Pearl - Beta Male Robbed Banks To Pay For His Wife's IVF Treatment

00:00:00.000 If you are thinking about IVF, it is going to be incredibly expensive.

00:00:04.480 The insurance didn't cover any of it, so we had to cover all of the costs,

00:00:07.660 both the medical procedures and the medication.

00:00:09.880 Yeah, he loved her.

00:00:11.360 He should have just found a new wife and said, 1.00

00:00:13.220 look, you got your tubes tied, I want a kid. 1.00

00:00:15.240 Sorry, next.

00:00:16.680 And that's when this sort of takes a direction that nobody was expecting

00:00:20.120 because the option that you chose was to rob a bank.

00:00:23.320 Why?

00:00:23.900 You know, whenever a guy does a bad thing,

00:00:26.640 a lot, not all the time, but a lot of the time, a woman really is behind it. 1.00

00:00:31.140 I mean, you guys got to start doing what women do to you back. 1.00

00:00:34.720 What up, guys?

00:00:35.580 Welcome to my reaction series.

00:00:37.400 And today I'm going to be reacting to a man who robbed banks to pay for an IVF treatment.

00:00:43.700 As you guys know, we keep waiting longer and longer and longer to have children

00:00:47.040 and men are the ones that are going to eventually have to pay for it. 0.95

00:00:49.860 When women make bad decisions or different decisions that maybe I could say, 1.00

00:00:54.340 don't, you guys will pay for it if we're a single mother, 1.00

00:00:57.060 we'll find one of you guys to take care of it.

00:00:59.040 If we're homeless, we'll make the government take care of us.

00:01:01.640 They just won't let us face the consequences for our decision.

00:01:04.960 So here we have a man who's robbing banks to pay for his wife's IVF.

00:01:09.220 Next guest was raised in Wales,

00:01:11.520 had an idyllic childhood with all the privileges of a private school education.

00:01:15.580 So how on earth did Reid Domingo end up spending nearly four years

00:01:19.340 in an American jail for bank robbery?

00:01:21.520 Well, Reid joins us now to share his remarkable story.

00:01:23.920 Welcome. Thank you for being here today.

00:01:25.780 This is really about a journey to becoming a parent,

00:01:29.560 that desire and what you will go to to become a father.

00:01:33.280 So just explain a little bit about the IVF journey

00:01:36.380 because this is your wife, Patrice.

00:01:38.480 She underwent nine rounds of IVF over five years.

00:01:42.480 So what was kind of the circumstances leading up to that?

00:01:45.020 Why was that so necessary?

00:01:47.260 Primarily because...

00:01:48.660 She doesn't even look that old that she got married. 1.00

00:01:50.740 In her early 20s, Patrice lost one fallopian tube through an ectopic pregnancy

00:01:56.140 and then after the delivery of her third child, she had the other tube cut 0.81

00:02:00.540 because she wasn't expecting to get divorced and let alone have any more children. 0.99

00:02:05.520 Aha.

00:02:05.740 So you had moved to America to work for your father's company, a biotech company,

00:02:12.340 and that's where you met Patrice and settled down in America.

00:02:16.520 Yeah.

00:02:17.060 And where we know that if you are thinking about IVF, it is going to be incredibly expensive.

00:02:24.060 And so tell us about that funding of, before we get onto the main story,

00:02:32.360 how difficult was it for you guys to pay for it?

00:02:35.980 What was at risk?

00:02:38.300 Yeah, so again, women make a decision, society will pay for it. 1.00

00:02:41.640 So women wanted to go to college, society started subsidizing education in the 70s.

00:02:46.720 Women wanted to wait to have kids, now the government's going to subsidize IVF. 1.00

00:02:51.420 So women, like if something's free from the government, just assume women are at the end of it. 1.00

00:02:56.800 As you said, the insurance didn't cover any of it.

00:02:59.200 So we had to cover all of the costs, both the medical procedures and the medication.

00:03:04.080 At the time when we first started this process, we both had good jobs.

00:03:08.120 As you said, I was working for my father as a director of sales

00:03:10.880 and Patrice was the regional director of 15 gyms for group exercise.

00:03:16.260 So we had the means to fund it ourselves to start off with.

00:03:19.760 And because we were just trying to circumvent or circumnavigate the fact that she didn't have any tubes,

00:03:25.000 we're both healthy individuals, it was supposed to be one time and that was supposed to be it.

00:03:30.520 So each round costs about approximately, say, $15,000 to do one round of IVF.

00:03:36.660 At least it was in 92.

00:03:37.760 So then by the end of that, you accumulate a debt of $250,000.

00:03:43.220 Because we did nine times.

00:03:44.840 A lot of money.

00:03:46.100 So you sort of, to pay for this, you liquidate nearly everything you own.

00:03:49.800 You remortgage the house.

00:03:50.880 So you're really trying to find a way.

00:03:52.180 Yeah, he loved her.

00:03:53.720 He should have just found a new wife and said, look, you got your tubes tied. 1.00

00:03:56.800 I want a kid.

00:03:57.860 Sorry, next.

00:03:59.340 Women do it to you guys all the time. 1.00

00:04:01.000 They have starter husbands. 1.00

00:04:02.580 I mean, you guys got to start doing what women do to you back. 1.00

00:04:06.180 Do you know what I mean?

00:04:06.760 Like, we do something to you guys and you guys are like, no, let me do the right thing.

00:04:10.420 No, no.

00:04:12.680 Do you know what I mean?

00:04:13.900 Way of pain.

00:04:14.980 Put the women on alimony. 1.00

00:04:16.520 Put the women on child support. 1.00

00:04:18.180 Tell the women that you're going to do better and you're just a starter wife. 1.00

00:04:22.080 Off this debt, there's nothing left to sell.

00:04:25.320 The debt's still very much there.

00:04:26.940 And that's when this sort of takes a direction that nobody was expecting.

00:04:30.560 Because the option that you chose was to rob a bank.

00:04:33.760 Why?

00:04:34.360 It's absolutely crazy.

00:04:35.560 And obviously, I never, never thought I would find myself in that situation.

00:04:39.960 This was obviously, you know, two, three.

00:04:41.680 You know, whenever a guy does a bad thing, a lot, not all the time, but a lot of the time,

00:04:46.680 a woman really is behind it. 1.00

00:04:48.940 Either it's the guy's messed up from his childhood, which was a woman. 1.00

00:04:51.960 Or he does something because he wants to make money for women.

00:04:56.240 Or he's trying to commit crimes so women will sleep with him. 0.92

00:04:59.620 Again, women. 1.00

00:05:00.400 Three years of heavy pressures, financial pressures that I was bearing.

00:05:05.060 And I was working for a bank by this time.

00:05:07.380 And even though I wasn't customer-facing, I went through bank training that told me what

00:05:12.440 you had to do in the event of a bank robbery.

00:05:14.520 And it was based on that training that was in conjunction with all of the pressures that

00:05:19.520 one day I just thought, you know, that's the solution.

00:05:22.280 Well, you were writing sort of software for them, I think.

00:05:25.320 Correct.

00:05:25.740 And so you'd sold everything.

00:05:27.980 The one thing you did keep was your motorcycle helmets because you loved your bikes, which

00:05:32.460 came in very handy because I think you ended up being called the Easy Rider Bandit, I think.

00:05:36.740 Yeah, the FBI always gives you a moniker.

00:05:38.620 Yeah.

00:05:39.480 And so these...

00:05:40.600 So because of this work with the bank, you do have access to these manuals.

00:05:44.260 And those manuals contain information that gave you the means to rob a bank, which you

00:05:50.520 were very casual about.

00:05:52.740 I mean, you'd carry on, you'd crack on with your day, rob a bank, and then crack on with

00:05:56.520 your day again.

00:05:57.040 Yeah, I don't want to sound flippant about it, but I basically used to schedule the bank

00:06:01.740 robberies during my lunchtime.

00:06:03.180 So because I was a software engineer, I'd come in very early in the morning, six o'clock.

00:06:10.920 So I would go to lunch around 9.30, 10 o'clock in the morning.

00:06:13.780 That was the time that I chose to rob a bank.

00:06:15.940 I would go out, rob a bank, go pick up some lunch, go back to work.

00:06:19.320 Well, you did one of them, wasn't it?

00:06:20.200 Your daughter was in the car.

00:06:21.380 Oh, OK.

00:06:22.020 Yeah.

00:06:24.320 That was in the afternoon.

00:06:25.660 It was like, we're all parents.

00:06:27.880 We know what it's like.

00:06:28.740 I was planning on robbing a bank that day.

00:06:31.140 And right before I was ready to leave, Patrice calls me and says, OK, don't forget, meet

00:06:35.260 me at the club so we can swap cars.

00:06:37.000 And don't forget, you're picking up our daughter, which we call Chummy. 0.50

00:06:41.100 You've got to pick up Chummy.

00:06:42.400 And it's like, oh, you're kidding me.

00:06:43.560 So I went, I picked up Chummy, and I was going to go to the gym.

00:06:48.000 And I looked over.

00:06:49.120 Chummy was fast asleep.

00:06:50.840 And I thought, if you're efficient, you can get this done.

00:06:53.180 So I drove to a bank, parked under a tree in the shades.

00:06:56.820 Chummy was fast asleep.

00:06:57.920 I went in.

00:06:58.580 I robbed the bank.

00:06:59.320 I came out.

00:07:00.020 I went to the gym.

00:07:01.160 I exchanged cards with Patrice, who berated me, you've got five minutes before your class

00:07:05.300 starts.

00:07:05.780 And it's like, sweetheart, I'm just robbing a bank, you know.

00:07:07.720 But she didn't know.

00:07:09.060 She didn't.

00:07:09.780 She had no idea.

00:07:10.540 Oh, my wife had no idea. 1.00

00:07:11.820 There is no way I could tell Patrice what I was doing.

00:07:15.500 Because I would burden her with that knowledge.

00:07:17.580 And every time we were out, if we saw a police officer or a police car, she would think,

00:07:22.220 is this the time to come?

00:07:23.320 Two of your best friends were police officers.

00:07:25.300 Yeah, the two people that I met when I first went to the United States in 1986.

00:07:29.820 Two of my best friends to this day.

00:07:32.340 One of them was the best man at my wedding.

00:07:34.560 One is a sergeant in the San Diego Police Department.

00:07:37.500 The other is the special agent in charge of the DEA.

00:07:40.320 Well, you did this for a year.

00:07:42.900 And then eventually, the FBI was contacted by a manager at a different bank who recognised

00:07:47.440 you as a customer.

00:07:48.580 Correct.

00:07:48.940 One of the CCTV footages.

00:07:51.280 The FBI knock on your door, at which point, I mean, it must have been terrifying for everybody

00:07:55.160 in your family, particularly for Patrice, who had no idea that any of this was going on.

00:07:59.140 Yes.

00:07:59.420 Yeah, it was at five o'clock in the morning, 3rd of June, 2002.

00:08:04.500 There's a bang at our front door.

00:08:07.040 Beautiful sunshine, Southern California.

00:08:09.200 I get up.

00:08:10.020 I'm walking to the door.

00:08:11.280 Bang, bang, bang, bang, bang.

00:08:12.840 And when I get to the door, I was like, somebody's going to be on the ground.

00:08:16.740 I open the door and it's bing, bing, bing.

00:08:19.460 FBI.

00:08:20.300 You've got the red dots on you.

00:08:21.160 Three red dots on my chest.

00:08:22.960 FBI.

00:08:23.800 Get on the ground.

00:08:25.140 Or worse to that effect.

00:08:26.380 So your house is then turned over, as you would expect it to be, and you are then carted

00:08:31.060 off to prison.

00:08:31.540 So, I mean, this is all in the podcast.

00:08:32.780 So we'll condense it just slightly.

00:08:35.440 So you serve your time in prison.

00:08:38.580 You are then extradited.

00:08:39.760 And I pleaded guilty.

00:08:40.980 So I did not take this to trial.

00:08:42.300 And you said at no point do you condone any of your actions.

00:08:48.260 And you served your time for it.

00:08:50.440 And they were desperate measures.

00:08:51.760 Not that that's an excuse.

00:08:52.840 But you're extradited.

00:08:54.060 You end up back in the UK.

00:08:55.280 And where we find you now is the fact that Patrice and your daughter came over.

00:09:01.720 They spent time here.

00:09:02.500 Your daughter was educated for some of her life here.

00:09:04.860 And then went back for various family reasons to go and look after parents.

00:09:09.140 That sort of thing.

00:09:09.820 You are separated now as a family.

00:09:13.600 Correct.

00:09:13.820 And it was only eight weeks ago that you told your 25-year-old daughter what had happened.

00:09:19.900 Absolutely.

00:09:20.540 And I think as any parent, you are there always to protect your child.

00:09:25.000 When everything went down in 2002, our daughter Angelique, who we call Chummy, was four years of age.

00:09:32.320 How do you explain to a four-year-old your father's going to prison for robbing banks?

00:09:36.740 So right at that moment, obviously.

00:09:38.980 You really can't.

00:09:40.040 I don't know how nobody told her, though.

00:09:41.860 We said nothing.

00:09:42.960 Then comes the point.

00:09:43.860 When is the time that you tell her?

00:09:45.140 When she's six?

00:09:45.960 When she's 10?

00:09:47.300 15?

00:09:47.940 At least he's still with the mom.

00:09:49.880 Obviously, when I was.

00:09:51.860 Women do tend to stand by criminals. 1.00

00:09:55.820 We do have a tendency to do that. 0.95

00:09:58.400 We'll stick it with you if you're a criminal.

00:10:01.260 If you're a stand-up guy, eh.

00:10:02.740 Released and deported back to the United Kingdom.

00:10:05.260 Ultimately, Patrice and Chummy came and lived with me here in the United Kingdom.

00:10:09.140 Based on the information that we'd received from the federal government about returning in 2013,

00:10:15.940 Patrice went ahead to try and set things up for us with the expectation that in 2016,

00:10:22.020 upon Chummy completing her A-levels, we would all go back.

00:10:26.000 What was her reaction when you told her?

00:10:28.420 Your 25-year-old daughter who said, you know, this is my background.

00:10:31.320 I robbed banks.

00:10:32.220 I went to prison.

00:10:33.200 I was extradited.

00:10:34.600 And this is all stuff you don't know.

00:10:37.160 Yes.

00:10:37.900 When I told her, I am so blessed as a father to have the little girl that I do.

00:10:42.140 I say little girl.

00:10:42.840 She's about to be 25. 0.98

00:10:43.900 She sat.

00:10:44.700 She listened, you know, patiently.

00:10:46.220 It was a little teary for her.

00:10:47.460 But more than anything, it was like, oh, daddy, that fills in all the blanks.

00:10:52.520 Now I know why you never came and spent Christmas with us.

00:10:55.720 Why you didn't come over in the summertime when I was out of school.

00:10:58.660 You can't get back in, can you?

00:10:59.940 At the moment, no.

00:11:00.600 I'm not allowed to re-enter the United States.

00:11:03.020 Yeah, I mean, that'll do it if you rob.

00:11:05.320 If you come in and rob banks, I mean, that'll kind of do it.

00:11:08.840 The problem with that is the fact that their top line thing, they kept on telling me you

00:11:13.900 need to do something else, do something else, do something else.

00:11:16.440 Ultimately, I embarked on something in 2019, which I believe was the final step.

00:11:21.700 They said it would take about a year, but obviously in 2020, we were-

00:11:25.040 I mean, to be honest, I say don't let him back in.

00:11:28.080 I mean, you committed a crime.

00:11:30.140 Like why?

00:11:31.480 I understand like people want to, he's like a good looking business guy.

00:11:35.600 Like he looks, you know, like a guy you'd see in like a normal neighborhood or, you

00:11:40.540 know, like, like a normal guy.

00:11:42.060 But if you come into the country and commit a crime, I don't really want you to come back.

00:11:46.100 Like that's your, do you know how many people are dying to get into America?

00:11:49.740 I get it.

00:11:50.400 You had a kid here.

00:11:51.800 Tell her to come see you.

00:11:53.040 I don't want you robbing banks again.

00:11:54.560 I hope he doesn't, right?

00:11:55.780 But if you're not an American and you come commit a crime on American soil, I don't think

00:12:00.940 you should be allowed back in.

00:12:02.360 Went into that.

00:12:03.100 Sorry to the daughter, but just say this is, maybe she'll understand.

00:12:06.960 She'll be like the only women that understand consequences for actions, right? 1.00

00:12:11.280 At the pandemic and the lockdown.

00:12:13.360 So unfortunately it wasn't until November 22 that the US government finally gave me the

00:12:20.240 decision and they said, no, we will not give you a waiver.

00:12:23.860 So you just have to sit and wait to see if anything changes and keep, keep fine.

00:12:27.540 I got no sympathy.

00:12:28.460 You robbed banks.

00:12:29.300 Like, like I get it.

00:12:31.800 He can, you know, do this sob story or whatever, uh, but yeah, you robbed a bank.

00:12:36.820 So that's, that's called a consequence.

00:12:40.660 Um, your story, because it is fascinating and there's a lot more details that we haven't

00:12:45.240 had time to go into is on your podcast.

00:12:47.760 I mean, a lot of people spend money on IVF.

00:12:49.960 Not everybody robs a bank.

00:12:51.360 So if it was up to me, I would stamp Naseki and I would, I would let in instead, I would, 1.00

00:12:57.740 I would let in the, the guy that's been here illegally for 20 years and hasn't committed 0.93

00:13:02.880 crimes.

00:13:03.540 Well, I guess it is a crime, but you guys see what I mean?

00:13:06.060 The severity, like I would prefer someone that's been here illegally and has not committed

00:13:11.300 a crime over somebody that was here illegally and committed a crime.

00:13:15.160 I'd prefer neither.

00:13:17.060 I think I'm catch 22-ing myself because that is a crime, but one is far worse, right?

00:13:22.800 Anyways, let me know what you guys think.

00:13:25.080 Although, because you do, you are robbing Americans of their tax dollars because we all

00:13:32.160 got to pay for, you know what?

00:13:33.800 I'll take neither.

00:13:35.140 Anyways, guys, like the video on your way out.

00:13:37.640 Subscribe to the channel.

00:13:38.980 Bring the notification bell and I'll see you.

00:13:40.700 Bye-bye.

Pearl - April 12, 2025

Beta Male Robbed Banks To Pay For His Wife's IVF Treatment

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