Pearl - Conservative Men Allow Their Wives To Humiliate Them On Social Media

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00:01:00.000 what up guys welcome to the audacity network and today we're going to have another episode

00:01:11.740 of pearl daily we're doing it a little early today but i wanted to make sure i got a show in

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00:01:48.600 a youtuber and how to succeed in different industries i had the realization that the most

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00:02:10.040 look under Audacity Academy you can find it there. Okay so welcome to another episode of Pearl

00:02:17.580 Daily. I have talked about radical acceptance on my platform and in the past and how much

00:02:23.540 how much it has helped me de-stress and focus on the things that are important to me in my life.

00:02:30.980 The definition of radical acceptance is a conscious effort to acknowledge and honor

00:02:35.360 situations and emotions, fully accepting things as they are instead of fighting against reality

00:02:41.560 or wishing things were different. You know, the issues I've talked about before that I had a hard

00:02:46.960 time accepting were abortion and women being whores. In 2025, there is no reason to argue

00:02:53.080 with a pro-life person about the issue of abortion. It's pointless. They are never going

00:02:57.640 to change their minds and women will fight and die for the ability to get an abortion regardless

00:03:04.520 of how I feel about it. In 2025, women are going to sleep around. Promiscuity is a part of the

00:03:10.820 modern woman's pathology and it's never going to go away. If I meet a woman and she's a whore,

00:03:15.700 there's no saving her, so don't even try. The latest issue I've had to accept is modern women

00:03:21.400 do not respect men and will humiliate them as they see fit. The days of women revering their

00:03:27.100 husbands and treating them with dignity and respect are over. This is especially true on

00:03:32.520 social media. Women will air out their relationship business all over TikTok and Instagram without a

00:03:38.240 thought as to how it will affect their man. It doesn't matter if the guy is a bum or if he is

00:03:48.020 high value the average man has to worry if their girlfriend or their wife will run their mouth for

00:03:53.940 attention and likes so when i was on twitter i saw a clip from trent horn's wife so trent horn

00:04:00.740 was a guy i debated a couple of months ago and um i oh wait hold on and i really did think he was a

00:04:09.920 super simp like he basically was on this show saying that men need to get married um you know

00:04:16.980 the sleeping around is men it's not women doing it and i just knew sometimes my super simp radar

00:04:24.980 goes off right i'm like this guy his wife is running the relationship because of how he thinks

00:04:30.740 and his super simp tendencies now i think this was the guy who hosted it pints with aquinas

00:04:38.100 and again this is the challenge you get with the religious men

00:04:40.740 it's it's like what they do what they have a tendency to do is they

00:04:45.860 virtue signal morality so they say i am so moral but how moral can you be as a man if you are

00:04:52.260 afraid of your wife yeah like if you fear your wife you're officially a woman now you have the

00:04:58.200 same morals as a woman because you're going to defer to our morals and you know we don't have

00:05:02.840 morality, you know, we don't have, um, okay. So here we go. Hey, so I got super close to a male

00:05:11.840 coworker. Make sure this isn't on two X. Okay. Hey, so I got super close to a male coworker

00:05:19.420 and I share this testimony and, um, our, we used to do like a marriage encounter weekend.

00:05:24.740 And I shared this testimony and I got too close to him and you start, I didn't say developing

00:05:30.820 feelings and Trent knows all this stuff. But I think that's how affairs happen. They happen very

00:05:35.620 slowly. It's not like you just have an affair with somebody. You get to know them. You're

00:05:39.800 attracted to their temperament. They see the best side of you. And Trent was very uncomfortable with

00:05:44.820 it. And I was like, well, we're just friends, but he's not a jealous person at all. So he was like,

00:05:48.980 I'm just asking that you don't do anything that you wouldn't be uncomfortable with me doing with

00:05:53.600 a woman. You have that same standard. If I was talking to a coworker often and joking around

00:06:00.460 with that person and they were you know like getting so she's talking publicly about how she

00:06:04.940 wanted to smash another dude and she thinks this is acceptable and the men in the room don't even

00:06:12.020 check her this is conservatism know you would you be would you be comfortable with me doing that and

00:06:17.860 i was like absolutely not i would burn her house down because of how i would handle that she'd be

00:06:22.780 gone but um yeah so i was like okay so i did have to set like a standard like i can't talk to you

00:06:29.540 one-on-one anymore and it's so hard because you don't want like when you do that you assume

00:06:34.260 you're kind of making assumption about the other person that they're attracted to you so it comes

00:06:38.760 off very awkward like like i can't talk to you anymore and they're like you're just my friend

00:06:43.140 and i'm not into you now look are there times where this happens right where if a husband and

00:06:48.940 wife is together for 30 years you don't think both parties have at one point thought about cheating

00:06:55.660 that the thought has ever come to their head.

00:06:58.800 I know it's an uncomfortable truth, right?

00:07:01.720 But the same way, you know,

00:07:03.340 there's times when men think about their wives

00:07:05.520 that she's an ungrateful bitch

00:07:06.920 and she's a whore and I shouldn't have married her.

00:07:11.240 But what the men don't do

00:07:12.420 is they don't go on a podcast and say that

00:07:14.940 where you have Michelle Obama

00:07:17.880 saying she hated her husband for 10 years.

00:07:22.360 And we think it's okay.

00:07:23.900 and the men don't do that to us but we do it to them and we think it's all right you that way

00:07:30.180 you know what i mean and so but yeah so you're like well i misread this and so but but i didn't

00:07:37.080 misread it and so but i think things happen so she said i didn't misread it now this guy

00:07:41.720 what a simp bro like isn't this guy your friend isn't trent your friend and you're allowing his

00:07:52.000 wife to embarrass him like do you guys hate your friends this is the oh my god i don't know if this

00:08:01.600 is live or pre-recorded but if this was pre-recorded and that was your friend bury the

00:08:06.960 footage do you know what i mean like you tell your friend's wife hey this is not a good look

00:08:12.340 and you bury it then slowly within the workforce that are and not everybody for sure but i think

00:08:18.480 it's i i'm someone who is like um vulnerable to to that to like like someone's personality or you

00:08:27.640 know so i have to be on guard for that no like i don't know if you feel this right

00:08:31.220 yeah so she essentially thinks it's okay to talk about wanting to bang another dude okay look

00:08:40.720 men probably want to cheat all the time they have these like high sex drives and men they just want

00:08:50.840 to bang everything right over a certain threshold but you know there's a new crop of 22 year old

00:08:56.920 women that show up every year 32 year old i mean there's there's a whole new batch of women every

00:09:05.040 year coming and you know the men want to smash right but they don't go out and say it they shut

00:09:12.140 up we don't know how to shut the f up do you know what i mean okay so next um all right so if you're

00:09:22.400 not familiar with trent horn he's a catholic apologist that simps for women i debated with

00:09:27.360 him 10 months ago and he made a bunch of videos about me simping the f out and saying that i just

00:09:32.960 hate women and he said oh you just simp for men well i'd rather simp for men than women because

00:09:38.040 at least men have morals at least men do the right thing we don't now what i just showed and so this

00:09:48.260 is what happens is these guys are so afraid of being honest because we all know men have an

00:09:54.260 innate like you guys it's just in you you guys know what's true and what's not true us we don't

00:10:00.140 have that that is like gone dissolved naseki nada right and um so when you see guys like this

00:10:11.560 that simp out for women what it means is they're liars okay they're liars and they're afraid of us

00:10:20.180 and it's understandable we're pretty scary we can do a lot of damage to a man but

00:10:27.040 it still makes you a simp right so what i just showed is his wife talking about how she was

00:10:36.260 attracted to a male co-worker let that sink in for a second a catholic apologist wife a public figure

00:10:42.960 and sole provider's wife is saying shit like this on the internet it's insanity how does this make

00:10:50.660 her husband look does she think about her husband's image before she said this stuff she has a podcast

00:10:56.660 called Too Far with Laura Horn.

00:10:59.480 Most female content creators,

00:11:01.380 again, conservative female content creators,

00:11:05.080 cannot help but use their kids

00:11:07.920 and their husbands for clout.

00:11:09.740 Now, I'm not talking about like Tucker Carlson

00:11:12.240 posts a picture of his family once a year.

00:11:14.240 I'm not talking about that.

00:11:15.120 But they use, they don't know how to be good people

00:11:18.780 and be nice and likable.

00:11:20.800 And so what they do is they use their families

00:11:23.240 as a way to virtue signal.

00:11:24.840 so she's going to use her whole life as content like when men come to the internet like Tucker

00:11:35.120 Carlson for example he may mention his wife but it's not the subject of the podcast right

00:11:41.380 the subject of the podcast is the conservative stuff where women the subject is look at how

00:11:47.260 awesome I am. Look at how amazing I am. Okay. So there's an article written

00:11:56.200 that how do women humiliate men? Okay. Have you ever been humiliated as a man?

00:12:07.640 One in the chat, one in the chat. I was humiliated on many occasions and it made me feel powerless

00:12:15.420 and just not good enough. I remember this one evening when I was at a conference in Dubai,

00:12:21.640 sitting among big shots in the video game industries. We had dinner and drinks, lots of

00:12:27.420 drinks. I was just about to leave the party. I and another girl were the only females at that party.

00:12:33.500 I was a senior business manager. While she was a junior, we shared the same manager and it was

00:12:38.720 I who persuaded him to bring her along, to help her learn something from the seniors.

00:12:43.900 but as it turned out she envied me so when I stood up and told my goodbyes one of my business

00:12:50.200 partners asked me to stay for another drink she answered instead of me but she can't didn't you

00:12:55.540 know she drinks too much he he that's what we do we add in a he he right that's what we'll we'll

00:13:02.940 say something that's a terrible thing to say and then we'll say he he like that makes it better

00:13:07.320 I was lucky enough to be in the company of a gentleman who ignored this girl's comment

00:13:13.560 looking back now i know it was her who humiliated herself the fall down of my best friend my good

00:13:21.340 friend was recently humiliated again once by his wife on his birthday they were having a party

00:13:26.840 where many of his friends were present somehow sex came up and my friend's wife told his friends

00:13:32.220 that her husband has a small penis and that's why she has a vibrator can you oh my gosh a long

00:13:41.760 silence followed another birthday was ruined this was not the first time his wife put him down in

00:13:47.040 front of others humiliation is a form of abuse the worst is when the humiliations come from someone

00:13:52.720 close to you someone you are in a relationship with and it is an unpleasant feeling which shakes

00:13:58.320 you to the very core humiliations come in many forms such as bullying name calling or mocking

00:14:04.160 bad mouthing spreading rumors and making belittling remarks pointing out your disabilities

00:14:09.200 or inabilities and insulting your beliefs or your ridiculous religion or rituals inappropriately

00:14:15.640 teasing you in front of others but why do certain women humiliate their men they must know what they

00:14:22.380 were they must know that what they are doing is going to inflict pain on their partner they must

00:14:27.380 be aware of that humiliation is just another form of control it's abusive behavior and when a woman

00:14:33.060 humiliates you it gives her a sense of power over you most likely they do this because they have

00:14:38.180 very low self-esteem and they want to feel superior many men wait around and accept this

00:14:43.860 as a form of abuse because it's subtle it happens once in a while when your friends come around or

00:14:48.940 at a family dinner your partner might make small remarks about your clothing or compare you to

00:14:53.340 someone else stating that you are not doing financially well enough often she would laugh

00:14:58.640 and make it seem like a joke again insult it's like women will do this not all but a lot

00:15:05.100 they'll they'll insult what you care about

00:15:09.380 they'll insult your passions they'll insult your family your children your parenting and then

00:15:20.140 they'll add in he he as if that makes it go away okay how to spot a humiliation humiliation is

00:15:30.720 sometimes hard to spot and can be mistaken for teasing. It can start with her making a childless

00:15:35.780 gesture or chastising you for speaking your mind. Does your girlfriend like to insult you in front

00:15:42.600 of strangers? Does she laugh at your mistakes? Does she put you down because you are not dressed

00:15:46.880 well enough? Does she speak about your intimate relationships in front of friends? Does she

00:15:51.360 compare you to her past boyfriends or husbands in front of others? If yes, then it's time to part

00:15:58.600 ways men stay in toxic abusive relationships the issue is that many men will stay in abusive

00:16:05.400 relationships and they'll keep ignoring and brushing it off but don't these are red signs

00:16:11.960 being ridiculed will lead to serious health problems i know men who have become isolated

00:16:17.660 and stop seeing their friends because they fear that their girlfriends or wives will make

00:16:21.500 belittling remarks i know men that who have developed anxiety and depression and started

00:16:26.060 binge drinking at home. We must start recognizing the abuse of men by their partners. Johnny Depp

00:16:32.460 has shown society that it's time to stand up to abuse. Society still has the wrong beliefs about

00:16:38.720 men who have kept this kind of abuse hidden for too long. Some of these beliefs are that men don't

00:16:44.120 get pushed around by women. Men should not protect themselves when a woman is hitting them. Men should

00:16:49.380 be tough and accept rudeness. Men should provide for women even after divorce. Men should be able

00:16:55.720 to handle their women because of these toxic beliefs men who are abused by women don't speak

00:17:01.720 about it and even police and other professionals may not take the abuse seriously as a result these

00:17:08.620 men suffer it's time to help these men find the courage to speak up because abuse can happen to

00:17:14.300 men too how partners in men's will how partners partners in men's will help you oh wait this is a

00:17:21.300 ad okay so we have some videos of women embarrassing their husbands on social media

00:17:29.740 so we got this one let me turn this on

00:17:33.300 I know you want to love, let me tell you this from the beginning.

00:17:41.960 Okay, go.

00:17:44.540 Oh.

00:17:49.840 Okay, wait, there we go.

00:17:56.540 Come in two to three songs late and immediately show zero consideration for the people behind.

00:18:01.440 so this is very expensive place to go i guess in vegas

00:18:05.840 she got too drunk start a fight with the people behind you who are blocking

00:18:16.000 oh she flicked them all

00:18:21.920 yeah and see her husband's a super sick

00:18:27.760 it's time see this is what i mean like you guys will simp not not you guys right i'm sure you

00:18:36.800 guys have divorced all your wives or whatever but like if i expect you to accept this behavior

00:18:42.600 right i need to see at least a six okay like otherwise this is just like if you're simping

00:18:49.700 but she's a baddie at least it kind of makes sense right at least i could say all right that

00:18:54.780 But, I mean, come on.

00:19:06.480 So then they go get security again.

00:19:13.620 So then she goes even harder.

00:19:18.300 When security comes, refuse to leave and show everyone who's in charge.

00:19:24.780 can you imagine guys they paid he probably paid three grand for those tickets and now

00:19:35.580 she's got to leave he's like get out so embarrassing

00:19:54.780 have yourself a guy who is torn between getting arrested and supporting his girl

00:20:03.300 would you guys leave her or stay

00:20:10.140 that's a super simp that's a super simp so now first he wanted to leave

00:20:19.940 and now he's

00:20:22.540 he has to do the embarrassing thing

00:20:24.540 even though he doesn't want to do it

00:20:26.120 that's so embarrassing

00:20:36.140 do you guys see

00:20:49.560 all right that is embarrassing

00:20:54.800 now he's going back and dancing why do they have female security guards

00:21:03.000 i mean that's like the most pointless job ever

00:21:06.280 hold on and finally do not give up your support for the eagles no matter how many police officers

00:21:14.360 plus your guy is telling you it's time to go

00:21:16.540 oh i guess that would be a

00:21:45.900 you do need female security guards to get the women out because women do sue you like touch

00:21:51.360 them and they're like lawsuit that's what the girls on my show would do but it was illegal we

00:21:57.240 could kick them out but there was times where the security would drag them out and they're like i'm

00:22:01.200 gonna sue i'm gonna sue i'm gonna sue so it's not a bad idea so that kids is how you get yourself

00:22:07.100 forcibly removed from the eagles opening night concert at the sphere

00:22:10.380 oh my gosh that is so bad

00:22:32.360 resisting authorities is always a great idea

00:22:40.380 oh my gosh oh my gosh she's sitting on the ground

00:22:52.460 she's so old how could she be doing this at this age

00:22:57.620 that's what happens you know no one like she just got ugly nobody like imagine if she was a hot 22

00:23:07.960 year old woman do you think that they would have told her to sit down or just dealt with it

00:23:13.640 they would have dealt with it and then they become the ugly 42 year old woman right

00:23:20.760 how would you handle it guys let me know in the chat on the website

00:23:38.360 i would leave her

00:23:49.580 i'd just i'd go home or would i stay would i like want to enjoy the

00:23:56.520 you know what it'd be funny do you know what

00:23:58.540 i feel like it would be funnier if the husband went and got security

00:24:03.840 but yeah he's a super simp he's not gonna do that

00:24:08.160 And she chose her exit song perfectly.

00:24:21.560 Amazing.

00:24:23.480 All right, so Michelle Obama said all sorts of terrible things about Barack, says Doug MPI.

00:24:30.380 Carlos says, religious people expect and project too much order in a world that is too unpredictable

00:24:36.460 and requires adaptability.

00:24:38.160 We can't live a healthy life if we question or our nature at every corner.

00:24:44.360 These examples are obnoxious and not appropriate, obviously.

00:24:47.300 She's effectively cheating without physical contact.

00:24:49.960 The other thing women do is slowly and methodically build a narrative of how her husband is stupid or something.

00:24:55.680 It starts off playfully like little funny jokes and pet names, cute stuff.

00:25:00.500 That's where it starts.

00:25:01.560 And the guy is lured into a false sense of security thinking it's just a playful game until it's not.

00:25:07.340 it's manipulative and coercive control my ex-wife did this now divorced and i have full custody of

00:25:14.200 the children carlos says the church feels like a psyop sometimes you think you are getting closer

00:25:19.480 to god in your personal life and then you have your ideas shut down get a vibe like you have to

00:25:24.820 lie even if you disagree if he leaves and she gets in more trouble it's going to be more work later

00:25:30.180 on see that's why i need the guy's point of view how you would do what you would do my church has

00:25:36.660 my back, but I'm still alone. Pearl's the first person I've seen who talks about how women will

00:25:40.740 follow their pastors before their husbands. My dad, the only other person who has warned me about

00:25:45.960 that. In Australia, there are more laws in place against coercive control and manipulation. We need

00:25:52.620 to get these women held accountable. And you know now that women being removed is going to go and

00:25:58.700 blame her man for not defending her more. That's so true. Should her boyfriend be legally allowed

00:26:04.120 to pick up his drunk woman and take her out of the concert i don't think he is let's give thanks

00:26:10.300 to the cameraman for catching all that curveball says she's throwing a tantrum to be fair she

00:26:14.960 probably got too drunk um yeah she probably got too drunk to remember what happened doug mpa the

00:26:23.960 video is marriage for the average guy for the last 30 years she got them kicked out of the concert

00:26:29.220 and now he's going to get hell the whole ride home okay i see why men fear us yeah we're i mean

00:26:36.940 this is this pretty bad so women started cheating on her husband because she hates him my husband

00:26:42.900 over 20 times and i don't bother hiding it because i secretly hate it oh i gotta do this

00:26:47.700 to prove i'm not a

00:26:50.980 here we go i've cheated on my husband over 20 times and i don't bother hiding it because

00:26:58.800 i secretly hate him disclaimer is not my story time instead of me on instagram to realizing that

00:27:02.580 i was living with the man child who made me do everything for him who cried all the time who

00:27:06.380 was always so sensitive and always needed something and complained 24 7 i decided to

00:27:10.680 start cheating a few years ago i had met a guy through a co-worker they always followed each

00:27:13.760 other on instagram and i knew that he was attracted to me and he's pretty hot and rich and good

00:27:17.500 looking so i decided to reach out on instagram and asked him if he wanted to go out not only did

00:27:21.060 he say yes he planned a whole outing we went hiking and we went to get massages then he took

00:27:25.720 me out to dinner and then we went to his place and had amazing sex i would see this guy about

00:27:29.680 three times a week and i started hooking up with another guy that i met at the gym this guy was

00:27:32.980 really hot but he didn't have a lot of money so we never really went out it was just plain sex

00:27:36.880 but it was good about six months later i met another guy again amazing sex do you think my

00:27:41.340 husband noticed anything no i would talk to these guys on the phone while my husband was in the same

00:27:45.020 room i would be setting up what she would talk to these guys on the phone i would be setting up

00:27:50.520 dates with these guys in the same room as my husband the audacity at least when men cheat

00:27:56.920 they cheat respectfully right they do they go to extreme lengths for you to not find out

00:28:02.440 women just we have the audacity updates with these guys in the same room as my husband do

00:28:08.960 you think he cared no i would even wear sexy outfits to go out with them and he never asked

00:28:12.520 anything he would just say have fun and then he would call me to complain about what he was

00:28:15.760 feeling and what he wanted me to buy am i terrible for doing this i feel like he was probably cheating

00:28:21.680 too and just didn't care what a nasty girl i know now the next thing that is going on on twitter

00:28:32.060 is women talking about mental load so there's a couple phrases i've heard women bring up the last

00:28:40.000 couple years now what happens is women okay so have you guys ever thought you really liked a

00:28:47.100 girl you're going on dates things are going good maybe she's a friend in your friend group or

00:28:50.700 you've known her for a while and you think you really like her and then you have sex with her

00:28:57.320 and you realize you didn't really like her as much as you thought you just wanted to smash

00:29:03.620 you know sometimes as people we're not always aware the reason we do things or maybe we change

00:29:11.500 our mind later what happens with women you guys have post nut clarity we have post child clarity

00:29:20.720 so a lot of times women don't realize they don't like their husbands and they you know we've all

00:29:29.660 seen it that girl that is a type and then she gets married to a guy that looks nothing like her exes

00:29:35.060 because she didn't like the guy but she wanted the kid in the marriage and the problem for us

00:29:41.940 is attention is our currency the same way sex is you guys is currency so once we get that attention

00:29:48.060 and it wears off then we have to ask ourselves the question do we actually like the man that's

00:29:53.920 in front of us I got what I wanted I got the wedding I got the kids so what happens is women

00:29:59.840 start to realize after they have the number of kids that they wanted and the attention goes away

00:30:06.520 from the kids that they don't like the man in front of them that's when they start to looking

00:30:11.340 for other options and they usually leave when the kid the kid is around four like three to five

00:30:17.120 whenever it starts going to daycare or public school and you can tell the women that don't like

00:30:24.800 their husbands you can tell because they start to count favors back and forth and um

00:30:37.840 they start to complain about him not doing chores or these other terms like he's not

00:30:43.280 you know women do more emotional labor

00:30:48.160 it doesn't make any sense because men don't really talk about their problems that much

00:30:52.320 where we complain a lot so if anybody does emotional labor it's definitely the men right

00:30:58.640 it's definitely the guys men are just at p you know i think as a woman the one thing women envy

00:31:06.160 about men is the peace that they could have with a mattress on the floor in an apartment right you

00:31:12.240 guys get it's like you'll see a guy and he'll just one time when i i was in california for a while i

00:31:20.280 met a homeless guy and this homeless guy was talking to me about how he loved being homeless

00:31:26.200 like he was just content in like this little shack that he had built

00:31:31.000 and he was happy and i'm like could a woman be happy doing that no women will be in like

00:31:40.320 mansions and unhappy. So here we go. Why I considered divorcing my husband. I've been with

00:31:47.480 my husband for almost 20 years, but about three years ago, I was strongly considering divorce.

00:31:51.840 And I want to talk to you about why. So I'm going to tell you the story of the day where I thought

00:31:56.300 to myself, maybe I don't want to do this anymore. In similar words of do or die in 1996, trad cucks

00:32:02.480 didn't study pimpology. And logically, they never learned how hoes, biology, and obviously Lone

00:32:09.200 ranger hashtag sysbm my husband and i had four kids we both worked full-time we had been together

00:32:17.040 for 16 years at this point we've been together since high school um yeah and so the problem is

00:32:21.740 you wonder why the divorce rate is lower or is higher for people that get married before 20

00:32:29.000 and before 25 the lowest divorce rate is like it's either 25 to 30 or 30 to 35 the reason being

00:32:36.500 women don't want to spend their youth on their husband and the the problem you get with women

00:32:40.960 that marry young it's a benefit for you guys because i'll tell you why it kind of benefits

00:32:45.740 you guys the woman you get all the good years right and then when she decides to leave you

00:32:51.600 right because we tend to do this in our late 20s early 30s you know we see all the yachts we didn't

00:32:58.980 go on all the stuff we missed out on then we start hating the husband for it we're like ah

00:33:02.980 you took all the free shit i could have gotten and the guy's like i provided for you for the

00:33:09.020 last decade i've done this this and this and she's like amnesia it's like so then she gets

00:33:16.500 early 30s maybe late 30s and she's gonna like she leaves right this is really not a bad deal for you

00:33:22.840 guys um but the reason is we get all these offers 24 7 so it's like you act up the girl's gonna

00:33:31.100 think I have 10 offers I'm turning down this I'm turning down this it builds the resentment

00:33:37.620 and then they leave your ass sorry fellas and on paper I have an amazing so she married young

00:33:44.860 she's seeing all her friends doing sex in the city lifestyle now she's mad at her husband for

00:33:51.020 chores and he's like I it came out later this woman had a nanny and she was complaining about

00:33:56.260 chores she doesn't even have to watch her kids she works full-time and yet still not happy don't try

00:34:04.200 fellas don't try to make us happy impossible we can't even make ourselves happy you guys have that

00:34:10.280 shit on lock you guys can get an apartment you know it's crazy i'll interview men his lives are

00:34:16.880 completely shattered like i interviewed this guy came on the show his kid was transitioned and

00:34:22.320 still and like that's a terrible thing right he's still pretty happy-go-lucky do you know what I

00:34:29.780 mean I'm like you went through a terrible I'm not trying to laugh at the situation sorry I laugh

00:34:34.480 sometimes it makes it seem insensitive but it's just amazing to me like men can keep a positive

00:34:40.660 spirit through so much where women it's like our coffee our barista gives us the wrong order and

00:34:48.180 it's world war three and our life is falling apart and we're not happy and need to divorce

00:34:53.220 our children. And the husband's like, Hey, you can get another coffee. It's okay. Right.

00:35:00.720 So now this woman, like, I mean, that looks like a nice house. I don't know where she lives, but

00:35:06.260 granite countertops. It looks like a lot of counter space. That looks like a great place

00:35:13.440 to live right now let's see let's see her husband's crime let's see what the husband did that was so

00:35:20.620 bad did he cheat husband he is incredibly supportive okay so didn't cheat he's kind

00:35:25.660 okay cat that's good he's loyal he's a great dad okay kind loyal great dad

00:35:31.840 but i'm sure if you wanted to leave him and we're gonna get to it right there's gonna be

00:35:39.120 something really bad he did he's very hands-on he's an active participant he's always present like

00:35:43.920 but she's thinking she wanted to leave her husband so let's the

00:35:50.800 what's the bad on paper what else could i ask for

00:35:55.160 okay but in reality okay in reality there must have been something really bad that happened right

00:36:03.840 my experience is very similar to the experience of other women i had this amazing husband one

00:36:10.120 paper was great but i was incredibly frustrated and burnt out from our marriage and from motherhood

00:36:16.140 because what happens to so many of us is that we marry these amazing men okay so she's burnt out

00:36:22.240 from marriage and motherhood i'm sure something she's got to be a stay-at-home mom right no help

00:36:31.680 right and we have amazing relationships and then we have kids and when we have kids women tend to

00:36:38.240 carry a disproportionate amount of the work in the home the work of raising kids and the mental load

00:36:43.340 and that is exactly what happened to us about three the mental load so what was he screaming

00:36:50.840 at you like what was this mental i keep hearing about this mental load but what do you know what

00:36:56.580 think the mental load actually is it's women having to deal with our mental

00:37:01.700 that's the mental load like we have to carry more of a mental load because men don't have

00:37:09.520 a mental load because they're sane like in general i would say eight out of ten men

00:37:17.260 are pleasant to be around where one out of ten women are pleasant to be around like i think

00:37:23.140 that's the so women have a higher mental load because our mental is just too much it's like we

00:37:29.500 got all the emotions and the ups and downs and that that pissed me off and she made me mad and

00:37:35.940 that girl did this that guy did that da da da da months after my fourth baby was born

00:37:40.900 i remember looking at my husband and saying i need more i need you to do more i am exhausted i am in

00:37:46.800 charge of everyone and everything in this house every night when we cook dinner you ask me what's

00:37:53.060 make. Okay. So the mental load is he asked you what you have to cook. Okay. This is what I don't

00:38:02.340 care. Don't you have to eat yourself? Like don't, you know, cause women always say, I don't want to

00:38:08.200 cook right but like how do you eat don't you have to eat for yourself you know and does it take that

00:38:23.380 long you know there's like crock pots now like you could make some chili in the morning and at night

00:38:31.200 I mean that's a family of four because I think it says she has four kids every day when you drop

00:38:35.860 the kids at daycare you ask me what they need in their back okay so she has daycare

00:38:43.220 but what he did that was so bad you ask me what they need in their backpacks so okay so the mental

00:38:50.740 load is having to choose what to eat for dinner and packing their backpacks

00:39:00.180 okay packs i am the project manager of this home and i need you to do more

00:39:05.860 okay she is the project manager of the home and he looked at me and he said okay just tell me what

00:39:15.120 to do okay so again doesn't seem like this terrible guy if he said she says i need help he says okay

00:39:23.980 what do you need you didn't say you're wrong you're not he said okay that sounds like a reason

00:39:29.120 doesn't that sound like a reasonable guy to you what would warrant the possible divorce

00:39:35.420 right every woman has heard this just tell me what to do and i'll do it and i said okay

00:39:39.060 you know something so if every woman has heard tell me what to do and i'll do it

00:39:44.240 that's a guy with no frame because that he doesn't understand women you're like oh you guys

00:39:51.260 so funny you guys will be like just tell me what to do we don't even know what to do

00:39:56.860 like we can't even make good decisions for our lives okay we have all this debt we date guys

00:40:06.820 that don't want to commit to us we make bad choices and you're like the guys are like just

00:40:12.200 tell me what choice i need to make to make you happy we can't even make choices to make ourselves

00:40:18.860 happy? Dumb question. Dumb question. I think that would make my life easier is if in the mornings

00:40:29.400 when I came downstairs with the four kids, because I do mornings by myself, the dishwasher was

00:40:33.480 emptied. The dishes were put away and the trash was taken out. Okay. So she doesn't have to hand,

00:40:40.720 what I'm hearing is she doesn't have to hand wash. She has a, he got her a dishwasher. Okay.

00:40:46.800 i lived in england do you know how much more time cooking takes when you have to hand wash

00:40:52.160 all you have to do now is just plop plop okay that would make my pearl women can't handle

00:41:01.560 making decisions yes they can women make a lot of decisions they make decisions of where to get

00:41:07.440 their botox done their lip fillers um bbls boob jump women can make decisions but they want we're

00:41:16.080 lazy. So we want you to do it for us. We totally can do it. We make the decision to dump you.

00:41:24.840 That's a decision we make.

00:41:29.420 Yeah. Okay. Life so much easier because when I've got the four kids running around and the baby

00:41:34.040 crying, I can't be looking for their favorite water bottle in the dishwasher. I just need to

00:41:37.480 know it's clean. I can't. Okay. Now if you have one dish, it takes like five minutes to clean it.

00:41:44.960 I know I just said it kind of contradicts, but I'm saying when it's like a big load, right?

00:41:50.460 Not a little one.

00:41:51.840 And he said, yeah, of course.

00:41:52.980 What?

00:41:53.460 Yeah, I'll do that.

00:41:54.140 That's no problem.

00:41:55.080 And so, of course, he does it.

00:41:57.340 But then I have to remind him and then he forgets.

00:42:00.180 And then I have to remind him again.

00:42:01.340 And there was this one morning where I woke up and I went to put something in the trash

00:42:05.540 and it was overflowing.

00:42:07.380 And here's the thing.

00:42:08.280 Men would rather have a messy house than a nagging wife.

00:42:12.040 they would rather look they would rather you not clean at all and just shut the fuck up

00:42:19.800 instead of nagging them right pearls blackpilled yep i am to get my son's water bottle and it was

00:42:28.840 in the dishwasher with all the other yeah the guys are already coming up with solutions they're like

00:42:33.180 paper plates they're like we don't need to do dishes get the what do we need dishes for

00:42:41.480 Men are so funny.

00:42:42.600 Clean dishes.

00:42:43.440 And I felt so disrespected and unseen and unvalued at that point in time.

00:42:50.520 And I remember texting my husband being like, what happened?

00:42:53.060 Like, why didn't you do this?

00:42:54.040 And he said, sorry, I was running late for work.

00:42:56.360 And I remember thinking, oh my God, he doesn't see me.

00:43:00.140 Because what he's done has now made me late for work.

00:43:03.600 And he doesn't care about that.

00:43:05.120 He doesn't care about the impact on me.

00:43:06.820 and he doesn't see how every single thing in our home happens because I ask him to do it or because

00:43:13.180 I do it myself. So again, to me, this is just a narcissism because that looks like a big house.

00:43:20.500 Do you think that she fixes things when the dishwasher breaks? This is what happens. Women

00:43:28.000 do things, but the difference is men are like good people, right? Not all, not all. So when

00:43:33.660 they do something nice they don't keep track of it they're like here I did this to be nice but

00:43:38.480 women it's a scorecard so women we have like this mental tracker that's just there so when we do

00:43:44.780 something it's like here then we do something else and we do something else and we do something else

00:43:48.720 and we do something else then three years in we list all of those things and the guy's like

00:43:53.020 I wasn't even keeping track we were supposed to keep track the guy's like I don't even remember

00:44:00.660 the things I did. I do stuff for you all the time. And she's like, I did this, this, this,

00:44:05.060 this, this, this, and you did this wrong, that wrong, that wrong. And he's like, we were keeping

00:44:09.180 score. He's like, I didn't know I was supposed to keep score. And then you guys lose every argument.

00:44:19.800 You guys got to play chess, not checkers. Because I planned and organized it. The diaper bag is

00:44:25.780 full because I filled it right okay so her contributions are taking out the trash the

00:44:31.540 dishwasher and filling a diaper bag I don't know I can't say but what's really happening

00:44:38.060 below the surface is she's mad she reproduced with him so she's trying to women don't get mad

00:44:43.940 at men they're happy they reproduced with right and the thing is remember we can't be happy anyway

00:44:49.040 so don't take it personal fellas like we it takes so much like but for whatever reason our wires go

00:44:57.280 and she's convinced she could have did better with the youth she had she met him in high school so

00:45:01.840 she's like i could have did better in college i saw my friends do better in college and then it

00:45:05.920 just goes off right so now you know she's she's mad she reproduced with him and now she's rationalizing

00:45:15.600 put the wipes in there and i felt so frustrated and i remember thinking what's the point what's

00:45:22.400 the point of doing this with someone else i might as well just do it at home and it's not because

00:45:26.080 my husband didn't love me or he did anything okay so again he loved me he didn't do anything to me

00:45:30.880 but i can sit i'm considering a divorce and not to the point that she's putting it on the internet

00:45:35.600 look we're human everybody's got thoughts we're not proud of the men think i want to bang that

00:45:42.740 hot girl at work, right? The women think, oh, I want to leave. This is World War Three. But you

00:45:50.040 know what you can do? You can complain to maybe your immediate family or whatever, but not the

00:45:57.640 internet, right? To me, and it's not because I didn't love him, but because I felt so taken

00:46:03.000 advantage of in our relationship. And this dynamic, it doesn't happen. I hope he goes and

00:46:08.080 finds a 22-year-old. I wish you all a 22-year-old. It's a better experience. I know it's a little

00:46:14.000 hypocritical because I'm old now, but I'm just saying they're much more pleasant.

00:46:19.620 By accident, right? It's not like my husband did it to me, but we've been raised in this society

00:46:23.580 that tells men and women who they should be in marriages and what it looks like to be a good

00:46:28.000 mom versus a good dad. And we know the bar for moms is way up here and the bar for dads is way

00:46:31.520 down here. And we fell into these norms. We fell into these roles in our family, despite the fact

00:46:37.020 that we never wanted to and I'm lucky and I say lucky because I have a partner who I know loves

00:46:43.580 me and wants me to be happy and was willing and able to change and so we did the work to figure

00:46:49.120 out what equity looked like in our relationship and I can tell you now three years so now translation

00:46:53.520 he does whatever I say now that's what that means like when we did the work it means now the

00:47:01.080 relationship I used to let him not do whatever he wants but have some things that he enjoys

00:47:06.880 now he has nothing that he enjoys i have ruined i have taken away all joy from him years later

00:47:13.560 that we are happier than ever our kids are thriving our home runs like a well-oiled

00:47:17.860 translation he does all the work now and i i put a dish in the dishwasher and he allows me to feel

00:47:26.260 like i did more than i did because he doesn't want me to divorce him so he he does the work

00:47:32.620 i'll take the credit that's what that means machine and that took a lot of work i want to

00:47:36.480 say it took like 18 months to get there and it was well worth it but it is not uncommon and so

00:47:41.800 if your wife is coming to you and she's saying I'm burnt out by the mental load and I need you to do

00:47:45.520 the mental load okay again so let me get this straight the mental load is garbage dishwasher

00:47:51.880 and packing a backpack okay more she's not just saying that because she wants you to do more

00:47:58.960 chores she's saying that because truly it can hurt your relationship it can ruin your marriage

00:48:03.060 if you do not participate in an equitable way in your home.

00:48:06.820 And so what does that look like?

00:48:07.860 I want to boss him around in the house.

00:48:11.220 I want this to be my house, not his house.

00:48:13.280 What does it look like to change these dynamics?

00:48:17.660 I want to dictate the way everything's done.

00:48:20.480 But we need to really assess in our homes what the work looks like.

00:48:24.980 Because in most homes, the data supports this,

00:48:28.600 women do a disproportionate amount of the work.

00:48:30.500 men actually work longer hours and they only count the chores that women tend to do

00:48:37.700 like kitchen chores they don't count the yard work chores how many women mow the grass

00:48:43.020 will fix anything so it's it's like imagine it's kind of like the

00:48:48.980 it's kind of like the wnba where women don't do as much but like they give them more free media

00:48:56.620 attention. And even though they operate at a loss, they keep paying them. That's the equivalent of

00:49:02.260 how women feel like they're doing everything in the house. They just do. They do more of the

00:49:06.940 cooking and the cleaning and the laundry and the childcare while also working full time. And men

00:49:11.580 have more time for things like their hobbies, like golf, for example, or just. Okay. That is just not

00:49:16.300 true. So when men get into a relationship, they tend to give up their hobbies because women

00:49:22.860 calendar blocks so they make you to go go to all these stupid events you don't want to go to

00:49:27.560 so men are the ones that give up their hobbies so you can go to the the sports games

00:49:34.440 visit her sister visit her mother do all this stupid stuff you don't even want to do

00:49:40.080 where women keep their hobbies but protect which i mean most women's hobbies are social media

00:49:47.520 gossiping and watching the Kardashians or some dumb shows like that. So we keep those right

00:49:53.080 going to see our friends, but we hate anything that makes men happy that doesn't benefit us.

00:49:59.660 So that's why we hate video games. That's why she's bitching about golf because it doesn't

00:50:03.600 directly benefit us. Working out, running a marathon, right? And so we need to have hard

00:50:09.980 conversations about what our time looks like, what our labor in the home looks like. What is

00:50:15.060 invisible labor. We have to talk about these things. And when we don't, the alternative is

00:50:19.560 that you no longer have a marriage or you don't have a happy one. I will divorce you if you don't

00:50:23.660 do chores. That's what she's saying. And so I share this story because I don't think I'm alone

00:50:30.320 in this experience. Because women in the West are terrible and I feel better for being a terrible

00:50:35.060 wife if other women are terrible wives. And I want people to know that there's hope. You can

00:50:41.000 control your husband you can you can you can make him simp and that if you have a willing and able

00:50:47.480 partner i'll show you how to get a simp you can change this you can absolutely change here's how

00:50:53.320 to get more power and control in your relationship dynamic there you go so let's look at this woman's

00:51:00.280 page she's a demon i can just tell oh men's hobby this is a really weird comment but i'm going to

00:51:06.840 use it as all right it says god forbid a man have hobbies that don't revolve around women oh i just

00:51:11.480 she's gonna dig her grave to talk about hobbies and specifically the difference is between men

00:51:16.600 and women when it comes to hobbies now i don't know if you're familiar but there's actually a

00:51:20.040 leisure gap between men and women where men have more time for things like hobbies and leisure

00:51:24.440 than women do and this is directly correlated with the fact that women tend to do more domestic labor

00:51:29.160 the cooking the cleaning the laundry and they do more caretaking for children so they're spending

00:51:33.560 more time with their kids on i'm a working mom of four and i do morning this is oh my gosh this

00:51:38.600 is a really weird comment but i'm going to use it as an opportunity to talk about hobbies and

00:51:42.200 specifically the difference is between men and women when it comes to hobbies now i don't know

00:51:46.600 if you're familiar but there's actually a leisure gap between men and women where men have more

00:51:50.360 time for things like hobbies and leisure than women men work more hours it's just simply not

00:51:56.840 true do and this is directly correlated with the fact that women tend to do more domestic labor

00:52:01.480 the cooking the cleaning the laundry and they do more caretaking for children so they're spending

00:52:05.880 more time with their kids on average than men are daycare is a billion dollar industry billion with

00:52:11.400 a b and this women are not having children either or not this means that men have more time for

00:52:17.800 hobbies they have more time for hobbies that take them out of the house let's think golf hunting

00:52:22.840 fishing working on cars right all of these things take them outside of the home and typically are

00:52:27.240 not done with kids whereas women's you can fish with a kid you can golf with a kid doesn't trump

00:52:36.600 golf with his grandkids like aren't they like pro golf okay let me go back i wonder i want to hunting

00:52:44.600 fishing working on cars right those are all things that you could do i mean maybe not under like three

00:52:54.520 but could could you bring a baby fish i don't fish so this this is probably a stupid question

00:53:02.960 but like i don't see why you couldn't like if you bring the baby bag and stuff get some shade

00:53:09.360 or whatever i don't understand fishing you guys just stare at the water for hours it just couldn't

00:53:15.140 be me but again could you guys have that peace inside of you i'm a woman right so there's no

00:53:20.860 peace here. Like we have to like wrestle. The mental energy really is just arguing with ourselves.

00:53:28.300 That's the mental load she's talking about. It's not him. It's in us, right?

00:53:33.820 All of these things take them outside of the home and typically are not done with kids.

00:53:37.420 Whereas women's hobbies, they don't revolve around men, but they typically are done in the home and

00:53:42.340 can be done while watching children. Women will say their hobbies are things like reading,

00:53:46.160 knitting gardening okay because i'm thinking reading i understand you're in the home

00:53:51.580 but aren't you just kind of sitting there when you fish i don't know if this is a dumb question

00:53:58.620 you guys have to forgive me i don't fish i'm not a fisher but this is like she's playing 4d chess

00:54:07.940 with how she's rationalizing how women's hobbies benefit the family while men's don't

00:54:14.480 making and men they have hobbies that take them outside of the home and these hobbies oftentimes

00:54:19.040 don't just happen over an hour or two they happen over extended periods of time sometimes a full

00:54:23.920 day or even a weekend hunting right aren't their kids dying now because their mom left them home

00:54:29.840 alone to go like clubbing so when women complain about men's hobbies like golf or fishing or

00:54:37.760 hunting it's not because they want their husband's hobbies to revolve around women they want their

00:54:42.160 partners to be more involved in the house in the caretaking they want their partners to be an active

00:54:46.480 participant and they also want hobbies too hobbies that they don't have to do in between nap time and

00:54:51.200 dinner they want time for rest and relaxation the same way that men get it and so no women don't

00:54:56.880 hate it when men have hobbies that don't revolve around them what they probably don't like is the

00:55:00.480 fact that their partner gets a lot more time to themselves than they ever had this woman's a demon

00:55:05.600 oh my gosh the comment section is i find that women have to make time for our hobbies wake up

00:55:15.100 at 5 a.m to work out where men can take time for theirs but men do you know men are better at

00:55:19.860 they're better at incorporating their kids into their hobby like i went on this business trip

00:55:25.220 the other day and the guy that um like drove us around his kid was with them the into us the

00:55:30.700 entire time so we're like doing all this stuff and the dad and he's so excited his kids there

00:55:35.760 where mom the mom's like don't like when you have the kid with them they're like complaining about

00:55:40.840 the kid they're like ah I mean that's just what I've seen right so hypothetically like the same

00:55:48.720 way the dad brought the kid to the business meeting and he was fine the kid was like really

00:55:52.500 well behaved the mom could take the kid to the gym but then they'd have to like I would think

00:56:00.260 i mean maybe not a big gym but i'm saying like an at home like you can buy some weights or whatever

00:56:08.740 i mean teach them how to do a push-up i don't know like okay also no knitting sewing crafting

00:56:15.860 gardening and baking all produce outcomes that are reinvested into the home okay yeah but what

00:56:21.060 women i have never met a woman my age or younger or 10 years older that knits i don't know are you

00:56:29.460 you guys meeting women that knit let's be honest even their household chores are child free

00:56:35.420 that is not true i know so many guys that would work on cars with their dad

00:56:43.180 my dad knew i was useless when it came to fixing cars so he didn't even try

00:56:48.020 sorry dad you know what i mean that there's things i'm good at that's not it

00:56:53.720 how come women's hobbies are always trying to be monetized I started crocheting all I heard is oh

00:57:00.560 you can sell that why can't I do something for the joy of it I'm a distance runner it takes a

00:57:09.540 lot of times to run 26 miles and I have to fight for it yeah distance do you know what though the

00:57:16.020 men do you know what the men do I've seen it because I ran a marathon this fall the men will

00:57:22.140 bring out their kids and push them so I'm just thinking through what I've seen and like if a man

00:57:29.900 and a woman does a hobby the man will figure out a way to incorporate the kid so it's like something

00:57:34.440 like my dad coached me in basketball and he loved it oh my gosh that's like my favorite memory with

00:57:39.240 my dad it was like fifth grade and we were like missing layups and he's like go go he's like

00:57:43.740 screaming he's like coaching fifth grade he still to this day talks about like um we won like our

00:57:51.760 fifth grade championship and like it's one of my favorite childhood memories and i think a lot of

00:57:56.960 people have that experience where something they did with their father um that was their favorite

00:58:02.880 memory where the moms don't incorporate you as much into the hobbies that's just not that's what

00:58:08.840 i've seen okay um pearl reed is there a simple way to fix this would be to get him interested

00:58:15.460 a simple way to fix this would be to get interested in his hobbies and join him

00:58:21.760 men are so pragmatic men's hobbies usually involve a skill or some type of activity that

00:58:28.240 can translate to practical use women's hobbies no way i think that women um and are that women

00:58:35.980 and tommy lauren this woman and tommy lauren would get along really well the modern woman wants an

00:58:42.240 ambitious accomplished man to marry her then set aside his ambition and assertiveness to help her

00:58:46.940 achieve her selfish desires when I hear the word equity all I hear is someone bitching about how

00:58:52.520 unfair life is Pearl how many women get injured mowing how many women get injured doing household

00:59:00.980 chores and how many women get injured doing housework it's sad that women feel entitled

00:59:06.440 to determine what equity is in a relationship in a household she's bragging about domestically

00:59:13.340 grooming her husband this is fun to watch i also think that guys as guys we just put up with crazy

00:59:20.020 victimship because we want peace and it's easier to achieve peace if we don't say anything it's

00:59:24.720 not simping it's peace seeking pearl i want you to want to oh we should watch that video that is

00:59:31.440 so one of the most famous videos um like movie clips jennifer aniston dishes and women love

00:59:42.760 this breakup scene so this couple is um dating

00:59:49.400 and um this this is how women feel when they do the chores okay

00:59:57.800 i'm gonna go do the dishes cool it'd be nice if you help me

01:00:05.400 no problem uh get them pearl reed she's telling the female friendly version of the story the

01:00:10.440 The female-friendly version is where the woman is the hero

01:00:12.760 and the victim at the same time.

01:00:15.820 A little bit later, I'm just going to get the streets here for a little bit.

01:00:18.360 Gary, come on. I don't want to do them later.

01:00:19.660 Let's just do them now. Take 15 minutes.

01:00:21.320 Oh, honey, I am so exhausted.

01:00:22.580 I just honestly want to relax for a little bit.

01:00:24.520 If I could just sit here, let my food digest,

01:00:28.580 and just try to enjoy the quiet for a little bit.

01:00:31.540 Get some. Get some. Get some.

01:00:33.180 That's what happens.

01:00:34.160 And we will, you know, we can clean the dishes tomorrow.

01:00:36.600 Gary, you know, I don't like waking up to a dirty kitchen.

01:00:39.280 Who cares?

01:00:39.640 I care, all right? I care.

01:00:41.940 I busted my ass all day cleaning this house

01:00:44.440 and then cooking that meal, and I worked today.

01:00:46.460 It would be nice if you said thank you

01:00:47.880 and helped me with the dishes.

01:00:51.740 Fine. I'll help you do the damn dishes.

01:00:53.800 Oh, come on. You know what? No.

01:00:55.440 See, that's not what I want.

01:00:56.800 You just...

01:00:57.360 And I'm telling you guys, women love this.

01:01:01.920 You said that you want me to help you do the dishes.

01:01:03.660 I want you to want to do the dishes.

01:01:05.620 Why would I want to do dishes?

01:01:08.260 Why?

01:01:08.660 see that's my whole point let me see if i'm following this okay are you telling me that

01:01:14.280 you're upset because i don't have a strong desire to clean dishes no i'm upset because you don't

01:01:18.320 have a strong desire to offer to do the dishes i just did after i asked you

01:01:22.680 guys women love this movie we do jesus brooke you're acting crazy again don't you call me

01:01:32.120 crazy i am not crazy i didn't call you crazy i didn't call you crazy no i didn't i said you're

01:01:36.360 acting crazy. You know what, Gary? I asked you to do one thing today, one very simple thing,

01:01:40.400 to bring me 12 lemons, and you brought me three. Goddammit, if I knew that it was going to be this

01:01:45.000 much trouble, I would have brought home 24 lemons. Even 100 lemons. You know what I wish? I wish

01:01:49.380 everyone that was at that goddamn table had their own little private bag of lemons. Gary, it's not

01:01:52.880 about the lemons. Well, that's all you're talking about. I'm just saying it'd be nice if you did

01:01:56.500 things that I asked. It would be even nicer if you did things without me having to ask you.

01:02:01.400 Please read my mind. Read my mind and do whatever I say.

01:02:06.360 Well, I do seem to remember doing something for you this morning without you asking.

01:02:12.940 Carrie, come on.

01:02:14.400 I'm serious.

01:02:15.120 No, I'm serious.

01:02:16.140 I really am.

01:02:17.380 Come on.

01:02:17.740 You knew I was working today, and I made that meal, and you could have thought to yourself,

01:02:22.940 you know what you could have said?

01:02:24.260 I think I'm going to get Brooke some flowers.

01:02:27.180 You said on our very first date that you don't like flowers, that they're a waste of money.

01:02:37.020 Every girl likes flowers, Gary.

01:02:38.780 You say that you don't like flowers.

01:02:39.880 I'm supposed to take that to mean that you do like flowers?

01:02:41.640 No.

01:02:42.920 This is not about...

01:02:43.720 You're not...

01:02:44.400 You're not getting it.

01:02:46.160 You're not getting this, Gary.

01:02:47.380 Okay, it's not about the lemon.

01:02:48.660 He's so confused.

01:02:50.980 Okay.

01:02:52.860 It's not about the flowers.

01:02:54.080 It's not about the dishes.

01:02:55.500 It's just...

01:02:55.900 How many times do I have to drop hints about the ballet?

01:02:58.940 You know I can't...

01:02:59.940 Brooke, come here.

01:03:01.300 We talked about the damn ballet.

01:03:02.900 I hate the goddamn ballet.

01:03:04.420 You got a bunch of dudes in tights.

01:03:06.360 Flopping around for three hours is like a medieval techno show.

01:03:09.120 It's a nightmare. I sit there in a sweat.

01:03:10.540 The whole thing, I do.

01:03:11.300 When the hell's the goddamn nightmare gonna end?

01:03:13.420 Go to a damn ballet.

01:03:14.360 It's not about you loving the ballet, Gary.

01:03:15.960 It's about the person that you love loves the ballet,

01:03:18.360 and you don't want to spend time with that person.

01:03:20.560 Not when they're at the ballet.

01:03:23.200 Forget the ballet. Forget the ballet.

01:03:25.420 We don't go anywhere together.

01:03:28.380 We just went to Ann Arbor together.

01:03:30.820 To Ann Arbor?

01:03:31.960 To the Michigan Notre Dame game?

01:03:33.740 You think screaming drunk kids and leprechauns doing backflips.

01:03:39.120 That's fun. That's fun for me.

01:03:41.020 Come on, man. I did that for you.

01:03:42.700 How do you show up for me?

01:03:44.180 I'm up on the bus every goddamn day for you.

01:03:46.880 Come on.

01:03:47.680 I'm busting my ass to be the best tour guide in the damn city

01:03:50.400 so I can make enough money to support both of us,

01:03:52.760 and hopefully you won't have to work one day.

01:03:54.660 I want to work.

01:03:55.900 All I ask, Brooke, is that you show a little bit of appreciation

01:03:58.700 that I just get 20 minutes to relax when I come home

01:04:01.580 instead of being attacked with questions,

01:04:03.260 and nag the whole damn thing.

01:04:05.220 You think that I nag you?

01:04:07.020 That's all you do.

01:04:08.300 All you do is nag me.

01:04:09.920 The bathroom's a mess.

01:04:11.080 Your belt doesn't match.

01:04:12.080 Hey, Gary, you should probably go work out.

01:04:14.100 Nothing I ever do is ever good enough.

01:04:16.280 I just want to be left the hell alone.

01:04:26.420 Really?

01:04:27.060 Is that what you want, Gary?

01:04:28.540 Is that what you want?

01:04:29.800 Yeah.

01:04:30.200 That's what you want?

01:04:30.900 Yeah.

01:04:31.180 Fine.

01:04:31.580 Great.

01:04:31.840 Do whatever the hell you want.

01:04:32.680 you leave your socks all over this house dress like a pig play your stupid ass video game i

01:04:38.380 don't care i'm done women love this scene women do i mean you you see how effed up we are when

01:04:44.900 you see what movies we like it's like we like this handmaid's tale 50 shades of gray we are

01:04:50.160 weird creatures you know what i mean what i am done i don't deserve this i really do not deserve

01:04:56.540 this and you know what's crazy he's probably thinking with the because men they really like

01:05:02.060 to do their hobbies and stuff more alone like they like how do I put this we don't always add

01:05:09.520 to the experience of like nobody no guy's at a boy's night and thinks that he like wants his

01:05:15.300 girlfriend there do you know what I mean it's always the guy brings his girlfriend and like

01:05:20.280 ruins it for the guys so he was kind of probably thinking he was doing her a favor by letting her

01:05:27.660 go to this like game right this i deserve somebody who gives a shit i'm not spending one more second

01:05:33.560 of this life with some inconsiderate prick you're a prick

01:05:38.000 yeah

01:05:42.100 they broke up let me read the chat holidays is another big topic men will plan a family holiday

01:05:52.560 to include the entire family what they like doing and so on women just find a nice resort

01:05:57.580 to sunbake or a place with a gym um pearl check your messages let me see

01:06:04.260 i guess there's another one um my hobbies evolved to include the kids that's what you do as a dad

01:06:16.240 i catch at least one good fish each time but i don't go fishing to catch fish pearl screw this

01:06:23.880 bitch most men don't care about the house as much as women we will leave dishes in the sink

01:06:28.300 i know it's like it's like the women are like i want the house to be perfect and the men are like

01:06:34.820 okay then clean it i don't care and the women are like care about what i care about and the men are

01:06:41.240 like i got better things to do than make sure this house is spotless i don't care let's let's get

01:06:46.660 paper plates and the women are like I don't want paper plates um and the women are like I will

01:06:54.240 divorce you if you don't do the dishes Pearl I used to take my kids on the job I when I finished

01:07:00.020 basement to give my wife a break I would take them for 10 to 14 hours a day at work they loved

01:07:05.680 watching daddy work and learning to climb ladders a simple way to fix this would be to get oh I read

01:07:11.480 that already um if i didn't have kids to care for i'd just pack my bag and drive around the country

01:07:19.000 pearl i taught my wife to paint so we could paint together and all she did was complain

01:07:23.580 um my wife mlb rivals is a great escape uh for me of dealing with my girlfriend bitching

01:07:34.820 yeah because men can do things by themselves so this argument where she's like we don't

01:07:40.820 We don't do anything together.

01:07:42.200 And he's like, I give up my peace at the house for you.

01:07:49.440 Okay, now here's another one.

01:07:51.520 Oh, here's another scene from this.

01:07:53.140 I don't feel like you appreciate me.

01:07:55.220 Again, that's our favorite line.

01:07:57.400 That's our favorite.

01:07:59.000 I don't feel appreciated.

01:08:00.960 It's like, do you know what?

01:08:02.200 It's like this thing in the back of our head that's like, he's not doing it.

01:08:08.280 So.

01:08:09.720 Yeah.

01:08:10.820 Now, remember Jesse Lee Peterson says it, if she's crying, she's lying.

01:08:18.560 Don't believe those tears.

01:08:19.560 Are you okay?

01:08:20.560 I'm fine.

01:08:21.560 You sure?

01:08:22.560 What's up?

01:08:23.560 What do you want?

01:08:25.560 I just want to say I'm sorry that I missed the concert and let me know what that ticket

01:08:35.980 costs.

01:08:36.980 I'll pay you back for it.

01:08:39.980 just leave me alone gary

01:08:44.060 i planned i already know you guys you guys have fold who would fold one in the chat if you saw

01:08:55.400 this would you fold i even almost want to fold she's so pretty i'm going to the concert it's

01:09:03.600 just i stopped by johnny it doesn't fucking matter okay would you just leave my room and shut

01:09:07.660 the door. Jesus. Please. I didn't really know that the concert mattered all that much to you.

01:09:18.400 Exactly. Hold on a second here. Let me talk for a second. Gary. Brooke. You broke up with me.

01:09:29.980 Then you have guys coming over here for dates and all of a sudden you asked me to go to some

01:09:33.560 concert i mean i just figured that you know very yeah so she was bringing over dudes

01:09:41.880 and then she asked him to go to a concert he didn't go and now she's crying

01:09:47.480 pearl actually i would put her over my knee and spank her ass thank you

01:09:53.160 thank you for that kenny thank you that's that's exactly what i was all right i just i don't know

01:10:00.040 how we got here our entire relationship i've gone gone above and beyond for you for us

01:10:14.200 so again this is women again we're narcissistic so when we do things we remember and we think

01:10:19.560 about it and we build our self-esteem and when men do things we're like we're like don't care

01:10:26.200 we forget

01:10:28.440 if you guys think

01:10:31.080 that your devotion

01:10:32.100 or like being a good person

01:10:35.020 matters to women

01:10:36.060 you might as well cut that shit

01:10:38.420 because we don't care

01:10:39.520 we write love letters to Ted Bundy

01:10:41.960 and I mean I've

01:10:45.180 I've cooked

01:10:46.420 I've picked your shit up

01:10:49.120 off the floor

01:10:49.840 I've laid your clothes out for you

01:10:51.980 like you were a four year old

01:10:53.380 yeah doesn't that kind of take away from the niceness of it

01:10:58.340 do you know what i mean like if i if i give you a plate of food and then i say you're like a kid

01:11:05.160 you can't cook for yourself doesn't that kind of this is what i mean it's not really likability

01:11:11.680 has got to be the number one draft pick for what men pick it's not purity they try to sell it as

01:11:16.580 purity but men know that we're liars anyway so they don't even ask about body count women are

01:11:23.080 like the most deceptive creatures on the planet so men will never really know um but it's really

01:11:29.540 just being a nice person now are there correlations where obviously the whores they go through a lot

01:11:35.700 they become more jaded yeah i mean you know but why did some of these porn why did riley reed find

01:11:42.040 a hot husband not just a cute he was a good looking probably top 10 20 of looks she paid

01:11:48.700 attention to what men wanted and if you watch her interviews she's pleasant she's not aggressive

01:11:54.760 she's just happy pleasant she's like I love gang you know she's like I love getting dicked down

01:12:00.460 on camera you know that's what she did but you know you can have the non-whore here and I'm not

01:12:06.740 making a case for whores they have a whole heap of problems but that's how sometimes they win

01:12:13.100 right because they pay more attention to what the men actually like and respond to where she just

01:12:18.480 you know it's the passive-aggressive I support you I supported you your work if

01:12:26.700 we ever had dinner or anything I make the plans I take care of everything and

01:12:32.040 I just don't feel like you appreciate any of it I don't feel you appreciate me

01:12:40.260 and all i all i want is to is for you to just show me that you care

01:12:49.060 what he should have said is that's way too hard

01:12:54.580 he's gonna fold though right

01:12:59.160 why didn't you just say that to me gary i've tried i've tried

01:13:08.220 yeah but never like that

01:13:10.640 you might have said some things that you meant to imply

01:13:14.700 that brooke but i'm not a mind reader

01:13:16.200 it doesn't would matter

01:13:19.880 you are who you are

01:13:22.220 just leave me alone okay

01:13:26.900 i feel like there's so many women that have to mimic

01:13:32.480 this scene after like we're just such group thinkers

01:13:35.060 so imagine you come home right

01:13:38.360 and your girlfriend or your wife is like crying like this and you're like what's wrong

01:13:44.640 you just don't appreciate me you are who you are and see the man you know she's listing all of his

01:13:52.620 flaws is he listing her flaws is she perfect no all he's saying is hey can you not nag me

01:13:59.860 he didn't say you're a bitch you did this you don't do this you know right now just shut my

01:14:04.860 door pearl reed didn't the late kevin samuels mentioned something about spanking the wife i

01:14:13.720 don't know i i don't know about that she might he might have i don't know i look i i want to be out

01:14:19.480 of the spanking conversation that's a little too you guys do what you do i want i want out of that

01:14:24.840 one all right gary just please just leave leave the room listen to me gary just i don't want to

01:14:29.800 be near you right now please just shut the door please

01:14:34.760 yeah it's off the screen now right yeah okay so i'm gonna get the i guess doug sent me a new

01:14:56.120 message. Here we go.

01:15:04.060 Set up.

01:15:07.620 Stay on him, son.

01:15:10.240 Yeah, okay. I thought the kids could go fishing.

01:15:14.760 How you doing? Tighten us up.

01:15:16.840 Oh gosh, that's a good one. I thought the kids could

01:15:20.660 fish. I thought that was over-exaggerating.

01:15:23.160 Can I talk to him privately? Really? Come on.

01:15:25.200 Oh, no, come on. Come on. Don't let him pull you in. Come on. Come on. Come on. Come on.

01:15:29.940 Real, real, real, real, son. That's a big one. Come on. Stay on him. Don't let him jump. Don't let him jump.

01:15:35.000 Come on, son. Oh, yeah. Let's get go, boy. Let's go. Come on, boy. Yeah. Let's go, kid.

01:15:50.520 Let's go, buddy. Look at that. Let's get him in the middle of the floor.

01:15:55.200 oh my gosh what a freaking giant hey let's go baby oh give me five

01:16:06.400 ah see what happens when attitude changes and you just finished

01:16:14.480 men are so much better people when women use their kids for clout it's always like the signal

01:16:20.640 of the message is i'm a good person it's like look at me being a good mom but this guy's just

01:16:26.220 so proud of his kid that's so cute oh that's so cute um let's see what else we got here uh

01:16:35.580 in hiring contracts if you hire women spanking should be a part of the hr

01:16:40.320 oh my gosh you guys why would that be a good idea why would

01:16:47.880 all right i don't see any super chats let me see what a wholesome video um

01:17:00.320 okay well i think that's all i got for you guys today

01:17:07.220 but yeah i mean all in all as a woman i really think we should just strive

01:17:13.480 to be as good a people as men we can't do it it's not in us right we're too selfish and like

01:17:19.180 but maybe someday we can be as awesome as the men are to us so let me know what you guys think in

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Pearl - April 03, 2025

Conservative Men Allow Their Wives To Humiliate Them On Social Media ｜ Pearl Daily

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