Pearl - “Divorced Mom Starts Dating at 40 and Gets a BRUTAL Reality Check” @JustPearlyThings

00:00:00.000 first three years after i was divorced i did all the things right went to therapy healed myself

00:00:05.280 got in shape started eating right all while full-time caring for my two children supporting

00:00:11.360 them with minimal to no financial assistance okay she's gonna have an easier time dating because 0.99

00:00:17.040 better looking she's in shape this is what i mean she's still cute right from their dad she's still

00:00:21.520 above a five i would say not by much 5.2 but yeah volunteering at the pta and the girl scouts while

00:00:27.520 working my full-time job and after three years i felt like you know i'm really good um i'm feeling

00:00:32.320 great about myself i have a great life and i don't really need a relationship which is probably the

00:00:36.800 right time for me to start dating because now i could feel like i wanted one and not needed one

00:00:40.640 so created a dating profile got out there started seeing people saw a few people a few times nobody

00:00:48.240 was really like blowing my skirt up or anything well maybe they did but nobody was really giving

00:00:54.160 full relationship yeah because um again you have to work a lot harder at 40 to get a relationship

00:00:58.960 because you're not only competing with younger women better women in every day way um you're

00:01:04.160 competing with men's alone time and their peace and you know if you're dating guys your age they

00:01:09.760 might get out of a divorce and like the silence is just so amazing to me and i was having a good

00:01:14.640 time so it's fine so then about eight weeks ago like two months something like that i met

00:01:19.200 like super incredible guy total total package um great career great attitude great dad really

00:01:30.300 happy and funny and just great conversation we had some of the best dates i've ever had he was

00:01:35.460 very intentional made me dinner we were future maxing and we were well what happened is he's 0.98

00:01:41.740 done that with other women if you liked it he's done it with other bitches both really emotionally 0.99

00:01:45.480 invested like I don't doubt that for a second until last week when he had kind of like a let's 1.00

00:01:52.960 call it familial drama um unrelated to me however that has now sent him and he is needs some space

00:02:03.020 and just like isn't sure if he is ready for a relationship which he had like pretty clearly

00:02:07.360 been giving every possible sign he was so I'm now on the struggle bus I'm hurting um and not really

00:02:15.780 sure where to go with this so I decided I would go to the gym and I would do a workout class which

00:02:19.180 is what I do so I'm at the gym doing my workout class trying to clear my head and in the middle

00:02:24.320 of the fucking workout class comes on a remix totally unnecessary remix of the song fast car 0.96

00:02:31.000 by Tracy Chapman I love that and I just I burst into fucking tears I just I can't so I'm like 0.99

00:02:37.140 laying there doing my chest presses, crying like a baby, tears streaming, nose red, trying to play 0.97

00:02:44.340 it off like it's allergies, which it clearly wasn't. And I'm realizing I'm actually not okay

00:02:49.940 with this. So I don't really know what, where I'm going, but, um, what the fuck? 0.99

Pearl - September 15, 2026