Pearl - September 18, 2024


DAYCARE MOTHERS Are ON THE RISE! ｜ Pearl Daily


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9 minutes

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1,353

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73

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10

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In this episode, I talk about the growing need for child care in the United States and why women are more likely to work than stay home with their kids. I also talk about a recent viral video of a young woman playing with a baby in the kitchen.

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00:00:00.000 what sparked the topic today was a video that i saw going viral on x and this was a video of a
00:00:21.680 young woman i'm going to show it later who was a nanny for a couple in new york and you can see in
00:00:27.240 the background that is a nice house. And this woman is stunning. She is probably a nine on one 1.00
00:00:34.540 to 10, eight or nine, attractive young woman playing with this baby in the kitchen, obviously 1.00
00:00:41.800 the primary caretaker. And this is a phenomenon that I have seen across America, where there are
00:00:49.580 many women that are working now, and it's not necessarily a bad thing, but I see that they 1.00
00:00:58.160 often choose to work over spending time with their kids. So I started researching the topic.
00:01:05.760 According to Towards Healthcare, the U.S. child care market soared at 59.87, so almost $60 billion
00:01:16.500 dollars in 2023 and it's projected to climb in the U.S. to 88 billion by 2033. So what does this tell
00:01:27.520 us? It could be one of two things. It could be that maybe we can't survive on one income anymore
00:01:33.480 and that's the only choice but I've had economists and women that did stay home and often what I've 0.94
00:01:41.620 heard is that the cost of daycare is similar to the cost of child care. So option two is that
00:01:52.600 women would prefer to chase a career rather than be mothers. And I think that if more women were 1.00
00:02:00.380 honest, their choices in life would indicate that they don't really want to be mothers. So child
00:02:07.420 Childcare involves caring for children with their parents or guardians are unavailable.
00:02:12.380 It goes beyond just keeping an eye on them.
00:02:15.120 It includes providing a safe and nurturing environment where children can play, learn, and grow.
00:02:20.740 U.S. child care can occur in daycare centers, preschools, or an at-home babysitter.
00:02:25.780 The goal is to support the child's development, ensure that they are happy, healthy, and learning new things while their parents are away.
00:02:32.360 The U.S. child care market is a dynamic and vital component of the nation's social infrastructure.
00:02:39.800 With a growing emphasis on early childhood education and the increasing number of working
00:02:44.600 parents, the demand for quality child care services has surged in recent years. The blog
00:02:50.780 aims to provide a comprehensive overview of the U.S. child care market, including
00:02:55.940 key trends, challenges, and opportunities. This is just the projections they have,
00:03:00.960 so it's around 60 million and the child care market is going up and up and up and when I was
00:03:06.360 in the UK I think this is pretty common there it seemed like every other person like their kid was
00:03:12.160 either in daycare or maybe they grew up in daycare so I want to talk about a concept that I talked
00:03:18.600 about last show there is a difference between being married and being a wife now I'm gonna
00:03:25.960 I'm going to show you guys the nanny video.
00:03:55.960 okay so number one that
00:04:22.280 baby is so cute. But what came to my mind when I saw this is it goes back to what we talked about
00:04:29.480 last show. Wives are selfless and they spend their days thinking about others. And when you spend 1.00
00:04:38.760 your day on a career, not, and I understand some people's financial situations, that is what it is.
00:04:46.620 But what I've found to be more common is that people want the bigger house, they want the
00:04:53.120 bigger lifestyle rather than spending time with their children.
00:04:58.440 So this woman is more of a wife oftentimes than the woman that's married because she's 1.00
00:05:05.620 the one playing the role.
00:05:07.060 And this I don't think is smart.
00:05:10.060 I don't know if it's the smartest thing in the world to have a woman that attractive in your 1.00
00:05:17.340 kitchen. And the thing that I thought of was Jennifer Gardner found out about Ben Affleck's
00:05:26.480 affair with their 28-year-old nanny. So Ben Affleck is one of Hollywood's hottest actors
00:05:32.280 in terms of talent and charisma. His ability to embody a character while maintaining his
00:05:38.000 authenticity as an actor is noteworthy. Apart from his roles in many Hollywood blockbusters,
00:05:44.840 he was in the limelight for his tumultuous love life. I know he's with J-Lo now, but this is
00:05:50.220 before. So before marrying Jennifer Lopez, Affleck was in a loving marriage with 13 Going on 30
00:05:56.380 actress Jennifer Gardner. Sadly, after they split, news of his scandal came to light. Back in 2016,
00:06:03.420 his ex-wife Gardner opened up about what she knew of his affair. So again this is a woman that looks 0.98
00:06:12.000 like this. I mean women do we think we're better than Jennifer Gardner? And the issue she had is 0.99
00:06:18.560 she's married but she wasn't acting like a wife. And what I would see time and time again is many 0.95
00:06:25.620 times when men are married but they don't have a woman that acts like a wife they tend to step out
00:06:31.920 of the marriage and it's not necessarily a looks thing it's that they feel ignored and they don't
00:06:39.600 feel taken care of and when you invite another woman into your kitchen doing the things that
00:06:44.960 you're supposed to be doing we can't really get overly surprised when that happens it doesn't
00:06:52.560 happen all the time right and there are some cases where you do you may need you know it makes sense
00:06:59.280 for a family but i think the issue you get is when that becomes the kid's primary caretaker
00:07:05.520 so in a 2016 interview with vanity fair magazine the actress got candid about everything she knew
00:07:11.120 about her ex-husband's alleged affair with the 28 year old nanny christine anuzaouian
00:07:18.960 a year after her divorce before affleck and gardner separated they seemed to have a great marriage
00:07:24.240 from heartwarming PDA moments to welcoming three children, Violet, Saffirina, and Samuel.
00:07:31.380 The couple seemed to have it all together until the tabloids broke nudes of Affleck's affair.
00:07:36.860 In her conversation with the publication, Gardner clarified one vital piece of information.
00:07:42.180 We had been separated four months before I even heard about the nanny.
00:07:45.820 She had nothing to do with our decision to divorce.
00:07:48.860 She was not part of the equation.
00:07:50.920 Gardner's confession insinuated that the two had perhaps had a lot of trouble in paradise,
00:07:56.360 eventually leading to their separation. Furthermore, it suggests that maybe the
00:08:00.280 nanny's alleged intervention was a coincidence. Nevertheless, it was not an easy decision or
00:08:05.820 experience for her family. Gardner emphasized the aftermath of it on her children while shading
00:08:11.340 Affleck, claiming he made bad judgment. Gardner added, it's not great for your kids for a nanny
00:08:18.040 to disappear from their lives. Her thought suggests that perhaps Ausein was pretty close
00:08:24.500 with the children because of how much time she spent with them. Additionally, Gardner pointed
00:08:29.160 out, I have conversations with the children about the meaning of the scandal. So, and this is kind
00:08:36.440 of what you get. And this isn't just nannies, it's daycare. It's even some kids have a hard time with
00:08:43.200 teachers that they're close to. When you have an adult that's spending so much time with the
00:08:49.440 children that that's their primary caretaker, when they leave, a lot of times the kids struggle when
00:08:56.320 they're older with attachment issues. And if you talk to therapists, a lot of them will say that
00:09:01.660 this leaves, I mean, I know how we feel about trauma on this channel. I mean, it's not really,
00:09:07.200 you know, but it's not good for the kids emotionally. And this is just something that
00:09:14.300 I would notice is that, and again, this isn't all, there are very involved wives and mothers out
00:09:19.740 there, but all of the data is indicating that when they're given the choice, they pick the career
00:09:26.320 over their children. I mean, think about how big $60 billion is as an industry. So if many women 1.00
00:09:35.360 we're brutally honest. I think there's many women that want to be married, but they don't want to 0.99
00:09:41.940 put in the work to be a wife. And that doesn't make them bad people. It just means it's not the right 1.00
00:09:50.020 role.