Pearl - March 28, 2026


Attack of the Born Again Virgins!


Episode Stats

Length

7 minutes

Words per Minute

228.66492

Word Count

1,747

Sentence Count

19

Misogynist Sentences

7

Hate Speech Sentences

3


Summary

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A Mormon girl who s a born-again virgin talks about her experience with herpes and how it affected her sex life and how she dealt with it. She also talks about why she left the church at age 17 and why she decided to leave the religion.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 From the time we started dating until the time we got married was literally less than six months.
00:00:04.100 The Bible says, rather you marry than burn with lust.
00:00:06.400 Just so you know, quick marriage usually signals not many options.
00:00:10.920 All right, so let's move on.
00:00:13.020 Doug MPA's got a clip for us.
00:00:15.420 A Mormon girl who's a born again virgin.
00:00:18.080 And look it, this isn't a bad deal for some of you guys.
00:00:20.660 Some of you guys are ugly, chopped, right?
00:00:23.200 And that's your only way to go is to go to church,
00:00:25.860 pretend to be a religious and then get a girl out of your league, right?
00:00:28.520 and unfortunately it would be a girl in your league but um because of the options that women
00:00:34.900 have which are like crazy it would kind of be out of your league does that make sense
00:00:39.580 okay let's go I don't think I've ever officially told you guys that I'm a born-again virgin I'm
00:00:45.560 waiting till marriage again I literally just recorded a whole podcast episode about this
00:00:48.960 but I grew up Mormon right like I grew up in the LDS religion a huge emphasis in that religion is
00:00:53.700 waiting until marriage okay so that had always been my goal in life even when I left the church
00:00:58.180 17 i was still like no like i'm still gonna wait like that's something that's genuinely really
00:01:01.860 important to me and then i moved out to college and i had a situation where i didn't get away
00:01:08.900 until marriage if you catch my drift and then from that yeah she whored out you know point on i was
00:01:13.300 like you know what i don't even care anymore like i tried my darndest to wait that got taken from me
00:01:18.500 so i literally just went and slept notice like look at that got taken from me it's not something
00:01:22.980 she did and enjoyed i mean come on like can we not the early sex is like the most exciting some
00:01:29.060 of the most exciting sex you have you know like let's just let's just keep it a buck i know she's
00:01:35.620 a mid but we're in america and america's fat so she's treated as above mid here with like guys
00:01:41.620 this is crazy that i'm telling you this on the internet but i literally slept with three different
00:01:45.380 guys within that two days two daytime period like that why did you say that oh my god i was like
00:01:51.220 screw it and i can't do this anymore it was just very much a shame spiral and that's the situation
00:01:55.480 where i got herpes and chlamydia at the same time so like a week after that i oh my god i was feel
00:02:03.300 something was off something was weird and i like went down this whole google spiral and i was like
00:02:07.180 oh my gosh i think i have an std went to the urgent care i got the diagnosis i thought my
00:02:11.540 life was freaking over now here's what the story gets crazy the guy who r-worded me kept showing
00:02:16.140 up at work i had gotten laid off and now she was raped okay of course of course from like my
00:02:20.760 full-time job so i got like a random retail job and he kept showing up at my work and asking for
00:02:25.400 me and i was having the craziest panic attacks one of the reasons i ended up moving out of my
00:02:28.960 home state i was like i literally cannot be here anymore when i was 19 i packed up all my stuff
00:02:33.560 and i had this whole breakdown where one night i was like i have to leave i have to move and within
00:02:37.640 a month i moved out of utah i moved to austin texas and it's been three years since i left
00:02:43.100 utah so for two of those years i'm still pretty sexually active and then i start hearing myself
00:02:47.460 saying, Oh, all men want is all they want is to just like hook up and they want to be physical
00:02:51.420 and then they leave. And I start noticing myself becoming very jaded. And I had to look at myself
00:02:56.140 and say, Beth, we're not complainers. We don't sit here and complain and go, Oh, I'm the victim.
00:02:59.960 What are you going to do about it? You notice this pattern of guys, are you going to sit here
00:03:03.680 and complain that guys suck? Or are you going to take this into your own hands and set a boundary
00:03:07.380 for yourself? Around this time, I also had an experience with someone named Utah boy who showed
00:03:11.600 me what it was like to have experiences with someone you actually love. And I was like, Oh
00:03:16.440 my gosh this is what it's supposed to feel like last april is when i finally made the decision
00:03:21.020 i had a guy sleeping over and i was like i can't i can't do this anymore like i literally
00:03:25.440 never want to do this again in my entire life you imagine you're about to bang a girl with herpes
00:03:29.740 and she turns you down it's got to be incredible what an experience life until it's my husband the
00:03:35.140 next person that i am giving myself to like in this intimate way they're going to be literally
00:03:40.120 contractually obligated to love me for the rest of the freaking lives okay they are i can't do
00:03:44.920 anymore i cannot be meaningless anymore i need depth i need connection i need comfort i need
00:03:51.240 safety here's what's so vulnerable is i don't know what's normal anymore like i don't know
00:03:56.440 what it's supposed to feel like i don't know like what's normal but what i do know is that intimacy
00:04:01.420 is supposed to equal safety not just lust that was a hard lesson to learn that took a lot a lot
00:04:07.500 of pain but with the amount of like traumatic experiences that i've had with intimacy in order
00:04:12.320 for me to start healing I gotta take a step back first I need to remove myself from that situation
00:04:17.300 and then allow that person who was going to be that safety that comfort that person they're
00:04:21.880 gonna have to wait there I'm gonna put them for the freaking ringer okay if they want to literally
00:04:26.080 touch me and like there's a wall here show me first show me who you are show me I'm safe with
00:04:31.000 you first and that's why I'm waiting again and whenever I say that people are like oh why not
00:04:34.280 just like wait until you're dating someone or wait until they're your fiance because my heart
00:04:39.020 okay because of my tender little heart because of my yeah so then again they never tell her
00:04:43.900 it's not about the sex like the sex like it doesn't really matter that much when you give
00:04:50.420 a guy sex if you're a good woman you know 17 year old self who first lost that first experience when
00:04:58.560 she was r-worded when she was 17 and then again when she was 18 and then a myriad of other
00:05:03.360 experiences where i'm like no i am putting my foot down for my past self and for my future self just
00:05:10.220 out of like protection and out of love for myself yeah okay cooked here's another one my husband and
00:05:15.020 i waited for marriage girl i do not regret it i'm gonna take you on a little story time okay
00:05:19.420 he had been saved since he was four i had been walling out in the trenches of the world he had
00:05:25.860 been a virgin his whole life i had been far from okay that's where we're starting we got together
00:05:31.080 when I had been saved for about a year
00:05:32.700 and he had been single for about 10.
00:05:34.640 I had been single for about three minutes.
00:05:36.380 It wasn't three minutes.
00:05:37.260 It was longer than that.
00:05:38.100 I had a single season with Jesus,
00:05:39.440 but it wasn't very long, okay?
00:05:40.900 And so when we got together,
00:05:42.020 the Lord had to put his hand so graciously
00:05:43.540 on our relationship and give us strength
00:05:45.580 because your girl was not so fond of patience, you know?
00:05:50.200 From the time we started dating
00:05:51.360 until the time we got married
00:05:52.460 was literally less than six months.
00:05:54.280 The Bible says, rather you marry than burn with less.
00:05:56.440 Just so you know, the quick marriage
00:05:58.640 usually signals uh not many options per both one or both parties and we said say no more but for
00:06:06.000 real we both had confirmation from the lord that we were going to get married we knew very early
00:06:09.600 on a week into our relationship that we were going to be husband and wife so we start dating
00:06:13.600 we start loving each other okay i don't need to hear the rest of this we already know where this
00:06:18.160 is going to go okay this woman's not going to get to the point i feel comfortable talking about this
00:06:22.880 on social media but i woke up with the urge to share it and that is if you and your boyfriend
00:06:29.260 have made the notice this guy says if only she had a dad i know women with and without dads that
00:06:34.860 have poured out it's the woman's choice not the man's choice it's the woman making a choice
00:06:40.880 to wait till marriage stick to it there are so many podcasts and pastors and youtube videos
00:06:48.740 and interviews you can listen to about how to be successful in that and they all say
00:06:53.220 make firm boundaries and when they say that they mean it we heard that my boyfriend and I and we
00:07:01.100 kind of took it with a grain of salt we went a year without having sex and then once we moved
00:07:06.340 long distance that like rush of emotions when you see each other if you don't have the right
00:07:11.400 boundaries put in place it will win and it did and we fell and it took us a while to get
00:07:18.080 see notice we fell like look every time in my life i have gluck gluck 9 000 i wanted to gluck
00:07:24.240 gluck there is no there is no falling i mean it's like you get horny and you get naked do
00:07:29.840 you know what i mean like how did you how the did you guys fall how did you fall into on the
00:07:34.400 the day like do you know what I mean it's like
00:07:36.400 bruh