Pearl - Can Modern Women Really Do It All (Call-in Show)

00:00:00.000 what up guys welcome to the just pearly things youtube channel so ever since the 90s it's been

00:00:12.220 pushed that being a mom is the hardest job on the planet you hear it all the time over daytime

00:00:18.160 television and on these female centered podcasts i mean mothers have it so hard and they do so much

00:00:25.080 that, hey, might as well, they might as well be modern day superheroes. This praise and social

00:00:32.720 infrastructure has convinced too many women that they can have it all. They can have the career

00:00:37.640 and the kids and the lifestyle that they want. This is one of the biggest lies ever told. No

00:00:43.620 woman has it all. Like the late great Kevin Samuel said, life is about choices and trade-offs.

00:00:50.400 The mothers being able to have it all rhetoric prevents women from being prepared to handle

00:00:56.760 the sacrifices that they're going to have to make when they make certain decisions like

00:01:00.620 having a child with a loser or paying a ton of money to have a baby when they wait too

00:01:06.200 long to have one.

00:01:07.780 That's what we're going to talk about it today.

00:01:10.280 The myth that mothers can do it all.

00:01:13.280 You've seen more and more stories of women bringing their babies to places where babies

00:01:17.180 really shouldn't be. School and work, these women proved time and time again that they didn't plan

00:01:23.480 to have their child or they weren't really ready for the reality of parenting. The biggest problem

00:01:28.420 with these women is that they depend on everyone else while claiming that they are strong and

00:01:32.540 independent. They depend on friends, family, and the kindness of strangers to make it through life.

00:01:37.700 Many of their friends and family are emotionally blackmailed into helping these women and society

00:01:43.560 is told that helping these women is the right thing to do. So I was inspired by this topic

00:01:50.960 after just watching all these broads, watching all these broads in Congress, bringing their kid

00:01:58.660 to work. All right. So Congresswoman flew to DC with her four week old baby to vote on a budget

00:02:05.660 bill. All right. Representative Brittany Peterson was elected to serve the people of Colorado's

00:02:11.940 7th Congressional District, and she has gone the extra mile to do so, literally. She flew from

00:02:18.360 Colorado to Washington, D.C. with her four-week-old infant baby in order to vote on a crisis bill on

00:02:24.200 February 25th. Congress makes no accommodations for new parents, she wrote on a website on January

00:02:30.240 27th. So while I'm recovering and taking care of my newborn at this critical time, it's incredibly

00:02:36.300 unfair that my constituents will not have a voice in Congress until I am physically able to return

00:02:42.400 to Washington. Between January 13th, the last day her doctor cleared her to fly home and February

00:02:48.900 25th, Peterson was unable to cast a vote. She has been pushing for Congress to reinstate

00:02:55.120 proxy voting for new parents. So this is her. There she goes. Look at this. Oh my gosh.

00:03:06.300 Oh my God. Okay, wait, let me, let me refresh this. It'd be weird today.

00:03:21.000 Here we go.

00:03:23.480 Today with my newborn, Sam, who's just four weeks old. Unfortunately, I wasn't given the opportunity

00:03:29.420 to vote remotely after giving birth, but I wasn't going to let that stop me from being here

00:03:34.240 to represent my constituents and vote no on this disastrous Republican budget proposal.

00:03:41.260 Republicans and Trump promised to lower costs on day one,

00:03:44.780 and instead their priorities have been focused on ripping health care away from kids,

00:03:48.960 seniors, moms, and others who need it most.

00:03:52.060 And this is not going to save money.

00:03:54.560 It includes people like my mom who work for hourly wages

00:03:58.660 but are still unable to afford health care.

00:04:01.160 When you don't have access to health care,

00:04:04.100 you show up in the ER. This is going to have a huge burden on our hospitals and

00:04:10.300 unfortunately will have skyrocketing costs. I agree, Sam. Hospitals will bear

00:04:16.920 this burden. It also slashes SNAP, taking food off the plates for seniors,

00:04:20.960 veterans, and kids, all to fund tax breaks for billionaires like Elon Musk

00:04:26.420 while increasing our national deficit by trillions of dollars. How can anyone

00:04:31.700 show their face in their district after voting yes for this. Thank you. I yield back.

00:04:39.140 So not only do women use their babies for clout, they also use it for sympathy,

00:04:44.180 right? Okay. Cause now she's trying to say, poor me, woe is me. I am a mother. Okay. Congress

00:04:52.380 introduced proxy voting as a way to keep its work moving forward during the pandemic,

00:04:57.420 but discontinued the option in 2022.

00:05:00.260 Proxy voting was helpful not only for new parents,

00:05:02.700 but also for congressional leaders who were caring for aging parents

00:05:06.560 recovering from cancer or simply experiencing a flight delay.

00:05:11.520 Peterson and Anna Paulina Luna, a congressional representative from Florida,

00:05:16.020 are working together to shore up bipartisan support

00:05:18.640 to allow new mothers to vote remotely for six weeks while they recover from birth.

00:05:24.060 yeah so this is again this is like exactly the type of husband I would expect this woman to have

00:05:31.800 um but again this is like the

00:05:37.260 here's the thing I don't really care what women do but please don't make it my problem

00:05:46.320 when you're bringing your kid to the middle of congress now this is

00:05:50.180 well I don't follow politics but if I did it would be my problem right in the meantime Peterson was

00:05:57.780 required to present to vote so though she is still physically healing from childbirth Peterson flew

00:06:03.200 in and stepped up to the podium to address Congress while holding a swaddled Sam she said

00:06:08.420 thank you Mr. Speaker I rise today with my newborn Sam who's just four weeks old unfortunately I

00:06:14.760 wasn't given the opportunity to vote remotely after giving birth. So again, this is a woman

00:06:20.460 saying, I want special treatment because I'm choosing to have a child. And I don't expect

00:06:25.620 special treatment if they choose to have a kid, right? They don't say, give me more

00:06:32.140 like special treatment at work because I'm a father. No, they say, okay, I'm going to have

00:06:39.220 to sacrifice. Okay. But I wasn't going to let that stop me from being here to represent my

00:06:46.340 constituents. At one point, Sam outlet a tiny, tiny yelp and Peterson who sounded slightly out

00:06:53.720 of breath calmly said, I agree, Sam. All right. Now she said, nobody fights harder than a mom.

00:06:59.580 Really? Nobody? Nobody fights harder than a mother. Let me get this straight. Soldiers at

00:07:07.720 war don't fight harder than a mother. Elon Musk, the presidents. Okay. Whatever. Whatever. Okay.

00:07:19.600 Caroline Leavitt takes a picture with her baby at work. Now, this woman is supposed to be

00:07:25.460 conservative. So why isn't she at home taking care of her kid? This is a feminist thing to do.

00:07:31.280 All right, so now this has erupted Twitter.

00:07:38.840 Erupted.

00:07:49.460 She's bringing her baby to work.

00:07:52.220 And all the conservative simps in the comments, the best press secretary ever.

00:07:57.540 No, I don't really think so.

00:07:58.860 Like, I don't think the best press secretary ever is bringing her kid to work.

00:08:06.860 Now this guy, so it's okay for her to bring her kid to work, but the lady in Congress can't.

00:08:13.660 So she's doing what average day-to-day stay-at-home mom or work-from-home moms do, so you want a cookie.

00:08:21.480 The poor kiddo will never receive mom's full attention.

00:08:24.560 There are downstream consequences to this.

00:08:28.860 Notice all the Christian nationalists are suddenly silent about this woman working and raising a family.

00:08:36.780 And, you know, then we got Michaela Peterson.

00:08:39.520 Now, remember, Michaela Peterson was looking for someone to raise her kid on Instagram.

00:08:44.820 So we got this young woman criticizing this.

00:08:48.840 Obviously, here we go.

00:08:50.840 Caroline Levitt, it's undeniable that you're doing a fantastic job as White House press secretary, but I think you should quit.

00:08:56.120 There's nothing conservative about leaving your baby at home while you work a highly intensive, important, time-consuming role.

00:09:02.360 Going back to work when your baby is four days old is a form of neglect.

00:09:06.700 Babies, especially newborns, need their mothers.

00:09:09.540 And the conservative movement needs to stop pushing this rebranded version of feminist ideology that says that women can do both.

00:09:16.060 Because they can't.

00:09:17.160 Being a mother, especially a mother to newborns, is a full-time job.

00:09:21.160 Everything in life comes with sacrifices and trade-offs, especially being a parent.

00:09:24.360 What America needs right now is more present mothers.

00:09:27.260 We have enough girl bosses already.

00:09:31.480 Okay, so now Michaela Peterson says her kid is going to think,

00:09:39.900 my mom is awesome.

00:09:42.040 If she can be press secretary, imagine what I could do.

00:09:45.860 This is pure jealousy.

00:09:47.620 So let me just think about this.

00:09:49.180 I want to think about this argument here.

00:09:50.660 the kid who's four days old is going to think wow I'm so happy my mom's a press secretary okay

00:10:01.680 or the kid that's let's say it makes it to five years and now the kid's going to say my mom's

00:10:08.580 awesome at five they're going to understand what's going on like kids don't care kids don't

00:10:20.480 Okay, let me continue.

00:10:24.700 All right, now we got a woman bringing her baby to a college class.

00:10:31.000 Also, guys, hit the like button.

00:10:32.980 The like is free.

00:10:36.060 So, Lincoln University professor goes viral for holding a student's baby during class.

00:10:44.860 the story of how a lincoln university college professor ended up holding a baby during class

00:10:50.320 was life-changing for a 21 year old student who is finally able to take notes i've always wanted

00:10:55.600 to go to an hbcu so i decided what's better than the first so i chose lincoln said imani lamar who

00:11:02.720 is now a senior at the pennsylvania university two years ago she was taking class with dr

00:11:08.720 aquil dix in the health sciences department she had just come back from school after taking a

00:11:14.160 semester off for giving birth to her son prematurely. Lamar's son had to spend months in

00:11:20.420 the neonatal intensive care unit. It was really hard. Every day, going to the hospital, seeing him

00:11:25.440 and not being able to help him was really, really hard. Christopher Murray, who Lamar had named for

00:11:32.340 the father, had become her world and her schedule revolved around his. When she told Dick she had

00:11:39.300 to miss class because she couldn't find a babysitter, her answer was no. No, no, he told

00:11:43.580 me, and I was looking at him like, no, I can't miss class. I don't have anyone to watch my baby.

00:11:48.180 I'm not going to have one of my students miss class because they have no one to watch their

00:11:51.360 child. That's just not an option for me, said Dix. Instead, he told her to bring her son to school.

00:11:56.900 That's my character. I don't mind helping students whenever they need me. Lamar had

00:12:01.020 reservations about bringing her baby to class. How would he react? Would he be distraction to

00:12:05.500 other students? Would he be able to focus? So when Dix was started lecturing, something changed for

00:12:10.400 Lamar she realized she could do this I never thought it would come to that to have somebody

00:12:15.740 who's there for me really cares it meant a lot Lamar is now a few months away from graduating

00:12:20.260 and she has two of her favorite guys her mentor and now healthy year old son to thank you have

00:12:26.660 no idea how much this meant to me oh here we go let's watch the full video ABC News this month

00:12:35.840 to bring you stories showing America strong, which highlight the strength and resilience

00:12:40.520 of people throughout our nation. Tonight, we want to introduce you to a local college

00:12:44.760 professor who's doing more than teaching health sciences. He's also imparting life lessons

00:12:50.360 and showing how it truly takes a village. Action News community journalist Becca Hendrickson

00:12:55.480 has his story. The story of how this college professor ended up holding a baby was life

00:13:02.800 changing for the 21 year old student who was finally able to take notes always wanted to go

00:13:07.760 to hbcu so i decided what's better than the first so i chose who got her pregnant sorry sorry which

00:13:18.560 one of you put wood or wooden in the chat now 23 year old amani lamar had just come back to school

00:13:25.040 after taking a semester off for her child who was born premature and spent months in the nicu it

00:13:30.800 It was really hard. Every day going to the hospital and seeing him, not being able to help him, and it was hard.

00:13:37.840 Little Christopher Murphy, named for Imani's late father, became her world.

00:13:42.180 Her schedule revolved around his.

00:13:44.540 So when she told Dr. Akil Dick she had to miss class because she couldn't find a babysitter.

00:13:49.140 No. He told me no.

00:13:50.800 And I just was looking at him like, no, I can't miss class. I don't have nobody to watch my baby.

00:13:55.860 I'm not going to have one of my students miss class because they have no one to watch their child.

00:14:00.800 that's just not an option for me look at dr dick said bring the little guy in that's my character

00:14:06.320 you know i don't mind helping my students wherever they need me amani had reservations

00:14:10.500 about bringing her baby to class how would he react would he be a distraction to other students

00:14:15.820 jet village says my situationship partner said she doesn't like me listening to your channel

00:14:22.700 yeah because you know what she's never going to get into the relationship what's her red flag let

00:14:29.880 me know jet village let me know let me what's the problem she'd be able to focus but when dr dick

00:14:36.620 started lecturing something changed for imani she realized she could do this i never thought that

00:14:43.260 it would ever come to that and to have somebody who's there for me who really cares and generally

00:14:48.920 wants me to finish and finish strong it meant a lot imani is now a few months from graduating

00:14:54.060 Exactly.

00:14:54.820 And she has two of her favorite guys, her mentor, and her now two-year-old healthy son to thank.

00:15:01.020 You really don't understand how much this meant to me.

00:15:03.260 At Lincoln University.

00:15:04.580 I think he's going to smash.

00:15:07.540 We have no idea how much special treatment we get.

00:15:10.440 I don't really like committing.

00:15:11.840 Lyle and Eric.

00:15:12.760 Because dudes want to hit all the time.

00:15:17.360 The dad better be careful.

00:15:19.320 She's spending a lot of, she's going to be like, oh, he's so nice.

00:15:22.100 He's my mentor.

00:15:23.080 cooked done done

00:15:25.000 from the fact

00:15:28.980 oh here we go okay let's see

00:15:31.120 what's next and by the way guys we're going to do a

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00:16:06.400 on our website that could change right but as of now we're in talks with some people but

00:16:12.160 for now we're doing it direct some people have been asking um but

00:16:17.620 okay let's see so this one's bringing her daughter to work

00:16:23.320 oh my gosh go back and as a single mom this is something I've always feared becoming my reality

00:16:38.360 mainly because I thought it was or had to bring your kid to where you ever had to bring your kid

00:16:41.440 to work with you because yesterday I had to and as a single mom this is something I've always feared

00:16:45.520 becoming my reality mainly because I thought it was going to be embarrassing to have to tell a

00:16:49.040 manager that hey I can't take care of my kid or I can't find someone to take care of my kids so can

00:16:53.780 you please help me help myself and that is the exact feeling I felt when I had to do that today

00:16:58.140 but I'm extremely grateful and lucky that I have a manager who's not only a parent but also an

00:17:02.960 amazing person so they were extremely understanding of the situation my daughter was having the time

00:17:07.740 of her life. But when I got to work, I decided to pray and just try to find some clarity in this

00:17:11.920 whole situation because I was extremely embarrassed, but also overwhelmed. My daughter just entertained

00:17:17.680 herself for the most part. There's so many toys in my work and so many things to do. So it was fun

00:17:22.440 for both of us, but also a learning experience for me. Have a nice day. So now we got women bringing

00:17:27.580 their kids to work. And here we got a woman adding a play area to the office. So since women are

00:17:35.640 going to be old mothers, single mothers, um, or childless, it's going to be kind of interesting

00:17:41.500 to see what's going to happen in the next like 20 years because women are going to keep out

00:17:46.980 earning men in these useless jobs, right? That's going to keep happening. So they got to pretend

00:17:53.860 they're working at work, right? I really think these daycares might be semi-common. If any of

00:18:01.740 you guys have ever worked at a place where people like brought their kids to work call in let me

00:18:06.540 know we're gonna do call in okay i don't wonder what it's like to bring your kids to work

00:18:10.800 my dream is to actually have a kids area in the head office because 90 of the staff at lux the

00:18:26.340 shore are women and young women they're eventually going to be mothers and i think it would be so

00:18:30.820 that company is going to go into the ground 90 lord help us so like let's say we're expanding

00:18:38.720 the office and this whole boardroom area was a kids play place it had like little video games

00:18:45.980 books coloring things um yeah i think that's that's the goal let's go see daddy over there

00:18:52.080 daddy's helping renovate the new office come on it's down here

00:18:58.200 and mommy for cleaning that's for cleaning what baby that's for cleaning what is oh yeah that's

00:19:06.160 for cleaning they're cleaning so it's currently under construction here and okay let's oh come on

00:19:15.180 in you may come in i just want to show you guys like there's gonna be an area that if we don't

00:19:23.020 use it i think it would be the best for the kids play place so really under tits out with your kids

00:19:31.500 in the tick tock is diabolical thirst trapping with your kids diabolical man construction here

00:19:39.980 they're building out more offices here now can women are there jobs that i could foresee being

00:19:46.860 good for mothers yeah daycare teaching right your kids got to go to school anyway um

00:19:57.340 do you know what there was one mom in our area I hate to say this

00:20:02.880 her husband was a chef and she was a nurse

00:20:07.400 and so she would do night shifts and she would at the end of her shift take the kids to school

00:20:12.580 she was kind of nutty though but okay here we go yeah yeah no she looks like she's going to the

00:20:24.160 club women right so we're gonna put the link in the chat guys and then i'm gonna do announcements

00:20:28.860 while i wait for you guys to call in but we have a couple questions um do you know any mothers

00:20:35.080 that actually had it all and did it well? And what job did they have? Or do you know mothers

00:20:43.700 that thought they could have it all and then found out they couldn't? A lot of women say

00:20:48.320 they can have it all, but they really just hire someone to do it for them. Do you know what I

00:20:54.120 mean? It's like, yeah, I can do it all, but then I throw my kids in daycare. Well, I mean,

00:20:59.080 they're kind of doing it for you. Has a woman, has women leaving children, all right. Has women

00:21:07.620 having children affected your workplace? If so, how did you ever have a coworker bring your child

00:21:13.160 to work? And did you ever bring your kid to work? So feel free to call in. I'm sure Doug MPA is going

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00:22:44.000 higher. So Doug MPA, how are you? I'm good. How are you, Pearl? I'm good. So what is your

00:22:52.320 experience? Do you know any mothers that had it all? No. Not even one? Nope. All I know,

00:23:02.040 I've met mothers who want to try to live the delusion of having it all off the backs of

00:23:07.600 everyone around them okay so the women that would say that they have it all they won't talk about

00:23:14.660 the sacrifices everyone has to make for them to live in that delusion so if they're able to work

00:23:21.600 and have their high-flying career odds are family members are having to help them with their kids

00:23:26.500 or they have a nanny or the government is paying for something someone someone has to pay for

00:23:33.980 their shortcomings for not being there for their children especially single mothers single mothers

00:23:41.700 one of the biggest problems with single mothers is that single mothers make a unilateral decision

00:23:47.860 that will affect all the people around them and so or if a woman is married right have you ever met

00:23:56.840 a couple pearl where the man is successful right the woman's like a part-time worker or a stay-at-home

00:24:04.740 mom but she has some kind of side business or some kind of multi-level of marketing and the guy has

00:24:11.540 to feed her this delusion that she somehow contributes financially to the household

00:24:17.500 and she's like oh yeah my wife's business and she's and he has to delude her into thinking

00:24:24.680 that somehow she's on par with him when she barely earns any money it's just people around them are

00:24:31.300 contributing their time and effort for her to live in this delusion yeah and usually a lot of times

00:24:37.360 if she has a rich husband that's well connected she'll give speeches yeah 100 and everybody knows

00:24:45.340 they're like yeah this woman isn't making any money but the sad part about it is women will

00:24:50.580 always use that mother trump card that being a mom is the hardest job so anything the husband does

00:24:59.060 he can be curing cancer he could be on an oil rig making 300 000 a year risking his life every day

00:25:06.420 and she'll say i'm still a mom and that's more important than anything that you do as a man

00:25:13.300 it's one of the biggest problems with these women they honestly believe that being a mom

00:25:16.820 trumps anything a man does

00:25:20.080 yeah and it's almost insulting because i'll look at like guy's life on like an oil rig like

00:25:33.140 there are jobs um i think i i listened to what is it mike roe yeah he's on he talked about the

00:25:41.480 hardest jobs are like the most dangerous jobs and they're like he talked about like fishing

00:25:47.380 boats in alaska where there's one did like two people that die every single time to get us crabs

00:25:53.280 no but somehow being a mother is harder go ahead the stats on the oil field in north dakota

00:26:00.980 no i haven't what is it yeah i think it's like one or two guys die a week

00:26:05.360 in the oil fields

00:26:07.660 in one of the Dakotas.

00:26:10.160 It's insane.

00:26:13.880 Yeah, it's just women.

00:26:15.320 I'm telling you,

00:26:16.240 they've been allowed to give themselves

00:26:18.220 way too much credit.

00:26:20.320 And once again,

00:26:21.220 women want what they want

00:26:22.940 and they're going to do anything to get it.

00:26:25.420 Especially these mothers

00:26:27.300 that want to have the career

00:26:29.860 and the lifestyle and the step on anybody.

00:26:32.220 They'll use emotional manipulation.

00:26:34.020 anything to give what they want and then what's how about it is that delusion becomes everyone's

00:26:39.800 normal so the normal of the husband the normal of the parents the normal of everybody around

00:26:48.180 this woman is making her seem like she can have it all right um is there any callers or no yeah

00:26:57.340 i'll bring in nevermarried.com

00:27:00.640 nevermarried.com are you there

00:27:06.880 nevermarried.com

00:27:12.440 you are up

00:27:14.600 nevermarried.com

00:27:18.640 going once

00:27:19.600 nevermarried.com going twice

00:27:22.820 I'm going to put you back in the waiting room

00:27:25.220 hopefully you see this

00:27:27.380 and I can bring you back up

00:27:28.800 put it back in the waiting room

00:27:30.480 we have

00:27:32.340 Esteban

00:27:33.780 he's doing

00:27:36.560 one second

00:27:37.120 Esteban are you there

00:27:38.840 hey how's it going

00:27:40.920 you're on mute buddy

00:27:42.760 yeah you gotta unmute

00:27:44.780 you gotta unmute

00:27:48.880 you're still on mute

00:27:49.920 Esteban

00:27:52.800 there you go

00:27:53.880 how are you

00:27:56.240 how you doing Miss Pearl

00:27:58.760 It's a pleasure to speak with you. Long time fan, long time listener. How's it going?

00:28:03.120 It's a pleasure to speak to you as well. What industry are you in and what part of the country?

00:28:10.020 I'm in the southeast. I'm in Tennessee and I'm a supply chain logistics manager.

00:28:17.300 OK, there is a decent amount of women in logistics, aren't there?

00:28:20.480 When I was in school, a lot of like I met a lot of business majors that did supply chain that were women.

00:28:26.280 i don't actually know they're they're on the uh the broker side if you will and so yeah yeah

00:28:35.060 they're on the broker side they're not actually in like the distribution or the quality

00:28:39.780 they're they're mainly the broker brokerage side so did you ever have any of them bring their kids

00:28:48.340 to work absolutely not no no okay and did you know any women that really did have it all

00:28:57.940 have it all in regards to you know they had a high-flying career and were able to be

00:29:06.160 a good wife and mother like did you know anybody that did successfully do that

00:29:11.700 not both no they were either one or the other they were either good wives and good mothers and

00:29:19.060 i know some uh but they certainly uh had to make that a priority i don't believe women can do both

00:29:25.580 i just certainly not of her own merit certainly not without a ton of favors uh either from her

00:29:32.240 husband or society or what have you i'm not necessarily saying women shouldn't work or have

00:29:38.140 jobs but so yeah so did you know any mothers like personally that thought they could have it all and

00:29:45.760 it didn't work out for them yeah all the time all the time my mom was a stay-at-home mom and

00:29:53.920 my dad was in the military and uh now there were times where she had like a little part-time gig

00:29:58.980 at like a bank or a grocery store but for the most part uh she was a stay-at-home mom and raised

00:30:04.620 her her children so doug mpa you got any questions for him um so you don't have a lot of women in

00:30:15.940 your actual workplace right uh not in the actual workplace in the like i said i'm on the distribution

00:30:22.500 side the you know like i said the supply uh the warehousing and distribution the actual nuts and

00:30:28.020 bolts of the logistics so no there's not a lot of women there's some but like i said they're usually

00:30:34.000 upstairs in the office um like i said more on the brokerage side or more on the hr side or

00:30:40.800 you know that sort of thing yeah when you were younger did you ever work in a workplace where

00:30:46.320 there were a lot of women and what's the difference between yes yes i did yes i did

00:30:50.480 um i actually worked for child support enforcement and um how many times how many times have you been

00:31:00.480 cussed out um well let me just say i'll answer that pearl i will answer that but before i do

00:31:08.660 if you'll allow me just a minute um i worked for child support enforcement briefly and i gotta tell

00:31:16.940 you that was the one job that i was actually good at that i regret and what i mean by that is um

00:31:23.780 well look well let me just before i get to that uh i was one of two men in the office the other

00:31:30.000 man about right the other man that was in there he was the attorney um for the office he was the

00:31:36.840 attorney and he was an older late middle-aged older man uh very non-confrontational uh

00:31:47.960 just kind of like a pushover and he's the attorney the two ladies my two bosses were women

00:31:54.080 and they surprisingly or shockingly they weren't actually that bad but i had a couple of black

00:32:00.820 women up in there that just that they're just hard they were just horrible people and just had

00:32:06.140 attitudes and the ironic part of it was good you're right my wheelhouse buddy i'm black and i'll tell

00:32:13.880 you b-dub there was a couple of black women there was a couple of black women in there

00:32:18.120 one of them was a fat, uglier version of Angie Stone. And I don't know how you can get much

00:32:24.240 uglier than her, but she just had a bad attitude. She just had a bad attitude. And I really think

00:32:31.320 she was mad that nobody wanted to touch her or actually have sex with her to give her a child,

00:32:36.560 to put them on child support. That first woman, can I just keep it a buck here? These bastards,

00:32:43.420 son these these pookies these pookies of these singlehood rap mothers they they they just got

00:32:49.580 low ass standards when i see these women when i and again i'm just keeping it that's what i always

00:32:54.720 say somebody's gonna do it always these these black i mean black women are the fattest are the

00:33:01.580 fattest most obese 84 84 of black women between the ages of 18 and 34 are morbidly obese not just

00:33:11.100 obese but morbidly obese and there's negros out there still having sex with them and i'm like what

00:33:17.580 this is why i don't mess with them i don't date them i never have i never will and anybody that

00:33:22.780 don't like that anybody don't don't like that it is what it is it is what it is um

00:33:30.620 i was i was sys i was sysbm and team snow bunny from when my dad was stationed in germany and i

00:33:39.020 i was a little eight-year-old boy so i i just knew then but to to get back on track uh that's

00:33:45.860 that's my little rant yeah like i said i worked in child support enforcement and um i'll never

00:33:51.940 forget this this is a true story um we we would have we would have to go to court uh to try and

00:34:01.960 get the um parties to try and work out an arrangement okay and then it would go before

00:34:08.700 the judge and you agree to this yes you agree to that yes and if there were if somebody said no

00:34:14.300 then they would say okay you know go back to mediation and y'all figure something out um

00:34:20.340 i'll never forget this i'll in fact i was i was written up and nearly fired for it

00:34:25.120 Because I saw a case where because, again, I don't know about other states, but in the state of Tennessee, if you owe so much in arrears, that can be an arrestable offense.

00:34:40.420 And you can have a warrant put out for your arrest and you can be thrown in jail.

00:34:44.120 Now, the person, the noncustodial parent does have a right to have a hearing.

00:34:49.380 but when that happens um there's really no advocate on his behalf there's an advocate

00:34:59.180 on behalf of the custodial parent which a lot of times is the mother but there's never a custodial

00:35:03.760 there's never any advocate in other words the the the man that's in in the that's been locked

00:35:08.680 up for failure to pay child support he doesn't have an attorney on his side and one day we were

00:35:13.480 in court where their true story pearl there was baby baby mama number one two three and four

00:35:20.640 and i made a comment to baby mama number four i said why would you get pregnant by this dude you

00:35:27.380 saw you you see what he's done to three other women and uh miss miss miss timu andrew stone

00:35:35.860 that i worked with overheard it and she didn't like it and she told the bosses and again they

00:35:42.480 Like I said, surprisingly, my two bosses, they were two white ladies.

00:35:46.360 Surprisingly, they were very nice and very friendly to me.

00:35:49.200 It was mostly the black women in there that were mean and nasty to me.

00:35:52.640 And so, yeah, I said this is something that I just can't do because, you know, just wrecking and destroying men's lives, Pearl.

00:36:01.980 So what you're doing, Pearl, is literally the second best thing next to sharing the gospel of Jesus itself.

00:36:10.280 So keep doing what you're doing.

00:36:11.840 So what are the biggest differences between your work environment of all, besides no B-dubs, what are the biggest differences between working in that environment with all the women and then working around mostly men?

00:36:30.960 um well there's a lot less drama now again you got a lot of negroes that are raised by

00:36:39.840 these single hood rat mothers and they would have drama but um uh there was just no issue

00:36:47.720 we could be men i was a supervisor at a union carrier um and there literally literally was

00:36:57.640 I think maybe one or two women and they worked on another shift, but it was just all dudes.

00:37:03.560 And I'm no fan of union shops, but I mean, at least we got things done.

00:37:11.740 And if we had any arguments or disagreements, we settled it and handled it like men and we spoke and there was just never any issues.

00:37:18.220 And again, I'm not saying necessarily that women should not be allowed to work or have jobs.

00:37:22.820 I'm not saying that, but I will say this.

00:37:25.960 Um, they certainly ruined the American workplace and specifically ugly women have ruined the American workplace because let me tell you something. Feminism is nothing more than ugly women with no discernible skills trying to make themselves more important than what they really are.

00:37:50.220 There you go. There you go.

00:37:52.580 And so what they did was, is they invented something called HR, human resources.

00:37:58.200 And I call human resources the principal's office for adults, because that's essentially what it is.

00:38:05.480 That's essentially what HR is.

00:38:07.360 The next evolution to HR was the DEI department.

00:38:13.720 That was the next evolution to it.

00:38:15.780 And one of the best things that our great orange leader is doing is getting rid of this DEI garbage, man.

00:38:23.800 It's great.

00:38:24.680 Yeah, and thank God for Trump with that.

00:38:28.680 Esteban, let me ask you, because I have a working theory about women in the workplace.

00:38:36.340 Women have brought these mindsets that aren't conducive to the bottom line of a company as it is making money.

00:38:45.360 So, example, one of the biggest differences between men and women is that women think that they deserve to be happy at work and have a job that matters, even if they have like a social work degree or no degree at all.

00:38:58.340 They think they have to be important, whereas men, we don't enter into the workforce at 16 years old expecting to save the world, save the universe, be a star.

00:39:08.280 We don't care if we're happy at work, as long as we get a job that we give respect at work and we have the finances to be able to support a family.

00:39:18.000 But women want everything else. They want status in a job that has none, that they want to be placated to, that they want to be made to feel like they're important.

00:39:27.240 They want to be happy. And it's just not conducive to the bottom line of a company. What do you think?

00:39:32.060 well there used to be a conservative uh commentator radio host i think he used to

00:39:42.380 fill in for rush limbaugh from time to time and he was based out of atlanta and his name was neil

00:39:48.140 bortz i haven't heard him i haven't heard anything from neil bortz in a long time i don't even know

00:39:54.300 if he's still alive but pearl he he said something very very profound he said if i had a company

00:40:02.060 If I had a company, he said, I would not hire anyone, anyone from any demographic that could potentially bring a lawsuit against me.

00:40:18.920 And he said companies should actually have the right to be able to do that.

00:40:23.960 He said companies should not be forced

00:40:26.900 To hire people

00:40:28.120 That are at a greater risk

00:40:30.920 Of bringing lawsuits against them

00:40:32.900 And again

00:40:37.260 Take that for whatever you want

00:40:39.860 However you think he

00:40:41.640 Whatever you think he meant

00:40:43.740 But I understand

00:40:46.020 Where he was coming from on that

00:40:47.860 And

00:40:49.800 We're gonna

00:40:51.000 We're going to get like 20 more seconds

00:40:55.040 We have a whole

00:40:56.080 I'm sorry, I didn't mean to ramble on it

00:40:58.500 Like I said, Pearl, keep doing your thing

00:41:00.440 Forget all the haters and believe me

00:41:02.520 I know you know you have them

00:41:03.720 Just know this, Pearl

00:41:05.460 All the chicks that are coming at you

00:41:07.740 Just know the reason why they're coming at you

00:41:09.820 Is because they know you can take their men

00:41:11.460 And that's not me simping

00:41:12.540 But it's a fact

00:41:16.160 Some of the hate that I've seen thrown at your way

00:41:18.300 And I'm like, you're literally the only person

00:41:20.680 really speaking about uh some of the things that uh you do are one of the few i should say so i

00:41:27.720 know there's gonna be some idiots out there saying i'm simping blah blah blah but yeah keep doing

00:41:32.280 what you're doing well thanks so much for calling in calling anytime okay you got that okay next up

00:41:40.840 we have we're gonna do uh we're gonna do iman how's it going iman

00:41:56.520 iman you're on mute gotta unmute guys iman you're on mute iman on on three two

00:42:06.520 one i'm going to put you back in the waiting room whatever you're up again you better be off mute

00:42:12.460 so we're going to go to nevermarried.com again

00:42:16.180 nevermarried.com are you there there you are how are you all right i'm hopefully this is the first

00:42:28.640 time i've called into your show i've been i follow you on on twitter and hopefully uh we're talking

00:42:34.480 about uh women women and and dating tonight right yeah um so the question is do you know any women

00:42:41.820 that were actually able to do it all or did they find out that they couldn't um there recently was

00:42:48.700 a picture that's going viral of um president trump's press secretary with her baby at work

00:42:55.040 so do you have any thoughts on that topic

00:42:58.440 i know i heard trump talk about the uh baby thing um is it is it five thousand dollars for each

00:43:07.200 mother he plans on doing that shortly i was in the news yeah well well i'm more wondering about

00:43:13.620 your personal experience um have you worked in a workplace with women did they ever bring their

00:43:18.680 kids to work um did you ever work in a place where did you ever work in a place where they're

00:43:28.000 there are a bunch of women that went out on maternity leave and you had to pick up the slack

00:43:32.120 or anything like that? No, I don't have any experience with that.

00:43:39.460 Did you have a general question for Pearl at all? Yes, I wanted to congratulate her. I really

00:43:45.140 enjoy her work. She is such an expert in the dating world. I really look to her a lot.

00:43:52.160 and i wondered what her thoughts were i i uh trying to figure out i read the poll 25 percent

00:43:59.800 that's 25 percent of 40 year olds in the united states have never been married and it's actually

00:44:06.620 increased from 20 percent in 2010 that's from peer research center what um what's the problem

00:44:12.820 why aren't americans getting married um they're trying to do everything like trump is going to

00:44:17.120 get five thousand dollars and jd advance told people we need to have more babies in america so

00:44:21.980 why are people not having babies just the people just decide not to have children

00:44:26.700 is it because they're not dating anymore wait what's no i would say women don't want children

00:44:32.160 as much as we previously thought so women are 100 in control of reproduction now and that we chose

00:44:39.340 not to have kids so okay yeah that's the first problem the second thing is the cost of marriage

00:44:47.620 men aren't really doing it anymore and they're much more hesitant they require a lot longer

00:44:53.580 waiting period a lot of women aren't going to put up with that yeah and it's really I only see

00:45:00.720 marriage becoming for the upper class if I'm being honest I see it disappearing completely

00:45:05.360 from the middle class it's the only men that are going to do it are the ones that can afford a

00:45:10.200 divorce pretty amazing yeah we um we launched our uh website for never marry people and uh it's the

00:45:20.860 world's only dating app website for narrative it's called nevermarrieddating.com hope we can

00:45:24.840 get that plug out there for everybody doesn't either you don't want to get married or if you

00:45:29.040 want to get married either way but anybody can join the website but it's definitely designed

00:45:34.820 for never marry people so cool well thanks for calling in thank first time caller yeah

00:45:42.680 call in any time all right thank you okay we're gonna try iman again let me see

00:45:49.620 iman are you there

00:45:53.960 iman you're on mute

00:45:58.440 i'm on i am aan are you there

00:46:05.140 oh he doesn't he's he's on mute so let me put him back in the waiting room

00:46:15.960 what the women that you work with doug mpa are they mostly like how do they watch their

00:46:24.000 children are their husbands doing it are the kids in school like you work with a decent amount of

00:46:30.440 women don't you yeah but you know i work in a place that's rather conservative so most of them

00:46:37.160 most of the people there are married i gotta give my workplace credit i'm i'm gonna thank god i'm

00:46:43.620 in a conservative area where there's a lot of conservatives all of my supervisors all my

00:46:49.060 higher-ups are married they all have kids you know most of the women are married so they do the you

00:46:55.320 know the husband and the wife work but they have a network of people they have family that help them

00:47:02.460 watch the kids friends and stuff yeah so my area is really really good about that so would you say

00:47:08.540 the women that you work with can do it all then uh well they're under no illusion that they they

00:47:17.200 don't i haven't heard any of these women say that that they have at all but they recognize that well

00:47:22.720 because okay at my job i've seen there are women who have had to go to therapy because they had to

00:47:31.920 work and miss their younger their children's younger years that's a rising part of therapy

00:47:39.840 when you know a woman gets out of maternity leave after six or eight weeks and then their whole

00:47:46.320 attitude changes because all of a sudden their job is not what's most important but they put

00:47:50.460 themselves in a position where they have to work so i don't work with a lot of women who are under

00:47:54.960 this illusion that they're these high-flying women and they're making an impact and stuff like that

00:47:59.500 i think it's because they're rather conservative but they realize that they made their choice

00:48:04.840 now they have to lay in the consequences you know what i'm saying yeah so they don't really deny

00:48:09.440 reality they like know they did have to sacrifice and that they yeah so i'm curious do they do day

00:48:15.240 care or do their husbands have different yeah the one woman that i know um from growing up that

00:48:21.180 balanced it decently well without any outside help she was a nurse and she did the night shift

00:48:27.460 and so her husband worked during the day so i'm sure her marriage probably they ended up getting

00:48:33.700 divorced actually so it nurses right but um and where i live uh daycare is 1850 a child geez

00:48:44.180 so if you have two kids most of the time in daycare you're paying more for daycare than

00:48:50.260 you do for your mortgage i'm gonna let jordan in here

00:48:54.720 jordan are you there yeah hey jordan how's it going you're able to hear me okay yeah i can

00:49:04.800 hear you fine how are you i'm good uh what industry are you in and what part of the country

00:49:10.900 um i'm in the west coast and i uh work in the law enforcement okay

00:49:17.380 are so have you had female cops at work how's that been going

00:49:21.460 um so the particular part of the country i work in they're pushing for

00:49:28.100 30 of our department to have female staff are you in east coast west coast or midwest oh i'm

00:49:36.540 west coast oh yeah i thought so yeah yeah i actually lived in the east coast and did corrections

00:49:43.100 out there and uh it's not much better so i moved back but uh yeah but over here on the west coast

00:49:50.700 and even on the east coast they want to raise the population of female officers um to 30 percent is

00:49:59.420 the majority of some of these departments which is going to be a detriment to to safety overall

00:50:06.540 um because they're virtually useless

00:50:08.820 yeah i've seen how the are they like sleeping with everyone at work

00:50:16.900 like i saw the lossy with that one cop is that like a problem for you guys

00:50:21.240 um yeah i mean i've had

00:50:26.420 we've had women who have fallen in love with inmates

00:50:32.660 um which to me is like the most bewildering thing i've ever encountered in we love criminals yeah

00:50:42.240 i've just never understood women's dynamic to be attracted to losers but

00:50:46.980 you know um i guess whatever your prerogative is but so um have how have they do the women

00:50:56.780 you work with do they have kids or uh yeah some of them have kids um i mean it's are they all

00:51:05.500 single mothers the ones with kids or are they married because i know that it's hard for male

00:51:11.820 cops to stay married but female cops i would imagine none of them are married right i well

00:51:17.120 i mean we have you you have both sides of everything so i mean you have the single

00:51:22.480 mothers you have the married mothers who are sleeping with other officers that aren't their

00:51:27.180 husbands their husbands may even know that they're sleeping with other officers and they're turning

00:51:32.000 them out um and uh and they're and they remain married um and then you have the ones who have

00:51:39.880 been cheating on their husbands the whole time and their um uh husbands who work with them in

00:51:46.440 the same prison have no idea you don't want to tell them you don't want to break the news um

00:51:56.300 no uh i because when so you were you have a double-edged sword so when you go and do stuff

00:52:06.420 like that and we all know we all understand the pecking order amongst men um prison isn't a place

00:52:14.060 where you go and you snitch and you tell everybody else's business so um that's not i i don't give a

00:52:21.460 fuck has nothing to do with my life so i don't care yeah you do you i don't care so um so have

00:52:29.560 do you know any women like personally that thought they could have it all and couldn't or

00:52:33.660 how have the women you worked with like balanced kids um you know this this is kind of it's equal

00:52:43.860 for men and women in regards to like parenting and being a, being in law enforcement, it's very

00:52:50.020 hard to raise children in general and do a shift work type of job. And then you, and then you add

00:52:57.540 the, the, the danger, the mental health and all that stuff that goes along with our side of,

00:53:04.320 of work. It doesn't really matter if you're male or female. Um, and with parenting, you're going

00:53:11.100 to bring some of that home your your parenting is going to be affected you're not going to be

00:53:15.960 around your children like you should a daycare or a babysitter is going to end up raising your kids

00:53:21.100 if you're in that line of work especially if you're a single parent doesn't really matter

00:53:24.900 if you're a male or a female but the females don't handle the um the issues of work as as well

00:53:36.120 And it's, you know, men are, we're very good at compartmentalizing our problems and compartmentalizing things that happen to us.

00:53:45.600 Women, on the other hand, have a little bit harder time regulating their emotions and checking their emotions when they go through those particular same situations as men do in that same field.

00:53:55.620 Well, and I have kind of a thing.

00:53:57.840 So what do you think about this, Jordan?

00:53:59.940 Because my father told me when I was young, he said, when you turn 16, you're going to, I'm sorry.

00:54:05.460 the journey of a man you have one way in life you're gonna get a job when you're 16 and you're

00:54:12.300 gonna work until you're dead right hopefully along the way you get a highly valued skill

00:54:17.700 highly valued trade uh highly valued education to be able to put yourself in the best position

00:54:23.160 to live life on your own terms or have a family that's it that's your only option so when the

00:54:29.360 going gets tough you know you don't have a choice especially at a job women deep down know that

00:54:35.660 that this is optional for them they have other ways to navigate life besides a job and a career

00:54:42.940 so if the going gets tough they'll want to try something else like get married and settle down

00:54:49.100 that's why uh 50 of female physicians will stop practicing medicine before they're 45 50 of women

00:54:57.020 in stem science technology engineering and math will will leave the industry if they have a kid

00:55:04.060 or by the time they're 43 and then female ceos their career life is two to three years that

00:55:11.660 a male ceo is seven to eight years because women know that is that success is optional for them

00:55:18.860 but men it's mandatory what do you think oh it's 100 mandatory for for for men to seek and be

00:55:28.220 driven towards success of any kind whether it's in the workplace whether it's within their own family

00:55:34.060 or whatever. And that, that burden is always going to be on them. Hence why we're so good

00:55:39.060 at handling it. Um, with, with women, I, I just wish in a general statement with women that they

00:55:47.100 would realize that the most important thing they could ever be is excellent wives and excellent

00:55:52.980 mothers. They're wasting their time going to school, um, and, uh, chasing these careers.

00:56:01.020 because ultimately good men don't give a fuck we don't care we don't care what your successes are

00:56:05.780 on the outside world we want to know if you're going to be a good wife and if you're going to

00:56:09.900 be a good mother we don't care about the other stuff all that other shit will work itself out

00:56:13.720 and if we had more women who were on the same page then it would allow us to have an opportunity to

00:56:19.400 allow um more activism against uh the government to change that to maybe add some propaganda

00:56:27.400 um throughout our country to encourage women to stay home and raise their children and especially

00:56:35.420 the intelligent women the intelligent women should be the one staying home even more they

00:56:40.180 want to do smart kids no they want to do it less if you see the more like the more educated women

00:56:46.980 are the less likely they want to stay home you couldn't pay you couldn't pay women to stay home

00:56:53.500 and watch their kids it's like the missing piece everybody's like women just don't want to be moms

00:57:00.100 like they don't you can't pay this five grand is going to do nothing if they wanted to be moms

00:57:07.280 they would be women are so susceptible though pearl to to propaganda in general that this would

00:57:15.100 be a generational fix it wouldn't be something that would happen overnight but if you if we

00:57:21.220 we're pushing the propaganda no you can't market you can't look at no you can't market things to

00:57:26.900 people that don't want them right so if i run an ad on you for makeup you're not going to buy it

00:57:33.760 because you don't want it the reason it works is because that's what women want

00:57:39.080 right but you you can make that same argument when it came to um when it came to a gay marriage

00:57:50.180 or something like that you had a bunch of people who didn't want it but the more and more society

00:57:54.780 kept pushing that lifestyle onto people who didn't agree with it the more and more people

00:57:59.760 became women women wanted it yeah which is another good reason why they should stay home and not vote

00:58:06.460 but i'm i i know but that's my point is women wanted that and it wasn't propaganda that's what

00:58:14.120 women wanted not like not ultimately because even in the women's suffrage movement the mass majority

00:58:21.560 of women didn't want the responsibility of having a vote because they knew what was going to come

00:58:25.640 behind that but it was the propaganda over the next several generations that then told women to

00:58:32.420 be boss okay well yeah but if we flip the script but it's but it's stated but it's stated preferences

00:58:38.500 versus revealed preferences women say things right you can say that you want one thing but

00:58:44.180 what did they do once they got the choice to leave they did it's like the fat person that

00:58:49.800 says they want to lose weight but they never diet and then he's like oh the propaganda made me fat

00:58:54.720 no you want to be fat it's the same way if women wanted to be mothers we would be

00:58:59.880 well then what do you think i mean do you think at the end of the day that maybe

00:59:04.560 instead of pushing the propaganda for, to encourage women to want to be mothers more

00:59:09.200 so than the boss babe, then to maybe, um, uh, have them want to care more about like

00:59:22.420 people just push parents to want to raise their children to care about more about raising

00:59:26.420 a good family instead of, you can't make someone care about that.

00:59:29.860 yeah but i think you but i think women are if if we address the idea of how they get you that's

00:59:36.880 how they get you guys you know like it's like kind of like the women that say i was like

00:59:41.260 propaganded to banging chad and tyrone and i was just like coerced and that's how they get you

00:59:47.440 guys they convince you it was propaganda not what they wanted to do but you know you can keep like

00:59:53.600 giving them you can keep giving them you can keep don't over talk me on my show you can you can keep

00:59:58.960 giving women a get out of jail free card if you want but if women wanted to be mothers like women

01:00:06.380 if i download a dating app i have a thousand matches a thousand like we have the we have

01:00:12.860 the choice to do whatever we want and the more freedom we got unfortunately it just showed we

01:00:17.660 didn't like men as much as we previously thought that women did well right and i think i i i don't

01:00:25.640 disagree with you on that i think that we've we've we've given women a lot more freedom to

01:00:32.120 do whatever they want um but it's to the detriment of of our society ultimately we don't we have a

01:00:40.660 crashing birth rate and i think we should be having some sort of movement towards changing that

01:00:46.620 so at least we have some semblance of a country here in the future um i'm not saying that um i'm

01:00:53.500 letting women off the hook. Contrary to that, I think that we've, men have done a horrible job

01:00:59.760 at holding women accountable for their actions out of fear of retribution from them and criticism

01:01:09.960 for maybe our peers or whatever it may be. Well, women have a lot of legal power. So it's probably

01:01:17.620 it's probably pretty it's probably it's probably a pretty warranted fear how how could a man how

01:01:23.700 could a man hold a woman accountable like how how can a guy do that if you have a wife

01:01:29.940 and you said have kids no i don't want to what is he going to do

01:01:35.220 or you're dating a woman whatever how do you hold her accountable

01:01:39.840 well i i i wouldn't i mean that wouldn't be a woman that i would even address

01:01:47.520 in a um in a nice way anyways um i deal with those kinds of women all the time and i uh and

01:01:56.020 i always thank them for remaining a genetic dead end i tell them thank you for not procreating

01:02:01.880 and please don't ever right but were they i'm sorry but right was it like propaganda that

01:02:09.200 made them want to do that or did they just not want to no it's the it's the um at least like

01:02:16.480 if we were to go back into my like line of work and dealing with the women in there a lot of the

01:02:20.660 women especially in the younger age groups you know 30 or or younger that come into that field

01:02:26.900 they get all this attention from all these men because when you go into the prison system as a

01:02:32.060 woman as an officer or any other position in there um you can be a four a five maybe and as soon as

01:02:43.340 you walk into that prison you become a seven or an eight and then these women get these big heads

01:02:48.600 and then before and then by the time they're ready to settle down they've been turned out and none of

01:02:52.960 the men around them want them which is their own doing um yeah but they could just go somewhere

01:02:59.160 else and then no one would know like again if they wanted to they could yeah like they could

01:03:05.260 just go to get it go to a new facility go to a new city no one will know well well i mean they

01:03:13.600 they can't not really not in our field because that all that all follows you believe it or not

01:03:18.020 because it's it's an it all interworks within the whole state everybody will know you that's how

01:03:23.220 that works we're gonna we have a couple more callers coming in well thank hey thanks for

01:03:29.280 having me guys it was really nice talking to you pearl big fan yeah thanks for calling calling

01:03:33.380 any time okay appreciate it thank you yeah okay let's see if amon is here okay amon we're gonna

01:03:45.940 try one more time and if amon are you there you're on mute and if you don't amon on three

01:03:55.220 I'm on two

01:03:57.340 I'm on one

01:03:59.360 so now I'm going to boot you out

01:04:00.960 Is anyone else in the waiting room?

01:04:09.800 No

01:04:10.180 Okay

01:04:10.960 Yeah

01:04:19.840 what I think

01:04:21.600 on that subject is

01:04:23.100 coach Craig Adams said the best

01:04:25.920 women are going to have to crash and burn

01:04:28.100 and realize that this whole

01:04:30.220 career thing is not fun because

01:04:32.040 feminists have rewritten

01:04:34.360 history they tried to say in the

01:04:36.300 40s and the 50s and the 60s

01:04:38.040 men got to work

01:04:39.820 and women didn't and they just

01:04:42.200 romanticized working

01:04:44.460 work sucks

01:04:46.160 you guys like I don't so

01:04:48.040 women have this romanticized view

01:04:50.240 of I'm going to work some job

01:04:52.300 and contribute and save the universe with my social work degree that cost me 140 000 to get

01:04:58.860 enough women are gonna have to there's gonna have to be a couple generation of women that are gonna

01:05:03.580 have to dispel this romanticized view of working and career see men we know that work sucks but we

01:05:10.940 have to do it because we have to eat but women have this romanticized view of work because of

01:05:17.340 how phil is rewrote history the we have a generation of women so my mom's generation

01:05:24.380 um married to men of status you are made to good men and told their daughters not to do

01:05:31.580 what they did go out here be single live your best life and we're gonna have to have a couple

01:05:38.540 of generations of women that do that and see how much how terrible it is and then they're gonna

01:05:42.860 have to then they're gonna reverse reverse course after that yeah i totally agree with cga like we

01:05:50.460 we have to crash and burn otherwise like that's the thing there's no we're not gonna watch a video

01:05:56.300 and decide to be a trad wife you know like there's no propagating women back well it you're starting

01:06:03.980 to see what i'm talking about already but the biggest problem is these women are like 37 to 45

01:06:10.780 with this realization we need women who are willing to make this to say i don't want to

01:06:16.800 get involved in the first place in their early 20s and say look i want to be okay yeah that's

01:06:22.560 not gonna happen yeah you know gen z yeah gen z women rank men seventh in their priority list

01:06:28.680 yeah it's not cooked they're like pearl you're so blackpilled i'm like every stat

01:06:35.420 and call her under my show black pills me a little more yeah they say that under 30 52 percent of men

01:06:43.140 say that relationships and marriage are a priority in their life and only like 21 percent of women say

01:06:49.540 that and that's just what women say we know we don't mean anything we say like lauren southern

01:06:57.560 said not to be a single mother and she's a single mother now you know yeah or or ask these

01:07:05.060 st claire has her rocket baby and she had one before that and she's miss trad she she was she

01:07:12.300 was on that what was that one show the two british guys that you were on um i don't remember

01:07:18.760 oh and they were meaner to me than this baby mother i hate simps like she was six months

01:07:26.040 pregnant in that interview six months pregnant i conservative media will literally fight and die

01:07:33.920 for whores they will literally like they will literally like and and half of the people when

01:07:41.140 she announced it from conservative media were celebrating like candace owens celebrated

01:07:45.640 really uh we're gonna bring on one more well we have two more callers so i'm gonna bring on james

01:07:55.260 w he's joining up to say everyone make sure to like the video and go to pearl's website

01:08:08.600 audacitynetwork.com and sign up for a membership we really appreciate that james w are you there

01:08:14.440 yeah i'm here man how's it going james it's going pretty okay it's going pretty okay bro how are you

01:08:21.200 I'm good. What part of the country are you in? And what industry?

01:08:24.820 I'm on the East Coast. I'm in Virginia.

01:08:27.720 In what industry?

01:08:29.860 Oh, I'm in Virginia, but I work in the warehouse industry.

01:08:32.960 Okay. And do you have a lot of women at work?

01:08:37.300 Quite a few. Quite a few. Honestly, I wouldn't say it'll be normal as far as ratio is normal workplaces, but there are still women in the warehouse industry.

01:08:46.520 And so what's been your experience working with them?

01:08:51.200 Honestly, it's it's unfortunately an overwhelming amount of masculinity that you get from these kind of females for whatever reason.

01:09:00.060 And it's kind of tiptoeing the line of independence and arrogance and things like that.

01:09:05.900 But the one thing, the one strength that I do have with these type of women is it seems that they often led some sort of past experience or some sort of bad relationship or what have you kind of formulate their way of thinking moving forward for the rest of their lives.

01:09:21.720 And it's pretty evident in the way they carry themselves and the expectations they have for just men versus the way that they view themselves for whatever reason.

01:09:30.920 and what's your experience with um the mothers that you work with how do they balance working

01:09:38.360 at a warehouse and um their families do they have any families i don't it's it's kind of hard to tell

01:09:45.960 because a lot of them it seems like even the ones that are well beyond their youth um because i'm

01:09:52.160 27 but even the ones that are well beyond their youth they're somehow still trying to live as if

01:09:57.780 they have it um like i said my industry is an industry mainly dominated by men in the first

01:10:03.460 place but often women in these uh environments want to be treated like men for whatever reason

01:10:08.860 or they have the mindset of a man for whatever reason so there's not really much femininity

01:10:15.120 there um there's not really much of the i guess the modern family portrait you know

01:10:21.020 it's just more so of independence chasing that independence and that youth that they know is

01:10:26.800 well beyond them so do all the women you you work with that have kids are they all single moms

01:10:32.300 i would say maybe 90 of them there you go go ahead i'm sorry um who's watching their kids

01:10:40.460 when they're at work for most of them see and that's the that's this is the thing right because

01:10:46.440 not many of them are in my age group so their their kids are like 30 31 but they but the

01:10:54.400 recurring thing that i seem to come across is they either have a bad relationship with their kids or

01:10:58.960 they don't have one at all wow so do you think it's because of their job or just who they are as

01:11:07.100 people i truly think it's because of their relationship with that child and i say that

01:11:15.580 because most of these women are working industry jobs and they say well they have the mindset of

01:11:21.480 a man should be doing this for me I shouldn't be here right and then you see the divorce or

01:11:26.760 these split marriages and whatever but the kids are grown and even in my personal experience like

01:11:32.220 I had a falling out with my mother for a brief moment because our opinions on my father often

01:11:39.160 doesn't seem the same right so it's like you would see my father as he needs to do more and I see my

01:11:45.600 father as he's basically babying you because he's adhering to your expectations beyond of

01:11:51.740 what's even required of him if that makes sense

01:11:53.880 so it's like oh the my child loves their father and me and the child aren't on good terms because

01:12:02.640 of that you see what i'm saying it's like oh i think their father's a deadbeat but they think

01:12:07.420 the word of their father so my kid isn't really worth a damn to me you know that sort of thing

01:12:12.140 doug mpa you got any other questions for him tell you that that strong black mother thing man

01:12:20.660 it's the worst thing that happened to black america it really is but for whatever reason

01:12:25.980 the social consensus and the media loves to uh empower these women instead of uh holding them

01:12:32.400 accountable only it seems like only the males are held accountable you know at one point men

01:12:37.180 weren't masculine enough and now you look at media today and it's like they don't even want

01:12:42.040 me to be masculine anymore how's your relationship with your mom right now my relationship with my

01:12:49.200 mom is good and i would reluctantly say that a lot of it is because i've had to uh kind of create

01:12:57.300 the space to not kind of i guess understand her behavior and not judge it even though she judges

01:13:03.300 mine so um i use my father's example because again this is where the despair between the

01:13:10.400 mother and the child comes in is often the child will look at the father for how they maneuver

01:13:15.940 situations the mood swings the unaccountability from the female of their mother in the household

01:13:21.060 and that will even force them to mow their outlook on the modern woman

01:13:25.340 uh well a piece of advice is you know i'm i'm black too i had a horrible relationship with my

01:13:33.720 mom for most of my life but you don't owe your mom anything especially when you become an adult

01:13:39.100 if you're paying your own bills you you don't have to take your mom's garbage you really don't

01:13:45.760 and uh a lot of us black men i used to mentor young african-american and young african immigrant

01:13:52.320 men for years and there's a brotherhood where all of us have had horrible relationships

01:13:57.340 with our moms because our moms were all scumbags so just protect yourself emotionally from your

01:14:06.380 mom dude there's too many who black mothers are just agents of chaos and you you can't tell them

01:14:12.480 nothing so just be careful man you know keep yourself protected okay emotionally okay

01:14:20.700 that's all i got thanks for calling in james absolutely you guys have a good afternoon

01:14:27.600 you too okay and we have one more caller okay uh he called in yesterday but we're gonna bring him

01:14:34.820 in today's chad chattington he's back how's it going buddy chad how's it going hey what's up

01:14:50.700 How are you?

01:14:53.300 Bless this evening.

01:14:54.420 How are you and Doug?

01:14:55.840 Good.

01:14:57.180 Tell me your experience with either working with women or knowing women that tried to do both.

01:15:06.420 Do you know any that were able to?

01:15:11.120 Raised by a single mother.

01:15:12.560 and uh she did more than most single mothers i've dated or worked with

01:15:21.000 and it still fell by the wayside putting her career to make sure we had food on the table

01:15:29.180 and getting me everything i needed for school food everything but it made me more self-sufficient

01:15:36.600 because being gen x i was a latchkey kid i had to take care of myself um made me a more mature adult

01:15:45.880 quicker uh and working with so many single mothers in probably 30 35 years of working

01:15:57.000 number one uh 10 to 20 percent of the women i've worked with in all different types of industries

01:16:05.000 i've worked with were worth their salt compared to the men i've worked with and i'm not insulting

01:16:10.600 women i'm just giving you you know hands down facts like if just take for instance you know

01:16:17.320 bartender for a few years when i was younger i only worked with like one or two female bartenders

01:16:23.320 that could keep up with the male bartenders um and when you talk about single mother wise

01:16:29.480 you gotta you gotta decide okay you're gonna put all this time into the career you're gonna put all

01:16:35.940 this time into your children even as a single father raising my son now granted you know me

01:16:44.180 and his mother were uh i had him half the time he he she had him half the time um anytime you

01:16:52.040 you know have to go out to work and we did the best we could by being there for him as much as

01:16:58.200 we could as a father or a mother you put time into work you lose time with the child you put

01:17:04.880 time into the child you lose time with your career the balance is very difficult to do for

01:17:10.700 a lot of people i think my mother came close to doing it uh i commend her for it very strong you

01:17:17.660 know being a single mother in the late 70s 80s and 90s you know i i feel i feel what what did

01:17:24.140 what did she do uh she was in the hotel industry for a long time um it paid well uh it was a more

01:17:34.860 nine to five nine to six so at least she could be home but that meant me getting home you know

01:17:40.860 two three o'clock letting myself in snacks take the dog out get my homework started sometimes

01:17:47.340 starting uh dinner i'm a good cook so i learned to cook quick and uh but i i you know years later

01:17:55.560 she actually told me when in my late 20s early 30s when i had a child and raised and started

01:18:03.180 raising my child after me and my wife divorced by myself um she said yeah uh i i went into work

01:18:12.320 and got this career and everything to take care of you but to tell you the truth i wish i could

01:18:16.680 have just been a stay-at-home mom and had a couple kids and that kind of like hit me that kind of

01:18:22.680 like hit me I was like wow even at a young age in my mid-20s hearing that from my mother

01:18:29.120 I kind of felt for like you know she wanted to be there more for me I felt she was there for me

01:18:36.360 more than most single mothers I've dated uh so I commend her for that what did you see in the

01:18:42.920 women that you dated like that they were there less for their kids like what did you notice

01:18:47.500 so as you know I've dated quite a few women yeah your name is Chad

01:18:54.240 uh and you know I'd say in the you said let's round up to 200 it's like 180 180 to 190 somewhere

01:19:05.860 around there but uh in the 60 to 70 percent of the single mothers i dated over the years

01:19:13.240 only 10 to 20 percent of those were good mothers you know like they weren't horrible mothers i

01:19:22.060 wouldn't date a horrible person or see a horrible person but as far as mother wise goes and that

01:19:28.480 isn't even like they put more time into their career they just weren't good mothers so what

01:19:33.160 do you mean by not being like what can you just give me some specifics maybe uh on what not being

01:19:40.400 a good mother yeah like what did they do that was so bad uh chose to be with and I'm not talking

01:19:49.980 about me in particular but over time because I've known a lot of the women I've been with

01:19:54.360 even after we dated and everything they chose either career or their their they were a little

01:20:03.620 more um selfish in wanting to date and not really paying attention to their children as the way they

01:20:12.620 should my son is the most important thing to me and the the mother of my child i was married to

01:20:18.900 for six years she was an incredible mother yet she still had to work you know 40 50 hours a week

01:20:26.500 and again we co-parented so that helped but the ones i'm talking about that i dated i seen after

01:20:33.520 me that i knew after me you know wanted to party wanted to go out at night even though they had

01:20:40.040 two three kids oh i see okay so you saw them like at the club yeah exactly uh you know and i was

01:20:48.200 just like oh so who's got the kids tonight oh they're at home and I'm like they're like eight

01:20:53.120 and ten I'm like and they're like yeah but they're okay and I'm just like okay when I had my son I

01:21:02.460 was at home I didn't leave my son at home to go out to have a couple drinks with a friend until

01:21:09.200 he was like 12 or 13 and then where I went was a mile down the road he would live next to a friend

01:21:17.540 that was like an uncle to him that he could you know call or go to his house in case something

01:21:22.240 majorly happened and i didn't stay out till one or two in the morning i went out and had a couple

01:21:27.000 drinks because i didn't see a friend here and there but i'm talking about these women would

01:21:32.420 go out and just party all night get home at two three in the morning get up at you know six seven

01:21:38.460 to get their kids ready for school then somehow go to work get them home and then they'd be out

01:21:44.380 the next night and i'm just like uh i'm glad i stopped dating you that's funny um but i just saw

01:21:57.260 you didn't have a lot of color so i'm like oh let me chime in i had a single mother and you know i

01:22:01.760 can bring some light to the situation with you know 50 years of experience the single the mothers

01:22:07.840 that you dated um that were able to balance it better would you say they were generally people

01:22:12.680 that worked nine to five? Yes. Yes. Uh, a lot of the moms that took care of their children well

01:22:20.960 had more of the eight to four, nine to fives, you know, maybe nine to sixes. Uh, and also

01:22:28.920 typically I did date a lot of older women too. So their children were more capable of staying home

01:22:38.220 if they needed to type of thing um but you know then again i like i said i dated some single

01:22:45.200 mothers and i guess i identified quickly that yeah you might not be the type of responsible

01:22:50.260 person i want in my life or around my child and then later on i would see them you know partying

01:22:55.980 in clubs staying out all night and i'm just like don't your kids have to get up for school in like

01:23:00.720 five hours yeah they'll be okay i'm like okay

01:23:04.440 damn okay all right well but oh you got any questions for me doug uh i i don't um

01:23:17.540 i don't really no thanks for calling chad no problem guys blessed evening i love your show

01:23:27.040 guys take care thanks peace um you know what i have one one more story i can tell about this

01:23:37.040 uh so i the last single mother i dated uh you dated a single mother so she oh my gosh

01:23:48.240 she was a dog mpa you i thought you'd never touch him well so this was like years ago so she was a

01:23:59.980 flight attendant and uh she had twins when she was really young and so she was in her 30s with

01:24:09.740 teenage twins and um she she became a flight attendant because she had a bachelor's degree

01:24:17.480 some kind of education system crap and uh so flight attendants travel a lot so when you're new

01:24:24.680 you have to you're on call pretty much every day of the week so her her mother got in the habit of

01:24:29.400 taking care of her of her children so when i met her she'd be on call the first part of the week

01:24:37.000 and then she would come to my house um uh the latter half of the week and part of the weekend

01:24:45.320 and the only time that she'd be home to to see her kids was on sundays and then she'd go out and

01:24:50.120 do it again i'm like wait a minute so you only see your children like i mean they would call

01:24:57.240 her on the phone and stuff and then she'd send them uber eats if they were hungry and stuff

01:25:01.400 but they had grown up because the grandma was one who taking care of them most of the time

01:25:08.120 and once again most of her life she was a flight attendant so she was always gone for work

01:25:15.080 but yeah so she would she's either a flight attendant or she was at my house every day

01:25:20.280 of the week except for one day and i'm like why are you why are you never home to see your kids

01:25:25.640 she's like well my first identity isn't being a mother you know it's me first and it's not

01:25:31.240 really being a mother i'm like yeah this needs to stop but she was brainwashed she was brainwashed

01:25:37.080 into that doug mpa yeah yes guy fo she she was good in bed too so there's that

01:25:45.100 i can't believe you dated one crazy yeah i mean most of us guys most of us have at least once

01:25:54.680 right guys come on now one to ten how hot uh well factor i can never get a single mother

01:26:03.140 more than an eight or seven no just looks alone okay she was an eight okay that'll do it yeah

01:26:10.560 guaranteed men will take an eight over when do i think it switches when do you i think it

01:26:18.340 switches at like five where they the kid if she's an eight she's a six or a five

01:26:23.860 yep yeah but cool that's all i got is there anyone else there or no nope okay well you know

01:26:35.880 i actually do think that women can do it all um i really do i think women can have the career and

01:26:42.040 the kids if they pay someone else to do it for them yeah they have nannies and stuff yeah nannies

01:26:50.660 um or daycare or a grandma that does it for free so women can do it all when they take credit for

01:26:58.640 someone else's work which is what we do best really um anyways guys thanks so much for watching

01:27:04.600 doug mpa you got any other questions or any other statements you want to make nope uh yeah so no

01:27:11.460 single mothers and then also um these women can't do it by themselves any woman that says i have it

01:27:20.300 all i might it's like megan kelly the other day i have it all she she married her first husband

01:27:27.500 was a surgeon then her second husband was worth like 80 million dollars and then now she's on her

01:27:33.980 third husband and she has three kids but she had them all through ivf so she probably spent 130

01:27:38.940 000 on her three kids and she says that she has it all so she had to go through all that

01:27:45.740 to quote unquote say that she have it all it's not worth it well she's gonna women are happy with

01:27:52.240 that right that's like she's living the female fantasy have kids get the clout and not have to

01:27:59.740 raise them yourself yeah or remember candace owens um i know she her husband's worth a hundred

01:28:07.300 million dollars oh my she's behind the microphone instead of being there with her kids how sad is

01:28:12.840 that yeah oh my gosh do you know what um guess who had a kid before 25 who's this can't believe

01:28:23.600 it i can't believe a female influencer had a kid before 25 brett cooper's pregnant no are you

01:28:30.960 serious yeah but she's married right yeah so there's that at least i know i was like i didn't

01:28:39.100 think it was possible she she looks like ben shapiro she's just like him yeah i can't unsee

01:28:46.240 it i just can't let's see you you've never seen brett cooper and ben shapiro in the same place at

01:28:52.500 the same time i wonder her content actually is slowed does it slow down a little bit let me see

01:29:00.500 not really oh if you read the super chat bro oh shoot sorry let me check them on the website or

01:29:10.660 on the um on on the youtube there's like three of them i think oh thanks guys for super chat and

01:29:17.900 you're the best um okay we got dustin women you think they can have it all are the ones who think

01:29:25.120 i will have it all with the next guy but the next guy is never mr right until the kid is 18

01:29:30.000 um can men give survival um value and women give replication value we are over civilized and women

01:29:38.700 no longer directly need us for survival this illusion given but indirectly it's the same

01:29:43.720 game collapse um james has tim pool's podcast is gonna save us well i hope it does um anyways guys

01:29:52.780 thank you for calling in Doug MPA it's a pleasure as always um this weekend um

01:30:02.740 we'll see um we have another interview person coming in and I think you guys are going to be

01:30:11.520 very excited for who it is and yeah and then I'll see you guys next week otherwise but the

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Pearl - May 10, 2025

Can Modern Women Really Do It All (Call-in Show) ｜ Pearl Daily

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