Pearl - March 27, 2026Dating In Your 40s： YOU. ARE. COOKED.
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Summary
Being single in your 40s is just an L. Women in their 40s want to go out to dinner, go to a movie, go out on a date, but they don t want to do anything more than that. And the older women are like, this makes my skin crawl.
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I saw a clip of this young woman being asked out at the gym and she's so excited.
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And the older women are like, this makes my skin crawl.
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Today, we are reacting to women taking L's as per usual.
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um you could be you know of cancer or something but the women will make it the worst problem
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ever and see this is an attractive woman she probably does have choices but she's still
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going to complain about the choices she has somebody without dating them i don't want to
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go out to dinner i don't want to go to a movie i just want to go to the part where we're just
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yeah so this is why men like younger women because the younger women are like they're like
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oh do you want to go to a movie and they're like tee hee i do and then um they ask the older women
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that and they're like no i just want to you know do nothing and they're like well
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now in our pjs on the couch how do we skip the first part you know
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let me know how do you yeah um so her problem is that men want to take her out too much isn't that
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incredible isn't that incredible okay let's keep going dating in your 40s in your 40s is
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confusing because one minute you are talking to someone who has been married for 20 years,
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has teenagers, and has a whole emotional history. The next minute you are on a date with someone
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who is casually unemployed, missing a bed frame, and still figuring himself. And she probably loves
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that man. She probably loves him. Women love men that sleep on mattresses. I'm so tired of hearing
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these guys coping. Oh, you need money to pull women. No, you don't. Women bang broke men. We
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bang broke men all the time i mean if anything it's incredible how many broke men we bang you
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know and you are supposed to just be open to both with the same energy and i am like okay this is a
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lot of range this is a very wide range yeah because when they're 40s uh those women will date men in
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their 20s and men in their 60s dating in your all right let's see what's next uh we got this lady
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hear another mid let's see what she has to say asking too much out of a 45 year old man that's
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on the dating app we match um we chit chat on tuesday he asks if i want to get a drink
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so sounds great so what about saturday so my saturday is free response was lucky me
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that was it that was the only response so wednesday morning i wake up and i said just name
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like you know the the time and the place and it's a date took him a whole day like we're now on
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thursday for him to respond and say he knows of two places um in like two different areas but if
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that's too far he can find somewhere else i said no those are great not a problem that was noon on
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thursday date is saturday rest of thursday goes that's because he's hoping that his other options
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pull through so he can cancel on you um like because there's younger prettier and better
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in every way women that he's going to give better treatment to and that's just you know
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eat that else nothing friday goes by nothing saturday wake up getting through my day morning
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he texts says hey i know you're a baseball fan are you also a football fan yeah i'm out running
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errands i'm at the farmer's market it's like 10 10 30 at this point and he's like do you want to
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watch the Rams playoff game or wildcard game. I said, I typically I'd love to, but that's at
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1 30. So kind of need a little bit more notice than that. But I have the young women. They're
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like, yay. He had love to go. Held my evening for us to get drinks because I don't know what time
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are we going at five? Are we going at eight? I don't know. I can't make any plans for my evening
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because he hasn't said even though I've asked um he said not a problem drinks yeah still on for
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drinks that maybe that would tee up like what the plan is no no still still no response after that
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I let some time go by because I had already asked where when uh and I don't want to be pushy but
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like it's 1 30 and I what am I supposed to just get dressed and sit on my couch starting at like
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4 30 and wait for him to text me i i don't know so yeah they would love that they would love that
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if you just i mean really um they want you to like go around their schedule i mean i'm sure
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you're talking to a chad because i mean you wouldn't really care if like like let's say a
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dorky guy goes to you you're like whatever i don't care but chad goes to you and is
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inconsiderate like you were to men in your 20s then um now you don't like it but that's just
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life take the l it's okay you know in life we all take l's i'm a humble person i think there's a lot
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of humility and I'm taking L's but you got to accept that that is an L. I feel like now I'm
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getting bitchy and annoyed and I know I'm a type A and I like a plan but this like not having one
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at all and it's supposed to be this evening and the expect it feels like the expectation that I'm
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just holding my entire day for him for somebody that I don't even know feels a little like
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disrespectful of my time like he's clearly going yeah well women will do that with your life like
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they'll expect you to hold your life for them so she he's expecting you to hold out on your day and
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women are expecting you to ruin your whole life something about his date so like do i just go
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about my day and like be like sorry never didn't didn't ever hear a formal plan even though we
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talked earlier today so yeah it's chad um chad humbles these women and then they come back to you
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their husbands you know i am 44 years old and i am newly single after 24 years of marriage
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i have been dating for the last few months and let me tell you it's it's wild out there y'all
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i'm already racking up some stories i was thinking i'm racking up some bodies is what
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she should have said i might want to share a few of them here some things i've learned
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some things that i've experienced some things that i have thankfully not experienced because
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i realized it was a bad situation before i got myself into it of course there's always the guys
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who tell me they're single and they're actually married and there's the guy with the um schmex
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machine yeah i have a story that talks about something like that dating has been an adventure
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it has been fun it's been crazy it's been healing i think she loved the man with the sex machine
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you see our face lit up been validating it's been exciting there's been more good than bad
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okay but i'm racking up some stories i would love to share them all right let's see what's next um
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the idea of dating at 40 should make your script point of view the idea of dating at 40 makes your
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skin crawl okay but i am a single 40 year old woman i have not been on a date in almost a year
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and the longer i go without going on a date the less i want to go on a date my fellow older single
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women we're talking again this is why they like the young women do you want to go on and get on
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a date on a date oh my gosh i can't talk i saw a clip of this young woman being asked out at the
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gym and she's so excited she's like yeah i want to go on a date and the older women are like
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this makes my skin crawl the young women it's new and exciting you know king 40 plus let me know if
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i'm alone here because something about being older and being so comfortable with yourself and your
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own company and value they're just like set in their ways your piece so much i feel like i would
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just have to be so interested in someone to even entertain the idea of disrupting that let me know
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if i'm alone here because i don't think i am all right let's see who's next we got this woman here
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yes i'm 40 and yes i'm still single and i get tons of comments like this basically calling me
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a red flag because i have not met my person it's well yeah you probably are but you know we all
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have red flags you know it just you got it me i have a big youtube channel that's a big red flag
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and you know i accept that you got to just accept like sometimes it's an l crazy to me that society
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always wants to make it the woman's fault i guarantee men that are 40 and single and have
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not the prize um and they can date women in their 30s 20s even a night and even teens even a 19
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year old you know what i mean but the person are not getting comments like this last year i went
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on 40 dates oh my and in 40 dates i discovered how many dates is that so 40 40 divided by 12
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three and a half dates a month okay that 90 of those men are not ready for a relationship they're
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not emotionally in tune with what's required you look at if margot robbie in her prime asked any
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of those men for a relationship they would say i am ready i am i am ready to settle down to be a
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partner. They are man children. They don't know. And I'm not trying to be rude, but how are you
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calling the man children when you're on TikTok? That's like a kid's app, you know, it's like for
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Gen Z. What are, what are boomer women doing on here? How to plan dates. They don't know how to
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court a woman. And they ultimately, I would say 95% of them fell below my standards. There were
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two that I thought could have a chance, but they were not looking for a relationship. So
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they again want to be man children these comments that's just demanding more than your worth you
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know women like her she's cute enough that like she could get a decent guy but then she'd have to
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you know have a pleasant personality and that's hard women's posts about being selective and not
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settling are just so wild to me take these comments go find the men of the world and ask them
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what's going on i went out with a guy last year who couldn't even figure out how to buy a wedding
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gift i don't know how he's even upholding a career come on like we can barely figure out how to put
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together amazon packages i mean like our amazon like build your own furniture and all this stuff
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there's something we can't do either like you know it kind of says more about you that you're
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noticing it because you're judgmental or the rest of his life how is he even getting out the front
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door every day that type of man needs a mother and is not ready for a partner that is not my fault
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yeah so she's already nagging men she hasn't even met yet for being single okay well um now
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show you know i'm happy women like you exist because i love content forever this is the
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biggest gaslight you know sometimes there's something wrong with you and that's okay there's
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stuff wrong with all of us and the quicker you can figure it out the you know more likely you'll
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get what you want in the future because you can fix it anyways guys let me know what you think
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