Pearl - DEBUNKING The MYTH of Women BUILDING MEN ｜ Pearl Daily

00:00:00.000 good afternoon good evening ladies and gentlemen welcome to another episode of pearl daily here

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00:01:52.300 to talk about a realization i had when i was in england so as you guys know i

00:02:01.820 started in the united states with a small youtube channel and i stumbled into red pill content

00:02:07.180 It wasn't something I actively sought out. I just sort of found it, right? And it just

00:02:14.280 intrigued me so much. I was so curious. And one of the things that I was really curious about was

00:02:21.140 why men don't want to get married anymore. This perplexed me. My parents had been married 30 plus

00:02:28.380 years and I didn't really see an issue with marriage in itself. Sure, I knew people that

00:02:32.540 got divorced. But initially going into it, it wasn't like I saw this system that it was out

00:02:41.900 to get you. I didn't really know. So I go to England and I play volleyball there. And while

00:02:48.160 I'm there, I start a show and I interview over a thousand women about their experiences and dating 0.97

00:02:55.840 and relationships. And at the same time, I'm interviewing men about their experiences and

00:03:02.100 dating and relationships. And through this, I figured out a divorce rate grape, let's say for

00:03:09.360 YouTube guidelines epidemic. Now, what is divorce grape? That is essentially when women decide 1.00

00:03:15.300 that they want to take away a man's children, his assets. Many times they'll leave him homeless.

00:03:22.580 And I would interview these men about their experiences in marriage. And it just got to the

00:03:28.640 point where I met so many men with horror stories and I saw how common it was I didn't feel like

00:03:36.380 in my in good faith and in good conscience I could recommend marriage how could I recommend 0.99

00:03:43.660 marriage to a man when he's legally given there was no way for a man to legally have access to 0.52

00:03:49.980 his children I mean Elon Musk didn't have access to his child what rights does do the average man

00:03:57.720 have. So that's the backstory of how I got into the RP space, you know, sort of. And

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00:04:25.520 okay let me hold on and through this

00:04:31.280 and when I figured out this information I was really confused I was really confused because

00:04:39.640 I'd been consuming the daily wire content for a decade and I would see that and I'm going to show

00:04:45.180 you guys in a second and I would see that these guys push you know marriage they really push it

00:04:52.060 hard and they never issue any prerequisite warnings. And I'm going to get into that before

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00:07:32.880 discount code so before i got into the rp space i had heard the daily wire content now i'm gonna

00:07:40.900 show it to you guys let me go full screen okay um you guys said i don't see the stream on rumble

00:07:53.220 at guys rumble i don't know the dual stream has just always been kind of weird for us

00:07:58.000 we're trying for it tomorrow though let me it is absolutely true that married men make 0.99

00:08:03.260 significantly more money than single men because suddenly the incentive structure changes when

00:08:06.820 you're a single dude having been one basically it's like futon tv on the floor whatever garbage

00:08:12.320 food you can find and you're like that's fine that's that's that's good enough for you then

00:08:15.900 you then you get married and then you have kids and suddenly there are responsibilities that you

00:08:19.220 have to fulfill and that means that you better go out and earn and conversely actually what

00:08:24.120 The statistics tend to show is that married women will maybe make less than single women over the course of their lifetime, but in terms of combined income with their husbands, way, way, way more.

00:08:34.960 The lie that feminism told women is that you can have it all all at once. 1.00

00:08:38.500 You can have kids at the same time as you have a career or if you have to prioritize a career above kids.

00:08:42.360 That's not true.

00:08:43.540 You can do all the things.

00:08:44.420 My wife's a good example. 1.00

00:08:45.320 She went to medical school.

00:08:46.520 We actually had, let's see, one, two.

00:08:48.620 We had our third kid as she was finishing her residency.

00:08:51.020 So we had three kids during medical school slash residency.

00:08:53.900 we have four now and she took them off for each of those and it delayed things and that's just

00:08:58.940 the provision you have to make it is absolutely true okay so right now there's a couple mindsets

00:09:05.660 that the daily wire attributes they say that men make more they they attribute men's increase in

00:09:16.220 income to marriage so if anything good happens to a man after he gets married it is of course

00:09:22.780 because of the marriage it's not because of the man and his hard work it's not because of his

00:09:27.020 intelligence I mean look at Elon Musk I'm sure he wouldn't be building rockets without marriage right

00:09:35.180 oh wait I can't think of anyways it's not like Bill Gates income went up after he got divorced

00:09:43.900 so I would see this this um content right and I would just get really confused because

00:09:52.780 I would see these men and they were older than me and I would think okay so you guys are saying

00:09:59.440 this institution is amazing it's great it's really great for men but I keep interviewing men

00:10:06.380 and I keep hearing the opposite. I keep you know I keep hearing men making jokes about how their

00:10:15.020 wife runs the house, happy wife, happy life. She wears the pants. And I keep meeting these men

00:10:26.080 that are victims of divorce rape, but you guys don't have that as a disclaimer. If I was going

00:10:31.940 to push a drug, let's say I took a drug that gave me really smooth skin. Let's say that's what it

00:10:40.320 was and i knew that one percent of men or women would die taking that drug drug but i was in the

00:10:47.820 99 i would be responsible if i pushed that and somebody died because of it but these guys have

00:10:57.360 no consequences for pushing this if a guy gets his life ruined i'm gonna continue showing you this

00:11:07.660 stuff as about family formation family was the essential unit of society historically speaking

00:11:13.820 it was not the individual who was the central unit of society it was families families you

00:11:17.500 were born into one you're not born as an individual in a forest somewhere you're born into a family

00:11:21.740 into a family structure with a mom and a dad historically speaking with brothers and sisters

00:11:26.460 usually grandparents were part of this broader family structure you were born in in essence into

00:11:31.500 institutions that pre-existed you and you were expected to perpetuate new institutions that would

00:11:35.900 exist for your children and society was dependent on this these little platoons as edmund burke

00:11:40.220 suggested you have loyalty to them and you have loyalty to the local community that's made up of

00:11:43.660 a bunch of families who think similarly and then you have loyalty to a broader social structure

00:11:47.660 that encompasses those families but the family was key to society the key element of marriage

00:11:52.700 was not in fact what we would call romantic love the key element of marriage was what we would

00:11:56.780 call duty it was duty to your wife if you're a man duty to your husband if you are a woman 0.82

00:12:01.660 duty to your children for both now again this sounds really great right but you know what they

00:12:10.540 were and you know i grew up listening to this content i knew married people growing up but

00:12:16.700 what i found is there was a distinct difference between people over 40 and under 40 where people

00:12:22.940 over 40 might not be as entrenched in social media so they kind of come from a different time

00:12:30.860 but i realized i was looking around and i think maybe someone said this to

00:12:35.100 me on a show they said do you know anyone that's been married 10 plus years under 40.

00:12:41.660 and i didn't

00:12:44.700 not off the top of my head i'm sure i could think of somebody but

00:12:48.380 if i was being honest i didn't really know anybody under 40 married 10 plus years

00:12:54.940 what marriage was about and this is why marriage when you're looking for somebody to marry typically

00:12:59.660 you didn't do it in rom-com fashion the way that you found somebody to marry is you did it through

00:13:03.580 your church you did it through your synagogue you tried to find someone who shared values with you

00:13:07.020 which is why durable marriages tend to share values now of course the idea is that you're

00:13:11.900 only supposed to get married if you get married at all basically on a whim that essentially you

00:13:18.220 have sex first before you fall in love with somebody then maybe you fall in love with them

00:13:21.740 and then maybe if you're like one of those old-fashioned people for old-fashioned reasons

00:13:25.420 maybe you get married because marriage is no longer about and i would i would hear this and

00:13:30.460 i would hear he's trying to paint men that choose not to get married as immoral

00:13:39.340 and it would just it would blow my mind because i would think well the state's holding a gun to

00:13:45.020 these guys heads how can you say that they're immoral when they're punished for being traditional

00:13:51.980 men and I would just think what is this propaganda like this and I would think these guys are a

00:14:03.760 decade older than me I think they're around 38 I'm 28 they're a decade older and at the time I

00:14:10.560 was like 25 so I'm thinking they have to know somebody that's gone through this and as you

00:14:18.980 guys know when Steven Crowder got divorced the Daily Wire reported that he was abusive and they

00:14:23.900 never issued a retraction and Ben actually donated money to a guy that was suing him

00:14:30.100 and I would just think that was um I can't actually I can't remember who Ben donated the

00:14:39.720 money to it was either a Crowder's formal employer that said that he was abusive or his way it was

00:14:44.980 something. They were like friends. I don't know. But, and I would just watch this and I would

00:14:49.520 think, why are they trying to paint guys that don't do it their way as immoral? And I'm going

00:14:55.720 to get to my conclusion. The generation of a new family unit. Instead, what marriage really is

00:15:00.540 about is about your mutual pleasure with somebody else. That's all marriage. But once that happens,

00:15:05.640 same-sex marriage is the natural coda to that. Same-sex marriage is not really the issue that

00:15:09.480 we're talking about here. What we're actually talking about is the enshrinement in American

00:15:12.400 law of the idea that marriage is no longer about family formation because it's not about family

00:15:17.040 formation but it's so then i would think it's weird because they're why is he you know conservatives

00:15:24.400 will spend so much time talking about gay marriage when guys can we be honest for a second does it 0.94

00:15:32.000 really affect you personally if gay people get married like i'm just thinking in my day-to-day

00:15:38.640 life. Does that, I understand that that's an attack on the institution of marriage, a religious

00:15:46.760 marriage, but if your church is solid and you're doing it the right way in your church, does it

00:15:52.680 really affect you? The other thing I would notice is I've been an athlete for 16, 18 years. I've had

00:16:01.440 to deal with the trans women in our sports once. One time. But yet I hear conservatives 0.61

00:16:09.860 talk about this issue. But the most important issue affecting society today, I would argue,

00:16:19.140 is men losing their children. Because we all know the stats with single motherhood. Single mothers 0.89

00:16:27.440 have a tendency to raise criminals drug dealers kids are more likely to be abused under single 0.79

00:16:33.120 motherhood but you guys are talking about gay marriage that doesn't really affect us are you

00:16:40.200 guys really serious about conservative values if you were serious wouldn't you talk about this

00:16:46.580 and I'm not talking about a you know a one episode with a divorce lawyer saying that the laws are

00:16:53.180 are rigged, but I mean, you guys will make 10 episodes on Kamala. Where, where is the airtime

00:17:00.020 for the most important issue? It didn't make sense to me. And I went from watch, I would watch their

00:17:08.020 content and I would just think, how can they keep making videos and push this? It's almost

00:17:14.540 propaganda that they're not issuing some sort of warning because family is not about voluntary

00:17:19.860 formation the idea of the voluntaristic family is a very new idea in all of human history before

00:17:25.240 that it was just a thing that happened it was a thing you were born into you didn't volunteer

00:17:28.900 yourself into a family you're born into one you didn't even volunteer yourself in human history

00:17:33.640 into a family formation in terms of marriage sometimes like 40 percent of all marriages in

00:17:39.320 about 1940 were shotgun weddings where somebody would get pregnant and then the baby was early

00:17:43.580 right the idea was that family formation was a natural part of humanity and it was something

00:17:48.600 society had to prop up it was something that society had to foment you had to have social

00:17:52.200 standards that promoted things like monogamy that promoted things like sex within marriage

00:17:56.520 that promoted things like have babies these were all social standards that were considered societal

00:18:01.560 and the more i would learn the stats and i would learn okay women are the ones leaving marriages 1.00

00:18:07.880 and relationships i would wonder why why don't they say that they keep making it seem like it's

00:18:16.520 an equal oh the men and the women just want to not get married instead of you know asking the

00:18:24.120 question well if the average mage if the average age for men and for women to get married is around

00:18:32.120 30 to 31 now and rising doesn't that indicate that women are the ones pushing it off because men are 0.70

00:18:40.680 cashing out early in terms of their ability to get women is highest at around 35 women it's 0.91

00:18:48.360 highest at 21. so who's the one delaying marriage and it would just it would seriously confuse me

00:18:57.720 goods and necessities not just goods necessities and then we decided that we were essentially

00:19:01.640 going to discard all of that we decided that it was no longer necessary in a prosperous society

00:19:06.920 that we had substitutes for things like the institution of family and this came about for a

00:19:11.400 variety of reasons birth control is a big one because it turned out that nature cut very much

00:19:15.160 against the idea that voluntaristic romantic association was the key to life because usually

00:19:21.400 that resulted in a baby and then somebody had to take care of a baby and so the family would

00:19:24.440 automatically form around the baby okay so dwight stevens in the chat says my issue isn't from same

00:19:29.880 sex couples my issue is using the term marriage marriage is a sacrament from god but why aren't

00:19:35.160 they equally outraged that the state is incentivizing divorce and i'm not talking about

00:19:43.960 no fault i'm talking about child support and alimony

00:19:50.840 aren't you offended that the state's getting involved at all isn't that a bigger outrage

00:19:55.640 doesn't that affect more people wouldn't you say and it would just confuse me birth control

00:20:01.480 severed that connection so that was one thing and then welfare came about welfare completely

00:20:05.240 severed the connection because now the idea was even if you had a baby daddy doesn't have to be

00:20:08.600 around government will be the daddy and government will pay for everything and so marriage basically 0.99

00:20:13.240 became sort of an evolutionary holdover it was it was essentially a vestigial organ in institutional

00:20:19.880 life well the problem is marriage is not vestigial marriage remains essential okay so then i'm gonna

00:20:27.240 continue and i would just see all of this and it would just come propaganda hold on

00:20:36.120 half the dialogue that you hear between people especially if they're single is related to their

00:20:40.680 desire to have a partner and of course half the dialogue you hear from people who are in a

00:20:44.360 relationship is how to deal with problems in their relationship but it's a very rare person

00:20:49.240 who doesn't need and want an intimate relationship and then you have to ask yourself well what does

00:20:55.400 intimate mean and that the cheap interpretation of intimate is sexual but that's a pale reflection

00:21:01.720 in some sense of true intimacy even on the sexual front because true intimacy

00:21:07.560 means getting to know someone well why get married people okay then we continue

00:21:15.480 it's such an important topic you know people get married on average like 10 years later now than

00:21:20.040 they did it's destroying the country that's right and all of western civilization it really is i 0.54

00:21:24.040 people aren't having babies. He's exactly right. People aren't getting married at an age where

00:21:28.640 they actually are able to grow up with one another because your wife shapes you and you shape her.

00:21:32.240 And that makes you both better people. When I married my wife, I just turned 24 and she was 20.

00:21:38.280 And we've spent our lives growing up together. I mean, now I'm 38 and she's 35. And that's a long

00:21:45.860 time to spend, half her life, basically, we've spent together. And that means that you grow and

00:21:51.260 you change and you have experiences and then you bring kids into the world and that radically

00:21:54.140 changes you even more than just the marriage to it and when when Jordan says that if you're 40

00:21:59.040 and single you're blowing it he is cutting directly against the grain of all current

00:22:02.360 conventional wisdom which is the best thing that you can do is delay marriage and delay marriage

00:22:05.900 until you make associate at the law firm working 2200 hours okay so this confused me too because

00:22:13.100 when I interviewed men that were victims of divorce rape or grape I would think to myself

00:22:19.240 huh the men that are rich tend to get their kids more and they tend to have their lives 0.64

00:22:28.660 not completely ruined and the men that are rich tend to be able to make prenups in place and maybe

00:22:36.920 put themselves in a little bit better of a situation at time it's not always right and

00:22:43.500 And I would watch this and I would think, okay, you might agree with that for a woman.

00:22:49.620 If a woman's 40 and single, blowing it, fine. 1.00

00:22:52.360 But I would think for men, it would actually make more sense to wait.

00:22:58.620 They get a bigger age gap.

00:23:00.220 The woman's young and hot longer, right? 1.00

00:23:03.880 And they can protect themselves.

00:23:06.360 And then it's also the woman would be entitled to more if she is there when you're becoming rich. 1.00

00:23:12.360 and i i would just keep watching this stuff and that's why i think i talk about it so much because

00:23:19.500 it really disappointed me as a viewer right because i was a fan of the daily wire and i'm

00:23:24.620 watching their show and i'm thinking are you guys lying like what why are you doing this

00:23:29.520 uh well now they know prenups are getting tossed out there's no way to prevent it right but what

00:23:34.940 i would find is maybe if the man has money more money means more resources and that never puts

00:23:42.160 anybody in a bad position yeah grow up and then get married and in the past they said get married

00:23:47.320 and grow up so that you can grow up bob miller says i was married for over 30 years and my

00:23:52.480 christian wife's wife destroyed me in the divorce dad used to make a point about this he used to 0.98

00:23:57.760 say people would ask him about when to get married and he said well or how to find the right person

00:24:02.540 and what he always said is you have to make the decision to get married before you find the right

00:24:05.580 person because if you didn't make the decision that you wanted to get married then the right

00:24:09.200 person could come along and you could just pull them out of the water. You actually have to make

00:24:12.880 the cut. Like we live in a society where we sort of decide the opposite. It's like, oh, I'll fall

00:24:16.020 in love with the person and then we'll have sex. And then maybe like four years down the road,

00:24:19.560 we'll get married. We completely reverse the polarity and the order of events. Look at the

00:24:23.660 sitcoms from the 90s versus the sitcoms from the 60s, right? In the 60s, it was you fall in love,

00:24:28.020 you get married, you have sex. Now it's you have sex. And then it's really hard for you to say if 0.78

00:24:32.480 you fell in love with the person, right? That's like the big move in a sitcom now is did you fall

00:24:35.940 of and then you never get married i mean marriage is so passive marriage is the series finale you

00:24:40.420 know there's a there's another aspect of this which is that as we delay the onset of adulthood

00:24:46.900 the left also wants to reduce the age of things like voting you know i i don't think 18 year

00:24:52.260 olds today should be able to vote is the honest truth and you could say well you're saying that

00:24:56.260 people should be able to serve in the military and they shouldn't be able to vote well i'll 1.00

00:24:59.060 let those ones vote because they're doing something okay so i just kept watching then i would look at

00:25:07.300 matt walsh right this is from the uh independent says tucker carlson has some unique advice for

00:25:13.460 his young male fans drop out of college and have more children than you can afford

00:25:18.660 popular but controversial fox news hosts himself a bow tie wearing product of boarding schools

00:25:23.300 debate societies and a liberal arts college made the comments on sunday during the interview

00:25:27.700 carlson and host daniel schmidt a student at the university of chicago bonded over what the youtube

00:25:31.620 host called a pervasive amount of anti-white sentiment okay so this is just a hit piece

00:25:35.380 bouncing all over the place uh that doesn't matter what does matter is this clip which has made the

00:25:40.180 rounds online and there are people that are upset about it as well because talk of carlson said it

00:25:44.020 which means people are upset about it but let's listen to the advice that he gives go ahead

00:25:49.620 achievement comes through commitment and responsibility so my advice to young people 0.87

00:25:54.180 particularly young men is just dive face first into it like drop out of college college is ridiculous

00:26:00.180 unless you're moving towards some very specialized degree that you can only get

00:26:04.500 in college if you want to be a veterinarian or a physicist or something but if you're in

00:26:08.180 humanities you know i can give you a list of 100 books you can find it on the internet 1.00

00:26:11.860 and you'll be better educated than you would be at whatever stupid college you go to 0.99

00:26:15.460 a b get married and you know choose wisely but don't overthink it okay so 1.00

00:26:25.380 you know that i would hear tucker carlson say get married choose wisely don't overthink it

00:26:31.300 and i would think okay these men are old i mean older i mean like 40s late 30s 50 they've seen

00:26:41.300 life happen they have to know someone that's been the victim in a divorce

00:26:49.300 how can they work in media and they haven't covered any stories

00:26:53.940 you know don't overthink it people overthink it like if you're compatible with someone

00:26:59.220 and you can smell that you can make it work and by the way it's never easy because men and women

00:27:04.980 fundamentally don't understand each other that's the whole joy in it that's why marriage makes you

00:27:08.980 grow is because you don't really understand the other person so you have to try every day

00:27:13.860 to decipher what that person's saying have more children than you can afford take a job you're

00:27:18.900 not qualified for like go balls out you just go balls out i don't know what is everyone waiting

00:27:25.140 for you know have some adventure in your life do something crazy i mean it and and i don't mean

00:27:30.580 you know go to bali skip bali please uh and i would think okay well i mean it worked out for

00:27:39.860 these guys but how many men want to be conservative media personalities and don't get to be worth

00:27:47.220 millions of dollars not saying they did not work hard i'm sure they all worked extremely hard to

00:27:52.260 get where they are but um for every winner there's got to be a loser okay well of course people are

00:28:03.780 upset about the what he says there the insight he provides because it's good it's true right and if

00:28:08.260 you provide true insight into life you're always going to upset people these days does it make

00:28:12.820 sense that the same company who controls half of online retail also passively eat okay i'm not

00:28:18.340 going to push your vpn sorry if you got expressvpn sponsor me if you want to if you want a free promo

00:28:27.460 not here to people who are actually married and have been married successful and this touches on

00:28:33.860 a couple of things there that are really important one one the one that he says you know don't

00:28:37.140 overthink it when it comes to marriage and this is something this is a drum that i've been beating

00:28:42.740 for years okay so matt walsh says don't overthink it when it comes to marriage right so then i

00:28:49.720 thought let me let's see the average age that women and men get married or get divorced is 0.99

00:28:59.040 late 30s so it's sometime between 35 to 45 let's say that's the first round the second round of

00:29:05.580 divorces is 10 years later so I google Matt Walsh age so oh this is conservative commentator

00:29:16.340 and it has him at 38 so okay and this was a year ago so I think he was 37

00:29:28.820 and I thought well maybe if he made it to 45 I mean that's good um but usually the women don't 1.00

00:29:39.520 divorce until the first or the youngest kid is in preschool so if they have more kids so I'm

00:29:47.660 thinking well if his wife was gonna leave it's not gonna be for they've had five kids I think

00:29:52.860 so that's a 10-year period we don't even know if they're gonna stay together

00:29:58.480 so I kept thinking how are they pushing this when they don't even know for sure that their

00:30:05.320 wives aren't going to leave them and then I started googling I started googling the older 1.00

00:30:14.340 conservative commentators and I made a google sheet of these are the women um but at some 0.99

00:30:23.960 point I'm going to do the men too and I looked up you guys can see sort of um if the women 0.96

00:30:33.680 that are conservative are any less divorced and I didn't find a difference

00:30:40.760 and I thought hmm so and I googled Dennis Prager for example three times divorced and I thought

00:30:52.000 okay so men in your industry that you know are going through this how are you still not thinking

00:30:59.960 to give them a warning why isn't this the top issue it doesn't i okay let me let me go back to

00:31:10.840 this um and he's exactly right about that and if you listen to people who are actually married

00:31:18.520 and have been married successfully and are in happy marriages you're all this is this is this

00:31:23.440 is you know there's wide agreement then he would say well if you talk to the people that have been

00:31:30.420 married and are married um there's agreement right actually married people you should talk to us

00:31:38.000 just talk to us it's only people that aren't married that are scandalized by this kind of

00:31:42.380 thing that should tell you something okay so now again this is an appeal to morality i am super

00:31:47.160 moral because I got married and I'm still married. Therefore I am moral and I'm doing something

00:31:52.900 they're not. And I just kept thinking, what a stupid thing to say. I mean, there are men more 1.00

00:31:59.280 moral than you that have been divorced. Why do you think you're above it? What is, I just kept

00:32:06.300 wondering why, why do they keep pushing something? They like, how do conservatives understand

00:32:16.480 incentives when it comes to not working. They totally understand the incentives for

00:32:26.020 homeless people to not work. If you pay them to not work, they might. Well, if you pay women to 1.00

00:32:30.920 divorce, nobody's safe. Would you guys walk into a room where everyone's paid to kill you? 1.00

00:32:37.300 I wouldn't. So how can I blame men for saying, you know, and why do they have this holier-than-thou

00:32:50.740 attitude like it could never happen to them when it has happened to their peers?

00:32:59.080 That doesn't make any sense.

00:33:00.920 because it doesn't mean that you know you meet someone and you kind of like them so you get

00:33:06.540 married the next day okay no one's saying that we'll run off to las vegas and get married in a

00:33:10.300 drive-thru wedding after one day no one is saying that but if you if you meet them and uh you like

00:33:16.760 them and you're attracted to them and you're compatible and also you you note that you have

00:33:23.880 you know your your fundamental values align which is something that you can discover about

00:33:30.700 someone early on. So then he said, well, if your values align, maybe you'll stay married. So I

00:33:37.100 thought, hmm, let me look up conservative women's, the average net worth of their husband. 1.00

00:33:45.820 And as you can see here, you can pull up the, um, Alyssa Walsh net, her husband's net worth

00:33:52.520 is 5 million. Allie Beth Stuckey, 3 million. Bernadine Bluntley, estimates are 10 million.

00:34:04.600 Brett Cooper, 5 million. Candace Owens, or Candace Owens, 180 million. So I thought,

00:34:14.440 well okay is there an incentive to stay if your husband becomes very very rich

00:34:23.460 could that be how they've made it work getting very very rich would that be an incentive

00:34:31.100 so does this apply to average now again guys these are google estimates i don't know for sure

00:34:39.880 but even the fact that we're arguing if are they worth 5 million 1 million half a million that

00:34:46.040 still puts them in the upper class of society and i thought that's so out of touch how can

00:34:54.640 you keep pushing this when the men that make between 50 and 80 000 a year are the ones that

00:35:00.920 get really really screwed actually like talking to them if you have real conversations with them

00:35:09.320 rather than inane small talk all the time you can discover all of that very oh and my my second 0.98

00:35:14.800 question would be okay let's say that they're in miserable marriages let's say that matt walsh or

00:35:20.820 ben shapiro whoever it is let's say they're in a miserable marriage is their incentive would they

00:35:27.120 admit it if you're in a marriage and it's going terrible would you go on your show and say well

00:35:35.860 this is terrible and I wish I didn't do it. What is their incentive? So there's no way we can even

00:35:42.720 get honest answers out of these people, right? I mean, I have a show. I mean, I can't even think

00:35:50.480 of anything worse than if you're having a marriage problem and you go tell the general public.

00:35:56.880 Can you guys, I'm not blaming them, right? I wouldn't either. But what they do is they use

00:36:04.700 their family as a way to bring themselves clout so they post pictures and say this is the way

00:36:13.340 and they get clout out of it right so can we really trust their analysis quickly and um

00:36:24.140 and then at that point like what what else is there to wait for what are you waiting around i

00:36:28.220 mean you can see these days people think well okay i'm attracted to them i like them we get along

00:36:34.300 we're compatible. We have our fundamental values do align. But we need to date for 17 years,

00:36:42.300 you know, and we got to move in together. And I have to know every last detail about this person.

00:36:48.200 What if they have, what if there are things about them that annoy me?

00:36:51.500 Right? I got to find that out first. No, you don't need to find it out because I'll tell you

00:36:55.360 the answer right now. There are, there are a ton of things that annoy you about that because

00:36:59.220 they're another person, they're a whole other human being. And so you're not going to be,

00:37:04.020 compatibility is not going to be 100 percent there are going to be difficulties you're going

00:37:09.060 to be bumping up against each other on various different topics all the time that's just part

00:37:13.700 of living with someone you work through that and so what else i kept finding was

00:37:24.260 whenever i would cite the 50 divorce rate the conservatives would have a tendency to

00:37:32.100 market their religion as the solution to divorce well if you just prayed every day with your wife 0.80

00:37:39.540 and you went to church every week with your wife well i kept thinking well if the wife

00:37:45.620 doesn't want to go to church what are they going to do i know in divorce court you can be

00:37:52.820 accused of spiritual abuse if you force your woman to go into your religion 0.90

00:37:58.020 that's something either they don't know or they're getting too much paid too much money to ignore

00:38:05.360 so um all right so let me read the comments on the facebook

00:38:10.920 everyone join the audacity network and donate to the divorce documentary yeah if you guys want

00:38:17.880 we're almost to ten thousand dollars for the divorce documentary my goal we can really get

00:38:22.600 started if we raise 50 if we raise 100 I can start going for like high level guests so that's the

00:38:28.500 goal but I really would like to raise like 50 that covers an editor for like six to eight months

00:38:35.480 okay um that's a rough one we somehow worked things out Bob says it's women today that are 0.99

00:38:42.360 not traditional no way of finding a traditional wife in society that was the next thing I looked 0.97

00:38:47.080 that. I would find a lot of women online claiming that they were traditional. But when I looked at 0.99

00:38:53.900 their life choices, I would find one of three things. I would find number one, they would wait

00:39:00.060 till their late 20s. If they married young, they would not have a kid until their late 20s. So

00:39:05.520 take Lauren Chen, got married young, didn't have her first kid till 29. Well, I mean, if the average

00:39:13.240 first sexual experience is 16 um you're definitely using something to make sure that doesn't happen

00:39:20.600 right not really traditional um the other thing i would find is they wouldn't have four plus

00:39:27.720 you know their life choices would never be traditional so i would think this kind of seems

00:39:34.200 just like a a pretend right i've been recently watching reels on facebook and the woman i see

00:39:42.680 are pretty radical. But when I was younger, I've met several women like that. And most of the

00:39:47.220 radical ones I met were nurses. E.J. Karin says, Pearl is so based for this. Yes, let's see the

00:39:52.180 data. Tucker is right. Being married without piles of money gives you purpose and success.

00:39:57.080 The current information is not the way to go. 60 years ago, things were different. The same at

00:40:00.960 each age of time. It should be a hate of marriage. If you need to hate, hate the current belief

00:40:08.340 system. Charlie says if they want to claim morality, but they don't want to look to biblical

00:40:13.660 standards for divorce, the whole conservative movement is full of liars and fakers. Oh, 0.99

00:40:19.320 and they're bought by Israel. One group you can't talk about. Rob, I agree about that, Pearl. I don't 0.72

00:40:24.420 know how we did it, but we really wanted to stay together. I'm not extremely religious, but my wife

00:40:28.700 is more religious. Charlie, it's the concept of commitment and they aren't holding women 1.00

00:40:33.320 accountable in commitment guys if you do want to comment go to the audacitynetwork.com okay

00:40:39.640 that's part of marriage and the thing is it doesn't even matter like you can spend years

00:40:46.680 with someone getting to know every last detail about them and and then you say okay we're ready

00:40:52.040 to get married and you get married well you still got to start right eventually you're going to have

00:40:57.480 your first day of marriage it doesn't matter how much time you spent with them ahead of time

00:41:01.960 once you get married you're you're you're married now the game changes you're a rookie i don't care

00:41:08.740 if you knew that person for 15 years ahead of time you're basically in the same boat as someone who

00:41:15.240 knew and i kept thinking well what is different once you're married the difference is the woman 0.99

00:41:22.520 has more leverage i mean when you think about it i kept thinking if you live together you could give

00:41:29.780 her a ring without going to the state but the difference is female leverage their spouse for 1.00

00:41:37.760 15 minutes because now you're starting at square one you've got to start in square one

00:41:42.000 so you have to understand i looked at this as a fan right as a fan but i just the deeper i got

00:41:52.300 into this rabbit hole I just couldn't believe how much I figured there's it's it's one of three

00:42:06.160 things either they believe their religion so much that it clouds facts that they just cannot see

00:42:14.320 facts. Two, conservatives need male voters and they need men to do all the hard jobs in society

00:42:22.560 and they're terrified for their children and what will happen if men don't bail women out 1.00

00:42:29.960 of bad decisions. Or three, they're funded by evangelical Christians and because that's their 0.53

00:42:42.740 belief system and that's where they're getting their money. That's why they're pushing. I just

00:42:48.320 couldn't, I couldn't figure it out. Okay. So I moved to England and I'm interviewing men

00:42:59.380 that are victims of divorce. Great. And, um, I remember the daily wire responds to me. It was,

00:43:07.900 the president, Jeremy Boeing said that I'd never read a book and they all come at the red pill and

00:43:18.560 they just say these red pill guys are angry. They're bad faith actors. And I kept thinking

00:43:25.840 again, I'm looking at this market and I'm thinking, okay, Michael Knowles, you go on whatever podcast,

00:43:32.020 you see the quality of the wives you had a corn star on your show you know you guys know that 1.00

00:43:38.540 this is a problem but yet for some reason you guys are just ignoring it you'll talk about the

00:43:44.740 trans issue but you don't really talk about this then I go and I interview because again their 0.99

00:43:54.040 argument was that, oh shoot, their argument was that marriage is a good thing if you just go 0.95

00:44:06.180 to our church, right? So if you go to the Catholic church, then you will be able to get married or

00:44:14.900 whatever. I need to. And they said, Pearl, you're going to upset some powerful people the way you're

00:44:26.360 talking. Well, I just want answers to these questions. So. OK, here we go. Then I meet this

00:44:36.440 man and this is one of the I'm going to show my screen. This is one of the worst divorce stories 0.99

00:44:41.900 i've ever seen and this was from a traditional latin mass community now this man by every metric

00:44:48.380 did what he was supposed to do so he married within a traditional latin mass community

00:44:54.940 his wife was eastern european so they're supposedly more traditional from that culture and um oh

00:45:03.340 actually put it down one second i think the first one to start with this is him talking about 31

00:45:10.380 minutes oh yeah you don't know who's around him oh wait let me this is him talking about his life

00:45:16.940 after his son was taken from him that's that's you know that's what they say the things that

00:45:21.900 keep you open you turn it up a little right and i guess where your faith comes in but yeah those

00:45:26.780 are things that i struggle with every day i mean my whole life is a cope for the most part you know

00:45:33.420 know I work, go to church on Sunday, that's my life. I'm at home. I don't really feel

00:45:45.260 like doing a whole lot other than those things. But yeah, like some people have described

00:45:51.900 it as like mourning a child that's still alive. So he said he's mourning a child that's

00:45:59.540 still alive? I look at his pictures as a little boy. Now he's just like five, which is great, but

00:46:08.980 you know, yeah, my whole life's a cult.

00:46:15.700 And now he's in Russia. Do you know that he's safe at least now? Well, he lives with his mom

00:46:22.260 and her parents um my sister um sometimes i'll you know sometimes i'll also so he spent three

00:46:30.340 hundred thousand dollars he went to a war zone like during the middle of the ukraine war to try

00:46:36.660 to get his kid he ends up being like detained there they reported him as dead he didn't die

00:46:44.100 but there was a confusion if you guys go to the website you can watch this but and this is a guy

00:46:51.380 that went to church with michael knowles and i didn't find this out till after i did the debate

00:46:56.580 with him but i'm asking the question okay so you know this is happening because my first thought

00:47:03.060 was well maybe they're ignorant right maybe maybe they just don't know are they blind you know i 0.61

00:47:10.580 didn't you know when you're younger you might not know but what else was he supposed to do 0.91

00:47:17.540 let me find the other one so I asked him about about it right 35 in this country they don't

00:47:27.060 belong to them yeah I've heard you say that before too and it's so true and I'm sure you

00:47:34.760 we spoke earlier you saw my my Trent Horn debate Michael Knowles debate what's going through your

00:47:41.440 head when you see guys that are supposed to really be on the men's side like dismissing all of this

00:47:49.520 yeah i wonder like i wonder what's going through his mind like when he's saying things does he

00:47:54.640 actually believe what he's saying or is he hitting like um not to put a lot of people's business out

00:48:02.800 there but i know a guy that's close to trent who's divorced he suffered a lot himself so i debated

00:48:10.560 with um a man named trent horn right and again he's debating that marriage is a good deal for men and

00:48:19.040 you find out well he had a co-host or someone that he's worked with closely that's on lifetime

00:48:24.640 alimony from the traditional i think he's um i know he's catholic but i don't i don't know if

00:48:30.880 it's latin mass or not but and you just keep thinking so do they how do they not see it

00:48:40.560 lifetime alimony and other things i'm sure trent knows that but he just sits there and

00:48:46.820 still makes it seem like it's uh as long as you which i don't dismiss the catholic faith obviously

00:48:53.780 i'm catholic but i don't think that's uh it might not be enough if you i don't know i i just don't

00:49:03.220 know what he's thinking well I think it's mean to sell it as a solution to this problem right

00:49:12.460 and I I just it's weird to me did Michael Knowles know about this case you know because me yeah did

00:49:19.880 he know you he knew me but I don't think he knew I know anything about this case oh he didn't okay

00:49:25.240 because sometimes I hear this and I just I wonder do they pretend they don't know what's going on

00:49:30.360 or do they're ignorant to it i don't know well you know like i think you talked to paul once

00:49:38.320 about was anytime a man complains like he's just shut shut down you know like nobody wants to hear

00:49:45.360 it i think that might be what something like that could be happening because i you know i before i

00:49:53.020 was married i was sort of like the unofficial driver for a latin mass priest and you know i

00:49:58.820 drive them to the airport pick them up or help them with things that they needed help with and

00:50:04.820 um you know they would share some things they would never get specific on specific people but

00:50:12.100 they would say that most of the marriages are miserable or miserably married

00:50:16.900 and i think i've even heard um another guy you talk to tim say something similar

00:50:22.340 so yeah i don't know who they're getting

00:50:26.980 yeah well

00:50:28.820 And it's not that I'm against the institution, but I just, I hear stories like yours and

00:50:34.380 I, I don't know how you can't warn guys about this.

00:50:40.060 Um, then let me continue.

00:50:44.320 So, you know, wouldn't it make sense?

00:50:48.840 Why are they inviting Pearl on the show?

00:50:51.420 Why don't they invite, you know, why don't they tell the men to man up and get married 1.00

00:50:55.580 and say that to the men that have actually gone through it?

00:50:58.820 it doesn't, you know, it doesn't make sense. You guys. And when I was on, um,

00:51:09.860 maybe they care about clout the most. I don't know. Maybe it's because I'm more famous than

00:51:14.240 some of the guys that have gone through this. But if you really want to get to the bottom of

00:51:17.740 this stuff, you're not going to be able to shame men into taking deals that are not fair.

00:51:22.680 um so i continue because that was the next one was this guy right so wait let me find

00:51:34.860 two hour mark it says okay so this guy had three kids he lived a mile from and

00:51:43.440 and he at the end and distance and coming in the camera he he's he hasn't seen them and i

00:51:55.800 you'd have to watch the full thing but it's like two to three years he hasn't seen them

00:51:59.740 and he ends up going homeless because of this whole thing and he's still at the end of his

00:52:07.660 interview he's adamant i'm fighting for you kids i'm going to show you nothing for me oh wait two

00:52:11.820 miles or two minutes I missed a whole decade of Facebook I was a private guy

00:52:18.080 I barely had a fault of myself here now hopefully I'm gonna be everywhere trying

00:52:23.340 to expose this and push this because we have a duty to our children so whoever

00:52:28.260 is watching yeah I ain't going away I ain't disappearing kind of a shout out

00:52:32.220 to my kids kids I'm your dad I love you sorry that one my bad kids I'm your dad

00:52:37.060 I love you as promised I won't give up I will continue to battle for as long and

00:52:41.580 as hard as i can and i'm prepared to go to any lengths and distance and coming in the camera

00:52:47.420 nothing for me i'm prepared to go a lot more for you guys so i love you i miss you and god willing

00:52:52.300 i will see you one day soon so he's fighting for his kids the other guy's fighting for his kids i

00:53:01.340 you know it was the only people i met and this is just my experience interviewing that got their

00:53:07.340 kids had had to have a lot of money i met one guy in texas had one of the most expensive divorces in 1.00

00:53:14.780 texas he didn't get primary custody but he got a good amount of time seeing his kids well

00:53:20.940 i think he spent he told me he spent 1.5 million on a divorce

00:53:26.780 pretty expensive i mean i don't know if you guys have that laying around

00:53:29.740 um another guy I had on the show last week I mean him he took his case to the Texas Supreme Court

00:53:41.360 and his wife still took his kid to another state to get him castrated 0.98

00:53:46.760 now I don't know what the solution is for men I think men have to weigh the risks themselves but

00:53:55.200 where I get frustrated and I was honestly disappointed as a viewer was when I felt as

00:54:03.060 though they were lying I don't like it I don't like playing pretend I don't like liars so how

00:54:09.180 are you guys pushing an institution that your colleagues have gone through and you know it

00:54:12.940 worked out terribly for a lot of them how are you saying that us as a society have to get married

00:54:20.180 And that's ultimately a good thing. And that makes you more moral. Well, I don't know,

00:54:25.060 signing a stupid business. I, if you signed a business deal that was completely unfavorable to 1.00

00:54:31.660 you, people would blame you if you ended on the losing end of that. So, okay. Also,

00:54:43.220 So let me see the next one. So the next thing that I found out was that even people that were

00:54:51.460 married, the reality wasn't what I thought. Oftentimes when I would hear conservative

00:54:57.560 media, they would push that marriage was this amazing end goal that everyone should want to get.

00:55:04.960 And I would look at society a hundred years ago and think that society was ultimately better,

00:55:10.500 right? And maybe it was to some degree, but what I found out is that many men live quiet lives of

00:55:22.940 desperation in marriage where they know that the woman has all of the leverage and they don't want 1.00

00:55:29.520 to be put on child support or even lifetime alimony. I'm in Illinois. There's lifetime

00:55:34.840 alimony here. So if you get divorced and she was a housewife, I talked to a guy the other day and

00:55:39.860 he said he was supposed to retire and his wife of 32 years divorced him who was a stay-at-home

00:55:45.220 wife well now he has to put off retirement for 12 years he worked 30 years to now have

00:55:52.160 to put off retirement for a decade because he has to pay alimony and then 30 minute mark

00:56:06.420 okay you find that a lot of men the reason they make more in marriage is because they this is

00:56:13.940 more the norm of women in marriage so true we have so this couple went on financial audit to

00:56:20.740 go over their spending and she just has out of control spending and the thing is men can't put

00:56:29.060 a gun to women's head and say hey stop spending too much money women are allowed to have credit 1.00

00:56:33.440 cards women are allowed to get into debt and oftentimes the men are the ones having to work 0.96

00:56:41.760 extra time to pay off women's bad spending habits no one to watch the kids oh we'll get a babysitter 1.00

00:56:48.640 or it's hard on sundays to find somebody we struggle finding people to watch the kids or

00:56:54.480 i'm just like don't want to spend the extra money to have somebody watch them so i was like well

00:57:00.560 i'll just stay home but even not go to work whether because he has golf whether you're working

00:57:06.880 or not with my income we don't need you don't have to work at all yeah but i like to spend

00:57:13.040 so we do need but that's that's the part we need to work on is the spending that's yes i agree i

00:57:19.520 mean he just well he just said was 100 right but you know this again you're in the circles i'm so

00:57:25.280 confused yeah i do know it i don't know why i don't apply it it's because you prefer the spending

00:57:31.360 over the over the i have a problem i know i have a problem but it's but your lack of addressing it

00:57:39.440 clearly you enjoy the problem more than any benefit that will come from applying any solution

00:57:46.240 i mean you do you prefer the instant gratification more than any okay i'm gonna keep going through

00:57:53.360 and anecdotally when i looked on the people i knew it made sense you know i had roommates in

00:58:00.240 college they were addicted to amazon they would eat out i had a guy roommate he would always eat

00:58:05.040 in um you know men women have a tendency to want botox fake hair fake nails the latest fashion 0.85

00:58:12.160 trends men don't really care about that stuff men can be happy in a one-bedroom apartment

00:58:16.640 women want to live in the latest and greatest of everything so 0.99

00:58:23.200 i you know i start to find out that you know this thing that they're selling isn't really they're

00:58:29.360 not really putting any of the risks and what i'm not saying there's no reward but it you know

00:58:35.680 pharmaceutical companies are liable if they don't talk about the risks but these conservative media

00:58:42.960 companies that push marriage have no downside if it doesn't work out um and

00:58:52.800 I just found it dishonest if I'm being like I just found it really really dishonest um

00:59:00.240 so the last thing I'm gonna show you guys today where

00:59:04.960 uh okay is you know we have this idea

00:59:12.400 um we have this idea that

00:59:17.680 women you know whenever guys so a lot of times the argument that conservatives make is that

00:59:26.560 men make more because of women and that you know the men just need a woman to 1.00

00:59:31.260 tame them and just make them better men. And from my experience, that wasn't the case. The case

00:59:40.380 that I have seen is that if they make more money, the woman is spending it. And 1.00

00:59:50.580 oftentimes women are more of a distraction to men than a benefit in 2024 so I want to watch 1.00

01:00:01.460 this video and he's actually going to come on the show Wednesday to talk about this

01:00:04.980 but this guy got divorced over Yu-Gi-Oh I need to say this let me just say it straight out and by

01:00:12.960 the way this is this seems like a Christian guy he's got I can do anything through God who

01:00:17.380 strengthens me seems like the Christian guy wait I am no longer married and I'm 1.00

01:00:25.060 I'm divorced this is not what this video is about but there's something that you

01:00:31.360 guys need to know when I met this woman and I told her about my Yu-Gi-Oh stuff

01:00:43.040 she hated it okay so he was to give preface he was a yugioh youtuber she said that hey you

01:00:50.000 could do something better with your life you should go back to school so you know what i did

01:00:56.320 back in 2016 17 16 i said you know what maybe she's right you know what i did i sold all my

01:01:08.000 equipment i sold my youtube channel i sold all my camera stuff i'm like you know what

01:01:12.960 maybe it is time to move on maybe it's time for me to do something better with my life

01:01:17.120 not knowing that at that time what i had was very special at that time something that i chose to do

01:01:24.800 youtube i had something going on even though i had some drama and stuff going on before and

01:01:31.440 and I shut down my channel a few times,

01:01:34.140 I had something that I completely gave up.

01:01:39.260 I gave it up because someone said,

01:01:41.820 hey, you know what?

01:01:43.400 Maybe it is time to move on.

01:01:45.420 You got to do something better with your life.

01:01:46.900 There's got to be something more for your life.

01:01:49.240 Also, shout out to Charlie

01:01:51.140 for joining the Audacity Network.

01:01:54.060 Woo! 0.99

01:01:56.120 Guys, go to theaudacitynetwork.com if you can.

01:01:58.680 We're demonetized.

01:01:59.520 and I can be more off the cuff

01:02:02.720 the more members we have there

01:02:04.140 in case they don't monetize us again.

01:02:09.060 Okay, wait.

01:02:10.080 I'll wait with it.

01:02:11.180 And I sold all my stuff for a woman 1.00

01:02:14.000 and she's no longer here.

01:02:17.520 And this problem persists.

01:02:20.020 She told me at that time,

01:02:22.400 hey, you want to meet my mother?

01:02:25.300 You need a car.

01:02:27.660 Because I didn't have a car at the time.

01:02:28.980 i was doing youtube i was working from home so she's saying spend more money because men are

01:02:34.500 practical he said i don't i don't need a car why would i why do i need a car i need to drive

01:02:40.180 anywhere yes youtube is what i did for a living it's how i paid my bills and i was street performing

01:02:48.340 also how did i shoot perform i just catch the bus 20 minutes down the street played my horn

01:02:53.300 went home i never needed a car but when i met this woman you have to go back to school 1.00

01:02:59.780 you have to exercise you have to get your degree you have to do something better with your life

01:03:06.660 even though i explained to her this is what i chose to do a woman comes in your life and trying 1.00

01:03:13.220 to tell you the plan that you chose for your life is wrong and out of love i choose to say you know

01:03:20.420 what maybe she's right and i took a chance i took a chance i said you know what i'm gonna give this

01:03:28.340 up completely like for good sold the channels jobber sold all my stuff tried to go back to

01:03:36.820 school multiple times there's something i don't want to say that i can't finish school

01:03:45.380 but it certainly feels like i can't first i don't know what it is and every time i talk to people

01:03:53.480 they just think that everything i say is just an excuse you are a grown man you are an adult

01:04:01.380 you can do it it's like no one can see it from my perspective it's like i am always wrong

01:04:09.120 when I study what I do fall asleep what do they say hey you're lazy you're procrastinating

01:04:19.520 you're choosing not to do this and I'm like that's got to be something wrong with me when

01:04:25.600 it comes to school studying and staying on task and staying focused I just can't do it

01:04:31.460 and I try and I go back to school and I pay all this money and I pay all this money and I pay

01:04:38.240 all this money and I fail and I fail and I fail and I fail music has always been

01:04:48.020 there for me and I've always been great at it

01:04:52.620 people say that hey they tell to test me they say hey you know music right you

01:04:59.400 know this person no you know this person no you know this person no how are you

01:05:03.080 musician also get people say to me hey what kids this is i say i don't know like what they say

01:05:09.720 well how are you playing how are you a musician how do you play so well i am not the type of person

01:05:16.920 who is book smart and remember a lot of men feel like that because the school system caters to

01:05:25.400 women it is more it's run by women and women tend to be better at like regurgitating information 0.95

01:05:35.400 back to you they're better at things like showing up to class so they have more emphasis um on

01:05:43.880 things that don't really matter as much where men you know before i think it was the 70s or

01:05:49.400 the 80s the school system was just straight tests you take the test can you do it so if

01:05:54.280 if guys don't see it as useful to show up to class they just won't come women will come anyway so a 1.00

01:06:00.520 lot of men go through the school system and think that they're dumb or whatever because they don't

01:06:07.000 learn like women or knowledge knowledgeable i don't know things but i know how to do things i 0.86

01:06:16.440 I know how to do things physically in a creative way.

01:06:22.180 I'm not a type of person who retains things

01:06:24.820 and hold on to things, who can read a book

01:06:27.100 and then take a test, pass it, and go on.

01:06:30.780 That's not me.

01:06:32.480 I am a creative-minded person.

01:06:36.020 Anything that involves creativity, I can do.

01:06:40.000 So he's saying, I know how to do things.

01:06:41.960 I don't know these theories, all this stuff.

01:06:43.660 I just do it, right?

01:06:45.220 That's much more like men, you know, that's much more how men operate.

01:06:50.980 At least to some degree where people are like, why are you doing so well?

01:06:55.620 You ever thought about going to school?

01:06:57.140 I tried.

01:06:58.140 It doesn't work.

01:07:00.880 So this is all tying together.

01:07:05.460 I met the parents.

01:07:07.060 They asked me, hey, what do you do for a living?

01:07:10.840 I had to tell them I am a musician.

01:07:15.220 I didn't I couldn't tell him I was a street musician. I am a musician. Then he said, hey, you have a degree. I said, I don't have a degree. My ex-wife parents did not speak to me for two years and told her not to marry me because I don't have a degree.

01:07:33.680 What sense does that make?

01:07:37.320 So I give up this YouTube thing, I give up my entrepreneurial thing, I try to do something

01:07:41.500 that's not innately a part of my strengths at all because I'm thinking I'm in love to

01:07:47.740 do something for somebody to prove something.

01:07:53.360 And this continues on through the merge.

01:07:58.040 She says, hey, you need to find a hobby.

01:08:00.160 i'm like oh let me play yukio again so last december last year i stopped my channel up again

01:08:09.420 i buy my channel back from java like oh she gave me the lk to go into a hobby

01:08:14.120 you know what she said you're spending too much time playing those cards it's either the cards

01:08:20.120 or me she literally said that like you just said i need a hobby i get into a hobby and now you said

01:08:25.120 I'm doing it too much what what is it what so I don't know what it is but again this is something

01:08:32.040 I found out from from men they get married and women hate whatever their hobby is and try to 1.00

01:08:37.820 destroy it so for some women it's video games they just can't let the men enjoy their video 1.00

01:08:43.760 games other women it's football they can't let the men enjoy their football you know ladies we 1.00

01:08:48.400 have stupid hobbies too i mean uh we like the kardashians and the men they don't care they 0.99

01:08:55.840 say okay go watch that brain rot tv it's not my problem that's our thing we like makeup tutorials 1.00

01:09:04.560 you know i i like women's sports even though nobody watches them it's fun to me i like playing

01:09:12.000 you know they you know so many men go into marriage thinking it's the

01:09:17.040 the thing that matt walsh is saying right or ben shapiro's saying and they get into this reality

01:09:23.280 where this woman is trying to change who she is and then they're saying well you just picked the 1.00

01:09:29.840 wrong woman maybe he did but do you think that he should be put on lifetime alimony for picking the

01:09:40.560 wrong like doesn't everyone make mistakes when they're young doesn't that happen

01:09:47.040 well I do she says why are you into those cards so much I said hey I need to make a video about

01:09:53.780 something and I haven't played this card game for two years on and off how can I make a video

01:10:00.560 for my subscribers about something I have no knowledge of and I try to explain it to her

01:10:06.940 but she don't get it she thinks it's just cards they said it's literally doesn't matter what it

01:10:11.020 is the problem is the attention is not on her and she isn't interested in it and lacks a personality 1.00

01:10:16.760 and thinks it needs to be about the status no women are the wrong ones pick up and you just 1.00

01:10:21.960 play like you know it's not that way every three months a new set come out new stuff come out

01:10:28.600 i can't make a video about something if i don't know what it's about

01:10:35.480 i can't start my channel back up and just start making videos i have to be in it i have to learn

01:10:42.520 about it and learn what's going on and this just broke my heart because she's trying to mold him 0.79

01:10:52.700 into something he's just not he's not the normal nine to five guy and i was looking at his channel

01:10:58.980 i don't know anything about yugioh so i have no idea what his stuff was but i saw the views that

01:11:04.400 he used to get um 10 years ago and they were crazy they were really really high and because

01:11:12.100 he wanted to do the right thing, he gave that up for her. And this is what switched my mind on

01:11:22.860 no-fault divorce. Should he be subject to that woman for the rest of his life that ruins anything 0.95

01:11:30.180 he's interested in? I don't think so. You know, the idea of banning divorce, I used to say that,

01:11:37.540 right it's it's interesting in theory but in practice i i don't think men like that should

01:11:47.700 be punished for life for picking the wrong woman cut your losses you know so she hated those cards 1.00

01:11:56.660 she literally cried because of those cards and people say hey priorities man it's your wife

01:12:03.060 or you know you got to do what you got to do but then I'll be back at that point

01:12:08.220 where I'm giving up things that I like things that's a part of my life for

01:12:13.840 someone else to feel happy and I feel miserable in the process I'm sitting

01:12:21.480 there watching all these youtubers come out and make videos and do all this

01:12:25.020 stuff they travel and I'm like that's what I used to do I love that I miss

01:12:29.440 that and you can just tell he's so passionate about it right you can you can tell that it's

01:12:36.320 not even about the money for him he just likes yugioh why can't she come along with my journey

01:12:42.720 instead of scrutinizing me and then that's money gone from me it's not about the money but that

01:12:48.620 was money gone from me then street performing i said to her hey i don't want to move away from

01:12:58.020 Baltimore. You might be thinking, why? That's where my home base is. My gigs, my performances,

01:13:06.380 everything. Keep in mind, I didn't have a job. When I say I don't have a job, a real job. A real

01:13:12.940 job is going in nine to five. I didn't have a real job for over 10 years. It was YouTube and

01:13:20.980 playing my horn. That's how I paid all my bills. So when we got married and we moved out to

01:13:26.240 Baltimore to somewhere else that I didn't want to be, she said, hey, how come you're

01:13:30.880 not paying the bill? And I was like, what? I have a job. I have a nine to five job.

01:13:39.420 I don't make enough from this nine to five job to pay all these bills.

01:13:45.000 That's the other thing. The tribes will say, well, have a stay at home wife. 1.00

01:13:49.260 You're not a real man if you can't pay all the bills.

01:13:52.260 well not all the men that are doing the infrastructure jobs of this country

01:14:02.620 are paid enough to deal with the modern woman's spending habits and they can't put a gun to the 1.00

01:14:11.880 girl's head and tell her stop spending right we have credit cards now what is the man supposed

01:14:17.260 to do? Well, then I could street performing and YouTube. I made enough money off of that to pay

01:14:26.420 the bills. Now I'm working nine to five all day long. And that's not a complaint because there

01:14:31.560 are people who do that. But I had something that most people wish they had. Most people wish they

01:14:37.780 can go out, make some money, pay their bills and have all day off. That was a gift. That was something

01:14:47.100 that was that was something that i had now you can take this video of me complaining

01:14:55.500 crying i messed up it is all of that it is true i am complaining i am hurt i made some mistakes

01:15:04.700 i did some dumb things and you're right it is my fault i chose i chose to sell my channel

01:15:15.580 I chose to give up the thing, not realize and say, you know what? 0.55

01:15:21.540 This is my YouTube channel.

01:15:24.100 This is my life.

01:15:25.700 You can't come into my life and dictate to me and tell me what's better for me

01:15:31.620 because you don't see it from my perspective.

01:15:35.660 And they get mad at me when I lose all of those things that I

01:15:41.540 can't do and i can't do what you think i should do i've never been that way it's like you're

01:15:50.500 trying to tell me to walk or run a lap or race with no legs you're trying to tell me to do

01:15:58.420 something that i innately just cannot do and when i say i can't do that it's interesting my dad

01:16:04.580 always said um to focus on what you're good at and to not really try to get good at what you're

01:16:11.300 bad at and just outsource it if you can and you know it's he's again she's trying to make him

01:16:19.160 into something that he just isn't just an excuse so i'm gonna read the comments for a second before

01:16:27.480 we finish out the video okay um ej caring the guys i know are terrified to speak up against

01:16:33.880 women because they think they won't get laid they already don't get laid lol never try to prove 1.00

01:16:39.240 anything to anyone ej says um yakov says have you thought maybe it's not about his interest

01:16:45.880 that she is against beaten cheeks says as someone who works out goes out to meet women and runs a

01:16:51.480 cyber security business my hobbies are literally gaming and comic books and when i tell women that

01:16:56.440 they get mad as if i just killed a puppy like women i make money and can still take care of 1.00

01:17:01.480 a family haha i just chill out women can't handle us being happy when the attention is not on our 1.00

01:17:06.920 women yakov said they most likely don't know anything about what you like perhaps it is what

01:17:13.800 she has been taught by her socials of how to control her man it's not all about money there's 0.99

01:17:21.480 mental brainwashing component too i i'm i'm moving out in two weeks i'll be moving out i'll have my

01:17:31.640 own place again i'm starting over starting my life over um and you guys know i couldn't make videos

01:17:39.640 when in the house the only time i can make youtube videos is when she's gone and you might be thinking

01:17:46.680 oh why is that she would come in here from my room and say hey you're too loud hey i'm trying 0.92

01:17:54.760 to read like wait what i gotta make i gotta talk i gotta make a video i'm disturbing her

01:18:09.720 and yes i'm venting and i'm ranting if you stayed this long thank you if you didn't it's okay but

01:18:16.200 i needed to get this off my chest because it was brewing i am deeply hurt and i hurt myself

01:18:22.520 I don't blame her at all. Everything that I've chosen to do is because I wanted to

01:18:31.160 do it. I wanted to make someone happy. I wanted to make, I thought I can be that

01:18:38.340 person for someone else and I thought I can do it. I thought I can get away

01:18:42.320 get away from YouTube and Yu-Gi-Oh! and Street Performer. I thought I can go back

01:18:46.260 to school and pass and get a real job and make some good money to pay all my

01:18:51.460 bills. I thought I could be that man who could do those things. But the truth is, I have

01:18:59.580 special gifts and talents that other people wish they had to be able to pay and make money

01:19:09.620 and do things in ways people wish they could. It's ironic, isn't it? It's ironic that I

01:19:16.580 wish that i can go to school and work a nine to five job all day long to pay all my bills

01:19:21.700 it's ironic that i want to do what people hate to do they hate to go in and live a mundane life

01:19:31.700 they hate that i had and they want to have that they want to have their own business they want

01:19:37.220 to make their own money they want to have their free time i had that i had that literally i would

01:19:44.580 work three days three hours a day and have enough at the end of the month to pay all my bills and

01:19:50.340 do whatever i need and travel but that wasn't good enough for the person i was with it wasn't secured

01:19:58.660 enough what if you didn't make enough was the question what about medical bills what about

01:20:08.420 this what about that what about retirement what about all the stuff

01:20:14.580 so i truly want to do youtube full-time not for a living yes money comes along with it

01:20:29.300 and yes my channel is dead but i'll do it as a hobby because i like doing it and i can't give

01:20:36.060 it up i've made a video about not giving up before i said i would never give up i just can't

01:20:42.300 I enjoy making videos.

01:20:45.080 I enjoy playing Yu-Gi-Oh.

01:20:47.800 I enjoy being with my friends and doing those things, even at this age, even 15 years later.

01:20:54.900 I'm done.

01:20:56.700 Thanks for watching.

01:20:57.500 You can leave a comment.

01:21:00.700 Anyway, so this broke my heart to watch because you could just tell how passionate he was about his hobbies

01:21:11.480 and how much he liked it and i don't know why society and i even see conservatives do this they

01:21:17.160 shame men for playing video games when elon musk is the number five diablo player in the world i

01:21:22.920 don't even know what diablo is but i know it's some sort of video game and if the men like it

01:21:31.640 why do the women have to tear down at the things they like and change him into something he's not 0.99

01:21:36.920 and we always hear women say that if he found me in the club he can't tell me to 0.90

01:21:42.320 stop going why do women think it's okay to tell men what they can and can't do 1.00

01:21:46.640 when they date like they she found him as a youtuber anyways all right let me

01:21:58.280 read the last comments from the audacity chat um ej says

01:22:07.720 poor guy women are masters of emotional manipulation they don't even realize they 1.00

01:22:14.460 are doing it they are just desperate and unhappy people beaten cheeks says not all women are that 0.99

01:22:20.040 woman the ones that are legit good women but are not found online i found a few and effed it up 0.96

01:22:25.660 and i blame myself for losing great ones edward says i almost wish that man i wish that man all

01:22:30.620 of the best and i feel his pain uh oh wait i forgot we're not supposed to consider men's pain

01:22:36.060 we're only supposed to care about the pain of women and edward don't get me in trouble i can't

01:22:40.660 read that part um beaten cheeks no such thing as good women you have the all have the tendency you 1.00

01:22:48.040 must be alpha enough to resist fyi elon musk is a soft core diablo four player i play it hardcore 0.99

01:22:54.780 and he ain't shit. Ha, ha, ha, ha, ha. I got paid 300 bucks an hour on hardcore to play for 0.99

01:23:01.400 pet layer. Okay. I don't look, I don't know about the hierarchies in these video games,

01:23:05.320 but the point is he does a lot and he still plays his video games. So, all right, guys,

01:23:12.900 make sure you like the video on your way out and subscribe. And if you have any questions for this

01:23:17.300 guy, he's coming on the channel on Wednesday. Um, the show starts at three central as normal,

01:23:22.560 but he's coming on at 3 30 like the video and subscribe and thank you guys so much for watching

01:23:27.700 i will catch you guys tomorrow for another episode of pearl daily see you guys

Pearl - November 25, 2024

DEBUNKING The MYTH of Women BUILDING MEN ｜ Pearl Daily

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