things that you have to do to earn those type of guys but other way around doesn't work so

00:32:48.660 much i have been trying to not expect it for like six years and also i was speaking to my friend

00:32:56.620 the other day and she was like well like are you like trying to like go out of your way to meet

00:33:00.840 people i'm like no because people are fucking telling me that it comes when you least expect 0.97

00:33:04.640 it so here i am like trying to convince myself i don't want it and i'm just not expecting it 0.89

00:33:09.060 so i can get it and it's not happening but then even when i go out of my way to like go on dating

00:33:13.540 apps it just never works because these people that i'm meeting on my cup of tea are not wanting

00:33:19.900 what i want they just want a casual thing and like as as someone who's never why do they want

00:33:24.260 a casual thing that's what we have to ask ourselves if all the guys just want a casual thing

00:33:28.780 men lock when they find a wife when they find a unicorn men lock it down or they try to they

00:33:34.540 attempt to so the question is what about you do men not like and i don't know i don't know

00:33:39.960 personally but we have to start asking these questions in order to get what we want so we

00:33:44.520 can improve on our weaknesses men understand they have to improve women i mean we're women

00:33:49.400 any kind of romantic entanglement i'm my first my first relationship is not going to be a

00:33:55.220 casual relationship and yeah yeah but what have you been doing since because these are the questions

00:34:00.960 men will ask what have you been doing the last six years you've been having casual relationships

00:34:05.820 unless you've been a virgin unless you're a virgin you haven't done anything the last six

00:34:09.760 years so why does the men that do the men that actually like you have to pay a higher price than

00:34:14.240 the men you gave it away to for free what one is it should i put myself out there or should i just

00:34:20.260 pretend that i'm not like oh i don't want a boyfriend i don't care these memes and she have

00:34:27.800 so much to pour into someone if she feels empty she doesn't want love she's desperate for love

00:34:34.860 and there's a major difference between those two she's trying to fill a void inside of herself

00:34:41.060 and the next man who commits to her will never be able to escape from her this is a potential

00:34:48.340 stalker in the making straight up stalker i don't know why women think meeting chads and tyrones 0.70

00:34:57.920 on dating apps is going to make any difference if they meet chads and tyrones in person 1.00

00:35:04.620 it's still going to be exactly the same result a pump and a dump it's inevitable if she's 1.00

00:35:12.900 ambitious smart funny and has high standards but can't tell the difference between a guy

00:35:19.280 who is intellectually stimulating and a guy who is simply treating her like

00:35:24.320 i would say she's not smart or has high standards yeah there's and that's the thing women we get 1.00

00:35:32.320 all these useless jobs and we think we're smarter than we actually are and instead of being grateful

00:35:37.220 like I am really grateful to be here guys I definitely had an advantage because I'm a woman 1.00

00:35:42.000 and I think I could say that easily happily and I'm grateful to be there instead women shit on 1.00

00:35:47.400 the men that aren't in their position when they don't have that head start but let me know what 0.95

00:35:51.420 you guys think in the comments make sure you subscribe to the channel like the video I'll

00:35:55.180 talk to you next time

Pearl - January 06, 2026

35 Mins of Women Complaining About Having to Approach Men!!!

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