Pearl - Betrayal Is Internal And Has Nothing to Do with You

00:00:00.000 What up guys, welcome to my morning coffee talks. Today I have water.

00:00:05.280 Okay, so I think that one of the passages of life, and I want to know if you guys have gone through this too,

00:00:14.480 it's not taking things personal anymore.

00:00:19.200 When I was young, I remember I was friends with these girls, and I thought they were my best friends.

00:00:25.180 and to make a long story short there's a lot of kid drama whatever and it turns out these girls

00:00:33.280 were not my friends I found out they were talking about me to the whole grade saying like terrible

00:00:38.540 things about me and I was like heartbroken at the time because I'm like oh I thought these girls

00:00:45.400 were my friends there's something wrong with me and I think there's been situations for most people

00:00:52.560 right you know um they're in a relationship they get cheated on right it's happened to the best of

00:00:57.580 us and um you know again you kind of ask the question is it something i did right did i drive

00:01:04.520 these people to do it um and the older you get you realize that when people do stuff that's like

00:01:10.340 wrong or bad or whatever or you know if you do something that's wrong or bad because

00:01:14.640 you know i'm i'm the villain sometimes too it really had nothing to do with the person

00:01:21.860 it like it had nothing to do with the person wronged a lot of the time it's more to do with

00:01:28.760 the person so in that case um these girls if they had an issue with me they were too weak to tell me 0.93

00:01:36.540 what it was or they just wanted to be fake and keep hanging out with me and get the benefits 0.72

00:01:42.280 because I had like the big house when I was a kid when I was a kid so um I think they just wanted

00:01:47.420 to hang out at the big house um and you know what that's that's like a them problem it's not a me

00:01:55.920 problem um they're just not nice and the older I get whenever somebody's crashed out on me or

00:02:02.080 something and I just left them alone I just said okay in the long run um a lot of times they'll

00:02:09.720 come back and apologize to you especially if you don't crash out back and you just stay calm and

00:02:15.060 you're like, okay, well, good luck with that. But when you're younger, again, you kind of think

00:02:22.060 that it has to do with you. And I remember I had an older male cousin and me and him were like the

00:02:32.860 best of pals. And by the way, I was like 10 to 12 going through this. So this was a very long time

00:02:40.020 ago but I remember him like I told him what happened with the friends and he told me to

00:02:48.060 just say wow um I thought we were friends I didn't think you'd do something like that and just leave

00:02:53.980 it not beg not whatever um and I did what he said and the girls came crawling back 1.00

00:03:02.240 it's like women they want to torture you and then when you walk away they're like no 0.74

00:03:08.000 come back let me torture some more you know what I mean um and there's also been situations I'm 1.00

00:03:15.400 thinking of one I don't want to go into detail because I'm a little embarrassed um where I

00:03:20.860 wronged somebody right and um at the time I thought I was doing the right thing and I wasn't

00:03:27.260 doing the right thing um and anyways when I wronged this person it really didn't have anything

00:03:35.460 to do with the person. It had more to do with me, right? Because it was something,

00:03:44.760 I just didn't see the other person's point of view. And later when I heard it, I like realized

00:03:50.320 I was wrong. Do you know what I mean? But I realized a lot of people in life, it's like

00:03:55.880 everybody's living in fear of confrontation. And I don't know if you've ever gone to like one of

00:04:01.680 those small towns where you meet those like um old grandpas that just are not filtered at all

00:04:09.040 and it's such like a freeing way of thinking or it's like a free way of being where like if they

00:04:14.800 have a problem with you they're just going to tell you tell it to you straight and say what's

00:04:19.800 on their mind and I think that's the way it's supposed to be like I think a lot of the problems

00:04:24.500 come and just my experience when it's like a lack of courage from people when they have an issue

00:04:32.500 and you know I've done this myself but like it's a lack of courage when you have an issue with

00:04:37.960 somebody um to just say it to their face and I wonder it seems like maybe there was a time when

00:04:46.080 it was normal to just like say things to people's faces not in my lifetime um I remember I got

00:04:52.360 social media when I was 12 and I specifically remember um it was Facebook back then finding

00:04:59.860 out I wasn't invited to things and before I had no idea when I was like a kid you know

00:05:05.380 so the older I get the more I'm like I think every time I've wronged somebody um

00:05:15.180 it's been because of something with me and nothing to do with them and I think that's

00:05:22.200 like common for most people. So anyways, um, another situation I'm going to tell you guys

00:05:28.800 about and, um, okay. So recently this girl got caught, um, the NFL lady, the inner, the reporter,

00:05:38.240 the journalist, um, got caught, um, sleeping with the Patriots coach. I think I don't really

00:05:46.500 follow sports but it's my understanding um she was banging everybody at work while married 1.00

00:05:52.380 she even named her son after her um her side dude not her husband um so anyways this woman

00:06:02.140 this woman's story made me think of a situation I was in like years ago so I um basically caught wind

00:06:13.240 of there's a girl on my team and she was getting cheated on and I found out and I snitched right

00:06:21.180 I was the one I I came out and I was like look you're you're getting cheated on etc and this

00:06:27.400 girl ended up forgiving him then I became the villain and I'm like what and um it made me wonder

00:06:34.240 like if I was wrong for snitching I never did I've never snitched again if you get cheated on

00:06:41.280 that's your own cross to bear I'm not dealing with it because of all the drama and what I realized

00:06:47.840 is it was like I think I was sticking my nose into other people's business and on some level

00:06:54.500 she wanted to get cheated on right and I think a lot of times when men get cheated on um God's

00:07:00.740 kind of testing them in a way like he's taking away women from men or whatever and to see if men

00:07:09.340 respond out of desperation because he's thinking I'm not that religious. It just seems to work like

00:07:15.920 this. He's saying, look, now you have no women. I'm going to give you one woman to see how you 0.82

00:07:21.160 respond. And if you put her above what's right, and if you're going to correct, like, are you

00:07:26.100 going to correct the devil? Cause I think there's the devil in every woman. Um, and so a lot of 1.00

00:07:33.200 times when men get cheated on, like at work or whatever, I think on some level, they kind of

00:07:38.040 know something's off but they don't have the courage to like test their wife or like ask her

00:07:43.660 questions so I called into Jesse Lee Peterson's show the other day because I was kind of curious

00:07:49.580 like what is the morality on like when something becomes gossip right so if you see somebody like

00:07:57.240 cheating on their spouse or doing something wrong are you morally obligated to say something

00:08:02.680 and I was thinking about it um I think the only way you'd have to confront the person cheating

00:08:08.740 in person because that's like not but I don't think you have to I was thinking about it I'm

00:08:16.500 like because a lot of times the person getting cheated on they want to get cheated on and the

00:08:21.160 person cheat like a lot of times it's just none of your business and so it's like um I've said

00:08:26.860 like so many times this episode I say it more when I'm thinking freely it's a filler word right

00:08:33.260 yeah I think you don't have to because people have a right to their hell and many times the

00:08:45.180 men want to be in hell on the wimp because the men have made the woman their god that kind of

00:08:50.940 makes sense and the woman want to be in hell um and it has nothing to do with the other person

00:08:58.140 and so it's kind of um like the parable story where the sons went off

00:09:04.320 and one pissed away all his money and the other did right um

00:09:11.360 the one who pissed away all his money and whatever he had a right to his hell

00:09:16.880 so i don't know i'm this is just me freely thinking so let me know what you think in

00:09:23.860 the comments um if you can like the video and subscribe and let me know what is your

00:09:29.600 favorite water bottle brand i'll see you next time

Pearl - April 26, 2026

Betrayal Is Internal And Has Nothing to Do with You

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