Pearl - April 26, 2026


Betrayal Is Internal And Has Nothing to Do with You

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Jesse Lee Peterson
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Episode Stats


Length

9 minutes

Words per minute

167.0

Word count

1,593

Sentence count

24

Harmful content

Misogyny

6

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Hate speech

4

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Summary

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Have you ever been in situations where you thought you were doing the right thing but it wasn t right? Have you ever felt like you were the villain because you did something wrong or wronged someone else? Or have you ever done something wrong to someone else because you didn t have the courage to speak up about it? In this episode, I talk about how the older you get, the more you realize you are the victim of your own cowardice.

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00:00:00.000 What up guys, welcome to my morning coffee talks. Today I have water.
00:00:05.280 Okay, so I think that one of the passages of life, and I want to know if you guys have gone through this too,
00:00:14.480 it's not taking things personal anymore.
00:00:19.200 When I was young, I remember I was friends with these girls, and I thought they were my best friends.
00:00:25.180 and to make a long story short there's a lot of kid drama whatever and it turns out these girls
00:00:33.280 were not my friends I found out they were talking about me to the whole grade saying like terrible
00:00:38.540 things about me and I was like heartbroken at the time because I'm like oh I thought these girls
00:00:45.400 were my friends there's something wrong with me and I think there's been situations for most people
00:00:52.560 right you know um they're in a relationship they get cheated on right it's happened to the best of
00:00:57.580 us and um you know again you kind of ask the question is it something i did right did i drive
00:01:04.520 these people to do it um and the older you get you realize that when people do stuff that's like
00:01:10.340 wrong or bad or whatever or you know if you do something that's wrong or bad because
00:01:14.640 you know i'm i'm the villain sometimes too it really had nothing to do with the person
00:01:21.860 it like it had nothing to do with the person wronged a lot of the time it's more to do with
00:01:28.760 the person so in that case um these girls if they had an issue with me they were too weak to tell me 0.93
00:01:36.540 what it was or they just wanted to be fake and keep hanging out with me and get the benefits 0.72
00:01:42.280 because I had like the big house when I was a kid when I was a kid so um I think they just wanted
00:01:47.420 to hang out at the big house um and you know what that's that's like a them problem it's not a me
00:01:55.920 problem um they're just not nice and the older I get whenever somebody's crashed out on me or
00:02:02.080 something and I just left them alone I just said okay in the long run um a lot of times they'll
00:02:09.720 come back and apologize to you especially if you don't crash out back and you just stay calm and
00:02:15.060 you're like, okay, well, good luck with that. But when you're younger, again, you kind of think
00:02:22.060 that it has to do with you. And I remember I had an older male cousin and me and him were like the
00:02:32.860 best of pals. And by the way, I was like 10 to 12 going through this. So this was a very long time
00:02:40.020 ago but I remember him like I told him what happened with the friends and he told me to
00:02:48.060 just say wow um I thought we were friends I didn't think you'd do something like that and just leave
00:02:53.980 it not beg not whatever um and I did what he said and the girls came crawling back 1.00
00:03:02.240 it's like women they want to torture you and then when you walk away they're like no 0.74
00:03:08.000 come back let me torture some more you know what I mean um and there's also been situations I'm 1.00
00:03:15.400 thinking of one I don't want to go into detail because I'm a little embarrassed um where I
00:03:20.860 wronged somebody right and um at the time I thought I was doing the right thing and I wasn't
00:03:27.260 doing the right thing um and anyways when I wronged this person it really didn't have anything
00:03:35.460 to do with the person. It had more to do with me, right? Because it was something,
00:03:44.760 I just didn't see the other person's point of view. And later when I heard it, I like realized
00:03:50.320 I was wrong. Do you know what I mean? But I realized a lot of people in life, it's like
00:03:55.880 everybody's living in fear of confrontation. And I don't know if you've ever gone to like one of
00:04:01.680 those small towns where you meet those like um old grandpas that just are not filtered at all
00:04:09.040 and it's such like a freeing way of thinking or it's like a free way of being where like if they
00:04:14.800 have a problem with you they're just going to tell you tell it to you straight and say what's
00:04:19.800 on their mind and I think that's the way it's supposed to be like I think a lot of the problems
00:04:24.500 come and just my experience when it's like a lack of courage from people when they have an issue
00:04:32.500 and you know I've done this myself but like it's a lack of courage when you have an issue with
00:04:37.960 somebody um to just say it to their face and I wonder it seems like maybe there was a time when
00:04:46.080 it was normal to just like say things to people's faces not in my lifetime um I remember I got
00:04:52.360 social media when I was 12 and I specifically remember um it was Facebook back then finding
00:04:59.860 out I wasn't invited to things and before I had no idea when I was like a kid you know
00:05:05.380 so the older I get the more I'm like I think every time I've wronged somebody um
00:05:15.180 it's been because of something with me and nothing to do with them and I think that's
00:05:22.200 like common for most people. So anyways, um, another situation I'm going to tell you guys
00:05:28.800 about and, um, okay. So recently this girl got caught, um, the NFL lady, the inner, the reporter,
00:05:38.240 the journalist, um, got caught, um, sleeping with the Patriots coach. I think I don't really
00:05:46.500 follow sports but it's my understanding um she was banging everybody at work while married 1.00
00:05:52.380 she even named her son after her um her side dude not her husband um so anyways this woman
00:06:02.140 this woman's story made me think of a situation I was in like years ago so I um basically caught wind
00:06:13.240 of there's a girl on my team and she was getting cheated on and I found out and I snitched right
00:06:21.180 I was the one I I came out and I was like look you're you're getting cheated on etc and this
00:06:27.400 girl ended up forgiving him then I became the villain and I'm like what and um it made me wonder
00:06:34.240 like if I was wrong for snitching I never did I've never snitched again if you get cheated on
00:06:41.280 that's your own cross to bear I'm not dealing with it because of all the drama and what I realized
00:06:47.840 is it was like I think I was sticking my nose into other people's business and on some level
00:06:54.500 she wanted to get cheated on right and I think a lot of times when men get cheated on um God's
00:07:00.740 kind of testing them in a way like he's taking away women from men or whatever and to see if men
00:07:09.340 respond out of desperation because he's thinking I'm not that religious. It just seems to work like
00:07:15.920 this. He's saying, look, now you have no women. I'm going to give you one woman to see how you 0.82
00:07:21.160 respond. And if you put her above what's right, and if you're going to correct, like, are you
00:07:26.100 going to correct the devil? Cause I think there's the devil in every woman. Um, and so a lot of 1.00
00:07:33.200 times when men get cheated on, like at work or whatever, I think on some level, they kind of
00:07:38.040 know something's off but they don't have the courage to like test their wife or like ask her
00:07:43.660 questions so I called into Jesse Lee Peterson's show the other day because I was kind of curious
00:07:49.580 like what is the morality on like when something becomes gossip right so if you see somebody like
00:07:57.240 cheating on their spouse or doing something wrong are you morally obligated to say something
00:08:02.680 and I was thinking about it um I think the only way you'd have to confront the person cheating
00:08:08.740 in person because that's like not but I don't think you have to I was thinking about it I'm
00:08:16.500 like because a lot of times the person getting cheated on they want to get cheated on and the
00:08:21.160 person cheat like a lot of times it's just none of your business and so it's like um I've said
00:08:26.860 like so many times this episode I say it more when I'm thinking freely it's a filler word right
00:08:33.260 yeah I think you don't have to because people have a right to their hell and many times the
00:08:45.180 men want to be in hell on the wimp because the men have made the woman their god that kind of
00:08:50.940 makes sense and the woman want to be in hell um and it has nothing to do with the other person
00:08:58.140 and so it's kind of um like the parable story where the sons went off
00:09:04.320 and one pissed away all his money and the other did right um
00:09:11.360 the one who pissed away all his money and whatever he had a right to his hell
00:09:16.880 so i don't know i'm this is just me freely thinking so let me know what you think in
00:09:23.860 the comments um if you can like the video and subscribe and let me know what is your
00:09:29.600 favorite water bottle brand i'll see you next time