Pearl - Dating In Your 40s： YOU. ARE. COOKED.

00:00:00.000 I saw a clip of this young woman being asked out at the gym and she's so excited.

00:00:04.040 She's like, yeah, I want to go on a date.

00:00:05.800 And the older women are like, this makes my skin crawl. 1.00

00:00:09.300 What's up, guys?

00:00:10.120 Welcome to my reaction series.

00:00:11.860 Today, we are reacting to women taking L's as per usual. 1.00

00:00:15.960 Women can never just take an L and shut up. 1.00

00:00:18.140 We got to take an L and make it everybody. 0.98

00:00:20.660 So being single in your 40s is just an L.

00:00:23.800 You know, I mean, it is what it is.

00:00:25.840 It could be worse.

00:00:26.740 um you could be you know of cancer or something but the women will make it the worst problem 1.00

00:00:33.660 ever and see this is an attractive woman she probably does have choices but she's still 1.00

00:00:39.000 going to complain about the choices she has somebody without dating them i don't want to

00:00:43.620 go out to dinner i don't want to go to a movie i just want to go to the part where we're just

00:00:48.220 yeah so this is why men like younger women because the younger women are like they're like 1.00

00:00:53.220 oh do you want to go to a movie and they're like tee hee i do and then um they ask the older women 1.00

00:01:00.420 that and they're like no i just want to you know do nothing and they're like well

00:01:03.700 now in our pjs on the couch how do we skip the first part you know

00:01:08.260 let me know how do you yeah um so her problem is that men want to take her out too much isn't that 1.00

00:01:17.260 incredible isn't that incredible okay let's keep going dating in your 40s in your 40s is

00:01:23.160 confusing because one minute you are talking to someone who has been married for 20 years,

00:01:27.060 has teenagers, and has a whole emotional history. The next minute you are on a date with someone

00:01:31.420 who is casually unemployed, missing a bed frame, and still figuring himself. And she probably loves

00:01:37.260 that man. She probably loves him. Women love men that sleep on mattresses. I'm so tired of hearing

00:01:43.900 these guys coping. Oh, you need money to pull women. No, you don't. Women bang broke men. We 0.98

00:01:50.180 bang broke men all the time i mean if anything it's incredible how many broke men we bang you

00:01:57.380 know and you are supposed to just be open to both with the same energy and i am like okay this is a

00:02:04.980 lot of range this is a very wide range yeah because when they're 40s uh those women will date men in 1.00

00:02:10.340 their 20s and men in their 60s dating in your all right let's see what's next uh we got this lady 0.98

00:02:16.420 hear another mid let's see what she has to say asking too much out of a 45 year old man that's

00:02:22.860 on the dating app we match um we chit chat on tuesday he asks if i want to get a drink

00:02:29.660 so sounds great so what about saturday so my saturday is free response was lucky me

00:02:35.420 that was it that was the only response so wednesday morning i wake up and i said just name

00:02:41.900 like you know the the time and the place and it's a date took him a whole day like we're now on

00:02:49.140 thursday for him to respond and say he knows of two places um in like two different areas but if

00:02:54.820 that's too far he can find somewhere else i said no those are great not a problem that was noon on

00:03:00.160 thursday date is saturday rest of thursday goes that's because he's hoping that his other options

00:03:08.220 pull through so he can cancel on you um like because there's younger prettier and better

00:03:13.640 in every way women that he's going to give better treatment to and that's just you know 0.95

00:03:17.060 eat that else nothing friday goes by nothing saturday wake up getting through my day morning

00:03:25.520 he texts says hey i know you're a baseball fan are you also a football fan yeah i'm out running

00:03:32.160 errands i'm at the farmer's market it's like 10 10 30 at this point and he's like do you want to

00:03:37.460 watch the Rams playoff game or wildcard game. I said, I typically I'd love to, but that's at

00:03:44.740 1 30. So kind of need a little bit more notice than that. But I have the young women. They're 1.00

00:03:49.920 like, yay. He had love to go. Held my evening for us to get drinks because I don't know what time

00:03:56.900 are we going at five? Are we going at eight? I don't know. I can't make any plans for my evening

00:04:02.100 because he hasn't said even though I've asked um he said not a problem drinks yeah still on for

00:04:09.000 drinks that maybe that would tee up like what the plan is no no still still no response after that

00:04:16.520 I let some time go by because I had already asked where when uh and I don't want to be pushy but

00:04:25.380 like it's 1 30 and I what am I supposed to just get dressed and sit on my couch starting at like

00:04:31.300 4 30 and wait for him to text me i i don't know so yeah they would love that they would love that

00:04:37.760 if you just i mean really um they want you to like go around their schedule i mean i'm sure

00:04:42.320 you're talking to a chad because i mean you wouldn't really care if like like let's say a

00:04:46.820 dorky guy goes to you you're like whatever i don't care but chad goes to you and is 0.73

00:04:50.440 inconsiderate like you were to men in your 20s then um now you don't like it but that's just 0.96

00:04:55.040 life take the l it's okay you know in life we all take l's i'm a humble person i think there's a lot

00:05:00.320 of humility and I'm taking L's but you got to accept that that is an L. I feel like now I'm

00:05:05.560 getting bitchy and annoyed and I know I'm a type A and I like a plan but this like not having one

00:05:11.240 at all and it's supposed to be this evening and the expect it feels like the expectation that I'm

00:05:15.880 just holding my entire day for him for somebody that I don't even know feels a little like

00:05:22.020 disrespectful of my time like he's clearly going yeah well women will do that with your life like 1.00

00:05:27.460 they'll expect you to hold your life for them so she he's expecting you to hold out on your day and

00:05:31.820 women are expecting you to ruin your whole life something about his date so like do i just go

00:05:36.480 about my day and like be like sorry never didn't didn't ever hear a formal plan even though we

00:05:41.080 talked earlier today so yeah it's chad um chad humbles these women and then they come back to you

00:05:46.980 their husbands you know i am 44 years old and i am newly single after 24 years of marriage

00:05:54.060 i have been dating for the last few months and let me tell you it's it's wild out there y'all

00:06:01.420 i'm already racking up some stories i was thinking i'm racking up some bodies is what

00:06:06.440 she should have said i might want to share a few of them here some things i've learned

00:06:11.000 some things that i've experienced some things that i have thankfully not experienced because

00:06:18.540 i realized it was a bad situation before i got myself into it of course there's always the guys

00:06:25.020 who tell me they're single and they're actually married and there's the guy with the um schmex

00:06:32.460 machine yeah i have a story that talks about something like that dating has been an adventure

00:06:40.780 it has been fun it's been crazy it's been healing i think she loved the man with the sex machine

00:06:47.820 you see our face lit up been validating it's been exciting there's been more good than bad

00:06:53.900 okay but i'm racking up some stories i would love to share them all right let's see what's next um

00:06:59.420 the idea of dating at 40 should make your script point of view the idea of dating at 40 makes your

00:07:05.020 skin crawl okay but i am a single 40 year old woman i have not been on a date in almost a year

00:07:09.980 and the longer i go without going on a date the less i want to go on a date my fellow older single

00:07:14.540 women we're talking again this is why they like the young women do you want to go on and get on 1.00

00:07:17.780 a date on a date oh my gosh i can't talk i saw a clip of this young woman being asked out at the

00:07:22.900 gym and she's so excited she's like yeah i want to go on a date and the older women are like 1.00

00:07:28.180 this makes my skin crawl the young women it's new and exciting you know king 40 plus let me know if

00:07:35.720 i'm alone here because something about being older and being so comfortable with yourself and your

00:07:40.400 own company and value they're just like set in their ways your piece so much i feel like i would

00:07:45.420 just have to be so interested in someone to even entertain the idea of disrupting that let me know

00:07:50.180 if i'm alone here because i don't think i am all right let's see who's next we got this woman here 1.00

00:07:55.100 yes i'm 40 and yes i'm still single and i get tons of comments like this basically calling me

00:08:01.580 a red flag because i have not met my person it's well yeah you probably are but you know we all

00:08:06.920 have red flags you know it just you got it me i have a big youtube channel that's a big red flag

00:08:12.640 and you know i accept that you got to just accept like sometimes it's an l crazy to me that society

00:08:17.660 always wants to make it the woman's fault i guarantee men that are 40 and single and have

00:08:23.920 not the prize um and they can date women in their 30s 20s even a night and even teens even a 19

00:08:29.980 year old you know what i mean but the person are not getting comments like this last year i went

00:08:34.420 on 40 dates oh my and in 40 dates i discovered how many dates is that so 40 40 divided by 12

00:08:42.580 three and a half dates a month okay that 90 of those men are not ready for a relationship they're

00:08:49.760 not emotionally in tune with what's required you look at if margot robbie in her prime asked any

00:08:54.960 of those men for a relationship they would say i am ready i am i am ready to settle down to be a

00:09:01.640 partner. They are man children. They don't know. And I'm not trying to be rude, but how are you

00:09:06.820 calling the man children when you're on TikTok? That's like a kid's app, you know, it's like for

00:09:11.100 Gen Z. What are, what are boomer women doing on here? How to plan dates. They don't know how to 1.00

00:09:15.860 court a woman. And they ultimately, I would say 95% of them fell below my standards. There were 1.00

00:09:21.900 two that I thought could have a chance, but they were not looking for a relationship. So

00:09:27.580 they again want to be man children these comments that's just demanding more than your worth you

00:09:33.080 know women like her she's cute enough that like she could get a decent guy but then she'd have to 1.00

00:09:38.920 you know have a pleasant personality and that's hard women's posts about being selective and not 1.00

00:09:43.620 settling are just so wild to me take these comments go find the men of the world and ask them

00:09:48.760 what's going on i went out with a guy last year who couldn't even figure out how to buy a wedding

00:09:53.700 gift i don't know how he's even upholding a career come on like we can barely figure out how to put

00:09:58.820 together amazon packages i mean like our amazon like build your own furniture and all this stuff

00:10:03.940 there's something we can't do either like you know it kind of says more about you that you're

00:10:07.220 noticing it because you're judgmental or the rest of his life how is he even getting out the front

00:10:11.540 door every day that type of man needs a mother and is not ready for a partner that is not my fault

00:10:17.540 yeah so she's already nagging men she hasn't even met yet for being single okay well um now

00:10:23.220 show you know i'm happy women like you exist because i love content forever this is the

00:10:27.940 biggest gaslight you know sometimes there's something wrong with you and that's okay there's

00:10:31.220 stuff wrong with all of us and the quicker you can figure it out the you know more likely you'll

00:10:36.240 get what you want in the future because you can fix it anyways guys let me know what you think

00:10:40.020 in the comments i love you all i love talking to you like the video subscribe to the channel and

00:10:44.500 i'll see you next time

Pearl - March 27, 2026

Dating In Your 40s： YOU. ARE. COOKED.

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