Pearl - October 24, 2026


Dating in Your 50s： Women Are Getting HUMBLED by Men Who DON'T CARE Anymore

“BETA MALES Are the BIGGEST SIMPS… And They're RUINING Everything” @NickJFuentes @JustPearlyThings More Men Should Leave Their Fat Wives

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00:00:00.000 dating in your 50s is wild when i was younger dating was simple you met somebody you liked
00:00:07.100 them you went out now first you got to figure out if they're actually single not separated not
00:00:12.780 it's complicated not that's always i just you know i'm i'm in my 20s but i'm almost in my 30s
00:00:18.720 i you know i date men 20s 30s 40s 50s you know this is an interesting age as a woman because
00:00:25.420 you can date like the age range i can date it's like 25 to 55 you know what i mean like so anyways
00:00:32.600 this is always a thing like that's happened to me where you go on a date and you find out they
00:00:37.600 got a girlfriend like it just it just is what it is no matter the age attractive men will dip into
00:00:43.320 their options most likely we still live together but we haven't been together in years i mean single
00:00:48.920 single and for me being a widow it was hard to even think about dating again
00:00:54.360 it took a lot for me to finally get to the point where I thought okay maybe I
00:00:59.640 can do this then I met a few people and now I'm pretty sure I'm just gonna stay
00:01:04.940 single because dating in your 50s comes with a whole different set of questions
00:01:10.040 so like you got you got to ask them do they have a job do they have somewhere
00:01:15.320 live that's consistent because there's always pretty boys with no jobs um i mean honestly
00:01:19.480 that's never happened to me personally but i know i know people that's happened to so you know are
00:01:25.080 they actually divorced how much debt do you have are your grown kids still living with you do you
00:01:30.760 have five exes who are all supposedly crazy because if every ex you've ever had is crazy
00:01:37.560 i'm starting this is consistent throughout time starting to wonder what is the common denominator
00:01:43.720 here and can we talk about the pictures on dating apps y'all sir that picture was taken in 2007
00:01:51.300 you were 40 pounds lighter and apparently flip phones were still a thing i need a current picture
00:01:59.420 and please don't tell me you're 5 11 and then show up looking directly in my eyes when i'm 5 4
00:02:05.560 i'm also not looking for a texting buddy if you can text me good morning beautiful every single
00:02:11.540 morning but somehow you can't pick up the phone and have an actual conversation i'm not interested
00:02:16.820 we are in our 50s we grew up with one phone attached to the kitchen wall and somehow
00:02:23.620 we managed to communicate i'm definitely too old for the disappearing they're too old to have you
00:02:30.220 be fat right you've had your whole life to not be fat so you're too old for the disappearing
00:02:34.160 look you don't think women in their 20s get ghosted if anything i'd say women in your 20s
00:02:40.300 you probably get ghosted more hear me out I know because chads aren't really checking for 50 50
00:02:47.340 year old women so like the top giga chads like if they can get a 20 year old chick they can get
00:02:53.120 another 20 year old chick so do you know what I mean if you're dipping in the older bucket I just 0.87
00:02:57.840 would imagine you're more commitment minded I could just go on my like personal experience I
00:03:03.460 think like you get older and you get ghosted less I don't know maybe it's just me but because when
00:03:09.040 you're young it's like you're naive so all the like the top chads are going when you're young 0.99
00:03:16.000 so they're gonna ghost your ass don't talk to me every day for two weeks disappear for a month 0.99
00:03:22.460 and then pop back up with a lot of times people's exes comes back come back i mean that's just how 0.99
00:03:27.540 it is you don't get explanations nowadays it just is hey stranger you're the stranger and if your
00:03:33.620 idea of making plans is texting me at 8 47 p.m. Friday night asking what are you doing going to
00:03:40.240 bed that's what I'm doing at this age I don't need perfect I don't care if you've got some wrinkles 0.65
00:03:45.900 a little belly or gray hair or you make weird noises when you stand up you're fat you can't
00:03:51.960 ask for more than that honestly at 50 plus we're all making noises when we stand up I just want
00:03:59.100 somebody who's honest emotionally mature can communicate actually wants to spend time together
00:04:04.280 and doesn't bring a truckload of unnecessary drama into my peaceful life because after being
00:04:10.340 single for a while you're not competing with another man or woman anymore you're competing
00:04:14.860 with my peace and my peace has been treating me pretty darn good yeah all right let's keep going
00:04:21.420 you're gonna die alone happy saturday for my single friends out there i have a question
00:04:27.780 I've been single for maybe six months or so and I don't know everybody's saying try dating
00:04:37.040 put yourself out there whatever I wasn't sure about it but I went on a few dates I don't know
00:04:44.200 if it's just me and maybe my age I find it exhausting I mean I do like to meet new people
00:04:51.200 but i feel certain stress when you're actually on a date it's like a job interview what do you do
00:05:00.560 yeah but that's because probably the energy you bring to the date to do for fun you have kids
00:05:06.940 grandkids i don't know i know it sounds so bad but to put the energy in over and over and like
00:05:14.420 then if you have a couple days it's like the same questions over and over and maybe i'm just
00:05:22.060 meant to be alone or at least for a while i don't know i'm just curious how everybody else feels you
00:05:30.640 nice men then i'm saying what's wrong with me i just maybe it is just me but yeah just curious
00:05:39.920 whatever any of my single friends out there i think at any rate i'm going to birthday party
00:05:46.080 tonight so cheers first sip all right let's see what this woman's got i'm gonna tell you something
00:05:53.120 she's talking about dating men in their 50s i wonder if she's gonna like it or not like it
00:05:56.960 i don't think i've dated a guy in their 50s i would though i would don't know about men
00:06:02.080 when they're in their 50s and they've been married and they're dating it's the worst
00:06:08.400 era and sadly but truly i've been through every because you're probably competing with silence
00:06:13.220 if you're dating a guy with their 50s because they probably have either had kids or tried with
00:06:16.880 someone so they're kind of sad of men and this is the age where they like to breadcrumb they want
00:06:23.840 pen pals because they've got their careers they've got their sports cars they've got their money
00:06:28.220 they've got their ex-wives their kids they're busy they want to date they want to get laid
00:06:32.880 but what they don't want to do is connect and communicate because they've
00:06:37.420 somehow lost that skill in all the years of being married and just dealing
00:06:41.560 with kids and sports and transacting and vacations and climbing in the corporate 1.00
00:06:45.880 ladder they haven't had to do much because the women handled a lot of the
00:06:49.380 stuff at home so they haven't had to deal with the emotional connection so
00:06:52.740 these guys and I literally have like ten examples I was showing my friend like
00:06:57.000 they'll reach out as if they're madly in love with you and then you respond
00:07:01.320 normally just like yep thanks doing great how are you and then they dissolve until the next time
00:07:08.200 they just want to surface they are looking for adult pen pals that perhaps they could sleep with
00:07:15.640 and i literally sent someone a text saying this saying this communications this breadcrumb
00:07:21.260 communication style doesn't work for me there's something you would like to ask for or need
00:07:25.660 please reach out but otherwise i'm going to tell you something most of you don't know about
00:07:31.200 all right let's see what's next my hot take about dating as somebody who is 52 and from a totally
00:07:37.200 different generation and not really used to using dating apps and that sort of culture i matched with
00:07:41.640 a guy a week ago and we've been consistently talking he's checking in every day which i
00:07:46.300 super appreciate there is nothing i like better than consistency she's gonna do okay in the 50s
00:07:52.620 you know what i mean she's gonna do okay and feeling chosen he talked about going on a date
00:07:58.200 last week checked in again about the date yesterday he connected with me on social media
00:08:03.720 which i don't normally do and this chain of events is the reason that i don't i don't even know what
00:08:09.320 i was thinking it was dumb but it's hard to say no to people like when they specifically ask the
00:08:14.120 female laziness epidemic too difficult to say no you could do the hard thing which is you know 0.87
00:08:20.120 assert boundaries and say no you could do the easy thing and not you know so what are you gonna do 0.74
00:08:26.360 even at 50 ask for your social media and you say no it's like weird yesterday he put up photos
00:08:33.000 of course i saw them and it was like a media i mean i said it to everybody on here he ended up
00:08:38.920 being a lot more attractive than i initially thought that he was that was just me sort of not
00:08:44.440 realizing at the time the amount of women commenting on the photos i can't miss it
00:08:50.600 you know i don't i didn't go through his follower list i didn't look active so she didn't she knows
00:08:55.880 she's gonna lose to the competition so she'll just give up at people commenting on older posts
00:09:01.280 that he had i didn't do any like fbi-ing it's just like i'm seeing it on my feed i i clock it right
00:09:09.600 because we're literally talking we're talking we're texting at the time he disappears and then
00:09:15.200 he's commenting to these people on his photos look at his dating profile this morning yeah so
00:09:21.620 she matched with the chat and he's updated all of his photos like improving his i don't know why you
00:09:27.140 guys wanna why do you are you expecting commitment early like dating apps are slow i'm telling you
00:09:33.140 that people are not people are burnt out of dating apps because they've been burned so many times
00:09:37.700 people are talking to other people so it's just not a fast process like when you meet someone in
00:09:43.220 a social group you're not gonna believe this even i don't the part i don't believe is that i found
00:09:49.940 myself in that situation here it is date number two with the gentleman first date he drives he
00:09:57.460 lives about an hour away drives up here we go out to a nice lunch uh early dinner you know four
00:10:03.060 o'clock so an early early dinner we had a nice time and a okay conversation nothing it really
00:10:10.660 exciting but uh he wasn't he didn't ask any questions about me um he told me a couple of
00:10:17.300 things about himself, but he was perfectly fine, not saying anything, just eating, and then he
00:10:21.900 wanted to come back to my house. He wanted to see where I lived, so we did come back to my house. We
00:10:27.420 sat on my patio, and he didn't like the outside. He wanted to hang around inside, and I, like,
00:10:32.840 go home, you know, so I graciously sent him home. Date number two, he calls me and says, I'd like to
00:10:40.100 see you tomorrow. Are you gonna, you know, is that all right? I said, oh, well, I can shuffle
00:10:45.300 my schedule around and I'll take the afternoon off from work. I don't get a lot of time off.
00:10:51.100 Okay. So I did that. And I said to him, I said, Hey, there's a big event going on. That's going
00:10:56.280 to be really great here in my town. Would you like to go? I was actually going to buy the tickets.
00:11:00.520 They were very expensive too. And, uh, he said, Oh no, I don't really, I don't really feel like
00:11:06.380 that. I, it'd be much too late. It'd be much too late when I get there for that. I said, Oh,
00:11:10.440 oh, okay. Okay. All right. He got here in plenty of time to go to this event. Hours before this
00:11:19.400 event. Yeah, but maybe there's another reason. He just didn't want to tell you. And he got here and
00:11:24.580 he wanted to hang around my house. And I said, maybe he just doesn't like events. How can you
00:11:29.100 be 50? Men don't really like crowds. I'm about maybe go getting a bite to eat. And he said,
00:11:32.940 I'm not really hungry yet. And so I thought, oh, okay. You know, reasonable enough. So he makes
00:11:38.300 himself at home on my sofa. He's got my, my remote control, 84 inch TV, Roku. He's sitting here
00:11:43.660 playing, having himself good times, feet up on my coffee table. And I just thought he puts on some
00:11:48.360 old cowboy movie and I thought, I want to watch that shit. Yeah. She said, I only want to do what 1.00
00:11:52.920 I want to do. Now what he wants to watch that. What's up with that? So I thought, okay, well,
00:11:58.600 I really don't know how to bring up this conversation. Like, Hey, I really don't want
00:12:02.180 to watch that. I'm not even the least bit interested. So I piddled and puttered around
00:12:05.740 my house doing things. He had gotten up at some point and gone to his car to, I don't know, get
00:12:10.280 his phone charger, plug, something. I don't know. I don't know. I was busy taking care of my household
00:12:15.160 little projects that I hadn't had time to take care of now that I got an afternoon off. A little
00:12:19.840 while later, I said, well, so I bring it up again. Let's go do something. Oh, I don't really feel like
00:12:23.540 I just want to relax today. Well, in my head, the voice was screaming, go home and relax. Get off my
00:12:29.880 my damn sofa, but I didn't, my politeness. 0.99
00:12:34.040 Okay, but now you went to TikTok, you know what I mean? 0.99
00:12:36.740 Kind of kicked in, took over, I don't know why.
00:12:39.020 That little thing on my shoulders
00:12:40.820 always making me be polite,
00:12:42.000 because I don't feel like that.
00:12:44.260 So, that goes on.
00:12:46.840 Another movie, and I thought, what the hell?
00:12:49.180 I putter around a little further,
00:12:50.600 and I noticed that in my guest bathroom
00:12:53.160 that something's different in there,
00:12:55.240 but I don't know what, and I, oh, okay.
00:12:57.840 So I'm, because I'm puttering around the house,
00:12:59.180 putting things away and, you know, cleaning up, folding some laundry.
00:13:02.060 You know, I'm killing time here at my house, feeling awkward in my own house,
00:13:07.100 feeling unwelcomed and out of place in my own house that I pay all the bills to.
00:13:12.420 I pull myself together. I'm overreacting. It's all in my head.
00:13:16.040 I go in my ensuite, my bathroom in my private bedroom,
00:13:21.820 and I notice there is a toothbrush and an extra bar of soap.
00:13:26.040 Oh, my God. That's crazy.
00:13:27.960 in my bathroom on the counter oh my god what in the hail okay that's crazy so i said is that yours 0.99
00:13:36.700 knowing it was or did the damn cat didn't bring it in and he said oh yeah he said i was just 0.94
00:13:43.340 gonna stay over he says long drive said it's only an hour it's not a long drive date number two 0.98
00:13:50.740 oh okay uh no i said i i that's not uh-uh no no i we're not gonna do that you have wasted my whole
00:14:00.080 afternoon off i don't get a lot of time off and i'm offended and put out that you have wasted my 0.74
00:14:05.780 whole afternoon off this is not a date this is you being a bum yeah because again she's expecting a 0.73
00:14:12.460 guy to do all that when she's old when she's old you know you're old so you know hanging around my 0.69
00:14:18.620 house soaking up my air conditioning playing with my roku 84 inch tv yeah so this is uh this is an
00:14:24.660 ego death right she's used to being courted and now men are like nah i'm not doing all that and
00:14:28.540 watching my that's crazy though he put the he didn't even tell her okay i understand second
00:14:33.680 date you probably want to smash but like man you can't bring the toothbrush streaming channels
00:14:39.380 and uh eating snacks and just hanging out helping yourself in my fridge this is what i mean a young 1.00
00:14:44.920 woman would be much more excited to do this an old woman does it like she's a bitch you know 1.00
00:14:49.420 drank my last beer i had one little beer in the fridge just one it'd been there for okay 1.00
00:14:54.500 i don't know a few days a week all right guys um women complain about everything so today we're 0.93
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