Pearl - January 03, 2026Different Ways Modern Women Emotionally Abuse Their Husbands
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Summary
Today we are reacting to 10 ways that women emotionally abuse their husbands. These are the most common types of emotional abuse, but they can be subtle and over the top as well! In this episode, we will discuss the signs of this type of abuse and how to deal with it.
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yeah so many women do not let their husbands just enjoy their free time what up guys welcome to my
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reaction series today we are reacting to 10 ways that women emotionally abuse their husbands uh
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today we're going to look at the first five but let's get into it let's get into what are the
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signs of emotional abuse and again it says emotional abuse centers around control manipulation
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and demeaning or threatening behavior and it can be subtle or it can be over and aggressive first
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one is monitoring and controlling a person's behavior so ladies think of and again i won't
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give examples for everyone but checking your husband's phone constantly reading his emails
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checking his internet history telling him who he should and shouldn't hang out with telling this
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is a hard one for us women we love doing this it's very difficult i don't think women are supposed
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to have access to like this much information like i don't think we are but we gotta we gotta learn
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how to control it um nobody likes feeling like they're like watched 24 7. him how he should
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parent and all the myriad of ways that we are controlling threatening a person number two
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threatening a person's safety property your loved ones when you threaten divorce and you threaten
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oh my gosh women always threaten divorce it's like we'd be doing him a favor half the time
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it's like some peace and quiet leave leave the kids away are you threatened going to your
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husband's mother that's emotionally abusive uh being demeaning shaming or humiliating
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i've had many clients um share with me things like i'm so embarrassed of how i treat my husband
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i actually had a client tell me yeah at my worst i'll tell my husband he's being like a chick on
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period making fun of your husband to your girlfriends and in your social circles yeah
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that's women are vicious women socially are so vicious i mean i mean i don't talk about it much
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but the stuff i was told about my father growing up i i mean i thought he was like a terrible guy
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you know and it's like women have no idea how bad the stuff we're saying because we get away
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with saying so much bad stuff or making fun of him in front of his family or your family
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And we do that with little comments where we think we're being funny and cute, but it's incredibly hurtful.
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Having jealousy and accusing your husband of wrongdoings that have no basis in reality.
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Delivering constant criticism and being ridiculing and teasing him.
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Oh, I really wish you wouldn't do that anymore.
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haven't you grown out of that and we constantly criticize them for who they are and the things
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that they enjoy or the things that make them who they are um making acceptance or care conditional
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on how a person on a person's choices so this is often how we withhold sex as women
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women like a lot of times it's always about power with women we always always always want power i
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think that's half the time the reason we get into relationships we want more social power
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financial power um and once we're in the relationship the only power we have is sex
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i mean i guess i'm threatening to ruin the guy's life and leave um yeah if you're not going to do
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this if you're going to continue to be this way then we withhold sex or they do something to upset
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us then we withhold sex um refusing to allow a person to spend time alone oh my gosh how many
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of us can admit to you know our husband goes to play golf or they go out with a friend or
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they just go out and do something and we're constantly blowing up their phone
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and constantly texting them yeah so many women do not let their husbands just enjoy their free time
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and the the men end up resenting the wives they really do or they love them but they resent them
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throw temper tantrums when they want to go do something on themselves by themselves so we
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Thwarting a person's professional or personal goals.
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And I will complain if our husband's working too much because he's trying to get a promotion
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And we find ways to make them fail and thwart them from their goals or tell them why they
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And then the last, or no, two more, instilling self-doubt and worthlessness.
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How much we make our husbands question themselves.
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and then gaslighting making a person question it's crazy because so many times i hear that women are
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the support system but i think that more women are their husbands like worst enemy in their
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support system their confidence and even their basic perceptual experiences so wonderful example
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of gaslighting and how as women we gaslight our husbands is they'll say i think i shared this at
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the at the beginning they'll say like hey i feel like i'm never right you're always right i feel
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like you never listen because men will just say you win i'd rather just say you win rather than
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argue with you to me um i feel like you're just you're never available and you're really busy
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they'll tell us the things that are bothering them in the relationship and our knee-jerk response
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is to tell them, that's not how it is. Let me tell you how you're feeling is wrong. That's crazy.
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That's not who I am. Ladies, that's gaslighting. When you dismiss your husband's feelings and his
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experiences in the relationship and make him feel like he's crazy for feeling that way,
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that's gaslighting and it's emotional abuse. So those are the signs of emotional abuse.
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Yeah, I agree with those. I agree. And women are the emotionally abusive gender. So often we talk
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about men being abusive. It's women that are the abusive ones. And a lot of times
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women have spent so little time paying attention to their husbands that they don't even realize
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how awful they are. I mean, the things I have seen women like put online, making fun of their
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husbands, women would crash out if men did that to us, but women do it to men all the time.
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The trash talking the husbands and the whole social group, women would freak out if men
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spoke about their wives like that and they never do you know again men naturally don't really need
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to be monitored because they're good people intrinsically where women tend to be bad people
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intrinsically so anyways guys um let me know what you think in the comments make sure you like the
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video subscribe to the channel thank you for watching and i'll see you next time