00:00:48.920So this is something that I did not come up with myself.
00:00:52.820Rather, it's something that I have gleaned over the years.
00:00:55.860Pearl, I have lived many lives inside my one own via all the memoirs and the nonfiction books, the autobiographies, et cetera, that I have lived.
00:01:04.300And this is sort of a collective wisdom that has been given to me by men who have experienced a number of different relationship styles, format demographics, and structures.
00:01:15.320And this is what I have gathered from the single mom question.
00:01:38.800So she's not in that like 35 to 39 or above bracket where it's like she's had her fun all these years or she's been she's growing her career, getting that jobby job.
00:01:49.200promotion, the email job, et cetera. And then like suddenly something happens in her life where
00:01:54.200she realizes my carton is almost empty. And now it's like the mad scramble to get the provider
00:02:00.820husband type. She's already had her kid. We're talking about the single mother situation. So0.65
00:02:06.560we'll get to that for a second. So this is what's... There's no scramble, right? Is that what
00:02:11.000you're saying? Almost, almost. So we want to go, this is what I have gleaned. So single
00:02:19.000mothers that i know who got wifed up and has been successful we'll talk about that there's also the
00:02:23.680unsuccessful and we can talk about that too it was the father was divorced and had three kids
00:02:28.080with his previous wife and he was he's 20 years older than her so the single mother that my this
00:02:34.280is my friend my client or a client's client that i'm writing about let's say and it just happens
00:02:38.800to come up like wait that was your i meet let's say i meet his wife you know i'm like but that
00:02:44.680was that was your wife bruh is she looks like she's the same age as your oldest daughter like0.53
00:02:50.700i got them confused a little bit oh yeah just a couple years older i'm like king right but she's
00:02:56.760relatively young let's say so we're like 10 to 20 years younger okay category right so she in this
00:03:04.840in this case she has she has that going for she gets the green check mark over here she's a mother1.00
00:03:11.340if you want more children, she has demonstrated her fertility. I mean, what other social proof1.00
00:03:18.400could you possibly want to look for? We hear of all these stories of, of, of, of women who have
00:03:23.020waited too long, let's say, or they've done a lot of waiting and they're, they're IVF maxing. Okay.
00:03:29.640And that's tens of thousands of dollars a pop. And it has very low likelihood of success. You
00:03:34.480know, she's, she's, she's 39, she's 41, she's 42. Maybe she's early thirties. There's a PCOS
00:03:39.480situation okay maybe there's something going on does it cyst okay whatever the case may be and
00:03:45.400you're you might be looking at a situation where you're going to have eight miscarriages with your
00:03:49.720wife and you don't know if there's fertility here we all know multiple people who have had horrific
00:03:55.160infertility journeys they don't talk about this but um i interviewed a doctor who said every time
00:04:01.240get chlamydia it reduces their fertility by 10 so a lot of times when women are infertile it's
00:04:07.720because they've been in the streets and they've gotten chlamydia or gonorrhea too many times so
00:04:12.360next time you hear fertility issues just ask yes so i i know i know men in their 40s 50s 60s
00:04:19.320i know men in the 40s 50s 60s who have been able to kind of live live the young hot one again
00:04:25.640because he went to the pool of of of women who we're going to come to this one here in just a
00:04:30.600second who who were looking for more than a boy toy fling you know mommy's boyfriend type of gross0.95
00:04:38.920you know situation that we often see among the underclass unfortunately but we have you know0.64
00:04:45.100you're you're 50 and your hot young second wife is 23 okay you know she's got like a four-year-old
00:04:51.980right from the from the from the college boyfriend that didn't work out or whatever he's out of the
00:04:55.760picture say with jail or whatever okay but we've got some action here we've got demonstrated
00:05:00.560futility in case you want to have more more kids or or your or your first kids let's say
00:05:04.640and then proven what do i mean here what do i mean here right before one of the reasons i was a little
00:05:10.460bit late is i was interviewing a woman for my my channel my my content a mother herself she was a
00:05:16.040single mother a divorced mother and she got remarried to an absolute chad and a half absolute0.66
00:05:22.280Chad and a half, also a father, divorced, single father. And they're an excellent match. When they
00:05:28.300met, they were both adults. Something about parenthood taken seriously makes you grow the
00:05:36.520fuck up as a human being. And the bad habits and foibles that you might have, they are kind of
00:05:45.160forced out of you by adulthood, let's say. And they were an easy match from early on.
00:05:52.720See, the fella, the man, he had had so many bad experiences with various women who were kind of
00:05:59.140living in a fantasy land, you know, wanting like the trad wife dream life where I have the perfect0.87
00:06:03.180provider husband who does everything for me and I do nothing but just starfish him once a week,
00:06:07.640Okay. Not a good situation, but with this, she had to demonstrate competence in all areas of life.
00:06:16.520She's like, wow, I'm a single divorced mom. I know that men on the market have access to,1.00
00:06:24.060let's face it, a lot of far less challenging situations than I would present.
00:06:28.660So I got to lock in and dial in. I got to look good naked. I got to be ultra competent and
00:06:35.300supportive of the men that I want to have a husband. And I have to prove myself to him every
00:06:41.360single day that I am the most valuable woman he could possibly have. Is this all? I'm going to be,
00:06:48.220I'm going to be, do a Pearl impression. Not all, not all, not all, not all. Okay. Not all single0.98
00:06:52.760mothers. By the way, my favorite Pearl impression, I had this on repeat. I would love to have Akira0.98
00:06:57.000the Dawn do like a Pearl Davis one where you go lazy, lazy. And I just, I repeated that section
00:07:03.940that was last tuesday's uh your live stream last tuesday i think that was the i i'm like i'm laughing
00:07:08.540and probably look to stay or call to nearby drivers but that's some of the best content i've
00:07:11.620ever seen just a lazy just draw out that long eight again now not all single mothers fit this
00:07:17.780profile but but for the ones who do you're you're you're gonna know you're gonna know now what are
00:07:24.180gonna be some what are gonna be some knocks on the single mothers we're gonna we're gonna talk
00:07:28.300about this we're gonna talk about a couple of big the big the big red ones they're still in there's
00:07:33.680still uh awkward say awkward entanglements with the ex okay awkward entanglements where where the
00:07:39.200former baby daddy is is is showing up and he's a very obviously a piss poor influence on the child
00:07:45.160okay like your your your stepchild that's like that's that's not gonna be a good situation you
00:07:49.880know like hey i'm gonna go take you to see your dad you just got out of jail okay and if if we
00:07:56.800are in a um let's say if we're in a tyrone situation we're in a tyrone situation has this
00:08:02.380i am working on a divorce book i'm doing i'm going to be doing that here soon and we look at
00:08:08.500when we look at the data what what do we find what are the relationships that have the highest risk
00:08:13.440uh cover your ears pearl what are the highest risk of of divorce and breakup and poor relationship
00:08:19.020between between mother and father that is likeliest to create a single mother situation
00:08:23.080the way that i've outlined i need nace to say nothing more and everyone knows what i mean
00:08:27.700all right so that that might be considered a knock sort of a situation here okay against our
00:08:34.540against our single mother but if we've got if we got these dialed in if she's like 23 she just got0.99
00:08:42.120her mba working next to whatever it takes to like take care of herself and be a competent adult1.00
00:08:46.540you have a question pearl could you let's say she divorces you and is trying to ruin your life1.00
00:08:51.800could you and the baby daddy number one team up to get her like could you both drag her to court0.99
00:08:58.380at the same time like is there any camaraderie that could potentially happen if you're both0.63
00:09:03.100getting screwed by the same woman just you know if it does go that way you've written the divorce
00:09:08.380books oh that that sounds that sounds like a like it sounds almost like like a metaphorical0.92
00:09:14.060eiffel tower situation no no no oh no i'm i'm being i'm being i'm being i'm being metaphorical
00:09:20.180with that regard like men team men tag teaming on a woman yeah that's not yeah that's not instinctual
00:09:27.000for men to do that is not that is not i suppose you could the coronel seven you've done something
00:09:31.440like that okay like women you know what i mean like whenever women want to want to take down
00:09:36.360i'll tell you what so i i had an ex-boyfriend that caught a case and he by his next girlfriends or
00:09:42.820whatever and they both reached out to me and were like did he hit you did he do this i never got
00:09:47.260hit so i don't know what they're talking about right so like that's what women do i realized
00:09:52.380in that moment that's what they do they like tag together to take down the man you know um because0.96
00:09:58.500all i would have had to do was say yes now hypothetically could they both go to court
00:10:03.860and i don't know like is there a way they could use the legal system against her but by like1.00
00:10:08.640coming together because women do that all the time we get together to take down the guy you know um0.98