Pearl - April 20, 2024DO MODERN WOMEN DESERVE LOYALTY？ ｜ CALL IN SHOW ｜ Pearl Daily
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In this episode of Pearl Daily, I talk about infidelity, cheating, and why women deserve to be monogamish. I also talk about why women should be better than men at choosing fertility. If you like what you hear, please HIT SUBSCRIBE and become a patron patron!
Transcript
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I'll be the villain if that's what you gotta believe
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I'll be the villain if that's what you wanna believe
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Welcome to the Just Pearly Things YouTube channel
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welcome to another episode of pearl daily today i just had to open with my favorite song i will
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be the villain you want to give them one more one more yeah did they like it let's go okay okay
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i'll be the villain if that's what you want i'll be the villain if that's what you need
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I'll be the villain if that's what you want to believe I'll be the villain if I have to
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I'll tell you my point of view I'll be the one that'll tell you the truth
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Oh, in a world of lies, telling tales, I'll be the villain if that's what you want to believe.
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Welcome to the Just Pearly Things YouTube channel.
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and welcome to another episode of Pearl Daily. Blessings got me a whole candlelight serenading,
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you know. Look it. Thank you for the piano blessing. I enjoyed that thoroughly. Let me
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know in the chat. One in the chat. I've decided I'm bringing this on for my intro music. I'm
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do it myself. And the reason is because everybody villainizes Pearl. Everybody says that Pearl is
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the evil bad guy because I am the one being honest. I am being honest. So this week I got into a bit
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of trouble. A bit of a shenanigan, one would say. Where I am begging the question,
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do women deserve loyalty when we are not loyal ourselves? You know, there was a clip of me
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that went viral, I think last year. And this clip, it was me saying that I would not break
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up a marriage if a man cheated. Now, a lot of people have misconstrued this as me encouraging
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men to not be monogamous. Many have, you know, misconstrued this as me encouraging it. But the
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way that I view things is I cannot change how the world works. And I think as women,
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I really want to deal with women that want to win. You know, many people can look at the sexual
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marketplace and say, modern women have higher standards than ever. That's true. Modern women
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bring less to the table than ever. That's true. But as a chick, I think we should all look at this
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as an opportunity. So let's talk about infidelity. Let's talk about infidelity. I'm going to go to
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the whiteboard today. Oh, wait, I didn't even talk about the, well, I'll talk about the
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network in a bit. Okay, I'm over here. Now, guys, while I'm cleaning up my last show,
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attention to that chat and you can also super chat on there okay blessing and we
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want to pay blessing right blessing yeah all right yeah you know he he wants to
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get paid at the end of the month so you know feel free to I don't want to get
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the colonizer accusations again okay so what is a monogamous marriage many times women act like
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cheating is the worst thing in the world if you ask women it is it makes it acceptable to
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wreck a man's car it makes it acceptable to bang on his door go through his phone
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and break up a marriage when you have children.
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And I'll tell you why I think that is bullshit.
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And ladies, I want to hear from you later.
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True monogamy is one man and one woman for life.
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Now, Sarah has the most choosing power, let's say, at 22 years old.
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As you guys know, men select for fertility, youth, and not being fat.
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Now, the man has the most choice, let's just say, at 37.
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As you guys know, women select for things like muscles, which take time to build.
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They select, we select for things like money, height.
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But if you ask men, most men's dating problems, most men's dating lives change in their 30s.
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Their 30s, they have an abundance of options that they did not have in their 20s.
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Now, when women are 22, women are not choosing marriage.
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So if women truly wanted monogamy at 22, she would find a 37-year-old guy or maybe another 22-year-old guy and she would get married.
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Instead, Sarah is coming to the table with, and I'm going to write this down, ex-boyfriend here.
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let's just say this is you know bob jr she's got net x's let's put a couple in there because you
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know the average age of first marriage is getting to be 30 so let's just put a couple x's in there
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and bob says you know what all right i can deal with that whatever the she's also coming in
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now women have sex tapes on other men's phones coming in the nudes she sent the last decade
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yada, yada, yada. This is becoming commonplace. Bob over here still says, you know what,
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I'll do it. But she's also coming in with Bob's child. So here she's coming in.
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There's little Bob. Now, who I am not talking about is the Christian virgins in the middle
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of nowhere that you guys keep telling me exist. I'm not talking about you. Please do not come in
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and say, Pearl, you're the bad guy for pointing this out.
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So she comes in with other, with ex-boyfriends.
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what else did i have listed i forgot hold on guys
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oh and the other issue is she has higher standards than ever so now that we've
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prefaced with the women are not coming in scotch-free she did not choose one man for a lifetime
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so all these bullshit christian women who come in and want to say that men are the bad guy and
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you are absolutely a victim if you got cheated on my question to you is were you a virgin on your
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wedding night okay so less than three percent of women are virgins on their wedding day so
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statistically most of them weren't but yet they will demonize men for not being monogamous when
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women are 22 they did not choose monogamy they might find god at 30 that's fine i have no problem
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with that, put more power to you. But it's a little bit hypocritical to come in and ask for
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monogamy when you didn't offer monogamy yourself. Second thing we're going to talk about. Women have
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higher standards than ever. And I am not saying this is a bad thing. Women, the way the world has
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always worked. Women have competed for high status men. So now we have, I'm going to make
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this a little smaller. So let's just say we got Sally over here. Now Sally is this. So we have
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all the chicks over here. And let's just say this one is Sally over here. I'm just going to make her
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the only one with hair. So you guys know who she is. All right. Boom. Boom. Okay. And now we have
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the men. And if you ask most men or most women, we find the same types of men attractive.
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And you can tell this because if you ask most women, they've either been in a situation ship
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Women have been sharing men throughout their 20s.
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Maybe some are not aware, but it's the way the world is.
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So if you ask the women and you say, hey, ladies,
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would you be willing to date a guy you're not that attracted to?
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How does that go when we ask them that blessing?
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Okay, so I say, all right, would you guys date a guy that you have to pay the majority of the bills for a lifetime?
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We also know that women, we find 80% of men as unattractive.
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We swipe on dating apps maybe 20% of the time, yes.
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Dating apps are the number one way people are meeting under 30.
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do you want to date guys you're not attracted to?
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What about if you guys, were you guys virgins on your wedding nights?
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And the ladies say, no, I want to enjoy my 20s.
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Or they'll often, you know, say, I can't find the right person,
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which is another way for saying, I don't want to lower my standards.
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But what bothers me and annoys me is when it's, I want it all.
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And this girl over here says, I also want this guy.
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But Sally, are you, do you have an ex-boyfriend?
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But Sally, are you, are your nudes in someone else's phone?
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He says, and so, you know, they go off and they get married.
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Now, Susie is way too hot for him to take seriously,
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and her and and the women that don't like you and aren't here to be honest with you will tell you
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that this guy is the bad guy but if he's the bad guy then we are equally the bad guy
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for not coming in as virgins we're not coming in pure and saving that for our husband
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and if you don't want to have that equality in that conversation
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then i think you're full of shit and you just like blaming men for everything
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so the women that don't like you will tell you to break up your marriage over this that you can do
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better men don't typically like divorced women and statistically most divorced women will not
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remarry these women are not your friends they are evil evil evil women should you know what
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Women can do whatever they want, but life is about choices and trade-offs.
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And the odds are, if there is a guy you like enough to marry and find attractive,
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Now, you might find your unicorn guy that doesn't understand how desired he is,
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as their source of a woman that did better.
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Sierra had a child with future and married Russell Wilson.
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truly and be honest if you look like sierra go off good luck i wish you well
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who's another one that they always mention sierra's the big one you know any others blessing
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yeah i can't there's more though i know there's more and so women that are evil
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and most women have some evil in them will tell you that he is the bad guy for cheating when
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the future guys the future is going to be rough 50 of women are not going to have kids and they're
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going to be single the men that we marry in 20 years will be hunted and approached the same way
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that women are approached today that is the future women and if you want the best of both worlds you
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want a guy you're attracted to and doesn't cheat good luck and you can tell that the older women
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are angry the older women are angry because they gave their best years to someone they loved more
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than their husband. And in order to confuse you, what they'll say, in order to confuse you, they'll
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say, don't put up with this. But the truth is, most of them would rather be with their cheating
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ex. And you can tell this in one way. They are still talking about him. It could be a decade
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later and they will still bring him up how toxic and awful he was they loved him the most and many
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of the men you see getting mad at me don't want to put up with the reality that they're their
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wife's second choice but i'll be the villain guys you know and this is the thing we can't have it
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all. To the 22-year-old virgins out there, you may be able to. There's a couple of you, I'm sure.
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But I'm living in 2024, and I'm not talking about exceptions. I'm talking about the rule.
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And the rule is most women, many women, will have to accept this.
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and the question is what have women done to deserve fidelity modern women have higher
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standards than ever we bring less to the table than ever what have we done to earn loyalty
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when we can't even bring we used to bring the loyalty up front we used to come in with wife
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skills now we have crazy you know there's crazy pasts right other men's children overweight what
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have we done to earn it women think that we are entitled to loyalty the other problem is many men
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are unloyal because their wives won't sleep with them i'm here to tell you that if your husband
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cheats and you haven't been sleeping with him i don't feel bad for you at all in fact i think
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other shit the other thing that many women don't understand
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for a man to get you to the point that you want to sleep with him
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that you want to be with him men have to learn that women men just want to sleep with us all the
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time i mean most women could go outside and say i think they did an experiment where women asked
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men if they wanted to have sex and like uh 90 said yes men have to learn how to arouse women
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and many times when men go through all of the steps of figuring that out
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it's very tough for them to put it away so you know my question to the women
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is do you think that modern women deserve loyalty what have we done to earn loyalty
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and my issue is not what women choose my issue is everybody getting so freaked out
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over non-monogamy now I understand when I first heard about it kind of freaked me out too but
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guys, we're already in it. What are situationships? What are cheating ex-boyfriends? It is
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non-monogamy. And, you know, it doesn't mean it's right or wrong. It's just the way the world is.
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And I can't change how the world is. Andrew Copeland, the truth shall set them free. The
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Thanks for all you guys do at the Audacity Network.
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Yeah, and that's what a lot of these TradCon women,
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I can't, she tweets so much, I'm not going to find it.
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if I think monogamy is right or wrong and these women have so much energy for the men
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they have so much anger towards the cheating men who say you know what I want more than one chick
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but there's never that same energy for women with promiscuous pasts now I'm not saying one's right
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or wrong either way what i'm saying is why why are the men shamed for not picking monogamy but
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the women are not shamed for not picking monogamy what percent of women truly chose monogamy one man
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for a lifetime what percent of women don't have a crazy ex-boyfriend what percent of women don't
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have other men's children. You know, if we're coming in with this baggage, why is it fair to shame
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the men for not picking monogamy? Oh, she's on, okay.
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hello I can't hear you your mic might be off or something is it on our side or
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hers oh it's us here just pull her off for a second while you fix it
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but i guess i'm the villain i guess i'm the villain for a lifetime guy i'll be the villain
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for asking the questions hey how are you i can hear you now oh great can you and i can hear you
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too so it's good so what do you think what do you what do you think about this conversation
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oh now i can hear you i think yeah i don't know i can't hear you oh she can't hear me
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Let me go back to the YouTube chat, and then I'm going to put, do modern women, and I'm
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So the question of the day is, do modern women deserve loyalty?
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I don't agree with everything you say, but I think that in some of these conversations
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that certain demographics are going to qualify for certain things, right? So personally,
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I think if you have a good black man that is a success, you know, he's a productive citizen of
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society, I feel like he goes overseas and he's doing business and then the woman chooses to
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leave him because he got a, you know, uh, oral happy time. Yeah. She's kind of evil to destroy
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her children's life because her provider husband decided to, you know, have a good time. In those
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incidences, I do think that it's ridiculous to break up an entire family because your husband,
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you know, had a, had a time at the end of the day, he's still a provider and women should kind
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pick and choose i think there has been a ridiculous uh message put out there that oh you know you're
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just going to go find another man that's going to provide for you like your previous husband
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and a lot of women are finding out that's just not reality so i do agree with you that women
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should be more in reality well i just think we can't have it all so pick your poison you know
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because if we if we find him attractive than other women do too we find 80 of men is unattractive so
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So if you're attracted to him, other women are going to find him attractive, too.
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What did you think about what I was saying about women?
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Like, why do women get so angry at men cheating when we don't come in with the purity that we're supposed to bring either?
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I think a lot of women don't want to admit that cheating goes both ways. There are some
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awful things happening to men as well in the infidelity world. And it does seem that a lot
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of times when we talk about infidelity, the women do want to be the victims when it comes to that.
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And so I do agree with you that women need to be a little bit honest and stop having this one-sided
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conversation where it's just the man, what are men doing wrong? Women, as you said, should take
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better care of their bodies. If you were a skinny looking model when he got with you, chances are
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if you blow up to 400 pounds and you're not doing some type of skincare regimen, he might wander.
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So those types of things, I agree with you. The conversation shouldn't be so one-sided. A lot of
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women are not taking responsibility for our own roles, especially when it comes to long-term
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relationships, like you said, taking care of your body, et cetera. Yeah. Well, and the other thing
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I noticed, I interviewed a lot of women who their parents, like the mother left the father for
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infidelity. And what I found was that the father would remarry, but the mother wouldn't. And so is
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in a better situation now is that is that better for her you know now that you probably can't find
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another man yeah that is willing to provide and i don't mean any disrespect the older women get
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you know that is true the older we get we start to lose our looks so once you've had three kids
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again you're not just going to go out there and find another provider maybe you shouldn't have
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left him because he cheated on you yeah so i do agree with you on that well um thank you for
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calling in you're welcome um yeah so guys put the link in the chat do modern women deserve loyalty
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did you um oh wait hold on let me put it in oh thank you blessing what a guy what a
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you know and the other question I have really I would say 90% of women weren't really raised to
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be wives. So why is it this topic is so demonized? You know, a guy can, is a guy hooking up with a
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stripper one time? Is that, is that worth ending your marriage? One, one time? Okay. Is it, is it
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a chick? It's for the girls. Okay, good. Hello. How are you? What's your, what's your name?
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My name's Samantha. My husband's been addicted to your podcast for the last
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so we've been listening to a lot of what you've been saying and he was like you
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should get on and talk to her so. Where are you guys at? Michigan. Oh nice
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Midwest okay. How long have you been married? Over two years and we did get
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married after only three weeks. Oh wow. That's awesome. So what do you think of
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the conversation? Do you think modern women deserve loyalty?
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no no i don't um a big part of that has to do with how we approach relationships as women nowadays
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um being someone who comes from i'm 30 i'll be 33 this year so i was in the full swing of online
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dating and i was lucky enough to meet my husband on facebook dating but it is not for the faint
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of heart and it's not dated what i was very lucky i will not say that that is something that would
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typically happen he's he's very different um we have a pretty we have as traditional of a marriage
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as we pretend like we possibly can um and then but yeah like with being like boss women and being
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the head of the household and wanting to make more money and just like constantly like looking down
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on the person that's supposed to be our partner that's supposed to be like our provider our
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protector it makes it very difficult to have a relationship with someone like that when you're
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constantly like it doesn't matter if you're here or not right like you could just if you're
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constantly telling like your husband that you don't or your your boyfriend that you'd still
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have this life even if they weren't here then there's no point in having that monogamy because
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that's a really big part of marriage is being there for each other and you both having your
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own unique roles within that marriage yeah well and my point too is that we're not coming in scat
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like scotch free yeah you know you know it's not it's not like yeah yeah it's like it's not like
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we're coming in perfect so but we have no grace for the men if they ever slip up you know it's
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not like we're coming in raised to be most of us will have to learn um do you feel like you've had
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to learn the last two years uh yes yes i did um i always grew up a little a little faith-based
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um with god but nothing too extreme um it's something that's a big part of our marriage
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and it was my husband was like you talked about it on another podcast where you will submit
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you know you have to submit everything to me um and that was very scary but it was very hard but
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it women look at it and i did too and then like when he asked me is that he was going to control
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me control everything control my life and that's what we get stuck on but at the end of the day
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it's not about controlling anything it's just about working together um so
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it was it was it was definitely a learning process because um i'd had a lot of serial
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relationships before i met my husband and he took a chance on me because i i had a lot of qualities
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of someone who wanted a more traditional life but just didn't know how to find it because
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there's not a lot of traditional people out there so i got lucky well thank you very much
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for calling in yeah absolutely i was like i hope she puts it in the chat yeah yeah of course um
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so the question is do modern women deserve loyalty
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is anyone is there guys this is for the ladies oh oh great amazing sometimes the guys call in
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i'm like no hi what's your name hi my name is rachel rachel where are you from uh rhode island
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in the u.s okay great what time is it there like what two uh it's about quarter past four oh shit
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it's later than i thought so what what is your opinion on the topic do you think modern women
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deserve loyalty i think loyalty is something that's earned um i think that it's probably
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different um between every couple that's out there um it's not something that should just be
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given but there has to be a dialogue between the two people as we don't always know
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you know like loyalty and respect go hand in hand so each relationship's different and
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we all know that the type of pillow talk that goes on between relationships
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is not what we actually share with our friends right so sometimes we twist the truth because
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maybe we're looking to get support because we're you know insecure in our own issues and since
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we're not always being openly honest i think that's kind of a a question in which you have
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to earn it i don't think anybody should be expected to have loyalty i think based on your relationship
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would then bring about the loyalty on how you communicate with each other
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what do you think about men that cheat if their wife isn't sleeping with them
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so again i think it goes back to each relationship has their own dynamics and i don't i don't not
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condoning cheating if you're not satisfied with the situation then you need to communicate that
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um he should have had a dialogue with his wife being like hey these are my needs and i think
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that's ultimately what happens is that people forget that each person has a need that needs
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to be met and if that's not happening then is it her fault well if she's not meeting the need and
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her husband's spoken to her about it and expressed it then it does fall more on her and i don't think
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people are ever truly honest about where their responsibilities lie in the relationship so i have
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a question why do you think because we i think we just know as women that men need sex so so why
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like why why is that something that he has to tell her when men have to go through all this trouble
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to figure out our needs before we get married like why do women have to be told that um i i don't
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think women should have to be told that but maybe we have to look at you know how are we raised um
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what was your mother's influence or your dad's influence or your grandmother's influenced i think
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one of the biggest things we tend to forget is that we as women become who we are based on our
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influences um especially because i think women are way we're way more emotional um and insecure
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in some of these things um so i i think that there just needs to be better communication
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and if a relationship whether it's a friendship or a marriage if they're not willing to communicate
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and be honest then that has to fall on themselves because if we're not being honest how can we
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expect them to meet our expectations and have that loyalty no because i i just disagree i guess
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because i i think that men go through all this trouble to figure out what we need and i i don't
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know if i think that like communication is going to make a wife that doesn't want to sleep with
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her husband sleep with her husband i think she either wants to or she doesn't i i haven't really
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seen men say that's like an overly effective method just in my experience
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okay you know i've been married to my husband for almost nine years and i can kind of understand
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your viewpoint on that where i feel as though he is always trying to meet my needs and then
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there's part of me where my conditioning and growing up in like a single family home with
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a mother not having a father that there's some issues where um i think because i lacked having
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a strong male figure in my life, that sometimes I struggle with actually meeting his needs.
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So I can see your point on that. I think a marriage, sex is part of a marriage. If people
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don't think sex is part of a marriage and having that intimacy, then there's a problem in what they
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expect marriage to be, which still could go back to communication. But that's just my viewpoint.
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i appreciate it check your dms i sent you a message thank you for having me on okay
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um one second blessing i'm just gonna see i think we got new i'm gonna check the chat
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urban rogers rodriguez thank you for the ten dollar super chat you know guys i wanted to
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do a show tomorrow but blessing said he's got plans can you believe it can you believe it
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one in the chat if we should do a show tomorrow too if they super chat five hundred dollars will
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come back yeah yeah five yeah five hundred bucks towards blessing salary
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it's rough out here guys i don't know what you want me to say
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um all right is there anyone else in there too or no
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you know and and this is just my question to the women i want to hear from the women
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You know, what are women doing to deserve this traditional treatment?
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So a couple stats that I wanted to bring up also.
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Oh, you know, Aaron Clary, in his book, A World Without Men,
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detailed the statistics of what percent of women have no debt, no tattoos, not overweight.
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I don't even think he had STD stats in there. Like, 90% of women get HPV,
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You know, and again, this isn't for the 22-year-old virgins from Virginia out there.
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This isn't for the 22-year-old women. This is for the majority of women.
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The majority of women that have debt, tattoos, and multiple sexual partners
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crying about loyalty. If you're a 22-year-old virgin chick,
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They don't disagree because they think what you say is true.
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if women are not bringing up loyalty up front how can we expect it from the men
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if women are not bringing loyalty up front how on earth do we expect it from the men
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you know because high value men are a very small percentage of men
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it's maybe 20 percent of men that women will fight to be with
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and there's nothing wrong with dating an average guy and an average salary and having an average
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life but the issue is more and more women want the top 10 20 percent of men in either looks or money
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I am not going to shame you guys for wanting what you want we are women we always that that is what
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we want but what I am pointing out is that we cannot have it all and I have interviewed so
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many women, I get messages where they want to, they think the grass will be greener on the other
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side. And occasionally it is. I'm not going to say that no woman ever leaves and doesn't do better.
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Some do. But my question is, what have women done to earn loyalty? What have women done to
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You deserve loyalty. Have we been loyal ourselves?
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I'll be the villain if that's what you want. I'll be the villain if that's what you need.
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need what oh someone's here oh it's on yeah all right all right i'll be the villain if that's
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what you want i'll be the villain if that's what you need i'll be the villain if that's
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what you gotta believe see what what have women done to earn loyalty oh no they said oh no in the
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chat all right um how was my last volleyball game my my last volleyball games in a week
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you know maybe women we could earn loyalty after we've been loyal for like 10 years
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maybe we have to like prove okay after a decade of of loyalty you know what what percent of women
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have been in a situationship what is that now now now we're requiring more from our husbands
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i've been drinking i have not been drinking oh my why does everyone say that
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i'm not a drinker freaking a blessing can you tell them you guys are completely right
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what the what the it's water why are you lying to the people
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tell the people the truth though it's water all right you know what don't donate for blessing
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salary keep the salary by yeah he deserves a pay cut for this
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oh send me the link there's a chick that wants the link
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joining the chat I'm going to kick you out
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volleyball leads to her drinking i don't drink freaking a i don't know i don't want to say i
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don't drink i rarely drink the last time i drank was the michael noles interview
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whatever whatever i mean if it wasn't i would own it you know what i mean i'm not
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i'll be the villain if that's what you want and this is what you get guys many men are in coping
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mode right now. They have done the most for their girlfriends, wives, whatever. And they
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don't realize, they don't realize their wife has not required that from someone in the
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past he said run bro is this chick coming ladies ladies what have we done to deserve loyalty
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also guys feel free to get the the audacity member the audacity network membership it's
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10 bucks a month help a chick out you know what i mean help a chick out
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that way we can maybe pay blessings someday not this month though
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not let's not get too carried away guys let's hit the super chats thank you
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no no no no no it's all right i mean he's he's been up to some craziness
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what have women done to deserve a full provider
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But what are we bringing that we deserve a provider?
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Women have told men the last hundred years we do not need them.
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And so the men said, okay, most women will not get to be housewives.
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Even, guys, virgins today, they're not the same as virgins yesterday.
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Many women are in the church and they brag about their virginity
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I have heard horror stories from men that married virgins.
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He met, Nala was a homeschooled pastor's daughter.
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it's another guy um his chick what did she do she she was like homeschooled he married her at like
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21 22 she ended up divorcing him and taking his kids and ruining his entire life it's just
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you know it just is what it is let me put this here maybe it'll stay
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What incentive do the top men have to giving us loyalty?
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All these chicks have had so much to say about me on X.
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someone put i don't even want to read that this is getting
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look i'm i'm not one to say like i'm not one to be that sensitive but i'm jesus christ sometimes
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bm baby mommy said she was gonna call in i'm waiting did she come in it's like
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they got themselves a sucker who does not know better
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These are typically men that are dorky, nerdy, nothing wrong with them, but typically these men, show the board over there, please do not know that they are the top men that women want to be with.
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They don't know, or maybe they're close, and someday they'll get there.
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many women got themselves a sucker and they have no idea that their chick is not the traditional
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chick that she says she is and they're mad at me for exposing the fact that
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truly we're going to go off of deserves women only deserve loyalty if we brought the loyalty
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up front. Did we do that? Ladies? Did we? Pearl, were you bullied by girls? I was
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bullied by my siblings. Some of you weren't bullied and it showed I get bullied by the
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whole internet. Whatever. It is what it is. Seriously, what have we done to deserve loyalty?
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Women are compromising on our mating strategy when we get married, right?
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We could just keep going for better and better guys and we said, you know what, we're going to
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stop. Men compromise in their mating strategy because they don't sleep with a bunch of chicks,
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but women are supposed to bring the loyalty up front in exchange for the loyalty for a lifetime.
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So again, what have we done to deserve loyalty?
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You maybe give him two years, three years of loyalty up front, four years, five.
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would make more sense than the entitlement we have today. Now, again, I'm not saying
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they should or they shouldn't. I don't care. People can do what they want. But I'm just
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so you know i'm okay having an early night are you okay having an early night blessing
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blessing says he's got people to do people to see sorry things to do
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all right i'm gonna give you guys uh like another minute or two which is fine i'll just go home
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early i'd call in but i have to show face sorry i i have to do face i have to do cameras on
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blessing is practically on strike are you on strike blessing
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Pearl are you angry that short girls take tall guys
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can you hear me um I can hear her I can't see her hello how are you I'm good how are you where
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are you at uh I'm in my room I'm in California oh California okay what do you think about the
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topic what have women done to deserve loyalty okay so in my opinion when you get into a
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relationship loyalty is kind of like bare minimum it's not even about loyalty it's kind of about
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trust like if i'm if a man is like hey like you're not enough for me i want to see multiple women
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because you don't do this this and this for me right then i think that's a fair exchange because
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she knows what she's signing up for but if you sneak behind her back as a man and you break her
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trust then she kind of loses respect for you and that's like a recipe for disaster right but but
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But if women aren't leaving those men, if they typically stay with men that cheat and are picking men that cheat, when does it become the woman's fault for picking them?
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I mean, yeah, well, you kind of have to be psychic at that point.
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Well, I would say it's pretty obvious, like many men or many women go for men with status.
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For example, they might date, out here, I've heard women get surprised they're cheated on by a rapper, a club promoter.
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I don't think most women date rappers, though, right? Like regular women?
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I would say it's more common. It's not always a rapper, but it's someone high status in their circle.
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I would say in the part of London I'm in, I've heard that answer a lot.
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yeah but i think the whole cheating thing i don't think there's anything wrong with a man wanting
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to date other women but i think the problem is when he lies to his woman goes behind her back
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and breaks her trust then i think she loses respect for him she's like oh he's scared of
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me why couldn't he just tell me the truth is he scared that i'm gonna blow up on him or leave him
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you know i would say yeah because because women can't handle the truth
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yeah but like at this point it's like what woman do you know that hasn't been cheated on it's like
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you think you're special like he's not going to cheat on you like Beyonce got cheated on like
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you think you're not going to get cheated on it's kind of like that so so what do you think
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women do have done as a group to earn loyalty
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earn loyalty um if you're talking about earning then yeah that's that's like
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i never thought loyalty in a real in a relationship it's a little bit different
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because it's always kind of like oh like we get together we get married and we're supposed to stay
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together you know it's kind of like the standard it's not like oh i you have to prove this to me
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and i have to prove this to you to get this you know well i that's always what i thought you have
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to earn a relationship don't you um it depends because some well back in the day a lot of
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marriages were arranged so right but i'm not talking about back in the day i'm talking about
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today you you have to bring something in order to be in a relationship right well yeah for the
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relationship to even start to begin with at that point so my question is what are women doing to
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earn that loyalty yeah i can't give you an answer on that okay but at the same time i've heard you
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like talk about like women want to date like this percentage of men so if you look at men like
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regular dudes what are you could say the same thing about them because like they're not bringing
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in this crazy income or this crazy like providing you talk about like what can an average man
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provide for average women that she has to prove something to him well you see what i'm saying
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well i would say that women don't want average men so if you look at the number one way people
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are meeting is on dating apps and and women are statistically sharing men because they only swipe
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right between five and twenty percent of the time yeah but that's not very realistic either so like
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how can most of the women are going to end up single because like if there's only a certain
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percentage of men you can't yeah that's what you talk about that you share them whether you like
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it or not because not there is no man majority walking around like that with all this money and
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all like you know above average looks and all this stuff yeah that's my point is that we're
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sharing the men that we're picking like that that's my whole point but like i'm i'm saying
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most for like regular people who end up with regular people like what um if if most women
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like you said have debt stds and all this stuff like i'm pretty sure most regular men come with
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a lot of baggage as well so it's like two people with a bunch of baggage are coming together and
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like right that's why the difference is if men have baggage they know it
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they know women will not pick them women do not select men with baggage
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women love being cheated on so I'm not going to go down
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so yeah your original question was uh do modern women deserve loyalty yeah what do they did to
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earn loyalty and yeah if you're talking about earning then yeah i i don't i think most people
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don't haven't don't deserve much now because like you if you can't admit that something is wrong
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with you then you know how can you fix that and move on and deserve better for yourself
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all right carl thanks for having me all right bye-bye
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