Pearl - Do Modern Women Want A Wedding Or To Be A Wife？ @thedatinggamewithtroyfrancis

00:00:00.040 What up guys? Welcome to the Just Pearly Things YouTube channel and welcome to Pearl Daily.

00:00:07.400 Guys, do I have the show for you today?

00:00:12.360 You know, there's been some rumors going around about me and my job status, you know, a lot

00:00:22.840 of accusations and recently you know I was let go you know I was I was let go

00:00:33.320 I was you know by a certain company I won't say who but you know that doesn't

00:00:43.520 matter I'm on the market for a new job everybody I'm looking to be a diversity

00:00:49.780 and inclusion specialist. So please, if you guys are hiring at your company, I can cry about being

00:00:56.860 a woman all day. Watch, watch, watch. Ah, my oppression. Ah, the patriarchy. I would be

00:01:02.760 amazing at it. So don't worry, guys. You know, let me know where I can apply. Yes, I'm owed 32

00:01:09.600 million. I know I couldn't believe it. I couldn't believe it. But anyways, you know, today we have

00:01:16.520 quite the story but i wanted to give you guys an announcement first we just had grant cardone on

00:01:22.440 today his team messaged me very last minute said can we come on in like two hours well i dm'd him

00:01:28.760 first they responded right blessing put together put together the set right blessing of course

00:01:38.120 you gotta you're gonna show the kitchen cam nah nah why not i mean they gotta send the

00:01:43.480 you're all rizzed out today um anyways so that'll probably be released next week

00:01:53.000 wait pal oh are we meant to put this up yeah

00:01:58.040 no i don't know what that oh no i don't know what that is no no ah where how did that get there what

00:02:05.960 the hell no no no no it's it's um anyways i'm on him i'm unemployed i don't know where that came

00:02:17.160 from that's super crazy super crazy anyways um so today so next week oh wait no so this week

00:02:30.200 I'm sorry, I can talk, guys. Tomorrow, I'm going to have a show. I am gone from Wednesday until

00:02:37.360 Sunday. I may have some collaborations the week after. I don't completely know my schedule,

00:02:43.780 but we're going to be doing call-in shows on the road. Wait for me to post when I'm going to do it,

00:02:48.820 but it'll be at the same time, so stay tuned for that. I'm excited to talk to you all,

00:02:53.240 meet you all, etc. So before we get to the treachery, debauchery, and craziness today,

00:02:59.100 We have a special guest. Welcome, Troy Francis.

00:03:02.960 Thank you very much for having me, Pearl. As always, great to be here.

00:03:06.520 Great to have you. Troy Francis is a world-renowned dating coach with over 10 years in the game.

00:03:12.620 Absolutely, man, in the trenches, at the cutting edge, the rock face of the modern international dating scene.

00:03:17.940 And you've seen it all around the world. You've been to Eastern Europe. You've been to New York.

00:03:22.240 Yes.

00:03:22.480 You do one-on-one coaching.

00:03:23.780 i do one-on-one coaching we i've taught guys all over the planet from you know columbia to russia

00:03:29.060 to uh well ukraine prior to the current situation to you know all over europe i mean london all over

00:03:36.560 the place and let me tell you it's a shit show everywhere quite frankly people think it's better

00:03:42.860 people think it's going to be better in one place and it kind of yeah there's certain good things

00:03:46.880 but yeah it's it's it's all the shit okay where are the women the worst like if you had to pick

00:03:51.760 one country to never date from where would you pick london or the usa dang it ladies we got to

00:04:00.480 step up our game we're driving didn't you get like pushback for having an american accent

00:04:05.240 recently oh yeah yeah why do you have to rub it in sorry a couple of months ago yeah yeah i think

00:04:12.560 i think like to be fair i think the anglosphere is pretty is pretty brutal when it comes to dating

00:04:18.020 yeah i think you know the countries that are a little bit more traditional still like the

00:04:21.420 Latin American countries, some of the Eastern European countries, you know, guys tend to have

00:04:24.900 a bit of a better time of it in those places. But as you know, even those places, it's becoming much

00:04:29.340 more westernized now. Well, I'm so glad you're here because as a dating coach, we need your

00:04:36.740 expert opinion on a couple stories we have today. I want you to be completely uncensored.

00:04:44.100 Don't hold back. Just let me know if this woman went wrong or not. Okay. Okay. So let me put this

00:04:50.980 girl on the screen all right a woman accused of sending a man more than a hundred and fifty nine

00:04:57.980 thousand text messages and breaking into his paradise valley home wants her case to go to

00:05:04.080 trial believing a jury will find her innocent while also ordering her and the man she's accused

00:05:10.140 of stalking to wed oh she what she thinks that the jury's gonna i'll read it again don't worry

00:05:15.520 A woman accused of sending a man more than 159,000 text messages and breaking into his Paradise Valley home wants her case to go to trial.

00:05:25.360 Believing a jury will find her innocent while also ordering her and the man she's accused of stalking to wed.

00:05:32.320 Unbelievable.

00:05:33.320 I'm sorry, but look at her eyes.

00:05:35.520 Would you?

00:05:37.220 No, it's a categorical no.

00:05:40.860 I mean, she's not bad looking.

00:05:43.360 oh man i mean i could i could see if i could get her her number for you no i i would not after that

00:05:49.460 especially i know her eyes look her eyes look crazy i mean immediately can't you just look at

00:05:55.160 her there's something very crazy about her eyes in that shot and and look she seems like a nice

00:05:59.140 girl well you know she made her she made an effort 159 000 texts i mean you can't say she wasn't

00:06:05.600 yeah some of you guys can't even get a call back i know yeah yeah so actually yeah i suppose on

00:06:11.500 on that score but um i mean to me this is an example of extremely bad girl game okay because

00:06:17.500 i think we've i think we've talked about this before but women need to understand that

00:06:24.140 if they're too needy particularly if the guys some has some value right and some options in

00:06:28.940 the dating market he's just not gonna fly with that right it's it's too much okay it's the same

00:06:34.140 thing that we would tell guys as far as women are concerned if you're just blowing up their phone

00:06:37.740 continually then he's he's just gonna think he's gonna lose attraction for you that's the reality

00:06:44.060 what's what's too needy a hundred thousand texts is that all right i mean 95 000 i reckon

00:06:53.980 but i was uh i was in a situation a while back with you know with with somebody and they and

00:06:58.940 they were really blowing up my phone and it just becomes stressful in the end you know you open

00:07:03.020 your phone it's like you know there's like paragraphs and paragraphs like jesus christ you

00:07:06.380 you know and it just it it really raises it to read alert level of like is this person actually

00:07:11.660 sane you know what were the paragraphs about um it just just stuff just stuff about what was

00:07:20.220 happening in her life and you know and some stuff about me and the relationship where she wanted it

00:07:25.180 to go but a lot of just random you know and it's sort of like if you're if you're in a relationship

00:07:30.620 with somebody then and it's a proper established relationship that okay yeah it might be like

00:07:35.420 during the day you send a message and say hey this happened at work or that

00:07:38.120 happened and you know what do you think I should do or how do I feel about it

00:07:41.840 that's okay but if you're sending somebody and you're not even you're

00:07:45.320 still in those early stages and you're sending them a shitload of just like

00:07:48.500 nonsense and expecting them to respond that's just just too much I could see

00:07:54.040 that maybe maybe 50,000 yeah it's okay I mean I think look the better the

00:08:02.040 reality is like, and I've, I've seen, um, I've seen like Instagram accounts, training women,

00:08:08.020 you know, coaching women, how to be like femme fatales and all that kind of stuff. And basically

00:08:12.180 what they say is like, you've got to be more mysterious. It's the old sort of like pulling,

00:08:15.400 it's the really pulling back the other way. So he chases you. And I think there is something to be

00:08:19.080 said for that. Cause you know, guys, we are particularly guys who've got some options.

00:08:23.360 We are very similar to, to women in the sense that what you can't quite get, you want, you want

00:08:27.660 more you know what i mean so 159 so what about what about the 90 day rule what's that like don't

00:08:34.300 don't you mean not sleep with it yeah yeah 90 day rule uh no that's holding back though that's

00:08:42.700 like not that not holding back on the same no no no she needs no first date man first day she

00:08:49.180 needs to give it up um no i mean she could hold back like i would say maybe second date uh third

00:08:55.580 date maximum but i think that look he's also and again if we're talking a guy with some options

00:09:01.020 he's also gonna there's gonna be other possibilities out there right in the end

00:09:03.820 he's just gonna be like well what am i you know like what am i even in this for yeah you know

00:09:07.980 i mean nobody's gonna nobody in their right mind is gonna wait for 90 days

00:09:13.260 i just like what it blows my mind if any guy out there would do that but well these were the

00:09:19.580 comments she made by in a recent phone interview with the arizona republic

00:09:26.620 county jail where she's been held since may 2018.

00:09:31.740 she said she's in the slumber for this yeah

00:09:35.340 yeah i mean we're good we wanted equality here it is

00:09:37.980 well she said i just think it's ridiculous i can't believe that it

00:09:43.420 turned into this i can't believe i'm actually in jail

00:09:46.300 over some text messages should she be jailed yes well she should be institutionalized i mean she's

00:09:53.740 clearly insane you can't send someone that number of text messages and like walk the streets a free

00:09:59.180 woman i mean she's clearly not so you know yeah i think um i think it was right that the authorities

00:10:05.340 intervened she maintained that her threats against the man's life were jokes and that she would never

00:10:13.500 act on it she said the man responded to her text for three months but stopped after she

00:10:18.780 sent the threats at aid aids said she threatened the man after a fight with her mother and turned

00:10:27.260 the anger out on him i mean that wow yeah so that's probably actually why she's inside right

00:10:34.140 because because she if she made like physical threats i mean i mean yeah should we let her

00:10:40.060 wait there put her face back up what if okay wait wait oh wait put it down put it down actually i'm

00:10:47.900 gonna i'm gonna show you a different hold on i'm gonna pull something else up and i want to see if

00:10:52.380 your answer changes hold on hold on hold on hold on you know because you know a lot of times we'll

00:11:02.860 talk about where is this we'll talk about these women and all this stuff oh this is what i was

00:11:11.320 looking for ha ha ha now what if but what if this girl just looked a little bit different okay what

00:11:18.900 if should she be free wait if she oh my gosh where is it

00:11:41.060 if she looked i'm gonna use this one no i mean don't pull it up yet

00:11:48.900 Because, you know, some people say there's a such thing

00:11:51.960 as pretty, privileged, whatever.

00:11:54.540 So if she was hotter, should she be hotter?

00:11:55.520 Yeah, let's see this one.

00:11:59.420 Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:12:00.560 She should be, yeah, definitely.

00:12:02.300 She should be out.

00:12:03.480 Okay, wait, wait.

00:12:04.420 Sorry, let me make this full screen.

00:12:07.440 So right here.

00:12:08.680 Oh, shit.

00:12:09.240 I didn't mean to.

00:12:10.640 It's very objectified.

00:12:12.040 Okay, so what do you think?

00:12:14.080 If that was her, should she be released?

00:12:17.480 Oh, 100%.

00:12:18.200 um yeah she because she'd kind of had that sexy femme fatale thing it's a bit like you know do

00:12:25.240 you remember when there was that do you remember what there's those amanda knox case you remember

00:12:29.000 amanda knox and there's a whole case about she was and all of that and i remember at the time

00:12:33.480 there was a lot of conversation between guys of like would you like even if there was the danger

00:12:37.480 of being like you know potentially murdered you know would you and there's a lot of surprising

00:12:41.800 number of guys were like yeah okay so if she had murdered a different guy yeah would you

00:12:50.360 i mean it would be a great way to go you know what i mean like we're all gonna like we're all

00:12:55.080 gonna have to go sometime you know so if the option is all right she's gonna potentially

00:13:01.880 just like you know ice pick me or something at the end then yeah i mean why not um no i think

00:13:07.800 i get it i understand you can you can take it off you can take it off free free jacqueline

00:13:15.780 i think you know i do think in all seriousness though even if the woman is is quite attractive

00:13:21.500 i think that you should she should still pull back on the fucking mental texting because it does it

00:13:26.520 does put you off i mean like i also years ago i had a girlfriend and she was attractive like she

00:13:31.340 was she was good looking there was there was nothing you know on the surface but because

00:13:35.280 she was too keen it sort of put me off a bit yeah what is what is too keen can you draw the line

00:13:41.600 exactly how many texts are can we send like what's the what's the maximum until you're like you are

00:13:49.760 crazy well the big no-no is double texting and triple texting i think that's never triple i think

00:13:56.640 that is the big thing like i i would say a few times a day i don't really like the whole for

00:14:02.640 either gender the whole like good morning text good night text in general i think it's a bit

00:14:06.800 predictable whatever but i think a few times a day you know you can like and a little bit of banter

00:14:12.800 you know maybe in the morning there may be something else a little bit later on in the day

00:14:15.920 that's fine i think the big problem is you know you're sending something you're like oh this

00:14:19.680 happened with my dog and then this happened and blah blah blah and he doesn't respond and then

00:14:22.480 you send another load of paragraphs later and then another load of paragraphs how long are

00:14:26.560 these paragraphs can you can you well i mean like you know on whatsapp like sometimes like that like

00:14:31.120 that long sometimes or like and then another one like that underneath you know i mean but we need

00:14:36.640 attention it's like what yeah but it's like it's like don't you don't want us to go to instagram

00:14:46.160 i mean i don't know it's just for me for me i i'm kind of a weird case because on this on

00:14:52.480 theoretically you would say okay there's a really hot girl the more attention she gives the guy

00:14:58.160 the better and that's true but there is i think there's just some kind of human instinct that

00:15:02.480 kind of yeah if we think we can get it too easily then we we just lose that interest and remember

00:15:09.440 as well the old saying you know you see a beautiful woman there's somewhere some somewhere

00:15:14.000 out there some guy's tired of her do you know what i mean so even that girl that you even that

00:15:18.560 girl that we had you had up before yeah you know yeah she's really hard she's attractive whatever

00:15:22.640 there's going to be some guy out there who's just like oh my god yeah you know what i mean so well

00:15:27.360 I need your expertise on another one okay we have another case for you here

00:15:32.100 right I just need I need your expertise have you heard of the Omelay concert

00:15:38.160 girl I don't think so okay so there is that we went over this last show but

00:15:43.420 there's been an update okay so there is a woman that went to a concert with her

00:15:47.400 boyfriend I did hear something about this yeah

00:15:50.640 carry on and then she was put on stage and she was I'll show you okay pull it

00:15:54.960 up blessing

00:15:57.360 so she was pulled on stage by this artist

00:16:04.720 her boyfriend was front row

00:16:08.880 oh jesus

00:16:27.360 Now, was this a no-no?

00:16:53.320 Yes!

00:16:54.680 100%!

00:16:55.520 are you sure this isn't this is not appropriate with your boyfriend right

00:17:02.880 there this is not appropriate behavior no the boyfriend basically should just

00:17:06.540 leave it should just leave now right I just never I just block her well what's

00:17:11.080 she doing wrong she's engaging in a sexually explicit manner with somebody

00:17:19.820 right in front of him

00:17:21.060 and thousands of other people.

00:17:23.780 So?

00:17:24.740 Well,

00:17:25.440 I would say,

00:17:28.220 I mean,

00:17:28.500 I've seen some red flags

00:17:29.520 in my time,

00:17:30.420 you know,

00:17:30.780 and actually,

00:17:31.300 I quite like the red flag,

00:17:32.680 you know,

00:17:32.940 here and there.

00:17:33.840 But I mean,

00:17:34.660 that is like beyond red.

00:17:36.380 That's like,

00:17:36.880 because it's just like,

00:17:40.780 it's like ritual humiliation

00:17:42.520 for the boyfriend,

00:17:43.260 isn't it?

00:17:43.680 Because the boyfriend's standing there

00:17:44.740 basically getting cut.

00:17:45.980 Oh, yeah.

00:17:46.760 You know?

00:17:47.240 He's front row.

00:17:48.240 Yeah.

00:17:48.940 Anyways, so she, I don't know if the boyfriend's in this clip,

00:17:53.460 but she really wanted to come out and she, like, issued an apology.

00:17:58.380 And now she's on a podcast.

00:17:59.940 And I want to know what you think of this explanation.

00:18:03.500 She's going to give you an explanation.

00:18:05.360 Okay.

00:18:05.900 And I just want to see, what do you, you know, would you,

00:18:09.040 all right, so let's just say you're dating this girl, this happens.

00:18:11.960 Would you be interested in hearing what she had to say?

00:18:15.800 No, I think that he should just, like, cut it.

00:18:18.160 i think he should like i think basically as soon as that started to transpire he should just like

00:18:21.840 right i just i'm gonna you know just get out the venue block delete you know whatever because i

00:18:28.080 think it was disrespectful that you know well let's hear what she has to say anyway we're gonna watch

00:18:34.160 anyway um so there was an update i saw this i couldn't believe it all right pull it up so this

00:18:40.880 was the concert girl nice sweater nice you know good looking girl let's go but you were with

00:18:49.120 somebody now this is the question on everybody's minds girl who is this man were you in a committed

00:18:56.080 and defined relationship with him um yes he was in a committed relationship how long were you

00:19:02.160 together for just under a year so going to a year and when you say you were in a defined relationship

00:19:09.680 just so that everybody's aware he was your boyfriend and you were his girlfriend yes yes

00:19:14.720 okay perfect so you mentioned in your apology video which we're going to get back to you that

00:19:19.520 you're a die-hard fan of omelette so i think my question here is was this a date night was this

00:19:25.280 planned was this who bought the tickets why were you guys there together can you kind of talk us

00:19:30.800 through what happened the journey of that um so i'm a huge emily fan i've been a fan since

00:19:36.880 he even started like music so I really really like his music so I've always

00:19:41.920 wanted to go to this concert I was gonna see him I think this was last year but

00:19:46.240 he cancelled that show so other I have got to go to an extra like 100% so when

00:19:52.440 he said that he was coming London I just bought a ticket and I thought I'd bring

00:19:58.480 my boyfriend because he was going through a hard time himself

00:20:04.120 yeah so does this so first thing said she bought the tickets is this is this acceptable though

00:20:10.740 no i don't i don't think that makes any difference wait wait let's see let's see

00:20:16.300 there's obviously going to be more true yeah yeah there's going to be just okay yeah why did you

00:20:20.980 obviously the woman is talking so and so i just thought yeah i just just gave him

00:20:26.620 favorite eyes favorite person so i just thought yeah did you think i might get called on stage

00:20:31.280 did that ever did that run through your mind i've always wanted to go on stage with omelette like

00:20:35.520 i don't think there's any other artist that i'd even go on stage like with so me and him we've

00:20:41.740 had this conversation like days before the concert if i was to get called on stage like

00:20:47.420 would you be fine with that and he said yeah like that that's fine he's been okay with it yeah

00:20:52.280 ah okay well that kind of changes the narrative so we've seen from the video so does that actually

00:20:57.920 changed the narrative well maybe but i don't think he should have said he was okay with it

00:21:04.820 i think he should have said look we're in a relationship if you get called on stage

00:21:09.740 you should politely decline out of respect for me i think that it's kind of cucked energy on his part

00:21:17.620 well andy i mean you could go on stage and not hump him well that's true that's true i mean

00:21:24.220 maybe they could have discussed

00:21:26.360 I know you hate the word

00:21:27.460 they could have discussed

00:21:28.300 the boundaries

00:21:28.940 yes you could go on stage

00:21:30.920 you could just stand there

00:21:31.800 but you're not allowed

00:21:32.340 to like start grinding up

00:21:33.260 against him

00:21:33.680 I mean I'm assuming

00:21:34.820 this guy

00:21:35.360 I'm assuming this artist

00:21:36.120 he probably does this

00:21:36.840 quite a lot right

00:21:37.440 probably I guess he brings

00:21:38.440 women up

00:21:38.980 no

00:21:39.300 blessing I don't know

00:21:40.620 he's like a

00:21:41.280 blessing new one

00:21:42.740 no that's an Afro-beast guy

00:21:47.200 does he

00:21:48.460 does he often

00:21:49.260 bring women on

00:21:50.260 and stuff like that

00:21:51.220 yeah I don't really

00:21:53.540 watching this for the girls well does that have surfaced online that you were very excited to go

00:22:01.380 on stage and now that you've revealed to us that he was okay with it you going on stage was it

00:22:07.780 something that you just told him or did you guys discuss it prior we discussed it prior obviously

00:22:13.780 but he didn't know that i'd get picked to go on stage so um when i pointed at me obviously in

00:22:19.860 the video you can see like i was really really excited which i was and he was encouraging me

00:22:24.900 to go like he even said yeah like go that's why i went in the first place there is a point in

00:22:30.020 the video where it looks as though he's holding on to you and saying well obviously we don't know

00:22:35.700 what he was saying but it does look like he was a bit reluctant to let you go on stage is is that

00:22:40.340 fair for us to say um not really just because he was holding me the entire show i think she's lying

00:22:47.140 you have to see that so that's why it looked like he didn't want me to go but he was fine with it

00:22:54.560 and there was a point where i was like stood next to him and everyone thought like i moved away from

00:22:58.640 him but i was stood there because i was waiting for the security to get me out of the crowd

00:23:02.820 okay okay well that was the clip so did it change anything well i mean oh you think it does

00:23:13.860 i i think that the guy should have laid down the law i think the guy should be like look

00:23:18.420 you know i'm i'm happy you're a fan we're going to see the concert if he calls you on stage i'm

00:23:22.460 not comfortable with that because like we're in a relationship and that would be kind of

00:23:27.640 disrespectful to the relationship i think he should have made that clear having said that i

00:23:31.400 suppose he didn't say that he did say she could go on stage so you know he should stay with her

00:23:36.640 um i think that given the nature of you know how it was on the stage when she did go on the stage

00:23:42.560 i think it was kind of like this ritual humiliation i think yeah i think he should like

00:23:46.480 just you know pack his bags and take the l well just you know there's this you know it's really

00:23:53.040 a w because it's a red flag so it seems like a massive red flag and she seems like she's trying

00:23:58.640 she's being all like trying to be all innocent now wearing that nice jumper and being all like

00:24:02.240 sort of contrite and everything but she was being very like her movements obviously very sexualized

00:24:05.840 and everything like that i mean you know it's um it's the it's the age-old question isn't it it's

00:24:10.960 It's like if couples will often talk or this often comes up,

00:24:14.040 like it's like, oh, if X celebrity, you know, came into play,

00:24:18.720 should I get a free pass, you know?

00:24:20.640 Yeah.

00:24:21.680 What do you think?

00:24:22.720 No.

00:24:23.820 No, because like it's like just because somebody's famous,

00:24:27.220 I don't think that should change the dynamic.

00:24:29.700 I think the guy should, you know, she exercises that,

00:24:33.760 she does that, then the guy should be out.

00:24:35.620 It's like, all right.

00:24:36.340 What about a girl with a guy?

00:24:38.480 um what if it's like like if he screws rihanna uh no that's fine

00:24:45.680 but it's slightly well it's slightly different i mean i get the points to us but it's slightly

00:24:54.400 different because obviously men are less attracted by yeah fame and status so for me personally i

00:24:59.640 if it was rihanna specifically i'm not i don't particularly find rihanna that attractive so

00:25:04.300 i probably wouldn't it wouldn't be just her celebrity status would sort of draw me in whereas

00:25:08.360 i think with women it's much more that's a big part of it if that makes sense what of the bride

00:25:14.280 one do you want to do the men crying as a red flag or the bride ick first um well maybe the um

00:25:25.560 maybe the uh men crying is a red flag one okay guys so apparently well i'm really glad we got

00:25:33.640 the answer today troy i'm really glad you know we we figured this out together so don't send 159

00:25:40.520 000 texts yeah don't send 159 000 texts for god's sake okay well don't threaten to kill the person

00:25:47.480 even if your mum's ill or whatever and okay so next you know why don't you tell me i actually

00:25:55.080 didn't even watch it so why don't you tell me about the next segment so i've this has been

00:25:59.320 being talked about a little in a few videos online recently basically there's this issue about if a

00:26:04.840 guy gets married right should he cry at the at the wedding or is it or rather is it a good thing or

00:26:09.800 a bad thing if he cries at the wedding and women are saying some women are saying yes he should

00:26:14.120 because he's kind of cute and others are saying no he shouldn't because it's weak and it gives me

00:26:18.200 the ick so it's like which is right which is which is wrong and then um you know it's like there's

00:26:23.720 this contradiction of females who are like sort of like oh yeah he's you know on the one hand i

00:26:27.560 want him to be like strong and like stoic and so he'd never do that but on the other hand

00:26:31.320 why isn't he i'm insulted at the same time yeah well let's play the video blessing

00:26:38.040 this one right yeah it's kind of a reaction to a reaction but anyway a red flag that's

00:26:42.680 not talked about enough is men who boo who cry at their weddings just when i thought

00:26:47.560 the internet couldn't get any more toxic there's more why are you crying that hard

00:26:54.760 like all that tells me is that you did some sheisty stuff during the whole relationship

00:27:00.360 and you literally cannot believe that this girl is still choosing to marry you that so men can

00:27:06.440 only cry tears of guilt at their wedding now instead of tears of joy is that for real and if

00:27:12.600 a man is actually crying at her wedding that means that he's done something sketchy or inappropriate

00:27:18.680 or he's probably cheating on her or whatever she considers sheisty shit like i'm just thinking

00:27:25.940 about it imagine being her man at the altar and you're standing there like please don't cry too

00:27:31.620 much please don't cry too much she's gonna get the ick if i cry too much like i don't want to

00:27:36.140 boohoo cry just i just need to cry a little bit because if i over cry she's gonna think it's a red

00:27:40.980 flag like what men literally can't win they're told all the time to show emotion and they show

00:27:47.400 emotion women come on the internet and say ridiculous what can we do like it's a red flag

00:27:52.280 and he feels guilty and not joy at his own wedding and just imagine for a moment that men made videos

00:27:58.440 saying that women can't cry at their proposals or at their weddings because they're cheating

00:28:03.480 or they're doing something inappropriate this whole video is giving i don't know how to choose

00:28:08.840 men properly and men have never cried over me so i'm jealous about the men that cry over their

00:28:13.800 women because i've never experienced it myself this video is giving unhealed trauma and projection

00:28:20.200 and somebody that doesn't know how to have any type of emotional intelligence and doesn't even

00:28:26.360 want partners that have emotional intelligence but not only that it also makes me feel like i need

00:28:31.240 the dude that writes down the x um when he sees videos like this and this needs to be added but

00:28:36.920 also additionally it's making me feel like i need to stay off the internet from now on because this

00:28:42.040 is just outlandish what this lady has done is she has taken the way that she perceives her emotions

00:28:48.260 and the reasons why she cries like her response to crying there's a cause and effect the cause

00:28:53.980 may be she's guilty the effect is she's crying right let's just say that so to speak so she's

00:29:00.700 projecting projecting that on him when in reality the man is just crying because he's so happy that

00:29:05.640 He found a woman out here. That's not a thought.

00:29:08.680 That's why he's happy.

00:29:11.200 There's so many 304s in the open.

00:29:13.760 We don't know where the good women are, bro.

00:29:15.740 So when you finally find one, you cry.

00:29:22.980 It's been so long. I cannot believe I found one.

00:29:26.840 All these holes out here, all these 304s, I actually found a good one.

00:29:32.080 A diamond in the rough.

00:29:33.420 that's what it is it's tears of joy bro it's tears that if you didn't find her you probably

00:29:39.980 never got married because all the ones that advertise themselves is 304s now there's a lot

00:29:46.620 of good women out here but they hidden they're not in the open you don't know where they are

00:29:50.620 that's tears of joy man so what's your take uh well firstly i think the original video i think

00:29:58.680 that's a great example of what you might call toxic femininity right because basically like

00:30:03.400 Like she's like even something that is on the surface of it kind of quite,

00:30:08.860 you could consider quite nice in a way, you know,

00:30:11.540 he's so emotional because he's, he's, ah, this is a special day, blah, blah, blah.

00:30:16.300 I'm not saying I think this necessarily, but you might interpret it that way.

00:30:20.140 She's just immediately finding an ulterior motive. Oh, he must've cheated.

00:30:23.480 And again, it's just blaming men for everything, isn't it? It's like,

00:30:25.940 oh, he must've cheated. He must've done something bad.

00:30:28.080 He's done some shiesty stuff, whatever she said, you know?

00:30:30.660 and it's like sort of and it like one of those got pete commentators said it's almost like

00:30:34.580 projection like she's seeing like guilt when it doesn't exist so that's the first thing secondly

00:30:39.860 should men actually cry at their wedding i don't like man i i i personally think men shouldn't cry

00:30:48.820 in certainly in public i think you should like have that you know you should you should have

00:30:54.260 that stoic kind of like you should you should hold it back a little bit you know what i'm saying

00:30:57.700 yeah i wouldn't recommend it because i just even even if you're nice about it like as a girl you

00:31:07.180 still feel a certain way about it do you think so do you i mean do you think so there's a there's

00:31:12.700 another video where this woman talks about getting the ick from it or or not getting the ick but

00:31:17.340 like but it so on the surface of it though right you can see the argument it should be like for

00:31:23.120 the guy's point of view it's like oh but i love you so much you found the love of my life blah

00:31:26.820 blah blah i'm feeling this emotion so i'm crying a little bit so but a woman theoretically should

00:31:31.800 interpret that as being oh this is great because he really loves me so much but do you think

00:31:34.980 genuinely a lot of women are going to be like uh well i would never i don't unless you're in toxic

00:31:42.180 relationships constantly i don't think people would interpret it as you did something wrong

00:31:48.020 but i just i i think generally when we see men cry we're not attracted to it yeah not saying one

00:31:57.060 cry will make us it's not gonna he's not gonna write off the whole thing yeah but but you know

00:32:02.040 when you make it a a pattern i guess well it's interesting because i i messaged somebody about

00:32:06.620 this earlier and i said what so what do you think do you think men should cry or not she said first

00:32:09.960 she said oh no i think it's cute it's good to nice to show a bit of emotion and stuff and then i i

00:32:13.520 went back and i said yeah well i'd be crying as well i mean imagine all the money you've spent

00:32:16.560 you know like basically just throwing your life away of course you're gonna be crying

00:32:20.960 and she came back and she sort of said lol something and then she and then she said

00:32:24.720 actually what i would like would be to see not him fully cry but his eyes glossed over a little

00:32:29.440 bit like he might be crying but he that you know what i mean and then it's that nuance isn't it

00:32:35.840 yeah but the idea is that he's i mean when the guys are weeping you're kind of like

00:32:41.120 i don't i i mean i mean like a little t but when they're they're full on it it seems a little bit

00:32:48.080 i mean yeah i don't know it seems a i mean i think you know there are certain things death

00:32:54.320 of a parent whatever there are certain things obviously a man's gonna gonna gonna have that

00:32:57.760 those moments in private but i mean getting married i don't know it's not because you

00:33:01.600 wouldn't have feelings about it but is it something to cry about i'm not sure i saw

00:33:05.600 someone cry at their third wedding and i'm like why are you crying this is the third time around

00:33:09.280 i'm not trying to be rude but i'm like i mean by now it's just like a formality isn't it really

00:33:15.620 where do i sign the thing okay fine let's go and have the party you know there's um there's another

00:33:20.500 bride that weighed in too so this one yeah the uh the home ass one i think is yeah this one is

00:33:28.180 i'm about to walk down the aisle if he's crying there's a chance i get the ick but if he's not

00:33:34.940 crying i'm gonna be like why aren't you crying it's the happiest day of your life it's not

00:33:38.380 uncommon for a woman to experience competing ics in economics we call this a conflict a conflict

00:33:44.620 occurs when you demonstrate that you are affected by a situation but also you are icky if you do not

00:33:50.300 do something to demonstrate that you are affected by the same situation in this case a man and a

00:33:55.580 woman are to be wed and if he does not cry then that is not strong enough of a display of emotion

00:34:02.620 and if he does cry then that is too sensitive to the very same emotion this man has worked his

00:34:09.980 entire life to have something to offer this woman for her hand in marriage and there are only two

00:34:14.700 choices and both of them are icks there you go in the case of such a conflict the woman should be

00:34:20.940 considered unsalvageable as long as both of the icks are degree four or worse

00:34:27.820 you cannot build your tent but you also do not want to sleep outside because of icky bugs it's

00:34:32.380 okay for her to not like that but in this case i would place crying and not crying as being here

00:34:37.820 and here unsalvageable do not marry

00:34:42.940 well so uh first off i'd say like that guy uh homath i think is a genius he's got some really

00:34:49.420 really really funny videos and that's a great break but it's like the way she shot that video

00:34:54.620 at the beginning i think she was obviously it seemed like she was joking a little bit but it

00:34:58.140 It is a true thing, isn't it?

00:35:00.220 It kind of is.

00:35:01.000 It is highlighting a real thing about female nature,

00:35:03.920 which is that on the one hand, you know,

00:35:07.820 and I can think of other examples of this as well.

00:35:11.220 On the one hand, if he does do something,

00:35:13.320 that's bad because, oh, that's not masculine.

00:35:15.740 But then if he doesn't do it, why aren't you doing it?

00:35:17.360 Yeah.

00:35:18.140 And it's kind of weird.

00:35:20.160 And it does feel a lot of the time men can't win.

00:35:22.320 And this bigger issue of icks in general,

00:35:24.240 you know, these big long lists of icks

00:35:25.380 that we get online and everything,

00:35:26.500 you know i think it's just part of the whole dating culture that we have where people women

00:35:31.120 in particular have so much choice that it's like he does one little thing wrong you know like

00:35:35.200 somebody was telling me about this girl who dated this guy a few times and then he couldn't use the

00:35:39.100 correct cutlery or something at dinner and she got the ick and then got rid of him you know

00:35:42.400 stuff like that huh for not cutting something right no not using the correct knife and fork

00:35:47.440 in the restaurant or something like that you know i don't think i could do it right well

00:35:53.080 you get there's multiple forks one for the plate no you know you know this is when you do your

00:36:02.880 etiquette course you know when you've got a different you know no i totally know yeah

00:36:06.500 but you know so but so something as simple as that and then he you know he gets disqualified

00:36:14.360 for that it's just like there's too much choice out there so what are male x like we don't have

00:36:20.620 well like 159 000 text messages is a mailing the males have no x yeah what's the most annoying

00:36:28.140 thing that women do do men do men have x i don't think men have x in the same way that women do

00:36:34.220 to be honest um is there something she could do i think it to be honest it you know i think men are

00:36:41.900 very simple creatures i think it comes down to is she hot is she attractive is she into me you know

00:36:47.820 is she pleasant to be around i think that i think those are the key things really and i think men

00:36:52.140 will overlook a lot yeah but maybe women wouldn't you know i do have a story though my friend james

00:36:57.260 told me when um he went on a date with this woman and um they were playing the question game on the

00:37:02.460 date like i asked one question and then you have to answer and she you know vice versa and her first

00:37:07.340 question to him was okay what was your bottom line last year like what did you make last year

00:37:12.140 and he basically just like just why would you ask that's so rude i know yeah yeah and so he

00:37:17.420 basically just got up and like paid the bill and just walked out and he's like all right sod this

00:37:21.980 so i guess you could sort of say that was a dick because it was so it was kind of kind of masculine

00:37:27.740 and so on the nose and so like in your face you know what i'm saying it's so so but but i think

00:37:34.380 it also depends on how many options the dude's got as well because if the guy's not got many options

00:37:39.180 yeah then he's going to put up with a lot of like female rudeness and impoliteness and her being

00:37:45.500 cocky and whatever and he's just going to take it because you know if he's only getting one day every

00:37:50.700 three months then what are you going to do one day wow every three months well i mean you know

00:37:58.220 i mean i know guys you know it's kind of crazy i mean some of the guys we we've coached i mean

00:38:01.980 i've coached guys you know decent looking they seem to have stuff together and they're going

00:38:07.100 through these dry spells like you know like six months and stuff really not getting anything how

00:38:10.460 do you how do you get them out of it well i mean a lot of the time it's not what people necessarily

00:38:17.100 think it's not because of their looks or their you know money and those external things so much

00:38:22.860 a lot of the time it's more to do with the fact that they're not good conversationally they're

00:38:27.260 not able to like bring out emotion in her they're not able to create desire in her you know what i'm

00:38:32.460 saying it's it's very flat it's very boring it's very logical and the girls just sit there like

00:38:36.780 yeah whatever okay fine you know they're not you know how would you create emotion

00:38:41.020 so we're talking now get my emotions

00:38:46.460 no they need to they need to lead into that bad boy energy a little bit you know what i mean you

00:38:51.020 you know how women are always banging on about like oh i like the bad boy i like you know like

00:38:54.540 so i think a lot of guys will come across uh particularly people who are like um say their

00:39:00.380 work is a bit more logical or they they work in coding or computing or data those kinds of things

00:39:05.020 yeah and then it's very much like okay so how do i snap out of that how do i become this guy who's

00:39:09.340 a little bit more edgy he's got a little bit more sort of just he's not this predictable super boring

00:39:16.060 kind of dude you know what i'm saying and that's what we try to teach people but it's not a like

00:39:20.460 necessarily like an easy process it's about sort of firstly it's about understanding the dynamics

00:39:25.500 that's the first thing because a lot of guys don't even understand the dynamic they think oh going on

00:39:29.100 a date with a woman it's just like a networking event or it's just like interviewing for a job

00:39:33.020 so the first thing to understand is it's fundamentally different because women operate

00:39:36.060 on emotion not on logic and then the next thing is like right okay so how can i become a bit more

00:39:41.660 of that kind of guy who's so how would you do that off the bat what do you mean like like how would

00:39:47.180 you how would you get the emotions spiking in the beginning you got what you got you got to be

00:39:51.820 flirtatious you got to bring some kind of like kind of um sexualized element i'm not in a crude

00:39:56.620 way but you've got that there's got to be the undertone to it you know so throwing a bit of

00:39:59.980 flirtiness you know bringing in the odd line here and there what what i would often do is like derail

00:40:05.340 the conversation so often women will talk about like boring for a you know a long period of time

00:40:10.220 you know she'll talk about a job or something like that and you want to suddenly turn it around and

00:40:13.420 go oh you look great in that dress or just something or or or make some slightly mildly

00:40:20.380 like sexualized comment or something to remind her to bring it back to the fact that this is

00:40:24.220 man to woman this isn't just we're not just here to have a like a business meeting you know what

00:40:28.060 i'm saying yeah and that makes sense so um and i think guys generally can be too boring they can

00:40:34.940 be too predictable you know she wants to feel emotions that's the thing i said my the more i

00:40:40.700 i've studied this stuff the more it seems to me that women are so driven by emotion and we've got

00:40:44.620 all of these competing dopamine sources you know like netflix and tick tock and everything else

00:40:49.500 and it's like they need the guy to bring that energy certainly the younger women certainly

00:40:54.940 certainly the women whom i mean certainly the women who are more sought after you know they've

00:40:59.740 also got a lot of options it's like why is she going to pick you over this other dude over here

00:41:03.820 yeah i want you to just just if you think about as well if you think about some of the

00:41:10.860 like famous characters in the in the space in the manosphere who've got that if you think about

00:41:15.100 someone like the you know the tates or if you even maybe myron or something like that they've they've

00:41:19.420 got okay they've got some of the external trappings of you know some success they got

00:41:24.700 some wealth they've got you know whatever uh decent looking in shape etc they're they're

00:41:30.060 ticking those boxes but there's clearly more to it than that right yeah it's that character thing

00:41:34.220 isn't it it's that it's that dominance is that male sort of energy that they'll bring to bear

00:41:38.940 on the on the on the on the table and you can imagine with people like andrew and tristan how

00:41:43.020 even before they were as wealthy as they are who they are now they would still be getting action

00:41:48.540 because of the way they are because of the way they come across you know well and it's it's being

00:41:52.620 and girls type too i would think i think yeah i also no i think that's true i think you're

00:41:57.660 you're never gonna get every girl yeah that's the reality like there are some women that they

00:42:01.980 they say they divide into yes girls no girls or maybe girls you know and most of them i agree with

00:42:06.940 that you know what i'm saying like like probably for most of us probably most most girls that

00:42:11.340 they're probably no girls you know you're just not her type she's not gonna be into you for

00:42:14.540 whatever reason yeah you know and there's not really anything you can do about that

00:42:18.620 then sometimes you get yes girls who they just like how you look they like how you come across

00:42:22.300 they like your vibe they're into it you can still you can still up with those girls though so you

00:42:26.700 need to then the game becomes not messing up have you ever had a really big up where you thought

00:42:32.220 the girl was a sure thing and then i mean in the past yeah i mean obviously never now

00:42:37.740 but uh i'll tell you in a second but then obviously then you've just got that sector

00:42:41.260 in the middle of the the maybe girls who like yeah he's okay you know he could be all right

00:42:44.780 but i'm not sure yet and those are the ones you need to kind of you know finesse a little bit but

00:42:48.380 i mean i remember one time this is where the conversation skills come in and this is where the

00:42:53.420 you know being able to lead the you know and bring that energy to the to the party really comes in

00:42:58.060 i went to a party once and this girl as soon as i walked in the room i see this girl she kind of

00:43:02.540 looked at me and you can you know sometimes you can just tell somebody looks at you look at them

00:43:07.260 you could just tell there was i could tell there was some kind of interest there right and people

00:43:11.100 will you know be cat oh he's capping or whatever but i could you know i could just tell there was

00:43:14.780 like you know so i go over and we start talking blah blah we get seated next to each other at

00:43:20.300 the table now for whatever reason on that particular day my energy was low i was tired

00:43:26.060 my riz you know the riz wasn't there it wasn't flowing and the i was sort of trying to talk to

00:43:31.260 her it was really flat and i remember i just said something lame to her like oh so you know what

00:43:36.140 what do you do you know so what do you do for work right and she just she looks at me she said you

00:43:40.540 you want to talk to me about, about my job?

00:43:43.640 You know, she had this like real look

00:43:44.820 of disappointment in her eyes, you know?

00:43:46.740 And it was like, I had this sinking feeling of like,

00:43:48.920 oh fuck, I've dropped the ball here.

00:43:50.340 You know what I mean?

00:43:51.380 And then sure enough, you know,

00:43:53.160 the rest of the dinner passed on

00:43:54.460 and we kind of just went and talked to other people

00:43:56.200 and you know, and it all kind of fizzled out.

00:43:58.760 That's a great example for me of something where really

00:44:03.120 at the beginning it should have been on.

00:44:05.860 And because of the way that I came across,

00:44:08.840 because the way I was in that interaction,

00:44:11.140 I fucked it up and she lost interest.

00:44:12.980 And that does happen with guys a lot.

00:44:15.420 I think this is why you'll get guys who'll be like,

00:44:17.820 yeah, I keep going on these dates,

00:44:19.400 and then these girls ghost me afterwards,

00:44:20.860 or they, you know, they flake it, you know,

00:44:22.580 or they send me the classic message,

00:44:24.480 oh, I wasn't feeling the chemistry or whatever,

00:44:26.040 you know what I mean?

00:44:26.880 Is that a classic message?

00:44:28.660 Well, for a lot of guys, yeah.

00:44:30.080 So sometimes it can be yours to lose,

00:44:32.360 if you know what I mean.

00:44:33.320 You know, she could have that initial attraction,

00:44:36.860 but then you can fuck it up

00:44:38.000 of the way you come across and this is where all the guys who think that it's just about looks

00:44:42.560 they're naive to this really because they think oh well if if the dude is good looking and yeah

00:44:46.800 sure i mean in some situations she's feeling horny he's super hot whatever she's just gonna

00:44:51.120 go there but there's there's also you know it's definitely not all about looks it's it's it's it's

00:44:56.800 got to be combined you can you can definitely lose a sure thing if you don't come across in

00:45:01.920 the right way i think that's the important thing i wanted um i googled a guy picking up girls and

00:45:08.640 i want to see if you approve or not okay i want to see i've never seen this video so i have no

00:45:13.760 idea it says introvert picking up girls nice oh yeah sorry i'm late hi what's your name camilla

00:45:26.880 camilla you're you're gorgeous thank you yeah for sure i think we'll make beautiful children

00:45:35.360 how is that well actually so what he did there is kind of quite it's quite not often used kind

00:45:40.880 of gambit when you go over and say hey sorry i'm late and you sit down that's something that people

00:45:45.440 you can kind of do that as a joke oh really yeah i've never heard of it so that can if you do it

00:45:51.040 and you come off well he carried it off quite well there and that was quite good um but it

00:45:56.560 can go wrong as well it could backfire one of the things i generally recommend if she's sitting down

00:46:00.880 and she's sitting down on her own i generally don't recommend just sitting down with her

00:46:04.480 immediately because sometimes girls get freaked out they say oh you know how do i get rid of this

00:46:08.960 guy you know what i'm saying so often i would say it's better to go in and standing up you know start

00:46:14.240 the conversation hey you looked interesting i had to come over and say hi blah blah blah see how

00:46:17.280 she reacts and then maybe say listen i got five minutes so do you mind if i take a seat and then

00:46:21.680 carry on like that that's good to the five minutes because then i know you're not going to stay all

00:46:26.160 day yeah that's it yeah it's the time it's the time constraint thing because yeah in that in

00:46:30.880 in that instance he pulled it off quite well and although she was kind of looking around i feel

00:46:36.000 like maybe she was thinking oh is this a setup is this is this a like a youtube thing which obviously

00:46:40.880 which it was yeah so um so yeah you know in that instance that was quite a good example but

00:46:46.720 in general i'd be a little bit careful with that you've got to have a certain amount of swagger

00:46:50.560 to sort of pull that off hey excuse me excuse me so sorry to bother you are you like familiar

00:46:59.520 with this area yeah kind of all right sweet because i'm supposed to be meeting my girlfriend

00:47:03.120 over here like i'm a little bit lost maybe you can help me find her here she looks like this

00:47:08.160 i'm out of here that was a good one though what's your name sierra sierra i'm sorry i thought you

00:47:12.480 were gorgeous no thank you i appreciate yeah for sure uh you just leave the gym i did nice

00:47:16.880 i have to go around here do you know andberg oh no not too sure are you do you go to square

00:47:21.520 yeah yeah what year are you sophomore okay i'm a junior oh nice okay is it cool if i get your

00:47:25.920 number yeah of course what's your name i'm kiss kiss oh i like that how'd it go yeah good i mean

00:47:33.120 like he's saying he doesn't seem that introverted does he he might have just run the title no yeah

00:47:38.560 of course yeah no no i mean it's good i mean he's using these kind of like quite humorous

00:47:43.040 humorous tactics to sort of you know i'm looking for my girlfriend and he shows a picture of her

00:47:46.800 yeah I wouldn't have saw that coming no because I didn't know how he was going to go with that

00:47:51.960 and obviously if like I thought he was going to try and if he'd have seriously been saying he had

00:47:57.500 a girlfriend that would have been obviously been a stupid bad thing to do because a lot of women

00:48:00.760 were contrary to popular belief just wouldn't go with that but no it was cute it was kind of fun

00:48:05.360 the way he did it the thing is right like he brought he he's bringing humor into it he's

00:48:09.840 making them laugh he's making them feel comfortable you know he said I thought you were gorgeous I

00:48:13.580 think that's fine i think he's good to be direct and quite out front you don't necessarily need to

00:48:17.760 say gorgeous but you say i thought you look cute you look nice you look pretty or something like

00:48:20.840 that because again i mean okay he's gone in with a bit of a gambit there which is which is fine

00:48:25.440 but fundamentally you need to go in and make her understand that you are hitting on her

00:48:31.520 on some level because otherwise i've seen guys go in and it's the approach is very weak

00:48:37.060 and she doesn't quite know why you're there or she's just like oh is this guy just trying to

00:48:41.200 be friends with me or or she gives you that she you end up getting on quite well with her and she

00:48:45.720 gives you their number but she's not really interested you in that way and then it's just

00:48:48.780 yeah it's better to just go in there be like hey listen i had to come over i think you're cute i

00:48:52.600 wanted to say hi and if she shoots you down well at least you're not wasting anybody's time you

00:48:57.600 know right right we'll do one more it's creative a little bit a little bit i'm sierra with the c

00:49:04.440 so i'm with the c okay sweet sweet see now you won't forget no i definitely won't that was a

00:49:09.160 good one though yeah you like that yeah for sure all right I'll text you okay you from Williamsport

00:49:13.440 uh Scranton area Scranton okay you have a good one okay hey excuse me ladies how's it going are

00:49:21.420 you just good with directions around here uh your heart what's your name Lauren sorry I thought you're

00:49:30.000 gorgeous what's your name Mark who does he pick who should he when there's two women how do you

00:49:36.840 hit on two well so it depends on the situation because basically right so often there's going

00:49:43.900 to be one who's the obvious target right the one you want and then there's going to be the friend

00:49:48.040 right and then it's kind of obvious which one you're going for right um sometimes you get a

00:49:53.080 situation where both of them are equally maybe equally cute and you think okay i'll approach

00:49:58.160 both of them at the same time and then when i do that i mean the way that he it seemed the way that

00:50:03.340 did that it seemed like he was more hitting on the one with the dark hair because he said to her

00:50:08.700 i'm trying to get your heart sort of thing yeah because what where you can mess up and and this

00:50:14.380 has happened to me before is i once read into an interaction right um years ago in london and there

00:50:19.820 were two girls and initially i was there was one that i liked she was this bruna she's like latina

00:50:24.060 girl and i went and started talking to her and i i was speaking to both of them because you could

00:50:28.460 the other thing that he's doing well here is obviously you need to you need to speak to the

00:50:31.260 friend as well you need to keep you know keep both of them kind of in entertained or whatever

00:50:35.500 as you're talking um but i went in to speak to the predominantly to the latina girl and we were

00:50:40.860 having a good vibe and everything like that but then she gives she's like yeah yeah i've i've got

00:50:45.420 no no no no what is the other way around sorry what happened right so i went in and talked to

00:50:49.180 both of them and the latina girl is responding well but the other girl who i initially thought

00:50:54.220 i wasn't so interested in she was like she seemed to be giving me more of a vibe do you know what

00:50:58.460 mean and i was a bit like hang on a minute maybe i need to change my strategy here because this one

00:51:03.260 seems to be more like you know interested so then i kind of so i went to the second one who was

00:51:08.620 remaining as it turned out i went to the second one i was like um oh you know like you you know

00:51:12.780 you seem cool we should exchange numbers he said i'm sorry i'm sorry i've got a boyfriend and i'm

00:51:16.780 like oh and so i'm standing there so i'm standing there i kind of look back to the latina one i'm

00:51:21.660 like um you know how about you sort of thing you know and so you end up and in the end the second

00:51:27.020 the latina one did actually give me her number in the end but he didn't really it didn't yeah

00:51:31.420 so you can sort of shoot yourself in the foot if you don't make a firm decision before you go in

00:51:35.260 which one am i actually going for because otherwise you just look like this like horn

00:51:38.300 dog of like oh yeah you've said no okay what about you you know what i'm saying but usually

00:51:43.500 as i say most cases it's going to be pretty clear you know it's going to be one that you you want

00:51:47.980 to get with the other one you probably don't so it's you know straightforward let's see yeah oh

00:51:54.380 Oh, for sure. Is it cool if I get your number and then run away?

00:51:57.420 Yeah, so...

00:51:58.380 Figured I'd shoot my shot.

00:52:00.580 What are you studying?

00:52:03.640 Microbiology.

00:52:04.480 Oh, yikes. That's a little over my head.

00:52:05.940 I think he's regretting his choice a little bit.

00:52:08.000 Well, I mean, from the back, it looks like the blonde one might be more attractive.

00:52:11.400 What do you study?

00:52:12.580 Finance.

00:52:13.160 Finance? Okay, sweet. Oh, I'll text you, okay?

00:52:15.560 973, where's that from?

00:52:17.200 I'm from North Jersey.

00:52:18.720 Oh, okay, cool. All right, well, I'll text you, all right?

00:52:20.740 Have a good one. Yeah, see ya.

00:52:24.380 excuse me where'd you get that you're about to say something yeah no where'd

00:52:30.680 you get that yeah that's mom okay what's your name

00:52:36.500 you smart others like you I do if I get your number

00:52:45.840 you thought you thought you made that up oh how about Instagram is that a good

00:52:50.720 sorry what do you think he should have just let it go i think well yeah i think he should let it go

00:52:55.120 because because with that so with that what i wouldn't normally recommend is that you kind of

00:53:00.080 walk with her like he's he he went in with the line she's kind of like yeah yeah sure sure and

00:53:04.400 then he just carried on walking with her and i i generally i wouldn't recommend that i'd be like

00:53:08.320 shoot your shot if she's done she's not into it she walks off just let her go do you know what i

00:53:12.560 mean and also as well then what he's doing is is the sort of like oh can i get your number she says

00:53:18.560 no there's like instagram and it's just no and then you you're almost like sort of negotiating

00:53:22.880 then myspace you know yeah have you got a fax you know it's it gets a little bit and and the other

00:53:31.520 problem with that particular interaction was there was really nothing like ideally you want to go and

00:53:38.000 say hey you look cute i had to come and meet you and if she responds well to that you want to have

00:53:42.720 a bit of a conversation you want to have a bit of vibe you know so oh somebody looks like you

00:53:46.400 so you study here and she's like yeah you know so what are you doing she's like accounting like

00:53:50.800 jesus christ that's boring what are you doing accounting for you know she's like well you

00:53:54.800 know and then you want to you want to have a bit of back and forth together before asking for the

00:53:58.800 number because what he did there was just basically he comes in with quite a cute line which he sort

00:54:02.880 of brushed off and then he just goes straight for the number and it's like unless she's into him

00:54:09.440 immediately then that's not really gonna gonna fly you know yeah but he's i mean look he's a decent

00:54:14.960 looking guy he's in shape he's he looks quite he's he's tall he's ticking a lot of the boxes

00:54:19.680 and he's bought he's got balls so yeah you know so he's gonna do pretty well um and he's got that

00:54:25.600 sense of humor and that lightness about him so there's a lot of stuff i think he's doing very

00:54:28.720 well i'm trying to find a video of women approaching men i approached men anyone has one i approached

00:54:38.080 men. Looks like women don't approach men. I mean, have you ever, well, have I ever approached a guy?

00:54:52.200 yeah okay i've never approached a guy but i've i've sort of i've sort of asked a guy on a date

00:55:12.720 before but it was more like oh i'm like in the area i wasn't in the area at all it was like one

00:55:20.820 that was right i kind of liked him and i didn't know if he knew so i was like yeah yeah i'm in

00:55:27.300 this area and it was like two hours away yeah but um i don't think i've ever

00:55:36.580 maybe i might have like maybe not like a direct but i might have like said something yeah i think

00:55:42.900 it's cool for women i think you can start a conversation it doesn't need to be like they

00:55:48.740 don't need to approach in the same way you know like oh i think you're cute or like that's too

00:55:52.580 much but if you're if she stood at the bar and then the guy she likes the guy next to her she

00:55:57.140 can kind of you know just make some kind of comment and you know i think that kind of thing

00:56:01.220 can work quite well for for women and they should probably be doing more of it actually because

00:56:05.220 women always complain about not getting approached and i'm not saying they should go around and start

00:56:09.460 doing doing game and hitting on guys but at the same time you can it'd probably work to be honest

00:56:14.820 probably yeah to be honest like if a girl approached you oh yeah

00:56:22.560 and she was cute it's like yeah yeah no of course i mean i think the the even very very good looking

00:56:33.660 male friends of mine will say in their lifetimes they've only probably been approached you know a

00:56:39.500 couple a few times at most like it doesn't really happen very much but obviously it's more with

00:56:44.080 women it's more about the signals and the but but i think sometimes women think they overestimate

00:56:49.660 how much they're like signaling their interest you know what i mean she thinks oh i was looking

00:56:54.260 at him all night and blah blah blah and like the guy didn't even fucking notice yeah yeah

00:56:59.220 blessing is a girl ever approached you oh yeah

00:57:04.040 oh yeah it's common does this happen to you every day or what no i know every day you know what i

00:57:13.200 every second where did where did a woman approach you put on your camera it's like join the convo

00:57:19.720 uh next time guys send a cash out where did the woman approach you a westfield like a shopping

00:57:29.060 center sir did she what was her intro it was a bunch of girls and they just wanted to just you

00:57:37.360 yeah my details in there oh yeah nice stratford or west or the other one no shape was blue

00:57:43.760 short oh no troy's like oh i want to hang out there yeah yeah yeah is it still open

00:57:49.360 it did i i mean it's happened to me a couple a couple of few times a couple of times whatever

00:57:53.440 i remember one girl came over and um to me in a bar and uh this was when i was a lot younger you

00:58:00.720 know many years ago and she came over and she was trying to him the thing that put me off was

00:58:04.800 firstly i wasn't really into her anyway but also then interestingly she was trying to lead with

00:58:09.840 the boss babe type stuff she was like oh i'm a team leader look you know i work in this company

00:58:13.520 i'm a team leader and blah blah blah and i was like well i i just you know i don't really care

00:58:20.160 have you guys noticed women getting more aggressive in the last couple of years

00:58:24.320 um well you mentioned this the other day um i think there's more yeah i think there's more

00:58:30.880 competition amongst women certainly for the first because they're only are they're only looking for

00:58:35.840 a smaller pool of guys yeah yeah i think there is that yeah have you noticed women being more

00:58:40.000 aggressive blessing a little bit yeah yeah were they aggressive when they were getting your number

00:58:50.160 uh yeah i mean when they were when they're like in a group yeah it's gonna be yeah man it's like

00:58:55.520 they are yeah it's like a bunch of pack of hyenas did you give did you get did you give the number

00:59:02.720 oh yeah oh nice so what happened yeah well i'm going end of story okay well i was just gonna do

00:59:18.720 i think that's all the stories we're really gonna cover to them um

00:59:22.400 um guys is there anything else you wanted to go over today um do you know what it's always

00:59:29.740 disappointed me that i never ended up doing that i was going to do something with um what's his name

00:59:34.680 um who's who's the who's the oh jesus christ you know the crazy riz guy that we were made

00:59:42.020 meet in vegas who was on your show um i don't remember was he on my show in vegas

00:59:49.500 No, in Miami.

00:59:51.400 Zerka?

00:59:52.160 Yeah, Zerka.

00:59:52.600 You love Zerka.

00:59:53.920 Well, I do.

00:59:54.400 I mean, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:59:55.580 Wait, let me.

00:59:57.640 Have you met him before?

00:59:59.380 Yeah, I met him on your show.

01:00:00.720 Oh, yeah.

01:00:01.240 Do you remember that time when Tiffany Fox was there?

01:00:03.140 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

01:00:03.800 Yeah, yeah.

01:00:04.720 But I always regret it because I think he's a good example of somebody.

01:00:08.620 I mean, I don't know.

01:00:09.640 Like, his content recently, all due respect, Zerka, his content recently, I think he's

01:00:14.800 branched into these different areas and stuff like that.

01:00:17.020 Yeah.

01:00:17.240 but when he was very much although i think he has got a dating course out but when he was he was

01:00:20.520 talking very much about the dating and the red pool stuff i found him really fascinating and

01:00:24.280 like i think that's an example of somebody yeah he's decent looking he's tall whatever but

01:00:29.160 like it's clearly more than that yeah you know what i'm saying that's drawing that's drawing

01:00:34.040 women in and i was really interested to like see him in action and kind of and i actually talked

01:00:37.880 to him about it at the thing afterwards and said you know i'd really like to sort of like drill down

01:00:42.360 into the into what into what it is you know what you're doing that's drawing people in because

01:00:47.720 it's about and again you can see something like that it's about creating emotion so that could be

01:00:52.440 on the sexual level yeah they might be sexually excited but also it's about there's probably some

01:00:57.480 drama there there's probably fear of loss there's probably there's all these different things that

01:01:01.720 you you can bring into the party and a lot of guys they're just not doing that you know what i'm

01:01:06.120 saying um but then you've got someone like fresh who also you know i think does does you know has

01:01:14.920 his own thing going on but he's very chill and so he brings a different kind of energy so there's

01:01:19.320 different ways you know you've got to find the style i think that works for your personality

01:01:22.600 and go with that really yeah yeah because different styles are just more natural to

01:01:27.800 different people i think yeah i think that's that's true so as much as you know like i say

01:01:33.000 someone like zerk is a very interesting character but is that going to work for for for everybody i

01:01:37.560 mean is it going to work for you know steve who works in you know the post office i mean you know

01:01:41.720 what i'm saying so you've got a but i think there's definitely there are definitely fundamental

01:01:46.120 principles that can be learned and the key thing is are you evoking emotion in her in some way when

01:01:51.320 you're sitting down in front of her or not you know i mean have you noticed i mean i don't know

01:01:56.680 when you've gone when you've been on dates or whatever i mean do you do you it is do you can

01:02:01.880 never explain why i like a guy or why i don't i'll just be like i do but could it be i mean

01:02:10.120 is what i'm saying making some sense from a female no it does it does is it like there's

01:02:14.600 some guys and you're sitting there and you think yeah he's a nice guy and he's good conversation

01:02:18.760 but i'm just not really feeling it whereas other guys just on some level they do something that

01:02:23.320 yeah no there is well we we like to earn it too well you don't like the guy to be too

01:02:28.920 no never yeah i mean other girls will cap and lie i won't lie well no because if they're too

01:02:36.840 in you you're kind of like what's the what's the catch yeah no that's the thing yeah they

01:02:42.120 can't be right away like it's different if you've been seeing him for a bit but it's like right away

01:02:46.280 it's like what's the yeah yeah for sure yeah yeah yeah definitely well again you know we we want the

01:02:51.480 things that we can't quite get and i think you know guys can be too thirsty and then that spoils it

01:02:55.960 yeah why is it so hard for guys like all of this stuff like we have to consider all of this stuff

01:03:03.240 yeah you know and if you're like an attractive young woman and you're out and about you're in

01:03:08.040 miami or whatever you don't need to think about any of this you could just turn up and be

01:03:11.560 adhd bipolar and you know socially awkward and you're gonna be fine anyway oh my gosh do you

01:03:16.440 know what i was thinking i know we've had a bad run with our fashion but i was thinking about how

01:03:22.440 all women's fashion like men don't even really like because i you can tell me if i'm wrong but

01:03:30.440 i was thinking about this because a lot of it has shoulder pads and stuff yeah which i don't think

01:03:36.280 guys really like and i was just looking at the stuff like here this is something that came up

01:03:42.920 when i said women's fashion pull it up pull it up blessing tell me if you like this if i'm wrong you

01:03:48.840 you can tell me i'm wrong but i'm like when i think of something a guy is like it's like not

01:03:53.620 bad but i think um how do i yeah and i googled women's fashion i was just like do any of these

01:04:04.780 outfits scream something a man would like i think a lot of women's fashion at the moment is very

01:04:10.320 geared towards that kind of this maybe yeah that looks quite cute it's i think it's geared towards

01:04:16.600 women there's a lot not so much the evening stuff but there's a lot of like daytime stuff

01:04:21.340 quite baggy jeans quite like you know baggy sweatshirts like things like that and um

01:04:27.520 i mean it's yeah you're right it's not really geared towards like what men are into it's more

01:04:35.740 you know it's more for other for other women i think yeah it doesn't look bad but it does it's

01:04:40.480 also not screaming out you know oh that's really sexy yeah that's what i was thinking because i

01:04:47.580 was looking at when i look at women's like high-end fashion i'm like i don't even think

01:04:51.600 guys like this stuff hi and some some of it's cute but but then again you know i'm not a fashion

01:04:58.220 these stuff obviously it's all right well my fashion expertise obviously is um okay well

01:05:07.380 guys let me know in the comments what you want me to um react to next time i'm a little sick so i'm

01:05:15.300 calling it an early show tonight um tomorrow guys we're gonna do another show um i think we're gonna

01:05:21.400 to do the history of

01:05:23.320 gyno

01:05:26.620 why chivalry

01:05:29.100 it should never have been a thing

01:05:31.560 why chivalry is the OG feminism

01:05:33.640 so I think we're going to do that tomorrow

01:05:35.220 let me know what you guys think in the comments

01:05:37.280 make sure you guys go subscribe to Troy's

01:05:39.400 channel that should be make sure

01:05:41.380 you put it in the title blessing so

01:05:43.320 then they can just find it pretty easy yeah

01:05:45.140 the dating game with Troy Francis follow me there

01:05:47.340 and then we're coming out with

01:05:49.320 a new website soon so I'm going to keep

01:05:51.240 you guys posted on that grant cardone video next week and then anything you want to say to the

01:05:57.680 people i think you know if you're a girl where ignore ignore current fashion working stuff i

01:06:03.880 mean look we're going to be coming to spring so it's all good about sundresses all of that's good

01:06:08.000 you got the whole summer for that and um i think women can be you know you you can be a bit flirty

01:06:13.360 you can open conversations with guys it doesn't mean you have to do the heavy lifting but i think

01:06:16.700 you should do that and for guys you've got to understand firstly you know that main guy the

01:06:21.980 introvert guy that we saw very ballsy going in there direct approaches humor is really good

01:06:27.460 being playful but also fundamentally making her feel something at the same time creating an emotion

01:06:31.680 and sometimes even a negative emotion is better than a positive emotion which is a bit of nuance

01:06:36.240 we'll get into that but you know what i mean like like you can you can say something that's a bit

01:06:40.860 controversial maybe she doesn't agree with it maybe that makes her a little bit angry but also

01:06:44.220 So, at the same time, she's like, okay, he's quite ballsy

01:06:45.860 because he actually had the balls to say that.

01:06:47.260 Yeah.

01:06:48.400 Hey, it's closer to love.

01:06:50.380 Well, exactly.

01:06:52.840 Exactly.

01:06:53.460 All right, guys.

01:06:54.540 Make sure you go subscribe to Troy's channel.

01:06:56.980 Let's try to get him to, you're at like 2,000 something?

01:06:59.460 Yeah, 2,000 now, yeah.

01:07:00.240 Yeah, so let's try to get him to 3,000 subscribers.

01:07:03.380 He has a lot of actionable, real-life advice on there.

01:07:06.840 I really think you guys should check it out.

01:07:08.440 Ten years of experience.

01:07:09.820 He knows his stuff.

01:07:11.260 Like the video, subscribe to the channel,

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Pearl - March 04, 2024

Do Modern Women Want A Wedding Or To Be A Wife？ @thedatinggamewithtroyfrancis ｜ Pearl Daily

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