Pearl - Attack of the Born Again Virgins!

00:00:00.000 From the time we started dating until the time we got married was literally less than six months.

00:00:04.100 The Bible says, rather you marry than burn with lust.

00:00:06.400 Just so you know, quick marriage usually signals not many options.

00:00:10.920 All right, so let's move on.

00:00:13.020 Doug MPA's got a clip for us.

00:00:15.420 A Mormon girl who's a born again virgin.

00:00:18.080 And look it, this isn't a bad deal for some of you guys. 1.00

00:00:20.660 Some of you guys are ugly, chopped, right? 0.99

00:00:23.200 And that's your only way to go is to go to church, 1.00

00:00:25.860 pretend to be a religious and then get a girl out of your league, right? 0.91

00:00:28.520 and unfortunately it would be a girl in your league but um because of the options that women 1.00

00:00:34.900 have which are like crazy it would kind of be out of your league does that make sense

00:00:39.580 okay let's go I don't think I've ever officially told you guys that I'm a born-again virgin I'm

00:00:45.560 waiting till marriage again I literally just recorded a whole podcast episode about this

00:00:48.960 but I grew up Mormon right like I grew up in the LDS religion a huge emphasis in that religion is

00:00:53.700 waiting until marriage okay so that had always been my goal in life even when I left the church

00:00:58.180 17 i was still like no like i'm still gonna wait like that's something that's genuinely really

00:01:01.860 important to me and then i moved out to college and i had a situation where i didn't get away

00:01:08.900 until marriage if you catch my drift and then from that yeah she whored out you know point on i was 0.99

00:01:13.300 like you know what i don't even care anymore like i tried my darndest to wait that got taken from me

00:01:18.500 so i literally just went and slept notice like look at that got taken from me it's not something

00:01:22.980 she did and enjoyed i mean come on like can we not the early sex is like the most exciting some 0.65

00:01:29.060 of the most exciting sex you have you know like let's just let's just keep it a buck i know she's 1.00

00:01:35.620 a mid but we're in america and america's fat so she's treated as above mid here with like guys 1.00

00:01:41.620 this is crazy that i'm telling you this on the internet but i literally slept with three different

00:01:45.380 guys within that two days two daytime period like that why did you say that oh my god i was like

00:01:51.220 screw it and i can't do this anymore it was just very much a shame spiral and that's the situation

00:01:55.480 where i got herpes and chlamydia at the same time so like a week after that i oh my god i was feel

00:02:03.300 something was off something was weird and i like went down this whole google spiral and i was like

00:02:07.180 oh my gosh i think i have an std went to the urgent care i got the diagnosis i thought my

00:02:11.540 life was freaking over now here's what the story gets crazy the guy who r-worded me kept showing 0.80

00:02:16.140 up at work i had gotten laid off and now she was raped okay of course of course from like my 1.00

00:02:20.760 full-time job so i got like a random retail job and he kept showing up at my work and asking for

00:02:25.400 me and i was having the craziest panic attacks one of the reasons i ended up moving out of my

00:02:28.960 home state i was like i literally cannot be here anymore when i was 19 i packed up all my stuff

00:02:33.560 and i had this whole breakdown where one night i was like i have to leave i have to move and within

00:02:37.640 a month i moved out of utah i moved to austin texas and it's been three years since i left

00:02:43.100 utah so for two of those years i'm still pretty sexually active and then i start hearing myself

00:02:47.460 saying, Oh, all men want is all they want is to just like hook up and they want to be physical

00:02:51.420 and then they leave. And I start noticing myself becoming very jaded. And I had to look at myself

00:02:56.140 and say, Beth, we're not complainers. We don't sit here and complain and go, Oh, I'm the victim.

00:02:59.960 What are you going to do about it? You notice this pattern of guys, are you going to sit here

00:03:03.680 and complain that guys suck? Or are you going to take this into your own hands and set a boundary 0.98

00:03:07.380 for yourself? Around this time, I also had an experience with someone named Utah boy who showed

00:03:11.600 me what it was like to have experiences with someone you actually love. And I was like, Oh

00:03:16.440 my gosh this is what it's supposed to feel like last april is when i finally made the decision

00:03:21.020 i had a guy sleeping over and i was like i can't i can't do this anymore like i literally 0.93

00:03:25.440 never want to do this again in my entire life you imagine you're about to bang a girl with herpes

00:03:29.740 and she turns you down it's got to be incredible what an experience life until it's my husband the

00:03:35.140 next person that i am giving myself to like in this intimate way they're going to be literally

00:03:40.120 contractually obligated to love me for the rest of the freaking lives okay they are i can't do

00:03:44.920 anymore i cannot be meaningless anymore i need depth i need connection i need comfort i need

00:03:51.240 safety here's what's so vulnerable is i don't know what's normal anymore like i don't know

00:03:56.440 what it's supposed to feel like i don't know like what's normal but what i do know is that intimacy

00:04:01.420 is supposed to equal safety not just lust that was a hard lesson to learn that took a lot a lot

00:04:07.500 of pain but with the amount of like traumatic experiences that i've had with intimacy in order

00:04:12.320 for me to start healing I gotta take a step back first I need to remove myself from that situation

00:04:17.300 and then allow that person who was going to be that safety that comfort that person they're

00:04:21.880 gonna have to wait there I'm gonna put them for the freaking ringer okay if they want to literally

00:04:26.080 touch me and like there's a wall here show me first show me who you are show me I'm safe with 0.74

00:04:31.000 you first and that's why I'm waiting again and whenever I say that people are like oh why not

00:04:34.280 just like wait until you're dating someone or wait until they're your fiance because my heart

00:04:39.020 okay because of my tender little heart because of my yeah so then again they never tell her

00:04:43.900 it's not about the sex like the sex like it doesn't really matter that much when you give 0.89

00:04:50.420 a guy sex if you're a good woman you know 17 year old self who first lost that first experience when 1.00

00:04:58.560 she was r-worded when she was 17 and then again when she was 18 and then a myriad of other

00:05:03.360 experiences where i'm like no i am putting my foot down for my past self and for my future self just

00:05:10.220 out of like protection and out of love for myself yeah okay cooked here's another one my husband and

00:05:15.020 i waited for marriage girl i do not regret it i'm gonna take you on a little story time okay

00:05:19.420 he had been saved since he was four i had been walling out in the trenches of the world he had

00:05:25.860 been a virgin his whole life i had been far from okay that's where we're starting we got together

00:05:31.080 when I had been saved for about a year

00:05:32.700 and he had been single for about 10.

00:05:34.640 I had been single for about three minutes.

00:05:36.380 It wasn't three minutes.

00:05:37.260 It was longer than that.

00:05:38.100 I had a single season with Jesus,

00:05:39.440 but it wasn't very long, okay?

00:05:40.900 And so when we got together,

00:05:42.020 the Lord had to put his hand so graciously

00:05:43.540 on our relationship and give us strength

00:05:45.580 because your girl was not so fond of patience, you know?

00:05:50.200 From the time we started dating

00:05:51.360 until the time we got married

00:05:52.460 was literally less than six months.

00:05:54.280 The Bible says, rather you marry than burn with less.

00:05:56.440 Just so you know, the quick marriage

00:05:58.640 usually signals uh not many options per both one or both parties and we said say no more but for

00:06:06.000 real we both had confirmation from the lord that we were going to get married we knew very early

00:06:09.600 on a week into our relationship that we were going to be husband and wife so we start dating

00:06:13.600 we start loving each other okay i don't need to hear the rest of this we already know where this

00:06:18.160 is going to go okay this woman's not going to get to the point i feel comfortable talking about this 1.00

00:06:22.880 on social media but i woke up with the urge to share it and that is if you and your boyfriend

00:06:29.260 have made the notice this guy says if only she had a dad i know women with and without dads that 1.00

00:06:34.860 have poured out it's the woman's choice not the man's choice it's the woman making a choice

00:06:40.880 to wait till marriage stick to it there are so many podcasts and pastors and youtube videos

00:06:48.740 and interviews you can listen to about how to be successful in that and they all say

00:06:53.220 make firm boundaries and when they say that they mean it we heard that my boyfriend and I and we

00:07:01.100 kind of took it with a grain of salt we went a year without having sex and then once we moved

00:07:06.340 long distance that like rush of emotions when you see each other if you don't have the right

00:07:11.400 boundaries put in place it will win and it did and we fell and it took us a while to get

00:07:18.080 see notice we fell like look every time in my life i have gluck gluck 9 000 i wanted to gluck 0.89

00:07:24.240 gluck there is no there is no falling i mean it's like you get horny and you get naked do

00:07:29.840 you know what i mean like how did you how the did you guys fall how did you fall into on the

00:07:34.400 the day like do you know what I mean it's like

00:07:36.400 bruh

Pearl - March 28, 2026

Attack of the Born Again Virgins!

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