Pearl - May 09, 2026


Chad Gives Up On Dating And ESCAPES THE MATRIX

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In this episode, we are reacting to a young Chad talking about why he is giving up on starting a family. Why is it so hard for a guy to go into a relationship and be okay with getting married and having kids?

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00:00:00 that's how men feel they don't want to force you they want you it's like it just reminds me of
00:00:04 god's love because god's love like it's kind of like what he did with his kids he said i want
00:00:08 you to want to be with not to have to and that's how men feel about women they want you to want
00:00:13 them what up guys welcome to my reaction series today we are reacting to a young chad over here
00:00:19 talking about why he's giving up and getting married and starting a family so this is a guy
00:00:22 i think that in history would have reproduced he looks muscular i'd say conventionally attractive
00:00:28 and even the chads you know so if you're uh not a chad even the chads are walking away they're like
00:00:32 these are too much let's see what he has to say i've always assumed i'd get married have kids
00:00:38 start a family that's actually one of the reasons why i built this house as big as it is it's over
00:00:43 3 000 square foot because i figured that if i'm gonna have a family i need some place to put them
00:00:49 but over the years my mindset on that has completely changed i'm 40 years old now and
00:00:55 And I've basically given up on the idea of starting a family.
00:00:57 And there's a few reasons for that.
00:00:59 And I'm sure there's probably a lot of guys out there that can relate to this.
00:01:01 And that's why I'm making this video.
00:01:02 Because it has become increasingly difficult for a guy to confidently go into a relationship
00:01:08 and be okay with getting married, having kids, and starting a family.
00:01:13 One of the primary reasons for me, aside from the fact that I'm 40 years old now
00:01:18 and I'm kind of stuck in my ways,
00:01:19 but I decided several years ago that the idea of having a family is pretty much not going to happen.
00:01:24 because number one there's a lot of crazy indoctrination that's going on with kids i
00:01:29 wonder um i think it would be difficult to find a girl in my opinion you got to bang a bunch of
00:01:36 women in the city in order to find a wife if you didn't find her young you got to be in an area 1.00
00:01:40 where a lot of young attractive women are and if you're in the middle of nowhere i think that's 0.91
00:01:45 difficult kids and stuff these days in schools the stuff they're teaching kids is just freaking
00:01:50 adhorrent and I do not agree with any of it. They're pushing all these sexual agendas and all
00:01:55 this, these crazy ideologies in schools now. And when you're a parent and you're sending your kid
00:02:01 off to school, you know, that's all this time that you don't have with the kid because it's
00:02:05 up to you as a parent to shape your kid into the person you want them to become and to teach them
00:02:10 right from wrong and essentially protect them from all the things that you don't want them to
00:02:15 see. But when they're in school, you can't do that. And the only alternative to that is private
00:02:19 schooling or homeschooling. But then, you know, with homeschooling, you're taking your kid away
00:02:23 from the social interaction and all the things they be learning when they're in school, as far
00:02:28 as how to socialize with people, how to make friends, how to deal with people in general.
00:02:32 And that's a very important part of life. So it's kind of a give or take. But, you know, for me,
00:02:38 the idea that my kid's going to be stuck in school, learn all this crazy stuff
00:02:42 and not getting the proper education. Men don't like feeling not in control of their kids. I
00:02:48 say if i've learned anything in my interviews over the years it's that that is the hardest part it's
00:02:53 not really their wife banging someone new it's not being able to raise their kids properly especially
00:02:59 not the education that i would like my interviews with divorced men not men without kids to see them
00:03:04 get which would be like critical thinking life skills finance money skill trade all these very
00:03:12 important things in life that they really don't teach in school so that was a big thing for me
00:03:16 and just the direction of the world the the crazy way the world was going for a while and kind of
00:03:21 still is in a way i couldn't imagine bringing a kid up in that because i myself find it hard
00:03:25 enough to navigate sometimes i went through a bunch of crazy stuff with my health i know all
00:03:31 about suffering and what it's like to feel completely lost hopeless have no sense of
00:03:37 direction no per i bet a girl slides in his dms this is a good looking chad because that's another
00:03:43 place women are especially gen z women the internet the internet fly you fly you a gen z year out
00:03:48 purpose you can't find meaning in life and you know i've suffered from anxiety and depression
00:03:53 and all these horrible things and that was hard for me so the idea that i would have a kid and
00:03:58 bring them up in this crazy world and possibly have them suffer through a lot of the same crazy
00:04:03 things that i suffered through is just something that i decided i'm not willing to live with
00:04:07 and another big reason is because as a guy you know going into a relationship getting married
00:04:13 and stuff it comes with a lot of risk and it's no fault of our own it's no fault of the male or the
00:04:20 female sex it's the way the court system is set up it's the way our society is geared there's more
00:04:25 and more men like again this is not an ugly guy a lot of times they frame it as like these
00:04:29 unattractive men are walking away this is not an ugly guy he looks social um muscular like
00:04:37 conventionally attractive. And even he's saying, no, no, thank you. In general,
00:04:42 it's geared in favor of the woman. If a family gets divorced, most of the time the woman's 0.96
00:04:46 going to come out on top. And as somebody who has established a very good life for myself, 0.98
00:04:52 I'm financially secure. I'm debt-free. I own my own home. I've accomplished a lot of fantastic
00:04:58 things in my life. So going into a relationship and getting married comes with a significant
00:05:04 amount of risk. That's true for me and pretty much every other guy out there. And again,
00:05:08 it's no fault of our own. It's just the way society is geared. They've made it a point
00:05:13 to destroy the nuclear family, to tear the family unit apart. And I think it's all by design. I 0.88
00:05:18 don't think they want us to have a strong family unit. And it seems like everything in our modern
00:05:22 society. Yeah. Again, this is not correct. This is the circle of what happens. Women complain,
00:05:30 men want women to be happy and get validation from women um they don't realize that women hate them
00:05:36 basically um and they just can't help it they just want to help women so bad and um so it wasn't like 0.94
00:05:45 some plan to destroy the family it was a plan to make women happy and women are happy killing their 0.98
00:05:50 kids and being whores so that's the sad part men thought that the women like loved them and you 1.00
00:05:55 give them freedom and other whores. Society is set up that way. When you get a divorce, 1.00
00:06:00 pretty much all your stuff goes to the woman or at the very least gets split 50-50. And if you've
00:06:05 worked your entire life, especially as a guy being the provider to provide all this stuff for your
00:06:11 family. And if you come into that relationship, having a lot of things and having established
00:06:16 a very good life for yourself, you could have all that stripped away. And in a lot of cases,
00:06:21 it could be borderline impossible to ever get that back because again, the guy is usually stuck
00:06:27 paying child support or alimony or both. So his wages now become significantly less and his ability
00:06:35 to regain all the things that he's lost, especially if he's at the midpoint in his life or later in
00:06:40 life, because the way the career field is set up is that it favors young impressionable men
00:06:47 or young impressionable people in general because when you have an older person coming into the
00:06:52 workforce, especially trying to start a new career, they have old habits. And a lot of
00:06:57 companies don't want to try and train those old habits out of a person. They would rather hire
00:07:01 somebody young that they can train from the ground up, that's going to show up to work bright-eyed
00:07:06 and bushy-tailed. They're going to have energy. They're going to last many, many years in the
00:07:10 workforce. You got to get you a Gen Z woman. Get you a Gen Z woman. And taking on an older person 1.00
00:07:16 can just in a lot of cases be a liability and another terrible thing that often happens especially
00:07:21 in family court is that the dad ends up going from being a hundred percent dad he's their first
00:07:27 family all the time to all of a sudden you get a divorce and he becomes a 15 dad and the thought
00:07:32 that i wouldn't be able to see my kid every single day or whenever that's the hardest part it's not
00:07:37 the money it's the fighting with the woman and the kid that's the hardest part i wanted and i
00:07:41 would be granted visitation rights like I'm some even supervised visitation at times sort of
00:07:46 criminal is a terrifying thought and another big reason is just because I am a result of not only
00:07:53 my own life experiences but of the life experiences that occur around me and I've seen this stuff
00:07:59 happen time and time again there are very few people in my life that have stayed successfully
00:08:05 married throughout their entire lives and haven't had happen a lot of the things that I just
00:08:10 mentioned yeah and that's the thing you can't gaslight people's experiences you can't somebody
00:08:16 who has spent half their life building this life for myself and making it as secure as possible
00:08:23 and setting myself up in the best way that i possibly can the thought of having that stripped
00:08:29 away because of divorce is something i'm just not willing to live with it's a risk i'm not willing
00:08:34 to take and don't get me wrong like my parents they're still happily married they've been married
00:08:39 my entire life, they'll never get divorced. I have noticed that finally, like after a decade
00:08:44 of this bullshit, the parents are waking up and realizing something's wrong. Like the people in 0.99
00:08:50 their fifties and sixties that are kind of like out of touch. It's like, it's taken two generations
00:08:55 for them to be like, Hey, you know, something's off here. I've got family members that are still
00:09:00 happily married. They were married their entire lives and they never got divorced. A lot of this
00:09:05 stuff didn't happen for them. But for the younger generation, I see it time and time again. And it
00:09:09 seems like the odds of somebody having a happy, healthy relationship, it's like none. Most of us
00:09:15 are going to be single parents. That just is what it is. You know, you just got to eat that L.
00:09:20 Staying married and not having all these horrible things happen is getting more and more rare. And
00:09:25 I think there's a lot of reasons for that. I think social media plays a huge role in that.
00:09:29 We all get focused on the next shiny object syndrome, you know, something nice, new and
00:09:34 fancy comes along and we want to trade up. All of a sudden, what we have isn't good enough.
00:09:39 We're led to believe we need all this nice stuff. And everybody's perception of everyone else's
00:09:43 lives online is that everybody's living this perfect life. You only see the highlights on
00:09:48 these Instagram reels and on social media. You never see the ups and downs. So your expectations
00:09:54 become exponentially higher. And then when it comes to things like sex and intimate relationships,
00:10:03 we expect so much more because we've been watching porn and we see all this crazy you know these 0.87
00:10:10 these crazy sexual experiences on tv and everybody's cheating on their husbands and
00:10:15 wives and we just think that's the way it should be so when it comes to going in the bedroom we 1.00
00:10:20 have these super high porn star expectations that can never be met we objectify the opposite sex 0.99
00:10:26 we think that it has to be some crazy awesome experience every time we have an intimate
00:10:32 relationship. But what we've done is we've hyper stimulated ourselves with all this content and
00:10:37 all this media that throughout all of history, we would have never had access to. And it's
00:10:43 completely rewired and screwed up our brains. That's the bottom line is that it's women's 1.00
00:10:48 brains though. Men don't care about social media. The stuff we're exposed to is not natural. 1.00
00:10:54 The stuff that we see is not stuff that we should be seeing, especially not in the amounts that
00:11:00 we're seeing it. We're not meant to have this level of pleasure and dopamine hits and instant
00:11:06 gratification in the way that we do in the modern age. That has completely skewed our view of the
00:11:11 world, especially when it comes to relationships. What it boils down to is I think it's essentially
00:11:16 stripped away our moral fabric. It's taken away our values and our ethics in general. I think
00:11:23 it's really caused us to lose respect for our partners. I see that in relationships all the
00:11:28 time too is that partners don't really respect each other in the way that they used to. It's a
00:11:33 different world than what we used to live in 50 to 100 years ago. It's become so easy now to just
00:11:39 throw in the towel and to just give up and walk away knowing that you're going to be financially
00:11:43 secure. You're going to walk away with at least half. You're going to get the kids or you're
00:11:48 going to get split custody. You're going to get half the money. You're going to get whatever and
00:11:53 you're going to be able to just walk away with no ramifications and start your new life, your
00:11:57 new relationship and it's all gonna be fine the kids are the ones that suffer the kids they miss
00:12:02 that they need their father mothers torture children without the father to protect them
00:12:07 the issue is we have a lot of fathers that are not protecting children and mothers um that are
00:12:13 crashing out basically on these kids and in dandy whereas that used to not be the case and people
00:12:17 weren't so eager to do that before we've gotten caught in this modern materialistic commoditized
00:12:24 society because everything's become commoditized, including relationships. And that's a terrible
00:12:30 thing because I think it's really just taken us away from what is natural. It's pulled us away
00:12:35 from the family unit. The man is no longer there to support the family, which throughout all of
00:12:39 history, the man played a very important role in the family because he was the protector. He was
00:12:47 their provider. And that is simply not the case now because the man can be stripped away from the
00:12:51 family unit and essentially the family doesn't need a man to get by and don't get me wrong that
00:12:57 is a great thing from a woman's perspective because it makes the woman independent and I
00:13:02 think women should be independent they should be completely empowered to live the life of their
00:13:06 dreams and to go after all the things they want and they should not have to be tethered to a man
00:13:10 and that's that's the thing so again if you don't force women to be with average men they won't
00:13:16 and men see that do you see that like kind of kindness in them that's how men feel they don't
00:13:22 want to force you they want you it's like it just reminds me of god's love because god's love
00:13:27 like it's kind of like what he did with his kids he said i want you to want to be with me not to
00:13:32 have to and that's how men feel about women they want you to want them and unfortunately we just
00:13:39 don't it's not what i'm getting at what i'm getting at is that a lot of these ideologies
00:13:43 that we've adopted around splitting apart the family unit has really led to the detriment of
00:13:49 relationships in general. Because the fact of the matter is when you get into a relationship
00:13:53 and every relationship I've ever gotten into, I think it's fundamentally important to support
00:14:00 your partner, to have respect for your partner. You should respect your partner in the same way
00:14:06 that you would want to be respected. You should build your partner up, not tear them down. It
00:14:11 should be about making each other a better version of yourselves than you were when you came into the
00:14:17 relationship. That's what a relationship is meant to do. It's meant to support each other. It's meant
00:14:22 for being there for one another through the good times and the bad. You should encourage your
00:14:26 partner to chase after their dreams, to go after the things in life they want, to enjoy their
00:14:32 hobbies, to do things that don't always include you. And that's another thing I often see is that
00:14:37 A lot of people get very codependent and they become very reliant on the other person.
00:14:42 And the moment that they step out and want to do something outside of what they're doing
00:14:45 every single day, the other person gets mad.
00:14:48 Yeah, no, that's, and that's the thing. 1.00
00:14:50 Cause women try, they want to protect their resources and the man is their resource. 1.00
00:14:55 That can really hold you back.
00:14:56 And, you know, him participating in other activities leaves room for cheating.
00:15:01 It can hold you back from life.
00:15:03 It can hold you back from pursuing your dreams, from doing the things that you're passionate
00:15:07 about and just enjoying life in general. And the idea of being held back and held down and tied to
00:15:13 someone else and not being able to do all the things in life I want to do without somebody
00:15:18 else getting mad because of that, that for me is another very terrifying thing. Because if you have
00:15:23 to give up your hobbies and you have to give up some of the things you enjoy and your partner
00:15:29 gets mad because you want to do those things, you're essentially giving up a part of yourself.
00:15:33 and that's the type of stuff that will eventually lead to you resenting your partner but in the
00:15:38 modern age as soon as we hit a rocky patch we're just willing to give up we throw in the towel
00:15:44 and we completely destroy the family over something that's probably extremely petty and
00:15:49 could in most cases be completely avoided so because of the way our modern world's set up
00:15:53 because the way things are designed the court systems and everything is designed to subsidize 1.00
00:15:59 women getting with hot men i mean that's what cities work um women don't want to be saddled
00:16:05 down with faithful data so unfortunately now anyways guys let me know what you think in the
00:16:10 comments um now that more men are going mig tau how do you think this will affect the economy
00:16:14 and do you think there's ever going to be a tipping point let me know in the comments
00:16:18 like the video and i'll see you next time