Pearl - January 23, 2024Arrogant Women Instantly REGRETTED Divorcing Men？
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Summary
Divorce is one of the most painful decisions you can make in your life, especially when you ve been in a relationship for a long time and have been with the same person for 20+ years. It can be so painful to leave your spouse, especially if you re not used to it.
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fact that the quietness and the emptiness in your home when you don't have your spouse or your
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children is deafening you have to really get comfortable with being alone and it's very
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uncomfortable or or here this could be a better one i made a mistake i would never hear these
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women say that they up what up guys welcome to the just hurley things youtube channel and welcome to
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my reaction series today i'm going to be reacting to woman instantly regrets divorcing her husband
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I wasn't prepared for feeling that way, even when you're not together.
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Today, we will review some more crying divorced women
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who just cannot seem to understand that the grass isn't always greener on the other side.
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What's the one thing you wish everyone around you knew about getting divorced?
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Everyone always prepares you that whenever you're going through a divorce, losing...
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You go through a grieving process, grieving for the loss of your marriage,
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um but one thing that they really don't prepare you for is the loss of a friend the loss of your
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best friend i mean what did you think was gonna happen it's like women ruin their whole families
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they're confused when they lose their husband the person that you always wanted to tell
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you know tell your day and to tell you know your small wins and your small victories
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and um i don't i wasn't prepared for that i wasn't prepared for feeling that way even when
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you're not together and haven't been together um just having that desire to have them as a friend
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again just another day and another modern woman making an impulse decision to divorce her husband
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without really thinking about the consequences.
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I have interviewed over a thousand people on my show
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who divorced their husbands for damn near no reason.
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They think the grass is greener on the other side.
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And a lot of times it's lonely with a bunch of cats.
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And that's why Kevin Samuels would say to, bye dog, die alone.
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I bet that she was convinced that leaving her husband was a good idea
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by listening to some divorced guru woman on the internet
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Most women go to the internet not for learning,
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but to find someone that will validate the idea that they already had in their mind.
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Because deep down, they are not doing the right thing.
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Is there anyone out there in TikTok land that can tell me what you're supposed to do with your life when you've been in a relationship for 20 plus years with the same person?
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You have children, you have, you know, built a life.
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Stay. Stay. That's what they're going to say. Stay.
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And then all of a sudden that life is no longer.
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Why? Tell me why. Why is it no longer? Who filed?
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What are you supposed to do with your life? Like, I work, I'm a registered nurse, so I have a career, I guess. I have nurses, we've been telling you guys about the nurses.
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hobbies i have like i don't know a house i have all the things that i guess you need
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to live the life but i i don't know how i don't like do you do you date other people like do you
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do you sort of like i just don't know i want to focus on myself i want to be happy but see she
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she's talking about what she wants and that's what women do women just never think about what
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their kids want, what their husband wants. It's always me, me, me. What I want. I want to, I just,
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I want, I want, I want to heal from this. That's another thing. I'm so tired of hearing about
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healing. I'm so tired of hearing about healing. What do you guys need to heal from? You know,
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healing used to be like an injury, maybe war that used to be trauma. Now it's, all right, all right,
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whole process that I've been in. But I also want to live life. Like I also want to have fun.
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I don't want it to be all about being miserable and feeling sad and just going through the motions of life because my relationship, my marriage broke down.
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If you weren't happy in your marriage, you're not going to be happy outside of it.
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I know that most of you just wanted to jump on your screens when you heard the infamous phrase,
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I just want to be happy. Trust me, me too. It's the same story over and over and over again and
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again and again. It's all about me, me, me, me, without even knowing what they really want. But
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then they get shocked when the ex-husband move on with his life like in our next clip.
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My husband fell in love with my best friend. Now ex-husband, ex-best friend, but they fell in love.
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it's now been four years and i wanted to share a very important lesson that i learned the people
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that are meant to be in your life will be in your life nothing will stop them from simply being in
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your life if it's so easy for women we have no friends the more i see this stuff i'm like we
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have zero friends yeah and to leave then they were never truly meant to be with you long term
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anyways also i see people begging people to stay in their life you really want someone in your life
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that you have to beg for no thank you and if you're really fighting for someone to stay don't
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you value and respect yourself enough to just let them go i know that divorce is really hard and i
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know that sitting in the loneliness is really hard but it's way better than begging and pleading for
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someone to see your worth and your value you are worth so much more than that and i hope you see
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that so from one heartbreak to another i see you and i love you it's amazing how these women will
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always try to play it cool as if they are not jealous hurt and bitter when they see their
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husbands moving on but you can see the anger and disappointment through her just in case you want
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more affirmation on how her life is miserable i went through her page and here is one of her
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latest video where she admit on how miserable her life really is so there are some crucial things
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that people don't talk about after you go through it sometimes these women talk i'm like what are
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try to make a hallmark movie see like the music in the background playing and everything the fact
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that the quietness and the emptiness in your home when you don't have your spouse or your children
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is deafening you have to really get comfortable with being alone and it's very uncomfortable
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you could or or here this could be a better one i made a mistake i would never hear these women
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say that they up it's always i up because i was young i was not like men in general some of you
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guys act like women i won't even lie to you you'll be like oh i messed up because of the it's no but
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in general in general women it's like it's never i just i messed up i was wrong i'm sorry it's like
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this rationalization like you don't think if it's been four years and your house is empty something's
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maybe not going right i don't know realize that you are now the center stage of all conversation
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in your friend group because you're now living this wild and fun life because you're no longer
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attached to anybody and i don't know about you but i spent a lot of my time crying and eating pizza
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and drinking wine in the bathtub oh but live your best life girl single is glamorized in today's
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society and people are saying yes good for being single and you should really tattoos nose ring
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enjoy it it's so freeing when really you lost your purpose because you've been supporting this person
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for x amount of years and supporting their aspirations and and their goals and their
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dreams and their desires and you lost yourself along the way so now you yeah it's beautiful you
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get to find yourself and but it's hard to sit in that and be like oh who the am i so maybe be a
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little bit more gentle on the single people in your life all these strong independent happy single
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living my best life women you see on the internet have the same sad story behind close doors they
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are all crying miserable lonely depressed bitter and angry women my thing is if you didn't want to
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be with him that's fine i mean i don't advocate for it but okay that that was your choice deal
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with your choice but my question is why do you care if you moved he moved on you you didn't want
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him so if you didn't want him why are you mad when he wants someone else it doesn't make any
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to lead more women astray so that they can all be miserable because we know that misery loves
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company and it's sad that so many young women keep falling for their lies i have a bonus clip
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for you that shows the consequences of how i love him james sexton he's great government
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incentivizing women to divorce their husbands i do divorces for people that you know a woman
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walks out with two three hundred million dollars he was an analyst at goldman sachs who built a
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hedge fund and then sold it and then used his trading algorithm to build it up to 500 million
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dollars she was hot that'll do it slept with him for a while and then stopped and started sleeping
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with other people and playing tennis and having botox and she's going to get half like that's
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incredible like you know what he had to do to get that and it's so funny women will take all the
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credit. Like if you ask that woman, she built a man. That's another thing I'm tired of. Ladies,
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ladies, ladies, cooking, cleaning, and being supportive is not the same thing as building a
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man. I mean, did you mentor him? No. Did you invest in his business first? No. Did you pay
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for his education? No. Okay. So shut up. I mean, you cook. I mean, so can some chick for $12 an
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hour like it's not you know it's not that hard anyways yeah i'll that guy for 200 million dollars
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are you kidding me like that's insane that's incredible fellas as long as these family laws
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are still in place you're gonna that's the thing they want men to be traditional but they always
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want the men to do it first they don't want society to do it first and the unfortunate thing
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is men can't be traditional in this society it doesn't work they literally cannot do it because
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as long as you have a law, as long as you have a divorce law as an incentive structure that pays
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women to leave, I mean, how can men be traditional and count on them staying? So, um, let me know what
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