Pearl - February 04, 2025


Coffee Thoughts： Radical Acceptance Made Me a Happier Person


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10 minutes

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Word count

1,609

Sentence count

104

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Misogyny

7

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Toxicity

3

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Hate speech

4

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In today's pour, I talk about the lessons I learned in life and how I became a better version of myself. I also talk about some of the biggest mistakes I've ever made in my life and the lessons that I learned.

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00:00:00.160 What up guys? Welcome to the Just Pearly Things YouTube channel and today I am going to be doing a morning coffee thought.
00:00:08.480 Even though it's not morning and I don't have coffee, but for those of you that are new to this channel,
00:00:13.040 I used to do these a lot where I would just talk about like lessons I learned in life and
00:00:17.540 the last couple of years I kind of have slowed down on them, but I don't have Pearl Daily this week,
00:00:24.360 so I'm going to give you guys this instead.
00:00:28.720 But so for those of you that don't know, I became YouTube famous or I had a really big YouTube channel
00:00:39.000 that blew up overnight. I got 2 million subscribers in two years and or 1.9 if we're going to be,
00:00:48.400 I know everyone's going to, we're going to be specific. And I think because the fame like came
00:00:56.160 very fast, there were lessons that like I didn't learn before that normally like people would.
00:01:04.240 I basically, I moved to a country where I didn't know anybody and I brought over friends to talk
00:01:11.200 about red pill topics and it just blew up. It became one of the biggest podcasts in the U.S.
00:01:15.940 and when I started, I had a lot more of a traditional point of view. I watched the Daily Wire a lot
00:01:22.660 and I made a list of things that I thought. I thought that abortion was wrong and if we just 0.73
00:01:31.360 told women and showed them how horrible and gruesome an abortion was, that they would change their mind.
00:01:39.620 I thought that if I just explained to women that the pay gap didn't exist, um, 1.00
00:01:48.420 and that we really are, um, paid the same as men that they would stop complaining about it.
00:01:54.180 I thought if I told OnlyFans women, um, hey, you're ruining your life 1.00
00:02:03.060 and this is a really bad idea that they would stop doing it.
00:02:08.740 Um, I thought that, what else did I write here? I thought like speaking up
00:02:16.980 would do something. It would change some of the trends. You know, I thought
00:02:21.060 the birth rate would start to go back up, you know, traditionalism would come back.
00:02:26.500 And in hindsight, I realized this was a very immature way of thinking.
00:02:34.180 You know, when I was young, society told me that everyone got married, everyone had two kids,
00:02:40.020 everyone was going to own a home, um, and this stuff would just like naturally happen.
00:02:45.460 Um, and the older I got, I really saw the opposite. No one I knew really was having kids.
00:02:55.380 Um, I saw a lot of divorces in the last 10 years from people I thought would never get divorced,
00:03:03.700 like that I grew up with, I grew up around. And then, you know, I started to notice like the subtle
00:03:09.620 disrespect that a lot of people that I thought maybe were happily married, you know, I noticed,
00:03:17.140 oh, wow, that man can't even be himself in his own house.
00:03:22.260 And it was almost like a glass got shattered. And in my head, I thought, well,
00:03:33.780 let me just tell the women what's going on and maybe things will get better, things will change. 0.99
00:03:38.180 And, you know, I saw the opposite happen. I know we have Trump in office now and people think that'll
00:03:44.100 get things better. But, you know, after Roe versus Wade, the number of abortions went up, not down.
00:03:52.020 Um, I saw more sex workers in day to day life, I would go to the gym when I lived in London.
00:04:00.100 And it wouldn't even just be women I met on the show, there would be women at my gym 1.00
00:04:04.020 that were porn stars, sex workers, and they became more and more common. 0.96
00:04:09.860 You know, I would go to a city and the women would be more and more naked. And I just thought, 1.00
00:04:16.180 well, people just need to speak out. That's the problem. And over time, I realized that doesn't do anything.
00:04:26.820 The world is going where it's going. People are going to keep getting divorced. 0.97
00:04:30.580 But in all honesty, guys, people say it's blackpilling. But I became a happier person
00:04:43.300 when I just accepted the world as it was.
00:04:48.580 You know, abortion is never going to be, for example, abortion is never going to be illegal
00:04:54.900 in my lifetime. And if I spent every day thinking that we this is an evil, and we just have to fight
00:05:04.020 it. And we have to stop it, we have to get it illegal. I would be miserable because that will
00:05:10.020 never happen. I would go crazy. And there was a guy I interviewed once that really like taught me this.
00:05:17.860 He was 70 or 80 years old, right? And he had been, I'm not going to go into like the Jewish stuff on
00:05:27.700 on YouTube, but that he had been speaking out about it his whole life. And in his goal,
00:05:34.980 he wanted to speak out and stop it. And he was kicked off of everything. And
00:05:38.980 you know, etc. And I could just tell how crazy he went. Like, he almost had like lost his mind a
00:05:51.780 little bit. Because his whole life, he spoke out about this one thing, and everyone just screamed
00:05:57.140 at him back, everyone just, you know, got super angry at him back. And I realized like,
00:06:09.300 I don't know if there's a Bible verse about like laying your weapons down. I'm not the most religious
00:06:14.660 person in the world. So don't quote me, but you become a happier person. When you just accept the
00:06:22.260 world as it is, you can maybe hope that it'll get better. But if you expect it to get better,
00:06:30.260 you're going to have a false expectation. Now, this translates also into my personal life. So
00:06:38.100 the second lesson I learned, it's kind of the same lesson. But the second
00:06:43.140 area I learned this in was, ever since I was a kid, I've always been really disorganized. And I
00:06:54.020 think you guys could probably gather this on my channel. Sometimes I can't start at the same time
00:06:58.580 every day. I have a really hard time sticking to like a strict schedule. And I always hated this
00:07:06.180 about myself. I'm just not good with details. And when I was younger, this would translate into
00:07:13.060 like volleyball and basketball. You know, I was always I almost always on every team I was ever
00:07:17.460 on. I got most improved because I really was good at I could work hard. I tried. I was very coachable.
00:07:25.620 But I just could, when it came to the little things like remembering what jersey to bring in the morning,
00:07:31.940 what time does practice start like little things I would just,
00:07:36.820 you know, I would just forget. And it was really embarrassing at times, you know, being
00:07:41.380 you go on an away trip, you're the only one that forgets your jersey. It's pretty embarrassing.
00:07:49.060 And or, you know, your mom bringing your jersey to school for like the second day in a row.
00:07:54.740 God bless my parents, you know. And I really like was insecure about this. And if my brother ever made
00:08:00.020 fun of me for it, I like would kind of freak out a little bit because it was just like a sore spot.
00:08:04.500 And it would translate in like, you know, I was never like a dirty person, but just sometimes I
00:08:13.780 could be a little disorganized. But this changed when I had a roommate that was very OCD. And she was 1.00
00:08:22.660 anal. She knew every single detail about everything. And I didn't envy her organization 0.99
00:08:34.740 because it came with the cost of being very high strung. And I've always liked that I'm a laid
00:08:40.660 back person. And I don't, I don't really get agitated easily. As you guys have seen on the shows,
00:08:47.380 I'm a patient, I'm a patient person. And I realized this whole time I'd been insecure about something
00:08:56.180 that if I got what I wanted, I would have a negative trait to come with it.
00:09:01.540 And I could have just accepted that's how I am, try to improve.
00:09:08.020 But I could have spent a lot of time not being insecure about this.
00:09:11.700 And again, I became a happier person when I just had radical acceptance.
00:09:21.620 And I know sometimes maybe on this channel, I seem a little bit black pilled. But
00:09:32.420 when you accept that abortion probably won't change, um, degeneracy isn't going anywhere,
00:09:38.420 or traditionalism is never coming back, religions going down. Um,
00:09:45.380 and sure, you can protest it. But if you go in with the expectation, that's probably going to get
00:09:50.580 worse. You know, most people are probably going to be single parents. You become a lot happier with 0.98
00:09:58.180 what you have. Especially if it's, um,
00:10:02.980 um, if it's better than what you expected. And if it goes the way we think it's going, then
00:10:10.260 you just accept it. Like when you radically accept this is the future, there's like a freedom that
00:10:15.780 comes with it when you stop trying to fight it. So that was something I learned in the last five years.
00:10:23.140 And if you relate or you disagree, let me know in the comments. Um,
00:10:27.380 um, and I'm going to be doing these every day this week because I'm not doing Pearl Daily. Um,
00:10:34.420 I'm out of town until Thursday. So anyways, guys like the video and I miss doing these coffee talks. So
00:10:42.500 let me know what you want to know in the next one in the comments and I'll see you tomorrow. Bye.