Pearl - ASKING THE PEOPLE： Should Mothers Get Custody？

00:00:00.000 Do you have an opinion? Nothing?

00:00:02.800 In the court's eyes, a woman is the better fit. 1.00

00:00:06.220 Why? Why do you think that is? 1.00

00:00:07.740 It's just I would always fit.

00:00:09.200 You just know that's a guy that's been so great.

00:00:11.280 Well, I'm asking people what they think.

00:00:13.600 I'm the question asker. You can't do that to me.

00:00:16.760 You know, guys, I just turned 18, so I'm going to go party.

00:00:20.100 So see you guys later.

00:00:21.420 All right. What's up, guys? Welcome to my YouTube channel.

00:00:24.120 Today we're at a baseball game,

00:00:25.840 and we are going to ask people why they think that mothers get custody of children and not

00:00:30.440 fathers. Let's see what the people have to say. Like the video on your way in, subscribe and

00:00:35.220 let's get started. I'm asking people why do you think mothers get custody of children and not 0.55

00:00:39.180 fathers? Like I kind of don't get it. Well what do you mean what do you not get? Like do mothers

00:00:44.500 get custody? So like when there's a divorce why is it that the mother gets custody and not the dad?

00:00:51.040 well i think because women are better caregivers probably i think that's just what the system 0.97

00:00:58.080 assumes do you think they actually are well women are naturally better caregivers 0.77

00:01:05.580 if that was true then why do their kids grow up to be drug dealers criminals like if you look at 0.72

00:01:11.980 criminals they're mostly from single mother homes so the data is not reflecting that women are better 0.76

00:01:18.180 with children so why do they get custody well they yeah they're better caregivers but obviously

00:01:24.180 in the household it's best to have both parents to get like two different opinions yeah how do

00:01:30.740 you think it's different than kidnapping so like if a father has a kid and the mother can file a

00:01:38.420 restraining order on him and then he only gets to see the kid four days a month how is that any

00:01:44.420 different than kidnapping oh that's a good question uh do you know any do you know any

00:01:52.400 fathers that are struggling with custody yeah actually a friend from work he he barely got

00:01:58.240 to see his son for the first time in a lot of years do you think that it's like similar to

00:02:04.400 kidnapping or no yeah actually yeah yeah my cousin from california is in the same situation

00:02:11.560 Yeah, I mean, I agree with you.

00:02:13.460 Well, thanks for the interview.

00:02:14.760 I appreciate it.

00:02:16.340 Oh, she said?

00:02:18.540 I've been divorced about 35 years ago.

00:02:20.900 Okay.

00:02:21.360 And I have managing custodial of my children, 0.65

00:02:24.440 so mothers don't always get custody of their children. 0.99

00:02:27.300 Why do you think they get it the majority of the time? 1.00

00:02:29.300 Because they're usually better caregivers and they're nurturers. 1.00

00:02:33.400 Mothers have motherly features and men do not. 0.90

00:02:36.400 Men have impregnation features.

00:02:38.580 Well, if that were true, then why do they raise such bad kids? 0.70

00:02:41.800 Like the statistics, yeah, the statistics, the most criminals are from single mother homes, not single father homes. 0.51

00:02:48.240 But single fathers are busy working and they don't take care of their kids for the most part. 0.67

00:02:52.160 That's what part of that is. 0.51

00:02:53.620 But if that were true, then why are the single fathers have the same outcomes as two parents? 0.53

00:02:58.840 So like if you look at that. 0.50

00:03:00.060 So single fathers have more income. 1.00

00:03:02.480 Usually single mothers have less income. 0.96

00:03:04.660 And income makes a big difference in how you can raise your children. 1.00

00:03:09.380 But they get child...

00:03:10.400 Mothers without income or without child support especially struggle the most.

00:03:14.620 Dads just abandon them most of the time. 0.51

00:03:16.260 Right, but with child support they do...

00:03:18.540 What percentage of mothers abandon their children compared with fathers that abandon their children?

00:03:23.660 Well, the fathers are robbed if they don't.

00:03:27.760 They're not robbed. They're supposed to take care of their children.

00:03:30.040 Child support is collected automatically from the state because those people are gone. 0.98

00:03:34.660 Right, so that kind of disproves your logic because then the single mothers have more. 0.99

00:03:39.280 I was stating my particular case. 0.96

00:03:40.860 Well, but I'm saying like they have more money because they get the child support.

00:03:44.220 Most men don't get child support. 0.99

00:03:45.380 Most of the time they have more money because usually men earn more money for the same crap than women do. 0.97

00:03:50.480 And women are also taking off more because they have to raise their children. 1.00

00:03:54.040 They're going to be giving birth to the children. 1.00

00:03:58.280 so society has put women in a second class compared to men because they're childbearing

00:04:04.740 that's what i think you know because i think like i feel like mothers should have custody of children

00:04:09.800 you know they hold them i don't forget how long you know mom supposed to hold a kid in the stomach

00:04:13.460 so i feel like they know how to treat you know kids better and stuff like that and i'm not

00:04:17.480 knocking the shade on the dads you know dads do know how to do a lot too you know but i feel like

00:04:21.600 mothers you know mothers deserve the custody of the kid you know why do you think they keep 0.62

00:04:26.120 throwing them in dumpsters? Like the baby? You've seen those in the news? No, I ain't seen that. I ain't seen that. Yeah, I don't know about that. That's wild though. Yeah, that's terrible. Don't do that. You know guys, I just turned 18, so I'm gonna go party, so see you guys later. Okay, see ya. Thank you. So why do you think they get custody if they have high rates of abuse? Oh, because there's a bias in the courts, of course, but uh. Because they belong with their mothers. You think so? Yeah. Do you think? If they're not abusive, if they're good mothers. 1.00

00:04:56.120 Are they taking care of them?

00:04:58.500 So why do you think it's not 50-50 if the fathers are good fathers?

00:05:03.100 Well, then it should be 50-50. 0.79

00:05:05.840 So I guess the question is why do the mothers get custody instead of it being 50-50?

00:05:10.840 Like the majority of the time in Texas, it's like 92% of the time.

00:05:15.580 I think it's hard to believe that, you know, 92% of dads are bad, right?

00:05:19.420 Yeah, that's true.

00:05:20.920 that should be considered more.

00:05:24.640 I mean, especially if they're a good, responsible father.

00:05:28.520 Empathy type of thing.

00:05:31.460 Mothers are more empathetic?

00:05:34.200 Well, no, I think more of the public is empathetic to mothers.

00:05:38.080 Probably they're going to think,

00:05:39.180 oh, the guy's not going to have time for the kids either way,

00:05:41.420 so they just give them to the mother.

00:05:43.640 Do you think that guys make time for their kids?

00:05:46.020 uh my honest opinion i don't really think so really yeah so like the fathers you know you

00:05:54.060 don't think they make time not that they don't make time is they probably don't have that much

00:05:59.000 time since they have to worry about other things hello you're gonna do the question of the day

00:06:04.260 have a good one because we love them so much more you think you love them more than fathers

00:06:12.760 No, I'm teasing. I don't know. I was a single mom, so I just, I don't know.

00:06:27.160 Being a single mom, I think I was capable of doing everything. I had the strength and

00:06:32.080 the will to be everything that I needed to be for my kids.

00:06:36.460 So if mothers take custody from the father, and the dad can only see the kids a few days,

00:06:42.760 a month how is it different than kidnapping i can't answer that okay i think the father should

00:06:52.600 see their children as often as they want if they want to i think i think they should have

00:06:58.760 all the time with them that they want yeah why do you think it is i think it's because

00:07:04.600 get child support you get child support um how is it different than kidnapping a mother taking

00:07:13.960 custody from the father it's it's the mother it's not kidnapping you know if if the father

00:07:20.720 doesn't do the right things then the mother's supposed to be taking care of the child you know

00:07:24.900 but if he does do the right thing and the mother you know women we change our mind we want to leave

00:07:29.980 and then now he only gets to see his kid four days a month.

00:07:33.220 How is it different than kidnapping from the father?

00:07:37.160 It is kidnapping.

00:07:38.440 Yeah, you think so?

00:07:39.300 Do you know any fathers struggling with getting custody of their kids? 1.00

00:07:42.520 I know our ladies. 1.00

00:07:43.540 I know our mothers has this issue, not our fathers.

00:07:47.240 They take their children and they go to different states, you know,

00:07:50.300 and they don't let the mother see the child anymore.

00:07:52.280 Really, so you know a mother that actually can't get custody of her kids? 1.00

00:07:57.020 She can. 1.00

00:07:58.300 She can? 0.67

00:07:58.980 She can.

00:07:59.520 Okay. 0.92

00:07:59.980 yeah okay well thank you very much nobody's gonna take care of the child as a mother you know right 1.00

00:08:05.980 but if that's true then why are there so many stories of women like throwing the babies in 1.00

00:08:10.300 dumpsters and like because they don't want to be responsible yeah but like why do we automatically 1.00

00:08:16.060 assume the mother is more responsible because it's it's it's their job to take care of the

00:08:22.460 children you know and the man has to be responsible responsible for the house you know for bills and

00:08:27.260 everything right but when we look into like the data it says that the dads raise better kids than

00:08:32.620 the mothers yeah i know it's it's not if you look at like um criminals most of them come from single

00:08:38.380 mother not single father homes for real never never heard about that yeah um but now that you

00:08:45.340 know that would does it change your perspective at all or no maybe yeah for sure yeah reality 1.00

00:08:50.460 goes all for children you know yeah because when you think about it women were um 0.54

00:08:54.540 um we're too chaotic you've been you've married girlfriend yeah you don't notice where we spend

00:09:02.080 too much money we like are chaotic no no so you don't think so at all me and my ex we are separated

00:09:08.820 we have one daughter you know she lived with my ex i see her like once every week you know but

00:09:13.640 she take care of the baby she loves her so much you know so for you it works it's okay yeah it's

00:09:18.980 for me it works yeah all right well thank you so much i appreciate it uh pearl it's just if you

00:09:24.860 google pearl davis it'll come up pearl like spongebob pearl how's it going everybody because

00:09:30.900 we're the best we're the best because we care about our children and we're nurturing you think

00:09:36.920 more than fathers yes um so if that's true this one but my first one really so if that's true why

00:09:45.420 the outcome's better from single father homes than single mother homes. Oh that's really interesting.

00:09:50.380 Like single father homes the kids almost turn out the same. I think it honestly depends on the

00:09:54.780 person to be honest. So if a father's doing the right thing and completely wants to be in his

00:10:01.500 kid's life and the mother decides to file a restraining order she can actually take him

00:10:06.780 out of the father's life completely. How is that any different than kidnapping? It's not. It's not?

00:10:12.860 okay well thank you very much i appreciate it what do you think about um if a mother can file

00:10:18.300 a restraining order against a father and get primary custody how is that any different than

00:10:23.340 kidnapping i guess it just depends on the reason of the restraining order but i wouldn't really

00:10:34.140 consider it kidnapping if there's a valid reason well you don't need evidence to file one

00:10:39.980 that is true uh do you know anybody that's struggling with custody no no no no not

00:10:48.340 all right well thank you very much i appreciate it yeah

00:10:52.940 well i'm asking people what they think i'm the i'm the question asker you can't do that to me

00:11:00.340 you know why i asked you that question yeah because i had a son my mom i still have a son

00:11:09.060 he had two children uh-huh and the mother was not appropriate mother but you know they give

00:11:15.220 the dad such a hard time trying to get the children so that's why do mothers get custody

00:11:19.700 so i just think it's a normal thing to do is the mother how is it any different than kidnapping

00:11:25.780 so if the mothers can just take the kids from the dad right it's like 50 percent is

00:11:32.260 yeah how is it any different than kidnapping because what would it happen if the father

00:11:37.180 took the kid from the mother oh god he's going down right yeah so why can mothers just take

00:11:42.360 him from the fathers yes that's that's a good question but the law yeah the way the law is

00:11:49.620 How common do you think this is?

00:11:54.060 Do you know other men like your son that have had trouble?

00:11:57.960 Not really.

00:11:58.880 Not really.

00:11:59.580 But when we got, he joined a group of fathers.

00:12:02.600 So they're out there.

00:12:03.980 Yeah.

00:12:04.440 It's just you don't hear about it. 0.94

00:12:06.220 It's more, let's protect the mothers.

00:12:08.720 Why do you think we hear so much more about women's problems than men's issues? 0.97

00:12:14.300 I think women are more vocal in that situation. 0.68

00:12:17.580 Yeah.

00:12:17.900 all right thank you so much Cynthia did he ever um how old's your son now

00:12:23.960 did he ever get custody of the kids or not really no yeah did they ever get a side of the story

00:12:32.060 and they always favor the the woman but I think they should look into who is the better candidate

00:12:41.060 for that do you know any fathers struggling with custody yeah my my uncle they took all his kids

00:12:48.180 and how often does he get to see him now uh just uh like every like one three times a month like

00:12:57.860 just a weekend one weekend out of the month and how is that different than kidnapping

00:13:03.140 i don't know about that but i get the question yeah but i don't know like do you think a father

00:13:09.140 could make a mother only see her kids three times a month no no and like it wouldn't like law

00:13:15.300 enforcement get involved right yeah so how is it like different than kidnapping yeah i see yeah

00:13:24.900 no yeah i appreciate the question it was nice to meet you nice to meet you

00:13:28.900 do you know any fathers struggling with custody no

00:13:32.420 see my son actually they were they were separated but I mean he took care of them too they stayed

00:13:45.840 with him a lot more than they did their mom so your son actually got custody not really they

00:13:53.560 they had joint custody okay so it was like 50 50 yeah but they stayed with him most of the time

00:13:59.500 Yeah, but now they're divorced and my grandkids are grown up.

00:14:06.700 And they both came out great.

00:14:08.880 They both got good jobs.

00:14:10.960 When it comes to primary parents, there's research coming out that actually the kids are better with the fathers.

00:14:17.220 So it kind of just, we're asking the question.

00:14:19.720 That's a good point because that's where my son lives.

00:14:22.760 Question of the day, would you guys like to answer? 0.83

00:14:25.160 We're asking why mothers get custody of kids. 0.82

00:14:29.500 I wouldn't even know. 0.97

00:14:31.500 Well, why do you think it is?

00:14:34.500 He's like, I don't know.

00:14:36.500 Do you have an opinion?

00:14:38.500 Nothing? 1.00

00:14:39.500 In the court's eyes, a woman is the better fit. 1.00

00:14:42.500 Why? 1.00

00:14:43.500 Why do you think that is?

00:14:44.500 It's just I would always fit. 0.98

00:14:46.500 You just know that's a guy that's been screwed. 0.94

00:14:48.500 It's unfair, isn't it? 0.98

00:14:50.500 Sometimes.

00:14:51.500 Yeah.

00:14:52.500 Yeah.

00:14:53.500 Unfair for the men most of the time.

00:14:55.500 Yeah. 0.99

00:14:56.500 regardless of the status of the man it doesn't matter the woman is she could be terrible but 1.00

00:15:03.660 as long as she got a house or whatever she's good and then the kid gets to go with her how do you 0.99

00:15:09.380 think it's different than kidnapping it's their mother and their mother is that the kid is a

00:15:17.200 more willing to be with the person yeah other than kidnapping you use a stranger yeah but in a way

00:15:24.820 like if you know the father is full custody and then he goes to two or three days a month

00:15:29.620 you know how is it any different than having his kid kidnapped

00:15:35.620 in the law eyes it's not different and the law is different but the law is vague

00:15:40.420 the law is uh one-sided do you know any fathers struggling with custody

00:15:46.660 pretty much a lot of fathers now probably thank you so much

00:15:49.300 We're actually going through one.

00:15:52.760 Really?

00:15:53.260 You want to tell me really quick?

00:15:55.160 We're about to miss the first pitch.

00:15:57.020 30 seconds.

00:15:57.840 30 seconds.

00:15:58.480 It won't take any longer. 1.00

00:15:59.640 Why do mothers get custody of children? 1.00

00:16:01.540 I'll walk with you. 0.97

00:16:02.740 Mothers get custody of children because historically they're more stable. 0.95

00:16:07.660 So, in my situation. 0.68

00:16:09.600 Do you agree?

00:16:10.420 In my situation.

00:16:11.060 I was going to say, we have two moms at work. 0.53

00:16:13.800 Two mom situations, so it's hard.

00:16:15.420 So you guys are both going and trying to get custody now?

00:16:17.880 No, we have custody, but it's been fine because we have custody.

00:16:21.560 Okay.

00:16:22.360 Yeah.

00:16:23.220 So what about when the dad's a good dad?

00:16:27.180 Do you think it should be 50-50?

00:16:28.920 Yes.

00:16:29.180 What if he's not abusive?

00:16:29.840 Absolutely.

00:16:30.200 Oh, for sure.

00:16:31.220 Do you know any fathers struggling to get custody of their kids?

00:16:34.120 Personally, no.

00:16:35.200 No.

00:16:35.580 No.

00:16:35.940 No.

00:16:36.580 So.

00:16:37.420 No, I mean, not I wish, but, like, no.

00:16:40.060 Because I agree with you, like, in a heterosexual relationship.

00:16:43.160 If they're a good parent, they have 50-50.

00:16:43.880 No matter, yeah.

00:16:44.680 so what made like what's the problem with you guys is oh here it's okay you can go

00:16:49.260 you want to answer the question of the day yeah we're asking sure so we're asking why

00:16:59.220 do mothers get custody of children

00:17:01.500 it depends on what state you're in and the rules are definitely not fair my sister's going through

00:17:10.000 a divorce right now where she's got pending uh i can walk with you if you want oh no it's fine

00:17:17.120 no but uh um abuse and stuff like that and it's so that's not always the case i just yeah but

00:17:24.980 the majority it's like around 90 of the time mothers get custody so it's like we don't think

00:17:30.260 that 90 of fathers are bad right yeah yeah so like statistics right yeah could i have my glasses oh

00:17:36.980 Yeah, sure.

00:17:37.760 Three shades, yeah.

00:17:38.820 Anything else?

00:17:40.420 Yeah, so my question is, how is taking custody from a father who's a good father any different than kidnapping?

00:17:48.820 Well, it's not.

00:17:50.420 Yeah.

00:17:51.060 But the courts have not figured out a way to define what's actually right and wrong.

00:17:56.560 Yeah.

00:17:56.740 So until they, you know, I think there's too much information that's never uncovered.

00:18:02.760 We're going to close out today.

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Pearl - June 11, 2026

ASKING THE PEOPLE： Should Mothers Get Custody？

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