Pearl - Chad Gives Up On Dating And ESCAPES THE MATRIX

00:00:00.000 that's how men feel they don't want to force you they want you it's like it just reminds me of

00:00:04.320 god's love because god's love like it's kind of like what he did with his kids he said i want

00:00:08.640 you to want to be with not to have to and that's how men feel about women they want you to want

00:00:13.840 them what up guys welcome to my reaction series today we are reacting to a young chad over here

00:00:19.040 talking about why he's giving up and getting married and starting a family so this is a guy

00:00:22.960 i think that in history would have reproduced he looks muscular i'd say conventionally attractive

00:00:28.080 and even the chads you know so if you're uh not a chad even the chads are walking away they're like

00:00:32.800 these are too much let's see what he has to say i've always assumed i'd get married have kids

00:00:38.960 start a family that's actually one of the reasons why i built this house as big as it is it's over

00:00:43.520 3 000 square foot because i figured that if i'm gonna have a family i need some place to put them

00:00:49.520 but over the years my mindset on that has completely changed i'm 40 years old now and

00:00:55.120 And I've basically given up on the idea of starting a family.

00:00:57.760 And there's a few reasons for that.

00:00:59.100 And I'm sure there's probably a lot of guys out there that can relate to this.

00:01:01.640 And that's why I'm making this video.

00:01:02.980 Because it has become increasingly difficult for a guy to confidently go into a relationship

00:01:08.800 and be okay with getting married, having kids, and starting a family.

00:01:13.920 One of the primary reasons for me, aside from the fact that I'm 40 years old now

00:01:18.240 and I'm kind of stuck in my ways,

00:01:19.740 but I decided several years ago that the idea of having a family is pretty much not going to happen.

00:01:24.000 because number one there's a lot of crazy indoctrination that's going on with kids i

00:01:29.760 wonder um i think it would be difficult to find a girl in my opinion you got to bang a bunch of

00:01:36.540 women in the city in order to find a wife if you didn't find her young you got to be in an area 1.00

00:01:40.820 where a lot of young attractive women are and if you're in the middle of nowhere i think that's 0.91

00:01:45.900 difficult kids and stuff these days in schools the stuff they're teaching kids is just freaking

00:01:50.720 adhorrent and I do not agree with any of it. They're pushing all these sexual agendas and all

00:01:55.400 this, these crazy ideologies in schools now. And when you're a parent and you're sending your kid

00:02:01.920 off to school, you know, that's all this time that you don't have with the kid because it's

00:02:05.860 up to you as a parent to shape your kid into the person you want them to become and to teach them

00:02:10.320 right from wrong and essentially protect them from all the things that you don't want them to

00:02:15.120 see. But when they're in school, you can't do that. And the only alternative to that is private

00:02:19.020 schooling or homeschooling. But then, you know, with homeschooling, you're taking your kid away

00:02:23.760 from the social interaction and all the things they be learning when they're in school, as far

00:02:28.500 as how to socialize with people, how to make friends, how to deal with people in general.

00:02:32.800 And that's a very important part of life. So it's kind of a give or take. But, you know, for me,

00:02:38.620 the idea that my kid's going to be stuck in school, learn all this crazy stuff

00:02:42.780 and not getting the proper education. Men don't like feeling not in control of their kids. I

00:02:48.560 say if i've learned anything in my interviews over the years it's that that is the hardest part it's

00:02:53.440 not really their wife banging someone new it's not being able to raise their kids properly especially

00:02:59.760 not the education that i would like my interviews with divorced men not men without kids to see them

00:03:04.800 get which would be like critical thinking life skills finance money skill trade all these very

00:03:12.160 important things in life that they really don't teach in school so that was a big thing for me

00:03:16.640 and just the direction of the world the the crazy way the world was going for a while and kind of

00:03:21.120 still is in a way i couldn't imagine bringing a kid up in that because i myself find it hard

00:03:25.920 enough to navigate sometimes i went through a bunch of crazy stuff with my health i know all

00:03:31.040 about suffering and what it's like to feel completely lost hopeless have no sense of

00:03:37.040 direction no per i bet a girl slides in his dms this is a good looking chad because that's another

00:03:43.600 place women are especially gen z women the internet the internet fly you fly you a gen z year out

00:03:48.780 purpose you can't find meaning in life and you know i've suffered from anxiety and depression

00:03:53.640 and all these horrible things and that was hard for me so the idea that i would have a kid and

00:03:58.460 bring them up in this crazy world and possibly have them suffer through a lot of the same crazy

00:04:03.440 things that i suffered through is just something that i decided i'm not willing to live with

00:04:07.520 and another big reason is because as a guy you know going into a relationship getting married

00:04:13.840 and stuff it comes with a lot of risk and it's no fault of our own it's no fault of the male or the

00:04:20.540 female sex it's the way the court system is set up it's the way our society is geared there's more

00:04:25.740 and more men like again this is not an ugly guy a lot of times they frame it as like these

00:04:29.620 unattractive men are walking away this is not an ugly guy he looks social um muscular like

00:04:37.040 conventionally attractive. And even he's saying, no, no, thank you. In general,

00:04:42.060 it's geared in favor of the woman. If a family gets divorced, most of the time the woman's 0.96

00:04:46.100 going to come out on top. And as somebody who has established a very good life for myself, 0.98

00:04:52.340 I'm financially secure. I'm debt-free. I own my own home. I've accomplished a lot of fantastic

00:04:58.280 things in my life. So going into a relationship and getting married comes with a significant

00:05:04.660 amount of risk. That's true for me and pretty much every other guy out there. And again,

00:05:08.840 it's no fault of our own. It's just the way society is geared. They've made it a point

00:05:13.300 to destroy the nuclear family, to tear the family unit apart. And I think it's all by design. I 0.88

00:05:18.500 don't think they want us to have a strong family unit. And it seems like everything in our modern

00:05:22.300 society. Yeah. Again, this is not correct. This is the circle of what happens. Women complain,

00:05:30.580 men want women to be happy and get validation from women um they don't realize that women hate them

00:05:36.780 basically um and they just can't help it they just want to help women so bad and um so it wasn't like 0.94

00:05:45.260 some plan to destroy the family it was a plan to make women happy and women are happy killing their 0.98

00:05:50.780 kids and being whores so that's the sad part men thought that the women like loved them and you 1.00

00:05:55.060 give them freedom and other whores. Society is set up that way. When you get a divorce, 1.00

00:06:00.100 pretty much all your stuff goes to the woman or at the very least gets split 50-50. And if you've

00:06:05.640 worked your entire life, especially as a guy being the provider to provide all this stuff for your

00:06:11.000 family. And if you come into that relationship, having a lot of things and having established

00:06:16.420 a very good life for yourself, you could have all that stripped away. And in a lot of cases,

00:06:21.340 it could be borderline impossible to ever get that back because again, the guy is usually stuck

00:06:27.160 paying child support or alimony or both. So his wages now become significantly less and his ability

00:06:35.040 to regain all the things that he's lost, especially if he's at the midpoint in his life or later in

00:06:40.720 life, because the way the career field is set up is that it favors young impressionable men

00:06:47.620 or young impressionable people in general because when you have an older person coming into the

00:06:52.740 workforce, especially trying to start a new career, they have old habits. And a lot of

00:06:57.660 companies don't want to try and train those old habits out of a person. They would rather hire

00:07:01.600 somebody young that they can train from the ground up, that's going to show up to work bright-eyed

00:07:06.340 and bushy-tailed. They're going to have energy. They're going to last many, many years in the

00:07:10.380 workforce. You got to get you a Gen Z woman. Get you a Gen Z woman. And taking on an older person 1.00

00:07:16.940 can just in a lot of cases be a liability and another terrible thing that often happens especially

00:07:21.660 in family court is that the dad ends up going from being a hundred percent dad he's their first

00:07:27.260 family all the time to all of a sudden you get a divorce and he becomes a 15 dad and the thought

00:07:32.980 that i wouldn't be able to see my kid every single day or whenever that's the hardest part it's not

00:07:37.100 the money it's the fighting with the woman and the kid that's the hardest part i wanted and i

00:07:41.940 would be granted visitation rights like I'm some even supervised visitation at times sort of

00:07:46.880 criminal is a terrifying thought and another big reason is just because I am a result of not only

00:07:53.100 my own life experiences but of the life experiences that occur around me and I've seen this stuff

00:07:59.200 happen time and time again there are very few people in my life that have stayed successfully

00:08:05.320 married throughout their entire lives and haven't had happen a lot of the things that I just

00:08:10.700 mentioned yeah and that's the thing you can't gaslight people's experiences you can't somebody

00:08:16.220 who has spent half their life building this life for myself and making it as secure as possible

00:08:23.740 and setting myself up in the best way that i possibly can the thought of having that stripped

00:08:29.240 away because of divorce is something i'm just not willing to live with it's a risk i'm not willing

00:08:34.720 to take and don't get me wrong like my parents they're still happily married they've been married

00:08:39.380 my entire life, they'll never get divorced. I have noticed that finally, like after a decade

00:08:44.920 of this bullshit, the parents are waking up and realizing something's wrong. Like the people in 0.99

00:08:50.100 their fifties and sixties that are kind of like out of touch. It's like, it's taken two generations

00:08:55.320 for them to be like, Hey, you know, something's off here. I've got family members that are still

00:09:00.220 happily married. They were married their entire lives and they never got divorced. A lot of this

00:09:05.640 stuff didn't happen for them. But for the younger generation, I see it time and time again. And it

00:09:09.840 seems like the odds of somebody having a happy, healthy relationship, it's like none. Most of us

00:09:15.360 are going to be single parents. That just is what it is. You know, you just got to eat that L.

00:09:20.680 Staying married and not having all these horrible things happen is getting more and more rare. And

00:09:25.300 I think there's a lot of reasons for that. I think social media plays a huge role in that.

00:09:29.280 We all get focused on the next shiny object syndrome, you know, something nice, new and

00:09:34.540 fancy comes along and we want to trade up. All of a sudden, what we have isn't good enough.

00:09:39.120 We're led to believe we need all this nice stuff. And everybody's perception of everyone else's

00:09:43.900 lives online is that everybody's living this perfect life. You only see the highlights on

00:09:48.540 these Instagram reels and on social media. You never see the ups and downs. So your expectations

00:09:54.460 become exponentially higher. And then when it comes to things like sex and intimate relationships,

00:10:03.720 we expect so much more because we've been watching porn and we see all this crazy you know these 0.87

00:10:10.880 these crazy sexual experiences on tv and everybody's cheating on their husbands and

00:10:15.620 wives and we just think that's the way it should be so when it comes to going in the bedroom we 1.00

00:10:20.360 have these super high porn star expectations that can never be met we objectify the opposite sex 0.99

00:10:26.320 we think that it has to be some crazy awesome experience every time we have an intimate

00:10:32.220 relationship. But what we've done is we've hyper stimulated ourselves with all this content and

00:10:37.620 all this media that throughout all of history, we would have never had access to. And it's

00:10:43.180 completely rewired and screwed up our brains. That's the bottom line is that it's women's 1.00

00:10:48.320 brains though. Men don't care about social media. The stuff we're exposed to is not natural. 1.00

00:10:54.920 The stuff that we see is not stuff that we should be seeing, especially not in the amounts that

00:11:00.000 we're seeing it. We're not meant to have this level of pleasure and dopamine hits and instant

00:11:06.440 gratification in the way that we do in the modern age. That has completely skewed our view of the

00:11:11.880 world, especially when it comes to relationships. What it boils down to is I think it's essentially

00:11:16.180 stripped away our moral fabric. It's taken away our values and our ethics in general. I think

00:11:23.640 it's really caused us to lose respect for our partners. I see that in relationships all the

00:11:28.360 time too is that partners don't really respect each other in the way that they used to. It's a

00:11:33.060 different world than what we used to live in 50 to 100 years ago. It's become so easy now to just

00:11:39.020 throw in the towel and to just give up and walk away knowing that you're going to be financially

00:11:43.100 secure. You're going to walk away with at least half. You're going to get the kids or you're

00:11:48.660 going to get split custody. You're going to get half the money. You're going to get whatever and

00:11:53.360 you're going to be able to just walk away with no ramifications and start your new life, your

00:11:57.900 new relationship and it's all gonna be fine the kids are the ones that suffer the kids they miss

00:12:02.540 that they need their father mothers torture children without the father to protect them

00:12:07.700 the issue is we have a lot of fathers that are not protecting children and mothers um that are

00:12:13.020 crashing out basically on these kids and in dandy whereas that used to not be the case and people

00:12:17.740 weren't so eager to do that before we've gotten caught in this modern materialistic commoditized

00:12:24.780 society because everything's become commoditized, including relationships. And that's a terrible

00:12:30.220 thing because I think it's really just taken us away from what is natural. It's pulled us away

00:12:35.280 from the family unit. The man is no longer there to support the family, which throughout all of

00:12:39.960 history, the man played a very important role in the family because he was the protector. He was

00:12:47.040 their provider. And that is simply not the case now because the man can be stripped away from the

00:12:51.460 family unit and essentially the family doesn't need a man to get by and don't get me wrong that

00:12:57.860 is a great thing from a woman's perspective because it makes the woman independent and I

00:13:02.160 think women should be independent they should be completely empowered to live the life of their

00:13:06.840 dreams and to go after all the things they want and they should not have to be tethered to a man

00:13:10.700 and that's that's the thing so again if you don't force women to be with average men they won't

00:13:16.920 and men see that do you see that like kind of kindness in them that's how men feel they don't

00:13:22.760 want to force you they want you it's like it just reminds me of god's love because god's love

00:13:27.140 like it's kind of like what he did with his kids he said i want you to want to be with me not to

00:13:32.780 have to and that's how men feel about women they want you to want them and unfortunately we just

00:13:39.300 don't it's not what i'm getting at what i'm getting at is that a lot of these ideologies

00:13:43.640 that we've adopted around splitting apart the family unit has really led to the detriment of

00:13:49.600 relationships in general. Because the fact of the matter is when you get into a relationship

00:13:53.580 and every relationship I've ever gotten into, I think it's fundamentally important to support

00:14:00.260 your partner, to have respect for your partner. You should respect your partner in the same way

00:14:06.160 that you would want to be respected. You should build your partner up, not tear them down. It

00:14:11.880 should be about making each other a better version of yourselves than you were when you came into the

00:14:17.080 relationship. That's what a relationship is meant to do. It's meant to support each other. It's meant

00:14:22.660 for being there for one another through the good times and the bad. You should encourage your

00:14:26.720 partner to chase after their dreams, to go after the things in life they want, to enjoy their

00:14:32.740 hobbies, to do things that don't always include you. And that's another thing I often see is that

00:14:37.920 A lot of people get very codependent and they become very reliant on the other person.

00:14:42.240 And the moment that they step out and want to do something outside of what they're doing

00:14:45.560 every single day, the other person gets mad.

00:14:48.920 Yeah, no, that's, and that's the thing. 1.00

00:14:50.220 Cause women try, they want to protect their resources and the man is their resource. 1.00

00:14:55.200 That can really hold you back.

00:14:56.440 And, you know, him participating in other activities leaves room for cheating.

00:15:01.940 It can hold you back from life.

00:15:03.300 It can hold you back from pursuing your dreams, from doing the things that you're passionate

00:15:07.680 about and just enjoying life in general. And the idea of being held back and held down and tied to

00:15:13.940 someone else and not being able to do all the things in life I want to do without somebody

00:15:18.700 else getting mad because of that, that for me is another very terrifying thing. Because if you have

00:15:23.840 to give up your hobbies and you have to give up some of the things you enjoy and your partner

00:15:29.080 gets mad because you want to do those things, you're essentially giving up a part of yourself.

00:15:33.720 and that's the type of stuff that will eventually lead to you resenting your partner but in the

00:15:38.260 modern age as soon as we hit a rocky patch we're just willing to give up we throw in the towel

00:15:44.060 and we completely destroy the family over something that's probably extremely petty and

00:15:49.000 could in most cases be completely avoided so because of the way our modern world's set up

00:15:53.800 because the way things are designed the court systems and everything is designed to subsidize 1.00

00:15:59.720 women getting with hot men i mean that's what cities work um women don't want to be saddled

00:16:05.240 down with faithful data so unfortunately now anyways guys let me know what you think in the

00:16:10.680 comments um now that more men are going mig tau how do you think this will affect the economy

00:16:14.680 and do you think there's ever going to be a tipping point let me know in the comments

00:16:18.080 like the video and i'll see you next time

Pearl - May 09, 2026

Chad Gives Up On Dating And ESCAPES THE MATRIX

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