Pearl - April 17, 2026


Divorce Lawyer Exposes Women and Their Marriage Scam.


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10 minutes

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2,135

Sentence count

40

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Misogyny

18

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Toxicity

10

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7

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In this episode, we are reacting to a divorce attorney who is being real about the realities of divorce in America. We are talking about the role friends play in keeping marriages together and the role they play in saving marriages.

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00:00:00.000 can we let the men have their porn and only fans can we they love their hot young women 0.75
00:00:05.360 what up guys welcome to my reaction series today we are reacting to a divorce attorney
00:00:11.360 who is being real about the realities of divorce in america a lot of divorce attorneys cap because
00:00:18.020 they're making money off these women but i love it when a divorce attorney comes out and just says 0.83
00:00:22.380 these women are terrorists so i think that that's what this guy's gonna do we'll see and saved his 0.81
00:00:27.480 marriage. Hers ended it. His friends took him fishing, but his marriage was falling apart. 1.00
00:00:31.780 Her friends took her to brunch and told her to leave. Same struggling marriage, completely
00:00:35.900 different outcome. I want to tell you about two people I watched go through nearly identical
00:00:39.860 situations. Both had marriages that were genuinely struggling. Real problems, real pain on both sides.
00:00:45.620 The husband told his friends they listened. They did not pile on his wife. They did not tell him
00:00:49.960 he was too good for her. They took him out. They gave him space to breathe. They asked how they
00:00:54.440 could help the wife told her friends and her friends with the best intentions in the world
00:00:58.900 told her everything she needed to hear to walk out the door that he would never change that she had 0.92
00:01:03.840 given enough that she that's the thing it's very difficult as women to figure out what's real and
00:01:08.400 what's not because everything is telling us we're right our friends tell us we're right our simp
00:01:14.420 fathers tell us our bro we're right our brothers say we're right like we're never told we're wrong
00:01:19.400 ever in our lives so booted to herself one of those marriages survived and one did not i'm not
00:01:26.100 saying women should suffer in silence i'm not saying bad marriages should be saved what i am
00:01:30.760 saying is this the people around you shape what feels possible and a group of friends who have
00:01:35.640 decided your marriage is over will make leaving feel inevitable long but it's also like what
00:01:40.600 friends does she pick right sometimes women want to leave and then we pick friends that'll tell us
00:01:45.200 to leave you know it's not like we go find that married woman that's like 80 we go and find that
00:01:50.260 you know kim kardashian ig thought before you've done the work to know if it actually is your
00:01:55.880 circle is not neutral it never was his friend saved his marriage hers ended it his friends
00:02:01.020 took him all right let's see what's next i like this guy maybe he could be in the divorce doc
00:02:06.440 for marriage cannot compete with someone else's highlight bill after 25 years in divorce law
00:02:11.600 And after rebuilding my own life from near zero, I want to say something directly to anyone whose
00:02:16.320 relationship feels smaller than what they see on their phone. You are comparing the full
00:02:20.920 unedited version of... No, this is true. I know a lot of influencers and it's not what you think.
00:02:26.640 None of their marriages are as good as they depict them. And the more they depict them to be
00:02:31.180 really, really good, the more they have problems. Your life to the 12 best seconds of someone else's
00:02:36.440 day i've seen what real marriages look like from the inside i have sat with people whose online
00:02:41.740 presence was immaculate while their actual marriage was in complete collapse real intimacy
00:02:46.860 is not photogenic real commitment is not content real love on a wednesday in year nine when no one
00:02:53.160 is watching does not perform well online but is the only thing that actually holds a life together
00:02:57.800 what you see online is a performance what you have home is real protect the real thing your marriage 1.00
00:03:03.440 cannot compete with yeah and that's a lot of um a lot of women they think the grass is going to be 0.99
00:03:09.720 greener on the other side and it's just not all right let's see what's next her friends friends 1.00
00:03:14.200 are rooting for the divorce his friends are trying to talk him off the ledge that difference is not
00:03:18.800 an accident women file for divorce almost 70 of the time i spent 25 years watching that number
00:03:24.660 play out in real time and one of the most consistent things i observed that nobody ever
00:03:29.700 talks about is the role that friends play in getting a woman to that decision when a wife is
00:03:34.980 yeah but it's also again we gotta put accountability on the women what friends did she pick
00:03:39.620 what friends did she pick struggling in her marriage her friends lean in leave him you
00:03:45.220 deserve better i never liked him anyway you've been pitting up with this for years sometimes
00:03:50.100 that is genuine love and concern and sometimes it's something entirely different a divorced
00:03:55.940 friend who wants company in her pain a friend who has decided your husband is the problem without
00:04:00.320 ever being in the same room a friend who feels more powerful watching you blow up your life than
00:04:04.960 she does watching you save it yeah or drama right women like i mean it's it's exciting when your 0.99
00:04:12.300 life falls apart right the ups and the downs we love men like stability women like ups and downs
00:04:17.260 he's a thousand percent right my friend said work it out man do whatever it takes work it out listen
00:04:21.500 to me and they understood both sides women right away leave him he's not worth it you can do so
00:04:27.000 much better our delusion is incredible very rarely can women do better i'm not going to say look
00:04:32.040 sometimes the women do they leave and they do do better so i'm not i'm not here to say oh the women
00:04:37.880 never do but they do sometimes um how hot are you how have you retained your looks in your 30s
00:04:43.540 most women in america are fat most of you can't 19 body fat maybe it's on the in the cards
00:04:48.820 likable in the cards now look at what happens on the other side when a husband is struggling 0.95
00:04:53.340 his friends take him golfing they hand him a beer they say man that sounds rough let's do something
00:04:58.860 they do not push him towards the exit they absorb the impact one circle accelerates the ending the
00:05:03.920 other one slows it down and the marriage is caught in the middle never see it coming her friends are 1.00
00:05:09.160 rooting for okay let's see let's see uh divorce happens when the wife wife laughing with her 0.60
00:05:14.480 friends and feels proud a wife's divorce happens when the wife does this sees his wife laughing
00:05:19.920 with her friends and feels proud a wife sees her husband laughing with his friends and feels
00:05:24.500 nervous that difference is wrecking marriages i want to be clear about something before i say
00:05:29.100 this i'm not attacking women i'm describing a pattern i am i don't know what to destroy marriages
00:05:33.660 for 25 years including my own men are genuinely wired to want their wives to thrive when she has
00:05:39.440 a great girls weekend he is happy for her he does not need women are never happy for their husbands
00:05:45.500 something in return he does not present a bill when she walks to the door her joy is enough now
00:05:50.640 flip it when he is a great guys weekend something shifts the questions come the mood changes and
00:05:56.160 even if she said yes before he left his enjoyment becomes a debt she starts collecting on before he
00:06:01.620 even unpacks i watch women who genuinely love their husbands make those husbands feel ashamed 0.99
00:06:07.160 for having a good time. And then watch those same women wonder why their husbands seem so distant,
00:06:12.040 so flat, so absent, even when they were home. Because you cannot tax a man's happiness for
00:06:16.880 10 years and then be surprised when he stops producing it. A man sees his wife laughing with
00:06:22.020 their- Yeah, that's the thing. So many women, everything that men genuinely enjoy, and you see
00:06:27.080 this in the right-wing e-girls, right? They shame the things that men enjoy. Honestly, can we just 1.00
00:06:33.980 be real can we keep it a buck can we let the men have their porn and only fans can we they love 0.98
00:06:40.140 their hot young women if you don't want them cheating in real life like give give the men 1.00
00:06:45.880 their whores give the men their whores i mean the amount of stupid stuff we waste money on 1.00
00:06:52.420 um i i think they deserve it video games go ahead you know dangerous person in your marriage has 1.00
00:06:59.100 847,000 followers and has never met you, but your spouse watches them every night. I'm not
00:07:05.200 exaggerating when I say that social media has changed the nature of what I watched unfold in
00:07:09.160 divorce cases. The comparisons are constant. The access to other people, real and imagined,
00:07:13.800 is constant. The drip feed of other lives that look better, easier, and more exciting than yours
00:07:18.840 is constant. And here's what that does to a marriage. It manufactures dissatisfaction of
00:07:24.260 things that were fun yeah and so many times their women are comparing women are comparing their
00:07:30.680 instagram real to other people's and you just don't know what's real like i just i have a
00:07:37.020 different perspective because i grew up with a very performative mother and her instagram her
00:07:42.700 facebook was so performative and it's like there would just be times where we would take pictures
00:07:48.360 um and we'd have to take pictures for an hour and i'm sure people thought on paper like
00:07:53.920 oh that must have been the most fun event ever and i'm like this photo shoot just ruined it for me
00:08:00.720 so i don't know and men are very good at being able to tell this but women like we just we always
00:08:07.780 are comparing um to what the other people have we're very jealous creatures i i went through a
00:08:13.220 high conflict divorce myself i know what the end of a real relationship costs and i watch people
00:08:18.460 now risk that cost for a version of life they saw on a screen built by strangers who are also
00:08:23.160 miserable but posts better than you do the algorithm is not rooting for your marriage it
00:08:27.900 is optimized for your attention and your attention is most easily captured by the belief that
00:08:32.420 somewhere someone is living a life better than yours they are not and a lot of men don't correct
00:08:37.200 their wives when it comes to this they just allow their wives to do whatever on social media and
00:08:41.820 you know there's so many times when i don't want to tell the guys it's like this is your house
00:08:45.980 it's your kingdom and um you don't have any legal enforcement but you can walk away from these demon 1.00
00:08:52.780 women. So you need to tell these women either get on your program or shut up. My wife has 1.00
00:08:59.540 stepped away from social media for the last month or two, give or take 30 minutes in there almost
00:09:04.480 immediately. I have a improvement in our marriage. It's time to call it like it is. Social media is
00:09:09.900 as damaging as corn is to men. Oh my God. This guy says my bad guys. Oh my God. I promise you
00:09:20.860 the most dangerous okay let's see uh the number one reason for divorce in 2026 the couples you're
00:09:27.820 watching online are not showing you their marriage they are showing you their best 12 seconds after
00:09:33.500 17 takes i practiced divorce law for 25 years in the last decade of my practice i watched something
00:09:39.340 shift in a way that i had never seen before people started coming in not because their marriage had
00:09:43.820 failed but because their marriage didn't look like what they saw online not a crisis not abuse
00:09:49.020 not betrayal just an ordinary life that couldn't compete with a curated highlight reel i rebuilt my
00:09:54.380 own life after my divorce and know what real looks like after the performance is over your marriage
00:09:59.100 is real their content is a product and measuring one against the other is the fastest way to lose
00:10:03.900 something that actually matters the couple yeah and this is very true um when i started dating nuke
00:10:11.660 um that was like one thing he would just point this out to me all the time that like the stuff
00:10:16.140 you see on social media it's not real and men are just um a lot better at seeing people's like
00:10:22.300 nefarious intentions and bullshit than women so you gotta ask them anyways guys if you can like 0.50
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