Pearl - March 04, 2024Do Modern Women Want A Wedding Or To Be A Wife？ @thedatinggamewithtroyfrancis ｜ Pearl Daily
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Summary
On today's show, we have a special guest, Troy Francis, a world-renowned dating coach who has coached men all over the world and has been in the game for over 10 years. She is a certified dating coach in the trenches, at the cutting edge of the modern international dating scene, and has seen it all around the world.
Transcript
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What up guys? Welcome to the Just Pearly Things YouTube channel and welcome to Pearl Daily.
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You know, there's been some rumors going around about me and my job status, you know, a lot
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of accusations and recently you know I was let go you know I was I was let go
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I was you know by a certain company I won't say who but you know that doesn't
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matter I'm on the market for a new job everybody I'm looking to be a diversity
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and inclusion specialist. So please, if you guys are hiring at your company, I can cry about being
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a woman all day. Watch, watch, watch. Ah, my oppression. Ah, the patriarchy. I would be
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amazing at it. So don't worry, guys. You know, let me know where I can apply. Yes, I'm owed 32
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million. I know I couldn't believe it. I couldn't believe it. But anyways, you know, today we have
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quite the story but i wanted to give you guys an announcement first we just had grant cardone on
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today his team messaged me very last minute said can we come on in like two hours well i dm'd him
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first they responded right blessing put together put together the set right blessing of course
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you gotta you're gonna show the kitchen cam nah nah why not i mean they gotta send the
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you're all rizzed out today um anyways so that'll probably be released next week
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no i don't know what that oh no i don't know what that is no no ah where how did that get there what
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the hell no no no no it's it's um anyways i'm on him i'm unemployed i don't know where that came
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from that's super crazy super crazy anyways um so today so next week oh wait no so this week
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I'm sorry, I can talk, guys. Tomorrow, I'm going to have a show. I am gone from Wednesday until
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Sunday. I may have some collaborations the week after. I don't completely know my schedule,
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but we're going to be doing call-in shows on the road. Wait for me to post when I'm going to do it,
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but it'll be at the same time, so stay tuned for that. I'm excited to talk to you all,
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meet you all, etc. So before we get to the treachery, debauchery, and craziness today,
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We have a special guest. Welcome, Troy Francis.
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Thank you very much for having me, Pearl. As always, great to be here.
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Great to have you. Troy Francis is a world-renowned dating coach with over 10 years in the game.
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Absolutely, man, in the trenches, at the cutting edge, the rock face of the modern international dating scene.
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And you've seen it all around the world. You've been to Eastern Europe. You've been to New York.
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i do one-on-one coaching we i've taught guys all over the planet from you know columbia to russia
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to uh well ukraine prior to the current situation to you know all over europe i mean london all over
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the place and let me tell you it's a shit show everywhere quite frankly people think it's better
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people think it's going to be better in one place and it kind of yeah there's certain good things
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but yeah it's it's it's all the shit okay where are the women the worst like if you had to pick
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one country to never date from where would you pick london or the usa dang it ladies we got to
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step up our game we're driving didn't you get like pushback for having an american accent
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recently oh yeah yeah why do you have to rub it in sorry a couple of months ago yeah yeah i think
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i think like to be fair i think the anglosphere is pretty is pretty brutal when it comes to dating
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yeah i think you know the countries that are a little bit more traditional still like the
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Latin American countries, some of the Eastern European countries, you know, guys tend to have
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a bit of a better time of it in those places. But as you know, even those places, it's becoming much
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more westernized now. Well, I'm so glad you're here because as a dating coach, we need your
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expert opinion on a couple stories we have today. I want you to be completely uncensored.
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Don't hold back. Just let me know if this woman went wrong or not. Okay. Okay. So let me put this
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girl on the screen all right a woman accused of sending a man more than a hundred and fifty nine
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thousand text messages and breaking into his paradise valley home wants her case to go to
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trial believing a jury will find her innocent while also ordering her and the man she's accused
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of stalking to wed oh she what she thinks that the jury's gonna i'll read it again don't worry
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A woman accused of sending a man more than 159,000 text messages and breaking into his Paradise Valley home wants her case to go to trial.
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Believing a jury will find her innocent while also ordering her and the man she's accused of stalking to wed.
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oh man i mean i could i could see if i could get her her number for you no i i would not after that
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especially i know her eyes look her eyes look crazy i mean immediately can't you just look at
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her there's something very crazy about her eyes in that shot and and look she seems like a nice
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girl well you know she made her she made an effort 159 000 texts i mean you can't say she wasn't
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yeah some of you guys can't even get a call back i know yeah yeah so actually yeah i suppose on
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on that score but um i mean to me this is an example of extremely bad girl game okay because
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i think we've i think we've talked about this before but women need to understand that
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if they're too needy particularly if the guys some has some value right and some options in
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the dating market he's just not gonna fly with that right it's it's too much okay it's the same
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thing that we would tell guys as far as women are concerned if you're just blowing up their phone
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continually then he's he's just gonna think he's gonna lose attraction for you that's the reality
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what's what's too needy a hundred thousand texts is that all right i mean 95 000 i reckon
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but i was uh i was in a situation a while back with you know with with somebody and they and
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they were really blowing up my phone and it just becomes stressful in the end you know you open
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your phone it's like you know there's like paragraphs and paragraphs like jesus christ you
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you know and it just it it really raises it to read alert level of like is this person actually
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sane you know what were the paragraphs about um it just just stuff just stuff about what was
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happening in her life and you know and some stuff about me and the relationship where she wanted it
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to go but a lot of just random you know and it's sort of like if you're if you're in a relationship
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with somebody then and it's a proper established relationship that okay yeah it might be like
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during the day you send a message and say hey this happened at work or that
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happened and you know what do you think I should do or how do I feel about it
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that's okay but if you're sending somebody and you're not even you're
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still in those early stages and you're sending them a shitload of just like
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nonsense and expecting them to respond that's just just too much I could see
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that maybe maybe 50,000 yeah it's okay I mean I think look the better the
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reality is like, and I've, I've seen, um, I've seen like Instagram accounts, training women,
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you know, coaching women, how to be like femme fatales and all that kind of stuff. And basically
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what they say is like, you've got to be more mysterious. It's the old sort of like pulling,
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it's the really pulling back the other way. So he chases you. And I think there is something to be
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said for that. Cause you know, guys, we are particularly guys who've got some options.
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We are very similar to, to women in the sense that what you can't quite get, you want, you want
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more you know what i mean so 159 so what about what about the 90 day rule what's that like don't
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don't you mean not sleep with it yeah yeah 90 day rule uh no that's holding back though that's
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like not that not holding back on the same no no no she needs no first date man first day she
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needs to give it up um no i mean she could hold back like i would say maybe second date uh third
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date maximum but i think that look he's also and again if we're talking a guy with some options
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he's also gonna there's gonna be other possibilities out there right in the end
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he's just gonna be like well what am i you know like what am i even in this for yeah you know
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i mean nobody's gonna nobody in their right mind is gonna wait for 90 days
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i just like what it blows my mind if any guy out there would do that but well these were the
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comments she made by in a recent phone interview with the arizona republic
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county jail where she's been held since may 2018.
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yeah i mean we're good we wanted equality here it is
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well she said i just think it's ridiculous i can't believe that it
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turned into this i can't believe i'm actually in jail
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over some text messages should she be jailed yes well she should be institutionalized i mean she's
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clearly insane you can't send someone that number of text messages and like walk the streets a free
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woman i mean she's clearly not so you know yeah i think um i think it was right that the authorities
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intervened she maintained that her threats against the man's life were jokes and that she would never
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act on it she said the man responded to her text for three months but stopped after she
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sent the threats at aid aids said she threatened the man after a fight with her mother and turned
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the anger out on him i mean that wow yeah so that's probably actually why she's inside right
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because because she if she made like physical threats i mean i mean yeah should we let her
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wait there put her face back up what if okay wait wait oh wait put it down put it down actually i'm
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gonna i'm gonna show you a different hold on i'm gonna pull something else up and i want to see if
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your answer changes hold on hold on hold on hold on you know because you know a lot of times we'll
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talk about where is this we'll talk about these women and all this stuff oh this is what i was
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looking for ha ha ha now what if but what if this girl just looked a little bit different okay what
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if should she be free wait if she oh my gosh where is it
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if she looked i'm gonna use this one no i mean don't pull it up yet
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Because, you know, some people say there's a such thing
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um yeah she because she'd kind of had that sexy femme fatale thing it's a bit like you know do
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you remember when there was that do you remember what there's those amanda knox case you remember
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amanda knox and there's a whole case about she was and all of that and i remember at the time
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there was a lot of conversation between guys of like would you like even if there was the danger
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of being like you know potentially murdered you know would you and there's a lot of surprising
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number of guys were like yeah okay so if she had murdered a different guy yeah would you
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i mean it would be a great way to go you know what i mean like we're all gonna like we're all
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gonna have to go sometime you know so if the option is all right she's gonna potentially
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just like you know ice pick me or something at the end then yeah i mean why not um no i think
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i get it i understand you can you can take it off you can take it off free free jacqueline
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i think you know i do think in all seriousness though even if the woman is is quite attractive
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i think that you should she should still pull back on the fucking mental texting because it does it
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does put you off i mean like i also years ago i had a girlfriend and she was attractive like she
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was she was good looking there was there was nothing you know on the surface but because
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she was too keen it sort of put me off a bit yeah what is what is too keen can you draw the line
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exactly how many texts are can we send like what's the what's the maximum until you're like you are
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crazy well the big no-no is double texting and triple texting i think that's never triple i think
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that is the big thing like i i would say a few times a day i don't really like the whole for
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either gender the whole like good morning text good night text in general i think it's a bit
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predictable whatever but i think a few times a day you know you can like and a little bit of banter
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you know maybe in the morning there may be something else a little bit later on in the day
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that's fine i think the big problem is you know you're sending something you're like oh this
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happened with my dog and then this happened and blah blah blah and he doesn't respond and then
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you send another load of paragraphs later and then another load of paragraphs how long are
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these paragraphs can you can you well i mean like you know on whatsapp like sometimes like that like
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that long sometimes or like and then another one like that underneath you know i mean but we need
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attention it's like what yeah but it's like it's like don't you don't want us to go to instagram
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i mean i don't know it's just for me for me i i'm kind of a weird case because on this on
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theoretically you would say okay there's a really hot girl the more attention she gives the guy
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the better and that's true but there is i think there's just some kind of human instinct that
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kind of yeah if we think we can get it too easily then we we just lose that interest and remember
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as well the old saying you know you see a beautiful woman there's somewhere some somewhere
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out there some guy's tired of her do you know what i mean so even that girl that you even that
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girl that we had you had up before yeah you know yeah she's really hard she's attractive whatever
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there's going to be some guy out there who's just like oh my god yeah you know what i mean so well
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I need your expertise on another one okay we have another case for you here
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right I just need I need your expertise have you heard of the Omelay concert
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girl I don't think so okay so there is that we went over this last show but
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there's been an update okay so there is a woman that went to a concert with her
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carry on and then she was put on stage and she was I'll show you okay pull it
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are you sure this isn't this is not appropriate with your boyfriend right
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there this is not appropriate behavior no the boyfriend basically should just
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leave it should just leave now right I just never I just block her well what's
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she doing wrong she's engaging in a sexually explicit manner with somebody
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Anyways, so she, I don't know if the boyfriend's in this clip,
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but she really wanted to come out and she, like, issued an apology.
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And I want to know what you think of this explanation.
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And I just want to see, what do you, you know, would you,
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all right, so let's just say you're dating this girl, this happens.
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Would you be interested in hearing what she had to say?
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i think he should like i think basically as soon as that started to transpire he should just like
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right i just i'm gonna you know just get out the venue block delete you know whatever because i
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think it was disrespectful that you know well let's hear what she has to say anyway we're gonna watch
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anyway um so there was an update i saw this i couldn't believe it all right pull it up so this
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was the concert girl nice sweater nice you know good looking girl let's go but you were with
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somebody now this is the question on everybody's minds girl who is this man were you in a committed
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and defined relationship with him um yes he was in a committed relationship how long were you
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together for just under a year so going to a year and when you say you were in a defined relationship
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just so that everybody's aware he was your boyfriend and you were his girlfriend yes yes
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okay perfect so you mentioned in your apology video which we're going to get back to you that
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you're a die-hard fan of omelette so i think my question here is was this a date night was this
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planned was this who bought the tickets why were you guys there together can you kind of talk us
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through what happened the journey of that um so i'm a huge emily fan i've been a fan since
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he even started like music so I really really like his music so I've always
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wanted to go to this concert I was gonna see him I think this was last year but
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he cancelled that show so other I have got to go to an extra like 100% so when
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he said that he was coming London I just bought a ticket and I thought I'd bring
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my boyfriend because he was going through a hard time himself
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yeah so does this so first thing said she bought the tickets is this is this acceptable though
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no i don't i don't think that makes any difference wait wait let's see let's see
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there's obviously going to be more true yeah yeah there's going to be just okay yeah why did you
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obviously the woman is talking so and so i just thought yeah i just just gave him
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favorite eyes favorite person so i just thought yeah did you think i might get called on stage
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did that ever did that run through your mind i've always wanted to go on stage with omelette like
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i don't think there's any other artist that i'd even go on stage like with so me and him we've
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had this conversation like days before the concert if i was to get called on stage like
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would you be fine with that and he said yeah like that that's fine he's been okay with it yeah
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ah okay well that kind of changes the narrative so we've seen from the video so does that actually
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changed the narrative well maybe but i don't think he should have said he was okay with it
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i think he should have said look we're in a relationship if you get called on stage
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you should politely decline out of respect for me i think that it's kind of cucked energy on his part
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well andy i mean you could go on stage and not hump him well that's true that's true i mean
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watching this for the girls well does that have surfaced online that you were very excited to go
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on stage and now that you've revealed to us that he was okay with it you going on stage was it
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something that you just told him or did you guys discuss it prior we discussed it prior obviously
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but he didn't know that i'd get picked to go on stage so um when i pointed at me obviously in
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the video you can see like i was really really excited which i was and he was encouraging me
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to go like he even said yeah like go that's why i went in the first place there is a point in
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the video where it looks as though he's holding on to you and saying well obviously we don't know
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what he was saying but it does look like he was a bit reluctant to let you go on stage is is that
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fair for us to say um not really just because he was holding me the entire show i think she's lying
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you have to see that so that's why it looked like he didn't want me to go but he was fine with it
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and there was a point where i was like stood next to him and everyone thought like i moved away from
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him but i was stood there because i was waiting for the security to get me out of the crowd
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okay okay well that was the clip so did it change anything well i mean oh you think it does
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i i think that the guy should have laid down the law i think the guy should be like look
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you know i'm i'm happy you're a fan we're going to see the concert if he calls you on stage i'm
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not comfortable with that because like we're in a relationship and that would be kind of
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disrespectful to the relationship i think he should have made that clear having said that i
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suppose he didn't say that he did say she could go on stage so you know he should stay with her
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um i think that given the nature of you know how it was on the stage when she did go on the stage
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i think it was kind of like this ritual humiliation i think yeah i think he should like
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just you know pack his bags and take the l well just you know there's this you know it's really
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a w because it's a red flag so it seems like a massive red flag and she seems like she's trying
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she's being all like trying to be all innocent now wearing that nice jumper and being all like
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sort of contrite and everything but she was being very like her movements obviously very sexualized
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and everything like that i mean you know it's um it's the it's the age-old question isn't it it's
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It's like if couples will often talk or this often comes up,
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like it's like, oh, if X celebrity, you know, came into play,
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No, because like it's like just because somebody's famous,
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I think the guy should, you know, she exercises that,
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she does that, then the guy should be out.
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um what if it's like like if he screws rihanna uh no that's fine
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but it's slightly well it's slightly different i mean i get the points to us but it's slightly
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different because obviously men are less attracted by yeah fame and status so for me personally i
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if it was rihanna specifically i'm not i don't particularly find rihanna that attractive so
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i probably wouldn't it wouldn't be just her celebrity status would sort of draw me in whereas
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i think with women it's much more that's a big part of it if that makes sense what of the bride
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one do you want to do the men crying as a red flag or the bride ick first um well maybe the um
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maybe the uh men crying is a red flag one okay guys so apparently well i'm really glad we got
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the answer today troy i'm really glad you know we we figured this out together so don't send 159
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000 texts yeah don't send 159 000 texts for god's sake okay well don't threaten to kill the person
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even if your mum's ill or whatever and okay so next you know why don't you tell me i actually
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didn't even watch it so why don't you tell me about the next segment so i've this has been
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being talked about a little in a few videos online recently basically there's this issue about if a
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guy gets married right should he cry at the at the wedding or is it or rather is it a good thing or
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a bad thing if he cries at the wedding and women are saying some women are saying yes he should
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because he's kind of cute and others are saying no he shouldn't because it's weak and it gives me
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the ick so it's like which is right which is which is wrong and then um you know it's like there's
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this contradiction of females who are like sort of like oh yeah he's you know on the one hand i
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want him to be like strong and like stoic and so he'd never do that but on the other hand
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why isn't he i'm insulted at the same time yeah well let's play the video blessing
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this one right yeah it's kind of a reaction to a reaction but anyway a red flag that's
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not talked about enough is men who boo who cry at their weddings just when i thought
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the internet couldn't get any more toxic there's more why are you crying that hard
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like all that tells me is that you did some sheisty stuff during the whole relationship
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and you literally cannot believe that this girl is still choosing to marry you that so men can
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only cry tears of guilt at their wedding now instead of tears of joy is that for real and if
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a man is actually crying at her wedding that means that he's done something sketchy or inappropriate
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or he's probably cheating on her or whatever she considers sheisty shit like i'm just thinking
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about it imagine being her man at the altar and you're standing there like please don't cry too
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much please don't cry too much she's gonna get the ick if i cry too much like i don't want to
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boohoo cry just i just need to cry a little bit because if i over cry she's gonna think it's a red
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flag like what men literally can't win they're told all the time to show emotion and they show
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emotion women come on the internet and say ridiculous what can we do like it's a red flag
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and he feels guilty and not joy at his own wedding and just imagine for a moment that men made videos
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saying that women can't cry at their proposals or at their weddings because they're cheating
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or they're doing something inappropriate this whole video is giving i don't know how to choose
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men properly and men have never cried over me so i'm jealous about the men that cry over their
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women because i've never experienced it myself this video is giving unhealed trauma and projection
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and somebody that doesn't know how to have any type of emotional intelligence and doesn't even
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want partners that have emotional intelligence but not only that it also makes me feel like i need
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the dude that writes down the x um when he sees videos like this and this needs to be added but
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also additionally it's making me feel like i need to stay off the internet from now on because this
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is just outlandish what this lady has done is she has taken the way that she perceives her emotions
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and the reasons why she cries like her response to crying there's a cause and effect the cause
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may be she's guilty the effect is she's crying right let's just say that so to speak so she's
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projecting projecting that on him when in reality the man is just crying because he's so happy that
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He found a woman out here. That's not a thought.
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We don't know where the good women are, bro.
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It's been so long. I cannot believe I found one.
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All these holes out here, all these 304s, I actually found a good one.
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that's what it is it's tears of joy bro it's tears that if you didn't find her you probably
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never got married because all the ones that advertise themselves is 304s now there's a lot
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of good women out here but they hidden they're not in the open you don't know where they are
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that's tears of joy man so what's your take uh well firstly i think the original video i think
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that's a great example of what you might call toxic femininity right because basically like
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Like she's like even something that is on the surface of it kind of quite,
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you could consider quite nice in a way, you know,
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he's so emotional because he's, he's, ah, this is a special day, blah, blah, blah.
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I'm not saying I think this necessarily, but you might interpret it that way.
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She's just immediately finding an ulterior motive. Oh, he must've cheated.
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And again, it's just blaming men for everything, isn't it? It's like,
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oh, he must've cheated. He must've done something bad.
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He's done some shiesty stuff, whatever she said, you know?
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and it's like sort of and it like one of those got pete commentators said it's almost like
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projection like she's seeing like guilt when it doesn't exist so that's the first thing secondly
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should men actually cry at their wedding i don't like man i i i personally think men shouldn't cry
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in certainly in public i think you should like have that you know you should you should have
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that stoic kind of like you should you should hold it back a little bit you know what i'm saying
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yeah i wouldn't recommend it because i just even even if you're nice about it like as a girl you
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still feel a certain way about it do you think so do you i mean do you think so there's a there's
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another video where this woman talks about getting the ick from it or or not getting the ick but
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like but it so on the surface of it though right you can see the argument it should be like for
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the guy's point of view it's like oh but i love you so much you found the love of my life blah
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blah blah i'm feeling this emotion so i'm crying a little bit so but a woman theoretically should
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interpret that as being oh this is great because he really loves me so much but do you think
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genuinely a lot of women are going to be like uh well i would never i don't unless you're in toxic
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relationships constantly i don't think people would interpret it as you did something wrong
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but i just i i think generally when we see men cry we're not attracted to it yeah not saying one
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cry will make us it's not gonna he's not gonna write off the whole thing yeah but but you know
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when you make it a a pattern i guess well it's interesting because i i messaged somebody about
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this earlier and i said what so what do you think do you think men should cry or not she said first
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she said oh no i think it's cute it's good to nice to show a bit of emotion and stuff and then i i
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went back and i said yeah well i'd be crying as well i mean imagine all the money you've spent
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you know like basically just throwing your life away of course you're gonna be crying
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and she came back and she sort of said lol something and then she and then she said
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actually what i would like would be to see not him fully cry but his eyes glossed over a little
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bit like he might be crying but he that you know what i mean and then it's that nuance isn't it
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yeah but the idea is that he's i mean when the guys are weeping you're kind of like
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i don't i i mean i mean like a little t but when they're they're full on it it seems a little bit
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i mean yeah i don't know it seems a i mean i think you know there are certain things death
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of a parent whatever there are certain things obviously a man's gonna gonna gonna have that
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those moments in private but i mean getting married i don't know it's not because you
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wouldn't have feelings about it but is it something to cry about i'm not sure i saw
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someone cry at their third wedding and i'm like why are you crying this is the third time around
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i'm not trying to be rude but i'm like i mean by now it's just like a formality isn't it really
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where do i sign the thing okay fine let's go and have the party you know there's um there's another
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bride that weighed in too so this one yeah the uh the home ass one i think is yeah this one is
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i'm about to walk down the aisle if he's crying there's a chance i get the ick but if he's not
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crying i'm gonna be like why aren't you crying it's the happiest day of your life it's not
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uncommon for a woman to experience competing ics in economics we call this a conflict a conflict
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occurs when you demonstrate that you are affected by a situation but also you are icky if you do not
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do something to demonstrate that you are affected by the same situation in this case a man and a
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woman are to be wed and if he does not cry then that is not strong enough of a display of emotion
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and if he does cry then that is too sensitive to the very same emotion this man has worked his
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entire life to have something to offer this woman for her hand in marriage and there are only two
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choices and both of them are icks there you go in the case of such a conflict the woman should be
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considered unsalvageable as long as both of the icks are degree four or worse
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you cannot build your tent but you also do not want to sleep outside because of icky bugs it's
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okay for her to not like that but in this case i would place crying and not crying as being here
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well so uh first off i'd say like that guy uh homath i think is a genius he's got some really
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really really funny videos and that's a great break but it's like the way she shot that video
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at the beginning i think she was obviously it seemed like she was joking a little bit but it
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It is highlighting a real thing about female nature,
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and I can think of other examples of this as well.
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But then if he doesn't do it, why aren't you doing it?
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And it does feel a lot of the time men can't win.
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you know i think it's just part of the whole dating culture that we have where people women
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in particular have so much choice that it's like he does one little thing wrong you know like
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somebody was telling me about this girl who dated this guy a few times and then he couldn't use the
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correct cutlery or something at dinner and she got the ick and then got rid of him you know
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stuff like that huh for not cutting something right no not using the correct knife and fork
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in the restaurant or something like that you know i don't think i could do it right well
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you get there's multiple forks one for the plate no you know you know this is when you do your
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etiquette course you know when you've got a different you know no i totally know yeah
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but you know so but so something as simple as that and then he you know he gets disqualified
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for that it's just like there's too much choice out there so what are male x like we don't have
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well like 159 000 text messages is a mailing the males have no x yeah what's the most annoying
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thing that women do do men do men have x i don't think men have x in the same way that women do
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to be honest um is there something she could do i think it to be honest it you know i think men are
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very simple creatures i think it comes down to is she hot is she attractive is she into me you know
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is she pleasant to be around i think that i think those are the key things really and i think men
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will overlook a lot yeah but maybe women wouldn't you know i do have a story though my friend james
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told me when um he went on a date with this woman and um they were playing the question game on the
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date like i asked one question and then you have to answer and she you know vice versa and her first
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question to him was okay what was your bottom line last year like what did you make last year
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and he basically just like just why would you ask that's so rude i know yeah yeah and so he
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basically just got up and like paid the bill and just walked out and he's like all right sod this
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so i guess you could sort of say that was a dick because it was so it was kind of kind of masculine
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and so on the nose and so like in your face you know what i'm saying it's so so but but i think
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it also depends on how many options the dude's got as well because if the guy's not got many options
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yeah then he's going to put up with a lot of like female rudeness and impoliteness and her being
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cocky and whatever and he's just going to take it because you know if he's only getting one day every
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three months then what are you going to do one day wow every three months well i mean you know
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i mean i know guys you know it's kind of crazy i mean some of the guys we we've coached i mean
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i've coached guys you know decent looking they seem to have stuff together and they're going
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through these dry spells like you know like six months and stuff really not getting anything how
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do you how do you get them out of it well i mean a lot of the time it's not what people necessarily
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think it's not because of their looks or their you know money and those external things so much
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a lot of the time it's more to do with the fact that they're not good conversationally they're
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not able to like bring out emotion in her they're not able to create desire in her you know what i'm
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saying it's it's very flat it's very boring it's very logical and the girls just sit there like
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yeah whatever okay fine you know they're not you know how would you create emotion
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no they need to they need to lead into that bad boy energy a little bit you know what i mean you
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you know how women are always banging on about like oh i like the bad boy i like you know like
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so i think a lot of guys will come across uh particularly people who are like um say their
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work is a bit more logical or they they work in coding or computing or data those kinds of things
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yeah and then it's very much like okay so how do i snap out of that how do i become this guy who's
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a little bit more edgy he's got a little bit more sort of just he's not this predictable super boring
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kind of dude you know what i'm saying and that's what we try to teach people but it's not a like
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necessarily like an easy process it's about sort of firstly it's about understanding the dynamics
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that's the first thing because a lot of guys don't even understand the dynamic they think oh going on
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a date with a woman it's just like a networking event or it's just like interviewing for a job
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so the first thing to understand is it's fundamentally different because women operate
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on emotion not on logic and then the next thing is like right okay so how can i become a bit more
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of that kind of guy who's so how would you do that off the bat what do you mean like like how would
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you how would you get the emotions spiking in the beginning you got what you got you got to be
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flirtatious you got to bring some kind of like kind of um sexualized element i'm not in a crude
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way but you've got that there's got to be the undertone to it you know so throwing a bit of
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flirtiness you know bringing in the odd line here and there what what i would often do is like derail
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the conversation so often women will talk about like boring for a you know a long period of time
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you know she'll talk about a job or something like that and you want to suddenly turn it around and
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go oh you look great in that dress or just something or or or make some slightly mildly
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like sexualized comment or something to remind her to bring it back to the fact that this is
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man to woman this isn't just we're not just here to have a like a business meeting you know what
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i'm saying yeah and that makes sense so um and i think guys generally can be too boring they can
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be too predictable you know she wants to feel emotions that's the thing i said my the more i
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i've studied this stuff the more it seems to me that women are so driven by emotion and we've got
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all of these competing dopamine sources you know like netflix and tick tock and everything else
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and it's like they need the guy to bring that energy certainly the younger women certainly
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certainly the women whom i mean certainly the women who are more sought after you know they've
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also got a lot of options it's like why is she going to pick you over this other dude over here
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yeah i want you to just just if you think about as well if you think about some of the
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like famous characters in the in the space in the manosphere who've got that if you think about
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someone like the you know the tates or if you even maybe myron or something like that they've they've
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got okay they've got some of the external trappings of you know some success they got
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some wealth they've got you know whatever uh decent looking in shape etc they're they're
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ticking those boxes but there's clearly more to it than that right yeah it's that character thing
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isn't it it's that it's that dominance is that male sort of energy that they'll bring to bear
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on the on the on the on the table and you can imagine with people like andrew and tristan how
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even before they were as wealthy as they are who they are now they would still be getting action
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because of the way they are because of the way they come across you know well and it's it's being
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and girls type too i would think i think yeah i also no i think that's true i think you're
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you're never gonna get every girl yeah that's the reality like there are some women that they
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they say they divide into yes girls no girls or maybe girls you know and most of them i agree with
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that you know what i'm saying like like probably for most of us probably most most girls that
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they're probably no girls you know you're just not her type she's not gonna be into you for
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whatever reason yeah you know and there's not really anything you can do about that
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then sometimes you get yes girls who they just like how you look they like how you come across
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they like your vibe they're into it you can still you can still up with those girls though so you
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need to then the game becomes not messing up have you ever had a really big up where you thought
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the girl was a sure thing and then i mean in the past yeah i mean obviously never now
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but uh i'll tell you in a second but then obviously then you've just got that sector
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in the middle of the the maybe girls who like yeah he's okay you know he could be all right
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but i'm not sure yet and those are the ones you need to kind of you know finesse a little bit but
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i mean i remember one time this is where the conversation skills come in and this is where the
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you know being able to lead the you know and bring that energy to the to the party really comes in
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i went to a party once and this girl as soon as i walked in the room i see this girl she kind of
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looked at me and you can you know sometimes you can just tell somebody looks at you look at them
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you could just tell there was i could tell there was some kind of interest there right and people
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will you know be cat oh he's capping or whatever but i could you know i could just tell there was
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like you know so i go over and we start talking blah blah we get seated next to each other at
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the table now for whatever reason on that particular day my energy was low i was tired
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my riz you know the riz wasn't there it wasn't flowing and the i was sort of trying to talk to
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her it was really flat and i remember i just said something lame to her like oh so you know what
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what do you do you know so what do you do for work right and she just she looks at me she said you
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And it was like, I had this sinking feeling of like,
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and we kind of just went and talked to other people
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That's a great example for me of something where really
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because the way I was in that interaction,
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I think this is why you'll get guys who'll be like,
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oh, I wasn't feeling the chemistry or whatever,
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You know, she could have that initial attraction,
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of the way you come across and this is where all the guys who think that it's just about looks
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they're naive to this really because they think oh well if if the dude is good looking and yeah
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sure i mean in some situations she's feeling horny he's super hot whatever she's just gonna
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go there but there's there's also you know it's definitely not all about looks it's it's it's it's
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got to be combined you can you can definitely lose a sure thing if you don't come across in
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the right way i think that's the important thing i wanted um i googled a guy picking up girls and
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i want to see if you approve or not okay i want to see i've never seen this video so i have no
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idea it says introvert picking up girls nice oh yeah sorry i'm late hi what's your name camilla
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camilla you're you're gorgeous thank you yeah for sure i think we'll make beautiful children
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how is that well actually so what he did there is kind of quite it's quite not often used kind
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of gambit when you go over and say hey sorry i'm late and you sit down that's something that people
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you can kind of do that as a joke oh really yeah i've never heard of it so that can if you do it
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and you come off well he carried it off quite well there and that was quite good um but it
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can go wrong as well it could backfire one of the things i generally recommend if she's sitting down
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and she's sitting down on her own i generally don't recommend just sitting down with her
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immediately because sometimes girls get freaked out they say oh you know how do i get rid of this
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guy you know what i'm saying so often i would say it's better to go in and standing up you know start
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the conversation hey you looked interesting i had to come over and say hi blah blah blah see how
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she reacts and then maybe say listen i got five minutes so do you mind if i take a seat and then
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carry on like that that's good to the five minutes because then i know you're not going to stay all
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day yeah that's it yeah it's the time it's the time constraint thing because yeah in that in
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in that instance he pulled it off quite well and although she was kind of looking around i feel
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like maybe she was thinking oh is this a setup is this is this a like a youtube thing which obviously
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which it was yeah so um so yeah you know in that instance that was quite a good example but
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in general i'd be a little bit careful with that you've got to have a certain amount of swagger
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to sort of pull that off hey excuse me excuse me so sorry to bother you are you like familiar
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with this area yeah kind of all right sweet because i'm supposed to be meeting my girlfriend
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over here like i'm a little bit lost maybe you can help me find her here she looks like this
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i'm out of here that was a good one though what's your name sierra sierra i'm sorry i thought you
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were gorgeous no thank you i appreciate yeah for sure uh you just leave the gym i did nice
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i have to go around here do you know andberg oh no not too sure are you do you go to square
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yeah yeah what year are you sophomore okay i'm a junior oh nice okay is it cool if i get your
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number yeah of course what's your name i'm kiss kiss oh i like that how'd it go yeah good i mean
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like he's saying he doesn't seem that introverted does he he might have just run the title no yeah
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of course yeah no no i mean it's good i mean he's using these kind of like quite humorous
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humorous tactics to sort of you know i'm looking for my girlfriend and he shows a picture of her
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yeah I wouldn't have saw that coming no because I didn't know how he was going to go with that
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and obviously if like I thought he was going to try and if he'd have seriously been saying he had
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a girlfriend that would have been obviously been a stupid bad thing to do because a lot of women
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were contrary to popular belief just wouldn't go with that but no it was cute it was kind of fun
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the way he did it the thing is right like he brought he he's bringing humor into it he's
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making them laugh he's making them feel comfortable you know he said I thought you were gorgeous I
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think that's fine i think he's good to be direct and quite out front you don't necessarily need to
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say gorgeous but you say i thought you look cute you look nice you look pretty or something like
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that because again i mean okay he's gone in with a bit of a gambit there which is which is fine
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but fundamentally you need to go in and make her understand that you are hitting on her
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on some level because otherwise i've seen guys go in and it's the approach is very weak
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and she doesn't quite know why you're there or she's just like oh is this guy just trying to
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be friends with me or or she gives you that she you end up getting on quite well with her and she
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gives you their number but she's not really interested you in that way and then it's just
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yeah it's better to just go in there be like hey listen i had to come over i think you're cute i
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wanted to say hi and if she shoots you down well at least you're not wasting anybody's time you
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know right right we'll do one more it's creative a little bit a little bit i'm sierra with the c
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so i'm with the c okay sweet sweet see now you won't forget no i definitely won't that was a
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good one though yeah you like that yeah for sure all right I'll text you okay you from Williamsport
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uh Scranton area Scranton okay you have a good one okay hey excuse me ladies how's it going are
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you just good with directions around here uh your heart what's your name Lauren sorry I thought you're
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gorgeous what's your name Mark who does he pick who should he when there's two women how do you
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hit on two well so it depends on the situation because basically right so often there's going
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to be one who's the obvious target right the one you want and then there's going to be the friend
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right and then it's kind of obvious which one you're going for right um sometimes you get a
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situation where both of them are equally maybe equally cute and you think okay i'll approach
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both of them at the same time and then when i do that i mean the way that he it seemed the way that
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did that it seemed like he was more hitting on the one with the dark hair because he said to her
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i'm trying to get your heart sort of thing yeah because what where you can mess up and and this
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has happened to me before is i once read into an interaction right um years ago in london and there
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were two girls and initially i was there was one that i liked she was this bruna she's like latina
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girl and i went and started talking to her and i i was speaking to both of them because you could
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the other thing that he's doing well here is obviously you need to you need to speak to the
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friend as well you need to keep you know keep both of them kind of in entertained or whatever
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as you're talking um but i went in to speak to the predominantly to the latina girl and we were
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having a good vibe and everything like that but then she gives she's like yeah yeah i've i've got
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no no no no what is the other way around sorry what happened right so i went in and talked to
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both of them and the latina girl is responding well but the other girl who i initially thought
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i wasn't so interested in she was like she seemed to be giving me more of a vibe do you know what
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mean and i was a bit like hang on a minute maybe i need to change my strategy here because this one
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seems to be more like you know interested so then i kind of so i went to the second one who was
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remaining as it turned out i went to the second one i was like um oh you know like you you know
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you seem cool we should exchange numbers he said i'm sorry i'm sorry i've got a boyfriend and i'm
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like oh and so i'm standing there so i'm standing there i kind of look back to the latina one i'm
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like um you know how about you sort of thing you know and so you end up and in the end the second
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the latina one did actually give me her number in the end but he didn't really it didn't yeah
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so you can sort of shoot yourself in the foot if you don't make a firm decision before you go in
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which one am i actually going for because otherwise you just look like this like horn
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dog of like oh yeah you've said no okay what about you you know what i'm saying but usually
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as i say most cases it's going to be pretty clear you know it's going to be one that you you want
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to get with the other one you probably don't so it's you know straightforward let's see yeah oh
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Oh, for sure. Is it cool if I get your number and then run away?
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I think he's regretting his choice a little bit.
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Well, I mean, from the back, it looks like the blonde one might be more attractive.
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Oh, okay, cool. All right, well, I'll text you, all right?
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excuse me where'd you get that you're about to say something yeah no where'd
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you get that yeah that's mom okay what's your name
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you smart others like you I do if I get your number
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you thought you thought you made that up oh how about Instagram is that a good
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sorry what do you think he should have just let it go i think well yeah i think he should let it go
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because because with that so with that what i wouldn't normally recommend is that you kind of
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walk with her like he's he he went in with the line she's kind of like yeah yeah sure sure and
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then he just carried on walking with her and i i generally i wouldn't recommend that i'd be like
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shoot your shot if she's done she's not into it she walks off just let her go do you know what i
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mean and also as well then what he's doing is is the sort of like oh can i get your number she says
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no there's like instagram and it's just no and then you you're almost like sort of negotiating
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then myspace you know yeah have you got a fax you know it's it gets a little bit and and the other
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problem with that particular interaction was there was really nothing like ideally you want to go and
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say hey you look cute i had to come and meet you and if she responds well to that you want to have
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a bit of a conversation you want to have a bit of vibe you know so oh somebody looks like you
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so you study here and she's like yeah you know so what are you doing she's like accounting like
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jesus christ that's boring what are you doing accounting for you know she's like well you
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know and then you want to you want to have a bit of back and forth together before asking for the
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number because what he did there was just basically he comes in with quite a cute line which he sort
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of brushed off and then he just goes straight for the number and it's like unless she's into him
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immediately then that's not really gonna gonna fly you know yeah but he's i mean look he's a decent
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looking guy he's in shape he's he looks quite he's he's tall he's ticking a lot of the boxes
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and he's bought he's got balls so yeah you know so he's gonna do pretty well um and he's got that
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sense of humor and that lightness about him so there's a lot of stuff i think he's doing very
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well i'm trying to find a video of women approaching men i approached men anyone has one i approached
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men. Looks like women don't approach men. I mean, have you ever, well, have I ever approached a guy?
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yeah okay i've never approached a guy but i've i've sort of i've sort of asked a guy on a date
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before but it was more like oh i'm like in the area i wasn't in the area at all it was like one
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that was right i kind of liked him and i didn't know if he knew so i was like yeah yeah i'm in
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this area and it was like two hours away yeah but um i don't think i've ever
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maybe i might have like maybe not like a direct but i might have like said something yeah i think
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it's cool for women i think you can start a conversation it doesn't need to be like they
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don't need to approach in the same way you know like oh i think you're cute or like that's too
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much but if you're if she stood at the bar and then the guy she likes the guy next to her she
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can kind of you know just make some kind of comment and you know i think that kind of thing
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can work quite well for for women and they should probably be doing more of it actually because
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women always complain about not getting approached and i'm not saying they should go around and start
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doing doing game and hitting on guys but at the same time you can it'd probably work to be honest
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probably yeah to be honest like if a girl approached you oh yeah
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and she was cute it's like yeah yeah no of course i mean i think the the even very very good looking
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male friends of mine will say in their lifetimes they've only probably been approached you know a
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couple a few times at most like it doesn't really happen very much but obviously it's more with
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women it's more about the signals and the but but i think sometimes women think they overestimate
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how much they're like signaling their interest you know what i mean she thinks oh i was looking
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at him all night and blah blah blah and like the guy didn't even fucking notice yeah yeah
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blessing is a girl ever approached you oh yeah
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oh yeah it's common does this happen to you every day or what no i know every day you know what i
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every second where did where did a woman approach you put on your camera it's like join the convo
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uh next time guys send a cash out where did the woman approach you a westfield like a shopping
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center sir did she what was her intro it was a bunch of girls and they just wanted to just you
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yeah my details in there oh yeah nice stratford or west or the other one no shape was blue
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short oh no troy's like oh i want to hang out there yeah yeah yeah is it still open
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it did i i mean it's happened to me a couple a couple of few times a couple of times whatever
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i remember one girl came over and um to me in a bar and uh this was when i was a lot younger you
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know many years ago and she came over and she was trying to him the thing that put me off was
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firstly i wasn't really into her anyway but also then interestingly she was trying to lead with
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the boss babe type stuff she was like oh i'm a team leader look you know i work in this company
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i'm a team leader and blah blah blah and i was like well i i just you know i don't really care
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have you guys noticed women getting more aggressive in the last couple of years
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um well you mentioned this the other day um i think there's more yeah i think there's more
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competition amongst women certainly for the first because they're only are they're only looking for
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a smaller pool of guys yeah yeah i think there is that yeah have you noticed women being more
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aggressive blessing a little bit yeah yeah were they aggressive when they were getting your number
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uh yeah i mean when they were when they're like in a group yeah it's gonna be yeah man it's like
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they are yeah it's like a bunch of pack of hyenas did you give did you get did you give the number
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oh yeah oh nice so what happened yeah well i'm going end of story okay well i was just gonna do
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i think that's all the stories we're really gonna cover to them um
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um guys is there anything else you wanted to go over today um do you know what it's always
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disappointed me that i never ended up doing that i was going to do something with um what's his name
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um who's who's the who's the oh jesus christ you know the crazy riz guy that we were made
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meet in vegas who was on your show um i don't remember was he on my show in vegas
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Do you remember that time when Tiffany Fox was there?
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But I always regret it because I think he's a good example of somebody.
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Like, his content recently, all due respect, Zerka, his content recently, I think he's
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branched into these different areas and stuff like that.
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but when he was very much although i think he has got a dating course out but when he was he was
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talking very much about the dating and the red pool stuff i found him really fascinating and
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like i think that's an example of somebody yeah he's decent looking he's tall whatever but
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like it's clearly more than that yeah you know what i'm saying that's drawing that's drawing
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women in and i was really interested to like see him in action and kind of and i actually talked
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to him about it at the thing afterwards and said you know i'd really like to sort of like drill down
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into the into what into what it is you know what you're doing that's drawing people in because
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it's about and again you can see something like that it's about creating emotion so that could be
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on the sexual level yeah they might be sexually excited but also it's about there's probably some
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drama there there's probably fear of loss there's probably there's all these different things that
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you you can bring into the party and a lot of guys they're just not doing that you know what i'm
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saying um but then you've got someone like fresh who also you know i think does does you know has
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his own thing going on but he's very chill and so he brings a different kind of energy so there's
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different ways you know you've got to find the style i think that works for your personality
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and go with that really yeah yeah because different styles are just more natural to
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different people i think yeah i think that's that's true so as much as you know like i say
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someone like zerk is a very interesting character but is that going to work for for for everybody i
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mean is it going to work for you know steve who works in you know the post office i mean you know
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what i'm saying so you've got a but i think there's definitely there are definitely fundamental
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principles that can be learned and the key thing is are you evoking emotion in her in some way when
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you're sitting down in front of her or not you know i mean have you noticed i mean i don't know
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when you've gone when you've been on dates or whatever i mean do you do you it is do you can
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never explain why i like a guy or why i don't i'll just be like i do but could it be i mean
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is what i'm saying making some sense from a female no it does it does is it like there's
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some guys and you're sitting there and you think yeah he's a nice guy and he's good conversation
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but i'm just not really feeling it whereas other guys just on some level they do something that
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yeah no there is well we we like to earn it too well you don't like the guy to be too
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no never yeah i mean other girls will cap and lie i won't lie well no because if they're too
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in you you're kind of like what's the what's the catch yeah no that's the thing yeah they
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can't be right away like it's different if you've been seeing him for a bit but it's like right away
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it's like what's the yeah yeah for sure yeah yeah yeah definitely well again you know we we want the
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things that we can't quite get and i think you know guys can be too thirsty and then that spoils it
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yeah why is it so hard for guys like all of this stuff like we have to consider all of this stuff
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yeah you know and if you're like an attractive young woman and you're out and about you're in
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miami or whatever you don't need to think about any of this you could just turn up and be
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adhd bipolar and you know socially awkward and you're gonna be fine anyway oh my gosh do you
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know what i was thinking i know we've had a bad run with our fashion but i was thinking about how
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all women's fashion like men don't even really like because i you can tell me if i'm wrong but
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i was thinking about this because a lot of it has shoulder pads and stuff yeah which i don't think
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guys really like and i was just looking at the stuff like here this is something that came up
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when i said women's fashion pull it up pull it up blessing tell me if you like this if i'm wrong you
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you can tell me i'm wrong but i'm like when i think of something a guy is like it's like not
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bad but i think um how do i yeah and i googled women's fashion i was just like do any of these
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outfits scream something a man would like i think a lot of women's fashion at the moment is very
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geared towards that kind of this maybe yeah that looks quite cute it's i think it's geared towards
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women there's a lot not so much the evening stuff but there's a lot of like daytime stuff
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quite baggy jeans quite like you know baggy sweatshirts like things like that and um
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i mean it's yeah you're right it's not really geared towards like what men are into it's more
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you know it's more for other for other women i think yeah it doesn't look bad but it does it's
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also not screaming out you know oh that's really sexy yeah that's what i was thinking because i
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was looking at when i look at women's like high-end fashion i'm like i don't even think
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guys like this stuff hi and some some of it's cute but but then again you know i'm not a fashion
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these stuff obviously it's all right well my fashion expertise obviously is um okay well
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guys let me know in the comments what you want me to um react to next time i'm a little sick so i'm
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calling it an early show tonight um tomorrow guys we're gonna do another show um i think we're gonna
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let me know what you guys think in the comments
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the dating game with Troy Francis follow me there
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you guys posted on that grant cardone video next week and then anything you want to say to the
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people i think you know if you're a girl where ignore ignore current fashion working stuff i
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mean look we're going to be coming to spring so it's all good about sundresses all of that's good
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you got the whole summer for that and um i think women can be you know you you can be a bit flirty
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you can open conversations with guys it doesn't mean you have to do the heavy lifting but i think
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you should do that and for guys you've got to understand firstly you know that main guy the
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introvert guy that we saw very ballsy going in there direct approaches humor is really good
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being playful but also fundamentally making her feel something at the same time creating an emotion
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and sometimes even a negative emotion is better than a positive emotion which is a bit of nuance
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we'll get into that but you know what i mean like like you can you can say something that's a bit
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controversial maybe she doesn't agree with it maybe that makes her a little bit angry but also
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So, at the same time, she's like, okay, he's quite ballsy
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because he actually had the balls to say that.
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Let's try to get him to, you're at like 2,000 something?
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Yeah, so let's try to get him to 3,000 subscribers.
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He has a lot of actionable, real-life advice on there.