Pearl - Do Dallas Christian Women Obey Their Husbands？

00:00:00.000 I mean like women when we're by ourselves we destroy everything you know not the right woman 1.00

00:00:04.880 I got a good woman I'm afraid I don't have enough knowledge no okay no problem 1.00

00:00:08.920 when I think about obey I feel like obey is like my dog should obey me and so that's why I kind of

00:00:16.000 like uh she goes to universe it looks after the kids I'll go to work and that's pretty much it

00:00:20.740 yeah simple simple life awesome where where did the guys find a girl that does that I don't know

00:00:26.220 What's up, guys? Welcome to the Pearl Davis YouTube channel. Today, I'm on the Katy Trail

00:00:31.940 here in Dallas, Texas, and we're asking women, should Christian women obey their husbands?

00:00:37.200 The purpose of today is to see if the answers are any different out in just the general public as

00:00:43.500 they are in the different churches I've visited. So make sure you like the video on your way in,

00:00:48.320 subscribe to the channel, and we'll see you next time.

00:00:51.160 Well, this is the question? 1.00

00:00:52.260 Yeah, do you think Christian women should obey their husbands? 1.00

00:00:55.160 If yes, tell us why. 1.00

00:00:56.440 If no, tell us why or why not.

00:00:58.260 No right or wrong answers.

00:00:59.680 I don't even know where to begin with it.

00:01:00.860 I don't know. 0.95

00:01:02.280 Yeah, I think everyone should obey their husbands regardless of religion.

00:01:05.840 Okay.

00:01:06.580 I'm a Christian myself, but yeah.

00:01:10.060 What's the topic for, I guess?

00:01:11.820 What type of Christian are you?

00:01:13.920 Lutheran.

00:01:14.580 Okay.

00:01:15.000 Yeah.

00:01:15.680 Well, it's just, I find that in different churches, they have different answers to this question.

00:01:22.000 So it's really just investigative to see what people believe and why.

00:01:24.900 Yeah, I wouldn't say obey, but just, you know, do good and good comes back for both spouses, I guess, so.

00:01:30.580 Yeah, well, one person has to make the final decision, though, right?

00:01:34.160 Yeah, fair. The women's always wear the pants, so. 1.00

00:01:36.800 Okay, so you think the men should obey the women, then? 1.00

00:01:39.480 Maybe. If you want a civil relationship, I guess, but no. 0.99

00:01:43.680 Yeah, I think everyone should just do good into everyone, so. 0.95

00:01:47.400 Why do you think that women are willing to obey their bosses, but not the men they have children with? 0.99

00:01:53.500 That's a great question.

00:01:55.860 I'm not married, so I'm probably not the best suit of answer, but yeah, I don't know.

00:02:01.460 That's a great question.

00:02:04.840 What do you think is, because a lot of times people will protest the word obey.

00:02:11.500 Why is it such a controversial word?

00:02:13.020 I don't know, it sounds almost demanding or just more, yeah, I don't know,

00:02:19.700 it sounds more demanding, more aggressive in a sense.

00:02:24.460 Do you think it's a bad thing?

00:02:26.600 No, I guess I'm confused on obey.

00:02:29.600 Don't take commands, but obviously they should just trust in each other.

00:02:34.860 If there's an ebb and flow, I feel like that goes with it.

00:02:37.600 Maybe you make a decision one day, but I'll make a decision the next.

00:02:41.180 So being Lutheran, do you guys have priests or is it?

00:02:44.600 Yeah, I'd say I'm more.

00:02:45.660 I'm Catholic, so I'm not.

00:02:46.660 I mean, it's basically the same.

00:02:48.280 I feel like I grew up with a lot of Catholic, Christian, Lutheran, Christian.

00:02:52.440 Obviously a little different.

00:02:53.720 But over time, I've just become more spiritual, I think.

00:02:56.200 Just do good.

00:02:56.840 Good comes back to you. 0.99

00:02:58.820 What do you think the wife should do if the pastor or the priest, in Catholic's case,

00:03:03.760 I don't know what you guys call it, but if there's a disagreement, like, for example, 0.56

00:03:07.840 parenting style sure um that's a common disagreement in couples so let's say um the woman wants to

00:03:13.620 parent one way the father wants to parent another and the priest agrees with the woman should the

00:03:18.660 woman listen to the husband or the pastor um listen to yourself i would i don't i don't really

00:03:24.140 think i think i grew up in a very traditional old school church environment my parents are super

00:03:29.640 christian i think that's where it kind of came from but over time i've realized there's more

00:03:33.160 religions out there there's a greater something greater out there I just I'm always just have a

00:03:39.540 good moral compass do good and good comes back so I wouldn't listen to anyone but your own gut

00:03:44.740 and your own intuition do you think women's intuition leads leads to good things hopefully

00:03:49.400 I'm still looking well I just found a beautiful woman so I'm hoping it leads to obviously good

00:03:55.380 success but yeah yeah all right well thank you so much I appreciate it what's your thought on

00:04:00.080 the sign are you christian yeah i am um so what are your thoughts do you think christian women

00:04:04.060 should obey i'll come to you do you think they should obey their husbands uh yeah i feel like

00:04:09.260 all women wait what you mean by obey um it sounds like a dog what would be wrong with take orders

00:04:15.020 from listen to i feel like husbands should lead okay and women should listen to their husbands

00:04:21.920 okay yeah because can you sounds kind of crazy what's wrong with the word obey it just sounds

00:04:27.080 like a dog. I tell my dog to obey me. Do you obey your boss when they give you orders? I don't have

00:04:33.660 a boss. Okay, have you ever had a boss? Uh-uh. Never? What do you do? I'm an artist. Okay,

00:04:38.940 you're an artist. Well, but conceptually, people obey their bosses, right? I obey my parents. Yeah,

00:04:44.880 and so why is it wrong for women to obey their man? No, I didn't say it was wrong. I just said

00:04:49.900 I didn't like the wording. Yeah. Yeah, but I feel like they should listen to their husbands,

00:04:54.180 And husbands should listen to their wives. 1.00

00:04:56.160 Should Christian women obey? 0.97

00:04:57.980 Are you guys together?

00:04:59.000 Yeah, we're together.

00:04:59.920 Do you obey him?

00:05:01.520 Yeah.

00:05:02.100 Yeah, in all things?

00:05:03.480 Yeah, the Word of God said it in official 6,

00:05:06.860 that you should obey or you should submit by obeying.

00:05:10.340 So what do you do when you really don't want to?

00:05:13.320 When you're, you ever feel stubborn and it's hard for you?

00:05:17.980 When I'm being yelled, you know, this is for you.

00:05:20.560 That's okay, I'll get it.

00:05:21.380 Yeah.

00:05:21.580 and when i'm being treated the way i want okay yeah are you from nigeria is it more common to

00:05:29.280 have this mindset in nigeria what is it is um sorry i go to a lot of different churches

00:05:34.400 and i ask this question but in america there's a lot of pushback in nigeria is this um normal

00:05:40.460 for women to obey their men yes yes yeah sure sure and it's just our our tribe in our tribe

00:05:48.780 will be your husband. You must submit. You must obey. No matter what. What happens when the pastor 0.65

00:05:56.080 and the husband disagree? So if there's a disagreement, who would you listen to?

00:06:01.440 The pastor and the wife. So if he says one thing and you go to church and the pastor says something

00:06:07.360 else, who are you going to listen to? My husband. That's awesome. Okay. That's awesome. You're great.

00:06:16.680 you guys are awesome thank you you christian yeah so we're asking your thoughts are on obedience

00:06:23.160 and we'd love to know what type of christian you are um like what sect okay the dogs are good he's

00:06:29.320 nice or this doodle they are yeah yeah you're fine i'll come to you uh i'm afraid i don't have

00:06:35.860 enough knowledge no okay no problem do you like attend church yes okay what kind of we're just

00:06:43.480 Baptist. Baptist, okay. And you believe that Christian women should obey their husbands?

00:06:48.140 Yes, ma'am. I really should. I really do believe that.

00:06:51.760 What do you think should happen if the preacher and the husband disagree? Who should the woman 1.00

00:06:56.520 listen to? If the preacher and the husband disagree, I think she should listen to her 1.00

00:07:01.720 preacher. Because, like, you know, God would never lead you in the wrong direction. Even though

00:07:05.740 that's your husband, like, yeah, you need to obey him. But, like, you know, I feel like you should,

00:07:09.700 like reconsider, like, you know, like not just disagree with your husband as well, but like if

00:07:14.120 the pastor is telling you something and like, I feel like he wouldn't be telling you something if

00:07:18.100 it wasn't like reasonable. So I think you should go with the pastor. Well, so the one issue I could

00:07:23.200 foresee is, you know, um, I think half of pastors have affairs. So, you know, people that are

00:07:29.020 leading us can be flawed too. Yeah. And you totally, you're right about that because some

00:07:33.420 some pastors are not all green like you know and I do believe that but women see a guy on stage and

00:07:40.140 they just yeah you're right you're right because I know like you see a pastor you be woman you see

00:07:45.580 he's married and it's like a whole different statement but like you know I do believe like

00:07:49.740 what you say like but the pastor is like some pastors like are in the wrong like yeah but if

00:07:55.120 you sleep with the pastor that's different like you know that's kind of like well not sleeping but

00:07:58.820 but in a way don't you think then you're submitting to the pastor not your husband

00:08:02.500 because he has more authority over you in that way um i don't think if that's your pastor and

00:08:08.060 like you know y'all have a close initial with god like you know but like what if the husband what

00:08:12.400 if you got married some are you married or no no i'm not married i'm 26 okay so what if you got

00:08:16.740 married next year you found the love of your life and he says honey we're leaving the church

00:08:21.560 would you are you following him that's something to do i would consider it yes i would you would

00:08:30.520 Yes, I would, because that's my husband.

00:08:33.640 Okay, so we're looking for Christians that want to talk on this topic.

00:08:39.000 Do you have something to add?

00:08:40.200 Yeah, I don't have my ring on, though, because I'm running.

00:08:42.120 Oh, that's okay.

00:08:42.840 You're married?

00:08:44.160 I'm engaged.

00:08:44.940 Okay, and what religion are you?

00:08:47.460 I'm non-denominational.

00:08:50.020 Okay, and do you go to church every week?

00:08:51.700 Is your faith important to you?

00:08:52.940 I don't go to church every week, but I do prayer every morning,

00:08:56.820 and I do daily devotional.

00:08:58.040 and then me and my um fiance we do a relationship versus together and then he does something with

00:09:04.560 my children like father son versus every day and is that something you did before you met your

00:09:09.320 fiance or after you met him um after I met him but before that I was really into religion when

00:09:14.780 I was younger okay and then I happened to like die almost two years ago with um stomach cancer

00:09:20.000 so I rejuvenated so I feel like I re-evolved myself and so I started becoming a better Christian

00:09:25.980 what was it like having because you don't look that old i'm 38 30 yeah 38 relatively that's

00:09:32.380 relatively young for cancer what's it what was it like to have a near-death experience at that age

00:09:37.220 um so it was actually the day after easter which is really crazy um and i just experienced a lot

00:09:44.640 of like darkness and then i told myself how to pull out of it because i didn't i couldn't eat

00:09:48.520 i couldn't walk i learned how to re to re-walk and eat again i was on a feeding tube for two

00:09:53.860 weeks yeah so like me doing this right now like I'm doing seven miles today and I started with

00:09:58.680 one mile a day in December but I told myself like if God gives me the body to move and I'm blessed

00:10:02.840 then I get up every day and move so some days I have chest struggles but I still get up and do it

00:10:06.720 every day you must have a like is there something that changed like I'm trying to say this in a

00:10:12.200 different way after that happened like did you appreciate life in a different way than you did

00:10:17.460 before did you have a better attitude yeah because I was in the hospital for like six to eight weeks

00:10:21.480 straight. And like when you can't go outside and you're just hooked to a machine all day and all

00:10:25.900 you see is those four walls. Like I started like taking the dry eraser pen and started writing

00:10:30.780 verses on the mirrors, on the windows and like positive verses. Cause it's really hard when you

00:10:35.240 come from a dark place to pull yourself up, to make yourself get and do things that you want to

00:10:38.900 do again. So I feel like I re-evolved after Easter. So what are your thoughts on the obedience

00:10:43.980 question? As a Christian, do you think that women should obey their husbands? There's no right or

00:10:49.440 wrong answers just tell me why or why not yeah a hundred percent um because I know in the bible

00:10:54.020 like this morning we read something that together like if your faith is stronger than you as a

00:10:57.720 couple is stronger I'm a very obedient wife um like I even like I love to take their shoes off

00:11:02.700 like and I try to always make sure that he gets his first plate and then I always cherish him and

00:11:06.880 then even though I have kids first they come for well God comes first my children and then him

00:11:10.120 but I always put him first so he understands because he's the provider for our family so I

00:11:14.180 try to make sure and cherish him and show him every day that I'm proud of him so what um as a

00:11:19.340 woman like there's going to be times when we're bitch here we just don't want to listen you know

00:11:23.720 just in our nature right so what do you do on those days when you really he tells you to do

00:11:28.080 something and you really really really don't want to listen yeah well we just read a verse the other

00:11:32.420 day when we were kind of like mad at each other but we just had to remember that you have to have

00:11:35.880 patience joyfulness be calm and then make sure that you don't get to that part in life where you

00:11:44.000 use anger you let the devil take you so just always remember there's devil will always be

00:11:47.460 there and there's always tribulations but God will always rejuvenate your spirit to make you

00:11:51.140 become hopeful and holy wow that's great thank you so much I appreciate it sorry sorry what are

00:11:59.060 you putting this on um my instagram is per youtube is pearl davis that's my name yeah youtube

00:12:05.800 thank you so we're asking people today um do you think christian women should obey their husbands

00:12:11.840 just to get where people are coming from i'd love to get an international perspective

00:12:15.760 yes or no and why or why not oh it's a hard question it's worded quite aggressively in it

00:12:24.600 as well really i don't know you think it's aggressive i don't know i i have a very

00:12:29.560 traditional marriage okay um so it probably relates to my marriage okay what religion are

00:12:39.280 you a part of or maybe what background i'm christened don't really follow religion okay

00:12:45.620 uh but i i like the christian values okay uh just don't practice the other part of it so what do

00:12:53.440 you think a woman should do um or do you think it's a woman's job to police if her husband is

00:12:58.600 following god no what should a woman do if she disagrees with the husband and the what should

00:13:08.180 the woman do if the husband and the pastor

00:13:10.120 disagrees? Who should she listen to?

00:13:13.060 If what, sorry?

00:13:14.440 The husband and the pastor disagree.

00:13:16.720 Or the priest. I don't really know

00:13:18.200 what their roles are in

00:13:20.240 family life

00:13:22.300 to be fair. Okay.

00:13:24.200 So I don't know. Okay.

00:13:26.240 And do you have any tips that maybe

00:13:28.140 your wife follows? As women 1.00

00:13:30.080 sometimes we don't want to obey

00:13:32.360 right? What do you guys

00:13:34.320 handle it when she doesn't want to listen?

00:13:38.180 uh we don't really have any issues really so she listens to you and everything

00:13:43.700 you got to tell the guys they want to know how to get that

00:13:50.420 you got to put out a course or something we don't really have any issues really

00:13:54.100 yeah she she goes to university looks after the kids i go to work

00:14:00.500 uh and that's pretty much it yeah simple simple life awesome where where did the guys find a

00:14:05.220 a girl that does that what advice would you get i don't i don't know okay well thank you so much

00:14:12.200 i appreciate the international point of view no worries thank you thank you you catch everything

00:14:16.900 it says that on your shirt oh yeah yeah do you have any thoughts on the question are you christian

00:14:23.420 yeah so we want to know um what kind of christian are you like what denomination

00:14:27.960 and we want to know what your thoughts are on should christian women obey their husbands no

00:14:33.260 right or wrong answers we just want to know what you believe if yes no if why why not uh yeah yeah

00:14:39.560 yeah um and what do you think women should do if the pastor and the husband disagree

00:14:43.840 because no two men agree on everything right i mean i just believe like the pastor is just like

00:14:49.100 a vessel to be able to pass the word but i mean you have your own relationship you and your wife

00:14:52.980 will have your own relationship with guys so whatever the pastor does that's to me that's on

00:14:56.940 them okay so she should listen to the husband then yeah i thought we have an agreement we

00:15:01.980 And that doesn't mean you don't listen to her.

00:15:04.520 But, I mean, I think the husband's the leader of the household.

00:15:06.600 Do you think that men are above women? 0.99

00:15:09.380 Like, women are subordinates. 1.00

00:15:10.940 No. 1.00

00:15:11.440 No?

00:15:11.740 No, no.

00:15:12.540 Really?

00:15:13.240 No, I don't believe that. 0.73

00:15:14.600 No, I believe women are equal. 1.00

00:15:17.180 We just got different roles. 1.00

00:15:18.600 You think so?

00:15:19.360 I believe so.

00:15:20.000 Okay.

00:15:20.560 Yeah.

00:15:21.600 Then why can't we do the same thing?

00:15:24.120 What do you mean?

00:15:24.940 Like, if men and women are equal, wouldn't there be, like, equal value to society?

00:15:29.720 You know what I mean?

00:15:30.200 like men build everything run the whole infrastructure i mean like women when we're 1.00

00:15:35.560 by ourselves we destroy everything you know not the right woman i got a good woman yeah well it's

00:15:41.320 a lot of things that i'm able to do because of my one well i mean there's exceptions right 0.70

00:15:45.140 so yeah yeah but just as a group you know we aborted a third of the world population that's

00:15:50.920 just not great you know i'm sorry an eighth of the world population got you got you you know

00:15:54.360 that's not great you know what i mean i mean even then that's a belief that's that that's

00:15:57.980 of their own personal person's belief of what they choose, what they feel is the right thing.

00:16:01.900 Now, I mean, I can neither here or there with it, but I believe that everybody has their

00:16:06.160 own choice.

00:16:06.900 Like we all, one thing God gave us was a choice.

00:16:08.920 Right.

00:16:09.160 And we all got choices.

00:16:10.260 First, I would love to know about you and what type of denomination of Christian you

00:16:14.100 are.

00:16:14.420 Yeah.

00:16:14.820 So grew up in a Baptist church from Chicago.

00:16:17.280 I still regularly attend church here in Dallas.

00:16:19.760 Still Baptist or non-denominational?

00:16:22.000 I think it's up in the air.

00:16:23.480 Okay.

00:16:23.800 Up in the air, but believer for sure.

00:16:25.600 So you're not set on one religion though?

00:16:27.440 No.

00:16:27.980 No, I'm not. 0.99

00:16:29.200 So do you think, coming from that worldview, that Christian women should obey their husbands, 0.59

00:16:34.300 no right or wrong answers, just trying to get an idea of what people believe? 0.98

00:16:37.680 If yes, tell us why.

00:16:39.200 If no, tell us why not.

00:16:40.320 Yeah, good question.

00:16:41.060 I think that comes from a scripture, right?

00:16:42.340 I think it's a man should love their wife and wife should love, obey their husband.

00:16:48.240 Honestly, I don't really agree with the interpretation that that's often landed with

00:16:52.380 because when I think of the word obey, I think it's like, it's a very strong word, right?

00:16:57.600 a strong word where you lose your voice, you lose your confidence, and you lose your being

00:17:01.560 because you have to obey. And I don't believe that, you know, in today's society, women should 1.00

00:17:07.100 just not have a voice and the partnership or connection that they're in, and that I don't

00:17:11.720 believe the husband's always right, right? So I think it's important that they obey each other,

00:17:16.820 and again, obey is the wrong word to use, and respect each other and love each other to where

00:17:21.240 the partnership is at some form of equilibrium where they understand and hear and see the value

00:17:25.500 of each other. Wouldn't you agree, though, that at the end of the day, somebody has to make a

00:17:29.280 decision? Like, for example, if you have children and, you know, the father wants to send him to

00:17:35.020 school A and the mother wants to send them to school B, how do they come to a conclusion if

00:17:39.960 it's an equal partnership? Yeah, I think that two rational individuals who are in love with each

00:17:44.660 other will see each other's perspective and do the research necessary to understand what's the

00:17:48.120 best decision for the child. It's not to say that the husband could not have an education and don't

00:17:53.100 believe that post-secondary is important but the wife has a PhD. Does he just send a child to work

00:17:58.100 because the husband did that or do you send it to school because the wife brought it that way? So I 0.82

00:18:01.340 think that two rational people will see each other's perspective and understand what's the

00:18:05.620 best outcome. If that was true then why do we have so much divorce? Yeah and that's the thing too

00:18:10.460 right because you know I'm not I'm not a partner myself never been divorced so I can't speak on

00:18:14.680 why that exists. You've been in a relationship before? Not one that has entitled to it to be

00:18:21.200 honest with you. So I might not be the best person to answer this question, but you know,

00:18:24.380 divorce happens, you know, people grow and don't grow with each other. So I just meant, um, like

00:18:29.500 you seem like a smart guy. So, um, I'm sure you've been in a relationship with a woman where you're

00:18:34.640 both maybe going into it, seemingly rational people that, you know, you guys disagreed.

00:18:39.860 Otherwise you'd be together still. Right. Yeah. Yeah. But you know, and then again, you know,

00:18:43.840 those things happen and we grow apart, you become better friends. So, you know, people evolve until

00:18:48.480 you until you find a person who evolves with you at all times okay so what do you think about some

00:18:53.560 of the churches becoming more and more woke these days man like there's gay flags in a church by me

00:19:00.360 what do you think about that i mean you know everybody has their own choice i ain't gonna

00:19:07.740 speak on that one like okay you know i'm saying like it's it's i ain't gonna speak on that one

00:19:11.520 like okay you know i'm saying like i think i grew up traditional so right you know i'm saying we

00:19:15.700 didn't see that when we were growing up but i mean this ain't this ain't then why do you think

00:19:20.200 people look at obey as a nor as a why do you think people look at obey as a bad word because

00:19:27.500 only time we usually use that when somebody's doing wrong or what you feel they should be doing

00:19:32.660 you know it mean god you know i mean because children are supposed to obey parents right

00:19:38.200 correct so why is it wrong for women to obey their husbands or why is it looked at in modern society

00:19:42.940 man i don't man because i think uh i think everybody kind of pushes that independent

00:19:50.200 like woman you don't need you don't need a man you don't need all this stuff so i think that's

00:19:54.400 probably a somewhat reason why that's kind of like that now yeah you know so i mean you know

00:19:58.880 i think that's that's the narrative a lot of people push that but at the end of the day

00:20:01.640 man need a woman need a man perfect thank you so much sir i appreciate it it's gonna be pearl

00:20:06.860 davis on youtube pearl davis yeah thank you why do you think that we're seeing um

00:20:12.060 like gay flags in modern churches not saying yours but i think you've seen that maybe in

00:20:17.960 dallas where they're starting to have seen some um i'm not quite sure about that

00:20:23.020 but i'm really not i'm speechless yeah because it's kind of crazy because um that's not in the

00:20:30.920 yeah it's not in i bring this to different churches and last week i went to a church

00:20:36.060 and they accept gay marriage oh yeah and you know what if they listen to that pastor you 0.94

00:20:41.460 know what i mean and i just feel like you know like at the end of the day if you is gay like you 0.80

00:20:45.660 know like that's not like it is like kind of wrong because at the end of the day that that's not what 0.97

00:20:50.700 the bible say so and you shouldn't be at church if you're doing that like you know everybody's

00:20:54.760 sin every day but that's a different type of sin because like you know that's not who you

00:20:57.980 supposed to be with your spouse supposed to be supposed to be girl and boy not girl and girl

00:21:02.180 boy and boy like that's just really weird and like you know it's really different because now 0.85

00:21:06.240 like a lot of men and like a lot of like transgenders like they have the power to like 0.98

00:21:10.340 go into different rich go to the same rich rooms as god like you know it's just kind of like what 1.00

00:21:14.460 the world is coming to it's just like i gotta raise kids around it's like it's it's just different

00:21:19.120 have you been in a relationship in the past where you obeyed yes i have okay and what happened like

00:21:26.360 why did it end why did it because i just feel like that i couldn't i couldn't obey him any longer

00:21:31.780 okay because i didn't really like him like you know it's like it's different like if you like

00:21:35.960 somebody right i'm just being honest well do you have an instagram do you want to maybe maybe some

00:21:40.560 of the guys will see this you know thank you yes yes yes um follow me on instagram at you love

00:21:45.260 nisha so we're trying to get christian women's opinions on should christian women obey their

00:21:50.080 husbands no right or wrong answers uh just tell us if yes tell us why if no tell us why not

00:21:54.960 can i think for one second yeah you could think okay um um i don't think they should obey them

00:22:00.820 unconditionally because sometimes like we're all human and we all make mistakes so everyone's like

00:22:06.160 fallible to error so i think if their husband's words are in line with what the gospel says then

00:22:11.340 yes but if they're not then you don't just like unconditionally obey someone do you think it's

00:22:16.760 the woman's job to decide if he's following god or not no the woman doesn't i think it's kind of

00:22:23.320 more like an objective answer if he's following god so if you what religion are you part of i'm

00:22:30.260 Catholic. Okay. Catholic. So if you go to, if you go to Catholic church and the priest tells you

00:22:34.440 one thing and your husband tells you another, who would you listen to? I would listen to whatever

00:22:39.420 is in a line closely with like the Catholic faith. Well, let's, but let's say it can be wrong.

00:22:47.100 Well, okay. Let's say it's something a little more subjective, like parenting style. Okay.

00:22:51.020 You know, um, a debate online is like, um, some people feel it's okay to hit kids. Some people

00:22:56.460 feel it's not and I don't know if there's a clear bible verse saying yes or no it's kind of up to

00:23:01.620 interpret like my yeah my mom hit me with a spoon I'm gonna be honest you know what I mean so but

00:23:06.020 I turned out fine yeah so let's say the priest says that's not allowed and the husband says it

00:23:11.560 is who are you gonna listen to or what school you they go to things that are you know black and

00:23:16.120 white in the yeah I think I well I would hope that I would marry someone who closely aligns

00:23:21.160 with my values so I would then listen to my husband okay great so do you have an Instagram

00:23:26.260 Do you want to shout it out?

00:23:27.620 No, it's okay.

00:23:28.660 There's some Catholics that watch. 0.66

00:23:29.940 You never know. 1.00

00:23:30.620 It's okay. 1.00

00:23:31.740 So why do you think women are willing to obey their bosses but not their husbands? 0.59

00:23:36.860 That's to say that their boss is a male, right? 0.99

00:23:39.700 Or a woman.

00:23:40.560 It could be a girl.

00:23:41.120 Yeah, I think...

00:23:41.780 It's not gendered. 0.89

00:23:42.580 It's just, like, in general. 1.00

00:23:44.260 What do you think women have kids with one and there's, like, a vested interest where one doesn't care about you at all, you know?

00:23:51.900 Yeah. 1.00

00:23:52.180 Yeah. Again, it's kind of hard for me to answer that because I think that anyone, any gender will be respectful to their boss, their manager and that person, that position of authority.

00:24:01.780 But when it comes to like the partnership in a marriage, I don't see it as one has authority over the other.

00:24:07.880 I see two folks who are creating this empire together and I'm going to stick with like that's what I see there.

00:24:13.100 It's different from a, you know, authoritative hierarchy manager type of working situation.

00:24:20.300 Awesome.

00:24:20.820 Well, thank you so much.

00:24:21.680 I appreciate your input.

00:24:22.760 You bet.

00:24:23.100 Take care. 1.00

00:24:23.580 Why do you think women are more willing to listen to a boss than their husband? 1.00

00:24:28.860 Like if a boss gives you orders, you don't talk back, you just do it, right? 1.00

00:24:32.420 Yes. 1.00

00:24:32.800 But with their husband, most women don't listen to. 1.00

00:24:36.160 I guess because of the demand of the job, like, you know, 1.00

00:24:39.440 and they're trying to make a living out of their situation.

00:24:42.400 But I feel like they shouldn't, like, you know, they should annoy their husband.

00:24:47.520 because like even the boy I talk to like we work together and it's just like certain stuff that he

00:24:51.560 said work I'd be like what like but I do respect him because at the end of the day like that's the

00:24:56.420 person I talk to like you know so it's kind of like different but I do get what you're saying

00:25:01.180 like you know about how they they talk more like they put up more with their own co-workers in

00:25:07.960 Boston they like you know husbands. Why do you think that women are more willing to listen to 1.00

00:25:13.000 a boss than a husband? Because they don't respect their husbands in a certain way and they feel like 1.00

00:25:22.700 their boss has more, what's the word? Like their boss has more power over them. Yeah. Do you believe 1.00

00:25:34.840 in the natural order of the world? God, men, women, children? Of course. Okay. And what religion are

00:25:40.600 you a part of? I'm a Christian. Okay, non-denominational. There's so many sects, so.

00:25:44.480 Oh, Baptist. Baptist. And do you go to church? I'm a Southern Baptist. Oh, you're a sound father. 0.98

00:25:49.840 And do you think that women in the Baptist church are more obedient than the general population?

00:25:55.680 Yeah. Yeah. All right, cool. Thank you very much. I appreciate you. Oh, Catholic? Okay,

00:26:01.140 perfect. What do you think about the question? Should Catholic women obey their husbands?

00:26:05.700 One concept. What? What concept? Like, what is obey? Listen to him. 0.97

00:26:10.600 Like the Bible says?

00:26:12.360 Listen to what he says. 1.00

00:26:13.600 Do you think women that are Catholic should? 0.99

00:26:15.100 I mean, the Bible explicitly says, like, when a woman listens to their husbands, 0.88

00:26:19.420 that doesn't mean that they should be submitted to them, right?

00:26:21.680 So I think in the Christian way, the way the Bible says it, like, I think, yes.

00:26:27.020 So, yes?

00:26:28.360 What should a woman do if the priest and the husband disagree? 0.95

00:26:31.300 Who should she listen to? 0.70

00:26:33.340 Depends on the point.

00:26:34.320 Depends on the argument.

00:26:35.260 Depends on what is the question, right?

00:26:37.520 I think it's a very op-ending question, right?

00:26:39.680 It is, I mean, if the husband is asking, like, hey, go help me kill somebody or rob somebody, the answer is no, right? 0.67

00:26:47.880 Or, like, help me raise the kids in a Christian way, I think the woman should listen to the husband.

00:26:51.960 Yeah, like, let's say parenting style. 0.92

00:26:53.940 The priest says he's too strict or he's too mean to the kids.

00:26:58.800 The husband says he's not. 0.99

00:27:00.540 If it's the Christian way, I think there should be a valid point 0.86

00:27:05.140 and some way that both angles can come together

00:27:09.320 and find a common way for raising the kids.

00:27:12.280 I think that's something that you talk about before you get married.

00:27:14.900 Before you get married, you know your wife and you know her values,

00:27:17.820 you know her virtues, you know how she's going to raise kids,

00:27:20.600 how many kids she wants if she doesn't want kids and all that.

00:27:23.020 So I think by the moment you start raising your kids,

00:27:25.960 there should be a prior agreement on how you want your kids to be raised.

00:27:29.320 Do you think the husband should decide how many kids the family has?

00:27:32.380 I think it's a mutual agreement.

00:27:34.720 I mean, it's a responsibility for both, right? 1.00

00:27:36.740 The woman usually stays at home trying to raise the kids at the beginning, 1.00

00:27:41.080 or if she has a job or something like that. 0.89

00:27:43.480 But then the husband also, like, sometimes is the provider.

00:27:45.860 I know that doesn't mean that usually they don't reverse,

00:27:49.360 but I think it's a better responsibility for both. 1.00

00:27:53.280 I think women have more responsibility in raising the kids, caring for them. 0.99

00:28:01.080 So I think it should be a little more weighted on the woman how many children she actually wants to have. 1.00

00:28:06.300 So you think the woman should have the final say? 0.75

00:28:08.780 I don't think the final say should be a common agreement, but I think it should be... 0.98

00:28:11.800 But there's times when we disagree. Come on.

00:28:13.760 Like, there's times...

00:28:15.040 Yeah, I think people disagree. That doesn't mean that...

00:28:16.820 But still, I think that's something that you say before you actually get married, right?

00:28:20.740 But she changes her mind. 1.00

00:28:22.100 Women change their mind all the time. 1.00

00:28:23.720 I mean, yes. 1.00

00:28:24.420 But if they say, like, I want four, and then you have two, 1.00

00:28:27.520 and the woman says, I'm done, I think it's a valid point. 0.91

00:28:30.440 That doesn't mean that when you agree on four at the beginning,

00:28:33.560 the husband is like, oh, only four, I will divorce you.

00:28:36.060 I don't think that's a valid argument.

00:28:37.520 Right, but wouldn't you say then he's obeying her

00:28:39.460 because he's listening to what she wants instead of doing what he wants?

00:28:43.120 But I think that was a mutual conversation, right?

00:28:45.180 It's at the beginning they both agree on having four,

00:28:47.540 and then they change it to two.

00:28:49.060 Yeah.

00:28:49.300 That doesn't mean that she's right and he's wrong or she's wrong and she's right.

00:28:52.980 It's just a mutual agreement on what God talked to them and said, like, hey, I think two is a good number.

00:28:59.460 Right. Well, I just meant it's just a question of whose terms is the relationship on if she gets to decide, right?

00:29:06.440 Like, is she really obeying it in him?

00:29:08.660 Is she really obeying him in all things if it's not really all things?

00:29:12.260 uh i mean she's obeying at the end because if they and she says i only want two and they

00:29:18.440 he talks to him and say like okay i agree on two at the end she listens to him yeah that way the

00:29:22.980 same way that she was listening uh he was listening to her at the beginning when she was

00:29:26.740 like i only want two but i know we talk about four that doesn't mean that he settled on two or

00:29:32.420 four they talk about it maybe they go to priest they pray about it and they find the answer

00:29:37.180 together. Where's the accent from? Mexico City. Do you think women in Mexico City are more obedient

00:29:43.500 or less obedient than American women? I think it's based on the education level in every

00:29:47.860 tier of society. Some places women are more obedient than other places so I think it's more 0.98

00:29:57.760 like a society tier label and also like based on the economics of the family, right? 1.00

00:30:08.800 If that woman has to work, it's going to be less obedient because also she has more say 1.00

00:30:14.440 in that relation. 1.00

00:30:15.360 Should she be obedient even if she makes more money? 0.99

00:30:18.760 I think obedient is a strong word to be like making more money or not.

00:30:21.900 What is obedient in this case that I make more money than you, I'm not going to listen

00:30:25.500 to whatever you say.

00:30:26.200 I think that's a strong word

00:30:28.040 or a strong classification of what it means

00:30:29.740 obedient in this case

00:30:30.700 I think the obedient word here is

00:30:33.760 they both come into the relation

00:30:36.060 and they bring something

00:30:37.000 that doesn't mean because she makes more money 1.00

00:30:38.860 she doesn't have to follow God's 1.00

00:30:41.180 words in the Bible and all that

00:30:43.420 right?

00:30:45.820 it's like she decided to

00:30:48.020 marry that man and follow God's

00:30:50.180 so she should be obedient 1.00

00:30:52.000 even if she makes more money 1.00

00:30:53.180 it doesn't mean obedient

00:30:54.040 It doesn't mean, like, I agree with the husband, be what the Bible says.

00:30:58.460 I forgot the Bible verse that said, like, listen to the husband in the ways the Bible says, right?

00:31:04.340 So it doesn't mean that it's more obedient.

00:31:06.120 It's more like she agrees to God's will and to God's way to, like, define marriage.

00:31:14.100 That's my opinion.

00:31:15.820 Do you believe there's a natural order in the world that goes God, men, women, children?

00:31:20.900 Again, it would be God.

00:31:21.900 Do you believe there's a natural order in the world that goes God, men, women, children? 0.90

00:31:26.660 Like that men are above women?

00:31:28.660 I don't think men are above women.

00:31:30.180 I think, I mean, everybody's below God, that's for sure.

00:31:33.600 But I don't think men are above women or women are above all.

00:31:35.940 I think we're equal in terms of like what everybody brings to society, right?

00:31:40.600 And you can see at the beginning of the Bible, it's like men were hunters and women stayed at home.

00:31:46.540 So each one has like their own way and all that.

00:31:49.700 I mean, that's even 2,000 years ago.

00:31:51.400 It's not, like, that long ago.

00:31:52.760 So I think it's...

00:31:54.560 But it all went south when Adam listened to Eve, right?

00:31:58.440 Allegedly.

00:31:59.020 I wasn't there, right?

00:32:00.200 So we have to hear what the Bible says on that.

00:32:03.680 But, yeah.

00:32:04.220 Yeah.

00:32:05.740 Okay.

00:32:06.300 All right.

00:32:06.700 Thank you so much.

00:32:07.400 I appreciate it.

00:32:07.660 Thank you very much.

00:32:08.320 Yes.

00:32:09.660 What are you talking about?

00:32:10.840 Oh, I just...

00:32:11.440 It's just my channel.

00:32:12.340 I'm on YouTube.

00:32:13.140 Yeah.

00:32:13.520 So my name's Pearl Davis.

00:32:15.040 Okay.

00:32:15.660 And I just...

00:32:16.420 I go to different...

00:32:17.860 Usually churches, but they rained on Sunday.

00:32:20.420 So I'm going to ask Christians what they believe.

00:32:22.520 So it's a Christian podcast?

00:32:24.800 I'm not super religious, but I just interview religious people.

00:32:29.320 Okay.

00:32:29.940 Thank you.

00:32:31.000 Yeah, thank you.

00:32:31.940 If you don't mind me asking, what type of Christian are you, sir?

00:32:34.700 I'm a denomination.

00:32:35.660 Okay.

00:32:36.140 Do you have a specific church you'd want to shout out?

00:32:38.760 One community.

00:32:39.800 Okay. 1.00

00:32:40.560 And do you guys believe that Christian women should obey their husbands? 0.99

00:32:43.860 No right or wrong answers, just yes or no, why or why not? 0.99

00:32:47.860 Yes. I believe that Christian men and women should obey each other.

00:32:52.200 I think, you know, marriage and love is like about like being submitted to each other,

00:32:56.980 which will acquire a degree of obedience on both sides.

00:33:00.480 How can two people obey each other if they want to do different things?

00:33:03.800 So I think it comes down to understanding which area maybe the other might be more suited to make decisions in.

00:33:11.480 Say, for example, we all have different gifts and strengths.

00:33:13.480 so your partner she might be great with finance so maybe she should have a woman good with finances

00:33:20.380 yeah you know women are very smart so finances yeah she might be good with it like understanding 0.96

00:33:26.980 you know how to break things down and yeah she might bring the money and you might bring the 1.00

00:33:31.360 money in and you might divvy out how to you know make sure you're going to be squared away and she

00:33:35.800 or she might so so wouldn't that cause a problem though because wouldn't if it's we're always

00:33:41.220 coming to a compromise wouldn't the unreasonable person just get their way more? I think that kind

00:33:46.540 of depends on who you choose as a partner right you should choose someone who's like a regulated

00:33:50.060 who understands how to have communication and disagreements so I don't think so. But how could

00:33:55.720 we communicate about a disagree like okay for example let's say you marry a woman and you have

00:34:01.140 a disagreement on parenting style this is a common argument men think that the kids should generally

00:34:06.500 have more discipline and structure and women generally do less. So if they both disagree

00:34:13.740 and the man says one way and the woman says another, how do they come to a decision if

00:34:18.660 they disagree at the end of the day? So for some of those more core value type things,

00:34:23.420 I think it comes down to having those conversations before you get in a committed relationship or at

00:34:27.980 least earlier in the relationship. Yeah, but people change their mind. It doesn't mean much.

00:34:32.820 That's true.

00:34:33.660 Well, I think it's giving each other the space.

00:34:35.380 People say they're going to stay for life, and the average marriage is eight years.

00:34:38.640 You know what I mean? 1.00

00:34:39.200 That's true.

00:34:39.840 People say things.

00:34:40.900 So, again, when you get to the disagreement, how do they come to a conclusion?

00:34:45.760 I think I really, me personally, I think it boils down to what makes the most logical sense

00:34:50.940 and what makes sense for our plans for the future, right, and your value system.

00:34:55.540 If it strays from that, then I think that's when you have to understand that we're off course

00:34:59.900 and let's realign to what makes sense to our goals.

00:35:02.280 So if a woman attends your church and the pastor and the husband disagrees, whose opinion should she take into account more?

00:35:10.940 Say that again.

00:35:11.380 So if I don't, I'm not familiar with your church, but let's say you find a nice girl there and you guys are going to that church, but you disagree with something the pastor says.

00:35:20.520 So who should your wife take?

00:35:23.100 Whose opinion should matter more?

00:35:24.560 The pastor's or yours?

00:35:27.640 Like what if you wanted to leave?

00:35:30.360 Should she listen to you?

00:35:32.280 So I actually had a friend who was in a similar situation.

00:35:35.040 I think it really boils down to what God says.

00:35:38.600 God should be the leader.

00:35:39.980 It's just trickled down from God to, I guess, the man. 0.96

00:35:43.720 And then, I guess, the woman also has a sense of, I guess, where the obedience comes into play. 0.92

00:35:51.660 But I think it always just trickles down to God first.

00:35:56.160 Right, but it's not always clear.

00:35:57.880 Otherwise, there wouldn't be so many denominations.

00:35:59.940 You know, if it was clear, read the Bible, there's a conclusion.

00:36:03.500 We wouldn't have a million Christian denominations.

00:36:05.800 So the question we've got to go back to, they disagree.

00:36:08.760 She's got to pick one person's opinion to listen to more.

00:36:12.400 I would say the man, because he's the head of the household,

00:36:16.300 and then the pastor, he could be your spiritual father.

00:36:19.480 But at the same time, he might be straying away from God.

00:36:23.260 So I would say at the end of the day, it would fall down to the husband.

00:36:25.680 Yeah, because he's got more consequences for the choice, right?

00:36:28.160 Yeah.

00:36:28.520 Yeah, like if they have the parenting disagreement and the kids are raised messed up, he has to deal with the kids.

00:36:34.360 Yeah, for life.

00:36:35.200 Pastor doesn't, right?

00:36:36.120 Facts, facts. 0.94

00:36:37.060 Why don't you think when, so whenever there's a divorce in the church, why don't the pastors ever, a lot of times women file for no reason.

00:36:45.860 Yeah.

00:36:46.440 Why don't the pastors ever go testify in the divorce court that they don't agree to this, the ones that sanctified the marriage?

00:36:53.680 I think that would be a good practice, honestly.

00:36:56.220 Yeah.

00:36:56.520 I don't know why they don't do it, but I think that would be a good practice. 1.00

00:36:59.080 Do you think that the church panders to women? 0.99

00:37:02.660 I think certain denominations do.

00:37:05.160 I think, especially in the black community, more so like women are like the majority of the demographic that attend the churches. 0.82

00:37:12.560 So, right, you want to cater to your bigger, your largest population size.

00:37:16.800 So I think it depends on the demographic of the church.

00:37:21.060 And ultimately, if their heart's not in the right place, it goes down to who's going to keep the lights on. 1.00

00:37:25.640 in the building do you think the stereotype do you think the stereotype is true that ex-hoes go 0.95

00:37:30.340 to church yeah i think everyone goes to church yeah for sure okay thank you so much this is great 0.98

00:37:36.800 thank you appreciate it that's okay we could get a spiritual person's belief okay okay so you're

00:37:42.140 spiritual uh what is that like what do you believe in just a few words um i believe in god um but i

00:37:47.280 think i believe in god just on the broader spectrum okay but you don't attend a religious

00:37:51.260 just like church I actually attend church as well but I think oh you do yeah I attend the church

00:37:55.160 so yeah so I grew up um am I looking at you yeah I grew up um Christian and so along the way as I

00:38:03.120 discovered my beliefs and what I believe I just look more into like spirituality and I feel like

00:38:07.640 religion in a sense is a I feel like religion causes separation a lot of the times because

00:38:13.520 you know like everybody like Christ had 12 disciples um they were spiritual beings Christ

00:38:19.200 who's a spiritual being and so i feel like when everybody really says their religion is right

00:38:23.960 so you know i feel like religion is kind of separation and everybody has different opinions

00:38:28.920 on i believe this is right and everybody interpret things differently so yeah what type of church do

00:38:33.680 you attend is it non-denominational non-denominational church yeah do you want to

00:38:36.880 shout it out or no uh concord yeah concord okay so at that church or just your beliefs in general

00:38:43.020 should christian women obey their husbands okay um yes or no why or why not okay so this is what

00:38:48.940 i was thinking when i that's why i passed on the question the first time because i feel like obey

00:38:52.440 is a strong word okay um why when i think about obey i feel like obey is like my dog should obey

00:38:58.520 me and so that's why i kind of like uh obey is a strong word would it be bad if a woman obeyed

00:39:03.620 a man like your dog obeys you would it be bad uh would things like go better or worse

00:39:10.860 I think, I would say.

00:39:17.020 Are you afraid to answer?

00:39:18.380 Yeah, a little bit.

00:39:19.580 Does that mean the answer is it would be better?

00:39:23.500 I would say it's a bad thing.

00:39:25.720 Because who wants to be like, oh, you should obey me.

00:39:28.200 So if you were dating a girl and you said, do this, and she said, yes, sir, that would be bad?

00:39:32.820 Yeah, it's kind of demeaning, right, to tell somebody they should obey you.

00:39:35.520 I feel like most of the time with people in general, when somebody sees you as someone to respect and follow, they follow you.

00:39:44.880 Why would she be with you if she didn't respect you?

00:39:47.980 You'll be surprised these days.

00:39:49.540 A lot of people are with people that they don't respect.

00:39:51.660 Yeah, yeah.

00:39:52.280 Well, what about children, though?

00:39:53.700 Is it demeaning for them to obey their parents?

00:39:56.520 Okay, and I think it's the same thing.

00:39:58.000 I don't feel like that, I don't feel like children should even, if you don't present yourself as someone to follow, as someone respectable, I don't feel like I should obey you.

00:40:08.680 I don't feel like I should respect you.

00:40:10.820 And that's just my personal beliefs.

00:40:13.020 And that's just how I look at the world.

00:40:14.120 Well, let's say he is.

00:40:15.240 Let's say he's following God or whatever requirements you have.

00:40:18.120 A respectable guy.

00:40:18.460 Yeah, a respectable.

00:40:19.540 Do you think you're a respectable guy?

00:40:21.180 I know I'm a respectable guy.

00:40:22.340 Okay, so if you get a girlfriend or a wife, what's wrong with her obeying you?

00:40:28.000 I don't like the word obey. I don't like the word. I feel like that's a dictatorship. Like you should obey me. I feel like I present myself as a respectable guy. I have morals, integrity.

00:40:41.000 So the obedience should be easy, right?

00:40:42.660 Obedience should be easy, but I don't like the word obey.

00:40:44.980 I just personally don't like the word obey.

00:40:46.900 That's just me.

00:40:47.700 But I feel like if you present yourself as a respectable person, people will follow.

00:40:52.920 Your wife will follow.

00:40:53.980 Your spouse will follow. 0.64

00:40:55.180 But I don't like the word obey.

00:40:57.600 Yeah, I just don't like the word obey. 1.00

00:40:58.900 So do you think that the stereotype is true that ex-hoes go to church? 1.00

00:41:05.260 Ex-hoes. 1.00

00:41:06.040 Current hoes go to church, too. 1.00

00:41:08.800 Current hoes go to church, too. 1.00

00:41:10.080 Do you have any stories? 1.00

00:41:12.660 stories of like a girl doing something diabolical in the, not, maybe not your specific church, 0.97

00:41:17.400 but just like someone that claimed to be religious was very hypocritical. 0.89

00:41:21.600 Oh, I have too many. I have too many. Um, I feel like a lot of religious people are 0.98

00:41:28.160 honestly hypocritical. I don't want to point out anything particularly cause they're going 0.78

00:41:32.020 to be like, Oh, I know what you're talking about. But, uh, I feel like a lot of people

00:41:35.280 are hypocritical. And I even look at that when it comes to like, uh, other religions, 0.76

00:41:39.480 Like, I have Muslim friends, and I feel like, in a sense, they take their religion and their religious practices a whole lot more serious than a lot of Christians do.

00:41:48.700 Like, you can't be saying, I'm a Christian, I'm a person of God, but you're judgmental.

00:41:52.920 You're even judging people that come into church.

00:41:56.540 You're always talking about somebody.

00:41:58.600 You're two-faced.

00:41:59.820 You just have no integrity as a person. 1.00

00:42:01.880 So I feel like a lot of Christian people in general are judgmental and hypocritical. 0.99

00:42:07.320 What should the woman do? 0.97

00:42:08.840 let's say you found a nice church girl at your church you guys got married you're happy 0.64

00:42:13.180 and the pastor says something to her that you disagree with what should she do what what should

00:42:19.480 you do and what should she do i should in front of me like in front of me or is this something

00:42:27.240 a one-on-one conversation and then maybe she comes back to tell me how does this go let's say 0.96

00:42:34.460 she believes that you're too strict with the kids that's a common um disagreement where the men want 0.93

00:42:40.840 more structure and discipline the women want less so let's say there's a disagreement on parenting

00:42:45.460 style she goes to the preacher and you know how women tell stories and um the preacher says that 0.99

00:42:52.280 he's too harsh are you going to listen to the preacher but you don't think you're being too

00:42:56.320 harsh there's only two people in my household okay those are the only two opinions that matter

00:43:00.160 okay so you think she should listen to you of course i mean i mean i don't want anyone like

00:43:05.620 other than my therapy i listen to my therapist so i listen to my therapist but i don't feel like

00:43:10.600 but even with that if my spouse i would consult with my spouse before i implement rules from

00:43:16.060 outside of my house you know i wouldn't just go hey the preacher said this so this is law

00:43:20.660 right i feel like that's putting somebody in a god position and nobody's in a god position like

00:43:25.000 that's who we all answer to and so that's who i listen to um but i feel like it's kind of an

00:43:29.800 insult for you to take somebody opinion that is not in your household and just implement and be

00:43:35.160 like this goes because the preacher said it what no do you think the dad or the father should decide

00:43:41.480 how many kids the family has uh i feel like there's something that can be debated or like

00:43:48.760 there's no debate he wants four she wants two let's do three

00:43:52.420 all right thank you so much sir i appreciate it i'm glad i stopped too yeah

00:43:58.500 i'm sorry about the first time i was in a little time frame well that's okay um are you

00:44:03.800 quick question you look familiar do you be debating people yeah i do i've seen you before

00:44:10.200 you might have i like uh what's it called i've i've never seen you like debate with a couple

00:44:15.620 women on some topics before i remember seeing you on tiktok oh yeah you might have yeah i even

00:44:20.740 recognize the boys too oh really yeah i get that a lot uh do you want to answer the question today

00:44:25.560 or no? Sure. So are you Christian? I am. What denomination? Are you at the same church? I go

00:44:31.700 to one community. Was that, that's what he said or no? No, no, no. Okay. Difference. Is it

00:44:36.300 non-denominational? Uh, yes, ma'am. And how long have you been attending that church? Since high

00:44:40.760 school. Okay. So you're, you're pretty devoted, you'd say. So, um, do you think that Christian

00:44:45.660 women should obey their husbands? No right or wrong answers. Just, uh, tell me why or why not?

00:44:50.980 what he said obey is a very strong word but in my opinion it really depends to me because like

00:44:59.840 let's let's use me for example i'm the type of person where like i want to be my my partner's

00:45:05.560 number one cheerleader and i want nothing more but for her the success not even in in life but

00:45:10.900 herself like i'm going to push her to be the best version of herself like this for example

00:45:15.020 So if I was to bring my partner out here, I'm telling straight up, like, hey, there's a reason why you're here is to be for you to get one percent better, because we all are trying to get one percent better by day.

00:45:26.120 And for me, letting her know that I'm going to do the best I can to help you get to where you want to be in life, not just with like with herself, with a family.

00:45:34.860 Then if that's the case, yes, because I'm in me in my mind, I'm going to I'm going to make sure she goes in the right path just so she can be safe and at peace.

00:45:43.640 but let's say if I was like someone different like I'm maybe like a manipulator I'm controlling

00:45:49.520 and she's smart enough to realize that then no absolutely not don't don't do you think

00:45:54.360 men and women are equal no so do you think men are superior I was

00:46:00.820 I would say so yes you okay in what way

00:46:06.600 i have to come back on that one i'd say all the ways truth be told yes like what are women better 1.00

00:46:16.280 at anything not doing the right thing that's for sure there is some things in this world women can 0.55

00:46:24.580 do that men cannot i will admit that like what uh name one name one and it can't be childbirth 0.83

00:46:32.020 because other than dogs do that.

00:46:34.220 You know what's crazy?

00:46:35.060 That was really the first thing I was going to say.

00:46:37.060 It can't be a biological.

00:46:38.720 Anything else?

00:46:39.540 Okay. 1.00

00:46:44.740 I've seen a lot of women be very good with clothing designs. 1.00

00:46:47.820 I've never... 1.00

00:46:48.480 Really? 1.00

00:46:48.860 Because gay men dominate. 1.00

00:46:52.040 That's probably the only one is clothing designs. 1.00

00:46:54.000 That's really the only thing I can think of.

00:46:55.860 Yeah.

00:46:56.780 Okay, so when it comes to obedience, 0.71

00:46:59.660 Do you think the woman or the man should decide how many kids the family has?

00:47:05.040 Like from a Christian point of view? 0.88

00:47:09.380 I would say a woman.

00:47:14.240 I would say a woman because at the end of the day, a man's not giving birth. 0.71

00:47:18.340 But then wouldn't she not be obedient in all things? 0.94

00:47:21.560 Isn't she supposed to obey in all things?

00:47:23.560 Yeah.

00:47:24.080 So then how could she be obeying in all things if she's deciding?

00:47:27.840 You know what I mean? 0.91

00:47:28.420 Just from a Christian point of view.

00:47:29.660 Yeah, that's probably something that we would have to talk about beforehand.

00:47:34.480 That's because I like to bring that up sometimes when I'm talking to someone like,

00:47:37.700 hey, you're trying to have kids, and how many are you trying to have?

00:47:40.020 You know, it's like things I like to talk about beforehand. 1.00

00:47:42.680 Don't you think women change their mind, though? 1.00

00:47:45.140 Sometimes they do. 1.00

00:47:46.200 Yeah.

00:47:46.840 Sometimes they do. 1.00

00:47:48.120 Do you think the hoe-to-church pipeline is a real thing? 1.00

00:47:52.160 Like where women become— 0.99

00:47:53.100 In my generation, yes. 1.00

00:47:54.520 Yeah.

00:47:55.460 Because I'm young.

00:47:56.620 I'm only 22.

00:47:57.780 Okay. 1.00

00:47:58.020 there's a lot of people my age that do that have you ever seen a woman like do something diabolical

00:48:03.240 and then get baptized yes yes i have what happened oh you wouldn't know yeah okay so um

00:48:12.040 my freshman year of college i met this girl that uh it was a little kinesiology class i had with

00:48:18.820 her because we had the same major we was in a we was basically talking about how life and stuff

00:48:24.680 like that and what type of goals and stuff like that this whole time i thought she was like the 0.78

00:48:30.080 most sweetest person in the world turns out nah not really she has a past she's she's used to men 0.99

00:48:36.160 that like beats on her and like abuse her and stuff like that and she's kind of a kind of a 1.00

00:48:42.020 sex addict let's say like that like she cannot control herself and the whole time when we was 0.82

00:48:48.320 talking we she was in a three-year relationship and she basically went to a lingerie party and 1.00

00:48:54.160 And hanged out with a couple people that was not a boyfriend. 0.91

00:48:58.740 Oh, so she got like a train ran on her?

00:49:00.660 Basically.

00:49:01.240 And then she got baptized after?

00:49:02.380 A month later. 1.00

00:49:03.440 So do you think almost Christian women are a red flag? 1.00

00:49:06.840 Say that one more time?

00:49:07.620 Do you think Christian women are a red flag in a way? 1.00

00:49:09.320 Not all of them. 0.88

00:49:10.260 Not all of them.

00:49:10.420 But a good chunk?

00:49:12.020 There's a proportion.

00:49:13.720 There's a proportion.

00:49:14.580 But you just got to pay attention.

00:49:16.820 You know what I'm saying?

00:49:17.500 Yeah. 0.99

00:49:19.000 What do you think the woman should do if the pastor and the husband disagree? 0.92

00:49:22.840 Who should the woman listen to? 0.98

00:49:24.160 what should a woman do? 1.00

00:49:26.240 Yeah, so if the woman is supposed to submit to the husband, 1.00

00:49:29.720 you're supposed to submit to God.

00:49:31.680 If the pastor and the husband disagree, who should the woman listen to? 0.80

00:49:38.200 Repeat that one more time. I went deaf.

00:49:40.280 No, it's okay. 1.00

00:49:42.120 No two men agree on everything, right?

00:49:44.880 I could never find two.

00:49:46.280 I do interviews all the time.

00:49:47.780 There's no two men that agree on everything.

00:49:49.920 So when you have two men, a pastor,

00:49:51.500 and you have the husband and they disagree,

00:49:56.180 who should the woman listen to?

00:49:59.920 In my opinion, the husband. 1.00

00:50:01.480 The husband.

00:50:02.420 That's just my opinion.

00:50:03.520 I mean the husband.

00:50:04.420 Okay.

00:50:05.580 That's it.

00:50:06.340 Thank you.

00:50:06.720 Thank you, sir.

00:50:07.580 I appreciate it.

Pearl - June 20, 2026

Do Dallas Christian Women Obey Their Husbands？

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